Speaker 1: If there was a problem, I.
Speaker 2: Wear to your mother, welcome to another very special two
Speaker 2: cool moms.
Speaker 3: I'm Joe Gatto.
Speaker 1: I'm along for the ride.
Speaker 2: I went, we're here in my apartment. So I went
Speaker 2: into my closet and I grabbed a scarf.
Speaker 1: Do you wear the scarf?
Speaker 3: I don't wear either of these. This is a this
Speaker 3: is a this is a this is a character.
Speaker 2: I play that when we were on the road. Yes,
Speaker 2: I used to take it with me so I could
Speaker 2: go incognito. And I put glasses on as well. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but I didn't put the glasses on. And his name was.
Speaker 3: Dommy, you know, I got his name, but.
Speaker 2: It was an Italian guy. And I used to be like, listen,
Speaker 2: you listen to me. I'll tell you. I used to
Speaker 2: sit in the back of pizzaias.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I think I'll put this on today just
Speaker 3: to give you a little bit of a good scarf.
Speaker 3: Yeah you look, uh ascot a scar that's.
Speaker 1: More a scarf than Ascott is like the.
Speaker 3: Well here we got. Well, I'm glad that you appreciate
Speaker 3: a good scarf.
Speaker 1: I like a good scarf. I've never pulled one off,
Speaker 1: but you could pull that off.
Speaker 3: I think you can put a scarf on.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 3: Maybe next time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what's the most what's the late What's what's the
Speaker 1: most fashionable choice you've ever made that you got instantly
Speaker 1: reprimanded for by your friends?
Speaker 3: You know what I told you, I got made fun
Speaker 3: of for and I bought it.
Speaker 2: We were on the road and for no reason whatsoever,
Speaker 2: I bought a gold sequin jacket. No, like a gold
Speaker 2: sequin jacket. It was like a gold tuxiater jacket with
Speaker 2: a black lapel. I was like, I have this jacket.
Speaker 2: This is gonna be a great jacket that like, it's
Speaker 2: never gonna wear that. You'll never find a reason where
Speaker 2: you'll never find he's gonna wear it.
Speaker 3: Wre to the movie premiere and it crushed.
Speaker 1: Oh really?
Speaker 3: Or to the Jokers movie premiere. Yeah, I had bought
Speaker 3: that on the road for no reason.
Speaker 2: I just was like, that's a jacket. I said, that's
Speaker 2: a jacket I'm gonna want to wear someday. And that
Speaker 2: was what I worked.
Speaker 1: And that was the only time.
Speaker 2: That was the only time I think I wred for
Speaker 2: like one other event after, but never before that.
Speaker 1: Will you ever wear it again?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Maybe yeah, I wouldn't be raight. You want to
Speaker 3: put it on? Now?
Speaker 1: Do you have it?
Speaker 3: I think so?
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's right. Yeah, okay, Well, while Joe is off
Speaker 1: getting my jacket, I want to tell yeah, I want
Speaker 1: to tell everybody, guys, keep up with us on the road.
Speaker 1: Both of us are touring. Joe's doing his tour, and
Speaker 1: then I am, oh, come on, that looks great. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is a great jacket. That is a great jacket. See,
Speaker 1: you could wear that more often than just the premiere.
Speaker 1: That's great. You can wear that on the road.
Speaker 3: It completes the look.
Speaker 1: Really good.
Speaker 2: I'm on the road, Joe Gattoofficial dot com is where
Speaker 2: you get tickets from me.
Speaker 3: Steve's on the road.
Speaker 1: Steve buryn Live dot com is where you can see
Speaker 1: my tour schedule. And then on the off occasion I'll
Speaker 1: join you hang out.
Speaker 3: Yeah a couple more times.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that jacket looks great.
Speaker 2: I told you I bought it with no purpose and
Speaker 2: then it ended up being my one of the.
Speaker 1: Best jackets I ever got. We were on the road
Speaker 1: together Nordstrom's rat Nordstrom and uh I saw a jack
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, it's like a goof I'd
Speaker 1: get this and you're like, no, no, seriously, you can
Speaker 1: wear that. And I've worn it a few times. It's
Speaker 1: one of my favorite jackets.
Speaker 3: You wear at the taping. No, you already at the
Speaker 3: charity event.
Speaker 1: I wore it at a charity event. Yeah, it's right
Speaker 1: it Beck and Pittsburgh and it looked fantastic. Yeah.
Speaker 3: See, I do have fashion sense. Don't don't let this
Speaker 3: don't work.
Speaker 2: I am Come on, girl, I am a great consigliary
Speaker 2: because I know how to dress people as well well
Speaker 2: you worked at.
Speaker 3: When it comes to it, I know what it's gonna
Speaker 3: look good on people.
Speaker 2: I know it's not going to be for you, and
Speaker 2: I won't be afraid to tell you if it's good
Speaker 2: for you, and if it's not good for you, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna hit you with the truth bomb right in the face.
Speaker 1: You're the real You're gonna like the way you look? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I have you are the real men's warehouse.
Speaker 3: I am the men's warehouse. I'm the men's warehouse of comedians.
Speaker 2: And I'm wearing a dog, beautiful dog for the hat
Speaker 2: that you found in my closet, that that you had,
Speaker 2: And that's the This is in support of your your book.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, my life, your your life.
Speaker 3: Yeah, ultimately ultimately my life. It became my life started
Speaker 3: as a book.
Speaker 1: How many dogs are you my life?
Speaker 3: We're at twenty four?
Speaker 1: That is bananas.
Speaker 3: I think we just got to No, we just got
Speaker 3: twenty six.
Speaker 2: Actually we just got Ricotta and Risotto to three year
Speaker 2: old three pounders.
Speaker 1: Do you call them the leftovers?
Speaker 2: I mean you got a they're on their way out.
Speaker 2: Those too, they're not gonna be around long. But yes,
Speaker 2: that's the whole point.
Speaker 1: You're you're taking in these these pups that would have.
Speaker 3: All these book goodies. We like to say, yeah, they're
Speaker 3: not necessarily all good.
Speaker 2: I'm not going to lie to people like some of
Speaker 2: them are just like they're not nice dogs, they're just
Speaker 2: but they need a place to be left.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're loved. Yes, they're being treated well and they're
Speaker 1: being sent off in the nicest way possible.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're the last, the last couple of pets that
Speaker 3: they've got to be the best.
Speaker 1: What was your first one?
Speaker 3: My first rescue dog?
Speaker 1: Yeah, Piscott And how how long ago is that?
Speaker 3: Eight years ago?
Speaker 1: Eight years ago? And that so Piscotti.
Speaker 3: Started, but Scotty started the rescue.
Speaker 1: Piscotti's responsible for it's Pascotti's faults between six dogs, yes,
Speaker 1: but Scotti's yeah, well because they died, sure, yeah, how
Speaker 1: many in some total?
