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Speaker 1: Hi, guys, welcome to It's kind of exciting, not to

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Speaker 1: say another episode of because we're launching.

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Speaker 2: A new podcast, a new podcast.

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Speaker 1: It's still under the two teason a pod umbrella, but

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Speaker 1: we are launching.

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Speaker 2: Diamonds in the Rough, which I think is I think

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Speaker 2: is wonderful because we met as diamonds and we've both

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Speaker 2: had some we're going through some rough times.

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Speaker 1: We've gone through some rough times. We've gone through some

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Speaker 1: rough times together, We've gone through some rough times apart.

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Speaker 2: And it continues.

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Speaker 1: I think that we have a We're pretty lucky in

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Speaker 1: the way that we have a dynamic where we can

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Speaker 1: discuss things without trying to one up each other.

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Speaker 2: Agreed.

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Speaker 1: I think that's very rare in the world that we

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Speaker 1: come from, that we come from. Like I every time

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Speaker 1: I sit down and have a conversation with you, it's like, no, we're.

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Speaker 2: Just we're just friends chatting.

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Speaker 1: And we like to laugh, and we like to laugh

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Speaker 1: and we like to dig in, and we like to

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Speaker 1: talk about shit that some of us say important shit.

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Speaker 2: I say important shit, You say too much? What was it?

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Speaker 2: Stump stump shit or stupid shit? But yeah, I think

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Speaker 2: that you know what, I think that Anybody that's listening

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Speaker 2: is going to enjoy are back and forth and we're

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Speaker 2: going to talk about some topics that are you know,

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Speaker 1: And so we appreciate you guys listening. Yeah, thanks so

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Speaker 1: much for uh being such an advocate for having Erica

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Speaker 1: continue on after recapping OC because this is giving me

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Speaker 2: So I appreciate it. I'm happy to be here for you.

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Speaker 1: But so many of you guys, as you listen to

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Speaker 1: our recaps of Orange County, we're like, hold on, we

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Speaker 1: want more Erica and Teddy. We want more discussions. We

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Speaker 1: want we want to hear your thoughts on a lot

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Speaker 1: of things, a lot of things, not just housewives. No,

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Speaker 2: And I think housewives, you know, will pay probably a

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Speaker 2: very small part of what we're doing here. It is

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Speaker 2: how we met and it is important foundation. But I

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Speaker 2: you know, interesting to not only ourselves but others as well.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and there's no one that likes to go down

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Speaker 1: a rabbit hole more than me and Erica.

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Speaker 2: That is true. I mean, God help us. All right, Well,

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Speaker 2: should we get into it.

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Speaker 1: Let's get into it.

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Speaker 2: I'm so excited. It's like I know the surfers.

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Speaker 1: So first we're going to start with a couple of

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Speaker 1: headlines about others, but we're going to talk about like

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Speaker 1: a certain topic. So you're going to see each and

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Speaker 1: every episode will lean into one specific area. And this episode,

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Speaker 1: whether I like it or not, I guess we're leaning

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Speaker 1: into me.

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Speaker 2: We're going to lead into you, and I'm gonna ask

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Speaker 2: to even just think about, because what you're going through

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Speaker 1: Thank you. This first one before we get into Me,

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Speaker 1: is an US Weekly article. Lala Kent says she and

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Speaker 1: Randall Emmett have productive conversations while co parenting daughter Ocean.

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Speaker 1: Lala Kent has spoken about co parenting daughter Ocean with

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Speaker 1: Happens Live with Andy, Lala said she and Randall have

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Speaker 1: We have come to a place where it's like we

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Speaker 1: And what is best for her and you have productive conversations.

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Speaker 2: I think that's that's a very honest statement, I think.

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Speaker 2: And look, it is about ocean. It is about It's

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Speaker 1: And especially now that she has another baby. And like,

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Speaker 1: She's been through it too, she's been through it, and

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Speaker 2: A lot she has, she's get, she gave a lot,

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Speaker 1: I don't think this is the end of No, no,

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Speaker 2: Sure? Okay. So Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck and how

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Speaker 1: I mean it's challenging only you know, not only because

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Speaker 2: Yes, and history and memories. You have children, It's not

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And if you can't do that, then I'll just

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Speaker 2: Is you know, I'm at my limit.

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Speaker 2: You have to or it becomes See you're in this

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So I mean that that part along with everything

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Speaker 2: I let you have it because you are a host

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Speaker 2: of a podcast in which you're talking about your life.

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Speaker 2: We're here together. People want to know you are a

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Speaker 2: I've never come in God Jesus. I mean, And then

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Speaker 1: And I think that something else like that. I know,

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah you can laugh.

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Speaker 1: You have to laugh at yourself. If not, I would

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Speaker 2: it's not healthy. Well, first of all, none of this

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Speaker 1: Isn't None of this is healthy. But I have realized

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Speaker 1: You know what, that's kind of a sexier way to

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Speaker 2: Right, Well, shit, that's the case. Where is it back

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Speaker 2: I'm on hold.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like I'm to the side of it, like I

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Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, I'm from the old school where you got

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Speaker 2: You know. I'm old school. So take take away the nesting.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So first, first things first, and this isn't this

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Speaker 1: isn't special to me. This is anybody in California. In California, Delaware, Louisiana, Montana, Vermont,

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Speaker 2: Thirty days later, I think in Georgia it's no fault

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Speaker 2: A divorce coach. Yeah, I bet she makes good money.

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Speaker 1: Yeah she does.

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Speaker 2: Well, like when we came up and you had to

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Speaker 1: We're completely happy to be around one another.

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Speaker 2: So it's very amicable. Yeah. So you so the kids

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Speaker 1: Yeah? So I live at Kyle's.

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Speaker 2: Do you really? Holy?

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Speaker 1: I know I saw you filmed in the glamor room.

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Speaker 2: You know, don't be telling on me?

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Speaker 1: Fuck you?

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Speaker 2: Thanks? Is that where you're sleeping in my bedroom?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 2: Are you serious? Oh? Up there?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it isn't that great up there? It's so cozy.

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Speaker 2: I thought you were living in the how the house

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Speaker 1: No? Fuck yeah, it's not a dream.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I do. Actually hold on a second. We need

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Speaker 2: I need to come over and hang out with you all.

