1 00:00:09,720 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 1: All right, here we are. Welcome back everyone to another 2 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:17,759 Speaker 1: episode of Wide Open. I am your host, Vashlyn Harris, 3 00:00:17,800 --> 00:00:22,360 Speaker 1: and today's episode is a little different than normal. It's 4 00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:27,520 Speaker 1: just me and my brilliant producer, Joel, and we're just 5 00:00:27,600 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 1: going to take things slow, sit down with all of you. 6 00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 1: I feel like we're really at a point in the 7 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 1: season where I've been thinking and talking a lot about growth, 8 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 1: how much can change in a year, in a moment, 9 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:44,760 Speaker 1: in a single conversation, and reading all the questions that 10 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:47,800 Speaker 1: you all sent in reminded me why I started this 11 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 1: show in the first place, to create a space where 12 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 1: we can both be honest about who we were, who 13 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: we are, and who we're becoming. These questions aren't surface level, 14 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:05,280 Speaker 1: which I greatly appreciate. And you asked about identity, parenting, love, purpose, 15 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:09,120 Speaker 1: aging and the things that shape me both on and 16 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 1: off the field, and honestly, the things I'm still probably 17 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:16,280 Speaker 1: figuring out in real time. I want to honor that 18 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:20,440 Speaker 1: by answering with the same openness you've given me from 19 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:25,120 Speaker 1: day one. So enjoy the show, Enjoy just a moment 20 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:29,600 Speaker 1: of us sitting down having real, honest, breakthrough, good conversation. 21 00:01:30,480 --> 00:01:33,200 Speaker 1: Joel will be asking the questions and I will be 22 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 1: answering them all at the best of my ability. But 23 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:39,560 Speaker 1: some of these are very very good questions and some 24 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:42,920 Speaker 1: are just the perfect amount of fun. So I look 25 00:01:42,959 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: forward to diving into all of this with you. So 26 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:50,280 Speaker 1: thank you so much for submitting your questions. And Joel, 27 00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:53,320 Speaker 1: what are you opening us up with today? 28 00:01:53,800 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 2: We got so many great questions, but I think as 29 00:01:55,800 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 2: a group, this was our favorite one. It's simple to 30 00:01:58,320 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 2: just start you out, real easy. It's how many hats 31 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:01,440 Speaker 2: do you have? 32 00:02:01,560 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 3: Actually? 33 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Okay, so it's it's it's no secret 34 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:10,560 Speaker 1: you guys. I I love hats. I'm a big fan 35 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:17,360 Speaker 1: of hats. It's almost like my safety mechanism when I 36 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:19,560 Speaker 1: am out and about. I don't know what it is, 37 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:25,919 Speaker 1: but it's it really makes me feel like my truest self. 38 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 1: I honestly, Joelle, have no idea, but it's upwards of 39 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:38,800 Speaker 1: hundreds to thousands. It's really like, I know, it's really 40 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:44,120 Speaker 1: an emotional support thing. So I have a it's I 41 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:47,119 Speaker 1: have a lot of hats and I'm obsessed with them. 42 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:51,800 Speaker 2: I know, always look always pushed death. Here's just a 43 00:02:51,800 --> 00:02:52,560 Speaker 2: lot of options. 44 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, but here's the secret. I am a mom of 45 00:02:56,360 --> 00:03:01,520 Speaker 1: two very young kids and a partner who flies like 46 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:05,360 Speaker 1: a Ferrari like through life. I don't have time to 47 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:11,280 Speaker 1: do my hair, like I don't have time. Okay, so 48 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:12,120 Speaker 1: I have a lot. 49 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 2: Of hats and its like again, they always look back, 50 00:03:14,639 --> 00:03:17,080 Speaker 2: but some girls resent headbands. You've got a hat collection 51 00:03:17,320 --> 00:03:21,079 Speaker 2: that is enviable across the nation. I also really loved 52 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 2: this question. I thought it was sweet. What's your favorite 53 00:03:23,200 --> 00:03:24,359 Speaker 2: memory on a soccer field? 54 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:29,799 Speaker 1: Oh? Gosh, favorite memory on a soccer field? Honestly, I 55 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 1: have so many incredible memories, uh, through all the stages 56 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 1: of my career, whether it was high school, whether it 57 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:42,800 Speaker 1: was college, professional with the US team. But I will 58 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:47,600 Speaker 1: say this one of my greatest memories that might shock 59 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:53,080 Speaker 1: most people is in the twenty nineteen World Cup. We 60 00:03:53,080 --> 00:03:56,400 Speaker 1: were playing against France and we were in a very 61 00:03:56,520 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 1: long battle with US Soccer. We had we sued US 62 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:04,840 Speaker 1: Soccer for equal pay. We're at the World Cup, you know, 63 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:09,840 Speaker 1: it's crazy, and Trump's coming after us, and we're really 64 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 1: trying to lay this foundation of change to pay these 65 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:17,560 Speaker 1: women what they're fucking worth and what they're owed. And 66 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:22,120 Speaker 1: I remember a part of the game playing against France 67 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:25,159 Speaker 1: in France at the World Cup, and most of the 68 00:04:25,240 --> 00:04:33,040 Speaker 1: time fans would chant USA, USA, but this was different. 69 00:04:34,160 --> 00:04:41,360 Speaker 1: I kept hearing people say equal pay, equal pay, and 70 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:46,440 Speaker 1: it was a moment to realize and reflect and all 71 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:49,160 Speaker 1: of the level like it was such a huge moment. 72 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:54,479 Speaker 1: I was like, Oh, like, we're not just changing the 73 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:59,520 Speaker 1: landscape in our own country, We're changing the landscape globally 74 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:03,480 Speaker 1: for women to fight for what they deserve. And it 75 00:05:03,600 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: wasn't just about women. The men were chanting it. We 76 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 1: came back at the ticker tape parade, every sign was 77 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:17,599 Speaker 1: equal pay. Our president was getting booed, FIFA was getting booed. 