Speaker 3: Probably about thirty six all in? Probably about all in
Speaker 3: this about thirty six probably to a ten. We flip
Speaker 3: the switch on ten. I just flipped the switch about maybe.
Speaker 3: I don't know, Yeah, I don't know. It's it's crazy.
Speaker 1: I remember what if people do that with rescue dogs,
Speaker 1: but you never seen do it with cats with that
Speaker 1: get them any cats?
Speaker 2: People have cats like that, but they call cat situations
Speaker 2: hoarding situations because cats become a feral where they just
Speaker 2: take over your house and neighborhood. Dogs kind of just
Speaker 2: stay where they're supposed to, but cats infiltrate your homes.
Speaker 1: They form a coup.
Speaker 3: They are coop. They're like, we're taking this place over. Well,
Speaker 3: cats eat you when you die dogs, don't you heard?
Speaker 3: You heard that thing? Right? That's why everybody likes those
Speaker 3: better than cats.
Speaker 2: Yeah, cats eat you like if you is your dead
Speaker 2: body of an owner, and a cat's gonna die, it'll
Speaker 2: eat its owner, where a dog will just die.
Speaker 1: It's like a it's like a thing. Really, this is
Speaker 1: a real thing.
Speaker 3: That's a real thing. If you can find stories where
Speaker 3: cats eat their owners that have died.
Speaker 1: I got to kill my cat. Yeah, my daughter's cat.
Speaker 3: You know what.
Speaker 2: When I was a kid, I had the most turn
Speaker 2: around when it came to birds. I always had so
Speaker 2: many birds. I ha chi chi and cha cha.
Speaker 3: We had a couple of inches and they I loved.
Speaker 2: Birds, but they would always die on me. I wasn't
Speaker 2: good at keeping birds. And did you not feed it?
Speaker 3: I don't know. I had one. I had one.
Speaker 2: No, here's a story I had when you have it.
Speaker 2: This is a young young young preteens to teens. And
Speaker 2: I had a bird that grew another beak.
Speaker 3: So it grew a side beak it.
Speaker 2: Had like I think it had like it had like
Speaker 2: a beak, and I don't know why we maybe we
Speaker 2: kept it too close to the radiator. But it had
Speaker 2: like a sidebeak that came out and it had like
Speaker 2: a full top and bottom.
Speaker 3: And I was like, what like a mutated beak? And
Speaker 3: I was like, oh man, what happened to the bird?
Speaker 1: And then like maybe we should move the bird cage
Speaker 1: away from the microwaves that might have been that.
Speaker 2: Should be fun yeah, I had Yeah, we had that,
Speaker 2: and I had a lot of turtles to Shelby.
Speaker 3: I had Shelby. I had you. Love that name, love Shelby.
Speaker 2: Shelby's a great turtle name. You can't have a turtle
Speaker 2: guy named is Shelby or Quick?
Speaker 3: I had turtles? Would you have grown up? Besides you
Speaker 3: had a dog?
Speaker 1: Now, we had a dog when I was super young,
Speaker 1: but it didn't last long.
Speaker 3: It grew a second beak.
Speaker 1: But it was always cats.
Speaker 3: Cats.
Speaker 1: I lived by a farm in New Jersey and this
Speaker 1: kitten followed me home. Oh wow, literally followed me home
Speaker 1: because I was petting it and it just wouldn't leave
Speaker 1: me alone. And so Tips, because I had white tips
Speaker 1: on his I called it tips. So Tips stayed with
Speaker 1: us until we moved to Pittsburgh and then I passed
Speaker 1: away to due to old age. And I've just always
Speaker 1: been around cats. I don't want them.
Speaker 3: They just want you. Though how long you have him?
Speaker 3: You have like you have a cat like features, though
Speaker 3: your eyes are very cat like. You don't think you
Speaker 3: have cat like features.
Speaker 1: I've heard I have dolphin like features, have you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like a smooth Asian like like my face looks
Speaker 1: aerodynamic because I'm Asian or something.
Speaker 2: If you were an animal, what would I make you?
Speaker 2: I would say, what would you make me?
Speaker 3: Yeah? I would would be if I had to draw
Speaker 3: you as an animal.
Speaker 2: Okay, if you were my muse and I had to
Speaker 2: draw you as an animal, I would definitely draw you
Speaker 2: something in the feline family. I would probably maybe a cougar.
Speaker 2: Now you're more you're more of like a jaguar.
Speaker 3: You're a jaguar.
Speaker 1: You'd want to be a dog, And I wouldn't make
Speaker 1: you a dog.
Speaker 3: You're a jaguar. No, I wouldn't want to be a dog.
Speaker 3: I mean I'm a two can. Look at this nose.
Speaker 3: She always called me the Italian two can. What animal
Speaker 3: would you draw me? What would you make me? If?
Speaker 1: Looking at my features right?
Speaker 3: Not coming? What would you what would you? What do
Speaker 3: I look like to you?
Speaker 1: Uh? I would say, uh, camel?
Speaker 3: Really?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: A camel?
Speaker 1: Camel?
Speaker 2: Or like a horse I have I have bovine features
Speaker 2: to you, not like a Sarah Jessica Parker.
Speaker 1: Interesting, but you have a very slender face.
Speaker 3: Slender face, yeh, slender face with big nose.
Speaker 1: So it's it's kind of yeah.
Speaker 3: A camel will be cool.
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's have a contest.
Speaker 2: Whoever draws Steve as the best cat and me is
Speaker 2: the best camel wins a prize.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, what's the price.
Speaker 3: The prize is a sleepover at yours.
Speaker 2: You get to follow him home like tips, No, there's
Speaker 2: a cool we'll sign something that's under him.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, go to at two Cool Moms at Too Cool
Speaker 2: Moms pod on Instagram.
Speaker 1: Yeah, tag us. Yeah, that'd be cool.
Speaker 3: And photos and I would love to I would love
Speaker 3: to see that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we don't have any fan artwork.
Speaker 3: We don't have.
Speaker 1: We see the other podcast with the fan artwork and stuff.
Speaker 1: We don't have much of that.
Speaker 3: We use our our fans give us content. That's the difference.
Speaker 1: That is true.
Speaker 3: That's the heavy lifting to you guys, and we appreciate
Speaker 3: you guys for helping us out with that.
Speaker 1: But it's not enough.
Speaker 3: I want more, more and more and more. Yeah, I would.
Speaker 3: I would love that. I would love to see.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Then also for fun, we should try an eagle.
Speaker 1: An eagle.
Speaker 3: That's good, that's good.
Speaker 1: Would I'd rather be an eagle guy?
Speaker 2: So draw me as an eagle by the camel, always eagle,
Speaker 2: you as a jaguar.
Speaker 3: Steve's a jaguar.
Speaker 1: Jaguar, all right, yeah, or a dolphin?
