WEBVTT - Second Date Update: 49er's For Life

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, we got it for you, a brand new one.

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<v Speaker 1>I know you love those new episodes. Thank you so

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<v Speaker 1>much for finding the Second Date podcast. It's Brooking Jeffrey

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<v Speaker 1>in the Morning, and I think.

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<v Speaker 2>You're gonna enjoy it today. I do you think so?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, guess we probably shouldn't post it if we all

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<v Speaker 1>thought it sucked, But here we go.

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<v Speaker 2>What do we got? In the comment sectionallexis.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Casparava said, my ex boyfriend and I were together

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<v Speaker 1>for four years and he introduced.

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<v Speaker 2>Me to you guys.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, but then we broke up, so I had to

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<v Speaker 3>stop listening for a little while.

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<v Speaker 1>It heard.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm doing better now and I'm finally all caught up.

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<v Speaker 4>And just so you know, we don't listen to him anymore.

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<v Speaker 5>We child you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we love you.

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<v Speaker 4>We're happier with us. He's a dirt bag.

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<v Speaker 2>You want us in the In the breakup, he listens,

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<v Speaker 2>the volume goes weird, something witches. Yeah, I don't worry.

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<v Speaker 2>He sucks. Yeah. Yeah. The brand new episode starts right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Second Date updates.

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<v Speaker 3>Today, We've got a lovely woman named Tory joining us,

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<v Speaker 3>and Tory says she's doing her date a favor by giving.

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<v Speaker 6>Him another chance.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey, okay, probably something he doesn't even deserve.

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<v Speaker 6>That's according to her email. Those are her words, not mine.

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<v Speaker 1>It's either going to be he did something really bad

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<v Speaker 1>or she's really entitled.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Both of those sound like good scenarios to me, So

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<v Speaker 3>let's find out.

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<v Speaker 6>Tory.

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<v Speaker 3>Welcome to the show, and I appreciate you being generous

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<v Speaker 3>and humble enough to make the first move using our help.

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<v Speaker 3>Of course, tell us about the guy that made you

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<v Speaker 3>want to do that. Hi?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, so I had matched with Chad on honestly more

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<v Speaker 7>than one dating app over the last six months.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, the same guy. How is that?

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<v Speaker 1>Like, if you commit to one dating app, you should

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<v Speaker 1>stick with just that one.

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<v Speaker 2>But I don't know.

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<v Speaker 7>Well, it's hard out here on the streets.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Yeah, it's a numbers game, broke cast a wide net,

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<v Speaker 3>get as many matches as you can from as many different.

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<v Speaker 1>Sites, which is obviously the same people on all the

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<v Speaker 1>sites if you're all matching with Chad, all the same strategy.

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<v Speaker 7>Literally. Yeah, and I had unmatched him before, but he

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<v Speaker 7>was basically begging, like, give me one shot, and I

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<v Speaker 7>was like, okay, well maybe this's gonna be my good karma.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, we have a question.

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<v Speaker 1>Do all guys have to beg and plead to get

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<v Speaker 1>a date with you? Or was there something wrong with

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<v Speaker 1>Chad where you didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>Think you liked him?

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<v Speaker 7>Not all guys need to beg and plead, but he

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<v Speaker 7>was just like, you know, he wasn't the hottest guy,

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<v Speaker 7>but he was cute enough. And I was like, you

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<v Speaker 7>know what, I've been out here searching for perfection. Obviously

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<v Speaker 7>that's not working for me, so I can get a project.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh god, all right.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, what's wrong with that?

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<v Speaker 1>To hear this, I'm sorry, I'm overwhelmed how romantic it was.

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<v Speaker 3>I know a lot of construction workers, Brooke who love projects,

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<v Speaker 3>and that doesn't make them bad people, all right, so

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<v Speaker 3>keep going.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 7>So I was like, okay, well I'll go out with you.

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<v Speaker 7>And I was honestly a little bit disappointed. But he

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<v Speaker 7>just wanted like a regular restaurant day. Oh like a

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<v Speaker 7>restaurant is so ghost you know? Ghost like yawn like

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<v Speaker 7>everyone does that.

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<v Speaker 4>A new word learning.

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<v Speaker 6>Broke and Jeffrey in the morning. So ghost?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah it did? You get ghosted?

