Speaker 1: Hey, it's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 2: Welcome to your brand new Second Date podcast, and we
Speaker 2: got one for you today.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and we love you here.
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for subscribing and sticking along with us.
Speaker 2: In fact, we love your comments so much. We always
Speaker 2: like to start the show by reading one we do.
Speaker 3: And Terry Fowler from a Reno, Nevada said, I've been
Speaker 3: listening for two years now daily and listener, I just
Speaker 3: wanted to say my dog Lee, I just had nine
Speaker 3: puppies this morning.
Speaker 4: I'm so grateful. Name one after one of the members
Speaker 4: of the show.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, we do.
Speaker 1: Everybody on the show good.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but you don't want to waste like all those names.
Speaker 4: You choose one.
Speaker 1: You just want Jose one Jose.
Speaker 4: Literally, no one wants the name of all.
Speaker 2: Hey. That congratulations. I'd be in a new Would that be
Speaker 2: a doggy grandma? Is that how that works? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Well, we love it, I guess Yeah.
Speaker 2: And uh, hey, I hope all the little puppies enjoy
Speaker 2: this episode of your second Day podcast.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it starts right now.
Speaker 4: Second Date up Date.
Speaker 5: When your date plans change at the very last second,
Speaker 5: not by your choice, but because of like an unforeseen
Speaker 5: obstacle with the venue, like the baseball game got rained out.
Speaker 4: The KFC ran out of Chicken. That doesn't happen. What's
Speaker 4: your movie?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 4: How do you respond?
Speaker 5: You could instantly give up right there and say, no,
Speaker 5: I'm not doing this. I'll FaceTime you from my bubble bath,
Speaker 5: but I don't pivot on the fly.
Speaker 1: Yeah, be flexible, Jeff, be spontaneous.
Speaker 4: That is the other option.
Speaker 5: Shake it up, do something new, And apparently that's what
Speaker 5: one of our listeners, Sierra, had to do recently on
Speaker 5: her date. And I'm curious what that looked like. So Sierra,
Speaker 5: welcome to the show.
Speaker 6: Hi.
Speaker 1: You sound like go with a flow type of person.
Speaker 4: I sound like a baseball the rain kind of lady. Yeah,
Speaker 4: that's good.
Speaker 5: Sorry to hear that your date plans crash, But tell
Speaker 5: us what happened.
Speaker 7: So I met this guy, Ashwyn on a dating app.
Speaker 1: Oh, he sounds fancy and rich. His name is Ashwyn.
Speaker 4: I don't know how to spell that.
Speaker 7: Yes, not gonna lie. The name intrigued me. But what
Speaker 7: I really liked the most was he was funny, which
Speaker 7: is so important, but he was also playful, like he
Speaker 7: was kind of saucy. But not disrespectful, you.
Speaker 4: Know what I mean a little bit but like totally joking. Yes,
Speaker 4: like talking to your grandpa.
Speaker 5: But sixty years ago, everybody has a grumpy grandpa who
Speaker 5: likes to poke fun at them, right, grumpy?
Speaker 1: Yes, Oh, it's like he's not an old man.
Speaker 6: He's flirty.
Speaker 4: His name is Ashwyn. He sounds like.
Speaker 2: Okay, you got us there, Jeff, But the rests.
Speaker 5: Okay, Well we all have different images of what Ashwyn is.
Speaker 4: But what was the plan for the date?
Speaker 7: Well, you know, I'm happy to say that wasn't my
Speaker 7: first impression. I liked him. I liked him enough to
Speaker 7: uh say yes to a date with him, and I
Speaker 7: think that he was kind of trying to impress me,
Speaker 7: which obviously is fine with me. Like he had made
Speaker 7: rooftop bar reservations at this like trendy place.
Speaker 4: Yeah, a rooftop bar. That's like not cool.
Speaker 1: I don't know why you like you put him in
Speaker 1: a basement, not a but on a roof. It means something.
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, so you sound like you're excited to get
Speaker 5: some rooftop drinks.
Speaker 7: Oh I was so excited. I love this kind of thing.
