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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer, an Imheart Radio podcast. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I am so excited because we have just got you

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Speaker 1: on a proper intro. I mean, I just it's you know,

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Speaker 1: she deserves a proper interest.

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Speaker 2: She does.

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm going to say that she is just

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Speaker 1: one of those girls that when she comes into a room,

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Speaker 1: she's I mean, truly, she just lights it up. Thank you,

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Speaker 1: and always stunning. Always, but not naturally pretty. You're naturally pretty.

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Speaker 1: You're not made up stunning, Yes you, I really mean that.

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Speaker 1: Let's welcome Jesse James Ducker to the Wine Down Studio.

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Speaker 2: Welcome our friend. Hello, Hello.

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Speaker 1: You know what, I truly always say that about you.

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Speaker 1: I will never forget one night we went out and

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Speaker 1: I was feeling, you know, kind of low, and you

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Speaker 1: are just always so positive. You're like, girl, put this

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Speaker 1: red lipstigun, let's go like it just like slaps.

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Speaker 3: My back, and I'm like, you're just such a girl's girl.

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Speaker 3: You know, truly, thank you. I don't know that I

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Speaker 3: ever told you this in person. Okay, here we go,

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Speaker 3: you did an interview. This is like actually awesome. Everything

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Speaker 3: is really weaving its way together today. Everything in life

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Speaker 3: is threaded and threaded. Well today it's often threaded for me,

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Speaker 3: but it's a big DVD.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 3: So you did an interview a long time ago, was

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Speaker 3: when you had viv I think, okay, and I was

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Speaker 3: postpartum with love and love is almost ten double digits

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Speaker 3: are coming from me in Jenna, and you mentioned that

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Speaker 3: in postpartum you that women should do. Your one piece

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Speaker 3: of advice was to always do something that makes you

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Speaker 3: feel good every day. So you're one thing. So like

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Speaker 3: you said, for you it was lipstick, and you said

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Speaker 3: every day, just put on the lipstick. And so for

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Speaker 3: me it was curling my hair. Yes, and I think

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Speaker 3: that that was a slice of saving me.

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Speaker 2: Well, thank you for bringing that. I can I didn't

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Speaker 2: even remember that happened till just now.

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Speaker 4: You know, I think I said it because you know,

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Speaker 4: when you have a baby, you are so selfless, and

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Speaker 4: we're meant to be selfless.

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Speaker 2: That's the way it goes. You're caring for your cub.

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Speaker 2: This is your baby.

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Speaker 4: It's not about you anymore. But we still have to

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Speaker 4: maintain who we are and what makes us feel amazing

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Speaker 4: every single day. So if you can do that one

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Speaker 4: little thing, and for me it was always overlining my

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Speaker 4: lips like I have today. It just makes me feel

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Speaker 4: cute you are and just do it. You know, you

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Speaker 4: got to do something for yourself. I take a bubble

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Speaker 4: bath every day. It's my time to just take care

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Speaker 4: of me, take care of myself, and I feel more

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Speaker 4: sane after if I've had like a chaotic day. But yeah,

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Speaker 4: I think again, being mothers, you're selfless, but you still

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Speaker 4: have to have that thing that's for you. Okay, Can

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Speaker 4: I go with another question? I go yeah, because this

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Speaker 4: leads into it. So a bubble bath every day.

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Speaker 3: Yes, you have a lot of babies, you do, and

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Speaker 3: you maintain yourself well, and you have like a thousand businesses.

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Speaker 3: You're in shape, stunning, You're running a lot of things.

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Speaker 3: So two questions, Okay, how much help do we have?

