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Speaker 1: Our daughter blew her two hundred thousand dollars college fund

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Speaker 2: Should I give her my retirement?

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Speaker 1: That's a lot of handbagged and American girl dolls. Listen,

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Speaker 1: you gotta get a lot of Gucci.

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Speaker 3: Gotta get that Gucci, and then you gotta have your

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Speaker 3: American girl doll also get Gucci.

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Speaker 1: Right, yeah, we need to have the American gold where's

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Speaker 1: their praduct, Louis Ormez.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, one hundred thousand a microphole collection.

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Speaker 3: You gotta have the ones from like the Wild West, yep,

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Speaker 3: gotta have the ones from nineteen twenties.

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Speaker 2: New York Ufo vibes, you know what I mean? Alien

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Speaker 2: American girls.

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Speaker 1: And we can't be caught with our American girl dolls

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Speaker 1: in last seasons.

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Speaker 2: No, no, we could never.

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Speaker 3: There's also an American girl doll store store in the

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Speaker 3: Grove in LA and I kind of want to have

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Speaker 3: tea over there.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, it would probably be a pretty nice time, I think,

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Speaker 1: so we could. Maybe we can convince them to let

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Speaker 1: us do an episode so with our Americans America.

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Speaker 2: Hey, listen, ladies.

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Speaker 3: Anyone knows anyone that American girl doll that would want

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Speaker 3: to sponsor us doing your show.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're open to it. We'll do it. We'll get

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Speaker 2: we'll get dolls that represent us. It'll be great. Okay,

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Speaker 2: do they have American boy dolls? They don't. Those misogynistic animals.

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Speaker 2: My god.

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Speaker 1: So I am stuck between a rock and a hard place,

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Speaker 1: I can't discuss it with anyone I'm close to for

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Speaker 1: privacy reasons.

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Speaker 3: I love like for privacy reasons that I just blasted

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Speaker 3: to the internet, right, Like, then.

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Speaker 2: Don't share this to like everyone on the internet. Please.

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Speaker 1: I've been with my wife Andrea forty eight female, and

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Speaker 1: my stepdaughter Cassie, seventeen female for eight years now. I

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Speaker 1: love them both to death. But Cassie is a very

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Speaker 1: bright young woman. I like how he says, but usually

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Speaker 1: it's like, I love both Antie's really smart. I love

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Speaker 1: both of but she's really smart.

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Speaker 2: She's a smarty pants herd and I hate it.

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Speaker 1: Recognizing her potential, me and Andrea decided to put together

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Speaker 1: a college fund for Cassie so she wouldn't be crushed

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Speaker 1: by death. Over the years, it amounted to over two

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Speaker 1: hundred thousand dollars. I mean a good amount. That is

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Speaker 1: a really like they did a good years. That's four

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Speaker 1: years most do for you. You can make that work

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Speaker 1: for sure.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, unless you're going to like USC when it's like

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Speaker 3: it's like seventy to ninety thousand dollars a year.

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Speaker 1: True, but at least I mean a massive you know, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean you see you're chilling. Yeah, USC seventy ninety

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: UCLA was fifteen k a year and just intuition and

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Speaker 3: then another like fifteen K year in housing.

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Speaker 2: I mean, sorry, USC, you don't get it from me.

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Speaker 2: Nahh uh. University has spoiled children. That's all right, that's

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Speaker 2: the that's funny.

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Speaker 1: Now Cassie is aware of this fund and is banking

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Speaker 1: on it since she's trying to get into.

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Speaker 2: The Ivy League. Good for you, which is expensive. That's

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Speaker 2: a stroke.

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Speaker 1: To make a long story short, Last week I found

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Speaker 1: out that almost one hundred and seventy thousand dollars of

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Speaker 3: How do you one day just find that out? Don't

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Speaker 3: you get like notifications maybe like.

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Speaker 1: In a notification if I mean did she I mean,

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Speaker 1: I can't imagine her purchases were that little. I feel

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Speaker 1: like you would like run out of space, like in

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Speaker 1: and but like that's.

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Speaker 3: A lot, a lot of food. It's a lot of stuff.

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Speaker 3: It's like a lobster door dash every day, literally five

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Speaker 1: I freaked the f out and asked Andrea if she

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Speaker 1: she had been spending money over the years to fund

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Speaker 2: What is she spending on? Bro Dang? I was furious,

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Speaker 2: but I had a moment of clarity.

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Speaker 1: I browsed these subs enough to know that there was

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Speaker 1: an affair possible, so I asked if she was having one. Wait, wait,

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Speaker 1: so this is the wife. This is the wife spending

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Speaker 2: She spent her daughter's college tuition on.

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Speaker 1: And here's the craziest thing. This guy is like the stepfather.

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Speaker 1: This is her like blood daughter.

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Speaker 2: That is so selfish. Isn't that insane? That is so selfish?

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Speaker 2: I mean, she knew she was getting.