Speaker 7: And he seemed exactly like his profile. He was super cute,
Speaker 7: super nice, funny everything that I was hoping. We go
Speaker 7: up the elevator and the guy at the door said
Speaker 7: he was so sorry, but the whole place was closed
Speaker 7: for like some kind of a cryptocurrency event.
Speaker 4: Oh god, the crypto thing.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I know, people who could afford to rent out
Speaker 5: an entire money.
Speaker 2: I just picture a bunch of dudes with receding hairlines.
Speaker 1: Yeah, telling each other the same thing popper vests.
Speaker 5: Yeah, careful, you're turning a Lexus on. Oh no, but
Speaker 5: that's what a bummer. Your whole playing for the night
Speaker 5: just got totally ruined.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean it was really disappointing, and I could
Speaker 7: see the Ashman looked so disappointed, like, you know, that.
Speaker 4: Shows you he was excited for the day too. So
Speaker 4: what did you do?
Speaker 7: So I just said, screw it, let's take a walk.
Speaker 7: I'm not wearing the greatest shoes for it, but I
Speaker 7: just really wanted to spend time with him at that point.
Speaker 7: So we walked down the street and we walked and
Speaker 7: talked for a while, and we just kind of ended
Speaker 7: up at this old like it was just like a diner,
Speaker 7: like a normal you know, Okay, Okay, it wasn't like
Speaker 7: a cute like, oh, we're trying to be retro diner.
Speaker 7: It looked like it had just been there for like
Speaker 7: seventy years.
Speaker 4: Waffle house.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the grease trap hasn't been kun in at least
Speaker 2: two years.
Speaker 7: But that's what makes the fries taste so good.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Okay, we're putting a lot of emphasis on like
Speaker 5: the location of the day, But what about the bond,
Speaker 5: the connection between you and Ashwyd Did that change once
Speaker 5: you ended up at the crappy diner?
Speaker 7: No, I mean it was honestly, it was kind of perfect.
Speaker 7: Like we were sitting there eating cheese fries and drinking
Speaker 7: milkshakes in our formal clothes and just talking.
Speaker 6: You know.
Speaker 7: And probably because the plans had changed and we were
Speaker 7: thrown in the situation, we ended up having just the greatest,
Speaker 7: most real conversation.
Speaker 2: That's such a good sign for anyone. If you can
Speaker 2: be anywhere with someone and still have a good time,
Speaker 2: that means that you actually have a real connection.
Speaker 7: Yes, and after our plans felt through, you know, like
Speaker 7: it just felt so good, It felt so comfortable talking
Speaker 7: to him. We've talked for hours.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, how could he not become.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, how did this night end?
Speaker 7: Well? Okay, so one thing led to another. He kissed
Speaker 7: me good night, and he did, of course end up
Speaker 7: at his place.
Speaker 5: Really post chili cheese fries, you guys went back to
Speaker 5: this point.
Speaker 7: Hey, I'm telling you I felt very comfortable with him,
Speaker 7: and apparently I didn't leave till the next morning, impact,
Speaker 7: which is unusual for me.
Speaker 1: But what did he say? Was he there when you
Speaker 1: woke up?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 7: No, he was just his sweet, playful SELFI give me
Speaker 7: a little kiss on the nose, which I thought was
Speaker 7: adorable and okay.
Speaker 1: So it wasn't even awkward the next morning, Yeah.
Speaker 6: No, not at all.
Speaker 5: It makes me wonder if it was like one of
Speaker 5: those typical guy things where it wasn't enough of a
Speaker 5: challenge and it became too easy, so the guy gets bored.
Speaker 2: He doesn't sound like a guy that is like that, though, Jeff,
Speaker 2: this sounds like they never broken until they But it
Speaker 2: sounds like they were just vibing on a deeper level
Speaker 2: than that. If he just wanted to get in her
Speaker 2: pants and that's all he wanted, or he was disappointed
Speaker 2: in they could have gone anywhere and just gone and
Speaker 2: drank and then gone back to replace it.
Speaker 4: Sounds exactly like what they did.
