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Speaker 1: All right, guys, it's time now for as the clo.

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Speaker 1: She love Officer Steve Harvey in the building. When it's cute,

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Speaker 1: sell look at him this one.

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Speaker 2: Steve C is from Santana in Detroit.

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Speaker 1: Santana writes, I've been dating a woman that's separated from

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Speaker 1: her husband. She recently moved in my apartment complex, and

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Speaker 1: we both have six year old sons, so that's how

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Speaker 1: we met. Her son told his dad that mommy had

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Speaker 1: a boyfriend, and all hell broke loose. He came to

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Speaker 1: my apartment one day and threatened me, saying he is

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Speaker 1: getting his.

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Speaker 2: Family back and I'm in the way.

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Speaker 1: I told him i'd respect his wishes because I don't

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Speaker 1: need the drama. My girlfriend says it's a lie and

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Speaker 1: he's crazy, and she still wants to be with me.

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Speaker 2: What do I do?

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Speaker 3: Save your life?

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Speaker 1: Doog right?

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Speaker 4: Save your life? You just said it ain't worth to drama.

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Speaker 4: You won't respect his wishes, So now let it play out.

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Speaker 4: Let's some time go between. If she want to be

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Speaker 4: with you, let's just see how they workout. But this

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Speaker 4: food right here, you got to be careful. Heat that

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Speaker 4: already came to your apartment. I ain't like he don't

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Speaker 4: know where you live, and that little damn boy, he

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Speaker 4: gonna tell it again. I'm a boy free and back

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Speaker 4: as soon as she said it, boyfrie her back. Yes,

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Speaker 4: who's coming back?

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Speaker 2: Daddy?

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: If there's not just worce, they're just separated.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, yeah, all right, moving on? Uh huh

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Speaker 1: Keipsa and Houston says, my fifty one year old stepfather

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Speaker 1: and I don't get along, and uh, it's putting a

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Speaker 1: strain on my relationship with my mother. I hang out

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Speaker 1: in a popular downtown area and so does he. He

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Speaker 1: seems to like girls around my age and it's disgusting.

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Speaker 1: He flirts and sends drinks to ladies, and one of

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Speaker 1: my former classmates says he even d md her on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: My mother knows I don't like him, but she doesn't

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Speaker 1: know why. She keeps lecturing me about being rude and said,

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Speaker 1: I need to work on my attitude.

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Speaker 2: Should I tell her why I'm rude?

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Speaker 3: Hmmm, that's a tough one because it's your mother, so

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Speaker 3: she can see your damn father in.

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Speaker 2: Law, damn stepdad.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean stepdad, Damn. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, you know, but I would just say, Mom,

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Speaker 4: I've seen him out before where I go. Do you

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Speaker 4: know he goes out?

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Speaker 3: I don't know. No, I see it's hard believe you

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Speaker 3: feel you.

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Speaker 4: Know, I mean, but this is her mother, got a

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Speaker 4: strain on relationship. Here's what I know. You're not finn

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Speaker 4: play my mama. That's what I'm not fiting. Now, you know,

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Speaker 4: some boyfriend girls and one of my dudes or something.

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Speaker 3: I might stay out of it.

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Speaker 4: But once I see you playing my mama, you're not

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Speaker 4: playing my mama. Dog, that's not gonna happen, not me,

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Speaker 4: not as a man. You can't do nothing to my mama.

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Speaker 4: So I'm assuming a lot of women feel that way

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Speaker 4: about their mama. What so the playing my mama thing,

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Speaker 4: I don't. That's off limits. My mother in any disrespect

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Speaker 4: towards her is off limits.

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Speaker 3: So so what does she do though?

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Speaker 2: So does she tell?

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Speaker 3: Well, if she was me, I whoop his ass. But

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Speaker 3: that ain't what's going to happen.

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Speaker 4: But she ain't me, So I think I think she

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Speaker 4: may have to pull her mother's coat and just say, Mom,

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Speaker 4: do you know that dad goes out to the same

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Speaker 4: places I go to? And that's the problem I have.

