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Speaker 2: My sister confessed her feelings to my husband on her

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Speaker 2: wedding day.

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Speaker 1: I want to tell her fiance before it's too late.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, Oh what else spicy day to do it?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: A perfect timing, right really. Sorry for the confusing title.

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Speaker 2: I didn't know how to word it any other way.

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Speaker 2: I twenty four female, have been married to my husband,

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Speaker 2: twenty seven male, for about two years. My sister, twenty

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Speaker 2: six female, and her husband, twenty six male, are high

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Speaker 2: school sweethearts.

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Speaker 3: Ugh h, so this has been going on.

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Speaker 1: By the way.

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Speaker 2: This comes from user throwaway your gentelp one on the

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Speaker 2: r slash Okay story time Stubreddit. My sister and I

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Speaker 2: have always been close despite the small age gap. She

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Speaker 2: acted like my second mother, so I never doubted her

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Speaker 2: in anything. Let's call her Jane. My husband, let's call

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Speaker 2: him Bob, and I met at uni. I was twenty

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Speaker 2: and he was twenty three. He excelled in both academics,

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Speaker 2: sports and looks, and was well known around campus because

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Speaker 2: of that, so obviously I had a crush on him.

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Speaker 2: Obviously obviously hats he was the hot commodities stretting around campus.

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Speaker 2: Jane also attended the same UNI. Because I was new,

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Speaker 2: she included me into her big circle of friends, and

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Speaker 2: he was a part of that.

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Speaker 4: Oohoo the werboy wooooooooo.

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Speaker 2: I never made a move because I respected Jane and

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Speaker 2: her friends. I didn't want to cause any trouble or

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Speaker 2: make things awkward. She meant the world to me. Eventually, though,

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Speaker 2: Bob and I became close friends. I grew to like

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Speaker 2: him more and also noticed that Jane rarely interacted with him,

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Speaker 2: which was odd considering that she was close to almost

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Speaker 2: everyone in her circle. But I never said anything. I

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Speaker 2: did end up telling her I liked him, though she

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Speaker 2: told me not to get my hopes up because he

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Speaker 2: wasn't interested in any relationship. I was crushed, but I

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Speaker 2: tried to see him as a friend. He ended up

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Speaker 2: confessing to me on my twenty first birthday and we

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Speaker 2: began dating sash it's a lover of that wah.

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Speaker 1: Which obviously resulted in marriage and here we are now.

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Speaker 1: During the entire time we were dating, Jane started to

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Speaker 1: distance herself from me.

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Speaker 5: Oh, she's got a little crush.

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Speaker 1: She's like, you took the hot smart abby for me.

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Speaker 5: Oh no, it was supposed to be mine. Even though

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Speaker 5: we rejected.

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Speaker 1: Me couldn't get over it.

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Speaker 2: We did have a talk about it when Bob and

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Speaker 2: I first started dating, and I told her I'd break

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Speaker 2: up with him if she wasn't comfortable with it, considering

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Speaker 2: he's her friend. But she rejected the idea. She hugged

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Speaker 2: me and said she was happy for me, so I

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Speaker 2: took her words for it. She still distanced herself though

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Speaker 2: her husband boyfriend at the time, who will call Jim.

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Speaker 1: We got Bob and Jim now Bob and Jim. Uh.

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Speaker 2: He did not attend UNI, but his dad has a

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Speaker 1: Jim is a good man. He did everything for Jane.

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Speaker 2: But due to our culture, women can't leave the family

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Speaker 2: house until marriage, so Jane and I still live with

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Speaker 2: our parents. Then, so when Jim had saved up enough

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Speaker 2: money to buy a house, he proposed to Jane and

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Speaker 2: she said, yes, congrats, congratulations, I guess, but we all

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Speaker 2: know where that's going. Oh no, past forwarding year and

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Speaker 2: Bob proposed I said yes. Up until now, all Jane

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Speaker 2: sat my family down and told them the news, she cried.

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Speaker 1: Crying from happiness.

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Speaker 2: No, until my mom told me I should have taken

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Speaker 1: What Jo do you mean she already did.

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Speaker 5: I'm so sorry. I beg your pardon. The Mom's like, oh,

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Speaker 5: you should have taken you like your sister had a

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Speaker 1: Sachlaw not how the world works.

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Speaker 3: No no, no, that is not how the world works.

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Speaker 2: Yeahs uh come on, op.

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Speaker 2: It was odd. It seemed like no one was happy.

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Speaker 2: My mom took Jane to her room, but my dad stayed.

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Speaker 2: the texts. She'd asked if she could meet or call him.

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Speaker 2: She'd also attempt to text him late at night. The

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Speaker 1: He's the prettiest.

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Speaker 2: That is when he decided to tell me about it

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Speaker 2: before anyone says anything. No, Bob did not lead her on.

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Speaker 2: His text were dry and frankly. If I wasn't so

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Speaker 2: He felt uncomfortable, but decided to put up with it

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Speaker 2: had confessed to him years ago, but he had rejected her,

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Speaker 2: so that our story, our theory was correct.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I do think that he should have told ope like

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 1: I think he's talking about like college.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but I still think, like, hey, you know, your

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Speaker 2: Me out, just so you know, like you mean, like

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Speaker 2: even if she had asked him out before they got together,

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Speaker 2: because I think that's what he's talking about.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I'm yes, I think that's so he like she

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Speaker 2: With him and he rejected her, and that's why she

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Speaker 2: told ope, like he doesn't want a relationship right now,

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Speaker 5: I don't think it's like a I don't think he's

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Speaker 5: But I think just I think it would have been

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Speaker 1: Going on with Jane she had the heads up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's that's a hard thing to bring up,

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Speaker 1: Way, did you know your sister wanted to date me,

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Speaker 5: It's a weird thing to bring out, but probably would

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just just giving them the heads up. It felt

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Speaker 2: I was so hurt by her. I immediately confronted her

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Speaker 2: but she said that I stole him from her.

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Speaker 3: What Wow, he didn't want you.

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Speaker 1: But what's worse is that my mom sided with her.

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Speaker 5: Oh golden She's literally the golden child. Golden child, said, yeah,

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Speaker 3: Absolutely yep.

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Speaker 2: And Ope goes on to say, I've always had a

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Speaker 2: feeling that she was my mom's favorite, but she was

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Speaker 2: no one sided with me. So I packed my things

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Speaker 5: Right, because oh, he's still living at her parents' house.

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Speaker 2: My dad told me that I shouldn't leave because it's

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Speaker 2: not appropriate for an unmarried girl to leave her parents' house.

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Speaker 2: My mom even called me a or for leaving to

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Speaker 2: took a long time for me to get over what

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Speaker 2: they did. When I think about it, it still stings.

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Speaker 2: Bob and I lived together before marriage. I also cut

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Speaker 2: without inviting anyone from my side besides a few close relatives.

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Speaker 2: It was a lovely wedding, by the way, but a

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Speaker 2: week ago my cousin told me that Jane had her wedding.

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Speaker 2: I guess she went ahead with it. Today, though, Bob

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Speaker 2: showed me a message he got on Instagram from her.

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Speaker 2: He hadn't seen it because it was in the request section,

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Speaker 2: but it dated back to a week ago.

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Speaker 1: She confessed to him again, told him.

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Speaker 2: That she would make him happier than me if he

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Speaker 2: He screenshotted it and blocked her and asked if it

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Speaker 1: Jim, but I said no.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why Jim deserves better, but I just

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Speaker 1: I can't take it. Please tell me what to do.

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Speaker 2: What advice would you give? I want to move on,

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Speaker 2: but I also feel so guilty for keeping this away

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Speaker 2: in my face, especially when Bob and I have been

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Speaker 2: living so peacefully now.

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Speaker 1: Edit.

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Speaker 2: Thank you all for this solid advice, both on this

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Speaker 2: post and my other post. I think, deep down I

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Speaker 2: was still attached to the family who raised me, especially

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Speaker 2: my sister. Your comments have given me a reality check.

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Speaker 2: For those asking what I meant by this blowing up

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Speaker 2: come to my house with my mom and escalate things

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Speaker 2: to the point a police is needed. But I also

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Speaker 2: understand that she'll keep harassing my husband and ruinings Jim's

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Speaker 2: and told Bob that he could contact Jim if you wanted,

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Speaker 2: which I think I should have stopped here and had

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Speaker 2: a conversation, but that is exactly what I was gonna say.

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Speaker 1: You absolutely needed to tell Jim.

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Speaker 5: It's totally not fair for Jim to get to this

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Speaker 5: marriage without knowing any of this the stuff is going on.

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Speaker 2: He fully deserves to know that he is getting married

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Speaker 2: to a skunk. He doesn't want him stick he wants

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Speaker 2: is actively trying to find get with another man and not.

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Speaker 5: Telling him, not stopping the marriage. Like, come on, if

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Speaker 5: you don't love Jim, you don't have to marry him.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Jim deserves his Pam. All right, You are not

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Speaker 1: his pan. You are just a skunk.

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Speaker 3: You're sunk in the office. Skunks stinking, and.

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Speaker 2: Your stink sacks are stinking up the whole area that

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Speaker 2: you're in wherever it may.

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Speaker 4: Be, thinking all up in a just a see you stinker.

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Speaker 2: So he said he would think about it, So I'm

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Speaker 2: leaving it at that for now, personally knowing his personality,

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Speaker 2: he probably already sent it to Jim even after I

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Speaker 2: said not to. But I'll wait to see what happens.

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Speaker 2: Thanks again. If anything happens, I'll update.

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Speaker 5: There's like so many green lights. I can't miss it.

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Speaker 5: I ended up taking her home. They live on base housing,

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 3: And that's how you freaking do it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what you. You hit her with the stiff

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Speaker 5: Yeah Heisman, don't even look at me. I have a wife.

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Speaker 3: I don't trust her anymore. She's gonna pull a move

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Speaker 2: I mean, like a lot of times people get that drunk.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that's and that's the problem when people

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Speaker 1: Yes, I shun you. Hollo.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's gotten from me.

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Speaker 1: He'd gotten from my sight.

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Speaker 5: Mary said it wasn't exactly cheating, but I shut the

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Speaker 5: She has unofficially reprimanded one of her officers for engaging

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Speaker 5: no foul. She went on to say, if she were Tom,

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Speaker 5: I don't know if this was her giving me permission

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Speaker 5: That we can't talk in person for another eight weeks

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Speaker 5: that really that does feel like the wife is just saying, oh,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's good sign incredibly disturbing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like, oh wait, wait, you did you just

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Speaker 2: say like, as long as I never knew you cheated

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Speaker 5: Well, like I kind of understand what she was originally

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Speaker 2: There's a lot of weird bureaucratic structure to like the military,

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Speaker 1: But it's just the.

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Speaker 2: Little cherry on top afterwards and being like Also I

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Speaker 5: Very suspicious, no harm, no foul.

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Speaker 3: I don't trust her.

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Speaker 1: You've done harm, the only harm and foul.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're you're you're you're only not getting a foul

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Speaker 5: Life, like exactly like when it is she I think

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Speaker 5: I think you need staff a conversation with her and

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Speaker 1: Deserves to know. People deserve the truth, serve the truth.

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Speaker 5: But there is an update. I woke up this morning

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Speaker 5: And I should continue to be cordial with Mary. Also

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Speaker 5: better if I avoided times when we were both alone together.

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Speaker 2: Does it say fubar that means effed up beyond all

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Speaker 5: The video was twenty minutes long, with at least two

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Speaker 5: Oh, I feel like I didn't answer that you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm a little confused. I'll come out and say it.

