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But I know 21 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:57,680 Speaker 2: a lot of people will try and figure out when 22 00:00:57,680 --> 00:00:59,480 Speaker 2: people work out and then they'll show up at the 23 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:01,600 Speaker 2: same time to work out the only thing and apparently 24 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:02,280 Speaker 2: that's not creepy. 25 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:05,039 Speaker 1: It's the same level of it. Creepy is not the word. 26 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:07,759 Speaker 1: The women like being approached in the gym. 27 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:10,160 Speaker 2: Now, that would be my second thing is how many 28 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:14,320 Speaker 2: you know, how many people man or women are prepared 29 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:17,040 Speaker 2: to be approached at the gym. And a lot of 30 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 2: people don't wear their rings when they're at the gym 31 00:01:18,959 --> 00:01:20,640 Speaker 2: because they're working out, so you don't you know, that's 32 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:24,200 Speaker 2: usually my tell, but you don't know. And then it's like, 33 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:27,280 Speaker 2: I'm working out, I haven't showered, I don't look that good. Now, 34 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 2: some people go to the gym to meet someone, but 35 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 2: you don't know the difference the way these. 36 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:35,480 Speaker 4: Gym outfits are set up, the little leggings that you know, 37 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:39,840 Speaker 4: tighten everything on your body and show off every curve. Yeah, 38 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:42,600 Speaker 4: it's like I think some people really go for that reason, 39 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:43,400 Speaker 4: like look. 40 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:45,679 Speaker 2: At me, Yeah, that's why I know, that's why you go. 41 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, But Kiki wears the boots with the fur 42 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 2: and actually Kiki is one of the few people I 43 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 2: know who works out in denim, which. 44 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:53,639 Speaker 5: Is make. 45 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:56,760 Speaker 1: Yeah. 46 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 2: My trainer, Gideon has been asking me about that, like, 47 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:00,400 Speaker 2: how does she how is she able to stay so 48 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:03,280 Speaker 2: fit in full denim? Had to tow It is hilarious. 49 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:06,840 Speaker 2: The flexibility is incredible. It's not a moisture, you know, 50 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 2: Is it a breathable fabric? 51 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't think it. No, No, I 52 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: don't think so. Headlines. 53 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:17,760 Speaker 2: Guys, the Northeast is under flooding a flooding threat as 54 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:20,760 Speaker 2: storms rolled through. Roughly fifty million people across the Northeast 55 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 2: are dealing with floodwatches with the risk of severe flash 56 00:02:23,440 --> 00:02:26,600 Speaker 2: flooding in some areas. Major cities like New York City, Washington, 57 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:30,440 Speaker 2: d C, and Baltimore are facing flash flood warnings. Video 58 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:33,920 Speaker 2: for Manhattan shows floodwaters rushing into a subway station as 59 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 2: passengers boarded the train. NYPD Transportation released the statement on 60 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:40,959 Speaker 2: x saying that flooding would cause delays. Up to five 61 00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 2: inches of rain has already fallen in parts of northern 62 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:46,520 Speaker 2: and central New Jersey as well. They were brief groundstops 63 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:50,120 Speaker 2: at New York airports yesterday, So flooding all over the country. 64 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 1: Elmo got hacked on X. 65 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 6: Oh. 66 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: Now, this is terrible. 67 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:55,400 Speaker 2: If you saw some of the things Elmo was saying, yeah, Now, 68 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:57,840 Speaker 2: I think I would have pretty quickly realized it wasn't Elmo, 69 00:02:58,320 --> 00:03:01,360 Speaker 2: because the Almo I know wouldn't say somebody things. But 70 00:03:01,720 --> 00:03:06,640 Speaker 2: Elma was definitely not tickled. Almos's verified ex account, which 71 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:08,799 Speaker 2: has more than six hundred and fifty thousand followers, was 72 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:11,920 Speaker 2: taken over by an unknown hacker on Sunday. In a 73 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:16,359 Speaker 2: short burst of posts, the hijack account shared anti Semitic slurs, 74 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:20,680 Speaker 2: racist language, and strange comments about former president well current 75 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 2: President Donald Trump, and Jeffrey Epstein. This is former president 76 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:26,120 Speaker 2: unless something happen I don't know in the last hour, 77 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:29,800 Speaker 2: all written in Elmo's usual third person style. Well, that 78 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:31,679 Speaker 2: was nice. They were able to adapt it to the 79 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 2: way that Elmo would say it. Elmo is anti Semitic, 80 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:40,080 Speaker 2: Elmo is raising No, he's not, He's terrible. ABC News 81 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:44,520 Speaker 2: in Sesame Street are reporting that this is disgusting and 82 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 2: does not reflect Elmo's values. So they were able to 83 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 2: take the account back and it wasn't really him. 84 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:51,480 Speaker 1: A lot of officers are doing this. 85 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:54,160 Speaker 2: Starbucks is the latest telling its office workers to spend 86 00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 2: more time at their desks or take a buyout, as 87 00:03:57,400 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 2: the company pushes to revive lacking sales and store it's 88 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:03,880 Speaker 2: in person culture. Starting in October, employees must be in 89 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:06,960 Speaker 2: the office at least four days a week. The CEO 90 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:09,840 Speaker 2: Brian Nicol, who was the former CEO of Chipotle, he 91 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 2: was the guy who was telling everyone to do the 92 00:04:11,280 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 2: head nod. When you can remember this, it was like 93 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 2: a year ago, maybe it was a little longer than that, 94 00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:17,240 Speaker 2: but he'd say, you know, if you want, he's kind 95 00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:18,920 Speaker 2: of a good looking guy and he was making videos 96 00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 2: and do interviews. He was like, you know, if you 97 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:22,360 Speaker 2: want a little more, a little more salsa, a little 98 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:25,080 Speaker 2: more peico, just you know, just give him a head nod. 99 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 1: So people were. 100 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 2: Going to Chipotle and be like, I'll take a little 101 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:32,480 Speaker 2: more guacamole, would like the week in the head nods 102 00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 2: And that was his advice though, so he says that 103 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:37,839 Speaker 2: you need to come four days a week, or you 104 00:04:37,839 --> 00:04:41,000 Speaker 2: can take a voluntary buyout, which includes a cash payout 105 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:43,840 Speaker 2: if you opt to leave. He framed the decision as 106 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 2: an attempt to rebuild Starbucks in person culture, arguing that 107 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:50,640 Speaker 2: face to face collaboration feels creativity and quicker problem solving, 108 00:04:50,720 --> 00:04:54,000 Speaker 2: qualities he says are essential as the company sneaks a turnaround. 