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Speaker 1: It's I mean, and the background's beautiful, so we can

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Speaker 2: Whatever, I mean, you know, and Kyle would love to

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Speaker 1: I love the dogs. But there's a ship ton of things.

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Speaker 2: There's ship ton of dogs, but I enjoy them because

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Speaker 2: I feel like I get my dog Phill.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So thankfully Kyle has let me do that.

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Speaker 2: You can't make up. I just wanted to say, like,

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Speaker 1: because like I was thinking to myself, am I going

440
00:23:11,760 --> 00:23:13,000
Speaker 1: to like get.

441
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:14,480
Speaker 2: A place to Like I'm I going to get like

442
00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 2: an apartment over on Ventura you know what I mean?

443
00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:20,120
Speaker 2: Like an apartment on Ventura Boulevard and like.

444
00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:23,240
Speaker 1: Pre decorated to live like two nights a week.

445
00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:26,600
Speaker 2: Like it doesn't like, I don't do it work like that? Yeah?

446
00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:31,600
Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, so I just zip on over. It's close easy.

447
00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 2: Wow.

448
00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:34,200
Speaker 1: I mean she.

449
00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:37,720
Speaker 2: Cooks, No, she does cook cook another.

450
00:23:37,480 --> 00:23:40,280
Speaker 1: There I mean sometimes.

451
00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:41,640
Speaker 2: Wow, how many times have you done it?

452
00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:45,040
Speaker 1: No, we're just starting, we're newly into it. But it

453
00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:49,360
Speaker 1: does work out really well for the kids because then

454
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:50,040
Speaker 1: they you know.

455
00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:51,080
Speaker 2: We have right around the corner.

456
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:54,800
Speaker 1: We're right around the corner, and you know, everything's on

457
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:57,160
Speaker 1: the calendar. They know exactly when I come and go,

458
00:23:57,960 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 1: vice versa. And but yeah, I mean it's it's challenging

459
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:07,679
Speaker 1: because for you know, for someone type A like me,

460
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 1: like one little thing that throws you all changes.

461
00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 2: That is true, Teddy. If she's not good on the

462
00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:15,520
Speaker 2: old flexibility, No.

463
00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:19,040
Speaker 1: I'm not in any ways. Definitely can't do the splits either.

464
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:25,640
Speaker 2: No, but you're not flexible at all, I don't. I mean,

465
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:30,159
Speaker 2: you know, my god, Kyle, so of course you are.

466
00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:36,080
Speaker 1: I was like, just wait till somebody catches me pulling

467
00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 1: into Kyle's houses like we Erica and Duke called it

468
00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:40,359
Speaker 1: years ago.

469
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 2: Listen, I'm telling you the way I'm going. You all

470
00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:45,920
Speaker 2: should leave me the fuck alone. I see the future. Okay,

471
00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:48,800
Speaker 2: y'all better leave me the fuck alone. I know what's

472
00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:56,119
Speaker 2: going on. I see the future except for my own. Okay.

473
00:24:56,600 --> 00:25:00,399
Speaker 2: But you know, psychic say they can't see themselves. I

474
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 2: don't know. I'm kidding to anybody.

475
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:05,560
Speaker 1: No, we'd hate we'd hate some self awareness on diamonds.

476
00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 2: In the room now, which, by the way, we know

477
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:09,880
Speaker 2: so many people that could come on and hang out

478
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:15,480
Speaker 2: with us and better in a rough place. I think

479
00:25:15,520 --> 00:25:19,359
Speaker 2: everybody in our media orbit like.

480
00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:22,440
Speaker 1: We could honestly just throw a dart anywhere and come

481
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:25,480
Speaker 1: on and talk. You want to talk shit about whatever

482
00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:26,399
Speaker 1: you're going for, that's.

483
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:31,800
Speaker 2: Your latest disaster, you know, God help us.

484
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:42,560
Speaker 3: Help us.

485
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:48,679
Speaker 1: Okay. You previously shared on the podcast that you and

486
00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:52,920
Speaker 1: your ex Thomas, had a better relationship divorced than married.

487
00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:54,840
Speaker 1: Can you go into that a little bit more?

488
00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:58,359
Speaker 2: Well, what I can say is, yeah, I love my

489
00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:04,440
Speaker 2: first husband, Thomas. Yeah it was Thomas, Thomas and Thomas.

490
00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:09,160
Speaker 2: I love Tom very much. Tom one. We were young

491
00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:14,920
Speaker 2: and he's a good guy, and we still talk and

492
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 2: still wish each other, you know, happy birthdays and Christmases

493
00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 2: and stuff like that. Is he remarried, No, I wish

494
00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:24,399
Speaker 2: he would be there because he deserves someone. He's a

495
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:26,200
Speaker 2: good guy. He really is. He's a good man.

496
00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:28,200
Speaker 1: Did you ever go back?

497
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 2: No, No, I was young and you know, wild and

498
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 2: weird and all of that, and yeah, he's a good guy.

499
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 2: But we did not fight in front of our child,

500
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:43,880
Speaker 2: like I told you. Yeah, and I was something that's

501
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 2: not really nesting. But I remember when my son was young,

502
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 2: like he was in grade school and tom One, you know,

503
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:54,440
Speaker 2: they live in New York City, was going out of town.

504
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 2: So I flew to New York to move into the

505
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:02,880
Speaker 2: apartment for like seven to right so that my boy

506
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:04,879
Speaker 2: didn't have to miss school or anything, and you know,

507
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:07,960
Speaker 2: so and then I moved in, not moved in, but stayed. Yeah,

508
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:12,680
Speaker 2: And it was like maybe semi nesting for a week. Yeah,

509
00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:13,120
Speaker 2: I mean.

510
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:14,960
Speaker 1: The nesting, I think, which was fun.

511
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:17,919
Speaker 2: We had a great time, you know, he you know,

512
00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 2: it was cool. He was at home and mom came

513
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 2: in and had a great time.

514
00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:24,719
Speaker 1: I think taking sometimes taking your kids out of their

515
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:30,440
Speaker 1: surroundings is really traumendous, especially when there's already additional news, yeah,

516
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: that they're having to take in.

517
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 2: They has anybody said anything to them?

518
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 1: I mean they they're they're pretty open, Like my kids

519
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:46,679
Speaker 1: are pretty conversational. Yeah they're not.

520
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 2: They're smart.

