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Speaker 1: Radio radio Radio Commies, a myth and bullshit radio phonic

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Speaker 1: novella Look at a Radio hosted by malamo Ala locomotives.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to look at the Radio. This is Mala

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Speaker 1: and this is Theosa and we're last local and of

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Speaker 1: course we're recording um here at Radio Espascio where we

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Speaker 1: always record look at our radio. Thank you for joining

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Speaker 1: us once again for another thank you for tuning in.

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Speaker 1: Look at that our radio is a radio phonic novella.

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Speaker 1: Are having the brilliant legacies and geniuses of women and

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Speaker 1: fems of color? Yes, yes we are, Yes, so happy

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Speaker 1: to be here, Happy February. I feel like it's been

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Speaker 1: so long since we last recorded. Yes, we kind of

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Speaker 1: just like put out three caplos in like a span

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Speaker 1: gotta we gotta travel to Oregon. Oh and did we travel? Yes,

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Speaker 1: we did, we traveled. Yes. So the January February two,

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Speaker 1: we were in Oregon. UM the University of Oregon MITSCHA

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Speaker 1: Organization invited us out to do a workshop to workshops

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Speaker 1: and a keynote, and we have so much to say

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Speaker 1: it was really fun. Also, can I just say, elephant

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Speaker 1: in the room. We're recording for YouTube now, and I

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Speaker 1: our third member that were still getting used to. Oh god,

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Speaker 1: hey everyone, hey everybody. So no, we went to Oregon.

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Speaker 1: We were in Eugene, um, which it was my first

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Speaker 1: and I thought it was beautiful, so green, the air

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Speaker 1: was so clean. Yeah, we're so cold. We were like,

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Speaker 1: They took us to our hotel and they got us

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Speaker 1: a really nice hotel. You know. Um, we hung out. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was basically like a little mini look at that

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Speaker 1: But you know, we got a lot of work done

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Speaker 1: while we were there. We were still working, taking conference

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Speaker 1: was great. We had a really great time. We did

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Speaker 1: our Goddess Worship workshop with the Uomo hitters and other

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Speaker 1: listeners and shout out to our look a moot is

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Speaker 1: they were there, such as Vedo, Maria and Edith Yomeda

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Speaker 1: fabulous people and all the other more hits that were amazing.

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Speaker 1: It was amazing to meet Aliya. It was cool to

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Speaker 1: be around like the students. It was I felt so nostalled,

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Speaker 1: like so nostalgic about my own undergrad years. And one

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Speaker 1: all about love if this is our OO episode, you know,

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Speaker 1: And I could really feel the love there on campus,

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Speaker 1: not just for like you know, the podcast and everything,

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Speaker 1: sense of community there with them. With the students we met,

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Speaker 1: I agree with Mama, like definitely nostalgic. There's so many

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Speaker 1: So myself, for example, what would you have done differently

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Speaker 1: the conference friends. The fifteenth Annual is the reason why

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Speaker 1: we gave a keynote for the youth conference, right, and

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Speaker 1: the theme was so we wrote this really great keynote.

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Speaker 1: So it was super great to meet them. We have

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Speaker 1: the best logan. What it we really do? Our listeners

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Speaker 1: All right. So yeah, locas, we got this listener question

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Speaker 1: be clear, yes, right, yes, there are certain privileges when

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Speaker 1: to look at ourselves because this performance is not just

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00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:58,159
Speaker 1: for the outside world. We perform for ourselves. If femininity

424
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:02,000
Speaker 1: in many ways is performance, right, and like, okay, to

425
00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:06,440
Speaker 1: quote Brittany, there are those of us that do the

426
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:10,720
Speaker 1: entertaining and then others who are watching for me, since

427
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 1: we can establish femininity as performance in many ways right,

428
00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 1: we are performers, but we also perform for ourselves and

429
00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:20,840
Speaker 1: then everybody else they're watching, they're the audience, right, and

