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Speaker 1: All right, it is time now for today's Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: and if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex,

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Speaker 1: parenting and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve

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Speaker 1: we're going to read this one right here, right now.

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Speaker 1: And you never know because it could be yours. This

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Speaker 1: could be the one right here that you wrote. All right,

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Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen, it is time for the Strawberry Letter

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Speaker 1: with my great friend, Shirley Strawberry. Thank you, Junior, my

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Speaker 1: great friend too. Subject my man, his band and his band.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen, Shirley, I've been dating a musician for almost

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Speaker 1: two years, and he's so different from anyone I've ever dated.

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Speaker 1: We met at an engagement party and the bride to

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Speaker 1: be begged me to give him a chance. He is

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Speaker 1: a black hippie that sings R and B cover songs.

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Speaker 1: Wrap your mind around that. He has a three piece band,

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Speaker 1: all female. He had a most beautiful smile and I

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Speaker 1: was really attracted to his fluffy beard, so I decided

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Speaker 1: to give him a try. He teaches high school and

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Speaker 1: he performs on the weekends. I'm an executive assistant, so

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Speaker 1: our worlds collide in the way we dress and how

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Speaker 1: we spend our free time. He likes that I am different,

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Speaker 1: and he calls me miss Uppity all the time. He

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Speaker 1: used to drive to nearby sights to perform, and I

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Speaker 1: would ride with him when it was just me and him.

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Speaker 1: Then he decided he needed a van so he could

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Speaker 1: provide transportation for his band. I thought he was putting

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Speaker 1: an awful lot into his side gig, but I let

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Speaker 1: him be. I stopped traveling with him because I was

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Speaker 1: not going to ride with three other females whose conversation

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Speaker 1: was like talking to third graders. His van needs a

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Speaker 1: lot of work, and I was worried that he was

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Speaker 1: going to break down on the highway one day, and

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Speaker 1: he did. I went to get him, and he wanted

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Speaker 1: the girls in the band to ride back with us.

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Speaker 1: I suggested they called their family or significant others to

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Speaker 1: come get them. He did not like that, and he

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Speaker 1: said they are a unit and if they can't go,

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Speaker 1: he was staying with them. He's my man and my

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Speaker 1: only responsibility. I really want him to realize that he

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Speaker 1: is not a superstar, and he should focus on getting

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Speaker 1: promoted to a principle at his school, which he's been

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Speaker 1: recommended for. He's forty nine years old and he's time

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Speaker 1: to give up the van and the band. Am I wrong? Girl? What? Really?

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Speaker 1: This is over? Okay? He stayed with his band and

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Speaker 1: not you. That shows where his priorities are. He wasn't

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Speaker 1: going to let his three female band members be abandoned

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Speaker 1: you had a perfectly fine card that could fit all

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Speaker 1: of you guys. I mean you could have done that

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Speaker 1: for them at that time. It wasn't very nice what

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Speaker 1: you did, and he didn't like it. But this is

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Speaker 1: a grown man, like you said, he's forty nine years old.

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Speaker 1: This is the grown man that we're talking about here.

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Speaker 1: He was doing this before you met him. You knew

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Speaker 1: it and dated him anyway. Now you want him to

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Speaker 1: change suddenly he needs to be a principle and just

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Speaker 1: lose his band. Well, no, he enjoys doing this. He

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Speaker 1: with them, not with you. And nowhere in this letter

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Speaker 1: did he say he was trying to make a big

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Speaker 1: be a superstar, any of that. He sings R and

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Speaker 1: B covers on the weekends, not original music, not anything

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Speaker 1: It seems to be good enough for him to make

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Speaker 1: a few extra coins for his weekend gigs, and that

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Speaker 1: But it's not enough for you, and that's understandable. You

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Speaker 1: want him to leave the band, leave a girls, and

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Speaker 1: I agree with you on this one, leave that raggedy van.

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Speaker 1: And you want him to take the principal's job. Well,

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Speaker 1: I mean, he might think you're not being supportive or whatever,

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Speaker 1: but after two years, you know, you could speak up

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Speaker 1: the list of things that he's getting rid of, though,

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Speaker 1: To me, he decided to stick with them and not you.

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Speaker 1: So you're out and you can be out. It's okay, Steve. Well,

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Speaker 1: let's just get to it. You're dating a black hippie.

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Speaker 1: What you want? Right? You have described a person who

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Speaker 1: what he want to do. My man, his vand and

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Speaker 1: his band. Then you've been dating this guy for two

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Speaker 1: years and you say he's different from anybody you've ever dated.

