WEBVTT - Interracial Dating 0:00:24.200 --> 0:00:38.839 Baby, Sam Miracles and a man with seven to nine 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:42.519 My baby, don't let you. 0:00:45.200 --> 0:00:50.360 Couldn't white chops showing the apple. Let's listen to it. Hi, 0:00:51.560 --> 0:00:52.160 it's Mila. 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:56.920 We're back and I'm deliciously enjoying a crunchy apple with 0:00:56.960 --> 0:00:57.600 almond butter. 0:00:58.640 --> 0:00:58.960 Ah. 0:00:59.000 --> 0:01:03.160 This is air cut, and we are parental advisory good 0:01:03.280 --> 0:01:06.760 Mom's bad Choices. Actually, the honest sureth is we've been 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:09.200 thinking if we should like just cut the parental advisory 0:01:09.240 --> 0:01:11.080 part and just stick with good mom's bad choices. 0:01:11.120 --> 0:01:13.039 But we're not sure. What do you guys think? 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:16.160 Yeah, let us know it's parental advisory, Good Mom's Bad 0:01:16.240 --> 0:01:18.399 Choices just too long or is it just right? 0:01:19.400 --> 0:01:19.760 I don't know. 0:01:19.800 --> 0:01:22.800 I feel like obviously good good Mom's bad choices rolls 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:23.360 off the tongue. 0:01:23.360 --> 0:01:24.360 Well, it's very classy. 0:01:24.360 --> 0:01:26.039 I feel like parental advisory is a warning for what 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:27.639 you're gonna get, but also I think bad. 0:01:27.560 --> 0:01:29.280 Choices is a warning for what you're gonna get. True, 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:31.480 So it's a double on Tandra. Yeah, so that's the 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:35.840 right word. Yes, my god, are so educated. I went 0:01:35.920 --> 0:01:39.880 to college for one year or two. Me too, Me too, girl, 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:40.440 me too. 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:45.800 Anyway, we are pre recording this episode because Mila is 0:01:45.840 --> 0:01:47.840 going to Aruba for her birthday. 0:01:47.960 --> 0:01:51.440 Hey girl, I will be thirty when I come back, 0:01:51.600 --> 0:01:53.960 and I am going away to do as many bad 0:01:54.040 --> 0:01:55.440 things as a Ruba will allow. 0:01:57.240 --> 0:02:01.160 And I'm leaving to Florida to go do some work, 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:05.080 So that's not just exciting. I'll be looking at Mila's 0:02:05.120 --> 0:02:06.960 photos wishing I was with her. 0:02:07.000 --> 0:02:08.600 And you can also look at my photos. 0:02:08.639 --> 0:02:11.920 I have pre planned all of the Instagram poses that 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:12.919 I'm gonna take on the beach. 0:02:12.960 --> 0:02:15.359 Do you have your outfits ready? Kind of we're getting it. 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:18.880 We're gonna coming together like instagrammable outfits for the most part, 0:02:18.919 --> 0:02:20.840 but I'm gonna wing it. But mostly my poses and 0:02:20.919 --> 0:02:22.160 most of my poses. 0:02:21.960 --> 0:02:27.920 Like are scandidly scanni scandidly clothed, naked aka naked. 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:30.040 So you've been like practicing in the mirror. I've been 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:30.720 practicing the mirror. 0:02:30.800 --> 0:02:33.120 But I have like saw all the other Instagram bitches 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:35.840 on like their beach photos, and I have a particular 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:38.320 folder put aside for Aruba. So when I get there, 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:41.320 I'm gonna meet and Danielle, You're gonna pull up our 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:43.760 photos that we want to replicate the poses. 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:46.240 Of at these photos that do these poses that you've 0:02:46.280 --> 0:02:48.600 seen done in Aruba. No, I'm not just on beach. 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:50.280 Some in Arubas just on beach. 0:02:50.320 --> 0:02:52.239 So you gotta do like a behind you gotta do 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:55.519 like the pong booty shot facing like you are facing 0:02:55.560 --> 0:02:57.640 the ocean and the camera's facing your ass and you're like. 0:02:57.680 --> 0:03:00.440 Drinking a coconut. I like the coconut to the side. Yeah, 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:03.120 like you're bending and you look at the camera. Am 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:04.720 I standing around my knees on your. 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:07.240 Knees so it's like the push out of the booty Okay, 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:08.560 oh okay, I got it. I got it. 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:11.600 Or just like observe, like observing the beautiful view, like 0:03:11.639 --> 0:03:13.240 you're taking it all in and you didn't even know 0:03:13.280 --> 0:03:15.320 a camera was taking that backshot. 0:03:15.280 --> 0:03:19.120 Right, that's definitely on the list. Yeah, I'm honestly not 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:21.520 even sure if I made this trip, like for the 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:23.519 fun or for Instagram photos. 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:26.800 Well, you're you're gonna have fun either way, like by 0:03:26.880 --> 0:03:28.280 accident or just because there. 0:03:28.560 --> 0:03:30.440 Let me tell you this really bad comment my friend made. 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:33.119 So I'm like my dad told me, like we maybe shit. 0:03:33.160 --> 0:03:34.760 I don't like there's not that much nightlife I mean, 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:36.520 which I think is bullshit. I'm gonna find the fucking 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:37.080 night life. 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:39.800 But she goes, well, you know those girls, the one 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:41.120 who got killed in Aruba a few. 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:43.000 Years ago, that was like a long time, no, no, 0:03:43.120 --> 0:03:44.800 she goes, there were like a young group of girls. 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:48.800 I said, Danielle, that is the absolute worst thing you 0:03:48.800 --> 0:03:51.440 could have said. Right now, She's like, well, it's like 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:53.520 maybe they cut out the nightlife because that happened. 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:57.160 That was also like ten fifteen years ago. I remember 0:03:57.200 --> 0:04:00.640 being a kid. Yeah, but never find her body. They 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:03.080 never found her body. But then that wasn't her husband 0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:04.360 and her boyfriend in on it or something. 0:04:04.920 --> 0:04:07.440 There was a local guy who who happened to be 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:11.280 the son of like a judge, a local Dutch judge, 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:14.160 and that mother jumper got off but then traveled to 0:04:14.200 --> 0:04:17.400 Brazil and killed somebody else. But it was wait in 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:19.279 a casino, a casino, but it was actually it was 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:22.640 actually on camera this time, right, So basically they were 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:25.200 trying to blame like yeah, it was like they were eluding. 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:27.200 They couldn't find a body, so they couldn't link him. 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:29.480 But then he traveled to Brazil and did the same 0:04:29.520 --> 0:04:30.720 thing because he's obviously. 0:04:30.560 --> 0:04:33.200 Remember a casino and they had him like going in 0:04:33.240 --> 0:04:35.480 and out of the room in the hotel or something. 0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:37.719 So, yeah, I'm going to Ruba where they kill bitches. 0:04:37.760 --> 0:04:39.719 They kill bitches everywhere. 0:04:39.120 --> 0:04:42.360 True, hopefully we don't get like kidnapped and killed. 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:43.480 But I think you'll be fine. 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:47.400 They'll return me immediately, like this bitch is mouthing taken 0:04:47.440 --> 0:04:53.040 her back, she's dancing everywhere. Again, can't even kidnap the 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:57.800 bitch successfully? Oh yeah, So make sure you check out 0:04:57.839 --> 0:05:00.800 my Instagram post at Nila with an a each underscore 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:04.799 mapo because I'll have all of the thirsty, thirsty, thirsty 0:05:04.839 --> 0:05:07.640 beach thirst on my gram m. H. 0:05:08.640 --> 0:05:10.640 I know, I'm okay. I't wait. You and Danny because 0:05:10.680 --> 0:05:14.320 y'all both are hot bitches yee and look really good 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:19.520 in bikini yee. Are you gonna see your Florida bou? Yeah, 0:05:20.080 --> 0:05:20.840 you already told them. 0:05:20.720 --> 0:05:24.160 You're having I did, I am, but I don't know. 0:05:24.440 --> 0:05:27.200 I'm kind of off men right now. All that really 0:05:27.240 --> 0:05:30.520 irritating me, Like everyone's like disappointing me. 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:32.640 There's always females on Tinder, Like if you listen to 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:35.440 our last episode, the Whole Expectation episode. 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:38.599 I just think I need a break so that I 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:40.880 can just not have any expectations. 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:42.640 I don't have to deal with anyone, so therefore there 0:05:42.640 --> 0:05:46.120 are no expectations. Well I told you. I told you that. 0:05:46.360 --> 0:05:49.520 In the beginning of your like singlesm you like have 0:05:49.640 --> 0:05:51.640 this burst of energy or you just want to like 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:53.880 be a hell like you're in high school, and then 0:05:53.920 --> 0:05:54.760 I will do a noil. 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:57.600 Down and you're like, yeah annoyed, Yeah you're I mean 0:05:57.839 --> 0:05:59.160 you you knew none of you were. 0:05:59.240 --> 0:06:01.520 Get the fuck out of you. So it I I 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:04.200 you know, it goes in waves. Don't think the momentum 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:06.040 is gonna just keep going. You know, sometimes you gotta 0:06:06.080 --> 0:06:07.719 just take the time to be alone and you gotta 0:06:07.760 --> 0:06:09.760 listen to yourself, because shouldn't you know. 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:12.400 It's not all always dandy. 0:06:13.200 --> 0:06:15.280 I mean I feel alone most of the time because 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:18.000 even the people that I speak to, the person that 0:06:18.040 --> 0:06:19.800 I talk to, we don't talk all the time. It's 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:22.440 not like we're like on the phone like ever, like 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:24.080 for four hours a night. You know how you like 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:26.520 when you first start dating, like in high school, I'm 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:28.200 just gonna get a really quick and turn on. 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:31.120 I'm here for you. If you need to talk. There's 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:34.160 always me. I know, No, it's for sure, and I 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:38.279 actually prefer talking to women, yeah, because they have a 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:39.680 better insight anyway. 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:42.279 But yeah, I think I need a break. I'm just 0:06:42.440 --> 0:06:45.200 I feel like I'm irritable. I'm probably being too sensitive 0:06:46.040 --> 0:06:47.960 and I just need to chill. 0:06:48.040 --> 0:06:49.719 But this guy, I mean, I could go have fun. 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:51.200 I know what this is. 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:54.359 This is very purely sexual, has nothing to do with 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:55.400 any sort of future. 0:06:56.080 --> 0:07:00.320 He we only text like once a month. You know, 0:07:00.440 --> 0:07:01.159 it's very. 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:06.400 Yeah, surface, Yeah, he is fine though he is KOs 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:09.440 and he's a doctor. It's always nice to have sex 0:07:09.440 --> 0:07:10.960 with the smart guy because at least you don't have 0:07:11.000 --> 0:07:14.480 to worry about his dumb sperm getting on you getting contagious. 0:07:16.040 --> 0:07:17.880 I made that up, but it sounded good. You know 0:07:17.920 --> 0:07:19.920 that some dumb people have had very intelligent. 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:24.000 Children, who Yeah, I mean it happens, but usually dumb 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:25.920 parents make them children, and that's why it's important to 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:26.560 get your education. 0:07:26.680 --> 0:07:27.560 Well, I think it kind of works. 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:29.920 Like you know how some like unattractive parents make really 0:07:29.920 --> 0:07:32.680 pretty babies. I think the same can go go with 0:07:32.720 --> 0:07:35.400 like the dumb parent make an educated child because they 0:07:35.400 --> 0:07:37.240 realize they grow up and they're like, damn, my parents 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:37.800 are dumb as hell. 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:40.440 I need to work harder. That's true. That also happens. 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:45.480 I think that I was speaking of shallow relationships. 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:49.920 My little young boo. 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:53.360 We talk every day on the phone on FaceTime, and 0:07:55.480 --> 0:07:57.080 it's getting a little more serious. 0:07:57.440 --> 0:07:58.680 Well, you guys have been talking. 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:01.240 For a while, like a year, so it's about time, 0:08:01.280 --> 0:08:02.600 if I mean, it's not like you have to. 0:08:02.520 --> 0:08:05.480 Make it a no no, but it's like it's getting there. 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:07.640 Not not any I don't know where it's getting I 0:08:07.720 --> 0:08:10.520 just made that. I'm just saying we're getting We talk 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:11.320 a lot of the fun. 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:12.640 So you guys FaceTime. 