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Speaker 1: Black hairdressers should have full health insurance.

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Speaker 2: I'm talking PPO.

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Speaker 1: They have to be deemed essential workers because I'll tell

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Speaker 1: you what in the deep deep quarantine like for sure,

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Speaker 1: like EMT workers and shit. I was banging on pots,

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Speaker 1: but when I saw a black hairdresser with some bags

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Speaker 1: of hair, I was like, bang, bang, bang on the pot.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate you.

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Speaker 3: Welcome to adulting. I'm Jordan Carlos. I am joined by

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Speaker 3: my co from Go, Michelle Buteau. Michelle, how are you?

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Speaker 4: Oh, heo?

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Speaker 5: What's been going on?

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Speaker 2: What's been going on? I am part of this.

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Speaker 1: Unfortunate club of parents that have seen.

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Speaker 2: Their child in distress.

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Speaker 1: I took my family to kids and husband down to

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Speaker 1: Miami to see my dad for his eighty third birthday.

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Speaker 2: And on the plane to him, I know, happy birthday, Papa.

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Speaker 1: On the plane, my son threw up three times and

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Speaker 1: passed out. And yes, and so I knew what to

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Speaker 1: do because I'm a fainter. I started fainting, and if

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Speaker 1: you're a fainter, I feel you, you know, like it's crazy.

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Speaker 1: I started fainting when I was little, like in church,

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Speaker 1: standing up in the back when there's no seats and stuff.

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Speaker 2: But that was the scariest shit ever.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, man, it's like you're not even like someone's

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Speaker 1: It's like, no, you're the mom, this is your child.

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Speaker 1: You feel helpless. You were stuck in the air. This

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Speaker 1: is the time where you try to see if there's

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Speaker 1: there who have been through like the not allergy, the this,

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Speaker 1: the that, the hospital, like I ooh, baby, I feel

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Speaker 2: We are in it together, and fuck, we're gonna be

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Speaker 2: all right.

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Speaker 3: Set this up for me. What happened? Like he was

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Speaker 3: he was blowing cheerios everywhere, like what happened? It was

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Speaker 3: the altitude.

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Speaker 1: We had a very early flight, so we woke up

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Speaker 1: super early, so he was too tired and groggy to

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Speaker 2: So that's lesson learned.

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Speaker 1: No first flights of the day, right, get a good

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Speaker 1: late afternoon flight or an evening flight.

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Speaker 2: So that was number one. Number two. I do believe

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Speaker 2: the altitude was a little too high.

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Speaker 1: I felt it because I am very sensitive to to

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Speaker 1: high altitude, like, okay, you know I've performed in Aspen

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Speaker 1: and Veil before and ooh ooh baby, very nice. Ooh,

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Speaker 1: but like blacking out after one glass of wine. I'm like,

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Speaker 5: What is this like?

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Speaker 2: On stage?

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Speaker 1: Out of breath, just standing there, I'm like, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: what's going I don't know. Shout out to musicians that

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Speaker 1: perform in high altitude places, because I know you see stars.

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Speaker 1: I think we were going high to avoid turbulence. And

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Speaker 1: he really wasn't drinking water, he really Yeah. The pass

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Speaker 1: I felt like I did, feel like Viola Davis and Kingwoman.

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Speaker 1: baby at all costs. But then what comes with that

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Speaker 1: is like the residual anxiety otis is like, hey, my

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Speaker 1: be sick again? And so it's really wild. It's really wild.

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Speaker 1: But wow, what a love, what a trooper. Shout out

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Speaker 1: to people on the plane who just like held it

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Speaker 1: I hope it's gonna be okay. I said, thank you

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Speaker 3: Hold on, I mean all you had is like those

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Speaker 1: I'm a twin. I'm a twin mom, and I come

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Speaker 1: fucking ready. So I already had a pack of wipes,

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Speaker 2: I'm a catastrophizer. So I'm already.

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Speaker 1: You want to have catastrophizers as friends because we've already

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Speaker 1: thought about it and we are already fucking on it,

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Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? So like people were like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I'm prepared. I could see it all happen. Like what's

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Speaker 1: that movie with Robert Downey?

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Speaker 2: Robert Downey Junior. Is that his name?

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Speaker 1: Or like Theabaska Shiit, what's the name of that iron Man?

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Speaker 1: You feel like iron Man because you already have like

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Speaker 1: and you're fucking prepared and so like I was fucking prepared.

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Speaker 1: But like, emotionally, nothing will ever prepare you for someone

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Speaker 1: that you love, that you are supposed to protect.

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Speaker 2: And you can't.

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Speaker 3: Oh, but but passing out of it all that must

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Speaker 3: have been really rough because if he passes out, I mean,

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Speaker 3: you don't know what's going on if somebody passes out.

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Speaker 4: I know.

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Speaker 1: That's That's why I try to keep him awake. That's

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Speaker 1: why I took his shirt off. I put you know,

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Speaker 2: Talk to him a lot. What's your name? Who am I?

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Speaker 2: Where are you? Where are we going?

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Speaker 3: Like you know, you just he just wanted to he

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Speaker 1: Like yeah, he want Yeah, when you pass out. You

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Speaker 1: But like I have done comedy shows where people have

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Speaker 1: had seizures.

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Speaker 2: We have done an adulting.

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Speaker 1: Show where yeah absolutely yeah, Like shut it down, give

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Speaker 2: I don't know what else to do besides that, Like

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Speaker 5: Don't you just gotta was there a doctor on the flight?

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Speaker 5: There was.

