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Speaker 1: Any Oh, if you make a bad birthday cake, that's

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Speaker 1: not a that's not a dumpable offense. Uh, this seems

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Speaker 1: So this is all to answer the question when is

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Speaker 1: it the time to walk out on a relationship. This

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Speaker 1: comes from known shepherder Sheepherder five eight seven, who says me,

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Speaker 1: thirty female and my fiance thirty two male have been

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Speaker 1: they got they got engaged like in less than a year.

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Speaker 1: This is this is for real. I recently turned thirty

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Speaker 1: around one month ago, and it was a big deal

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Speaker 1: exactly how I wanted to celebrate. I requested a specific

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Speaker 1: and a birthday cake. Typically we take each other out

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Speaker 1: for our birthdays and get gifts, but the request for

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Speaker 1: twenty dollars per entry, and the gift was a jelly

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Speaker 1: I had sent an iPhone note detailing what I wanted,

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Speaker 1: this is a specific thing that Jennifer Garner? Do you

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Speaker 1: cake in question everyone, and I'm a little bit confused here.

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Speaker 1: So the riley, the uh OPI is preparing the birthday

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Speaker 1: no I want. I requested a specific restaurant because that's

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Speaker 2: I'm trying off on the thirteen going on thirty cake?

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Speaker 1: Oh true, is it? Let us stip Let me see

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Speaker 1: which one? What? Click on that one? Goot it over

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Speaker 1: Oh well, But ladies and gentlemen, it's not it's Riley.

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Speaker 1: Is it my birthday? No, it's not my birthday, but

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Speaker 1: someone gave me a gift. Riley really shady t. Hopefully

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Speaker 1: I'm saying that correct. Shady T. With the fifty three

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Speaker 1: That is eighty Australians. Guys, what an incredible donation. Wow,

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Speaker 1: absolutely crazy. Also, Sophia's guys sound off for Sofia in

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Speaker 1: the comments, the space buns are space bunning, You're you're

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Speaker 1: but Riley, let's do let's do it. Let's do a

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Speaker 1: Go ahead, sound off. Ah, I live. Ah, I'm princess Leiah.

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Speaker 3: You're so pretty right, that's right. I am a queen

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Speaker 4: I don't know what's going on this story.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so quick teal dr. So op got in a

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Speaker 1: John Organa, do you know what that means? Is that

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Speaker 5: Good dude, good job? Oh my gosh, I thought you

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Speaker 5: Queen John, that's right. What's tealdr?

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Speaker 1: Oh? Sorry? So the tel dr is uh, they got

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Speaker 1: I got you.

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Speaker 4: Anyway, I think. I think, yeah, if you know what

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Speaker 1: It's been over a month since my birthday, and I've

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Speaker 4: I'd be pretty upset if I was like, Hey, I

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Speaker 4: And they didn't. No one got me that cake.

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Speaker 1: Not fun? Not fun. I asked if she intended to

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Speaker 1: The day was yesterday. We picked it up and I

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Speaker 4: Because I want to be thirty thirty and thriving.

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Speaker 1: It instead said welcome to level thirty, but a little

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Speaker 1: lame if you ask her, that's sun. He misunderstood the

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Speaker 1: I didn't say anything about that, and I still haven't.

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Speaker 4: No, no, put in ic.

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Speaker 1: In the comments. If you know the lies, this cake

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Speaker 4: There's no other way, no other there's no way he

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Speaker 1: Well, it was in the note, black and white. How

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Speaker 1: that's what this is. Gave it to you. Obviously this

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Speaker 4: Am I overreacting?

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Speaker 1: Oh? Whoo? Okay? Am I overreacting to dump him for this?

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Speaker 1: expressly spell out what I want blash need we haven't edit. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I have a request to break this down. What are

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Speaker 4: I think that it's all this is. Seemingly I didn't

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Speaker 4: I don't know if that's breakup worthy, but I think

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so maybe don't like get married yet.

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm kind of this is I'm taking a big

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Speaker 1: and now they're actually like, oh h wait, actually, let

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Speaker 4: I don't they get married?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they've been they've been together for two years.

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Speaker 4: I think if they're engaged, then they should not get married.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Sorry, we've been together for two years, engaged for

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Speaker 1: one year in a couple of months.

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Speaker 4: No, I agree. I think that it's just about communication

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Speaker 4: I'd love to see it because I think this was

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Speaker 4: a classic case of miss communication. Now, mister missus communications communication.

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Speaker 1: She's not married yet?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, snap step, snap of yeah, drag name miscommunication?

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Speaker 4: What do your make up. We'll give you like a.

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Speaker 1: it's great. Well it is Joe. That's the story. That's it.

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Speaker 1: It's not what I think that you're blue, sweet little

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Speaker 4: when you have a three and a half month old baby.

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Speaker 1: Literally, like if anything, you should be like, hey, I

434
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Speaker 1: want to be respectful of your time. I would love

435
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Speaker 1: to come back in your life, but I don't want to.

436
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:02,439
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would love to help out with the baby.

437
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:07,240
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yes, yeah, let me let me a bed.

438
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:09,600
Speaker 1: Make you abandon your child like I did you?

439
00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:17,480
Speaker 4: Like damn, wait until he's thirteen. Then today was his

440
00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:20,080
Speaker 4: only day off this week. The baby had a spiked

441
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:22,719
Speaker 4: fever and is super cranky. I had to call out

442
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:24,600
Speaker 4: of work for the past three days due to this.

443
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:28,200
Speaker 4: I work from home. The house is an absolute mess.

444
00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 4: I haven't showered in four days. Oh, I can't put

445
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 4: the baby down without him screaming I need help. Well

446
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:38,280
Speaker 4: around ten am, his mom calls and says she needs

447
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:40,800
Speaker 4: him because she has a surgery and needs a ride

448
00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:42,480
Speaker 4: to and from. You know what?

449
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:49,119
Speaker 1: You can get what and Uber? Oh, thanks Bob for

450
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 1: driving me.

451
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:52,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe they don't have ubers.

452
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 1: No, get a tax.

453
00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 4: They have Yeah, they've got a taxi. They've got various

454
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Speaker 4: Uber adjacent things. Walk, brawl, yeah, do something metro bus.

455
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 4: So he leaves. There was no prior notice when he

456
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 4: called me an hour and ago. When he called me

457
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:14,720
Speaker 4: an hour ago and told me that her boyfriend is

458
00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:18,480
Speaker 4: there too, what why didn't the boyfriend driver? So I

459
00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:20,719
Speaker 4: asked him, why is he still there when she clearly

460
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 4: has a ride and a supports is him? Yeah, that's

461
00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:25,160
Speaker 4: such a good point. He says that she just asked

462
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Speaker 4: him to be there and he wanted to be there

463
00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 4: for her. Well, he just called me again ten minutes

464
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:32,399
Speaker 4: ago and tells me that she's in recovery and asked

465
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Speaker 4: him not to leave. I told him that I really

466
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:38,400
Speaker 4: need his help and that ever since his mother had

467
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:41,720
Speaker 4: popped back up, he's been m I A and I

468
00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:45,440
Speaker 4: feel like I'm doing everything alone. He told me he's

469
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Speaker 4: sorry that I feel that way, and that he wants

470
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Speaker 4: to be home with us, but his mother needs him.

471
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 4: I guess something inside me just broke when he said that,

472
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Speaker 4: because I'm telling him I need him and his mom

473
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Speaker 4: needing him is more important. So I told him if

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Speaker 4: he didn't come home, I was done. WHOA I would

475
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Speaker 4: file for divorce.

476
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Speaker 1: WHOA?

477
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,359
Speaker 4: I'm not playing second to a mother who ditched her

478
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:13,360
Speaker 4: kids off seventeen years ago and has not seen them

479
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 4: all of and I's seen them all of twice since. Wow,

480
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:18,040
Speaker 4: I am she? Really?

481
00:27:18,960 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 5: She?

482
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 4: Really? What? Men?

483
00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:23,359
Speaker 1: She won the mother of the Year award there with that? Really?

484
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, me needing his help is more important than his

485
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:29,439
Speaker 4: mother wanting him there when she already has support with

486
00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:34,439
Speaker 4: our He says, are you effing serious? And just hung up.

487
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:36,680
Speaker 1: Ooh, I hardly.

488
00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 4: See this man anymore because of this woman, and I

489
00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:41,280
Speaker 4: don't want to live a life like this anymore, even

490
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 4: though it's only been a month and a half since

491
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Speaker 4: it started happening.

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Speaker 1: Am I the ahole?

493
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:48,960
Speaker 4: The hospital is only fifteen minutes from us, So if

494
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Speaker 4: he's not back in thirty minutes, I'm packing my stuff.

495
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 4: And there's a little edit and some comments and an update. Oh,

496
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Speaker 4: I'll read this little edit and then we can get

497
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Speaker 4: into it. Edit. I own a property that I rent

498
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Speaker 4: out for Airbnb. That's where I'll be going. No, I

499
00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 4: don't have a support system. I grew up in the

500
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Speaker 4: foster care. My biological mother died during childbirth and my

501
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 4: dad didn't want me. Oh oh, I was never adopted out.

502
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 4: My best friend moved two years ago. It's just me

503
00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:24,240
Speaker 4: and used to be my husband.

504
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:30,880
Speaker 1: Wow. Oh oh. She doesn't have friends to call on, like.

505
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:33,320
Speaker 4: No family, family like now, no husband.

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Speaker 1: She's yeah, she's truly operating a lot now that her

507
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:38,600
Speaker 1: husband is like effectively.

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Speaker 4: Am I A?

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Speaker 1: Am I A?

510
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 4: Yeah?

511
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Speaker 1: Yeah? Oh man, what are your thoughts here?

512
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 4: I think that it's totally unacceptable that he is not

513
00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 4: there when she has a three and a half month

514
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 4: old baby and he is instead supporting a woman who

515
00:28:57,920 --> 00:29:01,000
Speaker 4: has a support system of her own, has a ride,

516
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 4: doesn't need him there constantly. And it's one thing, as

517
00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,160
Speaker 4: we said before, it's one thing if she's showing up

518
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:09,800
Speaker 4: helping with the baby, saying I want to be back

519
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 4: in your life, but she's actively taking him away from

520
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:14,680
Speaker 4: his responsibility.

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00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 1: As a parent straight up, like I think, And it's

522
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:22,320
Speaker 1: crazy to me that the husband is not seeing that.

523
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:25,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think he maybe is a little bit blinded

524
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 4: by his mom coming back into his life.

525
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's probably like the childhood trauma of like okay,

526
00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 1: like let me, you know, let me please her and

527
00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:34,920
Speaker 1: like do all these things so that way she won't

528
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 1: abandon me again.

529
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 4: Yeah.

530
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Speaker 1: Wow, I'm a therapist out here. A radish says conspiracy theory,

531
00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:42,160
Speaker 1: husband is trying too hard to please his mom so

532
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 1: she doesn't leave. Agreed, there you go. Agreed, totally see

533
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:49,440
Speaker 1: what you're totally picking up what you're putting down, Radish,

534
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 1: I would saking picking it up. Let me ask you this,

535
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:57,600
Speaker 1: Sophia ask so I I do honestly agree, and I'm

536
00:29:57,640 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 1: aligned with like, hey, if this is how the marriage

537
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:03,440
Speaker 1: is going to go, I can't like you this way

538
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:07,760
Speaker 1: because I need at least find some you know, ultimately

539
00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 1: someone who will be supportive. I wonder if it was

540
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 1: said that way versus like be here by X time

541
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:18,880
Speaker 1: tomorrow or I'm sending you divorce papers.

542
00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 4: So communication and a bit more.

543
00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, just like like making it more of a conversation,

544
00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 1: like and honestly, like I I don't even think I'm

545
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:30,000
Speaker 1: mad at her necessarily for being like I don't think

546
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 1: I can be in a marriage like this, but if

547
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:36,040
Speaker 1: you said it like literally like that where it's like

548
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:39,400
Speaker 1: like hey, kind of like almost giving him the the option,

549
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 1: like all right, like you can choose, Like I need,

550
00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:45,000
Speaker 1: this is what I need. I need a supportive partner

551
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 1: who will help me with the baby and not like

552
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:50,280
Speaker 1: abandon me for a mom who abandoned them. Ouch. But

553
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:53,520
Speaker 1: it's true. I feel like maybe he might have would

554
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:55,480
Speaker 1: have been more receptive, and I think he's in a

555
00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 1: reality distortion fe right now.

556
00:30:56,960 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 4: I agree.

557
00:30:57,720 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 1: I think that he doesn't excuse me, he's done. Yeah,

558
00:30:59,520 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 1: all them.

559
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:01,880
Speaker 4: I think you're right. I think it would maybe be

560
00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 4: more effective if she had kind of approached it with

561
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:10,320
Speaker 4: just more level of like a higher level of communication. First. However,

562
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:14,719
Speaker 4: I think that she hasn't like slept properly, and she

563
00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:17,840
Speaker 4: hasn't showered in four days, and she's probably like at

564
00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 4: her wits end taking care of a three and a

565
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:22,480
Speaker 4: half month old baby who is constantly crying because that

566
00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 4: has a fever. So I think that she probably just

567
00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:30,920
Speaker 4: doesn't have the capacity to approach this conversation with maybe

568
00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 4: the care that it needs.

569
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:39,120
Speaker 1: I'm on board with that, Yeah, I agree. Yeah, I

570
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 1: feel like if I if I had just pushed out

571
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 1: a baby and I was running rampant for four days,

572
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 1: I'd be I'd be a nasty nelly.

573
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:58,240
Speaker 4: I'd be a nasty gal. That's right, Stay up, hello,

574
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 4: el Okay, let's continue with the story though comments Alena

575
00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 4: George says, not the a hole. Why is she back?

576
00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 4: Is she getting older and needs someone to take care

577
00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 4: of her? Does she need a kidney? No one pops

578
00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 4: back into another person's life like this, right, there.

579
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:18,360
Speaker 1: Must be a reason. Facts.

580
00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:22,480
Speaker 4: Well, don I think we're the sleuths here because we're

581
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 4: gonna get to the bottom of this. Okay, your spouse

582
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 4: is trying to play perfect son with the mother who

583
00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 4: abandoned him, and in the process is abandoning his own

584
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:35,479
Speaker 4: child the irony. What do his siblings say? Are they

585
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:39,520
Speaker 4: letting her back in a whiskey into Tiara says, kidney, money,

586
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 4: place to live, or just stroking her own ego?

587
00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 1: She wants something.

588
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 4: Red of the evil dad says probably the ego thing.

589
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:50,360
Speaker 4: She heard he had a baby and realized she wasn't

590
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 4: involved as the grandmother. She doesn't want to be involved

591
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 4: as a grandmother, but if she can't be involved with

592
00:32:56,440 --> 00:33:00,840
Speaker 4: her grandson, then neither can her kid narciss itit's narcissists

593
00:33:00,840 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 4: really get off on stealing people away from their family.

594
00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:07,200
Speaker 4: And there are just a bunch of other comments kind

595
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 4: of going into the possible reasonings, but I think maybe

596
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 4: we get into this update.

597
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 1: Let's do it.

598
00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 4: Update A few hours later, on my way to the

599
00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 4: airbnb now, the last phone call I received was him

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Speaker 4: telling me his mother would be discharged within the hour

601
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 4: and he would be home after dropping her off. Her boyfriend,

602
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 4: who lives with her, is still at the hospital. He

603
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:35,720
Speaker 4: could drive her, but mommy won't set precious Sun too,

604
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 4: so I'm leaving. Thank you everyone who took the time

605
00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:44,000
Speaker 4: to comment. I will update as the night progresses. There

606
00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 4: are some more comments, and that is it just comments.

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Speaker 4: Just wow, that's the end of that story. But I'll

608
00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:56,880
Speaker 4: read the comments, okay. Dshi Me says, not the a hole.

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00:33:57,000 --> 00:33:58,880
Speaker 4: I always thought that as soon as you get married

610
00:33:58,920 --> 00:34:02,240
Speaker 4: and have a child, you're nuclear family is the top priority.

611
00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 4: It's a pity that op does not have a support system.

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00:34:05,480 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 4: Please be strong and fresh. Caramel says, oh Bily, not

613
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:12,560
Speaker 4: the ahole. I don't know if you're actually ready to

614
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:15,799
Speaker 4: file divorce, but packing up and leaving and not being

615
00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:18,359
Speaker 4: there when he gets home. I hope that's the wake

616
00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:22,320
Speaker 4: up call he needs. He has to get his priorities straight.

617
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:28,560
Speaker 4: She's got to get a priority straight from Hypota. That's

618
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:29,239
Speaker 4: what I was thinking him.

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Speaker 1: Dang it.

620
00:34:29,680 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 4: Should remember the full quote though I missed it. It's

621
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:34,759
Speaker 4: fine if he wants to get to know his mother.

622
00:34:35,040 --> 00:34:37,480
Speaker 4: I'm sure he has some trauma from her leaving him,

623
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Speaker 4: but spending time with her needs to be planned ahead

624
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:43,279
Speaker 4: of time and only after he's taken care of his

625
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 4: responsibilities at home. One thing though, that I need to mention.

626
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 4: You clearly take issue with the fact she hasn't helped

627
00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:54,759
Speaker 4: your child. Well not everyone is a baby person, and

628
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 4: it's okay if she doesn't want to hold your child. Oh,

629
00:34:57,560 --> 00:34:59,319
Speaker 4: and it's okay if she doesn't want to hold your child.

630
00:34:59,719 --> 00:35:02,719
Speaker 4: So on that front, you need to adjust your expectations

631
00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:05,440
Speaker 4: of what kind of grandmother she is. She doesn't really

632
00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:08,440
Speaker 4: seem to want that role. And again that's fine, and

633
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:11,920
Speaker 4: heck is it really unexpected she left her children And

634
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:15,120
Speaker 4: op responds, it's not about her not wanting to hold

635
00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:15,680
Speaker 4: my baby.

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00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 1: It's the fact that.

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00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:19,759
Speaker 4: She showed up after we had a child, after not

638
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:22,960
Speaker 4: seeing him for twelve years and then refuse to be

639
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:25,920
Speaker 4: involved with me or the baby at all, coming here

640
00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 4: and making him sit outside with her and away from

641
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 4: his family, and then just asking him to go to

642
00:35:30,640 --> 00:35:33,319
Speaker 4: her place almost four days a week. It's like she's

643
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 4: purposely getting him far away from me and our child.

644
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:42,360
Speaker 4: And that, my friends, is the end of the story.

645
00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's not. I don't think it is that

646
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:53,239
Speaker 1: that the grandma is not a baby person. No, that's

647
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 1: not the problem. Man's such a weird comment.

648
00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:57,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, like you don't understand some people aren't baby people,

649
00:35:57,600 --> 00:35:58,520
Speaker 4: which is true.

650
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:02,240
Speaker 1: But that's not the issue. The issues that she's taking.

651
00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 4: Like I don't care about this grandma honestly, Like the husband, like.

652
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna parent this kid. I'm just not a

653
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 1: baby person.

654
00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:12,359
Speaker 4: Get it.

655
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:14,799
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe when they're thirty and they have a kid

656
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:17,879
Speaker 1: of their own, yeah, then they're adult. But for now

657
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 1: they're a baby. They're a baby, so I can't I know, you're.

658
00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:24,400
Speaker 4: A Yeah, if you're a parent and you don't you know,

659
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:27,040
Speaker 4: you don't go through the route of adoption or something,

660
00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:30,480
Speaker 4: and you decide to stay a parent, you gotta be

661
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 4: a little bit of baby person. Come on, Yes, I mean,

662
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:36,080
Speaker 4: like not not that like you are, but like you

663
00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:37,520
Speaker 4: have to step up and be a little bit.

