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Speaker 1: much for finding the Second Date podcast. It's Brooking Jeffrey
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Speaker 2: What do we got? In the comment sectionallexis.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Casparava said, my ex boyfriend and I were together
Speaker 1: for four years and he introduced.
Speaker 2: Me to you guys.
Speaker 3: Oh, but then we broke up, so I had to
Speaker 3: stop listening for a little while.
Speaker 1: It heard.
Speaker 2: But I'm doing better now and I'm finally all caught up.
Speaker 4: And just so you know, we don't listen to him anymore.
Speaker 5: We child you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we love you.
Speaker 4: We're happier with us. He's a dirt bag.
Speaker 2: You want us in the In the breakup, he listens,
Speaker 2: the volume goes weird, something witches. Yeah, I don't worry.
Speaker 2: He sucks. Yeah. Yeah. The brand new episode starts right now.
Speaker 2: Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Second Date updates.
Speaker 3: Today, We've got a lovely woman named Tory joining us,
Speaker 3: and Tory says she's doing her date a favor by giving.
Speaker 6: Him another chance.
Speaker 3: Hey, okay, probably something he doesn't even deserve.
Speaker 6: That's according to her email. Those are her words, not mine.
Speaker 1: It's either going to be he did something really bad
Speaker 1: or she's really entitled.
Speaker 2: I'm not sure.
Speaker 3: Both of those sound like good scenarios to me, So
Speaker 3: let's find out.
Speaker 6: Tory.
Speaker 3: Welcome to the show, and I appreciate you being generous
Speaker 3: and humble enough to make the first move using our help.
Speaker 3: Of course, tell us about the guy that made you
Speaker 3: want to do that. Hi?
Speaker 7: Yeah, so I had matched with Chad on honestly more
Speaker 7: than one dating app over the last six months.
Speaker 2: Oh, the same guy. How is that?
Speaker 1: Like, if you commit to one dating app, you should
Speaker 1: stick with just that one.
Speaker 2: But I don't know.
Speaker 7: Well, it's hard out here on the streets.
Speaker 3: Okay, Yeah, it's a numbers game, broke cast a wide net,
Speaker 3: get as many matches as you can from as many different.
Speaker 1: Sites, which is obviously the same people on all the
Speaker 1: sites if you're all matching with Chad, all the same strategy.
Speaker 7: Literally. Yeah, and I had unmatched him before, but he
Speaker 7: was basically begging, like, give me one shot, and I
Speaker 7: was like, okay, well maybe this's gonna be my good karma.
Speaker 2: Okay, we have a question.
Speaker 1: Do all guys have to beg and plead to get
Speaker 1: a date with you? Or was there something wrong with
Speaker 1: Chad where you didn't.
Speaker 2: Think you liked him?
Speaker 7: Not all guys need to beg and plead, but he
Speaker 7: was just like, you know, he wasn't the hottest guy,
Speaker 7: but he was cute enough. And I was like, you
Speaker 7: know what, I've been out here searching for perfection. Obviously
Speaker 7: that's not working for me, so I can get a project.
Speaker 2: Oh god, all right.
Speaker 6: Okay, what's wrong with that?
Speaker 1: To hear this, I'm sorry, I'm overwhelmed how romantic it was.
Speaker 3: I know a lot of construction workers, Brooke who love projects,
Speaker 3: and that doesn't make them bad people, all right, so
Speaker 3: keep going.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 7: So I was like, okay, well I'll go out with you.
Speaker 7: And I was honestly a little bit disappointed. But he
Speaker 7: just wanted like a regular restaurant day. Oh like a
Speaker 7: restaurant is so ghost you know? Ghost like yawn like
Speaker 7: everyone does that.
Speaker 4: A new word learning.
Speaker 6: Broke and Jeffrey in the morning. So ghost?
Speaker 4: Yeah it did? You get ghosted?
Speaker 3: So you were expecting more than a restaurant. But that
Speaker 3: was what you were given.
Speaker 7: That was what I was given. And you know what,
Speaker 7: if it was a train wreck, it wouldn't last all
Speaker 7: my I knew it would only be a set amount
Speaker 7: of time.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, So you are willing to settle every turn.