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<v Speaker 3>So you were expecting more than a restaurant. But that

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<v Speaker 3>was what you were given.

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<v Speaker 7>That was what I was given. And you know what,

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<v Speaker 7>if it was a train wreck, it wouldn't last all

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<v Speaker 7>my I knew it would only be a set amount

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<v Speaker 7>of time.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, So you are willing to settle every turn.

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<v Speaker 4>Willing to just have this steak out.

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<v Speaker 3>You've been so brave in this so far tory. We're

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<v Speaker 3>all very minded. So tell us about how the restaurant went.

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<v Speaker 7>So he overed me to the restaurant. That was nice.

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<v Speaker 7>And then like right when I met him, I was like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 7>his styles could be a little bit better, but honestly,

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<v Speaker 7>what guys can't fashion?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the clothes are in easy fix.

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<v Speaker 7>Yes, a break for that.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, that's nice.

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<v Speaker 7>We're at the restaurant and he tries to order scallops

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<v Speaker 7>at the menu and I was like, honey, this isn't

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<v Speaker 7>a seafood place. That is the last thing you want

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<v Speaker 7>to do. Tassa and wine instead.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh, that is really good advice.

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<v Speaker 2>The way he ordered. And you shamed him in the

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<v Speaker 2>middle of and.

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<v Speaker 7>I mean, yes, but like I didn't shame him. I

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<v Speaker 7>honestly I was saving his life, like ordering peacefood if

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<v Speaker 7>not a peacefood restaurant is dangerous.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, you don't go to Applebee's for the oysters?

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<v Speaker 7>No, I mean he was like thank you, Like that's

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<v Speaker 7>so true, and I was like, yes, it is.

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<v Speaker 3>So aside from his terrible choice in food and fashion,

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<v Speaker 3>what did you like, would you guys connect on?

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<v Speaker 7>I like talking to him. You know, we talked a

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<v Speaker 7>lot about his childhood, which I always like to do

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<v Speaker 7>because I feel like you can learn a lot about

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<v Speaker 7>a person. And honestly, his upbringing was just kind of

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<v Speaker 7>like simple. But I have heard of people who have

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<v Speaker 7>gone to public schools and go on to make something

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<v Speaker 7>of themselves, and I think he's doing just that.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 6>What what's so funny? You haven't heard of people going

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<v Speaker 6>to public schools?

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<v Speaker 2>And public schools are amazing schools.

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<v Speaker 4>I went to both.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>I went to Calage School until I got kicked out,

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<v Speaker 4>and then I went to public school because I had.

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<v Speaker 1>And neither system wants to claim host.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So he's making something of himself despite disadvantages in

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<v Speaker 3>his upbringing totally.

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<v Speaker 7>Which is like it's so commendable, Like I can admire that.

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<v Speaker 2>So his greatest his greatest hill he's climbed is going to.

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<v Speaker 4>Guys give her credit. At least she's not saying, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>it's a deal breaker.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, yeah, you've made a lot of sacrifices for Chad,

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<v Speaker 3>and I think that's it's a big thing for you

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<v Speaker 3>to do.

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<v Speaker 6>How did you end the date?

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<v Speaker 7>It was better than I had expected, and like by

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<v Speaker 7>the end, I honestly I was seeing him a little

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<v Speaker 7>bit differently.

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<v Speaker 2>That's good.

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<v Speaker 1>I like, you're open to seeing people for who they are,

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<v Speaker 1>that's great.

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<v Speaker 6>We're seeing him in a different outfit possibly.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, was there a kiss or did he just

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<v Speaker 2>get you another uger?

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<v Speaker 5>Home?

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<v Speaker 7>We hug outside the restaurant, and then that's the last

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<v Speaker 7>that I've heard from him.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh have you texted him?

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<v Speaker 5>No?

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<v Speaker 7>I don't do that, so I am surprised, Like she

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<v Speaker 7>didn't check in at all, and it's been like four days,

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<v Speaker 7>so this is quite rare for me, Like, this doesn't

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<v Speaker 7>really happen.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe he has the same rule you have, and you're

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<v Speaker 4>in a standoff right now. Someone's waiting for the first text.

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<v Speaker 2>Like that is probably pretty common.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, well you don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Like me that I'm not going to text you eight

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<v Speaker 3>It is very unbecoming public school behavior of him.