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Speaker 5: I'm a little I tell you guys, for real, I'm

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And that's just what happens when you're in a bureaucracy.

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Speaker 4: Things get really confusing. Lets get on stuff unclear. But

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Speaker 4: Happy part of this update, my wife's group is getting

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Speaker 5: Again, my new dilemma is that the officer's wife, Mary,

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Speaker 5: are you disappointed he's loyal to his wife.

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Speaker 2: I'm so disappointed in you chectively morally correct things.

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Speaker 5: Like why didn't you just cheat on me? Do I

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Speaker 5: Then she proceeded to explain she wasn't cheating on her

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Speaker 5: But I know you guys are I was just enjoining

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Speaker 5: trying to like convince him to cheat on his wife. Yes,

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Speaker 5: like still messed up regardless of your relationship.

443
00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:36,080
Speaker 2: That's a huge assumption and honestly just sounds like a cover.

444
00:19:36,400 --> 00:19:36,800
Speaker 5: Yeah.

445
00:19:36,880 --> 00:19:39,199
Speaker 1: They'd be like, oh, I just oh, you were just

446
00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:40,560
Speaker 1: so nice with other.

447
00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:42,560
Speaker 3: Why you were in an open relationship?

448
00:19:42,920 --> 00:19:43,600
Speaker 1: Who assumes that?

449
00:19:43,680 --> 00:19:45,359
Speaker 2: It's like, oh, you're so nice, you must be in

450
00:19:45,359 --> 00:19:46,640
Speaker 2: an open relationship with your wife.

451
00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:49,320
Speaker 1: Got to be like come on, what come on?

452
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Speaker 6: Uh?

453
00:19:50,240 --> 00:19:54,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, kind of a just a blatant attempt to cover

454
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Speaker 2: up your own bad behavior.

455
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Speaker 1: Op.

456
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Speaker 2: Kind of like I guess accepted it a little more

457
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Speaker 2: in stride than I I assumed he would.

458
00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:03,080
Speaker 5: Like, well, I think because his wife said like, just

459
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Speaker 5: you know, be nice to marry, and he was like, okay,

460
00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:07,520
Speaker 5: I guess, like I just you.

461
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Speaker 1: Know, said yes, ma'am, that's in order, all right, it's

462
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Speaker 1: order be nice to marry.

463
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Speaker 5: The dilemma is do I pass this information on to

464
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Speaker 5: my wife? On one hand, I know this is information

465
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Speaker 5: she would rather not know, especially while they are deployed,

466
00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:21,760
Speaker 5: but she might need to know if she plans on

467
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Speaker 5: telling him at some point about his wife's indiscretions.

468
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Speaker 3: It could be an.

469
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Speaker 5: Awkward conversation where he either doesn't act surprised or upset

470
00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:31,119
Speaker 5: to one, and where he might come clean about the relationship.

471
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Speaker 5: In almost any case, my wife will be put in

472
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Speaker 5: a situation where she might feel compelled to take actions

473
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Speaker 5: she would rather not take.

474
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Speaker 3: And that is I told my wife to stop raising

475
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Speaker 3: her best friend's child. Now she won't sleep with me.

476
00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:47,040
Speaker 6: Woh, you should give her a kid easy.

477
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Speaker 3: I thirty one male, am married to my wife Amber,

478
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Speaker 3: thirty female. We have a daughter, Emma seven female. The

479
00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:56,720
Speaker 3: problem is my wife's best friend, Jennifer thirty female, has

480
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Speaker 3: a daughter as well, Harper seven female. Harper's dad is

481
00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:04,000
Speaker 3: is a lazy sack of crap and refuses to do

482
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Speaker 3: anything with his daughter. He is the type of guy

483
00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:09,439
Speaker 3: that brags about how he never changed a diaper.

484
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Speaker 1: Good job, by the way.

485
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Speaker 3: This comes from U slash kitchen Earth seven nine five

486
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Speaker 3: four on the r slash okay storytime subreddit. Jennifer and

487
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Speaker 3: Harper are usually at Amber and my house on the

488
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Speaker 3: weekends because Harper's dad is drinking and watching sports all weekend.

489
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Speaker 6: He's busy dude priority.

490
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Speaker 3: On Saturdays, I normally spend all day with my daughter

491
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Speaker 3: because I don't see her as much as I want

492
00:21:32,359 --> 00:21:35,520
Speaker 3: to during the week. However, with Harper being there every Saturday,

493
00:21:35,640 --> 00:21:38,119
Speaker 3: anything I do with Emma I have to do with Harper.

494
00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:41,040
Speaker 3: Take Emma to the zoo, It's Emma, Harper and I

495
00:21:41,080 --> 00:21:43,280
Speaker 3: taught them both how to ride bikes, took the moth

496
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Speaker 3: to dance classes, took the mouth to the kid salon,

497
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Speaker 3: and so on. Mother's Day was the last straw. I

498
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Speaker 3: took them both to dance class Saturday morning. Amber and

499
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Speaker 3: I also pay for both dance classes because deadbeat won't.

500
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Speaker 3: On the way home, Emma asked if we could stop

501
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Speaker 3: to get something for Mom for Mother's Day and I

502
00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:03,359
Speaker 3: said sure, but then it ended up I had to

503
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Speaker 3: buy something for Harper to her mom as well.

504
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Speaker 6: I see a pattern.

505
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Speaker 3: On the way home, I just kept thinking, why am

506
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:12,680
Speaker 3: I buying someone else's wife a Mother's Day gift? That's

507
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Speaker 3: his job.

508
00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:15,640
Speaker 6: Just send the invoice to the dad. Hey, dude, we'll

509
00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:17,560
Speaker 6: do a subscription base. I take care of your kid.

510
00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:19,720
Speaker 6: Just send me like five hundred dollars a month, right,

511
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Speaker 6: and you won't have to be there with her on Saturday.

512
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Speaker 3: A few days later, because I did not want to

513
00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:26,159
Speaker 3: ruin Mother's Day. I told my wife that I am

514
00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:29,439
Speaker 3: tired of raising Harper. Her real father needs to step up.

515
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 3: I'm tired of it taking away time I get to

516
00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:35,280
Speaker 3: spend with Emma. She said that Jennifer is her best

517
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Speaker 3: friend and we need to be there for Harper. So

518
00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:41,000
Speaker 3: now she is not speaking to me and sleeping in

519
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Speaker 3: the guest room. Am I the a hole? That's pretty crazy.

520
00:22:44,359 --> 00:22:48,520
Speaker 6: That's pretty extreme. You have a concern and you were

521
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,439
Speaker 6: speaking to your wife about it. I feel like your

522
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 6: wife overreacted. Well, your wife's not telling you something and

523
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Speaker 6: that's why she had such a hard reaction.

524
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like we're not getting all of the

525
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Speaker 3: details to the story because it sounds pretty right, like

526
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Speaker 3: I feel I would be tired of raising someone else's

527
00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:05,000
Speaker 3: kid too and paying for all that stuff. But then

528
00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:08,199
Speaker 3: it kind of just jumps to the wife sleeping in

529
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Speaker 3: a separate room. Something else is going on. Either the

530
00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:16,960
Speaker 3: wife is overreacting or OP is purposefully leaving out details.

531
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Speaker 6: Oh, unreliable narrator. I think it's possible towards I'm leaving

532
00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:24,320
Speaker 6: an unreliable narrator. That's what I'm thinking.

533
00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:27,240
Speaker 3: Just wanted to add some updates to questions that I see.

534
00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:29,720
Speaker 3: Emma and Harper are best friends. It was my idea

535
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Speaker 3: to spend Saturday with Emma. I work more during the week,

536
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:35,680
Speaker 3: so I wanted to spend Saturday with Emma to give

537
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Speaker 3: my wife a bit of a break. We pay for

538
00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 3: things because jennifer husband thinks it's a waste of money

539
00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:43,760
Speaker 3: to pay for dance classes and Jennifer can't afford to

540
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Speaker 3: pay for herself. Jennifer and Harper do things with Amber

541
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Speaker 3: and Emma one or two times during the weeknights. That

542
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Speaker 3: does provide some good details.

543
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Speaker 1: I like it.

544
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 3: So now we have two updates, all right, update number one.

545
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Speaker 3: Quite a few people have asked for an update on

546
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Speaker 3: the situation. Sorry it's saying so long. It's been a

547
00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:03,560
Speaker 3: hectic a few weeks. As for the updates, Amber and

548
00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 3: I are fine. Her reaction was based on port word

549
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:07,560
Speaker 3: choices by me.

550
00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:08,040
Speaker 1: Aha.

551
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:10,080
Speaker 3: I knew it. He was leaving details out. I knew

552
00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:13,280
Speaker 3: it poor communication by both of us, and some things

553
00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:14,440
Speaker 3: I was unaware of.

554
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 1: At the time.

555
00:24:15,000 --> 00:24:16,920
Speaker 6: Okay, I knew there was like something happening.

556
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Speaker 3: The short version is things at home were much worse

557
00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:22,480
Speaker 3: than I was aware of. For Jennifer and my wife

558
00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:25,080
Speaker 3: had only recently found out about how bad things were.

559
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Speaker 6: Yeah, it seems like he may have like not been

560
00:24:27,800 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 6: the best person.

561
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:31,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, not just a dead bee. Mother's Day was the

562
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:33,680
Speaker 3: straw that broke the camel's back for Jennifer as well.

563
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:37,320
Speaker 3: She was raised in a you must stay together for

564
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Speaker 3: the kid's family. When Harper came to me for a gift,

565
00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:43,359
Speaker 3: she realized that her daughter did not see her donor

566
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Speaker 3: as a father, so it was time to get out. Okay, okay, okay.

567
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Speaker 6: Basically, the father's a donor and he's not a.

568
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Speaker 3: Good like right the dead bee is a donor, and

569
00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:56,000
Speaker 3: so Harper getting her mother's gifts. Yeah, Jennifer came to

570
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Speaker 3: my wife to ask for help leaving because she had

571
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Speaker 3: no family in the area, and Jennifer does not have

572
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Speaker 3: the financial resources to leave on her own. So the

573
00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:06,120
Speaker 3: night my wife was going to ask me if we

574
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,000
Speaker 3: could help her is when I told her I was

575
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:12,720
Speaker 3: tired of raising someone else's kid. That's what caused her reaction.

576
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 3: So it just was like poor timing too. The Saturday

577
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Speaker 3: after our initial argument, Jennifer did not come over and

578
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 3: Emma went to her grandparents. So the wife and I

579
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:24,160
Speaker 3: had a long discussion about what was going on. That's

580
00:25:24,160 --> 00:25:25,800
Speaker 3: when I found out all the stuff that's going on

581
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:28,879
Speaker 3: with Jennifer. The wife and I decided that Jennifer and

582
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Speaker 3: Harper can stay with us for the time being. My

583
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 3: problem was never with those two. It was that I

584
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:36,280
Speaker 3: had to take over for the deadbeat.

585
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Speaker 6: That makes sense. He goodness spent quality time with just

586
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Speaker 6: his daughter.