Speaker 3: A dolphin? You think I didn't say who said that
Speaker 3: to you? Do you remember who said that?
Speaker 1: You? Yeah, the writer's room at Sullivan's Son and then
Speaker 1: they put it in the show. Christine ever Saw said Steve,
Speaker 1: girls like you, you have these smooth dolphin like features. That's
Speaker 1: very funny and she nailed that line of course.
Speaker 2: All right, so you you was a You is a dolphin,
Speaker 2: Steve is a dolphin, and Joe is an eagle.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, sketch away, Let's see him. Tag him and
Speaker 1: you win a prize and we'll show him. Should we
Speaker 1: show him on We'll show him to show him on
Speaker 1: the on the shore and then well we'll have an
Speaker 1: episode get around that and.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: There's so many talented people out there, I mean, the
Speaker 1: many put it out there in the world. Let's see
Speaker 1: what they come up with.
Speaker 3: I am so jealous of people that could draw.
Speaker 2: If I could have one skill, of one artistic skill.
Speaker 2: Well it's not a scale, right, if it's an artistic thing,
Speaker 2: but you know what I mean. If I could do
Speaker 2: one ARTI thing, it'd be drawing. Would you rather draw
Speaker 2: or sing sing?
Speaker 3: Really? Oh yeah, don't you tell you you'd use draw
Speaker 3: more than you would use sing.
Speaker 1: I could sketch because I was doodled in school, so
Speaker 1: I could sketch.
Speaker 3: Oh, you're doing humble flex right now.
Speaker 1: It's not humble there it is. I can't. I can't.
Speaker 1: I can kind of sketch. I'm not I'm not fair.
Speaker 2: It's very dolphin, I tell you, but that in your blowhole.
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, so you but draw or sing?
Speaker 3: You go sing? M I go draw?
Speaker 1: Really I would. I would think with as much time
Speaker 1: as you spent on a dance floor, you'd love to
Speaker 1: belt it out.
Speaker 2: Oh if I could be a competitive dancer, though, that
Speaker 2: would be my odd form. Could you imagine, Oh my goodness,
Speaker 2: the damage I would do, the.
Speaker 1: Damage you already do, talking about very damage you would do.
Speaker 2: Well, here's the thing, here's the thing, this is what
Speaker 2: I will tell you.
Speaker 3: You can sing.
Speaker 2: Anyone could perform, Yeah, put on a performance, then a
Speaker 2: singing like atmosphere. I can't sing, but I could carry
Speaker 2: like a performance, sure, sure, musical performance. Yeah, but I
Speaker 2: can't sing well. But you can't fake drawing, draw.
Speaker 3: Well or you don't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, see the stick figures or to exactly right. But
Speaker 1: I always wanted to be the guy like an eighties
Speaker 1: hairband where you hit that high note and it goes
Speaker 1: like that. I would love to do that, and I
Speaker 1: would always do it when I have to take like
Speaker 1: a massive dump.
Speaker 2: See that's why Jesus didn't give you this scale, because
Speaker 2: you'd waste it.
Speaker 3: I go.
Speaker 1: Like that, it would and I would die laughing doing
Speaker 1: I would die laughing doing.
Speaker 3: That by yourself in the bathroom.
Speaker 1: Yea, I would just you know, oh my god. So
Speaker 1: my wife watches garbage TV. Yep, like garbage. This is bad,
Speaker 1: like the Bachelorette, Bachelor. I watch it with her sometimes,
Speaker 1: but like Gray's Anatomy or something like that. You'll watch
Speaker 1: that stuff and it's just so fake and false. And
Speaker 1: I'll just be walking through the living room and you'll
Speaker 1: see people kissing or whatever, and I have to make
Speaker 1: the sound effects every time to like irritate her, but
Speaker 1: also think it's funny. So like if somebody's doing like
Speaker 1: making it out, I'm like, she's like, seriously, please, you're ruining it.
Speaker 1: I always ruin it, But I just think it's the
Speaker 1: fucking funniest thing. Just when she's so in our show
Speaker 1: and just your husband walks through, who's in his late forties,
Speaker 1: and it's still.
Speaker 3: Going find that. I want you to stop.
Speaker 1: I'm asking you, America is asking you to stop. It
Speaker 1: makes me laugh so hard. I'm not making myself. It's
Speaker 1: the absurdity of the fact that there's a grown man's going.
Speaker 3: Stop. I'm team Jess on this.
Speaker 1: You don't do anything. You don't do anything like that
Speaker 1: at all, not that.
Speaker 3: No, no, okay, I see, I see what you're saying.
Speaker 1: It's like, like I just picture like my friends like
Speaker 1: you doing dumb stuff. It's like, that's a man in
Speaker 1: his late forties doing that, like back of the school
Speaker 1: bus kind of shit. And it's it's not only the
Speaker 1: act of somebody doing it, but it's the age and
Speaker 1: the fact that they're not mature enough and they're still
Speaker 1: doing it. And that's what makes me laugh so hard.
Speaker 2: For sure, I get that, I get that, Okay, So,
Speaker 2: but I don't nobody wants it. No one's listening at
Speaker 2: this point. Literally, no one is listening to our podcast anymore.
Speaker 2: If you haven't hit stop, I appreciate you more than
Speaker 2: any listener, because I don't want to be here anymore.
Speaker 3: And I'm.
Speaker 1: Like, that doesn't make you laugh at all? Or it doesn't, No,
Speaker 1: are you just kind of like.
Speaker 2: Just no, I haven't seen it. What I'm getting is
Speaker 2: the storytelling version of it. I haven't seen it in practice,
Speaker 2: so i'd have to see it in practice.
Speaker 1: Well, just just rolling her eyes like please stop.
Speaker 3: That makes me.
Speaker 1: She she like pausing or please stop, please stop. I
Speaker 1: know she's like, please stop.
Speaker 3: It's not for me.
Speaker 1: But you know the Bachelor Bachelorette, they're they're making out.
Speaker 1: I'm always like, please stop. She'll pause it like I
Speaker 1: can't enjoy I will not even.
Speaker 2: Do you do it when it's not when it's not
Speaker 2: that either? To its like do you do it like
Speaker 2: doing the row ceremony?
Speaker 1: No, only when somebody's doing.
Speaker 3: Her making it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you supply well I guess you're writing down
Speaker 2: that you're supplying the soundtrack.
Speaker 1: Thank you. I'm a fully artists.
Speaker 2: Really, you have heels on your hands and when they're walking,
Speaker 2: you're just you're like, look, she's running, but.
Speaker 1: There is an well yeah, I mean that's your whole life.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're always doing things like my whole life is
Speaker 3: really just make annoying people. Oh what I think is funny. Oh,
Speaker 3: let's get some questions that help help the world.
Speaker 1: Okay, here we go. This is coming to us from
Speaker 1: well here, let's not start off with that one.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, let's we're gonna start off with a different one.
