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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Becatilly, an iHeartRadio podcast. Well, hey, guys,

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Speaker 1: it is not Becatilly, it's Tanya. I'm here. I'm holding

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Speaker 1: down the fort because Becca is on the phone. Actually

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Speaker 1: she Hey, everybody.

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Speaker 2: Oh Mecca, Becca's got an emergency.

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Speaker 3: She had an emergency.

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Speaker 1: Becca, do you want to explain where you are and.

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Speaker 3: What's going on?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm at the hair salon. See, here's the problem.

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Speaker 4: I have premature gray hair, so it takes me a

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Speaker 4: long time when I'm at the salon and I have

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Speaker 4: to make my priorities the way they are soured.

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Speaker 2: Four hours for her hair and she's still not done.

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Speaker 4: It's not my fault, it's my hair's fault. I can't

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Speaker 4: help it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I get it. I get it. I don't.

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Speaker 4: I don't Amy. That is such a lie.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm just I'm really sad. First of all, I'm

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Speaker 1: sad that you're not here, but I'm sad because Teddy

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Speaker 1: Mellencamp is here.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Wives of Beverly Hills and just our accountability coach.

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Speaker 6: We have all times to flag Becca. Come on, I

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Speaker 6: was holding you accountable.

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Speaker 3: You asked me to be here.

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Speaker 4: I know this is the problem. I I kind of

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Speaker 4: thought you'd get onto me for my eating habits, and

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Speaker 4: so I tried to plan a way to not have

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Speaker 4: to freak your head on.

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Speaker 6: No, I mean, let's be honest.

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Speaker 7: I had to start following you in order to get

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Speaker 7: stock more stocker ish towards Tanya, and I did realize

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Speaker 7: your diet or your doctor pepper and take is a

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Speaker 7: little hot.

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Speaker 2: I know you need Teddy more than anyone, Becca.

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Speaker 5: Butters or pop tarts.

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Speaker 4: Wow, okay, Wow, I feel attacked. I feel attacked.

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Speaker 6: No, maybe you have a reason for it.

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Speaker 4: It helps me. I think I'm prettier when I drink

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Speaker 4: doctor pepper.

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Speaker 6: Whatever empowers you.

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Speaker 4: I feel better about myself. I have more energy.

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Speaker 2: But how is your hair? Becca?

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Speaker 4: It's looking good, y'all, it's looking good. We're blow drying.

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Speaker 4: I'm going back to Blander.

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Speaker 3: So you should be here.

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Speaker 2: You should be here almost by the time we finish

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Speaker 2: our interview with Teddy.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I should be made like walking in as soon

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Speaker 4: as as soon as it's.

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Speaker 6: Over ending, as soon as as soon as our time

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Speaker 6: here is over, you'll be here, right.

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Speaker 4: I might just listen in, and so I might not

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Speaker 4: time in as much because I got to focus on

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Speaker 4: my hair, but I might listen so I can hear

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Speaker 4: all the advice you have to get, because I genuinely

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Speaker 4: am curious about what you do because it's so opposite

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Speaker 4: of my lifestyle.

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Speaker 2: And everyone listening understands because our hair is our number one.

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Speaker 3: That's true.

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Speaker 2: We're not going to judge you this time.

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Speaker 3: But it's so crazy because I talk.

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Speaker 1: I mean, Becca is my best friend and I talk

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Speaker 1: about you all the time, so I feel like she

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Speaker 1: knows so much, Like you're such a big part of

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Speaker 1: we're all kind of in this circle together.

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Speaker 6: No, I mean you're Becca, you are in to enter

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Speaker 6: circle with me now as well, because you're influencing Tanya here.

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Speaker 4: I know when she told me you started following me

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Speaker 4: and like stalks my stories, I got like I think

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Speaker 4: I think about it now and I never did it before.

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Speaker 2: You know what, that's the point, Tanya, Can you explain

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Speaker 2: for everyone listening, Okay, how you know Teddy what Teddy does?

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Speaker 2: And then crazily, Teddy is also a real housewife of

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Speaker 1: Yes, okay, So Teddy is a accountability coach. That is,

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Speaker 1: All you need is a plan, your plan and a street.

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Speaker 2: Can you be more specific on what we're talking about, like,

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Speaker 2: is it focused on exercise and diet or health?

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Speaker 7: It's health and wellness. But everything's tied in together. We

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Speaker 7: don't realize it, but that promotion at work is tied

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Speaker 7: about yourself. If you're not feeling good about yourself and

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Speaker 7: you're looking to them to make you feel better, you're

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Speaker 7: to be able to make the changes that you need to.

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Speaker 6: Make for yourself.

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Speaker 7: So it's constantly empowering women to know that they can

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Speaker 6: Calling them on their own bullshit because sometimes.

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Speaker 7: Your friend or your husband or your coworker is sick

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Speaker 7: you through it because I have lived it. I myself

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Speaker 7: have struggled with health and wellness and all of those

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Speaker 2: Curious, okay, because everybody always says like, you gotta be

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Speaker 7: You're allowed to lean on people whenever you really want to,

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Speaker 7: but first you have to look inside yourself. Yeah, there

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Speaker 7: are some days I don't want to get up and run,

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Speaker 7: and there are some days on that run I am

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Speaker 7: Then once I've processed it, if I'm still feeling a

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Speaker 7: You're clear posed at first when your first upset and

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Speaker 1: And also for me, I hit this point where I

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Speaker 2: Do you tell Tanya to do well.

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Speaker 7: I'm not going to give you all of the specifics,

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Speaker 7: I'm feeling really great today, great, run push your very

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you. It's the craziest thing. I've seen a

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Speaker 2: Person you talk on the phone or text we text, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: It's very focused on diet and exercise. It yes, it's

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Speaker 7: Like to say it's a lifestyle change, not a diet, right.

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Speaker 7: A diet is something you do temporarily. A lifestyle change

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Speaker 7: You want people to touch you, you want experience this

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Speaker 6: Two easy things?

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Speaker 7: The second thing is be active for one hour a day.

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Speaker 6: Starting to build a lifestyle where around that.

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Speaker 6: And then you know what, we can all feel bad

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Speaker 5: What was the third one? Eat two to three hours

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Speaker 6: Oh, well, that kind of show. Well I met my husband.

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Speaker 7: I was walking in a nightclub and he was walking out,

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Speaker 6: I mean, we met, don't know what night.

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Speaker 2: No, I love that story.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I like it too.

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Speaker 6: I mean, oh, no, you are you judging me a

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Speaker 7: No, we met, and honestly, the next day I was like, Edward,

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Speaker 7: And truthfully, had we not had that like kind of awkward,

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Speaker 6: And he's like, you kept that bad boy under wraps.

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Speaker 2: I'm googling him right now.

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Speaker 6: Oh no, the first I'm from the South.

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Speaker 6: Where's that? Like confident, fun woman?

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Speaker 6: Right, you know, it's balance.

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Speaker 3: Uh uh.

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Speaker 6: Well, thanks, I think you know.

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Speaker 7: The deal that I've made with myself when I signed

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Speaker 7: I mean, it's I think filming it versus watching it now,

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Speaker 6: You're very in your head when you're filming it.

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Speaker 7: when we're not tired, and we're not dreading it because

443
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Speaker 7: what was happening when we were doing date night.

444
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Speaker 6: We're both exhausted.

445
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Speaker 7: It's nine o'clock at night, we've worked full days, or

446
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Speaker 7: it's the weekend and we've been with our kids all

447
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Speaker 7: day and now we're paying a babysitter to watch our

448
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Speaker 7: kids sleep, which if your parent is ridiculous.

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Speaker 6: You know.

450
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Speaker 7: So now, yeah, a couple of hours out of a Sunday,

451
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Speaker 7: you know, we'll go to church in the morning with

452
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Speaker 7: our kids, and then in the afternoon we'll go do

453
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Speaker 7: a workout or do something fun together.

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Speaker 3: So we're excited to do it, right.

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Speaker 6: Dreading having to do plans with somebody you love is

456
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Speaker 6: not ideal.

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Speaker 4: Right, I want to cut to the chase because as

458
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Speaker 4: much as I need health and wellness advice, I also

459
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Speaker 4: need dating advice, So, like, what do you have in

460
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Speaker 4: that area for us?

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Speaker 7: My only dating advice is don't play games. There's absolutely

462
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Speaker 7: no need for games because somebody's either gonna like you

463
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Speaker 7: enough that they don't care, or they don't they're just

464
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Speaker 7: not that into you.

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Speaker 6: That's the truth.

466
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Speaker 7: If somebody isn't giving you what you need, they're just

467
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Speaker 7: not that into you.

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Speaker 5: Can you keep Tanya accountable on that.

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Speaker 6: I haven't brought men.

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Speaker 3: Up, by the way, that's true.

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Speaker 1: I think I've been on one date since I've been

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Speaker 1: working with you, and it was so funny because I was.

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Speaker 6: Just like, I think you were like, I can't I

474
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Speaker 6: I'm just I'm going on a date tonight. It was

475
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Speaker 6: very you brushed over it.

476
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Speaker 3: I did not care.

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Speaker 6: But I think that that's a big thing. You know.

478
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Speaker 6: I have girlfriends that are like, oh, you know, should

479
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Speaker 6: I not text back?

480
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Speaker 7: Or should I do whatever it is that you feel

481
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Speaker 7: if they like you, they don't care.

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Speaker 6: They really don't.

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Speaker 5: Wow play some games.

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Speaker 1: I play some games, but bea play be could play

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Speaker 1: some games. But twenty eighteen, we are not overthinking. We're

486
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Speaker 1: just doing you.

487
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Speaker 7: Just be you, And if somebody is gonna love you

488
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Speaker 7: for you, there's nothing that you're gonna be able to

489
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Speaker 7: manipul bulate some sort of game with a text message.

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Speaker 6: Or a plan.

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Speaker 1: I met this guy on a dating app and they

492
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Speaker 1: were like, what was your opening line? I said, Happy Saturday?

493
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Speaker 1: And they were like, Oh, Tanya, that's so bad.

494
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Speaker 3: I'm like, it's just me.

495
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Speaker 1: That's just how I am. Happy Saturday. It's a wonderful,

496
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Speaker 1: beautiful Saturday, and that's me. And guess what he wrote back?

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Speaker 1: He did bea do you hate it?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 6: Was it Sunday?

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Speaker 5: Wait? What did he say?

501
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Speaker 3: He said, happy Saturday? What do you have planned today?

502
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Speaker 5: Oh?

503
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Speaker 3: Thank you?

504
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Speaker 6: I know.

505
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Speaker 3: We're still acted.

506
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Speaker 5: I love it.

507
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Speaker 6: Thank you. When are you going out?

508
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Speaker 3: Well?

509
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Speaker 6: Are you planning for your cheap No?

510
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Speaker 1: No, he he's not gonna be town for the next month,

511
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Speaker 1: so I don't know.

512
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Speaker 3: He's a football player.

513
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Speaker 7: Oh, come on, I thought it was the one thing.

514
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Speaker 1: You know, we're all.

515
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Speaker 6: I just wistberded.

516
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Speaker 1: I felt its public knowledge.

517
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Speaker 4: We talked about this too often.

518
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Speaker 3: Actually it's not Timbo.

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Speaker 6: I feel like we could get this football player.

520
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Speaker 1: I don't want to say his name.

521
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Speaker 2: That's fine, but way to go. And he's still in it.

522
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Speaker 2: He's still in the playoffs.

523
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Speaker 6: Yes, he sure is bad guy.

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Speaker 2: Wish you could right now because I know.

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Speaker 1: Nothing about football, so I don't know anything about.

526
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Speaker 2: His happy Saturday.

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Speaker 1: No wonder I don't have anything about his I don't

528
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Speaker 1: know anything about the team or anything.

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Speaker 4: So wait, we're sure it's like American football and not like.

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Speaker 1: Football American American football. He actually played in college with

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Speaker 1: one of my best friends.

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Speaker 4: Oh wow, I like this.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, it's very fresh and literally two days in, two

534
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Speaker 7: days in Yeah, I mean, I don't know that this

535
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Speaker 7: is necessarily playing a game, but I hopefully.

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Speaker 2: Listen to this podcast.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a theme. That's that's that's a thing back

538
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Speaker 3: and I struggle.

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Speaker 6: We're just being chilling a football player. I don't worry.

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Speaker 6: We barely mentioned you.

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Speaker 5: If we did scrub, then that'd be a great name

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Speaker 5: for the show. Hopefully he's not listening.

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Speaker 4: Wow, Mark, that is.

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Speaker 3: So genius.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, Teddy, I know you have a million things

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Speaker 1: to do because you have a million responsibilities in life.

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Speaker 1: So I'm gonna let you go and then hopefully beca

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Speaker 1: are you close?

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Speaker 2: Wells booked up?

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Speaker 6: She's getting her blowouts?

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Speaker 2: How can people learn more about you? Like? You have

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Speaker 2: a website?

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Speaker 7: Oh yeah, you can go on Teddy Mellencamp dot com

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Speaker 7: or l a workout junkie dot com. And also I

555
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Speaker 7: love an insta story, so I'm constantly showing proof.

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Speaker 6: Of how accountable I am.

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Speaker 1: Right, she's very motivating, that's for sure. So tell tell

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Speaker 1: everybody your Instagram.

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Speaker 6: Had it's Teddy mellencamp at Teddy.

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Speaker 7: Mellencamped Teddy with an eye.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you so much for coming by.

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Speaker 6: This is the first time I've seen I'm all wrapped.

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Speaker 4: Up having a lot of fomo. But we're going to

564
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Speaker 4: go get lunch and we're going to get me in

565
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Speaker 4: a good place to start this accountability.

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Speaker 6: I feel ready now.

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Speaker 7: Now you know what I'm holding you accountable that when

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Speaker 7: you're ready, you'll reach out.

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Speaker 4: I will, and I'm going to be ready because I

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Speaker 4: don't want to reach out until I'm ready. But it's

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Speaker 4: coming soon. I can feel it.

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Speaker 6: I can feel it. Becca Tilly twenty eighteen.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much, Love.

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Speaker 1: You and Becca, see you soon. Okay, So while we're

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Speaker 1: Well would you lucky we have here ladies and gentlemen,

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Speaker 1: didn't one and only be Tilly is here?

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Speaker 3: Yeap, right on time? Might I say, your hair looks rap?

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Speaker 9: I was hoping that it would at least people would

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Speaker 9: feel like it was worth it, rather than being like, well,

606
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Speaker 9: what did she even have done?

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Speaker 3: No, it was worth it. It looks great.

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Speaker 9: I'm gonna be honest. It was a little bit mortifying

609
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Speaker 9: not being here for having a guess on. But I

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Speaker 9: thought if anyone could hold the Ford down, Donya could

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Speaker 9: do it.

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Speaker 3: I appreciate the faith, Pecca that you have in me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but we don't have lunch with Teddy.

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Speaker 3: We do have to have lunch with her.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, So do we wait to have lunch until I'm

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Speaker 9: like ready to be healthy or.