78 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:22,360 Speaker 1: It was really a public moment where they were being 79 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:25,360 Speaker 1: hold accountable and I was like, Oh, we're going to 80 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 1: win this thing, and we're gonna this is going to 81 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:32,720 Speaker 1: be our This team's greatest legacy is not winning the tournament. 82 00:05:33,080 --> 00:05:35,520 Speaker 1: We knew we had to win that tournament for people 83 00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:38,960 Speaker 1: to take us seriously, for us to win that six 84 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:43,120 Speaker 1: year battle in court, but WHOA. In that moment hearing 85 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: people chant from all over the world, we were like, 86 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:49,839 Speaker 1: this is it, Like it's fucking go time. 87 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:53,800 Speaker 2: That brings up so many memories, like it's the women's 88 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:56,240 Speaker 2: basketball team having to win at the Olympics in order 89 00:05:56,279 --> 00:05:59,279 Speaker 2: to justify having yep a WNBA correct. And then I 90 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 2: think two in France, a nation that just genuinely loves 91 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 2: a protest and is all about like people power. For 92 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:09,160 Speaker 2: them to recognize you in that moment, that's so beautiful. 93 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:11,360 Speaker 3: I was. I like that memory. That was a good one. 94 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:12,080 Speaker 3: That was a good one. 95 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 2: Let's talk about memories from this show of my favorite 96 00:06:16,800 --> 00:06:19,920 Speaker 2: bit of wisdom from a wide open guest. 97 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:24,200 Speaker 1: There's been so many, so many transformative guests, but I 98 00:06:24,279 --> 00:06:28,039 Speaker 1: will say I think Adam Grant was one of my 99 00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 1: favorite guests because he's been able to see me as 100 00:06:31,839 --> 00:06:35,839 Speaker 1: an athlete, as a mom, as a human in the 101 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:40,000 Speaker 1: growth of what each of those seasons have have kind 102 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:43,359 Speaker 1: of brought to my life. And I love when he 103 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 1: was talking about how identity can evolve and that's a 104 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:52,640 Speaker 1: strength not a loss. There's a lot of fucking power 105 00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:56,279 Speaker 1: in that and that line he was talking about, because 106 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:59,760 Speaker 1: I think we get so caught up all the time. 107 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:04,280 Speaker 1: You know, every day we're evolving, every day we're changing, 108 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:07,960 Speaker 1: and every day we might not get it right. But 109 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:11,200 Speaker 1: it also is such a strength and a superpower to 110 00:07:11,360 --> 00:07:15,679 Speaker 1: continue to evolve and be better and grow and change 111 00:07:15,760 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: and be thoughtful and empathetic and graceful and all of 112 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 1: these things that like, even though so much and I 113 00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:28,840 Speaker 1: can speak personally, so much of my life has shifted 114 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:33,520 Speaker 1: and changed in the last five years, I can't always 115 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 1: think of it as a loss. I am growing at 116 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:44,920 Speaker 1: a rate I'm so so deeply proud of that. I 117 00:07:44,920 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: I'm glad to stand ten toes down, chest out and 118 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:53,440 Speaker 1: be like, Wow, I've learned so much and I'm such 119 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:56,520 Speaker 1: a better human because I've walked through it and not 120 00:07:56,640 --> 00:08:01,680 Speaker 1: around it. So I think that like Adam Grant, the 121 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 1: way he can land the plane and make you feel 122 00:08:06,120 --> 00:08:09,840 Speaker 1: so whole even in the most shattered moments of your life. 123 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:13,840 Speaker 1: It gives you it's all about perspective and like reframing 124 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 1: that perspective, and I was glad in that moment he 125 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 1: could give that to me. 126 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 3: It's beautiful. 127 00:08:20,200 --> 00:08:22,640 Speaker 2: And I think, particularly as women were often like it 128 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:25,880 Speaker 2: feels like there's this deadline of like, I mean, artificially 129 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:29,120 Speaker 2: at thirty, but I think maybe hardcore maybe even like 130 00:08:29,680 --> 00:08:31,840 Speaker 2: late thirties early forties, where they're like, if you haven't 131 00:08:31,880 --> 00:08:34,160 Speaker 2: done it by now, it's over, like, yeah, pack it up, 132 00:08:34,240 --> 00:08:37,320 Speaker 2: pack it in, like you missed your window. A crazy 133 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 2: Shenanigan thing to think, But it's so lovely when you 134 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:44,560 Speaker 2: meet like actual women in the world who are like, no, 135 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:46,839 Speaker 2: i've changed involves, these are some of my best years. 136 00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:48,640 Speaker 2: A lot of women who at fifty are like, these 137 00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 2: are actually the best time of my life and like, oh, 138 00:08:51,520 --> 00:08:54,280 Speaker 2: aging is wonderful. Yeah, beautiful, and yeah, to have somebody 139 00:08:54,280 --> 00:08:57,200 Speaker 2: affirm that is always so lovely. Let's keep on that note. Then, 140 00:08:57,440 --> 00:09:00,880 Speaker 2: what's the biggest challenge and the biggest thing you've had 141 00:09:00,880 --> 00:09:01,719 Speaker 2: since retiring? 142 00:09:02,559 --> 00:09:05,160 Speaker 1: Really like a lot of things that made me a 143 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:10,920 Speaker 1: great athlete, not it doesn't necessarily translate into being a 144 00:09:10,960 --> 00:09:14,400 Speaker 1: good partner, being a good parent, you know, the win 145 00:09:14,480 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 1: at all costs mentality, the ego of which we carry 146 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:23,320 Speaker 1: because we've had to, like, if you don't believe in 147 00:09:23,360 --> 00:09:26,560 Speaker 1: yourself at the top, you're fucked. Like it's just it's 148 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:32,080 Speaker 1: just there's no one super fragile walking in and having 149 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:37,839 Speaker 1: a long, exceptional career without truly having somewhat of an 150 00:09:37,880 --> 00:09:41,040 Speaker 1: ego of I am the best, I am the greatest. 