Speaker 1: Baby, Sam Miracles and a man with seven to nine
Speaker 1: My baby, don't let you.
Speaker 2: Couldn't white chops showing the apple. Let's listen to it. Hi,
Speaker 2: it's Mila.
Speaker 3: We're back and I'm deliciously enjoying a crunchy apple with
Speaker 3: almond butter.
Speaker 2: Ah.
Speaker 3: This is air cut, and we are parental advisory good
Speaker 3: Mom's bad Choices. Actually, the honest sureth is we've been
Speaker 3: thinking if we should like just cut the parental advisory
Speaker 3: part and just stick with good mom's bad choices.
Speaker 2: But we're not sure. What do you guys think?
Speaker 3: Yeah, let us know it's parental advisory, Good Mom's Bad
Speaker 3: Choices just too long or is it just right?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I feel like obviously good good Mom's bad choices rolls
Speaker 4: off the tongue.
Speaker 2: Well, it's very classy.
Speaker 4: I feel like parental advisory is a warning for what
Speaker 4: you're gonna get, but also I think bad.
Speaker 2: Choices is a warning for what you're gonna get. True,
Speaker 2: So it's a double on Tandra. Yeah, so that's the
Speaker 2: right word. Yes, my god, are so educated. I went
Speaker 2: to college for one year or two. Me too, Me too, girl,
Speaker 2: me too.
Speaker 4: Anyway, we are pre recording this episode because Mila is
Speaker 4: going to Aruba for her birthday.
Speaker 3: Hey girl, I will be thirty when I come back,
Speaker 3: and I am going away to do as many bad
Speaker 3: things as a Ruba will allow.
Speaker 4: And I'm leaving to Florida to go do some work,
Speaker 4: So that's not just exciting. I'll be looking at Mila's
Speaker 4: photos wishing I was with her.
Speaker 2: And you can also look at my photos.
Speaker 3: I have pre planned all of the Instagram poses that
Speaker 3: I'm gonna take on the beach.
Speaker 2: Do you have your outfits ready? Kind of we're getting it.
Speaker 2: We're gonna coming together like instagrammable outfits for the most part,
Speaker 2: but I'm gonna wing it. But mostly my poses and
Speaker 2: most of my poses.
Speaker 3: Like are scandidly scanni scandidly clothed, naked aka naked.
Speaker 2: So you've been like practicing in the mirror. I've been
Speaker 2: practicing the mirror.
Speaker 3: But I have like saw all the other Instagram bitches
Speaker 3: on like their beach photos, and I have a particular
Speaker 3: folder put aside for Aruba. So when I get there,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna meet and Danielle, You're gonna pull up our
Speaker 3: photos that we want to replicate the poses.
Speaker 2: Of at these photos that do these poses that you've
Speaker 2: seen done in Aruba. No, I'm not just on beach.
Speaker 2: Some in Arubas just on beach.
Speaker 4: So you gotta do like a behind you gotta do
Speaker 4: like the pong booty shot facing like you are facing
Speaker 4: the ocean and the camera's facing your ass and you're like.
Speaker 3: Drinking a coconut. I like the coconut to the side. Yeah,
Speaker 3: like you're bending and you look at the camera. Am
Speaker 3: I standing around my knees on your.
Speaker 2: Knees so it's like the push out of the booty Okay,
Speaker 2: oh okay, I got it. I got it.
Speaker 4: Or just like observe, like observing the beautiful view, like
Speaker 4: you're taking it all in and you didn't even know
Speaker 4: a camera was taking that backshot.
Speaker 3: Right, that's definitely on the list. Yeah, I'm honestly not
Speaker 3: even sure if I made this trip, like for the
Speaker 3: fun or for Instagram photos.
Speaker 4: Well, you're you're gonna have fun either way, like by
Speaker 4: accident or just because there.
Speaker 3: Let me tell you this really bad comment my friend made.
Speaker 3: So I'm like my dad told me, like we maybe shit.
Speaker 3: I don't like there's not that much nightlife I mean,
Speaker 3: which I think is bullshit. I'm gonna find the fucking
Speaker 3: night life.
Speaker 2: But she goes, well, you know those girls, the one
Speaker 2: who got killed in Aruba a few.
Speaker 3: Years ago, that was like a long time, no, no,
Speaker 3: she goes, there were like a young group of girls.
Speaker 3: I said, Danielle, that is the absolute worst thing you
Speaker 3: could have said. Right now, She's like, well, it's like
Speaker 3: maybe they cut out the nightlife because that happened.
Speaker 2: That was also like ten fifteen years ago. I remember
Speaker 2: being a kid. Yeah, but never find her body. They
Speaker 2: never found her body. But then that wasn't her husband
Speaker 2: and her boyfriend in on it or something.
Speaker 3: There was a local guy who who happened to be
Speaker 3: the son of like a judge, a local Dutch judge,
Speaker 3: and that mother jumper got off but then traveled to
Speaker 3: Brazil and killed somebody else. But it was wait in
Speaker 3: a casino, a casino, but it was actually it was
Speaker 3: actually on camera this time, right, So basically they were
Speaker 3: trying to blame like yeah, it was like they were eluding.
Speaker 3: They couldn't find a body, so they couldn't link him.
Speaker 3: But then he traveled to Brazil and did the same
Speaker 3: thing because he's obviously.
Speaker 4: Remember a casino and they had him like going in
Speaker 4: and out of the room in the hotel or something.
Speaker 2: So, yeah, I'm going to Ruba where they kill bitches.
Speaker 2: They kill bitches everywhere.
Speaker 3: True, hopefully we don't get like kidnapped and killed.
Speaker 2: But I think you'll be fine.
Speaker 3: They'll return me immediately, like this bitch is mouthing taken
Speaker 3: her back, she's dancing everywhere. Again, can't even kidnap the
Speaker 3: bitch successfully? Oh yeah, So make sure you check out
Speaker 3: my Instagram post at Nila with an a each underscore
Speaker 3: mapo because I'll have all of the thirsty, thirsty, thirsty
Speaker 3: beach thirst on my gram m. H.
Speaker 2: I know, I'm okay. I't wait. You and Danny because
Speaker 2: y'all both are hot bitches yee and look really good
Speaker 2: in bikini yee. Are you gonna see your Florida bou? Yeah,
Speaker 2: you already told them.
Speaker 4: You're having I did, I am, but I don't know.
Speaker 4: I'm kind of off men right now. All that really
Speaker 4: irritating me, Like everyone's like disappointing me.
Speaker 3: There's always females on Tinder, Like if you listen to
Speaker 3: our last episode, the Whole Expectation episode.
Speaker 4: I just think I need a break so that I
Speaker 4: can just not have any expectations.
Speaker 2: I don't have to deal with anyone, so therefore there
Speaker 2: are no expectations. Well I told you. I told you that.
Speaker 3: In the beginning of your like singlesm you like have
Speaker 3: this burst of energy or you just want to like
Speaker 3: be a hell like you're in high school, and then
Speaker 3: I will do a noil.
Speaker 2: Down and you're like, yeah annoyed, Yeah you're I mean
Speaker 2: you you knew none of you were.
Speaker 3: Get the fuck out of you. So it I I
Speaker 3: you know, it goes in waves. Don't think the momentum
Speaker 3: is gonna just keep going. You know, sometimes you gotta
Speaker 3: just take the time to be alone and you gotta
Speaker 3: listen to yourself, because shouldn't you know.
Speaker 2: It's not all always dandy.
Speaker 4: I mean I feel alone most of the time because
Speaker 4: even the people that I speak to, the person that
Speaker 4: I talk to, we don't talk all the time. It's
Speaker 4: not like we're like on the phone like ever, like
Speaker 4: for four hours a night. You know how you like
Speaker 4: when you first start dating, like in high school, I'm
Speaker 4: just gonna get a really quick and turn on.
Speaker 2: I'm here for you. If you need to talk. There's
Speaker 2: always me. I know, No, it's for sure, and I
Speaker 2: actually prefer talking to women, yeah, because they have a
Speaker 2: better insight anyway.
Speaker 4: But yeah, I think I need a break. I'm just
Speaker 4: I feel like I'm irritable. I'm probably being too sensitive
Speaker 4: and I just need to chill.
Speaker 2: But this guy, I mean, I could go have fun.
Speaker 2: I know what this is.
Speaker 4: This is very purely sexual, has nothing to do with
Speaker 4: any sort of future.
Speaker 2: He we only text like once a month. You know,
Speaker 2: it's very.
Speaker 3: Yeah, surface, Yeah, he is fine though he is KOs
Speaker 3: and he's a doctor. It's always nice to have sex
Speaker 3: with the smart guy because at least you don't have
Speaker 3: to worry about his dumb sperm getting on you getting contagious.
Speaker 2: I made that up, but it sounded good. You know
Speaker 2: that some dumb people have had very intelligent.
Speaker 3: Children, who Yeah, I mean it happens, but usually dumb
Speaker 3: parents make them children, and that's why it's important to
Speaker 3: get your education.
Speaker 2: Well, I think it kind of works.
Speaker 4: Like you know how some like unattractive parents make really
Speaker 4: pretty babies. I think the same can go go with
Speaker 4: like the dumb parent make an educated child because they
Speaker 4: realize they grow up and they're like, damn, my parents
Speaker 4: are dumb as hell.
Speaker 2: I need to work harder. That's true. That also happens.
Speaker 3: I think that I was speaking of shallow relationships.
Speaker 2: My little young boo.
Speaker 3: We talk every day on the phone on FaceTime, and
Speaker 3: it's getting a little more serious.
Speaker 2: Well, you guys have been talking.
Speaker 4: For a while, like a year, so it's about time,
Speaker 4: if I mean, it's not like you have to.
Speaker 3: Make it a no no, but it's like it's getting there.
Speaker 3: Not not any I don't know where it's getting I
Speaker 3: just made that. I'm just saying we're getting We talk
Speaker 3: a lot of the fun.
Speaker 2: So you guys FaceTime.
Speaker 4: Every time I see you, you're like, hey, you just
Speaker 4: let you guys are I don't even know you're on FaceTime.
Speaker 2: You guys are like silent. That is not true. I
Speaker 2: am not a silent face. But you're like doing your
Speaker 2: watching to do that, and I'm.
Speaker 3: Like, get the funk off the phone. It's annoying the
Speaker 3: ship out of me. You're not even talking about anything.
Speaker 3: You're breathing. So no, I was gonna say something about
Speaker 3: that one.
Speaker 2: That's getting more serious.
Speaker 4: An my serious starting to feel more and warmly because
Speaker 4: you're right, like I'm deeper into my singleness. I certainly
Speaker 4: having these thoughts should like what if I just never
Speaker 4: find my match? What if he's just really not out there?
Speaker 3: Oh no, I thought about that too. If I'm not
Speaker 3: what if I'm not meant to be in a marriage
Speaker 3: or like be like long term, not.
Speaker 4: Even a marriage, Like what if I just never find
Speaker 4: anyone that's gonna like I'm I human, you know what
Speaker 4: I mean?
Speaker 2: Like I'm even worried about marriage.
Speaker 4: Just someone that I'm compatible with that I really have
Speaker 4: fucking fun with.
Speaker 2: It just makes me happy. I think it when you
Speaker 2: stop being.
Speaker 4: That makes me happy. I have to be happy with myself.
Speaker 4: But you know, like just you know, adds to my life.
Speaker 4: I think it's impossible. We're too cool for that not
Speaker 4: to happen.