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Speaker 3: Is husband part of that help? I'm assuming yes, Eric's

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Speaker 3: is such a good dude. And and how much time

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Speaker 3: uninterrupted or is that bubba bah usually interrupted with several

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Speaker 4: Okay, So early on, when Eric was playing in the NFL,

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Speaker 4: and he played for eight years, I met him in

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Speaker 4: his after his rookie year. We got pregnant right after

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Speaker 4: we got married, and we did not have help at all,

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Speaker 4: but I wasn't working the way that I'm working now,

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Speaker 4: so it was just me and Vivi. Eric was obviously

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Speaker 4: my mom helped obviously, I don't mean I mean I

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Speaker 2: Sister were super helpful. We're just like a trio, as

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Speaker 4: And then as soon as Eric retired, he was able

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Speaker 4: you can, it takes a village. You should pick that

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Speaker 4: and with as much sanity as possible. And my husband

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Speaker 2: I'm like, you get three.

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Speaker 4: You get two out of the three, which is I'm

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Speaker 4: gonna look good, cook well, or clean.

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Speaker 2: You pick two. I'm not doing all three. You pick

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Speaker 4: I'm good for you and I'm gonna make the food

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Speaker 4: real good too, but I'm not cleaning.

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Speaker 2: I'm not great at it.

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Speaker 1: You know what I love about you guys too, is

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Speaker 1: just the spiciness and the love that you have for

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Speaker 1: each other. And one of my favorite questions that came

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Speaker 1: through and I said, you know, what do you want

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Speaker 1: to ask Jesse was about special forces? And someone asked

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Speaker 1: did she? I will say, did you and Eric have

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Speaker 1: a quickie special Force? And I laughed at because I'm like, listen,

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't put it past her, because you guys are

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Speaker 4: There's just no way that that could have happened at all.

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Speaker 4: They're they're correct to act ask that question. I'm certainly

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Speaker 4: a horn dog. I'm just gonna say it.

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Speaker 2: I just am.

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Speaker 4: I've built that way. I've had my blood tested. I

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Speaker 4: have more testosterone than your average woman.

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Speaker 2: I just do.

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Speaker 4: But it would have been impossible, Like you just you know,

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Speaker 4: I can't say that I didn't see him with his

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Speaker 2: But it just is not It was not possible.

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Speaker 1: I'm already be trapped in caves, and you know it

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Speaker 4: But I will tell you, when we were done with

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Speaker 4: No, but it was like probably one of the most

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Speaker 2: Back then We're like we need to hold each other.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 3: There's also a lot of vulnerability in special Forces. I

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Speaker 3: saw a clip and I was like, my girl.

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Speaker 2: JJD, I've been watching it.

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Speaker 1: I told her, I've been watching it when I'm running

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Speaker 1: I don't know how you did this, and just the

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Speaker 1: learned about yourself going through it? I think, and maybe

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Speaker 4: So I think that we listen, we're a couple. Obviously,

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Speaker 4: I still have that grit, that grit that I grew

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Speaker 3: You know, you have, in my opinion, really worked your

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Speaker 3: if you could tell younger Jesse one thing, what.

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Speaker 2: Would it be?

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Speaker 3: Because you have done it all and you're still doing

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Speaker 3: it all. We have cookbooks, we have a brand. Kittnish

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Speaker 3: is thriving. You have brick and mortars, which is nearly

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Speaker 3: impossible in a retail space. Most people just go online

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Speaker 2: So what would you tell Jesse Hustler Jesse young Hustler, Jesse.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I think that success comes in many different forms

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Speaker 4: To embrace what happens, Embrace the change, Embrace what the

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Speaker 4: What the wind blows doesn't mean you sit back, You

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Speaker 4: Just because it's not.

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Speaker 2: What you thought.

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Speaker 4: Specifically, this exact color, this exact shape, doesn't mean that

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Speaker 4: it's not successful. Successful Successful means what you what, what

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Speaker 4: you make of it. So am I playing one hundred

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Speaker 4: thousand people arenas like I thought was going to be happening?

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Speaker 2: No, it's not. But other dreams have happened where I

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Speaker 2: have to stop and smell the roses and go.

