WEBVTT - “I’M FINANCIALLY SUPPORTING MY BF" 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:01.720 Call from Lily. 0:00:02.680 --> 0:00:09.640 Hello, h what is your uh Lily, Lily, what's going on? Lily? 0:00:09.680 --> 0:00:10.639 How can I get you today? 0:00:11.720 --> 0:00:16.239 I need some advice on a like relationship issue that 0:00:16.280 --> 0:00:16.920 I've been having. 0:00:17.520 --> 0:00:19.160 Okay, how old are you, Lily? 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:21.200 I'm twenty three. 0:00:21.880 --> 0:00:24.919 Okay, I mean I'll try my best. Dude, all these 0:00:24.960 --> 0:00:27.600 relationship calls, I fucking don't know what I'm talking about, 0:00:27.600 --> 0:00:28.800 but go ahead. 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:37.360 Yeah, no, no worries. So my boyfriend recently quit his 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:45.600 job and he he kind of like ultimately wants to 0:00:45.640 --> 0:00:50.880 be like a stay at home figure kind of uh. 0:00:50.920 --> 0:00:53.680 And I don't mind that I make enough at my 0:00:53.880 --> 0:00:57.400 job that like, that's not really an issue. But my 0:00:57.520 --> 0:01:01.840 issue is that he won't like clean or keep up 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:05.720 with any other like household related stuff while he's also 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:06.120 at home. 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:11.920 Dude, hold on, hold on, hold on. Your boyfriend quit 0:01:12.000 --> 0:01:15.520 his job so that you could bankroll him. 0:01:15.720 --> 0:01:23.199 Yeah, no, not not necessarily. We've we've been together for 0:01:23.600 --> 0:01:25.320 more than a few years at this point. 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:30.240 Okay, what do you mean not necessarily. 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:36.200 Uh, it's it's kind of been like a pre established 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:39.600 thing of like the direction we directions, like we want 0:01:39.600 --> 0:01:42.600 to go in our lives. And I kind of always 0:01:42.720 --> 0:01:47.480 aspired to make enough money to support myself and the 0:01:47.560 --> 0:01:52.360 people around me. If that makes sense, look like it's yeah. 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:56.760 Hold on, So when you say not necessarily, tell tell 0:01:56.760 --> 0:01:59.560 me tell me exactly what that means, because it sounds 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:01.560 like you're friend quit his job so that you could 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:03.720 bankroll them. 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:15.680 Well, no, it's I mean okay, kinda yeah, I guess maybe. 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:17.400 Okay, so your boyfriends quit his job so that you 0:02:17.440 --> 0:02:18.480 could bankroll them? 0:02:19.639 --> 0:02:21.079 Yeah, okay. 0:02:21.919 --> 0:02:24.120 Are you financially supporting your boyfriends? 0:02:25.200 --> 0:02:25.519 Yes? 0:02:26.240 --> 0:02:31.680 Okay, Now tell me why, Like why was that so 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:33.320 difficult for you to admit? 0:02:37.639 --> 0:02:40.240 Because I'm in I'm in denial with myself a little 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:42.239 a little bit maybe. Okay. 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:46.680 How long have you been with your boyfriend? 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:50.280 About three years now? 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:58.760 Okay? What does he do for you while you bankroll him? 0:02:58.760 --> 0:03:03.720 Well, he's to take care of the house and uh, 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:06.680 you know, like wandery and like you know, like homemaker 0:03:06.720 --> 0:03:08.440 responsibilities per se. 0:03:10.040 --> 0:03:12.040 What does that mean exactly? Take care of the house, 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:14.840 Like he's gonna like cook for you and clean the 0:03:14.880 --> 0:03:17.200 house and what are the plants? 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:18.520 Well? 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:22.919 Yeah, okay, has he been doing those things? 0:03:24.960 --> 0:03:25.040 No? 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:26.560 And that's the issue. 