664
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:40,400
Speaker 1: It's just like like things like I don't know, getting

665
00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:43,359
Speaker 1: I don't bring the baby to the crib, or like

666
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 1: bringing like a boy. I don't like it's it doesn't

667
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:49,920
Speaker 1: seem like a heinous crime for somebody like, oh, hey,

668
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 1: could you, like I don't know, help, can you move

669
00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 1: this baby? You don't have to like the baby.

670
00:36:56,560 --> 00:36:59,760
Speaker 2: You gotta just you just gotta deal with the people

671
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:01,280
Speaker 2: that doesn't like babies.

672
00:37:01,520 --> 00:37:06,920
Speaker 1: Wellike, I actually love babies. I think it's ugly, all

673
00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:08,279
Speaker 1: pretty simple.

674
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:08,920
Speaker 4: Classic.

675
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:10,839
Speaker 1: What's the question of this episode again?

676
00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 2: When is it time to walk out of a relationship?

677
00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 1: Yes? And this is Wow, what a story for it

678
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:20,400
Speaker 1: because op just walked out, did it? I think the

679
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:23,759
Speaker 1: commentary who said maybe this is to wake up call

680
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:25,400
Speaker 1: he'll need, I think that's accurate.

681
00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 4: I think that's true. I think that maybe he'll realize

682
00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:28,960
Speaker 4: it's been a month and a half, which I think

683
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:31,960
Speaker 4: is a very long time to not be fully active

684
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:33,280
Speaker 4: parent for a baby.

685
00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 1: Dude crazy, But hopefully.

686
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:41,279
Speaker 4: This kind of jogs him out of his little I

687
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:46,800
Speaker 4: don't know state of something. Yeah, hole, it dogs amount

688
00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:48,520
Speaker 4: of I don't know what I'm trying to say. It

689
00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:49,319
Speaker 4: digs him out of his.

690
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:52,240
Speaker 1: Hole to be digging a hole, a little floth or something.

691
00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:53,520
Speaker 1: He digs himself out of ground.

692
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:57,880
Speaker 4: There we go, Yeah, and wakes up to the reality

693
00:37:57,960 --> 00:37:58,640
Speaker 4: of the situation.

694
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 1: Smell the roses, roses, bell the coffee because you're dumped.

695
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:08,680
Speaker 1: Ooh that's the suck ah.

696
00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 4: But yeah, that's the end of that story. But we

697
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 4: do have another story. But let's read some of.

698
00:38:13,040 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 1: These duni shits. Oh no, we're Midnayokai.

699
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:18,640
Speaker 4: Thanks for the five buck tip, making it rain like

700
00:38:18,760 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 4: pac Man Jones insert pimp walk here. I don't know

701
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:24,239
Speaker 4: the reference you make.

702
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:25,360
Speaker 1: Do you know that reference?

703
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:25,640
Speaker 4: John?

704
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:28,239
Speaker 2: It said pimp walk and you're pimp So I didn't

705
00:38:28,280 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 2: know if you knew what that is.

706
00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 4: No, no, uh lander. Thank you for the five buck tip.

707
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:39,520
Speaker 4: So happy to catch you live. Second win of the

708
00:38:39,600 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 4: day botox shot in legs was the first. I had

709
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:46,440
Speaker 4: a hard week with my spinal cord injury out. I'm

710
00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:48,759
Speaker 4: so sorry, and listening to you live is helping me

711
00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:51,040
Speaker 4: to get excited about the weekend. Thank you.

712
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:54,399
Speaker 1: Marked to the Chaff for Landers and.

713
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:57,680
Speaker 4: Deadly Cat sixty seven. Thank you for the five buck tip. Riley,

714
00:38:57,719 --> 00:39:01,200
Speaker 4: we want to see your forehead. Please put hair up

715
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:03,440
Speaker 4: into buns like John and Sofia.

716
00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 1: Why this is their thing? They want to see it?

717
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:09,359
Speaker 4: Give the they want.

718
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 1: I don't think. Just do this like Harry, do the

719
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 1: Harry Potter.

720
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 4: I can give you clips.

721
00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:15,520
Speaker 1: They want to see my forehead. I don't even have

722
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:16,040
Speaker 1: enough hair.

723
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:19,920
Speaker 4: Wait, draw a scar on your forehead and then do they.

724
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:22,400
Speaker 2: I did that when I was five. I was Harry

725
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:23,360
Speaker 2: Potter when I was fine.

726
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:28,839
Speaker 4: When you're twenty three. We're both twenty three now and

727
00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 4: I and as equals. I'd like to come to you

728
00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 4: and ask you to put.

729
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:42,239
Speaker 1: No goatics. Oh my gosh. Also, I will be leaving soon,

730
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 1: but not yet. Would you stops edging me? I I

731
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:49,360
Speaker 1: gave you more time. What do you want for me?

732
00:39:49,680 --> 00:39:53,759
Speaker 1: Just stay? Okay, Sophia, if you could read the next

733
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:57,759
Speaker 1: story and I will comment what there's to be coming

734
00:39:57,800 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 1: to the pot Okay?

735
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 2: Head slip Tom? What's up with y'all? My forehead?

736
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:06,120
Speaker 1: You saw it? You saw it on the show today.

737
00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:08,719
Speaker 1: I said to young Riley, forehead show it.

738
00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:11,360
Speaker 4: You look like a completely different person.

739
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 1: That's true. Wow, I really glew up. Okay, but you're

740
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:18,880
Speaker 1: still good looking back then too. Oh thanks dude both.

741
00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 4: Ready.

742
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:22,520
Speaker 1: Yes, I'm sorry.

743
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:26,280
Speaker 4: Am I the a hole for not telling my husband

744
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:27,560
Speaker 4: I got a bonus?

745
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:29,080
Speaker 1: Yes, give me the money.

746
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:33,480
Speaker 4: Give it money was going And this is to answer

747
00:40:33,520 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 4: the question of when is it time to walk out

748
00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:40,479
Speaker 4: on a relationship. So Glass status five eight three seven

749
00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:44,640
Speaker 4: says I forty one female, married my husband forty five

750
00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:49,840
Speaker 4: male last November. Congrats. We only finally moved in together

751
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 4: a few months before the wedding, had been dating for

752
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:56,240
Speaker 4: three years. On paper, I earned more than he does,

753
00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 4: but I end up bringing home about the same as

754
00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 4: he does because I have health, vision, dental, long and

755
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 4: short term disability, life insurance, and retirement taken out of

756
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:11,479
Speaker 4: my check. I ouch, uh, he doesn't. We have really

757
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 4: been butting heads over money lately. I still have to

758
00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:17,319
Speaker 4: give him half the rent, but he literally pays for

759
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:21,759
Speaker 4: nothing else. I pay all the utilities, phone bill, groceries,

760
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 4: cleaning supplies, and just about everything else. Oh, electric is

761
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:28,439
Speaker 4: through the roof right now because of the heat wave.

762
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 4: I think at that point, if you're having problems, just

763
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:31,400
Speaker 4: split it down the middle.

764
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:37,839
Speaker 1: Yeah do you think not as long as so?

765
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 6: Oh?

766
00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's it doesn't I end up bringing

767
00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 4: home about the same as he does. That's what it says.

768
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 1: Oh, I totally missed that.

769
00:41:52,040 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 2: Investing in gambling, and he's trying to triple his money.

770
00:41:57,160 --> 00:42:01,319
Speaker 1: And then triple down partner that puppy home until we

771
00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:01,839
Speaker 1: win big.

772
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:02,240
Speaker 4: Yeah.

773
00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 1: True.

774
00:42:03,120 --> 00:42:06,520
Speaker 4: I think the issue here is that he might think

775
00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:09,560
Speaker 4: that she earns more, but she's saying we earn the

776
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:13,120
Speaker 4: same because of all the stuff that's taken out. So

777
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:16,080
Speaker 4: he might be thinking, oh, she should pay more because

778
00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:17,879
Speaker 4: she makes more than me. But she's like, well, I'm

779
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:20,360
Speaker 4: paying for short term disability, life insurance retirement.

780
00:42:20,480 --> 00:42:23,360
Speaker 1: That's where I was mistaken. Yeah, yeah, I think. I

781
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 1: think when you're when you're that close in yeah, like

782
00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:32,080
Speaker 1: close enough, I think split it in half at a minimum,

783
00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:35,319
Speaker 1: split it equitably. So figure out what is the like

784
00:42:35,400 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: percentage that you each have and you can contribute that. Agreed.

785
00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:42,640
Speaker 4: We have really been Isaac that the issue is that

786
00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:45,440
Speaker 4: I'm often out of money by the time IN pay everything.

787
00:42:46,239 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 4: By the time IN pay everything, that.

788
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:49,879
Speaker 1: Means the time I pay everything.

789
00:42:49,680 --> 00:42:52,480
Speaker 4: Ah, that makes sense. By the time I pay everything,

790
00:42:52,880 --> 00:42:56,000
Speaker 4: and I'm left with absolutely nothing some weeks, Oh my god,

791
00:42:56,440 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 4: he goes suborbital and tell me that I need to

792
00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 4: save my money, and is reluctant and is reluctant to

793
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:04,960
Speaker 4: even peel off a five dollars.

794
00:43:05,160 --> 00:43:07,720
Speaker 1: Bill for a soap. No, no soap?

795
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 4: What yet he is constantly finding a new hobby to

796
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 4: hyper focus on. Lately, it's been his electric bicycle. Every week,

797
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:21,600
Speaker 4: there's packages with new parts for it. It's all he

798
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 4: talks about. Back when I got my Christmas bonus, it

799
00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:27,319
Speaker 4: was his RC car, which he doesn't even look at now,

800
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:29,400
Speaker 4: and I had to pay a huge amount of money

801
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:30,920
Speaker 4: for parts and censors, et cetera.

802
00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:32,120
Speaker 1: He's just a big kid.

803
00:43:32,239 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 4: I was about to say, he sounds like a child.

804
00:43:34,280 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 1: If she had saved that soap money, maybe she wouldn't

805
00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:38,879
Speaker 1: have had to buy all the RC.

806
00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:41,919
Speaker 4: And maybe she would have had money for this. When

807
00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 4: tax time came around and he found out how much

808
00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:47,799
Speaker 4: my tax refund was going to be, he pestered me

809
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:55,600
Speaker 4: for weeks over a wildly expensive handgun what as it?

810
00:43:57,160 --> 00:44:00,360
Speaker 4: And he talked about it every waking moment, literally wouldn't

811
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:03,240
Speaker 4: leave me alone, literally.

812
00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:04,840
Speaker 1: Like a like a four year old, like please.

813
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 2: Please please pay so.

814
00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:08,800
Speaker 4: What my ass? He called? And I want my expensive

815
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:12,319
Speaker 4: handgun and he's my birthday coming up, so I think

816
00:44:12,360 --> 00:44:13,840
Speaker 4: that you really should give it to me.

817
00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:18,040
Speaker 1: That was great, Thank you. It's a great impression of child.

818
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:22,040
Speaker 4: Uh So I bought it because he insisted it was

819
00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:25,680
Speaker 4: the one thing he wanted. He then went and spent

820
00:44:25,760 --> 00:44:30,560
Speaker 4: his little bit of pocket We just had a really

821
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:35,759
Speaker 4: loud firework four to thirty in the afternoon.

822
00:44:35,920 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 1: More under attacking the Princess, Protect the Queen, Protect the Queen.

823
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:45,320
Speaker 4: He then went and spent his little bit of pocket

824
00:44:45,320 --> 00:44:48,760
Speaker 4: money buying AMMO and a holster. It sits in a drawer.

825
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:54,120
Speaker 4: Oh my, it's been fired exactly once. I like guns

826
00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:56,919
Speaker 4: as much as the next person. But we have other guns.

827
00:44:57,360 --> 00:44:58,920
Speaker 4: I don't know if that's I don't know what like

828
00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 4: a who know about that. I like guns as much

829
00:45:06,640 --> 00:45:07,440
Speaker 4: as the next person.

830
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:09,279
Speaker 2: I don't think I probably don't live here.

831
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:10,160
Speaker 1: They probably.

832
00:45:12,120 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 4: The person that we're talking about. But we have other guns.

833
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:19,760
Speaker 4: I don't understand why he had to have an eleven

834
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:21,840
Speaker 4: hundred dollars gun if he wouldn't even go to the

835
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:22,440
Speaker 4: range with it.

836
00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:25,319
Speaker 2: Because he's a big kids. The kid, this is what's

837
00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:27,359
Speaker 2: gonna happen with the gun. Okay, he's gonna he's gonna

838
00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:28,879
Speaker 2: have a friend of her and he's gonna be like, hey, friend,

839
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:30,680
Speaker 2: check this out. Look out, how cool this is? You

840
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:33,160
Speaker 2: want to hold it? Feel that weight with that? Isn't

841
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 2: that cool?

842
00:45:33,680 --> 00:45:33,879
Speaker 1: Yeah?

843
00:45:33,920 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 2: And then they'll leave it alone. That's what they do

844
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 2: with guns.

845
00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 1: Do I know this?

846
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:43,279
Speaker 4: Maybe, which leads up back to the e bike and

847
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:46,680
Speaker 4: the present. I work for a small but very rapidly

848
00:45:46,719 --> 00:45:49,880
Speaker 4: growing company. I'm not earning a ton right now, but

849
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 4: I got on with this company at exactly the right time.

850
00:45:52,880 --> 00:45:58,480
Speaker 4: Generous PTO pretty much unlimited voluntary overtime, constant recognition for

851
00:45:58,520 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 4: hard work, and amazing loads of performance incentives, a lot

852
00:46:02,640 --> 00:46:05,640
Speaker 4: of focus on employee wellness and work life balance. At

853
00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:07,879
Speaker 4: least once per month, we get to go home early

854
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:12,719
Speaker 4: on Friday with pay and hybrid workplace options. They give

855
00:46:12,760 --> 00:46:16,400
Speaker 4: away free pgo like it's candy. Always handing out bonuses,

856
00:46:16,480 --> 00:46:18,400
Speaker 4: even if they're just one hundred dollars.

857
00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:23,880
Speaker 1: That's great, that's like my job. Yeah.

858
00:46:23,960 --> 00:46:24,760
Speaker 4: Do we get PTO?

859
00:46:25,640 --> 00:46:30,920
Speaker 1: Yes? Yeah, Oh that's true. That's sick.

860
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:34,000
Speaker 4: I don't know. I haven't gone on vacation yet.

861
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:35,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, time going.

862
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:39,800
Speaker 4: We've been going through this huge restructuring because we're going

863
00:46:39,840 --> 00:46:42,239
Speaker 4: so quickly. I'm pretty good at what I do, so

864
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:45,080
Speaker 4: I'm often done with my work early and volunteer to

865
00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:48,840
Speaker 4: pick up work from other departments because frankly, we're all

866
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 4: collectively drowning in work. I had my annual review yesterday

867
00:46:53,400 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 4: and I was informed that I'm getting a bonus. Oh my,

868
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:05,560
Speaker 4: I'm right, nothing crazy, but definitely substantial. I decided not

869
00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:09,200
Speaker 4: to tell my husband. We have separate bake accounts. Bills

870
00:47:09,239 --> 00:47:11,439
Speaker 4: are piling up, but I decided I'm going to put

871
00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 4: that money into my savings account to use as my

872
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 4: personal pocket money. I just know that the second I

873
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:19,960
Speaker 4: mention it, he's going to corner me and pester me

874
00:47:20,040 --> 00:47:23,120
Speaker 4: with photos of bike parts and god knows what else.

875
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:26,120
Speaker 1: Non stop pause, pause, let's pause.

876
00:47:28,480 --> 00:47:31,840
Speaker 4: The issue is not I think the root of the

877
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 4: issue was not. Oh I kept the secret from my husband. Yes,

878
00:47:35,920 --> 00:47:38,279
Speaker 4: because if this was a different relationship, I'd be like,

879
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:41,600
Speaker 4: you should not keep that should secret? You should tell that.

880
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:47,760
Speaker 4: The root is that Opie's husband sucks and you should

881
00:47:47,840 --> 00:47:49,440
Speaker 4: divorce him.

882
00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:53,560
Speaker 2: I he's gonna ask you for money to pay his lawyer.

883
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:56,360
Speaker 4: I really want a lawyer.

884
00:47:56,840 --> 00:47:58,480
Speaker 1: Please, what the best lawyer?

885
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:05,879
Speaker 4: He's like, really cool and he's got like he's got

886
00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:07,719
Speaker 4: like a lot of clients, and I think it would

887
00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:10,560
Speaker 4: be really nice and I had him, but you can't

888
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 4: have him.

889
00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 1: My lawyer I found him. It annoys me to no end.

890
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: I've said this on the show, but like one of

891
00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:20,879
Speaker 1: my biggest pet peeves is someone like not Ven wolling

892
00:48:20,960 --> 00:48:30,239
Speaker 1: me back and the yeah, you're safe. Okay, there's no

893
00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:33,440
Speaker 1: subs at all happening right now. We're fully up to

894
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 1: date except for rent. You're right, so, but they're just kidding.

895
00:48:42,239 --> 00:48:45,520
Speaker 1: So this is that times a thousand, Yeah, because they're

896
00:48:45,560 --> 00:48:49,759
Speaker 1: begging for Oh, this isn't even like I'll pay you back.

897
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:51,520
Speaker 4: This is let me take your money.

898
00:48:51,520 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 1: He gives no respect, like he has no respect. And

899
00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 1: the fact that he buys it and sets it down,

900
00:48:56,840 --> 00:49:01,880
Speaker 1: it would set me off. Now if I have a

901
00:49:01,960 --> 00:49:06,880
Speaker 1: kajillion dollars and they're like, hey, can I get this couch?

902
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:10,640
Speaker 1: Get a couch, I don't care. But if it's like

903
00:49:10,760 --> 00:49:13,840
Speaker 1: a meaningful amount of money, which it is, top it

904
00:49:13,960 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 1: was her whole tax refund, No.

905
00:49:16,600 --> 00:49:22,560
Speaker 4: No, no, sell that gun bike, sell it, get your

906
00:49:22,600 --> 00:49:23,720
Speaker 4: money back.

907
00:49:23,880 --> 00:49:27,080
Speaker 1: Honestly, sell the RC car. See if he notices, and

908
00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:31,000
Speaker 1: then you wouldn't even notice. Bad but good.

909
00:49:31,280 --> 00:49:34,160
Speaker 2: I feel like I feel like the gun and the

910
00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:37,000
Speaker 2: the E bike will be harder to get under his nose,

911
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 2: but the RC.

912
00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:41,480
Speaker 1: Bike or thing, Honestly, it would be interesting to sell

913
00:49:41,520 --> 00:49:43,319
Speaker 1: it and then see how long he takes a notice.

914
00:49:43,320 --> 00:49:44,840
Speaker 1: He'd be like, why did you sell it? And be

915
00:49:44,840 --> 00:49:50,280
Speaker 1: like it was sold two months ago? Why didn't you notice?

916
00:49:51,040 --> 00:49:53,160
Speaker 1: You know so much? But yeah, I think I think

917
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:56,120
Speaker 1: you're exactly right. I think uh Op does need to

918
00:49:56,160 --> 00:49:59,960
Speaker 1: sit down and be like, you cannot do this anymore,

919
00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:03,359
Speaker 1: sell all of those things and like let's at least

920
00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:07,200
Speaker 1: get what little money back we can of them, or.

921
00:50:07,320 --> 00:50:11,640
Speaker 4: I'm gone, I'm taking your RC car and I'm driving

922
00:50:11,719 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 4: into the sun.

923
00:50:12,520 --> 00:50:17,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just so you know, when they like start

924
00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:22,080
Speaker 1: a race or whatever, or like a cowboy writing office exactly,

925
00:50:22,840 --> 00:50:25,600
Speaker 1: it is just so disrespectful to me. It's it's infuriating.

