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Speaker 1: So we ended up going to dinner? Okay, it was

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Speaker 1: we had such a great time. I mean, you you're

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Speaker 1: such as we your heart. You just told me that

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Speaker 1: you you like like you think I'm attractive, you know,

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Speaker 1: like I'm trying to be a great communicator, you know

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Speaker 1: what I mean, Like no gray areas. I thought you

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Speaker 1: would appreciate to know exactly what I want what I meeting,

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Speaker 1: you know, like I'm not I'm not trying to play game.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's a hot pitch right there. I like it. Jack.

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Speaker 1: Feel free to respond Rachel Rachel. Okay, look, this is

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Speaker 1: a I can't believe you're we're on the radio right now.

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Speaker 1: This is ridiculous. Um, ridiculous. Is a little offensive to me, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think it's very It's just even though I think

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Speaker 1: it's just like the chemistry was just not there, you know,

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Speaker 1: And like the way this this whole boundary note card

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Speaker 1: how many times a note card would have saved me

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Speaker 1: on one of my Craigslist meetups, whether or not, like

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Speaker 1: you think it's if it's going too far, it's like

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Speaker 1: taking the spontaneity out of it. She's just trying to

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Speaker 1: I think. I mean, it's her first day in a really,

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Speaker 1: feedback under her. It doesn't mean you need to be

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Speaker 1: a robot. It's like when I walked through your car,

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Speaker 1: I have to pull out the note card and check

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Speaker 1: what I can do. If it's like five hugs. You

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Speaker 1: said we didn't have any chemistry, but I guarantee that

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Speaker 1: server what it told you different, And to be honest,

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Speaker 1: it's your loss because after date number five, things really

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Speaker 1: open up. Oh I was out on the card. Yeah? No,

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Speaker 1: I mean the thing about Rachel, she sounds like someone

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Speaker 1: who's very organized and maybe very different from you and

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Speaker 1: could really bring some other aspects to your life that

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Speaker 1: you don't have. Right now, let's get to the second

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Speaker 1: day on your note card so we can get to

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Speaker 1: some of that other stuff because we'd like to pay

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Speaker 1: for that. What do you say, Jack, give it another

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Speaker 1: shot happen? Rachel? I just I think it's cool that

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Speaker 1: you think we had chemistry. I just think that like

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Speaker 1: a lot of the fun was kind of drained out

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Speaker 1: of it as soon as those boundaries came up and

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Speaker 1: give her a second chance. On the second day, she

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Speaker 1: knows that already she doesn't have a second note card,

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Speaker 1: do you, Rachel, you have another note? Not anymore? No,

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Speaker 1: it's a pencil. Maybe you could just change. She's funny.

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Speaker 1: She's funny. Jack, all right, you know, if we can

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Speaker 1: start over, If we can start over, and it's like

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Speaker 1: a punch card, you're gonna get a freelance. So are

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Speaker 1: you just saying yes? Is that what you're saying, Jack?

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, Okay, I'll say yes, but I'll pretend

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Speaker 1: like the card never happened. Okay, she still Jack, I'm

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Speaker 1: actually excited and I'm really happy that I was vulnerable

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Speaker 1: and call it the station. Thank you guys. You barely

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Speaker 1: cried once during this entire call. That must mean it

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Speaker 1: was a positive experience. Yeah, just don't say that code

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Speaker 1: word that makes her cry. It's stilling. Oh God, Broke

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Speaker 1: and Jeffrey in the morning