430
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 1: sometimes the audience needs to sit back and shut the

431
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:25,960
Speaker 1: funk up and let the show continue, you know what

432
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:27,520
Speaker 1: I mean. So for me, that's what I think of

433
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:29,360
Speaker 1: what I think of self love, Like we're not supposed

434
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:32,280
Speaker 1: to love ourselves because then we're shallow, we're self centered,

435
00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:37,399
Speaker 1: but we do this for ourselves absolutely absolutely so in

436
00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:40,840
Speaker 1: its own way, it isn't right because we're not allowed

437
00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:43,159
Speaker 1: to do it. We're not allowed to outwardly do it.

438
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:45,600
Speaker 1: We're not allowed to talk about it. We're not allowed

439
00:24:45,600 --> 00:24:48,920
Speaker 1: to post too many selfies, right, We're not allowed to

440
00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 1: take the time for ourselves that you know, we need

441
00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:54,840
Speaker 1: um establish our boundaries, say no to people, right, those

442
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:56,880
Speaker 1: are the things that we're not allowed to do, especially

443
00:24:57,000 --> 00:25:01,399
Speaker 1: as women and fems. Yes, especially um. And then you know,

444
00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 1: obviously there are different types of like there are certain

445
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:09,520
Speaker 1: types of loves, loves that are always going to be

446
00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:13,600
Speaker 1: like forbidden, right, So whether that's because of race, class, gender,

447
00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:18,600
Speaker 1: like people always find a reason to problematize a romantic

448
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:23,240
Speaker 1: encounter or unless it's like sis head inside of marriage,

449
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:27,359
Speaker 1: everything else is fucked up, and that honestly excludes most

450
00:25:27,480 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 1: types of love, right, Yeah, Yeah, I feel like, um,

451
00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:35,640
Speaker 1: by default, all of my relationships have been like amoro

452
00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 1: because of the queerness, right, with the exception of my

453
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:41,119
Speaker 1: current one. But you know, all my past relationships have

454
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 1: been ado because because of the queerness and um, whether

455
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:48,639
Speaker 1: that be like from society or any type of like

456
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 1: internalized homophobia or internal misogyny like that mask energy even

457
00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:58,520
Speaker 1: like queer folks, queer women all that ship. Yeah, and

458
00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 1: I feel like the theme of is so common, like

459
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:08,119
Speaker 1: in music so much Mighty Achi, Lost Love forbidden love.

460
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:16,120
Speaker 1: Fucking yes, sucking the Vicenti fans came for her, Yes, yes, yes,

461
00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:22,960
Speaker 1: hey girl, I know you're watching um much love. Yesica

462
00:26:23,040 --> 00:26:27,160
Speaker 1: had tweeted out the other day, Um about how Fernandez

463
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:32,919
Speaker 1: that iconic song every mexicanald's, every latinos favorite song, right,

464
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 1: they all sing it about themselves, right. Um, She's like,

465
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:41,320
Speaker 1: that's the ultimate funck boy anthem, you know, because he's

466
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:44,800
Speaker 1: talking about like I'm broke, I got no power, I

467
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:48,440
Speaker 1: got no influence, and nobody listens to me. Why the

468
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:52,240
Speaker 1: funk would I? Why are you cry? You know? Um?

469
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:55,480
Speaker 1: But anyway, so like, um, I also feel like in

470
00:26:55,600 --> 00:27:00,040
Speaker 1: so many novellas is just a constant theme totally. I

471
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:02,879
Speaker 1: mean that's what makes it so traumatic, right, Like how

472
00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:05,359
Speaker 1: we said in the first half of the right we

473
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 1: want we want the trauma, right we were We've grown

474
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:10,760
Speaker 1: up with all that drama, right, so we're like, okay,

475
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: that's that's the only way to be in a relationship, right,

476
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:19,400
Speaker 1: all this drama. Right, But um, I mean so okay,