926
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:26,080
Speaker 1: I hate it.

927
00:50:26,280 --> 00:50:27,359
Speaker 4: I hate it. I hate it.

928
00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:28,279
Speaker 1: I hate it.

929
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:33,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, boyly, but there's a little bit more to this story.

930
00:50:34,040 --> 00:50:36,680
Speaker 2: Sorry, but that that's what infuriates me the most in

931
00:50:36,719 --> 00:50:40,960
Speaker 2: relationship is whenever the guy financially takes advantage of a

932
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:44,759
Speaker 2: woman in like, come on, dude, you need to be

933
00:50:44,760 --> 00:50:47,759
Speaker 2: paying for her on the dates because she takes so

934
00:50:47,840 --> 00:50:49,879
Speaker 2: much time getting ready and you treat her.

935
00:50:49,920 --> 00:50:50,520
Speaker 1: What are you doing?

936
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:54,839
Speaker 4: I think in general, I'm against exploiting financially.

937
00:50:55,360 --> 00:50:57,240
Speaker 1: Come on, let the guy pay.

938
00:50:57,560 --> 00:51:00,520
Speaker 4: No. I think I think there are times when it's fine,

939
00:51:00,560 --> 00:51:03,239
Speaker 4: but I just think I think you shouldn't be. I

940
00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:05,960
Speaker 4: think I've talked about this before. If someone's paying for me,

941
00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:08,680
Speaker 4: regardless of gender, regardless of like if it's a you know,

942
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:10,879
Speaker 4: a date, or if it's just a friend, I will

943
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:12,520
Speaker 4: get the cheapest thing on the menu.

944
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:17,160
Speaker 1: I like splitting. I just like to because I just

945
00:51:17,280 --> 00:51:19,279
Speaker 1: feel I can. I can get what I want. I'm

946
00:51:19,280 --> 00:51:22,319
Speaker 1: not bothering the other person. Yeah, you know, well that's

947
00:51:22,360 --> 00:51:22,560
Speaker 1: the thing.

948
00:51:22,560 --> 00:51:24,239
Speaker 4: If I want, if I'm like I'm gonna get something,

949
00:51:24,719 --> 00:51:25,719
Speaker 4: I'll be like, I'm gonsa split it.

950
00:51:25,880 --> 00:51:26,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

951
00:51:26,239 --> 00:51:28,520
Speaker 4: But if it's like if someone's if I know that

952
00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:31,880
Speaker 4: someone someone said like it saw on me or something cheap,

953
00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:32,879
Speaker 4: I'm going cheap.

954
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:37,399
Speaker 1: Same. That's right, he's sounding off.

955
00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:39,040
Speaker 4: You should come in and play it.

956
00:51:39,719 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 1: No, we can't. We guys, I'm telling you, if he.

957
00:51:42,760 --> 00:51:47,120
Speaker 4: Comes coming, welcome, Welcome?

958
00:51:47,719 --> 00:51:48,200
Speaker 1: Is that it?

959
00:51:48,800 --> 00:51:52,000
Speaker 4: Wait? Give them the crown, put the crown on.

960
00:51:53,320 --> 00:51:56,720
Speaker 2: We are on, I'm so on right now.

961
00:51:59,760 --> 00:52:05,760
Speaker 4: Put that crown on and then comes down. Oh right, okay,

962
00:52:07,200 --> 00:52:09,560
Speaker 4: OPI says. I told my aunts and a couple of

963
00:52:09,600 --> 00:52:13,040
Speaker 4: trusted close friends about it. They all say it's amazing,

964
00:52:13,239 --> 00:52:16,799
Speaker 4: but I should use the money to get caught up

965
00:52:16,800 --> 00:52:20,279
Speaker 4: on bills and what if there's an emergency. He knows

966
00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:24,600
Speaker 4: I use this app thing to pay for mindless games.

967
00:52:25,440 --> 00:52:27,120
Speaker 4: I play them while I sit on hold or in

968
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:31,160
Speaker 4: the evenings while I'm decompressing. Obviously, it doesn't pay retirement money,

969
00:52:31,200 --> 00:52:32,960
Speaker 4: but I do get a little pocket money from it.

970
00:52:33,120 --> 00:52:35,920
Speaker 4: So I plan to just tell him it's the game money. Oh,

971
00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:38,040
Speaker 4: she's playing one of the games that pays you to

972
00:52:38,080 --> 00:52:41,280
Speaker 4: play it. I think that's the situation. If he happens

973
00:52:41,280 --> 00:52:44,000
Speaker 4: to notice I have a little extra money, I feel guilty,

974
00:52:44,120 --> 00:52:45,799
Speaker 4: but I know that my life would be a living

975
00:52:45,920 --> 00:52:49,960
Speaker 4: nightmare until I conceded moving out isn't an option right now.

976
00:52:50,120 --> 00:52:54,440
Speaker 4: I live in an lcol area, but rent has become

977
00:52:54,600 --> 00:52:57,320
Speaker 4: so inflated the past two years that there is absolutely

978
00:52:57,360 --> 00:53:01,120
Speaker 4: no way I can afford to get an apartment by myself.

979
00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:04,799
Speaker 4: Am I the a hole? No? Just leave him?

980
00:53:05,320 --> 00:53:05,759
Speaker 1: Leave him?

981
00:53:06,120 --> 00:53:06,239
Speaker 6: Uh?

982
00:53:06,400 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 1: What say? You, sir, Anthony here, hold on, let me Riley,

983
00:53:13,560 --> 00:53:14,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna unplug and replug.

984
00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 2: Okay, I don't know.

985
00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:24,480
Speaker 4: Are your crowns the grounds basically t L d R

986
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:30,560
Speaker 4: for you, Anthony opi uh Opie's husband always asks for

987
00:53:30,680 --> 00:53:33,160
Speaker 4: gifts out of her own money, and he's like, I.

988
00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 1: Want this gun, I want this Carl.

989
00:53:35,960 --> 00:53:38,520
Speaker 4: And she got a bonus and she decided not to

990
00:53:38,560 --> 00:53:41,840
Speaker 4: tell it tell her husband that you got it because

991
00:53:41,840 --> 00:53:44,520
Speaker 4: she didn't want HI to ask her money. Yeah, well

992
00:53:44,560 --> 00:53:44,960
Speaker 4: signe money.

993
00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:50,400
Speaker 1: Actually he got a gun rcy card, electric bike that

994
00:53:50,440 --> 00:53:51,080
Speaker 1: he doesn't use.

995
00:53:52,040 --> 00:53:54,799
Speaker 4: He got all those things aout telling her no, no, she

996
00:53:55,160 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 4: he demanded that she pay for them, and so she

997
00:53:57,200 --> 00:54:03,719
Speaker 4: was paid. Yeah, and so as groovy no, very ungroovy,

998
00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:09,000
Speaker 4: very ungroovy. And so we're saying that she should leave him.

999
00:54:09,040 --> 00:54:12,759
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's big. I hate it. I hate it.

1000
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:14,520
Speaker 1: You hate the fact that she should leave him? Or

1001
00:54:14,640 --> 00:54:16,400
Speaker 1: just no, no, I love the fact that she should

1002
00:54:16,440 --> 00:54:20,240
Speaker 1: leave that. I'm just like, it's like, it's like the man,

1003
00:54:20,360 --> 00:54:22,399
Speaker 1: It's like not like when you go out to eat

1004
00:54:22,440 --> 00:54:25,160
Speaker 1: and then and then someone doesn't vemo you back times

1005
00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:29,000
Speaker 1: of thousands, or like they don't even reach their wallet. Yeah.

1006
00:54:29,080 --> 00:54:32,319
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's the crazy not reaching to the wall, not

1007
00:54:32,360 --> 00:54:37,319
Speaker 7: even like give me a fake attempt. Yeah, okay, we

1008
00:54:37,360 --> 00:54:41,800
Speaker 7: can play that game, that game, but don't even.

1009
00:54:43,160 --> 00:54:48,880
Speaker 1: Mm yeah, gentlemen, this is this is Anthony, beautiful, Hello,

1010
00:54:49,280 --> 00:54:50,359
Speaker 1: the most handsomest man.

1011
00:54:50,440 --> 00:54:53,239
Speaker 4: We talked about you so much on the podcast we have,

1012
00:54:53,960 --> 00:54:56,879
Speaker 4: like John and Riley are just constantly saying our most

1013
00:54:56,920 --> 00:54:57,520
Speaker 4: handsome friend.

1014
00:54:57,560 --> 00:54:58,240
Speaker 1: That's true.

1015
00:54:58,840 --> 00:55:01,040
Speaker 2: I refuse to have you on the podcast because of

1016
00:55:01,120 --> 00:55:01,879
Speaker 2: how handsome you are.

1017
00:55:02,280 --> 00:55:06,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, Chat, I'm surprised Chat is behaving themselves very

1018
00:55:06,040 --> 00:55:09,640
Speaker 1: well right now, call me nervous. Chat is right there, John,

1019
00:55:10,080 --> 00:55:13,879
Speaker 1: Who is this? This is Anthony? Uh? Anthony definitely looks

1020
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:17,600
Speaker 1: like a mix of Sam and John a little bit.

1021
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:23,920
Speaker 1: Hold on, hold on, good sir. Yeah, guys, this is

1022
00:55:23,960 --> 00:55:26,520
Speaker 1: Anthony who I am going to be practicing music with.

1023
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:29,640
Speaker 1: And I'm afraid I do have to appuse.

1024
00:55:29,360 --> 00:55:38,600
Speaker 7: To There's a song called Odyssey. It releases today for

1025
00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:41,600
Speaker 7: us right now. I don't even know how to play

1026
00:55:41,640 --> 00:55:43,399
Speaker 7: it because I made it so long ago, but it's

1027
00:55:43,400 --> 00:55:50,160
Speaker 7: out Odyssey, Anthony, name that safe.

1028
00:55:54,280 --> 00:56:01,120
Speaker 1: Sponsor myself and I go check out listen to it.

1029
00:56:01,120 --> 00:56:06,239
Speaker 1: It's absolutely beautiful. He's playing it today, free bird. Look

1030
00:56:06,239 --> 00:56:10,320
Speaker 1: at that. Everybody's blowing up the chat crazy.

1031
00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:15,080
Speaker 4: Oh wow, just said Riley said he would time us

1032
00:56:15,080 --> 00:56:16,520
Speaker 4: out if we were thirsty.

1033
00:56:17,800 --> 00:56:19,359
Speaker 1: He really kicked him out of the chat. If they

1034
00:56:19,400 --> 00:56:23,399
Speaker 1: get too thirsty, they get very thirsty. You had guess

1035
00:56:23,400 --> 00:56:27,600
Speaker 1: before and yeah we had our short lived our intern. Yeah,

1036
00:56:27,600 --> 00:56:28,719
Speaker 1: our intern for a week.

1037
00:56:29,320 --> 00:56:32,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, it's not true.

1038
00:56:32,520 --> 00:56:37,640
Speaker 1: That actually is true. To thirsty. No no, no, no, no.

1039
00:56:38,160 --> 00:56:43,520
Speaker 1: The appropriate amount of thirsty, the appropriate amount. We were

1040
00:56:43,520 --> 00:56:45,160
Speaker 1: too thirsty for him, that was the problem.

1041
00:56:45,239 --> 00:56:47,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, we started pimping him out. First day. We were like,

1042
00:56:47,600 --> 00:56:49,879
Speaker 2: we were like fifty bucks, fifty bucks to get him

1043
00:56:49,880 --> 00:56:50,719
Speaker 2: back on one hundred bucks.

1044
00:56:50,760 --> 00:56:54,919
Speaker 1: Hundred bucks. And they were going, wow, that was they were.

1045
00:56:55,000 --> 00:56:58,000
Speaker 1: They were not playing around. They were not playing around.

1046
00:56:58,840 --> 00:57:03,839
Speaker 1: I'm not doing that poll bell. Oh my gosh. It's

1047
00:57:04,000 --> 00:57:06,799
Speaker 1: such a mean pole because I know who's gonna win,

1048
00:57:07,719 --> 00:57:11,799
Speaker 1: Riley or Anthony.

1049
00:57:12,040 --> 00:57:13,480
Speaker 4: But what's what's the go? Here?

1050
00:57:13,680 --> 00:57:17,120
Speaker 1: The go? Here? Is we here? Unfortunately should got to

1051
00:57:17,160 --> 00:57:19,080
Speaker 1: go yes, all right, we should?

1052
00:57:19,200 --> 00:57:26,800
Speaker 4: Well, thank you for joining us, Anthony, Wait.

1053
00:57:30,360 --> 00:57:30,720
Speaker 1: What is that?

1054
00:57:30,800 --> 00:57:31,440
Speaker 4: Here? We go.

1055
00:57:36,920 --> 00:57:43,200
Speaker 6: Closing time? We don't have more time to do this podcast.

1056
00:57:43,320 --> 00:57:49,520
Speaker 6: But it was a cool thing, cool thing, closing time.

1057
00:57:50,760 --> 00:57:53,960
Speaker 6: That's all the time we have for today. But you

1058
00:57:54,040 --> 00:57:56,160
Speaker 6: guys are really cool.

1059
00:57:56,640 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 1: You're so cool.

1060
00:57:58,640 --> 00:58:05,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, all right the song the stream is not over it.

1061
00:58:05,680 --> 00:58:11,000
Speaker 4: Thank you? All right?

1062
00:58:11,480 --> 00:58:12,120
Speaker 1: I love you?

1063
00:58:12,320 --> 00:58:12,800
Speaker 4: All right?

1064
00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:17,680
Speaker 1: Come back for more. You should? You should?

1065
00:58:17,720 --> 00:58:19,960
Speaker 2: You should come by as a guest one day. Yeah,

1066
00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:22,919
Speaker 2: he did a side. All right, now it's just youing

1067
00:58:22,960 --> 00:58:23,560
Speaker 2: on good time.

1068
00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:26,000
Speaker 4: Now, it's just you and I. Should I move chairs?

1069
00:58:26,000 --> 00:58:28,360
Speaker 2: Oh yeah sure sure sure sure sure sure sure sure

1070
00:58:28,400 --> 00:58:31,800
Speaker 2: sure sure sure if you want to sit there?

1071
00:58:31,800 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 1: Do you like? Send there better?

1072
00:58:33,520 --> 00:58:34,040
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1073
00:58:34,040 --> 00:58:34,520
Speaker 1: There you are?

1074
00:58:39,120 --> 00:58:44,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, I just I feel like I really there we go,

1075
00:58:44,880 --> 00:58:47,280
Speaker 4: there we go, and mad Hatter Gal, thank you for

1076
00:58:47,280 --> 00:58:50,560
Speaker 4: the ten bucks. My D my d D is like this,

1077
00:58:51,160 --> 00:58:55,240
Speaker 4: your d D designated driver. He would see a cool

1078
00:58:55,360 --> 00:59:00,560
Speaker 4: VS V s H collection on TV by the and

1079
00:59:00,600 --> 00:59:03,440
Speaker 4: then sits there, not even watching a single one of

1080
00:59:03,480 --> 00:59:05,680
Speaker 4: the videos. Guess who has to deal with all that

1081
00:59:05,800 --> 00:59:10,640
Speaker 4: later on? Wow? See I have the opposite issue where

1082
00:59:10,760 --> 00:59:15,240
Speaker 4: I have like fear of buying anything I have. I

1083
00:59:15,240 --> 00:59:18,320
Speaker 4: get immediate guilt and I get guilt for even thinking

1084
00:59:18,320 --> 00:59:21,560
Speaker 4: about buying things, so then I don't buy them. You know?

1085
00:59:22,640 --> 00:59:25,400
Speaker 4: Are you are you like a I'll buy anything or you.

1086
00:59:25,680 --> 00:59:29,000
Speaker 4: I won't buy anything for myself. I will buy anything,

1087
00:59:29,120 --> 00:59:30,720
Speaker 4: but i'll buy anything.

1088
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:31,000
Speaker 1: For my girl.

1089
00:59:31,520 --> 00:59:34,400
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I'm a sucker for that.

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Speaker 4: Cel Zombie. Thank you for the five buck tip and

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Speaker 4: Mad Hatter Gal, thank you for the gen Guiar Jude membership.

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Speaker 4: He yo a yo, all right, I won't spill the water.

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Speaker 4: There's no water near.

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Speaker 2: I want to watch this real quick. Let me let

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00:59:54,360 --> 00:59:57,120
Speaker 2: me get this pulled up. Guys, what are we watching?

1096
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Speaker 2: They pull up the next story? Su wrong thing, wrong thing, guys.

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, I just docked everything.

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Speaker 1: You do everything, guys.

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Speaker 2: Don't pay attention to what was just seen.

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Speaker 4: Don't pay attention to the man behind the curtain.

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Speaker 1: Wait a second, Wait a second.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and I says I do that to Sylvia. I

1103
01:00:16,360 --> 01:00:18,760
Speaker 4: always talk myself out of buying stuff for myself. I

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01:00:18,800 --> 01:00:20,760
Speaker 4: do that literally all the time. Or I'll buy something

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01:00:20,800 --> 01:00:22,440
Speaker 4: and then I return it because I get so guilty

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Speaker 4: about buying. It's bad, it's bad, Brandy says, Shopper's guilt

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Speaker 4: is a real af because I'm looking at two cups

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01:00:30,160 --> 01:00:32,200
Speaker 4: that I have I forever have in my cart. But

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Speaker 4: that's where they staying. Yep, whatever, are you watching? Is

1110
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Speaker 4: this me spilling my.

1111
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Speaker 1: While this bitch?

1112
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Speaker 4: Did you dropped a lot of water?

1113
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Speaker 1: I need I need some I need some towels.

1114
01:00:54,880 --> 01:00:56,720
Speaker 4: I dropped a lot of water.

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01:00:57,240 --> 01:01:01,880
Speaker 1: Really, I just not to pe.

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Speaker 4: A good video.

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Speaker 1: Oh boy, that was a good video.

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Speaker 4: I liked it. We should put it on our our thingy, Yes,

1119
01:01:13,920 --> 01:01:16,040
Speaker 4: our video thing. You know that we play clips, clips

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Speaker 4: and nips mad Hatter Gal what did what questions did

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01:01:19,760 --> 01:01:20,040
Speaker 4: you have?

1122
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Speaker 1: You had a question?

1123
01:01:21,960 --> 01:01:22,760
Speaker 2: Ask you a question?

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Speaker 4: What question? Jaina Mendola, be quiet?

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Speaker 1: Thank you for the two fifty five check the edit.

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Speaker 4: I sent in Discord general chat Lael maom Matt hadderg

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01:01:34,440 --> 01:01:37,280
Speaker 4: what question did you have? And if you can put

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Speaker 4: it in the chat before I pull up this next story,

1129
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Speaker 4: I will answer it for you.

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Speaker 2: Dude, I really got to do a deuce. It's going

1131
01:01:45,960 --> 01:01:48,400
Speaker 2: to be real with you all. Yeah, you know, I've

1132
01:01:48,480 --> 01:01:50,360
Speaker 2: just gone to this part in my life where I'm

1133
01:01:50,400 --> 01:01:52,080
Speaker 2: just going to share everything that comes to my head.

1134
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Speaker 1: Stop why hop it.

1135
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Speaker 4: I don't want I don't want to know.

1136
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Speaker 1: You don't want to know.

1137
01:01:57,160 --> 01:01:59,640
Speaker 2: I don't want to know, but it brings joy rings laughter.

1138
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Speaker 2: I'm just this is just hellme made.

1139
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Speaker 1: Okay, well, let's get into this next story. Are you

1140
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Speaker 1: what do you mean? Four three?

1141
01:02:14,960 --> 01:02:18,040
Speaker 4: Oh? Okay, well, Matt hat gal, you have two more

1142
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Speaker 4: seconds to find all right?