587
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Speaker 3: When we told Emma about this, she was super happy

588
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:44,239
Speaker 3: her friend was staying with her. All but sweet. We

589
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 3: had a conversation with her that if she wants to

590
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 3: have time with either parent without Harper, just let us know,

591
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:52,480
Speaker 3: and we do not want her to feel left out

592
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 3: of anything that's good. Last weekend, with the help of

593
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:58,640
Speaker 3: a U haul and some friends of mine, we got

594
00:25:58,680 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 3: all of Jennifer's and Harper's stuff and moved it into

595
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:04,080
Speaker 3: our house. The good thing is we have a four

596
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 3: bedroom house, so everyone gets a bedroom. The bad news

597
00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:09,760
Speaker 3: is my wife's office got moved to the basement. Wish

598
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:12,119
Speaker 3: me luck. We shall see how this goes. But we

599
00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:13,600
Speaker 3: do have another update.

600
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Speaker 6: Hey, we have another update because this sounds like a

601
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:16,760
Speaker 6: good note to end on.

602
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:18,560
Speaker 3: I don't want us to get bad again.

603
00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:21,440
Speaker 6: I hope that everything gets better. Yeah, seems like he's

604
00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 6: in a better headspace too.

605
00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:25,159
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm glad that they can get Jennifer out of

606
00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:27,159
Speaker 3: that home. If they're bad enough for her to have

607
00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:30,720
Speaker 3: to leave. That's like her safety is involved, her safety

608
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 3: and Harper's safety too, So I'm really glad that they

609
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 3: could like take her in.

610
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Speaker 6: Yeah, that's awesome. Good job guys.

611
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,480
Speaker 3: Update number two. It's been almost a year since my

612
00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:40,680
Speaker 3: last update. With Mother's Day upon us, I thought I

613
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:43,000
Speaker 3: would post an update and try to answer the questions

614
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:45,560
Speaker 3: I've got. Jen and Harper are still living with us.

615
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 3: As I mentioned before, Jen did not make that much money.

616
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 3: She worked as a fleab bottomist. Flebottomist, it's not a lobottomist,

617
00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 3: a flebottomist, whatever that may be. For our local health network.

618
00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:59,840
Speaker 3: The good news is, with the current nursing shortage, they

619
00:26:59,840 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 3: have a program where they will pay for employees to

620
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 3: go to nursing school. She was able to start that

621
00:27:05,160 --> 00:27:07,399
Speaker 3: in the end of August. The bad news is is

622
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:09,920
Speaker 3: that it's an eighteen month program and they only let

623
00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:12,400
Speaker 3: you work twenty hours a week while you are in

624
00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 3: the program.

625
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Speaker 6: Limited hours.

626
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:18,120
Speaker 3: So the arrangement is that once she graduates she will

627
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:20,879
Speaker 3: move out. Then that should be next May. The divorce

628
00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:23,400
Speaker 3: with the deadbeat is still ongoing. Once he found out

629
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 3: he was going to have to pay child sport, he

630
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:28,720
Speaker 3: tried every dirty, nasty trick he could think of. No

631
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:32,159
Speaker 3: idea when that will be finished. Oh, that's annoying. My

632
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:35,680
Speaker 3: wife is doing good. She's happy. She's helping her best friend.

633
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:38,000
Speaker 3: But five people in a house is a lot more

634
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:41,480
Speaker 3: work than three. Since she works from home, the pre

635
00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 3: and post schoolwork falls on her. Emma and Harper are

636
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 3: still best friends. Shockingly, Harper is doing much better in

637
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:52,080
Speaker 3: the environment than before. They don't do everything together anymore.

638
00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,800
Speaker 3: Harper quit dance class, but she started with soccer. I

639
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:57,560
Speaker 3: think knowing that she will get fatherly attention no matter

640
00:27:57,600 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 3: what she is doing has given her some free them

641
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:04,439
Speaker 3: to pursue other interests. Harper has turned into my lego buddy.

642
00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 3: Oh that's so cute. Emma never had any interest, but

643
00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:11,719
Speaker 3: Harper and I have done some nice sets together. That

644
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:14,680
Speaker 3: is the sweetest thing. Emma and I still have our

645
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:17,119
Speaker 3: daddy daughter dates on the weekend. I still take her

646
00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:19,520
Speaker 3: to dance class, and she started taking vncing classes.

647
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Speaker 1: That's cool.

648
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:22,879
Speaker 3: I don't know if she should be proud or scared

649
00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 3: that she could defeat me in a sword fight. I

650
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:28,320
Speaker 3: think I am doing better a year later that there's

651
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 3: a plan with the timetable for Jen and Harper, and

652
00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 3: that has relieved a lot of stress from my life.

653
00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 6: Nice.

654
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:35,440
Speaker 3: It's also a relief that I don't have to see

655
00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 3: the dead beat as often. I also try to take

656
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 3: a few hours a month for me time and to

657
00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 3: do my hobbies. The bad part is I had thought

658
00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 3: that I was done with a portion of my life

659
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 3: where I had roommates. It will also be nice when

660
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 3: Jen either gets her nursing job and or gets child

661
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 3: sports so that Amber and I can stop footing the

662
00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:56,400
Speaker 3: bill for so much. By the way, you don't have

663
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Speaker 3: to put the bill in this because there is no

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Speaker 3: bill for tapping our profile when we are live every

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Speaker 3: single weekday at three PMPST. For all the people that

666
00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:07,959
Speaker 3: said Jen was going to become our sister wife, or

667
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 3: that I was going to cheat on my wife with her,

668
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Speaker 3: or that she was going to ruin my marriage out

669
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Speaker 3: of spite, or any of the weird spicy sleep fantasyes

670
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Speaker 3: some of you people had, none of that has absolutely happened.

671
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Speaker 3: That's beautiful, and that is the end of the story.

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Speaker 3: That was a really nice story.

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Speaker 6: Hey, that was wholesome.

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Speaker 3: That was wholesome. The problem was dealt with in the

675
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Speaker 3: first paragraph, and everything else was resolution.

676
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Speaker 6: That is good. I've been scared by Reddit, so.

677
00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 3: I know you really get scared. It's like a trauma

678
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Speaker 3: response to Reddit stories.

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Speaker 6: God, he's gonna like's gonna the dead beat, It's gonna

680
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Speaker 6: come back good, Wow, wholesome.

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Speaker 1: There you go.

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Speaker 6: I found out my husband has a secret Momento box

687
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Speaker 6: of my things.

688
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Speaker 1: I feel so betrayed.

689
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Speaker 3: You should be he's a thief.

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Speaker 6: My twenty six female found out my husband, twenty seven male,

691
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 6: has been keeping a secret box of my things on

692
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 6: the top shelf of our closet. I don't know what

693
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 6: to do about it, or if I should even bring

694
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Speaker 6: it up. By the way, this comes from you user

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Speaker 6: fishing think ninety two on the r slash Okay story

696
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Speaker 6: time subredded. I honestly don't know how the heck I'm

697
00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 6: supposed to talk about this. I am genuinely in disbelief.

698
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:22,560
Speaker 6: So backstory. My husband, let's call him Lee, and I

699
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:25,520
Speaker 6: have been together since our sophomore year of high school.

700
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 6: We were each other's first and everything, and for the

701
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 6: most part, I feel like we've honestly had a picturesque marriage.

702
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:36,120
Speaker 6: I'm currently five months pregnant with our first child, and

703
00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:39,640
Speaker 6: I've been taking it upon myself to diy the guest

704
00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:42,560
Speaker 6: bedroom into a nursery. But to do that, I wanted

705
00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:44,520
Speaker 6: to sort it through the stuff in there and get

706
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 6: rid of anything unnecessary. I think it's relevant to say

707
00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 6: I'm pretty short five two, so I really don't store

708
00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:53,200
Speaker 6: things up high since I can't reach it. But my

709
00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 6: husband is a foot taller than me, so he doesn't

710
00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:59,480
Speaker 6: have this tendency, which is how I found the momento

711
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:03,520
Speaker 6: on the top shelf. It was just a plain cardboard box,

712
00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 6: so I didn't think much of it at first, but

713
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:07,960
Speaker 6: since I didn't remember putting it up there, I wanted

714
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 6: to see if there was something that needed to go

715
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:11,960
Speaker 6: into storage, or if it was just drunk. I don't

716
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:13,880
Speaker 6: know what I was expecting, but inside the box there

717
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 6: was a photo album, a trash bag, a black leather bag.

718
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:20,440
Speaker 6: The album just had my name plus Lee Rutting on

719
00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 6: the cover, so I thought it was something sweet, because

720
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:26,760
Speaker 6: Lee has a sydency to give me sentimental things. But no,

721
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 6: the album was full of spicy pictures of myself, all

722
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:33,320
Speaker 6: of them marched with dates and a sort of journal

723
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:36,160
Speaker 6: like entry. The first one was from our first time

724
00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 6: when we were teens, and the latest ones were marked

725
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 6: from the night I surprised him with my pregnancy announcement.

726
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:46,000
Speaker 6: Most of these pictures are poorly quality, but some are

727
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:50,000
Speaker 6: clearly of me after the deed. These journal entries talk

728
00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 6: about how he ranks each experience and his favorite part

729
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 6: of it, like some weird log book.

730
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Speaker 3: Oh my god, I mean, she obviously didn't know that

731
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 3: these picture we're being taken. That is so crazy.

732
00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 6: I get that he's your husband and you've had first

733
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 6: and everything that's disgusting inside. The bags were so in

734
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:14,960
Speaker 6: my lingerie, even some old razors and hair brushes.

735
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 3: What the hell?

736
00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 6: I don't know why on earth he keeps them there,

737
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 6: but he has two bag fools. I don't know how

738
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 6: or what to do. I mean, is this normal behavior?

739
00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 6: Is this some twisted form of romance on his part?

740
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:30,200
Speaker 6: A part of me feels like I shouldn't feel as

741
00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:33,080
Speaker 6: disgusted as I am. But this violates my own boundaries

742
00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:35,080
Speaker 6: since I explicitly told him in the past I was

743
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 6: against or giving him any spicy photos.

744
00:32:37,680 --> 00:32:39,440
Speaker 3: That makes it so much worse.

745
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 6: What do I do? I love my husband, but I'm

746
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 6: not too sure how to confine him on this. Okay,

747
00:32:43,280 --> 00:32:46,040
Speaker 6: the pictures and the log I was like, dude, that's

748
00:32:46,080 --> 00:32:49,440
Speaker 6: effing weird, and like there's like that is a conversation.

749
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 6: I feel like you could have that and like talk

750
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:53,160
Speaker 6: about it and maybe get through it. But if she

751
00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:56,040
Speaker 6: did not consent to that, and here's my thing. The

752
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 6: second he had razors and brushes and lingerie. That's full

753
00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 6: star like obsessive mode. So like you have to burn

754
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:05,120
Speaker 6: the book because who knows what he'll do with it.

755
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, get rid of that because if he gets

756
00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 3: mad or something like that and then like publishes these pictures,

757
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:13,480
Speaker 3: like that's crazy because they met in high school, right,

758
00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:16,440
Speaker 3: So then if he has pictures of like their first

759
00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:20,200
Speaker 3: time in high school, he has pictures of a minor.

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Speaker 6: We got an update.

761
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:22,840
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I don't even want to hear more,

762
00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:23,600
Speaker 3: but I do.

763
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Speaker 6: I'm not gonna lie. I wanted to act like I

764
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 6: didn't see anything and go with my happy life. But

765
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Speaker 6: after giving birth to my baby girl about a month

766
00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:34,040
Speaker 6: and a half ago, I guess distress and everything added

767
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:36,200
Speaker 6: up and I let it slip in an argument I.

768
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Speaker 3: Forgot when she saw this, she was five months pregnant.