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Speaker 4: You did it like you worked hard and you and

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Speaker 4: you made these things happen for yourself. I came from nothing,

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Speaker 4: so for me, it's like any form of something happening

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Speaker 2: I do. There are moments where I sit outside of

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Speaker 2: Our children are, Oh blessed?

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Speaker 4: Are we a bless her that we don't have to

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Speaker 3: So on the list of achievements for Jesse James Decker

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Speaker 2: Well I got because of you. Okay. We were talking

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Speaker 1: I know she can do it? But she needed to

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Speaker 2: Brittany Spears go, I'm kidding. I'm not going to do

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Speaker 2: that press.

441
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Speaker 4: I'll do it later for you, But for me, my,

442
00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:47,119
Speaker 4: I think Janna learned in that moment the way that

443
00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:49,840
Speaker 4: I know how to learn. It wasn't because I didn't believe.

444
00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:53,560
Speaker 4: It's because I need you to show me. If you

445
00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:56,040
Speaker 4: can show me, I watch by listening. I watch by

446
00:19:56,080 --> 00:20:00,600
Speaker 4: it by watching. And so she showed me a few

447
00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:02,640
Speaker 4: different ways that she would do it, and then it's

448
00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:05,960
Speaker 4: like a light bulb went off. I was like, oh, okay,

449
00:20:06,040 --> 00:20:07,919
Speaker 4: you're right, that is the way that I should that

450
00:20:08,160 --> 00:20:10,920
Speaker 4: I should do this, and so yeah, she she had

451
00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:11,600
Speaker 4: me put it on tape.

452
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Speaker 2: We did it like a hundred times.

453
00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:15,840
Speaker 1: Yep, came over her house, put it on the dog

454
00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:19,320
Speaker 1: cap Barkin. She's like, shut up, oh my god.

455
00:20:19,560 --> 00:20:22,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was luck and so but she was great.

456
00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:25,280
Speaker 1: And you got more comfortable with it, and I saw

457
00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:27,399
Speaker 1: you getting, you know, flustered. I'm like, you got this

458
00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:29,880
Speaker 1: like this, this is this, you got this like you're

459
00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:33,240
Speaker 1: perfect for it, and you sent it off to the director.

460
00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:36,280
Speaker 1: The director had a meeting with you, right, So.

461
00:20:36,400 --> 00:20:38,760
Speaker 4: They wanted to talk to me. So they set up

462
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Speaker 4: a call. What did they say, Jess. They said, we

463
00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:46,159
Speaker 4: think you've got potential. Yeah, they had We had a

464
00:20:46,200 --> 00:20:50,600
Speaker 4: call and they called me the following week and yeah

465
00:20:50,640 --> 00:20:52,840
Speaker 4: they I was like, I think I got this because

466
00:20:52,920 --> 00:20:55,879
Speaker 4: the way that they were talking, I don't know.

467
00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:58,320
Speaker 2: So that's the thing. It's not me. She did it,

468
00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:00,880
Speaker 2: her work, We did that. But the the opportunity would

469
00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:02,760
Speaker 2: have never come without channel. That's what I'm saying. She

470
00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:03,680
Speaker 2: put me up for that.

471
00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:06,359
Speaker 3: And because she's not doling out like all of these

472
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:10,760
Speaker 3: connections all of the time, you still carry a value

473
00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:12,720
Speaker 3: and there's a credit to your name, which is.

474
00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:16,040
Speaker 4: Important, and there needs to be casting Danna Kramer and

475
00:21:16,080 --> 00:21:17,640
Speaker 4: then put yahneath it on the phone.

476
00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:19,320
Speaker 2: But I gotta say watching you.

477
00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:21,280
Speaker 1: I'm so excited for people to see you in this

478
00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:24,879
Speaker 1: movie because I told Jesse, like she is she brings

479
00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:26,720
Speaker 1: such like the light that she has in this room

480
00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:29,399
Speaker 1: and whatever wherever she goes, like she brings that on screen.

481
00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:30,360
Speaker 2: And you were so good.