521
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:53,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're smart, and they're aware. And I think probably

522
00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:56,840
Speaker 1: all of us have the same questions, you know that

523
00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:58,040
Speaker 1: we don't have answers to.

524
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:00,760
Speaker 2: And you might not have those answers fun long time.

525
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:03,960
Speaker 1: And I think that's something that I have to continue

526
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:04,399
Speaker 1: to remember.

527
00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:08,439
Speaker 2: What is that going on? Yes, they're a fucking radio.

528
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:09,840
Speaker 2: What is this?

529
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:12,440
Speaker 1: Is this Kevin Costner?

530
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 2: This is the iHeartRadio Christmas Party.

531
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:20,280
Speaker 1: Well, they didn't bring any snow in here because it's

532
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 1: fucking hot as balls.

533
00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:25,120
Speaker 2: Or I'm stretched, girl, you're going to menipause and get

534
00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 2: you some hormones. I mean, we're doing a show I love.

535
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 2: This is our first show.

536
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:34,439
Speaker 1: Leave us alone.

537
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:38,200
Speaker 2: We have high level talks in here is very serious stuff.

538
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 1: Sorry, we're we don't know if we're crying or we're

539
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 1: having allergic reactions this work.

540
00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 2: You're fucking sabotaging our first show. Rude, You're back to Kyle's.

541
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:53,960
Speaker 2: We're going to Kyle's. We're going to Kyle's. You know what,

542
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 2: We'll be at kyle We'll be at Kyle's next time.

543
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 1: Hold on our next guest. We haven't asked her yet,

544
00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 1: but we'll be old because she doesn't have a choice.

545
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 2: She doesn't have a choice because she'll be with the

546
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 2: snacks and everything else.

547
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:12,200
Speaker 1: So sit down here that we utilized a film.

548
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 2: What do you think about this place? What do you

549
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 2: think about you too?

550
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 1: I mean, my gosh, talk about your most recent confessional

551
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 1: or when need you think about when you had pigtail

552
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:22,920
Speaker 1: braids and Oh.

553
00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 2: I knew you were gonna say, girl, okay, little house

554
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:29,720
Speaker 2: on the prairie, you know it's giving me. I was like,

555
00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 2: what's going on?

556
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:35,880
Speaker 1: There was a lot of looks that episode. You and

557
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:37,920
Speaker 1: Kathy's hat was also a good treat.

558
00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:42,160
Speaker 2: Honeing the hat. I still have my hat, by the way. Well,

559
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:45,280
Speaker 2: at any moment she might say, hey, where's all hats, bitch,

560
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:47,720
Speaker 2: You're not gonna catch me without my hat. I'm like,

561
00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:50,040
Speaker 2: the right hair. You're like, hold on, it's right hair.

562
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 2: I got my coffee filter hat on, honey.

563
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 1: Don't you worry? He folgers in.

564
00:29:55,000 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 2: Our cuts, right, soldiers. That's what Tom drank. He really,

565
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 2: you did have that old school coffee filters?

566
00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was coffee made. Oh god, well okay, my deep, dark,

567
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 1: dirty secret.

568
00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:11,120
Speaker 2: Cos you do really the coffee made? Yeah?

569
00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 1: I used to drag the fridge tours.

570
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 2: Okay.

571
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:15,560
Speaker 1: I would be like, hold on, let me.

572
00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 2: Just I've pulled so many things out of that fridge.

573
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:22,680
Speaker 1: You have no idea, No, don't mind the coffee, mate.

574
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 1: What is your advice to other women who feel like

575
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 1: they've failed or can't move on, or feel guilty about

576
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 1: making a decision.

577
00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 2: No one is a failure. These things happen in life,

578
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 2: and it is okay to get knocked down take a breath,

579
00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:42,040
Speaker 2: but you can't stay down. You have to pop back up.

580
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,000
Speaker 2: You have to pop back up. When I was going

581
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 2: through all all of my stuff, I remember again people

582
00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:50,680
Speaker 2: reaching out in DMS and saying, look, this happened to me.

583
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:59,720
Speaker 2: Like I've gone, I've been here, and we're all human

584
00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:04,160
Speaker 2: being okay, nobody's perfect, You'll be okay, but the only

585
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 2: way out is through. You just gotta keep going.

586
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:11,440
Speaker 1: And I think for me, a way out is it's

587
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:14,080
Speaker 1: not even a way out, but a way through is

588
00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:16,680
Speaker 1: like I really don't want to place blame.

589
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:18,560
Speaker 2: There's enough to go.

590
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:21,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you know, like I don't want to get

591
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 1: to that place like I think, Yeah, of course, there's

592
00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 1: going to be moments where I'm angry, or I'm hurt,

593
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 1: or I'm upset or you know, the highs and lowser,

594
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 1: I'm going to grieve or for a long time, yeah

595
00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:35,960
Speaker 1: I'm gonna, you know, fall back in love again. I

596
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 1: don't know, but I don't.

597
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:40,360
Speaker 2: Then we need an intervention.

598
00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 1: All done, But I don't want to get to the

599
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 1: place where you don't want to be bitter is what

600
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:48,760
Speaker 1: you're really trying to say.

601
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:51,080
Speaker 2: I think that that's what it really is. You don't

602
00:31:51,120 --> 00:31:53,480
Speaker 2: want to be bitter. You can go through all of

603
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 2: these emotions, but at the end of the day, when

604
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:57,480
Speaker 2: it's all said and done in all the dust settles

605
00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 2: that you're not bitter. Yeah, because that's the killer. When

606
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:07,200
Speaker 2: women become bitter, then the whole their whole vision forward

607
00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 2: is just tainted. Everybody's bad, every situation sucks, there's nothing

608
00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 2: good that's not true. Yeah.

609
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 1: And I think I saw with you know, my parents' divorce. Uh,

610
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 1: there was so much like mud slinging at each other.

611
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:25,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't want to do it that it we

612
00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:27,880
Speaker 2: got lost in the mix became about them.

613
00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:31,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it also became about pleasing them.

614
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:32,960
Speaker 2: Oh wow, you know what.

615
00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:35,360
Speaker 1: I mean, Like I'm going to make so and so

616
00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 1: happy if I say this or I do this. Oh wow,

617
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 1: and your kids you don't know. And which is why

618
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:46,680
Speaker 1: I still say to both of my parents to this day,

619
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:49,040
Speaker 1: please don't call me the other person's name.