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Speaker 3: If you want, or just we just do it? She's

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Speaker 3: just cool, man. Yeah, she seemed really cool. Yeah.

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Speaker 9: I almost felt I wasn't. I couldn't tell she was

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Speaker 9: gonna be one of those people that.

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Speaker 3: Was like intimidating. Yeah, but she was so like cool

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Speaker 3: and down to earth.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and what are the odds that she met her

624
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Speaker 1: husband on a one night stand.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what are those odds? Should listen to

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Speaker 3: the statistics?

627
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Speaker 1: Oh oh like other people?

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Speaker 3: Yea, what do you mean?

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Speaker 1: I just didn't know that she met her husband on

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Speaker 1: a one night Stam. Yeah, I'm curious to know if

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Speaker 1: a lot of other people have.

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Speaker 3: I know that should be something people email us about.

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Speaker 9: By the way, we do love the emails because there's

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Speaker 9: a lot of times where personally I don't have like

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Speaker 9: a ton of like drama or anything exciting going on

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Speaker 9: in my life, and so when you all email in

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Speaker 9: with things for us to talk about, it gives us

638
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Speaker 9: something a topic. So if you have even like a

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Speaker 9: funny story and you're like, oh, this happened, blah blah blah,

640
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Speaker 9: what do you think about it?

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Speaker 3: We like that too.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, So thanks for those. Did you watch the Golden

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Speaker 9: Globes last night?

644
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Speaker 3: I watched the majority of them?

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Speaker 9: Did you I didn't. I just saw like about it.

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Speaker 9: I just like what I've gotten to where now.

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Speaker 5: Well you bring it up if you haven't seen them.

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Speaker 9: But because I don't have cable, so I don't see

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Speaker 9: a lot of things. But like with social media and Twitter,

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Speaker 9: it makes it very easy to feel like I watched

651
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Speaker 9: the show without.

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Speaker 3: Having to sit down and watch it. It's very true.

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Speaker 9: I mean mostly all I heard about was Oprah, Oh

654
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Speaker 9: my gosh.

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Speaker 3: So there was this.

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Speaker 9: Girl who I don't even She may have been the

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Speaker 9: only person because I was wondering what happens if you

658
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Speaker 9: don't wear black tonight like is that.

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Speaker 1: There were a couple women, one of them was like

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Speaker 1: an America's Next Top Model from not America, Sweden or something,

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Speaker 1: and then they're.

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Speaker 5: Like three that missed the memo.

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Speaker 9: There was three that looked silly, That's what I'm saying,

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Speaker 9: Like it was almost embarrassing, but then they got shamed

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Speaker 9: for doing.

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Speaker 3: It, so it was almost like a.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, I don't know if that's the right term, but

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Speaker 9: I think you get what I'm saying. However, it was

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Speaker 9: kind of like a respect thing, you know. There was

670
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Speaker 9: a there was a statement being made and a movement,

671
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Speaker 9: and I almost feel like it would have been sad

672
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Speaker 9: to miss out on being a part of that movement

673
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Speaker 9: not wearing.

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Speaker 3: I thought it was so cool.

675
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Speaker 1: I thought it was really depowering and just cool to

676
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Speaker 1: see women there was times Up actually posted this photo

677
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Speaker 1: and the caption just made me melt. It was it

678
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Speaker 1: was like four of the celebrities, you know, some of

679
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Speaker 1: the women like hugging or whatever, and it said sister

680
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Speaker 1: is linked not ranked. Wow, And it was so powerful

681
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Speaker 1: because it's like we're we're all in this together, you know,

682
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Speaker 1: like I'm not better than you because I'm on this

683
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Speaker 1: show where I'm this movie or I'm when this many

684
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Speaker 1: golden globes, like We're all in this together for this movement.

685
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Speaker 3: And I just thought it was really cool. Yeah that

686
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Speaker 3: is cool. I like that too. Yeah. I thought it was.

687
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Speaker 9: It was something that's never It was just like a

688
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Speaker 9: statement being made and I'm this is where I you know,

689
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Speaker 9: it was like this amazing moment for the women and

690
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Speaker 9: like what they were standing for.

691
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Speaker 3: And I liked that. I specifically liked an Oprah speech.

692
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Speaker 9: She talked about the amazing women, but she also said

693
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Speaker 9: in the amazing men that are gonna lead us to

694
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Speaker 9: get there, and I thought that's exactly what it should be.

695
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Speaker 1: Like.

696
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:52,520
Speaker 9: It's not I don't ever want to feel like we

697
00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 9: villainize men just because there's been a few who have

698
00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 9: just been terrible and made terrible decisions, but to like,

699
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 9: I'll be celebrated together, right, Yeah, that's what I thought

700
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:06,600
Speaker 9: about that. That's about all the opinion I have on

701
00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 9: the Gold Gloves.

702
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:09,800
Speaker 3: Because I I don't want to.

703
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Speaker 9: I don't know a lot of the times, the big

704
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:14,920
Speaker 9: winners of the movies, it's like stuff I've never seen her.

705
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Speaker 1: You know, I'm like, why is it in Gray's Anatomy

706
00:29:17,320 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 1: and that's nominated for anything? Like what the heck have

707
00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:23,400
Speaker 1: you seen? Like Ellen Pompeo's acting.

708
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:27,280
Speaker 3: Skills for fourteen seasons? Yeah, Like, I don't understand.

709
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:30,080
Speaker 5: What Like shows fall out of favor after a while.

710
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Speaker 9: I feel like they want quite a We'd have to

711
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:36,600
Speaker 9: look that up. I feel like one in the past. Yeah,

712
00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 9: Mark's gonna get check that out for us.

713
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Speaker 5: I'm on it.

714
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Speaker 1: But I do find it strange, like some of the shows,

715
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 1: I'm like, why are I don't know, I've always thought

716
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 1: that was weird.

717
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:47,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, it won the Golden Globe for Best Television Series

718
00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:48,520
Speaker 5: in two thousand and seven.

719
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Speaker 9: Okay, so it was two years after that was probably

720
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Speaker 9: season three ish, season two ish threes.

721
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Speaker 3: Those were some good ones I've seen I see. Yeah,

722
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Speaker 3: I get why they don't. They're not winning right now?

723
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Speaker 5: After Dempsey again, Ellen Pompey.

724
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Speaker 3: Gold Okay, Okay, now I feel better.

725
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Speaker 5: Okay, Yeah, but you're right, it's weird. Does the show

726
00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:07,840
Speaker 5: not exist anymore?

727
00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:08,200
Speaker 4: Yeah?

728
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Speaker 1: But also the shows that they're nominated, I'm like a

729
00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 1: lot of people watch new.

730
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Speaker 3: Show like who was the big winner this year?

731
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Speaker 9: Uh?

732
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Speaker 1: Show wise, I'm not sure Lady Bird took a lot

733
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Speaker 1: of Golden globes.

734
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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm trying to think of TV what did well?

735
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Speaker 3: But Lady Bird, like Ladybird is that's a movie?

736
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Speaker 5: Well, yeah, but that's I think you'd like Lady Bird really, Yeah,

737
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:30,120
Speaker 5: what's it about? It's about It's a coming of age

738
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 5: nineteen year old girl and her mom, and and she's

739
00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 5: kind of quirky. I don't know much more than that,

740
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 5: but I hear it's fantastic.

741
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Speaker 3: Okay, I'm I'm like not opposed to trying to watch it.

742
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Speaker 1: We should do this award season. We should try and

743
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:44,480
Speaker 1: watch all the movies that are nominated.

744
00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:46,120
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I like that. You want to do that?

745
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:48,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, Okay, there's a lot and you haven't heard of

746
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:49,480
Speaker 5: most of them, but good luck.

747
00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 1: Okay, maybe maybe we pick yeah, maybe we pick like five.

748
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Speaker 5: Maybe you wait till the awards are over and just

749
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Speaker 5: watch the winners.

750
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Speaker 1: They can make the award season so much more fun.

751
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:01,360
Speaker 5: Big Little Lives did very well.

752
00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:04,080
Speaker 9: Yeah, Big Old Lives is amazing though, Like I binge

753
00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 9: watched that till four in the morning when it first

754
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:08,280
Speaker 9: came out.

755
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 5: Also, Handmaid's Tale did very well. Yeah, And Sterling k

756
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Speaker 5: Brown from.

757
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Speaker 3: This is Us, right, I love him.

758
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:18,760
Speaker 9: I feel like every time I watch one of his speeches,

759
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:21,640
Speaker 9: like if I watch it back on Twitter, I cry

760
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 9: every time. And I don't know if it's just like

761
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:25,440
Speaker 9: his presence or what it is, but.

762
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Speaker 1: He's very eloquent, yeah, very well spoken.

763
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Speaker 3: And did you see the video of little Lonnie Lonnie.

764
00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 9: Shavis Shavus like giving him like congratulating him and saying

765
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:39,040
Speaker 9: good luck, and then they did a post interview Jason

766
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:43,080
Speaker 9: Kennedy did one of Sterling watching it, and he was

767
00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 9: just like smiling and then like beat his chest into

768
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Speaker 9: the big three thing.

769
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Speaker 3: WHOA looks so cute.

770
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Speaker 5: I know it was so cute toany is catching up

771
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Speaker 5: on This is Us.

772
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Speaker 1: Yes, I'm what season two now, episode two, episode two,

773
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Speaker 1: I believe.

774
00:31:57,080 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 5: Like six more to go?

775
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Speaker 3: I think, yeah, yeah, show, I mean did you stop watching?

776
00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:03,880
Speaker 1: You know what's funny? Is I I feel like there's

777
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 1: not really a plot to it, like aside from Jack's death.

778
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 1: What I'm serious, Aside from his like how he died,

779
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 1: I feel like there's not something that I'm like itching

780
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 1: to see. It's just like a feel good family vibe.

781
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 1: But there's not like Cliffhangers, you know what I mean.

782
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 9: But you loved Friends, that's a Friends never had a

783
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Speaker 9: like plot.

784
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Speaker 3: Oh you make a wrong point.

785
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:31,240
Speaker 1: No, Sex and City had tons because they were always

786
00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:33,680
Speaker 1: dating somebody and then like, oh are they gonna make it?

787
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Speaker 9: But like Friends was like a new episode every time,

788
00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:37,480
Speaker 9: Like it wasn't like but.

789
00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:41,520
Speaker 3: I watched Friends in real time. Oh you're like late

790
00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 3: to the game.

791
00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 9: Yeah, you just need a little lot of people pushing me,

792
00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 9: hearing about it enough gets in your brain.

793
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Speaker 3: Brainwashing. But it's a great show. It is so good.

794
00:32:51,040 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 2: I have the new show for you, guys.

795
00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:53,160
Speaker 3: What is it?

796
00:32:53,280 --> 00:32:56,360
Speaker 2: The Resident? I think it's going to replace Raised Anatomy

797
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:56,600
Speaker 2: for you.

798
00:32:57,840 --> 00:33:01,240
Speaker 3: That's not possible. I need a moment silence for that comment.

799
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 3: What do you mean?

800
00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 2: How so good? Fox? It starts like in a week

801
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 2: or two. I saw the first two episodes. It stars

802
00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 2: mad Zukrie from Gilmour Girls, my personal favorite, Logan Huntsberger.

803
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 2: It has the girl from Revenge, remember that show from

804
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 2: Emily Van Camp. Yeah, it's a medical show. Like you guys, like,

805
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Speaker 2: I don't know what more I could entice you with.

806
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 3: Here's the thing.

807
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Speaker 9: I love medical show, like I love The Good Doctor

808
00:33:30,280 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 9: and stuff. However, I found myself becoming less interested in

809
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:36,120
Speaker 9: The Good Doctor because they don't have like the drama

810
00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 9: of like a relationship or something.

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Speaker 3: That I'm missessed in this day. Okay, So I was

812
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 3: gonna ask.

813
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 9: Okay, so there's relationships so many.

814
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Speaker 5: It's the new year, and I made a comment. I

815
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:50,720
Speaker 5: made a joke in December that you were going to

816
00:33:50,760 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 5: give up Doctor Pepper in the new year. Yeah, and

817
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 5: you actually have.

818
00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 3: Yeah. I did for four days. Oh you're back on

819
00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 3: it already. I have had a relapse.

820
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Speaker 1: You're doing so well.

821
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Speaker 3: I know.

822
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Speaker 9: I was like strong for four days. In fact, I

823
00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:09,360
Speaker 9: was so strongly. I didn't have anything. I was like

824
00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:15,680
Speaker 9: clean eating, and then Saturday came and then it just spiraled.

825
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Speaker 3: I spiral. And what happened after the Doctor Pepper? So

826
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:19,240
Speaker 3: many things.

827
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:29,640
Speaker 9: I just Doctor Pepper. I had McDonald and chills, Shonda Rhymes.

828
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Speaker 3: Chili's by the way to do. See that tweet that

829
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:32,840
Speaker 3: was really funny.

830
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Speaker 5: Tanya and Teddy were discussing the fact that you would

831
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Speaker 5: like an accountability coach, and I don't think that.

832
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:39,839
Speaker 9: You're ready for That's what I said, I said. I

833
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 9: said that on the phone. I was like, I will

834
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Speaker 9: let you know when I'm ready and when.

835
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Speaker 5: So, like, we're gonna do baby steps now, like maybe

836
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Speaker 5: cut out soda, maybe cut out one fast food restaurant.

837
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Speaker 9: Yeah, I'm trying to figure out how to do it

838
00:34:54,760 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 9: to where I'm like, not just.

839
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Speaker 3: Well, diet.

840
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:08,319
Speaker 1: I realized that want to change, she shouldn't change come

841
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:08,839
Speaker 1: from within.

842
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:12,839
Speaker 9: Yeah, I mean, well, that's the thing. It's like I

843
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 9: have moments where I'm like, I'm ready, I don't like,

844
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 9: none of my clothes fit right, Like I don't feel good,

845
00:35:18,520 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 9: I don't have energy, and then the next moment, I'm like,

846
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 9: you know what sounds really good?

847
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Speaker 3: There is there is a turning Dugs, there is a

848
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Speaker 3: turning point.

849
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Speaker 1: I do have to tell you though, because when I

850
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Speaker 1: was on vacation, I was in Mexico. I went like

851
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Speaker 1: I was drinking, you know, I had a little Tuila

852
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:38,759
Speaker 1: her in there, and then I would eat like I

853
00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:41,000
Speaker 1: have like a cinnamon roll and I'm telling you it

854
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:41,919
Speaker 1: made me ill.

855
00:35:42,800 --> 00:35:45,319
Speaker 9: Yeah, but you have to think you eat clean most

856
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Speaker 9: of the time.

857
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Speaker 3: But I'm saying, like, at least a year you've been

858
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Speaker 3: eating like super clean.

859
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:53,080
Speaker 9: My body is I have fast food graase running through

860
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:57,120
Speaker 9: my veins. Like this is no like simple change for

861
00:35:57,200 --> 00:36:00,680
Speaker 9: my body. But I'm like a drug addict going into

862
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:03,479
Speaker 9: like withdrawls when I don't have doctor pappers is true?