482
00:21:30,400 --> 00:21:33,240
Speaker 1: And I watched you kind of watching and each take

483
00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:36,280
Speaker 1: just like getting better and just like really living in

484
00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:39,800
Speaker 1: the moment and just bringing your your light and your

485
00:21:39,880 --> 00:21:41,639
Speaker 1: sparkle and your energy and all of it. And it

486
00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:43,520
Speaker 1: just was like, yes, girl, Like I was so proud

487
00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:44,920
Speaker 1: of watching I was proud of you, and I was

488
00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:45,399
Speaker 1: watching you.

489
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Speaker 2: Thank you. It was so much fun. I walked away

490
00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:49,080
Speaker 2: from it all.

491
00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:52,679
Speaker 4: We chatted after the movie had wrapped, and I was like,

492
00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:54,200
Speaker 4: I see why you do this so much.

493
00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:55,680
Speaker 2: This is so much fun.

494
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Speaker 4: I'd never been on a movie step before, never acted

495
00:21:58,400 --> 00:22:01,000
Speaker 4: in my life, and I'm like, I get it. I

496
00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:03,639
Speaker 4: get why you do so many movies because it's so fun.

497
00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:06,240
Speaker 4: It's fun playing a different character. They're like, can you

498
00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:08,320
Speaker 4: do a big Southern accent? Like, of course, I was

499
00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:10,960
Speaker 4: raised by like a big Southern accent. I like I

500
00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:13,080
Speaker 4: honed in my mother in the way that she spoke.

501
00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:16,679
Speaker 4: I thought about, you know, how would Reese Withers been

502
00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:19,439
Speaker 4: do this? How would Julia robertson Pretty Woman? Like I've

503
00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:21,680
Speaker 4: thought about all these things of like, Okay, how can

504
00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:22,600
Speaker 4: I make this great?

505
00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:24,280
Speaker 2: And I don't know.

506
00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:26,760
Speaker 4: I can see why people love it so much. It's

507
00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:28,960
Speaker 4: it's a different kind of high. It's a different kind

508
00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:30,359
Speaker 4: of excitement. You know.

509
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 3: We get to ask you something that we get to

510
00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:34,879
Speaker 3: ask our actor friends and they come on Okay to

511
00:22:34,920 --> 00:22:36,240
Speaker 3: be interviewed, and this is fun.

512
00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:38,639
Speaker 2: Do I do it or do you do it? Before it?

513
00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 2: What do you love?

514
00:22:39,760 --> 00:22:41,600
Speaker 3: What do you connect with most about the role that

515
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:47,520
Speaker 3: you played? Probably that she was just super positive and

516
00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:51,159
Speaker 3: spoke her mind. For sure, I speak my mind.

517
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 4: I like to be as positive as possible, and she

518
00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:55,840
Speaker 4: just felt like on paper she felt like such a

519
00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:57,560
Speaker 4: girl's girl, and I just loved that.

520
00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:14,359
Speaker 2: What didn't you like about the movie life that you go?

521
00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 2: I think I didn't know.

522
00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:18,000
Speaker 4: I know what it is, but I want to say

523
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:22,119
Speaker 4: the waiting around and me not understanding the schedules, Like

524
00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:24,440
Speaker 4: I would look at paper and be like, why would

525
00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:27,360
Speaker 4: you have me here for a background scene at nine

526
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:31,800
Speaker 4: am and then not need me until seven pm?

527
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Speaker 2: And I'm just sitting around all day eating catering.

528
00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:37,680
Speaker 4: Why wouldn't y'all just put that little scene right before

529
00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:39,480
Speaker 4: so you don't have to pay me all day long?

530
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Speaker 4: Like these are the things I didn't understand of like efficiency, Yes,

531
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Speaker 4: the efficiency.

532
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Speaker 1: And I actually look at her and smile and like

533
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Speaker 1: laugh and be like, oh Jess, like look at it.