Speaker 4: Willing to just have this steak out.
Speaker 3: You've been so brave in this so far tory. We're
Speaker 3: all very minded. So tell us about how the restaurant went.
Speaker 7: So he overed me to the restaurant. That was nice.
Speaker 7: And then like right when I met him, I was like, Okay,
Speaker 7: his styles could be a little bit better, but honestly,
Speaker 7: what guys can't fashion?
Speaker 2: Yeah, the clothes are in easy fix.
Speaker 7: Yes, a break for that.
Speaker 6: Okay, that's nice.
Speaker 7: We're at the restaurant and he tries to order scallops
Speaker 7: at the menu and I was like, honey, this isn't
Speaker 7: a seafood place. That is the last thing you want
Speaker 7: to do. Tassa and wine instead.
Speaker 6: Oh, that is really good advice.
Speaker 2: The way he ordered. And you shamed him in the
Speaker 2: middle of and.
Speaker 7: I mean, yes, but like I didn't shame him. I
Speaker 7: honestly I was saving his life, like ordering peacefood if
Speaker 7: not a peacefood restaurant is dangerous.
Speaker 4: I mean, you don't go to Applebee's for the oysters?
Speaker 7: No, I mean he was like thank you, Like that's
Speaker 7: so true, and I was like, yes, it is.
Speaker 3: So aside from his terrible choice in food and fashion,
Speaker 3: what did you like, would you guys connect on?
Speaker 7: I like talking to him. You know, we talked a
Speaker 7: lot about his childhood, which I always like to do
Speaker 7: because I feel like you can learn a lot about
Speaker 7: a person. And honestly, his upbringing was just kind of
Speaker 7: like simple. But I have heard of people who have
Speaker 7: gone to public schools and go on to make something
Speaker 7: of themselves, and I think he's doing just that.
Speaker 2: Oh I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
Speaker 6: What what's so funny? You haven't heard of people going
Speaker 6: to public schools?
Speaker 2: And public schools are amazing schools.
Speaker 4: I went to both.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I went to Calage School until I got kicked out,
Speaker 4: and then I went to public school because I had.
Speaker 1: And neither system wants to claim host.
Speaker 3: Okay, So he's making something of himself despite disadvantages in
Speaker 3: his upbringing totally.
Speaker 7: Which is like it's so commendable, Like I can admire that.
Speaker 2: So his greatest his greatest hill he's climbed is going to.
Speaker 4: Guys give her credit. At least she's not saying, oh,
Speaker 4: it's a deal breaker.
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, you've made a lot of sacrifices for Chad,
Speaker 3: and I think that's it's a big thing for you
Speaker 3: to do.
Speaker 6: How did you end the date?
Speaker 7: It was better than I had expected, and like by
Speaker 7: the end, I honestly I was seeing him a little
Speaker 7: bit differently.
Speaker 2: That's good.
Speaker 1: I like, you're open to seeing people for who they are,
Speaker 1: that's great.
Speaker 6: We're seeing him in a different outfit possibly.
Speaker 2: I mean, was there a kiss or did he just
Speaker 2: get you another uger?
Speaker 5: Home?
Speaker 7: We hug outside the restaurant, and then that's the last
Speaker 7: that I've heard from him.
Speaker 2: Oh have you texted him?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 7: I don't do that, so I am surprised, Like she
Speaker 7: didn't check in at all, and it's been like four days,
Speaker 7: so this is quite rare for me, Like, this doesn't
Speaker 7: really happen.
Speaker 4: Maybe he has the same rule you have, and you're
Speaker 4: in a standoff right now. Someone's waiting for the first text.
Speaker 2: Like that is probably pretty common.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, well you don't.
Speaker 3: Like me that I'm not going to text you eight
Speaker 3: It is very unbecoming public school behavior of him.
Speaker 4: To leave you on wed like that, So it's etiquette.
Speaker 7: To Yeah, I would never do that, So, Tory, I
Speaker 7: do think it's like a male chivalry etiquette.
