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Speaker 1: On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world.
Speaker 1: Thanks to each and every one of you who come
Speaker 1: back every week to listen, learn, and grow. Now, considering
Speaker 1: this is our last episode of twenty twenty three, I
Speaker 1: can't believe I'm saying that it's incredible how fast this
Speaker 1: year is gone. I am wishing and hoping that you
Speaker 1: have had a fulfilled and phenomenal year, and despite the
Speaker 1: challenges in setbacks, that you've been able to navigate and
Speaker 1: find your way through that change. At the same time,
Speaker 1: I'm sitting here recording this wanting to share with you
Speaker 1: just how grateful I am that you have allowed me
Speaker 1: to join you on walks, that you've allowed me to
Speaker 1: join you while you cook, that you've allowed me to
Speaker 1: join you in the gym. I love seeing your stories,
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Speaker 1: the world to me. You did that, share that news,
Speaker 1: and thank you so much for believing and on purpose,
Speaker 1: for believing in me, trusting me. And I promise to
Speaker 1: continue you, to try and serve you to the best
Speaker 1: of my ability. And I'm so excited for twenty twenty four.
Speaker 1: The growth this year has been phenomenal and it's all
Speaker 1: thanks to you. Now, I want to share with you
Speaker 1: the key lessons that I'm taking with me into twenty
Speaker 1: twenty four. Often at this time of year, I'll say, well,
Speaker 1: here are my big lessons of twenty twenty three. This
Speaker 1: is what I learned. And I did an episode like
Speaker 1: that on my birthday on the sixth of September. But
Speaker 1: today I wanted to approach it differently. I wanted to
Speaker 1: share with you lessons that I'm taking with me, that
Speaker 1: i'm taking forward that I believe are going to help
Speaker 1: me in the future. Really, that's the point of a lesson,
Speaker 1: right the point of a lesson is in I learned
Speaker 1: that great, Thank you so much. Now let's learn a
Speaker 1: new lesson. The point of a lesson is, now that
Speaker 1: I've learned it, I'm actually going to put it into practice.
Speaker 1: I'm actually going to utilize it in the following year.
Speaker 1: So I want to dive straight in and this thing
Speaker 1: I think is going to resonate with a lot of you.
Speaker 1: And it's why it's my big lesson that I want
Speaker 1: to take into the new year. It's this idea of
Speaker 1: let me ask you a question. How many of you
Speaker 1: stress about your health or being healthy. How many of
Speaker 1: you stress about meditation. How many of you stress about
Speaker 1: making sure you don't miss a day in your journal.
Speaker 1: How many of you stress to make sure that you
Speaker 1: read your affirmations out in the morning. How many of
Speaker 1: you stress that you're not getting to the gym enough
Speaker 1: or yoga enough, or whatever else it may be. How
Speaker 1: many of you stress about well being. What I've realized
Speaker 1: is that in this world of wanting to be better,
Speaker 1: do better, grow more, learn more, which by the way,
Speaker 1: is beautiful, it's a great way to live. I found
Speaker 1: that often in that journey, we start experiencing more stress,
Speaker 1: we start putting ourselves under greater pressure and stress, and
Speaker 1: we have to really understand stress as a spectrum. This
Speaker 1: is something that I'm taking into twenty twenty four. It's huge.
Speaker 1: I want you to write it down right now, take
Speaker 1: a screenshot. I want you to explain this to a friend.