Speaker 2: Oh, they would to a diner, they talked for hours,
Speaker 2: they walked the city like that is a totally different thing.
Speaker 5: Maybe he knew that crypto event was happening and this
Speaker 5: was all set up as like a little ruse to
Speaker 5: be like, look.
Speaker 4: At me, Look how spontaneous I could be. Let's go
Speaker 4: back to my class.
Speaker 1: You are so cynical against men right now.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm just telling you this. I've heard guys do
Speaker 5: stuff like this and sometimes even worse.
Speaker 2: I know, I still want to think for the best, Jeff,
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
Speaker 5: All right, Well you can be naive if you want,
Speaker 5: but let's call Ashwin and we'll see what he has
Speaker 5: to say.
Speaker 4: With your second date update right after this hold on
Speaker 4: second date update. Wow, another first date blown.
Speaker 5: Up by a pod of crypto bros. Every single week
Speaker 5: we deal with this because our listener, Sierra was supposed
Speaker 5: to meet a guy named Ashwin at a rooftop bar,
Speaker 5: but of course, when they arrived, the entire venue had
Speaker 5: been rented it out by a bunch of crypto nerds
Speaker 5: over yield farms and stabilizing their coin pools.
Speaker 4: Whatever they like to talk about. Look at these candlesticks popping.
Speaker 4: All right, I've done a little training. You don't even
Speaker 4: know what that means, but it disgusts me.
Speaker 1: No wonder, I don't enjoy any of it.
Speaker 5: Here's the thing. Sierra and Ashwin didn't let that kill
Speaker 5: their night. They actually swung it into a really fun
Speaker 5: evening at a local diner, which eventually led into a sleepover.
Speaker 1: Sounds so sweet.
Speaker 5: It did, until Ashwyn is suddenly not calling her back.
Speaker 1: Dude, he kissed her on the nose for goodness sake.
Speaker 5: Like that is a romantic.
Speaker 2: Moyah, Like that's a I really.
Speaker 1: Like you move?
Speaker 7: Is there another way to read that?
Speaker 1: See?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so sweet, and you've reached out to him,
Speaker 2: or you haven't.
Speaker 1: You're just waiting to hear from him.
Speaker 7: This was what was so weird. We texted a little
Speaker 7: bit after that, but he just I got the vibes
Speaker 7: that he was not interested.
Speaker 4: Even through texts. Yeah, you feel that energy ship for sure.
Speaker 1: I hope it's one of those where he's just scared
Speaker 1: of real love.
Speaker 5: It's not stupid, but sometimes, like you had said, I'll
Speaker 5: do no challenge, like.
Speaker 6: If it's too easy, and everything is great.
Speaker 4: Sometimes people don't like to be in that space. I
Speaker 4: don't know.
Speaker 5: We'll see which category Ashwin falls into if we're able
Speaker 5: to get him on the phone.
Speaker 4: Number right now, perfect categories. Yeah, yeah, we're praying for
Speaker 4: a Disney ending.
Speaker 1: Getting her another nose kiss, jeff.
Speaker 4: What a promise. So here we go.
Speaker 6: Hello.
Speaker 4: Hey is this Ashwin?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Hey, man, thanks for answering. You're on a radio show
Speaker 5: right now. It's called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 1: Hey, good morning, Welcome to the show. Ashwin. Hi, it
Speaker 1: sounds like you might be busy or something right now.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I hope you have a second to talk to
Speaker 5: us because we're doing a segment called a second Date update.
Speaker 6: Sure this is weird, Okay, Yeah, you.
Speaker 4: Give him a lot of credit.
Speaker 5: So the reason that we're calling is because you went
Speaker 5: out on a date recently with a listener to our show,
Speaker 5: a woman named Sierra.
Speaker 1: Oh oh yeah, you mean he lost a nice.
Speaker 5: So here's the thing, Sierra. We talked to her and
Speaker 5: she told us about your hang the other night.
Speaker 1: The diner sounded so cute.
Speaker 4: It sounded pretty good.
