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Speaker 1: it is Strawberry Letter James's good nephew. Subject She was

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Speaker 1: wearing my wig with my husband. Dear Stephen Shirley. My

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Speaker 1: husband and I have been married for six years and

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Speaker 1: we're an open minded couple, so we do anything to

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Speaker 1: make this union work. When our sex life got stale,

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Speaker 1: we decided to try a threesome. When the woman came

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Speaker 1: over to join us. It didn't go as planned. She

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Speaker 1: and I played around a few minutes before my husband

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Speaker 1: told me that he didn't want to do it, so

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Speaker 1: the lady left. It had me thinking my husband was

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Speaker 1: satisfied with me, and we resumed a normal sex life.

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Speaker 1: Around Christmas, my sister and her five year old daughter

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Speaker 1: came to stay with us after they had a small fire.

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Speaker 1: I stressed that it was a small fire, and I've

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Speaker 1: been ready for my sister and niece to move out

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Speaker 1: of my house since mid January. It's created tension between

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Speaker 1: my sister and I. My husband always took my sister's

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Speaker 1: side when we would get into it, and he told

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Speaker 1: me to show some grace, so that made me suspicious.

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Speaker 1: My niece and I have conversations all the time, and

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Speaker 1: it's usually gibberish. But a week ago, my niece told

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Speaker 1: me that her mommy took a nap with Uncle Teddy

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Speaker 1: on the couch. I asked my husband and he said

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Speaker 1: it's a child's active imagination. I tried coming home early

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Speaker 1: a few times to catch them, but I never did

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Speaker 1: see anything. Last Sunday was different. I wasn't feeling good,

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Speaker 1: so I left church early with a pounding headache, and

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Speaker 1: I never expected to walk into my house and see

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Speaker 1: what I saw. My sister was lounging around in my

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Speaker 1: short blonde wig, and my husband was in the kitchen

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Speaker 1: making mimosa's. My niece was still asleep. I asked my sister.

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Speaker 1: Why was she lying around my house in her pajamas

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Speaker 1: without a robe on? She said, I'm paranoid and she

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Speaker 1: can't live like this, so she will be out of

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Speaker 1: my house asap. Am I paranoid? Or is this my intuition?

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Speaker 1: Or is my intuition always right? Come on, come on,

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Speaker 1: come on. You know what's going on here. You know

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Speaker 1: what's happening. You see it. Your sisters sleeping with your husband.

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Speaker 1: All the clues and the answers are right there. Your

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Speaker 1: little niece even told you that they were napping on

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Speaker 1: the couch together. You said, your husband always takes your

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Speaker 1: sister's side when you guys get into it. Your husband's

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Speaker 1: got to be the stupidest man in the world. He's

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Speaker 1: got to be to do this in your house, under

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Speaker 1: your roof when you can, with the threat of you

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Speaker 1: coming in at anytime. I mean, what was he thinking. Well,

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Speaker 1: here's what I think. I think they deserve each other.

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Speaker 1: I think the good that came out of this is

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Speaker 1: that your sister is moving on asap. She said it,

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Speaker 1: and that's what you wanted. Anyway. As far as her

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Speaker 1: wearing your blond wig, it sounds like she wants to

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Speaker 1: be you she's already pushing up on your husband and

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Speaker 1: he's letting her. So I say, please help her pack

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Speaker 1: her bag so she can get out, and your husband

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Speaker 1: needs to get out too. Steve, Well, this is a

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Speaker 1: letter of to me. Sometimes you get what you ask

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Speaker 1: while it's real simple to me. The subject is she

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Speaker 1: bet that ain't all she was wearing. Yeah, there's a

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Speaker 1: m your husband and I have been The letter starts

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Speaker 1: off tragically, open up. Been married six years and we're

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Speaker 1: an open minded couple. Now as soon as I read

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Speaker 1: because when you're an open minded couple, that means you

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Speaker 1: open to b s, you open to sugar, honey, iced teeth,

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Speaker 1: it ain't good. Now already there an open minded couple,

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Speaker 1: so we'd do anything to make this union work. So

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Speaker 1: a threesul See now that open minded that I told

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Speaker 1: y'all ain't good. Here we go. So after our sex

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Speaker 1: life got stale and only took six years. Now y'all

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Speaker 1: When the what woman? Where y'all get it from? They

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Speaker 1: that so when the woman just like, it's just like, well,

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Speaker 1: it didn't go as planned. She and I played around

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Speaker 1: say that they agreed to a threesome. She came over.

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Speaker 1: Then he ain't want to. Oh okay, Oh. He looked

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Speaker 1: could tell, you know, he was watching the move she

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Speaker 1: So the lady left. It had me thinking that my

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Speaker 1: me and January. We'll have part two of Steve's response

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Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter subject is she was wearing my wig with

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Speaker 1: my husband. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter. The subject is she was wearing my wig

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Speaker 1: with my husband. This lady been married six years to

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Speaker 1: man and they have an open minded couple relationship. They

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Speaker 1: make this union work. Yeah, Mike's will quick calling her

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Speaker 1: man because they ain't want it in. When our sex

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Speaker 1: life got stay all after six years, we decided to

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Speaker 1: try three sous. I wonder who bought that conversation? How

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Speaker 1: that go? I can't I don't even know how going

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Speaker 1: here and start that. I ain't even That's why I

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Speaker 1: because I don't. I don't know how to fix my

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Speaker 1: I don't know whether the woman came from. I don't

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Speaker 1: said all they said. We decided to try stiff three.

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Speaker 1: When the woman came over to Georgia, what what what? What?

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Speaker 1: Ain't No? It didn't take no time to think though,

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Speaker 1: like she's selling Avon or something like she married Kate

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Speaker 1: now she married Kay? Yeah? What what? Well? Uh? It

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Speaker 1: didn't go as playing. She and I was fooling around

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Speaker 1: life and Christmas and sister got put out the house

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Speaker 1: close for fire and they've been staying with him and

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Speaker 1: since January and it's to create some tension between her

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Speaker 1: the little nieces over so, uh, when you all have tension.

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Speaker 1: Your husband always took my sister's side when we would

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Speaker 1: So that made me suspicious. Why would he want me

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Speaker 1: to show hustle thing. My niece and I have conversations

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Speaker 1: how old a niece is. She's five, okay, But being

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Speaker 1: a week ago, my niece told me that her mommy

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Speaker 1: took a nap with Uncle Teddy on the count. Well,

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Speaker 1: about five year old kids. They don't imagine nothing like that.

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Speaker 1: My mom was in that land on Unent Teddy. She

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Speaker 1: child's active imagination. So then she said, I tried to

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Speaker 1: my husband was in the kitchen making mimos My maid,

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Speaker 1: My maid. You know they have mimosas at brunt as

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Speaker 1: orange juice in Champagne said on me, he isn't like

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Speaker 1: Or I did that? I did that? Damn crazy man crazy.

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Speaker 1: My lease was still asleep. I asked my sister why

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Speaker 1: you write as for now, I normally taking man inside

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Speaker 1: that ain't she ain't there with that blind wig going on.

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Speaker 1: You know, hey, we for the role play. Yeah, so

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Speaker 1: I don't even really know how to make them a most.

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Speaker 1: I just know it on using Champagne. I put it

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Speaker 1: you know they're off that on the plane all the time.

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Speaker 1: I don't never like. I don't like Champagne all you

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Speaker 1: So something got to be fit to pop off beastally

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Speaker 1: got that wig on and then Padma jam ain't got

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