WEBVTT - Creative Ways to Advance Your Career (How-To Monday) 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.480 Hey, hey, bee fam, I'm so excited to bring you 0:00:02.520 --> 0:00:06.280 another how To throwback. I hope you guys enjoy this, 0:00:06.640 --> 0:00:09.639 and while you're listening, don't be shy. Leave us a review. 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:12.000 We will read them on the show. And yeah, we 0:00:12.160 --> 0:00:15.680 just love y'all so much. Okay, here is our how 0:00:15.720 --> 0:00:25.400 To episode for this week. Welcome to this studio and 0:00:25.600 --> 0:00:27.120 a banana. 0:00:27.320 --> 0:00:31.000 Hi. What are you doing cause I'm doing great? How 0:00:31.000 --> 0:00:31.400 are you? 0:00:31.960 --> 0:00:32.519 I'm fine? 0:00:32.720 --> 0:00:33.920 Yeah? Yeah. 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:36.920 Our relationship is kind of like I feel like for 0:00:37.000 --> 0:00:40.720 each of us, you know, actually it's like the opposite 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:44.320 of what they say, like when you're drowning and someone 0:00:44.360 --> 0:00:46.960 comes to save you, but like they kind of push 0:00:47.000 --> 0:00:50.760 you down with the you know and stop it. I 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:54.040 was gonna say, we're the opposite will be when we're together, 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:57.639 we're both trying to lift each other up. Now, if 0:00:57.680 --> 0:00:59.720 you want to get into it, by lifting you up 0:00:59.760 --> 0:01:03.640 some times does feel like taking you down just because 0:01:04.560 --> 0:01:07.360 insult her language. 0:01:07.600 --> 0:01:10.000 I mean, yeah, yeah, yeah, language. I'm going to believe 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:12.360 my whole life, so this is just your way of 0:01:12.440 --> 0:01:14.520 loving me, and I'm creat she don't believe her. 0:01:14.600 --> 0:01:16.319 She's not a bit. She gives it as good as 0:01:16.319 --> 0:01:18.680 she gets Okay, she gives it as good as she gets. 0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:21.760 So for the Brown ambition audience, why do I have 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:23.960 Anna on the show? I'm going to do a live 0:01:24.160 --> 0:01:26.319 kind of I want to do a live career coaching 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:29.360 session with Anna, but first I want to give some backstory. 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:32.920 So Anna is ten years younger than me. Wee and 0:01:32.920 --> 0:01:35.360 I have agent, but she's in her mid twenties, which 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:39.160 means you know what I am. Anyway, I used to baby, 0:01:39.200 --> 0:01:41.760 said Anna when she was just over the toll, twelve 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:46.560 year old peanut in my pocket. And now, well a 0:01:46.600 --> 0:01:52.360 decade later, it was the pandemic, right, I was obviously struggling. 0:01:52.400 --> 0:01:55.200 I had a baby, a newborn, and I was trying 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:59.880 to like balance that with working. Couldn't have childcare because 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:03.240 everything seemed too dangerous, so I was doing I was 0:02:03.240 --> 0:02:05.960 like breastfeeding, having the baby at home. 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:09.720 So I was living back home and I was in Georgia, 0:02:09.800 --> 0:02:13.480 and I was just having like the worst mental everything. 0:02:13.760 --> 0:02:17.320 Nothing was working. I was just not happy. I was 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:20.640 very like, I was just like a mess. But then 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:24.840 Nandy just called me out of the blue, No, yahay, 0:02:25.360 --> 0:02:28.679 every Thursday I was worried about you. I was so yeah, 0:02:29.200 --> 0:02:31.280 and I'm in the world and I and I just 0:02:31.320 --> 0:02:33.600 hated whenever, like someone has to worry about them because 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:37.359 I'm like, damn and that, like, am I that fragile? 0:02:37.520 --> 0:02:40.360 But you know, your love really did show through. And 0:02:40.600 --> 0:02:43.840 I told you to get down the ups and the downs, 0:02:43.880 --> 0:02:47.600 more downs and ups. And then I think we both 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:51.160 asked ourselves the same questions, like you were trying to 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:53.200 warm me up to the idea of moving, and I 0:02:53.240 --> 0:02:55.400 was like, I was like, I need to get out 0:02:55.440 --> 0:02:58.120 of the state. I need to leave. And then it 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:00.480 just happened where we're like, Okay, we're gonna do this. 0:03:00.960 --> 0:03:03.400 And then I said when it was so funny because 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:04.359 it was around. 