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:28.600 How old is your boyfriend? 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:31.040 He is also twenty three. 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:36.280 Okay, And when he said, Babe, I'm gonna quit my 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:38.640 job and take care of the plants, what did you say? 0:03:43.840 --> 0:03:47.800 Ah, there's there's some box throw to it, but uh, 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:52.800 at that point I was alright with it and understanding 0:03:52.840 --> 0:03:58.560 of it. It's it's been like a pretty difficult couple 0:03:58.640 --> 0:04:03.520 of years for him in general. His father passed like 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:08.760 kind of suddenly fairly recently, and he lost a couple 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:11.720 of their close family members in relation to that in 0:04:11.760 --> 0:04:18.360 like a short period of time. And yeah, I don't know, 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:21.800 teaching some support when we met. I also needed a 0:04:21.800 --> 0:04:26.800 lot of support. I was homeless when we met, and 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:28.680 he kind of like helped me through that. 0:04:28.880 --> 0:04:30.719 So it kind of liked so there was a period 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:35.320 of time where he was financially supporting you. Yeah, okay. 0:04:37.200 --> 0:04:40.080 And when you say take care of the house, I mean, 0:04:40.080 --> 0:04:41.280 do you guys have a kid together? 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:46.840 No? We have like cats, but definitely no. 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:52.800 Okay, listen, dude, I don't want to get into what 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:57.400 why can't he work a job by himself? 0:05:01.120 --> 0:05:03.400 And I guess question. 0:05:05.480 --> 0:05:09.039 There's this dude, I've been very inspired lately. There's this guy. 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:12.520 I'm gonna shout this guy out. There's this dude on YouTube. 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:16.960 His name is Caleb Hammer, and he does these I don't. 0:05:16.960 --> 0:05:20.000 I have no idea why people agree to go hunt 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:23.839 on his show because it's just him yelling at them. 0:05:24.120 --> 0:05:26.239 And I've been watching and I'm like, should I should 0:05:26.279 --> 0:05:29.120 yell at people more a little bit? So I'm inspired 0:05:29.160 --> 0:05:36.040 by him and I'm not gonna yell at you. But dude, 0:05:37.240 --> 0:05:40.800 so this guy, I mean, if this dude quit his 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:44.440 job so that you could bankroll him and he's not 0:05:44.640 --> 0:05:48.360 even doing like the bare minimum of what he said 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:54.360 he would do as a problem. Yeah, and plus, you 0:05:54.440 --> 0:05:57.400 guys are only twenty three, like he should. He should 0:05:57.480 --> 0:06:03.120 desire to have his own life at twenty three and 0:06:03.160 --> 0:06:07.240 not beginning bankrolled by you. And you also at twenty 0:06:07.279 --> 0:06:12.680 three should be like financially like setting yourself up in 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:15.359 it to be in a good position, instead of bankrolling 0:06:15.400 --> 0:06:21.960 your boyfriend who's not even taken care of his minor responsibilities. 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:27.279 Yeah, yeah, yeah, I agree that that is fair. 0:06:28.680 --> 0:06:30.320 So why are you doing this? 0:06:33.360 --> 0:06:38.839 Uh? Again, I don't know. Generally, I feel like financially 0:06:39.000 --> 0:06:42.880 comfortable enough to do it, and I also feel like, again, 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:44.720 like some of it's kind of tied back to how 0:06:44.800 --> 0:06:46.919 much he helped me out, like when I was homeless 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:50.160 when we first met and kind of how all that 0:06:50.279 --> 0:06:50.800 played out. 0:06:51.680 --> 0:06:53.320 I mean, do you want to? I mean, you know, 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:55.440 there's another thing I like by kayleb Haanmer's show. He 0:06:55.480 --> 0:06:58.000 gets into specifics. Do you want to get into specifics? 