Speaker 6: Thing he needs to It is disgusting. You're right, so
Speaker 6: let's let's call it his job whatever.
Speaker 3: We're going to get to the bottom of this, and
Speaker 3: we're going to take the reins. We will dial up
Speaker 3: Chad and figure out why he has the nerve to
Speaker 3: not be calling you back after.
Speaker 2: Four days you, Jeffrey, thank you, You are welcome.
Speaker 6: We're going to do it with your second date update
Speaker 6: right after this hold.
Speaker 1: On Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning second date updates.
Speaker 3: How many glaring red flags can one woman ignore in
Speaker 3: the pursuit of finding a decent guy? For our listener, Tory,
Speaker 3: she's looked past at least four, but we've counted goodness one.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Still, those counts are one his clothes, to his dinner
Speaker 3: selection of scallops at a non seafood restaurant.
Speaker 2: To say that even picked a restaurant to begin with, Jeffy.
Speaker 3: Even that that was a borderline pink flag. Three, his
Speaker 3: simple public school upbringing, and for the fact that he's
Speaker 3: rudely not texted her after almost one full business week. Wow,
Speaker 3: that is not cool, or, as Tory would say, that
Speaker 3: is so ghost. But just like her selfless generous self,
Speaker 3: Tory is willing to give him one more chance and
Speaker 3: has asked us to reach out to Chad on her behalf.
Speaker 1: I mean, Toy, has it ever crossed your mind that
Speaker 1: he is just so intimidated.
Speaker 2: By your perfection that that's why he hasn't called you?
Speaker 7: Honestly, that is what my mom said.
Speaker 2: Sounds like something your mom would say.
Speaker 3: Well, hopefully we can convince him that you're not too
Speaker 3: good for him. Equals well, we're not going to cut
Speaker 3: you down, We're gonna lift him up higher.
Speaker 4: There you go, Jeff, thank you.
Speaker 7: That is so kind of you.
Speaker 3: I don't know, we'll see how this goes. I'm just
Speaker 3: going to dial Chad's number and hopefully, hopefully has the
Speaker 3: respect to pick up the phone number of a call
Speaker 3: that he doesn't recognize.
Speaker 1: I'm a public school kid, would always pick up a call,
Speaker 1: and I don't know, let's find out.
Speaker 6: I'm going to dial it right now.
Speaker 5: Here we go, Hello, Hey, is this Chad speaking?
Speaker 6: Picked up really early.
Speaker 2: There and energetically you did.
Speaker 5: I'm actually already working. Uh. Who is this? Yeah?
Speaker 3: This is this is It's a radio show called Brook
Speaker 3: and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 4: Yeah, good morning.
Speaker 2: You sound so likable.
Speaker 5: Chad, Good morning. Why are you guys calling me?
Speaker 3: We're calling because we're doing a segment it's called a
Speaker 3: second Date Update, and we're trying to get some answers
Speaker 3: for one of our very confused listeners who went out
Speaker 3: with you recently, a woman named Tory.
Speaker 5: Oh wow, and miss is on the radio.
Speaker 2: You mean, wow toy right?
Speaker 6: Wo wow? What a knockout right right? Yeah, But to
Speaker 6: answer your earlier question, yes, it is on the radio
Speaker 6: and podcast.
Speaker 5: Uh okay, So what is it night all about?
Speaker 3: Well, Tory is a little confused because after your restaurant date,
Speaker 3: she says, you haven't reached out to her at all.
Speaker 5: Tory hasn't reached out to me either.
Speaker 2: She doesn't do that.
Speaker 9: Yeah, that's not really her thing, that's her job.
Speaker 1: She'll only reach out to radio stations who then reached
Speaker 1: out to.
Speaker 5: Her.
Speaker 6: Oh what is that?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean she is a perfect example of why
Speaker 5: I'm just so sick of dating in the Bay Area.
Speaker 1: Oh huh, geez, what do you what do you mean though,
Speaker 1: what do you mean so sick of dating?
Speaker 2: Like that sounds negative.
Speaker 5: She's just like any of the other forty nine ers
Speaker 5: that are out here.