0:03:04.080 --> 0:03:05.640 I felt like I was plotting on you, but you 0:03:05.639 --> 0:03:06.240 were planning on. 0:03:06.320 --> 0:03:08.800 I was plotting on you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, we were. 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:12.560 I don't know because you have a husband. I wasn't 0:03:12.600 --> 0:03:14.799 trying to You were like, please a DoPT. 0:03:14.840 --> 0:03:16.760 Well you were living with one of our what with 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:19.120 your auntie on your mom's side, so not my auntie anyway, 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:22.760 and you were I remember, forget this phone call when 0:03:22.760 --> 0:03:23.359 you called. 0:03:23.160 --> 0:03:28.240 Me and you're like, I can't. 0:03:28.639 --> 0:03:30.720 You're twenty two, so you're doing a lot of twenty 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:32.480 You were at the time anyway, right, twenty. 0:03:32.280 --> 0:03:35.200 Two, twenty three, twenty two, yeah, twenty time. 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:37.720 But at the time you were like doing what door 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:39.040 dash you had time. 0:03:39.360 --> 0:03:42.320 I was doing Instacar. I was working on Amazon. 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:45.640 Oh the he warehouse home good. 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:49.040 Oh my god, I was working. I was working. 0:03:49.200 --> 0:03:50.920 But you ain't never not worked, you know what I mean. 0:03:50.920 --> 0:03:52.240 You ain't never not a working girl. 0:03:52.440 --> 0:03:56.560 Yes, yeah, I was all there. 0:03:56.760 --> 0:03:59.360 Okay, but at this time I remember because I remember 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:01.160 when I really I was already worried about you because 0:04:01.200 --> 0:04:02.680 I could tell when I was talking to you that 0:04:02.720 --> 0:04:04.720 you were struggling. That's why I was like, I think 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:07.080 that in the spring before, I was like, we're going 0:04:07.160 --> 0:04:08.880 to talk every Thursday at nine pm. Put it on 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:13.480 the calendar. We're doing it, And we did anyway, and 0:04:13.520 --> 0:04:15.240 I just I just wanted to like keep you know, 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:17.719 I couldn't see you, so I just wanted to like 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:19.440 at least talk to you so I could be sure 0:04:19.440 --> 0:04:23.520 that you're okay. So anyway, we we only all I'll 0:04:23.560 --> 0:04:26.160 say you yeah. Ever since I was like I fell 0:04:26.200 --> 0:04:28.200 in love with you and with Ariel and RJ and 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:30.520 all that, but I mean like really fell in love, 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:34.919 Like oh this is my like my bonus family. Yeah, 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:37.400 but you're not always so close with cousins anyhow. So 0:04:37.440 --> 0:04:39.000 we had this connection. I could tell when you were 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:42.080 off and so I we met all summer long and 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:44.039 then this in the in the fall, we were like, 0:04:44.760 --> 0:04:46.640 I gotta I'm going to join this. What were you 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:47.880 going to sell kitchen knives? 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:51.240 She's like, it's okay, I got a top. 0:04:51.240 --> 0:04:53.239 I'm gonna try. I'm I'm gonna start my own business. 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:54.679 I'm gonna sell knives. 0:04:56.760 --> 0:04:58.760 And it was a scam. It was a scam. 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:01.400 It was an mL it was a multi level marketing. 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:03.160 It was like one of those pyramid scheme type things. 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:04.480 People will probably there were. 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:08.160 So many that were hitting me up there, you won't date. 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:09.640 I was globle. 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:12.240 You want to make money overnight, you want to own 0:05:12.279 --> 0:05:14.839 your work hours, you can work from home. 