Speaker 1: So I was learning about this idea of how it
Speaker 1: can be helpful to look at stress as a scale,
Speaker 1: as a spectrum, rather than I am stressed or I'm
Speaker 1: not stressed. Really, there's actually a scale. At one end
Speaker 1: there's you stress spelt eu s t r ss U stress,
Speaker 1: and at the other end there's distress. Now, let me
Speaker 1: explain these and define these for you. When you look
Speaker 1: at the word you stress, what it means is a
Speaker 1: positive form of stress having a beneficial effect on health, motivation, performance,
Speaker 1: and emotional wellbeing. Right during positive stress, you stress, such
Speaker 1: as working hard at work for a promotion or feeling
Speaker 1: like you've got the reward of a vacation, feel good
Speaker 1: chemicals called endorphins are released. Now, I don't think we
Speaker 1: talk about this a lot. What we talk about is
Speaker 1: at the other end of the spectrum, which is distress,
Speaker 1: and the definition of distress or the meaning of distress
Speaker 1: is great pain, anxiety or sorrow, acute physical or mental suffering, affliction, trouble,
Speaker 1: et cetera, et cetera. Right now, I think what we're
Speaker 1: used to experiencing and what we're used to referencing when
Speaker 1: we talk about stress is this idea of distress. So
Speaker 1: you stress helps you break through from your comfort zone,
Speaker 1: It helps you take on new challenges, it helps you
Speaker 1: find motivation, whereas distress is the stress that makes you
Speaker 1: feel overwhelmed. It's what affects your mood. It's that negative
Speaker 1: type of stress that affects your sleep. It's almost like
Speaker 1: when you're stressing about sleeping well, or you're stressing about
Speaker 1: the fact that you're stressed when you're not sleeping well,
Speaker 1: and that perpetuates itself. So I want to look at
Speaker 1: stress as a spectrum, and the lesson I'm taking through
Speaker 1: is I need to make sure which level of stress
Speaker 1: I'm putting myself under. This is about the stress you control,
Speaker 1: the stress you allow yourself to experience. Are you putting
Speaker 1: you stress onto yourself or are you putting yourself in
Speaker 1: positions of distress? Are you putting stress on yourself to
Speaker 1: feel better? To encourage yourself to motivate yourself to move
Speaker 1: yourself forward, or are you putting stress on yourself, being
Speaker 1: critical of yourself, saying you're not getting enough done, You're
Speaker 1: too far behind, right, you haven't done enough this year.
Speaker 1: It's really really interesting to me because research suggests that
Speaker 1: chronic stress contributes to high blood pressure, promotes the formation
Speaker 1: of artery clogging deposits, and causes brain changes that may
Speaker 1: contribute to anxiety, depression, and addiction. And more. Preliminary resets
Speaker 1: suggests that chronic stress may also contribute to obesity, both
Speaker 1: through direct mechanisms causing people to eat more or indirectly
Speaker 1: decreasing sleep and exercise. Now, I know you're listening to
Speaker 1: me already, going Jay, this is stressing me out. How
Speaker 1: many of you are listening right now? And the reason
Speaker 1: I exposed you to that definition is because we're used
Speaker 1: to hearing something like that and putting ourselves under distress.
Speaker 1: So we hear that and our response is, oh crap,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm not sleeping enough, I'm not exercising enough,
Speaker 1: I'm not not not right. Whereas you, stress is actually saying, well,
Speaker 1: when I work out, when I push myself to work out,
Speaker 1: I actually feel better afterwards. You know what, when I
Speaker 1: actually sleep earlier, I know that I'll be happier tomorrow.
Speaker 1: Your allowing yourself to recognize that success follows your stress, right,
Speaker 1: You have an understanding that when I do something that stressful,
Speaker 1: it leads to me being successful. And when I say successful,
Speaker 1: I don't mean materially or financially. I'm talking about the
Speaker 1: fact that you see an intrinsic reward in why you
Speaker 1: sleep early, in why you exercise. So it's now not
Speaker 1: when I don't sleep early enough, I don't work out enough,
Speaker 1: I don't eat healthy enough. It's actually saying well, when
Speaker 1: I eat healthy, I feel better, my gut feels better,
Speaker 1: my digestion's better, I feel more energized. I really want
Speaker 1: you to take this deeply on board, because I think
Speaker 1: so many of us are living in spaces of distress
Speaker 1: and not recognizing just how tiresome it can be to
Speaker 1: keep stressing yourself out. We keep letting stress get the
Speaker 1: better of us, or stress gets the best of us
Speaker 1: because we put ourselves under this stress. And I've realized,
Speaker 1: whether it's my work goals, my financial goals, my spiritual goals,
Speaker 1: my emotional goals, I have recognized that putting myself under
Speaker 1: distress only makes me less productive, less effective, and less impactful.
Speaker 1: How many times this year be honest with me? How
Speaker 1: many times this year did you put yourself under too
Speaker 1: much stress? Raise your hands, not your heads? How many
Speaker 1: times this year, be honest with me? Did you not
Speaker 1: allow yourself the benefit of the doubt? How many times
Speaker 1: did you not cut yourself some slack? How many times
Speaker 1: did you make yourself feel worse? What I've found is
Speaker 1: that guilt blocks growth. Guilt does not lead to growth.