1143
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Speaker 1: Okay? Six o four.

1144
01:02:23,040 --> 01:02:24,400
Speaker 4: La la?

1145
01:02:25,560 --> 01:02:26,840
Speaker 1: Where are you? Six o four?

1146
01:02:28,560 --> 01:02:33,280
Speaker 4: I found it, I've found it. One moment.

1147
01:02:37,440 --> 01:02:38,280
Speaker 1: Wait was the question?

1148
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Speaker 4: Wait scroll with the mattal with the worm queen like

1149
01:02:43,800 --> 01:02:47,200
Speaker 4: a crystal crown. I would take any crowns that you

1150
01:02:47,320 --> 01:02:50,400
Speaker 4: give me, and I will wear them interchangeably because I

1151
01:02:50,520 --> 01:02:52,680
Speaker 4: love the crowns you guys have been sending. They're beautiful.

1152
01:02:53,640 --> 01:02:57,400
Speaker 4: Uh and they're they're great for my future renaissance costumes.

1153
01:02:59,240 --> 01:03:00,520
Speaker 1: Let's get into the what next?

1154
01:03:01,160 --> 01:03:04,720
Speaker 4: Sorry? Whoa Am I the a hole for taking my

1155
01:03:04,800 --> 01:03:07,520
Speaker 4: step son on outings without my son?

1156
01:03:10,040 --> 01:03:11,440
Speaker 1: Can do that again? Yes?

1157
01:03:12,280 --> 01:03:14,480
Speaker 4: Am I the a hole for taking my step son

1158
01:03:14,560 --> 01:03:19,959
Speaker 4: on outings without my son? Why are you excluding your son?

1159
01:03:20,480 --> 01:03:22,280
Speaker 4: Stop being mean?

1160
01:03:23,320 --> 01:03:23,440
Speaker 1: Uh?

1161
01:03:23,600 --> 01:03:25,680
Speaker 4: And this stands with the question of when should you

1162
01:03:25,800 --> 01:03:30,320
Speaker 4: take sides in family conflict? So curious Stepdad twelve thirty

1163
01:03:30,320 --> 01:03:33,800
Speaker 4: four says, I thirty eight male, have a son and

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Speaker 4: a stepson who are both similarly aged. My son Mark

1165
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Speaker 4: fifteen male and step son Luke fourteen mail. Oh oh,

1166
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Speaker 4: and Mark was defiantly a mama's boy, and unfortunately his

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Speaker 4: mom and what my wife died when he was eight. Oh,

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Speaker 4: it's been a huge struggle raising him, especially since he

1169
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Speaker 4: has completely different interest to me, which is completely fine

1170
01:03:56,040 --> 01:03:59,080
Speaker 4: but makes things difficult. Someone who has been a great

1171
01:03:59,120 --> 01:04:02,680
Speaker 4: figure in his life is my sister Slash, his aunt May.

1172
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Speaker 4: She's really into the same interests as Mark and they

1173
01:04:05,840 --> 01:04:09,960
Speaker 4: have a great time whenever she babysits. Okay, A few

1174
01:04:10,080 --> 01:04:12,960
Speaker 4: years ago I met my girlfriend Laura, thirty seven female

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Speaker 4: who was a single mom since Luke's dad was never

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Speaker 4: in the picture. Me and Luke actually really hit it

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Speaker 4: off since Laura introduced me to him, and I believe Yeah, okay,

1178
01:04:22,680 --> 01:04:24,440
Speaker 4: so Luke is the step son. I wish we had

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Speaker 4: the whiteboard right now for y'all. For characters. We have Mark,

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Speaker 4: Opie's son, Mark lost his mom, and then we have

1181
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Speaker 4: step son Luke, who is the son of Laura, and

1182
01:04:37,880 --> 01:04:41,600
Speaker 4: there we go. That's the family tree. Me and Luke

1183
01:04:41,640 --> 01:04:44,240
Speaker 4: actually really hit it off since Laura introduced me to him.

1184
01:04:44,440 --> 01:04:47,200
Speaker 4: He never really had any male role models since Laura

1185
01:04:47,320 --> 01:04:49,840
Speaker 4: only had sisters and her dad died when she was

1186
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Speaker 4: a teenager. He's also into a lot of the same

1187
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Speaker 4: stuff I'm into, which is where the conflicts started to arise.

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Speaker 6: Roe.

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Speaker 4: I've tried a couple of times to take Mark to

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Speaker 4: football matches, but he just doesn't have any interest in it,

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01:05:05,200 --> 01:05:07,480
Speaker 4: so May looked after Mark when I'd go to football

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01:05:07,560 --> 01:05:10,600
Speaker 4: games a couple of times a year. However, Luke was

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Speaker 4: incredibly excited to go to games with me, as he's

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01:05:13,680 --> 01:05:17,520
Speaker 4: never been before but is a big fan. Recently, May

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Speaker 4: spoke to me in private and said that Mark was

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Speaker 4: incredibly jealous of Luke spending time with me alone and

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Speaker 4: asked that I not go to a Formula One event

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Speaker 4: with him next weekend. I asked Mark if he wanted

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Speaker 4: to go, but had no interest in it. They both

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Speaker 4: are really good friends, but Mark felt like I loved

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Speaker 4: Luke more than him, which admittedly broke my heart. Even

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Speaker 4: though though he doesn't go to football with me, I

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01:05:39,200 --> 01:05:41,439
Speaker 4: still make sure to take him to things that he'd enjoy,

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Speaker 4: such as West End shows and concerts of his favorite singers. Okay, pause,

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Speaker 4: real quick, Actually, no, I'll finish this because the comments

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01:05:50,160 --> 01:05:51,680
Speaker 4: are about to come, and then I'll say what I

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Speaker 4: have to say. Uh Opie says I said to May

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Speaker 4: that although I understand and try to speak to Mark,

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Speaker 4: it would be incredibly unfair to Luke to stop taking

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Speaker 4: him out and not take him out next week when

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Speaker 4: he's been excited for it for so long. May said

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Speaker 4: that I needed to put my own son first and

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Speaker 4: that I was damaging my relationship with him. Those words

1214
01:06:11,240 --> 01:06:14,240
Speaker 4: have kind of cut deep, and I was wondering, am

1215
01:06:15,040 --> 01:06:20,640
Speaker 4: I the a whole and I have a thought about it.

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Speaker 4: Originally I was going to say, yes, you are the hill,

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01:06:24,400 --> 01:06:28,919
Speaker 4: because we've talked about, you know, in previous stories where

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Speaker 4: the op is, you know, focusing on their own hobbies

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Speaker 4: and just going to the kid that has those hobbies

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Speaker 4: and not really caring about spending time with the other kids. However,

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Speaker 4: in this case, they're like based off that final like

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Speaker 4: one of those final sentences where Opie said, I do

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Speaker 4: spend time with my son. We go to the West End,

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Speaker 4: we do all this stuff. I do spend one on

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Speaker 4: one time. Now I'm thinking maybe maybe it is just

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Speaker 4: a little bit of jealousy that cannot be helped. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: because I was just gonna say, as long as you're

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Speaker 4: you have to be making time one on one with

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Speaker 4: your son.

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Speaker 2: Uh.

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Speaker 4: Paula aid terrell'sis the time is not equal. I think

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Speaker 4: that would be where OPI would be the a hole.

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Speaker 4: If the time is not equal and he's spending more

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01:07:21,520 --> 01:07:24,640
Speaker 4: time with his steps on and more time going to

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Speaker 4: all these things that he wants to do and not

1236
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Speaker 4: really making an effort to spend time with his kid,

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01:07:29,320 --> 01:07:33,840
Speaker 4: then he is the a hole. However, it is unclear

1238
01:07:33,960 --> 01:07:36,600
Speaker 4: right now, so I think I think I'm unclear of

1239
01:07:36,640 --> 01:07:38,840
Speaker 4: whether or not he's the Ale because that at first

1240
01:07:38,880 --> 01:07:40,760
Speaker 4: I was like, yeah, you're the Ale, But then he

1241
01:07:40,840 --> 01:07:42,600
Speaker 4: said that sentence about going to the West End and

1242
01:07:42,680 --> 01:07:45,720
Speaker 4: going to concerts and stuff with his son, So I

1243
01:07:45,800 --> 01:07:48,920
Speaker 4: think I think right now I need more information. What

1244
01:07:49,040 --> 01:07:49,840
Speaker 4: are your thoughts though?

1245
01:07:50,240 --> 01:07:50,280
Speaker 5: What?

1246
01:07:52,680 --> 01:07:52,960
Speaker 4: Wow?

1247
01:07:53,080 --> 01:07:54,560
Speaker 1: We got two dons do this one?

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Speaker 5: Uh?

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Speaker 4: Diavian Wilder, thank you for the ten gifted memberships. Everyone

1250
01:07:59,400 --> 01:08:01,600
Speaker 4: say thank you to di'avian if you got one of

1251
01:08:01,640 --> 01:08:07,040
Speaker 4: those memberships. And the Shadows thank you for the one

1252
01:08:07,120 --> 01:08:10,240
Speaker 4: hundred buck tip just got on and I need to

1253
01:08:10,360 --> 01:08:11,480
Speaker 4: hear more and more.

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01:08:11,720 --> 01:08:15,080
Speaker 1: You shall hear. Boy, oh boy, boy, oh boy.

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Speaker 4: I think a lot of people are saying not the

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01:08:17,400 --> 01:08:19,960
Speaker 4: a hole, which I think right now I'm I'm on

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Speaker 4: that side. Of just because he said that he does

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Speaker 4: spend one on one time with his son. If it

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Speaker 4: is unequal, then he is the ahle god em Ray says,

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Speaker 4: Opie son could also be jealous at the attempt or

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Speaker 4: involvement with things he does with stepsn versus then, and

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Speaker 4: love Bubble says, and Opie is only wanted to do

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Speaker 4: what he wants to do with Mark, not what Mark

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Speaker 4: wants to do and he just lost one parent. Well,

1265
01:08:46,400 --> 01:08:49,519
Speaker 4: well that's what I was gonna say. He's the a hole. However,

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Speaker 4: it seems that he is doing things with Mark that

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Speaker 4: he wants to do, like he is going to musicals

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01:08:55,040 --> 01:08:57,960
Speaker 4: and he is going to concerts that Mark likes. So

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Speaker 4: it seems like he is making an effort things that

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01:09:00,680 --> 01:09:03,559
Speaker 4: Mark likes. He's just also doing stuff that he likes

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01:09:03,760 --> 01:09:06,320
Speaker 4: and he's still inviting Mark to those. So I think

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Speaker 4: Manda Panda, I agree, not the a whole as long

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01:09:09,920 --> 01:09:13,120
Speaker 4: as that time is fairly evenly split. Yeah, I agree,

1274
01:09:13,720 --> 01:09:16,320
Speaker 4: but let's read on and find out if it is unequal.

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Speaker 4: So well, first comments uh cole Al says you're the

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01:09:23,960 --> 01:09:28,599
Speaker 4: alele okay, So so they disagree strongly, And I can't

1277
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Speaker 4: believe all the people who are giving you a pass.

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01:09:30,760 --> 01:09:32,479
Speaker 4: You are over the moon to have a step son

1279
01:09:32,520 --> 01:09:35,160
Speaker 4: who shares your interests and have co signed your son

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01:09:35,400 --> 01:09:40,400
Speaker 4: to and also ran what that means. There is also

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01:09:40,439 --> 01:09:43,200
Speaker 4: an air of toxic masculinity running through your whole post,

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01:09:43,360 --> 01:09:46,519
Speaker 4: with the emphasis on sports and race car driving. I

1283
01:09:46,560 --> 01:09:49,240
Speaker 4: don't know if I agree with that. I don't know

1284
01:09:49,320 --> 01:09:51,880
Speaker 4: if I if he had said, oh, I you know,

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01:09:52,520 --> 01:09:56,040
Speaker 4: we have different interests me and Mark, like I wish

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01:09:56,120 --> 01:09:59,480
Speaker 4: he was more manly, I'd be like, absolutely toxic masculinity.

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Speaker 4: But Opi is allowed to have, you know, things that

1288
01:10:03,560 --> 01:10:06,280
Speaker 4: he enjoys. He's allowed to have hobbies that are you know,

1289
01:10:06,439 --> 01:10:11,120
Speaker 4: traditionally masculine and without it being toxic. We still don't

1290
01:10:11,160 --> 01:10:12,920
Speaker 4: know if he's not spending unequal time.

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Speaker 3: Uh.

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01:10:14,439 --> 01:10:16,800
Speaker 4: And then OPI says it would be incredibly unfair to

1293
01:10:16,920 --> 01:10:18,400
Speaker 4: Luke to stop taking him out.

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01:10:18,560 --> 01:10:18,760
Speaker 1: Yeah.

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01:10:18,800 --> 01:10:22,400
Speaker 4: I think we've also talked about when you marry into

1296
01:10:22,439 --> 01:10:24,200
Speaker 4: a family with a kid, that you should be making

1297
01:10:24,240 --> 01:10:27,240
Speaker 4: an effort to spend time with that kid, especially because

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01:10:27,240 --> 01:10:34,240
Speaker 4: he's younger, says, is Opie acting engaged with his son

1299
01:10:34,439 --> 01:10:36,559
Speaker 4: or behaving like he was dragged to the West End shows?

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Speaker 4: These are That's why I'm like, we need more information

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01:10:39,880 --> 01:10:42,080
Speaker 4: because right now we don't have all of that information

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01:10:42,280 --> 01:10:46,800
Speaker 4: to fully judge him. And then this comment continues. No

1303
01:10:47,000 --> 01:10:49,040
Speaker 4: one suggests you have to stop doing things with Luke.

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01:10:49,160 --> 01:10:52,000
Speaker 4: It's not a binary situation. What you need is to

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01:10:52,080 --> 01:10:54,360
Speaker 4: give your own son the kind of intention he needs,

1306
01:10:54,600 --> 01:10:57,479
Speaker 4: rather than indulging your own desire for mini me. Why

1307
01:10:57,680 --> 01:10:59,479
Speaker 4: does Mark have to do all the work here? It's

1308
01:10:59,520 --> 01:11:01,320
Speaker 4: not enough to leave it all up to Mark to

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01:11:01,400 --> 01:11:04,160
Speaker 4: come up with things to do. It's your job as

1310
01:11:04,200 --> 01:11:07,840
Speaker 4: his father to actively pursue activities he would like. Uh

1311
01:11:08,640 --> 01:11:12,000
Speaker 4: Deintegrating his interest is not the way, or denigrating his

1312
01:11:12,120 --> 01:11:14,360
Speaker 4: interests is not the way to fix us. You don't

1313
01:11:14,400 --> 01:11:16,519
Speaker 4: have to do things you don't like. What are you

1314
01:11:16,560 --> 01:11:18,800
Speaker 4: supposed to be doing is? What you're supposed to be

1315
01:11:18,880 --> 01:11:22,599
Speaker 4: doing is working on developing some common interest. Mark is fifteen,

1316
01:11:22,720 --> 01:11:24,639
Speaker 4: and you seem to have just written him off because

1317
01:11:24,680 --> 01:11:26,640
Speaker 4: you now have the son you always wanted. Dude, that

1318
01:11:26,800 --> 01:11:30,880
Speaker 4: is absolutely a whole behavior and you need to set

1319
01:11:31,040 --> 01:11:35,800
Speaker 4: a corrective course. Yeah, and I don't know if I

1320
01:11:35,840 --> 01:11:38,280
Speaker 4: agree with that. I don't think we have enough information

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01:11:38,439 --> 01:11:42,160
Speaker 4: for that comment to make that sort of judgment, and

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01:11:42,400 --> 01:11:45,439
Speaker 4: SIV Mom says, oh my god, find things your son

1323
01:11:45,640 --> 01:11:48,120
Speaker 4: likes and go do them, read about them, find out

1324
01:11:48,160 --> 01:11:50,760
Speaker 4: how to enjoy them. The point is to spend time

1325
01:11:50,800 --> 01:11:53,640
Speaker 4: with your son doing things he enjoys, not demanding that

1326
01:11:53,720 --> 01:11:55,920
Speaker 4: he enjoys your activities in order to get time and

1327
01:11:56,000 --> 01:11:59,840
Speaker 4: attention from you. You're the a whole and Kay rolls

1328
01:11:59,920 --> 01:12:01,920
Speaker 4: up door the a hole. Your son's mother died, and

1329
01:12:02,000 --> 01:12:05,280
Speaker 4: now you're emotionally abandoning him, abandoning him because you have

1330
01:12:05,360 --> 01:12:07,400
Speaker 4: discovered a mini me and your step son. I feel

1331
01:12:07,479 --> 01:12:10,000
Speaker 4: sorry for both those boys having you as a role model.

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01:12:10,360 --> 01:12:11,800
Speaker 4: This is a truly sad post.

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01:12:12,520 --> 01:12:15,560
Speaker 1: I feel like we've read different stories.

1334
01:12:16,280 --> 01:12:19,559
Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like I've read a completely different story

1335
01:12:19,640 --> 01:12:23,880
Speaker 4: than these commenters. Am I crazy? I don't think we

1336
01:12:23,960 --> 01:12:26,200
Speaker 4: have enough information to make these judgments?

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01:12:26,320 --> 01:12:28,120
Speaker 1: Oh you go ahead.

1338
01:12:28,200 --> 01:12:31,240
Speaker 4: Yeah. Opie said that he's spending time with them. The

1339
01:12:31,439 --> 01:12:35,320
Speaker 4: only question he was saying is, Hey, my son doesn't

1340
01:12:35,360 --> 01:12:38,640
Speaker 4: even want me to hang out with the steps on

1341
01:12:38,720 --> 01:12:41,080
Speaker 4: one on one ever, That's what it feels like.

1342
01:12:41,680 --> 01:12:44,880
Speaker 2: I feel like on Reddit. Yeah, I saw this somewhere.

1343
01:12:44,960 --> 01:12:47,040
Speaker 2: Someone explained it to me. I'm like, why does why

1344
01:12:47,080 --> 01:12:49,000
Speaker 2: do we come up with one conclusion, but Reddit it's

1345
01:12:49,040 --> 01:12:51,240
Speaker 2: like a whole other side like this. Yeah, I think

1346
01:12:51,600 --> 01:12:55,040
Speaker 2: the first comment on Reddit, if it's like in the

1347
01:12:55,200 --> 01:12:58,400
Speaker 2: Ye're the A hole side, it's like the first sway

1348
01:12:59,040 --> 01:13:02,160
Speaker 2: everyone is like that because we do that too, like

1349
01:13:02,280 --> 01:13:04,000
Speaker 2: you'll come up with a decision. I'm like, you know what,

1350
01:13:04,080 --> 01:13:06,240
Speaker 2: you're right whenever someone has a first hot take. So

1351
01:13:06,240 --> 01:13:07,880
Speaker 2: I think someone read it had the first hot take

1352
01:13:08,160 --> 01:13:08,800
Speaker 2: than everyone's like.

1353
01:13:09,200 --> 01:13:09,639
Speaker 1: I agree.

1354
01:13:10,520 --> 01:13:13,280
Speaker 4: I think right now we do have an update which

1355
01:13:13,320 --> 01:13:17,080
Speaker 4: we're going to get into and find out more. But

1356
01:13:17,600 --> 01:13:19,720
Speaker 4: I think I think I'm not the a hole so far,

1357
01:13:20,640 --> 01:13:22,720
Speaker 4: and I think this is more of a in the

1358
01:13:22,840 --> 01:13:25,240
Speaker 4: line of he needs to have a conversation with his

1359
01:13:25,360 --> 01:13:28,680
Speaker 4: son and say, hey, do you feel that I'm not

1360
01:13:28,760 --> 01:13:30,840
Speaker 4: spending enough time with you? Are there things that you

1361
01:13:30,960 --> 01:13:33,160
Speaker 4: want to do together with me? Because I would love,

1362
01:13:33,479 --> 01:13:35,320
Speaker 4: I would love to hear more of your interests if

1363
01:13:35,360 --> 01:13:37,120
Speaker 4: you think that there's something that I'm not doing that

1364
01:13:37,200 --> 01:13:40,719
Speaker 4: I could be doing. Yeah, I don't think the answer

1365
01:13:40,840 --> 01:13:42,760
Speaker 4: is to not spend time with Luke though, mm hmm.