Speaker 2: Where are you? Where are I think? Yeah, it doesn't exist.
Speaker 2: We're way way too cood. I mean, don't come yet,
Speaker 2: but like where are you? It's coming. I don't want
Speaker 2: it to come yet, but I just I just don't
Speaker 2: know that it is. And it is, like Prince Charming
Speaker 2: does exist. But I think what they' all taken? Haven't
Speaker 2: they all been swooped up? I know, no, they're coming
Speaker 2: and maybe like they're getting divorced. Look at someone took them,
Speaker 2: for granted, that could happen. Look at them. What's the
Speaker 2: princess's name, Markle, Megan Markle, Megan Markle.
Speaker 3: She's she's thirty, No, she's forty, she's thirty six, whatever,
Speaker 3: and she's wants divorced. And sometimes it takes, you know,
Speaker 3: more than one try.
Speaker 4: I mean maybe so, I mean she, yeah, she wants divorce.
Speaker 4: And I don't know, maybe Prince Harry, maybe it's something
Speaker 4: wrong with him because he's been single for he's been
Speaker 4: a little bachelor.
Speaker 2: Or maybe ain't nothing wrong with him.
Speaker 3: Maybe the point is, ever, these thing's wrong with everybody
Speaker 3: fucking else, and it took that long to find another
Speaker 3: sane person in the picture.
Speaker 4: Yes, I want you, Okay, well we'll be right back.
Speaker 4: You want some crackers, okay, go get them in the cabinet.
Speaker 2: Close the door, please close the door, okay, or just
Speaker 2: don't listen to they're.
Speaker 4: Gonna come back, and they're gonna come back unless you
Speaker 4: wanted to check out both.
Speaker 2: We're bored to death. Okay, back to the topic. Prince Charming.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I really had this spear the other day. I
Speaker 4: was like, he doesn't exist. I don't think that.
Speaker 2: I think I'm too much for people. For a man,
Speaker 2: I say that all the time.
Speaker 3: I tell men who tolerate me thank you, because I'm
Speaker 3: a lot of women I am like and I'm and
Speaker 3: then actually very sane and very rational.
Speaker 4: But I've been feeling more and more like I'm too much,
Speaker 4: just because every part I've had so many it's mostly women.
Speaker 4: So many women in the last two months tell me
Speaker 4: I'm a certain way even to day today.
Speaker 2: Women, you find it. Keep looking thing you should tell
Speaker 2: your children when you want them to go away, look forever,
Speaker 2: keep looking.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna go in there, and all my ship's going
Speaker 3: to be out of the cup, I know, including all
Speaker 3: the toys.
Speaker 2: We're going live. I never did this before. It's pretty cool. Yeah,
Speaker 2: we're live right now. I don't know. I don't know
Speaker 2: what to do. Hi wave, we're waving Hi, Hi, Hi?
Speaker 2: What is who? Someone's messing something. I'm right here, Hi,
Speaker 2: I'm here.
Speaker 3: We're technologically uh, technologically technologically challenged.
Speaker 2: And that sometimes it's gonna.
Speaker 4: Get these children's and trackers. Okay, I'm gettings. Sure, Paus,
Speaker 4: sorry about that.
Speaker 2: We are back.
Speaker 4: And yes, Prince Charming, I guess he'll come when he's
Speaker 4: supposed to.
Speaker 3: You know what.
Speaker 2: I also noticed. This is my other thing, was I
Speaker 2: realized that you kinda kind of know what you want.
Speaker 3: Like sometimes girls are like, oh, I'm Prince Charming, I'm
Speaker 3: waiting for this certain thing.
Speaker 2: But I had to realize, like, bitch, what the fuck
Speaker 2: do you want? Do you even know what you want?
Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Like you, maybe you need to.
Speaker 3: Write it down in your journal so you can focus
Speaker 3: on it and manifest that, man, because it will keep
Speaker 3: coming in different forms and different people will like.
Speaker 2: One third here, one fourth year and like, oh, kind
Speaker 2: I just mix them up in a bowl and eat them.
Speaker 2: But no, if you focus in on what it is,
Speaker 2: then you'll get less strays.
Speaker 3: I think, because what are some of the things What
Speaker 3: are some of the things that are required?
Speaker 2: Are required? Intelligence? Yes, I like to be I want
Speaker 2: to feel like we're growing each other. You gotta be fun.
Speaker 2: Fun is very important. I can't I'm a lot of
Speaker 2: fun enough for two people.
Speaker 4: But I mean, obviously fun people's definitions of fun are different.
Speaker 2: But I don't know. I like, I really do like
Speaker 2: someone funny who can make me laugh. That's how I
Speaker 2: get that, a sense of humor.
Speaker 4: That's how I fell in love with my last partner,
Speaker 4: Like I probably would have never given him the time
Speaker 4: of day, but he could make me laugh. And that's
Speaker 4: why everyone when I started dating the father friend shop
Speaker 4: people were like, I don't get it, what's the appeal,
Speaker 4: especially because.
Speaker 2: He was wearing a lot of clothes that were a
Speaker 2: lot larger than I used to be in white teeth.
Speaker 2: It wasn't but he could just make me laugh, you know.
Speaker 2: So like I like a guy that can make me laugh.
Speaker 2: I like.
Speaker 4: I like lips that if I'm gonna be shallow, like
Speaker 4: I can't do the no lip things, can't.
Speaker 2: I can't. I can't these lips they're too big.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have, I've had tried. I've tried, like a
Speaker 3: thin lip and it doesn't work. I'm like, did you
Speaker 3: kiss me? Did it?
Speaker 2: Hello? Oh? Or a sin tongue? Have you ever messed
Speaker 2: on with a sin tongue?
Speaker 3: A thin tongue like a the pack is a thin,
Speaker 3: like a paper thin.
Speaker 2: Like what if there's a sin tongue and there's a
Speaker 2: thick tongue. Okay, I guess I could see that. I
Speaker 2: guess I just never encountered that.
Speaker 3: So I have no idea what that's like because it
Speaker 3: does exist, unfortunately for you haven't run into it. I mean,
Speaker 3: this is also shall this is physical, but like I
Speaker 3: can't do a small penis I don't know, or like.
Speaker 4: I need to do average with an average because you
Speaker 4: can work it then, but small sometimes sometimes there's no
Speaker 4: work in small. It just keeps falling out and no, no,
Speaker 4: oh my god, I know I'll never forget that I
Speaker 4: had sex with this guy and his dick was so
Speaker 4: small at that point, I was young, I was probably
Speaker 4: eighteen at the time, and it just kept falling out.
Speaker 2: I kept thinking it was me. I kept like, I
Speaker 2: was like, oh my gosh, my pussy loves.
Speaker 4: And then I took After I got off of it
Speaker 4: and I looked at it, I was like, I don't
Speaker 4: know this, it is not mine.
Speaker 2: Oh that's really sad. That's fucked up. Like what do
Speaker 2: you do in your life?
Speaker 3: I think some guys though, okay, I have had butter
Speaker 3: eat pussy, right, that's what it is.
Speaker 2: Great great. You have to have to be great on
Speaker 2: the oral skills.
Speaker 3: I think like a like a well rounded worldly guy
Speaker 3: is really important. Like I've been out with like certain guys.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna go to a restaurant like, yeah, I need
Speaker 3: some scrimps. How many scrimps come with that? Or if
Speaker 3: they like tip poorly? Like I think that's ignorant and
Speaker 3: I cannot fuck like I need you to be versatile
Speaker 3: in different scenari like situations because I am.
Speaker 2: But like an ignorant.
Speaker 3: Ass guy, Like it really irritates me, Like, yeah, I
Speaker 3: don't like ignorance, and also what's the difference? One time,
Speaker 3: when I was in cheapness cheapness, I hate you when
Speaker 3: I want these guys from like Carolina, not to say
Speaker 3: the country guys are dumb, but they were like, but
Speaker 3: what's the difference between broccoli and asparagus? I was like,
Speaker 3: one's broccoli, one's asparagus? What the fuck do you mean?
Speaker 2: And I was like stupid and stupid never again, you known.
Speaker 2: Sometimes it's cute if they just don't know, but like,
Speaker 2: some shit is just not.
Speaker 4: I mean, I gotta have some room to show you shit,
Speaker 4: but I don't want to show you everything.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you gotta. And also you gotta show me
Speaker 3: some shit. Absolutely, I don't want to be the teacher forever.
Speaker 3: I want it to be a two way street because
Speaker 3: I want to feel like I'm growing, and honestly, this
Speaker 3: thirty year old age, I actually need a mentor. I'm
Speaker 3: very irresponsible. I need help. I don't I have no
Speaker 3: room to help someone else. I need you to help me.
Speaker 3: I'm about to close the start.
Speaker 2: I was not a close.
Speaker 4: I also want someone who wants to grow, because some.
Speaker 2: People think they don't need to be, they don't need.
Speaker 4: Any more growth, or they're just I don't know, it's
Speaker 4: just I just need someone who is aware that life
Speaker 4: is all about growth and it's a continuous thing, or
Speaker 4: just stop at some point, and is wants to take
Speaker 4: that ride with me, wants to travel with me, doesn't
Speaker 4: make excuses for not traveling. Okay, I get money situations,
Speaker 4: but like other excuses, just like you know, like sometimes
Speaker 4: a week it's traveling can be as quickly as to
Speaker 4: two day vacation, a one day vacation.
Speaker 3: It's just just getting away for a second, to want
Speaker 3: to wander and want to explore. I think that's important
Speaker 3: and I like.
Speaker 2: So now that i'm a parent.
Speaker 4: Also someone that my child likes, Yeah, which I've never
Speaker 4: I haven't done that yet. I don't know what that's like,
Speaker 4: but I know that it's important to me, someone that
Speaker 4: my child.
Speaker 2: I trust with my child, I feel safe.
Speaker 4: With leaving them alone with you, and that you're going
Speaker 4: to take They're gonna you're gonna love them like it's.
Speaker 2: Your own child.
Speaker 3: That is like number one, and if she has any
Speaker 3: reservations cut.
Speaker 2: What else is important?
Speaker 3: I want someone who likes to dance, because I like
Speaker 3: to dance and shit a lot. And also who's not like,
Speaker 3: who's not like okay, who can who understands the who's
Speaker 3: secure in themselves because I'm a whole lot of women
Speaker 3: and I'm like flirty and I like to attend to people.
Speaker 3: I'm a people person, and I've been in relationships where
Speaker 3: they're like, you aren't giving me enough attention in the club,
Speaker 3: I'm like, because we get seven friends there, Like I
Speaker 3: was being social, Like.
Speaker 2: Someone you need someone that can hold their own yeah,
Speaker 2: like if I live at the party peace, like if
Speaker 2: I see you at a bitch hey. I want someone
Speaker 2: that can get a lot. Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah. There's not a lot of requirements, like you gotta
Speaker 4: love my parents and you have to get I'm sorry,
Speaker 4: I can't do the not the family situation anymore.
Speaker 2: My family has to like you. I'm not I've done both.
Speaker 2: I've done the other way.
Speaker 4: And I although, like I understand, like you love who
Speaker 4: you love, but like I need if my parents or
Speaker 4: like my family has an issue with you, I need
Speaker 4: you to be man enough to try to resolve the situation.
Speaker 4: But sure not just avoid the situation or just blame
Speaker 4: everyone else.
