WEBVTT - Where IS Your Husband? 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:06.240 The song's on the side. What's up? 0:00:06.240 --> 0:00:08.559 You're gonna hear the buzz because we're at a different studio. 0:00:09.400 --> 0:00:12.959 Then we actually recorded today's interview in because I did 0:00:13.000 --> 0:00:13.880 something very stupid. 0:00:13.920 --> 0:00:16.919 Hello Diamond, Hi, you're laughing because of what I did. 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:20.440 I don't think you should. You shouldn't blame yourself. It's 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:21.840 type situation. 0:00:21.960 --> 0:00:24.560 No, I appreciate you trying to take accountability for it, 0:00:24.600 --> 0:00:27.560 but I did it absolutely. So you're going to hear 0:00:27.600 --> 0:00:29.680 an interview today from Ray, who I thought was awesome. 0:00:29.760 --> 0:00:30.520 I really liked her. 0:00:30.920 --> 0:00:33.519 She has a song coming out called where is My Husband? 0:00:34.440 --> 0:00:36.239 Isn't that the question so many women want to know? 0:00:36.479 --> 0:00:38.720 I said it out loud yesterday and I thought about it. 0:00:38.760 --> 0:00:42.640 I was like, the Ray song. Yeah, but no, Yeah. 0:00:42.400 --> 0:00:46.760 She's amazing, She's wonderful, she's a superstar. She's beautiful, she's talented, 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:48.800 and she is struggling to find a man. 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:50.960 We're going to talk to her a lot about that. 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:54.480 But after the interview, I was trying to tell Diamond 0:00:54.520 --> 0:00:57.080 a secret, so I shut off all of the microphones 0:00:57.120 --> 0:00:59.680 and I took them out of a little system it's 0:00:59.680 --> 0:01:02.440 called take taking them offline. I took him out of offline, 0:01:02.480 --> 0:01:04.800 which means nothing was recording. Then Diamonds and I sat 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:08.600 there and did a solid, amazing, maybe thirty five minute 0:01:09.280 --> 0:01:12.240 podcast that was supposed to wrap around this Ray interview, 0:01:13.040 --> 0:01:15.800 and then when I went to save it, there was 0:01:15.840 --> 0:01:19.080 no audio because I shut off all the mics because 0:01:19.120 --> 0:01:24.000 I was telling her a secret. Just wasted your time. 0:01:24.040 --> 0:01:27.480 I'm so sorry, our time, our time. Yeah, but I just, 0:01:27.520 --> 0:01:29.840 you know, not my strongest move. So now we're in 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:31.360 a different studio recording. 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:31.679 Hello. 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:35.000 Hi, I'm excited for this podcast. I say that all 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:37.360 the time. But again, I just really liked her and 0:01:37.400 --> 0:01:40.040 I thought she was cool, and I think she's. 0:01:39.880 --> 0:01:42.000 Going to be a superstar. Oh for sure. 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:44.840 Some would argue she already is. Yeah, did you know 0:01:45.080 --> 0:01:48.240 the story behind her first album? Tell me the fact 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:50.440 that she was signed to a label, it really didn't 0:01:50.480 --> 0:01:55.600 go anywhere. So when she was releasing this album, which 0:01:55.640 --> 0:01:57.320 I think came out almost two years ago, now I 0:01:57.360 --> 0:02:01.560 can't I don't want to mess anybody up. She took 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:06.960 the promo pictures in front of the office building that 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:09.720 her label was so like the former label. She took 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:11.919 the pictures there and people were like, oh no, I 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:14.320 don't know who Ray is, but I'm into it now 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:17.560 because this is like some messy shit like I loved it. 0:02:18.040 --> 0:02:21.240 I always take for granted how much we know about 0:02:21.280 --> 0:02:23.880 the ins and outs now of the music business, and 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:27.040 how so many people, young artists who are coming up, 0:02:27.320 --> 0:02:29.680 their goal is to be signed by a major label. 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:32.919 That's all they want, but they don't understand what comes 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:34.360 with that, and what comes with that which we have 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:37.440 seen now over and over with different artists is a 0:02:37.440 --> 0:02:39.360 lot of these big labels and diamond I think you 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:42.400 know more about this than I do. But when people 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:44.280 sign with some of these big labels, they'll sign a three. 