0:08:12.680 --> 0:08:14.600 Every time I see you, you're like, hey, you just 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:16.400 let you guys are I don't even know you're on FaceTime. 0:08:16.400 --> 0:08:18.320 You guys are like silent. That is not true. I 0:08:18.360 --> 0:08:20.560 am not a silent face. But you're like doing your 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:23.080 watching to do that, and I'm. 0:08:22.920 --> 0:08:24.520 Like, get the funk off the phone. It's annoying the 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:26.080 ship out of me. You're not even talking about anything. 0:08:26.080 --> 0:08:30.920 You're breathing. So no, I was gonna say something about 0:08:31.240 --> 0:08:31.640 that one. 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:34.600 That's getting more serious. 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:39.520 An my serious starting to feel more and warmly because 0:08:40.280 --> 0:08:44.760 you're right, like I'm deeper into my singleness. I certainly 0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:48.400 having these thoughts should like what if I just never 0:08:48.520 --> 0:08:51.839 find my match? What if he's just really not out there? 0:08:51.880 --> 0:08:53.440 Oh no, I thought about that too. If I'm not 0:08:53.640 --> 0:08:55.680 what if I'm not meant to be in a marriage 0:08:55.800 --> 0:08:57.480 or like be like long term, not. 0:08:57.440 --> 0:08:59.640 Even a marriage, Like what if I just never find 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:03.640 anyone that's gonna like I'm I human, you know what 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:03.959 I mean? 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:05.200 Like I'm even worried about marriage. 0:09:05.280 --> 0:09:07.200 Just someone that I'm compatible with that I really have 0:09:07.360 --> 0:09:08.360 fucking fun with. 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:10.640 It just makes me happy. I think it when you 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:11.800 stop being. 0:09:11.720 --> 0:09:13.640 That makes me happy. I have to be happy with myself. 0:09:13.640 --> 0:09:16.720 But you know, like just you know, adds to my life. 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:19.120 I think it's impossible. We're too cool for that not 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:19.640 to happen. 0:09:20.559 --> 0:09:25.320 Where are you? Where are I think? Yeah, it doesn't exist. 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:26.920 We're way way too cood. I mean, don't come yet, 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:29.600 but like where are you? It's coming. I don't want 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:30.840 it to come yet, but I just I just don't 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:33.400 know that it is. And it is, like Prince Charming 0:09:33.440 --> 0:09:36.160 does exist. But I think what they' all taken? Haven't 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:38.520 they all been swooped up? I know, no, they're coming 0:09:38.600 --> 0:09:41.040 and maybe like they're getting divorced. Look at someone took them, 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:43.120 for granted, that could happen. Look at them. What's the 0:09:43.160 --> 0:09:46.200 princess's name, Markle, Megan Markle, Megan Markle. 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:50.960 She's she's thirty, No, she's forty, she's thirty six, whatever, 0:09:51.120 --> 0:09:53.640 and she's wants divorced. And sometimes it takes, you know, 0:09:53.840 --> 0:09:54.760 more than one try. 0:09:57.240 --> 0:09:59.880 I mean maybe so, I mean she, yeah, she wants divorce. 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:03.679 And I don't know, maybe Prince Harry, maybe it's something 0:10:03.720 --> 0:10:05.520 wrong with him because he's been single for he's been 0:10:05.559 --> 0:10:06.240 a little bachelor. 0:10:06.320 --> 0:10:07.520 Or maybe ain't nothing wrong with him. 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:09.920 Maybe the point is, ever, these thing's wrong with everybody 0:10:09.920 --> 0:10:11.840 fucking else, and it took that long to find another 0:10:11.920 --> 0:10:13.080 sane person in the picture. 0:10:14.360 --> 0:10:21.640 Yes, I want you, Okay, well we'll be right back. 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:26.600 You want some crackers, okay, go get them in the cabinet. 0:10:27.320 --> 0:10:29.480 Close the door, please close the door, okay, or just 0:10:29.480 --> 0:10:30.520 don't listen to they're. 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:32.240 Gonna come back, and they're gonna come back unless you 0:10:32.240 --> 0:10:39.400 wanted to check out both. 0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:43.240 We're bored to death. Okay, back to the topic. Prince Charming. 0:10:45.679 --> 0:10:47.920 Yeah, I really had this spear the other day. I 0:10:47.960 --> 0:10:50.000 was like, he doesn't exist. I don't think that. 0:10:50.600 --> 0:10:52.600 I think I'm too much for people. For a man, 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:53.560 I say that all the time. 0:10:53.600 --> 0:10:56.440 I tell men who tolerate me thank you, because I'm 0:10:56.440 --> 0:10:59.719 a lot of women I am like and I'm and 0:10:59.760 --> 0:11:01.600 then actually very sane and very rational. 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:04.280 But I've been feeling more and more like I'm too much, 0:11:04.360 --> 0:11:07.560 just because every part I've had so many it's mostly women. 0:11:07.840 --> 0:11:10.240 So many women in the last two months tell me 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:13.720 I'm a certain way even to day today. 0:11:14.160 --> 0:11:21.640 Women, you find it. Keep looking thing you should tell 0:11:21.679 --> 0:11:24.160 your children when you want them to go away, look forever, 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:25.040 keep looking. 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:26.920 I'm gonna go in there, and all my ship's going 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:28.480 to be out of the cup, I know, including all 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:29.480 the toys. 0:11:30.920 --> 0:11:33.559 We're going live. I never did this before. It's pretty cool. Yeah, 0:11:33.600 --> 0:11:35.040 we're live right now. I don't know. I don't know 0:11:35.040 --> 0:11:38.000 what to do. Hi wave, we're waving Hi, Hi, Hi? 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:43.480 What is who? Someone's messing something. I'm right here, Hi, 0:11:43.520 --> 0:11:44.280 I'm here. 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:49.239 We're technologically uh, technologically technologically challenged. 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:52.480 And that sometimes it's gonna. 0:11:52.240 --> 0:11:57.440 Get these children's and trackers. Okay, I'm gettings. Sure, Paus, 0:12:12.920 --> 0:12:13.680 sorry about that. 0:12:14.160 --> 0:12:14.800 We are back. 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:21.400 And yes, Prince Charming, I guess he'll come when he's 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:21.839 supposed to. 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:22.480 You know what. 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:26.560 I also noticed. This is my other thing, was I 0:12:26.679 --> 0:12:31.360 realized that you kinda kind of know what you want. 0:12:31.440 --> 0:12:33.560 Like sometimes girls are like, oh, I'm Prince Charming, I'm 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:34.960 waiting for this certain thing. 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:37.040 But I had to realize, like, bitch, what the fuck 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:38.720 do you want? Do you even know what you want? 0:12:39.880 --> 0:12:41.600 You know what I mean? Like you, maybe you need to. 0:12:41.520 --> 0:12:44.120 Write it down in your journal so you can focus 0:12:44.160 --> 0:12:46.520 on it and manifest that, man, because it will keep 0:12:46.520 --> 0:12:48.760 coming in different forms and different people will like. 0:12:49.040 --> 0:12:50.920 One third here, one fourth year and like, oh, kind 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:52.439 I just mix them up in a bowl and eat them. 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:55.600 But no, if you focus in on what it is, 0:12:56.080 --> 0:12:57.520 then you'll get less strays. 0:12:57.640 --> 0:13:01.560 I think, because what are some of the things What 0:13:01.600 --> 0:13:03.400 are some of the things that are required? 0:13:03.679 --> 0:13:09.960 Are required? Intelligence? Yes, I like to be I want 0:13:10.000 --> 0:13:13.880 to feel like we're growing each other. You gotta be fun. 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:16.760 Fun is very important. I can't I'm a lot of 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:17.720 fun enough for two people. 0:13:17.800 --> 0:13:21.800 But I mean, obviously fun people's definitions of fun are different. 0:13:22.880 --> 0:13:24.800 But I don't know. I like, I really do like 0:13:24.960 --> 0:13:27.000 someone funny who can make me laugh. That's how I 0:13:27.160 --> 0:13:28.199 get that, a sense of humor. 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:30.079 That's how I fell in love with my last partner, 0:13:30.160 --> 0:13:32.080 Like I probably would have never given him the time 0:13:32.120 --> 0:13:34.520 of day, but he could make me laugh. And that's 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:36.720 why everyone when I started dating the father friend shop 0:13:36.720 --> 0:13:38.840 people were like, I don't get it, what's the appeal, 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:40.480 especially because. 0:13:40.240 --> 0:13:42.040 He was wearing a lot of clothes that were a 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:46.280 lot larger than I used to be in white teeth. 0:13:46.320 --> 0:13:49.480 It wasn't but he could just make me laugh, you know. 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:51.720 So like I like a guy that can make me laugh. 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:54.240 I like. 0:13:56.640 --> 0:13:58.680 I like lips that if I'm gonna be shallow, like 0:13:58.720 --> 0:14:00.400 I can't do the no lip things, can't. 0:14:00.480 --> 0:14:04.640 I can't. I can't these lips they're too big. 0:14:04.760 --> 0:14:07.080 Yeah, I have, I've had tried. I've tried, like a 0:14:07.080 --> 0:14:11.760 thin lip and it doesn't work. I'm like, did you 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:13.440 kiss me? Did it? 0:14:13.600 --> 0:14:16.559 Hello? Oh? Or a sin tongue? Have you ever messed 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:17.560 on with a sin tongue? 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:21.600 A thin tongue like a the pack is a thin, 0:14:22.080 --> 0:14:24.080 like a paper thin. 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:28.000 Like what if there's a sin tongue and there's a 0:14:28.000 --> 0:14:30.680 thick tongue. Okay, I guess I could see that. I 0:14:30.680 --> 0:14:31.960 guess I just never encountered that. 0:14:32.000 --> 0:14:36.320 So I have no idea what that's like because it 0:14:36.520 --> 0:14:39.760 does exist, unfortunately for you haven't run into it. I mean, 0:14:39.760 --> 0:14:42.560 this is also shall this is physical, but like I 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:45.680 can't do a small penis I don't know, or like. 0:14:47.080 --> 0:14:49.800 I need to do average with an average because you 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:52.640 can work it then, but small sometimes sometimes there's no 0:14:52.680 --> 0:14:55.680 work in small. It just keeps falling out and no, no, 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:57.880 oh my god, I know I'll never forget that I 0:14:57.920 --> 0:15:00.040 had sex with this guy and his dick was so 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:02.360 small at that point, I was young, I was probably 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:04.600 eighteen at the time, and it just kept falling out. 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:07.520 I kept thinking it was me. I kept like, I 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:08.920 was like, oh my gosh, my pussy loves. 0:15:11.320 --> 0:15:13.400 And then I took After I got off of it 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:14.920 and I looked at it, I was like, I don't 0:15:14.960 --> 0:15:16.240 know this, it is not mine. 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:18.760 Oh that's really sad. That's fucked up. Like what do 0:15:18.800 --> 0:15:19.680 you do in your life? 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:21.920 I think some guys though, okay, I have had butter 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:24.040 eat pussy, right, that's what it is. 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:26.720 Great great. You have to have to be great on 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:27.640 the oral skills. 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:31.600 I think like a like a well rounded worldly guy 0:15:31.720 --> 0:15:34.320 is really important. Like I've been out with like certain guys. 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:36.600 I'm gonna go to a restaurant like, yeah, I need 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:39.240 some scrimps. How many scrimps come with that? Or if 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:42.000 they like tip poorly? Like I think that's ignorant and 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:44.240 I cannot fuck like I need you to be versatile 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:47.080 in different scenari like situations because I am. 0:15:46.680 --> 0:15:48.200 But like an ignorant. 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:51.000 Ass guy, Like it really irritates me, Like, yeah, I 0:15:51.040 --> 0:15:54.120 don't like ignorance, and also what's the difference? One time, 0:15:54.120 --> 0:15:56.320 when I was in cheapness cheapness, I hate you when 0:15:56.320 --> 0:15:58.120 I want these guys from like Carolina, not to say 0:15:58.160 --> 0:16:00.040 the country guys are dumb, but they were like, but 0:16:00.800 --> 0:16:03.280 what's the difference between broccoli and asparagus? I was like, 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:07.240 one's broccoli, one's asparagus? What the fuck do you mean? 0:16:07.840 --> 0:16:15.360 And I was like stupid and stupid never again, you known. 0:16:15.440 --> 0:16:17.280 Sometimes it's cute if they just don't know, but like, 0:16:17.320 --> 0:16:18.040 some shit is just not. 0:16:18.360 --> 0:16:20.640 I mean, I gotta have some room to show you shit, 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:22.440 but I don't want to show you everything. 0:16:22.840 --> 0:16:23.360 You know what I mean? 0:16:23.560 --> 0:16:25.560 Yeah, yeah, you gotta. And also you gotta show me 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:29.400 some shit. Absolutely, I don't want to be the teacher forever. 0:16:29.600 --> 0:16:31.880 I want it to be a two way street because 0:16:31.920 --> 0:16:34.760 I want to feel like I'm growing, and honestly, this 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:38.280 thirty year old age, I actually need a mentor. I'm 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:41.960 very irresponsible. I need help. I don't I have no 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:45.360 room to help someone else. I need you to help me. 