Speaker 1: Guilt blocks growth. You may have that instant response if
Speaker 1: I want to be better, Notice how that's a positive
Speaker 1: statement versus I'm not good enough. Notice how you're saying
Speaker 1: the same thing, but you're not right. Look at that scent.
Speaker 1: I want to be better. I am going to be
Speaker 1: better versus I'm not good enough. How do you think
Speaker 1: your mind and your body react to those statements? When
Speaker 1: you look at the common internal causes of stress, there's
Speaker 1: a natural pessimism and negative outlook on life. Hence the
Speaker 1: statement I'm not good enough. What you'll realize is that
Speaker 1: we're all living in one of these two modalities. We're
Speaker 1: either living in new stress or distress. Right, So, if
Speaker 1: you're in distress, you're saying, I'm not good enough. I'm
Speaker 1: going to be negative about stuff. If you're living in
Speaker 1: new stress, you're saying, you know what, I'm going to
Speaker 1: use stress to motivate me. I recognize the value of it.
Speaker 1: Another common internal cause of stress is the inability to
Speaker 1: accept uncertainty. Now here's what we do when we put
Speaker 1: ourselves in distress. We're basically saying, there should have been
Speaker 1: a certain result, there should have been a defined, conclusive result.
Speaker 1: And without a defined conclusive result, we're like, well, we
Speaker 1: must be failures, we must be wrong. Another common internal
Speaker 1: cause is rigid thinking a lack of flexibility. This one's
Speaker 1: really really interesting to me because often we think that
Speaker 1: rigid routines and patterns are good for us. And, by
Speaker 1: the way, they are good for us. Having a morning
Speaker 1: routine is fantastic. But if you stress that you missed
Speaker 1: a day of your morning routine, or maybe you stress
Speaker 1: because you missed a aspect of your morning routine. Right,
Speaker 1: you're doing the whole thing. You're meditating, you're working out,
Speaker 1: you're journaling, and then one day you missed journaling. All
Speaker 1: of a sudden, you're throwing it all out. You're saying,
Speaker 1: oh gosh, like just messed up one day, you got
Speaker 1: called into work early one day, you had to stay
Speaker 1: up late for work one day, and all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: you're going, God, I just wanted to be able to
Speaker 1: stick to my program. I don't have any flexibility, right.
Speaker 1: That actually causes more stresses us having this belief that
Speaker 1: I have to do the same exact thing every day, which,
Speaker 1: by the way, isn't realistic. I want to ask you,
Speaker 1: what activity could you say you have done every day
Speaker 1: of your life forever without fail. It's probably breathing, brushing
Speaker 1: your teeth, and showering, And even that third one for
Speaker 1: some of you may be questionable, right, but hopefully we
Speaker 1: brush our teeth every day, we breathe of course every day,
Speaker 1: and we shower every day. Those are three things that
Speaker 1: you can say, yes, I've done those three things pretty
Speaker 1: much every day of my life. Beyond that, what else? Eating?
Speaker 1: Of course, drinking water, of course, the obvious things. But
Speaker 1: beyond that, if you took away the basic necessities sleeping,
Speaker 1: if you took away the basic necessities, what could you
Speaker 1: say you've done every single day of your life? It's
Speaker 1: very hard. And so when we get into these rigid
Speaker 1: routines and patterns and we say to ourselves, for the
Speaker 1: rest of my life, I'm going to do this every day,
Speaker 1: every single day. I have to do this because if
Speaker 1: I don't do this, I'm not going to feel good.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna feel at my best if I don't
Speaker 1: do this. Notice how different that is to a mindset
Speaker 1: of saying I feel better when I do this, versus
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna feel at my best if I don't
Speaker 1: do this. That's distress you stress is I always feel
Speaker 1: better when I do this. I'm happy when I do this.
Speaker 1: I get to do this. Notice how rigid thinking actually
Speaker 1: just compounds stress. So I'm not saying don't have rigid patterns.
Speaker 1: I'm saying, have a different relationship with your rigid patterns.