477
00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:23,400
Speaker 1: So we see the novelas right, classic of course and Selena,

478
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:26,920
Speaker 1: Um that is just like the anthem yeah, and forbidden

479
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,679
Speaker 1: love in that song she's talking about you know, almost

480
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:34,880
Speaker 1: you know, it's almost the defendite this classes. So it's

481
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:38,359
Speaker 1: like I am imagining. I'm wondering, like in the song right,

482
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:41,120
Speaker 1: like what is her position? Is she the one that's

483
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:44,200
Speaker 1: not good enough? Or she the princess that's too good

484
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:46,199
Speaker 1: and he's not good enough for her? I don't think

485
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:48,200
Speaker 1: we really know, because even in the video, right, she's

486
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:50,360
Speaker 1: is there another? Is there a person in the video?

487
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:52,959
Speaker 1: Doesn't she gets stood up? Isn't Is that the one

488
00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:56,639
Speaker 1: where she's out and she's wearing the T shirt, the

489
00:27:56,680 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 1: striped T shirt and the jeans and she has the

490
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:03,639
Speaker 1: long but the road with the road, I'm getting my

491
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:07,200
Speaker 1: references next time. I'm like, for me those when she's

492
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:10,919
Speaker 1: out in the desert and there's like the doors at

493
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 1: the door, she's wearing that beautiful like red tie like outfit. Um, yes,

494
00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:22,200
Speaker 1: is there a man? Is there a man? I don't remember. No,

495
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 1: she's wearing the white yeah, but she's also wearing red

496
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:28,000
Speaker 1: in a part of the video. Yeah, see she stands alone.

497
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:32,359
Speaker 1: Who knows? See, So it could be like right, um,

498
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:36,479
Speaker 1: like I've had family basically tell me like, oh, well,

499
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 1: we don't like such and such because we don't think

500
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:42,440
Speaker 1: that they're good enough whatever that means. Who's heard that before?

501
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:49,120
Speaker 1: No one's good enough, No one's good enough, No one's

502
00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 1: good enough. I guess my grandma. I wasn't here when

503
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 1: this happened, but my mom told me that my grandma Natcha,

504
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:55,640
Speaker 1: they were watching TV and they were talking about, you know,

505
00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 1: the Prince and Megan Marco, and my grandma was like,

506
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:00,479
Speaker 1: so he met her in l A. And where were

507
00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:02,680
Speaker 1: my granddaughters when the Prince was here? Where were they?

508
00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 1: What were they doing? Being hosed? Wasting? Sorry? Sorry I

509
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 1: missed the Prince. I missed the Prince. I missed the Prince.

510
00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 1: I was over here being sucking occupied by all these

511
00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 1: fucking trolls dudes out here instead of meeting the Prince.

512
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 1: That's what I was wasting my time. I was wasting

513
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 1: my time. That's definitely what happened. Anyways, funny, okay, funny,

514
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:33,880
Speaker 1: So music, Um, movies? Did we talk about movies? I

515
00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:37,600
Speaker 1: mean the basis the basis for all this ship so

516
00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 1: much is you know the Romeo and Juliet right, that's

517
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:45,160
Speaker 1: like the continued um, Yeah, what is it? Winto theme

518
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 1: and it reoccurs? What is it called trope. No, it's

519
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:51,959
Speaker 1: there's something else. It's like a motif. It's a motif.