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:16.000 You know. 0:05:16.440 --> 0:05:20.680 You're like yeah, yeah, because you want some value. Yeah. 0:05:20.720 --> 0:05:22.600 So they got you, and thank god you told me 0:05:22.839 --> 0:05:25.599 because I was like, right now, we need to, Like 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:26.960 I felt like. 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:30.000 I was in trouble. She's like absolutely, okay. 0:05:30.839 --> 0:05:32.679 So because you were going to buy like a bunch 0:05:32.720 --> 0:05:33.640 of knives. 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:34.799 And have it just didn't make sense. 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:37.360 Sitting house and you're the interview. 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:40.159 I was doing the interview like on my on my 0:05:40.200 --> 0:05:43.000 little tiny desk with like fifteen other people, and I 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:46.160 was like, what is this? Yeah, and then yeah it 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:48.720 was Yeah, it was a hot mess dot com. 0:05:48.760 --> 0:05:50.479 So we had this conversation and I was like, yeah, 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:53.000 I'm really struggling with this, and I already was scheming. 0:05:53.120 --> 0:05:56.080 I'm like, wouldn't it be perfect if Anna just could 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:59.599 be here like here, I could keep an eye on 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:02.440 her because somehow I'm working on this too. I want 0:06:02.480 --> 0:06:05.320 to like protect and fix everybody. I don't have to 0:06:05.360 --> 0:06:06.640 do that. But at the time, I was like, I 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:08.280 can keep an eye on her because I'm really worried 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:11.400 about her. And also I think she would really enjoy 0:06:11.440 --> 0:06:13.920 watching my child for me so that I could start 0:06:13.960 --> 0:06:17.160 my new job. And we had the conversation and I 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:19.920 was like, so, I mean and I. 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:21.400 Was like, so, you know, I. 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:23.480 Feel like what you really need is like you'd be 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:26.279 great helping a family who just you know, was working 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:29.479 really hard and just had trouble finding childcare during the pandemic, 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:32.560 like and you were like, yeah, that sounds like a 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:35.320 good idea. And I said, do you know anybody like 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:36.560 that that you can think of? 0:06:37.120 --> 0:06:38.120 And your little voice. 0:06:38.960 --> 0:06:43.960 Well like you, I'm like, yeah, thank you for offering, 0:06:44.279 --> 0:06:46.159 you know, a great idea. 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:49.840 That was the funniest conversation. And I was like I 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:52.560 was plotting on you. I was like, oh, how's your 0:06:52.600 --> 0:06:56.080 upstairs bedroom looking like it's vacant? 0:06:56.520 --> 0:06:58.920 It saved both of our lives, no, for real, right, 0:06:59.080 --> 0:06:59.400 it did? 0:06:59.520 --> 0:07:00.800 It did for sure? 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:04.600 Yeah. So cut to and when you moved in. Of course, 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:10.680 again because I have a bit of a like fixer personality, 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:14.520 and you know, you were you were not finished with 0:07:14.560 --> 0:07:18.120 like college, your degree, no job and all that. So 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:20.720 I was like, also, while you were here, let's let's 0:07:20.720 --> 0:07:25.520 have some personal finance conversations. Let's you know, really untangle 0:07:25.600 --> 0:07:31.200 you from that uncle. 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:31.880 Yeah. 0:07:32.040 --> 0:07:34.800 Yeah, so Anna's yeah, you talk a little bit about that. 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:37.720 Where you were in terms of like you were twenty yeah, 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:40.560 you were like twenty three. But also you were like 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:45.040 with your relationship with your father, not feeling financially free. 0:07:44.880 --> 0:07:48.840 Right, yeah, Like I just grew up of he hands 0:07:48.880 --> 0:07:52.120 me money and then I deal with it. So whenever 0:07:52.160 --> 0:07:56.160 I had like my financial struggles, he would always have 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:59.640 like a string attached to whatever dollar is behind it. 