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Speaker 1: Get caught at some point, right, I don't know, My god,

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Speaker 1: my goodness, red flag.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: She adamantly denied cheating and offered any proof that I

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Speaker 1: needed social media accounts, emails, her work phone, everything she

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Speaker 1: offered to show me.

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Speaker 2: The receipts as well.

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Speaker 1: There was nothing that popped out of suspicious and the

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Speaker 2: So I let that go. But what what is she buying?

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Speaker 2: You can return that? Literally?

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Speaker 3: Was he not suspicious when like all these bags that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like had to be all, here's my new Gucci sweater,

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Speaker 1: I want to know what she bought. I want to

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Speaker 1: know what she buyt I'm also dying to know. But

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Speaker 1: we still had the major problem of the money being

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Speaker 1: gone facts. She described herself as a shopping addict, and

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Speaker 1: the money from Cassie's account was just too tempting not

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Speaker 1: no solutions. God perfect, thank you thanks. As stated before,

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Speaker 1: I was beyond furious. She ruined Cassie's chances at going

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Speaker 1: while I tried to figure this out. Now I stepped

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Speaker 1: on our Cassie was concerned about why she was leaving,

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Speaker 1: but we said we just needed a little bit of space.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I could see, like, what would you think

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Speaker 3: I'm curious everybody, like my parents are fighting, maybe there's

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Speaker 1: Like it's very bad, and it's hard to say something

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Speaker 3: I feel like she'll think it's worse than it is. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: even though it's already pretty bad. Yeah yeah, yeah, it's terrible.

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Speaker 1: I asked Andrea to come back home yesterday and we

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Speaker 1: had an extremely long discussion about how to handle this.

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Speaker 1: She stopped me from talking and asked a favor of me.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if you're in the position.

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Speaker 3: I feel like maybe the one hundred and fifty grand

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Speaker 2: The favor was, could you spot me a thousand for

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Speaker 2: this new bag?

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Speaker 1: Just just She asked if I could take the fall

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Speaker 1: for her? Why that is what you're saying. You get

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Speaker 1: all the Gucci bags and none of the blame.

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Speaker 2: You get out Scott Free.

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Speaker 1: Where's my Gucci bag? Hey, I'll get I'm wearing your

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Speaker 1: Gucci bags. Now my feet going to be in these heels,

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Speaker 1: long heels and red bottom. You get the Gucci baggage

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Speaker 1: and I get the baggage.

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Speaker 4: Roa.

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Speaker 2: Literally, that's not fair.

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Speaker 1: For context, Her and Cassie don't get along well for

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Speaker 1: a variety of reasons, and knowing how independent Cassie is,

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Speaker 1: she will probably leave right after college, if not during.

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Speaker 1: In fact, me and Cassie get along very well and

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Speaker 1: she comes to me for a lot of her issues.

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Speaker 1: Andrea fears that this will permanently drive Cassie away and

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Speaker 1: she doesn't want to lose her. I told her that

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Speaker 1: before we even talk about that, she needed to acknowledge

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Speaker 1: individual therapy, we needed couples counseling, and she needed to

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Speaker 1: find a chopaholic support group, and that I would be

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Speaker 1: controlling the finances from now on.

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Speaker 2: She said that those terms were steep, but fair.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if those are, Steve not. Really, it's

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Speaker 3: a terrible thing that she just asked for that. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 3: I don't think that makes sense.

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Speaker 2: You can't hit him with a double waybie, my goodness,

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Speaker 2: because that doesn't hold her accountable exactly. So what's she

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Speaker 1: I said she needed to tell Cassie what she did,

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Speaker 1: she would never lose Cassie. She said that I could

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Speaker 1: survive the mistake, but she couldn't.

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Speaker 2: Dude, this is so fucked.

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Speaker 3: I mean, but like then, it's like your relationship with

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Speaker 1: But the worst part about the whole thing is that

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Speaker 1: from my four oh one k Reddit Do you have

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Speaker 1: any suggestions? Divorce is always an option, but I love

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Speaker 1: Andrea despite her mistakes, and me dating at age fifty

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Speaker 1: two is next to impossible.

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Speaker 2: I gotta ask y'all, like, what do you do?

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Speaker 2: What can you do?

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Speaker 3: I mean, like, I don't think Op should lie for

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Speaker 3: his wife. If the daughter's going to get into Ivy

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Speaker 3: could probably figure out what's going on that Lie isn't

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Speaker 3: going to do anything but make it worse.

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Speaker 2: When it comes out, and it'll come out.

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Speaker 3: And then she's just gonna not trust her mom more so. Honestly,

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Speaker 3: in the long run, I think actually does more damage.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's such a good point, more damage. I don't think.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't sound like divorce necessarily needs to be on

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Speaker 1: Everything he said the couples that like just to get

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Speaker 1: the chopaholic thing like indicative of something else?

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Speaker 2: Like I don't know, Like it's basically.

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Speaker 1: Let's let's cover all the bases because this is this

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Speaker 1: is such a huge.

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Speaker 3: So actionable too. He's like, Hey, this is what we're

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Speaker 2: We like it. We like it.