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:45.000 Album, four album deal. 0:02:45.120 --> 0:02:49.560 Yeah, that means you owe this out this label four albums. 0:02:49.639 --> 0:02:49.839 Yep. 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:53.880 It doesn't mean that they're necessarily going to help you 0:02:54.200 --> 0:02:57.320 or market you or get behind you. And there's a 0:02:57.320 --> 0:02:59.120 solid chance that some of your best work, you're going 0:02:59.200 --> 0:03:00.920 to give them four albums of your best stuff that 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:03.720 never sees the light of day because they decide there's 0:03:03.760 --> 0:03:05.840 another artist that's more important at this time, and we're 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:08.480 going to put all of our resources behind that artist. 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:11.280 And in a lot of ways, people will say they 0:03:11.320 --> 0:03:13.600 keep you in kind of like a musical slavery situation 0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:16.240 because these artists are saying, well, I don't want to 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:18.920 release my best stuff if I'm not a top priority. 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:20.800 You guys told me I was going to be, but 0:03:20.919 --> 0:03:22.280 now here I am not being one. 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:24.800 And that is why you see so many artists going independent, 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:26.960 which we're also going to talk to Ray about. But 0:03:27.040 --> 0:03:30.560 it's a wild, wild business. And if you know the 0:03:30.600 --> 0:03:34.000 story of TLC, which maybe at this point a lot 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:38.320 of people don't, TLC at the peak of their success, 0:03:38.640 --> 0:03:43.200 when No Scrubs was out waterfalls, they were bankrupt, they 0:03:43.240 --> 0:03:45.560 had no money. Because at the same time, these labels 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:47.680 will say, oh my gosh, we're going to give you 0:03:47.720 --> 0:03:49.200 a ten million. 0:03:48.880 --> 0:03:50.680 Dollar up front fee. 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:52.800 But a lot of people don't understand that from that 0:03:52.840 --> 0:03:55.960 ten million dollars comes every single thing that you're going 0:03:56.000 --> 0:03:58.160 to do, and that label is keeping track of it. 0:03:58.280 --> 0:04:00.840 So you think you're taking a first class flight on 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:03.600 the label. Oh no, so that's getting detected from your 0:04:03.720 --> 0:04:05.720 ten million dollars. You think you're staying in a nice 0:04:05.720 --> 0:04:07.960 hotel room, Yeah you are. You're paying for it. And 0:04:08.040 --> 0:04:09.680 at the end of that ten million dollars, they're going 0:04:09.760 --> 0:04:12.000 to come and say, well, now you owe these four albums. 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:15.000 And you get no money for it. It's a wild business. 0:04:15.520 --> 0:04:18.120 That happened to Tony Braxton too. The first time she 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:19.159 filed for bankruptcy. 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:20.520 The second time. 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:22.480 I feel bad for it too. The second time was 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:25.680 because of an insurance issue, but like, yeah, she like 0:04:25.920 --> 0:04:30.119 was she did a residency and she got sick because 0:04:30.120 --> 0:04:32.560 she has like lupas and it affected her heart, and 0:04:32.720 --> 0:04:38.000 the insurance company didn't cover basically the rest of the residency. 0:04:38.040 --> 0:04:39.960 They're like, no, we're not going to cover it because 0:04:40.560 --> 0:04:42.440 we know, we knew that you had lupas and this. 0:04:42.480 --> 0:04:44.159 Was a part of the contract or something. 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:46.440 And she had to file bankruptcy because she couldn't afford 0:04:46.480 --> 0:04:48.359 to pay everyone for the rest of the time that 0:04:48.400 --> 0:04:49.200 the residency was. 0:04:49.160 --> 0:04:50.560 Supposed to be in Vegas. 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:52.320 I'm like, that's messed up. 0:04:52.440 --> 0:04:55.560 It is wild the way these major labels treat a 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:57.360 lot of their artists. And don't even get me started 0:04:57.360 --> 0:04:59.680 on Diddy and the Bad Boy des Stop. 