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<v Speaker 4>To leave you on wed like that, So it's etiquette.

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<v Speaker 7>To Yeah, I would never do that, So, Tory, I

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<v Speaker 7>do think it's like a male chivalry etiquette.

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<v Speaker 6>Thing he needs to It is disgusting. You're right, so

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<v Speaker 6>let's let's call it his job whatever.

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<v Speaker 3>We're going to get to the bottom of this, and

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<v Speaker 3>we're going to take the reins. We will dial up

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<v Speaker 3>Chad and figure out why he has the nerve to

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<v Speaker 3>not be calling you back after.

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<v Speaker 2>Four days you, Jeffrey, thank you, You are welcome.

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<v Speaker 6>We're going to do it with your second date update

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<v Speaker 6>right after this hold.

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<v Speaker 1>On Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning second date updates.

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<v Speaker 3>How many glaring red flags can one woman ignore in

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<v Speaker 3>the pursuit of finding a decent guy? For our listener, Tory,

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<v Speaker 3>she's looked past at least four, but we've counted goodness one.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Still, those counts are one his clothes, to his dinner

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<v Speaker 3>selection of scallops at a non seafood restaurant.

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<v Speaker 2>To say that even picked a restaurant to begin with, Jeffy.

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<v Speaker 3>Even that that was a borderline pink flag. Three, his

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<v Speaker 3>simple public school upbringing, and for the fact that he's

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<v Speaker 3>rudely not texted her after almost one full business week. Wow,

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<v Speaker 3>that is not cool, or, as Tory would say, that

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<v Speaker 3>is so ghost. But just like her selfless generous self,

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<v Speaker 3>Tory is willing to give him one more chance and

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<v Speaker 3>has asked us to reach out to Chad on her behalf.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, Toy, has it ever crossed your mind that

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<v Speaker 1>he is just so intimidated.

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<v Speaker 2>By your perfection that that's why he hasn't called you?

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<v Speaker 7>Honestly, that is what my mom said.

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<v Speaker 2>Sounds like something your mom would say.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, hopefully we can convince him that you're not too

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<v Speaker 3>good for him. Equals well, we're not going to cut

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<v Speaker 3>you down, We're gonna lift him up higher.

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<v Speaker 4>There you go, Jeff, thank you.

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<v Speaker 7>That is so kind of you.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, we'll see how this goes. I'm just

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<v Speaker 3>going to dial Chad's number and hopefully, hopefully has the

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<v Speaker 3>respect to pick up the phone number of a call

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<v Speaker 3>that he doesn't recognize.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a public school kid, would always pick up a call,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't know, let's find out.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm going to dial it right now.

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<v Speaker 5>Here we go, Hello, Hey, is this Chad speaking?

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<v Speaker 6>Picked up really early.

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<v Speaker 2>There and energetically you did.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm actually already working. Uh. Who is this? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>This is this is It's a radio show called Brook

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<v Speaker 3>and Jeffrey in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, good morning.

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<v Speaker 2>You sound so likable.

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<v Speaker 5>Chad, Good morning. Why are you guys calling me?

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<v Speaker 3>We're calling because we're doing a segment it's called a

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<v Speaker 3>second Date Update, and we're trying to get some answers

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<v Speaker 3>for one of our very confused listeners who went out

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<v Speaker 3>with you recently, a woman named Tory.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh wow, and miss is on the radio.

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<v Speaker 2>You mean, wow toy right?

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<v Speaker 6>Wo wow? What a knockout right right? Yeah, But to

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<v Speaker 6>answer your earlier question, yes, it is on the radio

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<v Speaker 6>and podcast.

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<v Speaker 5>Uh okay, So what is it night all about?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, Tory is a little confused because after your restaurant date,

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<v Speaker 3>she says, you haven't reached out to her at all.

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<v Speaker 5>Tory hasn't reached out to me either.

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<v Speaker 2>She doesn't do that.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, that's not really her thing, that's her job.

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<v Speaker 1>She'll only reach out to radio stations who then reached

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<v Speaker 1>out to.

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<v Speaker 5>Her.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh what is that?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I mean she is a perfect example of why

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<v Speaker 5>I'm just so sick of dating in the Bay Area.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh huh, geez, what do you what do you mean though,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you mean so sick of dating?

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<v Speaker 2>Like that sounds negative.