863
00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:05,719
Speaker 3: What did the email say? What was the email it said?

864
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Speaker 5: I'm so glad to know there are other people out

865
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 5: there who struggle with the eat whatever you want and

866
00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:12,759
Speaker 5: still keep your figure problem. This is Kristin by the way.

867
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 5: I'm sure the cholesterol could be caused for concern, but hey,

868
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:19,440
Speaker 5: God gave us taste buzz for a reason. Life is

869
00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 5: meant for enjoying the ride. I'm almost twenty nine. I

870
00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:24,439
Speaker 5: just had my second baby. The first thing I wanted

871
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:27,120
Speaker 5: to eat after giving birth was a five guys burger.

872
00:36:27,640 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 5: I was back in my regular jeans at three days postpartum.

873
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Speaker 6: Wow.

874
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:34,560
Speaker 5: My workout routine during pregnancy was a thirty minute walk

875
00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 5: each day during my lunch break at work. So Becca,

876
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:41,000
Speaker 5: don't let the haters rain on your parade. Still love you,

877
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:45,359
Speaker 5: Tanya and Mark, you keep doing you love Kristin, Yeah, I.

878
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:51,560
Speaker 3: Mean I get it in my girl, I get it. Yeah.

879
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:52,480
Speaker 3: I mean that's the thing.

880
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:54,799
Speaker 9: I kind of go back and forth because I'm like,

881
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Speaker 9: I have noticed, like it's it's different right as I

882
00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:01,760
Speaker 9: get older, it's a little more like not so easy

883
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:03,880
Speaker 9: to just like not exercise me whatever I want, Like

884
00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 9: I feel, I feel it, and like, you know, your

885
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:10,160
Speaker 9: body changes. But it's really hard when I'm like, oh,

886
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:12,520
Speaker 9: that's fine, like everything still fits. It might be a

887
00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:14,719
Speaker 9: little bit tighter, but I'm eating whatever I want not

888
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:15,960
Speaker 9: having to do anything about it.

889
00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:20,000
Speaker 5: So like, and really, if you decide, how do.

890
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:20,840
Speaker 3: You twenty nine?

891
00:37:21,200 --> 00:37:23,120
Speaker 5: I mean, if you're at thirty nine, you decide to

892
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:26,520
Speaker 5: really get it together, like it's fine, right, Like it's

893
00:37:26,520 --> 00:37:29,040
Speaker 5: not like you're doing permanent damage to yourself right now.

894
00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:31,240
Speaker 5: You can you can choose to get it together whenever,

895
00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 5: as long as you do.

896
00:37:32,120 --> 00:37:34,920
Speaker 9: Someday I read about this lady who is one hundred

897
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 9: and four and she drank I think it was like

898
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,560
Speaker 9: either two or four doctor peppers a day.

899
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 3: Jeez.

900
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:44,239
Speaker 9: So I personally feel like that's gonna be me if

901
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:45,040
Speaker 9: I continue.

902
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:46,719
Speaker 3: I don't know if I want to live that long.

903
00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:48,319
Speaker 5: But what's your McDonald's order?

904
00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:50,399
Speaker 3: It changes, Mark, Like.

905
00:37:50,400 --> 00:37:52,640
Speaker 1: I don't just keep it this same right, Like sometimes

906
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:54,440
Speaker 1: she goes for breakfast, She's not gonna get the same

907
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 1: thing for breakfast.

908
00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 9: So sometimes I get a burger with fries and a

909
00:37:57,640 --> 00:37:59,360
Speaker 9: doctor Peppers's.

910
00:37:58,640 --> 00:38:00,440
Speaker 5: Burger, or like a quarter pounder or no, like.

911
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:03,400
Speaker 9: I keep it classic, either just a hamburger or cheeseburger.

912
00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:05,879
Speaker 9: No onions. Their onions look like rice. And I used

913
00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:08,000
Speaker 9: to say, like, I don't rut rice on my burger.

914
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:08,320
Speaker 3: Mom.

915
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:13,640
Speaker 9: I still want to say that because it's it's all grains. Yeah,

916
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 9: and then sometimes I'm just like, wow, those golden, crispy

917
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:21,960
Speaker 9: nuggets of light meat chicken, sign me up, give me

918
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:22,399
Speaker 9: the tin.

919
00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:27,919
Speaker 1: It's true though, like the fact that you could eat

920
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:29,360
Speaker 1: the way that you eat and look the way that

921
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 1: you do is like a miracle. So if I was

922
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:34,359
Speaker 1: given that ability, I probably would lean more towards like

923
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:36,279
Speaker 1: a pizza here and there.

924
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:38,720
Speaker 3: I don't know, you like you really enjoy the taste

925
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:39,399
Speaker 3: healthy food.

926
00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:41,200
Speaker 1: I don't like healthy food, but I do like my

927
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 1: sweets every now and then.

928
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:44,920
Speaker 9: Yeah, You're I'm more on the like salty, Like I

929
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 9: love pizza and I love fries and nuggets and burgers.

930
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:51,040
Speaker 9: You're more like I want a chocolate cake and.

931
00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:52,960
Speaker 1: The Sunday and a pazuoki.

932
00:38:56,840 --> 00:39:01,759
Speaker 9: Well, speaking of indulging, I want to talk about this

933
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 9: are one of our sponsors, Wink. It is a wine

934
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:08,240
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935
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Speaker 3: You pick the wines that you want and they send

936
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Speaker 3: you four a month. You can even you can.

937
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Speaker 9: Specialize it too. If you want more than four, they'll

938
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Speaker 9: send you more. But that's kind of.

939
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:22,840
Speaker 3: Like I say, like I want Chardonay, so they'll if you.

940
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:26,880
Speaker 9: So one of my challenges when I go to the

941
00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:29,359
Speaker 9: store to buy wine, I just stand there and look

942
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 9: at all, Like even if I'm like, I know I

943
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 9: want a Rose, I'll go and stand in front of rose,

944
00:39:33,320 --> 00:39:33,960
Speaker 9: and I have.

945
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 3: No idea which ones.

946
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:37,600
Speaker 9: Yeah, And I'm not like a wine connoisseur. What are

947
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:38,440
Speaker 9: those people called that?

948
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 8: I as, I know your mouth made some weird things happened.

949
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:59,080
Speaker 9: I'm not one of those, and so I don't know

950
00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 9: like what taste I'm looking for, what to look for

951
00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:05,480
Speaker 9: when I'm buying wine. So on Wink, you just basically

952
00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:07,560
Speaker 9: I could say I want a rose and I want

953
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Speaker 9: a white wine, and then they.

954
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Speaker 3: Would select it for you what they think you would

955
00:40:10,760 --> 00:40:11,080
Speaker 3: like best.

956
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 9: You kind of describe your taste buds, what you like,

957
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Speaker 9: do you like it fruity, do you like it dry?

958
00:40:15,520 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 9: They choose it for you, and then let's say you

959
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:20,399
Speaker 9: get the four and you're like, I really liked these two,

960
00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:21,680
Speaker 9: but I didn't really like the other two.

961
00:40:21,800 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 3: Then they'll customize the next order. That's awesome.

962
00:40:24,160 --> 00:40:27,120
Speaker 9: I know, it's amazing. And so they they have a

963
00:40:27,160 --> 00:40:30,800
Speaker 9: palette profile quiz. They send the wines that are curated

964
00:40:30,840 --> 00:40:33,440
Speaker 9: to your taste, and then the more you rate, the

965
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Speaker 9: more personalize your monthly selections become.

966
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 1: That's awesome because it is also like kind of embarrassing.

967
00:40:38,239 --> 00:40:41,160
Speaker 1: I feel like sometimes people expect you just because you're

968
00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:44,520
Speaker 1: drinking wine that you should know all about it, and

969
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 1: I know nothing, Like when they hand you and then

970
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Speaker 1: you're at the restaurant they hand you the booklets and

971
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Speaker 1: wines and I'm like, I don't know this one, Like

972
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Speaker 1: I don't know.

973
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Speaker 9: The worst is when they're like, here, have a sample

974
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Speaker 9: and they're like, how does it taste?

975
00:40:56,360 --> 00:41:01,120
Speaker 3: And I'm like, taste fine? Yeah, So this is going

976
00:41:01,200 --> 00:41:02,120
Speaker 3: to teach us a lot too.

977
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 9: I feel like, well, yeah, and it's like kind of

978
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Speaker 9: takes the pressure off of you having to do it

979
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980
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984
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985
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986
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:33,799
Speaker 9: at stage coaching Coachell, we had their Summer water Rose

987
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Speaker 9: and I didn't even know that that was part of

988
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Speaker 9: Winks thing.

989
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Speaker 1: Oh that's awesome, and we should do this when we

990
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991
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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, all of our five movies. That's a bottle.

992
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Speaker 9: We could do five, Yeah, a bottle each, twelve for

993
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Speaker 9: each movie.

994
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Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly.

995
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Speaker 1: I also want to talk about something that you said

1007
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 1: earlier today. Yeah, and you mentioned it in passing, but

1008
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:37,640
Speaker 1: I thought it was really interesting about if it wasn't

1009
00:42:37,680 --> 00:42:39,440
Speaker 1: called scrubbing in, it should be called I hope he's

1010
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:45,120
Speaker 1: not listening. Yeah, because it's so true. I feel like

1011
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:48,520
Speaker 1: we talk about guys and so freely at all, so freely,

1012
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:51,800
Speaker 1: and then you don't realize like they could be listening.

1013
00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1014
00:42:52,600 --> 00:42:54,920
Speaker 9: Like I remember one time, like as much as we

1015
00:42:54,920 --> 00:42:57,000
Speaker 9: talk about Robert and he mentioned like, oh yeah, listen

1016
00:42:57,000 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 9: to the podcast.

1017
00:42:57,640 --> 00:43:03,279
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, oh okay, Yeah, Well I'm just going.

1018
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:07,319
Speaker 9: To keep talking because I've said too much already. But yeah,

1019
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:09,799
Speaker 9: I always think like we haven't talked about this, but

1020
00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:11,919
Speaker 9: I think it's like an unspoken thing that we both

1021
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:14,520
Speaker 9: think about where it's like, okay, we really bring up

1022
00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 9: these guys and if they're cure, like let's say you

1023
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 9: just met him, and they see this on your pro

1024
00:43:18,400 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 9: like on your bio, and they click on the link

1025
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 9: and they're like, I'll just have a listen.

1026
00:43:23,480 --> 00:43:25,160
Speaker 1: And the thing is we don't say their names. We

1027
00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 1: give him like cute little nicknames, but the guys know

1028
00:43:28,160 --> 00:43:28,719
Speaker 1: who they are.

1029
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:31,480
Speaker 9: Well, yeah, mister whole Food's probably gonna figure out who

1030
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:32,600
Speaker 9: he is in the story.

1031
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:34,880
Speaker 1: I just find it so funny because I think one

1032
00:43:34,880 --> 00:43:37,920
Speaker 1: of the things that when you're listening to a podcast

1033
00:43:37,960 --> 00:43:39,839
Speaker 1: and you're part of a podcast, you know, the more

1034
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:42,040
Speaker 1: open and vulnerable about your life you are, the more

1035
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 1: you know people can relate because everybody's going through these

1036
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:45,320
Speaker 1: same situations.

1037
00:43:45,320 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 3: But then you forget that everybody's listening.

1038
00:43:49,400 --> 00:43:54,879
Speaker 9: And yeah, I mean, yeah, it's it's it's the perfect name.

1039
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:57,080
Speaker 3: If we didn't have scrub again, well, have.

1040
00:43:57,160 --> 00:43:58,879
Speaker 5: You change your name? Because change?

1041
00:44:00,000 --> 00:44:01,960
Speaker 3: I'm so not interested. He's not listening.

1042
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:03,280
Speaker 5: I hope he's not listening.

1043
00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:05,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, I hope we are a hashtag.

1044
00:44:05,040 --> 00:44:08,759
Speaker 2: Like a total pull on passcode yes or no.

1045
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:12,640
Speaker 5: Well, it was very divided. Some said that it's just

1046
00:44:12,680 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 5: asking for trouble. You're gonna see stuff you don't want

1047
00:44:15,160 --> 00:44:18,640
Speaker 5: to see or don't understand or misinterpret, and it causes problems.

1048
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 5: Others say it's standard. You just everybody shares your past

1049
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 5: codes and that way. There's no mistrust nothing in my relationship,

1050
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:30,319
Speaker 5: married fifteen years, it's just all everyone just kind of

1051
00:44:30,320 --> 00:44:32,640
Speaker 5: has it. Amy doesn't remember any of mine or most

1052
00:44:32,719 --> 00:44:34,839
Speaker 5: of hers, but I remember all of hers for her.

1053
00:44:35,680 --> 00:44:38,360
Speaker 5: But this one was really interesting. Actually, this is from Amanda.

1054
00:44:39,120 --> 00:44:41,359
Speaker 5: She listens to a lot of podcasts, but I look

1055
00:44:41,400 --> 00:44:44,040
Speaker 5: forward to yours the most. She says, you, Amanda, you

1056
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 5: maybe laugh out loud every week. Keep them going for

1057
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:48,399
Speaker 5: a long time. I wanted to write you about needing

1058
00:44:48,400 --> 00:44:51,000
Speaker 5: your significant others past coodes. My boyfriend Josh and I

1059
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:53,279
Speaker 5: started dating in twenty twelve. I was twenty three, he

1060
00:44:53,360 --> 00:44:57,200
Speaker 5: was twenty nine. In high school, I was with the

1061
00:44:57,200 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 5: boy that cheated on me. I carry that baggage with

1062
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:02,239
Speaker 5: me my new relationship. I couldn't trust Josh. I had

1063
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 5: no reason not to. I didn't trust him. I put

1064
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:07,160
Speaker 5: him in the same category as my high school boyfriend.

1065
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:09,720
Speaker 5: Six to eight months into the relationship, I was a snoop.

1066
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:11,759
Speaker 5: I saw something on his phone that ended up being nothing,

1067
00:45:11,800 --> 00:45:13,800
Speaker 5: but I couldn't keep it to myself. So now Josh

1068
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 5: knew I was a snoop and knew I didn't trust him,

1069
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:18,520
Speaker 5: and put a passcode on his phone. It was an

1070
00:45:18,520 --> 00:45:20,239
Speaker 5: issue for a long time. I told him, if I

1071
00:45:20,239 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 5: had your passcode, it would bring me comfort and then

1072
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 5: we wouldn't have to go through this. So he gave

1073
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:26,320
Speaker 5: it to me, and for the next three years I

1074
00:45:26,320 --> 00:45:27,960
Speaker 5: would check it once in a while and I never

1075
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:32,840
Speaker 5: found anything. Twenty seventeen marked five years together, and we

1076
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:35,719
Speaker 5: would argue about why he had yet to propose. I

1077
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:37,600
Speaker 5: was thinking as he deciding he doesn't want to be

1078
00:45:37,640 --> 00:45:39,600
Speaker 5: with me for the rest of his life. He would say, well,

1079
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 5: until you fully trust me, I will not be proposing.