769
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 3: Now the baby is born, so she's been keeping us

770
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Speaker 3: in for months. That's wild.

771
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Speaker 6: I don't remember all that was said, but I was

772
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 6: exhausted and my husband, while he's been super helpful and

773
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:52,880
Speaker 6: took over the household chores for me and helps me

774
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 6: with my baby girl, had just been getting on my nerves.

775
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 6: So I sort of exploded on him in a not

776
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 6: proud way. Worst of all, he isn't even doing anything.

777
00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:04,800
Speaker 6: All he has been doing was reminiscing about how I

778
00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:08,360
Speaker 6: used to make a Sims family of us when I

779
00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 6: was in Uni, and how creepy it was. He said

780
00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:15,080
Speaker 6: it endearingly. I don't really know how I got so mad,

781
00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:17,839
Speaker 6: but I basically said something along the lines of how

782
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:20,200
Speaker 6: he's a creepy one because he has a secret stash

783
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 6: of hidden stuff from me.

784
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:24,760
Speaker 3: Ooh, that suff's actually creepy. Well you have my cut hair.

785
00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:27,720
Speaker 6: Oh what a clapback, dude.

786
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:30,960
Speaker 3: Like, you have my old razors and my hair. You

787
00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 3: want to talk about creepy. You want to talk about creepy.

788
00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 6: I felt really bad because he got all pale and

789
00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:40,800
Speaker 6: went quiet, and he sort of said he needed space

790
00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:43,680
Speaker 6: and went to blow off some steam at the shooting range.

791
00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:46,960
Speaker 6: Go to the gym, please, No, I don't like that.

792
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:49,319
Speaker 6: I shoot if I ever can argument with you, I'm

793
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:50,400
Speaker 6: not going to a shooting range.

794
00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:52,319
Speaker 3: No, don't go there when you're mad.

795
00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:55,279
Speaker 6: Oh my gosh. Okay, which he does a lot when

796
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:58,000
Speaker 6: he needs to think, so I don't question it. Okay, sure, sure,

797
00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 6: if that's everyone's couple, but that's just like coincidentally, not

798
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:02,880
Speaker 6: the best. It just was not a good.

799
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:05,080
Speaker 3: Cop, not a good mix with the razors, the hair,

800
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 3: the unconsidual pictures, and the dirty underwear. Not a good combo.

801
00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:12,280
Speaker 3: And with the angry emotions needing to cool off, he came.

802
00:35:12,160 --> 00:35:14,680
Speaker 6: Back around dinner and he said he was ready to talk.

803
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:17,360
Speaker 6: I asked him about all the things I found, especially

804
00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:20,680
Speaker 6: the photos. I reminded him again I never agreed to

805
00:35:20,760 --> 00:35:23,920
Speaker 6: make anudies of any sort, and he apologized and agreed

806
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:27,040
Speaker 6: to burn them. Apparently our history goes back further than

807
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:29,879
Speaker 6: I even knew, as he recounted that we actually met

808
00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:32,960
Speaker 6: before high school. Had no idea. But his mom, who

809
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:35,279
Speaker 6: was the forced attorney, was the very same one my

810
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:37,880
Speaker 6: mom used when she separated it from her first husband,

811
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 6: not my dad. I called my mom to confirm She

812
00:35:41,760 --> 00:35:44,239
Speaker 6: told me it was true, but her and my mother

813
00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 6: in law never told me because my mom's divorce was

814
00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:48,880
Speaker 6: messy and she hates talking about it.

815
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:51,799
Speaker 3: Okay, the fact that he knows that and she does

816
00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:54,759
Speaker 3: it is really weird, Like, is he's stalking her?

817
00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:56,920
Speaker 6: Anyways, back to the first meeting thing. My mother in

818
00:35:57,000 --> 00:35:59,799
Speaker 6: law at the time often had Lee hang out around

819
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:02,360
Speaker 6: her office after school. But it was during one of

820
00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 6: these days that my mom had to take me with

821
00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 6: her to speak with mother in law in person. Lee

822
00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:10,759
Speaker 6: was the actual boy I played with in the waiting room.

823
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:13,400
Speaker 6: I can't believe you remembered that because I totally forgot.

824
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 3: That's crazy.

825
00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:16,880
Speaker 6: Okay. So, according to him, that first meeting was the

826
00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:19,720
Speaker 6: day he knew I was special. When they were kids,

827
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 6: he probably like, oh, she's the one for me.

828
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:24,400
Speaker 3: That's sweet as a kid. Yeah, what he does about

829
00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:27,439
Speaker 3: it might not be sweet, and I'm scared to find out.

830
00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:30,000
Speaker 6: Lee told me that he had tried to pass it

831
00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:32,279
Speaker 6: off as a crush as he got older, it never

832
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:34,799
Speaker 6: really went away, which led him to look in his

833
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:38,839
Speaker 6: mom's case files in my state attorneys to have them

834
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:42,520
Speaker 6: for seven years, and he found my mom on Facebook

835
00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 6: and my dad and her friends and managed to find

836
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:48,719
Speaker 6: my first and last name in order to find my Instagram.

837
00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, he is stalking her. That's crazy.

838
00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:55,960
Speaker 1: What the hell? What the hell?

839
00:36:56,239 --> 00:36:58,319
Speaker 6: Good on bro for shooting a shot, Like he shot

840
00:36:58,320 --> 00:37:00,080
Speaker 6: a shot, but like this was not the way. This

841
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:02,120
Speaker 6: is kind of crazy because he's young. He's like a kid,

842
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:03,359
Speaker 6: and he's like a teen.

843
00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:06,080
Speaker 3: When he got older and he realized that he still

844
00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:07,879
Speaker 3: liked her, then he looked into it.

845
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 6: He had convinced his parents to let him transfer from

846
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:14,840
Speaker 6: his private K twelve to my public's high school, using

847
00:37:14,880 --> 00:37:17,799
Speaker 6: the excuse that they had a better athletics program, which

848
00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 6: isn't actually far fetched since my high school was one

849
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:22,360
Speaker 6: of the best in the state for that. Once he

850
00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:25,160
Speaker 6: found out where I was going, thanks to my dumb

851
00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:27,879
Speaker 6: self putting it in my bio, I thought us meaning

852
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:31,400
Speaker 6: was a sheer coincidence and that we fell in love naturally,

853
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:34,400
Speaker 6: but a classic sort of high school sweethearts, but no,

854
00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:37,319
Speaker 6: Lee had orchestrated it all. I took my daughter with

855
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 6: me and stayed with my mom and stepdad while Lee

856
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:42,200
Speaker 6: agreed to stay home and let me think. Spoke with

857
00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:43,719
Speaker 6: my mom as well as my mother in law and

858
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:46,439
Speaker 6: father in law. Lee's parents are not happy with him

859
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:49,120
Speaker 6: in all, honestly, and my mother in law especially mad.

860
00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:53,399
Speaker 6: Because of client confidentiality, My mom gave me some good

861
00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 6: advice that being I should reflect on it Lee had

862
00:37:57,239 --> 00:38:00,920
Speaker 6: displayed any other red flagive behaviors. Because I can honestly

863
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:04,239
Speaker 6: say no, he hadn't. But since I am biased, I

864
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 6: asked my friends and those close to me if they

865
00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 6: notice anything. There's another update. So far, everything else about

866
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 6: Lee seems to check out. I've never felt endangered by him,

867
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 6: even when I told him I needed some distance for

868
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:18,920
Speaker 6: a few days. I want to make this marriage work, Reddit,

869
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:21,359
Speaker 6: but it's just something therapy can fix. No, you don't

870
00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:23,360
Speaker 6: think so, absolutely not. But he's just obsessed with you,

871
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:24,879
Speaker 6: and he loves you in every single sort of way,

872
00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 6: and he knows everything that you love and already now

873
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:30,400
Speaker 6: convenient it would be in our relationship if you're like, hey, baby,

874
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 6: you know what my favorite color is green.

875
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:34,000
Speaker 3: But the beauty in a relationship, though, is that you

876
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 3: get to talk to each other and find that stuff

877
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:38,960
Speaker 3: out like you can't just you're not supposed to just

878
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:39,799
Speaker 3: know everything about it.

879
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 6: Okay, Update two, it's a short one. Lee and I

880
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:44,880
Speaker 6: have since been going to couples counseling. He's going to

881
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 6: individual therapy. After the whole drama had happened a few

882
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:49,720
Speaker 6: months ago, he sort of had a come to Christ

883
00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:52,440
Speaker 6: moment where he realized that the way he had been

884
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:55,319
Speaker 6: obsessing over the idea of me wasn't the same as

885
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 6: healthy love. But you can love us by joining us

886
00:38:57,560 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 6: every weekday through PMPSD on YouTube by tapping.

887
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:01,920
Speaker 3: Our profile, So that's pretty healthy to me.

888
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:04,279
Speaker 6: We spent a few weeks apart so he could work

889
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:07,279
Speaker 6: on himself, and he turned over his devices, passwords, and

890
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 6: accounts to me so I could go through them and

891
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:12,880
Speaker 6: calm all my worries because I was really anxious about

892
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:16,040
Speaker 6: the explicit photos. Since then, we're back in our house

893
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:18,440
Speaker 6: with our baby girl, and our marriage is back on

894
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:21,399
Speaker 6: track and better for it. So he just obsessed over

895
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:24,399
Speaker 6: her and was an obsession couldn't get out of his head.

896
00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:26,560
Speaker 6: Now it's not and now they're working through it and

897
00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 6: he's realized it. Some people would be down for this,

898
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:30,759
Speaker 6: Not me. You want to be down for this?

899
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 3: No, I'm glad that they can figure it out and

900
00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 3: then their marriage is going well that they can father

901
00:39:36,360 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 3: the and mother the child.

902
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:37,719
Speaker 2: MO.

903
00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:40,480
Speaker 3: My thought process is just like, if he can hide

904
00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:42,200
Speaker 3: that for this long, I would not be able to

905
00:39:42,239 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 3: trust that he is telling me the truth about any

906
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 3: of it.

907
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:47,800
Speaker 6: Afterwards, Well, he gave over the devices and the passwords,

908
00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:49,640
Speaker 6: and can it come to Jesus moment.

909
00:39:49,560 --> 00:39:53,240
Speaker 3: Yes, But what if he like does some sneaky stuff

910
00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:54,840
Speaker 3: where he like puts it on a different device that

911
00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:56,480
Speaker 3: he doesn't give her but she doesn't know about. I

912
00:39:56,520 --> 00:39:59,080
Speaker 3: would have trust his shoes and I couldn't deal with that.

913
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:03,560
Speaker 3: My wife invited another man to our daughter's birth, and

914
00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 3: I'm furious. Last month, my wife, twenty five female, called

915
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:10,920
Speaker 3: me twenty eight male, in a frenzy, telling me that

916
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 3: her water broke and that she was going into labor.

917
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 3: This was incredibly shocking to both of us because she

918
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:20,359
Speaker 3: was still early on in the pregnancy. The problem with

919
00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:22,320
Speaker 3: this is that I was already on the road about

920
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:25,239
Speaker 3: thirty minutes away, tending to my mother, who had just

921
00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 3: called to tell me that she was in an accident,

922
00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 3: not a significant one, just one that shook her up.