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Speaker 3: I mean the person that loses out is just Cassie,

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Speaker 3: you know, screwed either way. Sorry, yeah, but hey, at

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Speaker 3: least if she's getting an Ivy League education, she's gonna

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Speaker 3: make something out of it.

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Speaker 2: Here.

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Speaker 3: Let's hope there's silver lining. Silver lining is she doesn't

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Speaker 3: get into any of the ivs. Okay, Okay, she gets

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Speaker 3: into the UC's becomes a stripper and then pays off

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Speaker 3: her school, or she gets a scholarship he for stripping. Yes, yeah, oh,

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Speaker 3: the stripping scholarships are very Oh they're very good, very lucrative.

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Speaker 3: I saw a billboard on the way to Vegas that said,

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Speaker 3: now hiring the class of like twenty like twenty nineteen

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Speaker 1: After everyone here knocks some sense to me, I realized

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Speaker 3: I think I think get divorced. I think so money's

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Speaker 3: What's not forgivable is not selling the items that you bought. Yes,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, one hundred percent. Let us know what you think,

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Speaker 1: Us know youthing, But your bets in right, now divorce

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Speaker 2: I will not be staying with Andrea. Wow.

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Speaker 1: She lied and manipulated me and Cassie for far too

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Speaker 1: What would you do if you're if I'm curious most

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Speaker 3: Do as someone to you who like you thought you

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Speaker 1: Mom, Yeah, like takes from this fund that's supposed to

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Speaker 3: I think i'd be see It's like I think i'd

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Speaker 2: OP.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, OP is the angel. Can we give it up

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Speaker 1: for OP angel status? Angel status? We don't give that

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Curious if people have college funds in general?

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Speaker 2: Well that we'll see soon.

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Speaker 3: Let's start this one more time before the Internet gods

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Speaker 1: Destroy everything we've worked so hard for. Can you introduce yourselves.

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Speaker 2: My name is.

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Speaker 6: Gosh, my name is Erica, and my name is Christian.

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Speaker 5: And we are the judges. We host an internet podcast

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Speaker 5: show where we read stories online, we laugh at people,

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Speaker 5: and most importantly, we judge them.

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Speaker 3: Wow clause, that was great. I love the synchronicity.

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Speaker 1: We have no synchronicity. We're too we're too uh wild cowboys.

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Speaker 2: What it is.

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Speaker 3: Off arounds exactly at the same time into each other.

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Speaker 5: Now we got five cowboys. You know what?

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Speaker 2: This is a real welcome to the rodeo. Yeah, welcome, welcome.

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Speaker 1: But I'm thinking, uh, if you guys, do you guys

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Speaker 2: Or we could start.

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Speaker 5: Erica started off? Started off all right, Erica's always got

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Speaker 5: the craziest, most juiciest I'm excited, no pressure.

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Speaker 4: But is this because it doesn't have to be just

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Speaker 2: Right, it's counthing.

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Speaker 4: Okay, good because mine is from a relationship underscore advice.

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Speaker 4: My twenty eight female husband thirty male gets on dating

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Speaker 4: I have been married for half a year. Every time

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, man's browsing man, and also, like, one

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Speaker 4: Six, it has made me so anxious, scared and jealous.

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Speaker 4: I'm feeling insecure and like I'm not good enough. Telling

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Speaker 2: Works.

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Speaker 6: I think you just need to replace him.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the replacement that needs to happen.

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Speaker 1: She'd be like, We'll come over here, look at the

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Speaker 1: guys I'm swiping on. You want to fight fire with

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Speaker 5: Match with him on a fake account, catfish your own

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Speaker 1: This is actually the plot of a Do you like Pinoclatas?

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Speaker 4: There is no hope for this relationship.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say break up.

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Speaker 6: Can you imagine being together for six months and for

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Speaker 5: Maybe she did something that kind of makes her deserve it.

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Speaker 5: Maybe she was on a dating app for a month,

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Speaker 5: and in retaliation, he's the one using the fire on

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Speaker 4: I mean, there is definitely two sides to every story.

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Speaker 4: But Joshua, shut up.

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Speaker 6: You're right, josh not all men, not all men.

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Speaker 1: Josh I do have a question for you all. Is

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Speaker 5: The face part is definitely adding to it.

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Speaker 3: I think heels like it doesn't. I feel like it

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Speaker 2: But man doesn't have any matches.

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Speaker 4: I hope he doesn't.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, technic, but it's only been five months because like

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Speaker 5: the sixth month, I wasn't really present, so like it's

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Speaker 5: really easy to get out. I can get it annulled.

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Speaker 1: That's his first message to every single match.

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Speaker 2: That's why mats. I can get it in old though.

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Speaker 2: For you, baby, I'll know my marriage.

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Speaker 4: The whole story is a big yikes.

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Speaker 3: Bikes, Yeah, eleven out of ten yikes. Okay, I think

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Speaker 3: that's uh. I think we can.

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Speaker 1: We'll we could end it there if you guys are down.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah cool, Okay, I'm gonnack h