Speaker 1: That one's a pretty tough.
Speaker 3: It's a little heavy to come from.
Speaker 2: It's heavy to come from the makeout sound effects and
Speaker 2: slip into that.
Speaker 3: Dude, we gotta go into nutro.
Speaker 2: We gotta go. Thank you for still being here. Thank
Speaker 2: you whoever you got two people?
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, okay to us from Kate, Hi, mommy is
Speaker 1: I'm a grooms maid female groomsman. Thank you very much
Speaker 1: for that, Kate. We appreciate that for one of my besties.
Speaker 1: And I'm in charge of the bachelor party. Oh, we're
Speaker 1: doing a bike ride to strip clubs. But I don't
Speaker 1: drink and I'm not into women. What should I do
Speaker 1: with my time to not look like everyone's mom at
Speaker 1: the party? I'll tell you what you can do. Ready,
Speaker 1: when you're at the strip club and a girl's dancing
Speaker 1: or like given a lap dance for one of the
Speaker 1: guy friends that you're there, just go.
Speaker 3: On the soundtrack. That's value.
Speaker 1: Yeah, not more fingers, more fingers, I don't even know.
Speaker 3: Give me that hat back, give me my hat back.
Speaker 3: I don't want this on my brand.
Speaker 1: Sorry, Okay, there we go. I'm back to being Stevie.
Speaker 3: Right, it wasn't the hat.
Speaker 2: I mean suggest obviously, you gotta just be a curator
Speaker 2: of fun, right. You have to make sure everybody's have
Speaker 2: to be a host or you know, a host, a hostess.
Speaker 2: You really just make sure everybody has their drinks full,
Speaker 2: make sure that the groom is being taken care of
Speaker 2: with he's having a good time, either if it wants
Speaker 2: to have his dancers or he wants to see his
Speaker 2: friends have a good time.
Speaker 3: You know, I've been in bachelor parties where there's been
Speaker 3: it's the two things.
Speaker 2: The groom everybody wants to give the lap dance to
Speaker 2: the groom, or there's that one quiet friend that is
Speaker 2: like everybody wants to see him. Yes, right, munkey, pile
Speaker 2: of them. I feel like it's one of those two ways.
Speaker 2: But I think you're really just a curator of the fun.
Speaker 2: Make sure the bikes are rented. You know, you're a curator,
Speaker 2: you're a host. You want to make sure that they're
Speaker 2: you know, that the dancers are not taking advantage of
Speaker 2: everyone and of quality and of quality for sure, and
Speaker 2: you want to just make sure that it's all about
Speaker 2: making sure that the groom is having a good time.
Speaker 3: That's what the bachelor party is all, by the.
Speaker 1: Way, But I think she's already off to the races.
Speaker 1: He's a cool girl. She got asked to be a
Speaker 1: groom's bride. Yeah, I mean that's pretty awesome.
Speaker 3: I've never even heard that term before.
Speaker 1: The dude has a girl facilitate his bachelor party, and
Speaker 1: that's pretty sweet. So she's obviously a cool girl. So
Speaker 1: I'd just be confident knowing that you're already there for
Speaker 1: a reason.
Speaker 2: She knows she knows the guy clearly really well, so
Speaker 2: I think you've got it fun. I would just say
Speaker 2: make sure that it's not all about I've always found
Speaker 2: found that if the night is just about the strip club,
Speaker 2: it always fails.
Speaker 3: Always have like a good.
Speaker 2: Dinner or something first too, where you're just relax and
Speaker 2: it shouldn't be all about that as the main event.
Speaker 2: It's never really panned out to be the best because
Speaker 2: there's so much At least you would have a good
Speaker 2: dinner first, well.
Speaker 1: Oh, for sure, yeah, yeah, good dinner with the fellas, yep.
Speaker 1: But then my go to in a strip club every time,
Speaker 1: every time is the guy that there's a guy that
Speaker 1: really wants to go there, yep, a guy that's very
Speaker 1: excited to be there. He needs this more than anybody. Yes,
Speaker 1: every strip club has the weathered vet. Okay, there's a
Speaker 1: veteran that's been in there a little too long and
Speaker 1: nobody's really getting dances from her. So my favorite thing
Speaker 1: to do is to just give this girl a lot
Speaker 1: of cash and go, oh my god, you are absolutely
Speaker 1: his favorite. Can he please dance for him for like
Speaker 1: the next hour and I'll get And now this guy's
Speaker 1: posted up. He can't get out of it. She's got
Speaker 1: the money. You just ruin his night, and now you're
Speaker 1: just gonna watch him just through it.
Speaker 2: And her too, by the way, for sure, yeah, for sure,
Speaker 2: she's like, oh, I'm gonna be with this one guy.
Speaker 1: It's my favorite thing to do.
Speaker 3: That's fun.
Speaker 1: That's ruined, ruined, the guy ruined someone's experience room though, No, no,
Speaker 1: not the groom. The groom. The room is gonna be
Speaker 1: he gonna be.
Speaker 2: That's a ted, that's a ted move ted wants to
Speaker 2: be to Ted's too too much.
Speaker 3: He wants to be that Ted.
Speaker 1: Look at you, Look at you. I don't think you
Speaker 1: even know what you look like?
Speaker 3: I know, look, do you know what? I also? I'm
Speaker 3: just I'm very happy to be here. It's your podcast.
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, here we go, coming to us from Emma. Hey,
Speaker 1: Joe and Steve. Love seeing you both in Birmingham, UK.
Speaker 1: A few years back, I written my first novel on
Speaker 1: the pandemic, which is something I'm super proud of. So congratulations, Emma.
Speaker 3: That's good job, Emma.
Speaker 1: I wanted to be an author my entire life. I'm
Speaker 1: at the stage now where I'm trying to get it published.
Speaker 1: Problem is I never get responses from the agents and
Speaker 1: publishers i write to do I just give up and
Speaker 1: figure writing is my forte after all? Or should I
Speaker 1: keep going? It's your first roadio, you got to keep going? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, do you expect your first one to be
Speaker 1: a breakout success? No?
Speaker 3: It's probably not good.
Speaker 2: First of all, it's your first first one, So let's
Speaker 2: be honest with ourselves.
Speaker 1: It's good now. It's good now. That's the point. It's
Speaker 1: good now and years from now. If you don't give
Speaker 1: up what you shouldn't. You'll look back at it, go, ah,
Speaker 1: that was good enough at the time. It was a
Speaker 1: good crutches and I'm still proud of it. But as
Speaker 1: you advance, your writing will only only only get better.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think give up. I think for sure. That's
Speaker 3: the first tegoys. Don't give up on it.