151 00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 1: Because it is a very very hard career to live 152 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 1: to excel in, but most importantly to stay at the 153 00:09:51,520 --> 00:09:56,560 Speaker 1: top of So I'm learning in real time how to 154 00:09:56,920 --> 00:10:00,760 Speaker 1: keep the best part of me. That was like a 155 00:10:00,800 --> 00:10:04,520 Speaker 1: good teammate, you know who showed up for the people 156 00:10:04,800 --> 00:10:07,800 Speaker 1: and put them first, and you know a lot of 157 00:10:07,840 --> 00:10:11,560 Speaker 1: things like that. But also what do I need? What 158 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:16,120 Speaker 1: am I What boundaries am I willing to stick to 159 00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 1: or create? And I think you learn also because you 160 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:23,600 Speaker 1: have no control. You're told to be here, You're told 161 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:26,280 Speaker 1: to show up here. Your body needs to look like this. 162 00:10:26,720 --> 00:10:30,679 Speaker 1: You have to eat, sleep and act this way. The 163 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:36,680 Speaker 1: freedom of retiring and like having my own sense of 164 00:10:36,800 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 1: schedule and worth and what makes me happy. It's like 165 00:10:40,160 --> 00:10:45,360 Speaker 1: almost listening to myself again and not my like drill sergeant, 166 00:10:45,600 --> 00:10:47,360 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like I get to wake 167 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:50,720 Speaker 1: up and have choice in life. I get to wake 168 00:10:50,800 --> 00:10:54,000 Speaker 1: up and go pick my kids up from school earlier 169 00:10:54,040 --> 00:10:57,240 Speaker 1: or take them on a fun weekend trip. Like I 170 00:10:57,280 --> 00:11:02,760 Speaker 1: didn't have that. I missed everything. My life was dedicated 171 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:06,080 Speaker 1: to my team and to my craft. They came before 172 00:11:06,120 --> 00:11:09,240 Speaker 1: my family, they came before my partner, they came before 173 00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:13,720 Speaker 1: my kids. And the freedom to like shed that layer 174 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:18,120 Speaker 1: that has taken so much of me. I'm reclaiming my 175 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:20,800 Speaker 1: own identity in a lot of ways, and I think 176 00:11:20,880 --> 00:11:24,360 Speaker 1: there's a beauty of that type of freedom. A lot 177 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:27,960 Speaker 1: of people don't ask, but yeah, when people ask me, 178 00:11:28,040 --> 00:11:30,280 Speaker 1: do I miss it? I don't fucking miss it. I 179 00:11:30,360 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 1: gave it everything. I gave it everything to the point 180 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:41,160 Speaker 1: it cost me a lot. So now gaining back that 181 00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:44,520 Speaker 1: freedom and that time and that belonging and that self 182 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:48,480 Speaker 1: care and that self love, like, I don't miss it. 183 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 1: And I don't feel bad about saying that because I 184 00:11:51,040 --> 00:11:55,319 Speaker 1: gave it every fucking piece of me. I have no regrets. 185 00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:59,440 Speaker 1: I left nothing on the table. I checked every box 186 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:04,000 Speaker 1: I possed, simply could and some so I would say 187 00:12:04,040 --> 00:12:06,600 Speaker 1: that I think it's a It has been a blessing 188 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:10,320 Speaker 1: and a curse and all the things in between. And 189 00:12:10,400 --> 00:12:14,559 Speaker 1: I'm really reclaiming my sense of joy and freedom outside 190 00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:19,920 Speaker 1: of the toxic like culture it created within me, and 191 00:12:20,040 --> 00:12:22,199 Speaker 1: I don't have to carry that with me forever. 192 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 2: Say, it's such an hort like embrace so wholeheartedly, like 193 00:12:26,520 --> 00:12:30,360 Speaker 2: this new era of life with like not just like 194 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:33,520 Speaker 2: with such fervor for the newness, but also no regrets 195 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:36,319 Speaker 2: from the past. I think that's really rare. Well, you know, 196 00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 2: while we're talking about, you know, not being a professional 197 00:12:40,320 --> 00:12:42,880 Speaker 2: athlete and embracing this new life, we had another fun 198 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:45,000 Speaker 2: question just you know, you talk a lot about you know, 199 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:48,720 Speaker 2: still maintaining and seeing active and like trying to eat right. 200 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:53,040 Speaker 2: But I love a cheat day, have a favorite cheat 201 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:53,640 Speaker 2: day food. 202 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:59,880 Speaker 1: I think health is a lifestyle. I gotta be on. 203 00:13:00,440 --> 00:13:09,520 Speaker 1: I think yeah, I mean bad food and guilty pleasures 204 00:13:09,559 --> 00:13:13,000 Speaker 1: and things. It makes me feel like shit. Like when 205 00:13:13,080 --> 00:13:20,080 Speaker 1: you treat your body as an exceptional machine. Everything counts, 206 00:13:20,160 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 1: you know, when you add up all the inches at 207 00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:24,320 Speaker 1: the end of the day, how much you sleep, how 208 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:27,480 Speaker 1: much you recover, how much you do prehab, how much 209 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:30,800 Speaker 1: you're doing in the gym, how much you know. Yeah, 210 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:33,920 Speaker 1: it's just on and on. What you're eating matters, what 211 00:13:33,960 --> 00:13:38,880 Speaker 1: you drink matters. It's like a lot of athletes say this. 212 00:13:39,160 --> 00:13:42,320 Speaker 1: Yes I'm a retired athlete, but I will forever be 213 00:13:42,800 --> 00:13:45,280 Speaker 1: a pro athlete. It is the way I move in 214 00:13:45,320 --> 00:13:48,560 Speaker 1: the world. I didn't stop playing, and all of a 215 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:52,839 Speaker 1: sudden I picked up every awful like trait where I'm 216 00:13:52,880 --> 00:13:56,600 Speaker 1: sitting on my ass eating bombons like it just doesn't exist. 217 00:13:57,679 --> 00:14:01,840 Speaker 1: I'm actually even more disciplined now because I'm not burning 218 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:08,360 Speaker 1: fifteen hundred calories by noon. So I guess a cheat 219 00:14:08,440 --> 00:14:13,920 Speaker 1: day for me. You know, I love pizza. Love is 220 00:14:13,960 --> 00:14:17,480 Speaker 1: a rich word, but like I guess, you know, I 221 00:14:17,520 --> 00:14:21,080 Speaker 1: don't know. Like last night, I'm cooking, you know, a 222 00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:26,120 Speaker 1: roasted chicken and couscous and a salad with homemade dressing, 223 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:30,040 Speaker 1: Like I eat it probably five days a week. My 224 00:14:30,240 --> 00:14:33,040 Speaker 1: cheat days are when I get the freedom to go 225 00:14:33,120 --> 00:14:36,560 Speaker 1: out with friends in the city and have a really 226 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:39,840 Speaker 1: nice dinner, have a nice bottle of wine where I'm 227 00:14:39,880 --> 00:14:44,800 Speaker 1: not like too fixated on what it is. Is it fried? 228 00:14:45,160 --> 00:14:47,640 Speaker 1: Is it carbs? Like I'm just having a good time 229 00:14:48,240 --> 00:14:53,320 Speaker 1: filling my belly and my heart with joy from my surroundings. 230 00:14:53,560 --> 00:14:57,080 Speaker 1: I could care less about what I'm eating. I care 231 00:14:57,160 --> 00:14:59,640 Speaker 1: more about the vibes of the people around me. 232 00:15:00,040 --> 00:15:05,000 Speaker 2: So yeah, it's an inner labor show, Yeah, said Hollard. 233 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:07,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's his key, like. 234 00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:09,280 Speaker 2: Because I feel like guys who have the cheat day, 235 00:15:09,320 --> 00:15:10,680 Speaker 2: like you know, when the rock is like I ate 236 00:15:10,680 --> 00:15:12,240 Speaker 2: like nineteen cheeseburgers today or whatever. 237 00:15:12,360 --> 00:15:13,360 Speaker 1: It's fucking crazy. 