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Speaker 1: She was very nice, doctor Megan. Shout out to you,

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Speaker 1: thank you for coming. She was very sweet.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: There should be an air marshal and a doctor on

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Speaker 3: every flight. Yeah, an accountant, a therapist.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, a black hairdresser here, sure, since we hear, just

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Speaker 2: The fuck up.

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Speaker 3: By the way, black hair dresser shout out to them.

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Speaker 3: I just did a show in Oswego, New York at

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Speaker 3: Suni Oswego. There's a lot of black kids that go

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Speaker 3: there from the city and they don't This is what

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Speaker 3: they don't factor in their hair. So I feel like

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Speaker 3: folks need to like airlift, black hairdressers, black barbers to

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Speaker 2: Doctors without edges.

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Speaker 3: Truly, truly, Oh my gosh, oh my gosh.

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Speaker 5: What else?

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Speaker 4: Man?

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Speaker 2: I think that's about it. I think we've done enough

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Speaker 2: share time.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 1: The good thing about doing adulting is a getting it

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Speaker 1: off your titties.

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Speaker 2: It's just nice to get shot off.

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Speaker 1: It's like feelings sometimes are really like a gas bubble.

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Speaker 2: Get it out, you'll feel better.

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Speaker 3: But all my chest. One quick thing about my chest

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Speaker 3: before we move on. I got electrolysis on my chest

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Speaker 3: for my birthday. My wife was like, she's like, I

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Speaker 3: got you a gift and I was like really, She's like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: laser hair removal on your chest. So my chest is

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Speaker 3: now completely Picture it, Michelle.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to because I've been on vacation with you.

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Speaker 1: But I like the taco meat.

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Speaker 1: I will say one of my one of my best

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Speaker 1: childhood memories growing up with my dad is his chest

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Speaker 1: hair and like how proud he was and like you know,

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Speaker 1: Like just out here and like even now, like you know,

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Speaker 1: like he's got he's always had, like the taco meat

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Speaker 1: I fucking love it? But yeah, man, whatever you want

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Speaker 5: Brother, Yeah, thank you. It hurts.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, a lot of girls do it on the puss.

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Speaker 1: Can you imagine they do well? Well, someone very much

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Speaker 3: It was the subject of this old documentary called Queen

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Speaker 5: So yeah, she's wise than to me. Oh my god,

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Speaker 4: Anyway.

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Speaker 5: Have you never seen Queen of Versailles?

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Speaker 2: Yeah I have. It's satisfuck.

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Speaker 1: What it is kind of everything wrong with America.

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Speaker 4: I know, but I can't.

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Speaker 3: I can't stop looking at I love Lauren Greenfield's documentaries.

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Speaker 3: They're just like, yes, that is us. Yes, I love

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Speaker 3: Patty Kaplan documentaries.

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Speaker 1: You know she's done the real, real sex g string, Diva,

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Speaker 1: taxticap confessions, like anything that will humanize people.

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Speaker 2: That we always look down upon. I'm just like, give

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Speaker 1: Me, Patty, give it to med Patty. You know what,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna give it to y'all. L O L what

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Speaker 1: am I mall cop with the segways? I love it

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Speaker 1: so much. Write it down, never stop, put it on

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Speaker 1: Why it's the nac I mean, we love him so

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Speaker 1: Was fingering me on Penn's landing, my eyebrow, Pierson came out.

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Speaker 5: And you are on an escapade right now, don't Yeah, jove, my.

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Speaker 2: The club all the time. I wasn't even doing drugs

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Speaker 1: Just loved the excitement of dancing with people I didn't know.

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Speaker 3: I was the same way I interned at Fat Farm

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Speaker 4: That's right.

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Speaker 3: People I interned, They're like, I am Pasha, But I did.

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Speaker 4: I went to nell Now I went to Nell's.

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Speaker 2: Did you get the wings that Justin's?

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Speaker 4: I never went to Justine. I never got to go

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Speaker 3: Okay, Nells was popping in the West. Villain Nels was

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Speaker 3: like I worked at fat farms. So they're like, all right,

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Speaker 3: that's that kid, can go. I love that for you,

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Speaker 3: Thank you. What kind of guy are you in the club?

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Speaker 5: I'm reading a book, literally reading a book.

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Speaker 2: What kind of guy were you at the club? DJ?

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Speaker 4: Don Will, I'm I'm in, I'm on the wall.

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Speaker 3: I don't really dance, Okay, I'm boring in the club

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Speaker 3: unless I'm really drunk and I'm fun unless you're really

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Speaker 3: like how many drinks does to take for us to

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Speaker 4: Done? Well?

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Speaker 3: My club days were like the Incredible Hawk days, like

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Speaker 3: the the Hennessy and Aliade. Yes, Alisa, Yes, it's a

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Speaker 1: We had fucking Alosa, We had an engineered fucking food.

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Speaker 1: You guys have like crafted cocktails. Back in my day,

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Speaker 1: I had to drink some blue shit. Didn't even know

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Speaker 3: Gold Schlager, Goldschlager, Alie said, jaegermeister jagger hoodsard Yeah, Jaeger bombs.

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Speaker 5: Jaeger bombs.

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Speaker 2: What are Yeager balls?

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Speaker 4: Bombs?

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Speaker 2: Bombs?

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Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want jagger balls. That sounds salty. No,

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Speaker 1: I don't want the msg.

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Speaker 4: Or do I?

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Speaker 2: I'm always conflicted. Listen. I used to drink a smooth

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Speaker 4: Do you know what the fuck that ye?

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Speaker 1: Can you imagine this face ordering a smooth criminal? It

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Speaker 1: is Hennessy and Bailey's Oo. I'd like, I don't know

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Speaker 1: why I have so many cavities.

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Speaker 2: It's disgusting.