109 00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:58,360 Speaker 2: We do our best work when we're together. Now, this 110 00:04:58,400 --> 00:05:00,159 Speaker 2: guy got the ji. I think he makes a hundredllion 111 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:01,680 Speaker 2: dollars a year I saw the other day, so he's 112 00:05:01,720 --> 00:05:02,760 Speaker 2: getting paid pretty well. 113 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 1: That's pretty good. And then I remember when he got 114 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:06,440 Speaker 1: the job. 115 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:09,920 Speaker 2: He lives in California, but the headquarters is in Seattle, 116 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:13,080 Speaker 2: so the company flies him on a jet so that 117 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 2: he can get to work. I don't know if it's 118 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 2: every day or every couple days, but part of his 119 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 2: agreement with the company was, I'll you can open me 120 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:22,800 Speaker 2: a little office in California, so I'm in the office, 121 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:26,480 Speaker 2: and then they fly him on the corporate jet to Seattle. Yeah, 122 00:05:26,520 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 2: so I don't I don't know how that's gonna work 123 00:05:29,240 --> 00:05:31,480 Speaker 2: if he needs people to be in the unless he's 124 00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 2: counting his California office the office, I think, you know, collaboratively, 125 00:05:36,200 --> 00:05:38,040 Speaker 2: he probably needs to be in the Seattle headquarters. So 126 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:39,360 Speaker 2: I don't know if that means he has to move 127 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:41,520 Speaker 2: now or they're just going to fly him in like 128 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:44,160 Speaker 2: you know, the rest of us drive every day. That's insane, 129 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:46,440 Speaker 2: But I would imagine there's some employees using that as 130 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 2: an argument like, wait a minute, Brian, where's right exctly exactly? 131 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:57,640 Speaker 2: But this is beginning to happen a lot of places, Amazon, JP, Morgan, Chase, Google, Walmart, 132 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:03,400 Speaker 2: They're all rolling back their pandem pandemic era. Flexibility. India's 133 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 2: government is seeking to limit the temperature settings of new 134 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:08,440 Speaker 2: air conditioners to save electricity in the country that is 135 00:06:08,480 --> 00:06:11,320 Speaker 2: considered the fastest growing market for them. The Power Minister 136 00:06:11,600 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 2: proposed to rule in June requiring that air conditioners sold 137 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 2: in the country have thermostats that can be set to 138 00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:23,160 Speaker 2: no lower than sixty eight degrees. So here's my question. 139 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:26,480 Speaker 2: I mean, sixty eight that's pretty low. If as low 140 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:28,799 Speaker 2: as it goes, we'll really get that cold, I would wonder. 141 00:06:28,800 --> 00:06:31,680 Speaker 2: But then you know, what if I want sixty What 142 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:33,280 Speaker 2: if I want sixty five? What if I'm in a 143 00:06:33,360 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 2: hotel room. Now look, I realized it's extremely wasteful. But 144 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:37,480 Speaker 2: the first thing that I get it, we're trying to 145 00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 2: save the environment here. But the first thing that I 146 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:41,600 Speaker 2: do when I check into the Marriot is go all 147 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:44,240 Speaker 2: the way down as far down as it will go, 148 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:49,039 Speaker 2: all the way down, sixty five, sixty four, whatever it is. 149 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 2: I mean, we're making that thing in ice box. That 150 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 2: is part of the luxury experience is I can turn 151 00:06:54,560 --> 00:06:55,840 Speaker 2: that thing all the way down. That little thing will 152 00:06:55,839 --> 00:06:58,560 Speaker 2: get so quick, go to Vegas all the way down 153 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 2: that yeah, because it's yes, but sixty eight, I mean 154 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 2: it's sixty eight going to be cold enough. 155 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:09,640 Speaker 1: My house is at seventy and it's fine all the time. 156 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:14,680 Speaker 2: Seventy Yeah, you sleep with seventy degrees. 157 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 1: Cold and we have the fan on. Yeah, freez there. 158 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:21,800 Speaker 1: I'd rather work, denim, you sleep at seventy degrees. I 159 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:23,080 Speaker 1: just chocked at seventy right now? 160 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:23,840 Speaker 5: What is yours? 161 00:07:23,840 --> 00:07:24,040 Speaker 2: Fred? 162 00:07:24,040 --> 00:07:27,000 Speaker 5: I'm scared as low as it will go, like sixty 163 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 5: five ish. 164 00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:30,560 Speaker 2: Well, that's not true because that's actually pretty bad for 165 00:07:30,600 --> 00:07:33,040 Speaker 2: the air conditioner. I think I said it's sixty seven. Okay, 166 00:07:33,240 --> 00:07:35,280 Speaker 2: it doesn't get that, but it doesn't get that cold 167 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 2: because you know it's so hot outside. They tell you 168 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:40,600 Speaker 2: can get maybe twenty degrees out of your air conditioner 169 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:41,640 Speaker 2: from the outside temperature. 170 00:07:41,840 --> 00:07:43,080 Speaker 1: Got it twenty ish. 171 00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:44,760 Speaker 2: So if it's ninety and if I can mean so, 172 00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:46,320 Speaker 2: if I put it at sixty seven, I know it's 173 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:47,960 Speaker 2: working like that, but I can you know, I can't 174 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:49,480 Speaker 2: get my house to that but it needs to be 175 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:52,040 Speaker 2: cold at not in the sleepy time. It needs to 176 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:56,240 Speaker 2: be cold. There is nothing worse than hot sleeping. I'm sorry, 177 00:07:56,520 --> 00:07:59,080 Speaker 2: that is a that would be a relationship ender. You 178 00:07:59,120 --> 00:08:01,600 Speaker 2: are trapped if I met someone in there like, oh no, 179 00:08:01,760 --> 00:08:04,200 Speaker 2: seventy degrees seventy two absolute. 