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:02.240 So I was just very exhausted and tire trying to 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:05.040 chase what he's giving me. And then I have to 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:08.600 this mental load that I had to pay him for 0:08:08.680 --> 0:08:12.600 the price of whatever amount of dollars. And I remember 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:17.640 when I moved to you, he cut me off financially 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:20.720 and this owed me and all this extra stuff. So 0:08:20.880 --> 0:08:24.240 my mental health was like down was down the street. 0:08:24.360 --> 0:08:25.360 It was terrible. 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:28.000 And can you be specific when you say you had 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:29.600 to pay him for the money, like what were the 0:08:29.640 --> 0:08:30.360 strings attached? 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:35.280 It would just be his controlling ways when it comes 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:40.400 to finances, like if I maybe had an attitude, he 0:08:40.480 --> 0:08:42.120 was like, well I do X y Z for you, 0:08:42.440 --> 0:08:43.840 and you're going to do this to me after I 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:47.160 gave you this amount of money for school, or just 0:08:47.200 --> 0:08:50.199 like just being his daughter, just asking for money here 0:08:50.200 --> 0:08:53.600 and there. It's always like an issue or problem. So 0:08:54.120 --> 0:08:57.080 that's whenever I just I wanted to stop asking him 0:08:57.120 --> 0:08:59.200 for money completely. So that's why I was working those 0:08:59.720 --> 0:09:03.680 those numerous jobs just to get myself together. And then 0:09:04.200 --> 0:09:06.319 you know, my mental health is just taking a toll 0:09:06.520 --> 0:09:09.720 for you know, all the finances that had to deal 0:09:09.720 --> 0:09:12.559 with that with him and myself because you know, I'm 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:16.720 a little price sy. I noticed he was spoiled for 0:09:16.800 --> 0:09:17.240 a price. 0:09:17.760 --> 0:09:20.680 But yeah, and also it was to the point where 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:22.679 he it was like, I'll pay for school, but you 0:09:22.720 --> 0:09:24.640 got to study what I think is a good degree. 0:09:24.760 --> 0:09:29.680 Yes, right, yeah, yeah, totally, So that level of control. Yeah, 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:32.440 and then the thing about me, I just I don't 0:09:32.440 --> 0:09:35.880 do well with control like that, Like I I'll just 0:09:35.920 --> 0:09:39.719 stop everything if I don't. I just don't feel like 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:42.160 you should live your life for your parents, and I 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:43.200 learned that the hard way. 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:45.440 Well you were, and I mean, like it was so 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:48.000 heartbreaking to see. I mean how tough it was for you. 0:09:48.240 --> 0:09:49.680 What do you think are the biggest changes that have 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:53.040 happened since you moved in with me? For those who 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:55.000 are watching on YouTube, you might be able to note 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:58.959 the most significant change. We're not in the same place. 0:10:01.600 --> 0:10:05.280 Why I was able to moz out. I have a 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:08.679 lovely roommate. She's great, But it was just so nice 0:10:08.720 --> 0:10:11.120 to buy things with money that I worked hard for 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:14.960 and earned. And I just feel like the hard work 0:10:15.000 --> 0:10:18.199 really did pay off. And I appreciate you your skin. 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:20.319 Over the hard work. What have you accomplished. 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:24.120 Let's let's stity with it, girl. Okay, okay, I'm just 0:10:24.160 --> 0:10:27.000 get me over Yeah, definitely my mental health for sure. 0:10:27.960 --> 0:10:31.360 I received so much healing from the past, like year, 0:10:31.800 --> 0:10:33.959 two years, almost. 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:36.559 Three three, Yeah, I mean three years. 