534
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Speaker 4: To me, it's like, this doesn't feel strategic to have

535
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 4: me here all day when I like, but it's not

536
00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:56,400
Speaker 4: for me to understand. It's just the way that it's

537
00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 4: set up. But I didn't understand that part.

538
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Speaker 3: I was like sweating bringing my two extras to the set,

539
00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 3: like we got to be there, and are we gonna

540
00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:05,040
Speaker 3: get there? We're gonna be there in time. I had

541
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Speaker 3: my paperwork off and then get there and we just chilled, chilling.

542
00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:11,360
Speaker 3: It was a big, fun, cozy day.

543
00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:12,080
Speaker 2: Oh yeah.

544
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:14,880
Speaker 4: But it's different because you could get there like I did,

545
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:17,920
Speaker 4: on time and then wouldn't shoot till three hours later.

546
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 4: You could get there and they're like you ready, it's time?

547
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:21,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like where have you been?

548
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:22,760
Speaker 4: Yeah?

549
00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 2: What were you most nervous about? Being on set?

550
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:28,880
Speaker 1: And then when people watch the movie, are you like yeah,

551
00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:30,399
Speaker 1: what are what are what are you kind of feeling

552
00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:33,680
Speaker 1: about the world about to see this your first acting debut.

553
00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:38,280
Speaker 4: I think that the world when they see my acting debut,

554
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:41,680
Speaker 4: they're probably I think I did a good job, for sure,

555
00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 4: But I think they're gonna watch it and be like

556
00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:46,840
Speaker 4: Jesse just playing Jesse, She just playing herself.

557
00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 2: It may not.

558
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:52,960
Speaker 4: Totally feel like acting, because it really feels like my energy. Yeah,

559
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 4: you know, that will be maybe the only thing. But

560
00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:00,399
Speaker 4: I think the part it was nervous about I was

561
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:03,000
Speaker 4: remembering the lines. I didn't think I had it in

562
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 4: me to remember. I can remember a song immediately. You

563
00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:07,359
Speaker 4: could play me a song twice and I'll tell you

564
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:10,040
Speaker 4: the whole thing. Yeah, but I've never had to memorize

565
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,760
Speaker 4: lines like this. I'm super add I can just like

566
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:15,760
Speaker 4: space out and I can tell you. I don't know

567
00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:19,119
Speaker 4: that maybe I fumbled my lines. Maybe once I was

568
00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:21,679
Speaker 4: shocked by the memory that I had. I was shocked

569
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:24,119
Speaker 4: that I was able to remember all of these lines

570
00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 4: because I didn't. I had that fear of like what

571
00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 4: if I go on here and I messed it up

572
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:29,520
Speaker 4: for everybody and we got to take a bunch of takes.

573
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:32,399
Speaker 4: Like I hate disappointing people. I hate having to make

574
00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:36,159
Speaker 4: people wait for me. And I was so proud of

575
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:39,120
Speaker 4: myself that I was like, I remembered that a girl.

576
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Speaker 1: And I'm proud of you too. I'm again you did.

577
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:44,320
Speaker 1: You did brilliant work, like seriously, like you're such a

578
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:46,680
Speaker 1: good character actress too. You really bring a lot of

579
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,679
Speaker 1: you know again, like just that that energy that we

580
00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:53,440
Speaker 1: need because I I kind of play you know the that's.

581
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:57,119
Speaker 4: Not true, you are you, it's not true. But with

582
00:25:57,200 --> 00:26:00,520
Speaker 4: this role and with this movie, I love that they

583
00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:04,000
Speaker 4: allowed us to bring a little extra to it. I

584
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:06,240
Speaker 4: don't know how it is with other movies, but they

585
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:09,000
Speaker 4: allowed me to play with it and do extra things,

586
00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:11,840
Speaker 4: be silly, add things to it. I think I added

587
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:13,639
Speaker 4: a couple of lines at one point. It was like

588
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:16,159
Speaker 4: the tomato tomato line. They kept it in there, like

589
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 4: they let like, you know, I love the freedom of it,

590
00:26:19,200 --> 00:26:21,200
Speaker 4: feeling like we were jointly being creative.