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Speaker 1: No, everybody had a gross drink when they were like

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Speaker 4: I bucked out a lot, and.

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Speaker 1: I was like, why am I blocking out Hennessy and

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Speaker 1: Bailey's Damn. We don't have to talk about it. Very

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Speaker 1: excited to bring our next guest. Yes, one of our favorites.

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Speaker 4: Start clapping, start clapping.

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Speaker 5: You know him from the Daily Show and so many

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Speaker 1: Former stand up comedian, host, producer, Please give it up for.

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Speaker 5: A problems as well.

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Speaker 4: Why Sinnac.

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Speaker 5: Where is he there?

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Speaker 6: Oh?

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Speaker 4: My god, God, who does that?

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Speaker 5: I'll tell you who does it?

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Speaker 4: Whyatt Sannak?

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Speaker 6: You all were talking about drinks and I saw this

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Speaker 6: backstage and I was like, this sounds like a drink

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Speaker 6: you would find at a black nightclub. Uh, it's thick miss,

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Speaker 6: black label. Like they've made a point to even call

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Speaker 4: Thick miss.

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Speaker 1: I mean miss is spelled with a y, so you

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Speaker 1: know it's real, So you know it's black. I'm I

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Speaker 4: Ladies and gentlemen.

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Speaker 6: Makes some noise coming to the stage right now, black

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Speaker 4: Here she is black label thick miss.

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Speaker 2: Yup, it's time for the percolator. Everyone.

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Speaker 6: Chelei dances to one song for fifteen minutes straight on loop.

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Speaker 4: Here she is black label, take mess. You know what?

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Speaker 2: You should be a DJ at a strip club?

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Speaker 4: That was the dream?

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Speaker 6: Was it?

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Speaker 4: This was the fallback? Yeah? Boy, I failed.

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Speaker 2: Have you been to a strip club before?

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Speaker 4: I have? Oh you wanted a story?

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Speaker 6: Yes? At more just checking in just to tick the

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Speaker 2: Oh, in New York, Atlanta, LA, where Miami.

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Speaker 6: I think the first trip club I went to was

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Speaker 2: Hold on again credits.

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Speaker 6: It was it was part of a college visit. And

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Speaker 6: I was like, I want to go to an HBCU.

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Speaker 6: I knew about Morehouse. I was like, I want to

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Speaker 6: then my cousin's like, but you're in Atlanta. Let's take

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Speaker 3: Yeah, woa, yeah, wow, okay, yeah, ready to go bam

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Speaker 6: But it was also one where I was like, I'll

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Speaker 3: It can only get better. You never not even Magic City.

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Speaker 3: You didn't take you to Magic City. No, because this

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I went to school in North Carolina. That's still crazy.

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Speaker 3: It's like, in one breath, your your cousin or uncle

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Speaker 6: I have a lot of I have a lot of

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but he's just He's just like, this is where

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Speaker 1: Uh, how did you find out?

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Speaker 6: That was kind of ship she was known for? And

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Speaker 3: Why didn't she Why did she not want you to

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Speaker 5: Is that?

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Speaker 5: Like you know, just just just asking why?

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Speaker 6: Like why, I mean, we both grew up in Dallas,

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Speaker 4: It's true.

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Speaker 5: This is where we reveals.

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Speaker 6: I think in her mind she thought that by going

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Speaker 6: And that she didn't put enough faith on my own

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Speaker 2: That's so wild.

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Speaker 1: I mean, can our parents just be the last generation

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Speaker 4: I mean, people still are gonna do it. They're gonna

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Speaker 4: So I was born here. That was the doctor who

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you know, I rolled deep, I bring, I bring

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Speaker 6: We know each other well. No, I was born. I

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Speaker 6: it was very different when she lived here. But I

447
00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:54,119
Speaker 6: was born. My mother lived here. I was then born here.

448
00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:57,199
Speaker 6: My mother and my father split up when I was

449
00:21:57,600 --> 00:22:00,440
Speaker 6: about a year old. My father was New York City

450
00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:04,639
Speaker 6: cab driver. She remarried. My mother, my stepfather, and I

451
00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:07,160
Speaker 6: moved to Texas. But I would come back out here, yeah,

452
00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:09,800
Speaker 6: and spend time with my father when he was around,

453
00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:11,000
Speaker 6: and then with my grandmother.

454
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Speaker 2: Okay, so New York is a part of your history.

455
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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean that was like every summer I would

456
00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 6: come here and it was that thing of like I

457
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:20,879
Speaker 6: hated going back to Dallas.

458
00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:21,399
Speaker 4: No offense.

459
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:25,719
Speaker 3: I hate going back to Dallas too. Now you all

460
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:29,640
Speaker 3: don't understand, You're like, oh, it don't shit, hole it is.

461
00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:35,199
Speaker 3: It's the worst. We killed one charismatic president and we

462
00:22:35,280 --> 00:22:36,399
Speaker 3: can't live it down, all right.

463
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Speaker 1: I have so many questions about Texas, especially Dallas, and

464
00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:44,880
Speaker 1: especially for anyone who is black or queer or questioning

465
00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:48,199
Speaker 1: or whatever the fuck living in Texas perhaps listening to

466
00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:51,800
Speaker 1: this podcast, like we what are we telling them? Because

467
00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 1: it could it could be twelve, it could be forty two,

468
00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:55,960
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like it could be someone

469
00:22:56,080 --> 00:22:58,679
Speaker 1: just stuck in a rut there not knowing how to

470
00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:01,720
Speaker 1: get out, not knowing that the world can be a

471
00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 1: better place for them, that they could feel seen and

472
00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:07,520
Speaker 1: they don't have to like live this fucking lie. What

473
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:09,960
Speaker 1: are we fucking telling these people, especially in Texas. Now

474
00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:11,360
Speaker 1: I feel like, no offense.