0:10:36.320 --> 0:10:39.840 I almost a big three. But yeah, I've seen a 0:10:39.920 --> 0:10:42.960 huge turnout from my mental health about you know, how 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:46.480 I felt about myself boundaries. That was a huge thing 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:48.760 that I had to develop. I didn't have any like, 0:10:49.200 --> 0:10:52.440 especially with my parents. Whatever they said when I didn't care, 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:54.920 like they didn't care if I didn't so comfortable. I 0:10:54.920 --> 0:10:56.920 didn't care if I didn't so comfortable. I just did 0:10:56.920 --> 0:10:59.880 what I was told. So whenever I was this song, 0:11:00.240 --> 0:11:02.320 I was like, all right, if I'm really disowned, I'm 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:06.439 gonna do what I what I please, and well in 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:10.280 a respectful way. It took me a long devastated. I 0:11:10.440 --> 0:11:14.839 was heartbroken. Yeah, and then you know therapy. 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:17.000 You know what, but listen for those who are But 0:11:17.200 --> 0:11:19.679 did he actually it was a no. 0:11:20.280 --> 0:11:23.400 It lasted three I think it lasted three months. And 0:11:23.400 --> 0:11:25.240 then he said, how are you doing? I was like, 0:11:25.360 --> 0:11:25.760 I was, so. 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:29.920 You're like, yeah, so try to survive without this cute face, 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:31.599 this incredible. 0:11:33.200 --> 0:11:35.800 Daughter. You got keen, you can't never get rid of me. 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:37.400 I got. I got off of everything. 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:39.200 He didn't need a car anymore. He owned the car you. 0:11:40.040 --> 0:11:42.120 As soon as I moved here, he sold my car 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:44.360 and I was like, that's fine, I don't need it. 0:11:45.320 --> 0:11:47.600 And then he was more upset that I didn't care. 0:11:47.760 --> 0:11:49.679 I was like, okay, that's fine. 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:51.839 And he had it was that was what he did. 0:11:52.000 --> 0:11:53.280 A tantrum he. 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:55.400 Did, and then I think he hit you up and 0:11:55.559 --> 0:11:58.360 was very very angry towards you about it. 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:02.080 So let's move into the career and finance side. What 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:06.160 kind of what kind of like strides have you made? 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:08.320 Because you came here in no full time job, no 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:13.480 job period, not the knives thing, and no money of 0:12:13.520 --> 0:12:16.880 your own, So like, when did you start taking no strides? 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:19.319 What are the big accomplishments you've made? 0:12:19.600 --> 0:12:22.720 I think at that time, whenever I was hoping, I was, 0:12:23.280 --> 0:12:27.120 you know, your lovely son, my godson. I was really 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:30.920 ready to just start working again to make money for myself, 0:12:30.960 --> 0:12:34.280 to move out, to say to you know, spend things 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:37.160 on myself, to give back to you guys with whatever 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:42.920 is needed, you know. And then I found a job 0:12:43.200 --> 0:12:48.360 doing executive assisting work for this unknown fashion and jewelry company. 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:52.880 That was the worst. 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:52.839 Touch on that later, but you needed a like a 0:12:53.840 --> 0:12:57.520 non part time, like a retail part you wanted, you wanted. 0:12:57.240 --> 0:12:59.720 Like I wanted full time. I wanted to hit the 0:12:59.760 --> 0:13:00.480 ground running. 0:13:00.520 --> 0:13:03.160 But and you who were like, what's your degree in? 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:07.839 What? Healthcare administration? Yeah, health care administration. 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:11.400 We got you a LinkedIn page, right, remember that. Yes, 0:13:11.920 --> 0:13:13.920 I'm trying to tell y'all. Anna is a boomer in 0:13:14.000 --> 0:13:18.880 a Generation Z suit body like you. And it's just like, 0:13:18.960 --> 0:13:21.960 here's your a ARP card, here's your handicap. 0:13:21.960 --> 0:13:25.000 I grew up sheltered. I grew up sheltered. So I 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:26.839 was like, what is this, Like she's more Gen Z 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.360 than me. Yeah, I just know the terms, but she 0:13:29.440 --> 0:13:34.360 knows like the logistics, she knows the you know, technology. 