Speaker 3: And I go that goes with friends and family. If
Speaker 3: you don't get along with my closest friends and you're
Speaker 3: not willing to work on it, you're cut Because these
Speaker 3: bitches aren't going anywhere I've known in my whole life
Speaker 3: and they're not leaving.
Speaker 2: So figure it out.
Speaker 3: And I feel like that that's that's a sign that you
Speaker 3: actually care about me to try and mend certain relate,
Speaker 3: you know, like try to build a relationship amongst the
Speaker 3: people who are important to me.
Speaker 2: If you want to be mother, you gotta get with
Speaker 2: my friends. Make it last forever. That's friendship never ends.
Speaker 2: Now here's the story from A to C. You want
Speaker 2: to get with me, I got ends and I never
Speaker 2: knew what, but we just showed all of our age.
Speaker 3: You know, some bitches don't even know who like Spice
Speaker 3: girls are. I don't even know who Destiny Child is.
Speaker 3: They just know Beyonce. They didn't know, like she has
Speaker 3: a group before that.
Speaker 2: What people don't know who Lauren Hill. Lauren Hill is,
Speaker 2: Die kill yourself.
Speaker 3: I'm actually really happy to be from the generation I'm
Speaker 3: from because at least we saw.
Speaker 2: The Internet get born. We know who fucking spice girls
Speaker 2: are and that's fucking important. And Luda's gonna know who
Speaker 2: the spi scrolls are, guddam it.
Speaker 4: And our parents were playing music before our time, so
Speaker 4: we know that shit too.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true, you know, like.
Speaker 3: I know, you gotta know, you gotta know who all
Speaker 3: those people are, or else you get cut and.
Speaker 4: Then trying to think of there's I know there's another
Speaker 4: big one.
Speaker 3: I always this is gonna sound bad, but hygiene hid Yeah,
Speaker 3: that's not even that's that's not even like a question.
Speaker 4: Like if you're a guy, you're listening to this and
Speaker 4: you look at your hands right now, and you've got
Speaker 4: long fingernails.
Speaker 2: Or dirt underneath your long fingernails.
Speaker 4: Now, literally, I see no way that finger is coming
Speaker 4: near me or in me.
Speaker 3: Or my vagina. No, that's an infection. Ready, it happens,
Speaker 3: I not do long. Literally, look at them right now,
Speaker 3: if they're long like this and they're dirty. No, just
Speaker 3: long or dirty both A and B combo.
Speaker 2: No, I don't like that. That's not Are you a pimp?
Speaker 2: What's going on? God, I don't get me started on
Speaker 2: that he's a pimp.
Speaker 4: No, but I know there's a guy with the pimp
Speaker 4: finger and I try to cut it when he was sleeping.
Speaker 2: No, I'm gonna call you out, like what the fuck
Speaker 2: is that finger for?
Speaker 3: No. Also, I don't think I'm not saying because I
Speaker 3: don't know my future, but I don't think that I
Speaker 3: could date someone really religious. Actually I really I have
Speaker 3: a relationship with the guy that I really love and
Speaker 3: I've loved him for years, like the only guy that
Speaker 3: actually makes me nervous.
Speaker 2: And is so fine and like you time out who no, no, oh,
Speaker 2: but he's.
Speaker 3: Like super Muslim, and I'm like, so I'm not gonna
Speaker 3: be able to celebrate my birthday and most importantly Halloween.
Speaker 2: I was like, oh no, but he's really like yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: he's just coming home from presence.
Speaker 3: I'm hoping and like, you know, lightens up because I
Speaker 3: was like, I'm willing to have a second wife like
Speaker 3: me and my like my fake cousin.
Speaker 2: We agreed. Are you on here? My sister wife, cousin's
Speaker 2: best friend, and.
Speaker 3: We agreed, and but like that we're both like, but
Speaker 3: we're not going to be religious. So I don't know
Speaker 3: if I could eat someone who's like it doesn't accept
Speaker 3: me as I am.
Speaker 2: Because I'm like a spiritual being.
Speaker 3: So I don't know if I could like commit to
Speaker 3: going to the whatever they call that Muslim h the
Speaker 3: mosque or the church or the temple.
Speaker 2: I'm spiritual. I can go to temple.
Speaker 3: There's like a you know, like an all spiritual temple,
Speaker 3: but you got to be accepting into like.
Speaker 4: My I'm open to learning about other people's religions as
Speaker 4: long as I don't want you to or my child.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's that's that's fair. I think that's fair.
Speaker 2: I'm making it. I made a cocktail. It's why are
Speaker 2: you drinking? Oh? Because my phone my cocktail is holding
Speaker 2: the phone up. But which one is that? You want
Speaker 2: to go live?
Speaker 3: Or you want me to drink your drink? You know
Speaker 3: you didn't even want this drink. She's like, oh, no,
Speaker 3: I don't want a cocktail.
Speaker 2: And it's like, why'd you make it? Because I was
Speaker 2: gonna drink it anyway, and she already had another one.
Speaker 3: It's orange blossom peach with orange juice. And this shit
Speaker 3: is delicious.
Speaker 2: It's by Kettle one and what is it good? You
Speaker 2: keep drinking it? Anyway?
Speaker 4: Those are my requirements. I'm sure there's more I'm missing. Oh,
Speaker 4: you have to be tall if we're gonna do the
Speaker 4: shallow part.
Speaker 2: Tall. Well, I'm like five months, so you absolutely have
Speaker 2: to be tall.
Speaker 4: Taller than me so I'm five to six, so you
Speaker 4: have to be at least five eleven.
Speaker 2: Oh damn it. Yeah, got some some almond butter on
Speaker 2: the boob, very sexy.
Speaker 4: Gotta be tall, gotta be gotta have semi straight teeth, assertive,
Speaker 4: clean teeth, can take control because I'm I will if.
Speaker 3: I can like take advantage of you and bossy around.
Speaker 3: I will, and I don't.
Speaker 2: I will cheat on you.
Speaker 5: And I want you to be able to like bitch,
Speaker 5: sit the fuck down on the Yeah. I need a
Speaker 5: man who take control but also let me be in control.
Speaker 5: I need I need both. I don't like a man
Speaker 5: that's always like, this is the man's job. I'm like,
Speaker 5: what year you're not getting too?
Speaker 4: No, it has to be balance, has to be balanced,
Speaker 4: and who supports me?
Speaker 2: Who is gonna listen to my podcast?
Speaker 4: Like, actually genuinely so reports what I'm doing because I'm
Speaker 4: gonna because I genuinely always support the partners that I'm with.
Speaker 4: I want to know what you're doing. I want to
Speaker 4: ask you what you're doing. That's another one. I need
Speaker 4: my partner to ask me how I'm fucking doing.
Speaker 2: Feeling, how are you feeling? How feeling? How is your heart?
Speaker 2: How is your soul?
Speaker 4: Are you you know you were you didn't feel so
Speaker 4: good a few days ago? How are you feeling about
Speaker 4: that situation?
Speaker 2: Now? Did you resolve it?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 2: That's great?
Speaker 4: How did you resolve it? Like take my chest in
Speaker 4: my life and my heart. It's just like I do that.
Speaker 2: You would think a nigga would like it. It's easy
Speaker 2: least also hustle.
Speaker 3: You got to have some hustle, Like I don't want
Speaker 3: to be hustling, and you're like lazy and like I
Speaker 3: was a relationship and the nigga was always blaming me.
Speaker 2: Like, well you didn't help me do this. I'm like, like
Speaker 2: I ain't just secretary, Like I can help you do
Speaker 2: some things. I'm a good writer. There's certain things I
Speaker 2: can put together.
Speaker 3: But if I don't see you making an effort, please
Speaker 3: don't come to me and with the list of shit
Speaker 3: that needs to be done, because you need I want
Speaker 3: to be like motivated by your your motivation and your hustle,
Speaker 3: and I want to be like, damn, this thing is
Speaker 3: getting money.
Speaker 2: I want to get money too, Like I want to
Speaker 2: get money together.
Speaker 3: I want to save money. Let's go travel the world
Speaker 3: next year. Like that is like to me, inspires me
Speaker 3: and keeps me motivated and driven. But being a relationship
Speaker 3: with a lazy motherfucker. Yeah, no, no, anyway, So anyone
Speaker 3: meet that list or what I'm about to make a
Speaker 3: fucking what's it called one of those boards a visual board, Oh,
Speaker 3: vision board.
Speaker 2: We should do that. I'm gonna put Michael B.
Speaker 4: Jordan on there all that I'm a little over him,
Speaker 4: so we not have to switch over to chad We
Speaker 4: should have never been all the Chadwick's outfit at MTV
Speaker 4: Movie Awards whatever.
Speaker 2: He could do no wrong.
Speaker 3: But you know what, I feel like, it's crazy. I
Speaker 3: feel like he's crazy because it's too good of an actor.
Speaker 2: Little style, a little style. Just I'll work on it.
Speaker 2: I'll take that that out. It wasn't that. She's such
Speaker 2: a genius. Okay, you know who I want? So if
Speaker 2: anybody knows him.
Speaker 3: Joanna, I really like Gingers and jo Jenna is such
Speaker 3: a classic man.
Speaker 2: That's a possible.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 3: He has like a harem of women, That's what I
Speaker 3: keep hearing. But like we're the harem? How many are
Speaker 3: we talking? And can I be number one?
Speaker 2: You haven't met me yet? So I'm the bottom bitch?
Speaker 2: You mean the top bitch? No, in pimptology it's called
Speaker 2: the bottom bitch is the top pitch. You don't know.
Speaker 3: You don't watch pimped snoop doggs like pimp one on
Speaker 3: one or whatever.
Speaker 2: The bottom bitch is the top bitch. It's reverse, got it? Okay?
Speaker 2: So you learn? You guys know that you learn something
Speaker 2: you every day, So you should just date you because
Speaker 2: you're teaching me aroun now mm hm you know A
Speaker 2: three times people ask me like, do you and Erica
Speaker 2: mess around? Really?
Speaker 3: Because I think because we're both girls, and I mean
Speaker 3: because we're both pretty and we like girls. They ask
Speaker 3: me about all my friends and they think like girls
Speaker 3: because guys have penises and that's.
Speaker 2: How they think. I'm like, you'll never know.
Speaker 3: And for your information, all girls that like girls don't
Speaker 3: all funk all the time. Sometimes they do and then
Speaker 3: they go the mom the next day, and sometimes they don't,
Speaker 3: but you'll never know.
Speaker 2: So should we go in to our today's topic? Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm making a mess over here. Should we end the live?
Speaker 2: So since we're going into the topic, yeah, well hold on,
Speaker 2: let me just make sure this still recording. Okay, So
Speaker 2: this was our first live. I'm glad you guys joined us.
Speaker 2: Thanks a bunch. Oh this is gonna like confusing me.
Speaker 3: No, well we'll cut this and then okay, and so
Speaker 3: you got to tune in next week.
Speaker 2: Do we get any decent questions?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 2: My god, y'all funny? Oh thinks we were just talking.
Speaker 2: No one's asking us any question. Oh we have six
Speaker 2: people looking. You don't know. They don't know, Dusty shot.
Speaker 2: Hell no they don't. Damn shame.
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, anyway, we love you guys, and tune into our.
Speaker 2: Next episode on Wednesday at six pm. Bye, how do you?
Speaker 2: How do you end it? Oh? Okay, great? Twenty five
Speaker 2: years Okay, I'm gonna work on this. Okay, let's start,
Speaker 2: good start, good start. Damn I heard to save it.
Speaker 2: We don't even save it.