0:06:58.080 --> 0:07:00.600 Like like, you don't have to tell me how much 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:02.440 money you make if you don't want to, but you're 0:07:02.640 --> 0:07:04.640 you say you're making enough to support two people? 0:07:06.000 --> 0:07:10.360 Yeah, okay, yes, it's close to like like one hundred 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:12.040 to one years. 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:14.120 And where do you live? 0:07:15.800 --> 0:07:16.960 Uh, Denver, Colorado? 0:07:17.760 --> 0:07:27.480 Okay, I still think that, you know what, I've been trying. 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:31.320 You know what, dude, I've been trying really hard because 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:33.880 I feel like the whole point of my show sometimes 0:07:34.000 --> 0:07:36.120 is like I'm just gonna stay neutral while people tell 0:07:36.200 --> 0:07:39.239 me stuff. But I can't. I can't keep doing that. Dude. 0:07:39.280 --> 0:07:41.880 What you can't bankroll your boyfriend? You can't do that? 0:07:43.560 --> 0:07:44.720 Okay, Okay, that's fair. 0:07:45.240 --> 0:07:46.960 I mean do I mean again, and the read I 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:49.239 don't feel good saying that because it's your fucking life. 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:51.560 You do whatever you want. But if you're calling me 0:07:51.640 --> 0:07:53.480 and you're asking me what I think about the situation, 0:07:53.560 --> 0:07:55.520 I think it's a horrible idea. 0:07:56.680 --> 0:08:00.000 Okay, Okay, I understand. So so from here, should I 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:06.080 perhaps like set up a conversation about different expectations and 0:08:06.200 --> 0:08:07.200 terms of that, like. 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:11.400 Yeah, totally, yeah, yeah, tell him, by the way, by 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:14.400 the way, I mean this, if you love this guy. 0:08:15.240 --> 0:08:17.280 Do you love this guy? 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:17.920 Yeah? 0:08:18.000 --> 0:08:18.560 Yeah it is. 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:23.200 Do you want him to have a good life? Yeah, 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:26.480 then tell him to get a fucking job and build 0:08:26.520 --> 0:08:29.600 his own life and not have be on your payroll, 0:08:30.240 --> 0:08:32.439 because that's what's gonna make his life better more than 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:34.720 you paying for him to exist. 0:08:35.960 --> 0:08:38.680 Okay, all right, that's fair. I would agree with that. 0:08:39.320 --> 0:08:43.880 Okay, anything else about this situation. 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:50.600 And not not this one specifically, if if you need 0:08:50.600 --> 0:08:52.439 to get onto another color, I understand. 0:08:52.960 --> 0:08:53.240 Uh. 0:08:53.320 --> 0:08:55.240 If you want to hear about my mom, that's also 0:08:55.720 --> 0:08:56.839 something exciting, but. 0:08:57.440 --> 0:08:59.000 I'm time to hear. I'm down to hear about your mom. 0:08:59.040 --> 0:09:01.480 What's up with your mom? I'm on a roll right now, 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:04.440 by the way, So I might tell your mom to 0:09:04.440 --> 0:09:07.360 go fuck herself or congratulations. I don't know what the 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:08.960 situation is, but go ahead. 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:13.000 I mean I would say go fuck herself, like with 0:09:13.000 --> 0:09:18.920 her mom. So also kind of connected to this growing 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:22.320 up My mom initially was a great mom. My dad 0:09:22.400 --> 0:09:26.200 kind of kind of peaced out when I was like 0:09:26.480 --> 0:09:32.079 fourteen or so, moved to another state suddenly, and then 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:37.400 my mom kind of lost her shit completely and started 0:09:37.440 --> 0:09:45.640 doing a lot of coke and other nefarious substances, and 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:48.240 it spiraled a lot of shit out of control for 0:09:48.280 --> 0:09:53.760 a minute, and I ended up moving out at a 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:58.079 