475
00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:12,480
Speaker 4: I don't want to go to Texas.

476
00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:14,439
Speaker 5: Yeah, no you don't. You don't have to.

477
00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:19,000
Speaker 3: It's the state is narrow minded and getting more narrow minded.

478
00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:21,639
Speaker 3: But the cities that we grew up in actually are

479
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:24,879
Speaker 3: like haven cities, right, So Houston's a big haven city.

480
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 3: Austin's a big haven city, and then Dallas is like

481
00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 3: a haven city because there's a huge quick community in Dallas.

482
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 3: Oakland shout out to Oakland, which is an amazing place,

483
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Speaker 3: and it's one of the biggest in Texas.

484
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Speaker 5: So it's biggest in Texas.

485
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Speaker 3: It's just big. But I felt that I had to

486
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Speaker 3: leave the state. I think you felt the same way too,

487
00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:41,760
Speaker 3: because there was no give and take.

488
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Speaker 6: It was like, well, I mean, for me, I never

489
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:46,439
Speaker 6: really felt connected because I always felt like I was

490
00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 6: from New York and I was brought to Texas. I

491
00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:53,679
Speaker 6: didn't have agency like I was four, So like I

492
00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 6: had said at four, I was like, I musta stay here,

493
00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:59,159
Speaker 6: and they were like, that's not how that happens legally.

494
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:03,080
Speaker 6: I was like, let me get my own lawyer. It's

495
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 6: a squirrel.

496
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:06,200
Speaker 4: It's a squirrel.

497
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Speaker 5: Yeah.

498
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Speaker 3: But you talk about in your special Brooklyn, it's like

499
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:12,959
Speaker 3: Brooklyn is home, you know, and it feels like like

500
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:14,919
Speaker 3: you you are mad Brooklyn at you could be the

501
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:15,600
Speaker 3: mayor of Brooklyn.

502
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Speaker 4: Thank you.

503
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Speaker 6: I mean that's a very low bar. The current mayor

504
00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:23,200
Speaker 6: of New York is not great. But no, But to

505
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:25,720
Speaker 6: something that you all were saying, like what do you

506
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Speaker 6: say to somebody who's in a place like Texas who

507
00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:32,080
Speaker 6: is a person of color, who's queer. I understand the

508
00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:35,159
Speaker 6: desire to leave, but then there's also a part of

509
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:38,640
Speaker 6: it that's like there's a privilege in being able to leave,

510
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:41,240
Speaker 6: and I feel like for the people who don't have

511
00:24:41,280 --> 00:24:44,800
Speaker 6: that privilege, I would say, find your people and find

512
00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 6: strength in your people, and don't let fucking closed mindedness

513
00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:54,720
Speaker 6: win out, because yeah, Texas is getting more hate filled

514
00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:57,720
Speaker 6: and more closed minded. And what you see is you

515
00:24:57,760 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 6: see a lot of people like there was a story,

516
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 6: I want to say a year ago where it was

517
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:05,920
Speaker 6: like all these like left leaning people from California had

518
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 6: moved to Austin and they were like, ah, Austin, that's great,

519
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:11,080
Speaker 6: and then all of a sudden, shit gets hard and

520
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:14,919
Speaker 6: they're like, we're out. And that's a great privilege to

521
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:18,040
Speaker 6: be able to do that. But not everybody has that privilege.

522
00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 6: And it feels like you only win these things with numbers,

523
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:25,399
Speaker 6: and it's about organizing those strength and numbers to be like,

524
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:27,680
Speaker 6: fuck this, we're not going anywhere. You have to live

525
00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:29,760
Speaker 6: with us just the same way we have to live

526
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,560
Speaker 6: with you, and you have to actually learn to accept

527
00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:35,440
Speaker 6: and respect us. And also we need to get the

528
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 6: keys of power because you all are sucking it up.

529
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Speaker 4: That's the thick miss talking.

530
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Speaker 5: Okay, we're about the same age.

531
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:03,600
Speaker 6: That's very sweet of you to say we're about the

532
00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:08,680
Speaker 6: same age. When truth be told, I'm I'm older. Okay, sorry,

533
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:13,200
Speaker 6: I'm your uncle, I'm your uncle, cousin, I'm your uncle.

534
00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:18,399
Speaker 6: I was just curious, are you like something else? Truly,

535
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:19,720
Speaker 6: I don't know. I don't know this or not.

536
00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:21,359
Speaker 4: I don't know this. Are you? Are you?

537
00:26:21,359 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 3: You're You're not married. You're not married, no ever been married.

538
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:26,639
Speaker 3: You're about to I'm about to fucking get down on

539
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 3: two knees.

540
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:30,960
Speaker 2: And oh that sounds like something else.

541
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 3: Too, Yeah, yeah, Dallas style.

542
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:36,320
Speaker 4: Are we doing?

543
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:38,399
Speaker 3: No, I'm just I'm just wondering what it's like to

544
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:42,720
Speaker 3: date in twenty twenty three in Brooklyn at this point, Oh, okay,

545
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 3: we these people.

546
00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 4: Are on the fence about dating.

547
00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:48,639
Speaker 1: I don't I feel like dating is always going to

548
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:51,080
Speaker 1: be hard, but especially now because you just have access

549
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:53,960
Speaker 1: to everything and everyone, so you can find out way

550
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 1: too many things about the person, you know what I mean? Like,

551
00:26:56,920 --> 00:27:00,040
Speaker 1: I think a challenge for yourself is not to go

552
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:02,760
Speaker 1: down that rabbit hole of their page and just ask

553
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 1: them questions and just figure out chemistry and then find

554
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 1: out they've been arrested, you know, like.

