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Speaker 1: Becca Tan You're ready scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and

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Speaker 1: I heart radio podcast. Hello everybody. I can't believe it's

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Speaker 1: been a whole week since we last recorded our podcast.

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Speaker 1: It feels like a long It feels like a long

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Speaker 1: time because we were talking about the gala was a

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Speaker 1: week ago, well it was that night. It was the

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Speaker 1: night of our last podoct. I know that was a

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Speaker 1: week ago though, but that seems like a month years.

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Speaker 1: A lot, a lot has transpired, A lot has transpired.

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Speaker 1: I must dive into that. Yeah, So that night, I

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Speaker 1: briefly brought it up to Brooke Burke that I was

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Speaker 1: going to see Robert at the gala, and I think

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Speaker 1: I tried to like integrate the fact like her ex

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Speaker 1: husband and her current husband being they're like friendly. Yeah, no, no,

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Speaker 1: no they're not. She made it seem like it's not

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Speaker 1: a great pleasant situation, okay, but like they make it

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Speaker 1: work whatever. Um. But yeah, I saw Robert. It was

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Speaker 1: very brief, anti climactic. It was like good to see

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Speaker 1: each other and we caught up briefly, and then I

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Speaker 1: left the party early because you were babysitting for Phoebe

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Speaker 1: and I had to get home, so I got there

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Speaker 1: early on the earlier side and he got there on

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Speaker 1: the later side, so we crossed paths. Said, hey, he

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Speaker 1: was great, looked great, of course, was so nice, just

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Speaker 1: like the nicest. Yeah, we did. We shouldn't talk too

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Speaker 1: much about that. It's like, you know, we've already established

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Speaker 1: that he's amazing. So um. Then I asked what, And

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Speaker 1: this maybe too personal, but what broke you guys up?

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Speaker 1: What was the issue? I don't have like a hard answer,

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Speaker 1: like I don't have like a It's more of just

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Speaker 1: something was missing or something was off. I didn't know

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Speaker 1: if it was the timing or if he just wasn't

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Speaker 1: if it's not the right one. But there was nothing

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Speaker 1: that I could tangibly grasp that was wrong right, Like,

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Speaker 1: It's not like there was like, which made it way harder.

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Speaker 1: I almost would prefer if something bad had happened, right

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Speaker 1: and I could at least have that to hold on too.

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Speaker 1: So you broke up with him? Yeah? And was it

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Speaker 1: out of the blue for him? He didn't see that coming. No,

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Speaker 1: I mean I think we kept having kind of the

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Speaker 1: same arguments about, like, you know, um, what we wanted

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Speaker 1: out of the relationship, and I was a little more

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Speaker 1: um in a place where I was traveling a lot

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Speaker 1: and focusing a lot on what I'm doing a career wise.

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Speaker 1: And you're also very independent. You're independent human. I was

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Speaker 1: gonna say, my personality is extremely independent, and I think

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Speaker 1: he deserves and needs someone who is um like more

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Speaker 1: emotionally available, Like I would consider myself a little emotionally unavailable.

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Speaker 1: And I don't know if that's like always going to

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Speaker 1: be that way or just specifically in that relationship, but

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Speaker 1: I think in a lot of ways with everyone in

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Speaker 1: my life, i'm emotionally and it's true. I was gonna say,

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's just that relationship. I think it's

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Speaker 1: in every relationship. Yeah, And so I think it was

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Speaker 1: like we kept having the conversation, but I don't know,

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Speaker 1: and I don't I haven't shut it out from being

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Speaker 1: something that maybe we get back together in the future,

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Speaker 1: but I also gotta, you know, like during this time

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Speaker 1: figure out. Yeah. And I also think, like this was

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Speaker 1: your first serious relationship, you know, And I think there's

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Speaker 1: a lot to be said about that as well, because

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Speaker 1: when you're navigating your first relationship, you don't really know

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Speaker 1: what's right what's wrong. We're supposed to feel, like what

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Speaker 1: it's not supposed to feel, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: Like you don't really know, so you're just trying to

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Speaker 1: He has everything that I'm looking for, and maybe later on,

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Speaker 1: when the timing is right, it'll be different, and maybe

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Speaker 1: it's we're not the one for each other, right. Relationship,

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Speaker 1: I'm slightly I'm emotionally unavailable, you think, I think. I

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Speaker 1: do think so for real, Like I think that I

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Speaker 1: can concur Yeah, my relationship with Tanya. Yeah, I'm very

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Speaker 1: needy and she's very emotionally not there. Yeah. I think

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Speaker 1: I just seem like I tend to push people away

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Speaker 1: because it like protects me in a way. But I

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Speaker 1: It's like if I don't let my self feel too much,

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Speaker 1: a therapist. I know. It's so interesting that she says

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Speaker 1: this because that's like the way, that's the way I

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Speaker 1: felt after I went through my my big breakup that

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I've heard how terrible these breakups are, so

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Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna let myself feel it. Well what

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Speaker 1: what what from your paths? About your that's my parents

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Speaker 1: I don't have any I don't have any of the

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Speaker 1: typical reasonings that growing up. Did you have to watch

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Speaker 1: a friend whose parents broke up and how it devastated? No, No,

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Speaker 1: I'm nothing. I think just yeah, do you envision yourself

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Speaker 1: you're not indifferent to that. You really want that? No,

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Speaker 1: I really want that, But I also don't want to

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Speaker 1: be in a marriage that. I'm like so so about right,

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Speaker 1: I'm with you, like, that's not worth it to me.

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Speaker 1: I've liked. It's just been like I had this I

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Speaker 1: think the few guys, you know, I would talk about Dez.

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Speaker 1: I there's this guy des and I just thought, I

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Speaker 1: was like, you're just throwing names out here. He I

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Speaker 1: for him, and he it was just like he never

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Speaker 1: maybe that's it. I don't know. Could be, could be

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Speaker 1: because you really liked him, Yeah, yeah, but it's been

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Speaker 1: So I think maybe that's part of where that stems from,

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Speaker 1: those those few guys and they weren't reciprocated and so

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Speaker 1: but it's so interesting because like even with me, like

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Speaker 1: I can be like you're being needy and yeah, like

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Speaker 1: And that's true, that's true. Yeah, I mean you can you.

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Speaker 1: I think the goal is a final relationship where you

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Speaker 1: I just please, I know. But if if it's like

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Speaker 1: And because I think that like we kind of now

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Speaker 1: you're there, right, Like I know if being annoying and

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Speaker 1: you're telling me and being annoying, I'm like, I know, okay,

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Speaker 1: So this is like the most anti climactical what your

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Speaker 1: I did tell you it was going to be Walt Wong.

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Speaker 1: you had some exciting things happened this week, you guys.

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Speaker 1: Saturday night. I don't know what was going on, but

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Speaker 1: it was everything. The mojo, the mojo. The mojo is

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Speaker 1: back and it was in full swingle. Doctor Flava tried

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Speaker 1: Moving on? So Saturday, um, we go out. I go

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Speaker 1: So I went out and UM. We ended up meeting

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Speaker 1: like just a big party of like mutual friends. Okay, Okay.

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Speaker 1: So I'm sitting at this table and there's like one

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Speaker 1: So I didn't Yeah, I did, come over here, big boy.

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Speaker 1: checked and we're just going back and forth of like

422
00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:16,920
Speaker 1: how to make it down to the most chill and

423
00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:20,280
Speaker 1: Ellie was like, this is literally an episode of Becca,

424
00:21:20,760 --> 00:21:24,719
Speaker 1: like we are all crashing. They were texting back and

425
00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:27,040
Speaker 1: forth for probably like an hour and a half, for

426
00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:30,159
Speaker 1: like a two cent sence long text, and at first

427
00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:32,760
Speaker 1: it was like don't fighting or so fun. I feel

428
00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:35,640
Speaker 1: like Talia was keep I was way to go like

429
00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:37,879
Speaker 1: um doctor Solf, but like it could be great, and

430
00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:39,840
Speaker 1: then like by the end of it, I was like,

431
00:21:39,880 --> 00:21:41,560
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I'm my tanga. In the next week,

432
00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:44,280
Speaker 1: way didn't response like so stressful, but all on the

433
00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:51,159
Speaker 1: stand up like an hour him um, we basically said

434
00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:55,920
Speaker 1: we of course, not just me. Um. We're like I

435
00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:58,040
Speaker 1: have two chickens, like all the girls are gonna go,

436
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:00,960
Speaker 1: but I'm stuck with them. Lest my it. So I

437
00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:03,800
Speaker 1: need a date um, I used Chinese terminology need a

438
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:09,119
Speaker 1: date and yeah, and like would love to go. I

439
00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:11,760
Speaker 1: think it sounds super fun if you're free. And so

440
00:22:11,880 --> 00:22:13,800
Speaker 1: then Jean Tyler sound it was super nice that he

441
00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:15,440
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, I might be going out of town

442
00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:18,199
Speaker 1: or I might be here, but if I'm here, it's

443
00:22:18,200 --> 00:22:20,720
Speaker 1: because I'm working late, so I won't know until like

444
00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:23,280
Speaker 1: the last minute, and I will feel bad committing to

445
00:22:23,320 --> 00:22:26,359
Speaker 1: you and then bailing right being the children I'm trying

446
00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:31,680
Speaker 1: to be, like trying to let's play with my ear.

447
00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:35,040
Speaker 1: And so then that was just like so stressed industry.