young age. Hence kind of my predicament. When I first 0:09:58.160 --> 0:10:03.800 met my boyfriend and then we got together, and then 0:10:03.840 --> 0:10:07.720 my mom showed him at my door one day and 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:12.520 we ended up talking and I let her move in, 0:10:15.120 --> 0:10:19.760 which wasn't the best idea in hindsight. We had a 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:23.520 one bedroom apartment at the time, and she ended up 0:10:23.559 --> 0:10:34.600 crashing on the couch in the living room. And she 0:10:34.760 --> 0:10:38.199 was sober when she first moved in, started raising substances 0:10:38.240 --> 0:10:40.120 about like halfway through in the like month or two 0:10:40.200 --> 0:10:46.840 or so, and we're fairly certain she tried to poison us. 0:10:49.600 --> 0:10:51.840 I'm sorry, she tried to poison you. 0:10:53.240 --> 0:11:00.720 Yeah, yeah, so I guess some content text on that 0:11:03.000 --> 0:11:06.960 we didn't. We never have like tea or sugar or 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:09.320 anything in the house usually, like at that point in 0:11:09.360 --> 0:11:11.839 our lives, we were like living off dollar store food 0:11:11.960 --> 0:11:15.200 for the most part, but like first apartment, everything like 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:18.960 getting established from from ground zero, you know, we didn't 0:11:18.960 --> 0:11:22.320 have like tea anything like that. Came home from work 0:11:22.360 --> 0:11:28.560 one day and she had made sweet BlackBerry tea and 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:34.640 it was like very dark purple, almost black, and she 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:36.160 was like, hey, guys, like I made I may tell 0:11:36.200 --> 0:11:39.520 us them like some sweet tea would really appreciate if 0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:42.720 y'all have. I had some of it, like I'm really 0:11:42.720 --> 0:11:46.199 proud of it, really like pushing us to drink the tea. 0:11:46.800 --> 0:11:50.040 I had about like a half tip of it, and 0:11:50.120 --> 0:11:52.360 then I ended up spinning it into the scene because 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:56.679 it was like so unbelievably sweet that it it just 0:11:56.720 --> 0:11:59.199 like I I spit it out. It was like gross. 0:11:59.800 --> 0:12:04.880 And we didn't again, like still didn't have any like 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:07.280 like black tea, sugar anything to make it like dark 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:11.080 blue purple or anything like that. And we're fairly certain 0:12:11.080 --> 0:12:15.160 that there was uh ani freeze in it. My boyfriend 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:17.480 did end up drinking some of it because he thought 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:20.599 that it was just like an overreaction, and then he 0:12:20.720 --> 0:12:22.720 ended up in the er for a couple of days 0:12:23.600 --> 0:12:30.680 uh with very severe uh like kidney intestinal issues and 0:12:30.720 --> 0:12:35.160 stuff like that. And then moving forward from that, my 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:39.199 mom just kept pushing buttons. Uh. His dad had recently 0:12:39.240 --> 0:12:43.520 passed away, and she would call my ex husband on 0:12:43.600 --> 0:12:49.880 speakerphone and tell him how like his dad must have 0:12:49.920 --> 0:12:53.600 been a piece of shit for like raising somebody like that, 0:12:53.800 --> 0:12:59.200 which was completely unwarranted and uh because obviously like she 0:12:59.240 --> 0:13:02.000 had never like met him or anything like that at 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:06.000 that Like ever, it was like simply to push buttons 0:13:06.040 --> 0:13:08.880 and be rude. So we asked her to leave, and 0:13:08.960 --> 0:13:13.559 she refused to leave, and we eat like we both 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:17.520 smoke weed, you know, And the day before we were 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:20.959 supposed to move out, she packed me a bowl and 0:13:21.440 --> 0:13:25.839 had me smoke it like have first hit off of it. 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:30.280 And I am pretty positive that she drugged me in 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:31.120 that process. 