1366
01:13:44,000 --> 01:13:44,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

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01:13:44,800 --> 01:13:47,559
Speaker 4: I think there also is maybe maybe another answer which

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01:13:47,600 --> 01:13:49,120
Speaker 4: I don't think makes them the a whole. I think

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01:13:49,160 --> 01:13:51,000
Speaker 4: it just makes him a parent who's trying to learn

1370
01:13:51,120 --> 01:13:54,719
Speaker 4: how to how to handle the kids. I think another

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01:13:54,800 --> 01:13:59,040
Speaker 4: solution is finding out what common ground Luke and what's

1372
01:13:59,120 --> 01:13:59,679
Speaker 4: his name? Mark?

1373
01:14:00,160 --> 01:14:00,400
Speaker 1: Yeah?

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01:14:00,720 --> 01:14:02,880
Speaker 4: Uh, Luke and Mark have and seeing if you know,

1375
01:14:03,000 --> 01:14:05,280
Speaker 4: maybe there's some stuff that we can go together and do,

1376
01:14:06,479 --> 01:14:08,640
Speaker 4: which doesn't I mean, I think he needs that one

1377
01:14:08,680 --> 01:14:10,280
Speaker 4: on one time with both of them, and also to

1378
01:14:10,360 --> 01:14:15,479
Speaker 4: combine time. I think that is my solution. Casey's son

1379
01:14:15,600 --> 01:14:17,800
Speaker 4: may not be fully healed from losing his mom and

1380
01:14:17,920 --> 01:14:20,800
Speaker 4: can hold resentment for his dad moving on and introducing

1381
01:14:20,880 --> 01:14:24,360
Speaker 4: new siblings he isn't related to, which is fair to feel.

1382
01:14:24,560 --> 01:14:28,560
Speaker 4: But I think it's not necessarily Opie's like faults, but

1383
01:14:28,640 --> 01:14:30,439
Speaker 4: I think it's something that he needs to address and

1384
01:14:30,520 --> 01:14:31,720
Speaker 4: try and help him work through.

1385
01:14:32,600 --> 01:14:37,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, no, I love it. I love it.

1386
01:14:37,680 --> 01:14:41,160
Speaker 4: But let's get into Wait, what did the wife observe?

1387
01:14:41,280 --> 01:14:42,599
Speaker 4: Did we hear what the wife observed?

1388
01:14:45,800 --> 01:14:46,320
Speaker 1: I love date?

1389
01:14:46,439 --> 01:14:49,559
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, if someone could remind me what the wife observed?

1390
01:14:49,600 --> 01:14:54,800
Speaker 4: While I get into the update update two days later.

1391
01:14:56,080 --> 01:14:58,639
Speaker 4: First of all, I want to thank everyone who gave comments.

1392
01:14:58,800 --> 01:15:01,360
Speaker 4: I felt some of the comments messages I received were

1393
01:15:01,479 --> 01:15:02,719
Speaker 4: judgmental and hurtful.

1394
01:15:03,600 --> 01:15:04,559
Speaker 1: I agree, but.

1395
01:15:04,680 --> 01:15:06,640
Speaker 4: Accepted that most people seem to think I was the

1396
01:15:06,720 --> 01:15:10,280
Speaker 4: ahle in the situation, so rather than defend myself, my

1397
01:15:10,400 --> 01:15:13,639
Speaker 4: priority was to make things right with my son Mark

1398
01:15:13,880 --> 01:15:17,639
Speaker 4: okay positive either way. I spoke to him and opened

1399
01:15:17,720 --> 01:15:20,400
Speaker 4: up telling him opened up by telling him how much

1400
01:15:20,439 --> 01:15:23,120
Speaker 4: I loved him and how I wouldn't change anything about him,

1401
01:15:23,520 --> 01:15:26,000
Speaker 4: and that he inherited all of the qualities I loved

1402
01:15:26,160 --> 01:15:29,280
Speaker 4: so much about his mother. He seemed pretty confused when

1403
01:15:29,280 --> 01:15:31,560
Speaker 4: I said that, and said he really appreciated it, but

1404
01:15:31,720 --> 01:15:35,080
Speaker 4: asked where it was coming from. Even Mark doesn't know

1405
01:15:35,200 --> 01:15:38,840
Speaker 4: what the commenters are talking about. I told him that

1406
01:15:38,920 --> 01:15:40,720
Speaker 4: I heard that he was getting jealous about the time

1407
01:15:40,760 --> 01:15:43,000
Speaker 4: I was spending with Luke one on one, and that

1408
01:15:43,080 --> 01:15:45,000
Speaker 4: I'd hate for him to think or feel that I

1409
01:15:45,120 --> 01:15:49,479
Speaker 4: was abandoning him by spending time with Luke. He then

1410
01:15:50,160 --> 01:15:52,080
Speaker 4: had a bit of an embarrassed look on his face

1411
01:15:52,479 --> 01:15:56,080
Speaker 4: and reassured me that he didn't feel abandoned or jealous

1412
01:15:56,160 --> 01:16:00,640
Speaker 4: of Luke. I then mentioned how May said otherwise, and

1413
01:16:00,800 --> 01:16:04,479
Speaker 4: he then visibly cringed. He then told me that he

1414
01:16:04,760 --> 01:16:08,120
Speaker 4: was jealous, but of me rather than Luke, that he

1415
01:16:08,200 --> 01:16:10,840
Speaker 4: thought Luke was incredibly nice to him when they first met,

1416
01:16:11,160 --> 01:16:13,200
Speaker 4: and was really excited to have a friend like him

1417
01:16:13,479 --> 01:16:15,639
Speaker 4: since most of his friends through his school and clubs

1418
01:16:15,680 --> 01:16:18,519
Speaker 4: are girls that he'd like to spend much time more

1419
01:16:18,600 --> 01:16:21,200
Speaker 4: time hanging out just the two of them, but he's

1420
01:16:21,320 --> 01:16:24,840
Speaker 4: much more interested in hanging out with me rather than him.

1421
01:16:25,960 --> 01:16:29,040
Speaker 4: I instantly felt relief about the situation and asked if

1422
01:16:29,080 --> 01:16:31,360
Speaker 4: he spoke to Luke about hanging out more, and he

1423
01:16:31,479 --> 01:16:33,920
Speaker 4: said that he hasn't as he didn't know what to ask,

1424
01:16:34,080 --> 01:16:36,960
Speaker 4: to do or to come across as weird. I asked

1425
01:16:37,000 --> 01:16:38,680
Speaker 4: what they both had in common, and he said they

1426
01:16:38,840 --> 01:16:42,400
Speaker 4: liked similar video games, music, and films and TV. So

1427
01:16:42,600 --> 01:16:44,879
Speaker 4: I offered to buy them both tickets to an upcoming

1428
01:16:45,360 --> 01:16:47,479
Speaker 4: film they'd both want to see, and that if there

1429
01:16:47,520 --> 01:16:50,320
Speaker 4: are any upcoming concerts or gigs that they want to

1430
01:16:50,400 --> 01:16:52,639
Speaker 4: go to, that I'd buy them tickets if that's something

1431
01:16:52,880 --> 01:16:57,040
Speaker 4: they'd like. Mark was really happy at that suggestion, as

1432
01:16:57,080 --> 01:17:00,400
Speaker 4: well as Luke and Laura, especially Laura because as Luke

1433
01:17:00,520 --> 01:17:03,639
Speaker 4: doesn't really have many friends and she was really worried

1434
01:17:03,680 --> 01:17:06,559
Speaker 4: about how he would get on if there was any

1435
01:17:06,640 --> 01:17:10,599
Speaker 4: blending of families. So it turns out they were both

1436
01:17:10,760 --> 01:17:13,400
Speaker 4: wanting to be better friends with each other, but neither

1437
01:17:13,520 --> 01:17:16,639
Speaker 4: one wanted to express it out of fear of rejection

1438
01:17:16,880 --> 01:17:23,360
Speaker 4: from the other. Okay, so Reddit, you were wrong. You

1439
01:17:23,520 --> 01:17:27,320
Speaker 4: were wrong read it sucks to suck, and I was right.

1440
01:17:28,600 --> 01:17:29,040
Speaker 4: You were wrong.

1441
01:17:29,160 --> 01:17:32,240
Speaker 1: Everyone in the stream right right, right.

1442
01:17:32,400 --> 01:17:33,559
Speaker 4: Reddit wrong.

1443
01:17:34,040 --> 01:17:37,800
Speaker 1: They don't read stories like us. They don't freaking reading comprehension.

1444
01:17:38,320 --> 01:17:41,040
Speaker 4: Reddit zero us one.

1445
01:17:43,479 --> 01:17:44,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, case, that's a plot tist.

1446
01:17:44,920 --> 01:17:46,720
Speaker 4: I didn't see. That made my eyes water. I know

1447
01:17:46,840 --> 01:17:50,519
Speaker 4: he just wanted to be friends. It's so cute. Also,

1448
01:17:50,600 --> 01:17:55,920
Speaker 4: who is May? Who's May? No, Laura's the new wife.

1449
01:17:55,960 --> 01:17:56,400
Speaker 1: Who's May?

1450
01:17:57,960 --> 01:17:59,439
Speaker 4: The old wife has passed away?

1451
01:18:00,200 --> 01:18:00,800
Speaker 1: That's her name?

1452
01:18:00,920 --> 01:18:01,040
Speaker 2: May?

1453
01:18:01,400 --> 01:18:03,000
Speaker 1: Who is May sister.

1454
01:18:04,240 --> 01:18:06,880
Speaker 4: Recently May aunt May? Okay, that's what I thought. He

1455
01:18:07,160 --> 01:18:12,040
Speaker 4: is the aunt h And there are two comments to

1456
01:18:12,520 --> 01:18:17,760
Speaker 4: finish off this story. Beneficial Nos fifty four forty seven says, well,

1457
01:18:17,840 --> 01:18:20,479
Speaker 4: sounds like a happy update to me, and Opie says,

1458
01:18:20,800 --> 01:18:22,680
Speaker 4: have to admit that when I saw the comments and

1459
01:18:22,720 --> 01:18:25,680
Speaker 4: messages in the original that I was really scared. I

1460
01:18:25,760 --> 01:18:28,679
Speaker 4: affed up big time, but over the moon that everything

1461
01:18:28,720 --> 01:18:32,080
Speaker 4: worked out, and beneficial Nos says, I get that, but also,

1462
01:18:32,400 --> 01:18:36,200
Speaker 4: do you know what it was do you know it

1463
01:18:36,439 --> 01:18:37,960
Speaker 4: was good that you did go to mark and just

1464
01:18:38,120 --> 01:18:40,360
Speaker 4: checked in. And there's nothing wrong with just checking in

1465
01:18:40,520 --> 01:18:43,120
Speaker 4: and making sure he's okay. But once he realizes what

1466
01:18:43,200 --> 01:18:45,479
Speaker 4: you were checking in about, like okay, well I might

1467
01:18:45,520 --> 01:18:48,640
Speaker 4: as well say the real reason, you know what I mean? Okay, Well,

1468
01:18:48,720 --> 01:18:50,200
Speaker 4: let me check with my son more often.

1469
01:18:50,439 --> 01:18:51,040
Speaker 1: You know what I mean.

1470
01:18:51,120 --> 01:18:52,120
Speaker 4: There's nothing wrong with that.

1471
01:18:52,720 --> 01:18:53,280
Speaker 1: You know what I mean?

1472
01:18:53,400 --> 01:18:58,560
Speaker 4: You know what I mean? Um, yeah, I think this

1473
01:18:58,760 --> 01:19:02,360
Speaker 4: is good. Dad, nice, nice story. We got we got

1474
01:19:02,439 --> 01:19:05,840
Speaker 4: op com and read it, say hey, what should I do?

1475
01:19:06,640 --> 01:19:08,720
Speaker 4: Then going to his son saying hey, I'm sorry if

1476
01:19:08,760 --> 01:19:13,160
Speaker 4: I left you out or anything, and then and then

1477
01:19:13,200 --> 01:19:15,960
Speaker 4: we found out the root of the issue. Aaron o'dalla says, Yeah,

1478
01:19:16,000 --> 01:19:18,479
Speaker 4: this could have been so much simpler with communication. I

1479
01:19:18,560 --> 01:19:22,400
Speaker 4: mean he did honestly. There wasn't anything wrong. There wasn't

1480
01:19:22,439 --> 01:19:25,160
Speaker 4: anything egregiously wrong, and I think he did communicate at

1481
01:19:25,160 --> 01:19:28,679
Speaker 4: the right time. I think he communicated of the perfect

1482
01:19:28,800 --> 01:19:31,040
Speaker 4: I don't think there was a delay in the necessarily

1483
01:19:31,080 --> 01:19:31,760
Speaker 4: in the communication.

1484
01:19:32,040 --> 01:19:35,160
Speaker 2: He was as for advice the issue, he asked for advice,

1485
01:19:35,280 --> 01:19:36,599
Speaker 2: and then he acted on the advice.

1486
01:19:36,720 --> 01:19:39,480
Speaker 4: I think I think he communicated very effectively.

1487
01:19:39,920 --> 01:19:43,240
Speaker 2: Props to dad, good father and good dad.

1488
01:19:43,520 --> 01:19:46,519
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you know what I think people, some people

1489
01:19:46,560 --> 01:19:49,360
Speaker 4: in Reddit need to read these stories closer, because I

1490
01:19:49,439 --> 01:19:50,920
Speaker 4: feel like it was all there.

1491
01:19:51,439 --> 01:19:54,320
Speaker 2: Some people just need a hug, which is my hug

1492
01:19:54,600 --> 01:19:55,400
Speaker 2: that you need a hug.

1493
01:19:55,640 --> 01:20:00,400
Speaker 4: Not every father is neglecting their child. Some s are

1494
01:20:00,479 --> 01:20:04,160
Speaker 4: dust people and they don't you know, sometimes they make mistakes,

1495
01:20:04,320 --> 01:20:07,280
Speaker 4: and in this case, sometimes they don't make mistakes and

1496
01:20:07,360 --> 01:20:12,000
Speaker 4: they're fine. But that is the end of that story.

1497
01:20:12,240 --> 01:20:12,760
Speaker 1: That's the end.

1498
01:20:12,880 --> 01:20:13,880
Speaker 4: But there is another story.

1499
01:20:13,960 --> 01:20:17,040
Speaker 2: You will do the other story with the twist, like

1500
01:20:17,200 --> 01:20:20,000
Speaker 2: reading British accent and talk about it in a British accent,

1501
01:20:20,240 --> 01:20:21,479
Speaker 2: or if you want.

1502
01:20:21,680 --> 01:20:23,840
Speaker 4: I just I just thought about it and I just

1503
01:20:23,920 --> 01:20:25,720
Speaker 4: thought you were like, oh, Sophia, read it in a

1504
01:20:25,760 --> 01:20:28,320
Speaker 4: British accent. If you'd like me to do you want

1505
01:20:28,320 --> 01:20:30,200
Speaker 4: me to read the short one in a British accent.

1506
01:20:30,479 --> 01:20:32,439
Speaker 2: This one's a thousand the X one shorter? Do you

1507
01:20:32,720 --> 01:20:33,320
Speaker 2: do the shorter one?

1508
01:20:33,560 --> 01:20:34,960
Speaker 1: Sure you do the shorter one?

1509
01:20:35,000 --> 01:20:36,720
Speaker 4: Am I am? I doing it for a reason or

1510
01:20:37,160 --> 01:20:39,160
Speaker 4: I don't know, just to switch it up a little bit,

1511
01:20:39,960 --> 01:20:41,479
Speaker 4: switch it up. Do you want to do a poll?

1512
01:20:41,520 --> 01:20:42,680
Speaker 4: I don't want to subject them to.

1513
01:20:42,960 --> 01:20:45,080
Speaker 1: No, they love it, they'll love it all right?

1514
01:20:45,840 --> 01:20:46,280
Speaker 4: All right?

1515
01:20:46,439 --> 01:20:54,160
Speaker 1: Then a am I the a whole? Which one? S?

1516
01:20:54,240 --> 01:20:54,439
Speaker 2: Three?

1517
01:20:54,840 --> 01:20:57,080
Speaker 1: Okay? If you do?

1518
01:20:57,760 --> 01:21:00,720
Speaker 4: You just wait which which British? Which British do you want?

1519
01:21:00,800 --> 01:21:02,360
Speaker 4: Do you want like r Pier or do you want

1520
01:21:02,520 --> 01:21:05,040
Speaker 4: I can't do a whales accent? Well do you want

1521
01:21:05,120 --> 01:21:08,759
Speaker 4: our peer? Do you want like Harcney Harcney?

1522
01:21:09,280 --> 01:21:11,960
Speaker 2: All right, I'll try, sir. I want to get this

1523
01:21:12,000 --> 01:21:12,720
Speaker 2: taldr in here.

1524
01:21:13,160 --> 01:21:15,800
Speaker 4: I'm on the ale hole. All is a hard word

1525
01:21:15,840 --> 01:21:16,880
Speaker 4: to say in a British accent.

1526
01:21:19,120 --> 01:21:21,080
Speaker 1: You'll be fine, do it?

1527
01:21:21,920 --> 01:21:23,240
Speaker 4: Am I the right?

1528
01:21:23,960 --> 01:21:27,080
Speaker 1: But not wanting to punish? Am I the a whole?

1529
01:21:27,560 --> 01:21:30,240
Speaker 4: For not wanting to punish my daughter for defending a

1530
01:21:30,320 --> 01:21:33,920
Speaker 4: little brother? And this is the answer the question of

1531
01:21:34,439 --> 01:21:37,600
Speaker 4: when should you take size in a family conflict? So

1532
01:21:37,840 --> 01:21:40,880
Speaker 4: throwaway seven eight seven three eight one three nine four

1533
01:21:41,040 --> 01:21:45,080
Speaker 4: says we have two children, a daughter who is seven

1534
01:21:45,200 --> 01:21:48,360
Speaker 4: and a son who is four. My daughter loves a

1535
01:21:48,479 --> 01:21:51,559
Speaker 4: little brother and is quite protected, a protective of him,

1536
01:21:51,920 --> 01:21:56,160
Speaker 4: which I've always liked, at least until now. We've recently

1537
01:21:56,200 --> 01:21:59,719
Speaker 4: had a family gathering at my parents' house. Parents' house,

1538
01:22:00,200 --> 01:22:02,719
Speaker 4: I don't get along with my sisters because they've raised

1539
01:22:02,760 --> 01:22:04,920
Speaker 4: their children in a way that they believe they can

1540
01:22:05,000 --> 01:22:08,479
Speaker 4: annoy others and get away with it because they won't

1541
01:22:08,479 --> 01:22:12,439
Speaker 4: get punished. That's why, especially my six year old nephew,

1542
01:22:12,640 --> 01:22:15,439
Speaker 4: who likes to bother my son, whenever he does it,

1543
01:22:15,560 --> 01:22:20,559
Speaker 4: we immediately leave the meetings. We attended this last meeting

1544
01:22:20,960 --> 01:22:24,639
Speaker 4: meeting because my father was already retiring from his job

1545
01:22:24,960 --> 01:22:27,320
Speaker 4: and wanted to celebrate the beginning of beginning of his

1546
01:22:27,439 --> 01:22:31,200
Speaker 4: retirement with a family reunion. My husband is the one

1547
01:22:31,200 --> 01:22:34,439
Speaker 4: who usually takes care of my son, because when my

1548
01:22:34,600 --> 01:22:38,599
Speaker 4: husband is with him, my nephew doesn't dare approach him.