Speaker 2: Also, you're just worrying about other people's opinions in an
Speaker 2: oversaturated market because you're not the only person, especially during
Speaker 2: the pandemic, that people took up writing. Yeah, it was
Speaker 2: the thing that everybody could do, right, But you're also
Speaker 2: in the world where self publishing is a very easy
Speaker 2: thing to do.
Speaker 3: I self published The dog Father.
Speaker 2: I self published on Amazon, my first book, and you
Speaker 2: don't need anybody. There's no barrier to entry. You go
Speaker 2: ahead and publish that book and then people could order
Speaker 2: it and you market it yourself. So that would be
Speaker 2: the way if you want, really want the book to
Speaker 2: get out there. You don't need the approval of an
Speaker 2: agent or anything.
Speaker 1: And by the way, think of all the lessons you're
Speaker 1: learning by self publishing and doing that, all the expertise
Speaker 1: you'll have in terms of dealing, in terms of ownership
Speaker 1: in terms of equity, all that stuff.
Speaker 3: It's all yours.
Speaker 2: So I would say, if you want the book to
Speaker 2: get out there, then go ahead and self publish it
Speaker 2: after you've tried this avenue and the way you're trying.
Speaker 3: To do it is near impossible. It is.
Speaker 2: It's very hard for just to blind submit to an
Speaker 2: agent and get someone to respond.
Speaker 3: It's going to be really hard.
Speaker 2: You'd have to either get a literary agent first and
Speaker 2: help them show them the book and be like, hey,
Speaker 2: this is what I have. Can we go out and
Speaker 2: pitch it? And then you have to get a public
Speaker 2: publisher on board. It's a lot of steps. It's not
Speaker 2: super easy. The least barrier entry is to sel publish.
Speaker 3: What you could do right now.
Speaker 2: You upload that manuscript right now and you're done.
Speaker 3: So it's what do you want to do?
Speaker 2: Do you want to have your book out there or
Speaker 2: do you want to start a relationship with a literary
Speaker 2: agent and house.
Speaker 3: If you want to start with literary agent in the house,
Speaker 3: you need to have.
Speaker 2: Multiple pieces of work, so you could start writing your
Speaker 2: second one or bridge this one work however you want
Speaker 2: to do it.
Speaker 3: So that's my insight into this scenario.
Speaker 2: I've just learned this whole thing because I just started
Speaker 2: with a lid agent for I'm writing a kid's book,
Speaker 2: which is going to be fun. So with that, I
Speaker 2: didn't want to do the self publishing thing anymore. I said,
Speaker 2: don't let me try to do it the other way.
Speaker 2: And I'll have to say it was really fun and
Speaker 2: easy just to do it on my own with The
Speaker 2: dog Father, which I did during the pandemic, actually, so,
Speaker 2: which is available on there.
Speaker 3: It's available on Amazon if you want to check it.
Speaker 2: But I would say, uh, yeah, that's that's my advice.
Speaker 2: My advice is those are those are the two realities.
Speaker 3: So which way do you want to go? But by
Speaker 3: the way, like but nothing, don't give up.
Speaker 1: Super proud that you wrote your own book. I mean
Speaker 1: that's a huge how many people you did it, how
Speaker 1: many people talk about it, how many people you know
Speaker 1: dream about how many people start and don't finish.
Speaker 3: You finished the book. That's the vega thing.
Speaker 2: You put the final period on which a lot of
Speaker 2: people don't they stop it. The answer here, this is
Speaker 2: for you first of all, And then don't be don't
Speaker 2: be silly, Please don't please, don't don't stop, can't stop,
Speaker 2: don't give it up, Mama said Mamas, mamas, that's what
Speaker 2: I would say.
Speaker 1: Did you did you ever know I wrote a book?
Speaker 3: You wrote a book? Yeah, I did not know you
Speaker 3: wrote it.
Speaker 1: It's called a Thousand Grunts in my wife.
Speaker 3: I heard the audio version. I know you run an audiobook.
Speaker 3: You shouldn sell published that audiobook.
Speaker 1: It's just that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a whole book show. I'll show it all.
Speaker 2: Crush The New York Times bestseller's.
Speaker 1: Coming to us from Stone. Stone says, Hi, what's up?
Speaker 1: Coolest moms, My name is Stone. My question is how
Speaker 1: do you deal with nerves?
Speaker 3: Now?
Speaker 1: I'm going to jiu jitsu tournament? I want to know
Speaker 1: how to deal with the nerves when performing. Thanks, best
Speaker 1: podcast on the platform. Thanks for the last Oh wow,
Speaker 1: thank you Stone. That's very cool. Thanks for not kicking
Speaker 1: our butt too. Appreciate that.
Speaker 3: Stone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, by the way, you got to be a badass.
Speaker 1: If your name is Stone, you need to know what's up.
Speaker 1: My name is Stone. Jiu jitsu and I can choke
Speaker 1: you out in three seconds.
Speaker 3: HOWE does it go up against water?
Speaker 1: Classic ghatto.
Speaker 3: Or paper? Paper beat Stone or he says it no,
Speaker 3: he beat scissors. He beats scissors.
Speaker 1: That's right, man, I'm a dip shit.
Speaker 3: So here's the thing that I would say about nerves.
Speaker 2: It's all about channeling energy into redirecting energy, right, Like,
Speaker 2: if you're nervous or something like that, you could turn
Speaker 2: nervousness into excitement if you just learn how to handle
Speaker 2: it and learn how to like redirect it.
Speaker 3: Because nerves is a good thing. I like nerves.
Speaker 2: Nerves means that you're doing something that's taking you out
Speaker 2: of your comfort zone. You're pushing yourself into a different thing,
Speaker 2: or you're doing something of importance. Like if you're not nervous,
Speaker 2: if you don't have nerves, you're just in your comfort
Speaker 2: zone doing the same old same Yeah, show growth right.
Speaker 1: Yeah. But I also think when when you're an athlete,
Speaker 1: well as for more athletes.
Speaker 3: I'll let you, I'll let you take this part.
Speaker 1: Because when you're bowling, when you're up.
Speaker 2: To that eighth frame and you're staring down ten pinners
Speaker 2: and you know you got to get a mark up here,
Speaker 2: you know you need spare, spare at least strike When
Speaker 2: were great, You've adjusted for the oil.
Speaker 3: On the lane.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, you moved your boards, you moved two
Speaker 2: or three boards east to west, and you know that
Speaker 2: you need really to.
Speaker 3: Get between that section just for oil on the oils.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're not getting if you're not hitting the pocket,
Speaker 2: you know the oil, because each lane is its own thing.
Speaker 3: Man, I wouldn't expect you to understand what you really
Speaker 3: need to do.
Speaker 2: If you're really getting your nervous and you're shaken, you
Speaker 2: know you got to keep that got to keep your
Speaker 2: follow through. You got to keep your wrists tight, use
Speaker 2: those nerves to your advantage. Stone, That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: You're gonna throw that ball and you're gonna get that
Speaker 3: to gobble gobble.