555
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 4: Like you know what I mean? I mean to me.

556
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 6: The one thing that I've always found weird, at least

557
00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 6: since I've been in New York is when I came

558
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 6: to New York in two thousand and eight, I came

559
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 6: because I'd gotten on The Daily Show, and.

560
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 4: So it's fine time. It was a job time.

561
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:32,160
Speaker 6: I feel like there's the strange thing of like when

562
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:35,800
Speaker 6: I started dating in New York. I remember going on

563
00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:40,199
Speaker 6: dates where people would be like, what's John Stewart like?

564
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:42,360
Speaker 6: And I was like, oh, wait a minute, did you

565
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:44,880
Speaker 6: just did you just want free tickets?

566
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 4: Yeah?

567
00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 6: And so there and so I think for me there

568
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 6: was always an element of like, okay, like are you

569
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:54,200
Speaker 6: here to meet me? Are you here for free tickets?

570
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 1: Yeah?

571
00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:59,200
Speaker 6: For my boss's show and so uh, And more often

572
00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:00,359
Speaker 6: than not it was the free tickets.

573
00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:05,439
Speaker 1: Oh shit, fine, just go to like oneiyota dot com.

574
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:07,480
Speaker 4: What is Oneiota dot com?

575
00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 2: It's the ticket thing where you get the tickets.

576
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 4: Oh right. I thought it was like some pure blood

577
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:14,359
Speaker 4: dating site. One iota.

578
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:20,440
Speaker 6: I don't want one, but I'm open to anything else.

579
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

580
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:26,320
Speaker 4: I'm sure site exists.

581
00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:29,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I will say, like, if it's not your job.

582
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:33,600
Speaker 1: Sometimes people just yeah, sometimes people are just dating you

583
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:35,440
Speaker 1: for another reason other than you.

584
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:37,000
Speaker 4: Right, yeah, you know what I mean.

585
00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 1: I had a couple of friends and I don't talk

586
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 1: to no more because everything was a show. Like they

587
00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:47,240
Speaker 1: had to have like a rich girl or a rich guy,

588
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 1: or a hot this or hot that, and look at

589
00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:51,320
Speaker 1: what they do and what they drive and shit, and

590
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:52,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, I could give a fuck. They can't even

591
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:55,960
Speaker 1: like put two sentences together that are interesting. Why would

592
00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 1: you ever want to sit on that?

593
00:28:57,200 --> 00:28:57,640
Speaker 4: You know what I mean?

594
00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 1: So like, I think sometimes a lot. I'm sorry, are

595
00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:03,840
Speaker 1: you put in your face in someone's crotch? That's not funny?

596
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:04,680
Speaker 1: Don't do that?

597
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 4: Yeah?

598
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 2: No, no, don't you deserve so much more.

599
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 6: Your face deserves to be sat on by the best

600
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:17,680
Speaker 6: each of you. Your life deserves to be no one

601
00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 6: by the best the mayor of booklets.

602
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:24,160
Speaker 5: Yes, church beautiful.

603
00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 2: All right, Okay, now it's time for questions for the audience.

604
00:29:27,240 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 2: Where is my.

605
00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:29,400
Speaker 5: Tambourine when you need it?

606
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 4: Okay?

607
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 3: First question, how long is too long to be in

608
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 3: a situationship dot dot dot when you're thirty two, that's

609
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:39,240
Speaker 3: what it says.

610
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:40,240
Speaker 4: When you're thirty two.

611
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 1: I'd say a whole season, so three months, a semester,

612
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:48,440
Speaker 1: a semester. But also like some people like fucking drama

613
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:51,200
Speaker 1: and messiness, so if you want to waste your good

614
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 1: years during that.

615
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 2: Yeah.

616
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 6: Also, though, isn't like the age of thirty two kind

617
00:29:55,760 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 6: of a situationship with yourself? I feel like there are

618
00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:03,800
Speaker 6: a lot of people who if you're older than thirty two,

619
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Speaker 6: if you are thirty eight and older and you were

620
00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 6: asked to reflect on thirty two, you'd be like, oh, yeah,

621
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Speaker 6: I don't know her.

622
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 3: This is a cute one for Michelle. Do the twins

623
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 3: have a favorite Sesame Street? Muppet love? A producer from

624
00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 3: the street?

625
00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:27,320
Speaker 2: What what show yourself? I need tickets?

626
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 4: I also have a favorite muppet. I'll come out and

627
00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:32,040
Speaker 4: take what it gets to ticket.

628
00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 1: My daughter loves Abby and my son loves the Cookie

629
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:42,200
Speaker 1: Monster because he loves cookies. Also, Sesame Street is amazing

630
00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 1: when you found the right dosage of edible because you're.

631
00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:46,560
Speaker 2: Like, ooh so great.

632
00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 6: Everyone should go on YouTube. There's an old sesame street clip.

633
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:54,120
Speaker 6: That's just a great song about the subway and like

634
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:58,560
Speaker 6: it's wonderful because it's like both how like amazing and terrible?

635
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 6: The subway is the same, all right? How do I

636
00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 6: get over a guy who doesn't give a shit about me? Whoa?

637
00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 3: Oh wow? That was sadder than a French new wave film.

638
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 3: It's just how did I get to for a man

639
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:15,480
Speaker 3: who cares? Not?

640
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 4: But I don't get it?

641
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:25,320
Speaker 1: Because why are you giving this person power? What don't

642
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 1: you like about yourself? What happened? Did something happen to

643
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 1: you when you started to believe that shit? This man

644
00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:36,440
Speaker 1: doesn't deserve your fucking time or energy. Put that energy

645
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:39,680
Speaker 1: into you, put it you make a vision for high

646
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 1: if you got to have some wine and hennessy, bitch,

647
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 1: just live.