1549
01:22:39,040 --> 01:22:42,519
Speaker 4: For that time, my husband at a work meeting and

1550
01:22:42,640 --> 01:22:46,120
Speaker 4: couldn't go. My daughter anyway, insisted that she would take

1551
01:22:46,200 --> 01:22:49,519
Speaker 4: care of her brother, so we ended up going. Now

1552
01:22:49,840 --> 01:22:53,720
Speaker 4: my parents have two medium sized swimming pools, one for

1553
01:22:53,880 --> 01:22:55,400
Speaker 4: children and one for adults.

1554
01:22:55,560 --> 01:22:56,200
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

1555
01:22:56,760 --> 01:23:00,200
Speaker 4: It turns out that my nephew threw my son to

1556
01:23:00,320 --> 01:23:03,200
Speaker 4: the adult pool. As soon as I realized, I took

1557
01:23:03,240 --> 01:23:06,000
Speaker 4: him out and cleaned him. My son was crying and

1558
01:23:06,080 --> 01:23:09,880
Speaker 4: I was watching I was watching Red. Oh seeing Red.

1559
01:23:10,280 --> 01:23:13,519
Speaker 4: But at least my son was fine. When I was

1560
01:23:13,560 --> 01:23:16,559
Speaker 4: about to go to complaining to my sister. We heard

1561
01:23:16,600 --> 01:23:19,600
Speaker 4: a scream. We all turned to look and it was

1562
01:23:19,680 --> 01:23:24,080
Speaker 4: my daughter singing, sinking my nephew's face in the water

1563
01:23:24,280 --> 01:23:25,520
Speaker 4: of the children's.

1564
01:23:26,600 --> 01:23:30,560
Speaker 1: And put it all away on top of him so

1565
01:23:30,720 --> 01:23:31,599
Speaker 1: that he couldn't get up.

1566
01:23:32,080 --> 01:23:35,040
Speaker 4: Almost all of us had to intervene to be able

1567
01:23:35,120 --> 01:23:35,880
Speaker 4: to separate them.

1568
01:23:36,120 --> 01:23:37,240
Speaker 1: She's so full of beans.

1569
01:23:37,640 --> 01:23:40,240
Speaker 4: I couldn't believe that a seven year old girl could

1570
01:23:40,280 --> 01:23:43,120
Speaker 4: have so much strength. But not even my two sisters

1571
01:23:43,160 --> 01:23:45,240
Speaker 4: and I could make a let go of my nephew.

1572
01:23:45,720 --> 01:23:49,240
Speaker 4: Oh my god, she's drowning him. When we managed to

1573
01:23:49,280 --> 01:23:53,280
Speaker 4: separate them, my nephew began to vomit water, throw it

1574
01:23:53,320 --> 01:23:57,040
Speaker 4: out of his nose and cry. My daughter also cry

1575
01:23:57,200 --> 01:23:59,840
Speaker 4: while hugging her brother, and I hugged both of them.

1576
01:24:00,360 --> 01:24:04,320
Speaker 4: When everything calmed down, Oh that's hard. Calmed down between them,

1577
01:24:04,439 --> 01:24:08,080
Speaker 4: the screams began between my sister and me. My sister

1578
01:24:08,200 --> 01:24:10,760
Speaker 4: wanted to hit my daughter, and I got in the way.

1579
01:24:11,240 --> 01:24:13,040
Speaker 4: Luckily nothing happened.

1580
01:24:13,080 --> 01:24:14,120
Speaker 2: Well, he certainly legged it.

1581
01:24:14,479 --> 01:24:16,840
Speaker 4: Jacy says, they tried to waterboard the kid.

1582
01:24:17,760 --> 01:24:17,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1583
01:24:19,200 --> 01:24:22,080
Speaker 4: In the end, we separated and each of us returned home.

1584
01:24:22,640 --> 01:24:25,760
Speaker 4: It is worth clarifying that I did not punish did

1585
01:24:25,840 --> 01:24:28,840
Speaker 4: not punish my daughter for what she did, and I

1586
01:24:29,040 --> 01:24:32,480
Speaker 4: do not plan to do so. She was only defending

1587
01:24:32,600 --> 01:24:35,840
Speaker 4: her brother. But the problem is that my sisters both

1588
01:24:35,960 --> 01:24:39,560
Speaker 4: want my daughter to apologize to my nephew and that

1589
01:24:39,640 --> 01:24:41,800
Speaker 4: I should punish her in front of them to let

1590
01:24:41,880 --> 01:24:44,879
Speaker 4: them know that that kind of violence is not okay,

1591
01:24:45,600 --> 01:24:49,160
Speaker 4: which I refused to do. My parents also think that

1592
01:24:49,280 --> 01:24:53,400
Speaker 4: my daughter went a little too far. The only person

1593
01:24:53,439 --> 01:24:55,720
Speaker 4: who's on my side now is my husband, saying that

1594
01:24:55,800 --> 01:24:58,160
Speaker 4: he would have done the same. He would have done

1595
01:24:58,200 --> 01:25:01,960
Speaker 4: the same if have been in my daughter's place. So

1596
01:25:02,280 --> 01:25:05,720
Speaker 4: am I the asshole for refusing to punish her and

1597
01:25:05,920 --> 01:25:07,720
Speaker 4: not wanting to apologize?

1598
01:25:08,000 --> 01:25:10,960
Speaker 2: Well, we don't need to cock up on a Jesus Christ.

1599
01:25:11,360 --> 01:25:13,960
Speaker 2: You can't cock up, can't crack on on a cockup.

1600
01:25:14,240 --> 01:25:15,400
Speaker 1: We just should leave her alone.

1601
01:25:15,560 --> 01:25:18,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, No, so she did find and went in and out.

1602
01:25:19,439 --> 01:25:20,000
Speaker 1: You did great.

1603
01:25:20,720 --> 01:25:24,120
Speaker 2: I'm trying to British terminology thing.

1604
01:25:25,560 --> 01:25:27,439
Speaker 4: This is kind of wild. I'm going to do this

1605
01:25:27,560 --> 01:25:29,240
Speaker 4: not an accent so that I can think of what

1606
01:25:29,320 --> 01:25:29,800
Speaker 4: I'm saying.

1607
01:25:29,880 --> 01:25:31,320
Speaker 2: Come on, come on, come on, keep it in.

1608
01:25:31,400 --> 01:25:34,280
Speaker 4: We're almost there, okay, all right, all right, keep it in.

1609
01:25:35,000 --> 01:25:39,360
Speaker 4: This is absolutely ridiculous. I think I do think that

1610
01:25:40,080 --> 01:25:44,280
Speaker 4: the daughter is right in defending the brother. However, I

1611
01:25:44,439 --> 01:25:46,759
Speaker 4: don't think that waterboarding is the answer.

1612
01:25:47,280 --> 01:25:48,400
Speaker 1: Well, she's so young.

1613
01:25:48,479 --> 01:25:51,120
Speaker 2: I feel like with a lot of young children, they

1614
01:25:51,479 --> 01:25:53,519
Speaker 2: have this instinct of protecting their siblings.

1615
01:25:53,680 --> 01:25:55,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, and this is the first instant.

1616
01:25:55,720 --> 01:25:59,080
Speaker 4: I don't. I don't. I don't think she should apologize

1617
01:25:59,200 --> 01:26:02,200
Speaker 4: to them person but apologize.

1618
01:26:02,360 --> 01:26:05,160
Speaker 1: No wait, she almost killed then?

1619
01:26:05,520 --> 01:26:05,560
Speaker 3: No?

1620
01:26:05,640 --> 01:26:07,519
Speaker 4: No, no, no, I mean I I don't. I think

1621
01:26:07,600 --> 01:26:10,600
Speaker 4: that this should be okay, hold on, hold on, going on.

1622
01:26:11,400 --> 01:26:15,280
Speaker 4: I think that a conversation does and a punishment needs

1623
01:26:15,320 --> 01:26:19,640
Speaker 4: to happen for trying to kill a child. Yes, I

1624
01:26:19,800 --> 01:26:25,120
Speaker 4: think that op should talk to her daughter about trying

1625
01:26:25,200 --> 01:26:28,519
Speaker 4: to kill people and say no, you cannot do that.

1626
01:26:28,800 --> 01:26:33,360
Speaker 4: But I think that I think that the the the

1627
01:26:33,400 --> 01:26:36,680
Speaker 4: other beat, the other boys started it, and so I

1628
01:26:36,760 --> 01:26:41,280
Speaker 4: think that they should say she'll apologize if he apologizes,

1629
01:26:42,560 --> 01:26:45,599
Speaker 4: you know, yes, But I think that that's a separate

1630
01:26:45,640 --> 01:26:58,760
Speaker 4: issue from ope punishing a child. You know, ah boy, Yes,

1631
01:27:00,160 --> 01:27:04,680
Speaker 4: After every family says, oh God, you should defend your siblings,

1632
01:27:04,760 --> 01:27:07,840
Speaker 4: but you don't attempt to end them, teach the daughter

1633
01:27:08,080 --> 01:27:13,200
Speaker 4: some responses have major consequences that are forever. I agree.

1634
01:27:13,280 --> 01:27:17,240
Speaker 4: I think that Opie definitely shouldn't take a daughter out

1635
01:27:17,439 --> 01:27:21,759
Speaker 4: for ice scream after she tried to water board a child.

1636
01:27:21,880 --> 01:27:23,440
Speaker 1: That'd be unacceptable.

1637
01:27:24,360 --> 01:27:26,360
Speaker 4: That would be bad. I think that would be bad.

1638
01:27:28,280 --> 01:27:31,800
Speaker 4: Oh my god, Oh that was even worse. I didn't

1639
01:27:31,840 --> 01:27:33,040
Speaker 4: prep my British accent.

1640
01:27:33,880 --> 01:27:34,479
Speaker 1: I can't hear you.

1641
01:27:35,120 --> 01:27:38,639
Speaker 4: I didn't prep my British accent, and so it's kind

1642
01:27:38,680 --> 01:27:40,280
Speaker 4: of all over the place.

1643
01:27:40,360 --> 01:27:43,880
Speaker 1: At least it's absolutely better than yours.

1644
01:27:44,280 --> 01:27:50,320
Speaker 4: But that's the high bars. Oh my god, ms lo

1645
01:27:50,360 --> 01:27:55,120
Speaker 4: ol Riley's accent fluid. There are some relevant I don't

1646
01:27:55,120 --> 01:27:56,880
Speaker 4: even need to read this relevant. Oh you know what,

1647
01:27:57,280 --> 01:28:00,000
Speaker 4: There are some relevant comments and I think that relevant.

1648
01:28:01,680 --> 01:28:07,400
Speaker 4: The owl Syndericate says, wtf are these dynamics? Your husband

1649
01:28:07,479 --> 01:28:09,519
Speaker 4: has to defend a four year old from a six

1650
01:28:09,640 --> 01:28:11,200
Speaker 4: year old six year old?

1651
01:28:11,439 --> 01:28:12,519
Speaker 1: That's what I want to say too.

1652
01:28:13,120 --> 01:28:15,479
Speaker 4: You decide to rely on a seven year old to

1653
01:28:15,560 --> 01:28:16,680
Speaker 4: defend the four year old?

1654
01:28:17,080 --> 01:28:18,040
Speaker 1: Where the f are you?

1655
01:28:18,439 --> 01:28:21,439
Speaker 4: Knowing six year olds picks on the four year old?

1656
01:28:21,720 --> 01:28:24,439
Speaker 4: You let him out out of your sight long enough

1657
01:28:24,520 --> 01:28:26,479
Speaker 4: to allow the six year old to push him into

1658
01:28:26,560 --> 01:28:29,400
Speaker 4: a pool. Then the seven year old holds him under

1659
01:28:29,439 --> 01:28:32,479
Speaker 4: the water and it takes multiple people to save him.

1660
01:28:32,960 --> 01:28:37,719
Speaker 4: And now are you all are arguing about apologies instead

1661
01:28:37,720 --> 01:28:39,560
Speaker 4: of dealing with the fact that your kids try to

1662
01:28:39,640 --> 01:28:43,200
Speaker 4: seriously harm each other? What is wrong with you? People? Agreed?

1663
01:28:43,680 --> 01:28:46,280
Speaker 4: I think that is that is the issue here. They're

1664
01:28:46,320 --> 01:28:49,400
Speaker 4: just children, that's the issue. No, but that's not a child.

1665
01:28:49,600 --> 01:28:51,920
Speaker 4: That's not normal child behavior, is it?

1666
01:28:52,800 --> 01:28:55,200
Speaker 1: That's messed out? Is no learning?

1667
01:28:55,680 --> 01:28:57,720
Speaker 4: No? I think you have to have a conversation with

1668
01:28:57,880 --> 01:29:01,360
Speaker 4: your kids and say, hey, you can't alone. That's what

1669
01:29:01,439 --> 01:29:04,320
Speaker 4: I'm saying. Er Maces, the commentary has a point. I agree,

1670
01:29:04,960 --> 01:29:07,799
Speaker 4: this is this is Yeah. No, I like, I understand

1671
01:29:07,880 --> 01:29:11,559
Speaker 4: that she doesn't want to apologize without him apologizing because

1672
01:29:11,720 --> 01:29:17,800
Speaker 4: the nephew started it. But but you've you've got you've

1673
01:29:17,880 --> 01:29:20,559
Speaker 4: got to have some punishment for your own child. You've

1674
01:29:20,560 --> 01:29:21,760
Speaker 4: got to start there, you know.

1675
01:29:22,280 --> 01:29:23,840
Speaker 1: And this is the first place to start.

1676
01:29:24,120 --> 01:29:29,600
Speaker 4: What his accent Riley, Oh my god, yeah, this is

1677
01:29:29,680 --> 01:29:30,960
Speaker 4: absolutely bonkers.

1678
01:29:31,200 --> 01:29:35,360
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, I don't know. Yeah, that sums

1679
01:29:35,400 --> 01:29:35,680
Speaker 1: it up.

1680
01:29:35,920 --> 01:29:38,679
Speaker 4: Radish, Wow, that was great, thank you, Okay, We're done.

1681
01:29:39,120 --> 01:29:41,840
Speaker 2: I don't even know what that was at the end there.

1682
01:29:42,000 --> 01:29:43,640
Speaker 2: I kind of feel bad. I had some going and

1683
01:29:43,680 --> 01:29:44,639
Speaker 2: then it just went everywhere.

1684
01:29:44,640 --> 01:29:46,800
Speaker 1: It's gone. You're just gonna have to I have like

1685
01:29:46,920 --> 01:29:49,760
Speaker 1: sentences that get me into it. You have sentences to

1686
01:29:49,840 --> 01:29:50,560
Speaker 1: get me into it.

1687
01:29:52,120 --> 01:29:55,000
Speaker 4: No, I do like I'm not, Oh, he's proper fit

1688
01:29:55,040 --> 01:29:57,320
Speaker 4: in it. He's proper fit, isn't he any?

1689
01:29:58,479 --> 01:29:59,640
Speaker 1: And that kind of gets me there.

1690
01:29:59,720 --> 01:30:02,120
Speaker 2: Had I had some British terminology, but you would't let

1691
01:30:02,120 --> 01:30:05,719
Speaker 2: me say Tuesday I was right. I was like trying

1692
01:30:05,720 --> 01:30:07,439
Speaker 2: to say, we're trying to do it.

1693
01:30:07,520 --> 01:30:08,599
Speaker 4: What do you do you think?

1694
01:30:09,320 --> 01:30:11,920
Speaker 1: Not anymore, it's already done. Yeah, that was kind of something,

1695
01:30:12,360 --> 01:30:12,640
Speaker 1: Thank you.

1696
01:30:13,720 --> 01:30:15,479
Speaker 2: I have to keep it high. But then I got

1697
01:30:15,520 --> 01:30:18,800
Speaker 2: into my Indian accent. Man, I could do a pretty

1698
01:30:19,240 --> 01:30:20,439
Speaker 2: Can I do an Indian accent?

1699
01:30:21,360 --> 01:30:21,680
Speaker 1: Why not?

1700
01:30:22,080 --> 01:30:24,960
Speaker 4: That's offensive? Don't do that, But I can do it.

1701
01:30:25,320 --> 01:30:27,240
Speaker 1: So I can only do white people accents?

1702
01:30:27,400 --> 01:30:28,920
Speaker 4: Yes, right?

1703
01:30:29,240 --> 01:30:29,679
Speaker 2: Interesting?

1704
01:30:30,479 --> 01:30:36,000
Speaker 4: Correct? Rightley's learning. Oh lord, I think I I think

1705
01:30:36,040 --> 01:30:39,679
Speaker 4: I have better days with my accent than today. Yeah

1706
01:30:39,920 --> 01:30:42,559
Speaker 4: it sucked, Yeah, No, I think it did. I think

1707
01:30:42,600 --> 01:30:45,599
Speaker 4: it was pretty bad. And I apologize to the British people.

1708
01:30:47,400 --> 01:30:50,160
Speaker 4: But there's another story.

1709
01:30:50,520 --> 01:30:50,960
Speaker 1: Let's do it.

1710
01:30:51,120 --> 01:30:55,360
Speaker 4: We'll do this without without that about it without an accent.

1711
01:30:56,640 --> 01:30:59,600
Speaker 4: All right, all right, let's do it. Let's do it,

1712
01:31:02,120 --> 01:31:02,400
Speaker 4: al right?

1713
01:31:02,520 --> 01:31:06,280
Speaker 1: Is that yeah? Wait wait wait.

1714
01:31:07,960 --> 01:31:12,200
Speaker 4: Friend, And they said, I'm telling you blanket statement.

1715
01:31:12,439 --> 01:31:16,479
Speaker 1: No, but like raw, I just know I can do

1716
01:31:16,520 --> 01:31:17,320
Speaker 1: an Indian accent.

1717
01:31:17,360 --> 01:31:20,479
Speaker 4: But no, you can't. You also can't do like you've

1718
01:31:22,439 --> 01:31:25,799
Speaker 4: Not only not only can you not do like socially

1719
01:31:25,840 --> 01:31:29,840
Speaker 4: and politically an accent an Indian accent, you also can't.

1720
01:31:30,240 --> 01:31:32,160
Speaker 4: I don't believe that you can do an accent, and

1721
01:31:33,120 --> 01:31:34,200
Speaker 4: I don't want you to try either.

1722
01:31:35,400 --> 01:31:35,880
Speaker 1: The mics.

1723
01:31:36,040 --> 01:31:44,439
Speaker 4: No, I think blanket statement, you are not allowed to

1724
01:31:44,560 --> 01:31:45,720
Speaker 4: do accents that are not.

1725
01:31:46,320 --> 01:31:48,160
Speaker 1: White people white people.

1726
01:31:48,880 --> 01:31:55,480
Speaker 4: The blanket statement. Easy, easy, easy, But let's get into

1727
01:31:57,200 --> 01:32:02,040
Speaker 4: this next story. Are yeah, sorry, I love what says

1728
01:32:02,080 --> 01:32:03,799
Speaker 4: we'll do it without an accent, and then I immediately

1729
01:32:04,120 --> 01:32:07,240
Speaker 4: had an accent. It takes me a second to get

1730
01:32:07,240 --> 01:32:09,000
Speaker 4: out of it. Okay, it takes me a second and get.

1731
01:32:08,880 --> 01:32:09,120
Speaker 1: Out of it.