620
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:50,440
Speaker 2: It is.

621
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 1: It's to me like both of them have done it

622
00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 1: my entire life, and it's like one of those things

623
00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 1: like where my dad will be like, oh, little Vicky okay,

624
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:03,560
Speaker 1: where my mom would be like all right, John, and

625
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, I know this isn't used as a compliment

626
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 1: right now?

627
00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 2: How about this? How about being called Okay, I'm not

628
00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 2: going to say his name because he's my father and

629
00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 2: I had never met him. You look just like your dad,

630
00:33:15,360 --> 00:33:16,960
Speaker 2: you know, Da da da da. I'm like, I don't

631
00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:20,240
Speaker 2: know him, so, yeah, I understand exactly what that feels.

632
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:22,240
Speaker 2: So like if you since I didn't know him. Yeah,

633
00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:23,959
Speaker 2: so I was like, well, I don't know, is it

634
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:26,440
Speaker 2: I don't know? Or you look just like your daddy

635
00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 2: with that Latin nose. I'm like, what the fuck are

636
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 2: you talking about? What do you mean my latin nose?

637
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 1: Or like your expression, Yeah, the way you.

638
00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:36,280
Speaker 2: Look at her hands, da da da da. And you know,

639
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 2: my grandmother and my mother would do this to me

640
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 2: and they thought it was funny, and it was not.

641
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 1: It's not funny.

642
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 2: I didn't know who the fuck this dude was.

643
00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:46,720
Speaker 1: So I mean that adds a whole Well, it's just like, you.

644
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:48,400
Speaker 2: Know, can y'all stop talking about people I don't know?

645
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 1: And and then also there is a level of like,

646
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 1: am I supposed to feel shame for being a part

647
00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:56,280
Speaker 1: of my parents.

648
00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:57,760
Speaker 2: Well, at one point they liked each other enough to

649
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:00,800
Speaker 2: procreate not once, but twice. Yeah, so what does that mean?

650
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 1: Like, and I'm always whenever they would bitch about each

651
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 1: other and be like, you guys chose to marry each

652
00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 1: other and have kids? Did you?

653
00:34:08,200 --> 00:34:11,120
Speaker 2: This was I was I was listening to I don't know,

654
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:13,520
Speaker 2: I was watching something on YouTube and it was this

655
00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:17,319
Speaker 2: therapist who was talking about children who thought that the

656
00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:20,600
Speaker 2: reason that they got divorced, their parents got divorced was

657
00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:23,040
Speaker 2: because of them. I'm just here to say, not one

658
00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:25,319
Speaker 2: day in my life did I ever think that it

659
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 2: was my fault. I always thought they were dumb.

660
00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:28,840
Speaker 1: Okay, I never thought it was my right.

661
00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:32,919
Speaker 2: I never knew and I'm talking about my stepfather now.

662
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:35,800
Speaker 2: I mean I knew that they were they were idiots. No,

663
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:39,640
Speaker 2: nothing to do with me. Y'all were really stupid.

664
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:43,359
Speaker 1: No, I mean one of my very closest friends was like,

665
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:48,319
Speaker 1: my parents stayed together until I graduated high school for us,

666
00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:52,759
Speaker 1: and it was we weren't stupid, right, We saw how

667
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:56,880
Speaker 1: unhappy kind an happy and and I'm not saying that

668
00:34:56,960 --> 00:34:59,200
Speaker 1: I wasn't happy or that I am unhappy. I'm not

669
00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:02,879
Speaker 1: putting any emphasis on that. But I am saying kids

670
00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:03,560
Speaker 1: are very smart.

671
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:06,280
Speaker 2: They're very smart. They know what's going.

672
00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:08,560
Speaker 1: On, and as long as you show your kids love,

673
00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:12,800
Speaker 1: we have to give ourselves some grace.

674
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 2: You deserve grace. Edwin deserves grace. Everybody in this situation

675
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:21,040
Speaker 2: deserves grace. You know it's.

676
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 1: Man, it's a shit show. No it's not.

677
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 2: You're a human being. You're having a really human experience.

678
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:39,440
Speaker 2: No one can, you know, leave her alone. Well, I

679
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:43,239
Speaker 2: know they're not going to. But I know they're not

680
00:35:43,280 --> 00:35:46,400
Speaker 2: going to, but you also have to almost look at

681
00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:49,360
Speaker 2: yourself like step out, like detached, like take two steps

682
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 2: back from your personal self, and so you can get

683
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 2: so destroyed by it.

684
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:55,840
Speaker 1: I do, and tell me if I'm wrong. Do I

685
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:58,440
Speaker 1: seem a little less anxious than my normal self.

686
00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:02,360
Speaker 2: I didn't want to say anything, but yeah, it was

687
00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 2: a time. I'm not gonna like reveal too much here,

688
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:06,920
Speaker 2: but there was a day when I was talking to

689
00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:09,880
Speaker 2: you that it was really bad. Yeah, and I was like, wow,

690
00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:15,319
Speaker 2: that since passed, and you seem to like you've taken

691
00:36:15,360 --> 00:36:15,840
Speaker 2: a breath.

692
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think for me having some sort of a plan, sure,

693
00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:25,200
Speaker 1: whether that plan comes to fruition or not.

694
00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 2: It's the idea. It's you have a plan and you

695
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 2: can make adjustments. You're gonna have to be flexible. But no,

696
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:34,439
Speaker 2: but you look, this is a great also a great

697
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:36,360
Speaker 2: moment to see just how flexible you can be.

698
00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I also I'm really grateful to be able

699
00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:41,360
Speaker 1: to do this with you and to be able to

700
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:43,880
Speaker 1: have to choose on a pod with camera because, like it,

701
00:36:45,480 --> 00:36:46,759
Speaker 1: showing up to work.

702
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 2: Is really important for your mental health.

703
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:51,040
Speaker 1: And people give me a lot of shit about accountability.

704
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 1: How could you be an accountability to coach? I'm like,

705
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,439
Speaker 1: I'm an accountability coach to help you like work out

706
00:36:55,480 --> 00:36:58,680
Speaker 1: and change your like so what Like, it doesn't mean

707
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:00,759
Speaker 1: I'm an accountability coach all aspects of what.