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:46.560 I'm about to close the start. 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:47.280 I was not a close. 0:16:47.600 --> 0:16:51.880 I also want someone who wants to grow, because some. 0:16:51.800 --> 0:16:54.080 People think they don't need to be, they don't need. 0:16:54.000 --> 0:16:57.280 Any more growth, or they're just I don't know, it's 0:16:57.320 --> 0:17:01.200 just I just need someone who is aware that life 0:17:01.240 --> 0:17:03.880 is all about growth and it's a continuous thing, or 0:17:04.200 --> 0:17:08.000 just stop at some point, and is wants to take 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:10.800 that ride with me, wants to travel with me, doesn't 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:13.640 make excuses for not traveling. Okay, I get money situations, 0:17:13.640 --> 0:17:16.880 but like other excuses, just like you know, like sometimes 0:17:16.920 --> 0:17:19.320 a week it's traveling can be as quickly as to 0:17:19.359 --> 0:17:21.440 two day vacation, a one day vacation. 0:17:21.840 --> 0:17:25.040 It's just just getting away for a second, to want 0:17:25.080 --> 0:17:27.160 to wander and want to explore. I think that's important 0:17:27.160 --> 0:17:28.720 and I like. 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:29.200 So now that i'm a parent. 0:17:29.800 --> 0:17:32.920 Also someone that my child likes, Yeah, which I've never 0:17:33.000 --> 0:17:35.040 I haven't done that yet. I don't know what that's like, 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:37.359 but I know that it's important to me, someone that 0:17:37.400 --> 0:17:38.000 my child. 0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:41.000 I trust with my child, I feel safe. 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:44.000 With leaving them alone with you, and that you're going 0:17:44.080 --> 0:17:46.639 to take They're gonna you're gonna love them like it's. 0:17:46.480 --> 0:17:47.560 Your own child. 0:17:47.640 --> 0:17:50.400 That is like number one, and if she has any 0:17:50.440 --> 0:17:52.200 reservations cut. 0:17:53.760 --> 0:17:54.679 What else is important? 0:17:54.680 --> 0:17:56.639 I want someone who likes to dance, because I like 0:17:56.680 --> 0:17:59.919 to dance and shit a lot. And also who's not like, 0:18:00.320 --> 0:18:04.320 who's not like okay, who can who understands the who's 0:18:04.320 --> 0:18:06.920 secure in themselves because I'm a whole lot of women 0:18:07.000 --> 0:18:09.840 and I'm like flirty and I like to attend to people. 0:18:09.880 --> 0:18:12.200 I'm a people person, and I've been in relationships where 0:18:12.200 --> 0:18:14.480 they're like, you aren't giving me enough attention in the club, 0:18:14.520 --> 0:18:17.439 I'm like, because we get seven friends there, Like I 0:18:17.600 --> 0:18:19.440 was being social, Like. 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:21.400 Someone you need someone that can hold their own yeah, 0:18:21.440 --> 0:18:23.919 like if I live at the party peace, like if 0:18:23.920 --> 0:18:25.920 I see you at a bitch hey. I want someone 0:18:25.960 --> 0:18:28.680 that can get a lot. Yeah. 0:18:28.760 --> 0:18:30.760 Yeah. There's not a lot of requirements, like you gotta 0:18:30.760 --> 0:18:35.000 love my parents and you have to get I'm sorry, 0:18:35.000 --> 0:18:37.600 I can't do the not the family situation anymore. 0:18:39.080 --> 0:18:41.800 My family has to like you. I'm not I've done both. 0:18:41.880 --> 0:18:43.160 I've done the other way. 0:18:43.440 --> 0:18:46.199 And I although, like I understand, like you love who 0:18:46.280 --> 0:18:48.639 you love, but like I need if my parents or 0:18:48.680 --> 0:18:51.680 like my family has an issue with you, I need 0:18:51.720 --> 0:18:54.720 you to be man enough to try to resolve the situation. 0:18:54.800 --> 0:18:58.679 But sure not just avoid the situation or just blame 0:18:58.800 --> 0:18:59.520 everyone else. 0:18:59.600 --> 0:19:01.520 And I go that goes with friends and family. If 0:19:01.560 --> 0:19:03.320 you don't get along with my closest friends and you're 0:19:03.359 --> 0:19:05.520 not willing to work on it, you're cut Because these 0:19:05.560 --> 0:19:07.879 bitches aren't going anywhere I've known in my whole life 0:19:07.920 --> 0:19:08.840 and they're not leaving. 0:19:08.920 --> 0:19:09.760 So figure it out. 0:19:10.080 --> 0:19:12.439 And I feel like that that's that's a sign that you 0:19:12.480 --> 0:19:15.440 actually care about me to try and mend certain relate, 0:19:15.480 --> 0:19:17.960 you know, like try to build a relationship amongst the 0:19:17.960 --> 0:19:19.080 people who are important to me. 0:19:19.280 --> 0:19:22.200 If you want to be mother, you gotta get with 0:19:22.240 --> 0:19:27.920 my friends. Make it last forever. That's friendship never ends. 0:19:28.200 --> 0:19:30.400 Now here's the story from A to C. You want 0:19:30.400 --> 0:19:34.040 to get with me, I got ends and I never 0:19:34.080 --> 0:19:37.160 knew what, but we just showed all of our age. 0:19:37.160 --> 0:19:38.920 You know, some bitches don't even know who like Spice 0:19:38.960 --> 0:19:40.959 girls are. I don't even know who Destiny Child is. 0:19:41.080 --> 0:19:42.800 They just know Beyonce. They didn't know, like she has 0:19:42.800 --> 0:19:43.680 a group before that. 0:19:44.880 --> 0:19:47.679 What people don't know who Lauren Hill. Lauren Hill is, 0:19:48.400 --> 0:19:49.400 Die kill yourself. 0:19:49.760 --> 0:19:52.440 I'm actually really happy to be from the generation I'm 0:19:52.440 --> 0:19:54.200 from because at least we saw. 0:19:54.000 --> 0:19:56.920 The Internet get born. We know who fucking spice girls 0:19:56.960 --> 0:19:59.720 are and that's fucking important. And Luda's gonna know who 0:19:59.720 --> 0:20:00.879 the spi scrolls are, guddam it. 0:20:00.960 --> 0:20:03.439 And our parents were playing music before our time, so 0:20:03.480 --> 0:20:04.280 we know that shit too. 0:20:04.359 --> 0:20:05.560 Yeah, that's true, you know, like. 0:20:05.480 --> 0:20:07.159 I know, you gotta know, you gotta know who all 0:20:07.200 --> 0:20:10.960 those people are, or else you get cut and. 0:20:10.920 --> 0:20:12.399 Then trying to think of there's I know there's another 0:20:12.400 --> 0:20:13.800 big one. 0:20:14.040 --> 0:20:17.960 I always this is gonna sound bad, but hygiene hid Yeah, 0:20:18.000 --> 0:20:20.639 that's not even that's that's not even like a question. 0:20:20.800 --> 0:20:22.320 Like if you're a guy, you're listening to this and 0:20:22.359 --> 0:20:23.879 you look at your hands right now, and you've got 0:20:23.920 --> 0:20:25.200 long fingernails. 0:20:24.800 --> 0:20:26.679 Or dirt underneath your long fingernails. 0:20:26.920 --> 0:20:29.800 Now, literally, I see no way that finger is coming 0:20:29.840 --> 0:20:30.840 near me or in me. 0:20:30.960 --> 0:20:34.320 Or my vagina. No, that's an infection. Ready, it happens, 0:20:35.119 --> 0:20:37.640 I not do long. Literally, look at them right now, 0:20:38.240 --> 0:20:41.080 if they're long like this and they're dirty. No, just 0:20:41.160 --> 0:20:43.280 long or dirty both A and B combo. 0:20:43.560 --> 0:20:45.760 No, I don't like that. That's not Are you a pimp? 0:20:45.800 --> 0:20:48.560 What's going on? God, I don't get me started on 0:20:48.560 --> 0:20:50.679 that he's a pimp. 0:20:51.040 --> 0:20:54.159 No, but I know there's a guy with the pimp 0:20:54.200 --> 0:20:56.480 finger and I try to cut it when he was sleeping. 0:20:57.600 --> 0:20:59.160 No, I'm gonna call you out, like what the fuck 0:20:59.200 --> 0:20:59.840 is that finger for? 0:21:00.160 --> 0:21:04.680 No. Also, I don't think I'm not saying because I 0:21:04.680 --> 0:21:06.439 don't know my future, but I don't think that I 0:21:06.440 --> 0:21:10.080 could date someone really religious. Actually I really I have 0:21:10.119 --> 0:21:12.399 a relationship with the guy that I really love and 0:21:12.440 --> 0:21:14.199 I've loved him for years, like the only guy that 0:21:14.600 --> 0:21:16.240 actually makes me nervous. 0:21:15.920 --> 0:21:29.400 And is so fine and like you time out who no, no, oh, 0:21:29.440 --> 0:21:30.040 but he's. 0:21:29.920 --> 0:21:32.800 Like super Muslim, and I'm like, so I'm not gonna 0:21:32.800 --> 0:21:36.399 be able to celebrate my birthday and most importantly Halloween. 0:21:37.440 --> 0:21:41.359 I was like, oh no, but he's really like yeah, yeah, 0:21:41.359 --> 0:21:43.040 he's just coming home from presence. 0:21:43.119 --> 0:21:46.760 I'm hoping and like, you know, lightens up because I 0:21:46.800 --> 0:21:48.320 was like, I'm willing to have a second wife like 0:21:48.840 --> 0:21:50.399 me and my like my fake cousin. 0:21:50.440 --> 0:21:54.520 We agreed. Are you on here? My sister wife, cousin's 0:21:54.560 --> 0:21:55.480 best friend, and. 0:21:55.520 --> 0:21:58.240 We agreed, and but like that we're both like, but 0:21:58.280 --> 0:22:00.680 we're not going to be religious. So I don't know 0:22:00.720 --> 0:22:03.119 if I could eat someone who's like it doesn't accept 0:22:03.160 --> 0:22:03.760 me as I am. 0:22:03.640 --> 0:22:05.080 Because I'm like a spiritual being. 0:22:05.160 --> 0:22:06.560 So I don't know if I could like commit to 0:22:06.600 --> 0:22:10.480 going to the whatever they call that Muslim h the 0:22:10.640 --> 0:22:12.960 mosque or the church or the temple. 0:22:13.400 --> 0:22:14.720 I'm spiritual. I can go to temple. 0:22:14.760 --> 0:22:17.000 There's like a you know, like an all spiritual temple, 0:22:17.040 --> 0:22:18.840 but you got to be accepting into like. 0:22:18.840 --> 0:22:23.320 My I'm open to learning about other people's religions as 0:22:23.320 --> 0:22:27.159 long as I don't want you to or my child. 0:22:29.320 --> 0:22:32.280 Yeah, that's that's that's that's fair. I think that's fair. 0:22:33.040 --> 0:22:35.919 I'm making it. I made a cocktail. It's why are 0:22:35.920 --> 0:22:38.960 you drinking? Oh? Because my phone my cocktail is holding 0:22:38.960 --> 0:22:40.280 the phone up. But which one is that? You want 0:22:40.280 --> 0:22:40.560 to go live? 0:22:40.640 --> 0:22:41.920 Or you want me to drink your drink? You know 0:22:42.240 --> 0:22:43.919 you didn't even want this drink. She's like, oh, no, 0:22:43.920 --> 0:22:44.800 I don't want a cocktail. 0:22:45.000 --> 0:22:46.359 And it's like, why'd you make it? Because I was 0:22:46.359 --> 0:22:50.040 gonna drink it anyway, and she already had another one. 0:22:50.320 --> 0:22:53.800 It's orange blossom peach with orange juice. And this shit 0:22:53.880 --> 0:22:54.480 is delicious. 0:22:54.480 --> 0:22:57.600 It's by Kettle one and what is it good? You 0:22:57.640 --> 0:23:01.080 keep drinking it? Anyway? 0:23:01.119 --> 0:23:04.360 Those are my requirements. I'm sure there's more I'm missing. Oh, 0:23:04.400 --> 0:23:07.440 you have to be tall if we're gonna do the 0:23:07.440 --> 0:23:08.080 shallow part. 0:23:08.320 --> 0:23:11.399 Tall. Well, I'm like five months, so you absolutely have 0:23:11.520 --> 0:23:12.040 to be tall. 0:23:12.280 --> 0:23:14.439 Taller than me so I'm five to six, so you 0:23:14.520 --> 0:23:17.040 have to be at least five eleven. 0:23:18.359 --> 0:23:22.600 Oh damn it. Yeah, got some some almond butter on 0:23:22.600 --> 0:23:25.160 the boob, very sexy. 0:23:25.840 --> 0:23:31.200 Gotta be tall, gotta be gotta have semi straight teeth, assertive, 0:23:31.320 --> 0:23:34.760 clean teeth, can take control because I'm I will if. 0:23:34.640 --> 0:23:37.560 I can like take advantage of you and bossy around. 0:23:37.560 --> 0:23:38.440 I will, and I don't. 0:23:38.520 --> 0:23:39.280 I will cheat on you. 0:23:39.640 --> 0:23:40.960 And I want you to be able to like bitch, 0:23:41.359 --> 0:23:42.840 sit the fuck down on the Yeah. I need a 0:23:42.880 --> 0:23:45.480 man who take control but also let me be in control. 0:23:45.560 --> 0:23:47.120 I need I need both. I don't like a man 0:23:47.119 --> 0:23:49.040 that's always like, this is the man's job. I'm like, 0:23:49.480 --> 0:23:51.400 what year you're not getting too? 0:23:51.800 --> 0:23:54.119 No, it has to be balance, has to be balanced, 0:23:54.760 --> 0:23:56.159 and who supports me? 0:23:56.400 --> 0:23:58.480 Who is gonna listen to my podcast? 0:23:58.560 --> 0:24:01.520 Like, actually genuinely so reports what I'm doing because I'm 0:24:01.520 --> 0:24:04.719 gonna because I genuinely always support the partners that I'm with. 0:24:04.800 --> 0:24:06.440 I want to know what you're doing. I want to 0:24:06.480 --> 0:24:08.360 ask you what you're doing. That's another one. I need 0:24:08.359 --> 0:24:10.240 my partner to ask me how I'm fucking doing. 0:24:10.280 --> 0:24:13.359 Feeling, how are you feeling? How feeling? How is your heart? 0:24:13.440 --> 0:24:14.200 How is your soul? 0:24:14.560 --> 0:24:16.720 Are you you know you were you didn't feel so 0:24:16.760 --> 0:24:18.480 good a few days ago? How are you feeling about 0:24:18.480 --> 0:24:19.160 that situation? 0:24:19.280 --> 0:24:20.320 Now? Did you resolve it? 0:24:20.520 --> 0:24:20.680 Oh? 0:24:20.680 --> 0:24:21.120 That's great? 0:24:21.160 --> 0:24:23.320 How did you resolve it? Like take my chest in 0:24:23.359 --> 0:24:26.639 my life and my heart. It's just like I do that. 0:24:26.880 --> 0:24:28.520 You would think a nigga would like it. It's easy 0:24:29.440 --> 0:24:33.080 least also hustle. 0:24:33.200 --> 0:24:35.720 You got to have some hustle, Like I don't want 0:24:35.760 --> 0:24:40.840 to be hustling, and you're like lazy and like I 0:24:40.920 --> 0:24:42.720 was a relationship and the nigga was always blaming me. 0:24:42.720 --> 0:24:44.400 Like, well you didn't help me do this. I'm like, like 0:24:44.520 --> 0:24:46.399 I ain't just secretary, Like I can help you do 0:24:46.440 --> 0:24:48.359 some things. I'm a good writer. There's certain things I 0:24:48.359 --> 0:24:48.920 can put together. 0:24:48.960 --> 0:24:51.000 But if I don't see you making an effort, please 0:24:51.040 --> 0:24:52.480 don't come to me and with the list of shit 0:24:52.560 --> 0:24:54.840 that needs to be done, because you need I want 0:24:54.840 --> 0:24:57.720 to be like motivated by your your motivation and your hustle, 0:24:57.760 --> 0:24:59.080 and I want to be like, damn, this thing is 0:24:59.080 --> 0:24:59.720 getting money. 0:25:00.080 --> 0:25:01.520 I want to get money too, Like I want to 0:25:01.520 --> 0:25:02.280 get money together. 0:25:02.320 --> 0:25:05.119 I want to save money. Let's go travel the world 0:25:05.160 --> 0:25:08.359 next year. Like that is like to me, inspires me 0:25:08.400 --> 0:25:10.840 and keeps me motivated and driven. But being a relationship 0:25:10.840 --> 0:25:18.399 with a lazy motherfucker. Yeah, no, no, anyway, So anyone 0:25:18.440 --> 0:25:22.480 meet that list or what I'm about to make a 0:25:22.520 --> 0:25:25.479 fucking what's it called one of those boards a visual board, Oh, 0:25:25.560 --> 0:25:26.080 vision board. 0:25:26.080 --> 0:25:27.720 We should do that. I'm gonna put Michael B. 0:25:27.840 --> 0:25:30.240 Jordan on there all that I'm a little over him, 0:25:30.280 --> 0:25:31.679 so we not have to switch over to chad We 0:25:31.680 --> 0:25:34.160 should have never been all the Chadwick's outfit at MTV 0:25:34.240 --> 0:25:34.920 Movie Awards whatever. 0:25:35.040 --> 0:25:35.760 He could do no wrong. 0:25:35.840 --> 0:25:39.119 But you know what, I feel like, it's crazy. I 0:25:39.119 --> 0:25:42.160 feel like he's crazy because it's too good of an actor. 