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Speaker 1: He's different than anybody that ever wrote in this show

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Speaker 1: before in twenty years too. Yeah, the black hippie, that's

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Speaker 1: the first. So I know, didn't hear welly different? You

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Speaker 1: made him at an engagement party. The bride asked you

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Speaker 1: Let's just admit that just he Roscoe Wallace is this

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Speaker 1: Roscoe Wallace? T Yeah, you you date Roscoe wa He's

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Speaker 1: black hippie. Now wrap your mind around that, y'all wrapped

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Speaker 1: it around that. He got a three piece band, all females.

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Speaker 1: What yeah? Yeah, so three piece band all females. I'm

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Speaker 1: assuming three of them females or two. He had the

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Speaker 1: most beautiful smile, and I was attracted to his fluffy beard.

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Speaker 1: So you like the way a man smile and be

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Speaker 1: it and facial hell and you in skipped the all

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Speaker 1: is here you in. He teaches high school and he

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Speaker 1: performs on the weekends. I'm an executive system. Our world's collided.

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Speaker 1: The way we dress, how we spend our free time.

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Speaker 1: He likes it. I'm different than he calls me miss

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Speaker 1: uppitty all the time. Woman's up and he when we

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Speaker 1: come back, I will tell you the rest of what

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Speaker 1: I think. And that's gonna be in and Steve, we

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Speaker 1: gotta know about some of these outfits that he wears,

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Speaker 1: because she said their worlds collide. All right. We'll have

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Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour of My man, who's band and

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Speaker 1: his band is a subject of today's Strawberry Letter. We'll

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Speaker 1: get back to it right after this. You're listening, all right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject

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Speaker 1: to my man, his band and his band. Well, this

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Speaker 1: lady's writing us because for two years after she met

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Speaker 1: this man at this engagement party, the bride to be

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Speaker 1: begged her to give the man a chance. This man

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Speaker 1: is a black hippie that sings on be cover songs.

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Speaker 1: Wrap your mind around that. Now, how do we know

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Speaker 1: he's a hitter y, Well let's talk about it. When

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Speaker 1: he got this fluffy beard and a beautiful smile, he

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Speaker 1: got on a darshiki. That's the first thing black hippie

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Speaker 1: and all of them is made out of wood, and

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Speaker 1: a piece of jewelry on his ass. It's all wood wood.

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Speaker 1: He always wears linen slacks with a roll stringing him,

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Speaker 1: and he got on some damn moccasins. That is an

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Speaker 1: old black hippie singing on bee cover songs. And he

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Speaker 1: ain't just singing any cover songs. He's singing songs that

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Speaker 1: you don't mean stuff to hippies. Rum in my face

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Speaker 1: with his finger, singing my live with his song killing

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Speaker 1: miss saw fleeweed, his song whoa so softly? With his

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Speaker 1: song he words his song chilling me softly? Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: these are songs he's doing. Now, you've got a three

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Speaker 1: We're not getting behind you. But these women that ain't

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Speaker 1: She's an executive assist in our world's colliding ways. We dress,

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Speaker 1: how we spend up. He likes that I'm different, and

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Speaker 1: he calls me miss up there all the time, performs

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Speaker 1: in nearby cities, and I would ride with him when

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Speaker 1: it was just me and him. Then he decided he

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Speaker 1: needed a van so he could provide transportation for his band.

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Speaker 1: Anytime you decide to buy a van for the band,

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Speaker 1: you're tying your future to the band. Nobody signs forty

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Speaker 1: nine year old black hippies that sang on be cover songs,

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Speaker 1: so there is no future Hill. He has decided he's

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Speaker 1: just don't work out. Yeah, that was the last time

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Speaker 1: four all together? Yes? Whose conversation was like talking to

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Speaker 1: third graders? His van needs a lot of work. I

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Speaker 1: he got the squibble button. Only got a little refrigerator back.

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Speaker 1: fit all the band equipment in him. One day it broke.

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Speaker 1: You went to get him. He wanted his girls in

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Speaker 1: the band to ride backward. As I suggested, they called

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Speaker 1: can't need these women out here. It's dirty for not

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Speaker 1: long ass flowing Carol Kane dresses. Dresses. Yeah, they wearing

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Speaker 1: But what kind of instruments? Though, that's oh, they ain't

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Speaker 1: no real band. And then they got wood flutes, xylophones,

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Speaker 1: focus on being a principal. They're not gonna let his

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Speaker 1: But anybody that wants to black keeper to be a

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Speaker 1: to him. Let's do a couple of black cover songs.

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Speaker 1: Give me a song, right quickly, because he's Roscoe Wallace.

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Speaker 1: Just give me a cover songs. Never too much, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: never too much. I said this too much, the whole melody.

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Speaker 1: Who dude, she go to work hustle for no the dollar.

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Speaker 1: I'd rather be with you because you make my heart

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Speaker 1: screamn hall. Never too much, never too much? But y'all

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