708
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:03,839
Speaker 2: But showing up to work every day is accountable.

709
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:05,759
Speaker 1: It holds me accountable to.

710
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:09,399
Speaker 2: You made a commitment to the being on the show.

711
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:13,680
Speaker 2: Everybody is everybody like taking the moral high ground and

712
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:18,400
Speaker 2: fuck you you've got you've got problems too. Yeah you know,

713
00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:21,879
Speaker 2: don't don't let those people tear you apart. No one

714
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:22,520
Speaker 2: is perfect.

715
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:25,360
Speaker 1: So who do we dig apart next week? Kyle?

716
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:28,880
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I don't know if I'm a lot, but

717
00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:30,319
Speaker 2: I don't know.

718
00:37:42,200 --> 00:37:45,120
Speaker 1: So how did it work for you with your son

719
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 1: and the holidays?

720
00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 2: So somebody got so one of us it was alternating.

721
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:53,239
Speaker 2: I always got every summer, so from so let's just

722
00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 2: go Thanksgiving. If he had Thanksgiving, I had Christmas. Then

723
00:37:57,080 --> 00:38:00,839
Speaker 2: I had winter break or spring. So there's winter break

724
00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:02,360
Speaker 2: and spring where I didn't have that when I was

725
00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:03,920
Speaker 2: going to school, Like, I don't think these kids go

726
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:04,759
Speaker 2: to school.

727
00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:07,799
Speaker 1: No, I'm these private schools and you pay all that money.

728
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:10,840
Speaker 2: And then every chance, aken, we're having a holiday, we're.

729
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:13,600
Speaker 1: Having a holiday. Oh you know it's parent teacher conferences

730
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:16,720
Speaker 1: for four days. You know what do those during the holiday?

731
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 2: How about this? How about it's not it's fifty grand

732
00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 2: to send these kids every year.

733
00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:24,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've learned a lot about finance just recently.

734
00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 2: Did that blow your mind apart? I'm so happy that

735
00:38:28,080 --> 00:38:29,879
Speaker 2: I have one child who is thirty two years old

736
00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:33,040
Speaker 2: and I don't have to do this. Well for me

737
00:38:33,120 --> 00:38:35,400
Speaker 2: to do it before in New York City and it

738
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:37,799
Speaker 2: was pricey, well.

739
00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:40,719
Speaker 1: Not only is it pricey, but then it's like in

740
00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:46,440
Speaker 1: La It's it's such a scene like where my kids

741
00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:51,440
Speaker 1: go to school, Like there's bodyguards for particular kids because

742
00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 1: of celebrity and then you're like.

743
00:38:53,080 --> 00:38:59,799
Speaker 2: Well, my son went to college with someone who is

744
00:38:59,840 --> 00:39:03,640
Speaker 2: the president of a European nations child and that was

745
00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 2: like they they had full on like live in yeah security.

746
00:39:09,600 --> 00:39:11,680
Speaker 1: But then you also kind of was a military college.

747
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 1: I mean, but to kind of like talk about the

748
00:39:13,719 --> 00:39:20,160
Speaker 1: kids situation in general, like what is just And we're

749
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:22,479
Speaker 1: not even talking about divorce, We're not talking about my kids.

750
00:39:22,480 --> 00:39:25,359
Speaker 1: We're just talking about kids in general, like what is

751
00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:29,719
Speaker 1: the best way for kids to grow up? Like in

752
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 1: LA it's very different because you have to be kind

753
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:35,160
Speaker 1: of a helicopter parent, like I could walk to school.

754
00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:38,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you, I'll go first off, and you lived

755
00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 2: in a really great place coming up. I mean, Hilton

756
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:45,399
Speaker 2: Head is stunning and it was a different time that

757
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:48,680
Speaker 2: doesn't exist much now. Yeah, I mean certainly not where

758
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 2: we're living in the city.

759
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:52,840
Speaker 1: Yeah. No, I mean there's I want somebody was like,

760
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 1: would you let Slate walk to Starbucks by herself?

761
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:55,920
Speaker 2: No?

762
00:39:56,040 --> 00:39:59,320
Speaker 1: I was like, absolutely, not, even with her air tag on,

763
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 1: She's not hell no, I mean I've never even left

764
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:04,280
Speaker 1: her by herself.

765
00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:04,919
Speaker 2: No.

766
00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 1: And I looked at like, just because you know, I'm curious,

767
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, what age do kids babysit? And I guess

768
00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 1: at twelve the kids are allowed to babysit. I'm like

769
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 1: the thought of leaving slate to babysit the other kids.

770
00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 2: But wait a second, we were doing that. That's I I.

771
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:22,960
Speaker 1: Had already had my babysitting license.

772
00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:23,839
Speaker 2: What is that?

773
00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 1: There was like something that you did on that like

774
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:27,360
Speaker 1: it was part of the babysit.

775
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:29,239
Speaker 2: Now, when I was coming up, it was just like

776
00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:31,640
Speaker 2: my mom wanted a club with her girlfriends, So Erica,

777
00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:35,440
Speaker 2: can you watch her daughter? We fucking I tore that

778
00:40:35,480 --> 00:40:37,400
Speaker 2: house apart, and the kids loved it so much they

779
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:40,520
Speaker 2: asked me to come back every week because I was

780
00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:43,520
Speaker 2: just wild. You were ordering pizzas.

781
00:40:43,040 --> 00:40:45,400
Speaker 1: And don't turn the babysitter instead.

782
00:40:45,080 --> 00:40:46,919
Speaker 2: Turning up the music, and just like.

783
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:49,480
Speaker 1: Having friends age doing all the things.

784
00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:52,120
Speaker 2: Well, no, I was too little, That's what I'm saying.

785
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,800
Speaker 1: Like, how old were you when you started babysit?

786
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 2: Probably twelve and they were like six. I had no

787
00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 2: business doing any of this shit, but I the young mom,

788
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 2: had friend they wanted to go out. We used to

789
00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:07,200
Speaker 2: stay home and just eat candy and get wild, sugared up,

790
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 2: and just the main thing was don't under any circumstances

791
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:15,680
Speaker 2: go to the door. Oh yeah, and if anything looks crazy,

792
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:20,560
Speaker 2: call your grandmother. Not even I'm not answering how could

793
00:41:20,600 --> 00:41:22,600
Speaker 2: she answered? There were no such thing as cell phones

794
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:24,320
Speaker 2: in this bitch was at the club, like what you

795
00:41:24,920 --> 00:41:30,200
Speaker 2: call the pay phone, call your call your grandmother. I

796
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 2: was like, well, I'm shit, Okay, she shit, okay, you

797
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:39,640
Speaker 2: know whatever. So to think that that's how we grew up.

