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Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold down, Todd. We got it for

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Speaker 1: you here, Cowberry. That's the brother right there. Alright, subject,

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Speaker 1: let's get it started. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am I

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Speaker 1: am darn near fifty years old and my wife. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you're not gonna stop. You're gonna stop doing that with

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Speaker 1: these letters. You are just like the cuss. Okay, just

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Speaker 1: say it's not you customers what they see. I am

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Speaker 1: darn near fifty years old and my wife. Let me,

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Speaker 1: were you watching CNN when Donald Trump made the s

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Speaker 1: whole comment about Haiti and Africa, Every comment taken upon

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Speaker 1: themselves to take an advantage of that situation because it's journalism, alright,

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Speaker 1: and start being a professional journalist. I am darn near

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Speaker 1: fifty years old and my wife is forty. We've been

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Speaker 1: married for almost ten years and have two children, both

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Speaker 1: under the age of five. I want to make sure

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Speaker 1: you all have the details. First of all, I love

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Speaker 1: my wife, but it's in all caps. B ut all caps.

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Speaker 1: But here is the problem. If I want some cookie,

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Speaker 1: I have to initiate it per cent of the time.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes she will, but it is rare to me, rare

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Speaker 1: for me. I don't want to feel like I am

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Speaker 1: forcing her to do something she doesn't want to do. However,

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Speaker 1: I think we're both young enough to have the time

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Speaker 1: of our lives. I have often gone to bed frustrated

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Speaker 1: with the lack of cookie in our life. I have

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Speaker 1: gone to bed naked. I have purchased her sex sexy lingerie,

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Speaker 1: I think she doesn't feel confident in her bedroom skills,

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Speaker 1: but this leaves me frustrated too often, or thinking I

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Speaker 1: why doesn't she initiated more often? I feel like she

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Speaker 1: am not as good in bed as I think I am.

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Speaker 1: I have never cheated on my wife and I have

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Speaker 1: no plans to. But I can't keep going to sleep

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Speaker 1: sexually frustrated. What else can I do to have her

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Speaker 1: first move forever? Please help? Um? Well, I mean you

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Speaker 1: might have to. You you might have to. I mean,

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Speaker 1: do it of the time. That five percent of the time.

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Speaker 1: Maybe that's all you'll have for now. Maybe she is

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Speaker 1: some honest communication about your you know, uh, sexual life

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Speaker 1: or lack thereof. So you're gonna have to talk to her.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I know you want these changes, um, but

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Speaker 1: you can communicate. You can tell her what you like

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Speaker 1: you attractive too, But when you do, she's cool with it.

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Speaker 1: You says, she acts like you're the best in the world.

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Speaker 1: meet in the middle somewhere. But talking and communicating is first.

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Speaker 1: I would say, Steve, well, well, well, well, well, because

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Speaker 1: the naked here we go. Yeah, yeah, the married man's plight. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: let's talk about this for a minute. He fifty, She foughty.

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Speaker 1: Is that what he's saying. That's what it says. He says,

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Speaker 1: he damn near fifty, his wife forty. They've been married

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Speaker 1: nothing sexy about that. Kids is mood killers. Kids is

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Speaker 1: kids create interference. That's what kids is. So now that

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you exist, but I ain't got time to

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Speaker 1: I have gone to bed naked. That ain't nothing for me.

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Speaker 1: See this man right here he fitted his wife for that.

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Speaker 1: He got initiated at the time. Now, before I left,

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Speaker 1: It's wearing this woman out. The kids are something else.

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Speaker 1: But now when they come back, they bring more people

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Speaker 1: That could be she threw with these kids. She got

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Speaker 1: I would venture to say that that's probably it. Now,

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Speaker 1: because sherl up at the house playing the same damn game,

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Speaker 1: You ain't never heard me ask for a dog's black ass. Bad.

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Speaker 1: Ain't nothing you can do. You'ren't about the lingerie. You

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Speaker 1: the law. That ain't what you wanta do. You want

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