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<v Speaker 5>She's just like any of the other forty nine ers

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<v Speaker 5>that are out here.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, the football team, which is the NFL team.

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<v Speaker 5>No, no, no, forty nine ers is a term here where

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<v Speaker 5>a girl is actually a four but she's acting like

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<v Speaker 5>she's a nine. None. Yeah, I'm telling you it's a

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<v Speaker 5>term in the Bay Area. I'm telling you.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, wait, wait, you don't find Tori attractive? Is that

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<v Speaker 2>what you're saying?

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<v Speaker 5>She's fine, It's just look, I know I'm not the

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<v Speaker 5>best looking dude, but like I cannot handle a forty

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<v Speaker 5>nine er.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, I think she's the best thing.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>Right at the beginning of the day, and I could

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<v Speaker 5>tell something was wrong with her, So I asked what

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<v Speaker 5>happened and she was like, you called me an uber

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<v Speaker 5>but it wasn't an uber.

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<v Speaker 1>Black, oh, which, of course she followed up with, thank you.

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<v Speaker 5>Guys, I have never taken an uber black in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Well, we heard you into public school, so you

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<v Speaker 2>probably wouldn't. I'm getting chat. I also.

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<v Speaker 5>You heard that I went to public school.

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<v Speaker 6>Well we were.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a joke.

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<v Speaker 3>There was a lot of obstacles to overcome during this

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<v Speaker 3>date for her.

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<v Speaker 1>So wait, so right from the very beginning, did you

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<v Speaker 1>make up your mind?

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<v Speaker 5>I'm a go with the flow kind of guy, so like,

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't try and put too much stock into it.

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<v Speaker 5>I just thought like, huh, I've never actually taken an

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<v Speaker 5>uber black. That's crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Counted like make a little mental note.

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<v Speaker 9>So right, was there anything else?

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<v Speaker 5>We got to the restaurant, we sat down, she asked like,

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<v Speaker 5>how many courses are we getting? I was like, like

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<v Speaker 5>an appetizer and just like get what you want? Right?

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<v Speaker 5>You want to text this toast with your spaghetti?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, right, there is so good.

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<v Speaker 4>She wants a moose booch a pre starter, but.

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<v Speaker 1>She hasn't probably tried Texas toast before and that's why

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<v Speaker 1>she doesn't know she wants.

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<v Speaker 3>It Texas toast at the restaurant she goes were at

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<v Speaker 3>the private schools.

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<v Speaker 2>It's better.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So all of this put together was kind of

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<v Speaker 3>a turn off to you.

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<v Speaker 6>It sounds like Chad.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, all these things just kept going on throughout

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<v Speaker 5>the entire night, where she just had this like air

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<v Speaker 5>about her and made her a forty niner.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Wait though, wait, maybe that's I mean, maybe it's

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<v Speaker 1>just she was raised wealthy.

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<v Speaker 2>That's not her fault. I mean, honestly, it's not.

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<v Speaker 1>She didn't choose it, and it's probably just the lifestyle

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<v Speaker 1>she lives.

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<v Speaker 5>It was really just like a vibe thing like when

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<v Speaker 5>when she was talking about these things, it's not about

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<v Speaker 5>like what she was saying, it's about how she was

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<v Speaker 5>saying it.

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<v Speaker 3>Than now kind of well, I exactly, I am curious

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<v Speaker 3>on what she would say and how she would say

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<v Speaker 3>it to you.

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<v Speaker 6>Whence we bring her on the phone.

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<v Speaker 2>Right now, I feel actually kind of bad.

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<v Speaker 3>Because she has been listening to this conversation the entire time.

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<v Speaker 5>No way is this.

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<v Speaker 2>It's in a moose moose trap, Tori, are you there?

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<v Speaker 2>Don't think I use that right?

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<v Speaker 7>Did you call me a forty nine er?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh my god? Uh, you're doing okay to Tori?

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<v Speaker 7>Actually kind of no, that is so beyond rude.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he didn't know you were listening, Tori.

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<v Speaker 2>He was trying to be honest and maybe a little funny.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't know you would think that when somebody's talking

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<v Speaker 7>behind someone's back, they're not going to be that mean.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, you're you're you're one to talk about being rude,

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<v Speaker 5>calling the kettle black.

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<v Speaker 6>You mean the uber black?

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<v Speaker 5>Right? Right? Right, right right?