180 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:06,840 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, nice meeting you. I'm gonna go back to 181 00:08:06,840 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 1: the gym. 182 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:09,040 Speaker 2: Now and creep on somebody else and find somebody else 183 00:08:09,080 --> 00:08:11,680 Speaker 2: that has you know, that's that's a human and that 184 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:14,760 Speaker 2: some form of robot. Because my thing about sleeping is 185 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 2: if it's if it's cold and you're in the bed, 186 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:20,920 Speaker 2: you can warm yourself off. If it's hot, there is 187 00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:23,040 Speaker 2: no reprieve, there's no way around it. 188 00:08:23,200 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 1: You're supposed to sleep in cold. 189 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:24,840 Speaker 7: It's better for you. 190 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:27,160 Speaker 1: Thank you. Well, this is and that's why I do it. 191 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:29,880 Speaker 2: But this is no this is this is not something 192 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:32,000 Speaker 2: I could negotiate on, Like this would be the end 193 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 2: of a relationship for me. 194 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:35,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's a bill that I don't even think 195 00:08:35,480 --> 00:08:37,520 Speaker 4: twice about, Like, just throw it an meg. The bill 196 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 4: can be for one hundred thousand dollars. At this point, 197 00:08:39,280 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 4: I don't care, Like I'm not thinking twice about here, 198 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:41,880 Speaker 4: I'll figure it out. 199 00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:42,200 Speaker 1: Yeah. 200 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:44,319 Speaker 4: But for some reason growing up like that was a 201 00:08:44,360 --> 00:08:45,640 Speaker 4: thing in the house, like don't touch to. 202 00:08:45,600 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 1: A c Like are you right now? Oh, you can't 203 00:08:48,840 --> 00:08:49,360 Speaker 1: touch it either. 204 00:08:50,360 --> 00:08:52,240 Speaker 3: I have to wait till it's eighty degrees in the 205 00:08:52,240 --> 00:08:54,960 Speaker 3: house to turn the air on. And then I text 206 00:08:55,080 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 3: Mike and I'm like, the dogs are really hot, like 207 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:00,480 Speaker 3: the girls are panting. I think they're really hot. We 208 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:02,440 Speaker 3: should probably turn the air on. So he wants it 209 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 3: even hotter. Well, he's like, I work in the heat 210 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:07,000 Speaker 3: all day, Like why do you guys get to sit 211 00:09:07,040 --> 00:09:08,160 Speaker 3: in there? 212 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:10,920 Speaker 1: My design? 213 00:09:11,280 --> 00:09:13,280 Speaker 3: But once it goes on, it's on, like the whole summer. 214 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:16,200 Speaker 3: It never comes off. So I'll take I'll take seventy. 215 00:09:16,800 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 2: Mechanic had to go to school upheal both ways in 216 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:24,600 Speaker 2: the snow, yeah, Lord. And mental health experts reveal why 217 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:30,120 Speaker 2: some people cannot help being late to everything Paulina Late. 218 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:32,760 Speaker 2: Experts say it might not be laziness, but a condition 219 00:09:32,920 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 2: called time blindness, and that's where people genuinely struggle to 220 00:09:36,920 --> 00:09:39,599 Speaker 2: estimate or manage time. It's linked to eighty HD and 221 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:44,560 Speaker 2: other conditions like autism, OCD, depression, and anxiety. It's an 222 00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 2: executive function issue affecting parts of the brain like prefrontal 223 00:09:49,440 --> 00:09:55,960 Speaker 2: cortex and cerebellum. Common signs include underestimating task durations, frequent lateness, 224 00:09:56,080 --> 00:09:59,720 Speaker 2: and difficulty switching between activities. How to cope, experts say 225 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:04,480 Speaker 2: use timers, building consistent daily routines, breaking tasks into smaller steps, 226 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:09,720 Speaker 2: and setting external reminders, all methods proven to reduce lateness. 227 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:11,680 Speaker 1: We were just talking about this this morning. 228 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:12,720 Speaker 6: You have it. 229 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 1: You have time blindness. 230 00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:16,200 Speaker 5: I do, or I'd like to call it running on 231 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:17,600 Speaker 5: Mexican time, like when you did. 232 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:18,760 Speaker 1: You know you're going to be an hour late. 233 00:10:18,840 --> 00:10:20,480 Speaker 5: You tell everybody to come at three because the party's 234 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:22,920 Speaker 5: really at four, because you know everyone's going to walk 235 00:10:22,920 --> 00:10:23,240 Speaker 5: in at four. 236 00:10:23,280 --> 00:10:26,120 Speaker 3: You have a problem switching between tasks, like you're switching 237 00:10:26,120 --> 00:10:28,199 Speaker 3: all the time, except. 238 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:30,560 Speaker 1: You forget to return to the previous task. So there's that. 239 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:34,120 Speaker 1: You know, you you can pivot, but going on. 240 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:37,440 Speaker 5: Things gets done, though, are things I think sumptioning? 241 00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:41,800 Speaker 1: Can you hear us today? Yeah, I'm currently no, that's 242 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:44,440 Speaker 1: true us. No, it's true. Yeah, I'm working on me. 243 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:46,160 Speaker 5: But I I have add I got the whole thing, 244 00:10:46,160 --> 00:10:49,200 Speaker 5: I got all those Probably I'm working on me. 245 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:52,160 Speaker 2: If dinners at seven thirty, we expect to see paulling 246 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:52,880 Speaker 2: it at eight fifteen. 247 00:10:52,960 --> 00:10:55,400 Speaker 1: It just is. It just is correct, So so we 248 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:55,840 Speaker 1: don't even. 249 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:57,240 Speaker 2: But the thing is, if I told you was at 250 00:10:57,240 --> 00:10:58,839 Speaker 2: eight to fifteen each old but nine, So like the 251 00:10:58,880 --> 00:11:00,880 Speaker 2: whole thing about I'd have to tell you is at 252 00:11:00,960 --> 00:11:01,679 Speaker 2: five for you. 253 00:11:01,600 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 1: To show up at some Oh that's what I meant. Yes, 254 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:04,559 Speaker 1: it has to be the other way. 255 00:11:04,800 --> 00:11:06,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, And I think I'm getting a little tiny better 256 00:11:06,960 --> 00:11:09,840 Speaker 5: just because every kid. Yeah, a little tiny better because 257 00:11:09,840 --> 00:11:12,000 Speaker 5: ever since having a child, I feel like, you know, 258 00:11:12,080 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 5: we got to get to things, appointments, and I can't 259 00:11:14,280 --> 00:11:16,240 Speaker 5: miss though it was like baby stuff. So I'm like, 260 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:18,680 Speaker 5: you know what, I like being on time now it's 261 00:11:18,679 --> 00:11:19,600 Speaker 5: my new personality. 262 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:21,679 Speaker 2: My issue is not that I want to be late 263 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:24,559 Speaker 2: or that I am not considered considerate of other people's time. 264 00:11:24,640 --> 00:11:26,720 Speaker 2: My issue is I don't I don't want to be 265 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 2: so early that I feel that I'm wasting time. I 266 00:11:29,240 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 2: want to arrive when it's time. 267 00:11:31,400 --> 00:11:32,040 Speaker 5: That's how I feel. 268 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:34,319 Speaker 2: I don't like being somewhere ten minutes early and then 269 00:11:34,440 --> 00:11:37,280 Speaker 2: just standing around waiting. I feel like and then I 270 00:11:37,280 --> 00:11:39,959 Speaker 2: can I can't do anything, Like I'm not being productive. 271 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 2: So I try and do like one more thing, like, oh, 272 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:44,439 Speaker 2: that wall needs to be painted. I got ten minutes 273 00:11:44,480 --> 00:11:46,440 Speaker 2: I can, you know, like I try and do one 274 00:11:46,559 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 2: more thing at home. But the problem is, you know you, 275 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:53,240 Speaker 2: it could take in a big city, it could take 276 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 2: the ten minutes that you that you think it's going 277 00:11:56,040 --> 00:11:57,800 Speaker 2: to take to get there, it could take thirty minutes. 