Speaker 1: Friend, I would assume a jiu jitsu. Once the ref
Speaker 1: blows the whistle, you're off to the races. You're not
Speaker 1: thinking about anything other than reflexively reacting to what's going
Speaker 1: on and being it's go.
Speaker 3: Time, right, it's totally go time.
Speaker 1: I don't think you. I remember playing you know, hockey
Speaker 1: in in in like college and going to like you
Speaker 1: know where the Penguins play or you know where the
Speaker 1: Red Wings play or something like that, going to these
Speaker 1: arenas and you're kind of so nervous. But then the
Speaker 1: men of the pucks dropped you just like you're off
Speaker 1: to the races. Doesn't matter, he said, a performance.
Speaker 3: So I'm wondering if it's a jiu jitsu.
Speaker 1: But it's a tournament. Is that how you? Is that
Speaker 1: jiu jitsu?
Speaker 3: Is that? Like? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: You defend yourself? Oh?
Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't want to fight with me. I mean
Speaker 3: you come at me with fists.
Speaker 1: I give you the Do you do you bite and
Speaker 1: kicking the nuts?
Speaker 3: Do I do what I need to do to survive?
Speaker 1: Fair wark.
Speaker 3: There's no such thing as a clean fight. If anybody
Speaker 3: says that, If anybody says, oh okay, well you don't
Speaker 3: want to win the fight, because that's basically what it is,
Speaker 3: because a fight just means I have to beat you.
Speaker 2: I'm poking eyeballs, I'm jamming fingers up nostrils, I'm groining,
Speaker 2: I'm attacking.
Speaker 3: The groin full fervor.
Speaker 1: You're not afraid of the legal system.
Speaker 3: I'm not afraid of it. What is gonna happen? What
Speaker 3: is gonna happen?
Speaker 2: If I'm gonna fight with you, I have to win
Speaker 2: because first of all, I'm not equipped to fight or
Speaker 2: win a fight.
Speaker 3: So I have to go with what I could go.
Speaker 3: It's my hardest.
Speaker 2: Points, my elbows, my knuckles, and my skull. I'll be
Speaker 2: sculling your balls if I have to. I'm just sculling
Speaker 2: your balls.
Speaker 3: I A'm afraid of the scull a ball. Yeah, that's
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. I would say. Yeah, but it's not
Speaker 3: a performance, right, he's fighting. Yeah. I think you're right.
Speaker 3: I think nerves starts you're adrenaline, doesn't it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think once once you're It's just like,
Speaker 1: I'm sure when you were competing bowling like you could,
Speaker 1: I'm sure you were up. No, but I'm sure do
Speaker 1: Please don't do that be analogous to something that that
Speaker 1: is relatable.
Speaker 3: So you dad be analogous to me, is what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Okay, I won't my apologies.
Speaker 3: So okay, you think I remember what it's like to
Speaker 3: be competitive bowling. First of all, that was thirty years ago.
Speaker 1: Okay, I did it in high school.
Speaker 3: Hey, we were talking. The last time I competitively bold
Speaker 3: was thirty years ago. Okay, So don't tell to you
Speaker 3: relate to me like I did it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, okay, right, but when's the last time you
Speaker 1: went bowling?
Speaker 3: Three weeks ago? You love it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love bowling.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So what does that have to do with I'm.
Speaker 1: Just saying, I'm sure there was something. I got nervous
Speaker 1: when I was playing.
Speaker 3: It's birthday party.
Speaker 1: But when you're my daughter, my daughter had to go to.
Speaker 3: A birthday party. I picked up an extra lane. I
Speaker 3: was like, I want a bowl. What I'm I gonna
Speaker 3: do here?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: And I bowled?
Speaker 1: What what is? What's what's a high score? Year? We got?
Speaker 3: We talked about this to eighty eight in high school.
Speaker 2: That's when I had but three hundred saxe hundreds max
Speaker 2: really like twelve.
Speaker 1: I don't think you ever told me your high score.
Speaker 1: I think so well too, idio, No, I think guy
Speaker 1: as to do if you had a turkey.
Speaker 3: I've gotten turkeys, money at turkey, please.
Speaker 2: That's when I use my nerves going me Thanksgiving Joey.
Speaker 2: I gave him a cranberry too, gave him the cranberry.
Speaker 2: I got the turkeys and the cranberry bits. Couldn't get
Speaker 2: the castro all though. Couldn't get the bean.
Speaker 3: Casserole for the three hundred eighty eight.
Speaker 1: Is that like, is that like pro circuit?
Speaker 3: Yeah for sure? Yeah, sure, No, Well, I mean the
Speaker 3: pros or anyway if they roll, they're bowling three hundreds
Speaker 3: on the rag?
Speaker 1: Really, how how do you that was?
Speaker 3: It was? It was a It was a It was
Speaker 3: a fluke.
Speaker 2: I never bowled that high again. It was a one
Speaker 2: game thing. That child's I don't.
Speaker 3: Know if people heard that, but that child is in trouble,
Speaker 3: huge fan of bowling.
Speaker 1: It's like you got to any eight, Yes, but I'm
Speaker 1: sure there were there were. There had to be challenges
Speaker 1: or things you've done and the minute they say action,
Speaker 1: for sure, you don't. You don't think anymore.
Speaker 3: I'll say the most nervous.
Speaker 2: The most nervous I probably was was the movie set,
Speaker 2: having to act in front of like strangers, right, because
Speaker 2: there was a whole crew a different Jokers movie.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And it was for the.
Speaker 2: Non hidden camera bits where we were out of our
Speaker 2: element and we were doing it professionally with a large
Speaker 2: budget and cameras and people and a director like it
Speaker 2: was completely a different thing. I was probably one of
Speaker 2: the most nervous things I had to do, especially the
Speaker 2: scenes that you had to do by yourself you weren't
Speaker 2: doing with the boys.
Speaker 3: That was a little bit. That was a little rough.
Speaker 1: I think the most nervous I've ever been professionally was
Speaker 1: the pilot for Sullivan and Son. I remember because I
Speaker 1: was in every scene, and I knew if I messed
Speaker 1: up a line, if I wasn't prepared. I wasn't just
Speaker 1: holding up like it's a live studio audience. I'm holding
Speaker 1: up the camera. Guys, the cast from their mojo, moving
Speaker 1: forward with chemistry, all that stuff. So I was like
Speaker 1: everything I saw me And I remember I had access
Speaker 1: to the sound stage. I had a key card to
Speaker 1: stage five on the Warner Brothers a Lot Wow, so
Speaker 1: I could drive on the lot anytime I wanted to.
Speaker 1: I could visit the sound stage anytime I wanted to.
Speaker 1: And so that that you still have you still have
Speaker 1: that card? No, I had to turn it in, but
Speaker 1: I still have my Uh. I still have my Warner
Speaker 1: Brothers card to get me on the lot, but it's expired.