648
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 3: You deserves some one good on your face? Always Ye

649
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 3: done it better when he said it?

650
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:53,000
Speaker 2: And it does.

651
00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:55,960
Speaker 4: I mean Michelle was the one who said it. You

652
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 4: took it and yeah he made like the church.

653
00:31:58,280 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 6: Every behind, every pastor, there's the woman who's actually doing

654
00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 6: all the work.

655
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:06,720
Speaker 1: Absolutely, yes, it's it's the origin of man's plaining.

656
00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 4: It's a wild one.

657
00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:11,320
Speaker 3: How do you keep having quote unquote sexy sex when

658
00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:12,240
Speaker 3: you're trying for.

659
00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 6: Baby, Pretend like you're not trying for a baby.

660
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 2: What's that sexy sex?

661
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:20,800
Speaker 5: Sexy sex when you're trying for baby.

662
00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:22,880
Speaker 2: I don't know what's going on.

663
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 1: Like if you can't drink and if you can't get high, then,

664
00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:29,719
Speaker 1: like I said before, hotel sex is wonderful.

665
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 2: You don't have to clean anything up, get.

666
00:32:32,720 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 1: Yourself a nice tub, order some overpriced fucking eggs, like

667
00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:39,959
Speaker 1: you know, make it a staycation, make it a moment.

668
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 2: Yes, oh we got three? Oh thank you for women.

669
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Speaker 4: That's some on.

670
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Speaker 6: Yeah, no, I don't here, take this one. Take this

671
00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:54,680
Speaker 6: one that's poking out there. I will how my husband

672
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Speaker 6: got me? Oh my, oh my god, oh my god,

673
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Speaker 6: this is for you.

674
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Speaker 4: Got you, dear Jordan.

675
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Speaker 3: If I were your big sister and I am older

676
00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:14,440
Speaker 3: than you, irl, happy face, how would you? I couldn't

677
00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:17,400
Speaker 3: help me prioritize my bays when they are each in

678
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 3: their twenties, thirties and photies. Xoxo, little siss Jay. Good question,

679
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:25,000
Speaker 3: great question.

680
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Speaker 2: Oh my god? What in the black, missie?

681
00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 4: I don't know.

682
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Speaker 3: I think you have a sophie's choice here, and I

683
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 3: feel like keep the twenty year old, ditch the rest

684
00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:40,360
Speaker 3: m you can just pour all of your knowledge into them.

685
00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 3: You know, they're like a little vessel. Right, I'm thinking

686
00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 3: she stays with the twenty year old V six in line.

687
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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, like, goes up, we've got

688
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Speaker 3: car people, Okay.

689
00:33:52,040 --> 00:33:53,680
Speaker 5: The rest of you are like, what's an engine?

690
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Speaker 4: All right?

691
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Speaker 1: So uh but I say, like, why you even like

692
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Speaker 1: to choose? Why not just have a fucking buffet? And

693
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Speaker 1: so you don't want to any more? That's all I

694
00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 1: remember when I was saying these two guys. One was

695
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:07,640
Speaker 1: really really not I was not physically attracted to him.

696
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Speaker 2: He was so.

697
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Speaker 1: Short but so sweet, and the way he looked up

698
00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:16,480
Speaker 1: at me, I just couldn't, you know. And then I

699
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:19,280
Speaker 1: was staying this really hot guy from I think Bermuda,

700
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Speaker 1: the Bahamas.

701
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Speaker 2: Something would have beat. And I remember thinking, if I

702
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Speaker 2: could just.

703
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Speaker 7: No and I remember from Boston, king Stun Kingston, Okay.

704
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Speaker 5: I truly cannot.

705
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Speaker 1: Anyways, I remember thinking if I could just combine these

706
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:47,320
Speaker 1: two people to make the perfect person. And that happens

707
00:34:47,360 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 1: when you're dating a lot. You're just like, well like

708
00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:51,239
Speaker 1: this part and that part, but you can't frank and

709
00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:51,880
Speaker 1: sign people.

710
00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, but you could just.

711
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Speaker 5: Ride it out, you know, truly, I love it? What's

712
00:34:59,480 --> 00:34:59,920
Speaker 5: the next ones?

713
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Speaker 2: Should I get a dog to start getting up early?

714
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:06,920
Speaker 5: What?

715
00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:11,600
Speaker 1: Should I get a dog to start getting up early?

716
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:17,320
Speaker 2: You set your alarm?

717
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Speaker 4: Bitch? Who has this good? Why put that pressure on

718
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:24,040
Speaker 4: the dog? I know?

719
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Speaker 2: What if the dog want to sleep in?

720
00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:29,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, some dogs like to sleep as long as their person.

721
00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:32,320
Speaker 6: But that's also like the logic of like, should I

722
00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:36,799
Speaker 6: have a kid to learn how to make pancakes? I

723
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:39,279
Speaker 6: don't know how to make pancakes, and I don't have

724
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:42,400
Speaker 6: a reason to learn. But if I had a child,

725
00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 6: then I would need to learn how to make pancakes.

726
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Speaker 4: So it makes sense.

727
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Speaker 6: Sure, there's eighteen years of financial responsibility, but there's also

728
00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 6: the ability to know how to make pancakes.

729
00:35:58,040 --> 00:36:00,160
Speaker 1: And I really feel like a little Greek yogurt. A

730
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 1: pancake mix goes a long way.

731
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,640
Speaker 4: Oh for sure.