0:25:42.200 --> 0:25:44.840 Little style, a little style. Just I'll work on it. 0:25:44.880 --> 0:25:48.800 I'll take that that out. It wasn't that. She's such 0:25:48.800 --> 0:25:51.080 a genius. Okay, you know who I want? So if 0:25:51.080 --> 0:25:53.920 anybody knows him. 0:25:52.960 --> 0:25:57.240 Joanna, I really like Gingers and jo Jenna is such 0:25:57.240 --> 0:25:58.800 a classic man. 0:25:59.400 --> 0:26:00.000 That's a possible. 0:26:00.320 --> 0:26:00.480 You know. 0:26:00.520 --> 0:26:02.720 He has like a harem of women, That's what I 0:26:02.760 --> 0:26:04.679 keep hearing. But like we're the harem? How many are 0:26:04.680 --> 0:26:05.920 we talking? And can I be number one? 0:26:07.200 --> 0:26:09.639 You haven't met me yet? So I'm the bottom bitch? 0:26:10.200 --> 0:26:13.440 You mean the top bitch? No, in pimptology it's called 0:26:13.480 --> 0:26:15.240 the bottom bitch is the top pitch. You don't know. 0:26:15.280 --> 0:26:18.040 You don't watch pimped snoop doggs like pimp one on 0:26:18.040 --> 0:26:18.639 one or whatever. 0:26:18.840 --> 0:26:22.480 The bottom bitch is the top bitch. It's reverse, got it? Okay? 0:26:22.680 --> 0:26:24.480 So you learn? You guys know that you learn something 0:26:24.520 --> 0:26:26.000 you every day, So you should just date you because 0:26:26.000 --> 0:26:29.119 you're teaching me aroun now mm hm you know A 0:26:29.119 --> 0:26:31.240 three times people ask me like, do you and Erica 0:26:31.280 --> 0:26:32.320 mess around? Really? 0:26:34.040 --> 0:26:35.879 Because I think because we're both girls, and I mean 0:26:35.880 --> 0:26:37.800 because we're both pretty and we like girls. They ask 0:26:37.840 --> 0:26:39.280 me about all my friends and they think like girls 0:26:39.320 --> 0:26:40.760 because guys have penises and that's. 0:26:40.600 --> 0:26:42.439 How they think. I'm like, you'll never know. 0:26:47.040 --> 0:26:49.080 And for your information, all girls that like girls don't 0:26:49.119 --> 0:26:50.919 all funk all the time. Sometimes they do and then 0:26:50.960 --> 0:26:52.560 they go the mom the next day, and sometimes they don't, 0:26:52.960 --> 0:26:53.679 but you'll never know. 0:27:02.640 --> 0:27:04.840 So should we go in to our today's topic? Yeah, 0:27:05.119 --> 0:27:09.119 I'm making a mess over here. Should we end the live? 0:27:09.280 --> 0:27:12.280 So since we're going into the topic, yeah, well hold on, 0:27:12.400 --> 0:27:15.720 let me just make sure this still recording. Okay, So 0:27:16.560 --> 0:27:20.240 this was our first live. I'm glad you guys joined us. 0:27:20.600 --> 0:27:23.840 Thanks a bunch. Oh this is gonna like confusing me. 0:27:25.000 --> 0:27:28.120 No, well we'll cut this and then okay, and so 0:27:28.160 --> 0:27:29.480 you got to tune in next week. 0:27:29.600 --> 0:27:30.879 Do we get any decent questions? 0:27:30.880 --> 0:27:31.000 Oh? 0:27:31.000 --> 0:27:33.720 My god, y'all funny? Oh thinks we were just talking. 0:27:33.720 --> 0:27:35.320 No one's asking us any question. Oh we have six 0:27:35.359 --> 0:27:38.960 people looking. You don't know. They don't know, Dusty shot. 0:27:39.040 --> 0:27:40.880 Hell no they don't. Damn shame. 0:27:41.000 --> 0:27:45.560 Okay, okay, anyway, we love you guys, and tune into our. 0:27:45.440 --> 0:27:49.199 Next episode on Wednesday at six pm. Bye, how do you? 0:27:49.240 --> 0:27:55.000 How do you end it? Oh? Okay, great? Twenty five 0:27:55.080 --> 0:27:57.880 years Okay, I'm gonna work on this. Okay, let's start, 0:27:57.920 --> 0:28:00.959 good start, good start. Damn I heard to save it. 0:28:01.080 --> 0:28:01.879 We don't even save it. 0:28:01.880 --> 0:28:09.760 It's saved, Okay, I think anyway, So when is a topic? 0:28:09.880 --> 0:28:11.200 Are we going to do the Danielle topic? 0:28:11.280 --> 0:28:11.480 Yeah? 0:28:11.600 --> 0:28:17.560 Okay, So today we're talking about interracial dating because apparently 0:28:18.200 --> 0:28:21.160 my friends have informed me that they think that I'm 0:28:21.320 --> 0:28:24.960 fifty percent racist and also Eric as a productive of 0:28:25.000 --> 0:28:27.560 biracial I mean, she's biracial, so she's a product of 0:28:27.560 --> 0:28:30.919 an interracial relationship. And we want to explore that topic. 0:28:30.920 --> 0:28:34.040 And I want all of our non black followers to 0:28:34.080 --> 0:28:34.400 know that. 0:28:34.359 --> 0:28:39.160 I am not fifty percent racist and she is. Now. 0:28:39.880 --> 0:28:45.480 I want you guys to understand my my my perspective, 0:28:45.640 --> 0:28:49.080 and even I want to admit that sometimes I say 0:28:49.120 --> 0:28:53.400 things that are not that educated and aren't well thought 0:28:53.400 --> 0:28:56.040 through because probably I am a bitter bitch because of 0:28:56.160 --> 0:28:59.240 things that have happened and my experience as a black 0:28:59.280 --> 0:29:04.040 woman in LA and in America period. So my comments 0:29:04.240 --> 0:29:07.680 can come off harsh and aggressive, but it's not from 0:29:07.720 --> 0:29:08.840 like a hateful place. 0:29:09.840 --> 0:29:13.000 So it's because Erica told me that she thinks I'm 0:29:13.000 --> 0:29:15.000 a racist. I did not say you're racist. 0:29:15.040 --> 0:29:17.840 She especially thinks I'm biased towards non black women dating 0:29:17.880 --> 0:29:22.480 black eyes and black women dating non black men. Yeah, 0:29:22.560 --> 0:29:25.040 Like I'm okay with the black women dating non black men, 0:29:25.120 --> 0:29:27.080 but when it comes to the men dating the women 0:29:27.120 --> 0:29:30.520 that I have an attitude which is not true. 0:29:30.840 --> 0:29:31.600 Love is love. 0:29:32.080 --> 0:29:36.640 I think black women want to possess black men. I 0:29:36.680 --> 0:29:40.080 think that black men have because they were taken from us. 0:29:40.120 --> 0:29:43.760 I think black men have so poorly protected and appreciated 0:29:43.800 --> 0:29:44.320 Black women. 0:29:44.440 --> 0:29:48.480 That true, it's it's a thing. And because it's a thing, I. 0:29:48.440 --> 0:29:51.080 Have to talk about it because I've been told like 0:29:51.360 --> 0:29:54.440 one million times I don't date black women by black 0:29:54.480 --> 0:29:59.080 men who are have black mothers. And I've even been 0:29:59.120 --> 0:30:00.680 told like you're pretty for black girl, or like I 0:30:00.720 --> 0:30:02.840 don't date black women, but you I would date, okay, 0:30:02.960 --> 0:30:06.360 Like all ignorant statements and probably somewhere deep down buried, 0:30:06.440 --> 0:30:09.440 they've infuriated me ununderstandably. 0:30:09.480 --> 0:30:11.479 And it's and I've heard that from dark skinned men too, 0:30:11.480 --> 0:30:15.720 because I'm a light skinned black woman, and dark skinned 0:30:15.720 --> 0:30:17.680 men feel safe saying that to. 0:30:17.680 --> 0:30:20.160 Me, or black men period. They they they they. 0:30:20.000 --> 0:30:23.720 Feel safe saying I say dark skin, because there's black 0:30:23.800 --> 0:30:25.920 men that are fully black, but they're not maybe fully 0:30:26.000 --> 0:30:27.120 they're not dark skinned. 0:30:27.360 --> 0:30:29.400 But I'm saying I've heard from dark skinned men. I 0:30:29.400 --> 0:30:32.480 don't date black women period, oh period at all, not 0:30:32.520 --> 0:30:34.920 even light skinned women. Yeah, I mean or or or 0:30:34.920 --> 0:30:37.120 like this is my other pet peeve. I prefer like 0:30:37.120 --> 0:30:39.960 an exotic chick, like a mixed chick. Okay, let let's 0:30:40.040 --> 0:30:43.520 just be clear. Webster defines exotics, usually describing a fruit 0:30:43.640 --> 0:30:46.920 or a flower, and where none of us are really 0:30:46.960 --> 0:30:49.520 like unless you're like Native American, we're all exotic cause 0:30:49.520 --> 0:30:51.960 we all came from somewhere else. So it's a poor description, 0:30:52.040 --> 0:30:54.120 and I think it's a poor excuse, and I think 0:30:54.120 --> 0:30:57.000 the problem that really really irritates me. The root of 0:30:57.040 --> 0:30:58.600 the problem is that a lot of pet men that 0:30:58.720 --> 0:31:01.479 say that is because they they suffer from self hate, 0:31:01.520 --> 0:31:04.400 and black people in general suffer from self hate because 0:31:04.400 --> 0:31:06.640 there's this thing called slavery. 0:31:06.840 --> 0:31:08.920 And it happened and there's been a. 0:31:08.920 --> 0:31:12.320 Really negative racist rhetoric ever since, and as a result, 0:31:12.480 --> 0:31:15.479 we do have some insecurities and some issues amongst our 0:31:15.480 --> 0:31:18.800 own selves and appreciation for ourselves. And that is what 0:31:18.840 --> 0:31:21.760 I despise. I don't despise people who have preferences. I 0:31:21.760 --> 0:31:24.680 mean I don't have preferences. I like people, So I 0:31:24.760 --> 0:31:27.080 think it's annoying when a black man says I don't 0:31:27.160 --> 0:31:29.320 date black women when your mom is black, your honor 0:31:29.360 --> 0:31:32.120 is black, your sister's black, and how disrespectful and self 0:31:32.160 --> 0:31:35.360 hating that sounds really irritates me. 0:31:35.920 --> 0:31:41.000 I totally agree, and I've definitely experienced black men feeling 0:31:41.000 --> 0:31:43.840 comfortable telling me they don't like they don't date black women. 0:31:43.880 --> 0:31:46.600 But then it's like, hey, I am black. But then, 0:31:47.880 --> 0:31:50.520 at least in my experience, it was not true. 0:31:51.240 --> 0:31:54.400 He was lying, Oh girl, this is personal and that's fine, 0:31:54.400 --> 0:31:56.160 and that's fine, but just don't say that. 0:31:56.240 --> 0:31:58.000 You know what I mean, You don't have to say that. Okay, 0:31:58.960 --> 0:32:01.040 let me ask. That doesn't make it did feel more selectial? 0:32:01.080 --> 0:32:02.120 Didn't make me feel special? 0:32:02.200 --> 0:32:04.080 And no, it didn't, And it made me kind of 0:32:04.080 --> 0:32:06.200 look feel annoyed because I've always. 0:32:06.000 --> 0:32:07.360 Kind Did you ever say that's kind of igorant? I 0:32:07.360 --> 0:32:07.880 don't say that. 0:32:08.000 --> 0:32:09.920 I said, I said why, I don't understand, and he 0:32:10.000 --> 0:32:11.880 was like, I just my dream girl was always you know, 0:32:12.080 --> 0:32:13.640 a light skinned girl would currently here. 0:32:14.800 --> 0:32:16.400 Okay, so I was always your dream girl? You just 0:32:16.480 --> 0:32:20.240 drum did? I really didn't feel I know that a 0:32:20.240 --> 0:32:21.680 lot of women would feel. 0:32:21.480 --> 0:32:26.160 Some sort of yes, baby, tell tell tell a little 0:32:26.240 --> 0:32:29.360 to kiss it. 0:32:29.480 --> 0:32:34.920 Let me see and you know what, let me close that. Please, 0:32:35.120 --> 0:32:36.200 let me also say this. 0:32:37.360 --> 0:32:39.640 I get in my dude like not gonna do, but 0:32:39.680 --> 0:32:43.960 like my youngins ask because he's Haitian and Haitians Islanders 0:32:44.080 --> 0:32:47.360 are really colorist. So it's not just like black eyes 0:32:47.400 --> 0:32:50.440 talking shit about not getting black women. I also really 0:32:50.480 --> 0:32:53.000 hate amongst anyone, even my girlfriends left friend. 0:32:53.000 --> 0:32:55.120 It's like, oh, that light skin, the light skin, that 0:32:55.200 --> 0:32:58.320 dark skin. Oh she's dark skinned. I fucking hate it. 0:32:58.320 --> 0:33:00.560 It's all skin. First of all, we're all black, okay, 0:33:00.720 --> 0:33:01.520 So I think. 0:33:01.400 --> 0:33:04.480 It's really rare we have to we find it necessary 0:33:04.520 --> 0:33:07.560 to classify the shade we're in because at the end 0:33:07.560 --> 0:33:08.880 of the day, if we go get a job, or 0:33:08.920 --> 0:33:10.920 if there's someone who approaches us in a cop car 0:33:10.960 --> 0:33:13.160 and there happen to be racist, we all going down. 0:33:13.560 --> 0:33:16.680 So I don't like the hierarchy of light skinned dark skin. 0:33:16.720 --> 0:33:20.440 And maybe because I'm brown skin, maybe because I've experienced. 0:33:19.760 --> 0:33:22.320 It or whatever, but I as black people, I think 0:33:22.360 --> 0:33:25.080 we just lack a lot of unity and that mix 0:33:25.440 --> 0:33:26.360 that makes. 0:33:26.040 --> 0:33:28.160 Separate separate, you know, like it makes us separate, and 0:33:28.160 --> 0:33:28.560 I hate it. 0:33:28.600 --> 0:33:30.720 I think it's ignorant, and it makes me think that 0:33:30.800 --> 0:33:34.959 you lack intelligence and you lack self love, and it 0:33:35.000 --> 0:33:37.240 really irritates the fuck out of me. So it's not 0:33:37.280 --> 0:33:39.480 just like black white, it's even a monkst within the 0:33:39.800 --> 0:33:41.720 it's more like within the community thing. 0:33:42.680 --> 0:33:44.840 I mean, colorism is a huge issue within the black community. 0:33:44.840 --> 0:33:45.640 It's a huge issue in. 0:33:45.600 --> 0:33:49.040 A lot of different Filipino communities, Asian community, Chinese, yeah, 0:33:49.480 --> 0:33:52.800 or like, you know, I don't not like black women, 0:33:52.840 --> 0:33:54.440 but I just want my baby to be mixed with 0:33:54.520 --> 0:33:55.000 good hair. 0:33:56.360 --> 0:33:58.360 And what the fuck is good hair? 0:33:58.400 --> 0:34:00.400 The kind that comes out of your scalpe as good 0:34:00.480 --> 0:34:02.560 as long as it's coming out with the scout's oiled 0:34:03.200 --> 0:34:06.840 and it's you know, it's more stroyed. But yeah, I mean, 0:34:06.880 --> 0:34:09.239 I'm just super pro black and I think that we 0:34:09.400 --> 0:34:09.919 lack that. 0:34:10.080 --> 0:34:12.880 And okay, oh here's my other thing. You could date 0:34:12.920 --> 0:34:17.799 hard you want to date. However, black people have. 0:34:17.719 --> 0:34:21.080 A different experience in the world, not just in America, 0:34:21.120 --> 0:34:26.400 So you have to be aligned and understanding of that 0:34:26.920 --> 0:34:29.520 to be able to relate to me and to a 0:34:29.520 --> 0:34:33.239 black man in reality. And I've seen a lot of 0:34:33.280 --> 0:34:37.120 my friends date white women who are ignorant, don't take 0:34:37.160 --> 0:34:39.040 the time to understand, don't care to understand. 0:34:39.160 --> 0:34:43.560 Say nigga the white women. Yes, I know it's. 0:34:42.960 --> 0:34:45.680 One chick in particular, Nigga, niga, nigga, nigga and not 0:34:45.760 --> 0:34:48.640 in a I say nigga a lot, and I'm working 0:34:48.680 --> 0:34:51.160 on it, even though I know you guys can't tell. 0:34:52.040 --> 0:34:54.359 But sometimes I say Nigga's like, it's not a black thing. 0:34:54.440 --> 0:34:58.480 It's like, Niggas could be men, Niggas could be ignorant people. 0:34:58.800 --> 0:35:00.719 Niggas can be a lot of Can my niggas my 0:35:00.800 --> 0:35:04.560 niggas right? You could have to understand nigga. 0:35:05.160 --> 0:35:07.000 Have you guys seen that thing with the teacher, he's 0:35:07.080 --> 0:35:08.000 like my nigga. 0:35:08.320 --> 0:35:14.000 Okay, anyway, emphasis on the aaah okay. But I. 0:35:16.120 --> 0:35:17.640 Like, you know, like my nigga, canot can I brought 0:35:17.680 --> 0:35:19.600 white teacher? Can I brought a pencil my nigga. I 0:35:19.600 --> 0:35:21.080 wasn't mad at him. I was like he was using 0:35:21.080 --> 0:35:23.799 it correctly. It wasn't out of contact. Please you guys 0:35:23.800 --> 0:35:25.320 look up that fucking YouTube. It's hilarious. 0:35:26.680 --> 0:35:29.520 This teacher got fired for referring to to he probably 0:35:29.560 --> 0:35:31.640 had a majority black class. He referred to the student 0:35:31.640 --> 0:35:33.200 as my nigga and they tried to like put him 0:35:33.239 --> 0:35:35.200 on blast. He was like, why, I mean, all the 0:35:35.200 --> 0:35:37.440 students use it. I'm an English teacher. I put an 0:35:37.440 --> 0:35:41.200 emphasis on the aaa h you know, you know, like hey. 0:35:41.239 --> 0:35:43.160 Can I can I can I borrow a pencil my nigga? 0:35:43.719 --> 0:35:45.720 Like my nigga? Can I borrow up pencils my nigga? 