1080
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:45,719
Speaker 5: Nine months ago, Josh got a new phone. The new

1081
00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:48,640
Speaker 5: code had six digits. I decided in that moment I

1082
00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:51,320
Speaker 5: didn't need his passcode, and not knowing it was my

1083
00:45:51,440 --> 00:45:54,960
Speaker 5: way of proving to him I fully trust him. Christmas morning,

1084
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:59,480
Speaker 5: he proposed, and I said, yes, Wow, this is where

1085
00:45:59,520 --> 00:45:59,960
Speaker 5: I agree with it.

1086
00:46:00,560 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 2: I rest my case.

1087
00:46:01,680 --> 00:46:03,440
Speaker 5: I don't need his past code. I don't have or

1088
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:05,839
Speaker 5: need any of his passwords, a Facebook or email. It's

1089
00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 5: a trust we have gained over six years. That erases

1090
00:46:08,200 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 5: all the fears I had in the past. We are

1091
00:46:10,080 --> 00:46:12,920
Speaker 5: individuals first, and if someone wants to keep their passcode

1092
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:17,680
Speaker 5: of themselves, don't assume the worst. It can work out, Amanda, Way.

1093
00:46:17,480 --> 00:46:18,719
Speaker 2: To go, Amanda.

1094
00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:23,960
Speaker 9: I mean, I'm I got mixed reviews on it, so

1095
00:46:24,080 --> 00:46:25,560
Speaker 9: I'm I think it's one of those things.

1096
00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:28,600
Speaker 3: It's like I think it's yeah, just it's like a divide.

1097
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:30,440
Speaker 2: I kind of counted up the emails too, and I

1098
00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:32,400
Speaker 2: think it came in about fifty to fifty. So I

1099
00:46:32,400 --> 00:46:34,520
Speaker 2: think it's kind of how you roll.

1100
00:46:34,680 --> 00:46:37,440
Speaker 9: Yeah, And I think it's it's such an individual like

1101
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:40,840
Speaker 9: how you are in a relationship is such an individual

1102
00:46:40,920 --> 00:46:42,480
Speaker 9: thing in general that.

1103
00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:46,480
Speaker 1: Like, well, I think relationships are you know what I mean, Like,

1104
00:46:47,400 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 1: there's not one relationship that's this just like the other.

1105
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 1: You know, everybody wants something different out of relationships. I

1106
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:55,360
Speaker 1: think obviously everybody's opinions are going to be different.

1107
00:46:55,600 --> 00:46:55,759
Speaker 6: You know.

1108
00:46:56,320 --> 00:46:59,000
Speaker 5: Good Hi, Beca and Tanya. I love listening to your

1109
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:01,759
Speaker 5: podcast every week and everyone's advice. My question is how

1110
00:47:01,760 --> 00:47:03,560
Speaker 5: big of an age difference do you think is okay

1111
00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:06,480
Speaker 5: when dating someone. I've been seeing someone who's seven years

1112
00:47:06,480 --> 00:47:08,520
Speaker 5: older than me for a couple of months. I'm twenty two,

1113
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:10,640
Speaker 5: he's twenty nine. It's been great. I met him through

1114
00:47:10,680 --> 00:47:12,439
Speaker 5: mutual friends at church. We seem to have the same

1115
00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:15,239
Speaker 5: values in regards to faith and family. I really like him.

1116
00:47:15,239 --> 00:47:17,200
Speaker 5: The age difference doesn't bother me, but I'm wondering in

1117
00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:18,920
Speaker 5: the long run will it be more of an issue?

1118
00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:21,480
Speaker 5: Love you guys, Thanks for making me laugh every week.

1119
00:47:21,920 --> 00:47:25,640
Speaker 3: Oh well, thank you for listening. We love you. Lexi.

1120
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 3: I am like, don't have any problem with age. You

1121
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:31,640
Speaker 3: know what's interesting? I don't either.

1122
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 1: I think that there really isn't an age to I mean,

1123
00:47:35,520 --> 00:47:41,200
Speaker 1: love is love, however deep. Yeah, but I think that

1124
00:47:41,560 --> 00:47:45,880
Speaker 1: there is a statistic that relationships that are the same

1125
00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:48,240
Speaker 1: age are the most likely to succeed.

1126
00:47:48,800 --> 00:47:51,880
Speaker 3: That is a true statistic, I'm sure, But I mean

1127
00:47:52,000 --> 00:47:52,479
Speaker 3: though likely.

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00:47:52,640 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 9: Just said, with every relationship it's like different, you have

1129
00:47:55,239 --> 00:47:59,080
Speaker 9: different different There could be five twenty seven year old

1130
00:47:59,080 --> 00:48:00,799
Speaker 9: men lined up and every every single one has a

1131
00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:03,080
Speaker 9: different maturity level and different apolchral life.

1132
00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:07,960
Speaker 5: Right, But generally speaking, men mature more slowly than women. Yeah,

1133
00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:10,480
Speaker 5: I mean this is true in middle school and puberty.

1134
00:48:10,520 --> 00:48:12,040
Speaker 5: This is true in your twenties, and I think twenty

1135
00:48:12,120 --> 00:48:14,319
Speaker 5: nine and twenty three is pretty close in terms of

1136
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:14,879
Speaker 5: maturity level.

1137
00:48:15,000 --> 00:48:16,720
Speaker 9: Yeah, I mean, I agree, I think that I actually

1138
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:19,399
Speaker 9: think that's a good I don't think there's anything wrong

1139
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:19,839
Speaker 9: with that age.

1140
00:48:20,080 --> 00:48:21,799
Speaker 5: I was twenty nine when my wife was twenty two,

1141
00:48:21,800 --> 00:48:23,759
Speaker 5: and we were together at the time, And there you go.

1142
00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 5: I think seven years is fine?

1143
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:30,839
Speaker 3: Is Lexi? Your wife just calling it emailing it? Wait?

1144
00:48:30,920 --> 00:48:32,880
Speaker 3: How old is the girl in the on The Bachelor?

1145
00:48:32,960 --> 00:48:34,160
Speaker 3: Have they revealed how old.

1146
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:35,799
Speaker 2: She's twenty one or twenty two?

1147
00:48:36,239 --> 00:48:36,960
Speaker 5: They have never revealed it.

1148
00:48:37,000 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 1: Though old he's thirty six the spoiler, No, they haven't

1149
00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:44,480
Speaker 1: revealed it. But it's like out there's.

1150
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:48,320
Speaker 9: He's thirty six. Yeah, okay, like that's a that's significant.

1151
00:48:48,360 --> 00:48:49,600
Speaker 5: Fourteen years is significant.

1152
00:48:49,760 --> 00:48:52,799
Speaker 9: Yeah, but she's I don't know. I mean what I've seen,

1153
00:48:52,840 --> 00:48:55,040
Speaker 9: I can't tell if she's just playing.

1154
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:56,120
Speaker 3: Older personal preference too.

1155
00:48:56,160 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 1: I remember I was dating a guy in his forties

1156
00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:01,239
Speaker 1: and he looked great, Like I didn't even you know

1157
00:49:01,280 --> 00:49:03,799
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like it was totally great. The only

1158
00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:06,040
Speaker 1: thing is, you know, when we would have conversation, he

1159
00:49:06,080 --> 00:49:07,960
Speaker 1: would say, you know, I lived here for eight years

1160
00:49:08,000 --> 00:49:10,560
Speaker 1: and I did this first ten years, and I was like, wow,

1161
00:49:10,600 --> 00:49:12,279
Speaker 1: I haven't even been out of college for ten years,

1162
00:49:12,320 --> 00:49:13,880
Speaker 1: you know, And so it was like a little bit

1163
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 1: of a weird situation in that regard, you know.

1164
00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:19,200
Speaker 3: So it was hard to relate life experience.

1165
00:49:19,400 --> 00:49:21,839
Speaker 1: So I think if you guys, you know, if it's

1166
00:49:21,840 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 1: not weird for you, then who cares?

1167
00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 3: Man. Love doesn't have an age. Love is love.

1168
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:31,960
Speaker 5: Here's the one for Becca from Ashley First Beca. Can

1169
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:33,319
Speaker 5: I just say that I'm pretty sure we are the

1170
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:37,000
Speaker 5: same person. Gosh, I binge listened to your podcast, and

1171
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:38,279
Speaker 5: I feel like I relate to you on such a

1172
00:49:38,280 --> 00:49:40,680
Speaker 5: personal level. I'm also emotionally unavailable.

1173
00:49:41,520 --> 00:49:43,880
Speaker 3: I'm like, ah, like happy that we're the same.

1174
00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:45,879
Speaker 5: And I continuously date guys and break up with them

1175
00:49:45,880 --> 00:49:47,880
Speaker 5: before the third date. I feel bad, but it is

1176
00:49:47,920 --> 00:49:50,680
Speaker 5: what it is. I really enjoy yours and Tanya's insights

1177
00:49:50,680 --> 00:49:53,759
Speaker 5: and being single, religious and dating. It's appreciated. What do

1178
00:49:53,800 --> 00:49:56,600
Speaker 5: you do with all your friends being in relationships? My

1179
00:49:56,680 --> 00:49:58,640
Speaker 5: best friend is engaged with a baby, and all of

1180
00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:00,799
Speaker 5: our other friends are in serious relationship and ships. I

1181
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:02,600
Speaker 5: like most of their boyfriends, so I spend a lot

1182
00:50:02,640 --> 00:50:04,239
Speaker 5: of time with them, but how much is too much

1183
00:50:04,239 --> 00:50:07,120
Speaker 5: when I don't have a significant other to join Ashley.

1184
00:50:07,280 --> 00:50:09,160
Speaker 5: And by the way, she also adds as a ps,

1185
00:50:09,560 --> 00:50:11,759
Speaker 5: I feel the same way about Gray's Anatomy that you do.

1186
00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:14,279
Speaker 5: I love it, and I hate these new characters. Sean

1187
00:50:14,400 --> 00:50:17,279
Speaker 5: is trying to make me care about and Tanya, Mare

1188
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:19,200
Speaker 5: and Karev are never getting together.

1189
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:26,919
Speaker 9: Gross rest Ashley, I love you first of all. That's

1190
00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 9: so funny about the going on like dates and then

1191
00:50:30,040 --> 00:50:32,080
Speaker 9: ending it before the third date, because but for a

1192
00:50:32,120 --> 00:50:33,359
Speaker 9: long time when I used to date.

1193
00:50:33,440 --> 00:50:34,480
Speaker 3: I don't do that anymore.

1194
00:50:35,160 --> 00:50:37,000
Speaker 9: But when I used to, I would go on like

1195
00:50:37,040 --> 00:50:39,200
Speaker 9: maybe one or two, and then that would pretty much

1196
00:50:39,280 --> 00:50:41,120
Speaker 9: be it, guarantee. Yeah, Like I would just be like

1197
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 9: I'm done. Like the fact if I even got to two,

1198
00:50:44,200 --> 00:50:45,560
Speaker 9: it was like good for this.

1199
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:47,919
Speaker 1: Guy, But yeah, I think you're pretty good at two.

1200
00:50:48,120 --> 00:50:49,839
Speaker 1: It's two after twos when you dropped off.

1201
00:50:50,040 --> 00:50:50,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, So.

1202
00:50:52,160 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 9: I totally get that that feeling of not wanting to

1203
00:50:55,680 --> 00:50:57,719
Speaker 9: waste your time or anyone else's time and kind of

1204
00:50:57,760 --> 00:50:58,120
Speaker 9: just like.

1205
00:50:58,080 --> 00:51:02,279
Speaker 3: Not being into it at all. I feel like a.

1206
00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:04,360
Speaker 9: Lot of my good friends aren't really in relationship. Like

1207
00:51:04,440 --> 00:51:06,000
Speaker 9: my sisters live with me and they're like two of

1208
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:09,160
Speaker 9: my best friends. Tanya is one of my best friends.

1209
00:51:10,840 --> 00:51:12,919
Speaker 9: Amy's one of my best friends. Like, I just don't

1210
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:16,239
Speaker 9: have a I guess not fortunate in the sense that

1211
00:51:16,320 --> 00:51:18,200
Speaker 9: I want them to be single, but I don't have

1212
00:51:18,280 --> 00:51:20,680
Speaker 9: to deal with that often, and I think if I did,

1213
00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:23,239
Speaker 9: I mean, I would just embrace it. I think they

1214
00:51:23,280 --> 00:51:24,920
Speaker 9: would be in the same position as you if they

1215
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 9: hadn't met their significant other, and if it wasn't you,

1216
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 9: it could be one of them, and I would just

1217
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:29,959
Speaker 9: embrace it and.

1218
00:51:29,960 --> 00:51:30,799
Speaker 3: Keep going on dates.

1219
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:33,960
Speaker 9: If you're wanting a significant other to be around all

1220
00:51:34,000 --> 00:51:39,240
Speaker 9: the time, personally, I don't spend a lot of time trying.

1221
00:51:39,640 --> 00:51:43,319
Speaker 9: So that's where I struggle with giving advice because I

1222
00:51:43,360 --> 00:51:43,960
Speaker 9: don't care.

1223
00:51:44,440 --> 00:51:45,960
Speaker 2: I wonder if you would like long.

1224
00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:50,800
Speaker 3: Distance I don't know. I'm like just crazy.

1225
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:52,160
Speaker 9: I know you're.

1226
00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:55,200
Speaker 2: Crazy, and you would like somebody where you got real

1227
00:51:55,280 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 2: excited to see them and then you would see them

1228
00:51:57,080 --> 00:51:59,160
Speaker 2: for a weekend and then they'd go away for two weeks.

1229
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:02,239
Speaker 9: I think, like, in my head, that's ideal, but I

1230
00:52:02,280 --> 00:52:05,000
Speaker 9: also feel like I would struggle with like.

1231
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:08,760
Speaker 3: What are they doing every day? Like what are they

1232
00:52:08,800 --> 00:52:10,879
Speaker 3: you know? I think, Oh no, I think that's why

1233
00:52:10,880 --> 00:52:11,520
Speaker 3: I'm kind.

1234
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:14,800
Speaker 1: Of coming from I have done long distance and it,

1235
00:52:14,880 --> 00:52:15,960
Speaker 1: in my opinion, it sucked.

1236
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:19,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's I mean, if you have to do it,

1237
00:52:19,320 --> 00:52:19,840
Speaker 3: you have to do it.

1238
00:52:19,920 --> 00:52:21,279
Speaker 1: But it's not like I don't think it should be

1239
00:52:21,280 --> 00:52:23,560
Speaker 1: something that you like strive for.

1240
00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:26,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know.

1241
00:52:26,160 --> 00:52:29,160
Speaker 9: I'm like I go back and forth between being like

1242
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:31,480
Speaker 9: I'm gonna download dating apps, I'm gonna make the effort,

1243
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:34,120
Speaker 9: and then but majority of the time, I'm just like.