278 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:00,600 Speaker 2: And so sometimes I'll just cut, I'll just the difference 279 00:12:00,640 --> 00:12:02,960 Speaker 2: and say, Okay, I'm gonna get myself fifteen and then 280 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:04,280 Speaker 2: it still takes thirty, you know what I mean. Like 281 00:12:04,280 --> 00:12:06,400 Speaker 2: I never seem to hit it right, but I'm always 282 00:12:06,440 --> 00:12:09,280 Speaker 2: about five minutes late. I feel like to like dinners 283 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:11,320 Speaker 2: and things in the evening because I'm trying to get 284 00:12:11,360 --> 00:12:12,440 Speaker 2: one more thing done. 285 00:12:12,720 --> 00:12:15,520 Speaker 4: Yes, that's like me joining a teams meeting or a 286 00:12:15,600 --> 00:12:18,840 Speaker 4: zoom meeting. Like I'm not joining early, bro, I'm not 287 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:20,440 Speaker 4: doing the whole I talk. 288 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:20,640 Speaker 2: To you for. 289 00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:23,640 Speaker 8: Good. 290 00:12:24,840 --> 00:12:26,560 Speaker 2: I'm just gonna give it a couple more minutes to 291 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:30,199 Speaker 2: make sure everybody joins nothing. There's nothing more desperate sounding 292 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:32,280 Speaker 2: than that. Let me just give this a couple more minutes, 293 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:35,560 Speaker 2: hoping people show up. Somebody meaning we're just gonna give 294 00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:38,520 Speaker 2: everybody a couple more minutes. Okay, Well I should have 295 00:12:38,600 --> 00:12:40,720 Speaker 2: come in. I should have comment seven oh four. Then 296 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:42,400 Speaker 2: if we're gonna give it but a couple more minutes. 297 00:12:42,679 --> 00:12:44,480 Speaker 2: But then if I come at seven oh four, we 298 00:12:44,559 --> 00:12:46,440 Speaker 2: didn't give everybody a couple more minutes and the meeting 299 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:49,120 Speaker 2: has already started. Now I'm late. You see, this is 300 00:12:49,160 --> 00:12:51,400 Speaker 2: the story of my life. This is the press show. 301 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:54,240 Speaker 2: Let's get you Hotel A true for TUNI see Jennifer 302 00:12:54,280 --> 00:12:58,439 Speaker 2: Lopez her brand new Las Vegas residency. 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Tickets are 311 00:13:23,679 --> 00:13:26,200 Speaker 2: on stale now at ticketmaster dot com for all shows 312 00:13:26,280 --> 00:13:29,559 Speaker 2: running December thirtieth through January third, and March sixth through 313 00:13:29,600 --> 00:13:30,200 Speaker 2: the twenty eighth. 314 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:35,520 Speaker 1: It's stay or go all right, Serena is here. Good morning, Serena, welcome. 315 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:36,800 Speaker 7: Hi. 316 00:13:36,960 --> 00:13:40,280 Speaker 2: How's it going doing great, Serena? What's going on in Sierrago? 317 00:13:40,400 --> 00:13:43,920 Speaker 2: This is I mean, the headline here is that you 318 00:13:44,000 --> 00:13:46,240 Speaker 2: just had a baby? What two months ago? 319 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:49,240 Speaker 8: Yeah, two months ago, a little baby boy? 320 00:13:49,320 --> 00:13:53,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, congratulations, that's exciting you and your husbands Gina a 321 00:13:53,160 --> 00:13:56,200 Speaker 2: little biac. So what well, yeah, we'll no hit and 322 00:13:56,200 --> 00:13:59,080 Speaker 2: tell the story, Serena. So you had this baby, which 323 00:13:59,120 --> 00:14:02,960 Speaker 2: is wonderful, and your husband he's acting not acting right. 324 00:14:02,880 --> 00:14:05,840 Speaker 8: About this, He's not And listen, you know, just to 325 00:14:05,840 --> 00:14:09,360 Speaker 8: be clear, I'm not, you know, considering leaving my husband. 326 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:13,200 Speaker 8: But lately, you know, he told me he doesn't want 327 00:14:13,240 --> 00:14:17,440 Speaker 8: the baby sleeping in our room anymore. And you know 328 00:14:17,520 --> 00:14:19,880 Speaker 8: that's tough because you know, we had the baby two 329 00:14:19,920 --> 00:14:23,000 Speaker 8: months ago and he says that if I cared about 330 00:14:23,040 --> 00:14:25,600 Speaker 8: our relationship at all, I'll move the baby into his 331 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 8: own room. 332 00:14:27,080 --> 00:14:32,160 Speaker 2: Okay, so you know, and that is I'm sorry to 333 00:14:32,240 --> 00:14:34,720 Speaker 2: rupt you, but is it the disruption? Is this sleeping disruption? 334 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:35,160 Speaker 1: Is it? 335 00:14:35,440 --> 00:14:35,520 Speaker 2: Like? 336 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:37,120 Speaker 1: What is his issue? What does he want the baby 337 00:14:37,160 --> 00:14:37,520 Speaker 1: in the room? 338 00:14:37,680 --> 00:14:41,160 Speaker 8: No, I you know, I'm not totally sure, Like he 339 00:14:41,280 --> 00:14:44,520 Speaker 8: just like gets visibly upset, like I think, you know, 340 00:14:44,560 --> 00:14:47,400 Speaker 8: he thinks I'm hogging the baby. And he gets visibly 341 00:14:47,480 --> 00:14:50,560 Speaker 8: upset when, you know, when I kiss the baby and 342 00:14:50,600 --> 00:14:53,160 Speaker 8: hug the baby, and he says, you never cuddle me 343 00:14:53,200 --> 00:14:54,040 Speaker 8: as much as him. 344 00:14:54,440 --> 00:14:55,600 Speaker 1: He's jealous of the baby. 345 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:58,440 Speaker 8: She's jealous of the baby. 346 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:02,240 Speaker 2: I mean, what does he what does he expect you 347 00:15:02,320 --> 00:15:05,160 Speaker 2: to do exactly two months postpartuim is he expect you 348 00:15:05,240 --> 00:15:07,400 Speaker 2: to I guess at this point just to banish the child, 349 00:15:07,480 --> 00:15:09,120 Speaker 2: but the child in another room, like we didn't do this. 350 00:15:09,240 --> 00:15:11,160 Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's all about I. 351 00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:13,720 Speaker 8: Know, I know, I don't know. You know, he's saying 352 00:15:13,720 --> 00:15:16,400 Speaker 8: that like ever since I gave birth, all I wanted 353 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:18,520 Speaker 8: to be is a mom and not a wife. And 354 00:15:18,640 --> 00:15:21,520 Speaker 8: you know, that's pretty intense. And he also gets upset 355 00:15:21,760 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 8: because you know, we decided I decided to breastfeed, even 356 00:15:26,040 --> 00:15:28,760 Speaker 8: though we had originally talked about not doing it. 357 00:15:29,680 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 1: That was an issue for him. That was a really 358 00:15:32,560 --> 00:15:34,400 Speaker 1: big issue for him. Affects him. 359 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:38,040 Speaker 2: I'm asking that question, uh, Paulina as a mom, Yeah, 360 00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:40,160 Speaker 2: I'm asking that question. Honestly, I don't know the answer. 361 00:15:40,160 --> 00:15:41,880 Speaker 2: But how does that negatively affect him. 362 00:15:42,320 --> 00:15:45,200 Speaker 5: It showed in first and foremost mom can make that choice. 363 00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:47,240 Speaker 5: So and I congrats on doing that because the full 364 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:50,000 Speaker 5: time job to breastfeed. The only issue quote and I'm 365 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:51,840 Speaker 5: using it this quote, is that he might not be 366 00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:54,360 Speaker 5: able to feed the baby at night via bottle or whatever. Right, 367 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:56,520 Speaker 5: because sometimes they say mom wants to rest, how is 368 00:15:56,560 --> 00:15:57,960 Speaker 5: dad going to feed the baby? But that you guys 369 00:15:58,000 --> 00:15:59,680 Speaker 5: can figure that all out later your baby, or. 370 00:16:00,000 --> 00:16:03,840 Speaker 2: It's just more time mom has to dedicate to the baby. 371 00:16:04,760 --> 00:16:06,960 Speaker 2: As if if there were it was moodel feeding, then 372 00:16:06,960 --> 00:16:08,360 Speaker 2: I suppose anybody could feed the baby. 373 00:16:08,400 --> 00:16:10,320 Speaker 1: Correct, Okay, right right? 374 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:12,720 Speaker 8: You know, so it's just like you know, he says, 375 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:15,240 Speaker 8: I treat him like an absentee father because they don't 376 00:16:15,280 --> 00:16:18,280 Speaker 8: tell him when the baby's getting a bath or when 377 00:16:18,400 --> 00:16:20,280 Speaker 8: you know, when he's going down for a nap, Like 378 00:16:20,600 --> 00:16:24,360 Speaker 8: I make the decisions myself. But obviously I'm you know, 379 00:16:24,880 --> 00:16:26,480 Speaker 8: I'm not doing that on the purpose. 