Speaker 1: Have a different relationship with your morning routine. It's not
Speaker 1: a must. It's not a I have to. It's not
Speaker 1: a if I don't. It's a I get to. It's
Speaker 1: a this makes me better, it's a imagine what's possible. Right.
Speaker 1: As soon as you see that rigid thinking and lack
Speaker 1: of flexibility leading to negative self talk, start to become
Speaker 1: really mindful Another common internal cause of stress is unrealistic
Speaker 1: expectations or perfor fectionism. Now people often look at perfectionism
Speaker 1: as something to strifle. It almost makes you feel like
Speaker 1: you care more. Right. I've often had people say to me, well, Jay,
Speaker 1: if you don't believe in perfectionism, does that mean you
Speaker 1: don't care? And what I've realized is actually, caring too
Speaker 1: much can make what I'm creating worse. It can actually
Speaker 1: make me more anxious. It can actually make me less
Speaker 1: able to do the thing. I'll give an example even
Speaker 1: with on purpose, if I'm extra stressed about a guest
Speaker 1: I'm about to have on I actually believe I have
Speaker 1: a worse conversation. I feel that I have better conversations
Speaker 1: when I've prepared enough but not over prepared. And that's
Speaker 1: the word I want to share with you. I want
Speaker 1: you to look at your life as how can you
Speaker 1: prepare but not over prepare? How can you create but
Speaker 1: not overcreate? How can you think but not overthink? Notice
Speaker 1: how it's when we add the word over overthink, overcompensate, right,
Speaker 1: over prepare, That's when we're like, well that's a bit
Speaker 1: over at the top, Right, that's the feeling. So when
Speaker 1: it comes to deepening developing a healthier relationship with our
Speaker 1: perfectionist mindset. I'm not saying, see, this is what we
Speaker 1: do as humans. We oscillate between two extremes. We go, oh, well,
Speaker 1: I was a perfectionist. Now I'm just gonna do whatever
Speaker 1: comes out. I'm just gonna be quick. And by the way,
Speaker 1: that is the process to get back to the middle.
Speaker 1: So if you meet a friend or if you find
Speaker 1: yourself oscillating between two different extremes, chances are you're actually
Speaker 1: trying to find your middle. You're actually trying to find
Speaker 1: your center. And finding your center is a beautiful thing.
Speaker 1: So I'll give an example. If you're someone who was
Speaker 1: a people pleaser, and now you're saying, really eye boundaries.
Speaker 1: And often when we see our friends do this, we go,
Speaker 1: oh god, they're like overcompensating. But no, we almost have
Speaker 1: to do that in the beginning. If you as someone
Speaker 1: who's a perfectionist, you might just need to fail every day, right,
Speaker 1: You might just need to fail every day. You might
Speaker 1: need to take on a minithing every day that allows
Speaker 1: you to break through that desire to be perfect and
Speaker 1: make everything add up and make everything stack up. Notice
Speaker 1: how we have to almost move from one extreme to
Speaker 1: the other to find ourselves in the middle. In order
Speaker 1: to develop a healthy relationship with anything in the world,
Speaker 1: we have to find our center. We have to find
Speaker 1: the middle. But in order to find the middle, we
Speaker 1: often have to swing from left to right a few times.