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:35.439 Okay, okay, all right, all right, poison me wants shame 0:13:35.480 --> 0:13:35.920 on you. 0:13:37.480 --> 0:13:41.280 Yeah yeah, I mean yeah, it sounds like easy like 0:13:41.320 --> 0:13:43.400 that when I when it's laid out like that, But 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:46.800 through the process of it, it was very uh. And 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:49.440 it's your mom too, you know, like I really want 0:13:49.440 --> 0:13:50.800 to think the best of her, But. 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:54.520 That did you find out whether or not she I 0:13:54.520 --> 0:13:56.600 feel like we glossed over that a bit too quickly. 0:13:56.640 --> 0:13:59.640 Did you find out whether or not that was anti freeze. 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:04.280 I'm pretty positive that it was, because nothing else makes sense, 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:07.720 and she She's definitely the type of person to do 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:09.040 such a thing, I think. 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:14.960 Okay, So where are you at with your mom right now? 0:14:15.200 --> 0:14:17.160 Is she? What's the deal? 0:14:18.400 --> 0:14:21.280 So I've been no contact with her for about a 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:26.760 year at this point. Ye, and it's been really nice. 0:14:27.560 --> 0:14:30.360 I'm really sorry. I'm really sorry to hear that. By 0:14:30.360 --> 0:14:31.800 the way, that's that's really awful. 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:36.240 I mean, it's it's life, you know, like character building 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:37.920 experiences or something. 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:46.120 I have think sasaidia, But go go ahead. 0:14:46.840 --> 0:14:51.760 Yeah, I don't know. Uh. Again, it's just a difficult thing. 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:54.280 I don't know. I want to talk to her. She 0:14:54.360 --> 0:14:56.880 keeps getting new numbers and trying to contact me, and 0:14:56.920 --> 0:15:00.400 I keep walking her on them and not speaking. But 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:02.240 I want, I want to believe that she would change 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:06.840 for the better or or so forth. But I I 0:15:06.880 --> 0:15:09.240 don't know. Like she she's my mom, but also like 0:15:09.280 --> 0:15:13.120 given past experiences, I'm not sure what to do. 0:15:15.280 --> 0:15:21.720 Yeah, can you can you forgive somebody for poisoning you? 0:15:21.800 --> 0:15:27.480 I mean, I don't know, man, that's uh, that's fucking crazy. 0:15:27.640 --> 0:15:31.840 That's really, really, really fucking crazy. I mean she should 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:33.080 be in jail for that. 0:15:35.360 --> 0:15:41.520 Yeah she Yeah, she's a tricky person. 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:44.640 Lily. Can I ask you, aside from your mom and 0:15:44.680 --> 0:15:47.160 your boyfriend, who who else do you have in your life? 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:47.840 Do you have friends? 0:15:50.560 --> 0:15:53.200 I have some friends, but but they're back in my hometown. 0:15:53.920 --> 0:15:57.840 Uh yeah, So who's in Denvers? 0:15:57.880 --> 0:15:58.840 It just you and your boyfriend? 0:16:00.280 --> 0:16:00.720 Yeah, my. 0:16:02.200 --> 0:16:05.960 Dad lives fairly close by, but we're obviously not very close. 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:08.280 Are you and your dad aren't cool? 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:13.560 We're trying to be cool, but it's it's not necessarily 0:16:13.600 --> 0:16:14.320 like comfortable. 