238 00:15:13,360 --> 00:15:15,200 Speaker 2: They're always like now I'm in the gym for the 239 00:15:15,200 --> 00:15:17,760 Speaker 2: next like forty eight hours and you're like, you know, 240 00:15:17,920 --> 00:15:20,000 Speaker 2: maybe you know, I like your way of doing it 241 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:21,840 Speaker 2: where you're like, if I'm just consistent, they want to 242 00:15:21,880 --> 00:15:23,880 Speaker 2: go out, I can have fun and just be relaxed 243 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:25,920 Speaker 2: about it. And this makes sense to me. This is 244 00:15:25,920 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 2: really great. Let's take a quick break and when we 245 00:15:27,760 --> 00:15:28,600 Speaker 2: come back, I've got. 246 00:15:28,480 --> 00:15:29,520 Speaker 3: Some more fun questions for you. 247 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:36,240 Speaker 1: You stay tuned. I'll be back in just a moment 248 00:15:36,440 --> 00:15:44,320 Speaker 1: after this brief message from our sponsors. 249 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:46,480 Speaker 2: Okay, we have so many question People really want to 250 00:15:46,520 --> 00:15:49,360 Speaker 2: know about you and Sofia, which I think is very sweet. 251 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:52,160 Speaker 2: People want to know if you watch One Tree Hill 252 00:15:52,240 --> 00:15:54,640 Speaker 2: before you and Sofia were together. 253 00:15:55,040 --> 00:15:59,880 Speaker 1: Fuck, no, no, I watched it since No as a 254 00:16:00,400 --> 00:16:07,840 Speaker 1: professional athlete chasing my dreams. I was not watching shitty television. Please. Honestly, 255 00:16:08,160 --> 00:16:11,600 Speaker 1: she has which just she just finished. She has Drama 256 00:16:11,680 --> 00:16:16,120 Speaker 1: Queens and it's this recap show and she has to 257 00:16:16,200 --> 00:16:21,000 Speaker 1: watch every week episodes. So there are times where like, hm, 258 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:23,920 Speaker 1: maybe I have like an hour free in my schedule 259 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:25,720 Speaker 1: where I want to sit next to her on the 260 00:16:25,760 --> 00:16:30,040 Speaker 1: couch and do the recap. And then I start watching 261 00:16:30,200 --> 00:16:33,880 Speaker 1: and I'm like, this fucking show's a nightmare. We're taking 262 00:16:34,000 --> 00:16:37,760 Speaker 1: diet pills, the way we're treating women. You're being past 263 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:40,400 Speaker 1: to every guy on the fucking set. You're making out 264 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:42,440 Speaker 1: with this one, You're laying on the beach with it. 265 00:16:42,480 --> 00:16:45,960 Speaker 1: I'm like, it's so chaotic for me, it's hard to watch. 266 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:48,680 Speaker 1: And plus I don't like to see my partner like 267 00:16:49,280 --> 00:16:52,600 Speaker 1: yucking it up making out with other people on screen. 268 00:16:52,640 --> 00:16:55,480 Speaker 1: It's like does something I'm not used to it, Like, 269 00:16:55,920 --> 00:16:59,200 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm good, I'm good. So I'm really like, 270 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:03,800 Speaker 1: I'm like, really, I keep my distance. But also I 271 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:07,800 Speaker 1: love watching her in her element, Like she's such a 272 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:12,520 Speaker 1: good actress, and when I see her play certain characters, 273 00:17:12,600 --> 00:17:15,439 Speaker 1: I'm like, this is so funny because this is so 274 00:17:15,640 --> 00:17:20,800 Speaker 1: not you, like the bitchy little like ruffles feathers cheerleader. 275 00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:24,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, you're the sweetest human and the smartest person 276 00:17:24,119 --> 00:17:27,280 Speaker 1: I know. This is like the whole concept is really 277 00:17:27,359 --> 00:17:29,760 Speaker 1: a mind fuck a little bit. But I've watched a 278 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:34,160 Speaker 1: few Yeah, I've watched a few episodes, but that's kind 279 00:17:34,160 --> 00:17:35,280 Speaker 1: of where I draw the line. 280 00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:39,399 Speaker 2: I totally respect that. You know, he's so sweet. You 281 00:17:39,440 --> 00:17:41,200 Speaker 2: know when you talk about watching her in her element, 282 00:17:41,240 --> 00:17:43,320 Speaker 2: I got to observe her on set the other day 283 00:17:43,359 --> 00:17:45,240 Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, this is also a director, 284 00:17:45,480 --> 00:17:47,960 Speaker 2: like this is the person who she's in it, like 285 00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:49,960 Speaker 2: cameras ready to go. It was really fun watching her 286 00:17:50,040 --> 00:17:51,320 Speaker 2: just be like, no, let's just do this and said 287 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:53,840 Speaker 2: I was like, ah, that's good, that's easy. 288 00:17:54,119 --> 00:17:57,520 Speaker 1: You should in real life, you should, really, I mean 289 00:17:57,720 --> 00:18:00,879 Speaker 1: you should see her. So I'm really I'm excited because 290 00:18:01,920 --> 00:18:04,719 Speaker 1: I don't want to like drop the hints, but we 291 00:18:04,840 --> 00:18:12,080 Speaker 1: might be seeing Sophia soon. Okay, on this podcast, after 292 00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:15,960 Speaker 1: all these questions, you never know. You're gonna have to 293 00:18:16,000 --> 00:18:16,639 Speaker 1: stay tuned. 294 00:18:17,440 --> 00:18:20,520 Speaker 2: We did get a question about whether or not Sophia 295 00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:23,280 Speaker 2: gave you kIPS when you were starting this podcast. 296 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:29,679 Speaker 1: No, we keep professional and personal very separate. Like I 297 00:18:29,720 --> 00:18:33,120 Speaker 1: think what's so great about us in which I value 298 00:18:33,280 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 1: so much, is she will only give me input or 299 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:41,800 Speaker 1: insight when I ask for it. She's not hovering, she 300 00:18:41,840 --> 00:18:45,840 Speaker 1: doesn't claim to like you know, think that she knows more. 301 00:18:46,080 --> 00:18:49,840 Speaker 1: I think she does a really good Like when we're done, 302 00:18:50,080 --> 00:18:53,159 Speaker 1: we're not talking work, we're not talking this that like 303 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:56,359 Speaker 1: she has her shit, I have my stuff, and like 304 00:18:56,440 --> 00:18:58,399 Speaker 1: we're very proud of each other. We show up for 305 00:18:58,440 --> 00:19:00,880 Speaker 1: each other. But that's like, really where we draw the line. 306 00:19:00,920 --> 00:19:05,680 Speaker 1: We're not really you know, some couples get really connected 307 00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:09,760 Speaker 1: in their work space and we're like, we just keep 308 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:10,800 Speaker 1: it pushing. 309 00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:12,160 Speaker 3: Teach me your ways. 310 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:13,760 Speaker 2: I do not know how to unplug from work. That 311 00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:15,560 Speaker 2: is so mystifying. Wh people are like, and now I'm 312 00:19:15,560 --> 00:19:17,399 Speaker 2: done with work, I'm closing my laptop. I'm like, my 313 00:19:17,480 --> 00:19:20,320 Speaker 2: laptop is never closed. Oh my god, neverf. 314 00:19:20,040 --> 00:19:22,639 Speaker 1: No, we do not. Yeah, we are not, and she 315 00:19:22,760 --> 00:19:26,679 Speaker 1: works all the time. But no, we have a really 316 00:19:26,760 --> 00:19:31,359 Speaker 1: really great balance, which I think is important for like 317 00:19:32,200 --> 00:19:34,560 Speaker 1: our life and our love life and our connection. Like, 318 00:19:34,560 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 1: I don't want to talk about work. 319 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:39,280 Speaker 3: I totally hear you. 320 00:19:39,400 --> 00:19:44,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, let's talk about a different type of born from passion. Okay, 321 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:48,959 Speaker 2: you're involving so many political organizations and movements. You're always 322 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:52,359 Speaker 2: dashing off to like support another cause up with another voice. 