798
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 2: And now I'm trying to think if my son, no,

799
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:47,719
Speaker 2: he never baby said anybody, I mean yeah, no.

800
00:41:47,680 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 1: No, I mean I I wouldn't even think of it.

801
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:55,520
Speaker 2: Like I imagine slate like going on you know, uber eats,

802
00:41:55,640 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 2: getting pizzas, just corraling the other kids and you're out.

803
00:42:01,200 --> 00:42:03,040
Speaker 2: I mean, in no way.

804
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 1: In Los Angeles, hall no, like where my sister lives

805
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:10,800
Speaker 1: in South Carolina. I would probably let her like walk

806
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:13,080
Speaker 1: to the ice cream store like it's two minutes from

807
00:42:13,080 --> 00:42:13,560
Speaker 1: the house.

808
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:17,840
Speaker 2: On FaceTime. I'm no, I'm a weirdo.

809
00:42:18,120 --> 00:42:21,880
Speaker 1: No, I'm I'm I'm wild about it too. But it's

810
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 1: also it's that as your kids start to grow up.

811
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:25,759
Speaker 2: You have to let go.

812
00:42:27,160 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 1: She's still twelve, I mean, I mean Bella just got

813
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:30,200
Speaker 1: her license.

814
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:34,200
Speaker 2: Oh he didn't know. Did you let her drive her around? Oh? Yes, what?

815
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:36,880
Speaker 1: Oh I don't like to drive, so I'm thrilled.

816
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 2: Wait, Bella is driving you round?

817
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:44,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, bell is the driver. Now, don't you worry. But

818
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:48,879
Speaker 1: not on Friday for jingle Ball because we're using Ubertine.

819
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:50,200
Speaker 2: Are you really?

820
00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:53,080
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we're using Ubertine. It's really cool because you

821
00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:57,880
Speaker 1: can actually track the location of exactly where the kids

822
00:42:57,920 --> 00:42:58,920
Speaker 1: are in that moment.

823
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:02,439
Speaker 2: I want if they have special drivers that only want

824
00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 2: to do the tea.

825
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:05,080
Speaker 1: Yes, they that's what I was thinking.

826
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:09,440
Speaker 2: Well, shit, you know what, I could have.

827
00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:12,319
Speaker 1: Put you in an Ubertine sometimes me, so then I

828
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:14,080
Speaker 1: could fully track your whereabouts.

829
00:43:14,280 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 2: I am about sixteen and so I've never matured past sixteen.

830
00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:19,480
Speaker 2: So you know what I do.

831
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 1: I have this.

832
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:24,480
Speaker 2: I want you to send me an Ubertine and I

833
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:29,279
Speaker 2: want my nuggets and fries in the back that day because.

834
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:32,239
Speaker 1: And I wanted a doctor pepper. Thank you right? Oh

835
00:43:32,239 --> 00:43:33,600
Speaker 1: my gosh, you know who we need to have on

836
00:43:33,719 --> 00:43:35,920
Speaker 1: diamonds in the rough? Who Rena?

837
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:39,200
Speaker 2: Oh that would be fun, that would be nice.

838
00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:41,799
Speaker 1: I hold on, Renna, actually have a bone to pick

839
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:47,040
Speaker 1: with Oh hell no, it's about the sauce. You said

840
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 1: that you were sending me Harry's sauce.

841
00:43:49,719 --> 00:43:51,359
Speaker 2: What a minute, what are you talking about? You didn't

842
00:43:51,400 --> 00:43:51,759
Speaker 2: get it?

843
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 1: No, she I got the message.

844
00:43:54,360 --> 00:43:56,880
Speaker 2: My son loves this sauce. When you're talking about a

845
00:43:56,920 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 2: half Sicilian child.

846
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:01,920
Speaker 1: I'm furious because I got the text message confirming this

847
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:04,800
Speaker 1: is confirming this is still your address.

848
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 2: Oh my god, how did I've never got hairs? We

849
00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:22,600
Speaker 2: can get you somewhere at Kyle's.

850
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:27,120
Speaker 1: We can overteat it.

851
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:30,360
Speaker 2: I'll swing by Renas, grab some sauce and head on

852
00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:33,200
Speaker 2: over to Kyle. You know what we should do. Renna

853
00:44:33,280 --> 00:44:35,839
Speaker 2: should come over and we should make pasta one night

854
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 2: to the four of us. Yes, and just trash everybody

855
00:44:39,600 --> 00:44:40,160
Speaker 2: and listen.

856
00:44:40,239 --> 00:44:43,640
Speaker 1: We could relive when we Oh, I did appreciate you

857
00:44:43,680 --> 00:44:45,800
Speaker 1: had some peak hair extensions the other day.

858
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:47,640
Speaker 2: Which way were they falling out?

859
00:44:47,920 --> 00:44:50,400
Speaker 1: No? They looked good? Oh good, thank you?

860
00:44:50,400 --> 00:44:52,200
Speaker 2: Oh the pink? Oh yes, I liked it.

861
00:44:52,200 --> 00:44:52,680
Speaker 1: It was hot.

862
00:44:52,719 --> 00:44:54,319
Speaker 2: I thought you were like peak. I was like, were

863
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 2: they falling out of my crowd? O?

864
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:57,239
Speaker 1: Pink? That it was nice.

865
00:44:57,280 --> 00:44:59,600
Speaker 2: We wanted to do something that just had some collars

866
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:00,600
Speaker 2: looked pretty.

867
00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:05,160
Speaker 1: Thank you. Can we talk a little bit about if

868
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:07,240
Speaker 1: your dating life has changed at all since.

869
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:10,480
Speaker 2: Well, no, it hasn't. And I'm feeling like tumble weeds

870
00:45:10,719 --> 00:45:13,440
Speaker 2: and I just I need to be out here dating.

871
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 2: I am so social, I'm going out.

872
00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 1: I am Where are you going?