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:01.360 They were terrible. 0:05:01.600 --> 0:05:02.239 That's horrible. 0:05:02.279 --> 0:05:04.080 I won't get into that, but please do yourselves a 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:07.120 favor of you're bored and look up Diddy's contract deals. 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:09.520 He would essentially sign people. 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:11.480 Blow him up for like a song. 0:05:11.839 --> 0:05:14.400 Keep every single penny that they ever made, and then 0:05:14.560 --> 0:05:17.200 never release them from their contract and also never release more. 0:05:17.120 --> 0:05:17.839 Music from them. 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:18.119 I'm sick. 0:05:18.640 --> 0:05:21.640 It's sick, but that's what happens, you know. Fame. They 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:24.640 say fame, we're strug known to man, it really is. 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:25.679 People just find things. 0:05:25.760 --> 0:05:26.599 Yeah, it's sad. 0:05:27.640 --> 0:05:32.120 I would any day of the week take money over fame. 0:05:32.240 --> 0:05:32.920 Oh for sure. 0:05:33.040 --> 0:05:33.920 I don't care about the fame. 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:34.560 Are you kidding? 0:05:34.640 --> 0:05:36.200 Please just give me the money. You know. 0:05:36.440 --> 0:05:39.040 My goal in life is to go to Central Park, 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:42.800 strike up a conversation with an old lady, just become 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:45.320 her best friend, and then when she dies, like, be 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:46.640 surprised that I'm in her will. 0:05:46.680 --> 0:05:47.680 Wait, is that what you're doing to me? 0:05:48.320 --> 0:05:50.799 No, you're not old. 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:54.520 I'm talking about like sixty five. Her daughter wants nothing 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:55.160 to do with her. 0:05:56.600 --> 0:05:59.440 Sixty five, a couple of years older than Elvis. Do 0:05:59.440 --> 0:06:00.360 you think he's gonna die? 0:06:00.560 --> 0:06:00.720 Well? 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:01.960 Why do you think I work here? 0:06:04.640 --> 0:06:07.599 One of my favorite conversations that we have had, and 0:06:07.640 --> 0:06:09.359 we had it on the Big Show as well, is 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:12.120 that there are people here who genuinely believe that when 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:14.320 Elvis is done here, he's gonna leave them. 0:06:14.320 --> 0:06:15.200 Millions of dollars. 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:16.000 That's insane. 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:17.320 Why would that ever happen? 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:17.960 I don't know. 0:06:18.040 --> 0:06:22.240 I think that we romanticize money the way that we 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:26.440 romanticize like actual relationships, and like the thought that someone 0:06:26.720 --> 0:06:30.640 could be so nice and kind to leave you money, 0:06:30.800 --> 0:06:33.560 not because he's dead, because he just doesn't want to 0:06:33.600 --> 0:06:36.000 do this show anymore, is insane. 0:06:36.160 --> 0:06:38.600 But in a fairy tale world that would be amazing. 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:41.680 Sure, if it rained down from the clouds, that'd be 0:06:41.680 --> 0:06:43.320 awesome too. Yeah, same would you think? 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:47.039 I don't. I don't understand. Also, if he's not giving 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:48.360 you the money now, you think. 0:06:48.200 --> 0:06:50.200 He's gonna give it what he decides to walk away 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:52.080 like he sees you every day. 0:06:52.800 --> 0:06:56.359 The logic behind it is what's weirder for me because 0:06:56.720 --> 0:06:59.920 the people who believe this think it's because well, you know, 0:07:00.160 --> 0:07:02.479 when he's done, then we're all screwed, and you. 0:07:02.480 --> 0:07:04.400 Know what about us, like he's responsible? 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:05.479 Thank you sick? 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:08.240 I would say, one would argue that what he has 0:07:08.279 --> 0:07:12.120 given you over the last thirty years, not me, but 0:07:12.240 --> 0:07:16.200 others over the last thirty years was a career that 0:07:16.280 --> 0:07:20.120 had a whole lot of perks and great vacation and 0:07:20.320 --> 0:07:24.800 decent pay for thirty years. So like, why would he 0:07:24.920 --> 0:07:28.360 leave you more? At that point, that's wild work. 0:07:28.880 --> 0:07:35.720 But okay, Scotty, whatever you mean. Yeah, sure, that is crazy. 