Speaker 4: It's saved, Okay, I think anyway, So when is a topic?
Speaker 2: Are we going to do the Danielle topic?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Okay, So today we're talking about interracial dating because apparently
Speaker 3: my friends have informed me that they think that I'm
Speaker 3: fifty percent racist and also Eric as a productive of
Speaker 3: biracial I mean, she's biracial, so she's a product of
Speaker 3: an interracial relationship. And we want to explore that topic.
Speaker 3: And I want all of our non black followers to
Speaker 3: know that.
Speaker 2: I am not fifty percent racist and she is. Now.
Speaker 3: I want you guys to understand my my my perspective,
Speaker 3: and even I want to admit that sometimes I say
Speaker 3: things that are not that educated and aren't well thought
Speaker 3: through because probably I am a bitter bitch because of
Speaker 3: things that have happened and my experience as a black
Speaker 3: woman in LA and in America period. So my comments
Speaker 3: can come off harsh and aggressive, but it's not from
Speaker 3: like a hateful place.
Speaker 2: So it's because Erica told me that she thinks I'm
Speaker 2: a racist. I did not say you're racist.
Speaker 3: She especially thinks I'm biased towards non black women dating
Speaker 3: black eyes and black women dating non black men. Yeah,
Speaker 3: Like I'm okay with the black women dating non black men,
Speaker 3: but when it comes to the men dating the women
Speaker 3: that I have an attitude which is not true.
Speaker 2: Love is love.
Speaker 4: I think black women want to possess black men. I
Speaker 4: think that black men have because they were taken from us.
Speaker 3: I think black men have so poorly protected and appreciated
Speaker 3: Black women.
Speaker 2: That true, it's it's a thing. And because it's a thing, I.
Speaker 3: Have to talk about it because I've been told like
Speaker 3: one million times I don't date black women by black
Speaker 3: men who are have black mothers. And I've even been
Speaker 3: told like you're pretty for black girl, or like I
Speaker 3: don't date black women, but you I would date, okay,
Speaker 3: Like all ignorant statements and probably somewhere deep down buried,
Speaker 3: they've infuriated me ununderstandably.
Speaker 4: And it's and I've heard that from dark skinned men too,
Speaker 4: because I'm a light skinned black woman, and dark skinned
Speaker 4: men feel safe saying that to.
Speaker 2: Me, or black men period. They they they they.
Speaker 4: Feel safe saying I say dark skin, because there's black
Speaker 4: men that are fully black, but they're not maybe fully
Speaker 4: they're not dark skinned.
Speaker 3: But I'm saying I've heard from dark skinned men. I
Speaker 3: don't date black women period, oh period at all, not
Speaker 3: even light skinned women. Yeah, I mean or or or
Speaker 3: like this is my other pet peeve. I prefer like
Speaker 3: an exotic chick, like a mixed chick. Okay, let let's
Speaker 3: just be clear. Webster defines exotics, usually describing a fruit
Speaker 3: or a flower, and where none of us are really
Speaker 3: like unless you're like Native American, we're all exotic cause
Speaker 3: we all came from somewhere else. So it's a poor description,
Speaker 3: and I think it's a poor excuse, and I think
Speaker 3: the problem that really really irritates me. The root of
Speaker 3: the problem is that a lot of pet men that
Speaker 3: say that is because they they suffer from self hate,
Speaker 3: and black people in general suffer from self hate because
Speaker 3: there's this thing called slavery.
Speaker 2: And it happened and there's been a.
Speaker 3: Really negative racist rhetoric ever since, and as a result,
Speaker 3: we do have some insecurities and some issues amongst our
Speaker 3: own selves and appreciation for ourselves. And that is what
Speaker 3: I despise. I don't despise people who have preferences. I
Speaker 3: mean I don't have preferences. I like people, So I
Speaker 3: think it's annoying when a black man says I don't
Speaker 3: date black women when your mom is black, your honor
Speaker 3: is black, your sister's black, and how disrespectful and self
Speaker 3: hating that sounds really irritates me.
Speaker 4: I totally agree, and I've definitely experienced black men feeling
Speaker 4: comfortable telling me they don't like they don't date black women.
Speaker 2: But then it's like, hey, I am black. But then,
Speaker 2: at least in my experience, it was not true.
Speaker 3: He was lying, Oh girl, this is personal and that's fine,
Speaker 3: and that's fine, but just don't say that.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, You don't have to say that. Okay,
Speaker 2: let me ask. That doesn't make it did feel more selectial?
Speaker 2: Didn't make me feel special?
Speaker 4: And no, it didn't, And it made me kind of
Speaker 4: look feel annoyed because I've always.
Speaker 2: Kind Did you ever say that's kind of igorant? I
Speaker 2: don't say that.
Speaker 4: I said, I said why, I don't understand, and he
Speaker 4: was like, I just my dream girl was always you know,
Speaker 4: a light skinned girl would currently here.
Speaker 2: Okay, so I was always your dream girl? You just
Speaker 2: drum did? I really didn't feel I know that a
Speaker 2: lot of women would feel.
Speaker 4: Some sort of yes, baby, tell tell tell a little
Speaker 4: to kiss it.
Speaker 2: Let me see and you know what, let me close that. Please,
Speaker 2: let me also say this.
Speaker 3: I get in my dude like not gonna do, but
Speaker 3: like my youngins ask because he's Haitian and Haitians Islanders
Speaker 3: are really colorist. So it's not just like black eyes
Speaker 3: talking shit about not getting black women. I also really
Speaker 3: hate amongst anyone, even my girlfriends left friend.
Speaker 2: It's like, oh, that light skin, the light skin, that
Speaker 2: dark skin. Oh she's dark skinned. I fucking hate it.
Speaker 2: It's all skin. First of all, we're all black, okay,
Speaker 2: So I think.
Speaker 3: It's really rare we have to we find it necessary
Speaker 3: to classify the shade we're in because at the end
Speaker 3: of the day, if we go get a job, or
Speaker 3: if there's someone who approaches us in a cop car
Speaker 3: and there happen to be racist, we all going down.
Speaker 2: So I don't like the hierarchy of light skinned dark skin.
Speaker 2: And maybe because I'm brown skin, maybe because I've experienced.
Speaker 3: It or whatever, but I as black people, I think
Speaker 3: we just lack a lot of unity and that mix
Speaker 3: that makes.
Speaker 2: Separate separate, you know, like it makes us separate, and
Speaker 2: I hate it.
Speaker 3: I think it's ignorant, and it makes me think that
Speaker 3: you lack intelligence and you lack self love, and it
Speaker 3: really irritates the fuck out of me. So it's not
Speaker 3: just like black white, it's even a monkst within the
Speaker 3: it's more like within the community thing.
Speaker 4: I mean, colorism is a huge issue within the black community.
Speaker 4: It's a huge issue in.
Speaker 3: A lot of different Filipino communities, Asian community, Chinese, yeah,
Speaker 3: or like, you know, I don't not like black women,
Speaker 3: but I just want my baby to be mixed with
Speaker 3: good hair.
Speaker 2: And what the fuck is good hair?
Speaker 3: The kind that comes out of your scalpe as good
Speaker 3: as long as it's coming out with the scout's oiled
Speaker 3: and it's you know, it's more stroyed. But yeah, I mean,
Speaker 3: I'm just super pro black and I think that we
Speaker 3: lack that.
Speaker 2: And okay, oh here's my other thing. You could date
Speaker 2: hard you want to date. However, black people have.
Speaker 3: A different experience in the world, not just in America,
Speaker 3: So you have to be aligned and understanding of that
Speaker 3: to be able to relate to me and to a
Speaker 3: black man in reality. And I've seen a lot of
Speaker 3: my friends date white women who are ignorant, don't take
Speaker 3: the time to understand, don't care to understand.
Speaker 2: Say nigga the white women. Yes, I know it's.
Speaker 3: One chick in particular, Nigga, niga, nigga, nigga and not
Speaker 3: in a I say nigga a lot, and I'm working
Speaker 3: on it, even though I know you guys can't tell.
Speaker 2: But sometimes I say Nigga's like, it's not a black thing.
Speaker 3: It's like, Niggas could be men, Niggas could be ignorant people.
Speaker 3: Niggas can be a lot of Can my niggas my
Speaker 3: niggas right? You could have to understand nigga.
Speaker 2: Have you guys seen that thing with the teacher, he's
Speaker 2: like my nigga.
Speaker 3: Okay, anyway, emphasis on the aaah okay. But I.
Speaker 2: Like, you know, like my nigga, canot can I brought
Speaker 2: white teacher? Can I brought a pencil my nigga. I
Speaker 2: wasn't mad at him. I was like he was using
Speaker 2: it correctly. It wasn't out of contact. Please you guys
Speaker 2: look up that fucking YouTube. It's hilarious.
Speaker 3: This teacher got fired for referring to to he probably
Speaker 3: had a majority black class. He referred to the student
Speaker 3: as my nigga and they tried to like put him
Speaker 3: on blast. He was like, why, I mean, all the
Speaker 3: students use it. I'm an English teacher. I put an
Speaker 3: emphasis on the aaa h you know, you know, like hey.
Speaker 2: Can I can I can I borrow a pencil my nigga?
Speaker 2: Like my nigga? Can I borrow up pencils my nigga?
Speaker 2: So it was kind of funny.
Speaker 3: It was very accurate in his scripture description. But this
Speaker 3: girl that I know is a hunt and she has
Speaker 3: two sons with two separate black men and a she
Speaker 3: keeps you from to them as mixed voice. Okay, this
Speaker 3: is my other fucking pet, Peeve, don't be mad if
Speaker 3: this is you. I hate when people like hashtag like
Speaker 3: mixed babies black white baby, Puerto Rican wan their Puerto Rican, Jamaican, Irish,
Speaker 3: German baby, like it's a fucking baby.
Speaker 6: The babies are pretty all the baby like good hair baby,
Speaker 6: Like no, it's just a baby, Like there's no I understand,
Speaker 6: Like I don't understand because I'm not like as obviously,
Speaker 6: first of all, we're all mixed as Americans, and like
Speaker 6: I don't understand, like maybe I can't relate to it,
Speaker 6: but I guess I understand now more with my friends
Speaker 6: saying like they didn't feel like they fit in with
Speaker 6: this crew or that crew because there was like a
Speaker 6: pool of difference.
Speaker 2: So I understand wanting to have pride in whatever you are.
Speaker 3: I think I get irritated because as a black person,
Speaker 3: like until like ancestry dot com, I hate when I
Speaker 3: had that project in school and they're like, tell us
Speaker 3: something about your culture and how you're brought up having
Speaker 3: I don't fucking know, bitch, because it's called slavery. Okay,
Speaker 3: we ain't got no music, the religion was stolen, the
Speaker 3: food is now whatever. The slave food was soul food.
Speaker 3: And every year the same project. I had to do
Speaker 3: black eyed peas and grains for New Year's Eve.
Speaker 2: Okay, good luck, but black eyed peas were good luck.
Speaker 2: Greens meant money. But that's not a cultural thing because
Speaker 2: we don't have that. So I just it started. It
Speaker 2: irritated me.
Speaker 3: But back to like the women who are unaware and
Speaker 3: then have black kids.
Speaker 2: They can't comb the kids hair. They're teaching them that they're.