448
00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:37,120
Speaker 1: The home next day, we were waiting and waiting, all

449
00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:39,159
Speaker 1: three of us like okay, I just responded yet, like

450
00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:42,960
Speaker 1: what's the status um? And it ended up like it

451
00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:47,000
Speaker 1: didn't work out and we didn't go. So but but

452
00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:51,320
Speaker 1: it was fun. It was it was fun like going

453
00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:55,879
Speaker 1: back and forth. The textilement was fun. You know what, Alan, exactly,

454
00:22:56,680 --> 00:23:02,520
Speaker 1: this guy is not worth your time. I can already

455
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:05,600
Speaker 1: tell by the way that you talk and the way

456
00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:08,720
Speaker 1: that you handle the situation that you're amazing and you're

457
00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:11,679
Speaker 1: so fun. And if a guy's not gonna take you

458
00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:14,239
Speaker 1: up on that, whatever his excuses, maybe he was working late,

459
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 1: maybe it was legit, but in my mind and I

460
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:20,199
Speaker 1: think Beca will agree with me. If he wanted to

461
00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 1: go out with you, he would have gone out with you. Totally.

462
00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:26,840
Speaker 1: I agree. And however, I do agree with Tania because

463
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:29,439
Speaker 1: I always feel like when she has these situations like

464
00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:32,760
Speaker 1: with Dr Slava or these guys who are just stupid

465
00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:35,359
Speaker 1: and don't text her back, I genuinely think that they're

466
00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:37,920
Speaker 1: missing out. And I think even just talking to you

467
00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 1: and hearing the fact that you were texting with your friends,

468
00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:43,280
Speaker 1: and how fun it seems that you are as a person,

469
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:46,719
Speaker 1: like just because I mean, like I said, it's not

470
00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:48,239
Speaker 1: like he was the love of your life. I mean,

471
00:23:48,280 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 1: it sounds like you're just like I keep be fun

472
00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 1: to ask to this gala, but still you know, like

473
00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:56,760
Speaker 1: I know that you it's you can tend to be

474
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 1: like overthink things like that, and I just want to say,

475
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 1: like I anuinely think that you'll be with You'll find

476
00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:06,720
Speaker 1: someone who is so excited and I can't wait to

477
00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:09,359
Speaker 1: go to the gallon and like how awesome of you

478
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:12,439
Speaker 1: to tell him that, like you need a date and

479
00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:16,159
Speaker 1: you chose him, Like that's so cool, and like I

480
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 1: can't appreciate that somebody will appreciate that because I think

481
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:21,760
Speaker 1: that's really cool when like you, when you know you

482
00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:23,359
Speaker 1: can step up and say I want to date, and

483
00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:28,400
Speaker 1: you're not, you know, being aloof or you know, like

484
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:31,080
Speaker 1: trying to be too chill, like you're just putting it

485
00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:33,240
Speaker 1: out there, you know, like I mean justest you pick

486
00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:36,800
Speaker 1: up my handkerchief or throwing down. I mean, I love

487
00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:39,399
Speaker 1: that you were trying to send like bad text. So

488
00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 1: that is so Tanya, Like she'll the things that she'll

489
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 1: draft up and send to me. I'm like, there's no

490
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:48,080
Speaker 1: way as a friend I can let you send that.

491
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,359
Speaker 1: She still does. And the thing is, I thought I

492
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:54,360
Speaker 1: was super chilled, and there was like a part a party,

493
00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 1: like if you respond this, I'm going to say this.

494
00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:02,920
Speaker 1: So you were like so you were You were so

495
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 1: chill that you had backup plans. It was so casual

496
00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: that you had backup plans. I was just planning to

497
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:15,000
Speaker 1: be sponto. That's such a great quote. I was just

498
00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 1: planning to be spontaneous. Thank you so much for calling in.

499
00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:23,440
Speaker 1: It was so fun talking to Thank you guys, it's

500
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:26,439
Speaker 1: so fun. We love your show. Thank you for listening.

501
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:30,479
Speaker 1: Are just like, okay, we're back every day. Thank you

502
00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:34,440
Speaker 1: and keeping bold, keeping bold and making big moves. Thank

503
00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:40,359
Speaker 1: you to keep us posting. All right, well I liked

504
00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:43,960
Speaker 1: her too a lot. What did you eat yesterday? Just

505
00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:48,720
Speaker 1: take if you're not even a relish and Allie's amazing, nous,

506
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:51,480
Speaker 1: we're just going straight. I want to just say Alle's amazing.

507
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:54,879
Speaker 1: And now, so was the food I ate yesterday? Okay,

508
00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:57,919
Speaker 1: this is difficult because I was in Florida with my parents.

509
00:25:57,920 --> 00:26:01,400
Speaker 1: I surprised him with the dog, guess or whatever. Sunday

510
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:04,080
Speaker 1: I flew to Florida, so I was like in my

511
00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 1: zone with like my food from back home. Right, So

512
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:10,920
Speaker 1: do you do you want to ask what I yesterday?

513
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:13,640
Speaker 1: Or what did I eat the last Sunday? Here? Friday? Okay,

514
00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 1: I think could you take us through Friday? Can you

515
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:18,960
Speaker 1: remember Friday? Saturday through Saturday? So you went to Florida

516
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 1: and back in two days? Yeah, I'm crazy, um, but

517
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 1: it was so worth it. I'll get to that later.

518
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:29,440
Speaker 1: So I on Friday, I woke our Saturday, I woke

519
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:34,119
Speaker 1: up and I had two eggoes. It gets better and

520
00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:38,679
Speaker 1: just stand by it gets yeah, butter an sup And

521
00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:42,960
Speaker 1: then for lunch, I think that day I had What

522
00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:46,920
Speaker 1: did I have for lunch that day? I want to say,

523
00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:50,520
Speaker 1: I may have had Taco Bell Okay, okay, oh No,

524
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,159
Speaker 1: I had Jack in the Box Jack in Box, and

525
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:57,240
Speaker 1: I had I had a talk one of their tacos,

526
00:26:57,240 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 1: which are delightful. I had some cur early fries, and

527
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:04,480
Speaker 1: I had some lapeno poppers with the Dr pepper. Okay,

528
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:08,880
Speaker 1: just here. And then for dinner, I had my sister's

529
00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:15,199
Speaker 1: cooked and we had salmon and um peppers, fresh peppers,

530
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 1: and mac and cheese and asparagus pretty good at and

531
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 1: I had water. Dinner sounds better? Yeah, like I think

532
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:25,960
Speaker 1: you might have cherry picked that particular meal because that

533
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 1: does sound better. No, I didn't are worried about you.

534
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 1: I'm a little concerned about myself, to be honest. This

535
00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:37,440
Speaker 1: is the thing you want to know. What yesterday? Yesterday

536
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:41,720
Speaker 1: I had um U, I had some toast for breakfast,

537
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 1: and then I had sonic. I had sonic um, I

538
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:49,880
Speaker 1: had some mozzarella sticks, some fries and a Dr. Pepper

539
00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:54,200
Speaker 1: and then I flew to Houston. And then in Houston

540
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,920
Speaker 1: they had what a burger which they don't have out here,

541
00:27:57,320 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 1: and I got a chicken fingerbasket and that was it.

542
00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:04,320
Speaker 1: Though after that, Wow, So I guess how often do

543
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:07,160
Speaker 1: you get a physical not often, okay, because I'm worried

544
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,159
Speaker 1: about like, there may be certain levels because a lot

545
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:13,840
Speaker 1: of people are not overweight, but inside this high levels

546
00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 1: and the sort of thing. And boy, it really sounds

547
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 1: like that could be you because there's so much cholesterol

548
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:20,200
Speaker 1: and fat and everything that you eat. Yeah, it could

549
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:22,800
Speaker 1: very well be me. And I also worry about your

550
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 1: metabolism eventually, because it's gonna go away at some point.

551
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:29,200
Speaker 1: I think it's starting to actually, I mean I've really

552
00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:31,919
Speaker 1: been thinking about changing things up, you know, maybe at

553
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:35,160
Speaker 1: least starting to exercise some because that's you don't exercise

554
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:40,040
Speaker 1: at all. Okay, I go my stairs every day of apartment.

555
00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 1: Yeah that'll get you. And I work out daily and

556
00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 1: those are struggle. So could you do like one thing,

557
00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 1: like could you make baby steps towards change? Like could

558
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:54,920
Speaker 1: you cut soda? Oh no, no, no, that's not the

559
00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 1: first thing. Okay, Well what could be the first thing?

560
00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 1: The first thing would have to be probably, um, the

561
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 1: first thing would probably have to be like exercising, because

562
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 1: I think if I started exercising, maybe I'd have more

563
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:12,080
Speaker 1: of a like I'd want to eat better. Right, Okay,

564
00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 1: so you keep your current diet at first and just

565
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 1: start exercising and things out. Yeah all right, but so

566
00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:20,120
Speaker 1: you don't think someone would be one to weed out?