0:07:35.840 --> 0:07:37.120 So we have a couple of things that we want 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:39.160 to talk about, but I think before we get to that, 0:07:39.200 --> 0:07:40.960 maybe we should get to Ray because we loved her. 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:47.360 Yep, I am here with Ray, and I have to 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:50.200 start by saying I absolutely love you. And so many 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:52.000 people were stoked when they heard that you were coming in. 0:07:52.040 --> 0:07:53.400 They're like, I'm gonna come say hi. I said, no, 0:07:53.440 --> 0:07:55.720 you're not. I'm gonna do this first, and. 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:57.800 Then maybe you can come say hi. Oh, you have 0:07:57.840 --> 0:08:00.160 a lot of fans in the building. Wow, you have 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:01.000 a lot of really cool. 0:08:00.880 --> 0:08:02.520 Stuff going on, and I want to get to all 0:08:02.560 --> 0:08:04.640 of that, and then, of course, you know, talk to 0:08:04.640 --> 0:08:07.520 you about life in general, specifically life surrounding this. So 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:09.440 you have a single out right now, which is what 0:08:09.440 --> 0:08:12.800 we're going to talk about first, called where is my Husband? 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:17.520 All caps, yes and exclamation and an exclamation mark. Okay, 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:18.920 where is your husband? 0:08:19.280 --> 0:08:19.520 Right? 0:08:20.560 --> 0:08:22.880 I would love to know where is he? 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:23.960 No? 0:08:25.840 --> 0:08:27.080 Yeah, where is he? I don't know? 0:08:27.760 --> 0:08:31.000 But I love this song and you know, it's kind 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:33.240 of does a three in one job. I guess of 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:38.160 you know, being a very nice, happy kind of vibe. 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:40.400 Like I love the musicality of this song. I love 0:08:40.520 --> 0:08:43.400 like the how it feels to perform on stage. But 0:08:43.480 --> 0:08:48.040 also you know, also it is a marketing campaign, you know, 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:52.040 because yeah, like there comes a time we've got to 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:57.240 take matters into your own hands for five years congratulations, right, yeah, 0:08:57.800 --> 0:08:59.480 you know, and you know what on a serious not 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:01.440 a work on self love, like this is my chapter 0:09:01.480 --> 0:09:03.760 of self love, which is really nice because you know, 0:09:03.880 --> 0:09:07.880 self love is hard to achieve and do the work 0:09:07.920 --> 0:09:08.360 in that area. 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:10.240 So right, we're getting deep very quickly. 0:09:10.360 --> 0:09:13.600 I like it, okay, So to your point, it is 0:09:13.640 --> 0:09:16.080 really hard to achieve, but especially when you're in the 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:18.960 public eye. When you once loved yourself and all these 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:20.720 things that you loved about yourself, now when you see 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:24.000 it scrutinized under the microscope and under the public eye, 0:09:24.040 --> 0:09:25.360 and it becomes a totally different thing. 0:09:25.480 --> 0:09:27.080 Right, Have you had those issues? 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:31.600 I definitely have, and actually have just completely removed myself 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:34.800 from those issues because I now have just two I 0:09:34.840 --> 0:09:38.120 have two phones, so my old iPhone has become my 0:09:38.440 --> 0:09:42.240 social media phone. I can't even access that phone. Good 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:43.559 for you, I can't even type it. I don't know 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:46.040 what the password is. I couldn't look into my Instagram. 