520
00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 1: Don't know that the trope Now, I don't know anyway, well,

521
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:59,200
Speaker 1: that the recurrent, the literary device, one of those things

522
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:01,720
Speaker 1: in literary device, this that they hammered into us, like

523
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 1: our entire education, but we can't remember. I would even say,

524
00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:11,640
Speaker 1: I would even say, I wonder how much is the

525
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 1: story of Adam and Eve even and just like from

526
00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:19,400
Speaker 1: the fucking jump. First of all, it's so brutal the

527
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 1: way that the Bible imagines like men and women like

528
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:25,120
Speaker 1: taking his rib out, Like what the fuck? Why? It's

529
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 1: so grotesque? Right? And then there I don't even know

530
00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 1: are they even in love or they're just put together,

531
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:35,440
Speaker 1: put together, you know, just put together. There's no Yeah,

532
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,560
Speaker 1: And I do not believe, right, because what's the story

533
00:30:38,920 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 1: that that the snake spoke to Eve? Right? And then

534
00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 1: she went and was like here, try this apple. I

535
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:45,560
Speaker 1: don't believe it for a second. I don't believe it.

536
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:50,360
Speaker 1: I don't believe it. They did. I wronged, was framed.

537
00:30:50,520 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 1: I would a favorite on the Sinking College about how

538
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 1: Eve was framed. Eve was framed, y'all, and she did

539
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 1: it because she was a writer or die. We don't

540
00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:00,040
Speaker 1: need to be writer or die. We don't need to

541
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 1: be right or die. She was a down ass bitch.

542
00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:04,000
Speaker 1: And I think that she was framed. I think that

543
00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:07,120
Speaker 1: that that they put all the blame for this ship

544
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 1: on the woman, of course, right, of course, So that

545
00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 1: just laid the foundation for patriarchy of hosogy because women

546
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 1: ruined society exactly that they ruined the garden of Eden.

547
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 1: Look at pistemologies. That's a survivor narrative. I don't believe

548
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:25,200
Speaker 1: that you did it. She was framed. She was framed. Um. Okay,

549
00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:31,120
Speaker 1: so um, okay, tell me this is too personal? Okay, yeah, yeah,

550
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:33,080
Speaker 1: what is it? Um? Can you give me a personal

551
00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 1: example of oh my god, a little or small? Well

552
00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 1: how much time do we have? Girl? No? You know,

553
00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:47,959
Speaker 1: I um once dated somebody who lives in a different country.

554
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:51,000
Speaker 1: And I haven't shared this like on the podcast, and

555
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 1: I haven't shared this on the internet really, um, but

556
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:56,960
Speaker 1: I once stated someone who lived in another country and

557
00:31:57,360 --> 00:32:03,560
Speaker 1: this country was Cuba before before the embargo was lifted. Um,

558
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 1: And it was a few years ago, and I like

559
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:08,720
Speaker 1: used to fly myself like by myself. This isn't my

560
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 1: early twenties, I was like love for love. Between the

561
00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 1: ages of twenty and twenty two, I traveled to Cuba

562
00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:20,640
Speaker 1: by myself at least three times, and I had like

563
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:23,960
Speaker 1: a Mexican travel agent who was based in Caffoon, who

564
00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 1: like would buy me my tickets and I would Western

565
00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 1: Union in money, and then I was like, you were

566
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:33,640
Speaker 1: doing the girl listen number one and I would fly

567
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:36,400
Speaker 1: into Kunggoon and then sneak into Cuba. But nothing bad

568
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 1: ever happened to me. That's good. I'm glad you were

569
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 1: able to do that. I mean, something bad did happen,

570
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:42,920
Speaker 1: and that's why the relationship. But it was him, it wasn't.

571
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:46,719
Speaker 1: It wasn't my travels. It wasn't. I wasn't in trouble

572
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 1: on like an international level. It was an inner personal

573
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 1: of Krable, you know. Um. So that was definitely like

574
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 1: an Amota Probibi. Though I would say, um, you had

575
00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 1: like travel restrictions on you girls at Hella, travel restrictions

576
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:04,239
Speaker 1: like my passport could not get stamped, like I had

577
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 1: to have the stamp somewhere else. It was a whole

578
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:09,000
Speaker 1: fucking thing. But I never got in trouble. Um, And

579
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:11,920
Speaker 1: I hope that me talking about this publicly, I'm not

580
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:14,240
Speaker 1: going to get in trouble now if the Feds get me.