Speaker 3: Mixed kids, and then they're going to go up to
Speaker 3: school and someone's going to say something racist to them
Speaker 3: because it's ever not going to be ready. They're not
Speaker 3: going to be ready because they weren't prepared because they
Speaker 3: didn't even know they were black. They thought they were mixed,
Speaker 3: which is a problem. And I think if you want
Speaker 3: to date outside of your race, if I dated a
Speaker 3: Jewish guy, I would make it my priority to understand
Speaker 3: the Jewish community, the religion or whatever. Go to Israel,
Speaker 3: Like if I dated the Russian guys, same thing, whatever
Speaker 3: it is. Like when if you choose to have kids
Speaker 3: with someone, it's your responsibility to understand that culture to
Speaker 3: prepare your kid appropriately. And it's a special case when
Speaker 3: it comes to black people because we've lacked that history
Speaker 3: in a lot of ways, and there's a lot of
Speaker 3: blatant racism that happens to brown and black people. So
Speaker 3: just be smart, don't date anybody ignorant, period.
Speaker 2: No, I totally agree.
Speaker 4: I think I mean me as a product of a
Speaker 4: Mexican Irish, Mexican Irish some other shit.
Speaker 2: Mother and a black father.
Speaker 4: For me, my experience was I was always trying to
Speaker 4: show prove my blackness because of colorism, and a lot
Speaker 4: of times, you know, dark skinned women, men boys not women.
Speaker 4: There are children would be like you're not black, you're
Speaker 4: not black, and I felt like a black person and
Speaker 4: I had those I had. I had Anyways, I had
Speaker 4: experiences as a black person, maybe not as many as
Speaker 4: maybe you had, because I'm not gonna deny the fact
Speaker 4: that lights women do not have the same experience as
Speaker 4: dark skinned women one hundred percent. You've definitely probably experienced
Speaker 4: more racism or blatant racism than I have.
Speaker 2: But I will say that it is.
Speaker 4: I think it's really important because I do identify as
Speaker 4: a black woman, but I also identify as a Latina,
Speaker 4: and I don't want to have to choose.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you shouldn't have, you know, but.
Speaker 4: People in both communities make you feel like you have to,
Speaker 4: you know. And it's like, No, I speak fluent Spanish,
Speaker 4: I fucking celebrate My grandma is Mexican. We celebrate Mexican holidays,
Speaker 4: we do those type of things. We are proud of
Speaker 4: our Mexican culture. And then on black side, you know,
Speaker 4: we were as black as we're African American, you know
Speaker 4: what I mean. We don't celebrate African holidays, but you know,
Speaker 4: because we don't know any because we don't know any No,
Speaker 4: that's not an African, that's an American African American holiday because
Speaker 4: we don't know because we it was stolen. But I
Speaker 4: will say that if you are a white woman or
Speaker 4: whatever other other than black, or even if you're a
Speaker 4: white woman dating a Latino man, I do think it's
Speaker 4: your responsibility to educate yourself and educate your child, because
Speaker 4: especially your child is going to encounter something and they're
Speaker 4: not going to be prepared and they're gonna be crushed
Speaker 4: and they're not going to understand why this is happening
Speaker 4: because mommy or daddy did not prepare.
Speaker 2: Me for this, and then that is the problem. One
Speaker 2: hundred percent.
Speaker 4: I think it's easy to if they want to ignore it,
Speaker 4: they want to pass through that, they want to athlete.
Speaker 3: It's like everybody's gonna be mixed in twenty twenty three,
Speaker 3: and my baby's so cute.
Speaker 2: Because this mixed.
Speaker 4: And I've even heard people like I've heard people say like,
Speaker 4: I don't want to name my child a black name
Speaker 4: because when they when like when they get that resume,
Speaker 4: like when they go in for a job.
Speaker 2: I mean, it's true.
Speaker 3: My aunt named her kids Jillian and Ashley, and I
Speaker 3: was like, you couldn't get any more original than that.
Speaker 3: But also my name is Jimila, and everyone's like, oh,
Speaker 3: that's so ghetto. I'm like, actually, it's fucking super Middle Eastern.
Speaker 3: Jimmila is Arabic as fuck.
Speaker 2: But I mean it is sad.
Speaker 4: We live in a world now where like if you
Speaker 4: saw if someone saw Jamila on a work resume and
Speaker 4: then they saw Alison, they're gonna take Alison.
Speaker 3: I mean might take Alison like a Muslim because it's
Speaker 3: a Muslim name. But as they see my face, they're like, oh,
Speaker 3: it's got out, you know it is. There's all these
Speaker 3: stupid things that that's why for a long time I
Speaker 3: put Jamie and I never put Jamie on fucking resume
Speaker 3: in America.
Speaker 2: Who the fuck is James?
Speaker 4: If I saw Jamila, I'm thinking Jamila. Look, I'm just
Speaker 4: calling you what you call yourself Jamila? This bitch has
Speaker 4: been calling herself Jamilla. And I'm like, do you know why?
Speaker 4: And I was like, is your name I've been calling
Speaker 4: you Jamila? Am I saying your name wrong? You're like, no,
Speaker 4: it's Jamila. Why do you call yourself Jamilla? It's potato patata.
Speaker 2: Because I went to all white schools, all the schools
Speaker 2: I went to, I was one.
Speaker 3: Of three black people, and apparently Jamila is way harder
Speaker 3: than Jamila.
Speaker 2: So I was just like whatever, fuck it.
Speaker 3: But also someone had to tell me, like, no, make
Speaker 3: people pronounce your name like you correct them. But I'm
Speaker 3: so used to it, and I'm like whatever, because these
Speaker 3: people call me Milla, Mila, jam whatever.
Speaker 4: Put in America if you're not, which most Americans are
Speaker 4: very when it comes to race, and we're just now
Speaker 4: starting to like have an open conversation and dialogue about it.
Speaker 4: I wouldn't think you were Middle Eastern. I think, oh,
Speaker 4: it's black girl.
Speaker 3: Oh like a looking at a paper, Well that's yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm saying. If you're familiar, like familiar with a, it's
Speaker 3: also an it's alat of shit.
Speaker 2: But yeah, you probably think I was fat.
Speaker 3: Also, like people, I just hate stereotype, just period, even
Speaker 3: though a lot of them can derive from the truth.
Speaker 3: People like even my family's from Phillious when I grew
Speaker 3: up there. We'll go home. Like you talk so white,
Speaker 3: I'm like, you talk green? What the fuck does that mean?
Speaker 3: I talk proper English?
Speaker 2: Bitch. That's also annoying, or like, I don't know, people
Speaker 2: are just stupid.
Speaker 4: I think the conversation about you being fifty percent racist,
Speaker 4: and you know, you know, I have to say, like
Speaker 4: when I see a black man, an attractive black man
Speaker 4: that maybe I want or I want to know what
Speaker 4: that's like. And I see him with a white woman,
Speaker 4: that that that trigger of like what society has taught
Speaker 4: black woman is that?
Speaker 2: Ah, that ain't right. That's our man, that's ours you're
Speaker 2: trying to take. No, I'm like, you can have them. No,
Speaker 2: I don't think that.
Speaker 4: I think in my head I judge forred percent, even
Speaker 4: though I know that's not right.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like sometimes I'm like, oh, when I say, when
Speaker 3: I see a black guy, this is terrible.
Speaker 2: Who dates? Okay?
Speaker 3: If I have a friend who like primarily I always
Speaker 3: see him with a non black women, in my mind,
Speaker 3: like you just you don't fuck with.
Speaker 2: Your own kind.
Speaker 3: And I think that like you have self healthy issues,
Speaker 3: and that's not always the case. And I've been in
Speaker 3: conversations with black men and they have to like step
Speaker 3: to me and tell me, like, I'm totally aware. I
Speaker 3: totally like sisters, and it's just this is the person
Speaker 3: I'm in love with and I respect that. And sometimes
Speaker 3: I'm wrong, and probably because I've been told so often
Speaker 3: by black men, I prefer this over you that I've
Speaker 3: been low key traumatized, especially in LA. This is an
Speaker 3: LA thing, like we're just coming in, We're just getting in,
Speaker 3: like we're not in. You know, when I go to
Speaker 3: the club with my non black friends, the black guys
Speaker 3: will tap push me aside to get to my white friend.
Speaker 3: They'll be like two white guys in the club and
Speaker 3: they will come and find my ass. Okay, white guys
Speaker 3: love me. I don't know if it's because like my
Speaker 3: body type, but they I could be under a rock
Speaker 3: and they will fucking sniff me out.
Speaker 4: Because when I was looking at Jamila's tender and her DMS,
Speaker 4: it was like ninety eight percent white.
Speaker 2: I was like and old, like they all like they
Speaker 2: have been like over forty five.
Speaker 4: And this is why this conversation started because I was like, wait, bitch,
Speaker 4: you are only swiping right white men and you're no,
Speaker 4: but then you are getting mad at black men for
Speaker 4: dating white women. Now, was like, no, these are just
Speaker 4: who swipes me, and they do. But you guys have
Speaker 4: swiped them too well. I know that I know they
Speaker 4: swipe me. I knew if I wanted to get imagine
Speaker 4: I had to swipe on their asses too.
Speaker 2: I'm not. I mean, I've dated white guys. I'm white.
Speaker 4: But now that you've explained your reasoning behind it, it makes sense.
Speaker 4: I don't think that they're just like that because those
Speaker 4: are our men, No, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: I just have come across a lot of stupid black eyes.
Speaker 3: And and unfortunately, and ah, my fault, I admit, like
Speaker 3: it's ignorant of me, but I do.
Speaker 2: I'll make assumptions.
Speaker 3: I make assumptions like you have some issues, like you
Speaker 3: you have a preference, and I okay, And this is
Speaker 3: me being one hundred percent honest, and it's hard for
Speaker 3: me to sometimes like be flawed publicly, but I'm obviously
Speaker 3: like I have friends, so I'm like, oh, bits, you're scarred,
Speaker 3: you have like a black girl syndrome, You're hurt, and
Speaker 3: you know, and I think probably me too in some ways,
Speaker 3: probably because I grew up in LA in the valley
Speaker 3: where there's not a lot of black people, and I've
Speaker 3: heard it so much. I kind of put a label
Speaker 3: on certain type of black eyes, like you kind of
Speaker 3: you because I see a lot of black guys.
Speaker 2: The mediocre other women and be like, oh, my god,
Speaker 2: they're so bad. Oh she's so fine, she's so exotic.
Speaker 2: I'm like, she's a six. Okay, let's be clear. It's
Speaker 2: not because you don't have to say, like, she got
Speaker 2: good hair, she's so beautiful. You know what annoys mean that.
Speaker 4: I don't know if one of our followers is this
Speaker 4: girl and she's gonna be mad. Sorry, girl, I'm sure
Speaker 4: you're a good person. Actually I have a friend, I
Speaker 4: have friends like you. But it's like when you have
Speaker 4: a Caucasian girl, or maybe not Caucasian, she's just not black,
Speaker 4: and she appropriates what she can, or she starts to
Speaker 4: change who she is to represent what she thinks a
Speaker 4: black woman would be, like like the big gold.
Speaker 2: Hoops, Hey I have some in right now above.
Speaker 4: That, or talking a certain way or dressing a certain way,
Speaker 4: or wanting to have bigger lips when you don't, or
Speaker 4: wanting to have a bigger ass when that's not the
Speaker 4: ass you were given, or or trying to just relate
Speaker 4: to an experience that you it's not related. And then
Speaker 4: the black eyes dating her, and I'm like, well you
Speaker 4: might as well just day a black girl, Like what
Speaker 4: is the purpose she wants to act like a black
Speaker 4: girl what she thinks a black woman acts like, because
Speaker 4: let's be wrong, there's such a huge spectrum to what
Speaker 4: black women act like.