Speaker 5: Despite all the obstacles that came up, you two were
Speaker 5: able to have a really good thing.
Speaker 4: Would you agree with that?
Speaker 6: I mean, we we did. It was probably one of
Speaker 6: the most amazing dates I've ever been on.
Speaker 4: What heck, bro, why aren't you call it?
Speaker 5: Or we're all over here waiting to find like this
Speaker 5: crazy reason.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's so sweet.
Speaker 5: Sorry to be so emotional about it, but it's just that,
Speaker 5: you know, Sierra is really confused.
Speaker 6: It's just kind of embarrassing for you or for Sierra.
Speaker 6: For me.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, if it's too much to share.
Speaker 4: You should do it anyway, because.
Speaker 1: I don't want to pressure anybody, you.
Speaker 5: Know, and Sierra really deserves to know, wouldn't she say?
Speaker 6: Yeah, Yeah, I know she is. She's really awesome. This
Speaker 6: is mostly mostly a me a mee thing.
Speaker 5: Okay, Well, if you're willing to open up to us,
Speaker 5: just even a little bit, and we could pass the
Speaker 5: message to her, I think that would go a long way.
Speaker 6: We have this amazing, amazing night. And she told me
Speaker 6: that she doesn't do this a lot, where she goes
Speaker 6: to a guy's place, and that she was curious where.
Speaker 4: She ranks, oh, where she was where she ranks like
Speaker 4: compared to other people.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I was very I was very thrown off. By
Speaker 6: that question question a joke.
Speaker 1: Totally. It was.
Speaker 6: It was not a joke because I asked her to clarify.
Speaker 6: I said, what do you mean? And she said, well,
Speaker 6: I'm sure you've been with X amount of people.
Speaker 4: Kind of a rude assumption or assumption person.
Speaker 2: But you know what or it's a testament to your
Speaker 2: experience that yeah, you could take it as a compliment.
Speaker 4: What did you mean? Did you actually rank her?
Speaker 1: God?
Speaker 6: No, well, I told her that I'm not sure how
Speaker 6: to answer that. It's good, and eventually I said top
Speaker 6: three for sure.
Speaker 1: Oh that's cute. That's what answer. I was like, what
Speaker 1: a top three?
Speaker 5: That's great, And you don't want to say number one
Speaker 5: because then you're too eager and I don't believe.
Speaker 1: It if you say number one.
Speaker 6: But then I told her, since I answered it for
Speaker 6: you, you have to reciprocate.
Speaker 1: Why would you do that?
Speaker 4: You WoT that she asked it to him? Oh god,
Speaker 4: what did she say?
Speaker 6: She said, you're definitely in my top five.
Speaker 1: Okay, it's not that.
Speaker 4: She a little bit lower than what your.
Speaker 6: Yeah, it gets worse. I asked her out of how
Speaker 6: many and she said maybe five?
Speaker 4: Oh wow, so you're in the top hundred percent.
Speaker 2: That changed everything for you, okay soon, because it just
Speaker 2: changed everything for me.
Speaker 4: What did you assume?
Speaker 6: It just kind of felt it felt a little humiliating.
Speaker 1: Did you tell did you laugh? Or did you say? Okay,
Speaker 1: that's rude.
Speaker 6: I didn't really know what to say because I already
Speaker 6: felt so vulnerable. You know, we're in my bed, naked
Speaker 6: and we've just been together.
Speaker 2: Okay, it's like getting a participation trophy.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Well, you know, maybe maybe there was some sort of
Speaker 5: miscommunication or she didn't say quite what she meant. And
Speaker 5: I'll give her a chance to explain herself right here,
Speaker 5: because I need to let you know. Sierra is on
Speaker 5: the other line of this call, listening, wanting to talk
Speaker 5: to you.
Speaker 6: Oh god, oh.
Speaker 1: God, she's the one that should be embarrassed.
Speaker 2: Hi, please tell us five is like the number one ring,
Speaker 2: like it's the best.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you were going backwards.
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, She's like, I can't trying to save you.