1244
00:52:34,760 --> 00:52:37,680
Speaker 2: When he shows up, you'll be good. That's the thing.

1245
00:52:37,960 --> 00:52:39,160
Speaker 2: That's what I think for you.

1246
00:52:39,400 --> 00:52:45,120
Speaker 9: I what if he is a doctor and on like

1247
00:52:45,360 --> 00:52:49,120
Speaker 9: the side he delivers Postmates and then one time I

1248
00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:51,320
Speaker 9: order and he brings me my post.

1249
00:52:51,160 --> 00:52:53,920
Speaker 1: And he's like, I'm so sorry, I'm still my scrubs, I'm.

1250
00:52:57,000 --> 00:52:57,920
Speaker 3: His page something.

1251
00:52:58,040 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 9: His pager goes off and he's like, I've got go

1252
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:01,279
Speaker 9: I've gotta go.

1253
00:53:01,760 --> 00:53:06,640
Speaker 1: Oh wait, no, that's my other pager because I also, yeah,

1254
00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:07,919
Speaker 1: I have to deliver.

1255
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:08,680
Speaker 2: Some Jack in the box.

1256
00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:12,719
Speaker 9: Yeah, I'm sorry, that's my next Postmates order because.

1257
00:53:12,520 --> 00:53:14,560
Speaker 2: I'm trying to do an appy and then I'm gonna

1258
00:53:14,560 --> 00:53:18,040
Speaker 2: deliver some He's like, I'm raising escake factory.

1259
00:53:18,160 --> 00:53:20,239
Speaker 9: He's like, I'm donating the money. That I make from

1260
00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:22,360
Speaker 9: postmates to the children's hospital.

1261
00:53:22,520 --> 00:53:24,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then he sees Phoebe and he's like, oh

1262
00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:28,080
Speaker 1: my gosh, that's so crazy because my dog is named.

1263
00:53:28,000 --> 00:53:33,839
Speaker 9: Joey Ormonica Rachel, and then their friends and then their friend.

1264
00:53:33,960 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 3: This is not unlikely. So what was Ashley's question.

1265
00:53:37,600 --> 00:53:40,759
Speaker 5: Well, it's about all of your friends being in relationships,

1266
00:53:40,760 --> 00:53:43,239
Speaker 5: tany is this is something you can relate to your

1267
00:53:43,239 --> 00:53:45,680
Speaker 5: friends have hooked up and have gotten married and having babies.

1268
00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:48,799
Speaker 1: And yeah, it is hard. I'm not gonna lie to you.

1269
00:53:48,880 --> 00:53:52,279
Speaker 1: My best friend's from college. The four of us, I'm

1270
00:53:52,320 --> 00:53:54,800
Speaker 1: the only one out of the four that's not married

1271
00:53:55,960 --> 00:53:57,960
Speaker 1: without kids. One of us doesn't have kids, but essentially

1272
00:53:57,960 --> 00:54:01,320
Speaker 1: I'm the only one that's single still. And I remember

1273
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:04,359
Speaker 1: flying back from my friend Sarah's baby shower that way

1274
00:54:04,360 --> 00:54:06,600
Speaker 1: through her and I got on the airplane to come

1275
00:54:06,600 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 1: back to LA and I just found out that my

1276
00:54:08,680 --> 00:54:12,200
Speaker 1: big ex had just gotten married, and I was just

1277
00:54:12,239 --> 00:54:14,400
Speaker 1: at like such a low. I just cried the whole

1278
00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:17,720
Speaker 1: like airplane home, because like, these are my best friends,

1279
00:54:17,719 --> 00:54:20,799
Speaker 1: we grew up together, and they're in such beautiful relationships,

1280
00:54:20,840 --> 00:54:23,000
Speaker 1: you know, like they're not in relationships that they have

1281
00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:25,200
Speaker 1: to be in there in relationships that they want to

1282
00:54:25,200 --> 00:54:28,439
Speaker 1: be in, and their significant others cherish them and love them,

1283
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:31,239
Speaker 1: and there's such beautiful you know, there's nothing bad, Like

1284
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:33,279
Speaker 1: it's so beautiful, and I'm so happy for them. It's

1285
00:54:33,280 --> 00:54:36,600
Speaker 1: not like I cry because I'm upset. It's like I

1286
00:54:36,680 --> 00:54:40,040
Speaker 1: cry because it's such a They're so in such beautiful,

1287
00:54:40,040 --> 00:54:43,080
Speaker 1: happy relationships, and I want that so badly for myself.

1288
00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:46,239
Speaker 1: So I do think that it's hard sometimes. But I

1289
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 1: also I think that I'm on such a specific path.

1290
00:54:50,760 --> 00:54:52,799
Speaker 1: And I think when you start looking at other people

1291
00:54:52,880 --> 00:54:54,120
Speaker 1: and you like look to the left and the right

1292
00:54:54,120 --> 00:54:56,879
Speaker 1: and you're not focused on your own path, that's when

1293
00:54:56,920 --> 00:54:59,040
Speaker 1: life gets to be a little bit tricky, and it

1294
00:54:59,080 --> 00:55:01,239
Speaker 1: messes with your mind and messes with your happiness. And

1295
00:55:01,239 --> 00:55:03,200
Speaker 1: I think I always just have to tell myself that

1296
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:07,319
Speaker 1: these relationships that are around me are around me for

1297
00:55:07,360 --> 00:55:11,319
Speaker 1: a reason, because it shows me that I what I

1298
00:55:11,400 --> 00:55:13,880
Speaker 1: want and what I strive for will come my way

1299
00:55:14,080 --> 00:55:16,640
Speaker 1: when it's supposed to come, and you can't rush the process.

1300
00:55:16,960 --> 00:55:19,000
Speaker 1: And I think that's all. I always just have to

1301
00:55:19,000 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 1: tell myself that the people that are in relationships around

1302
00:55:21,520 --> 00:55:23,919
Speaker 1: you are there for a reason to show you what

1303
00:55:23,960 --> 00:55:26,719
Speaker 1: you want and it is possible and just know that

1304
00:55:26,719 --> 00:55:27,760
Speaker 1: you're on your own timeline.

1305
00:55:29,840 --> 00:55:30,080
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1306
00:55:30,120 --> 00:55:32,200
Speaker 9: I actually think that's really good advice and like, but

1307
00:55:32,239 --> 00:55:33,240
Speaker 9: it's a personal experience.

1308
00:55:33,320 --> 00:55:35,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think it's it's it's anybody that says it.

1309
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:36,280
Speaker 3: It's not tough.

1310
00:55:36,520 --> 00:55:40,080
Speaker 1: They're like lying because you know, well okay.

1311
00:55:39,840 --> 00:55:40,520
Speaker 3: Or they're back up.

1312
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:46,120
Speaker 1: Because there are moments, you know, yeah, like I can

1313
00:55:46,120 --> 00:55:48,080
Speaker 1: stand here and I can you know, say that this

1314
00:55:48,120 --> 00:55:49,680
Speaker 1: does this. But yeah, there are moments where I just

1315
00:55:49,680 --> 00:55:52,200
Speaker 1: I literally cried the whole flight home from from Texas

1316
00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:54,960
Speaker 1: because I was just you know, having a moment.

1317
00:55:55,480 --> 00:55:57,840
Speaker 5: The person sitting next to you totally.

1318
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Speaker 3: For hours, They're like, I forgot my headphones. Do I

1319
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Speaker 3: say something?

1320
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Speaker 2: And I'm a.

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00:56:03,640 --> 00:56:05,840
Speaker 3: Talker, so I was just going in. I was like

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Speaker 3: that second baby, They're all okay, I don't speak English. Okay,

1323
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Speaker 3: no obam wait I like this wait.

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Speaker 9: I first also want to say a Meredith and Crever

1325
00:56:26,400 --> 00:56:27,160
Speaker 9: never getting together.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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00:56:30,000 --> 00:56:34,480
Speaker 9: So this is from Amelia. She says, Hi back, this

1328
00:56:34,560 --> 00:56:39,160
Speaker 9: is my first time reading it. High back in Tanya.

1329
00:56:39,200 --> 00:56:41,480
Speaker 9: I'm really curious about what has led you to to

1330
00:56:41,520 --> 00:56:44,080
Speaker 9: live a life of faith, particularly in Jesus. I know

1331
00:56:44,120 --> 00:56:47,160
Speaker 9: you've mentioned in it a few times, and you talked

1332
00:56:47,160 --> 00:56:48,920
Speaker 9: about prayer in your last podcast, and I thought it

1333
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:50,719
Speaker 9: was so cool because I just think it's so rare

1334
00:56:50,760 --> 00:56:53,560
Speaker 9: to see people who are well known in entertainment to

1335
00:56:53,600 --> 00:56:56,160
Speaker 9: be open about their belief in God. Though I do

1336
00:56:56,200 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 9: feel like I see it more and more, which is exciting.

1337
00:56:59,120 --> 00:57:00,680
Speaker 9: I would just like to hear more of your own

1338
00:57:00,680 --> 00:57:04,600
Speaker 9: story about also about knowing Jesus, partially because I'm just curious,

1339
00:57:04,680 --> 00:57:07,080
Speaker 9: and also because it's really encouraging to see how God

1340
00:57:07,120 --> 00:57:09,400
Speaker 9: is working in people's lives. I love that despite the

1341
00:57:09,440 --> 00:57:11,560
Speaker 9: bad news we hear often, God is always at work

1342
00:57:11,560 --> 00:57:14,080
Speaker 9: and bringing hope and restoration to the world. You all

1343
00:57:14,080 --> 00:57:17,040
Speaker 9: bring so much positivity and honesty and laughter into everyone's

1344
00:57:17,080 --> 00:57:22,320
Speaker 9: ears each week, so keep it up. Love, Amelia, I

1345
00:57:22,360 --> 00:57:24,240
Speaker 9: love that, I know, but your story.

1346
00:57:24,000 --> 00:57:25,560
Speaker 3: Is actually very interesting.

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Speaker 9: Mine is I grew up in a Christian home and

1348
00:57:29,400 --> 00:57:31,000
Speaker 9: I went to I grew up going to church, so

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Speaker 9: it was kind of like part of my like I

1350
00:57:34,320 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 9: kind of had to do that, and then I went

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Speaker 9: to a Christian school too, so it was almost like

1352
00:57:39,200 --> 00:57:41,720
Speaker 9: if you weren't like a Christian or didn't have a

1353
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:44,680
Speaker 9: relationship with God. You were kind of like not.

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Speaker 3: Like it was like, wow, they're like heathens.

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Speaker 9: But I also think it was kind of a problem

1356
00:57:51,360 --> 00:57:56,520
Speaker 9: in going to college because I was so I almost

1357
00:57:56,600 --> 00:58:00,640
Speaker 9: had like a judgmental approach to anything that wasn't what

1358
00:58:00,720 --> 00:58:03,040
Speaker 9: I grew up with. And so like anyone who was

1359
00:58:03,120 --> 00:58:06,240
Speaker 9: drinking or doing stuff that I didn't do or that

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00:58:06,280 --> 00:58:08,880
Speaker 9: I thought was wrong or been told wrong my whole life,

1361
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Speaker 9: I instead of just approaching it as like that's their

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Speaker 9: decision and whatever, I was very like judgmental. And so

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Speaker 9: then at some point I don't even know, probably in

1364
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Speaker 9: my twenties, was when I was like, you know what,

1365
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Speaker 9: this is like my decision on how I live my life,

1366
00:58:26,160 --> 00:58:29,920
Speaker 9: and it's my job as a Christian, and like having

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00:58:29,960 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 9: that belief is to love other people and not be

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Speaker 9: judgmental or turn them away from from my lifestyle, but

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Speaker 9: to just be a light in and encouragement regardless if

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Speaker 9: they believe or not. And so I think that's kind

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Speaker 9: of my stories, not as like this transformative like lifestyle.

1372
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Speaker 9: But it was interesting growing up and kind of being

1373
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Speaker 9: just a routine to being like more of a relationship, right,

1374
00:58:56,400 --> 00:58:58,760
Speaker 9: but your yours is actually like it was like a

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Speaker 9: like a lifestyle change totally.

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Speaker 1: It Like it was the craziest thing because I mean

1377
00:59:05,080 --> 00:59:07,040
Speaker 1: I grew up serving Orthodox, so I grew up my

1378
00:59:07,080 --> 00:59:08,680
Speaker 1: dad goes to church. But I was going to church

1379
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Speaker 1: and not really understanding what they were saying. You know,

1380
00:59:10,960 --> 00:59:13,240
Speaker 1: like when you just go to go and you're not like,

1381
00:59:14,480 --> 00:59:16,000
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's different for me because I didn't

1382
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Speaker 1: understand what they were saying. So I was just like

1383
00:59:17,720 --> 00:59:19,920
Speaker 1: going to church and not really getting anything out of it,

1384
00:59:19,960 --> 00:59:21,640
Speaker 1: you know, like I don't understand what the sermon is.

1385
00:59:21,680 --> 00:59:23,160
Speaker 1: So it's just like one of those things I did

1386
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Speaker 1: on Sundays. And then I was like at a really

1387
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Speaker 1: bad place, Like I really think I was depressed, maybe

1388
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Speaker 1: like five years ago. I just was like and marking

1389
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Speaker 1: attest he saw me.

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Speaker 3: I mean, Amy, this.

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Speaker 5: Was post breakup. Yeah yeah, just.

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Speaker 1: In a like bad mental state. And I started going

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Speaker 1: to a Christian church and it was like that one

1394
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Speaker 1: one day I went and it was almost like he

1395
00:59:47,440 --> 00:59:50,120
Speaker 1: was speaking like directly to me, like what I needed

1396
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Speaker 1: to hear.

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Speaker 5: But how how did you find that church? Was it

1398
00:59:52,160 --> 00:59:53,040
Speaker 5: a friend that took you there?

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Speaker 1: It was actually so I was crying every day at

1400
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Speaker 1: work I would cry go down the in the hallways

1401
00:59:57,560 --> 00:59:59,880
Speaker 1: when we were at the E Building and Jason kN

1402
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Speaker 1: actually ran into me and we were like friendly. We'd

1403
01:00:03,040 --> 01:00:04,960
Speaker 1: say to each other we knew each other well, and

1404
01:00:05,000 --> 01:00:06,360
Speaker 1: he's like, I don't he didn't even know what was

1405
01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:08,120
Speaker 1: going on. He's like, I don't know what's going on

1406
01:00:08,120 --> 01:00:11,400
Speaker 1: in your life. I've just seen seen you crying a lot.

1407
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Speaker 1: And I don't know if this interests you at all,

1408
01:00:13,920 --> 01:00:16,200
Speaker 1: but I do a Bible study and we're doing one tonight.

1409
01:00:16,560 --> 01:00:18,920
Speaker 1: It might help you. Like, I'm more than happy to

1410
01:00:18,960 --> 01:00:21,680
Speaker 1: have you come. And so I was like I've tried

1411
01:00:21,840 --> 01:00:25,560
Speaker 1: everything under the sun, you know, up until that point.