1732
01:32:10,360 --> 01:32:12,920
Speaker 4: Uh Am, I the a hole for not sharing my

1733
01:32:13,040 --> 01:32:17,559
Speaker 4: reception with my older sister. And this is to answer

1734
01:32:17,600 --> 01:32:20,959
Speaker 4: the question of when should you take sides in family conflict.

1735
01:32:22,200 --> 01:32:22,920
Speaker 1: Let's find out.

1736
01:32:23,479 --> 01:32:27,400
Speaker 4: So midnight, angittle Wing says, me and my partner are

1737
01:32:27,479 --> 01:32:30,080
Speaker 4: doing a renewing our vows in a few weeks. Okay,

1738
01:32:30,800 --> 01:32:33,240
Speaker 4: my older sister got married in a court a few

1739
01:32:33,479 --> 01:32:36,600
Speaker 4: a week ago, only telling three people, then dropping it

1740
01:32:36,720 --> 01:32:39,920
Speaker 4: on Facebook. Everyone asked her where the reception will be,

1741
01:32:40,160 --> 01:32:45,360
Speaker 4: and she said she's sending out invitations soon. Yesterday I

1742
01:32:45,520 --> 01:32:47,920
Speaker 4: visited my mom with her since I couldn't drive due

1743
01:32:47,920 --> 01:32:50,840
Speaker 4: to medical reasons. On the drive there, she brings up

1744
01:32:50,880 --> 01:32:54,799
Speaker 4: her wedding, saying she can't afford a reception. She drags

1745
01:32:54,840 --> 01:32:58,320
Speaker 4: on about the entire forty five minute drive there about it.

1746
01:32:58,600 --> 01:33:01,439
Speaker 4: I just stayed quiet as I knew what she was doing.

1747
01:33:02,080 --> 01:33:06,240
Speaker 4: We had a good visit with my mom and left. Wait, okay,

1748
01:33:06,960 --> 01:33:08,960
Speaker 4: what I'm confused on what's happening so far?

1749
01:33:09,160 --> 01:33:09,880
Speaker 1: Yeah? That was a lot.

1750
01:33:10,360 --> 01:33:11,719
Speaker 4: She brings up the wedding and she says she can't

1751
01:33:11,720 --> 01:33:12,040
Speaker 4: afford it.

1752
01:33:12,479 --> 01:33:13,280
Speaker 1: I visit my mom.

1753
01:33:13,640 --> 01:33:16,840
Speaker 4: The mom can't afford the reception. I okay, I'm gonna

1754
01:33:16,880 --> 01:33:19,519
Speaker 4: keep reading. On the way back, she starts talking about

1755
01:33:19,560 --> 01:33:21,800
Speaker 4: me renewing my vows and how lucky I am to

1756
01:33:21,920 --> 01:33:25,599
Speaker 4: afford it. About fifteen minutes into the drive, she comes

1757
01:33:25,680 --> 01:33:28,560
Speaker 4: up with the idea of doing a double reception so

1758
01:33:28,720 --> 01:33:32,120
Speaker 4: she can celebrate her marriage with everyone at the same time.

1759
01:33:32,960 --> 01:33:35,360
Speaker 4: I told her no, she wasn't going to be able

1760
01:33:35,400 --> 01:33:40,679
Speaker 4: to contribue to it. Yeah, I wasn't going to wait wait, wait, wait,

1761
01:33:41,680 --> 01:33:45,760
Speaker 4: she wants to just oh, okay, so this is the Okay.

1762
01:33:45,840 --> 01:33:49,599
Speaker 4: The situation is that op is renewing her vows. Yes,

1763
01:33:50,320 --> 01:33:55,519
Speaker 4: and Opie's uh sister just got married in a courthouse,

1764
01:33:55,560 --> 01:33:59,080
Speaker 4: but couldn't pay for an actual celebration, and so she's

1765
01:33:59,120 --> 01:34:02,880
Speaker 4: trying to piggy back onto the reception because she can't

1766
01:34:02,880 --> 01:34:03,280
Speaker 4: pay for it.

1767
01:34:04,080 --> 01:34:04,680
Speaker 1: Absolutely not.

1768
01:34:06,520 --> 01:34:11,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, that's wild. I told her no, as she

1769
01:34:11,640 --> 01:34:13,800
Speaker 4: wouldn't be able to contribute to it and I wasn't

1770
01:34:13,840 --> 01:34:16,519
Speaker 4: going to front the cost for her. She acted like

1771
01:34:16,600 --> 01:34:19,799
Speaker 4: I didn't say anything and just started talking about changes

1772
01:34:19,800 --> 01:34:21,880
Speaker 4: I need to make to fit both of us. Oh,

1773
01:34:22,280 --> 01:34:23,040
Speaker 4: she just ignored you.

1774
01:34:24,240 --> 01:34:25,360
Speaker 1: No, this is gonna happen.

1775
01:34:25,479 --> 01:34:27,280
Speaker 4: And she's like yeah, no. Oh. He's like, no, we're

1776
01:34:27,320 --> 01:34:28,800
Speaker 4: not doing that, and she's like, okay. So I was

1777
01:34:28,840 --> 01:34:31,400
Speaker 4: thinking that the flowers could be lilies and that the

1778
01:34:31,680 --> 01:34:34,200
Speaker 4: venue could have like kind of a purple thing, and oh,

1779
01:34:34,280 --> 01:34:36,080
Speaker 4: he's like, actually, no, we're not doing any of that.

1780
01:34:36,200 --> 01:34:38,360
Speaker 4: And the sister's like and I was thinking that maybe

1781
01:34:38,400 --> 01:34:40,720
Speaker 4: we could come down the aisle and butterflies would come out,

1782
01:34:40,920 --> 01:34:43,240
Speaker 4: and you would actually be behind the curtain. We wouldn't

1783
01:34:43,240 --> 01:34:44,879
Speaker 4: really see you at all the whole ceremony.

1784
01:34:45,280 --> 01:34:47,280
Speaker 2: That's pretty smart. If you really want something to happen,

1785
01:34:47,360 --> 01:34:48,639
Speaker 2: you just act like it's happening.

1786
01:34:48,760 --> 01:34:50,439
Speaker 4: She just like it's happening anyway.

1787
01:34:50,600 --> 01:34:52,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, the boys do that to us all the time.

1788
01:34:52,040 --> 01:34:54,000
Speaker 2: They're like, this might happen, and then they talk like

1789
01:34:54,080 --> 01:34:55,840
Speaker 2: it is happening, but we don't know if any.

1790
01:34:55,720 --> 01:34:57,519
Speaker 4: Yeah, we're like, is this happening?

1791
01:35:00,120 --> 01:35:00,240
Speaker 5: Uh?

1792
01:35:02,240 --> 01:35:06,760
Speaker 4: Where was I? By the time she dropped me off,

1793
01:35:06,880 --> 01:35:10,040
Speaker 4: she had a plan to entirely change the reception to

1794
01:35:10,240 --> 01:35:13,000
Speaker 4: her liking lovely. I just told her I will not

1795
01:35:13,320 --> 01:35:15,760
Speaker 4: invite her if she continues to push for this. He

1796
01:35:15,840 --> 01:35:19,160
Speaker 4: says okay and speeds off. I don't believe that she

1797
01:35:19,280 --> 01:35:22,680
Speaker 4: is okay with it. Today I woke up to an

1798
01:35:22,760 --> 01:35:27,120
Speaker 4: invite to her reception same time and place as mine.

1799
01:35:27,280 --> 01:35:30,479
Speaker 4: On Facebook. She even posted about how kind I was

1800
01:35:30,600 --> 01:35:33,719
Speaker 4: to give her the chance to celebrate her marriage with everyone.

1801
01:35:34,360 --> 01:35:36,679
Speaker 4: I replied to the post saying that I never agreed

1802
01:35:36,720 --> 01:35:38,839
Speaker 4: to that and she wouldn't even be allowed there anymore.

1803
01:35:39,439 --> 01:35:41,640
Speaker 4: Some people are now calling me an a hole for

1804
01:35:41,760 --> 01:35:43,400
Speaker 4: not just sharing the reception hall.

1805
01:35:43,600 --> 01:35:45,600
Speaker 2: What what?

1806
01:35:46,920 --> 01:35:51,680
Speaker 4: Oh my god, it's a split between my family on

1807
01:35:51,800 --> 01:35:54,880
Speaker 4: if I'm the a hole or if my sister is overstopping.

1808
01:35:55,040 --> 01:36:00,400
Speaker 4: And there is an edit and some comments and an

1809
01:36:00,600 --> 01:36:05,040
Speaker 4: edit I mean, and and updates. She's one hundred percent overstepping.

1810
01:36:05,320 --> 01:36:06,519
Speaker 2: Yeah, this ain't her shindig.

1811
01:36:07,520 --> 01:36:11,160
Speaker 4: Why I don't know why anyone would ever say that

1812
01:36:12,200 --> 01:36:16,200
Speaker 4: she's the a hole. She literally planned an event and

1813
01:36:16,320 --> 01:36:18,760
Speaker 4: her sister's trying to take it from her.

1814
01:36:19,120 --> 01:36:21,559
Speaker 1: Hmmm, weird? Is weird?

1815
01:36:21,720 --> 01:36:24,599
Speaker 2: I wonder what else in their childhood this tipen?

1816
01:36:24,920 --> 01:36:25,880
Speaker 4: Has she done this before?

1817
01:36:26,240 --> 01:36:26,400
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1818
01:36:26,439 --> 01:36:28,439
Speaker 2: It just levels up as you get older.

1819
01:36:28,880 --> 01:36:29,400
Speaker 4: Very true.

1820
01:36:29,520 --> 01:36:32,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I took your baby doll, took her car and.

1821
01:36:32,960 --> 01:36:34,120
Speaker 4: Took her wedding.

1822
01:36:36,400 --> 01:36:39,000
Speaker 1: Edit. I have security already. Oh my god.

1823
01:36:39,160 --> 01:36:41,479
Speaker 4: She has a bouncer for her party and have an

1824
01:36:41,560 --> 01:36:44,880
Speaker 4: in person meeting today with them to discuss the guest list,

1825
01:36:45,080 --> 01:36:48,479
Speaker 4: the possible ability of the uninvited one, and security was

1826
01:36:48,479 --> 01:36:51,000
Speaker 4: already part of the plan even before this incident due

1827
01:36:51,000 --> 01:36:54,320
Speaker 4: to other unkind family members who are not invited. So

1828
01:36:54,680 --> 01:36:58,040
Speaker 4: what's adding one more? The only reason I still talk

1829
01:36:58,080 --> 01:37:00,519
Speaker 4: to my sister is for my mother's sake, I will

1830
01:37:00,640 --> 01:37:03,960
Speaker 4: continue to be low contact with her unfortunately. Thank you

1831
01:37:04,160 --> 01:37:06,519
Speaker 4: for your kind words. I was starting to think I

1832
01:37:06,640 --> 01:37:09,439
Speaker 4: might just be an a whole, but then realize most

1833
01:37:09,479 --> 01:37:12,120
Speaker 4: people who are saying this are people who wouldn't have

1834
01:37:12,240 --> 01:37:13,759
Speaker 4: been invited in the first place.

1835
01:37:15,720 --> 01:37:16,599
Speaker 1: Oh my god.

1836
01:37:16,680 --> 01:37:19,519
Speaker 4: Wait, is Opie saying like the Reddick commoners wouldn't be invited,

1837
01:37:19,640 --> 01:37:22,360
Speaker 4: or like other family members who are calling her an

1838
01:37:22,360 --> 01:37:23,879
Speaker 4: a whole wouldn't be invited.

1839
01:37:24,080 --> 01:37:26,080
Speaker 2: I'm not sure because both are.

1840
01:37:25,960 --> 01:37:30,400
Speaker 4: Kind of funny. I will update after the reception as

1841
01:37:30,439 --> 01:37:34,640
Speaker 4: there are several people requesting it and there are some

1842
01:37:34,840 --> 01:37:36,360
Speaker 4: comments and an update.

1843
01:37:36,600 --> 01:37:39,000
Speaker 1: Oh wow, let's read some of these comments.

1844
01:37:39,680 --> 01:37:42,240
Speaker 4: Uh. Consensus says Opie is not the a whole, which

1845
01:37:42,320 --> 01:37:45,800
Speaker 4: I obvious give me award says not the A hole.

1846
01:37:45,920 --> 01:37:48,280
Speaker 4: Your sister is out of line, trying to hijack your

1847
01:37:48,320 --> 01:37:51,639
Speaker 4: special day for her own benefit. It's your vow renewal,

1848
01:37:51,800 --> 01:37:54,640
Speaker 4: not a joint celebration. She needs to learn boundaries and

1849
01:37:54,760 --> 01:38:01,560
Speaker 4: respect your decision. Stanned your ground and Gastrope says not

1850
01:38:01,720 --> 01:38:03,919
Speaker 4: the A hole. A lot of people just have receptions

1851
01:38:03,960 --> 01:38:06,160
Speaker 4: at home or potlack in a park. She can have

1852
01:38:06,280 --> 01:38:09,439
Speaker 4: her own reception. She just wants to steal yours.

1853
01:38:09,720 --> 01:38:12,280
Speaker 2: You already already doing this thing, might as well hop

1854
01:38:12,320 --> 01:38:13,160
Speaker 2: on piggyback.

1855
01:38:13,400 --> 01:38:15,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, have you ever seen I am?

1856
01:38:16,160 --> 01:38:16,840
Speaker 1: Where is that way?

1857
01:38:16,840 --> 01:38:17,439
Speaker 4: I just missed?

1858
01:38:17,840 --> 01:38:18,320
Speaker 1: Someone said?

1859
01:38:18,360 --> 01:38:21,280
Speaker 4: Oh, Kayla, Marie Veronica says, I work in security. Wedding

1860
01:38:21,360 --> 01:38:23,080
Speaker 4: security is super normal the venue.

1861
01:38:23,240 --> 01:38:25,280
Speaker 2: Yes, why you work in security.

1862
01:38:26,800 --> 01:38:27,679
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

1863
01:38:27,760 --> 01:38:30,320
Speaker 4: I wasn't the surprising thing to be. I was gonna say,

1864
01:38:30,360 --> 01:38:33,000
Speaker 4: I've been to a lot of weddings in my time,

1865
01:38:33,200 --> 01:38:35,759
Speaker 4: and I don't think I've ever seen security at a wedding.

1866
01:38:36,160 --> 01:38:36,840
Speaker 1: Me neither.

1867
01:38:38,720 --> 01:38:41,360
Speaker 4: Maybe I'm not going to enough high end weddings.

1868
01:38:41,320 --> 01:38:44,680
Speaker 2: Kayla explained to us, your craziest wedding security.

1869
01:38:44,880 --> 01:38:46,519
Speaker 4: Yeah, did anyone ever get kicked out?

1870
01:38:47,080 --> 01:38:49,800
Speaker 2: Go to the riddit right now, Kayla, and put it in.

1871
01:38:51,240 --> 01:38:55,840
Speaker 1: Get it to us. My backer me too? All right?

1872
01:38:55,960 --> 01:38:57,360
Speaker 1: Like that workout so stiff.

1873
01:38:58,000 --> 01:39:01,840
Speaker 4: Ouch. But let's get into this update, which was on

1874
01:39:01,960 --> 01:39:03,719
Speaker 4: June twenty eighth, a day.

1875
01:39:03,680 --> 01:39:06,479
Speaker 2: Before my birthday, literally happened yesterday.

1876
01:39:06,680 --> 01:39:09,280
Speaker 1: Liter no update.

1877
01:39:09,400 --> 01:39:12,519
Speaker 4: The vow renewal ceremony went long, so we were behind

1878
01:39:12,600 --> 01:39:15,880
Speaker 4: showing up to reception. The shuttle showed up just in time.

1879
01:39:16,040 --> 01:39:21,439
Speaker 4: To see security stopping my sister without her husband. Wait,

1880
01:39:21,640 --> 01:39:24,160
Speaker 4: she came without her husband? What was wasn't the whole

1881
01:39:24,280 --> 01:39:27,920
Speaker 4: thing that this was for a wedding and other uninvited

1882
01:39:28,000 --> 01:39:32,080
Speaker 4: guests getting idd I asked by party to stay back

1883
01:39:32,120 --> 01:39:35,280
Speaker 4: a minute, as I didn't want to overwhelm the security.

1884
01:39:35,640 --> 01:39:38,920
Speaker 4: Brand to say, it turned into a bit of entertainment. Helloell.

1885
01:39:39,479 --> 01:39:42,000
Speaker 4: She had a couple hundred dollars dress and was trying

1886
01:39:42,840 --> 01:39:46,200
Speaker 4: and was trying to overwhelm the security with just the

1887
01:39:46,240 --> 01:39:48,800
Speaker 4: amount of people. The guard had quite a voice and

1888
01:39:48,920 --> 01:39:52,280
Speaker 4: yelled loudly that anyone who was here for big sister's

1889
01:39:52,320 --> 01:39:55,640
Speaker 4: reception is in the wrong place and will not be

1890
01:39:55,720 --> 01:39:58,439
Speaker 4: allowed in unless they were on the guest list. A

1891
01:39:58,600 --> 01:40:00,719
Speaker 4: large group of her party just walked away.

1892
01:40:01,000 --> 01:40:04,280
Speaker 1: Oh boy, she bought a bunch of people, like we're gonna,

1893
01:40:04,320 --> 01:40:07,200
Speaker 1: We're gonna. They can't take us all. All.

1894
01:40:07,760 --> 01:40:11,600
Speaker 4: That's embarrassing. Imagine you show up to someone's reception and

1895
01:40:11,720 --> 01:40:14,360
Speaker 4: you find out that they're trying to hijack someone else's reception,

1896
01:40:14,800 --> 01:40:18,240
Speaker 4: Like they're trying to they're trying to uh what's the

1897
01:40:18,320 --> 01:40:21,920
Speaker 4: word when you uh, like party crash, hijack. No, Like

1898
01:40:21,960 --> 01:40:23,120
Speaker 4: they're trying to crash the party.

1899
01:40:23,439 --> 01:40:23,879
Speaker 1: Hijack.

1900
01:40:24,320 --> 01:40:25,800
Speaker 4: No, I was thinking of crash the party.

1901
01:40:25,840 --> 01:40:26,679
Speaker 2: Oh like hijack?

1902
01:40:27,000 --> 01:40:32,640
Speaker 4: Okay ah, what a word that crashing and hijack. I

1903
01:40:32,760 --> 01:40:35,000
Speaker 4: was thinking of crashing the party. That was the word

1904
01:40:35,040 --> 01:40:35,560
Speaker 4: I was thinking of.

1905
01:40:35,680 --> 01:40:36,640
Speaker 2: Oh, then why did you say that?

1906
01:40:37,040 --> 01:40:41,040
Speaker 4: No, I did whatever. My big sister starts demanding to

1907
01:40:41,080 --> 01:40:45,120
Speaker 4: speak to the manager, the manager, the manager of the party.

1908
01:40:45,920 --> 01:40:48,080
Speaker 1: Car Carrie, that's funny.

1909
01:40:48,120 --> 01:40:51,040
Speaker 4: Imagine going to a wedding and being like, I demand

1910
01:40:51,200 --> 01:40:52,479
Speaker 4: to speak to the manager.

1911
01:40:52,840 --> 01:40:57,400
Speaker 2: Who's the manager of this establishment? Oh, the bride and groom?

1912
01:40:57,760 --> 01:41:00,519
Speaker 4: Yeah, the manager, Oh there is, he's a manager.

1913
01:41:00,720 --> 01:41:01,120
Speaker 1: High lied?