Speaker 7: I feel so bad. First of all, Ashwin, I'm so
Speaker 7: so sorry. I can't believe I made you feel that way,
Speaker 7: and you've been feeling that way this whole time.
Speaker 1: Does that feel good?
Speaker 4: Ashwy knowledge she did something wrong?
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 4: I mean you're still top five.
Speaker 7: Yes, we address Okay, if I if I explain a
Speaker 7: little bit.
Speaker 5: Yes, go into details about why.
Speaker 2: You know what men that can take constructive criticism one
Speaker 2: through four.
Speaker 5: Half thing he could do better. Let's work on one
Speaker 5: step at a time.
Speaker 6: And for some reason I didn't do enough fourth place
Speaker 6: stuff I am I am open to.
Speaker 2: Do.
Speaker 1: Not interrupt that statement, Jeffrey, not enough men make it.
Speaker 1: You should assume you didn't.
Speaker 5: Okay, Well, you know, actually maybe we shouldn't be asking
Speaker 5: what he could change. Maybe it's better to ask you, Sierra,
Speaker 5: why you said that to him?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 7: When I said, oh, you're definitely in the top five
Speaker 7: of five, I was trying to be playful. I was
Speaker 7: trying to make a joke. I was trying to be
Speaker 7: kind of serd.
Speaker 6: Yes, I was kidding.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was a joke.
Speaker 1: After sound button or something we could have hit there.
Speaker 7: He's definitely top four for sure.
Speaker 3: Let's yeah, I think so it doesn't matter.
Speaker 4: It's better. Yes, but you have to do anything that
Speaker 4: was great?
Speaker 6: Can we can we please stop talking about one number
Speaker 6: I'm ranking?
Speaker 7: Yes, I'm so sorry. I'm just so embarrassed. I was
Speaker 7: trying to make a joke.
Speaker 1: You definitely have said your apology.
Speaker 5: I think gets the idea that you didn't mean it,
Speaker 5: But we mean this when we say we'd like to
Speaker 5: send you out on another date, the two of you, Ashwin,
Speaker 5: if you're willing to give her one more chance, we would.
Speaker 1: Don't let your pride stand in the way of this
Speaker 1: one Ashwan.
Speaker 6: Yeah. No, her explanation definitely definitely makes me feel better
Speaker 6: and embarrassed that I can't take jokes about bed time.
Speaker 6: Yeah no, I definitely would in another date.
Speaker 5: All right, So congratulations. That means Sierra, you got what
Speaker 5: you came for another date with.
Speaker 7: Thank you so so, so so much.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I feel like we just had two
Speaker 2: listeners who own their own mistakes, which was.
Speaker 1: Just wild on this show. It never happens.
Speaker 4: Bead Jeffrey in the morning. Can we all agree? Where
Speaker 4: do I rank?
Speaker 5: Is a question that should not come up until at
Speaker 5: least date number three.
Speaker 1: Let them tell you you just don't ever.
Speaker 4: You you've never had that conversation with your husband.
Speaker 1: God no, why would you have that conversation?
Speaker 6: You just let someone tell you that was the best,
Speaker 6: that was great, or you just don't.
Speaker 1: Bring it up conversation.
Speaker 3: It's a funny joke, was actually really good.
Speaker 4: I don't know if she really was joking. It was
Speaker 4: the right thing to say in that moment, in order
Speaker 4: to say.
Speaker 1: Well, finally, finally, the right thing.
Speaker 5: To say exactly, And I fully expect to hear from
Speaker 5: both of them when we do an update day.
Speaker 4: I think, yeah, we're.
Speaker 5: Hopefully by then he's climbed the rankings into her top three.
Speaker 4: But what she hasn't added, like ten more.
Speaker 1: Well, we know what type of relationship they're going.
Speaker 4: To be, right, That's also true.
Speaker 5: I can't say we are open to our listeners ranking
Speaker 5: us on our podcast. I hope we're in the top five,
Speaker 5: top ten, we'll take top thirty. Even as long as
Speaker 5: we're ahead of j LD, than we are a big
Speaker 5: win in our books.
Speaker 4: You just lie and say we don't even have a
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