0:35:46.080 --> 0:35:46.960 So it was kind of funny. 0:35:47.080 --> 0:35:51.319 It was very accurate in his scripture description. But this 0:35:51.480 --> 0:35:55.319 girl that I know is a hunt and she has 0:35:55.400 --> 0:35:59.520 two sons with two separate black men and a she 0:35:59.560 --> 0:36:01.480 keeps you from to them as mixed voice. Okay, this 0:36:01.520 --> 0:36:03.960 is my other fucking pet, Peeve, don't be mad if 0:36:03.960 --> 0:36:07.719 this is you. I hate when people like hashtag like 0:36:07.800 --> 0:36:14.480 mixed babies black white baby, Puerto Rican wan their Puerto Rican, Jamaican, Irish, 0:36:14.560 --> 0:36:16.800 German baby, like it's a fucking baby. 0:36:16.880 --> 0:36:19.520 The babies are pretty all the baby like good hair baby, 0:36:19.600 --> 0:36:22.719 Like no, it's just a baby, Like there's no I understand, 0:36:22.800 --> 0:36:26.759 Like I don't understand because I'm not like as obviously, 0:36:26.920 --> 0:36:29.880 first of all, we're all mixed as Americans, and like 0:36:29.920 --> 0:36:33.319 I don't understand, like maybe I can't relate to it, 0:36:33.400 --> 0:36:36.080 but I guess I understand now more with my friends 0:36:36.120 --> 0:36:37.759 saying like they didn't feel like they fit in with 0:36:37.800 --> 0:36:40.359 this crew or that crew because there was like a 0:36:40.360 --> 0:36:41.280 pool of difference. 0:36:41.320 --> 0:36:44.000 So I understand wanting to have pride in whatever you are. 0:36:44.560 --> 0:36:46.560 I think I get irritated because as a black person, 0:36:47.480 --> 0:36:50.400 like until like ancestry dot com, I hate when I 0:36:50.440 --> 0:36:52.480 had that project in school and they're like, tell us 0:36:52.520 --> 0:36:55.279 something about your culture and how you're brought up having 0:36:55.520 --> 0:36:58.640 I don't fucking know, bitch, because it's called slavery. Okay, 0:36:58.680 --> 0:37:01.719 we ain't got no music, the religion was stolen, the 0:37:01.760 --> 0:37:04.360 food is now whatever. The slave food was soul food. 0:37:04.680 --> 0:37:06.759 And every year the same project. I had to do 0:37:06.840 --> 0:37:08.799 black eyed peas and grains for New Year's Eve. 0:37:08.840 --> 0:37:11.759 Okay, good luck, but black eyed peas were good luck. 0:37:12.000 --> 0:37:14.520 Greens meant money. But that's not a cultural thing because 0:37:14.520 --> 0:37:17.400 we don't have that. So I just it started. It 0:37:17.520 --> 0:37:18.239 irritated me. 0:37:18.320 --> 0:37:21.640 But back to like the women who are unaware and 0:37:21.680 --> 0:37:22.680 then have black kids. 0:37:22.719 --> 0:37:25.400 They can't comb the kids hair. They're teaching them that they're. 0:37:25.200 --> 0:37:26.799 Mixed kids, and then they're going to go up to 0:37:26.880 --> 0:37:29.200 school and someone's going to say something racist to them 0:37:29.200 --> 0:37:31.040 because it's ever not going to be ready. They're not 0:37:31.080 --> 0:37:32.840 going to be ready because they weren't prepared because they 0:37:32.880 --> 0:37:34.680 didn't even know they were black. They thought they were mixed, 0:37:34.960 --> 0:37:38.239 which is a problem. And I think if you want 0:37:38.239 --> 0:37:39.759 to date outside of your race, if I dated a 0:37:39.800 --> 0:37:43.800 Jewish guy, I would make it my priority to understand 0:37:43.840 --> 0:37:46.160 the Jewish community, the religion or whatever. Go to Israel, 0:37:46.200 --> 0:37:48.680 Like if I dated the Russian guys, same thing, whatever 0:37:48.719 --> 0:37:50.200 it is. Like when if you choose to have kids 0:37:50.200 --> 0:37:52.400 with someone, it's your responsibility to understand that culture to 0:37:52.440 --> 0:37:55.000 prepare your kid appropriately. And it's a special case when 0:37:55.040 --> 0:37:58.240 it comes to black people because we've lacked that history 0:37:58.480 --> 0:38:00.440 in a lot of ways, and there's a lot of 0:38:01.120 --> 0:38:04.040 blatant racism that happens to brown and black people. So 0:38:05.120 --> 0:38:08.520 just be smart, don't date anybody ignorant, period. 0:38:09.360 --> 0:38:10.440 No, I totally agree. 0:38:10.480 --> 0:38:14.759 I think I mean me as a product of a 0:38:14.800 --> 0:38:20.840 Mexican Irish, Mexican Irish some other shit. 0:38:21.160 --> 0:38:24.120 Mother and a black father. 0:38:26.080 --> 0:38:29.040 For me, my experience was I was always trying to 0:38:29.080 --> 0:38:33.680 show prove my blackness because of colorism, and a lot 0:38:33.680 --> 0:38:37.879 of times, you know, dark skinned women, men boys not women. 0:38:37.920 --> 0:38:40.000 There are children would be like you're not black, you're 0:38:40.040 --> 0:38:42.520 not black, and I felt like a black person and 0:38:42.560 --> 0:38:45.160 I had those I had. I had Anyways, I had 0:38:45.200 --> 0:38:48.080 experiences as a black person, maybe not as many as 0:38:48.239 --> 0:38:53.000 maybe you had, because I'm not gonna deny the fact 0:38:53.120 --> 0:38:56.200 that lights women do not have the same experience as 0:38:56.280 --> 0:38:59.800 dark skinned women one hundred percent. You've definitely probably experienced 0:38:59.840 --> 0:39:02.359 more racism or blatant racism than I have. 0:39:04.640 --> 0:39:08.400 But I will say that it is. 0:39:08.440 --> 0:39:11.040 I think it's really important because I do identify as 0:39:11.080 --> 0:39:13.480 a black woman, but I also identify as a Latina, 0:39:13.760 --> 0:39:15.400 and I don't want to have to choose. 0:39:15.480 --> 0:39:18.680 Yeah, and you shouldn't have, you know, but. 0:39:20.600 --> 0:39:25.200 People in both communities make you feel like you have to, 0:39:26.000 --> 0:39:28.680 you know. And it's like, No, I speak fluent Spanish, 0:39:28.800 --> 0:39:35.280 I fucking celebrate My grandma is Mexican. We celebrate Mexican holidays, 0:39:35.280 --> 0:39:37.880 we do those type of things. We are proud of 0:39:37.880 --> 0:39:41.080 our Mexican culture. And then on black side, you know, 0:39:41.760 --> 0:39:44.520 we were as black as we're African American, you know 0:39:44.520 --> 0:39:47.080 what I mean. We don't celebrate African holidays, but you know, 0:39:47.160 --> 0:39:50.200 because we don't know any because we don't know any No, 0:39:50.280 --> 0:39:53.080 that's not an African, that's an American African American holiday because 0:39:53.080 --> 0:39:55.360 we don't know because we it was stolen. But I 0:39:55.360 --> 0:39:58.239 will say that if you are a white woman or 0:39:58.520 --> 0:40:03.319 whatever other other than black, or even if you're a 0:40:03.320 --> 0:40:06.520 white woman dating a Latino man, I do think it's 0:40:06.520 --> 0:40:11.480 your responsibility to educate yourself and educate your child, because 0:40:11.960 --> 0:40:15.520 especially your child is going to encounter something and they're 0:40:15.520 --> 0:40:17.680 not going to be prepared and they're gonna be crushed 0:40:17.719 --> 0:40:19.640 and they're not going to understand why this is happening 0:40:19.719 --> 0:40:22.959 because mommy or daddy did not prepare. 0:40:22.640 --> 0:40:26.200 Me for this, and then that is the problem. One 0:40:26.239 --> 0:40:26.840 hundred percent. 0:40:26.960 --> 0:40:29.560 I think it's easy to if they want to ignore it, 0:40:29.600 --> 0:40:31.520 they want to pass through that, they want to athlete. 0:40:31.800 --> 0:40:34.160 It's like everybody's gonna be mixed in twenty twenty three, 0:40:34.239 --> 0:40:35.640 and my baby's so cute. 0:40:35.400 --> 0:40:36.000 Because this mixed. 0:40:36.120 --> 0:40:39.080 And I've even heard people like I've heard people say like, 0:40:39.120 --> 0:40:41.560 I don't want to name my child a black name 0:40:41.680 --> 0:40:44.080 because when they when like when they get that resume, 0:40:44.200 --> 0:40:45.400 like when they go in for a job. 0:40:45.480 --> 0:40:46.120 I mean, it's true. 0:40:46.160 --> 0:40:48.279 My aunt named her kids Jillian and Ashley, and I 0:40:48.320 --> 0:40:50.200 was like, you couldn't get any more original than that. 0:40:50.440 --> 0:40:52.480 But also my name is Jimila, and everyone's like, oh, 0:40:52.520 --> 0:40:55.000 that's so ghetto. I'm like, actually, it's fucking super Middle Eastern. 0:40:55.120 --> 0:40:56.840 Jimmila is Arabic as fuck. 0:40:56.960 --> 0:40:57.960 But I mean it is sad. 0:40:57.960 --> 0:40:59.560 We live in a world now where like if you 0:40:59.600 --> 0:41:03.120 saw if someone saw Jamila on a work resume and 0:41:03.120 --> 0:41:05.480 then they saw Alison, they're gonna take Alison. 0:41:05.920 --> 0:41:08.920 I mean might take Alison like a Muslim because it's 0:41:08.920 --> 0:41:11.160 a Muslim name. But as they see my face, they're like, oh, 0:41:11.160 --> 0:41:13.120 it's got out, you know it is. There's all these 0:41:13.120 --> 0:41:15.000 stupid things that that's why for a long time I 0:41:15.000 --> 0:41:18.240 put Jamie and I never put Jamie on fucking resume 0:41:18.360 --> 0:41:18.840 in America. 0:41:19.000 --> 0:41:20.040 Who the fuck is James? 0:41:20.040 --> 0:41:23.880 If I saw Jamila, I'm thinking Jamila. Look, I'm just 0:41:23.920 --> 0:41:27.120 calling you what you call yourself Jamila? This bitch has 0:41:27.160 --> 0:41:29.560 been calling herself Jamilla. And I'm like, do you know why? 0:41:29.680 --> 0:41:31.560 And I was like, is your name I've been calling 0:41:31.600 --> 0:41:33.680 you Jamila? Am I saying your name wrong? You're like, no, 0:41:33.760 --> 0:41:37.240 it's Jamila. Why do you call yourself Jamilla? It's potato patata. 0:41:37.239 --> 0:41:39.120 Because I went to all white schools, all the schools 0:41:39.160 --> 0:41:39.879 I went to, I was one. 0:41:39.880 --> 0:41:43.840 Of three black people, and apparently Jamila is way harder 0:41:43.840 --> 0:41:44.400 than Jamila. 0:41:44.520 --> 0:41:45.680 So I was just like whatever, fuck it. 0:41:46.040 --> 0:41:48.440 But also someone had to tell me, like, no, make 0:41:48.480 --> 0:41:50.480 people pronounce your name like you correct them. But I'm 0:41:50.480 --> 0:41:52.319 so used to it, and I'm like whatever, because these 0:41:52.360 --> 0:41:55.080 people call me Milla, Mila, jam whatever. 0:41:55.200 --> 0:41:59.120 Put in America if you're not, which most Americans are 0:41:59.280 --> 0:42:02.080 very when it comes to race, and we're just now 0:42:02.160 --> 0:42:04.520 starting to like have an open conversation and dialogue about it. 0:42:05.320 --> 0:42:07.640 I wouldn't think you were Middle Eastern. I think, oh, 0:42:07.640 --> 0:42:08.400 it's black girl. 0:42:08.680 --> 0:42:10.319 Oh like a looking at a paper, Well that's yeah, 0:42:10.360 --> 0:42:13.040 I'm saying. If you're familiar, like familiar with a, it's 0:42:13.040 --> 0:42:14.120 also an it's alat of shit. 0:42:14.160 --> 0:42:15.279 But yeah, you probably think I was fat. 0:42:17.040 --> 0:42:20.759 Also, like people, I just hate stereotype, just period, even 0:42:20.760 --> 0:42:22.480 though a lot of them can derive from the truth. 0:42:22.920 --> 0:42:25.640 People like even my family's from Phillious when I grew 0:42:25.719 --> 0:42:27.440 up there. We'll go home. Like you talk so white, 0:42:27.480 --> 0:42:29.920 I'm like, you talk green? What the fuck does that mean? 0:42:29.960 --> 0:42:31.240 I talk proper English? 0:42:31.239 --> 0:42:35.840 Bitch. That's also annoying, or like, I don't know, people 0:42:35.840 --> 0:42:36.560 are just stupid. 0:42:36.800 --> 0:42:40.560 I think the conversation about you being fifty percent racist, 0:42:40.600 --> 0:42:43.880 and you know, you know, I have to say, like 0:42:44.120 --> 0:42:47.000 when I see a black man, an attractive black man 0:42:47.040 --> 0:42:49.239 that maybe I want or I want to know what 0:42:49.280 --> 0:42:51.400 that's like. And I see him with a white woman, 0:42:52.040 --> 0:42:55.759 that that that trigger of like what society has taught 0:42:55.800 --> 0:42:56.719 black woman is that? 0:42:57.120 --> 0:42:59.480 Ah, that ain't right. That's our man, that's ours you're 0:42:59.480 --> 0:43:01.560 trying to take. No, I'm like, you can have them. No, 0:43:01.600 --> 0:43:02.160 I don't think that. 0:43:02.200 --> 0:43:05.239 I think in my head I judge forred percent, even 0:43:05.239 --> 0:43:06.680 though I know that's not right. 0:43:06.880 --> 0:43:09.120 Yeah, Like sometimes I'm like, oh, when I say, when 0:43:09.120 --> 0:43:11.080 I see a black guy, this is terrible. 0:43:11.080 --> 0:43:13.520 Who dates? Okay? 0:43:13.640 --> 0:43:15.560 If I have a friend who like primarily I always 0:43:15.560 --> 0:43:17.239 see him with a non black women, in my mind, 0:43:17.400 --> 0:43:19.680 like you just you don't fuck with. 0:43:19.640 --> 0:43:20.200 Your own kind. 0:43:20.360 --> 0:43:23.080 And I think that like you have self healthy issues, 0:43:23.480 --> 0:43:25.520 and that's not always the case. And I've been in 0:43:25.520 --> 0:43:28.200 conversations with black men and they have to like step 0:43:28.200 --> 0:43:30.600 to me and tell me, like, I'm totally aware. I 0:43:30.640 --> 0:43:32.680 totally like sisters, and it's just this is the person 0:43:32.680 --> 0:43:34.320 I'm in love with and I respect that. And sometimes 0:43:34.360 --> 0:43:36.960 I'm wrong, and probably because I've been told so often 0:43:37.000 --> 0:43:41.120 by black men, I prefer this over you that I've 0:43:41.160 --> 0:43:44.440 been low key traumatized, especially in LA. This is an 0:43:44.520 --> 0:43:48.200 LA thing, like we're just coming in, We're just getting in, 0:43:48.280 --> 0:43:50.040 like we're not in. You know, when I go to 0:43:50.040 --> 0:43:52.280 the club with my non black friends, the black guys 0:43:52.360 --> 0:43:55.560 will tap push me aside to get to my white friend. 0:43:55.800 --> 0:43:57.480 They'll be like two white guys in the club and 0:43:57.480 --> 0:44:00.760 they will come and find my ass. Okay, white guys 0:44:00.800 --> 0:44:01.920 love me. I don't know if it's because like my 0:44:01.920 --> 0:44:05.560 body type, but they I could be under a rock 0:44:05.640 --> 0:44:07.720 and they will fucking sniff me out. 0:44:07.800 --> 0:44:12.000 Because when I was looking at Jamila's tender and her DMS, 0:44:12.880 --> 0:44:14.919 it was like ninety eight percent white. 0:44:14.960 --> 0:44:16.799 I was like and old, like they all like they 0:44:16.840 --> 0:44:18.200 have been like over forty five. 0:44:18.280 --> 0:44:21.320 And this is why this conversation started because I was like, wait, bitch, 0:44:21.719 --> 0:44:26.000 you are only swiping right white men and you're no, 0:44:26.440 --> 0:44:29.400 but then you are getting mad at black men for 0:44:29.640 --> 0:44:32.640 dating white women. Now, was like, no, these are just 0:44:32.800 --> 0:44:35.200 who swipes me, and they do. But you guys have 0:44:35.239 --> 0:44:37.440 swiped them too well. I know that I know they 0:44:37.440 --> 0:44:38.800 swipe me. I knew if I wanted to get imagine 0:44:38.800 --> 0:44:40.160 I had to swipe on their asses too. 0:44:40.280 --> 0:44:43.200 I'm not. I mean, I've dated white guys. I'm white. 0:44:43.440 --> 0:44:46.279 But now that you've explained your reasoning behind it, it makes sense. 0:44:46.719 --> 0:44:50.799 I don't think that they're just like that because those 0:44:50.800 --> 0:44:52.400 are our men, No, you know what I mean. 0:44:54.000 --> 0:44:57.279 I just have come across a lot of stupid black eyes. 0:44:57.040 --> 0:45:02.200 And and unfortunately, and ah, my fault, I admit, like 0:45:02.520 --> 0:45:04.080 it's ignorant of me, but I do. 0:45:04.160 --> 0:45:05.200 I'll make assumptions. 