Speaker 1: And as we swing more and more, we start to
Speaker 1: settle in the middle. I want you to ask yourself
Speaker 1: with stress, how many of you go through this with
Speaker 1: stress where you stress yourself out and then you take
Speaker 1: it really easy. And then when you take it really easy,
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, no, I'm taking it too easy on
Speaker 1: myself far I need to stress myself out again. That's
Speaker 1: where we're living our unhealthy relationship with anything in the world,
Speaker 1: even with our partners. It's like I see my partner
Speaker 1: every day. I don't need to see my partner all year, right,
Speaker 1: It's that middle path, It's that middle ground. The Buddhy
Speaker 1: used to talk about finding your center. This has been
Speaker 1: a big, big lesson. I'm taking into next year finding
Speaker 1: my center with everything I do, trying not to be
Speaker 1: an extremist, but trying to find my center. But actually
Speaker 1: I take that back, using being an extremist to find
Speaker 1: my center, not avoiding being an extremist. And by the way,
Speaker 1: when I say extremists, I mean the idea of I'm
Speaker 1: being really healthy, I'm being really unhealthy. I may have
Speaker 1: to use that in order to find the middle. And
Speaker 1: by the way, if I judge myself for saying, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, I've been too stressed out recently, or I'm
Speaker 1: not pushing myself enough recently, that is that process of
Speaker 1: finding your center. Find your center now. I wanted to
Speaker 1: raise this because I think a lot of us don't
Speaker 1: recognize something about how all of us are experiencing lots
Speaker 1: of different stress. And I wanted to raise this because
Speaker 1: there are ten stressful life events. According to a study,
Speaker 1: they found that these are the top stressful life events
Speaker 1: for adults. Number one death of a spouse. Naturally, going
Speaker 1: through the death of a spouse can be one of
Speaker 1: the most stressful events of your life. It affects children
Speaker 1: if you have them. It affects a relationship you've developed,
Speaker 1: It reflects a sense of identity, It impacts your ability
Speaker 1: to think about your future. There's so much that is
Speaker 1: affected by that. If you've been through that this year.
Speaker 1: I want to send my prayers in love to you,
Speaker 1: but I please, please, please, I want you to give
Speaker 1: yourself some grace. Number two on the list is divorce.
Speaker 1: I feel like divorces become so common these days that
Speaker 1: we've become somewhat desensitized to it. We just assume that
Speaker 1: if someone's divorced, it's like, yeah, you know I people
Speaker 1: get divorced, get on with it. And it's like, I've
Speaker 1: interviewed people on the podcast this year about going through
Speaker 1: divorces and how difficult and challenging it is. Right, it's
Speaker 1: so challenging emotionally, mentally, spiritually from a family point of view.
Speaker 1: Another one that's on this list is death of a
Speaker 1: close family member. Of course, so many people went through
Speaker 1: this during COVID, and of course this is a regular
Speaker 1: occurrence for so many of us around the world. And
Speaker 1: what I find is that we have this get up
Speaker 1: and go attitude where we almost want to walk it off,
Speaker 1: shake it off, right, so I get up the next
Speaker 1: day and move on. And often we even put on
Speaker 1: a brave face. We have to put on a brave
Speaker 1: face for family members, for children, for friends, whatever it
Speaker 1: may be. And it's not that easy. Next on the
Speaker 1: list is injury or illness natural for that to be there.
Speaker 1: Next is job sorry, Next is marriage. Marriage is one
Speaker 1: of the most stressful life events. Moving in with someone,
Speaker 1: it's one of the most stressful life events. But we
Speaker 1: underplay these things and we say, what's wrong with me?
Speaker 1: What am I doing wrong? Why is everyone else getting
Speaker 1: it right? I'm sharing all of these with you to
Speaker 1: help you realize that if you've been going through stress
Speaker 1: this year, it's natural, it's normal, and I don't want
Speaker 1: you to look at it as a weakness. I don't
Speaker 1: want you to think of it as I'm so weak,
Speaker 1: I'm so lost. Right. The next one is job loss,
Speaker 1: of course makes sense. And then retirement as well. Maybe
Speaker 1: you have a family member or a parent going through
Speaker 1: retirement and maybe they've been acting a bit different. I'm
Speaker 1: also sharing these because I want you to be more
Speaker 1: compassionate to other people. This is a big lesson I'm
Speaker 1: always taking into twenty twenty four is this idea of
Speaker 1: recognizing how different people deal with stress, noticing how unique
Speaker 1: and personal your relationship with stress is and how unique
Speaker 1: everyone else's relationship with stresses. I was talking to someone
Speaker 1: else the other day and they were talking to me
Speaker 1: about how one of their family members is struggling with
Speaker 1: their health and the other family member is in denial.
Speaker 1: And I was saying that, well, sense of denial is
Speaker 1: coming from a sense of fear and care. It's not
Speaker 1: coming from a place of hatred or disregard or being negligent.
Speaker 1: It's actually coming from a place so they're so worried
Speaker 1: or scared to accept the truth. We don't often think
Speaker 1: about it like that, right, this idea of we're so
Speaker 1: scared of people the way they deal with stress. So
Speaker 1: let's move towards you stress. Now, A couple of things
Speaker 1: that have really helped me in my journey with stress is,
Speaker 1: first of all, making a list of all the core
Speaker 1: triggers that I regularly experience of stress. A lot of
Speaker 1: people think that avoiding stress or not thinking about it
Speaker 1: makes it better, but actually exploring it and getting to
Speaker 1: know it better is actually what makes all the difference.