923
00:40:31,120 --> 00:40:33,439
Speaker 3: And by the way, this comes from U slash Love

924
00:40:33,880 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 3: Jaya on the R slash Okay storytime, supread. I told

925
00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:39,880
Speaker 3: my wife to call an ambulance because I would not

926
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 3: be turning around to drive her to the hospital and

927
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:46,319
Speaker 3: witness her birth. She yelled, cursed, cried, and screamed at

928
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 3: me through the phone while I was trying to calm

929
00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:50,319
Speaker 3: her by telling her to call my sister and if

930
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:52,320
Speaker 3: she didn't want to call an ambulance since my sister

931
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:55,480
Speaker 3: only lives twenty to twenty five minutes away. After this,

932
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:57,839
Speaker 3: she went silent and hung up, and I didn't hear

933
00:40:57,880 --> 00:41:00,239
Speaker 3: from her for about an hour and a half. I

934
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:02,279
Speaker 3: checked my phone for the first time since getting to

935
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 3: my mother, and my sister sent me a video of

936
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:08,280
Speaker 3: my wife actively giving birth while holding her male friend's

937
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:11,920
Speaker 3: hand the way a woman squeezes their husband's hand for

938
00:41:12,040 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 3: comfort during the labor. She had to find someone else,

939
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 3: I mean, looks like it, I guess. My sister immediately

940
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:21,440
Speaker 3: followed up with the video with the text that said,

941
00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:23,840
Speaker 3: when are you going to get here? I ignored this

942
00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:26,600
Speaker 3: text and asked her if she's the one who drove

943
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 3: my wife to the hospital, and she responded no. I

944
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 3: asked her who did, and she informed me that it

945
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:35,760
Speaker 3: was my wife's male friend, who only lives ten minutes away,

946
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:38,839
Speaker 3: who drove her and was getting his hand squeezed by

947
00:41:38,880 --> 00:41:41,920
Speaker 3: my wife. I ended up just asking my sister for

948
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:44,239
Speaker 3: the full story while I drove my mother back to

949
00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:48,399
Speaker 3: her home since everything was sorted with the accident. Long

950
00:41:48,400 --> 00:41:50,880
Speaker 3: story short. Instead of calling my sister or an ambulance,

951
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:53,800
Speaker 3: my wife called her male friend that I've always unliked

952
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:57,719
Speaker 3: but never informed my wife. Uh oh, seems fishy. I

953
00:41:57,800 --> 00:42:00,400
Speaker 3: told my sister to get on FaceTime with me, but

954
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:02,600
Speaker 3: not to make it obvious to anyone else in the

955
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 3: delivery room, and I would stay silent on the other end, sneaky.

956
00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:09,400
Speaker 3: During the call, I saw my wife's friend rubbing her back,

957
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:13,080
Speaker 3: wiping her tears, comforting her when she screamed and cried,

958
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:15,839
Speaker 3: et cetera. I couldn't bear the sight, and I ended

959
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 3: the FaceTime and told my sister to inform my wife

960
00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:21,520
Speaker 3: that I would be at the hospital the next day

961
00:42:21,560 --> 00:42:24,480
Speaker 3: after work. Whenever she got out of labor he's not

962
00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 3: even going over right now. He's like, he's like, I'll

963
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:30,680
Speaker 3: be there tomorrow. My sister called almost two hours later

964
00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:32,360
Speaker 3: to tell me that she left the hospital and that

965
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 3: my wife would be staying the night. The next day,

966
00:42:34,560 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 3: around three to four pm, when I went over to

967
00:42:36,680 --> 00:42:38,960
Speaker 3: the hospital to see my wife and my newborn son,

968
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:42,440
Speaker 3: she was not trying to hide her anger and saltiness

969
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 3: from anyone in the room that included mostly my family

970
00:42:45,719 --> 00:42:48,120
Speaker 3: and some of hers. When I asked her why she

971
00:42:48,160 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 3: was acting this way, she rolled her eyes and told

972
00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:56,040
Speaker 3: me to leave her the f alone in front of everyone. Later,

973
00:42:56,160 --> 00:42:58,480
Speaker 3: when I tried to hold my son, she snatched him

974
00:42:58,480 --> 00:43:01,719
Speaker 3: from my hands. The hospital hours ended at eight, but

975
00:43:01,840 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 3: all the guests excluding me left by six. When we

976
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:08,600
Speaker 3: were all alone, I finally got the chance to have

977
00:43:08,640 --> 00:43:11,600
Speaker 3: a conversation with her about why she's being so salty

978
00:43:11,719 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 3: on a memorable day that should have been filled with

979
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:17,839
Speaker 3: love and joy, and she responded by getting angry and

980
00:43:18,040 --> 00:43:21,759
Speaker 3: mumbling something about my audacity to miss her birth and

981
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:23,720
Speaker 3: to be surprised that she's angry.

982
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:24,640
Speaker 6: Is he kind of older?

983
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:26,759
Speaker 3: I kind of feel like he is. I'm not gonna lie.

984
00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:29,319
Speaker 6: The only excuses if your mother's like ninety. I mean,

985
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:31,960
Speaker 6: it could be like it's super old. It was my

986
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:34,920
Speaker 6: mom now versus you giving birth. I'd be like, sorry, mom.

987
00:43:35,080 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 3: Sorry, I'm not proud of this. But in response, I

988
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:42,160
Speaker 3: called her a cheater for inviting another man into the

989
00:43:42,239 --> 00:43:46,520
Speaker 3: delivery room in place of her husband. This spiraled into

990
00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:49,799
Speaker 3: a short, full blown argument between us that eventually ended

991
00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 3: with when an NICU nurse coming back with the baby.

992
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:56,920
Speaker 3: It's been a month since then, and my wife only

993
00:43:56,960 --> 00:44:00,600
Speaker 3: refers to our son as her son and her baby.

994
00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 3: I've tried to get closer to her by sitting down

995
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:06,400
Speaker 3: and trying to have a deep conversation about our family's future,

996
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:08,879
Speaker 3: and she flat out told me that she was never

997
00:44:08,920 --> 00:44:12,120
Speaker 3: having another child with me after what happened, which deeply

998
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:12,680
Speaker 3: hurt me.

999
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:14,680
Speaker 5: That's crazy.

1000
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:15,840
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.

1001
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:18,000
Speaker 6: Yeah, everyone's a hole here.

1002
00:44:18,239 --> 00:44:21,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, I kind of think, so that's wild. Last week

1003
00:44:21,320 --> 00:44:23,359
Speaker 3: I heard my wife on the phone talking about who

1004
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 3: would be godfather's and mother's to our son. She told

1005
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 3: whoever was on the other end that she would be

1006
00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:31,600
Speaker 3: choosing the male friend as the godfather because he was

1007
00:44:31,600 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 3: there for me when OPI couldn't care less. This post

1008
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 3: is all over the place, But let me know if

1009
00:44:37,160 --> 00:44:39,520
Speaker 3: I overreacted in the argument when I saw her in

1010
00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:42,880
Speaker 3: the delivery room after she gave birth, or if anyone

1011
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:45,719
Speaker 3: knows how to fix my marriage and family that is

1012
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 3: just crazy.

1013
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:51,759
Speaker 6: Apologize, apologize, try to figure this out. Your wife is

1014
00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:55,040
Speaker 6: also in a very fragile state, so you may need

1015
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:58,040
Speaker 6: to give her, you know, a lot of support.

1016
00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 3: Like either way seen like it was like more like overreactions,

1017
00:45:02,920 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 3: Like I don't know. It was like I want to

1018
00:45:04,640 --> 00:45:06,760
Speaker 3: know what happened with the mom?

1019
00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 6: How old was she was super bad? Why what was

1020
00:45:10,120 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 6: the decision there? Why did you decide to like not

1021
00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:12,959
Speaker 6: be with your wife?

1022
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 5: Dude?

1023
00:45:13,280 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 3: It said that Op's mom was like in an accident,

1024
00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:19,000
Speaker 3: not serious, but just she was just like shook up. Yeah,

1025
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:22,239
Speaker 3: so maybe she called freaking out about it and being

1026
00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:24,080
Speaker 3: like come over, like I need help, blah blah blah.

1027
00:45:24,080 --> 00:45:26,279
Speaker 3: So ohp he's already thirty minutes down the road trying

1028
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 3: to help her out, not knowing that she's actually fine.

1029
00:45:29,160 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 3: And then you know wife is going into birth or

1030
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 3: going into labor. OHPI, He's like I can't be there.

1031
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 3: I'm already out because I guess like if she would

1032
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:40,840
Speaker 3: have to wait thirty minutes.

1033
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 6: But still you had two choices. You chose your mom.

1034
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:46,439
Speaker 6: Was it the right choice? Me, It's not the right choice.

1035
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:49,160
Speaker 6: Everything circumstantial. It could have been a horrible thing. But

1036
00:45:49,480 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 6: I see we.

1037
00:45:50,520 --> 00:45:52,640
Speaker 3: Do have an update, so we have an edit and

1038
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 3: an update. So edit. No, this isn't rage bait. I

1039
00:45:55,719 --> 00:45:58,200
Speaker 3: genuinely need advice. Sorry if the wording made it seem

1040
00:45:58,239 --> 00:46:00,879
Speaker 3: that way. I also didn't know the accident was minor

1041
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,960
Speaker 3: until I arrived. And everyone suggesting we get a divorce

1042
00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 3: doesn't know the meaning of dedication of marriage and family.

1043
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:09,279
Speaker 3: If you have questions, please message me if you want

1044
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 3: to answer. And now for the update. Wait what O?

1045
00:46:12,520 --> 00:46:12,719
Speaker 1: Wait?

1046
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:14,920
Speaker 3: Update? I'm the wife from that.

1047
00:46:14,960 --> 00:46:17,160
Speaker 1: Last post, so we have both sides.

1048
00:46:17,360 --> 00:46:20,400
Speaker 3: We have an update from the pregnant wife. A friend

1049
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:23,080
Speaker 3: found it and sent it to me. Still don't get

1050
00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:25,800
Speaker 3: why he didn't post it on a burner account. Anyway,

1051
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:28,520
Speaker 3: I decided to make an account to respond, clear some

1052
00:46:28,560 --> 00:46:30,759
Speaker 3: things up and tell my side of the story as

1053
00:46:30,800 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 3: briefly as I can. N I like it. Yes, I

1054
00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:36,239
Speaker 3: did call my husband to tell him that my water broke,

1055
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:38,000
Speaker 3: and he did tell me that he wouldn't make it

1056
00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:40,440
Speaker 3: and to call an ambulance or his sister. And his

1057
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 3: sister has called me a slur to my face before,

1058
00:46:43,120 --> 00:46:44,680
Speaker 3: so I don't know why he thought this would be

1059
00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:46,880
Speaker 3: a good idea. I did not call his sister because

1060
00:46:46,880 --> 00:46:48,960
Speaker 3: we don't get along and I have a friend that

1061
00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:50,920
Speaker 3: lives closer to us. He ends up driving me to

1062
00:46:50,920 --> 00:46:55,400
Speaker 3: the hospital and his sister pulls into the lot almost

1063
00:46:55,480 --> 00:46:57,360
Speaker 3: right after us. I don't know how she knew I

1064
00:46:57,440 --> 00:47:00,440
Speaker 3: was going. So now I'm in pain, scared, said up

1065
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:03,400
Speaker 3: my husband and have someone I don't like with me.

1066
00:47:03,719 --> 00:47:07,360
Speaker 3: During my most vulnerable moments, I was holding my male

1067
00:47:07,440 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 3: friend's hand because why wouldn't I be Now, it was

1068
00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:14,200
Speaker 3: very obvious that the sister in law was recording me

1069
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 3: in some way because she was basically isolating herself from

1070
00:47:17,760 --> 00:47:20,560
Speaker 3: everyone else in the room with her phone to her chest.