0:45:05.480 --> 0:45:07.880 I make assumptions like you have some issues, like you 0:45:09.000 --> 0:45:11.360 you have a preference, and I okay, And this is 0:45:11.440 --> 0:45:13.440 me being one hundred percent honest, and it's hard for 0:45:13.480 --> 0:45:18.400 me to sometimes like be flawed publicly, but I'm obviously 0:45:18.440 --> 0:45:20.320 like I have friends, so I'm like, oh, bits, you're scarred, 0:45:20.920 --> 0:45:23.080 you have like a black girl syndrome, You're hurt, and 0:45:23.239 --> 0:45:25.480 you know, and I think probably me too in some ways, 0:45:25.719 --> 0:45:28.280 probably because I grew up in LA in the valley 0:45:28.680 --> 0:45:30.719 where there's not a lot of black people, and I've 0:45:30.760 --> 0:45:33.200 heard it so much. I kind of put a label 0:45:33.200 --> 0:45:36.200 on certain type of black eyes, like you kind of 0:45:36.239 --> 0:45:38.320 you because I see a lot of black guys. 0:45:38.239 --> 0:45:40.600 The mediocre other women and be like, oh, my god, 0:45:40.640 --> 0:45:45.000 they're so bad. Oh she's so fine, she's so exotic. 0:45:45.040 --> 0:45:48.520 I'm like, she's a six. Okay, let's be clear. It's 0:45:48.520 --> 0:45:50.200 not because you don't have to say, like, she got 0:45:50.200 --> 0:45:52.600 good hair, she's so beautiful. You know what annoys mean that. 0:45:52.800 --> 0:45:55.440 I don't know if one of our followers is this 0:45:55.480 --> 0:45:57.640 girl and she's gonna be mad. Sorry, girl, I'm sure 0:45:57.640 --> 0:45:59.200 you're a good person. Actually I have a friend, I 0:45:59.239 --> 0:46:03.080 have friends like you. But it's like when you have 0:46:03.640 --> 0:46:07.080 a Caucasian girl, or maybe not Caucasian, she's just not black, 0:46:07.560 --> 0:46:15.600 and she appropriates what she can, or she starts to 0:46:15.719 --> 0:46:18.160 change who she is to represent what she thinks a 0:46:18.200 --> 0:46:21.400 black woman would be, like like the big gold. 0:46:21.160 --> 0:46:24.280 Hoops, Hey I have some in right now above. 0:46:24.160 --> 0:46:31.160 That, or talking a certain way or dressing a certain way, 0:46:31.600 --> 0:46:34.879 or wanting to have bigger lips when you don't, or 0:46:34.960 --> 0:46:36.799 wanting to have a bigger ass when that's not the 0:46:36.840 --> 0:46:42.120 ass you were given, or or trying to just relate 0:46:42.160 --> 0:46:46.160 to an experience that you it's not related. And then 0:46:46.200 --> 0:46:47.680 the black eyes dating her, and I'm like, well you 0:46:47.719 --> 0:46:50.120 might as well just day a black girl, Like what 0:46:50.239 --> 0:46:52.600 is the purpose she wants to act like a black 0:46:52.640 --> 0:46:54.600 girl what she thinks a black woman acts like, because 0:46:54.880 --> 0:46:57.359 let's be wrong, there's such a huge spectrum to what 0:46:57.640 --> 0:46:58.880 black women act like. 0:46:58.960 --> 0:47:00.320 I say that in quotation. 0:47:00.200 --> 0:47:02.439 Because I because that's what That's what bothered me about 0:47:02.440 --> 0:47:03.719 the Rachel Dilizzell thing. 0:47:03.840 --> 0:47:06.400 It's like, you're emulating what you say. I don't know. 0:47:06.400 --> 0:47:08.080 Maybe she had her past lives, was a black woman, 0:47:08.080 --> 0:47:10.279 I don't fucking know, but like you're emulating what you 0:47:10.320 --> 0:47:11.960 think a black woman is like. And it's not like 0:47:11.960 --> 0:47:13.880 she was talking changing how she talked and stuff, but 0:47:13.920 --> 0:47:15.799 like the hair wraps and the weaves and shit, like 0:47:15.800 --> 0:47:17.319 not all black women want to wear hair wraps and 0:47:17.360 --> 0:47:21.920 weaves yea, and the name change whatever. But I have 0:47:21.960 --> 0:47:24.759 a friend who dates black guys. First of all, my 0:47:24.880 --> 0:47:27.560 very best friend. She's my sister of twenty five years. 0:47:27.760 --> 0:47:31.760 I've never seen this bitch dated non black guye Okay, 0:47:31.920 --> 0:47:35.759 so I'm not biased all. But she's also not like 0:47:35.800 --> 0:47:37.880 a complete dumb ass. And she's also let me know, 0:47:37.960 --> 0:47:40.880 she's been around black men who feel comfortable like Erica 0:47:40.960 --> 0:47:42.480 to be like, I don't really fuck with black women 0:47:42.520 --> 0:47:44.680 because they allow their ignorant third this And she's like, 0:47:44.719 --> 0:47:48.200 you sound stupid because she's she's smarter. First over friends 0:47:48.200 --> 0:47:51.040 for twenty years, but she know, like she's smart enough 0:47:51.080 --> 0:47:54.080 to know the difference from like an ignorant black guy 0:47:54.239 --> 0:47:56.360 or someone who just validly is attracted to you and 0:47:56.400 --> 0:47:57.160 wants to be with you. 0:47:57.320 --> 0:47:59.120 But I've come. 0:47:58.920 --> 0:48:01.400 Across so many white women men who have this fucking 0:48:01.440 --> 0:48:04.000 ship on their shoulder because they've dated so many ignorant 0:48:04.040 --> 0:48:06.000 black guys who have pumped their head up to think 0:48:06.200 --> 0:48:08.480 in some way shape home and their superior and that 0:48:08.800 --> 0:48:10.319 you know, like I can come in and take your 0:48:10.520 --> 0:48:13.799 your dude, or I I know that he prefers me 0:48:13.840 --> 0:48:16.600 over you, or But I've also been around like really 0:48:16.640 --> 0:48:18.480 like black men who date white women, and I can 0:48:18.800 --> 0:48:23.000 visually see the woman get insecure because she's never. 0:48:22.880 --> 0:48:26.200 Fair one of those experiences, yeah, like oh she's coming 0:48:26.239 --> 0:48:26.560 over here. 0:48:27.360 --> 0:48:29.279 I mean, there's just so many fucked up boys if 0:48:29.280 --> 0:48:30.759 you go, oh, anyway back to my friend, she gets 0:48:30.800 --> 0:48:31.800 drunk all the time and it's. 0:48:31.680 --> 0:48:34.239 Like, oh yeah, cause that nigga was like this, that nigga. 0:48:33.920 --> 0:48:36.319 These niggas, And I'm like, bitch, you don't have to 0:48:36.320 --> 0:48:38.680 say drop the N word every fucking five minutes to 0:48:38.760 --> 0:48:40.240 prove your blackness or you're down. 0:48:40.480 --> 0:48:42.160 You don't have to wear hoops to the gym. 0:48:42.400 --> 0:48:44.680 You don't crazy to me that you've got that much 0:48:44.920 --> 0:48:47.719 that the ball, your balls are that big to say 0:48:47.760 --> 0:48:48.880 that in a group setting? 0:48:48.960 --> 0:48:51.440 Does she only say that? But that's how, But that's how. 0:48:51.480 --> 0:48:52.560 First of all, that's an LA thing. 0:48:52.600 --> 0:48:54.440 A lot of non black people say nigga and I 0:48:54.480 --> 0:48:57.040 have never heard, and she says it around people, and 0:48:57.040 --> 0:48:58.960 that's how I know. You've dated a lot of men 0:48:59.000 --> 0:49:01.880 who gave you the green light, And that's how I 0:49:01.920 --> 0:49:03.680 know there's a lot of stupid ass men out here. 0:49:03.840 --> 0:49:07.560 We have a air quotes as fuck friend who I 0:49:07.600 --> 0:49:10.440 was with, I've done since I was fucking eleven. This 0:49:10.800 --> 0:49:12.719 we my friendly show him a picture of a chick. 0:49:12.800 --> 0:49:15.839 He's like, oh, not only date burnt black chicks. Keep 0:49:15.840 --> 0:49:20.000 in mind, this man is my complexion, maybe darker. And 0:49:20.040 --> 0:49:23.520 I was like, wow, you're so ignorant. You sound so silly. 0:49:24.080 --> 0:49:25.520 First first of all, you say shit like that, and 0:49:25.520 --> 0:49:27.080 the immediately I cut you off. In my head, I 0:49:27.080 --> 0:49:28.480 don't fuck with you. You're stupid. 0:49:29.040 --> 0:49:29.799 And that's a problem too. 0:49:29.800 --> 0:49:31.320 Maybe I should have talked to him, maybe shit, But 0:49:31.360 --> 0:49:34.080 he's so stupid. I can't because to me, it's like 0:49:34.320 --> 0:49:37.400 that is a de I hate my fuck himself, I 0:49:37.440 --> 0:49:39.560 hate my mom, I hate like And then what if 0:49:39.560 --> 0:49:42.040 you fuck around like and have a baby, for instance, 0:49:43.280 --> 0:49:47.759 Erica's ivy is a chocolate baby, and you know, then 0:49:47.800 --> 0:49:49.600 you've made all these comments of what kind of woman 0:49:49.640 --> 0:49:52.040 you want, you want, you've manifested, But what are you 0:49:52.120 --> 0:49:55.680 saying to the women that don't like the product of you. 0:49:55.800 --> 0:49:59.919 Or your sperm when you're not this mixed looking shit. 0:50:00.480 --> 0:50:03.200 I just think it's ignorant to label beauty because. 0:50:03.080 --> 0:50:05.279 Oh, you mean, like, oh, yeah, that's true, because yeah, 0:50:05.320 --> 0:50:08.440 he's not what his idea the woman beauty was. 0:50:08.840 --> 0:50:11.800 But my whole thing in general is that you cannot 0:50:11.800 --> 0:50:12.760 put a label on beauty. 0:50:12.800 --> 0:50:14.160 And that's why I like to say, I don't know 0:50:14.239 --> 0:50:16.319 I'm here. This is gonna sound bad. 0:50:16.600 --> 0:50:18.759 A lot of guys have dated and have been like tall, 0:50:18.800 --> 0:50:21.560 white skin niggas with beards, because that's what I'm like, 0:50:21.600 --> 0:50:23.239 Oh okay, but. 0:50:23.239 --> 0:50:25.520 Also I like chocolate men, also like white men, buns 0:50:25.520 --> 0:50:27.480 and beards. I like a lot of different men. 0:50:27.520 --> 0:50:29.360 But you'll never hear me say I only date this 0:50:29.400 --> 0:50:32.280 type of person because I'm aware that beauty and attraction 0:50:32.480 --> 0:50:35.040 comes in all different shapes and sizes, and more so 0:50:35.120 --> 0:50:36.799 than none, it comes with personality. 0:50:36.840 --> 0:50:39.400 It comes with you know, Finanse, It comes with Jennet 0:50:39.480 --> 0:50:39.839 Saint Qua. 0:50:40.120 --> 0:50:42.319 It comes with personality, It comes with education, and if 0:50:42.400 --> 0:50:46.120 you don't recognize that, then you're stupid. 0:50:47.200 --> 0:50:49.680 Agreed, I agree? I agree. 0:50:49.800 --> 0:50:55.080 I think. Oh, I'm gonna ask you a question. Because 0:50:55.080 --> 0:50:58.399 you're a product of an interracial relationship. Have you ever 0:50:58.400 --> 0:51:01.719 seen your dad dated black women? And how has do 0:51:01.760 --> 0:51:04.000 you think that's affected you or not affected you either way. 0:51:05.000 --> 0:51:07.560 I've only seen my dad date one black woman in 0:51:07.600 --> 0:51:11.080 my life, and my parents broke up before I was born, 0:51:11.400 --> 0:51:19.399 so that's thirty years. And my dad said the same 0:51:19.440 --> 0:51:21.279 things he has said. 0:51:21.640 --> 0:51:22.960 I will never forget to say. 0:51:23.640 --> 0:51:25.920 I don't date black women because they're loud, they like 0:51:25.960 --> 0:51:26.919 to tell me what to do. 0:51:27.400 --> 0:51:29.279 They think they can put me in my place. I 0:51:29.320 --> 0:51:30.000 don't like that. 0:51:30.440 --> 0:51:33.080 And with white women, they let me do my thing, 0:51:34.000 --> 0:51:35.879 you know, they let me do what I want to do. 0:51:36.120 --> 0:51:39.480 And and I've always been like, wow, dad, you're talking 0:51:39.480 --> 0:51:41.640 to your black daughter. But then again, my dad has 0:51:41.640 --> 0:51:42.920 shocked me about a lot of opinions. 0:51:43.120 --> 0:51:46.080 Well that's why I was wondering when he's very honest 0:51:46.320 --> 0:51:48.000 to say the least, but I don't think he also 0:51:48.360 --> 0:51:51.719 acknowledges how that could have if it even affected you. 0:51:52.760 --> 0:51:54.400 But I don't even know if my dad thinks that 0:51:54.520 --> 0:51:57.600 deeply about that. Yeah, not that he's not capable of it. 0:51:57.640 --> 0:51:59.480 I just don't think that he even it's not even 0:51:59.520 --> 0:52:02.000 on his race. Are Like the woman that he's been 0:52:02.040 --> 0:52:05.960 with now for a long time, probably fifteen years, twelve years, 0:52:06.960 --> 0:52:10.239 is white girl from Indiana, redhead. 0:52:10.760 --> 0:52:11.760 She's super sweet. 0:52:12.680 --> 0:52:16.759 I love her, but yeah, that's that's and the woman 0:52:16.840 --> 0:52:20.040 that he steps out on her with or in the 0:52:20.080 --> 0:52:20.640 past have. 0:52:22.440 --> 0:52:24.400 Or he's exotic. 0:52:24.280 --> 0:52:28.080 Mixed, oh less less Middle America America. 0:52:28.120 --> 0:52:30.480 Although I'm sure that he's not really, but I'm sure, 0:52:30.480 --> 0:52:31.319 I'm sure he's done. 0:52:32.120 --> 0:52:34.440 You know, he's my dad. My dad is who he is, 0:52:34.840 --> 0:52:35.760 John is vagiint. 0:52:36.840 --> 0:52:43.319 But yeah, And I think for me growing up, because 0:52:43.320 --> 0:52:47.360 I always had to like prove my blackness, I really 0:52:47.840 --> 0:52:51.040 And also I feel like I was a very mature 0:52:51.239 --> 0:52:56.560 looking teenager even in elementary, like I had ass I 0:52:56.600 --> 0:52:58.799 was this tall. I was always the tallest in my grade, 0:52:58.840 --> 0:53:00.479 Like I was this height when I was like ten. 0:53:00.880 --> 0:53:02.799 Women grow fe like grows, so I. 0:53:02.760 --> 0:53:04.440 Was always the tallest in my grade, I mean in 0:53:04.480 --> 0:53:06.680 high school then everyone you know, surpassed me. 0:53:07.520 --> 0:53:10.080 So, you know, small white boys weren't checking for me. 0:53:10.480 --> 0:53:13.560 You know, my body type wasn't ideal for them, and 0:53:13.640 --> 0:53:15.400 therefore I always. 0:53:15.120 --> 0:53:17.000 Dated cause Kim Kid didn't come out yet. 0:53:17.920 --> 0:53:23.120 Therefore I dated mostly my black men, you know what 0:53:23.200 --> 0:53:26.719 I mean. That was appealing to me, and they were 0:53:26.880 --> 0:53:30.360 I appealed to them. And now I struggle with the 0:53:30.440 --> 0:53:32.960 idea of trying to d date outside my race, cause 0:53:32.960 --> 0:53:34.680 I do want to date outside my race. I'm try 0:53:34.640 --> 0:53:40.479 I I'm interested in dating white men, any any race. 0:53:40.560 --> 0:53:42.400 Really Have you ever slept with the white man? I 0:53:42.440 --> 0:53:45.600 have a non black man brother, yes, what about a Latino? 0:53:46.320 --> 0:53:50.480 Yes? Okay, I had a lat A Dominican boyfriend, and 0:53:50.760 --> 0:53:53.520 Dominican doesn't necessarily Oh guess is that Latino? Yeah? Well, 0:53:53.560 --> 0:53:57.319 like there's like black Dominicans because I don't know, we're 0:53:57.520 --> 0:54:00.279 so fucked up and non politically. They let girl. 0:54:01.080 --> 0:54:03.359 Okay, it's like the Caribbean though I know, I mean 0:54:03.400 --> 0:54:05.040 they're black too, but they're. 0:54:05.280 --> 0:54:09.520 Just like Cubans would identify as Latin. Okay. You know what. 0:54:09.560 --> 0:54:11.720 That's another thing only in America is like black and white. 0:54:11.760 --> 0:54:16.200 However, Dominican Republic and Haiti are the same place, so 0:54:16.360 --> 0:54:20.960 technically they are African, but they identify as Latin. This 0:54:21.000 --> 0:54:23.480 isn't my other Afro Latina after Latina. This is my 0:54:23.560 --> 0:54:24.360 other issue. 0:54:24.480 --> 0:54:28.959 People lack black Okay, this is okay, my problem with America. 0:54:29.040 --> 0:54:32.600 Black people have been so brainwashed okay with their history 0:54:33.160 --> 0:54:35.839 that I will never forget this. This man, this guy 0:54:35.880 --> 0:54:39.279 told me. I was younger, so my history wasn't so 0:54:39.440 --> 0:54:42.560 on point. But he was like, I'm not black, I'm no, 0:54:42.840 --> 0:54:44.920 I'm not from Africa, I'm Jamaican. 0:54:45.200 --> 0:54:46.600 Okay. This is what he told me. 0:54:47.080 --> 0:54:51.319 That makes me something to everyone when slavery happened, first 0:54:51.320 --> 0:54:55.040 of all, black people everywhere. When slavery happened, the boats 0:54:55.080 --> 0:54:58.040 came over and they just dropped the slaves off on 0:54:58.080 --> 0:55:01.160 the islands first, okay, and then they got to America 0:55:01.200 --> 0:55:02.239 and started dropping them off. 0:55:02.280 --> 0:55:06.279 Okay. So the African daspora is the. 0:55:06.280 --> 0:55:10.319 Disperse of the African people from the continent of Africa. 