Speaker 1: So when I'm not feeling stressed, I'll make a list
Speaker 1: of what are the things that regularly stress me out.
Speaker 1: It could be a person, it could be a place,
Speaker 1: it could be a project. Now I'll create a response
Speaker 1: that's going to help me deal with that. Right, I'm
Speaker 1: going to create a plan to help me deal with that.
Speaker 1: So let's say I get stressed when I'm invited to
Speaker 1: a social event. Okay, great? What am I going to
Speaker 1: do in order to make that social event more meaningful,
Speaker 1: more purposeful, more thoughtful, more valuable. Am I going to
Speaker 1: seek one person in the networking space to make sure
Speaker 1: I connect deeply? Am I going to practice breath work
Speaker 1: before I leave? Am I going to make sure that
Speaker 1: I've thought about my outfit two weeks in advance, not
Speaker 1: two hours in advance? Right? What can I do to
Speaker 1: support myself in the common occurrences of that situation? I
Speaker 1: find preparing for stress when you're not stressed is much
Speaker 1: better than trying to solve stress when you are stressed.
Speaker 1: A lot of us wait to were stressed to have
Speaker 1: to solve it. The second thing that's made a huge
Speaker 1: difference in my life, a big, big, big difference is
Speaker 1: not sleeping with my phone near my bed. This has
Speaker 1: been a game change. I know I've said it before,
Speaker 1: but I'm saying it again. Stop sleeping with your phone
Speaker 1: near your bed. In twenty twenty four, leave that phone
Speaker 1: in another room, get a real alarm clock, allow yourself
Speaker 1: to wake up without your phone. And sleep without your
Speaker 1: phone because guess what, we're also scrolling just before we
Speaker 1: go to bed. So not only do we get to
Speaker 1: bed thirty minutes later, we're also going to bed with
Speaker 1: all of those ideas, and then in the morning we
Speaker 1: do the same thing. Your brain has no ramp up period.
Speaker 1: Your brain basically has no startup mode. It has to
Speaker 1: go from zero to sixty miles per hour in three seconds,
Speaker 1: like a sports car, a supercar, and it's not trained
Speaker 1: to do that. We are pressurizing our minds today to
Speaker 1: process as much as seventy four gigabytes a day. And ultimately,
Speaker 1: what I'm really sharing here is this idea of knowing
Speaker 1: when to be harder on yourself and when to let go.
Speaker 1: This is wisdom, knowing when to push yourself and when
Speaker 1: to hold back. And here's what I'll say to you.
Speaker 1: If you can push yourself positively towards a goal you
Speaker 1: love with motivation, that's brilliant. If you're starting to push
Speaker 1: yourself out of negativity, condescending language, negative self talk, that's
Speaker 1: when you need to hold back. I want to thank
Speaker 1: you so much for listening to today's episode. I hope
Speaker 1: that stress and your relationship with stress is deeply improved
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four. Everything we share here is to
Speaker 1: help you positively work on yourself, not negatively hold yourself back.
Speaker 1: I promise you that twenty twenty four are on Purpose
Speaker 1: is going to be an even more phenomenal year. I
Speaker 1: want to thank you for following, for subscribing, for leaving
Speaker 1: a review. I promise you there are so many exciting guests,
Speaker 1: so many more solos. Thank you for trusting me. I
Speaker 1: am wishing you an amazing end to twenty twenty three,
Speaker 1: and I'm praying, meditating, and wishing for you to have
Speaker 1: an abundant, joyful, and phenomenal twenty twenty four. Challenges will come,
Speaker 1: but we'll navigate those together. Stresses will come, but we'll
Speaker 1: navigate those together. Know that I'm here to help you
Speaker 1: be directed, guided, and find that inner voice within, and
Speaker 1: I'll always be here on Purpose every Monday and Friday.
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful to those of you who listen to
Speaker 1: us every day. Appreciate you deeply. Sending you so much
Speaker 1: love to you and your family and your loved ones
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