0:09:46.160 --> 0:09:48.080 I don't have the password. I don't know the pastord 0:09:48.120 --> 0:09:50.120 for my TikTok, I don't have the pastor for my 0:09:50.120 --> 0:09:54.280 Twitter or my Facebook and all of the above, because 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:59.160 if I did, those things are so addictive. They've learned 0:09:59.200 --> 0:10:02.800 on likes and dislikes so well, like just lock you 0:10:02.880 --> 0:10:04.360 in there, do you know what I mean? And I 0:10:04.440 --> 0:10:06.320 know you should never look at the comments, but I'll 0:10:06.679 --> 0:10:08.400 read the video and I'll click on the comments and 0:10:08.400 --> 0:10:10.760 someone be like, why is she doing that? 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:12.360 And I'll be like, oh my god. 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:14.959 Right, there could be a thousand positive comments and you'll 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:15.920 see that one asshole. 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:18.440 Oh I said something about like a stray hair, and that's. 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:19.520 All you can think about it, you know what I mean? 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:20.240 Why are we like that? 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:22.679 Someone commented on my fannin performances out there. I'll watch 0:10:22.720 --> 0:10:25.280 it the comment They're like, where's her energy? I was like, 0:10:25.960 --> 0:10:29.880 what do you mean? I'm giving everything I can be giving. 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:32.120 And then I'm like, is it because I wasn't smiling enough? 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:33.760 Should I have been smiling more? But it's hard to 0:10:33.800 --> 0:10:35.880 sing when you're smiling. When you're singing that fast and 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:38.960 then your brain's not tangenting. And that's why I have 0:10:39.040 --> 0:10:39.679 two phones. 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:40.760 And that's listen. 0:10:40.800 --> 0:10:43.160 We talk about this all the time, especially on this podcast. 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:45.800 That person who said where's the energy is sitting on 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:49.040 a couch somewhere doing nothing, criticizing the person who is 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:51.760 doing something. Yet we let that get to us all 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:55.320 the time. It's this ridiculous poison and all of us 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:56.040 fell victims to it. 0:10:56.080 --> 0:10:58.200 I do it all the time. Yeah, comment section is 0:10:58.480 --> 0:11:01.839 the seventh realm of Hell's. 0:11:00.600 --> 0:11:03.720 A that's a great way to describe it. 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:05.880 Always sometimes there's always a good one in there that 0:11:05.880 --> 0:11:08.760 would make me chuckle. So there's some good people out 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:09.960 there who provide a good laugh. 0:11:10.120 --> 0:11:11.400 But it's just too risky. 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:12.960 I say all the time. If you're going to roast me, 0:11:13.000 --> 0:11:15.240 please be funny about it. Yeah right, give me something 0:11:15.240 --> 0:11:17.040 out of this besides a little bit of self hatred. 0:11:17.160 --> 0:11:18.439 Just make me chuckle just for a second. 0:11:18.440 --> 0:11:18.760 I agree. 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:20.160 So, Lookod, I'm glad we're on the same piece there, 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:23.360 But I'm also really impressed that you are now completely 0:11:23.360 --> 0:11:25.480 off of all of that and living a real life. 0:11:26.120 --> 0:11:27.719 How has it changed things for you? 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:28.160 Oh? 0:11:28.280 --> 0:11:31.199 Massively, so now I'll do monitored time. 0:11:31.320 --> 0:11:32.760 Like so if I'm going to look on social media, 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:35.079 It'll be like ten minutes and then I'll give me 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:37.800 the phone back and I'm like okay, And then it 0:11:37.880 --> 0:11:41.720 means with that time, you know, I'm doing other things. 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:45.240 I'm working on myself. I'm writing, I'm reading, I'll go 0:11:45.320 --> 0:11:47.880 for a walk. I have even got into a thing 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:50.240 of like leaving the house to go and get a coffee. 