591
00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:22,520
Speaker 2: And I feel like you were able to do that

592
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:24,880
Speaker 2: with this. Yeah, I was. It was great.

593
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:26,680
Speaker 1: I'm so proud of you. I'm so proud of you.

594
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:30,240
Speaker 1: You did amazing truly, Well, thank you for giving me

595
00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 1: the opportunity.

596
00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:34,480
Speaker 2: Truly. Well there'll be more. Can I do some more? Yeah?

597
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 2: Of course those others we're talking about.

598
00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:39,680
Speaker 1: I know if Jesse she's trust me, she's on it,

599
00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 1: you know, and we're let's go. Is thattly your next thing?

600
00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:45,240
Speaker 1: Would you want to get on a show or a

601
00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:49,000
Speaker 1: movie or like if you could or cast your acting career,

602
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:49,680
Speaker 1: what would you want?

603
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:52,199
Speaker 4: Well, something I've learned too is I've been auditioning for

604
00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:55,240
Speaker 4: the wrong things because I've been auditioning for years off

605
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:57,440
Speaker 4: and on, not consistently, maybe like two or three a

606
00:26:57,560 --> 00:27:00,679
Speaker 4: year if they feel right, but they've all been like

607
00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 4: serious or playing the sexy girl.

608
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:05,120
Speaker 1: Well, like I sent you my audition for the last

609
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,680
Speaker 1: one that we both auditioned for us and you're like, wait,

610
00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:09,200
Speaker 1: like this made no.

611
00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:11,560
Speaker 4: Sense for me, and you played it, so you should

612
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:13,800
Speaker 4: have had that role. I'm still pissed about it for you.

613
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 4: That was a close one. That was so good.

614
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:17,520
Speaker 2: Should we tell them what it was?

615
00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:22,359
Speaker 4: No? Okay, all right, we can't do day. Yeah, yeah, okay,

616
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:26,159
Speaker 4: it was good. Her audition was fire. I believe I

617
00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 4: was just staring incredible. I know I was staring at

618
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:29,720
Speaker 4: this audition.

619
00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:31,280
Speaker 2: Was like, oh my gosh, you're really going to get

620
00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:36,280
Speaker 2: bitten by that snake. Believe it. I believed it but no.

621
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 4: Watching it back, I watched mine, I just started laughing

622
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 4: and I'm like, oh, lightly, But but from this, I'm like, no,

623
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:45,080
Speaker 4: you are like you are the energy character because you

624
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:45,399
Speaker 4: need that.

625
00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:48,919
Speaker 1: I'm saying, like I do. I play the the middle

626
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,040
Speaker 1: of the ground because you have to have the characters

627
00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:53,760
Speaker 1: around you that bring the light and.

628
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:56,680
Speaker 4: Judge depth though, and you have so much You're able

629
00:27:56,680 --> 00:27:59,720
Speaker 4: to play something like so serious and you're able to cry.

630
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:01,440
Speaker 2: It's just that's so beautiful.

631
00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 4: I but those were the same things I was auditioning for,

632
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:08,879
Speaker 4: and I finally it gave me. You allowing me to

633
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 4: have this opportunity, gave me the confidence of you know what,

634
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 4: I'm never going to be a Meryl Streep, you know, like,

635
00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 4: I'm not going to play seventeen different vibes, seventeen different characters.

636
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:21,960
Speaker 4: But I know now I've been auditioning for the wrong things.

637
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:25,920
Speaker 4: I should be doing comedy. My dreamer would be like

638
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:28,440
Speaker 4: a Rachel Green on Friends or a Phoebe on Friend.