732
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 6: It's so fluffy, and I wouldn't have known that if

733
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:08,480
Speaker 6: a little.

734
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Speaker 2: Am I too old to like puppets? Is this from

735
00:36:14,680 --> 00:36:15,920
Speaker 2: the Decame Street producer?

736
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:18,799
Speaker 4: Yeah?

737
00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:20,880
Speaker 5: They've had it at Samet.

738
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:22,560
Speaker 2: Are you too old?

739
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:23,400
Speaker 7: You know?

740
00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:25,960
Speaker 1: You should like what you like? I'm sure there's like

741
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 1: a meetup group. You know, just don't surprise people at

742
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:32,840
Speaker 1: a dinner party. I hate when people show up with

743
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:33,360
Speaker 1: their guitar.

744
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 2: I'm like, what the fuck is.

745
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:35,440
Speaker 4: This all right?

746
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 5: I got no open We.

747
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:39,439
Speaker 1: Were auditioning for America Scott Talent. Put that ship away.

748
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:43,319
Speaker 6: Here's a question for you. You're at a party. Someone could

749
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:46,080
Speaker 6: show up with a guitar or with a puppet.

750
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Speaker 4: Which do you shoot? Wow, so many people guitar. You're

751
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:55,360
Speaker 4: going guitar?

752
00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:58,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, because at least I can, like hum to a

753
00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 2: song I want.

754
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 4: I want to puppet.

755
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:03,279
Speaker 3: I want the ones that like show up at protests,

756
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:06,040
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, on stilts and everything, like.

757
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 4: A bread and puppet situation.

758
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:12,239
Speaker 3: What's the question, Okay, how much is childcare worth to you?

759
00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:16,759
Speaker 3: Question mark for example, money for forty six hours of

760
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:22,360
Speaker 3: child of fob? What's money for forty six hours of

761
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:23,280
Speaker 3: child free?

762
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:26,600
Speaker 5: Like child free for six hours? How much it works?

763
00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:29,560
Speaker 3: That's what it says. How much is it worth? How

764
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 3: much is it worth to you? This is sort of

765
00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 3: like getting an old fashion at a bar. You get

766
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:36,240
Speaker 3: what you pay for, Like you want.

767
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:38,560
Speaker 1: Someone that's gonna go through your fucking freezer and eat

768
00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 1: all your hot pockets, ignore your child.

769
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:43,480
Speaker 4: I got the next one, all right.

770
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:48,520
Speaker 6: It says I've been estrange from my sister for four years.

771
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 6: How do I get over myself my anger, et cetera,

772
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 6: to reconcile or do I smiley face?

773
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:01,839
Speaker 3: I don't want to get over there. They're like, I

774
00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:05,359
Speaker 3: love my anger. That's a tough one.

775
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:06,319
Speaker 2: That's a tough one.

776
00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 4: That's a tough one.

777
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:09,840
Speaker 2: I say, leave for a little bit. I don't know.

778
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:14,040
Speaker 2: I'm the only child, so I really don't know who

779
00:38:14,040 --> 00:38:14,400
Speaker 2: wrote this.

780
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:19,919
Speaker 3: Siblings are tough. But you know what, blood is thicker

781
00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:21,920
Speaker 3: than mud. That's what you have to do. So at

782
00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:23,960
Speaker 3: the end of the day, you are stuck with this person.

783
00:38:24,320 --> 00:38:25,960
Speaker 3: You can be as strange for as long as you want.

784
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 3: My dad was a strange from his brother for twenty

785
00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 3: years and life brought them back together and they've been

786
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 3: making up for lost time. So eventually you will probably

787
00:38:35,239 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 3: dovetail back with this person. I don't I don't want

788
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 3: to rush it for you, but know that the day

789
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Speaker 3: is coming.

790
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Speaker 6: Fun but also if it doesn't come, but also if

791
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 6: it doesn't come, it doesn't come. I mean, I think

792
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:48,359
Speaker 6: at the end of the day, you have to do

793
00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 6: and make the decisions that are the healthiest and best

794
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:55,239
Speaker 6: for you. Uah, and so I think that's the thing.

795
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 6: And sometimes, as shitty as it is to be a

796
00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 6: strange from people and as aimful as that is, if

797
00:39:02,239 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 6: that is ultimately what you both need to move forward

798
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 6: in a healthy way, then that's what you have to do.

799
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:14,200
Speaker 6: And it fucking hurts like hell, but it's the choice

800
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:17,839
Speaker 6: that you have to make to do something because you

801
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:21,400
Speaker 6: know that the alternative is something that is never going

802
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:24,880
Speaker 6: to get better, and getting better is something that you

803
00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 6: both have to work on. So you may in your

804
00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:29,360
Speaker 6: questions say like, how do I put my anger aside?

805
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:33,239
Speaker 6: Get past your anger and just recognize what you need

806
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 6: to do for yourself to be the best, healthiest version

807
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:38,920
Speaker 6: of yourself. If that person is doing that, then you

808
00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 6: two will find each other again. If they are not,

809
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 6: then just live your healthy life.

810
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:47,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm tired of being disappointed.

811
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Speaker 3: Don Why Yeah, I was gonna say, it depends on

812
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:53,239
Speaker 3: the state of the sibling, you know what I'm saying, Like,

813
00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:55,360
Speaker 3: you can be ready to get over your shit, but

814
00:39:55,360 --> 00:39:58,279
Speaker 3: if that person's not in that space, echo and White said,

815
00:39:58,280 --> 00:40:00,000
Speaker 3: it doesn't make any sense to try.

816
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I have cousins that are Trump supporters, and

817
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:10,440
Speaker 1: I'm like, bye, bye bye, have a good one and bye.

818
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Speaker 5: This is a great question.