567
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:22,280
Speaker 1: Could you switch from white bread to wheat bread? I

568
00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 1: mean these are baby steps. There are some things I've

569
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 1: heard about, like is white bread that much worse than

570
00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 1: wheat bread. I've read some different studies on this, because

571
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 1: I tried to switch, and I was like, there's some

572
00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 1: pros and cons to eat, so I don't feel like

573
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 1: that's that big of a deal. I don't think I've

574
00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 1: never heard any pros to white bread. I heard it's

575
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 1: easier to digest. I think. Okay, anyways, um, I was

576
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,719
Speaker 1: gonna say, maybe we just maybe I have like a

577
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 1: protein bar for breakfast instead of egg goes, okay for

578
00:29:53,480 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 1: like a protein shake. Better. I have a ton of

579
00:29:56,600 --> 00:30:00,880
Speaker 1: protein stuff and no need for protein, Like, if you're

580
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 1: not working out, you don't really need that much protein. Yeah. Well,

581
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:07,760
Speaker 1: I actually I did this one cleanse and it was

582
00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:10,560
Speaker 1: like all protein. Well no, it was like protein shakes,

583
00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:13,920
Speaker 1: protein bars, and then vegetables and you weren't supposed to

584
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:17,040
Speaker 1: work out on it because you're basically dying of starvation,

585
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 1: so they don't want you to pass out, I guess,

586
00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 1: but I had. I was so lean, it was I

587
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:25,360
Speaker 1: only did it for like three days, and my body

588
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:28,240
Speaker 1: in those three days, I was so lean. I had

589
00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:31,840
Speaker 1: like you could see my abs. It was crazy and

590
00:30:31,880 --> 00:30:35,720
Speaker 1: I wasn't even working out. So yeah, talk to me

591
00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 1: after I do that one for a week. I mean,

592
00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:44,440
Speaker 1: Mark's just like newly coming into this because but I've

593
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:47,040
Speaker 1: talked about this. I know. I'm like I've tried to

594
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:50,360
Speaker 1: do this for years with you. I feel like everyone,

595
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 1: I mean everyone is like concern and like I didn't

596
00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 1: realize the extent of it until the buttered pop tarts

597
00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:58,040
Speaker 1: came along, and then I felt like, you know what,

598
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:00,120
Speaker 1: I'm going to bring you a butter pop dar and

599
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 1: let you just have a bite and then you'll under

600
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 1: it's delightful. But lots of things, and I stay away

601
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 1: from them because they'll kill me, right, okay, they'll kill you,

602
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 1: like the radiation on our phones are gonna kill us

603
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 1: before my buttered pop tart kills me, So okay. Um So,

604
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 1: I wanted to talk about Zola, which is a wedding

605
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 1: registry and they'll do any like you can do anything

606
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:27,320
Speaker 1: on the website, anything for love. Um, I look forward

607
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 1: to the day that I get to register for a wedding.

608
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 1: It's like you just are scanning everything you want. You're

609
00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:35,560
Speaker 1: picking out what you want people to buy you. You

610
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:40,200
Speaker 1: don't have to do anything except for make the decision. UM.

611
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:43,320
Speaker 1: So couples can register for the brands they want. It's easy,

612
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:46,760
Speaker 1: easy to use platform with the ability to personalize everything

613
00:31:46,760 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 1: with notes and photos. So it's a registry that actually

614
00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 1: feels exactly like yourself, Like it doesn't feel like you know,

615
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:55,920
Speaker 1: you kind of get to personalize and make it your own.

616
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 1: Zola is a one stop registry sheets a line subscription

617
00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 1: or honeymoon funds, which I did that for the wedding

618
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 1: that I didn't go to weeks weeks back. Um Zola

619
00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:09,320
Speaker 1: works directly with four and fifty plus brands so that

620
00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:11,560
Speaker 1: the happy couple can find whatever they want in one

621
00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:16,200
Speaker 1: place from brands like Kitchen Aid, Soul Cycle, so Nos, Ralph, Lauren,

622
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 1: and more that covers all the bases um. Some other

623
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 1: benefits include couples can have gifts shipped now later or

624
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:28,240
Speaker 1: exchange them, which is cool. Multiple guests can contribute to

625
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 1: bigger ticket gifts, so like the honeymoon, multiple people can contribute.

626
00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 1: That is one of my favorite things. The honeymoon. I know,

627
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 1: I'd like to pay for a nice dinner for them,

628
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 1: I know, like an experience. Um, you can export a

629
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:42,640
Speaker 1: list of your gifts and senders to make sending thank

630
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 1: you notes very easy, which is something I really struggle with.

631
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 1: It's your favorite part, but it is my favorite part.

632
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Speaker 1: Receive fifty dollars when you register and new Zola. Visit

633
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Speaker 1: zola dot com slash date pod for details that zo

634
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Speaker 1: l a dot com slash date pod. Um, you'll get

635
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:04,320
Speaker 1: married first or me? Oh, it would be a real

636
00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:07,600
Speaker 1: twist like turn of events if I got married before,

637
00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 1: because that means yeah, yeah, because I think you're like

638
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 1: actively searching for it more than I am. So mine.

639
00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 1: What if we got engaged at the same time and

640
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 1: have like a double wedding, Oh, how do I do this?

641
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:30,840
Speaker 1: Gently do? What? Wouldn't that be amazing? Yeah, we'll cross

642
00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 1: that bridge when we do wedding tie It only happens

643
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:37,600
Speaker 1: on TV shows. My aunt and her sister had one.

644
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: Well that's cute. Yeah, you'd be into that. Sharing your

645
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:46,239
Speaker 1: day with somebody else. First of all, it's not just

646
00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:49,600
Speaker 1: my day. It will be also Tim's day as well.

647
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 1: It will be Tim Tebow's day as well. Yes, so

648
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:55,920
Speaker 1: you have your family and then you have the tea

649
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 1: bows and then you're gonna have the chillies and whoever

650
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 1: she's married, right, it's a lot. It's so cute. And

651
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:07,480
Speaker 1: one of our husbands are friends. Our husbands have to

652
00:34:07,520 --> 00:34:09,759
Speaker 1: be friends. I like the idea of being pregnant at

653
00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:12,480
Speaker 1: the same time and having baby that. Why do you

654
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:15,239
Speaker 1: think I'm not like, I'm not like a huge life.

655
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 1: This is my day. But that seems very overwhelmed. Okay

656
00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 1: maybe okay, then we'll get pregnant at the same time. Okay, okay, Wow,

657
00:34:24,160 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 1: we're really take kicking a few steps. Yeah. Um. I

658
00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 1: also before we get to the email, So I I

659
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 1: went home and surprised my parents with a dog. I

660
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:36,480
Speaker 1: want to surprise everyone with a dog. I know it.

661
00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:39,319
Speaker 1: It was like the best feeling ever. Did you guys

662
00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:43,279
Speaker 1: decide on a name for her? Um? No? No, yeah, no,

663
00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:46,279
Speaker 1: what do you guys call her? Um? I call her? Well,

664
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 1: her name is Boo. That's what she was when she

665
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 1: like when we got her. And my mom's like very

666
00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:54,399
Speaker 1: specifical names, like she wants it to be the perfect name.

667
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:57,080
Speaker 1: That's perfect for her, Like I'm trying to figure out

668
00:34:57,120 --> 00:34:59,520
Speaker 1: how she named five kids. Like after watching her try

669
00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:01,839
Speaker 1: to name this dog, I'm like, how did you name

670
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:03,880
Speaker 1: all of us? I was actually supposed to be a

671
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:08,359
Speaker 1: Kelsey or Carly Yeah, but when I came out, They're like,

672
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 1: she's not a Kelsey or Carly yeah. Um so yeah.

673
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 1: I wanted now that we've had to um useless topics

674
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:18,360
Speaker 1: that I brought up, I wanted to get to the

675
00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:21,320
Speaker 1: emails because these are my favorite part of the show.

676
00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:24,000
Speaker 1: I picked out something that I think you're really good.

677
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:30,800
Speaker 1: Let's do Mike. Okay, yeah from Mike, Hi backa Tanya,

678
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:33,120
Speaker 1: Amy and the whole crew. A few months ago, I

679
00:35:33,120 --> 00:35:35,719
Speaker 1: got invited to my friend's engagement party, but found out

680
00:35:35,760 --> 00:35:38,040
Speaker 1: online that their wedding is weeks away and I didn't

681
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:40,719
Speaker 1: get an invitation. I'm so bummed, but don't want to

682
00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:43,480
Speaker 1: ask too many questions as it's their special day. Is

683
00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:45,920
Speaker 1: this a new trend? Should I be disappointed? Or does

684
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:50,000
Speaker 1: an engagement party invite no longer equal a wedding day invite?

685
00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 1: Your show rules. This happened to the Times, This literally

686
00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:57,440
Speaker 1: happened to me. This is based off a Tania's life actually,

687
00:35:57,640 --> 00:35:59,960
Speaker 1: but I'm so weird about that this happened to her too.

688
00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:03,600
Speaker 1: I think it's so oh, I think it's so weird

689
00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:08,120
Speaker 1: that this happens, Like it's I still don't know really

690
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 1: what happened. I ended up reaching out to my friend

691
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 1: who got married and like, yeah, just not even about

692
00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:15,880
Speaker 1: I just said, your wedding looked beautiful. You look so

693
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:18,239
Speaker 1: you look so happy. I like, with you guys, a

694
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:21,360
Speaker 1: lifetime of you know, I hope each year gets happier

695
00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:23,239
Speaker 1: and happier. I don't know. It's like something just a

696
00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:25,920
Speaker 1: sweet text, and she responded and that was it. But

697
00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:32,200
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm still super confused on that whole situation. Yeah,

698
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 1: so at Mike, I'm with you. I don't know. I

699
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:36,759
Speaker 1: think it's weird. I don't think you bring it up

700
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 1: at their weddings and weeks away. Um, you just don't

701
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 1: go to the wedding and send them a very nice

702
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 1: text and clearly they're not that good of a friend. Well,

703
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:47,880
Speaker 1: this is what I sometimes I wonder this if this

704
00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:49,799
Speaker 1: is the case. So a lot of people, when they're

705
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 1: planning their wedding, it's very specific on how many people

706
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:55,239
Speaker 1: that they can invite, you know, as they talk about it,

707
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:57,880
Speaker 1: and so they want people. They want a bunch of

708
00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 1: people and a bunch of their friends, whether it's they're

709
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:02,839
Speaker 1: really good friends of their family or whatever. They want

710
00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:05,879
Speaker 1: everyone to be participating. But maybe for the wedding they're

711
00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 1: not able to invite everyone. So they have the engagement

712
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:12,120
Speaker 1: party where they can include everyone, and then the weddings

713
00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:15,360
Speaker 1: more specific because they limited it to a very specific number.