1071
00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:23,360
Speaker 3: Pointed at me, Wow, what a bunch of rookies in

1072
00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 3: this household. Oh my goodness, no one knows how to

1073
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:29,640
Speaker 3: be sneaky. Can you imagine the flashes onto everyone's like,

1074
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:32,319
Speaker 3: and she's like, I got him. I didn't think that

1075
00:47:32,400 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 3: she was on FaceTime with anyone. I just thought she

1076
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:37,400
Speaker 3: was filming me, which is equally as weird I'm not

1077
00:47:37,440 --> 00:47:39,880
Speaker 3: sure why I brushed it off or didn't ask about

1078
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 3: it when I was more stable. My husband did, in

1079
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 3: fact show up the next day around four pm and

1080
00:47:45,239 --> 00:47:46,760
Speaker 3: tried to act like nothing happened.

1081
00:47:46,800 --> 00:47:49,719
Speaker 1: WHOA not first thing in the morning.

1082
00:47:49,560 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 3: That's what he said. He was gonna go there after work.

1083
00:47:51,840 --> 00:47:54,280
Speaker 3: Can you imagine not taking a day of work because

1084
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 3: like your wife's had a baby?

1085
00:47:56,640 --> 00:47:59,120
Speaker 6: Did this guy's complete a? He was ao in his first.

1086
00:47:58,960 --> 00:48:01,239
Speaker 3: Story, and I was very moody and route to him,

1087
00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:04,479
Speaker 3: which was probably very immature of me. This later broke

1088
00:48:04,520 --> 00:48:07,560
Speaker 3: out into an argument after everyone left, where he called

1089
00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:11,359
Speaker 3: me a cheater and I also said some very nasty things.

1090
00:48:11,680 --> 00:48:15,400
Speaker 3: I have been isolating myself and my son away from

1091
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:17,160
Speaker 3: him as much as I can, and trying to be

1092
00:48:17,239 --> 00:48:20,160
Speaker 3: less dependent on him in some aspects. The reason for

1093
00:48:20,239 --> 00:48:22,680
Speaker 3: this is because I feel like I can't trust him

1094
00:48:23,040 --> 00:48:25,520
Speaker 3: to keep my son safe, or change his diaper, or

1095
00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:28,319
Speaker 3: pour my milk into a bottle and feed him, or

1096
00:48:28,320 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 3: burp HM, or basically do anything for my son at all.

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00:48:31,680 --> 00:48:34,239
Speaker 3: It is true that I and my son are financially

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00:48:34,360 --> 00:48:37,920
Speaker 3: dependent on my husband, like he has stated before, and

1099
00:48:37,960 --> 00:48:40,680
Speaker 3: because of this fact, I cannot divorce him, not now,

1100
00:48:40,719 --> 00:48:44,040
Speaker 3: at least because I do not have any support system

1101
00:48:44,200 --> 00:48:46,200
Speaker 3: or family that lives near us to help me and

1102
00:48:46,239 --> 00:48:49,360
Speaker 3: my son, and I am still in school. I know

1103
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:51,879
Speaker 3: staying for the kids isn't healthy, but my family has

1104
00:48:52,000 --> 00:48:55,400
Speaker 3: recommended me to stay for the sake of my schooling

1105
00:48:55,520 --> 00:48:56,719
Speaker 3: and my son's happiness.

1106
00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:59,040
Speaker 6: You probably shouldn't have mentioned abortion in this post.

1107
00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:03,800
Speaker 3: Your husband's gonna be true because then on his real account,

1108
00:49:04,040 --> 00:49:08,080
Speaker 3: he's gonna get a response, oh divorce, But she's staying okay.

1109
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 3: My husband has stated many times that he has apologized,

1110
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:16,360
Speaker 3: but these quote apologies were just along the lines of

1111
00:49:16,640 --> 00:49:19,000
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, will you stop being angry now? So no,

1112
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:22,120
Speaker 3: I am not sleeping with the male friend. We've been

1113
00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:25,320
Speaker 3: friends since second grade and there's never been anything romantic

1114
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:28,600
Speaker 3: or spicy between us. By the way, you can get

1115
00:49:28,640 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 3: spicy with us. You can join us live on YouTube

1116
00:49:31,520 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 3: every weekday at three p MPST. Just tap our profile.

1117
00:49:36,280 --> 00:49:39,600
Speaker 3: Please don't mind my spelling grammar. English is in my

1118
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:42,240
Speaker 3: first language. Nor am I from an English speaking country

1119
00:49:42,360 --> 00:49:44,399
Speaker 3: and this was all rushed. Feel free to ask any

1120
00:49:44,480 --> 00:49:46,720
Speaker 3: questions because I tend to leave details out. This whole

1121
00:49:46,760 --> 00:49:51,880
Speaker 3: thing feels as unreal as it sounds wow crazy.

1122
00:49:52,200 --> 00:49:52,800
Speaker 6: That's wild.

1123
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:54,640
Speaker 3: So who do you think is like the real a

1124
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:55,640
Speaker 3: hole in this situation?

1125
00:49:55,880 --> 00:49:57,240
Speaker 6: Do the husband the husband?

1126
00:49:57,280 --> 00:49:58,600
Speaker 3: For sure? But do you think like some of her

1127
00:49:58,680 --> 00:50:00,399
Speaker 3: reactions were little that's wrong.

1128
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:03,920
Speaker 6: She is completely justified in every reaction that she has

1129
00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:06,399
Speaker 6: because one, she just gave birth and her husband wasn't there.

1130
00:50:06,440 --> 00:50:08,719
Speaker 6: He's like runner up that he sent was like a

1131
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:09,479
Speaker 6: sister in law.

1132
00:50:09,600 --> 00:50:10,440
Speaker 1: That I agree.

1133
00:50:10,480 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 3: I think that the husband was definitely the a hole,

1134
00:50:13,520 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 3: but I think like he was totally the wrong. His

1135
00:50:16,280 --> 00:50:19,120
Speaker 3: sister was totally in the wrong. What I'm kind of

1136
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:21,759
Speaker 3: interested in is the fact that she said that she

1137
00:50:21,840 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 3: can't trust him to take care of the child at all.

1138
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:26,440
Speaker 3: I'm not exactly sure what exactly led.

1139
00:50:26,239 --> 00:50:27,919
Speaker 6: To that he picked his mom over her.

1140
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:29,800
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, but I mean I feel like that doesn't

1141
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 3: mean you can't like put milk in a.

1142
00:50:31,560 --> 00:50:34,160
Speaker 6: Bottle, though right picked his mom over her and showed

1143
00:50:34,239 --> 00:50:35,680
Speaker 6: up after work the next day.

1144
00:50:35,760 --> 00:50:37,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess that show's priorities.

1145
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:40,279
Speaker 6: Yeah, Oh of course there was zero consideration on his

1146
00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:42,279
Speaker 6: part here. He's doing anything when it's convenient for him

1147
00:50:42,320 --> 00:50:42,920
Speaker 6: and not for her.

1148
00:50:43,080 --> 00:50:45,280
Speaker 3: I think I could see him like still being able

1149
00:50:45,280 --> 00:50:47,279
Speaker 3: to like put milk in the bottle and stuff. But

1150
00:50:47,320 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 3: I think the issue would be like when he would

1151
00:50:50,080 --> 00:50:52,279
Speaker 3: do it, and like how urgent, how on top of

1152
00:50:52,320 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 3: things he would be. That makes sense to original op.

1153
00:50:55,480 --> 00:50:58,239
Speaker 1: You are the Hey, it's Sam. We get back to

1154
00:50:58,280 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 1: the stories. But here's three minutes of ads are sponsors.

1155
00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:06,400
Speaker 2: My husband cheated, so I told everyone. Now his family

1156
00:51:06,440 --> 00:51:10,240
Speaker 2: has abandoned him. Good what I think next story?

1157
00:51:10,320 --> 00:51:11,719
Speaker 1: Right? I think we covered it all.

1158
00:51:12,000 --> 00:51:15,959
Speaker 2: He has absolutely nothing right now and definitely doesn't care.

1159
00:51:16,239 --> 00:51:19,440
Speaker 2: I'm seven months pregnant now, but when I was five

1160
00:51:19,520 --> 00:51:21,280
Speaker 2: months I found out he was cheating.

1161
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:22,920
Speaker 1: All right, that actually really sucks.

1162
00:51:23,560 --> 00:51:26,960
Speaker 2: While I was in the hospital with pneumonia, I just

1163
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:29,839
Speaker 2: posted about my mom. But I kind of want to

1164
00:51:29,880 --> 00:51:32,399
Speaker 2: get everything off my chest. By the way, this comes

1165
00:51:32,400 --> 00:51:35,319
Speaker 2: from user true off my Chest dash Ta on the

1166
00:51:35,440 --> 00:51:40,200
Speaker 2: r slash okay storytime subreddit. So he is adopted but

1167
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:44,440
Speaker 2: knows his biological family. I told his adopted family, biological family,

1168
00:51:44,600 --> 00:51:48,160
Speaker 2: my family, my friends, his friends, et cetera. A lot

1169
00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:50,480
Speaker 2: came out when I found out. I found out he

1170
00:51:50,560 --> 00:51:54,319
Speaker 2: cheated on every girlfriend he's had. I'm now friends with

1171
00:51:54,400 --> 00:51:56,839
Speaker 2: his exes who he lied to about everything as well.

1172
00:51:57,200 --> 00:51:57,680
Speaker 1: He told me.

1173
00:51:57,760 --> 00:51:59,719
Speaker 2: He wasn't in contact with them, and they found out

1174
00:51:59,719 --> 00:52:01,680
Speaker 2: about when his mom died and I was in her

1175
00:52:01,719 --> 00:52:05,120
Speaker 2: obituary because shocker, she's my mother in law. He says

1176
00:52:05,120 --> 00:52:08,120
Speaker 2: I ruined his life. I want to He's hiding like

1177
00:52:08,160 --> 00:52:11,000
Speaker 2: a coward. He won't answer messages from anyone. He's tried

1178
00:52:11,040 --> 00:52:13,400
Speaker 2: telling my mother that he spoke to an attorney and

1179
00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:15,919
Speaker 2: I made him feel guilty for not being happy when

1180
00:52:15,960 --> 00:52:18,799
Speaker 2: he mentioned it, which never happened. In fact, when I

1181
00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:21,480
Speaker 2: asked if he was cheating, he swore on his mother's

1182
00:52:21,520 --> 00:52:22,279
Speaker 2: grave that he.

1183
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:23,920
Speaker 1: Wasn't, and that was a lie.

1184
00:52:24,120 --> 00:52:26,200
Speaker 2: There's so much to this story, but I just don't

1185
00:52:26,239 --> 00:52:28,600
Speaker 2: understand how some people can do this. He wanted his

1186
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:32,120
Speaker 2: perfect wife and kids and his little girlfriend on the side.