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:36.520 All right, So you got a LinkedIn page. It was 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:38.400 like you need a presence, so we put some job 0:13:38.440 --> 0:13:42.400 experience there. Yeah, we said that you were my assistant. 0:13:43.200 --> 0:13:45.440 Don't ever ask me for a reference because. 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:49.839 That's too late. You weren't the best, you weren't. I 0:13:49.880 --> 0:13:51.839 was dealing with so much mental it's like, yeah, you're 0:13:51.880 --> 0:13:52.599 my assistant. 0:13:52.880 --> 0:13:53.560 She's like what. 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:56.520 So I was just so overwhelmed, and I was like, 0:13:56.600 --> 0:13:59.000 I did not what you said slack. I said, what 0:13:59.160 --> 0:14:04.800 is slack. She did, she wouldn't be my idea, and 0:14:04.960 --> 0:14:07.240 I don't know, I couldn't I know, I. 0:14:07.200 --> 0:14:08.520 Know, try to do my email. 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:12.600 She was just one and slack. 0:14:12.679 --> 0:14:15.640 I was like, so, just you focus on the babies. 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:20.760 I'll give you the title my admin. Anyway, but you 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:23.800 got a job assisting and then from but that point 0:14:23.880 --> 0:14:25.760 is you had something on your resume, and then from 0:14:25.800 --> 0:14:28.680 there then you got the job you did like a 0:14:28.680 --> 0:14:31.800 lot more. Well, actually you that job was so toxic 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:32.320 that you quit? 0:14:32.960 --> 0:14:36.360 It was? It was, yeah, it was so Me and 0:14:36.400 --> 0:14:39.600 my roommate we worked at the same job before and 0:14:39.640 --> 0:14:41.800 then she quit a little bit before me. It was 0:14:41.840 --> 0:14:44.600 just such a toxic work environment and nothing was getting done, 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:46.840 and I was like, I want to put my efforts 0:14:46.880 --> 0:14:49.760 into something else that would appreciate me. So you know, 0:14:49.840 --> 0:14:51.920 when I quit, I shouldn't have done that. That was 0:14:51.920 --> 0:14:56.240 not smart. Why do you say, but I did, because, 0:14:56.280 --> 0:14:58.000 like I was, I didn't have a job for like 0:14:58.040 --> 0:14:59.720 maybe a month. When I tell you, I was a 0:14:59.800 --> 0:15:03.200 ply into a to z jobs more like to the 0:15:03.280 --> 0:15:06.440 day I woke up to like at night, I was applying. 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:10.080 Interviews were happening, but they weren't good enough or just 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:11.000 it wasn't the right fit. 0:15:11.520 --> 0:15:16.600 And then my current scam kind of like LinkedIn messages, what. 0:15:16.640 --> 0:15:20.680 Do people do that as like people are like strog. 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:22.720 Going all the way to Manhattan to find out it 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:24.000 was like what was the thing where they sent you 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:26.800 home with a big textbook, like a real estate textbook. 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:29.160 They wanted you to. 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:32.880 I honestly wanted to forget that happened, and for you 0:15:32.920 --> 0:15:34.480 to bring that up is very triggering. 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:36.880 I'm so sorry, but you went through it, and honestly 0:15:36.920 --> 0:15:39.320 a month doesn't see that. But I'm interested. You said 0:15:39.320 --> 0:15:42.120 it was a bad idea to quit. Yes, it was 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:43.880 at the time. I'm not going to lie I was. 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:46.480 I was a little worried. I'm like, yes you were, 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:48.440 but I was trying to let you do your own thing, 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:51.240 you know what I mean. And honestly, I don't think 0:15:51.240 --> 0:15:54.560 it was a mistake because a couple months later you 0:15:54.640 --> 0:15:57.600 got the job in the SPA, right, and you just 0:15:57.600 --> 0:15:59.720 found that on LinkedIn? Is that right or indeed or something? 0:15:59.760 --> 0:16:02.000 I'm in one bed and it was just it looks 0:16:02.040 --> 0:16:06.480 sketchy applying for it, but I was like, you know what, everything. 