714
00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:18,040
Speaker 1: So I don't know, I don't know if I think,

715
00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:21,000
Speaker 1: I mean, maybe the only problem is you're not as

716
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 1: good friends as you think. That's the only thing I

717
00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 1: can think of. If they didn't if if it was

718
00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:28,239
Speaker 1: a small wedding and they only had really close friends

719
00:37:28,280 --> 00:37:31,480
Speaker 1: and family, like if you didn't make the super close friends,

720
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 1: but they wanted to, like they love you enough that

721
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:37,840
Speaker 1: they wanted to include you in the engagement party. Tanya's

722
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:40,440
Speaker 1: was a little bit different because Tanya did not go

723
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:43,160
Speaker 1: to the party she was invited to, So some of

724
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 1: us maybe thought that that was the friendship test, and

725
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:48,239
Speaker 1: which she didn't pass that test. She wasn't invited to

726
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 1: the wedding. You got Nick so fast whatever you missed

727
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:55,719
Speaker 1: the bachelorrete party, wile She's like, whatever, now, Emily would

728
00:37:55,719 --> 00:38:01,359
Speaker 1: like talk about drunk texting. Oh no, Um, I love

729
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 1: a good drunk text um from Emily. Hi, girls, I

730
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 1: absolutely love the podcast. It brings me back to the

731
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:09,759
Speaker 1: good old days in college and high school and we

732
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:12,000
Speaker 1: had all the time in the world to just hang

733
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:14,120
Speaker 1: out with our girlfriends and talk about boys and watch

734
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:17,600
Speaker 1: chick flicks and eat junk food. I love you, Emily,

735
00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:21,399
Speaker 1: dunk food is life pop tarts with butter Well. I'm

736
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,520
Speaker 1: so blessed to have so many great female friends in

737
00:38:23,560 --> 00:38:27,399
Speaker 1: my life. Distance, jobs, relationships, and even new babies crazy right,

738
00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:29,799
Speaker 1: can make it hard to get that quality girl time in.

739
00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:32,200
Speaker 1: Do you have any advice for how to maintain strong

740
00:38:32,239 --> 00:38:35,760
Speaker 1: bonds with your girlfriends as adulthood takes its toll. Thanks

741
00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:39,759
Speaker 1: so much. I think I just read the wrong one

742
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:41,600
Speaker 1: you have. Let's focus on this and I was like,

743
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:45,040
Speaker 1: there's nothing in your about drunk texting. Thanks so much.

744
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:49,239
Speaker 1: I have to hear from you soon. Much love Emily. Um,

745
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:52,640
Speaker 1: I'm glad that you're not shrunk texting, And she makes

746
00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 1: a good point because I do think you know when

747
00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 1: you're when you are in college, it's so easy to

748
00:38:57,800 --> 00:38:59,719
Speaker 1: like keep up with your friend. I mean I had

749
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:06,040
Speaker 1: like fifty really close friends and like, yeah, really close friend.

750
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 1: I was in a sorority. Oh your sisters, my sisters.

751
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:12,000
Speaker 1: But I think it's a lot easier because, like I

752
00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 1: don't know, life just seems simpler in college and then

753
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:16,279
Speaker 1: when you actually start living life, it becomes a lot

754
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:18,920
Speaker 1: harder to keep in touch and you know what I mean. Um,

755
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 1: So I do think especially when you have babies, like

756
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:22,279
Speaker 1: I don't even have a kid. I mean, you you're

757
00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 1: a new mom, you can really I was like, um, well,

758
00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 1: I'm anti social in general, but I feel like I've

759
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:32,880
Speaker 1: always had like just a few very close good friends.

760
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 1: Like I've never been one who just had like tons

761
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 1: of good friends and I go hang out with everyone.

762
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 1: I was more like, these are my specific like four

763
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:45,240
Speaker 1: or five people and that's who I hang out with. Um,

764
00:39:45,280 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 1: but I you know, I have Laura, who I've known

765
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 1: since my freshman year of high school, and I still

766
00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:51,759
Speaker 1: talked to her on a regular basis. She's one of

767
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:54,960
Speaker 1: my very best friends, and she lives in Louisiana, and

768
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 1: so it's like we don't see each other a lot,

769
00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:59,880
Speaker 1: but that is a friendship that I've made a cautia

770
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 1: effort to maintain and I don't know, I think you

771
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:09,359
Speaker 1: have to have conscious effortative that's all right, I'm tired. Well,

772
00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:11,960
Speaker 1: I didn't have my better pop tart this morning. My

773
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:16,879
Speaker 1: brain is not functioning. Um, a conscious effort to keep that,

774
00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 1: to maintain that friendship and make sure that it's valued

775
00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:23,439
Speaker 1: and stays what it is. And also like we've made

776
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 1: time to make time to travel and to see each other,

777
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 1: and whether if you have a baby, then maybe they're

778
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:32,879
Speaker 1: the ones who make the effort to come see you

779
00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 1: and or to go on the trip. So I don't know.

780
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm kind of not in that place yet

781
00:40:38,080 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 1: where I'm making you have friends who like your friend

782
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 1: in Texas who has the babies, and you're like, we

783
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:45,440
Speaker 1: still like when we see each other, we catch right

784
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 1: back up. It's like one of those things where it's

785
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:51,640
Speaker 1: such a such a test of a real friendship, you know,

786
00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:54,239
Speaker 1: because I do think as time goes on, you do

787
00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:57,359
Speaker 1: lose friendships just out of life happens, you know, like

788
00:40:57,520 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 1: you know, works, busy, life gets busy, and um, I

789
00:41:00,719 --> 00:41:02,920
Speaker 1: think when you have a really good friend that you

790
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 1: value and you want your life forever, like you'll make

791
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:08,279
Speaker 1: the time, and I think, yes, whoever. I think for me,

792
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 1: I'm the one with a little bit more flexibility because

793
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:13,560
Speaker 1: I don't have kids. So whenever my friends text me

794
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 1: and say, hey, do you have time to talk, like,

795
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 1: I'll pick up the phone and call them right then

796
00:41:16,600 --> 00:41:18,920
Speaker 1: and there, you know, I'll just be running errands or whatever.

797
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 1: So I think just being a little bit more flexible,

798
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:25,359
Speaker 1: um and not like taking things too seriously. I think

799
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:30,200
Speaker 1: like people um getting fights over really silly, silly things

800
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 1: that they don't need to when you get older, you know,

801
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 1: I think just not sweating the small stuff is really important.

802
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:38,399
Speaker 1: I think making making sure you make the time, being

803
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:41,360
Speaker 1: flexible and not sweating the small things. I think a

804
00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 1: lot of listeners would like to know what sorority you

805
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:47,480
Speaker 1: are a part of. Let her tell you capa Alpha Theta.

806
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 1: I love my kide and this guy I want to

807
00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:57,480
Speaker 1: be a Theta Kappa Alpha Theta. Yeah, if we have

808
00:41:57,520 --> 00:42:01,719
Speaker 1: any Theta listeners, I'll let your girl. Oh wow, that

809
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:04,880
Speaker 1: was special. She actually did her rush cheer for me

810
00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:07,960
Speaker 1: one night, and it was like, I that was one

811
00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:10,279
Speaker 1: of the happier times I've ever seen you, like just

812
00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 1: truly in your element. I thrived during recruitment week. I

813
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:17,719
Speaker 1: love nothing more than jumping up and down and singing

814
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:20,759
Speaker 1: and meeting new girls every day and like making them

815
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:23,319
Speaker 1: like love Theta. I loved it so much. I was

816
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:25,400
Speaker 1: an authority, but I didn't go through that part of

817
00:42:25,440 --> 00:42:28,680
Speaker 1: it because I left after after my freshman year. I

818
00:42:28,719 --> 00:42:31,840
Speaker 1: went through Rush and the asthority. Were you in Sigma Kappa?

819
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:36,919
Speaker 1: What I never noticed about you? Yeah? So unlike you.

820
00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:42,520
Speaker 1: I did not thrive in that setting. The amount, the people,

821
00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:47,640
Speaker 1: the the cheering did nothing to interest me. I would

822
00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:49,880
Speaker 1: actually be so upset that I'd have to go back

823
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:52,480
Speaker 1: early on Sunday from my parents house to go to

824
00:42:52,480 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 1: a meeting to sit in something. Oh, I loved chapter.

825
00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:59,720
Speaker 1: Are you like the President? I was the vice president

826
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:01,880
Speaker 1: of Occasion, so I was like the like mom like

827
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:06,719
Speaker 1: when I was a junior. Yeah, there's no part of me.

828
00:43:06,920 --> 00:43:10,400
Speaker 1: So the thing was I could either write a letter

829
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 1: to drop when I left, or I could just go

830
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:14,439
Speaker 1: a lum and I didn't have to write a letter

831
00:43:14,480 --> 00:43:16,319
Speaker 1: or anything. So I was like, shoot, I'll go along.

832
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:19,439
Speaker 1: So I still have sisters write me one Heart, one way,

833
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:24,320
Speaker 1: loving the dove, love and the dove. I'm doing my

834
00:43:24,320 --> 00:43:29,520
Speaker 1: my signal right now, um so yeah, so yeah, sorority.

835
00:43:29,560 --> 00:43:33,120
Speaker 1: But yeah, I think to wrap that up, just make

836
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 1: the effort if it's important to you, and then you

837
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:38,440
Speaker 1: will make the effort. And yeah, the ones who maybe

838
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:40,680
Speaker 1: have a little more flexibility need to be the ones

839
00:43:40,719 --> 00:43:44,480
Speaker 1: that maybe step up a little bit. Um like Tanya

840
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:46,720
Speaker 1: has to step up because I have a new baby.

841
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:49,439
Speaker 1: That's true. So what does what do I do? Baby sit?