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<v Speaker 7>What do you mean, Chad? I've been perfectly.

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<v Speaker 5>It's like I ki't you a chance Tory. At one

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<v Speaker 5>point in the date, you were just like, so is

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<v Speaker 5>that jacket secondhand shop or what?

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<v Speaker 2>But that's really in right now to do?

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<v Speaker 7>Did you maybe not take the things that I said

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<v Speaker 7>in the right way because you went to a public school?

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<v Speaker 7>I don't I don't know what mean the public school?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it means that you don't understand subtext, Chad?

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<v Speaker 5>What public school were great? You know we're.

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<v Speaker 6>Joking, joking, you use the word subtext.

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<v Speaker 1>I do think that you're being as close minded as

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<v Speaker 1>you felt like she was?

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<v Speaker 4>What right now?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I mean sometimes when you feel rejected by someone

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<v Speaker 3>or judge by someone, the natural response is to reject

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<v Speaker 3>them and judge them back.

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<v Speaker 4>Absolutely.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, I totally get that, And honestly, daddy would say

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<v Speaker 7>the same thing.

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<v Speaker 8>Your daddy, that's her real dad, my father.

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<v Speaker 7>Excuse me?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, sorry, yeah, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean maybe she can do the more normal life

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<v Speaker 1>stuff with you, Chad, and then she can also introduce

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<v Speaker 1>you to more of the higher end things than we're accessible, like.

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<v Speaker 6>A reverse my fair Lady.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, let her pick the restaurant. You can take her fish.

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<v Speaker 3>Remember My Fair Lady where he takes the poor woman

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<v Speaker 3>and he shows her the finer things they like you?

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<v Speaker 5>Yes?

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<v Speaker 7>Yes, a classic who has not seen My Fair Lady exactly.

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<v Speaker 4>Gets I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>It was part of my I really appreciate that. I

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<v Speaker 5>don't feel like going through a relationship being Torres blained, Oh,

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<v Speaker 5>that wasn't.

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<v Speaker 2>As good as forty nine ers.

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<v Speaker 7>Se honestly that I love. I'm going to take that.

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<v Speaker 7>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>Her.

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<v Speaker 7>Okay, And you know what, Chad, If anything, I'm in

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<v Speaker 7>ninety four.

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<v Speaker 2>And wait, isn't that, like she said, nine to acts

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<v Speaker 2>like a four.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, I might give you a fifty nine, but

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<v Speaker 5>definitely not a ninety four.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, Well, numbering people, yeah, I hate that.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's do this instead. Let's offer to send you to

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<v Speaker 3>on another date. So fine, I like it, have no numbers.

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<v Speaker 3>Just let's just send you on another day. If you're

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<v Speaker 3>willing to give Tory one more chance, Chad, then we

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<v Speaker 3>would pay for it.

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<v Speaker 5>I do not want to come back out with her.

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<v Speaker 7>Well, my feelings are really hurt. But I'm going to

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<v Speaker 7>be the bigger person here and I'm going to say, Okay,

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<v Speaker 7>I hear you, the bigger.

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<v Speaker 2>Persons accepting you couldn't have said no.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm still going to give the wind to toy in this.

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<v Speaker 1>Situation, will give you forty nine ers for life, Brook.

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<v Speaker 7>And Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know why the term ninety fourth or just

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<v Speaker 3>doesn't have the same zing that forty.

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<v Speaker 5>Nine or does.

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<v Speaker 4>No forty nine popped here, I'm gonna start using that.

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<v Speaker 2>Only mean words fun.

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<v Speaker 5>Yea.

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<v Speaker 3>And even though yes, her and I are both kind

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<v Speaker 3>of ninety four ths and we do share that elite

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<v Speaker 3>private school connection, I do think that she could have

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<v Speaker 3>handled herself a little better.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wow, even you were being judged to the other judges.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I expected a little better from a fellow preppy princess.

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<v Speaker 4>Of course, Jeff thinks he's better than the other girls.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, that's why I'm a ninety four the other This.

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<v Speaker 8>Is what in private school is like, exactly so much fun,

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<v Speaker 8>more private, just get to judge everyone, no judgment when

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<v Speaker 8>you email our show, well well.

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<v Speaker 1>A little bit, okay, we can't see what number you are,

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<v Speaker 1>yeah

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