0:16:05.600 --> 0:16:08.840 Like, yes, it hadn't opened yet. It was a news. 0:16:08.720 --> 0:16:11.920 It was a break. It was in the it was 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:16.440 being built as I was applying. So whenever I got 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:20.440 the job, interview OV and I was like, oh, can 0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:22.880 I see the spot. It was like construction walls. There 0:16:22.960 --> 0:16:25.720 was wood exposed, and they said, yeah, this is it. 0:16:25.840 --> 0:16:31.920 I said, I see the potential. And I think after 0:16:31.960 --> 0:16:34.280 the interview went well, and then you told me to 0:16:34.280 --> 0:16:37.600 write a letter to you know, show my appreciation, and 0:16:37.800 --> 0:16:41.080 at first forget I remember now. 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:42.880 I remember I dropped you off to give them the 0:16:42.920 --> 0:16:43.560 thank you note. 0:16:43.800 --> 0:16:47.320 Yeah you did, and I think it was like it 0:16:47.400 --> 0:16:50.000 was like a nice little card. It was yellow. It 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:52.560 was like a yellow flower, yellows your your brand, I 0:16:52.600 --> 0:16:56.720 see you know. Yeah. And then I got the call 0:16:56.800 --> 0:16:59.000 that I got the job, and I was so ecstatic. 0:16:59.080 --> 0:17:01.920 When I tell you, I was struggling financially. I was. 0:17:02.120 --> 0:17:05.120 I was living off my savings. Like I think one 0:17:05.160 --> 0:17:07.320 time I didn't have enough for two pays if I 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:09.600 didn't want to go into my I mean I. 0:17:09.600 --> 0:17:12.080 Think I started to ask you to pay rent because 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:13.760 I was frin to get you a little ready for 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:15.879 the real world. I was going to do that thing 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:17.480 where you just put the money aside and give it 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:20.000 back to you at the end of yeah, but that's 0:17:20.000 --> 0:17:21.359 when you quit, and I was like, oh, so the 0:17:21.400 --> 0:17:22.520 renting she really. 0:17:22.280 --> 0:17:25.199 Got to stop. But no, I felt like such a 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:27.080 loser because I was like, why would I do that 0:17:27.200 --> 0:17:30.280 with that like a plan B. And I was just 0:17:30.320 --> 0:17:36.480 like I was so scared and so like eager to know, 0:17:36.560 --> 0:17:38.920 like what's next, what's the next move? Like what can 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:41.399 you do? And then you know, I got the I 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:43.280 got the call, I got the job, and I was like, 0:17:43.320 --> 0:17:47.000 all right, I can relax a little bit more. And 0:17:47.040 --> 0:17:48.520 then well. 0:17:48.760 --> 0:17:50.600 I'm gonna we're gonna take a quick break. But before 0:17:50.600 --> 0:17:52.920 we do, I want to just kind of like round 0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:55.000 out that phase because I feel like for you, it 0:17:55.119 --> 0:17:58.480 was about listen, your dad chose your major right health 0:17:58.480 --> 0:18:01.119 care and admin, which which isn't a bad major. I 0:18:01.119 --> 0:18:04.919 think it's obviously a hot field. It's a it's on 0:18:05.000 --> 0:18:07.199 the come up, and you got to you still kept up, 0:18:07.240 --> 0:18:10.760 like with your studies virtually while you were working full time. 0:18:11.320 --> 0:18:14.440 But at the same time, you knew you didn't want 0:18:14.440 --> 0:18:17.440 to like work in a hospital, like just like at 0:18:17.480 --> 0:18:19.399 a desk, you know what I mean. But you did 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:22.840 have this interest in beauty and care, which I feel 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:25.240 like is something that you know, you go to a 0:18:25.280 --> 0:18:26.719 controlling dad and you're like, hey, I want to work 0:18:26.720 --> 0:18:30.640 in the spa beauty industry and he's like, what is that. 0:18:30.840 --> 0:18:33.440 It's woman's stuff. It can't be good, it can't be lucrative. 0:18:34.200 --> 0:18:38.320 Police but it made it was like the whenever I'm 0:18:38.359 --> 0:18:42.040 helping someone and coaching them through like a pivot or 0:18:42.119 --> 0:18:45.000 trying to figure out how do I make a career 0:18:45.040 --> 0:18:47.600 that I love out of a couple out of like 0:18:47.680 --> 0:18:49.840 the job history that I have, which I don't love. 0:18:50.320 --> 0:18:52.600 And it's like not exactly like there's not like a 0:18:52.720 --> 0:18:55.600 lateral like a connection, you know, but for you, there's 0:18:55.720 --> 0:18:58.360 enough there, like you know, the admin side and healthcare 0:18:58.920 --> 0:19:02.359 and spas med spas especially. It's not that different people 0:19:02.359 --> 0:19:07.720 aren't using insurance cushit cough for the most part. No, right, 0:19:08.240 --> 0:19:11.080 but and it like it worked for you and it 0:19:11.119 --> 0:19:13.320 has been working for you. But Okay, I'm gonna leave 0:19:13.320 --> 0:19:14.719