Speaker 2: I say that in quotation.
Speaker 3: Because I because that's what That's what bothered me about
Speaker 3: the Rachel Dilizzell thing.
Speaker 2: It's like, you're emulating what you say. I don't know.
Speaker 3: Maybe she had her past lives, was a black woman,
Speaker 3: I don't fucking know, but like you're emulating what you
Speaker 3: think a black woman is like. And it's not like
Speaker 3: she was talking changing how she talked and stuff, but
Speaker 3: like the hair wraps and the weaves and shit, like
Speaker 3: not all black women want to wear hair wraps and
Speaker 3: weaves yea, and the name change whatever. But I have
Speaker 3: a friend who dates black guys. First of all, my
Speaker 3: very best friend. She's my sister of twenty five years.
Speaker 3: I've never seen this bitch dated non black guye Okay,
Speaker 3: so I'm not biased all. But she's also not like
Speaker 3: a complete dumb ass. And she's also let me know,
Speaker 3: she's been around black men who feel comfortable like Erica
Speaker 3: to be like, I don't really fuck with black women
Speaker 3: because they allow their ignorant third this And she's like,
Speaker 3: you sound stupid because she's she's smarter. First over friends
Speaker 3: for twenty years, but she know, like she's smart enough
Speaker 3: to know the difference from like an ignorant black guy
Speaker 3: or someone who just validly is attracted to you and
Speaker 3: wants to be with you.
Speaker 2: But I've come.
Speaker 3: Across so many white women men who have this fucking
Speaker 3: ship on their shoulder because they've dated so many ignorant
Speaker 3: black guys who have pumped their head up to think
Speaker 3: in some way shape home and their superior and that
Speaker 3: you know, like I can come in and take your
Speaker 3: your dude, or I I know that he prefers me
Speaker 3: over you, or But I've also been around like really
Speaker 3: like black men who date white women, and I can
Speaker 3: visually see the woman get insecure because she's never.
Speaker 2: Fair one of those experiences, yeah, like oh she's coming
Speaker 2: over here.
Speaker 3: I mean, there's just so many fucked up boys if
Speaker 3: you go, oh, anyway back to my friend, she gets
Speaker 3: drunk all the time and it's.
Speaker 2: Like, oh yeah, cause that nigga was like this, that nigga.
Speaker 3: These niggas, And I'm like, bitch, you don't have to
Speaker 3: say drop the N word every fucking five minutes to
Speaker 3: prove your blackness or you're down.
Speaker 2: You don't have to wear hoops to the gym.
Speaker 4: You don't crazy to me that you've got that much
Speaker 4: that the ball, your balls are that big to say
Speaker 4: that in a group setting?
Speaker 2: Does she only say that? But that's how, But that's how.
Speaker 2: First of all, that's an LA thing.
Speaker 3: A lot of non black people say nigga and I
Speaker 3: have never heard, and she says it around people, and
Speaker 3: that's how I know. You've dated a lot of men
Speaker 3: who gave you the green light, And that's how I
Speaker 3: know there's a lot of stupid ass men out here.
Speaker 3: We have a air quotes as fuck friend who I
Speaker 3: was with, I've done since I was fucking eleven. This
Speaker 3: we my friendly show him a picture of a chick.
Speaker 3: He's like, oh, not only date burnt black chicks. Keep
Speaker 3: in mind, this man is my complexion, maybe darker. And
Speaker 3: I was like, wow, you're so ignorant. You sound so silly.
Speaker 3: First first of all, you say shit like that, and
Speaker 3: the immediately I cut you off. In my head, I
Speaker 3: don't fuck with you. You're stupid.
Speaker 2: And that's a problem too.
Speaker 3: Maybe I should have talked to him, maybe shit, But
Speaker 3: he's so stupid. I can't because to me, it's like
Speaker 3: that is a de I hate my fuck himself, I
Speaker 3: hate my mom, I hate like And then what if
Speaker 3: you fuck around like and have a baby, for instance,
Speaker 3: Erica's ivy is a chocolate baby, and you know, then
Speaker 3: you've made all these comments of what kind of woman
Speaker 3: you want, you want, you've manifested, But what are you
Speaker 3: saying to the women that don't like the product of you.
Speaker 2: Or your sperm when you're not this mixed looking shit.
Speaker 2: I just think it's ignorant to label beauty because.
Speaker 4: Oh, you mean, like, oh, yeah, that's true, because yeah,
Speaker 4: he's not what his idea the woman beauty was.
Speaker 3: But my whole thing in general is that you cannot
Speaker 3: put a label on beauty.
Speaker 2: And that's why I like to say, I don't know
Speaker 2: I'm here. This is gonna sound bad.
Speaker 3: A lot of guys have dated and have been like tall,
Speaker 3: white skin niggas with beards, because that's what I'm like,
Speaker 3: Oh okay, but.
Speaker 2: Also I like chocolate men, also like white men, buns
Speaker 2: and beards. I like a lot of different men.
Speaker 3: But you'll never hear me say I only date this
Speaker 3: type of person because I'm aware that beauty and attraction
Speaker 3: comes in all different shapes and sizes, and more so
Speaker 3: than none, it comes with personality.
Speaker 2: It comes with you know, Finanse, It comes with Jennet
Speaker 2: Saint Qua.
Speaker 3: It comes with personality, It comes with education, and if
Speaker 3: you don't recognize that, then you're stupid.
Speaker 2: Agreed, I agree? I agree.
Speaker 3: I think. Oh, I'm gonna ask you a question. Because
Speaker 3: you're a product of an interracial relationship. Have you ever
Speaker 3: seen your dad dated black women? And how has do
Speaker 3: you think that's affected you or not affected you either way.
Speaker 4: I've only seen my dad date one black woman in
Speaker 4: my life, and my parents broke up before I was born,
Speaker 4: so that's thirty years. And my dad said the same
Speaker 4: things he has said.
Speaker 2: I will never forget to say.
Speaker 4: I don't date black women because they're loud, they like
Speaker 4: to tell me what to do.
Speaker 2: They think they can put me in my place. I
Speaker 2: don't like that.
Speaker 4: And with white women, they let me do my thing,
Speaker 4: you know, they let me do what I want to do.
Speaker 4: And and I've always been like, wow, dad, you're talking
Speaker 4: to your black daughter. But then again, my dad has
Speaker 4: shocked me about a lot of opinions.
Speaker 3: Well that's why I was wondering when he's very honest
Speaker 3: to say the least, but I don't think he also
Speaker 3: acknowledges how that could have if it even affected you.
Speaker 3: But I don't even know if my dad thinks that
Speaker 3: deeply about that. Yeah, not that he's not capable of it.
Speaker 3: I just don't think that he even it's not even
Speaker 3: on his race. Are Like the woman that he's been
Speaker 3: with now for a long time, probably fifteen years, twelve years,
Speaker 3: is white girl from Indiana, redhead.
Speaker 2: She's super sweet.
Speaker 4: I love her, but yeah, that's that's and the woman
Speaker 4: that he steps out on her with or in the
Speaker 4: past have.
Speaker 2: Or he's exotic.
Speaker 3: Mixed, oh less less Middle America America.
Speaker 4: Although I'm sure that he's not really, but I'm sure,
Speaker 4: I'm sure he's done.
Speaker 2: You know, he's my dad. My dad is who he is,
Speaker 2: John is vagiint.
Speaker 4: But yeah, And I think for me growing up, because
Speaker 4: I always had to like prove my blackness, I really
Speaker 4: And also I feel like I was a very mature
Speaker 4: looking teenager even in elementary, like I had ass I
Speaker 4: was this tall. I was always the tallest in my grade,
Speaker 4: Like I was this height when I was like ten.
Speaker 2: Women grow fe like grows, so I.
Speaker 4: Was always the tallest in my grade, I mean in
Speaker 4: high school then everyone you know, surpassed me.
Speaker 2: So, you know, small white boys weren't checking for me.
Speaker 4: You know, my body type wasn't ideal for them, and
Speaker 4: therefore I always.
Speaker 2: Dated cause Kim Kid didn't come out yet.
Speaker 4: Therefore I dated mostly my black men, you know what
Speaker 4: I mean. That was appealing to me, and they were
Speaker 4: I appealed to them. And now I struggle with the
Speaker 4: idea of trying to d date outside my race, cause
Speaker 4: I do want to date outside my race. I'm try
Speaker 4: I I'm interested in dating white men, any any race.
Speaker 3: Really Have you ever slept with the white man? I
Speaker 3: have a non black man brother, yes, what about a Latino?
Speaker 2: Yes? Okay, I had a lat A Dominican boyfriend, and
Speaker 2: Dominican doesn't necessarily Oh guess is that Latino? Yeah? Well,
Speaker 2: like there's like black Dominicans because I don't know, we're
Speaker 2: so fucked up and non politically. They let girl.
Speaker 4: Okay, it's like the Caribbean though I know, I mean
Speaker 4: they're black too, but they're.
Speaker 2: Just like Cubans would identify as Latin. Okay. You know what.
Speaker 2: That's another thing only in America is like black and white.
Speaker 4: However, Dominican Republic and Haiti are the same place, so
Speaker 4: technically they are African, but they identify as Latin. This
Speaker 4: isn't my other Afro Latina after Latina. This is my
Speaker 4: other issue.
Speaker 3: People lack black Okay, this is okay, my problem with America.
Speaker 3: Black people have been so brainwashed okay with their history
Speaker 3: that I will never forget this. This man, this guy
Speaker 3: told me. I was younger, so my history wasn't so
Speaker 3: on point. But he was like, I'm not black, I'm no,
Speaker 3: I'm not from Africa, I'm Jamaican.
Speaker 2: Okay. This is what he told me.
Speaker 3: That makes me something to everyone when slavery happened, first
Speaker 3: of all, black people everywhere. When slavery happened, the boats
Speaker 3: came over and they just dropped the slaves off on
Speaker 3: the islands first, okay, and then they got to America
Speaker 3: and started dropping them off.
Speaker 2: Okay. So the African daspora is the.
Speaker 3: Disperse of the African people from the continent of Africa.
Speaker 3: But that comment ingrained in my head so deeply because
Speaker 3: I think my parents did a pretty good job of
Speaker 3: educating me on my culture. First of all, my middle
Speaker 3: name is Asada. I'm blamed after a black panther named
Speaker 3: Asada Shakur.
Speaker 2: So I'm very much I'm trying to get her out
Speaker 2: of Cuba.
Speaker 3: Not only is a suckad Okay, it's been like she was.
Speaker 3: She escaped prison. She's like a bad ass. She's a
Speaker 3: badass black panthers. She fucking birthed in prison. She escaped,
Speaker 3: she would she has asylum, like you know, she in Cuba.
Speaker 3: She's a bad ass bitch. But she she did a
Speaker 3: lot for the civil rights movement and they still have
Speaker 3: a bounty in her head. I thought Obama was gonna
Speaker 3: take it off, but just fucking another story. She was
Speaker 3: born as Joanne Chesimeier. Whatever is that that anyway, I
Speaker 3: remember that comment so vividly because it was like it
Speaker 3: was such a negative thing to be considered African. It
Speaker 3: was such a negative comment to be like, we're all
Speaker 3: from Africa. And it made me realize how that propaganda
Speaker 3: around Africa.