380 00:16:26,880 --> 00:16:28,560 Speaker 2: And I have a feeling that someone texted this. But 381 00:16:28,760 --> 00:16:30,640 Speaker 2: this has something to do with intimacy as well, which 382 00:16:30,680 --> 00:16:33,160 Speaker 2: you're two months postpartum, so I mean, aren't we a 383 00:16:33,160 --> 00:16:35,360 Speaker 2: little again. I'm not going to get too detailed about that. 384 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:37,240 Speaker 2: But don't we wait a little longer than that anyway, 385 00:16:38,480 --> 00:16:41,520 Speaker 2: isn't it? Is it sixty days? Well, typically six weeks 386 00:16:41,560 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 2: you have a good checkop. You go to a checkop, 387 00:16:43,040 --> 00:16:43,360 Speaker 2: but they. 388 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:45,120 Speaker 5: Kind of clear you or what depending, you know, if 389 00:16:45,160 --> 00:16:47,160 Speaker 5: you have c section, if you have the vaginal birth. 390 00:16:47,720 --> 00:16:49,560 Speaker 5: But in two months you can still be in diapers. 391 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:51,480 Speaker 5: So I don't understand what his way is. 392 00:16:51,520 --> 00:16:53,440 Speaker 2: So we're not even really there yet, not there yet 393 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:55,720 Speaker 2: necessarily not yeah. 394 00:16:55,400 --> 00:16:59,360 Speaker 8: Yeah, so you know, and obviously we're both just exhausted 395 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:02,600 Speaker 8: and I'm really trying my best. And I just never 396 00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:05,360 Speaker 8: imagined in a million years he'd react like this. 397 00:17:05,640 --> 00:17:07,600 Speaker 2: I don't mean to be insensitive, Serena, but what did 398 00:17:07,640 --> 00:17:10,000 Speaker 2: he think was going to happen? I mean, you and 399 00:17:10,040 --> 00:17:12,840 Speaker 2: I realized it's an adjustment, but he's you know, you guys, 400 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:15,760 Speaker 2: I assume discussed having children and you and you and 401 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:18,720 Speaker 2: you conceived one, and for the last nine months you've 402 00:17:18,760 --> 00:17:22,520 Speaker 2: been you know, pregnant, you know, baking this this this 403 00:17:23,000 --> 00:17:26,439 Speaker 2: little guy, and now maybe so I would think that 404 00:17:26,480 --> 00:17:29,400 Speaker 2: the transition would be sort of happening, right, like, Okay, 405 00:17:29,440 --> 00:17:31,199 Speaker 2: we're adding to the family. There's going to be a 406 00:17:31,240 --> 00:17:35,400 Speaker 2: new obligation here. There's going to be someone something dividing 407 00:17:35,440 --> 00:17:38,520 Speaker 2: our attention a little bit. We have another But I 408 00:17:38,520 --> 00:17:41,679 Speaker 2: guess I don't understand why he's surprised that you have 409 00:17:41,800 --> 00:17:44,000 Speaker 2: to raise the kid and that you can't just put 410 00:17:44,000 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 2: the kid in another room and pay attention to me 411 00:17:45,920 --> 00:17:46,440 Speaker 2: all the time. 412 00:17:46,640 --> 00:17:50,960 Speaker 1: Like it's it's very much me behavior. Yeah, totally. 413 00:17:51,160 --> 00:17:53,199 Speaker 8: And you know, like you said, it's not like we 414 00:17:53,320 --> 00:17:56,040 Speaker 8: just decided to do this overnight. You know, this was 415 00:17:56,080 --> 00:17:59,639 Speaker 8: a discussion. This was many months of talking about it, 416 00:17:59,720 --> 00:18:03,240 Speaker 8: and obviously the baby needs more right now at this stage, 417 00:18:03,920 --> 00:18:07,200 Speaker 8: and like it's just temporary. It goes by so quickly, 418 00:18:07,520 --> 00:18:10,919 Speaker 8: and I just she just can't see that. And I 419 00:18:10,960 --> 00:18:14,159 Speaker 8: think he's taking it really personally, and I did not 420 00:18:14,480 --> 00:18:17,000 Speaker 8: expect to set off from him, and I just I 421 00:18:17,080 --> 00:18:18,040 Speaker 8: just don't know what to do. 422 00:18:18,320 --> 00:18:20,280 Speaker 2: I'm sorry to be negative, but this is him making 423 00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:22,960 Speaker 2: this about him. He's not being considerate of you. He's 424 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:24,800 Speaker 2: not being considerate of what you're going through. He's not 425 00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:26,879 Speaker 2: being considerate of what the child needs. 426 00:18:27,640 --> 00:18:27,680 Speaker 7: It. 427 00:18:27,800 --> 00:18:31,000 Speaker 2: Clearly isn't ready to make the adjustment that he's going 428 00:18:31,040 --> 00:18:32,960 Speaker 2: to have to share your attention now with another human. 429 00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:36,480 Speaker 2: He's acting like this is a surprise, like he wasn't 430 00:18:36,480 --> 00:18:40,440 Speaker 2: involved in the process of making the kid through postpartum. 431 00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:42,560 Speaker 1: I don't know the answer. 432 00:18:42,240 --> 00:18:45,520 Speaker 2: Either, but I mean I get that someone just said 433 00:18:45,560 --> 00:18:47,520 Speaker 2: mental health as well as a new debt. I don't 434 00:18:47,520 --> 00:18:50,760 Speaker 2: know if that means that a man's mental health is wild. 435 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:53,320 Speaker 2: Like this is a transition for sure, But making her 436 00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:58,960 Speaker 2: feel bad about tending to the child, I think is 437 00:18:59,359 --> 00:19:00,520 Speaker 2: really the wrong way to go. 438 00:19:00,920 --> 00:19:04,640 Speaker 5: I agree. I mean, listen, everyone's world is upside down 439 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:06,720 Speaker 5: right now, right especially you as a brand new mom. 440 00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:08,919 Speaker 5: Just everything you're going through. I mean, you are in 441 00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:11,200 Speaker 5: the thick of it, and I feel like if anything 442 00:19:11,240 --> 00:19:12,800 Speaker 5: the husband has to your husband has to be so 443 00:19:12,840 --> 00:19:15,159 Speaker 5: supportive of anything that you need in that moment. And 444 00:19:15,240 --> 00:19:17,680 Speaker 5: because he's not, he's focused on his I don't even 445 00:19:17,680 --> 00:19:19,560 Speaker 5: know what he's focused on. If he just wants you, 446 00:19:19,560 --> 00:19:21,960 Speaker 5: you know, intimately, or whatever like that that needs to 447 00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:23,960 Speaker 5: be put to the side. I'm sorry you guys. Well, 448 00:19:24,000 --> 00:19:26,320 Speaker 5: once again, have all the amazing sex and all the 449 00:19:26,359 --> 00:19:28,199 Speaker 5: amazing times together and dance and all of that, but 450 00:19:28,280 --> 00:19:30,320 Speaker 5: right now I think like your focus should be truly 451 00:19:30,359 --> 00:19:31,359 Speaker 5: both on the baby. 452 00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:34,239 Speaker 2: Get two months out, honestly, and and not that his 453 00:19:34,320 --> 00:19:36,439 Speaker 2: needs don't matter. I don't mean to just dump on 454 00:19:36,480 --> 00:19:40,000 Speaker 2: this guy, but two months after having a baby, he 455 00:19:40,040 --> 00:19:41,840 Speaker 2: needs to be focused on what's best for you and 456 00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:44,520 Speaker 2: the baby and and his needs can be met down 457 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:45,320 Speaker 2: the road. 458 00:19:45,400 --> 00:19:47,000 Speaker 1: And yeah, and I don't. 459 00:19:47,000 --> 00:19:48,680 Speaker 2: I don't think his needs are gonna any closer to 460 00:19:48,720 --> 00:19:53,440 Speaker 2: being met when he's just acting like the baby. Yeah, 461 00:19:54,160 --> 00:19:55,840 Speaker 2: these are not This is not a good sign for me. 462 00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:57,679 Speaker 2: And again I don't have any experience in any of this, 463 00:19:58,040 --> 00:19:59,520 Speaker 2: but it just doesn't feel right to me, and the 464 00:19:59,560 --> 00:20:02,960 Speaker 2: text are overwhelmingly in favor of this is really bad. 465 00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:05,000 Speaker 2: And I'm sorry to say that to you because I 466 00:20:05,040 --> 00:20:06,960 Speaker 2: know you just had a baby with this guy, but 467 00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:12,480 Speaker 2: this is really not the kind of supportive, you know, 468 00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:16,399 Speaker 2: selfless behavior that you would hope from someone after what 469 00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:18,160 Speaker 2: you just went through. But let me take some phone 470 00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:19,760 Speaker 2: calls on this and see if you and by the way, 471 00:20:19,880 --> 00:20:21,639 Speaker 2: you're welcome to feel differently about it, and maybe you 472 00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 2: can enlighten us in some ways, because the men in 473 00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:25,520 Speaker 2: the room here have never had a baby, so I 474 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:29,520 Speaker 2: don't I admittedly do not know. To me, though, my 475 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:31,760 Speaker 2: thought is it feels bad. 476 00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:33,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel so. I feel so bad. For you, Mama. 477 00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:34,440 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. 