1187
00:52:32,160 --> 00:52:34,799
Speaker 2: He was never going to leave me, and now he's

1188
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:37,919
Speaker 2: not responding to my divorce attorney. I want him out

1189
00:52:37,960 --> 00:52:40,920
Speaker 2: of my life since he was so unhappy, But suddenly

1190
00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:43,360
Speaker 2: now he's too busy for the divorce that he claims

1191
00:52:43,400 --> 00:52:46,279
Speaker 2: he wants, or at the start claiming when I kicked

1192
00:52:46,320 --> 00:52:48,080
Speaker 2: him out of the house, when I told him to

1193
00:52:48,120 --> 00:52:50,160
Speaker 2: leave because he was cheating, he told me he's been

1194
00:52:50,320 --> 00:52:53,120
Speaker 2: quote unhappy a long time. And spoke to a lawyer

1195
00:52:53,120 --> 00:52:55,000
Speaker 2: a month ago, but didn't know how to tell me

1196
00:52:55,160 --> 00:52:58,480
Speaker 2: he wanted the baby that I'm pregnant with. I didn't

1197
00:52:58,480 --> 00:53:00,759
Speaker 2: want another for two or more years, but now that

1198
00:53:00,800 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 2: we're not together, he says it's my choice and I

1199
00:53:03,600 --> 00:53:07,759
Speaker 2: can have full custody. He's mad at me because his

1200
00:53:07,840 --> 00:53:11,759
Speaker 2: affair partner was also cheating on her boyfriend and I

1201
00:53:11,840 --> 00:53:15,840
Speaker 2: told said boyfriend. Apparently because I told the boyfriend that

1202
00:53:15,960 --> 00:53:18,360
Speaker 2: was also being cheated on, my husband doesn't have to

1203
00:53:18,400 --> 00:53:20,840
Speaker 2: apologize for what he did to me because I'm trying

1204
00:53:20,840 --> 00:53:24,640
Speaker 2: to ruin his new girlfriend's life. He said he's not sorry,

1205
00:53:24,680 --> 00:53:27,520
Speaker 2: he doesn't regret it, and he's accepted what he's done

1206
00:53:27,719 --> 00:53:29,319
Speaker 2: and I need to get over it.

1207
00:53:29,360 --> 00:53:32,120
Speaker 1: But he can't even say the words I cheated.

1208
00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:36,360
Speaker 2: Just you don't know my side, and I've accepted what

1209
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:40,399
Speaker 2: I've done. I want him to suffer like I am,

1210
00:53:40,719 --> 00:53:44,680
Speaker 2: and he has no one no, but that was by

1211
00:53:44,680 --> 00:53:46,920
Speaker 2: the way, that was for me.

1212
00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:51,160
Speaker 1: I agree, Opie. I want this man to suffer.

1213
00:53:53,239 --> 00:53:57,480
Speaker 2: Okay, I apologize to anyone in the listening to hear

1214
00:53:57,520 --> 00:54:00,600
Speaker 2: that growl come out of me. I know he doesn't

1215
00:54:00,640 --> 00:54:03,400
Speaker 2: care because he's twisted it in his mind, so that

1216
00:54:03,600 --> 00:54:06,640
Speaker 2: he's justified because I told everyone what he did, so

1217
00:54:06,800 --> 00:54:08,040
Speaker 2: clearly now I'm.

1218
00:54:07,840 --> 00:54:08,479
Speaker 1: The bad guy.

1219
00:54:08,600 --> 00:54:10,839
Speaker 2: If he had a side, he would tell his whole

1220
00:54:10,880 --> 00:54:13,160
Speaker 2: family so that they wouldn't hate him, but instead he

1221
00:54:13,400 --> 00:54:16,200
Speaker 2: blocked their numbers. He knows he can't lie to anyone

1222
00:54:16,239 --> 00:54:18,520
Speaker 2: who can ask me because I have all of the

1223
00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:20,800
Speaker 2: proof and anything he says I can disprove.

1224
00:54:20,920 --> 00:54:23,680
Speaker 1: So he just says nothing. Yet he insists he's.

1225
00:54:23,520 --> 00:54:27,360
Speaker 2: Not in the wrong, delusional, narcissist, sociopath.

1226
00:54:27,480 --> 00:54:29,959
Speaker 5: No, he's literally like, oh, I've accepted, like I didn't.

1227
00:54:30,040 --> 00:54:32,120
Speaker 5: You don't know my side. I have my reasons, blah

1228
00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:34,799
Speaker 5: blah blah, but can't actually give those reasons because there

1229
00:54:34,800 --> 00:54:37,520
Speaker 5: aren't any There's nothing nothing God excuses his behavior.

1230
00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:40,839
Speaker 2: There's nothing other than him just being a trash man,

1231
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:43,480
Speaker 2: trash man, trash can of a person.

1232
00:54:43,520 --> 00:54:46,640
Speaker 5: He's it and don't actually know when the trash comes Wednesday?

1233
00:54:46,840 --> 00:54:49,000
Speaker 3: Is it Wednesday? Because we got some trash over here.

1234
00:54:49,120 --> 00:54:51,680
Speaker 2: Trash comes every day for that guy. Trash trash day

1235
00:54:51,719 --> 00:54:54,279
Speaker 2: is every day because he's just made out of the trush. So,

1236
00:54:54,600 --> 00:54:57,359
Speaker 2: OHP says, I really know how to pick him. Now

1237
00:54:57,480 --> 00:54:59,759
Speaker 2: I'm a single mother of two. I felt like if

1238
00:54:59,800 --> 00:55:03,000
Speaker 2: I didn't then it would give him a chance to

1239
00:55:03,040 --> 00:55:05,480
Speaker 2: convince me that it was my fault somehow, so I

1240
00:55:05,880 --> 00:55:10,000
Speaker 2: assume it's uh. I felt like if I didn't tell everybody,

1241
00:55:10,320 --> 00:55:13,279
Speaker 2: then he would be able to slight me, which I

1242
00:55:13,320 --> 00:55:15,839
Speaker 2: mean sounds like she's he probably not at the mark

1243
00:55:15,880 --> 00:55:17,560
Speaker 2: because this guy, really, I mean, I've.

1244
00:55:17,440 --> 00:55:19,240
Speaker 5: Already said he's swore in his mom's life.

1245
00:55:19,280 --> 00:55:20,960
Speaker 2: A lot of people try to throw around like the

1246
00:55:21,000 --> 00:55:26,120
Speaker 2: sociopath and like the narcissist, like around, but this guy, really, from.

1247
00:55:25,960 --> 00:55:28,080
Speaker 5: How he's bag, it doesn't seem like he has any.

1248
00:55:28,040 --> 00:55:32,000
Speaker 2: Sounds like sociopathic narcissism behavior. To be pressed and confronted

1249
00:55:32,000 --> 00:55:34,000
Speaker 2: by your entire family, all of your friends that you

1250
00:55:34,080 --> 00:55:37,400
Speaker 2: cheated and your response is blocking your whole family crazy

1251
00:55:37,440 --> 00:55:39,839
Speaker 2: and still convincing yourself that you're in the right. You

1252
00:55:39,920 --> 00:55:42,160
Speaker 2: can't do that unless you're a narcissist, agree, and you

1253
00:55:42,200 --> 00:55:44,400
Speaker 2: can't feel okay about it unless you're a sociopath.

1254
00:55:44,600 --> 00:55:46,759
Speaker 1: Like I'm not a professional, but.

1255
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:49,720
Speaker 5: I'm not a professional, but I agree that counts.

1256
00:55:50,000 --> 00:55:53,120
Speaker 2: So now I even have his family at my back

1257
00:55:53,200 --> 00:55:55,400
Speaker 2: telling me not to ever take him back, and that

1258
00:55:55,520 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 2: honestly is a big help to keep me from breaking

1259
00:55:58,080 --> 00:56:00,720
Speaker 2: down and trying to quote fix him so my family

1260
00:56:00,719 --> 00:56:01,160
Speaker 2: can be here.

1261
00:56:01,200 --> 00:56:03,000
Speaker 1: You can't fix them, Yeah, this guy's unfixing.

1262
00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:04,000
Speaker 3: You can't fix.

1263
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:06,759
Speaker 5: Someone who doesn't even realize that they've done something or

1264
00:56:06,840 --> 00:56:08,680
Speaker 5: doesn't even accept that they've done something wrong.

1265
00:56:08,880 --> 00:56:11,879
Speaker 1: This guy is a complete lost cause lost.

1266
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:14,560
Speaker 2: His brother logged into his Facebook and made a post

1267
00:56:14,600 --> 00:56:17,680
Speaker 2: about what he did, and then he deleted his Facebook

1268
00:56:17,760 --> 00:56:18,640
Speaker 2: the next morning.

1269
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:22,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, I remember that his family is on her op

1270
00:56:22,239 --> 00:56:25,120
Speaker 5: side or something. Yeah, why wouldn't. It would be crazy

1271
00:56:25,160 --> 00:56:25,680
Speaker 5: if they weren't.

1272
00:56:25,760 --> 00:56:32,680
Speaker 2: It's but w family, right, W family, the family. When

1273
00:56:32,760 --> 00:56:35,800
Speaker 2: we got together, I told him cheating was my hard line,

1274
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:39,680
Speaker 2: no forgiveness. He said he understood because he'd been cheated on,

1275
00:56:39,760 --> 00:56:40,560
Speaker 2: which is a lie.

1276
00:56:40,640 --> 00:56:42,960
Speaker 1: Little did I Little did I know he had a

1277
00:56:43,000 --> 00:56:44,960
Speaker 1: girlfriend when we got together.

1278
00:56:45,280 --> 00:56:48,640
Speaker 2: I still don't understand how he thought that was okay

1279
00:56:48,680 --> 00:56:52,719
Speaker 2: somehow narcissist sociopath. Based on new evidence, I believe the

1280
00:56:52,760 --> 00:56:55,879
Speaker 2: affair partner knew about me and that they had some

1281
00:56:55,960 --> 00:56:58,319
Speaker 2: sort of We both have partners, so we both have

1282
00:56:58,440 --> 00:57:01,120
Speaker 2: something to lose agreement. But when I first messaged her

1283
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:04,000
Speaker 2: after she stopped ignoring me, she said, he says that

1284
00:57:04,120 --> 00:57:07,279
Speaker 2: he's divorcing you and the baby isn't his. This is

1285
00:57:07,360 --> 00:57:09,759
Speaker 2: kind of a small update, but I was excited and

1286
00:57:09,840 --> 00:57:12,759
Speaker 2: remembered this account, so I wanted to say that you

1287
00:57:12,840 --> 00:57:15,120
Speaker 2: don't have to be healed for things to be better.

1288
00:57:15,160 --> 00:57:16,080
Speaker 1: Well, that's so wise.

1289
00:57:16,120 --> 00:57:17,280
Speaker 3: We love that.

1290
00:57:17,280 --> 00:57:19,560
Speaker 2: That's a wise little sage wisdom there. Good things can

1291
00:57:19,640 --> 00:57:22,440
Speaker 2: still happen even if you're sad. Thus far, I have

1292
00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:24,720
Speaker 2: gotten a pay raise at work, and come the new year,

1293
00:57:24,840 --> 00:57:27,760
Speaker 2: I'll be promoted and take over my own store with

1294
00:57:27,880 --> 00:57:29,040
Speaker 2: another pay raise.

1295
00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:30,040
Speaker 3: Nice.

1296
00:57:31,560 --> 00:57:33,920
Speaker 1: I've been going out more and enjoying myself.

1297
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:36,880
Speaker 2: I have concert tickets and hockey tickets that I'm very

1298
00:57:36,920 --> 00:57:39,360
Speaker 2: excited about. I had my son in October, and in

1299
00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:42,480
Speaker 2: January I started eating healthier and I've lost twenty pounds

1300
00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:42,880
Speaker 2: so far.

1301
00:57:43,040 --> 00:57:46,400
Speaker 1: I'm seeing someone sort of are exclusive.