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Speaker 2: And I've seen him out there doing the mast and.

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Speaker 4: I think he is doing the most And that's why

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Speaker 4: I don't care from him, because I don't want you

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Speaker 4: to get hurt. Yeah, and then maybe maybe she needs

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Speaker 4: to know that because you because you're nothing to.

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Speaker 3: Clown my mama.

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Speaker 2: No, not in front of me.

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Speaker 4: Oh you sure ain't going to do that, partner, Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 4: all right, that's good.

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Speaker 3: That's good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that it is. Uh uh.

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Speaker 1: Develle in North Carolina says, I'm forty year old, single

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Speaker 1: woman with three children from a previous relationship, and I

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Speaker 1: recently met a man that was about to go to

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Speaker 1: prison and he will be out in sixteen months. We're

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Speaker 1: getting to know each other while he's inside. He was

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Speaker 1: charged with he was charged with being an accessory to

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Speaker 1: a crime, and he's never been in legal trouble before.

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Speaker 1: He's forty four and will have to start all over

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Speaker 1: again when he gets out. So that's my only concern.

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Speaker 1: There aren't many good men left, so I'm trying to

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Speaker 1: do something different. Am I foolish to fall for a

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Speaker 1: man in jail?

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Speaker 3: Well, you say you want to do something different? This

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Speaker 3: really different? So now you.

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Speaker 4: Have hooked up with a man that did she say

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Speaker 4: he was on his way to prison. So now he

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Speaker 4: got to go for sixteen most and you all are

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Speaker 4: spending this time to get to know each other.

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Speaker 3: How how is he getting to know him?

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Speaker 4: What?

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Speaker 3: No, I'm listening now, lady.

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Speaker 4: I think I think you need to hold type before

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Speaker 4: you put a lot of stock in this because you're

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Speaker 4: not gonna really know this guy until you spend time

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Speaker 4: with him.

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Speaker 3: You have to spend time with him. He can't be

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Speaker 3: doing time.

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Speaker 4: You have to spend time different We're talking about time,

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Speaker 4: but it's two different ways. You need to spend time

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Speaker 4: with him. But he got to do sometime first. And

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Speaker 4: until you spend time with him, you're not gonna know.

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Speaker 4: You're not getting to know nobody that's locked up. What

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Speaker 4: he right is, what he wants, what you want to hear? Yeah,

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Speaker 4: you know he's enjoying this. And now you know, I'm

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Speaker 4: not saying you are just you know this?

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Speaker 3: Uh? What what am I looking for? The word?

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Speaker 4: I'm not saying you just own a guy or disassociate

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Speaker 4: yourself with I'm not saying that because some good brothers

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Speaker 4: is locked away. But you need to wait. You need

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Speaker 4: to wait until you find out who he is because

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Speaker 4: you don't know none about this man. That's true and

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Speaker 4: accessory to what crime?

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Speaker 2: What about this?

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Speaker 1: A woman has kids, right, Steve? And when how soon

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Speaker 1: should she introduce her kids to a man that she

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Speaker 1: is dating and has been dating for a while.

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Speaker 4: If you've been dating for a while, that must mean

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Speaker 4: there's some serious interest in So as soon as you

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Speaker 4: think a guy is a serious contender, I think that's

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Speaker 4: when you have to introduce the kids. But I think

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Speaker 4: you have to do it at a public place.

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Speaker 3: I think. I don't think you bring them to the home.

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Speaker 3: I think you meet up.

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Speaker 4: Park or McDonald's with a little play area in it

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Speaker 4: so the kid can go off and play and just

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Speaker 4: see how he reacts to the child and how the

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Speaker 4: child reacts to him.

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Speaker 3: But don't do it in your home that way.

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Speaker 4: If you don't get the reaction you need, or you won't,

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Speaker 4: then it won't know where my dad at? You know,

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Speaker 4: you just some dude at the park you talk to.

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Speaker 4: You know, kids equate things in their house into them.

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Speaker 1: Oh, you know you're listening to the day Harvey Morning Show.

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Speaker 2: H