639
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 4: Like I'm good at being silly and my timing like

640
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 4: that is where I would have more success. I should

641
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 4: not be auditioning for these sexy girl roles. I like,

642
00:28:38,320 --> 00:28:42,760
Speaker 4: I'm too silly, like I remember auditioning for something once

643
00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:44,960
Speaker 4: and I had to talk about getting it all with

644
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 4: some guy behind the dunes, and I had to be serious,

645
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 4: and I just kept laughing because I'm like that, feel ridiculous.

646
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 2: Who would do this? Maybe would do this?

647
00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:55,200
Speaker 5: Maybe you would, Maybe.

648
00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:56,240
Speaker 2: You would behind the dinner.

649
00:28:56,720 --> 00:29:04,480
Speaker 5: Maybe I play the friend you call after you did

650
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 5: it behind them, oh my god, or Samantha Jones.

651
00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 2: I would love, Oh my god, I would love to

652
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 2: play Samantha Jones. You would have rocked a Samantha Jones.

653
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:16,640
Speaker 2: I'm the carry. Oh my god, I would love that.

654
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 2: You're both carries. I feel it. Yeah yeah, oh honey,

655
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:22,320
Speaker 2: oh honey.

656
00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:26,440
Speaker 1: Listener questions really fast lightning speed, biggest pet peeve.

657
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 2: Slow drivers? Oh yeah, we are inundated here.

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Speaker 1: Something people misunderstand about her.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, this one's sad. I'm not going to say it.

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00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:45,840
Speaker 2: You have to say that. I know, and it's sad.

661
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:48,520
Speaker 2: People are so mean to be on Instagram because a

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00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 2: chew with my mouth full, like so full like a chipmunk.

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Speaker 2: What what I know? I get?

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Speaker 4: I get like hated on no, but I learned very quickly,

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Speaker 4: very early on. Like I said, they're like I did

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Speaker 4: like sort of like storing food because I didn't.

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Speaker 3: Know because it was a scarcity mindset.

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Speaker 2: Yes, so I would just what I could plate.

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Speaker 1: We always talk about the scarcity mindset where I hoard

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Speaker 1: money because I'm afraid to not have it again, and

671
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Speaker 1: so and mine.

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Speaker 2: Was food, and y'all know I love food, so I would,

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Speaker 2: I would.

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Speaker 4: And you know what's funny is like my my stepdad

675
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Speaker 4: was the one that like pointed that out to me.

676
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Speaker 4: I would like put my arm around my plate and

677
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 4: cover my body with it and put as much food

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Speaker 4: in my mouth as possible because I was afraid. And

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Speaker 4: so I Later on, when my mom and my stepdad

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Speaker 4: got married, that's when things changed, like you know what

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Speaker 4: I mean. And so I remember him seeing us do

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Speaker 4: that and him being like, I think I figured out

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Speaker 4: why you're doing this.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean. But I still like Tailor's

685
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Speaker 2: in here. It works.

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Speaker 4: I fill my cheeks up with food, like I take

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00:30:56,960 --> 00:30:59,480
Speaker 4: too many bites too quickly, and it looks like I'm

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Speaker 4: just being sl but like I don't know how to.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how to not do that.

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Speaker 3: You know, It's just like it's part of who you are. Yes,

691
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Speaker 3: that's not very cute. Hey, it's not about being cute,

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Speaker 3: it's about being honest. That's what we appreciate. And then

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Speaker 3: to that any other lightnings, No, that was.

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Speaker 2: That was my with the two on the cheeks. I

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Speaker 2: want to do another one.

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Speaker 4: Any more babies none, Eric is snipped, No, But I

697
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 4: always do have this like fear that will be like

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Speaker 4: that one percent that like I get knocked up at

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Speaker 4: forty five.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I do have a question.

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Speaker 4: M hm.

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Speaker 1: Social media and your kids? Yeah, are you going to

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Speaker 1: allow it or not? Because I know Viv has her

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Speaker 1: social but you run it or her gymnastics.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I do.

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Speaker 1: What what are you going to do because we're you know,

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Speaker 1: our kids are on the same age, and I think

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Speaker 1: you know, I've had multiple conversations like my kids don't

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Speaker 1: have iPads?