1412
01:00:25,680 --> 01:00:29,000
Speaker 1: You know, I went through the whole like drinking, going out,

1413
01:00:29,240 --> 01:00:32,440
Speaker 1: sleeping around, you know, like just all that phase of it.

1414
01:00:32,520 --> 01:00:35,080
Speaker 1: And then I was like I let me just see

1415
01:00:35,160 --> 01:00:37,760
Speaker 1: and then I went and it just it was this

1416
01:00:38,040 --> 01:00:41,040
Speaker 1: crazy just I have no idea. It was like he

1417
01:00:41,160 --> 01:00:43,160
Speaker 1: was just speaking to me. And ever since then, I

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01:00:43,200 --> 01:00:44,960
Speaker 1: started going every I was thinking it was like every

1419
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Speaker 1: other week, and then I just completely like saw my

1420
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Speaker 1: life just make like a total what is it? Three

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01:00:51,080 --> 01:00:55,160
Speaker 1: sixty one AD one ad Yeah, and now it's something

1422
01:00:55,240 --> 01:00:58,080
Speaker 1: that it is so like I go to church because

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01:00:58,120 --> 01:00:59,800
Speaker 1: I get something I like.

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01:00:59,840 --> 01:01:02,760
Speaker 3: I I like, you're fed.

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01:01:02,600 --> 01:01:05,160
Speaker 1: I'm fed, and I live. I live my life Monday

1426
01:01:05,160 --> 01:01:08,760
Speaker 1: through Saturday as a Christian because it's just made so

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Speaker 1: much sense in my life. It's brought such like a

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01:01:11,000 --> 01:01:14,200
Speaker 1: wholeness that I'd never felt before. So it's something that

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Speaker 1: I did for It's actually, I think the first thing

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Speaker 1: I've ever done for myself in my life. And it

1431
01:01:20,280 --> 01:01:22,400
Speaker 1: was always It's so funny because it was always such

1432
01:01:22,400 --> 01:01:25,280
Speaker 1: like a little bit of a conversation in my past relationships,

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01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:26,560
Speaker 1: you know, like, oh, I want you to convert to

1434
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Speaker 1: be Serbian Orthodox, just because that's what I was just thought.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 1: And now it's like, I know, I know, I'm I'm

1437
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Speaker 1: I'm Christian and and and that's how I live, That's

1438
01:01:36,200 --> 01:01:38,000
Speaker 1: how that's how I do everything. That's that's the lens

1439
01:01:38,040 --> 01:01:41,160
Speaker 1: that I do everything, like in my life through Now.

1440
01:01:41,280 --> 01:01:43,800
Speaker 5: Pardon me for not knowing about Serbian Orthodox, But are

1441
01:01:43,800 --> 01:01:46,080
Speaker 5: the two religions different enough that this has caused any

1442
01:01:46,120 --> 01:01:47,480
Speaker 5: friction with you and your parents?

1443
01:01:48,640 --> 01:01:49,160
Speaker 3: Essentially?

1444
01:01:49,280 --> 01:01:53,920
Speaker 1: Like, no, because yes, it has caused friction, But you know,

1445
01:01:54,280 --> 01:01:56,600
Speaker 1: faith is faith, and you're we believe in the same God.

1446
01:01:56,640 --> 01:01:59,160
Speaker 1: And you know, holidays are obviously a little bit different

1447
01:01:59,160 --> 01:02:02,160
Speaker 1: than you know, the tradition that are different in each faith,

1448
01:02:02,840 --> 01:02:04,920
Speaker 1: and it has caused a little bit of friction because

1449
01:02:05,160 --> 01:02:07,880
Speaker 1: you know, I was raised one way and I'm choosing

1450
01:02:08,240 --> 01:02:11,640
Speaker 1: to go a different path. But I think at the

1451
01:02:11,720 --> 01:02:13,280
Speaker 1: end of the day, like my parents know that they

1452
01:02:13,360 --> 01:02:16,560
Speaker 1: raised me right and that I'm making these decisions for myself.

1453
01:02:16,600 --> 01:02:20,480
Speaker 1: And you know, it is an awkward conversation and it

1454
01:02:20,520 --> 01:02:21,840
Speaker 1: took some getting used to for them.

1455
01:02:21,880 --> 01:02:24,840
Speaker 5: For sure, you have a brother and sister. They also

1456
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Speaker 5: Serbian Orthodoxy.

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Speaker 1: They fled, Yeah, no, they're Serbian Orthodox. It was it

1458
01:02:30,960 --> 01:02:33,120
Speaker 1: was a hard conversation. But I think at the end

1459
01:02:33,120 --> 01:02:35,440
Speaker 1: of the day, you're an adult and you're doing you know,

1460
01:02:35,520 --> 01:02:36,960
Speaker 1: you have to live your life. And it's not like

1461
01:02:37,040 --> 01:02:39,240
Speaker 1: I want to abandon my Serbian traditions, you know, like

1462
01:02:39,280 --> 01:02:41,200
Speaker 1: there are certain things that I'm going to carry on

1463
01:02:41,240 --> 01:02:42,880
Speaker 1: when I get married. I want to celebrate my slav

1464
01:02:42,960 --> 01:02:45,120
Speaker 1: my dad's lava and you know, and like there are

1465
01:02:45,240 --> 01:02:48,280
Speaker 1: things that I still will take from that. But I

1466
01:02:48,280 --> 01:02:50,440
Speaker 1: think it's just such a different it's just a completely

1467
01:02:50,440 --> 01:02:52,160
Speaker 1: different way that you live your life. And I think

1468
01:02:52,200 --> 01:02:54,400
Speaker 1: you can you can.

1469
01:02:55,680 --> 01:02:56,760
Speaker 3: A test.

1470
01:02:56,960 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 1: It just kind of it's helped me immensely.

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01:03:00,320 --> 01:03:00,480
Speaker 3: Well.

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Speaker 9: It's just like I mean, I even mentioned it with

1473
01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:04,640
Speaker 9: Amy last week, Like sometimes you get into a place

1474
01:03:04,640 --> 01:03:07,840
Speaker 9: where you're kind of like, everything's good in my life,

1475
01:03:07,880 --> 01:03:10,240
Speaker 9: but there's just something that like is off and I

1476
01:03:10,240 --> 01:03:12,880
Speaker 9: don't know what it, like where that's stemming from or

1477
01:03:12,920 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 9: what's missing, and so you try to fill it with

1478
01:03:16,000 --> 01:03:18,160
Speaker 9: hanging out with your friends or doing things that you

1479
01:03:18,240 --> 01:03:20,160
Speaker 9: like to do, and you're like, something's still just missing.

1480
01:03:20,240 --> 01:03:23,000
Speaker 9: And I've found that whole like you said, that wholeness

1481
01:03:23,040 --> 01:03:26,120
Speaker 9: in my relationship with God, and so it is. It's

1482
01:03:26,240 --> 01:03:29,880
Speaker 9: it's not just a going to church once a week.

1483
01:03:29,960 --> 01:03:30,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, and this is the thing.

1484
01:03:31,040 --> 01:03:32,960
Speaker 1: So what So I think a lot of people can

1485
01:03:33,000 --> 01:03:34,600
Speaker 1: relate to, Like when you break up with somebody and

1486
01:03:34,640 --> 01:03:36,240
Speaker 1: you that you've been dating for a long time, a

1487
01:03:36,280 --> 01:03:39,400
Speaker 1: lot of things that go through your mind are like

1488
01:03:41,240 --> 01:03:42,760
Speaker 1: you don't feel like I'm like, oh my gosh, I

1489
01:03:42,760 --> 01:03:45,040
Speaker 1: have to go to a wedding by myself and I

1490
01:03:45,080 --> 01:03:48,080
Speaker 1: have to start dating again, and like I don't know

1491
01:03:48,200 --> 01:03:50,720
Speaker 1: myself out of this relationship, and oh I have to

1492
01:03:50,920 --> 01:03:52,520
Speaker 1: like that he was the one for me.

1493
01:03:52,600 --> 01:03:53,600
Speaker 3: How do I get him back?

1494
01:03:53,640 --> 01:03:56,200
Speaker 1: Like all these like questions are running through your head

1495
01:03:56,200 --> 01:03:58,760
Speaker 1: of like all these things and your anxieties up and

1496
01:03:58,800 --> 01:04:01,960
Speaker 1: you can't sleep and you can't eat and uh. And

1497
01:04:02,000 --> 01:04:04,960
Speaker 1: now I have such like an ease and like obviously

1498
01:04:05,040 --> 01:04:07,600
Speaker 1: I'm a little bit crazy, like I over analyze and

1499
01:04:07,640 --> 01:04:09,840
Speaker 1: things like that, but I have a calmness in my

1500
01:04:09,880 --> 01:04:11,960
Speaker 1: heart knowing that like what's meant for me is gonna

1501
01:04:12,280 --> 01:04:15,360
Speaker 1: find its way. Yeah, and that all comes from my faith.

1502
01:04:15,400 --> 01:04:16,680
Speaker 1: Like it's like this weird like.

1503
01:04:17,160 --> 01:04:22,240
Speaker 3: It's just like peace yeah, peace, yeah, peace.

1504
01:04:22,680 --> 01:04:23,000
Speaker 2: Peace.

1505
01:04:23,800 --> 01:04:26,600
Speaker 3: So hope that answered your question. I think it did too.

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01:04:27,920 --> 01:04:29,840
Speaker 9: There's a few more emails, but first I want to

1507
01:04:29,880 --> 01:04:33,480
Speaker 9: talk about this was interesting this past week. Did you

1508
01:04:33,480 --> 01:04:35,920
Speaker 9: see the whole thing about Kendall Jinner about her like

1509
01:04:35,960 --> 01:04:39,320
Speaker 9: skin instead. I feel so bad for her because I

1510
01:04:39,360 --> 01:04:41,160
Speaker 9: went through that last year and there were I think

1511
01:04:41,200 --> 01:04:43,760
Speaker 9: it was like right around jingle Ball and I was like, oh.

1512
01:04:43,600 --> 01:04:47,120
Speaker 3: Like wait, but what happened. People were saying, like you

1513
01:04:47,120 --> 01:04:49,360
Speaker 3: your skin? Yeah, I guess people were saying like, oh

1514
01:04:49,440 --> 01:04:51,480
Speaker 3: my god, her skin looks so so bad. Yeah.

1515
01:04:51,480 --> 01:04:53,360
Speaker 1: And what she was saying, like she kind.

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Speaker 9: Of said, don't ever let that stuff stop you from

1517
01:04:55,400 --> 01:04:59,280
Speaker 9: like living your life. Yeah, but having like been in

1518
01:04:59,280 --> 01:05:02,280
Speaker 9: that position it and especially her, like it's cameras around

1519
01:05:02,280 --> 01:05:06,280
Speaker 9: her constantly, I felt really bad for her. I was like,

1520
01:05:06,320 --> 01:05:09,120
Speaker 9: and it's like, she has the best people in the

1521
01:05:09,160 --> 01:05:12,720
Speaker 9: world doing her makeup and you know, skincare stuff, So

1522
01:05:13,800 --> 01:05:16,200
Speaker 9: I feel for her. But that one, I wanted to

1523
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Speaker 9: not there's not a ton of chemicals, it's not overpriced.

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Speaker 3: It's just it is what it is. And it's a

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Speaker 3: lot of products are steering vegan now.

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Speaker 9: having skin problems it seems so dramatic until because I

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01:06:59,280 --> 01:07:01,480
Speaker 9: used to be like, oh my gosh, people are so

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01:07:01,560 --> 01:07:03,439
Speaker 9: dramatic when they talk about their skin being bad.

1557
01:07:03,480 --> 01:07:05,880
Speaker 3: But it really makes you just I bet. I.

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01:07:07,000 --> 01:07:10,400
Speaker 1: I mean, I like, knock on what I've never had

1559
01:07:10,440 --> 01:07:11,600
Speaker 1: to deal with acne.

1560
01:07:11,600 --> 01:07:12,320
Speaker 3: I'm like knocking on it.

1561
01:07:12,640 --> 01:07:15,400
Speaker 5: Wait a second, you can win many a morning.

1562
01:07:16,480 --> 01:07:17,520
Speaker 3: That's something I get one.

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01:07:19,120 --> 01:07:25,680
Speaker 1: Pimple, and I'm like, so I get it. That's it's hard.

1564
01:07:26,040 --> 01:07:28,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's yeah, it was aggressive.

1565
01:07:28,520 --> 01:07:30,160
Speaker 5: Can we rapid fire a couple of these because I

1566
01:07:30,200 --> 01:07:33,840
Speaker 5: think there are some more interesting emails? I do too, Kelsey.

1567
01:07:33,840 --> 01:07:35,560
Speaker 5: I thought there's a interesting it's just different than what

1568
01:07:35,600 --> 01:07:38,640
Speaker 5: we normally get. Okay, Becca, of course was on the

1569
01:07:38,680 --> 01:07:41,920
Speaker 5: Bachelor in case anyone didn't know, and Kelsey would like

1570
01:07:41,960 --> 01:07:44,120
Speaker 5: to know about her best friend who's twenty five. She's

1571
01:07:44,120 --> 01:07:47,400
Speaker 5: saving herself for marriage, and she's considering nominating her to

1572
01:07:47,400 --> 01:07:50,280
Speaker 5: be on the Bachelor, and she has some questions. One

1573
01:07:50,480 --> 01:07:52,520
Speaker 5: she has no social media. Will that hurt her chance

1574
01:07:52,560 --> 01:07:53,320
Speaker 5: of being selected?

1575
01:07:54,280 --> 01:07:56,320
Speaker 3: I almost it should help her.

1576
01:07:56,360 --> 01:07:58,480
Speaker 9: They should be like, Okay, she's not trying to like

1577
01:07:58,600 --> 01:08:03,640
Speaker 9: go on to be a a digital influencer.

1578
01:08:03,120 --> 01:08:06,920
Speaker 3: Like myself, you know.

1579
01:08:07,000 --> 01:08:09,160
Speaker 9: But I mean when I when I went on the show,

1580
01:08:09,240 --> 01:08:11,320
Speaker 9: this wasn't a thing yet. So I can say with

1581
01:08:12,200 --> 01:08:16,000
Speaker 9: like genuine clarity or whatever the word is I'm looking for,

1582
01:08:16,439 --> 01:08:18,920
Speaker 9: I had no idea that this would be my life.

1583
01:08:18,920 --> 01:08:22,519
Speaker 9: But yeah, I think not having social media might benefit

1584
01:08:23,280 --> 01:08:23,720
Speaker 9: So we.

1585
01:08:23,800 --> 01:08:25,800
Speaker 3: Just revisited Becca's first out of the lima.

1586
01:08:25,920 --> 01:08:29,040
Speaker 9: Oh yeah, they watched both of my seasons.

1587
01:08:29,560 --> 01:08:30,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, that was great.

1588
01:08:30,439 --> 01:08:31,960
Speaker 2: Did you do something weird or no?

1589
01:08:32,200 --> 01:08:33,880
Speaker 1: Her foot her foot just went out like this.