842
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 1: What does she do? She texts me incessantly anti babysits,

843
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:59,719
Speaker 1: which I'm very grateful for. Um okay, so moving on. Yeah,

844
00:43:59,760 --> 00:44:01,600
Speaker 1: so this is also from Emily. I don't think it's

845
00:44:01,640 --> 00:44:04,560
Speaker 1: the same Emily. Um hey back at Antonia. I have

846
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:06,920
Speaker 1: listened to every single one of your podcasts and I

847
00:44:06,960 --> 00:44:09,719
Speaker 1: absolutely love them. Thank you. I even go back and

848
00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:12,080
Speaker 1: listen to them again when I feel like a certain

849
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:15,200
Speaker 1: one relates to me personally. One thing that I saw,

850
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:17,719
Speaker 1: I know, I like that. One thing that I thought

851
00:44:17,840 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 1: might be interesting to touch on is that I feel

852
00:44:20,480 --> 00:44:22,319
Speaker 1: like a lot of people can relate to. This is

853
00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:24,799
Speaker 1: drunk texting. Do you all have a certain someone that

854
00:44:24,840 --> 00:44:26,919
Speaker 1: you drunk text on the weekends and do you think

855
00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:28,920
Speaker 1: they mind that you drunk text them? I feel like

856
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 1: you could look at it one of two ways, which

857
00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 1: are one you feel like a booty call and you're annoyed,

858
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:35,239
Speaker 1: or two you think of it as a compliment that

859
00:44:35,360 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 1: someone is in an altered state of mind and you're

860
00:44:37,160 --> 00:44:40,120
Speaker 1: still the person they're thinking of. This concept in general

861
00:44:40,120 --> 00:44:42,360
Speaker 1: has always interested me as a female in her twenties

862
00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:44,920
Speaker 1: that has been on both ends of the spectrum. I

863
00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:46,880
Speaker 1: would love to know your thoughts. Thanks in advance, and

864
00:44:46,920 --> 00:44:48,759
Speaker 1: love you both in your podcast so much. You guys

865
00:44:48,800 --> 00:44:51,040
Speaker 1: are truly idols of mine, and I'm sure too many others.

866
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:55,640
Speaker 1: Love always Emily, Emily, You're so nice. Do you drunk

867
00:44:55,640 --> 00:45:01,200
Speaker 1: textall you? God? Do you drunk textall lot? You know what? Now? No,

868
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:06,120
Speaker 1: But in my heyday that is like all I did,

869
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:10,200
Speaker 1: and I would have severe anxiety in the morning when

870
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:12,439
Speaker 1: I would wake up and read what I would write

871
00:45:12,440 --> 00:45:17,560
Speaker 1: to people. Really Oh yeah, oh yeah, I guess And

872
00:45:18,280 --> 00:45:22,839
Speaker 1: are you thinking what I'm thinking of? Way? Yeah? There

873
00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:27,080
Speaker 1: was one, Well tell us about it. Um. There was

874
00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:30,440
Speaker 1: a guy that I was like hooking up with UM

875
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:33,680
Speaker 1: and I was with co workers and we were all

876
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:37,520
Speaker 1: drinking heavily and they were kind of pushing me. They

877
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:40,160
Speaker 1: were like, because he was not. He doesn't live in town.

878
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:41,560
Speaker 1: He doesn't like here, so he was only in town

879
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:43,080
Speaker 1: for like the next day or whatever, and so they

880
00:45:43,080 --> 00:45:45,440
Speaker 1: were all like pushing me to just like go to

881
00:45:45,560 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 1: his hotel. And I sent a text. It was so bad,

882
00:45:51,480 --> 00:45:56,000
Speaker 1: and he never responded. Dropping a handkerchief, Yeah, this is

883
00:45:56,000 --> 00:46:04,359
Speaker 1: like dropping You're like you like for yourself. Basically, Oh

884
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:08,880
Speaker 1: my gosh, you convinced you to do this my coworkers,

885
00:46:09,040 --> 00:46:12,640
Speaker 1: my drunken coworkers. It was awful. So I can relate

886
00:46:12,680 --> 00:46:16,839
Speaker 1: to Emily because the feeling that you have the next

887
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:21,640
Speaker 1: morning is so bad. It's so bad, the anxiety, Like

888
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 1: I'm surprised I didn't have to be medicated for these things.

889
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:27,359
Speaker 1: I've actually feel bad for people because I think that, like,

890
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:29,719
Speaker 1: I think there's a term for this. After you drink

891
00:46:29,760 --> 00:46:31,960
Speaker 1: really heavily, the next morning, you think back on what

892
00:46:32,040 --> 00:46:34,320
Speaker 1: you did and you get so anxious about it. I

893
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:38,080
Speaker 1: feel like that's like there's something it's called a regret.

894
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:44,319
Speaker 1: Have you I'm trying to like, I don't know, I'm

895
00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:47,400
Speaker 1: even when I drink, if I'm like pretty pretty drunk

896
00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:51,000
Speaker 1: and if I send a text, I kind of remember it,

897
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:53,719
Speaker 1: I think. So I've never I'm trying to think if

898
00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 1: there's ever been I've had phone calls that have been

899
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:59,520
Speaker 1: brought up that I don't that. I was like, no recollection.

900
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:01,480
Speaker 1: You've never had to go back in the morning and

901
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 1: like just delete the conversation. You literally can't look at it. No,

902
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 1: I'm a pretty I know that if we talked about

903
00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:09,120
Speaker 1: me being like on the bathroom floor and stuff, but

904
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:11,840
Speaker 1: I'm like a pretty responsible, you know. I'm not like,

905
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:16,080
Speaker 1: I'm not that crazy that I like black out to

906
00:47:16,120 --> 00:47:19,239
Speaker 1: that extent. I did like the other night. Actually, the

907
00:47:19,280 --> 00:47:22,120
Speaker 1: other night, I was out and I texted Robert and

908
00:47:22,120 --> 00:47:24,839
Speaker 1: I just texted it. I don't know why. I don't

909
00:47:24,840 --> 00:47:28,120
Speaker 1: know if I'm meant to start. He told me, I

910
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:31,239
Speaker 1: didn't know. You didn't know. Well, it's not anything like

911
00:47:31,280 --> 00:47:34,960
Speaker 1: a baby. We'll talk about this later. You'll freak out.

912
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:37,680
Speaker 1: I just like wrote him the name of the bar

913
00:47:37,760 --> 00:47:39,759
Speaker 1: I was at, but I didn't say anything else, and

914
00:47:39,800 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 1: so he was like, were you inviting me there? Were

915
00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 1: you just excited to tell me you were there? And

916
00:47:44,560 --> 00:47:47,440
Speaker 1: I was like, all of the above. That's not bad.

917
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 1: That's actually not bad. That's what I'm saying, that's what

918
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:52,439
Speaker 1: say I and I was gonna say. And in this case,

919
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:54,879
Speaker 1: it was almost as if it was like the number two,

920
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 1: like it was a compliment that someone is in a

921
00:47:57,160 --> 00:47:59,080
Speaker 1: different state of mine and they were thinking of you.

922
00:47:59,840 --> 00:48:01,640
Speaker 1: I think for me, Like, and that's maybe why I

923
00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:04,080
Speaker 1: don't drink so much anymore, because when I get drunk,

924
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:09,960
Speaker 1: like Tatiana comes out. Whoa, she's no longer Tania, she

925
00:48:10,239 --> 00:48:13,880
Speaker 1: is Tatiana. Yeah, so I think that it's for the best.

926
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:16,960
Speaker 1: What was this guy's response when you send him the

927
00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:21,920
Speaker 1: graphic text saying you were interested in that? No response?

928
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:26,480
Speaker 1: So never talked to him again, not never, but he

929
00:48:26,560 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 1: never responded, And then like weeks went by, and then

930
00:48:29,239 --> 00:48:31,400
Speaker 1: I can't remember we started talking again. He started I

931
00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 1: don't know. He texted me out of the blue about

932
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:36,439
Speaker 1: something else, and I was like, are we just gonna

933
00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:39,560
Speaker 1: completely ignore the text above? I already deleted it, so

934
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:43,240
Speaker 1: it's deleted from my memory, but clearly like it's still

935
00:48:43,400 --> 00:48:51,200
Speaker 1: in his phone. Probably that is so mortified, Like, sorry,

936
00:48:51,200 --> 00:48:54,360
Speaker 1: we just had to bring it up again. I don't know.

937
00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:56,839
Speaker 1: I mean, of course, you like, we'll get text if

938
00:48:56,880 --> 00:48:59,000
Speaker 1: you meet those like kind of slimy guys and they're

939
00:48:59,040 --> 00:49:01,360
Speaker 1: like text you glade at night. I used to bother

940
00:49:01,440 --> 00:49:04,680
Speaker 1: me too when like guys would text me late at night, Like, um,

941
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:06,480
Speaker 1: I had one guy I think I was like twenty

942
00:49:06,480 --> 00:49:09,160
Speaker 1: two and he would only text me after midnight, and

943
00:49:09,239 --> 00:49:11,439
Speaker 1: it bothered me so much because I was like, why

944
00:49:11,480 --> 00:49:14,800
Speaker 1: does he not want to hang out with me? Drunk

945
00:49:14,800 --> 00:49:20,200
Speaker 1: text every weekend? You know exactly why? Annoying? Real questions.

946
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:22,200
Speaker 1: So you're more number one than number two of the

947
00:49:22,200 --> 00:49:24,640
Speaker 1: options that Emily gave us. Yeah, but they're more annoyed.