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Speaker 2: They you know, they've we didn't do.

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Speaker 1: It the last time on the airplane E there, I

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Speaker 1: was like their first one with yeah that's usually when

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Speaker 1: we only had topad. But what are you doing around

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00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:01,960
Speaker 1: social media and your kids? So for me, it depends

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Speaker 1: on what they're doing. Okay, if it's mindless rolling, I

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Speaker 1: don't it's not allowed. But to me it's like I

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Speaker 1: can't fight them having this is this generation. We are

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Speaker 1: the first generation that hasn't had it and now has it.

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Speaker 1: So for us, we always have this internal battle every

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Speaker 1: single day, like it's this just terrible thing. It's terrible,

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Speaker 1: it's terrible, and we feel guilty because we didn't have it.

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Speaker 2: Now we do.

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Speaker 4: And it's These kids are born with it there, so

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Speaker 4: they don't think of it any.

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Speaker 2: Other way except well, this is just here.

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Speaker 4: They have iPads assigned to them when they get to

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Speaker 4: middle school, and Vivie has an iPad.

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Speaker 2: She also has a computer.

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Speaker 4: They have these things that are as signed and this

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Speaker 4: is the way of the world. But for me, Forrest

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Speaker 4: does have his iPad. He's seven years old. But you

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Speaker 4: know what Forest is doing. He's playing on garage band.

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Speaker 4: He's creating beats, he's creating music, He's creating dances. That

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Speaker 4: is his creative outlet.

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Speaker 2: I love it. He's using his mind to feel inspired.

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Speaker 4: Or little Eric, he is watching highlight reels of football

737
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Speaker 4: players because he wants to be NFL receiver one day.

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Speaker 4: And he's watching these things and then getting in the

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Speaker 4: mirror and trying.

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Speaker 2: That route out.

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Speaker 4: Or Vivian, she's watching the girl watches so many gymnastics

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Speaker 4: Olympic videos to feel inspired. So it makes me feel

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Speaker 4: no different than sitting in front of the TV watching

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Speaker 4: CMT music videos and practicing in the mirror.

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Speaker 2: I love that outline, so thank you for that.

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Speaker 4: Am I gonna let them sit there and scroll and

747
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Speaker 4: just watch garbage? No, if it's not allowed, they're not allowed.

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Speaker 4: We get notifications if they watch something they're not supposed to,

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Speaker 4: which they don't because they know I've scared them enough.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, there's terrible things out there. Yeah, boys in

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Speaker 4: your brain.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why. I'm like.

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Speaker 1: They used to they used to play read blocks and

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Speaker 1: I was like, no, oh, that's never allowed. And I

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Speaker 1: saw the difference of my son and then like what

756
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Speaker 1: happened like and then when he stopped, you know, it

757
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Speaker 1: was it's such a change.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I no, no to any of those things.

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Speaker 4: But if they're going to use it in a way

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Speaker 4: to feel creative, heck yeah, I absolutely use the tool.

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Speaker 2: You've got the tool. Write a song.

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Speaker 4: He's writing music, he's creating, you know, songs on garage

763
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Speaker 4: love that for him, but anything else, no way, just

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Speaker 4: doing garage band two.

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Speaker 3: And then he puts it, he mirrors it on the

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Speaker 3: living room, like calls us in for the show.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh my god. Forrest does that too, and it's

768
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Speaker 2: like epic, Like I'm like, this is actually really good.

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Speaker 2: I love it. It's remarked. Yeah. I have to limit

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Speaker 2: that though too, because then he just live on it.

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Speaker 1: But Jesse, thank you for coming on the show. Thank

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Speaker 1: you for just again being the light. And I'm so

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Speaker 1: excited for everyone to see the Christmas Ring November six,

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Speaker 1: Jesse is debut acting. I'm really excited for you. It's

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Speaker 1: going to be so much on I love you guys.

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Speaker 1: The next one okay, bye bye,