1590
01:08:34,280 --> 01:08:38,040
Speaker 3: Okay, No, we did not know. It came out of

1591
01:08:38,080 --> 01:08:39,960
Speaker 3: there like a cheerleader on crack.

1592
01:08:41,920 --> 01:08:46,360
Speaker 9: Okay, please, I would like for the listeners to email

1593
01:08:46,600 --> 01:08:48,479
Speaker 9: to let me know that you disagree with that.

1594
01:08:48,680 --> 01:08:50,639
Speaker 3: The guy was like, make sure you take a big

1595
01:08:50,720 --> 01:08:51,679
Speaker 3: step out of the limo.

1596
01:08:51,800 --> 01:08:54,600
Speaker 9: So I, I like, my step out is very exaggerated,

1597
01:08:54,640 --> 01:08:55,160
Speaker 9: but I did.

1598
01:08:55,000 --> 01:08:59,240
Speaker 3: Not stick my leg out. You did? No, I didn't.

1599
01:08:59,280 --> 01:09:00,719
Speaker 2: Can you post it on your.

1600
01:09:03,080 --> 01:09:06,439
Speaker 3: In her story? Keep going? Yeah? Sorry?

1601
01:09:06,680 --> 01:09:09,000
Speaker 5: Next question, how do I know when the right time

1602
01:09:09,040 --> 01:09:10,639
Speaker 5: to submit a friend? Apply?

1603
01:09:10,960 --> 01:09:11,080
Speaker 9: Is?

1604
01:09:12,040 --> 01:09:14,360
Speaker 5: Meaning? What she's saying is her friend is more of

1605
01:09:14,360 --> 01:09:16,599
Speaker 5: a Ben Higgins Sean Lowe kind of a gal than

1606
01:09:16,600 --> 01:09:19,360
Speaker 5: a Nick Vile kind of a gal. Mean, different guys

1607
01:09:19,439 --> 01:09:22,000
Speaker 5: might be bad. Is there anybody to know that going in?

1608
01:09:22,520 --> 01:09:24,320
Speaker 9: No, because I think all the girls thought it was

1609
01:09:24,320 --> 01:09:26,519
Speaker 9: gonna be Peter and it they they kind of made

1610
01:09:26,560 --> 01:09:27,960
Speaker 9: a switch around in the bucket.

1611
01:09:29,000 --> 01:09:32,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, in the bucket. And lastly, I feel as

1612
01:09:32,400 --> 01:09:34,120
Speaker 5: though she may be too good for the Bachelor world

1613
01:09:34,120 --> 01:09:35,920
Speaker 5: because she's very strong in her faith. She has very

1614
01:09:36,000 --> 01:09:38,360
Speaker 5: high standards. In fact, she's made the decision to not

1615
01:09:38,520 --> 01:09:42,599
Speaker 5: make out until engaged. She doesn't want to be tempted

1616
01:09:42,600 --> 01:09:44,479
Speaker 5: to go any further and feels as if she if

1617
01:09:44,520 --> 01:09:47,280
Speaker 5: she intimately kissed someone and she would feel tempted.

1618
01:09:47,600 --> 01:09:51,080
Speaker 9: Pecking is okay, yeah, she I don't think she needs

1619
01:09:51,120 --> 01:09:51,879
Speaker 9: to go on The Bachelor.

1620
01:09:51,960 --> 01:09:52,360
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1621
01:09:52,400 --> 01:09:54,000
Speaker 5: Well, her question for you is did you let them

1622
01:09:54,000 --> 01:09:56,120
Speaker 5: know you were a version during the casting process?

1623
01:09:56,280 --> 01:09:58,240
Speaker 3: No, so I didn't. No one knew.

1624
01:09:59,200 --> 01:10:01,439
Speaker 9: I didn't talk of about it, and then I didn't

1625
01:10:01,439 --> 01:10:03,880
Speaker 9: even bring it up till Ashley. I was crying and

1626
01:10:03,920 --> 01:10:04,240
Speaker 9: she was.

1627
01:10:04,200 --> 01:10:07,400
Speaker 3: Like, I think I ruined things. And I was just

1628
01:10:07,439 --> 01:10:09,120
Speaker 3: like sitting on the couch. I was like, what happened?

1629
01:10:09,120 --> 01:10:11,240
Speaker 9: She was like I told him or one of the

1630
01:10:11,240 --> 01:10:13,040
Speaker 9: other girls, like she told him she was a virgin.

1631
01:10:13,560 --> 01:10:16,559
Speaker 9: And I just was like, oh, yeah, me too. And

1632
01:10:16,920 --> 01:10:19,080
Speaker 9: I was like, oh, like I have a mic on,

1633
01:10:19,520 --> 01:10:21,559
Speaker 9: there's cameras on me, and like instantly one of the.

1634
01:10:21,560 --> 01:10:24,120
Speaker 3: Producers was like, Becca, let's go chat.

1635
01:10:24,240 --> 01:10:26,960
Speaker 9: I'm like, oh, like I know what my storyline's about

1636
01:10:27,000 --> 01:10:30,240
Speaker 9: to me, Oh no, because I think.

1637
01:10:30,400 --> 01:10:32,360
Speaker 3: Going into it, I didn't want.

1638
01:10:32,080 --> 01:10:35,639
Speaker 9: That to Like I'd seen like what how they make

1639
01:10:35,720 --> 01:10:38,559
Speaker 9: people's storylines and I didn't want that to be all

1640
01:10:38,680 --> 01:10:40,360
Speaker 9: that people knew about me, and it kind of was

1641
01:10:40,400 --> 01:10:42,439
Speaker 9: all I talked about for a long time after the show,

1642
01:10:42,479 --> 01:10:45,400
Speaker 9: you know, like that's what people would ask about, and

1643
01:10:45,439 --> 01:10:48,160
Speaker 9: that's what they asked me about throughout that season for sure.

1644
01:10:48,200 --> 01:10:51,160
Speaker 3: But no, it wasn't something I went in. I wasn't

1645
01:10:51,160 --> 01:10:52,000
Speaker 3: like I'm a virgin.

1646
01:10:52,439 --> 01:10:55,800
Speaker 9: It just happened when that innocent moment where I was like,

1647
01:10:55,920 --> 01:10:58,200
Speaker 9: oh my god, I'm on a TV show and miked up.

1648
01:10:59,200 --> 01:11:02,080
Speaker 3: I was trying to come for actually, I'm just kidding.

1649
01:11:02,080 --> 01:11:02,439
Speaker 3: I'm not.

1650
01:11:05,720 --> 01:11:08,519
Speaker 5: That's interesting. Yeah, but I think that I think that's

1651
01:11:08,560 --> 01:11:10,360
Speaker 5: good advice for her that maybe maybe not.

1652
01:11:10,800 --> 01:11:13,599
Speaker 9: I mean, yeah, I was like, did I my whole thing?

1653
01:11:13,640 --> 01:11:16,320
Speaker 9: I thought, my dad, my grandmama, mom, everyone's watching this.

1654
01:11:16,400 --> 01:11:18,240
Speaker 9: The thought that I'm going to kiss someone on TV

1655
01:11:18,680 --> 01:11:21,720
Speaker 9: is like, and I've kissed like multiple.

1656
01:11:21,320 --> 01:11:23,120
Speaker 3: People before I went on the show, But you don't

1657
01:11:23,120 --> 01:11:25,040
Speaker 3: know what you look like when you kiss. You don't know,

1658
01:11:25,160 --> 01:11:26,439
Speaker 3: Like that's so scary.

1659
01:11:26,520 --> 01:11:30,160
Speaker 9: And I even Chris tried to like, was gonna lean

1660
01:11:30,200 --> 01:11:31,479
Speaker 9: in and kiss me on a group date and I

1661
01:11:31,520 --> 01:11:33,760
Speaker 9: was like, I don't, like, you just kissed. I just

1662
01:11:33,840 --> 01:11:35,880
Speaker 9: listened to all the girls talk about making out like.

1663
01:11:35,880 --> 01:11:37,599
Speaker 3: That's so weird. I'd rather be art.

1664
01:11:37,600 --> 01:11:40,160
Speaker 5: Wouldn't that be interesting to producers that not only is

1665
01:11:40,200 --> 01:11:42,000
Speaker 5: she a virgin, she won't even make it, but if.

1666
01:11:41,880 --> 01:11:43,680
Speaker 9: She doesn't want to be peer pressured, that is not

1667
01:11:43,760 --> 01:11:46,639
Speaker 9: the place she want to be Christian mingle, Oh.

1668
01:11:46,680 --> 01:11:49,560
Speaker 5: Maybe she's also a taxidermist. Does that add any But

1669
01:11:49,600 --> 01:11:52,920
Speaker 5: there's a girl in there? Yeah, maybe that's already been done.

1670
01:11:53,680 --> 01:11:56,560
Speaker 3: Watched I love this girl.

1671
01:11:56,720 --> 01:11:58,800
Speaker 5: Michelle says my husband, I've been married a little over

1672
01:11:58,800 --> 01:12:00,760
Speaker 5: a year and a half. I just found out we're

1673
01:12:00,760 --> 01:12:03,880
Speaker 5: eight weeks pregnant with our first baby. He's a phenomenal men,

1674
01:12:03,920 --> 01:12:05,680
Speaker 5: but lately there's been a lack of chemistry in our

1675
01:12:05,680 --> 01:12:08,880
Speaker 5: physical connection. He always finds an excuse to not have sex.

1676
01:12:08,960 --> 01:12:12,200
Speaker 5: Even before I was pregnant, we're very emotionally compatible. The

1677
01:12:12,200 --> 01:12:14,680
Speaker 5: physical aspect has quickly gone away. When I discussed it

1678
01:12:14,680 --> 01:12:17,720
Speaker 5: with him, he says, Babe, it's just pregnancy hormones and

1679
01:12:17,800 --> 01:12:20,160
Speaker 5: he walks away. How should I approach this? Is it

1680
01:12:20,240 --> 01:12:22,879
Speaker 5: normal for the excitement of the physical relationship to vanish?

1681
01:12:24,439 --> 01:12:29,360
Speaker 5: Is pregnancy a detrimental factor towards physical activity in a relationship?

1682
01:12:29,360 --> 01:12:30,880
Speaker 5: I'm twenty nine, he's thirty one.

1683
01:12:31,200 --> 01:12:34,640
Speaker 2: So I saw this email and emailed our we have

1684
01:12:34,680 --> 01:12:37,639
Speaker 2: this like sex expert, so I emailed her. She's in Australia,

1685
01:12:37,680 --> 01:12:39,760
Speaker 2: but she can come on next week to try and

1686
01:12:39,800 --> 01:12:41,880
Speaker 2: help us with this, because I don't know that any

1687
01:12:41,920 --> 01:12:43,360
Speaker 2: of us are necessarily.

1688
01:12:42,880 --> 01:12:45,880
Speaker 9: Cool, right And if she's kind of approaching more on

1689
01:12:46,040 --> 01:12:48,879
Speaker 9: like this emotional like why aren't you giving me attention?

1690
01:12:49,080 --> 01:12:52,320
Speaker 9: It might be like he just doesn't Loch, I think

1691
01:12:52,479 --> 01:12:56,040
Speaker 9: still might need some Yeah, I mean I would have this.

1692
01:12:56,080 --> 01:12:58,040
Speaker 2: Been around a while, and I think that that should

1693
01:12:58,040 --> 01:13:00,920
Speaker 2: be number one in the relationship. So I'm concerned, but

1694
01:13:00,960 --> 01:13:02,080
Speaker 2: I'm wondering if it's the.

1695
01:13:02,040 --> 01:13:03,360
Speaker 5: Baby could be.

1696
01:13:04,200 --> 01:13:05,920
Speaker 9: I don't know if I agree that's number one, but

1697
01:13:05,960 --> 01:13:09,240
Speaker 9: I do agree it's very important, and I do agree

1698
01:13:09,280 --> 01:13:13,160
Speaker 9: as a woman, we want to feel wanted and like

1699
01:13:13,160 --> 01:13:15,000
Speaker 9: like we want to know that he like wants us,

1700
01:13:15,120 --> 01:13:17,120
Speaker 9: like if anything, we want to be able to be

1701
01:13:17,200 --> 01:13:20,760
Speaker 9: like not tonight or not right now, rather than.

1702
01:13:21,439 --> 01:13:23,960
Speaker 1: Your job that's not his job, shut down, Like I

1703
01:13:23,960 --> 01:13:25,760
Speaker 1: feel like it's if she's only a month and a

1704
01:13:25,800 --> 01:13:28,240
Speaker 1: half in, right, two months in, doesn't like shut down

1705
01:13:28,240 --> 01:13:30,599
Speaker 1: when you're like at like eight nine, I was gonna

1706
01:13:30,600 --> 01:13:31,880
Speaker 1: say further like further along.

1707
01:13:32,000 --> 01:13:34,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, there's going to be a time when it's not available.

1708
01:13:34,240 --> 01:13:38,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, although they don't say that that's always the case.

1709
01:13:38,880 --> 01:13:40,840
Speaker 3: Well, I think it's fun I think you're able to.

1710
01:13:41,080 --> 01:13:43,280
Speaker 3: I think you're physically able to the whole pregnancy.

1711
01:13:43,280 --> 01:13:46,360
Speaker 5: I think you like, right after birth, there's going to

1712
01:13:46,360 --> 01:13:48,120
Speaker 5: be a dry spall unless there's a C section.

1713
01:13:48,320 --> 01:13:51,080
Speaker 3: Wait, but I think it's funny. That not funny. I

1714
01:13:51,120 --> 01:13:52,080
Speaker 3: don't know what the word is.

1715
01:13:52,120 --> 01:13:54,400
Speaker 9: But when he when they tried to discuss it, and

1716
01:13:54,400 --> 01:13:56,599
Speaker 9: he says, baby, it's just pregnancy home hormones.

1717
01:13:56,640 --> 01:13:57,960
Speaker 3: Like She's like.

1718
01:13:58,000 --> 01:14:04,519
Speaker 9: You have pregnancy hormoness, like overthinking things. He has like

1719
01:14:04,640 --> 01:14:08,400
Speaker 9: the male version of pregnancy hormones and just can't can't tell.

1720
01:14:08,560 --> 01:14:09,799
Speaker 3: Sorry, too much stress.

1721
01:14:10,439 --> 01:14:12,559
Speaker 5: Sam says, I'm interested to hear your thoughts on the

1722
01:14:12,560 --> 01:14:15,360
Speaker 5: idea of soulmates. Do you, guys, think there's one person

1723
01:14:15,400 --> 01:14:17,120
Speaker 5: in the world for you or do you think that

1724
01:14:17,160 --> 01:14:18,840
Speaker 5: when you find the person you want to spend your

1725
01:14:18,840 --> 01:14:21,840
Speaker 5: life with, they become the one. I'm happily married to

1726
01:14:21,880 --> 01:14:24,160
Speaker 5: my husband of eight years, who falls into the first

1727
01:14:24,200 --> 01:14:27,000
Speaker 5: category only because they put him in the second category.