819
00:40:11,560 --> 00:40:12,360
Speaker 2: This is the last question.

820
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Speaker 4: Last question.

821
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Speaker 3: Is it important to still be selective when dating in

822
00:40:15,520 --> 00:40:16,240
Speaker 3: your forties?

823
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:19,200
Speaker 5: Did you write this question?

824
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:25,200
Speaker 4: You know? I wish I did?

825
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:27,200
Speaker 2: Did you know selective?

826
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:31,279
Speaker 1: I feel like it's subjective, right, Like what you're looking for,

827
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:36,279
Speaker 1: what you're going to move for. You want a relationship

828
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:38,759
Speaker 1: that's a different list than like some like having fun,

829
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:40,280
Speaker 1: doing a little something casual.

830
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Speaker 4: So sure, I don't know.

831
00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:50,280
Speaker 1: So why we ask all our guests, what's the most

832
00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:52,279
Speaker 1: adult thing you want to do for yourself this year

833
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:53,200
Speaker 1: that you haven't done yet.

834
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Speaker 6: I haven't really done a lot of traveling out of

835
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Speaker 6: the country, and I've always wanted to go to Japan

836
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:05,080
Speaker 6: and so uh yeah, so uh maybe Japan taking a

837
00:41:05,120 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 6: trip to Japan. Uh and yeah, and then maybe also

838
00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 6: replace my roof. Oh yeah, that's that's a very adult

839
00:41:14,200 --> 00:41:17,320
Speaker 6: thing that I don't really want to do, but I.

840
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:19,200
Speaker 2: Feel like it's like a got to do it.

841
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, because at some point, Yeah, the squirrels are

842
00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 6: going to come in and they're gonna be.

843
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:34,760
Speaker 4: Like, remember us, we were a legal team bringing it back, everybody,

844
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:35,319
Speaker 4: give it up.

845
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:47,520
Speaker 1: You know what I really wish why it would have said,

846
00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:52,040
Speaker 1: is write a book, because I feel like their brothers

847
00:41:52,040 --> 00:41:55,759
Speaker 1: got stories, and he's really only just begun, and so

848
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:58,680
Speaker 1: it's very exciting to see friends like that who are just,

849
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:02,359
Speaker 1: I don't know, full of wonder and possibility. So I'm

850
00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:04,879
Speaker 1: excited for him. Maybe y'all go to Japan and write

851
00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:05,920
Speaker 1: a book. I don't know.

852
00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:08,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I wish he had said that too,

853
00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 3: because he does. I just feel like there's like so

854
00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:15,799
Speaker 3: many layers to him. There's so many layers onion. He's

855
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 3: a whole ass onion.

856
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:17,319
Speaker 4: He's just so.

857
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Speaker 5: I mean, any man that shows up in a jumpsuit like.

858
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Speaker 2: That, yeah, yum.

859
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 5: Y'all didn't know, but he was in it.

860
00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:26,359
Speaker 4: He was in a.

861
00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:30,680
Speaker 5: Can we let up the scene? The scene?

862
00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:31,839
Speaker 6: Do it?

863
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:32,440
Speaker 4: Color?

864
00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:35,800
Speaker 5: Plum, right, that's what he was. He was wearing plum

865
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:38,799
Speaker 5: and like a knit hat that was like too cool

866
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 5: for Sunday School.

867
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Speaker 2: It was too much. It was too much.

868
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Speaker 5: And he had a friend. Yeah, beautiful probly did creative ship.

869
00:42:44,360 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 4: Yeah it was cool.

870
00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 1: Beautiful black man look like they're on their skincare routine.

871
00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:52,319
Speaker 1: I'm talking about Beard glistening beard oil poppin'. You know

872
00:42:52,400 --> 00:42:56,399
Speaker 1: it's from like somewhere on Bedtuy on Lewis Avenue, from

873
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Speaker 1: an all black hands shop. Just coconut cocon nodding and

874
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:02,320
Speaker 1: ship so like beautiful.

875
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:06,160
Speaker 2: I wish y'all could smell them through the podcast. You cannot,

876
00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:07,239
Speaker 2: We will do it for you.

877
00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:09,960
Speaker 5: It smells like Throop Street on a good day.

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00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:13,320
Speaker 2: Ye true, true, through, It's true, honey.

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00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 5: Okay, they say through.

880
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:20,439
Speaker 2: They say through, but it is really true. Florid of mer.

881
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Speaker 5: Put what it is in the comments. Thank you so much.

882
00:43:26,560 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 2: All right, right, keep it sharp like your pinky nail.

883
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:36,160
Speaker 2: Let's go. Oh god, you guys, I gotta go listen

884
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:36,560
Speaker 2: too much.

885
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Speaker 5: This has been an exactly right production.

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Speaker 2: Our senior producer is g Holley.

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00:43:44,320 --> 00:43:46,200
Speaker 5: Our associate producer is Alex Cheat.

888
00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 2: This episode was mixed by John Bradley.

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00:43:48,920 --> 00:43:50,400
Speaker 5: Our guest booker is Patrick Cottner.

890
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:52,960
Speaker 2: Additional production support from Hannah Kyle Crichton.

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00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:56,000
Speaker 5: Theme song and live show DJing is by DJ Don Will.

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Speaker 2: Our live show producer is Marion Ways.

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Speaker 5: Artwork by Jamie back.

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Speaker 2: Tell, Photography by Chais vander Moss.

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Speaker 3: Executive produced by Karen kilgera Georgia Hardstark and Daniel Craik.

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Speaker 2: Follow the show on Instagram at Adulting the Pod.

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Speaker 3: Email your questions to Adulting Questions at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 6: MMMM