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:53.480 It's just a small thing, but actually even just the 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:56.199 routine of going for a walk and taking yourself to 0:11:56.200 --> 0:11:58.320 go and get a cop those little things, it's just 0:11:58.400 --> 0:12:01.199 actually a form of self love, you know, seeing the. 0:12:01.200 --> 0:12:07.400 Sky, breathing outside outside, seeing a tree, maybe a dog, exactly, 0:12:08.000 --> 0:12:11.080 it's good stufsing, yeah, the little little by little you know. 0:12:11.360 --> 0:12:14.680 But I gotta ask you. So you're looking for a husband. 0:12:14.679 --> 0:12:16.280 Where is your husband? Exclamation point? 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:16.560 Right? 0:12:16.600 --> 0:12:18.880 But now you're taking yourself off social media? Yeah, I know. 0:12:19.360 --> 0:12:22.720 So in a dream world, how do we meet this husband? 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:23.200 Do you know what? 0:12:23.200 --> 0:12:26.920 I'm an old fashioned girl, Okay, I would really love 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:30.960 to meet my person in real life. 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:31.000 You know. 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:35.720 Yeah, And obviously you know this is the social era 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:39.480 of digital meeting, and there's nothing wrong with that at all. 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:42.400 I just think I love, like, you know, the idea 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:45.640 of just I'm sitting at a bar. I'm just having 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:48.040 a drink and I'm maybe reading a book, and I'm 0:12:48.040 --> 0:12:50.400 not I'm minding my business. I'm not looking for anyone's attention, 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:52.480 do you know what I mean? And then all of 0:12:52.520 --> 0:12:55.600 a sudden someone sits next to me like, Hello, I 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:56.839 read that book. 0:12:57.160 --> 0:12:58.280 Yesterday or something. 0:12:58.320 --> 0:12:59.719 Do you know what I mean? You're like, Oh, did 0:12:59.760 --> 0:13:02.319 you know the next sentence you're about to read is this? 0:13:02.400 --> 0:13:03.000 Do you know what I mean? 0:13:03.240 --> 0:13:06.199 Yeah, I'm getting this is you know? 0:13:06.280 --> 0:13:06.480 I mean? 0:13:06.600 --> 0:13:09.720 It's just like an idea, like just some beautiful in 0:13:09.880 --> 0:13:11.120 real life thing. 0:13:11.800 --> 0:13:13.520 So it's so funny that you said you're at a 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:15.360 bar reading a book, because I just had a debate 0:13:15.400 --> 0:13:17.000 with one of my good friends about this because we 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:18.800 went to a bar and there was a man there 0:13:19.240 --> 0:13:22.520 having a drink with a book, and initially. 0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:24.200 All of the girls that we were with were like, Oh, 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:25.840 a man with a book. I love it. 0:13:26.000 --> 0:13:28.560 That man didn't turn the page one time. He was 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:31.160 a faker and a fraud. And my guy friend who 0:13:31.200 --> 0:13:34.000 was with us said, that's what guys do. Any dude, 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:36.320 in a bar with a book is a liar, But 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:38.559 a woman in a bar with a book not a liar. 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:40.000 There's a level of hypocrisy. 0:13:40.120 --> 0:13:44.000 No, he didn't turn the page one. 0:13:43.960 --> 0:13:46.680 Not one time there. I mean we were there for 0:13:46.679 --> 0:13:49.280 an hour. No, yeah, I mean not one. 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:54.120 Time, stating it was because of face value. Like seeing that. 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:56.800 Ye love that? 0:13:57.280 --> 0:13:59.559 But is it weird reading a book in a bar? 0:13:59.679 --> 0:14:01.599 Like a is loud and noisy, and you want to 0:14:01.640 --> 0:14:02.640 read a book. 0:14:02.760 --> 0:14:03.319 I will see you. 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:05.640 I have never read a book in a bar, but 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:07.480 I would like to be someone who reads a book 0:14:07.520 --> 0:14:09.240 in a bar. But maybe I don't want to be 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:10.480 a person who reads the book in the bar. 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:12.520 After this conversation, Well, I'm just not sure that it's 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:14.240 like a real thing. I think people look like they're 0:14:14.240 --> 0:14:15.600 doing it. I don't think they're actually doing it. 0:14:15.640 --> 0:14:17.160 What I do like to do is take a like 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:19.960 and write. But I like the people watch. 