873
00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:21,320
Speaker 2: I mean, I have a dinner, fancy dinner on Friday

874
00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 2: night with some really fancy friends that I'm not going

875
00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 2: to say who do I know them? Not personally, but

876
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:30,720
Speaker 2: you know them, you recognize them? Sure?

877
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:33,240
Speaker 1: Is one of them a date for you?

878
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:38,600
Speaker 2: No? This is a full on chat chat chat, but

879
00:45:38,640 --> 00:45:39,080
Speaker 2: it's good.

880
00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: And when you when you are going to date next,

881
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:43,320
Speaker 1: are you going to go older or younger?

882
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:45,759
Speaker 2: No? I don't think I've already done the older thing,

883
00:45:45,880 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 2: so I think it's my help now. But you're like, no,

884
00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:51,239
Speaker 2: you know what, my oh my god, my therapist. She

885
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:54,000
Speaker 2: goes Erica, you can no longer be a nurse or

886
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:59,800
Speaker 2: a purse for a man. I was like, hey, okay,

887
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 2: so I take that to say my age are younger.

888
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:04,960
Speaker 1: I like it.

889
00:46:06,120 --> 00:46:07,440
Speaker 2: But if Warren Buffett called it.

890
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:13,880
Speaker 1: She's like, she's like, but Elon Musk or Jeff Bezos.

891
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:16,600
Speaker 2: Well yeah, I mean, hold.

892
00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:18,480
Speaker 1: On, know what we could maybe get into in one

893
00:46:18,480 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 1: of the Diamonds of the refs. What have you watched

894
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:23,880
Speaker 1: the Girl's Gone Wild?

895
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:27,000
Speaker 2: I'm about to I feel bad for them.

896
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 1: I have so many questions. Do you want to hear something?

897
00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 1: All's crazy about our phones? Now?

898
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:37,759
Speaker 2: What? Oh you mean the transcribe?

899
00:46:37,920 --> 00:46:40,200
Speaker 1: No, there's a little button on the side at the

900
00:46:40,239 --> 00:46:42,840
Speaker 1: beginning when you start talking to somebody and it says

901
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 1: you can record the phone call.

902
00:46:44,760 --> 00:46:48,400
Speaker 2: Oh, yes, of course, and then it alerts them we're recording.

903
00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:53,239
Speaker 1: What But I thought, so, is it like zoom now

904
00:46:53,280 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 1: because it's saying that it's recorded, they're allowed to record.

905
00:46:56,640 --> 00:46:58,759
Speaker 2: Well, I don't think that we've had privacy since the

906
00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 2: nineteen fifties or so exeasing me whenever everybody's like my bribecy,

907
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:04,200
Speaker 2: I'm like, you haven't had any for fifty seventy five years,

908
00:47:04,200 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 2: So don't worry about it. You do it, you have it.

909
00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:10,440
Speaker 2: And but yes, I just always assume that everything that

910
00:47:10,520 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 2: I do, which is kind of great for us because

911
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:15,920
Speaker 2: we live our lives on camera. I just always assume

912
00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:17,920
Speaker 2: that you know everything you say or do, everything you

913
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:22,480
Speaker 2: say or do is on camera, and will not can

914
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:26,520
Speaker 2: will will no can will and everything is up for

915
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 2: public consumption.

916
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:31,279
Speaker 1: Did you know though on riah, no, because they didn't

917
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:36,319
Speaker 1: let me on. But did you know, though, if you motherfucker,

918
00:47:37,480 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 1: if you're caught screen shotting somebody's photo, you get kicked out.

919
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:44,600
Speaker 1: I know you haven't gotten in yet.

920
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:47,760
Speaker 2: I like that, actually like that because you shouldn't. It shouldn't.

921
00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:50,000
Speaker 1: But I could easily take my phone and take a

922
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:51,120
Speaker 1: picture of your phone.

923
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:53,600
Speaker 2: Well duh, don't be a rookie and do a screenshot.

924
00:47:53,719 --> 00:47:55,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, like don't. This isn't fucking snapchat.

925
00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:58,040
Speaker 2: So many ways we can do this. By the way,

926
00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:02,200
Speaker 2: I worried that people that use Snapchat actually think that

927
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:03,840
Speaker 2: that stuff goes away. No, it doesn't.

928
00:48:04,000 --> 00:48:04,919
Speaker 1: It doesn't go away.

929
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:05,759
Speaker 2: Nothing goes away.

930
00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 1: Guys, we could go deep. Actually, I'm very good friends

931
00:48:09,280 --> 00:48:11,319
Speaker 1: with one of the heads of Snapchat.

932
00:48:11,520 --> 00:48:14,279
Speaker 2: Nothing goes away yell, and I kind of.

933
00:48:14,280 --> 00:48:17,239
Speaker 1: Think we should bring her into this conversation because the

934
00:48:17,280 --> 00:48:19,320
Speaker 1: world of snapchat.

935
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:22,680
Speaker 2: Is it is. What is the demo on snapchat these days?

936
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:26,360
Speaker 1: I think the demo? I mean, I know that most

937
00:48:26,480 --> 00:48:32,360
Speaker 1: kids won't even text anymore. They solely snapchat, really yes,

938
00:48:32,719 --> 00:48:35,759
Speaker 1: And the reason for that is but they're not even

939
00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:38,399
Speaker 1: sending like pictures of themselves. It's like half of an

940
00:48:38,400 --> 00:48:41,839
Speaker 1: eye or like, it's what is going on? I don't

941
00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:44,320
Speaker 1: get it. It's starting to be like such a lack

942
00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:48,319
Speaker 1: of communication, and then you're left on red and then

943
00:48:48,360 --> 00:48:51,200
Speaker 1: you're left feeling like you're not good enough because so

944
00:48:51,239 --> 00:48:52,600
Speaker 1: and so is not responding to them.

945
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:55,960
Speaker 2: I'm so happy I am fifty three. But well, I'm

946
00:48:55,960 --> 00:48:58,120
Speaker 2: gonna tell you I was on a three kids. I mean,

947
00:48:58,160 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 2: obviously they're not on Snapchat, but you have three kids

948
00:49:02,120 --> 00:49:05,400
Speaker 2: that you're raising in this digital age where you know

949
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:10,600
Speaker 2: they don't know anything but having a phone in their hand.