323 00:19:52,800 --> 00:19:55,240 Speaker 2: Is there a cause that you think like urgently needs 324 00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:57,359 Speaker 2: attention that you would love for your audience to like 325 00:19:57,560 --> 00:19:58,680 Speaker 2: really focus in on. 326 00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:03,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm I've got two things that clearly are front 327 00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:07,920 Speaker 1: of mind that I always really engaged deeply in because 328 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:11,520 Speaker 1: it's deeply personal and it's deeply meaningful to me. Is 329 00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:15,800 Speaker 1: showing up for the queer community and advocating for the 330 00:20:15,880 --> 00:20:21,199 Speaker 1: queer community, and with that comes mental health. Like mental 331 00:20:21,240 --> 00:20:28,280 Speaker 1: health advocacy is so important to me, especially because of 332 00:20:28,800 --> 00:20:32,320 Speaker 1: the rate in which our community is affected by it, 333 00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:37,880 Speaker 1: because we're always a target and we're always you know, 334 00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:42,360 Speaker 1: being forced back into the closet or forced into following 335 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:45,760 Speaker 1: in line, and you know, not living our truth or 336 00:20:45,880 --> 00:20:49,119 Speaker 1: not being exactly who we want to be, and a 337 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:52,080 Speaker 1: lot of issues come with that of the feeling of 338 00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:58,120 Speaker 1: not belonging or not feeling enough. And I am those 339 00:20:58,119 --> 00:21:05,280 Speaker 1: are my two biggest things, because there's a lot we 340 00:21:05,359 --> 00:21:10,120 Speaker 1: could be doing as not only people of the queer community, 341 00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:14,240 Speaker 1: but allies of the queer community. What I do know 342 00:21:14,400 --> 00:21:17,560 Speaker 1: is we can't do this alone. So for the people 343 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:23,480 Speaker 1: out there watching and listening, you know, the LGBTQ plus 344 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:28,359 Speaker 1: community is really it has been a really hard landscape 345 00:21:28,400 --> 00:21:32,399 Speaker 1: with this current political climate, and it is our job 346 00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:35,000 Speaker 1: to do the work, even if it's so small in 347 00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:41,000 Speaker 1: our homes, about teaching acceptance, really opening your heart and 348 00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:46,000 Speaker 1: your eyes to not only your po view but like 349 00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:49,520 Speaker 1: as a whole, our community and people who are in 350 00:21:49,560 --> 00:21:53,760 Speaker 1: our community who support us, how they show up for us, 351 00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:57,280 Speaker 1: either directly or indirectly, like we have to be better, 352 00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:00,520 Speaker 1: We have to educate ourselves. We can't be scared of 353 00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:04,600 Speaker 1: the things we don't know. You know, we're not projecting 354 00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:07,719 Speaker 1: our gayness and queerness on anyone. We're just trying to 355 00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:12,679 Speaker 1: live the same peaceful, respectful quality of life under the 356 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:16,439 Speaker 1: same rule of law and protection everyone else's. It's not 357 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:20,359 Speaker 1: that serious, but it is because now it's becoming a 358 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:24,159 Speaker 1: life or death type of thing, and our humanity, humility, 359 00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 1: like everything is on the line right now, and people 360 00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:31,800 Speaker 1: have to start showing up and not thinking, Oh, someone 361 00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:34,920 Speaker 1: else will deal with it, someone else will figure it out, 362 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:39,000 Speaker 1: someone else will campaign about this, or the HRC has 363 00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:42,000 Speaker 1: the resources, or Glad is doing this. No fuck that. 364 00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:46,040 Speaker 1: What are you doing? What are you doing in your small, small, 365 00:22:46,080 --> 00:22:51,640 Speaker 1: interconnected circles that are helping create change, Whether that's teaching 366 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:55,359 Speaker 1: your children to accept all people for how they choose 367 00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:59,200 Speaker 1: to live their life, or your mom club or your 368 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:03,840 Speaker 1: walk club. Like you know, if you do nothing, you 369 00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:06,640 Speaker 1: are a part of the problem. If you turn your 370 00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:10,639 Speaker 1: head and you hear things and people make terrible comments, 371 00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:13,560 Speaker 1: you are a part of the problem. If you're not defending, 372 00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:16,840 Speaker 1: standing up or helping change it, so it doesn't have 373 00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:19,960 Speaker 1: to be this big scale magnitude of sit on the 374 00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:23,560 Speaker 1: board of the HRC or do this like. It starts 375 00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:27,760 Speaker 1: in your fucking home. It starts by the way you 376 00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:32,080 Speaker 1: speak about people, or how you include people, or how 377 00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:35,520 Speaker 1: you do the bystander effect. If you're at coffee with 378 00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:39,800 Speaker 1: your girlfriends or your religious families who are conservative, like, 379 00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:44,159 Speaker 1: do something, because by doing nothing, you are just a 380 00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:47,520 Speaker 1: complicit to the problem and it's never going to change 381 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:49,919 Speaker 1: and we're never going to get anywhere. So that is 382 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:54,000 Speaker 1: my like one big thing. We have to keep fighting 383 00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:59,000 Speaker 1: for the acceptance of other people even if we choose 384 00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:00,200 Speaker 1: to not live that way. 385 00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:03,560 Speaker 2: Ashley said, check your bigoted uncle, and I said, yeah, 386 00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:06,359 Speaker 2: fuck that, Yes, yes, get it out. 387 00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:12,000 Speaker 1: Stay tuned. I'll be back in just a moment after 388 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:14,280 Speaker 1: this brief message from our sponsors. 