Speaker 2: First of all, all of the fucking.
Speaker 3: Images we've seen from Africa, like the starving, pot bellied
Speaker 3: children with flies on them. But if you go to
Speaker 3: first of I've never been, but like I have lots
Speaker 3: of friends who traveled Africa, go to the motherland.
Speaker 2: And like people are rich.
Speaker 3: It's like rich ass continent, despite the fact that Europeans
Speaker 3: and others have fucking shripped it for its resources and
Speaker 3: try to take over. But the point is is that
Speaker 3: goes back to show how much our culture has been
Speaker 3: stripped of us and how fucking ignorant people are.
Speaker 2: And that's why there's so much.
Speaker 3: Colorism and all this other news and all this other stuff.
Speaker 3: What a life's night that she what she doesn't like it?
Speaker 2: No, well, tell her to get off of it. Then
Speaker 2: tell her a land.
Speaker 3: Oh well, okay, all right, early lessons, who cares?
Speaker 4: I mean, okay, The same thing could be said about
Speaker 4: Big Mexican. I mean, growing up Mexican, I was like
Speaker 4: made to by other by by white people and by
Speaker 4: even other Latin people.
Speaker 2: Mexican was like.
Speaker 4: Looked down upon, right like, oh, you guys are like
Speaker 4: the migrant workers.
Speaker 2: You guys clean the toilets.
Speaker 4: You know, It's just like and that's that's because of ignorance.
Speaker 2: Ignorance, And I feel like I'm growing up in America.
Speaker 3: Yeah, America is a shit country. So we get we
Speaker 3: get like you know, certain, we get like a very
Speaker 3: watered down version of the history and the truth.
Speaker 2: It's so funny. I was, I was, you know that
Speaker 2: you told me to follow that guy's chakra bars. I
Speaker 2: can't even follow him. I have no idea. Wait, wait,
Speaker 2: I have a white friend. He's so pro.
Speaker 3: Black and he's so provagant. He's like, if you guys
Speaker 3: don't follow him, where the fuck are you living under?
Speaker 4: Rock?
Speaker 3: My new white friend, she I commented on this page.
Speaker 3: She's like, oh my god, you follow him? I love
Speaker 3: you ten times more now.
Speaker 2: I was like, you do okay, I mean, okay whatever.
Speaker 4: I was following him the other day and he was
Speaker 4: doing a live, which, by the way, I didn't realize
Speaker 4: you can do a live and like do a live
Speaker 4: with someone else, Like it was like a split screen
Speaker 4: and he was like, I guess maybe one of his followers,
Speaker 4: one of his followers wanted to ask him questions.
Speaker 2: That's cool and wait they weren't in the same place though, no,
Speaker 2: but it was split screen. Yeah.
Speaker 4: She was talking to him and he was talking, okay,
Speaker 4: figure out step at a time, okay, sorry, and she
Speaker 4: was like she he said something like you're you are
Speaker 4: African and she was like, and this woman was black,
Speaker 4: she was young.
Speaker 2: Man, why would you even agree to do that?
Speaker 4: He was like, you were African because he took it
Speaker 4: as an opportunity to educate her, and maybe he didn't
Speaker 4: even know that he was about to educate her until
Speaker 4: this moment, but he was like, you are black, you're
Speaker 4: African woman, and he was.
Speaker 2: She was like, no, I don't, I'm not African. I
Speaker 2: don't identify as African, and she was. He was like,
Speaker 2: where are you from. He's just like, I'm from London.
Speaker 2: He's like, no, you're not.
Speaker 4: And she was like, where are your roots? He's like,
Speaker 4: She's like, I'm Jamaican. You're African Jamaican. At my first
Speaker 4: he was like, he's like the people of Jamaica. The
Speaker 4: blacks are not native to Jamaica.
Speaker 3: This is the ship I'm talking about. People think Jamaicans
Speaker 3: are black. No, they're like native. They look native.
Speaker 4: And then go after that, actually because I knew that,
Speaker 4: but I wasn't sure, like I can't remember what they're
Speaker 4: called here.
Speaker 2: Okay, hey, hey, no screaming, no touching each other.
Speaker 3: Only to give love, hugs and kisses, don't raisee her,
Speaker 3: don't do it, stay sorry, to say sorry to each
Speaker 3: other don't touch her, don't don't touch her.
Speaker 2: Sleep. You say sorry, and Luna you say sorry.
Speaker 3: Okay, say sorry, Okay, say sorry, Luna say sorry.
Speaker 2: Luna, I say sorry. Give her hug. Give a hug.
Speaker 2: Both of you give hugs.
Speaker 3: Okay, So your best friends.
Speaker 2: Don't tell you she was sorry.
Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, baby, I know, baby.
Speaker 2: Nine, it's not watch your finger. Oh Okay.
Speaker 3: Also one other thing I wanna say about the the
Speaker 3: islander thing. Okay, See, there's an island. There's a small
Speaker 3: mass of land surrounded by water.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 3: If you put ten black people on a small island
Speaker 3: surrounded by water, and maybe there's three Europeans, it's gonna
Speaker 3: be easier to preserve your culture and have more more
Speaker 3: connection with your language because there's a larger number of
Speaker 3: people and there's less diluted by.
Speaker 2: The American or European or French culture.
Speaker 3: Now, if you take ten black people and you put
Speaker 3: them in America where there's forty five white people, it's
Speaker 3: gonna be easier for that other culture to infiltrate the
Speaker 3: black culture. So yes, Jamaicans, Dominicans, Haitians who overturned the
Speaker 3: government and actually got liberated way before African Americans, they
Speaker 3: have a stronger sense of it. It's a combination of cultures,
Speaker 3: but they have a stronger sense of like not voodoo,
Speaker 3: but yeah, they have a stronger sense of their their culture,
Speaker 3: their culture because it's easier tippers over culture on an
Speaker 3: island than it is a big, massive land that is
Speaker 3: diluting you and not letting you get educated and giving
Speaker 3: you the Bible with this blue eyed white Jesus. So,
Speaker 3: I mean, there's just like all these deep and then
Speaker 3: also think for America. For African American kids, the first
Speaker 3: thing we hear introduced for we're introduced in history books
Speaker 3: with slavery. We don't learn about our kingdoms in Africa.
Speaker 3: We don't learn about Keemen, we don't learn about the
Speaker 3: kings and queens and the riches that dwell there. We
Speaker 3: start our knowledge of ourselves as slaves.
Speaker 2: And that is a huge thing.
Speaker 3: How that negates, I mean not negates, or how that
Speaker 3: navigates how we feel about ourselves and what we know
Speaker 3: about our culture from the very jump. I think that's
Speaker 3: like in first or second grade, when fucking February rolls around,
Speaker 3: it's like slavery, Martin Luther King, You're free the end,
Speaker 3: smile bitch and be grateful you're here. We saved you.
Speaker 3: You could admit in Africa swatting flies and being hungry,
Speaker 3: and that's just so far from the truth.
Speaker 2: And unfortunately, like I had good parents that like I
Speaker 2: knew better, but like, unfortunately, there's a lot of people
Speaker 2: that don't know better.
Speaker 3: And so I try to be more sympathetic and I
Speaker 3: try to be like more.
Speaker 2: Like I want to communicate it with with people more
Speaker 2: so they're more in the know.
Speaker 4: But you know what, I wonder how white people feel
Speaker 4: about their people. They're very violent, no like how like
Speaker 4: no like, how like a white man would feel about
Speaker 4: a white woman saying I don't date white men, Like.
Speaker 2: Would they have this? Do they have the same reaction
Speaker 2: or they think it's funny. Well, I've heard.
Speaker 3: From my black from my from my non block friends
Speaker 3: that only dig black guys, that when they do get
Speaker 3: around other guys that are white, they're like disgusted that
Speaker 3: they've dated black men, Like, ill you let a black
Speaker 3: guy be inside you. But I think that's also goes
Speaker 3: with stereotypes because I think the black guys have big
Speaker 3: dicks and they assume they have little ones, which is
Speaker 3: also false.
Speaker 2: Not all black guys have big dicks.
Speaker 3: I've seen a little dick on a black guy, and
Speaker 3: I've seen a black white guy would have been dick.
Speaker 3: So you guys are stupid like that doesn't exist. But
Speaker 3: there is this pre you know, like there's just the stereotypes.
Speaker 2: I guess, would you marry a white man? Could you
Speaker 2: see yourself marry a white man? Yes? Okay, okay, I'm
Speaker 2: fifty to fifty.
Speaker 3: I would like to say I'm open enough and if
Speaker 3: someone actually, I know, if someone came into my life
Speaker 3: and swapped me off my feet and I was attracted
Speaker 3: to him and loved me and he digged me down absolutely,
Speaker 3: but and was.
Speaker 2: Open to letting you be who you are. Yeah, your opinions, Yes.
Speaker 3: And understood where I came from, and was you know,
Speaker 3: we could have real conversations, and I thought you weren't
Speaker 3: coming from an ignorant, like privileged white place.
Speaker 2: Absolutely. But what I was gonna say, Oh my god,
Speaker 2: I didn't even smell me today. I don't know why
Speaker 2: I can't have add like a motherfucker and he goes
Speaker 2: the doctor. There was something I was gonna say about
Speaker 2: this topic. Sorry, follow Sniffley, guys, I'm low key sick
Speaker 2: or allergic. I don't know what's happening.
Speaker 3: I would oh, okay, so okay. Another thing growing up
Speaker 3: in the valley. This is what I was gonna say. Okay,
Speaker 3: two of my best friends, one Israeli, one is Russia.
Speaker 2: She's feebly. Was so offended I said.
Speaker 3: This my Israeli friend. I've nor since I'm five. Bitches
Speaker 3: never dated a white guy. You would think her parents
Speaker 3: would have got it by now, the entire time he
Speaker 3: grew up until adulthood.
Speaker 2: Bitch is thirty. It's a thing preserves the Jews. It's
Speaker 2: not because they're black. It's because we want you to
Speaker 2: say Jewish. But she's not. She's not as real. The
Speaker 2: bitch has had a Christmas for your whole life. But
Speaker 2: but I'm just saying, like her mother is Dutch, Indonesian.
Speaker 2: But the mentality, this is what.
Speaker 3: This is where I used to have a different perspective,
Speaker 3: even my Russian friend. Till this day, I know how
Speaker 3: to say Tony Bailey, which is black and white and Russian,
Speaker 3: because I saw this bitch get beat over dating black
Speaker 3: guys in junior high, in high school, it was a
Speaker 3: thing amongst all of my friends because most of my
Speaker 3: friends weren't black in high school. Their cultures were like,
Speaker 3: it's not racist to say don't date black guys. It
Speaker 3: was just us saying this is our culture. This is
Speaker 3: how you're supposed to date and preserve the culture. And
Speaker 3: I thought it was racist, and it in some ways
Speaker 3: it probably is. And they would be like, what, Papa,
Speaker 3: what about Miles, my dad? Miles Black? Like it's different,
Speaker 3: it's different.
Speaker 2: You know, well it's different because you ain't Miles, right.
Speaker 3: But now as an adult, I understand. I can understand
Speaker 3: wanting to preserve your culture. I can under like, if
Speaker 3: we all mix, and how can we preserve on culture?
Speaker 3: It's okay to be like to say, like have pride
Speaker 3: in Well that's the cult.
Speaker 2: Culture is not a is not a color, and it's
Speaker 2: not a race. I know. So you just have to
Speaker 2: the way you preserve it is by.