581
00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 1: This is why I know that there's lots and for me, like,

582
00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:21,800
Speaker 1: I haven't really unpacked that relationship and what it means

583
00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:25,000
Speaker 1: to like obviously be an American, like dating somebody who

584
00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:29,000
Speaker 1: lives in a Cuba in Havana or dating someone who lives,

585
00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:32,400
Speaker 1: you know, in Latin America. Obviously there's a lot of

586
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 1: There's a lot there as far as para dynamics and

587
00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:36,360
Speaker 1: this and that and this and that and this and that.

588
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 1: I was Hella Young had to be honest, Um, I

589
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 1: was in it for two years, you know what I'm saying.

590
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 1: So I will talk more about it one day when

591
00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 1: I can really process it because I'm still like just

592
00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:52,240
Speaker 1: so shocked that I did that. I did it. I

593
00:33:52,320 --> 00:33:54,840
Speaker 1: did it and I'm alive. So anyways, how about you,

594
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 1: You're I mean, you have you shared a little bit,

595
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:00,400
Speaker 1: but an example for you about and I'm probably be

596
00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:02,320
Speaker 1: the one in your life right Okay. So I don't

597
00:34:02,320 --> 00:34:04,880
Speaker 1: want to get too deep into my past because this

598
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:08,440
Speaker 1: is raw, you guys, this is real. Ship for us.

599
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:13,480
Speaker 1: Refused to talk about past relationships very fair or do

600
00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:16,520
Speaker 1: it very vaguely. So I'm gonna actually, I'm gonna pull

601
00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:18,759
Speaker 1: from a fun example and say that current Boo and

602
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:21,840
Speaker 1: I when we were dating, we worked together, So I

603
00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 1: kind of an amunto, right, because we don't want anybody

604
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 1: to know already there were people that work that they

605
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:29,919
Speaker 1: didn't funk with me, they didn't like me, right, shout

606
00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 1: out to. So I was like, here comes with the osa,

607
00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 1: right dating the cute new guy who everybody has a

608
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:43,920
Speaker 1: crush on. How many men were there at the office,

609
00:34:44,120 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 1: you know, before him? I would say, there's a hand

610
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:50,839
Speaker 1: there were. There were a handful, maybe five, right, Um,

611
00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 1: I don't know if any of them. I think maybe

612
00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 1: a few of them were like single or available, but

613
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 1: they weren't like the ones that you would date, you know.

614
00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:01,759
Speaker 1: So well the and there there comes you know, now

615
00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 1: my my partner, right, And I was like, had my

616
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:06,719
Speaker 1: eye on him, and I was like, what was it

617
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:10,480
Speaker 1: that caught your eye? Oh, he's tell fine, he has

618
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:13,759
Speaker 1: a beautiful beard, and you know it connects. Um. He

619
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,800
Speaker 1: takes really great care of himself and it shows he

620
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 1: you know, practices all his self care and does things

621
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:21,200
Speaker 1: for himself. You know he's all about the maintenance, blah

622
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:24,759
Speaker 1: blah blah. So I would say that you know, dating someone,

623
00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 1: were you dating someone that you work with, right, and

624
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:29,520
Speaker 1: not wanting it to be obvious in the office also

625
00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:32,480
Speaker 1: gives it its own like rush, right when you're like

626
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 1: exchanging glances and you're texting each other like all these

627
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:40,759
Speaker 1: sexy things, and while you're in the same room, you know, right,

628
00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:43,359
Speaker 1: and like you're in a meeting and they're sitting behind

629
00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:45,279
Speaker 1: or he's sitting behind you, they're sitting behind you, and

630
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:47,400
Speaker 1: then you know you're constantly you know that there's this

631
00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:50,320
Speaker 1: energy intention, right, and like everybody else could feel it

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