1728
01:14:27,760 --> 01:14:29,040
Speaker 5: Interested to hear your perspective.

1729
01:14:33,360 --> 01:14:36,160
Speaker 9: I love the idea of soul like that is one

1730
01:14:36,160 --> 01:14:43,160
Speaker 9: of the most romantic, like magical ideas that I know of.

1731
01:14:43,200 --> 01:14:45,679
Speaker 9: Like when I think about people talking about soulmates, whether

1732
01:14:45,720 --> 01:14:47,680
Speaker 9: it's with your friends like I loved Insex and the

1733
01:14:47,680 --> 01:14:49,760
Speaker 9: City when she's all, y'all are my soul like you

1734
01:14:49,800 --> 01:14:52,400
Speaker 9: girls are my soulmates. Like I love that, and I

1735
01:14:52,439 --> 01:14:56,080
Speaker 9: believe in having that those like like your souls are

1736
01:14:56,120 --> 01:14:58,640
Speaker 9: just connected and you are just meant to be in

1737
01:14:58,680 --> 01:15:01,479
Speaker 9: each other's life. I don't know if I believe there's

1738
01:15:01,520 --> 01:15:03,720
Speaker 9: one person, because I've heard of people.

1739
01:15:03,360 --> 01:15:05,160
Speaker 3: Who have lost a spouse or have.

1740
01:15:07,320 --> 01:15:09,640
Speaker 9: Yeah, like lost a spouse and then gotten remarried and

1741
01:15:09,680 --> 01:15:13,719
Speaker 9: it's like a different love, but it's a strong love.

1742
01:15:13,800 --> 01:15:14,400
Speaker 3: So I don't know.

1743
01:15:14,360 --> 01:15:19,240
Speaker 2: If it's shockingly I agree with you. Well, I can't

1744
01:15:19,240 --> 01:15:21,320
Speaker 2: even argue with you because I totally agree. I believe

1745
01:15:21,320 --> 01:15:23,519
Speaker 2: in soulmates and I believe in multiple Yeah.

1746
01:15:23,640 --> 01:15:27,439
Speaker 3: Oh, I love the romantic part of me.

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01:15:27,520 --> 01:15:32,160
Speaker 9: That's like diehard notebook fan is like there's only one

1748
01:15:32,200 --> 01:15:33,480
Speaker 9: Like that's so romantic.

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01:15:33,600 --> 01:15:35,479
Speaker 3: However, I believe you think about how.

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01:15:35,320 --> 01:15:37,720
Speaker 9: Many people are on this earth and how many how

1751
01:15:37,760 --> 01:15:39,559
Speaker 9: many people we don't get to meet, and how many

1752
01:15:39,560 --> 01:15:41,720
Speaker 9: people we'd have connections with if we were just in

1753
01:15:41,720 --> 01:15:43,479
Speaker 9: the right place at the right time, which brings back

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01:15:43,479 --> 01:15:47,720
Speaker 9: to fate. But I think that I think that there's

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01:15:47,800 --> 01:15:49,040
Speaker 9: different versions of soulmates.

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01:15:49,040 --> 01:15:50,559
Speaker 2: I think is what I believe, and I believe there's

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01:15:50,560 --> 01:15:54,160
Speaker 2: a connection in a chemistry that goes beyond what can

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01:15:54,320 --> 01:15:59,040
Speaker 2: just be tangibly explained. You can't explain it, but there

1759
01:15:59,120 --> 01:16:04,120
Speaker 2: is a connection and a chemistry that is bigger than Yeah,

1760
01:16:04,160 --> 01:16:04,800
Speaker 2: what do you think.

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01:16:05,280 --> 01:16:06,840
Speaker 5: I go back and forth on this because I have

1762
01:16:07,360 --> 01:16:09,839
Speaker 5: my logical brain that tells me that there's six billion

1763
01:16:09,880 --> 01:16:11,800
Speaker 5: people in the world, and the idea that there's only

1764
01:16:11,840 --> 01:16:14,320
Speaker 5: one person I could make a happy, wonderful relationship with

1765
01:16:14,360 --> 01:16:16,400
Speaker 5: for the rest of my life seems silly to me. Yeah,

1766
01:16:16,400 --> 01:16:17,599
Speaker 5: you know, I'm one of those are things. There's got

1767
01:16:17,640 --> 01:16:20,160
Speaker 5: to be aliens out there somewhere because the universe is infinite, right,

1768
01:16:20,200 --> 01:16:22,719
Speaker 5: that's sort of logical behavior. But then I think about

1769
01:16:22,720 --> 01:16:26,200
Speaker 5: my wife and the fact that at least three separate

1770
01:16:26,280 --> 01:16:30,800
Speaker 5: times in Milwaukee, our paths crossed before we actually met,

1771
01:16:31,120 --> 01:16:33,840
Speaker 5: and we realized it later that I was there too. Oh,

1772
01:16:33,840 --> 01:16:35,519
Speaker 5: I was there that day. Oh I saw you doing

1773
01:16:35,560 --> 01:16:39,519
Speaker 5: that that that fate or God or the universe was

1774
01:16:39,560 --> 01:16:42,240
Speaker 5: trying to push us together in some way. So then

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01:16:42,240 --> 01:16:44,840
Speaker 5: I wonder maybe there is some sort of energy that

1776
01:16:44,920 --> 01:16:45,719
Speaker 5: brought us together.

1777
01:16:46,479 --> 01:16:49,599
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've not heard that story. Up chills right now.

1778
01:16:50,280 --> 01:16:54,040
Speaker 3: I believe in saying yeah, yeah, one or multiple one.

1779
01:16:54,560 --> 01:16:56,600
Speaker 9: Wow, So you believe like maybe you could have a

1780
01:16:56,640 --> 01:16:59,200
Speaker 9: connection chemistry with other people, but there's that one that's

1781
01:16:59,280 --> 01:17:02,240
Speaker 9: just like that.

1782
01:17:00,680 --> 01:17:09,960
Speaker 1: That unshakeable, un godly, ungodly. No, that's not right whatever, whatever, Yeah,

1783
01:17:10,000 --> 01:17:10,960
Speaker 1: I do, I do.

1784
01:17:11,280 --> 01:17:12,880
Speaker 5: There was a picture that went viral a couple of

1785
01:17:12,960 --> 01:17:15,320
Speaker 5: years ago of a family photo taken back in the

1786
01:17:15,400 --> 01:17:19,360
Speaker 5: eighties or something, and this this married couple found this picture.

1787
01:17:19,400 --> 01:17:21,479
Speaker 5: They were looking at their old pictures and here's my oh,

1788
01:17:21,520 --> 01:17:23,360
Speaker 5: this is the one. She was a kid on the beach.

1789
01:17:23,439 --> 01:17:25,360
Speaker 5: This is her and her family, and in the background

1790
01:17:25,360 --> 01:17:27,800
Speaker 5: of the picture is the husband. And he had no

1791
01:17:27,880 --> 01:17:29,800
Speaker 5: idea they were both on the same beach at the

1792
01:17:29,840 --> 01:17:31,840
Speaker 5: same time. And maybe that's just you know, we're all

1793
01:17:31,880 --> 01:17:34,320
Speaker 5: adam is flying around, yeah, yeah, and people are going

1794
01:17:34,400 --> 01:17:37,479
Speaker 5: to meet up or Fate's trying to push it together.

1795
01:17:37,520 --> 01:17:37,920
Speaker 5: I don't know.

1796
01:17:38,439 --> 01:17:40,360
Speaker 2: I had that happened. I dated someone for years and

1797
01:17:40,439 --> 01:17:46,400
Speaker 2: years and after many years later, we were at a

1798
01:17:46,400 --> 01:17:48,800
Speaker 2: friend's house and found a photo of us together at

1799
01:17:48,840 --> 01:17:50,240
Speaker 2: a party years before.

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01:17:50,280 --> 01:17:50,840
Speaker 3: Wow.

1801
01:17:51,800 --> 01:17:54,280
Speaker 2: We were like, wait, when what is this?

1802
01:17:54,920 --> 01:17:57,080
Speaker 5: But not your somemade no?

1803
01:17:57,320 --> 01:18:01,120
Speaker 2: Or could be no, I don't think so, Like I'm

1804
01:18:01,120 --> 01:18:05,280
Speaker 2: pretty confident to say no. But he's something. Yeah, I

1805
01:18:05,280 --> 01:18:07,160
Speaker 2: mean he's been in my life for eighteen years, so

1806
01:18:07,160 --> 01:18:10,960
Speaker 2: it's like, and we stayed friends even after we didn't

1807
01:18:11,040 --> 01:18:15,080
Speaker 2: date anymore. So there's something. I don't know what or why.

1808
01:18:15,479 --> 01:18:18,960
Speaker 2: I can't explain that yet. I mean, another eighteen years.

1809
01:18:19,280 --> 01:18:23,360
Speaker 9: Did you hear about how Dean had a screenshot of

1810
01:18:23,400 --> 01:18:27,160
Speaker 9: me following him like a like a year and a

1811
01:18:27,200 --> 01:18:30,479
Speaker 9: half ago or like two years ago, because he said

1812
01:18:30,520 --> 01:18:32,120
Speaker 9: he asked me one time, he was like why did

1813
01:18:32,160 --> 01:18:32,640
Speaker 9: you follow me?

1814
01:18:32,680 --> 01:18:33,439
Speaker 3: And then the follow me?

1815
01:18:33,439 --> 01:18:36,160
Speaker 9: And I was like I didn't and he was like,

1816
01:18:36,600 --> 01:18:38,519
Speaker 9: yeah you did. He was like a like a few

1817
01:18:38,560 --> 01:18:40,280
Speaker 9: years ago. I'm like, Dean, I have no idea, Like

1818
01:18:40,680 --> 01:18:43,040
Speaker 9: I don't know who you are, like before you went

1819
01:18:43,040 --> 01:18:45,280
Speaker 9: on the show. And I mean, the only thing I

1820
01:18:45,280 --> 01:18:47,240
Speaker 9: could think of is if Hannah, my old roommate is

1821
01:18:47,240 --> 01:18:49,639
Speaker 9: a mutual friend, brought him up and I saw him

1822
01:18:49,640 --> 01:18:51,320
Speaker 9: and thought he was cute, and then followed him because.

1823
01:18:51,120 --> 01:18:52,360
Speaker 5: It's before he was on television.

1824
01:18:53,080 --> 01:18:56,519
Speaker 3: Yes, so weird, and said, here's a screenshot of it.

1825
01:18:57,160 --> 01:18:59,479
Speaker 5: But I believe in all that stuff, all that well,

1826
01:19:00,360 --> 01:19:02,280
Speaker 5: that you and Dean were each other, so I would

1827
01:19:02,320 --> 01:19:03,280
Speaker 5: not be shocked by that.

1828
01:19:03,439 --> 01:19:14,240
Speaker 3: What that's random? Uh, I don't nowhere time time with

1829
01:19:14,320 --> 01:19:15,120
Speaker 3: words today.

1830
01:19:15,400 --> 01:19:20,240
Speaker 2: This coincidence, as much as I believe in, meant to

1831
01:19:20,280 --> 01:19:22,679
Speaker 2: be for a reason, but I don't always know the reason.

1832
01:19:23,120 --> 01:19:23,479
Speaker 6: Mm hmm.

1833
01:19:24,080 --> 01:19:28,240
Speaker 2: That's like it's not just a coincidence, there's more to it.

1834
01:19:28,560 --> 01:19:32,040
Speaker 9: You all really bombarded me with these like like thoughts today.

1835
01:19:33,640 --> 01:19:38,599
Speaker 1: I mean, I literally love Dean and I really love you,

1836
01:19:38,680 --> 01:19:41,200
Speaker 1: and I would back and Dean would be great for

1837
01:19:41,200 --> 01:19:42,840
Speaker 1: each other in five years from now.

1838
01:19:43,680 --> 01:19:47,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, I agree, not ready good looking babies.

1839
01:19:46,680 --> 01:19:50,840
Speaker 9: Man or like strange because we kind of look alike.

1840
01:19:51,160 --> 01:19:53,240
Speaker 9: You know, they could have like a weird Yeah.

1841
01:19:53,280 --> 01:19:55,439
Speaker 1: I'm meaning you guys not to call each other bron sis.

1842
01:19:55,520 --> 01:19:59,439
Speaker 3: It's like a little fine. Today was a little bit different.

1843
01:19:59,439 --> 01:20:01,960
Speaker 9: I'm sorry I was late, didn't make it for our guests,

1844
01:20:02,000 --> 01:20:05,280
Speaker 9: but I know with heer and spirit and on the phone,

1845
01:20:05,640 --> 01:20:07,720
Speaker 9: thank you, Tony, Yeah, thank you so much.

1846
01:20:07,800 --> 01:20:08,799
Speaker 3: Teddy for coming.

1847
01:20:08,920 --> 01:20:11,439
Speaker 9: I can't wait to get lunch and uh, maybe we

1848
01:20:11,479 --> 01:20:15,320
Speaker 9: can have some buttered pop darts together and tall glass

1849
01:20:15,320 --> 01:20:16,080
Speaker 9: at Doctor Pepper.

1850
01:20:16,520 --> 01:20:18,599
Speaker 3: She even give some helpful tips though for our listeners.

1851
01:20:18,680 --> 01:20:21,320
Speaker 9: Yeah, they were some really good tips. The water drinking

1852
01:20:21,360 --> 01:20:23,920
Speaker 9: one in the morning, something I'm really gonna try and do.

1853
01:20:24,360 --> 01:20:26,439
Speaker 9: That's a change I can make, Mark, That's a resolution.

1854
01:20:26,720 --> 01:20:27,000
Speaker 5: Love it.

1855
01:20:27,600 --> 01:20:30,080
Speaker 3: Thank y'all so much for the emails. We love them.

1856
01:20:30,320 --> 01:20:33,320
Speaker 9: They give us something to talk about, keep our lives

1857
01:20:33,360 --> 01:20:36,880
Speaker 9: and our podcast interesting. We love that y'all care so much,

1858
01:20:37,200 --> 01:20:41,880
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1859
01:20:42,080 --> 01:20:43,960
Speaker 9: Thank you to all of our sponsors. We love having

1860
01:20:44,040 --> 01:20:47,280
Speaker 9: y'all as part of this too. And also I hope

1861
01:20:47,280 --> 01:20:48,120
Speaker 9: that everyone has.

1862
01:20:48,000 --> 01:20:50,320
Speaker 3: An amazing week. Amy.

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01:20:50,560 --> 01:20:53,439
Speaker 9: We're gonna think positive this week. We are, We're gonna

1864
01:20:53,479 --> 01:20:56,720
Speaker 9: speak life, We're gonna be positive this week, and we

1865
01:20:56,760 --> 01:20:58,120
Speaker 9: will see y'all next week.

1866
01:20:58,280 --> 01:20:59,519
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm so sad it's over.

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01:21:00,280 --> 01:21:12,960
Speaker 9: Time of death two fifty six pm.