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:18.920 M Do you want to go into detail about that 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:19.480 or not? 0:16:22.880 --> 0:16:34.480 I can nothing specific? Sorry, what we're gonna say? Uh yeah, yeah, 0:16:34.520 --> 0:16:39.360 nothing specific. I moved out here after leaving my my 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:44.520 ex and kind of like re established close to family 0:16:45.080 --> 0:16:50.280 in just in case, and then we recently started talking 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:52.880 again and we're trying to be cool. He's trying to 0:16:53.160 --> 0:16:55.640 again like help me, like set me up and make 0:16:55.880 --> 0:17:00.560 better decisions for my foreseeable future, but also kind of 0:17:00.560 --> 0:17:02.840 awkward because he I feel like he's trying to be 0:17:02.880 --> 0:17:04.720 a dad, but like a little a little bit. 0:17:04.640 --> 0:17:11.840 Too late, Lily. So okay, so it's you and your dad, 0:17:11.880 --> 0:17:13.760 So it's you and your dad. Okay, so do you 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:15.200 I mean, do you have a social life outside of 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:16.760 your boyfriend and your family? 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:18.679 Not? 0:17:18.960 --> 0:17:22.200 Really? I work on average like fifty to sixty hours 0:17:22.200 --> 0:17:22.560 a week. 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:24.840 Okay, what do you do? 0:17:24.920 --> 0:17:27.680 By the way, I'm a dog groomer. 0:17:28.280 --> 0:17:30.119 You're a dog groomer. Do you work for yourself or 0:17:30.119 --> 0:17:31.080 do you work for a company? 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:35.439 I work for a company, Lily. 0:17:36.920 --> 0:17:42.879 Yes, you're a very very very sweet person. And I 0:17:42.960 --> 0:17:47.840 really admire the fact that you have gone through so 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:52.840 much adversity in your life and seem to have not 0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:57.280 only put yourself in a position where you're financially doing well, 0:17:57.800 --> 0:18:00.679 but more important than that, put yourself for the position 0:18:00.720 --> 0:18:06.919 where your perspective is also really good, you know. And 0:18:06.960 --> 0:18:09.880 so I admire that a lot, and I and I 0:18:10.000 --> 0:18:13.960 want you. I beg you to take all the extra 0:18:14.080 --> 0:18:17.600 money that you're earning from your job that you're using 0:18:17.600 --> 0:18:24.159 to support your boyfriend and fucking buy a house, invest it, 0:18:24.680 --> 0:18:28.800 put it in a savings account, do fucking anything except 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:32.600 for use it to bankroll your boyfriend. Please. 0:18:32.760 --> 0:18:32.800 You. 0:18:33.119 --> 0:18:36.679 You have gone through a lot in life, and you 0:18:36.760 --> 0:18:42.520 deserve to set yourself up for a very nice rest 0:18:42.560 --> 0:18:49.679 of your life. And after you know, giving yourself to 0:18:49.760 --> 0:18:52.560 your mom and giving yourself to your boyfriend, and giving 0:18:52.600 --> 0:18:56.080 yourself to all these other things, please start to make 0:18:56.160 --> 0:19:00.159 decisions in your life that benefit you because you deserve it. 0:19:00.200 --> 0:19:01.840 I don't know if anyone, I don't know if you 0:19:01.880 --> 0:19:05.639 have anyone that will tell you that, but you know, 0:19:05.720 --> 0:19:08.760 hear it from the frog guy from the internet that 0:19:08.840 --> 0:19:12.840 you deserve to make some decisions that benefit you in 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:15.080 your life. 0:19:15.400 --> 0:19:15.720 Thank you. 0:19:15.760 --> 0:19:16.760 I appreciate it a lot. 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:28.479 Okay, Jesus Christ. How long have you been grooming dogs? 0:19:28.480 --> 0:19:33.800 For about a year now. I've been working with dogs 0:19:33.800 --> 0:19:37.200 for two years or so, but trimming and stuff about 0:19:37.200 --> 0:19:37.480 a year. 0:19:38.119 --> 0:19:42.360 What's your like if you can, I'm very curious if 0:19:42.359 --> 0:19:45.280 you could do anything like if imagine any kind of 0:19:45.280 --> 0:19:47.080 a life for yourself. What would it look like. 0:19:49.640 --> 0:19:55.119 Being a veterinarian for like large farm animals on like farms, 0:19:55.440 --> 0:19:59.320 like horses, cows, got stuff like that. 0:20:00.040 --> 0:20:03.240 M hm. Did you go to college? 0:20:03.800 --> 0:20:08.400 I almost got my degree. I'm five or so credits away. 0:20:08.480 --> 0:20:11.919 But life got kind of crazy and I took a 0:20:11.920 --> 0:20:12.480 little break. 0:20:13.160 --> 0:20:16.640 Okay. Can I ask why you took a. 0:20:16.560 --> 0:20:25.320 Break because of my leaving my ex, divorce and such Okay. 0:20:25.400 --> 0:20:29.199 It sounds like so you're yeah, you're you mentioned an 0:20:29.200 --> 0:20:33.280 next husband. Yeah, okay, and I assume that didn't. 0:20:33.080 --> 0:20:36.520 Go too well, not ideal? 