478 00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:38,120 Speaker 8: Yeah, and you know again, I'm not like thinking about 479 00:20:38,200 --> 00:20:40,800 Speaker 8: leaving him, but just like I just feel like this 480 00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:44,199 Speaker 8: confirms everything that I've sort of been thinking, and you know, 481 00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:47,040 Speaker 8: I don't want to lose myself or my marriage. You know. 482 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:49,560 Speaker 2: Well, good luck to you and let's see what some 483 00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:51,280 Speaker 2: people have to stay here. And I appreciate you sharing 484 00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:54,640 Speaker 2: and all the best. Have a great day. Thanks you too, 485 00:20:54,880 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 2: Vice serena maternal mental health professional. Men go through postpartum 486 00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:04,800 Speaker 2: mood changes and postpartum depression. It's a maternal mental I'm 487 00:21:04,800 --> 00:21:07,040 Speaker 2: a maternal mental health professional. 488 00:21:07,359 --> 00:21:10,920 Speaker 1: Okay, so that may be what he's experiencing, but. 489 00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:13,959 Speaker 2: It doesn't necessarily change the negative effect it's having on 490 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:16,840 Speaker 2: her and the pressure it's adding to what has to 491 00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:19,840 Speaker 2: be done. It's not a choice to care for the baby, correct, 492 00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:21,159 Speaker 2: And you know, it's not like she can just go 493 00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:22,240 Speaker 2: I'll do a little less of that. 494 00:21:23,960 --> 00:21:27,800 Speaker 1: Hey, Julie, good morning, Good morning. How are hi, Julie. 495 00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:30,280 Speaker 2: So you just heard this this situation, but this woman 496 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:35,119 Speaker 2: is is experiencing sort of a negative reaction from her 497 00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:37,840 Speaker 2: husband that all of a sudden there's this new being 498 00:21:38,000 --> 00:21:40,200 Speaker 2: that she's having to devote so much attention to what 499 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:42,560 Speaker 2: do you think when you hear it, tell the story. 500 00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:47,719 Speaker 9: It's a reminiscent. We have three kids, and they do 501 00:21:47,760 --> 00:21:51,960 Speaker 9: get jealous, and that's the bottom line. And he's going 502 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 9: to have to figure out. She's gonna have to talk 503 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:58,480 Speaker 9: to somebody and deal with his emotions because this is 504 00:21:58,480 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 9: a newborn. They they need the parents. There's no one 505 00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:05,720 Speaker 9: taking care of the baby. And he's just going to 506 00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:09,440 Speaker 9: have to step up a little bit and do what's 507 00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:12,000 Speaker 9: best for the family right now. Now, I'm not saying 508 00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:15,800 Speaker 9: that marriage doesn't come first, but you know, dude needs 509 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:16,840 Speaker 9: to wait four months. 510 00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:17,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know. 511 00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:20,920 Speaker 9: With that extra special attention that he really is craving, 512 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:21,840 Speaker 9: that's all. 513 00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:23,960 Speaker 2: It's funny you mentioned that, Julie, because a lot, a lot, 514 00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:25,840 Speaker 2: a lot, a lot of years ago. I think it 515 00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:29,159 Speaker 2: had to do with him a politician cheating on his 516 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,399 Speaker 2: wife or something, and someone brought this up. This was 517 00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:33,080 Speaker 2: a long time ago I heard of this, and that 518 00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:35,760 Speaker 2: the person hosting the debate was saying, you know, people 519 00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:39,200 Speaker 2: say when it comes to marriage, they most people will 520 00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,720 Speaker 2: answer the question when asked, you know, what's the most 521 00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:43,920 Speaker 2: important part of your family, They'll say, well, the kids, 522 00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:46,160 Speaker 2: my kids are the most important thing to me, and 523 00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:49,439 Speaker 2: because that sounds right, but or it sounds harsh to 524 00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:51,960 Speaker 2: say that my spouse is the most important thing. But 525 00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:54,040 Speaker 2: the fact of the matter is this person was arguing 526 00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:56,880 Speaker 2: that's the right answer, my spouse is the most important 527 00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:59,960 Speaker 2: thing in the relationship. Because if that's not solid, then Mike, 528 00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:02,199 Speaker 2: kids who come to at a close second will not 529 00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:05,320 Speaker 2: necessarily have a good upbringing. Mike, I would think the 530 00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:09,159 Speaker 2: asterisk to that would be when the kid is literally 531 00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:13,760 Speaker 2: an infant and the mom is literally post part part 532 00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:15,920 Speaker 2: of I mean, it's like, you can wait, you can 533 00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:18,400 Speaker 2: wait sixty ninety days for us to get this together. 534 00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:21,480 Speaker 2: This this baby relies on me for absolutely everything. It's 535 00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:25,560 Speaker 2: not a choice, it's not a preference. It is a mandate, right, 536 00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:29,160 Speaker 2: Like if we don't do it, it's not happening. Correct, 537 00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:31,840 Speaker 2: So your husband can be the most important thing to 538 00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:35,440 Speaker 2: you once we get this baby, like you know, with 539 00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:40,159 Speaker 2: a with a hard head, once it's once its skull 540 00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:46,120 Speaker 2: forms fully Yes, right, I guess that's where I'm at 541 00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:47,640 Speaker 2: with this. But Julie, thank you for calling. 542 00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:49,479 Speaker 1: Thank you, have a good day. 543 00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:52,200 Speaker 2: It's like, guys, you know, this isn't a this isn't 544 00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:54,119 Speaker 2: a ten year old, you know, It's like I'd rather 545 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:55,919 Speaker 2: drive the kid to practice and have sex with you. 546 00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:58,919 Speaker 2: Like that's that that would indicate something I think a 547 00:23:58,920 --> 00:24:01,720 Speaker 2: lot deeper. This is, Hey, I'm going through all this 548 00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:05,160 Speaker 2: stuff emotionally and physically and and and figuring figuring out 549 00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:07,600 Speaker 2: how to raise a human and you're worried about whether 550 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:08,600 Speaker 2: you're getting cuddled enough. 551 00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:10,480 Speaker 5: It takes two years for a mom to really get 552 00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:13,280 Speaker 5: back to her quote normal self. I'm gonna say that, 553 00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:15,280 Speaker 5: so I'm not even there yet myself. So I can't 554 00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:16,399 Speaker 5: even imagine how she feels. 555 00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:20,440 Speaker 2: Again, I don't mean to be like anti male here. 556 00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:22,320 Speaker 2: I just I think a lot of guys listening now 557 00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:25,000 Speaker 2: would have who have been through this. I gotta think 558 00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:28,320 Speaker 2: they're thinking, like, dude, it's not about you right now, 559 00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:31,119 Speaker 2: Like it's it can't be about you right now. 560 00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:34,920 Speaker 1: Emily, Hi, Hi, Hi? What do you think? 