Speaker 1: But anyways, I remember, if you set up a camera
Speaker 1: like like those paranormal activity ones, you know, you would
Speaker 1: see a camera, you would see the set, and you
Speaker 1: would see me just doing my blocking over and over again.
Speaker 1: And I remember I spent five hours on Saturday because
Speaker 1: the tape was Sunday, five hours on Saturday going through
Speaker 1: each set, my blocking and everything, all my lines, so
Speaker 1: that I knew. The day of I was so nervous
Speaker 1: because I'd never acted before, like in front of a
Speaker 1: live studio on its like on my own like this
Speaker 1: is show, and the minute you go to action, it's
Speaker 1: like I didn't think any of it. I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm so prepared. I know exactly what I need to do,
Speaker 1: so have fun.
Speaker 2: Well, so you you help dilute the nerves part of
Speaker 2: it too by being prepared.
Speaker 1: So preparation is almost almost to the point of over preparation.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so preparation there, I guess for Stone as well,
Speaker 2: be prepared for what you have to do.
Speaker 3: So I know your jiu jitsus. I don't know the
Speaker 3: moves are called the jiu jitsu jiu jitsu.
Speaker 1: It sounds like something like like like when you're drunk
Speaker 1: jiu jitsu.
Speaker 3: It sounds like did you call the uber. I hope that.
Speaker 3: I hope that helps Stone. I hope that helped out.
Speaker 1: By the way, good luck at your excuse me, good
Speaker 1: luck jiu jitsu in your tournament. Yeah, oh, sure, you're
Speaker 1: gonna crush it. And your name is Stone, You're gonna
Speaker 1: of course, if you lose.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it doesn't matter. You're still Stone.
Speaker 1: You can't lose to Gary.
Speaker 3: Now, Gary is not going to beat Stone.
Speaker 2: Bartholomemule the next match, it's Bartholomew versus a Stone.
Speaker 3: I'm betting Stone, all right. This is coming to us
Speaker 3: from Rannie.
Speaker 1: I'm in a situation where I don't know whether to
Speaker 1: take a job that is twenty miles away but pays
Speaker 1: me slightly more. Order works somewhere that pays me slightly
Speaker 1: less than the other place, but it's a couple miles away.
Speaker 1: The farther option seems like a better company. So stay close,
Speaker 1: make less, go further out, make more.
Speaker 3: I'll tell you what I mean, how much how much
Speaker 3: is your time worth? Because that's what's gonna be. How
Speaker 3: much is your time worthute? You increase your commute? Right, well,
Speaker 3: twenty minutes. You don't know where he's living.
Speaker 2: If he's in, you know, it could be hours worth
Speaker 2: of traffic.
Speaker 3: He give me that, right, all right, let's just say
Speaker 3: let's call it what it is. Twenty miles more.
Speaker 2: I mean, is the money worth twenty miles less of
Speaker 2: your life?
Speaker 3: That's really we look forty minutes forty minutes.
Speaker 2: My guess is, yeah, I think you probably take the
Speaker 2: better job because you're gonna have to make sacrifices, you know,
Speaker 2: you know, you know, if it's a better opportunity, if.
Speaker 3: You're excited about it, better company, then sure, Yeah, I
Speaker 3: say take the it's a little.
Speaker 1: Further away, Yeah, like for example, like I could do
Speaker 1: a podcast at home.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but he wants But do I.
Speaker 1: Want to get on a plane, fly out of Gordia
Speaker 1: and get up before in the morning, fly here film
Speaker 1: a friend's apartment? Do I want to do that?
Speaker 2: Because a dog half bites him when he comes in. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you have a cookie, You've got that part. I had
Speaker 2: to leave you here because I had to go run
Speaker 2: an errand by myself eight lunch, right, Yeah, I had
Speaker 2: to run an errand to pick up dry cleaning. I
Speaker 2: had to do something. Well, these things happen. I mean,
Speaker 2: you came to my tur What do I want to do?
Speaker 2: It's really what you want.
Speaker 3: To do with your life.
Speaker 1: Yeah, when you come to Nashville, were ready to go.
Speaker 1: We start at noon. We start at noon. We don't
Speaker 1: fudge around. You go off do your shopping. We're done
Speaker 1: at one o'clock. You have one hour boom done, thank
Speaker 1: you right you you know I'm here. I got to
Speaker 1: sit around this dour apartment. It's like the seattle of
Speaker 1: upstate New York. Oh. Outside, it's dreary. There's dogs that
Speaker 1: want to bite me and shoot me and attack me.
Speaker 1: I got to eat lunch by myself like an animal
Speaker 1: when I can't talk, and hang out with my good
Speaker 1: friend because I got to go. He's got to go
Speaker 1: take care of his eighth house.
Speaker 3: Yeah it's Zora. Was the question. I forget it. I forget.
Speaker 3: All I heard was I think this.
Speaker 2: I think take the closer job, o, Paris, Steve is,
Speaker 2: take the closer job, Joe, just til you take the
Speaker 2: further one.
Speaker 1: Okay, it's coming to us from Erica.
Speaker 3: Somewhat slightly.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, no, this is this is a serious one.
Speaker 3: Okay, let's say it.
Speaker 1: Okay, this is might.
Speaker 3: Let me adjust my scarf.
Speaker 1: Sure, okay, ready, this is from Erica.
Speaker 3: I need your help.
Speaker 1: I'm forty year old widow. My husband was shot almost
Speaker 1: two years ago, and I lost my mom eight years
Speaker 1: ago in a car accident. I'm completely alone because I
Speaker 1: was never able to have kids. I'm having a very
Speaker 1: difficult time trying to stay positive. I live in a facility,
Speaker 1: I'm in hospice, just waiting to die. My kidney function
Speaker 1: is at five percent. I want to have something else
Speaker 1: to focus on instead of just feeling pain and thinking
Speaker 1: about dying. Please help me.
Speaker 3: Wow. Okay, so that's pretty heavy, Erica.
Speaker 1: I will tell you this right now. This is probably
Speaker 1: the most serious u DM we we've received on this.
Speaker 3: And uh, we don't try away from them. We don't
Speaker 3: try away from them.
Speaker 1: No, although I initially would want to.
Speaker 3: M M, but that's not what this is about. Tom.
Speaker 2: We're here to help everybody's best weekend, so let's, uh,
Speaker 2: let's do what we can here.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Look, I mean, Erica, if you want to see
Speaker 1: a slow death to make you feel better, just come
Speaker 1: to see any of my performances.
Speaker 3: Sure, okay, that'll do it.
Speaker 1: You want to see something miserable, visit my merch stand
Speaker 1: after while Joe's doing a two hundred meet and greet.
Speaker 3: You don't want you don't want to see that. I mean,
Speaker 3: she's not gonna want to spend her time that way.