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:21.000 See that's good. 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:22.400 I've got my own and I'll sit there and I'll 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:24.400 be like, and I'd like to like write and describe 0:14:24.400 --> 0:14:27.080 someone in detail, just like through words and come up 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:27.400 with cool. 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:28.240 Member, that's just weird. 0:14:28.400 --> 0:14:30.400 No, I think that's actually perfect. You're watching and then 0:14:30.400 --> 0:14:32.359 you're writing about it, right, you're a writer. 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:44.160 Right, so right, but let me ask you this. Okay, 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:44.920 let's do it right now. 0:14:44.920 --> 0:14:48.320 We're going to manifest the dream man if you can 0:14:48.440 --> 0:14:50.600 build a bear and this is your husband. 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:51.840 Okay, what are we looking for? 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:55.720 Okay, so we're looking for someone who is funny? Yeah, 0:14:55.720 --> 0:14:58.120 I know every girl says that on like love islan 0:14:58.320 --> 0:15:02.160 Like my type is, you know, like funny, but like 0:15:02.200 --> 0:15:06.520 I would like someone who's funny. Someone disciplined. I really 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:08.880 need that because discipline is my weakness in life. Do 0:15:08.880 --> 0:15:10.640 you know what I mean? Someone who's gonna be like, right, 0:15:10.720 --> 0:15:11.280 we need to do this. 0:15:11.480 --> 0:15:12.760 Just are good for us. 0:15:13.840 --> 0:15:15.320 Come on, get out of bed. Let's go and do 0:15:15.400 --> 0:15:16.280 things that are good for us. 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:16.920 Do you know what I mean? 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:22.400 Okay, someone who loves music. I need someone very passionate 0:15:22.440 --> 0:15:27.400 about music because I love music. But they can't be 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:35.480 a rapper because that's not no not no, no never. 0:15:35.560 --> 0:15:37.400 Do you have a oh never again? So there's a 0:15:37.400 --> 0:15:38.600 reason that you say not a rapper. 0:15:38.680 --> 0:15:43.960 I've just yeah, just no okay. Yeah, so yeah, but 0:15:44.000 --> 0:15:48.800 they need to love music. I think maybe yeah, they 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:51.440 need to really like not mind sitting there and hearing 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:54.240 me be like, listen to this detail about this song 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:55.160 and you listen. 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:55.400 To this. 0:15:57.000 --> 0:15:59.840 So that Yeah, so there's that, and I need my 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:04.680 final one is a communicator. Words of affirmation is my 0:16:04.720 --> 0:16:05.520 love language. 0:16:05.600 --> 0:16:07.440 Ah okay yeah, and you. 0:16:07.360 --> 0:16:11.760 Know some people are very mysterious and quiet and that's 0:16:11.800 --> 0:16:13.960 really nice. But like I'm literally gonna be sat there 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:15.720 like what are you thinking? Do you even like me? 0:16:15.880 --> 0:16:16.520 Do you know what I mean? 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:18.080 I need your such a spiral? 0:16:18.240 --> 0:16:22.160 Yeah, I just need words like you look really nice today, 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:25.040 thank you, and give me some words. You know, some 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:28.880 people for some people like my sister's like acts of service, 0:16:28.880 --> 0:16:29.320 you know what I mean? 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:29.720 So like me? 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:31.160 Yeah yeah, like. 0:16:31.120 --> 0:16:34.680 So me like moving this stuff from the dishwashers like 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:37.240 an act of so that will really mean a lot 0:16:37.480 --> 0:16:39.200 for me. Like I couldn't care less about something like that, 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:39.760 do you know what I mean? 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:40.400 Yeah? 0:16:40.520 --> 0:16:43.080 Yeah, so yeah, those are my qualities. 0:16:43.240 --> 0:16:46.040 Okay. I liked that you didn't say one word about looks. 0:16:46.240 --> 0:16:47.800 Does that matter? I mean I know, no matter what 0:16:47.840 --> 0:16:49.960