561 00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:36,600 Speaker 7: So? 562 00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:39,639 Speaker 10: I have two babies. I had two babies under and 563 00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:43,840 Speaker 10: under two years, and I think I've breastpaid both of them. 564 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:46,719 Speaker 10: And the breasting issue is the thing that really sticks 565 00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:50,719 Speaker 10: out to me is like sticky in the situation. I 566 00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:55,160 Speaker 10: really don't understand what his problem with her breastfeeding. Is 567 00:24:56,520 --> 00:24:59,760 Speaker 10: what I love to say though, is while I think 568 00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:03,200 Speaker 10: this this is like a weird situation and he's definitely 569 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:07,800 Speaker 10: putting a lot of unnecessary anxiety on a new mom, 570 00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:11,359 Speaker 10: I am sympathetic to the fact that, like, having a 571 00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 10: baby is an adjustment for both partners, and there is 572 00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,040 Speaker 10: definitely a point where you want to kick the baby 573 00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:18,960 Speaker 10: out of your room because you're ready to have some 574 00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:21,840 Speaker 10: space back. But two months plus part him is not 575 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:25,400 Speaker 10: that time. Maybe four to six months is a more 576 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:26,640 Speaker 10: of all time. 577 00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,160 Speaker 2: I think That's what I'm saying is right now would 578 00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:31,920 Speaker 2: not be the time to put pressure. I don't think 579 00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:34,719 Speaker 2: on the relationship to make it about you, because I 580 00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:37,040 Speaker 2: just feel like there's so much adjustment going on, and 581 00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:40,479 Speaker 2: I don't think it's necessarily personal. I don't think, but 582 00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:42,520 Speaker 2: but I think I think that one way it could 583 00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:44,800 Speaker 2: create a tremendous amount of divide is by behaving this 584 00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:47,800 Speaker 2: way right now, right right. 585 00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:50,800 Speaker 10: And I think that a lot of time, well more 586 00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:53,359 Speaker 10: often than not, we are very focused in that nine 587 00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:56,200 Speaker 10: months of growing a baby on the needs that the 588 00:25:56,200 --> 00:26:00,000 Speaker 10: baby will have, But there's not a lot of suff 589 00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:03,760 Speaker 10: court about like what a new mom needs, especially a 590 00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:07,080 Speaker 10: breastfeeding mom or women with their hormones and postpart of 591 00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:11,080 Speaker 10: issues and how to be like partners in that situation. 592 00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:13,159 Speaker 10: And so I do think there's ways to move past it. 593 00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:16,959 Speaker 10: Like when I was pregnant with our second baby, our 594 00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:20,680 Speaker 10: first daby was had just turned one, and we decided 595 00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:24,600 Speaker 10: to do some couple counseling courses that are about like 596 00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:27,840 Speaker 10: bringing home baby that like focus less on the like 597 00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:31,160 Speaker 10: how to feed and diaper and take care of your baby, 598 00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:33,800 Speaker 10: and more on like how to be partners in. 599 00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:35,800 Speaker 1: That's interesting, that's a good idea. 600 00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:41,200 Speaker 10: Yeah, there's one specifically by the Gotman. They're like pretty 601 00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:44,679 Speaker 10: famous couple counselors and it's called Bringing Home Baby. So, like, 602 00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:47,399 Speaker 10: I do think there's ways to work past it. But 603 00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:51,719 Speaker 10: he has to be willing to like listen and hear her. 604 00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:56,240 Speaker 1: He needs good points. Good points, Emily, thank you for calling, 605 00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:57,440 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening. Have a good day. 606 00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:01,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, you too, appreciate you. You, Julian, were not considering 607 00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:03,320 Speaker 2: his feelings, really. 608 00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:09,119 Speaker 6: Not, because Y're focusing more on him. I want to 609 00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:10,480 Speaker 6: be intimate with him. 610 00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:12,480 Speaker 11: I had a baby too, and the father of my 611 00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:15,639 Speaker 11: daughter was really involved with the child. 612 00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:16,560 Speaker 6: I tell him when. 613 00:27:16,480 --> 00:27:18,600 Speaker 11: I'm going to feed the baby, I tell him when 614 00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:21,800 Speaker 11: the baby's going to sleep, and everything else in between. 615 00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:22,560 Speaker 6: It's the commedy. 616 00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:25,480 Speaker 11: I believe her issue is of no one had to 617 00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:30,159 Speaker 11: communicate with the father, of putting him involved actually in 618 00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:32,879 Speaker 11: the baby's child. And when I had my first baby, 619 00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:35,560 Speaker 11: I was very insecure because I will call her father 620 00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:38,960 Speaker 11: through the trauma that I've been with all the time. 621 00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:42,920 Speaker 11: But I don't understand when you said that it's an 622 00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:46,800 Speaker 11: intimate issue and everything. But she did mention of him 623 00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:49,200 Speaker 11: feeling absent in the child's life. 624 00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:51,520 Speaker 1: You know that's fair, that's fair much. 625 00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:55,840 Speaker 2: Maybe and someone touched right, Julian, I'm so sorry. Someone 626 00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:58,480 Speaker 2: texted maybe maybe he hasn't bonded with the child yet. 627 00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:00,359 Speaker 2: I think for me it was the kind of about 628 00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:03,080 Speaker 2: you don't cuddle me, You've never cuddled me as much 629 00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:05,000 Speaker 2: as you've cuddled him. 630 00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:11,560 Speaker 6: My daughter will feel like that. But at the same time, 631 00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:14,920 Speaker 6: I had my daughter in certain place. 632 00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:17,680 Speaker 11: In a toy band. 633 00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:20,280 Speaker 6: I apologize, my English is my second language. 634 00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:25,840 Speaker 11: My daughter in a in a play band by the 635 00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:29,000 Speaker 11: by the bed, so he wasn't she wasn't in the 636 00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:31,960 Speaker 11: bed with us. So maybe other. 