Speaker 3: I will say this.
Speaker 2: I mean, you've already found a podcast that you'd like
Speaker 2: to listen to, hopefully, And that's give you a little
Speaker 2: bit of things. I will say that there is you know,
Speaker 2: you're putting yourself out there and the only way to
Speaker 2: change your situation is to put yourself out there. Now,
Speaker 2: you have your health that you're dealing with, but you
Speaker 2: also have this loneliness. So what you need to do
Speaker 2: is try to find people that want to be part
Speaker 2: of your time or to give some of your you know,
Speaker 2: your time to at this point in your life. So
Speaker 2: that is where it gets a little bit tricky, is
Speaker 2: like where are you meeting these people?
Speaker 3: Where could you open yourself up to not be alone? Right?
Speaker 3: You're dealing with being alone? For me, you said you're
Speaker 3: in a facility, so hopefully that facility has some.
Speaker 2: Sort of resources that can help you with this problem.
Speaker 2: We're not really well equipped to help you with this
Speaker 2: exact problem that you're dealing with, you know, And my
Speaker 2: normal advice would be put yourself out there and try
Speaker 2: to meet people. But you're also already dealing with this
Speaker 2: huge health thing that's an enormous weight on your shoulders.
Speaker 2: And I feel for you, and I'm saying you love
Speaker 2: and hopefully you know good vibest as best as.
Speaker 3: You can to deal with that.
Speaker 2: I will say, you seem nice and you need to
Speaker 2: you get some exposure to people to spend let people
Speaker 2: know that you want to spend time with people.
Speaker 3: So how do you do that?
Speaker 2: It is probably through the facility, through the people that
Speaker 2: are helping you there. There are probably some mental health
Speaker 2: professional people in this arena of this hospice that could
Speaker 2: help you do some reach out. I know that there
Speaker 2: were programs for my father when he was in hospice
Speaker 2: at home that helped him meet other people that were
Speaker 2: going through a similar situation who didn't feel like he
Speaker 2: was going through stelf alone.
Speaker 3: So maybe that's a possibility for you.
Speaker 2: It's also you're on your own, so it's tough that
Speaker 2: there's nobody else looking out for you to do this,
Speaker 2: So you're going to have to do it on your own,
Speaker 2: and life forces your hands sometimes where you're on your
Speaker 2: own and you have to do it on your own
Speaker 2: and you're in charge of your own fate. So I
Speaker 2: wish you luck and sending you much love, and that's
Speaker 2: my advice.
Speaker 3: I think, Yeah, I.
Speaker 1: Mean to your point, I think anytime you're dealing with
Speaker 1: something incredibly, you know, insturmountable and it sounds like there's
Speaker 1: an expiration date here. I think anytime people are dealing
Speaker 1: with those things, it's some sense of community that helps
Speaker 1: them get through those things, whether it's alcoholics, anonymous, whether
Speaker 1: it's veterans dealing with PTSD, having some sense of community.
Speaker 1: So you're right, I think when you're when you're you know,
Speaker 1: maybe even forcing yourself to be part of a group
Speaker 1: where you're going through things together and you can lean
Speaker 1: on one each other, one on one another. I also
Speaker 1: think like anybody in your situation almost has a gift
Speaker 1: to be completely honest with you. Because I did a
Speaker 1: doc on my good friend, the amazing Jonathan, and he
Speaker 1: had a terminal diagnosis. He knew he had an expiration date,
Speaker 1: and this whole time I'm making this film, every time
Speaker 1: I was around him. He was obviously a great comic mind,
Speaker 1: so he was always pumping out the jokes. But I
Speaker 1: knew not to take the time I was spending with
Speaker 1: him for granted, because he was indeed passing before my
Speaker 1: very eyes. And he was a reminder to me every
Speaker 1: time I hung out with him, every time I talked
Speaker 1: to him on the phone, every time I thought about him,
Speaker 1: anytime I was working on the film. It was a
Speaker 1: reminder to me of like, you never know, you never
Speaker 1: know when this could all be taken away from us, right,
Speaker 1: So for me, his presence in my life, especially at
Speaker 1: that time, was always a reminder of how quick life
Speaker 1: goes and to appreciate, like we had mentioned in another episode,
Speaker 1: just all the little things in life that are that
Speaker 1: are so important. So the fact that you know, over
Speaker 1: the duration of your life we got to intersect in
Speaker 1: this moment. I really appreciate it and giving me that reminder.
Speaker 1: And I'm hoping as you carry on that you do
Speaker 1: find a sense of community. But we're here for you,
Speaker 1: we love you, We're sending you nothing but good mojo.
Speaker 1: And again, I can't imagine what it is you're dealing with,
Speaker 1: but we've all been in situations where family members have
Speaker 1: been dealing with it, and I may one day all
Speaker 1: of us are. You know, No, it's gonna be here forever,
Speaker 1: So I'm going to be experiencing We're all going to
Speaker 1: experience what it is you're dealing with at some point
Speaker 1: in our lives where we're going to find ourselves towards
Speaker 1: the end of week and just trying to hopefully make
Speaker 1: the most of it with the little bit of time
Speaker 1: you have left. So yeah, we really appreciate you reaching
Speaker 1: out and reminding us of that. But also we're trying
Speaker 1: to give you some tailwinds yourself and say, hey, I
Speaker 1: hope you find a sense of community with a good
Speaker 1: bunch of people that are going through something similar. And
Speaker 1: again we're here for you.
Speaker 3: Try to have some fun before the lights go off.
Speaker 3: That's always been my thing. Just try, just try to
Speaker 3: do it. Find yourself to find a little bit of
Speaker 3: joy that you can that's at your will.
Speaker 2: Here, be it content, experiencing content on you know, either
Speaker 2: podcasts or or you know that shows or whatever, something
Speaker 2: that can bring you some joy, some mental escape that
Speaker 2: helps make your situation a little less heavy. Also, any
Speaker 2: interactions that you have with with people, you know, sharing
Speaker 2: a smile always, you know, makes your heart a little
Speaker 2: bit happier.
Speaker 3: So send you much love, and again we're.
Speaker 2: Not afraid on this podcast to talk about stuff as
Speaker 2: heavy as to comics because we've been through life as well.
Speaker 3: So we just wanted to make sure we answer this
Speaker 3: question for you and give you a little bit of love.
Speaker 1: So yeah, so we're giving lots of love and.
Speaker 3: That has been a very on this week's very serious
Speaker 3: Two cool moms.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it should also almost be one of those two
Speaker 1: be continued to be continued next week.
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, did you do?
Speaker 1: So?
Speaker 3: We love you.
Speaker 1: Lots of love to you, and lots of love to everybody.
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Speaker 2: And if you're if you're still listening after that the
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Speaker 3: In hindsight, Yeah, we apologize.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that that's that's true. We I do apologize. I apologize,
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