389 00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:20,879 Speaker 2: Okay, we've got time to maybe two more questions. Oh 390 00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:22,359 Speaker 2: if this is a cute one. And since we're just 391 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:26,840 Speaker 2: talking about kids, I'm curious, what's your favorite like family 392 00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:27,840 Speaker 2: thing to do with your kids? 393 00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:37,520 Speaker 1: Okay, so I am very cheesy and soft. Surprise, There's 394 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:39,480 Speaker 1: one thing I love to do with my kids, and 395 00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:43,679 Speaker 1: I do it every single night, and I don't compromise it. 396 00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:49,240 Speaker 1: I have rules, as Sophia knows, and she laughs about it, 397 00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:54,480 Speaker 1: but I you know, I have fifty to fifty custody 398 00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:57,600 Speaker 1: with my children, So one thing I don't compromise is 399 00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:00,720 Speaker 1: when I have them, I can only do one work 400 00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:04,800 Speaker 1: event that week that takes me away from their school time. 401 00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:10,359 Speaker 1: And every night we put on pjs. Pjs are the 402 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:16,360 Speaker 1: coolest thing in our family. We have light up Skeleton, Grinch, 403 00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:21,679 Speaker 1: Lilo and Stitch, you name it, and a lot of 404 00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:25,200 Speaker 1: times we have matching ones. So we do a lot 405 00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:27,639 Speaker 1: of glow in the dark so we can have raves. 406 00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:30,560 Speaker 1: We like, get it all. We light it up, light 407 00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:32,360 Speaker 1: it up, light it up, and then we turn all 408 00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:35,720 Speaker 1: the lights off and we're watching movies and we're glowing, 409 00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:39,760 Speaker 1: and we call it cuddle puddle time. We get to 410 00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:43,840 Speaker 1: pick a movie, they pick a movie, pick their pajamas, 411 00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:47,560 Speaker 1: and we build forts and I have like my house 412 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:51,480 Speaker 1: is lit really tacky in a lot of ways, especially 413 00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:53,720 Speaker 1: right now for Christmas, and we turn on all of 414 00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:57,600 Speaker 1: the little trinket lights and we just like cuddle on 415 00:25:57,640 --> 00:26:00,480 Speaker 1: the couch and it's the only time I can get 416 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:02,200 Speaker 1: my three and a half year old son to sit 417 00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:06,080 Speaker 1: the fuck down because he loves it so much. And 418 00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:10,520 Speaker 1: it's such a moment of connection and like physical touch 419 00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:14,520 Speaker 1: where we're all just in it. And I hope I like, 420 00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:16,960 Speaker 1: I know eventually they're not gonna want to have a 421 00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:20,840 Speaker 1: cuddle puddle time with their mom, but like, I really 422 00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:24,240 Speaker 1: love it's the best thing about having them. It's our one, 423 00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:28,120 Speaker 1: Like we do it religiously every single night. 424 00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:30,560 Speaker 3: I love that one. 425 00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:33,400 Speaker 2: It sounds like the safest, most beautiful rave I've ever 426 00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:36,760 Speaker 2: heard of. As someone spake a lot of time in 427 00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:39,440 Speaker 2: her family basement watching movies with her family, It's still 428 00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:40,520 Speaker 2: my favorite thing to do when I go home, and 429 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:41,600 Speaker 2: HER's like, what do you want to do? Like I want 430 00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:43,119 Speaker 2: to sit in the basement and watch movies with you. 431 00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:46,520 Speaker 2: It looks like it's a bonding warm like safe connected 432 00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:49,280 Speaker 2: spas and you get to like shear the movies. 433 00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:50,080 Speaker 3: I love this. 434 00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:55,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm about experiences with my kids, like you know, 435 00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:58,000 Speaker 1: this past Friday, I looked at both of them and 436 00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:01,400 Speaker 1: I'm like, what do you want to do? Like sometimes 437 00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:04,160 Speaker 1: you know, and everyone's gonna parent differently, and my kids 438 00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:07,440 Speaker 1: are in daycare, it's like, you know, it's not that big. 439 00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:10,800 Speaker 1: It's not that serious. So I was like, let's we're 440 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:14,080 Speaker 1: going to miss school today and you tell me what 441 00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:15,800 Speaker 1: you both want to do. And we went on this 442 00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:21,320 Speaker 1: whole adventurous day and we just kept being like we're 443 00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:24,360 Speaker 1: going to party. That was the thing. Like we were 444 00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:28,879 Speaker 1: in the car and we were like blaring unwritten and 445 00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:32,680 Speaker 1: they know every song. We've got our hands up besides mine, 446 00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:36,640 Speaker 1: both hands on the wheel. Safety first, but like the 447 00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:42,560 Speaker 1: freedom to just they will remember that forever over gifts, 448 00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:47,200 Speaker 1: you know, toys of this, going to school here and coloring, 449 00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:52,119 Speaker 1: Like I really value experience and showing up. I think 450 00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:56,639 Speaker 1: it is something they'll carry with them forever. And I 451 00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:59,280 Speaker 1: really take it seriously in my home because I had 452 00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:02,800 Speaker 1: two parents and to work two jobs and they had 453 00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:07,600 Speaker 1: to for necessity, they had to do that, and it 454 00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:11,520 Speaker 1: was like, you know, I didn't get those moments and 455 00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:15,200 Speaker 1: I wish I did, and I didn't get those Sunday, 456 00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:18,920 Speaker 1: you know, Sunday's family day in our home, home cooked meal, 457 00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:23,639 Speaker 1: like we're really all present at the table, cuddle, puddle time, dance, 458 00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:27,439 Speaker 1: party time, dress up. We build stages like we have 459 00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:33,880 Speaker 1: a whole costume wardrobe. We got theater babies. But yeah, 460 00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:38,080 Speaker 1: I just like, I really really, I really value it 461 00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:40,640 Speaker 1: and it means so much to me, and I know 462 00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:43,680 Speaker 1: eventually as they grow, it's going to mean so much 463 00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:44,080 Speaker 1: to them. 464 00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:49,160 Speaker 2: The home always sounds so magical. To last question, yes, 465 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:52,600 Speaker 2: if there was a mount Rushmore of women's sports, Ah, 466 00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:55,560 Speaker 2: what for women? Would you immortalize and stone? 