948
00:49:24,760 --> 00:49:27,400
Speaker 1: You're not flattered by the drunk text. I'm not flattered

949
00:49:27,400 --> 00:49:30,319
Speaker 1: by a drunk text, No, not anymore. But what if

950
00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:32,759
Speaker 1: it's like someone that you like know is good and

951
00:49:33,080 --> 00:49:36,239
Speaker 1: they're not trying to get a booty call. They're just

952
00:49:36,320 --> 00:49:41,600
Speaker 1: like randomly up and they might be a decent person,

953
00:49:41,640 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 1: but it's still a boy. But I'm saying, like, what

954
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 1: if they're just drunk and they're just like wanting to

955
00:49:46,120 --> 00:49:48,319
Speaker 1: say like hey, like they were thinking that they were

956
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:49,799
Speaker 1: it was like late at night and they were thinking

957
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:53,319
Speaker 1: of you. If it's eleven o'clock on a Saturday night,

958
00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:55,200
Speaker 1: that's a booty call. There's no way around it. They

959
00:49:55,200 --> 00:49:56,680
Speaker 1: can say whatever they want to say, but that's what

960
00:49:56,719 --> 00:50:00,080
Speaker 1: it is. They can disguise it said the name the

961
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:02,239
Speaker 1: the bar. I like that. Actually, it's kind of like

962
00:50:02,239 --> 00:50:05,600
Speaker 1: a scavenge front. It's fun. Yeah, But there's the pre

963
00:50:05,680 --> 00:50:09,000
Speaker 1: booty call. The Tan and I have, I believe, talked about.

964
00:50:09,040 --> 00:50:10,600
Speaker 1: You know, Eric and I have talked about the pre

965
00:50:10,640 --> 00:50:13,840
Speaker 1: booty call. Set it up. Like at noon, out of

966
00:50:13,840 --> 00:50:16,040
Speaker 1: the blue on a Saturday, you make Hey, what are

967
00:50:16,080 --> 00:50:19,880
Speaker 1: you gonna be doing later? That's sort of that's a

968
00:50:19,920 --> 00:50:23,960
Speaker 1: pretty booty shoot. I need to be more aware. I

969
00:50:24,000 --> 00:50:29,279
Speaker 1: didn't even know that was a thing. Wow. I would

970
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:31,160
Speaker 1: say that you should never be flattered by the booty

971
00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 1: call because you are one of probably ten texts that

972
00:50:33,960 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 1: he's sending out trying to find a willing participants. It's

973
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:38,600
Speaker 1: not flattered by the booty call. It's flattered by the

974
00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:43,480
Speaker 1: drunk text. Mine was not a booty call. When I texted,

975
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:47,479
Speaker 1: I was not saying like, let's hook up. Well, that's true.

976
00:50:47,520 --> 00:50:49,359
Speaker 1: I think it's different when women sent a late night

977
00:50:49,360 --> 00:50:51,520
Speaker 1: text than when guys said a late night Okay, that's fair.

978
00:50:52,320 --> 00:50:54,160
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983
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985
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Speaker 1: thought we're gonna do a quiz. We have two things.

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1030
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Speaker 1: got it. All right, let's talk about Taylor. Can you

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1032
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Speaker 1: so this is our last show of Team. You know,

1033
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Speaker 1: I get sentimental. I just want to say that I

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1045
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Speaker 1: do it that my traditional New Year's Eve, but I'll

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Speaker 1: do it the first week of January. So where will

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Speaker 1: you be a New Year's Eve? Coming back from my

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Speaker 1: trip with my family? Yeah, so I'm either going to

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1050
00:54:50,400 --> 00:54:53,720
Speaker 1: never made a vision board. This will be great for me. Yeah,

1051
00:54:53,760 --> 00:54:55,759
Speaker 1: So I gave her homework. I said, I need you

1052
00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:59,920
Speaker 1: to think of some words. Yeah, some words for next year.

1053
00:55:00,120 --> 00:55:02,480
Speaker 1: You want to be mindful of. Some goals. Well, they'll

1054
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:05,800
Speaker 1: be vegetables on Becca's vision board. I think two eighteen

1055
00:55:05,880 --> 00:55:07,399
Speaker 1: is going to be a new year for me. I'm

1056
00:55:07,400 --> 00:55:10,239
Speaker 1: gonna make it like I'm gonna go on dates. I'm

1057
00:55:10,280 --> 00:55:13,279
Speaker 1: gonna try and eat better, I'm gonna exercise. I want

1058
00:55:13,280 --> 00:55:17,080
Speaker 1: to have like goals. Yeah, you know, it's not about

1059
00:55:18,000 --> 00:55:23,040
Speaker 1: having the best, it's about being your best. That's going

1060
00:55:23,080 --> 00:55:25,640
Speaker 1: on my vision board. That's the first quote that's going

1061
00:55:25,719 --> 00:55:29,960
Speaker 1: on there. Okay, wanna read Taylor's email. So from Taylor,

1062
00:55:30,000 --> 00:55:32,520
Speaker 1: Hi back Antania, hoping you can help me out. I

1063
00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:34,480
Speaker 1: broke up with my ex of only a few months

1064
00:55:34,480 --> 00:55:37,120
Speaker 1: about three months ago because he moved four hours away,

1065
00:55:37,200 --> 00:55:39,160
Speaker 1: became obsessed with his job, and I felt like he

1066
00:55:39,239 --> 00:55:41,759
Speaker 1: made rude comments to me a lot. Aside from really

1067
00:55:41,800 --> 00:55:43,920
Speaker 1: caring about him, I felt more alone being with him,

1068
00:55:43,960 --> 00:55:45,600
Speaker 1: and I knew I couldn't do it anymore. We have

1069
00:55:45,680 --> 00:55:47,480
Speaker 1: been trying to work things out, but I just can't

1070
00:55:47,520 --> 00:55:49,560
Speaker 1: picture my life where he lives, and I'm not sure

1071
00:55:49,920 --> 00:55:52,279
Speaker 1: I can completely trust him out there, as he has

1072
00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:55,200
Speaker 1: a history of cheating. I recently rekindled with an old

1073
00:55:55,280 --> 00:55:58,360
Speaker 1: high school flame. He lives twice as far as my ex,

1074
00:55:59,320 --> 00:56:01,239
Speaker 1: but I know how much of a loyal person he is,

1075
00:56:01,280 --> 00:56:03,520
Speaker 1: and I know he would make a great boyfriend long

1076
00:56:03,560 --> 00:56:05,560
Speaker 1: distance when it matters. In this case. He is very

1077
00:56:05,560 --> 00:56:07,640
Speaker 1: sweet to me and I know he is a genuine person.

1078
00:56:07,960 --> 00:56:09,919
Speaker 1: I'm just not sure if the connection is fully there.

1079
00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:12,120
Speaker 1: But with my ex, I have a great connection, and

1080
00:56:12,160 --> 00:56:14,080
Speaker 1: when we see each other every few weeks, I just

1081
00:56:14,160 --> 00:56:17,719
Speaker 1: love being with him. Listening to your podcast last week,

1082
00:56:17,719 --> 00:56:19,520
Speaker 1: you talk about what you need and a guy versus

1083
00:56:19,560 --> 00:56:21,600
Speaker 1: what you want. This is where I'm torn. My X

1084
00:56:21,600 --> 00:56:23,520
Speaker 1: and I have a great connection, but it can't seem

1085
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:25,279
Speaker 1: to figure it out. And this other boy is beyond

1086
00:56:25,320 --> 00:56:27,600
Speaker 1: wonderful to me, but not sure if we connect as

1087
00:56:27,600 --> 00:56:30,279
Speaker 1: well as I would have liked. In conclusion, both are

1088
00:56:30,320 --> 00:56:32,880
Speaker 1: getting me Christmas gifts and now I feel awful. I

1089
00:56:32,880 --> 00:56:35,160
Speaker 1: feel like this is a Bachelorette finale. Help me. I'm

1090
00:56:35,160 --> 00:56:38,919
Speaker 1: twenty four, by the way, I know my answer, Move

1091
00:56:39,000 --> 00:56:41,040
Speaker 1: on from both of them, hold out for someone who

1092
00:56:41,120 --> 00:56:45,200
Speaker 1: has the connection and is great to you. Yeah, I

1093
00:56:45,239 --> 00:56:48,000
Speaker 1: mean trying to force yourself to be with someone just

1094
00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:51,840
Speaker 1: because you have a great chemistry does not mean what

1095
00:56:52,960 --> 00:56:55,279
Speaker 1: chemistry doesn't last. I don't think so. I think like

1096
00:56:55,320 --> 00:56:57,040
Speaker 1: when you have just like I feel like it's just

1097
00:56:57,080 --> 00:56:59,480
Speaker 1: that like lust feeling she has at first, I don't

1098
00:56:59,480 --> 00:57:03,080
Speaker 1: think that's chimistry. I think that's lust. I think chemistry.

1099
00:57:03,080 --> 00:57:05,640
Speaker 1: I'm just saying I think chemistry doesn't equal like the

1100
00:57:05,680 --> 00:57:08,400
Speaker 1: one like, you can have chemistry with tons of different people,

1101
00:57:09,040 --> 00:57:11,759
Speaker 1: but if someone is terrible to you, just because you

1102
00:57:11,800 --> 00:57:14,680
Speaker 1: have chemistry with them does not cancel out the fact

1103
00:57:14,719 --> 00:57:17,880
Speaker 1: that they're terrible to you. And then the guy who's great.