Speaker 2: Okay, the football team, which is the NFL team.
Speaker 5: No, no, no, forty nine ers is a term here where
Speaker 5: a girl is actually a four but she's acting like
Speaker 5: she's a nine. None. Yeah, I'm telling you it's a
Speaker 5: term in the Bay Area. I'm telling you.
Speaker 2: Wait, wait, wait, you don't find Tori attractive? Is that
Speaker 2: what you're saying?
Speaker 5: She's fine, It's just look, I know I'm not the
Speaker 5: best looking dude, but like I cannot handle a forty
Speaker 5: nine er.
Speaker 4: Oh, I think she's the best thing.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Right at the beginning of the day, and I could
Speaker 5: tell something was wrong with her, So I asked what
Speaker 5: happened and she was like, you called me an uber
Speaker 5: but it wasn't an uber.
Speaker 1: Black, oh, which, of course she followed up with, thank you.
Speaker 5: Guys, I have never taken an uber black in my life.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, we heard you into public school, so you
Speaker 2: probably wouldn't. I'm getting chat. I also.
Speaker 5: You heard that I went to public school.
Speaker 6: Well we were.
Speaker 2: It was a joke.
Speaker 3: There was a lot of obstacles to overcome during this
Speaker 3: date for her.
Speaker 1: So wait, so right from the very beginning, did you
Speaker 1: make up your mind?
Speaker 5: I'm a go with the flow kind of guy, so like,
Speaker 5: I didn't try and put too much stock into it.
Speaker 5: I just thought like, huh, I've never actually taken an
Speaker 5: uber black. That's crazy.
Speaker 2: Counted like make a little mental note.
Speaker 9: So right, was there anything else?
Speaker 5: We got to the restaurant, we sat down, she asked like,
Speaker 5: how many courses are we getting? I was like, like
Speaker 5: an appetizer and just like get what you want? Right?
Speaker 5: You want to text this toast with your spaghetti?
Speaker 2: Yes, right, there is so good.
Speaker 4: She wants a moose booch a pre starter, but.
Speaker 1: She hasn't probably tried Texas toast before and that's why
Speaker 1: she doesn't know she wants.
Speaker 3: It Texas toast at the restaurant she goes were at
Speaker 3: the private schools.
Speaker 2: It's better.
Speaker 3: Okay, So all of this put together was kind of
Speaker 3: a turn off to you.
Speaker 6: It sounds like Chad.
Speaker 5: I mean, all these things just kept going on throughout
Speaker 5: the entire night, where she just had this like air
Speaker 5: about her and made her a forty niner.
Speaker 1: Okay, Wait though, wait, maybe that's I mean, maybe it's
Speaker 1: just she was raised wealthy.
Speaker 2: That's not her fault. I mean, honestly, it's not.
Speaker 1: She didn't choose it, and it's probably just the lifestyle
Speaker 1: she lives.
Speaker 5: It was really just like a vibe thing like when
Speaker 5: when she was talking about these things, it's not about
Speaker 5: like what she was saying, it's about how she was
Speaker 5: saying it.
Speaker 3: Than now kind of well, I exactly, I am curious
Speaker 3: on what she would say and how she would say
Speaker 3: it to you.
Speaker 6: Whence we bring her on the phone.
Speaker 2: Right now, I feel actually kind of bad.
Speaker 3: Because she has been listening to this conversation the entire time.
Speaker 5: No way is this.
Speaker 2: It's in a moose moose trap, Tori, are you there?
Speaker 2: Don't think I use that right?
Speaker 7: Did you call me a forty nine er?
Speaker 5: Oh my god? Uh, you're doing okay to Tori?
Speaker 7: Actually kind of no, that is so beyond rude.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he didn't know you were listening, Tori.
Speaker 2: He was trying to be honest and maybe a little funny.
Speaker 7: I don't know you would think that when somebody's talking
Speaker 7: behind someone's back, they're not going to be that mean.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you're you're you're one to talk about being rude,
Speaker 5: calling the kettle black.
Speaker 6: You mean the uber black?