637 00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:34,960 Speaker 6: Than putting the child in it on his own room. 638 00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:38,520 Speaker 11: Maybe you know, put a little band or something next 639 00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:40,640 Speaker 11: to next to her. 640 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:43,240 Speaker 6: Or something in the womb and that and whatnot. 641 00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:45,920 Speaker 11: But at the same time, she they just have the 642 00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:49,280 Speaker 11: baby within two much so maybe he will probably do some. 643 00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:52,880 Speaker 6: Research and see a way to make her feel better 644 00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:56,520 Speaker 6: with him being in the in the intimacy as well, 645 00:28:56,560 --> 00:29:00,240 Speaker 6: because at the time is not really sex really all 646 00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:02,719 Speaker 6: that they're sitting together and talking. 647 00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:06,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you, Julian. I appreciate the budget. Have a 648 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,720 Speaker 2: good day, of course, thanks for listening. I think for me, 649 00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:10,920 Speaker 2: it's the sixty days. You know, if we're talking about 650 00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:13,800 Speaker 2: this after three years, you know, my needs are being mad. 651 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:15,680 Speaker 2: You're not paying attention to me. We're not you know, 652 00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:18,400 Speaker 2: our partnership is falling apart. Like okay, okay, Like the 653 00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:21,160 Speaker 2: kid's a little bit more independent. It's been years of 654 00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,400 Speaker 2: this now, you know, he doesn't feel like he's part 655 00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:25,560 Speaker 2: of the process. I mean, all of that is fair, 656 00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:27,880 Speaker 2: but I mean we are. It is just so new 657 00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:31,400 Speaker 2: and we're to your point, we're still physically healing from 658 00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:35,040 Speaker 2: what happened. Yeah, Kathy, Hi, Kathy. 659 00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:37,480 Speaker 7: Hi, good morning, Hey, good morning. 660 00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:37,920 Speaker 1: And just to. 661 00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:41,080 Speaker 2: Recap here, this woman Serena coled in. She just had 662 00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:44,080 Speaker 2: a baby sixty days ago and her husband's not adjusting well. Essentially, 663 00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:46,560 Speaker 2: he's throwing a temper tantrum, saying, hey, you're not paying 664 00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:48,320 Speaker 2: enough attention to me. I want the baby out of 665 00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:50,000 Speaker 2: the room. I want to be cuddled more, I want 666 00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:52,040 Speaker 2: to be held. But whatever he wants, he wants all 667 00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:54,880 Speaker 2: the things that baby's getting. But I don't know that 668 00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:57,120 Speaker 2: she's necessarily I mean, maybe she's choosing to do this, 669 00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:59,160 Speaker 2: but at the same time, I think she kind of 670 00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:00,560 Speaker 2: has to, right. 671 00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:04,640 Speaker 10: Yeah, And something similar happened to me. 672 00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:07,520 Speaker 7: I was married, had a baby, so excited the whole 673 00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:10,640 Speaker 7: time and everything, but then he got really insecure after 674 00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:12,680 Speaker 7: the baby was born, because, yeah, you don't go out 675 00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:14,840 Speaker 7: to dinner every night, you know, you don't have all 676 00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:18,680 Speaker 7: that free time for yourself. And he ended up, you know, 677 00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,040 Speaker 7: it drove a wedge between us. He ended up having 678 00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:23,840 Speaker 7: an affair, and then when we were splitting up, he 679 00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:27,719 Speaker 7: said that it was the lack of attention and more 680 00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:30,800 Speaker 7: attention on the baby, and it's just, you know, like hindsight, 681 00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:33,280 Speaker 7: it was all just a lot of insecurity, like you're 682 00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:35,880 Speaker 7: so jealous of a little baby, like a sweet little baby. 683 00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:38,280 Speaker 2: Well, it's all just gaslightly right, because he again, I've 684 00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:40,640 Speaker 2: said it fifty times in the last fifteen minutes. What 685 00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:43,880 Speaker 2: are you supposed to do, especially in these really early stages, 686 00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:45,840 Speaker 2: what are you supposed to do? Just okay, you know what, 687 00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:49,160 Speaker 2: baby's crying and needs to eat and it requires me 688 00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:51,200 Speaker 2: to do everything, but you no, let me make sure 689 00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:54,240 Speaker 2: that I hold you a little longer and it's just 690 00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:55,600 Speaker 2: a tough spot to put her in. 691 00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:59,360 Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm sorry. Time to put your big boy pants on, 692 00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:02,040 Speaker 7: like you're a now, Like it's time to provide and 693 00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:04,520 Speaker 7: you know, intimacy will come later. Right now, it's all 694 00:31:04,520 --> 00:31:06,440 Speaker 7: about your baby. You cannot make it about you. And 695 00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:08,440 Speaker 7: like I said, just a lot of insecurity. 696 00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:10,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think so. Thank you, Kathy, and I'm 697 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,080 Speaker 2: sure that happened to you, but thanks for sharing. 698 00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:14,360 Speaker 7: It was all for the best. 699 00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:18,840 Speaker 1: There you go, have a good day. Did you have 700 00:31:18,880 --> 00:31:19,640 Speaker 1: any final thoughts? 701 00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:22,040 Speaker 5: I do, because people are saying, you know, maybe dad 702 00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:25,280 Speaker 5: doesn't feel like he's bonding with baby. I think mom could, okay, 703 00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:27,280 Speaker 5: maybe give him, like, hey, do bath dough, thtole things 704 00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:29,840 Speaker 5: like that. People have to understand it. Two months postpartum, 705 00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:31,560 Speaker 5: you feel like you don't want to be away from 706 00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:33,280 Speaker 5: your baby, Like it's I don't know if it's just 707 00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:34,960 Speaker 5: like this, I call it a primal feeling, Like I 708 00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:36,760 Speaker 5: feel like I just like I had to grab her 709 00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:38,360 Speaker 5: all the time, if somebody was holding her, I needed 710 00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:40,520 Speaker 5: her back instantly. So like, we have to give grace 711 00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:42,440 Speaker 5: to the mom to understand that these are her hormones, 712 00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:43,360 Speaker 5: this is how she's feeling. 713 00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:46,920 Speaker 2: What I mean, we're talking about a chemical reaction. We're 714 00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:50,440 Speaker 2: talking about human chemical reactity. We're not it's not necessarily 715 00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:54,360 Speaker 2: all a choice, correct, so my understanding at least, so Yeah,