1302
00:57:50,080 --> 00:57:50,720
Speaker 6: That's stritten.

1303
00:57:51,520 --> 00:57:52,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, how is that?

1304
00:57:52,400 --> 00:57:55,360
Speaker 5: But like, oh, like you're going on a day and

1305
00:57:55,400 --> 00:57:56,720
Speaker 5: you're like, yeah, you're not seeing anyone.

1306
00:57:56,840 --> 00:57:58,480
Speaker 1: Well, let's see you do not see anyone? They said,

1307
00:57:59,080 --> 00:57:59,880
Speaker 1: I don't want to see uh.

1308
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:04,280
Speaker 2: Exclusive on accident, just kind of stopped seeing others in

1309
00:58:04,440 --> 00:58:06,920
Speaker 2: favor of each other, but not official. And he makes

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00:58:06,960 --> 00:58:09,000
Speaker 2: me smile. That's like the best way. It's like that

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00:58:09,120 --> 00:58:11,200
Speaker 2: when you're just like both at the same time, Like

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00:58:11,280 --> 00:58:13,080
Speaker 2: I kind of just like want to hang out with

1313
00:58:13,120 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 2: this person, Like, Yeah, I don't need to really hang

1314
00:58:15,880 --> 00:58:19,200
Speaker 2: out with cute Brad, I'm gonna hang out.

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Speaker 3: With oh, p Steve Steve.

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00:58:21,320 --> 00:58:24,560
Speaker 1: I guess yeah, he means Steve Minecraft Steve. So oh.

1317
00:58:24,640 --> 00:58:26,760
Speaker 2: I went to the dealership we got our cars from

1318
00:58:26,840 --> 00:58:29,120
Speaker 2: and found out that X has been telling people that

1319
00:58:29,200 --> 00:58:30,920
Speaker 2: I cheated and was abusive.

1320
00:58:31,240 --> 00:58:34,360
Speaker 5: Ah wow, see, this is why he needed to tell everyone,

1321
00:58:34,440 --> 00:58:36,400
Speaker 5: because he's gonna try and twist the whole story.

1322
00:58:37,160 --> 00:58:40,560
Speaker 2: And you know what, par for the course. Manipulative sociopath

1323
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:43,560
Speaker 2: does not care. They gave me a free oil change

1324
00:58:43,800 --> 00:58:46,720
Speaker 2: because they felt so bad when I broke down. I

1325
00:58:46,840 --> 00:58:48,960
Speaker 2: proved that all was a lie, and I talked to

1326
00:58:49,040 --> 00:58:50,640
Speaker 2: him for a while. I knew he would do that,

1327
00:58:50,680 --> 00:58:52,840
Speaker 2: but it's nice to have proof, and it's exactly why

1328
00:58:52,880 --> 00:58:55,800
Speaker 2: I kept everything I had. As for my husband, the

1329
00:58:55,920 --> 00:58:58,800
Speaker 2: judge officially signed the divorce decree in January.

1330
00:58:59,000 --> 00:58:59,600
Speaker 1: I have been no.

1331
00:58:59,640 --> 00:59:01,960
Speaker 2: Content with him since June of twenty twenty two, so

1332
00:59:02,000 --> 00:59:04,000
Speaker 2: I was not getting a lot of updates until the

1333
00:59:04,200 --> 00:59:06,920
Speaker 2: now ex affair partner messaged me I knew that his

1334
00:59:07,000 --> 00:59:10,240
Speaker 2: car had a REPO order on it hah loser, and

1335
00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:13,480
Speaker 2: that he was struggling dating, but that he had quote

1336
00:59:13,560 --> 00:59:16,520
Speaker 2: found someone. He has his whole family blocked. But on

1337
00:59:16,560 --> 00:59:19,240
Speaker 2: Thanksgiving she messaged me that she had left him and

1338
00:59:19,320 --> 00:59:20,120
Speaker 2: she was sorry.

1339
00:59:20,280 --> 00:59:22,040
Speaker 3: Whoa I turn around ic.

1340
00:59:22,640 --> 00:59:25,040
Speaker 2: I didn't message her back until this month because I

1341
00:59:25,160 --> 00:59:27,960
Speaker 2: just wasn't ready, but I did and found out that

1342
00:59:28,080 --> 00:59:31,320
Speaker 2: he's been fired from three jobs since I left.

1343
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Speaker 1: Him, and now he doesn't have her either.

1344
00:59:34,400 --> 00:59:37,200
Speaker 5: Yes, we love to see ope glowing up and this

1345
00:59:37,280 --> 00:59:40,160
Speaker 5: guy just get crashing down, washing and burning.

1346
00:59:42,640 --> 00:59:43,400
Speaker 3: But that's for you.

1347
00:59:43,880 --> 00:59:47,520
Speaker 2: The sound of his life trajectory just a long fart.

1348
00:59:48,360 --> 00:59:51,000
Speaker 2: I do think he's seeing someone, and I think I

1349
00:59:51,040 --> 00:59:53,240
Speaker 2: figured out who. But I don't want to be involved,

1350
00:59:53,360 --> 00:59:55,760
Speaker 2: even though I want to warn her. I'm torn, but

1351
00:59:55,840 --> 00:59:58,480
Speaker 2: I decided to let him do as he does because

1352
00:59:58,520 --> 01:00:00,440
Speaker 2: I don't want to give him a reason to I

1353
01:00:00,480 --> 01:00:01,360
Speaker 2: think that's the best call.

1354
01:00:01,960 --> 01:00:04,240
Speaker 1: Just she'll figure it out. She will figure it out.

1355
01:00:04,600 --> 01:00:07,320
Speaker 2: He has reached out to my mother once because he

1356
01:00:07,480 --> 01:00:10,240
Speaker 2: was posted in a toxic men Facebook group with a

1357
01:00:10,280 --> 01:00:11,520
Speaker 2: warning for other girls.

1358
01:00:11,560 --> 01:00:17,000
Speaker 5: And that's so funny. That's so funny. He's done this

1359
01:00:17,040 --> 01:00:21,000
Speaker 5: to so many people that someone posted about him. That's great,

1360
01:00:21,080 --> 01:00:24,560
Speaker 5: He's he's your a. Your days are numbered, buddy, it's

1361
01:00:24,760 --> 01:00:26,480
Speaker 5: it's over infamous.

1362
01:00:26,720 --> 01:00:29,200
Speaker 2: Your days of just being able to roam around as

1363
01:00:29,240 --> 01:00:39,200
Speaker 2: a complete trash. You have Yelp reviews. So even then,

1364
01:00:39,560 --> 01:00:42,560
Speaker 2: he didn't even ask how our son was. He has

1365
01:00:42,720 --> 01:00:45,240
Speaker 2: never met him or seen him or asked about him.

1366
01:00:45,280 --> 01:00:47,360
Speaker 2: My in laws are still in my family, and my

1367
01:00:47,480 --> 01:00:50,360
Speaker 2: grandmother in law calls every week to talk to me.

1368
01:00:50,520 --> 01:00:52,680
Speaker 2: My aunt and sister in law are coming to my

1369
01:00:52,760 --> 01:00:55,200
Speaker 2: oldest son's birthday so we can see his cousins on

1370
01:00:55,280 --> 01:00:57,800
Speaker 2: that side and they can see me. So all in all,

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01:00:58,000 --> 01:01:01,120
Speaker 2: I'm doing good and he is not. But I am

1372
01:01:01,200 --> 01:01:04,120
Speaker 2: not official with the guy i'm seeing for a couple

1373
01:01:04,200 --> 01:01:07,360
Speaker 2: of reasons. I'm still paranoid, anxious, in stress, I don't

1374
01:01:07,360 --> 01:01:09,920
Speaker 2: fully trust my instincts, and I am aware of all that.

1375
01:01:10,040 --> 01:01:12,400
Speaker 2: But better things are still happening, and I'm sure it's

1376
01:01:12,440 --> 01:01:14,520
Speaker 2: going to get better. I am excited to one day

1377
01:01:14,560 --> 01:01:17,200
Speaker 2: be fully healed and living a good life. I don't

1378
01:01:17,200 --> 01:01:19,400
Speaker 2: know how long that will take, but that's okay. The

1379
01:01:19,440 --> 01:01:22,000
Speaker 2: Only thing besides all that is that he has yet

1380
01:01:22,040 --> 01:01:24,120
Speaker 2: to pay child support or any of the money he

1381
01:01:24,200 --> 01:01:26,000
Speaker 2: was ordered to pay in the divorce, so we will

1382
01:01:26,000 --> 01:01:28,439
Speaker 2: have to go back to court to enforce that. Who

1383
01:01:28,520 --> 01:01:31,480
Speaker 2: knows what the heck that's gonna bring. I want to

1384
01:01:31,520 --> 01:01:34,800
Speaker 2: bring attention to y'all that you can join us live

1385
01:01:34,840 --> 01:01:37,360
Speaker 2: on YouTube every weekday.

1386
01:01:37,000 --> 01:01:41,480
Speaker 1: At three pm Pacific time. Just tap our prop tap it.

1387
01:01:42,440 --> 01:01:43,160
Speaker 3: Man oh man.

1388
01:01:43,440 --> 01:01:45,080
Speaker 1: I think there's just a little bit left.

1389
01:01:45,280 --> 01:01:47,320
Speaker 2: There's a little edit at the bottom, but yeah, I

1390
01:01:47,360 --> 01:01:49,040
Speaker 2: think brighter days for OPI.

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01:01:49,480 --> 01:01:51,680
Speaker 5: It seems like Opie's life is going in the right

1392
01:01:51,720 --> 01:01:54,000
Speaker 5: direction and and.

1393
01:01:54,000 --> 01:01:55,800
Speaker 1: She just needs more time to heal. Yeah.

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01:01:55,880 --> 01:01:58,640
Speaker 4: I mean, like, don't rush yourself. Little therapy therapy for

1395
01:02:00,080 --> 01:02:03,880
Speaker 4: stop there is beautiful. Yeah, and you know, spend time

1396
01:02:03,920 --> 01:02:04,520
Speaker 4: with your son.

1397
01:02:04,840 --> 01:02:07,840
Speaker 2: You build a really really really big trebuchee. Maybe go

1398
01:02:07,880 --> 01:02:10,400
Speaker 2: to the inate, hurl him into.

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01:02:11,800 --> 01:02:15,000
Speaker 3: And also make the court make him page as word.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh that's huge.

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01:02:16,320 --> 01:02:16,560
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1402
01:02:16,680 --> 01:02:20,240
Speaker 2: Hopefully hopefully that's that that gets worked out quick. In

1403
01:02:20,280 --> 01:02:22,280
Speaker 2: our final edit here, thank you for the award. I

1404
01:02:22,320 --> 01:02:24,200
Speaker 2: feel the love and support from the comments, and I

1405
01:02:24,200 --> 01:02:26,480
Speaker 2: appreciate every single one of you. I can only hope

1406
01:02:26,480 --> 01:02:28,400
Speaker 2: that if someone who is struggling to leave a situation

1407
01:02:28,520 --> 01:02:31,280
Speaker 2: like mine, reads this. They find that strength and respect

1408
01:02:31,320 --> 01:02:34,480
Speaker 2: for themselves to go. Well said, yeah it's hard.

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01:02:34,520 --> 01:02:35,320
Speaker 3: It's hard, situation.

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01:02:35,880 --> 01:02:38,440
Speaker 1: Never stay with somebody who hurts you. It is not

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Speaker 1: worth it. And that is the final note.