467 00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:59,880 Speaker 1: Everyone always asks this great yes, but most of the 468 00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:03,600 Speaker 1: time they're like the mount Rushmore of women's soccer. But 469 00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:05,440 Speaker 1: I like this. It's women's sports. 470 00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:07,520 Speaker 3: God. 471 00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:12,920 Speaker 1: I mean, Billy Jean King is one, She's queen. She's 472 00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:19,960 Speaker 1: gonna be front row centner. Serena Williams, Yes, come on, 473 00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:27,400 Speaker 1: I mean yes, and she's just so business savvy. She's 474 00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:31,920 Speaker 1: cracked the code on both opening doors up for being 475 00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:37,760 Speaker 1: an entrepreneur, and like, she just crushes I would say, 476 00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:41,320 Speaker 1: have to have me a ham. Oh hell yeah, gotta 477 00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:43,000 Speaker 1: have me a ham. Come on, but gout. 478 00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:45,240 Speaker 2: Hello, kicked open the door, shut. 479 00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:47,920 Speaker 1: The damn door right off the hinges. You know, I 480 00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:52,560 Speaker 1: I might get some about this, but I have to 481 00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:54,560 Speaker 1: say some own biles. I do. 482 00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:56,160 Speaker 2: Oh. 483 00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:57,240 Speaker 3: I love this pick. 484 00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:02,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, because you know the things she's been able to do, 485 00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:06,560 Speaker 1: the things she's paved the way, especially, you know, raising 486 00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:10,360 Speaker 1: a young black child daughter who looks up to her 487 00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:16,120 Speaker 1: so much. Like to be able to see my child 488 00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,960 Speaker 1: watch her and like be like, oh, she looks like 489 00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:23,520 Speaker 1: me too, like I can do that is so profound 490 00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:27,960 Speaker 1: for me because I didn't have that experience. But also 491 00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:32,560 Speaker 1: she broke every record. She's out here doing flips no 492 00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:35,200 Speaker 1: one's ever heard of and coining the new terms like 493 00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:40,400 Speaker 1: she is was like child's play, like it was almost 494 00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:44,440 Speaker 1: she made it look too easy. And then I think 495 00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:47,680 Speaker 1: what I respect the most about her is her ability 496 00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:54,360 Speaker 1: when she pulled out due to mental health and all 497 00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:57,840 Speaker 1: the things, and sitting down and being brave enough to 498 00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:00,720 Speaker 1: talk about it, just to be like, you know, I'm 499 00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:04,080 Speaker 1: not good and in my sport, this is like I 500 00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:07,080 Speaker 1: could break my back or my neck, this could be catastrophic, 501 00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:10,640 Speaker 1: and like, I'm gonna put this to the side and 502 00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:15,040 Speaker 1: focus on myself. And I think it gave everyone else 503 00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:19,800 Speaker 1: permission to be like, oh so even they struggle, and 504 00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:26,520 Speaker 1: it opened up this floodgate of conversation about oh, hello, 505 00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:33,720 Speaker 1: like high performing athletes are humans too, who struggle, have issues, 506 00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:37,520 Speaker 1: who get it wrong, And it really allowed people to 507 00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:41,480 Speaker 1: see the huge like humanize these type of athletes in 508 00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:43,960 Speaker 1: a way I don't know we had before. 509 00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:47,240 Speaker 2: We always think of athletes as superhuman. 510 00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:50,560 Speaker 3: And yes, about this moment career, is it proved you 511 00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:51,400 Speaker 3: to come back? 512 00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:53,600 Speaker 2: Yep, you could take a break and come back and 513 00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:55,040 Speaker 2: still be great. And I think that's a lot of 514 00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:57,120 Speaker 2: the fear. It's like, if I stop, I'll never be 515 00:31:57,160 --> 00:31:59,000 Speaker 2: as good, I won't get it back, I'll lose everything. 516 00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:00,920 Speaker 2: But if you stop and take of yourself, you can 517 00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:03,800 Speaker 2: actually come back and shine. I also love that all 518 00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:06,640 Speaker 2: four of your women are activists in their own right 519 00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:10,160 Speaker 2: who are not just like fundamentally change the physical aspects 520 00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,480 Speaker 2: of their sports and the demand and what you can 521 00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:15,440 Speaker 2: earn and accomplish, but also have made way for a 522 00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:18,880 Speaker 2: lot of women to do their own thing and continue 523 00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:22,800 Speaker 2: in their footsteps. That was a beautiful answer. I loved it. 524 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,440 Speaker 2: So this has been so great. We love your fans 525 00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:28,680 Speaker 2: for sitting in questions on core. 526 00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:32,600 Speaker 1: On Core, Okay, I'll tell you what. Yeah, I heard 527 00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:37,680 Speaker 1: the fans screaming in the background. You get one more 528 00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:41,080 Speaker 1: question for the encore, so pick it. Why well, I 529 00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:43,280 Speaker 1: couldn't help it. I heard all the fans behind me 530 00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:47,360 Speaker 1: screaming one more, one more so here we are. 531 00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:47,960 Speaker 2: I'm back. 532 00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:51,280 Speaker 1: Okay for your encore question on you. 533 00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:55,000 Speaker 2: Know that you're a New York Liberty fan and therefore 534 00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:59,400 Speaker 2: automatically a fan of Ellie. If you could perform one 535 00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:03,200 Speaker 2: song Ellie, either karaoke styl or dance style, which song 536 00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:03,920 Speaker 2: would you choose? 