Speaker 3: Knowing continue understanding it. I guess, I guess I can
Speaker 3: appreciate it.
Speaker 2: I think it's deeper than culture. For them, is it is.
Speaker 4: It's not culture, it's not racist, it's not about racism.
Speaker 2: Well it is, but it's more so like just the bloodline. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's bloodlines. The blood line. So I think now I can.
Speaker 3: So that's why, Like, Okay, I do hate hashtags like
Speaker 3: mixed baby, but I can't understand hashtags like black girl,
Speaker 3: magic and black love because it's something that our culture
Speaker 3: or our as black people, we haven't been we haven't
Speaker 3: been promoted to preserve.
Speaker 2: It hasn't been a thing.
Speaker 4: I will say this that the reason why I think
Speaker 4: the mixed thing has been pushed so far is because
Speaker 4: of colorism in the Black community, where mixed people haven't
Speaker 4: been accepted.
Speaker 2: So they've had to identify it and embrace that, which
Speaker 2: which is fair.
Speaker 4: It's had to be like, you know what, well, fuck you,
Speaker 4: I'm mixed, the mixed Like I'm gonna get me my
Speaker 4: mixed chickpair products.
Speaker 2: What you understand? You know, so I do. If you
Speaker 2: guys are gonna be in here, you have to be quiet.
Speaker 3: Which I completely now as an adult, I can. I
Speaker 3: can understand it. And I think before that I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: you think you're mixed. You think you're more beautiful, or
Speaker 3: you're better, or this means some type of like this,
Speaker 3: this automatically means to you identify with some certain type
Speaker 3: of beautiful, But that doesn't necessarily.
Speaker 2: Mean you're attractive.
Speaker 3: So I do understand like wanting to say, hey, here
Speaker 3: we are and this is important.
Speaker 2: You know I read pushed please. Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so I will say I think I think it's
Speaker 4: just being able to embrace yourself and if you identify
Speaker 4: as a mixed woman, you know.
Speaker 2: More power. I don't have a problem. But but do
Speaker 2: you hashtag mixed woman?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: Do you hashtag I remixed baby?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 2: I look at our as a black child. I'm just joking.
Speaker 4: No, I've never hashtag myself is biracial, hashtag by racial
Speaker 4: hast I do hashtag Latina, and I do hashtag black romantic. Yeah,
Speaker 4: you guys, you guys, you guys gotta go in the
Speaker 4: other rooms.
Speaker 2: You're gonna be loud. Okay. The Goldie Dog he's in there.
Speaker 2: And I think that's okay. I think I think why
Speaker 2: be for the way?
Speaker 3: It's because living you guys, living in America, there has
Speaker 3: been such that dialogue is just now becoming okay and
Speaker 3: popular and and empowered.
Speaker 4: Bye, guys, get up, because I'm trying to tell you
Speaker 4: to hush baby, because I'm recording.
Speaker 2: You want to go because we're talking.
Speaker 4: Why are you trying to show out though you want
Speaker 4: to you wanna go outside. Do you wanna go out there? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Okay, guys go out there. Okay, we want to close
Speaker 2: the door. You guys go out there. Okay, yeah. I
Speaker 2: think you know what it is.
Speaker 3: It's just like saying like, okay, it's just like people
Speaker 3: saying black lives matter, and they're saying and then they're
Speaker 3: count they're counteractive by.
Speaker 2: Saying all lives matter. Well, black lives.
Speaker 3: Matter wouldn't be a thing if if it wasn't constantly
Speaker 3: a thing, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Like we could say black lives matter, we.
Speaker 3: Wouldn't have to have to say black lives matter, because
Speaker 3: it would have been it would have been you know, clear.
Speaker 3: But there's obviously there's obviously something that's off balance. And
Speaker 3: that's why I think I can understand like Black Girl
Speaker 3: Magic and Latina and and and and making making these
Speaker 3: brown and black women feel empowered because it's unfortunately, especially
Speaker 3: in the black community, it's mostly the black women that
Speaker 3: get swept under the carpet because you know, obviously black
Speaker 3: guys are in they got you know, that's that's what
Speaker 3: they've been in.
Speaker 4: I mean, they definitely have their own struggles for sure,
Speaker 4: of course, because the dog was smoky, is he Here's.
Speaker 2: No, here's god. Okay, little steps, step over it, go
Speaker 2: around it. Go sit on those chairs out there, Go
Speaker 2: tell me what they look like. Go relax on the
Speaker 2: on the chairs in front of the garage. Okay, my god,
Speaker 2: my child, So what would you look She's like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, I don't have shoes on. Your daughter's like
Speaker 2: mother nature.
Speaker 3: I strongly encourage you and your kids to walk outside
Speaker 3: barefoot as much as possible. It's called earthing. Connect with
Speaker 3: the earth, touch trees. It makes you you better, it
Speaker 3: makes you more clear, it gets a headaches. There's there's
Speaker 3: science that goes along with this rhetoric. So look into
Speaker 3: it and walk barefoot. It's not a white people thing.
Speaker 2: Meanwhile, I don't like my feet dirty wash the bitch
Speaker 2: rock's hurt. Oh my god.
Speaker 3: But then and then, like black people see white people
Speaker 3: in the supermarket bare friend, They're like, look at those
Speaker 3: white girls.
Speaker 2: Not a white people's shit. Yeah, Well, who the fuck
Speaker 2: goes to supermarket?
Speaker 3: Shoes I've seen I went to I went to Ocean
Speaker 3: Side and there was somebody in the market with no shoes,
Speaker 3: and I was gonna gag.
Speaker 2: But whatever, it's all different story. She's just one with
Speaker 2: the more earth, you know, earthing. She's earthing. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: call it earthing or grounding. These google it. It really cures.
Speaker 2: It cures people of things earthing and grounding.
Speaker 3: There's even this study I think it's on Netflix, and
Speaker 3: there's like a copper, a piece of copper that connects
Speaker 3: you the bottom of your feet to the soil at night,
Speaker 3: and it's slowly made people like get rid of ailments.
Speaker 2: So it's real. Look into it. Nature is our friend,
Speaker 2: like the Native Americans taught us. I agree, I agree.
Speaker 4: I just like my shoes when I'm outside, I feel
Speaker 4: it I could to fit on sand or grass.
Speaker 3: I'm really happy we had this conversation because I wanted
Speaker 3: to clear the air with.
Speaker 2: Any of our non black followers.
Speaker 3: So you don't think that I'm coming from a like
Speaker 3: hateful place, because I'm not.
Speaker 2: I do love people, and I do like my share
Speaker 2: of vanilla. You know what I'm saying. Because there's some
Speaker 2: sexy oh I'm speaking with. Oh no, he's married. I'm
Speaker 2: gonna just be cool. What Oh wait a celebrity? Yeah wow?
Speaker 2: Who Zoy Kravitz stepdad? Oh yeah, yeah, he's really sexy.
Speaker 3: Really sexy. He's not white though, I don't care whatever
Speaker 3: the Mermaian or whatever. Also Zoya Celtana his husband's finest. Fuck,
Speaker 3: there's a lot there's I mean, don't get a choice,
Speaker 3: don't Oh you know what else? If anybody knows him, Ricky.
Speaker 2: Yune he's Asian. Oh yeah, he's hot. I met him
Speaker 2: in Bahamas. What's he doing the hair shooting something? I
Speaker 2: don't know.
Speaker 3: He lied to me, said he's in the medical industry.
Speaker 3: I thought he was hitting on me, and he's like,
Speaker 3: go get your daughter.
Speaker 4: I really went.
Speaker 2: We sat in my see each other at the bar
Speaker 2: and I was like flirting my ass offers. I'm good
Speaker 2: at them. I'm like, how is your name? You want
Speaker 2: to sheeto Pepper? He was like briar. He's like. I
Speaker 2: was like, I was gonna be my daughter.
Speaker 3: They told me no kids. He's like, go get her,
Speaker 3: go get her. I'm like, no, I's liked, trust me,
Speaker 3: they know me here, go get her. I was like,
Speaker 3: oh my god, about to get a stepdaddy. I ran
Speaker 3: to this huge resort to get this kid, brushed her
Speaker 3: hair fast, came back and then his girlfriend was sitting
Speaker 3: next to him, so he played with the whole time though.
Speaker 2: He was like, look we can have a little one. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Well, I mean she was still unengaged. She paid for
Speaker 3: he paid for our dinner. It was at Nobu at
Speaker 3: Bahamas nice, and then he left.
Speaker 2: And I've been trying to creep into his dams ever since.
Speaker 2: But I don't really know what to say. Still he's
Speaker 2: ready to marry that girl.
Speaker 3: I don't think they're Is he married. I don't think
Speaker 3: he's married. But the whole point is I didn't get
Speaker 3: my chance because it was not fair. I felt he
Speaker 3: was flirting me.
Speaker 2: He's like, you're so cute. I was like, anyway, I
Speaker 2: love Charlie Hannam. Do you know who that is? No,
Speaker 2: he's from Sons of Anarchy. He was also in Not
Speaker 2: of Movies. He is fine. I think that is a
Speaker 2: real why man, they're super white, Yeah, the blonde.
Speaker 3: Also from the the the guy from This is Us,
Speaker 3: the the actor, the guy who plays the actor and
Speaker 3: this is Us.
Speaker 2: I don't know what was namebody's finest Fuck? What this
Speaker 2: is is a great show. See she's my child? Is
Speaker 2: it hurts your feet? Okay, babe, Okay, we're gonna wrap
Speaker 2: this up.
Speaker 4: Do you have any we have any advice things. So now,
Speaker 4: anyone's smitten? Any No, I don't think so, Okay, don't walk?
Speaker 2: Okay, he did? How the house? Okay? One second, baby,
Speaker 2: we're wrapping this up. Yes, I.
Speaker 6: I have you have.
Speaker 2: Real closer? No, no, roll closer outside? Okay. Anyway, you guys,
Speaker 2: thanks for tuning in tonight.
Speaker 3: If you have any insight on today's topic, old maybe
Speaker 3: one second, we'd really like to know your insight on
Speaker 3: your your experience with interracial dating. I know we are
Speaker 3: somewhat biased because I'm.
Speaker 4: Black and she's half black, but we try to like honestly,
Speaker 4: I'm not that experienced in a racial dating I've never
Speaker 4: really dated interracially.
Speaker 2: I have only every day with black men. I've had
Speaker 2: sex with white men, but I've never dated them.
Speaker 4: So if you have any tips on how a bitch
Speaker 4: could open up her in a racial dating life, I
Speaker 4: feel like black men are the ones that are attracted
Speaker 4: to me. Very rarely do I feel white men are
Speaker 4: hitting on me, or maybe I'm just not aware of it.
Speaker 4: Let me know, and maybe you need I need to
Speaker 4: take some tips for your Jamila.
Speaker 2: I know all the white men trips me tips. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but anyway, thanks for tuning in. Guys, do you guys? Hey,
Speaker 2: you guys want to come say bye? Comes, say bye?
Speaker 4: You come here?
Speaker 2: Yeah, say one, say bye.
Speaker 4: On three okay here They would tack one shoes, three shoes, bye.
Speaker 2: Bye, catching.
Speaker 1: Us and spaces when your food comes fars with your faces.
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna spend my life being a color.
Speaker 2: You agree with me when I saw your dirt in
Speaker 2: my arms, my baby, don't know if you're black.
Speaker 1: Baby, don't if you're black.
Speaker 2: My brother, it don't mad if your black