0:20:37.320 --> 0:20:44.760 Okay, okay, Lily, Yes, do you want to go back 0:20:44.800 --> 0:20:46.240 to school? Do you want to get your credits? 0:20:47.920 --> 0:20:51.919 Yeah? I would, Yeah, that's the goal, Lily. 0:20:52.080 --> 0:20:58.080 Don't please don't let I don't know what your deals 0:20:58.080 --> 0:21:01.360 with your current boyfriend, but don't fucking let And if 0:21:01.359 --> 0:21:03.960 you're making enough money for you to go back to 0:21:04.000 --> 0:21:07.919 school to do this thing, please don't spend it on 0:21:07.960 --> 0:21:11.880 your boyfriend. Please don't get your boyfriend, your mom, your dad, 0:21:11.920 --> 0:21:16.800 your ex husband, or anybody stop you from going back 0:21:16.800 --> 0:21:18.400 to school and getting those credits. 0:21:21.520 --> 0:21:22.479 Will do, thank you? 0:21:23.119 --> 0:21:29.600 Okay, all right? Is there anything else you want to 0:21:29.720 --> 0:21:31.480 want to talk about her say to the people of 0:21:31.480 --> 0:21:35.080 the computer before we go, Uh? 0:21:35.760 --> 0:21:39.520 Nothing specifically. I hope everyone has an awesome night and 0:21:39.600 --> 0:21:41.399 a happy memorial. 0:21:40.920 --> 0:21:44.280 To take care, Lily, have a good rest of the night, 0:21:45.480 --> 0:21:52.400 you little goodbye. What a tough what a tough racket, 0:21:52.800 --> 0:21:54.560 What a tough racket? And you could just hear in 0:21:55.320 --> 0:22:00.719 that girl's voice, how how she's she's really a sweet person? 0:22:01.280 --> 0:22:05.480 Who I mean between everything right, between my fucking mom 0:22:05.840 --> 0:22:09.399 tried to kill me. Should I should I should I 0:22:09.480 --> 0:22:14.280 let her back into my life? You know, I want 0:22:14.320 --> 0:22:18.720 to support my boyfriend just like the sound of a 0:22:18.760 --> 0:22:23.480 person who like it seems as though it's been spending 0:22:23.520 --> 0:22:27.199 her whole life like trying to do things for other people. 0:22:28.359 --> 0:22:31.040 I hope she hears. I hope she fucking listens to 0:22:31.119 --> 0:22:36.840 me and decides to fuck all those people and do 0:22:36.960 --> 0:22:41.320 something like you know, I quit my just going to 0:22:41.359 --> 0:22:43.760 school because of my ex husband. Just someone who's been 0:22:43.800 --> 0:22:48.200 doing things for other people her whole life. Please, Dear God, 0:22:48.880 --> 0:22:53.879 don't give your fucking piece of shit boyfriend another penny 0:22:55.119 --> 0:22:57.800 and go back to school and do your own thing 0:22:57.880 --> 0:23:03.159 and make decisions for your own life. Please. I've been 0:23:03.160 --> 0:23:04.720 talking about this a lot on this on this show, 0:23:05.119 --> 0:23:09.959 on this podcast recently. Is the idea of like a 0:23:09.960 --> 0:23:13.679 lot of life being perspective, and it's something it's a 0:23:13.720 --> 0:23:18.159 recurring theme I noticed as I'm talking to people, because again, 0:23:18.400 --> 0:23:23.320 like Lily, like her mom tries to kill her, her 0:23:23.440 --> 0:23:26.040 ex husband fucks up her dreams. I don't know if 0:23:26.040 --> 0:23:30.720 that's exactly what happened, but whatever, she's getting leeched off 0:23:30.760 --> 0:23:37.040 of by this guy, and yet just maintains a really sweet, 0:23:37.080 --> 0:23:40.000 positive demeanor, and I respect the hell out of that. 0:23:40.760 --> 0:23:45.320 I think that she deserves to have a life where 0:23:45.480 --> 0:23:48.600 she's serving herself. And I really, I literally. I don't 0:23:48.600 --> 0:23:50.920 know if you can hear this or if you listen 0:23:50.960 --> 0:23:54.480 to the show, but please I call back call back 0:23:54.560 --> 0:23:58.640 text in, whether it's a month from now, a year 0:23:58.680 --> 0:24:01.000 from now, a week from now, whatever, or callback text in. 0:24:01.040 --> 0:24:05.720 I want to hear an update on this. Thanks for Colin, 0:24:05.800 --> 0:24:09.000 Thanks for sharing your story. Attention listeners of the Therapy 0:24:09.040 --> 0:24:12.480 Gecko podcast. 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They're always wild, they're always unpredictable, 0:25:19.320 --> 0:25:20.560 and I hope to see you guys there. 0:25:23.600 --> 0:25:25.840 Hello, Hello, hey Lyle, how are you. 0:25:26.160 --> 0:25:27.760 I'm doing all right? Brother? What's your name? 0:25:28.680 --> 0:25:28.800 Uh? 0:25:28.880 --> 0:25:30.880 You call me art Art? Yeah? 0:25:31.080 --> 0:25:34.800