0:55:10.440 --> 0:55:14.239 But that comment ingrained in my head so deeply because 0:55:14.239 --> 0:55:16.040 I think my parents did a pretty good job of 0:55:16.200 --> 0:55:18.919 educating me on my culture. First of all, my middle 0:55:18.960 --> 0:55:21.600 name is Asada. I'm blamed after a black panther named 0:55:21.640 --> 0:55:22.360 Asada Shakur. 0:55:22.520 --> 0:55:25.120 So I'm very much I'm trying to get her out 0:55:25.120 --> 0:55:25.520 of Cuba. 0:55:26.000 --> 0:55:28.640 Not only is a suckad Okay, it's been like she was. 0:55:28.920 --> 0:55:31.759 She escaped prison. She's like a bad ass. She's a 0:55:31.800 --> 0:55:35.280 badass black panthers. She fucking birthed in prison. She escaped, 0:55:35.280 --> 0:55:38.200 she would she has asylum, like you know, she in Cuba. 0:55:38.280 --> 0:55:41.279 She's a bad ass bitch. But she she did a 0:55:41.280 --> 0:55:43.560 lot for the civil rights movement and they still have 0:55:43.640 --> 0:55:45.319 a bounty in her head. I thought Obama was gonna 0:55:45.320 --> 0:55:47.759 take it off, but just fucking another story. She was 0:55:47.800 --> 0:55:52.839 born as Joanne Chesimeier. Whatever is that that anyway, I 0:55:52.920 --> 0:55:56.960 remember that comment so vividly because it was like it 0:55:57.000 --> 0:56:00.719 was such a negative thing to be considered African. It 0:56:00.760 --> 0:56:03.799 was such a negative comment to be like, we're all 0:56:03.800 --> 0:56:07.640 from Africa. And it made me realize how that propaganda 0:56:07.719 --> 0:56:08.400 around Africa. 0:56:08.560 --> 0:56:09.960 First of all, all of the fucking. 0:56:09.680 --> 0:56:12.800 Images we've seen from Africa, like the starving, pot bellied 0:56:13.040 --> 0:56:15.400 children with flies on them. But if you go to 0:56:15.440 --> 0:56:17.040 first of I've never been, but like I have lots 0:56:17.040 --> 0:56:19.240 of friends who traveled Africa, go to the motherland. 0:56:18.800 --> 0:56:20.160 And like people are rich. 0:56:20.200 --> 0:56:22.719 It's like rich ass continent, despite the fact that Europeans 0:56:22.719 --> 0:56:24.960 and others have fucking shripped it for its resources and 0:56:25.040 --> 0:56:27.600 try to take over. But the point is is that 0:56:27.920 --> 0:56:30.920 goes back to show how much our culture has been 0:56:30.960 --> 0:56:34.000 stripped of us and how fucking ignorant people are. 0:56:34.040 --> 0:56:35.120 And that's why there's so much. 0:56:34.960 --> 0:56:38.640 Colorism and all this other news and all this other stuff. 0:56:39.120 --> 0:56:42.239 What a life's night that she what she doesn't like it? 0:56:42.360 --> 0:56:44.920 No, well, tell her to get off of it. Then 0:56:46.400 --> 0:56:47.040 tell her a land. 0:56:47.280 --> 0:56:54.239 Oh well, okay, all right, early lessons, who cares? 0:56:54.440 --> 0:56:56.160 I mean, okay, The same thing could be said about 0:56:56.200 --> 0:57:00.640 Big Mexican. I mean, growing up Mexican, I was like 0:57:00.800 --> 0:57:05.960 made to by other by by white people and by 0:57:06.040 --> 0:57:08.880 even other Latin people. 0:57:09.480 --> 0:57:10.600 Mexican was like. 0:57:12.360 --> 0:57:14.799 Looked down upon, right like, oh, you guys are like 0:57:15.120 --> 0:57:16.240 the migrant workers. 0:57:16.280 --> 0:57:17.800 You guys clean the toilets. 0:57:18.440 --> 0:57:23.480 You know, It's just like and that's that's because of ignorance. 0:57:23.040 --> 0:57:25.480 Ignorance, And I feel like I'm growing up in America. 0:57:25.960 --> 0:57:29.080 Yeah, America is a shit country. So we get we 0:57:29.120 --> 0:57:32.280 get like you know, certain, we get like a very 0:57:32.320 --> 0:57:35.160 watered down version of the history and the truth. 0:57:36.120 --> 0:57:37.840 It's so funny. I was, I was, you know that 0:57:37.880 --> 0:57:40.280 you told me to follow that guy's chakra bars. I 0:57:40.320 --> 0:57:42.400 can't even follow him. I have no idea. Wait, wait, 0:57:42.400 --> 0:57:44.320 I have a white friend. He's so pro. 0:57:44.240 --> 0:57:46.040 Black and he's so provagant. He's like, if you guys 0:57:46.040 --> 0:57:47.880 don't follow him, where the fuck are you living under? 0:57:47.960 --> 0:57:48.120 Rock? 0:57:48.480 --> 0:57:51.959 My new white friend, she I commented on this page. 0:57:51.960 --> 0:57:54.560 She's like, oh my god, you follow him? I love 0:57:54.560 --> 0:57:55.840 you ten times more now. 0:57:56.040 --> 0:58:01.720 I was like, you do okay, I mean, okay whatever. 0:58:02.320 --> 0:58:04.600 I was following him the other day and he was 0:58:04.640 --> 0:58:06.240 doing a live, which, by the way, I didn't realize 0:58:06.240 --> 0:58:07.640 you can do a live and like do a live 0:58:07.680 --> 0:58:09.520 with someone else, Like it was like a split screen 0:58:09.560 --> 0:58:12.880 and he was like, I guess maybe one of his followers, 0:58:13.240 --> 0:58:15.280 one of his followers wanted to ask him questions. 0:58:15.600 --> 0:58:18.960 That's cool and wait they weren't in the same place though, no, 0:58:19.240 --> 0:58:20.680 but it was split screen. Yeah. 0:58:21.120 --> 0:58:24.560 She was talking to him and he was talking, okay, 0:58:24.800 --> 0:58:29.040 figure out step at a time, okay, sorry, and she 0:58:29.320 --> 0:58:33.680 was like she he said something like you're you are 0:58:34.080 --> 0:58:36.480 African and she was like, and this woman was black, 0:58:37.680 --> 0:58:38.520 she was young. 0:58:38.440 --> 0:58:40.840 Man, why would you even agree to do that? 0:58:40.920 --> 0:58:42.600 He was like, you were African because he took it 0:58:42.600 --> 0:58:45.400 as an opportunity to educate her, and maybe he didn't 0:58:45.400 --> 0:58:46.960 even know that he was about to educate her until 0:58:46.960 --> 0:58:49.440 this moment, but he was like, you are black, you're 0:58:49.440 --> 0:58:50.560 African woman, and he was. 0:58:50.560 --> 0:58:52.360 She was like, no, I don't, I'm not African. I 0:58:52.400 --> 0:58:54.880 don't identify as African, and she was. He was like, 0:58:54.920 --> 0:58:57.760 where are you from. He's just like, I'm from London. 0:58:58.000 --> 0:58:58.880 He's like, no, you're not. 0:58:59.680 --> 0:59:02.800 And she was like, where are your roots? He's like, 0:59:02.880 --> 0:59:07.360 She's like, I'm Jamaican. You're African Jamaican. At my first 0:59:07.480 --> 0:59:10.280 he was like, he's like the people of Jamaica. The 0:59:10.320 --> 0:59:13.240 blacks are not native to Jamaica. 0:59:13.520 --> 0:59:15.880 This is the ship I'm talking about. People think Jamaicans 0:59:16.240 --> 0:59:19.360 are black. No, they're like native. They look native. 0:59:19.560 --> 0:59:21.800 And then go after that, actually because I knew that, 0:59:21.840 --> 0:59:23.400 but I wasn't sure, like I can't remember what they're 0:59:23.400 --> 0:59:23.720 called here. 0:59:31.200 --> 0:59:33.960 Okay, hey, hey, no screaming, no touching each other. 0:59:34.160 --> 0:59:37.280 Only to give love, hugs and kisses, don't raisee her, 0:59:37.360 --> 0:59:39.480 don't do it, stay sorry, to say sorry to each 0:59:39.480 --> 0:59:43.120 other don't touch her, don't don't touch her. 0:59:43.160 --> 0:59:45.360 Sleep. You say sorry, and Luna you say sorry. 0:59:45.360 --> 0:59:51.280 Okay, say sorry, Okay, say sorry, Luna say sorry. 0:59:51.120 --> 0:59:54.960 Luna, I say sorry. Give her hug. Give a hug. 0:59:55.120 --> 0:59:56.080 Both of you give hugs. 0:59:56.720 --> 1:00:04.680 Okay, So your best friends. 1:00:03.360 --> 1:00:05.120 Don't tell you she was sorry. 1:00:05.160 --> 1:00:10.760 Okay, Okay, baby, I know, baby. 1:00:11.960 --> 1:00:14.400 Nine, it's not watch your finger. Oh Okay. 1:00:14.400 --> 1:00:16.720 Also one other thing I wanna say about the the 1:00:16.760 --> 1:00:21.600 islander thing. Okay, See, there's an island. There's a small 1:00:21.640 --> 1:00:23.400 mass of land surrounded by water. 1:00:23.720 --> 1:00:24.040 Okay. 1:00:24.640 --> 1:00:29.959 If you put ten black people on a small island 1:00:30.000 --> 1:00:33.600 surrounded by water, and maybe there's three Europeans, it's gonna 1:00:33.640 --> 1:00:37.280 be easier to preserve your culture and have more more 1:00:37.320 --> 1:00:41.160 connection with your language because there's a larger number of 1:00:41.400 --> 1:00:43.960 people and there's less diluted by. 1:00:43.840 --> 1:00:46.160 The American or European or French culture. 1:00:46.640 --> 1:00:48.840 Now, if you take ten black people and you put 1:00:48.880 --> 1:00:52.240 them in America where there's forty five white people, it's 1:00:52.240 --> 1:00:55.440 gonna be easier for that other culture to infiltrate the 1:00:55.440 --> 1:01:00.800 black culture. So yes, Jamaicans, Dominicans, Haitians who overturned the 1:01:00.800 --> 1:01:05.640 government and actually got liberated way before African Americans, they 1:01:05.880 --> 1:01:10.160 have a stronger sense of it. It's a combination of cultures, 1:01:10.160 --> 1:01:13.480 but they have a stronger sense of like not voodoo, 1:01:13.520 --> 1:01:16.280 but yeah, they have a stronger sense of their their culture, 1:01:16.320 --> 1:01:19.200 their culture because it's easier tippers over culture on an 1:01:19.280 --> 1:01:21.880 island than it is a big, massive land that is 1:01:21.960 --> 1:01:24.160 diluting you and not letting you get educated and giving 1:01:24.160 --> 1:01:26.840 you the Bible with this blue eyed white Jesus. So, 1:01:28.320 --> 1:01:31.200 I mean, there's just like all these deep and then 1:01:31.240 --> 1:01:35.320 also think for America. For African American kids, the first 1:01:35.440 --> 1:01:39.840 thing we hear introduced for we're introduced in history books 1:01:39.880 --> 1:01:44.000 with slavery. We don't learn about our kingdoms in Africa. 1:01:44.080 --> 1:01:46.920 We don't learn about Keemen, we don't learn about the 1:01:47.000 --> 1:01:50.080 kings and queens and the riches that dwell there. We 1:01:50.200 --> 1:01:54.000 start our knowledge of ourselves as slaves. 1:01:55.000 --> 1:01:56.800 And that is a huge thing. 1:01:57.480 --> 1:02:00.200 How that negates, I mean not negates, or how that 1:02:00.280 --> 1:02:02.480 navigates how we feel about ourselves and what we know 1:02:02.560 --> 1:02:05.240 about our culture from the very jump. I think that's 1:02:05.240 --> 1:02:07.640 like in first or second grade, when fucking February rolls around, 1:02:07.680 --> 1:02:12.000 it's like slavery, Martin Luther King, You're free the end, 1:02:12.320 --> 1:02:17.000 smile bitch and be grateful you're here. We saved you. 1:02:17.000 --> 1:02:20.000 You could admit in Africa swatting flies and being hungry, 1:02:20.360 --> 1:02:22.480 and that's just so far from the truth. 1:02:22.960 --> 1:02:25.640 And unfortunately, like I had good parents that like I 1:02:25.720 --> 1:02:28.919 knew better, but like, unfortunately, there's a lot of people 1:02:28.960 --> 1:02:29.720 that don't know better. 1:02:29.960 --> 1:02:32.480 And so I try to be more sympathetic and I 1:02:32.520 --> 1:02:33.800 try to be like more. 1:02:34.440 --> 1:02:36.480 Like I want to communicate it with with people more 1:02:36.560 --> 1:02:37.760 so they're more in the know. 1:02:38.080 --> 1:02:42.120 But you know what, I wonder how white people feel 1:02:42.280 --> 1:02:48.080 about their people. They're very violent, no like how like 1:02:48.280 --> 1:02:51.200 no like, how like a white man would feel about 1:02:51.240 --> 1:02:54.000 a white woman saying I don't date white men, Like. 1:02:54.000 --> 1:02:55.880 Would they have this? Do they have the same reaction 1:02:56.000 --> 1:02:57.920 or they think it's funny. Well, I've heard. 1:02:57.720 --> 1:03:00.560 From my black from my from my non block friends 1:03:00.600 --> 1:03:02.680 that only dig black guys, that when they do get 1:03:02.680 --> 1:03:06.880 around other guys that are white, they're like disgusted that 1:03:06.880 --> 1:03:09.240 they've dated black men, Like, ill you let a black 1:03:09.280 --> 1:03:11.760 guy be inside you. But I think that's also goes 1:03:11.800 --> 1:03:13.640 with stereotypes because I think the black guys have big 1:03:13.680 --> 1:03:15.880 dicks and they assume they have little ones, which is 1:03:15.920 --> 1:03:16.800 also false. 1:03:16.920 --> 1:03:18.160 Not all black guys have big dicks. 1:03:18.160 --> 1:03:20.440 I've seen a little dick on a black guy, and 1:03:20.480 --> 1:03:22.160 I've seen a black white guy would have been dick. 1:03:22.280 --> 1:03:24.440 So you guys are stupid like that doesn't exist. But 1:03:24.480 --> 1:03:29.840 there is this pre you know, like there's just the stereotypes. 1:03:31.640 --> 1:03:35.680 I guess, would you marry a white man? Could you 1:03:35.680 --> 1:03:38.760 see yourself marry a white man? Yes? Okay, okay, I'm 1:03:38.880 --> 1:03:39.560 fifty to fifty. 1:03:40.000 --> 1:03:42.120 I would like to say I'm open enough and if 1:03:42.160 --> 1:03:44.560 someone actually, I know, if someone came into my life 1:03:44.600 --> 1:03:46.200 and swapped me off my feet and I was attracted 1:03:46.200 --> 1:03:48.320 to him and loved me and he digged me down absolutely, 1:03:49.040 --> 1:03:49.640 but and was. 1:03:49.640 --> 1:03:52.520 Open to letting you be who you are. Yeah, your opinions, Yes. 1:03:52.320 --> 1:03:54.840 And understood where I came from, and was you know, 1:03:54.920 --> 1:03:57.040 we could have real conversations, and I thought you weren't 1:03:57.040 --> 1:03:59.480 coming from an ignorant, like privileged white place. 1:03:59.520 --> 1:04:02.640 Absolutely. But what I was gonna say, Oh my god, 1:04:02.840 --> 1:04:04.280 I didn't even smell me today. I don't know why 1:04:04.280 --> 1:04:06.160 I can't have add like a motherfucker and he goes 1:04:06.200 --> 1:04:10.720 the doctor. There was something I was gonna say about 1:04:10.720 --> 1:04:17.800 this topic. Sorry, follow Sniffley, guys, I'm low key sick 1:04:17.880 --> 1:04:19.160 or allergic. I don't know what's happening. 1:04:19.600 --> 1:04:22.440 I would oh, okay, so okay. Another thing growing up 1:04:22.440 --> 1:04:25.520 in the valley. This is what I was gonna say. Okay, 1:04:25.600 --> 1:04:27.600 two of my best friends, one Israeli, one is Russia. 1:04:28.160 --> 1:04:29.720 She's feebly. Was so offended I said. 1:04:29.520 --> 1:04:32.720 This my Israeli friend. I've nor since I'm five. Bitches 1:04:32.800 --> 1:04:34.640 never dated a white guy. You would think her parents 1:04:34.640 --> 1:04:37.600 would have got it by now, the entire time he 1:04:37.640 --> 1:04:39.200 grew up until adulthood. 1:04:39.240 --> 1:04:42.760 Bitch is thirty. It's a thing preserves the Jews. It's 1:04:42.800 --> 1:04:44.520 not because they're black. It's because we want you to 1:04:44.560 --> 1:04:48.360 say Jewish. But she's not. She's not as real. The 1:04:48.520 --> 1:04:50.600 bitch has had a Christmas for your whole life. But 1:04:50.600 --> 1:04:55.400 but I'm just saying, like her mother is Dutch, Indonesian. 1:04:55.920 --> 1:04:57.680 But the mentality, this is what. 1:04:57.800 --> 1:04:59.440 This is where I used to have a different perspective, 1:04:59.480 --> 1:05:02.000 even my Russian friend. Till this day, I know how 1:05:02.000 --> 1:05:04.440 to say Tony Bailey, which is black and white and Russian, 1:05:04.480 --> 1:05:07.280 because I saw this bitch get beat over dating black 1:05:07.320 --> 1:05:09.360 guys in junior high, in high school, it was a 1:05:09.400 --> 1:05:12.920 thing amongst all of my friends because most of my 1:05:12.920 --> 1:05:16.040 friends weren't black in high school. Their cultures were like, 1:05:16.160 --> 1:05:19.440 it's not racist to say don't date black guys. It 1:05:19.560 --> 1:05:21.720 was just us saying this is our culture. This is 1:05:21.760 --> 1:05:24.160 how you're supposed to date and preserve the culture. And 1:05:24.200 --> 1:05:26.120 I thought it was racist, and it in some ways 1:05:26.120 --> 1:05:28.200 it probably is. And they would be like, what, Papa, 1:05:28.240 --> 1:05:31.920 what about Miles, my dad? Miles Black? Like it's different, 1:05:32.040 --> 1:05:32.760 it's different. 