Speaker 5: Right? Right? Right, right right?
Speaker 7: What do you mean, Chad? I've been perfectly.
Speaker 5: It's like I ki't you a chance Tory. At one
Speaker 5: point in the date, you were just like, so is
Speaker 5: that jacket secondhand shop or what?
Speaker 2: But that's really in right now to do?
Speaker 7: Did you maybe not take the things that I said
Speaker 7: in the right way because you went to a public school?
Speaker 7: I don't I don't know what mean the public school?
Speaker 2: Well, it means that you don't understand subtext, Chad?
Speaker 5: What public school were great? You know we're.
Speaker 6: Joking, joking, you use the word subtext.
Speaker 1: I do think that you're being as close minded as
Speaker 1: you felt like she was?
Speaker 4: What right now?
Speaker 3: Well, I mean sometimes when you feel rejected by someone
Speaker 3: or judge by someone, the natural response is to reject
Speaker 3: them and judge them back.
Speaker 4: Absolutely.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I totally get that, And honestly, daddy would say
Speaker 7: the same thing.
Speaker 8: Your daddy, that's her real dad, my father.
Speaker 7: Excuse me?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, sorry, yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: I mean maybe she can do the more normal life
Speaker 1: stuff with you, Chad, and then she can also introduce
Speaker 1: you to more of the higher end things than we're accessible, like.
Speaker 6: A reverse my fair Lady.
Speaker 4: Yeah, let her pick the restaurant. You can take her fish.
Speaker 3: Remember My Fair Lady where he takes the poor woman
Speaker 3: and he shows her the finer things they like you?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 7: Yes, a classic who has not seen My Fair Lady exactly.
Speaker 4: Gets I don't know.
Speaker 5: It was part of my I really appreciate that. I
Speaker 5: don't feel like going through a relationship being Torres blained, Oh,
Speaker 5: that wasn't.
Speaker 2: As good as forty nine ers.
Speaker 7: Se honestly that I love. I'm going to take that.
Speaker 7: Thank you.
Speaker 1: Her.
Speaker 7: Okay, And you know what, Chad, If anything, I'm in
Speaker 7: ninety four.
Speaker 2: And wait, isn't that, like she said, nine to acts
Speaker 2: like a four.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I might give you a fifty nine, but
Speaker 5: definitely not a ninety four.
Speaker 4: Okay, Well, numbering people, yeah, I hate that.
Speaker 3: Let's do this instead. Let's offer to send you to
Speaker 3: on another date. So fine, I like it, have no numbers.
Speaker 3: Just let's just send you on another day. If you're
Speaker 3: willing to give Tory one more chance, Chad, then we
Speaker 3: would pay for it.
Speaker 5: I do not want to come back out with her.
Speaker 7: Well, my feelings are really hurt. But I'm going to
Speaker 7: be the bigger person here and I'm going to say, Okay,
Speaker 7: I hear you, the bigger.
Speaker 2: Persons accepting you couldn't have said no.
Speaker 6: I'm still going to give the wind to toy in this.
Speaker 1: Situation, will give you forty nine ers for life, Brook.
Speaker 7: And Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: I don't know why the term ninety fourth or just
Speaker 3: doesn't have the same zing that forty.
Speaker 5: Nine or does.
Speaker 4: No forty nine popped here, I'm gonna start using that.
Speaker 2: Only mean words fun.
Speaker 5: Yea.
Speaker 3: And even though yes, her and I are both kind
Speaker 3: of ninety four ths and we do share that elite
Speaker 3: private school connection, I do think that she could have
Speaker 3: handled herself a little better.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, even you were being judged to the other judges.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I expected a little better from a fellow preppy princess.
Speaker 4: Of course, Jeff thinks he's better than the other girls.
Speaker 9: Yeah, that's why I'm a ninety four the other This.
Speaker 8: Is what in private school is like, exactly so much fun,
Speaker 8: more private, just get to judge everyone, no judgment when
Speaker 8: you email our show, well well.
Speaker 1: A little bit, okay, we can't see what number you are,
Speaker 1: yeah
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