1104
00:57:17,960 --> 00:57:21,520
Speaker 1: I mean, maybe I would say, maybe focus on that

1105
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:24,280
Speaker 1: and see if there's more to it. Maybe live slow

1106
00:57:24,320 --> 00:57:27,040
Speaker 1: burn with that one. Maybe there's a slow burn. But

1107
00:57:27,160 --> 00:57:30,080
Speaker 1: the guy who's known for cheating and is obsessed with

1108
00:57:30,120 --> 00:57:32,360
Speaker 1: this job and doesn't treat you well, I think that's

1109
00:57:32,400 --> 00:57:35,680
Speaker 1: a very clear Yeah. I don't love that. I don't

1110
00:57:35,680 --> 00:57:38,480
Speaker 1: love that one at all, but I think that UM

1111
00:57:38,520 --> 00:57:43,240
Speaker 1: A big problem with UM how we're kind of our

1112
00:57:43,520 --> 00:57:47,160
Speaker 1: our brains are set nowadays, is that the end all

1113
00:57:47,200 --> 00:57:50,840
Speaker 1: be all is marriage. And yes, I want to be married.

1114
00:57:50,960 --> 00:57:54,040
Speaker 1: I that's like something that I do want in my life. However,

1115
00:57:54,280 --> 00:57:57,120
Speaker 1: I do see a lot of people that just get

1116
00:57:57,120 --> 00:57:59,480
Speaker 1: married because they want to be married, and they're like, oh,

1117
00:57:59,520 --> 00:58:01,880
Speaker 1: this guy's picks off all the boxes and he's okay,

1118
00:58:02,120 --> 00:58:04,040
Speaker 1: and then they end up getting divorced, and I'm like,

1119
00:58:05,320 --> 00:58:07,880
Speaker 1: why are you doing that to yourself? Why not hold

1120
00:58:07,920 --> 00:58:11,200
Speaker 1: out for somebody that you have a really great chemistry with,

1121
00:58:11,280 --> 00:58:13,640
Speaker 1: that is an amazing man, that will treat you right,

1122
00:58:13,640 --> 00:58:15,120
Speaker 1: and that you'll spend the rest of your life with.

1123
00:58:15,160 --> 00:58:17,280
Speaker 1: If it takes you longer to find that person, and

1124
00:58:17,400 --> 00:58:20,000
Speaker 1: that's okay. I feel like we're all under a lot

1125
00:58:20,040 --> 00:58:24,400
Speaker 1: of pressure and to like, oh, you know, she's never

1126
00:58:24,400 --> 00:58:27,440
Speaker 1: gonna get married, she has too high standards or whatever.

1127
00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:30,800
Speaker 1: I think we're under this like this pressure, and I

1128
00:58:30,840 --> 00:58:34,640
Speaker 1: think that it's not necessarily beneficial to any any of us. Yeah,

1129
00:58:34,680 --> 00:58:37,440
Speaker 1: and I mean, Taylor, you're twenty four, and I know

1130
00:58:37,520 --> 00:58:39,960
Speaker 1: it feels like maybe you've been dealing with this for

1131
00:58:40,000 --> 00:58:42,800
Speaker 1: a long time, but like you still have a lot

1132
00:58:44,000 --> 00:58:47,200
Speaker 1: going on, Like you're probably just you what just got

1133
00:58:47,240 --> 00:58:49,400
Speaker 1: out of college. Maybe you're trying to figure out what

1134
00:58:49,440 --> 00:58:52,360
Speaker 1: you want to do career wise, and there's no rush

1135
00:58:52,440 --> 00:58:56,600
Speaker 1: to be with someone, especially if they're not wonderful and

1136
00:58:56,640 --> 00:58:59,479
Speaker 1: every capacity and make you feel great about yourself while

1137
00:58:59,800 --> 00:59:02,480
Speaker 1: be excited to be with them. I always think that

1138
00:59:02,520 --> 00:59:06,360
Speaker 1: your significant others should add to your life, not take away,

1139
00:59:06,440 --> 00:59:09,080
Speaker 1: Like you should be a hundred percent without the person,

1140
00:59:09,160 --> 00:59:12,320
Speaker 1: and then when you meet them, your two exactly exactly.

1141
00:59:12,560 --> 00:59:14,520
Speaker 1: And I understand there's compromising, like you know what I mean,

1142
00:59:14,560 --> 00:59:16,520
Speaker 1: Like relationships take work, and you're not you know, it's

1143
00:59:16,560 --> 00:59:20,840
Speaker 1: not never as picture perfectly as everybody you know wants

1144
00:59:20,880 --> 00:59:23,360
Speaker 1: you to believe. But I do think that you should

1145
00:59:23,400 --> 00:59:27,360
Speaker 1: be good on your own and then the person should add.

1146
00:59:27,360 --> 00:59:29,480
Speaker 1: And I feel like neither of these two guys are

1147
00:59:29,520 --> 00:59:35,000
Speaker 1: really adding right to you, Yeah, it doesn't seem The

1148
00:59:35,080 --> 00:59:37,200
Speaker 1: thing is, I agree with you in the sense that

1149
00:59:37,320 --> 00:59:39,160
Speaker 1: there's this pressure to feel like you have to be

1150
00:59:39,480 --> 00:59:41,440
Speaker 1: to have to be in a relationship or even me,

1151
00:59:41,560 --> 00:59:43,800
Speaker 1: like sometimes I feel pressure like I should I should

1152
00:59:43,840 --> 00:59:46,400
Speaker 1: be actively searching it. I'm like, I'm happy right now,

1153
00:59:46,400 --> 00:59:48,960
Speaker 1: Like I'm fine not going on dates, Like if I

1154
00:59:49,000 --> 00:59:50,760
Speaker 1: wanted to go on dates, i'd be on apps or

1155
00:59:50,800 --> 00:59:53,440
Speaker 1: like putting myself out totally. Could that's the thing, Like,

1156
00:59:53,440 --> 00:59:56,479
Speaker 1: if you wanted to be dating, you could one percent

1157
00:59:56,560 --> 00:59:58,480
Speaker 1: be dating right now right And I think sometimes I

1158
00:59:58,480 --> 01:00:00,720
Speaker 1: get caught up in the pressure of you know, people

1159
01:00:00,760 --> 01:00:03,959
Speaker 1: asking like are you dating? What's going on? And I'm like, wait,

1160
01:00:04,000 --> 01:00:05,440
Speaker 1: should I be? And then I'm like, I don't have

1161
01:00:05,480 --> 01:00:08,280
Speaker 1: to be because I'm happy right now. And if that's

1162
01:00:08,320 --> 01:00:10,760
Speaker 1: the pressure. Do you feel that you're willing to settle

1163
01:00:10,840 --> 01:00:13,880
Speaker 1: for someone who doesn't treat you right or someone that

1164
01:00:13,920 --> 01:00:17,320
Speaker 1: you don't feel excited about, then maybe that's the thing

1165
01:00:17,400 --> 01:00:19,680
Speaker 1: you need to focus on. Why why what are you

1166
01:00:19,680 --> 01:00:22,560
Speaker 1: trying to fill or why why are you settling for

1167
01:00:22,640 --> 01:00:26,960
Speaker 1: these two guys who are everything you're looking for? And

1168
01:00:27,040 --> 01:00:29,520
Speaker 1: I do think twenty four. I thought I was going

1169
01:00:29,560 --> 01:00:34,160
Speaker 1: to be married at twenty four. Yeah, I thought it

1170
01:00:34,200 --> 01:00:37,840
Speaker 1: was worth that bad. I thought I was. I always

1171
01:00:37,920 --> 01:00:39,520
Speaker 1: was like, I'm going to be married with two kids

1172
01:00:39,520 --> 01:00:43,240
Speaker 1: by five. Oh yeah, like when I went I was

1173
01:00:43,320 --> 01:00:46,000
Speaker 1: twenty five when I went through my big I call

1174
01:00:46,240 --> 01:00:48,920
Speaker 1: my big breakup, but it's true, it was my big breakup.

1175
01:00:49,080 --> 01:00:51,280
Speaker 1: I felt like my world was over because I had

1176
01:00:51,320 --> 01:00:53,840
Speaker 1: to like start over. I was like I had to

1177
01:00:53,880 --> 01:00:56,320
Speaker 1: start over and put in the years and I have

1178
01:00:56,400 --> 01:00:58,280
Speaker 1: to do this certain like I literally it felt like

1179
01:00:58,320 --> 01:01:01,280
Speaker 1: my like my world had exploded when in We're all reality,

1180
01:01:01,360 --> 01:01:04,760
Speaker 1: Like my world was just beginning, I know. But everything

1181
01:01:04,840 --> 01:01:07,120
Speaker 1: you know, you look back on things and it's, uh,

1182
01:01:07,280 --> 01:01:14,280
Speaker 1: what's the word? Wow? Thirty thirty it's not possible. The

1183
01:01:14,440 --> 01:01:17,160
Speaker 1: quotes that are coming from Tanya today, what was it

1184
01:01:17,240 --> 01:01:25,560
Speaker 1: just around the been Bob Horner literally so irrelevant. Okay,

1185
01:01:26,400 --> 01:01:28,240
Speaker 1: I have a question for both of you because I

1186
01:01:28,280 --> 01:01:31,000
Speaker 1: think a lot of listeners of this podcast Christmas Eve,

1187
01:01:31,120 --> 01:01:33,040
Speaker 1: Christmas morning, they'd like to know where you guys are

1188
01:01:33,080 --> 01:01:36,240
Speaker 1: going to be. Oh if they think to themselves. It's

1189
01:01:36,280 --> 01:01:38,040
Speaker 1: Christmas Eve. I wonder what Tiny is doing right now?

1190
01:01:38,160 --> 01:01:41,760
Speaker 1: Where are you on Christmas Eve? Ridiculous? Yeah, Mine's not

1191
01:01:42,000 --> 01:01:44,280
Speaker 1: like I'm not doing a traditional Christmas this year. My

1192
01:01:44,400 --> 01:01:47,720
Speaker 1: parents and I are going to Tahiti. So we are

1193
01:01:47,880 --> 01:01:51,000
Speaker 1: going to be in sunny, nice warm weather. I will

1194
01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:55,200
Speaker 1: be in a bikini and I'll be um with my parents.