1:05:32.960 --> 1:05:36.080 You know, well it's different because you ain't Miles, right. 1:05:36.280 --> 1:05:41.200 But now as an adult, I understand. I can understand 1:05:42.080 --> 1:05:44.440 wanting to preserve your culture. I can under like, if 1:05:44.480 --> 1:05:46.440 we all mix, and how can we preserve on culture? 1:05:46.840 --> 1:05:48.840 It's okay to be like to say, like have pride 1:05:48.840 --> 1:05:49.720 in Well that's the cult. 1:05:49.720 --> 1:05:51.840 Culture is not a is not a color, and it's 1:05:51.920 --> 1:05:54.360 not a race. I know. So you just have to 1:05:54.520 --> 1:05:55.840 the way you preserve it is by. 1:05:55.920 --> 1:05:59.040 Knowing continue understanding it. I guess, I guess I can 1:05:59.040 --> 1:05:59.520 appreciate it. 1:05:59.520 --> 1:06:01.920 I think it's deeper than culture. For them, is it is. 1:06:01.960 --> 1:06:05.120 It's not culture, it's not racist, it's not about racism. 1:06:05.160 --> 1:06:08.919 Well it is, but it's more so like just the bloodline. Yeah, 1:06:09.000 --> 1:06:12.240 it's bloodlines. The blood line. So I think now I can. 1:06:12.480 --> 1:06:15.000 So that's why, Like, Okay, I do hate hashtags like 1:06:15.200 --> 1:06:18.160 mixed baby, but I can't understand hashtags like black girl, 1:06:18.240 --> 1:06:21.960 magic and black love because it's something that our culture 1:06:22.120 --> 1:06:24.880 or our as black people, we haven't been we haven't 1:06:24.920 --> 1:06:26.440 been promoted to preserve. 1:06:26.600 --> 1:06:27.720 It hasn't been a thing. 1:06:28.720 --> 1:06:31.000 I will say this that the reason why I think 1:06:31.000 --> 1:06:33.120 the mixed thing has been pushed so far is because 1:06:33.160 --> 1:06:35.960 of colorism in the Black community, where mixed people haven't 1:06:36.000 --> 1:06:36.640 been accepted. 1:06:36.840 --> 1:06:39.880 So they've had to identify it and embrace that, which 1:06:40.000 --> 1:06:40.520 which is fair. 1:06:40.560 --> 1:06:42.040 It's had to be like, you know what, well, fuck you, 1:06:42.280 --> 1:06:45.080 I'm mixed, the mixed Like I'm gonna get me my 1:06:45.160 --> 1:06:46.320 mixed chickpair products. 1:06:46.400 --> 1:06:50.400 What you understand? You know, so I do. If you 1:06:50.440 --> 1:06:52.360 guys are gonna be in here, you have to be quiet. 1:06:52.080 --> 1:06:55.200 Which I completely now as an adult, I can. I 1:06:55.200 --> 1:06:58.320 can understand it. And I think before that I was like, oh, 1:06:58.360 --> 1:07:00.640 you think you're mixed. You think you're more beautiful, or 1:07:00.640 --> 1:07:03.440 you're better, or this means some type of like this, 1:07:03.440 --> 1:07:06.040 this automatically means to you identify with some certain type 1:07:06.040 --> 1:07:08.080 of beautiful, But that doesn't necessarily. 1:07:07.640 --> 1:07:08.520 Mean you're attractive. 1:07:09.000 --> 1:07:11.720 So I do understand like wanting to say, hey, here 1:07:11.760 --> 1:07:13.280 we are and this is important. 1:07:13.320 --> 1:07:18.160 You know I read pushed please. Yeah. 1:07:18.480 --> 1:07:22.960 Yeah, so I will say I think I think it's 1:07:23.040 --> 1:07:27.040 just being able to embrace yourself and if you identify 1:07:27.080 --> 1:07:28.320 as a mixed woman, you know. 1:07:30.000 --> 1:07:32.320 More power. I don't have a problem. But but do 1:07:32.360 --> 1:07:33.560 you hashtag mixed woman? 1:07:33.880 --> 1:07:33.960 No? 1:07:34.720 --> 1:07:36.280 Do you hashtag I remixed baby? 1:07:36.760 --> 1:07:36.840 No? 1:07:37.040 --> 1:07:40.280 I look at our as a black child. I'm just joking. 1:07:41.520 --> 1:07:45.080 No, I've never hashtag myself is biracial, hashtag by racial 1:07:45.160 --> 1:07:52.600 hast I do hashtag Latina, and I do hashtag black romantic. Yeah, 1:07:52.760 --> 1:07:54.720 you guys, you guys, you guys gotta go in the 1:07:54.760 --> 1:07:55.160 other rooms. 1:07:55.160 --> 1:07:58.160 You're gonna be loud. Okay. The Goldie Dog he's in there. 1:07:58.360 --> 1:08:00.560 And I think that's okay. I think I think why 1:08:00.640 --> 1:08:01.120 be for the way? 1:08:01.120 --> 1:08:05.920 It's because living you guys, living in America, there has 1:08:06.040 --> 1:08:09.640 been such that dialogue is just now becoming okay and 1:08:09.800 --> 1:08:11.880 popular and and empowered. 1:08:13.520 --> 1:08:17.280 Bye, guys, get up, because I'm trying to tell you 1:08:17.360 --> 1:08:18.799 to hush baby, because I'm recording. 1:08:18.880 --> 1:08:22.080 You want to go because we're talking. 1:08:22.160 --> 1:08:25.559 Why are you trying to show out though you want 1:08:25.600 --> 1:08:28.599 to you wanna go outside. Do you wanna go out there? Yeah? 1:08:28.960 --> 1:08:33.240 Okay, guys go out there. Okay, we want to close 1:08:33.240 --> 1:08:39.800 the door. You guys go out there. Okay, yeah. I 1:08:40.000 --> 1:08:41.560 think you know what it is. 1:08:41.600 --> 1:08:43.719 It's just like saying like, okay, it's just like people 1:08:43.760 --> 1:08:46.040 saying black lives matter, and they're saying and then they're 1:08:46.040 --> 1:08:47.400 count they're counteractive by. 1:08:47.320 --> 1:08:50.839 Saying all lives matter. Well, black lives. 1:08:50.680 --> 1:08:54.080 Matter wouldn't be a thing if if it wasn't constantly 1:08:54.280 --> 1:08:55.919 a thing, you know what I'm saying. 1:08:55.720 --> 1:08:57.760 Like we could say black lives matter, we. 1:08:57.760 --> 1:08:59.639 Wouldn't have to have to say black lives matter, because 1:08:59.640 --> 1:09:02.360 it would have been it would have been you know, clear. 1:09:02.720 --> 1:09:06.200 But there's obviously there's obviously something that's off balance. And 1:09:06.360 --> 1:09:09.400 that's why I think I can understand like Black Girl 1:09:09.520 --> 1:09:12.599 Magic and Latina and and and and making making these 1:09:12.680 --> 1:09:17.719 brown and black women feel empowered because it's unfortunately, especially 1:09:17.720 --> 1:09:20.240 in the black community, it's mostly the black women that 1:09:20.400 --> 1:09:23.000 get swept under the carpet because you know, obviously black 1:09:23.040 --> 1:09:26.160 guys are in they got you know, that's that's what 1:09:26.240 --> 1:09:26.640 they've been in. 1:09:26.760 --> 1:09:28.599 I mean, they definitely have their own struggles for sure, 1:09:28.800 --> 1:09:33.519 of course, because the dog was smoky, is he Here's. 1:09:33.720 --> 1:09:36.400 No, here's god. Okay, little steps, step over it, go 1:09:36.520 --> 1:09:38.240 around it. Go sit on those chairs out there, Go 1:09:38.320 --> 1:09:40.320 tell me what they look like. Go relax on the 1:09:40.479 --> 1:09:45.120 on the chairs in front of the garage. Okay, my god, 1:09:45.200 --> 1:09:46.640 my child, So what would you look She's like, oh 1:09:46.680 --> 1:09:50.000 my god, I don't have shoes on. Your daughter's like 1:09:50.320 --> 1:09:50.960 mother nature. 1:09:51.600 --> 1:09:55.160 I strongly encourage you and your kids to walk outside 1:09:55.320 --> 1:09:58.040 barefoot as much as possible. It's called earthing. Connect with 1:09:58.120 --> 1:10:00.800 the earth, touch trees. It makes you you better, it 1:10:00.840 --> 1:10:03.920 makes you more clear, it gets a headaches. There's there's 1:10:03.960 --> 1:10:06.720 science that goes along with this rhetoric. So look into 1:10:06.760 --> 1:10:08.479 it and walk barefoot. It's not a white people thing. 1:10:08.880 --> 1:10:12.720 Meanwhile, I don't like my feet dirty wash the bitch 1:10:12.960 --> 1:10:14.160 rock's hurt. Oh my god. 1:10:14.200 --> 1:10:16.200 But then and then, like black people see white people 1:10:16.200 --> 1:10:17.680 in the supermarket bare friend, They're like, look at those 1:10:17.720 --> 1:10:18.120 white girls. 1:10:18.240 --> 1:10:20.120 Not a white people's shit. Yeah, Well, who the fuck 1:10:20.200 --> 1:10:21.160 goes to supermarket? 1:10:21.439 --> 1:10:23.840 Shoes I've seen I went to I went to Ocean 1:10:23.920 --> 1:10:26.240 Side and there was somebody in the market with no shoes, 1:10:26.240 --> 1:10:27.160 and I was gonna gag. 1:10:27.920 --> 1:10:29.920 But whatever, it's all different story. She's just one with 1:10:30.040 --> 1:10:32.680 the more earth, you know, earthing. She's earthing. Yeah, I 1:10:32.720 --> 1:10:35.960 call it earthing or grounding. These google it. It really cures. 1:10:36.200 --> 1:10:39.040 It cures people of things earthing and grounding. 1:10:39.080 --> 1:10:41.120 There's even this study I think it's on Netflix, and 1:10:41.200 --> 1:10:43.559 there's like a copper, a piece of copper that connects 1:10:43.600 --> 1:10:46.360 you the bottom of your feet to the soil at night, 1:10:46.400 --> 1:10:49.280 and it's slowly made people like get rid of ailments. 1:10:49.520 --> 1:10:52.599 So it's real. Look into it. Nature is our friend, 1:10:53.439 --> 1:10:55.719 like the Native Americans taught us. I agree, I agree. 1:10:56.040 --> 1:10:58.000 I just like my shoes when I'm outside, I feel 1:10:58.000 --> 1:11:00.479 it I could to fit on sand or grass. 1:11:00.840 --> 1:11:03.240 I'm really happy we had this conversation because I wanted 1:11:03.280 --> 1:11:04.400 to clear the air with. 1:11:04.520 --> 1:11:06.240 Any of our non black followers. 1:11:06.720 --> 1:11:08.960 So you don't think that I'm coming from a like 1:11:09.720 --> 1:11:11.360 hateful place, because I'm not. 1:11:12.520 --> 1:11:14.320 I do love people, and I do like my share 1:11:14.400 --> 1:11:17.040 of vanilla. You know what I'm saying. Because there's some 1:11:17.160 --> 1:11:20.680 sexy oh I'm speaking with. Oh no, he's married. I'm 1:11:20.720 --> 1:11:24.559 gonna just be cool. What Oh wait a celebrity? Yeah wow? 1:11:24.720 --> 1:11:30.000 Who Zoy Kravitz stepdad? Oh yeah, yeah, he's really sexy. 1:11:30.760 --> 1:11:33.559 Really sexy. He's not white though, I don't care whatever 1:11:34.160 --> 1:11:39.519 the Mermaian or whatever. Also Zoya Celtana his husband's finest. Fuck, 1:11:40.680 --> 1:11:42.439 there's a lot there's I mean, don't get a choice, 1:11:42.600 --> 1:11:46.920 don't Oh you know what else? If anybody knows him, Ricky. 1:11:46.880 --> 1:11:50.960 Yune he's Asian. Oh yeah, he's hot. I met him 1:11:51.000 --> 1:11:54.120 in Bahamas. What's he doing the hair shooting something? I 1:11:54.160 --> 1:11:54.439 don't know. 1:11:54.560 --> 1:11:56.240 He lied to me, said he's in the medical industry. 1:11:56.520 --> 1:11:58.320 I thought he was hitting on me, and he's like, 1:11:58.360 --> 1:11:58.960 go get your daughter. 1:11:58.960 --> 1:11:59.360 I really went. 1:11:59.520 --> 1:12:00.800 We sat in my see each other at the bar 1:12:00.920 --> 1:12:02.960 and I was like flirting my ass offers. I'm good 1:12:02.960 --> 1:12:04.760 at them. I'm like, how is your name? You want 1:12:04.800 --> 1:12:07.640 to sheeto Pepper? He was like briar. He's like. I 1:12:07.680 --> 1:12:08.519 was like, I was gonna be my daughter. 1:12:08.520 --> 1:12:09.920 They told me no kids. He's like, go get her, 1:12:10.000 --> 1:12:11.519 go get her. I'm like, no, I's liked, trust me, 1:12:12.280 --> 1:12:14.080 they know me here, go get her. I was like, 1:12:14.120 --> 1:12:17.360 oh my god, about to get a stepdaddy. I ran 1:12:17.479 --> 1:12:19.920 to this huge resort to get this kid, brushed her 1:12:19.960 --> 1:12:22.240 hair fast, came back and then his girlfriend was sitting 1:12:22.240 --> 1:12:27.080 next to him, so he played with the whole time though. 1:12:27.640 --> 1:12:29.720 He was like, look we can have a little one. Yeah. 1:12:29.840 --> 1:12:32.080 Well, I mean she was still unengaged. She paid for 1:12:32.160 --> 1:12:34.320 he paid for our dinner. It was at Nobu at 1:12:34.360 --> 1:12:36.280 Bahamas nice, and then he left. 1:12:36.320 --> 1:12:38.120 And I've been trying to creep into his dams ever since. 1:12:38.200 --> 1:12:40.000 But I don't really know what to say. Still he's 1:12:40.040 --> 1:12:40.840 ready to marry that girl. 1:12:40.840 --> 1:12:42.320 I don't think they're Is he married. I don't think 1:12:42.320 --> 1:12:44.439 he's married. But the whole point is I didn't get 1:12:44.479 --> 1:12:46.280 my chance because it was not fair. I felt he 1:12:46.400 --> 1:12:46.840 was flirting me. 1:12:46.920 --> 1:12:51.400 He's like, you're so cute. I was like, anyway, I 1:12:51.479 --> 1:12:53.400 love Charlie Hannam. Do you know who that is? No, 1:12:53.640 --> 1:12:55.960 he's from Sons of Anarchy. He was also in Not 1:12:56.080 --> 1:12:58.479 of Movies. He is fine. I think that is a 1:12:58.520 --> 1:13:02.240 real why man, they're super white, Yeah, the blonde. 1:13:03.760 --> 1:13:06.040 Also from the the the guy from This is Us, 1:13:06.600 --> 1:13:08.560 the the actor, the guy who plays the actor and 1:13:08.600 --> 1:13:08.920 this is Us. 1:13:08.920 --> 1:13:12.720 I don't know what was namebody's finest Fuck? What this 1:13:12.840 --> 1:13:19.600 is is a great show. See she's my child? Is 1:13:19.920 --> 1:13:27.720 it hurts your feet? Okay, babe, Okay, we're gonna wrap 1:13:27.760 --> 1:13:28.040 this up. 1:13:28.080 --> 1:13:30.439 Do you have any we have any advice things. So now, 1:13:30.560 --> 1:13:35.200 anyone's smitten? Any No, I don't think so, Okay, don't walk? 1:13:37.760 --> 1:13:46.120 Okay, he did? How the house? Okay? One second, baby, 1:13:46.200 --> 1:13:49.880 we're wrapping this up. Yes, I. 1:13:51.920 --> 1:13:54.640 I have you have. 1:13:56.320 --> 1:14:01.200 Real closer? No, no, roll closer outside? Okay. Anyway, you guys, 1:14:01.240 --> 1:14:02.559 thanks for tuning in tonight. 1:14:03.360 --> 1:14:09.439 If you have any insight on today's topic, old maybe 1:14:09.560 --> 1:14:12.360 one second, we'd really like to know your insight on 1:14:12.520 --> 1:14:15.960 your your experience with interracial dating. I know we are 1:14:16.240 --> 1:14:17.799 somewhat biased because I'm. 1:14:17.680 --> 1:14:20.759 Black and she's half black, but we try to like honestly, 1:14:21.200 --> 1:14:23.320 I'm not that experienced in a racial dating I've never 1:14:23.400 --> 1:14:24.440 really dated interracially. 1:14:24.479 --> 1:14:26.000 I have only every day with black men. I've had 1:14:26.040 --> 1:14:27.680 sex with white men, but I've never dated them. 1:14:28.040 --> 1:14:29.920 So if you have any tips on how a bitch 1:14:29.960 --> 1:14:32.320 could open up her in a racial dating life, I 1:14:32.400 --> 1:14:34.200 feel like black men are the ones that are attracted 1:14:34.240 --> 1:14:36.080 to me. Very rarely do I feel white men are 1:14:36.120 --> 1:14:37.560 hitting on me, or maybe I'm just not aware of it. 1:14:38.680 --> 1:14:42.439 Let me know, and maybe you need I need to 1:14:42.479 --> 1:14:43.559 take some tips for your Jamila. 1:14:45.240 --> 1:14:49.360 I know all the white men trips me tips. Yeah, 1:14:51.240 --> 1:14:53.720 but anyway, thanks for tuning in. Guys, do you guys? Hey, 1:14:53.800 --> 1:14:56.240 you guys want to come say bye? Comes, say bye? 1:14:57.320 --> 1:14:59.000 You come here? 1:15:01.400 --> 1:15:03.679 Yeah, say one, say bye. 1:15:03.520 --> 1:15:11.280 On three okay here They would tack one shoes, three shoes, bye. 1:15:12.880 --> 1:15:13.800 Bye, catching. 1:15:17.120 --> 1:15:21.400 Us and spaces when your food comes fars with your faces. 1:15:22.880 --> 1:15:24.719 I'm not gonna spend my life being a color. 1:15:25.479 --> 1:15:28.600 You agree with me when I saw your dirt in 1:15:28.760 --> 1:15:36.800 my arms, my baby, don't know if you're black. 1:15:42.840 --> 1:15:45.160 Baby, don't if you're black. 1:15:50.920 --> 1:15:53.479 My brother, it don't mad if your black