537 00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:14,560 Speaker 1: M Oh, I love Ellie, My children love Ellie. You 538 00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:17,640 Speaker 1: know it would have to be a Rihanna song. Oh, 539 00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:24,080 Speaker 1: it would like Ellie's got so much swag, like I 540 00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:29,040 Speaker 1: gotta like, it's gotta be sexy, it's gotta be viby 541 00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:35,960 Speaker 1: like I. I think it'd have to be like pour 542 00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:38,920 Speaker 1: it up, pour it up? Oh should all fall? 543 00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:40,120 Speaker 2: Yeah? 544 00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:44,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, we yeah, do not miss a moment with that break. 545 00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:49,200 Speaker 1: I just I can sense the rain drops falling and 546 00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:52,240 Speaker 1: we're in like two inches of water. We're gonna like, 547 00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:57,120 Speaker 1: you know, it would be a whole fucking vibe. I 548 00:33:57,720 --> 00:33:58,280 Speaker 1: need to do it. 549 00:33:58,720 --> 00:33:59,960 Speaker 3: Ellie and Rihanna and Magic. 550 00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:03,880 Speaker 1: Can you imagine? And if y'all haven't watched that performance 551 00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:05,520 Speaker 1: of him Dan. 552 00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:10,360 Speaker 2: Doing Umbrella, that was Tom Holland and it was Umbrella 553 00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:12,200 Speaker 2: and it's the best video. You have to stop and 554 00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:14,239 Speaker 2: watch it every time it comes up. It's that fantastic. 555 00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:19,480 Speaker 1: It is mind blowing. That man is a performer through 556 00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:22,520 Speaker 1: and through, and his dance skills and commitment to that 557 00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:26,400 Speaker 1: song is the same type of energy I'm bringing to 558 00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:28,760 Speaker 1: my halftime performance. 559 00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:33,360 Speaker 3: With Ellie Parasonic. I'm calling it now. We're gonna see this. 560 00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:34,160 Speaker 3: It's gonna be amazing. 561 00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:37,960 Speaker 2: Uh, do you want to tease your next two episodes? 562 00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:44,319 Speaker 1: Well, there was a lot of there's been a lot 563 00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:51,640 Speaker 1: of request about having someone special on you know, mm 564 00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:56,480 Speaker 1: hmmm season one. 565 00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:55,720 Speaker 3: Friend of the pod. 566 00:34:55,800 --> 00:35:00,520 Speaker 1: You might call her friend of my pod in person life, 567 00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:03,360 Speaker 1: So we might be seeing we might be seeing someone 568 00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:07,480 Speaker 1: very soon that y'all have been asking about really like 569 00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:11,920 Speaker 1: literally has been relentless. I hear you. I get it. 570 00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:16,960 Speaker 1: You're just gonna have to tune in to the final 571 00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:20,880 Speaker 1: episode of season one. We have a special guest, and 572 00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:23,959 Speaker 1: I promise you. 573 00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:28,040 Speaker 3: You won't gift very excited to here. 574 00:35:28,320 --> 00:35:30,760 Speaker 1: You won't be disappointed. You can share the other guest. 575 00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:31,400 Speaker 3: I like. 576 00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:35,520 Speaker 1: The good part is you guys, we're rolling right into 577 00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:39,960 Speaker 1: season two, no breaks, no bullshit, Like season two is 578 00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:43,680 Speaker 1: gonna be even better than season one. I am actually 579 00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:48,080 Speaker 1: so excited about this. We're having like some of the 580 00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:53,440 Speaker 1: funniest people out there come on to talk about life 581 00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:58,440 Speaker 1: and experience and comedy tours. I mean the realness, the rawness, 582 00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:04,200 Speaker 1: the transformations, the re building, and everything in between. But 583 00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:06,319 Speaker 1: you're gonna have to wait and tune in. Season two 584 00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:07,440 Speaker 1: is coming quick. 585 00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:09,960 Speaker 2: To be a good year for us. I'm really excited 586 00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:11,160 Speaker 2: about it. 587 00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:14,200 Speaker 1: It is, it is, and I really look forward to it. 588 00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:16,919 Speaker 3: Oh Ma, Well, thanks for having me, Ashley. This was fun. 589 00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:19,480 Speaker 3: Thanks to the fans. And yeah, I'm gonna get out 590 00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:20,359 Speaker 3: of here all. 591 00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:23,200 Speaker 1: Right, everyone, Thank you so much for spending time with me. 592 00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:25,960 Speaker 1: I don't take it lightly, and I don't take it 593 00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:29,160 Speaker 1: lightly the way you continue to show up, not just 594 00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:32,239 Speaker 1: for the big guest or the big conversations, for the 595 00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:35,799 Speaker 1: big episodes like this, but just for showing up and 596 00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:39,000 Speaker 1: being human together. I think that really is the greatest gift. 597 00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:44,680 Speaker 1: Answering your questions really reminded me that connection is built 598 00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:49,359 Speaker 1: in the small, honest moments and ones that we want 599 00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:51,719 Speaker 1: to drop the armor, drop the bs and tell the 600 00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:54,880 Speaker 1: truth about who we are, how we move, and the 601 00:36:54,920 --> 00:36:57,320 Speaker 1: importance of how we want to show up in our lives. 602 00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:00,760 Speaker 1: You've given me permission to grow out loud, to evolve 603 00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:05,200 Speaker 1: to figure things out in real time, and I appreciate 604 00:37:05,239 --> 00:37:08,160 Speaker 1: that gift, and I appreciate the space you continue to 605 00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:11,959 Speaker 1: give me for us to grow together. So I hope 606 00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:15,680 Speaker 1: you enjoyed this episode. Thank you so much for sending 607 00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:18,919 Speaker 1: in all of the great thoughtful questions, and I will 608 00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:23,319 Speaker 1: see you next time. Happy holidays everyone, I'll see you 609 00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:26,279 Speaker 1: next week on Wide Open.