1195
01:01:55,400 --> 01:01:57,439
Speaker 1: We kind of do this every other year because I

1196
01:01:57,480 --> 01:02:00,160
Speaker 1: have niece and nephew and when we don't have they

1197
01:02:00,160 --> 01:02:02,200
Speaker 1: do spend one Christmas with us and then one Christmas

1198
01:02:02,200 --> 01:02:05,840
Speaker 1: with Yeah, so when we don't have them for Christmas,

1199
01:02:05,960 --> 01:02:08,240
Speaker 1: it's just us adults, and so we're like, let's make

1200
01:02:08,240 --> 01:02:10,800
Speaker 1: a vacation out of it. So that's what I'll be doing.

1201
01:02:10,800 --> 01:02:12,400
Speaker 1: And I haven't been on a vacation in two years.

1202
01:02:12,440 --> 01:02:16,640
Speaker 1: So Grandma was excited. I asked. I asked Grandma Tanya.

1203
01:02:16,800 --> 01:02:19,439
Speaker 1: I was like, at what point? How many You're gonna

1204
01:02:19,440 --> 01:02:21,640
Speaker 1: be gone for? Ten days? Is that right? I was like,

1205
01:02:21,760 --> 01:02:27,919
Speaker 1: what day do you start getting bored? She said, I'm

1206
01:02:28,080 --> 01:02:30,800
Speaker 1: her day three? Yeah, I like I have. I feel

1207
01:02:30,800 --> 01:02:33,000
Speaker 1: like every single day I have a hundred things going on,

1208
01:02:33,640 --> 01:02:35,920
Speaker 1: and sometimes even like even on the weekends, I have

1209
01:02:36,120 --> 01:02:38,480
Speaker 1: a hundred things going on. I've never had like ten

1210
01:02:38,560 --> 01:02:41,480
Speaker 1: days where I have literally no plans like my dad's,

1211
01:02:41,520 --> 01:02:46,520
Speaker 1: Like maybe we'd go kayaking, or what's the paddle boarding? Okay,

1212
01:02:46,600 --> 01:02:48,800
Speaker 1: how long that'll take me? Two? And then what don't

1213
01:02:48,800 --> 01:02:51,200
Speaker 1: we do? Like you know, you should get a kindle,

1214
01:02:51,360 --> 01:02:53,840
Speaker 1: download tons of books. Yeah, acts actually think of reading

1215
01:02:53,840 --> 01:02:58,880
Speaker 1: Tim Tebow's book Wow, that messing yourself and that one

1216
01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:01,600
Speaker 1: has it a bad idea. And then I brought some

1217
01:03:01,640 --> 01:03:03,000
Speaker 1: other books that I'm gonna read. But that's what I'll

1218
01:03:03,000 --> 01:03:07,720
Speaker 1: be doing. You can call it research. Um well, yeah,

1219
01:03:07,880 --> 01:03:10,920
Speaker 1: I will be the opposite. I'm going to be in Georgia,

1220
01:03:11,520 --> 01:03:13,840
Speaker 1: staying in a cabin and on a lake, in a

1221
01:03:13,920 --> 01:03:16,880
Speaker 1: lake house at Lake Burton, I believe is what it's called,

1222
01:03:16,920 --> 01:03:20,400
Speaker 1: with my whole family, all twelve of us and four dogs.

1223
01:03:21,160 --> 01:03:23,880
Speaker 1: And I'm actually really looking forward to it. And then

1224
01:03:23,920 --> 01:03:27,160
Speaker 1: after we leave after Christmas, we go to my families

1225
01:03:27,160 --> 01:03:29,520
Speaker 1: in Florida and we spend New Year's Eve there. I

1226
01:03:29,600 --> 01:03:31,800
Speaker 1: love that, you know, It's what my dad really wanted

1227
01:03:31,840 --> 01:03:34,160
Speaker 1: you to come to New Year's Eve. My dad loves Tanya.

1228
01:03:34,400 --> 01:03:39,320
Speaker 1: I love her dad. They love is mutual, so um yeah,

1229
01:03:39,360 --> 01:03:41,720
Speaker 1: it's gonna be you doesn't get enough love in that family.

1230
01:03:41,760 --> 01:03:45,840
Speaker 1: You know what. Wow, I hope he didn't listen to

1231
01:03:45,880 --> 01:03:48,320
Speaker 1: this because he is going to harp on that and

1232
01:03:48,360 --> 01:03:51,000
Speaker 1: like really play that up because you guys always give

1233
01:03:51,040 --> 01:03:54,120
Speaker 1: him a hard time about everything. What about what? I

1234
01:03:54,120 --> 01:03:56,160
Speaker 1: can't remember what it was. It something about the airport

1235
01:03:56,360 --> 01:04:01,120
Speaker 1: or some airport story. Oh my gosh, I'm not even

1236
01:04:01,160 --> 01:04:05,360
Speaker 1: going into that. And I was on his side, of course. Um,

1237
01:04:05,400 --> 01:04:08,960
Speaker 1: anything opposite of me is Tanya's side, So I I

1238
01:04:09,040 --> 01:04:11,960
Speaker 1: agree with Tanya. We have had so much fun doing this,

1239
01:04:12,160 --> 01:04:13,960
Speaker 1: and I'm sad this is our last one of two

1240
01:04:13,960 --> 01:04:18,240
Speaker 1: thousand seventeen, but I'm really excited about two thousand and eighteen. Everyone,

1241
01:04:18,600 --> 01:04:21,560
Speaker 1: Mark Easton Amy, everyone who does this. You all have

1242
01:04:21,640 --> 01:04:24,560
Speaker 1: made it just so much fun. It's something I look

1243
01:04:24,600 --> 01:04:29,360
Speaker 1: forward to every week, and like, our listeners are so awesome,

1244
01:04:29,520 --> 01:04:32,120
Speaker 1: Thank god. Like did you read the tweet that we

1245
01:04:32,160 --> 01:04:34,040
Speaker 1: got this morning from the girl that was like Tim

1246
01:04:34,080 --> 01:04:36,960
Speaker 1: Tebow speaking at her Alma model book a flight, Like

1247
01:04:37,880 --> 01:04:40,160
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't even know you, and I

1248
01:04:40,200 --> 01:04:43,480
Speaker 1: love you. I love you. It's a very special thing

1249
01:04:43,520 --> 01:04:46,760
Speaker 1: we have, and I really appreciate everyone being invested in

1250
01:04:46,800 --> 01:04:51,160
Speaker 1: listening and emailing us and trusting us with your issues

1251
01:04:51,200 --> 01:04:53,240
Speaker 1: and wanting our advice on it means a lot. But

1252
01:04:53,280 --> 01:04:56,720
Speaker 1: you know what they say, what those who can't do

1253
01:04:58,600 --> 01:05:03,120
Speaker 1: our good teachers. That's not really it's kind of a

1254
01:05:03,200 --> 01:05:05,720
Speaker 1: quote but a little bit off. But yeah, just around

1255
01:05:05,760 --> 01:05:12,000
Speaker 1: the bomb border. Thank you so much for listening. UM,

1256
01:05:12,280 --> 01:05:15,440
Speaker 1: keep the emails coming. It's scrubbing in at iHeart media

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Speaker 1: dot com. Have a great Christmas, have a happy New Year.

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Speaker 1: We'll talk to you in two thousand and eighteen. You

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Speaker 1: know what I would like to do for our first

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Speaker 1: episode of twenty I don't want it to end. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to um. For our first episode, we

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Speaker 1: should like really like actually, well, we'll have our vision boards.

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Speaker 1: We should like do some visioning and like really like

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Speaker 1: ask people to email us like what things like like

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Speaker 1: their goals and what they want to accomplish. I like

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Speaker 1: calling them resolutions because I feel like it's like bigger

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Speaker 1: than that. I also think there's a sense of if

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Speaker 1: you if you break it or if you fail, there's

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Speaker 1: a sense of failure that comes along with it, and

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Speaker 1: I don't think that's I don't think that's fair to usselves.

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Speaker 1: Like the New Year is my favorite time of year

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Speaker 1: because I feel like it's chapter one of twelve, you know,

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Speaker 1: like you're starting brand new and like you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean, like you should like I just really like

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Speaker 1: I love a new Year. So and has chosen to

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Speaker 1: stop swearing. Yes, resolution yeah, I might do that too,

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Speaker 1: because I didn't grow up swearing, like I wasn't even

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Speaker 1: allowed to say. But and I catched myself saying things

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Speaker 1: sometimes I'm like, it wouldn't be so disappointed if she

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Speaker 1: heard that say these things in front of my mother

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Speaker 1: and I don't even realize I'm doing it. And she's like, Tanya,

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Speaker 1: I don't even realize it. So I'm really trying to stop.

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Speaker 1: One time, you were talking about church or something and

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Speaker 1: you're like, you like, use the effort as you're talking

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Speaker 1: about something. It was like my pastor said something so

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Speaker 1: good and I was like, oh so good. I was like,

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Speaker 1: what am I doing? Like seriously, but yeah, I like

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Speaker 1: that one. But yeah, email us what your goals are,

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Speaker 1: what you what you're gonna do this year? That's different

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Speaker 1: and you can like all hold each other accountable totally swearing. Forbecca,

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Speaker 1: she's swearing off soda, which I think is fantastic. Good

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Speaker 1: for you, don't speak for me. I'm gonna try to

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Speaker 1: do better. I'm gonna limit my butter pop tarts once

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Speaker 1: a once a week week, and Eastern's gonna have just

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Speaker 1: like whole milk instead of heavy whipping creament is there's

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Speaker 1: there's that sup for discussion. I'm with you on that

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Speaker 1: all right. Thank you all so much for scrubbing in

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Speaker 1: time of death. Am wow, what a great ending