950
00:49:10,800 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, and it's frightening. So I you know,

951
00:49:14,719 --> 00:49:16,719
Speaker 1: I have Custodia. This is not an app.

952
00:49:16,800 --> 00:49:17,360
Speaker 2: What is that?

953
00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:21,120
Speaker 1: Custodia is an app where it tracks how long your

954
00:49:21,200 --> 00:49:23,160
Speaker 1: kids are on particular site.

955
00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:26,359
Speaker 2: My phone would be on fire, yeah you this would be.

956
00:49:26,719 --> 00:49:28,680
Speaker 1: But I don't know how you are. But I'm a

957
00:49:28,719 --> 00:49:31,600
Speaker 1: person that's like I need.

958
00:49:31,239 --> 00:49:33,359
Speaker 2: That, like I r L in real life.

959
00:49:33,520 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I can't pick somebody by a photograph. No,

960
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:41,480
Speaker 1: I aesthetically be like George Clooney or Brad Pitt, which

961
00:49:41,480 --> 00:49:43,920
Speaker 1: I need to know what your answer is neither, No,

962
00:49:44,000 --> 00:49:45,040
Speaker 1: I mean you had to pick.

963
00:49:46,640 --> 00:49:49,320
Speaker 2: That's not I'm with them.

964
00:49:49,360 --> 00:49:53,520
Speaker 1: Well, that's both.

965
00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:57,440
Speaker 2: She want to get out the way. I'm not in

966
00:49:57,480 --> 00:50:01,920
Speaker 2: the sand. Okay, watch do't now you know who has

967
00:50:01,960 --> 00:50:04,279
Speaker 2: a small who knows who's living in smaller quarters than me?

968
00:50:04,719 --> 00:50:11,520
Speaker 2: You I'm a cheers to that. Well, I thought I

969
00:50:11,640 --> 00:50:12,840
Speaker 2: was the brokest.

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00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:18,480
Speaker 1: One and down and yeah, tell you well, I'm moving up.

971
00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:20,440
Speaker 2: I was thinking about that, and you know you live

972
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:27,439
Speaker 2: in a smaller place you live in Oh my god,

973
00:50:27,560 --> 00:50:28,160
Speaker 2: who am I?

974
00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:30,759
Speaker 1: I don't even have Tom's left over furniture? What the no?

975
00:50:30,920 --> 00:50:34,399
Speaker 2: You don't even have toms left over furniture. It's back

976
00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:39,840
Speaker 2: at the nest. Too bad O. Ca'sh the furniture I

977
00:50:39,880 --> 00:50:42,440
Speaker 2: never sat on in fifteen years. I decided that was

978
00:50:42,480 --> 00:50:45,120
Speaker 2: what I needed to take. Don't take the other stuff,

979
00:50:45,400 --> 00:50:48,560
Speaker 2: leave it for the nice people. I'm dead.

980
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:51,280
Speaker 1: Well, anyways, can I sleep over tonight?

981
00:50:52,760 --> 00:50:53,120
Speaker 2: Yeah?

982
00:50:53,160 --> 00:50:55,920
Speaker 1: You can't? You you have a guest room for me?

983
00:50:55,960 --> 00:50:56,600
Speaker 1: On certainty?

984
00:50:57,560 --> 00:50:57,799
Speaker 3: Great?

985
00:50:57,800 --> 00:50:58,399
Speaker 2: I do well.

986
00:50:58,480 --> 00:51:04,480
Speaker 1: I feel like we've covered a lot of our roughness.

987
00:51:04,840 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're rough around the edges. Is there anything that

988
00:51:07,600 --> 00:51:10,520
Speaker 2: you want to say or that you need to get

989
00:51:10,560 --> 00:51:13,600
Speaker 2: off of your chest in our first episode? And I'll

990
00:51:13,600 --> 00:51:15,319
Speaker 2: tell you why. While we're going to come back to

991
00:51:15,360 --> 00:51:17,040
Speaker 2: your story. I want you to have fun when you're

992
00:51:17,080 --> 00:51:17,319
Speaker 2: with me.

993
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:19,799
Speaker 1: The only thing that I'm going to say closing out

994
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:23,040
Speaker 1: is that I'm just excited that we can sit here

995
00:51:23,080 --> 00:51:25,719
Speaker 1: and we can talk about anything and we've got to

996
00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:25,920
Speaker 1: make it.

997
00:51:26,640 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 2: Thank you and thanks. I'm happy that we get to

998
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:30,800
Speaker 2: do this together.

999
00:51:31,160 --> 00:51:33,120
Speaker 1: Hopefully next time we get to do it together in

1000
00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:38,840
Speaker 1: a less hot room and write metopol I'm I probably

1001
00:51:38,840 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 1: have butt sweat at this point.

1002
00:51:41,160 --> 00:51:42,840
Speaker 2: Do you use it? Loomy?

1003
00:51:43,920 --> 00:51:44,800
Speaker 1: What's Loomy?

1004
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:47,000
Speaker 2: It's the all body deodorant.

1005
00:51:47,600 --> 00:51:50,040
Speaker 1: No, oh god, now I hate myself.

1006
00:51:50,040 --> 00:51:53,879
Speaker 2: Loomy she is was created by a woman gynecologist, and

1007
00:51:53,960 --> 00:51:57,000
Speaker 2: I'm going to give you some Loomy, give us some product.

1008
00:51:57,239 --> 00:52:00,880
Speaker 1: Anyways, Loomy. Now I feel like I have issues.

1009
00:52:01,280 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 2: You don't have issues. You're fine, all right.

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00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:06,120
Speaker 1: Thanks guys for tuning in. We'll be back next week

1011
00:52:06,160 --> 00:52:12,120
Speaker 1: to talk about Kyle's attic, Flowers and.

1012
00:52:12,200 --> 00:52:15,600
Speaker 2: The Attic written by Teddy Mellencamp.

1013
00:52:15,640 --> 00:52:18,120
Speaker 1: And Erica's glamorom that's not actually.

1014
00:52:17,880 --> 00:52:24,239
Speaker 2: Her glamor Stop telling on me. God damn, I'm always

1015
00:52:24,239 --> 00:52:27,920
Speaker 2: seriously guys, thanks for tuning in, and I'm glad that

1016
00:52:27,920 --> 00:52:28,560
Speaker 2: we can do this