1914
01:41:02,400 --> 01:41:05,360
Speaker 4: How dari scare people off? The manager shows up alongside

1915
01:41:05,439 --> 01:41:08,439
Speaker 4: more security. My sister puts on her best crying act,

1916
01:41:08,560 --> 01:41:10,800
Speaker 4: but the manager just says she and her guests have

1917
01:41:11,000 --> 01:41:13,479
Speaker 4: five minutes to leave the property or the police will

1918
01:41:13,479 --> 01:41:14,040
Speaker 4: be involved.

1919
01:41:14,560 --> 01:41:14,680
Speaker 1: Hi.

1920
01:41:14,960 --> 01:41:17,840
Speaker 4: She storms off, screaming about how it was unfair and

1921
01:41:17,960 --> 01:41:20,280
Speaker 4: how much money she wasted on address for this night.

1922
01:41:20,880 --> 01:41:23,439
Speaker 4: The rest of the night was uneventful and was really chill.

1923
01:41:24,439 --> 01:41:26,800
Speaker 4: The staff and the security got a very good tip,

1924
01:41:27,280 --> 01:41:30,479
Speaker 4: and Annie left over alcohol or food they wanted. I

1925
01:41:30,600 --> 01:41:32,479
Speaker 4: hope that was the end of that but that this

1926
01:41:32,720 --> 01:41:35,759
Speaker 4: morning I got a money request for four hundred dollars

1927
01:41:35,840 --> 01:41:39,040
Speaker 4: from my sister, saying if I don't pay, she will

1928
01:41:39,120 --> 01:41:42,160
Speaker 4: sue me. How how would you.

1929
01:41:42,280 --> 01:41:45,839
Speaker 1: Sue actually sue her back for emotional damage?

1930
01:41:45,960 --> 01:41:49,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, seer for gate crashing. Yes, I have a lawyer,

1931
01:41:50,040 --> 01:41:52,479
Speaker 4: so this is of no concern to me because she

1932
01:41:52,479 --> 01:41:55,599
Speaker 4: wouldn't have grounds to stand on. I swear she's getting

1933
01:41:55,600 --> 01:41:58,720
Speaker 4: worse with time and needs some mental help. I am

1934
01:41:58,840 --> 01:42:02,080
Speaker 4: limiting contact with her email and only in regard to

1935
01:42:02,600 --> 01:42:06,920
Speaker 4: regards to my mom's care. And there are two relevant comments.

1936
01:42:06,680 --> 01:42:09,120
Speaker 2: That Opie replies to, so we will read them lovely.

1937
01:42:10,320 --> 01:42:12,080
Speaker 1: Critical were five eight?

1938
01:42:12,800 --> 01:42:15,920
Speaker 4: Two says just out of nosiness. How many uninvited guests

1939
01:42:15,960 --> 01:42:18,559
Speaker 4: of sisters showed up? Trying to figure out the size

1940
01:42:18,680 --> 01:42:22,280
Speaker 4: of her entitlement, Opie says she had six family members

1941
01:42:22,360 --> 01:42:26,120
Speaker 4: that I didn't invite in seven of her friends wild,

1942
01:42:26,600 --> 01:42:29,040
Speaker 4: so thirteen in total that showed up. The reception hall

1943
01:42:29,160 --> 01:42:32,320
Speaker 4: was only rated for twenty five people. Oh that's really small,

1944
01:42:32,680 --> 01:42:35,880
Speaker 4: Mysterious niece says, too bad you can't get a restraining

1945
01:42:36,000 --> 01:42:39,320
Speaker 4: order against her. The entitlement and harassment are off the

1946
01:42:39,439 --> 01:42:42,320
Speaker 4: charts with your sister and Opie says, if it wasn't

1947
01:42:42,360 --> 01:42:44,439
Speaker 4: for needing to stay in contact for my mother's care,

1948
01:42:44,680 --> 01:42:49,800
Speaker 4: then I probably would have one, and that folks read

1949
01:42:49,880 --> 01:42:53,800
Speaker 4: this is the end of that story. Matt Hattergal says,

1950
01:42:54,200 --> 01:42:56,559
Speaker 4: this actually happened to my best friend's wife. Her mother

1951
01:42:56,720 --> 01:42:59,120
Speaker 4: wanted to split the bridal party with her sister with

1952
01:42:59,240 --> 01:43:01,720
Speaker 4: her half sister who was pregnant at the time, so

1953
01:43:01,880 --> 01:43:04,880
Speaker 4: it would be a bridal baby shower party. She said no,

1954
01:43:05,040 --> 01:43:07,479
Speaker 4: and her mom threw a fit. So thank you for

1955
01:43:07,520 --> 01:43:11,400
Speaker 4: the twenty bucks. That is crazy. That's crazy. I can't

1956
01:43:11,439 --> 01:43:16,280
Speaker 4: imagine throwing a bridal shower. I just can't imagine throwing

1957
01:43:16,320 --> 01:43:23,479
Speaker 4: a party that someone demands to like hop onto. I

1958
01:43:23,560 --> 01:43:25,920
Speaker 4: think the only times that kind of makes sense is

1959
01:43:25,920 --> 01:43:28,000
Speaker 4: when people have birthdays at the same time and they're like, hey,

1960
01:43:28,080 --> 01:43:30,479
Speaker 4: let's have a joint birthday party. But that is only

1961
01:43:30,560 --> 01:43:33,640
Speaker 4: something you can do if the other person agrees. You

1962
01:43:33,720 --> 01:43:37,439
Speaker 4: can't just insist that you're you know you're gonna combine parties.

1963
01:43:38,680 --> 01:43:41,479
Speaker 4: Dutchess Casana says, that is really small. I had sixty

1964
01:43:41,560 --> 01:43:44,000
Speaker 4: people and thought that was small. Yeah, Also, this party

1965
01:43:44,120 --> 01:43:46,679
Speaker 4: is very small, so the fact that she brought thirteen

1966
01:43:46,760 --> 01:43:48,479
Speaker 4: people to it is also very weird.

1967
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Speaker 2: Yeah, well there's probably more coming, but that's all they

1968
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Speaker 2: had right there.

1969
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Speaker 4: Oh maybe yeah, Um, and are there any more donations?

1970
01:43:58,960 --> 01:44:00,760
Speaker 4: Brittany John said, they thank you for the ten bucks.

1971
01:44:00,960 --> 01:44:03,120
Speaker 4: This is super off topic, but I have two kids,

1972
01:44:03,200 --> 01:44:05,120
Speaker 4: a boy and a girl, that are about a year

1973
01:44:05,160 --> 01:44:06,960
Speaker 4: and a half apart, and I really hope they have

1974
01:44:07,000 --> 01:44:10,160
Speaker 4: a relationship like Sam and Sophia. You're always so wholesome.

1975
01:44:10,760 --> 01:44:13,519
Speaker 4: That's really sweet. I feel very lucky to have a

1976
01:44:13,520 --> 01:44:17,000
Speaker 4: relationship like I do with Sam, and I hope that

1977
01:44:17,400 --> 01:44:20,200
Speaker 4: I hope that they get that too. Jac thank you

1978
01:44:20,280 --> 01:44:22,760
Speaker 4: for celebrating four months of membership, four months with the

1979
01:44:22,840 --> 01:44:26,400
Speaker 4: Little Sillies and a lifetime to go. We're gonna be

1980
01:44:26,520 --> 01:44:27,439
Speaker 4: doing this tour.

1981
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Speaker 1: Nead, Grandma and the Grave love you guys.

1982
01:44:33,400 --> 01:44:35,559
Speaker 4: Thanks for all the work you do. We appreciate y'all.

1983
01:44:35,680 --> 01:44:38,519
Speaker 2: We appreciate you, appreciate comments and your funness and your

1984
01:44:38,720 --> 01:44:40,439
Speaker 2: energy that you bring and everyone else.

1985
01:44:41,000 --> 01:44:43,000
Speaker 4: This was so different when it was just the operation

1986
01:44:43,200 --> 01:44:47,000
Speaker 4: was just us talking to ourselves. But now we get

1987
01:44:47,040 --> 01:44:51,000
Speaker 4: to talk to you every freaking day except weekends.

1988
01:44:51,360 --> 01:44:54,200
Speaker 2: No weekends, and that's kind of On the weekends we

1989
01:44:54,320 --> 01:44:54,840
Speaker 2: talk at you.

1990
01:44:55,040 --> 01:44:57,000
Speaker 4: They talk at you on the weekends. Yeah, we send

1991
01:44:57,000 --> 01:44:58,120
Speaker 4: you little discord messages.

1992
01:44:58,479 --> 01:45:00,880
Speaker 2: We can do a quick little story, real quick six

1993
01:45:01,000 --> 01:45:04,840
Speaker 2: or four s four. Okay, let's do this this and

1994
01:45:04,920 --> 01:45:07,320
Speaker 2: then we will go and I will use the body.

1995
01:45:07,520 --> 01:45:08,639
Speaker 2: I need to go to bathroom as well.

1996
01:45:09,520 --> 01:45:11,560
Speaker 4: Am I the a hole for not paying for my

1997
01:45:11,680 --> 01:45:16,840
Speaker 4: niece's college anymore because she's dating my son's bully. Don't pay?

1998
01:45:17,000 --> 01:45:19,439
Speaker 4: Don't pay? And this is to ask the question of

1999
01:45:19,520 --> 01:45:23,280
Speaker 4: what is too harsh? One pair so Fit Celebration eighty

2000
01:45:23,320 --> 01:45:27,639
Speaker 4: five fifty nine says the bullying in question happened when

2001
01:45:27,720 --> 01:45:30,640
Speaker 4: my boy Sean was thirteen. And I know for some

2002
01:45:31,200 --> 01:45:32,840
Speaker 4: this may seem like it was a long time ago

2003
01:45:32,920 --> 01:45:35,439
Speaker 4: and they were just kids. And I agree if the

2004
01:45:35,520 --> 01:45:38,439
Speaker 4: bullying was just name calling and pulling hair. But what

2005
01:45:38,600 --> 01:45:42,400
Speaker 4: my boy went through was downright rule. It first started

2006
01:45:42,439 --> 01:45:45,120
Speaker 4: with names and calling him slurs Sean is gay? Oh

2007
01:45:45,240 --> 01:45:48,920
Speaker 4: he sucks? Well, I hate this bully already. It then

2008
01:45:49,120 --> 01:45:52,320
Speaker 4: escalated to cyber bowling to physical The one major was

2009
01:45:52,400 --> 01:45:56,439
Speaker 4: the kids practically jumping my boy. I can't ever forget

2010
01:45:56,520 --> 01:45:58,200
Speaker 4: how messed up and bloody his face looked.

2011
01:45:58,200 --> 01:45:58,519
Speaker 1: After that.

2012
01:45:59,000 --> 01:46:01,200
Speaker 4: I tried really hard to get those boys in trouble,

2013
01:46:01,760 --> 01:46:04,759
Speaker 4: but they dismissed it as kids playing around and getting

2014
01:46:04,760 --> 01:46:09,080
Speaker 4: too rough. That is unacceptable if there is ever any

2015
01:46:09,439 --> 01:46:12,960
Speaker 4: sort of physical stuff going on immediately that is not

2016
01:46:13,200 --> 01:46:15,400
Speaker 4: that is that goes beyond any sort of oh, kids

2017
01:46:15,479 --> 01:46:19,360
Speaker 4: being kids. Like if if you are beating a child up,

2018
01:46:20,040 --> 01:46:22,160
Speaker 4: I don't care how old you are, you should know,

2019
01:46:22,760 --> 01:46:25,560
Speaker 4: Like you should be teaching your kids better. Is that

2020
01:46:25,720 --> 01:46:27,920
Speaker 4: that's unitly or like if they do, then you should

2021
01:46:27,920 --> 01:46:32,320
Speaker 4: be immediately responding to that because that's unacceptable. My boy

2022
01:46:32,400 --> 01:46:34,679
Speaker 4: didn't even want to go to school for nearly four months,

2023
01:46:34,840 --> 01:46:39,599
Speaker 4: and in those months almost life. Oh luckily my wife

2024
01:46:39,680 --> 01:46:43,000
Speaker 4: walked in right before he could. Oh he's gotten all

2025
01:46:43,080 --> 01:46:45,160
Speaker 4: the mental health he needs and more and is doing

2026
01:46:45,280 --> 01:46:48,720
Speaker 4: much better. Yeah, okay, we moved and he and my

2027
01:46:48,800 --> 01:46:52,800
Speaker 4: other kids had practically started over. I'm telling all of

2028
01:46:52,840 --> 01:46:55,000
Speaker 4: this to just paint the picture and show to you

2029
01:46:55,240 --> 01:46:59,400
Speaker 4: it wasn't kids being kids. It was just little a holes.

2030
01:47:00,080 --> 01:47:02,360
Speaker 4: I make more than enough, and I don't ever mind

2031
01:47:02,439 --> 01:47:06,240
Speaker 4: helping my family. Well, I had promised my niece that

2032
01:47:06,360 --> 01:47:10,559
Speaker 4: I'll be paying for her college. Okay, any who onto

2033
01:47:10,600 --> 01:47:13,080
Speaker 4: the problem? Uh yeah, Cassandra says, that is a hate

2034
01:47:13,120 --> 01:47:18,000
Speaker 4: crime and they can get jail time. Yes, absolutely, any

2035
01:47:18,040 --> 01:47:20,439
Speaker 4: who onto the problem. We went back to our hometown,

2036
01:47:20,600 --> 01:47:23,280
Speaker 4: like always, celebrating the Fourth of July and all that.

2037
01:47:24,040 --> 01:47:26,559
Speaker 4: When we were prepping, my niece ended up bringing someone

2038
01:47:26,680 --> 01:47:30,080
Speaker 4: I never expected to see again, that little son of

2039
01:47:30,120 --> 01:47:34,840
Speaker 4: a bee, Derek h Derek fricking Derek. I would punch

2040
01:47:34,920 --> 01:47:37,120
Speaker 4: this kid, part of the kids that did the bullying.

2041
01:47:37,640 --> 01:47:41,120
Speaker 4: I recognized him immediately, and I know he did too,

2042
01:47:41,240 --> 01:47:45,559
Speaker 4: since he didn't stay for long before leaving. After he left,

2043
01:47:45,640 --> 01:47:48,240
Speaker 4: I turned to my niece and asked her what the

2044
01:47:48,360 --> 01:47:51,599
Speaker 4: hell was she thinking bringing him, knowing what he did

2045
01:47:51,680 --> 01:47:54,000
Speaker 4: to her cousin. She acted like it wasn't a big

2046
01:47:54,080 --> 01:47:56,160
Speaker 4: deal and said that he had changed and the whole

2047
01:47:56,280 --> 01:48:02,040
Speaker 4: thing happened years ago. I don't care if someone's I

2048
01:48:02,120 --> 01:48:04,640
Speaker 4: don't care if you've changed, Like, I don't care, how

2049
01:48:04,640 --> 01:48:06,720
Speaker 4: have you hat you've changed? You should never like a

2050
01:48:07,000 --> 01:48:10,320
Speaker 4: victim of that should never have to be around their abuser,

2051
01:48:10,520 --> 01:48:14,000
Speaker 4: no matter how much they've changed, if they don't want

2052
01:48:14,040 --> 01:48:17,200
Speaker 4: to be. You know, yeah, this is yeah, this is

2053
01:48:17,280 --> 01:48:20,920
Speaker 4: not okay. How nonchalant she was about the whole thing

2054
01:48:21,040 --> 01:48:24,439
Speaker 4: pissed me off. My sister tried telling her she shouldn't

2055
01:48:24,439 --> 01:48:26,800
Speaker 4: have brought him over, and she responded saying she has

2056
01:48:26,880 --> 01:48:28,920
Speaker 4: a right to bring her boyfriend to meet the family,

2057
01:48:29,400 --> 01:48:31,799
Speaker 4: and then said that if Sean wasn't over what happened

2058
01:48:32,400 --> 01:48:38,400
Speaker 4: even now, it wasn't her boyfriend's fault. My wife called

2059
01:48:38,439 --> 01:48:41,800
Speaker 4: her a heartless bee before leaving. My kids before leaving,

2060
01:48:42,000 --> 01:48:45,679
Speaker 4: and my kids followed her, I stayed back and told

2061
01:48:45,680 --> 01:48:47,680
Speaker 4: her that if her boyfriend had changed so much, then

2062
01:48:47,680 --> 01:48:49,720
Speaker 4: I guess he could pay for education, because I'm not

2063
01:48:49,800 --> 01:48:53,559
Speaker 4: supporting her anymore. Then I left. Me and my friends

2064
01:48:53,600 --> 01:48:55,439
Speaker 4: are just staying at a nice hotel right now and

2065
01:48:55,520 --> 01:48:58,240
Speaker 4: are planning to just go to an attraction park. I've

2066
01:48:58,240 --> 01:49:01,920
Speaker 4: been getting calls and messages is from my sister, brother

2067
01:49:01,920 --> 01:49:04,599
Speaker 4: in law, and others who were present, telling me I'm

2068
01:49:04,640 --> 01:49:08,120
Speaker 4: overreacting and I shouldn't take away my niece's education. They

2069
01:49:08,160 --> 01:49:11,240
Speaker 4: have all sided with the bully, saying that little piece

2070
01:49:11,280 --> 01:49:13,519
Speaker 4: of crap has changed a lot and is now a

2071
01:49:13,640 --> 01:49:16,240
Speaker 4: good kid, and I can't hold what he did as

2072
01:49:16,240 --> 01:49:23,200
Speaker 4: a troubled kid over him forever. Mmm, why are we

2073
01:49:23,240 --> 01:49:25,479
Speaker 4: supposed to just this is the final thing. Why are

2074
01:49:25,520 --> 01:49:27,800
Speaker 4: we supposed to just take this kid at his word

2075
01:49:27,880 --> 01:49:31,400
Speaker 4: that he's changed. He has not apologized to Opie son

2076
01:49:31,479 --> 01:49:35,400
Speaker 4: at all. He's not said anything to them. He's just like,

2077
01:49:35,720 --> 01:49:39,599
Speaker 4: all we know is that the the the cousin bringing

2078
01:49:39,720 --> 01:49:43,720
Speaker 4: him over. Yeah, this is absolutely unacceptable, and don't pay

2079
01:49:43,840 --> 01:49:43,960
Speaker 4: for it.

2080
01:49:44,280 --> 01:49:44,479
Speaker 1: Yeah.

2081
01:49:44,720 --> 01:49:46,760
Speaker 4: The fact that she's being all nonchalant and saying, oh,

2082
01:49:46,800 --> 01:49:51,519
Speaker 4: it didn't really matter, not okay, not okay, okay, Dannon

2083
01:49:51,600 --> 01:49:53,800
Speaker 4: Nan says, So she just accepted that ahole without him

2084
01:49:53,800 --> 01:49:58,240
Speaker 4: apologizing to her cousin exactly, and that's okay, just because

2085
01:49:58,280 --> 01:49:59,479
Speaker 4: the bullying happened years ago?

2086
01:49:59,640 --> 01:50:00,200
Speaker 1: Is she okay?

2087
01:50:00,280 --> 01:50:02,360
Speaker 4: That's the thing I was At first I thought maybe

2088
01:50:02,400 --> 01:50:04,479
Speaker 4: she didn't know that he was the bully. But the

2089
01:50:04,520 --> 01:50:08,200
Speaker 4: fact that she knew what he did and didn't even

2090
01:50:08,439 --> 01:50:11,000
Speaker 4: demand an apology, didn't ask him to do anything, just

2091
01:50:11,840 --> 01:50:15,720
Speaker 4: let it swept it on the rug is absolutely unacceptable.

2092
01:50:15,840 --> 01:50:20,200
Speaker 4: Do not pay for her education. But that is the

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01:50:20,479 --> 01:50:24,400
Speaker 4: end of the stream. Thank you all for coming. We

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01:50:24,520 --> 01:50:26,480
Speaker 4: love you and do tomorrow.