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Speaker 2: You guys, almost had it.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, Hey, you guys, keep going, keep going.

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Speaker 1: My husband got offered a role in India, which he

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Speaker 2: That's always a good good, that's a.

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Speaker 3: I'm just raw dogging it.

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Speaker 4: Man, dude, I do. It's rough out here.

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Speaker 2: Existence is raw dogging me right now.

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Speaker 4: And it doesn't feel good. Read that comment. Just highlight

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Speaker 4: What are Oh my god, because I'm a pirate? Yar

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Speaker 4: But you know what, We'll never invalidate the way you're feeling.

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Speaker 4: If you join us every week day.

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Speaker 1: At three pm PST when we go live on YouTube, Facebook, Twitch, TikTok.

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Speaker 1: All you gotta do is tap our profile and you're in.

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Speaker 1: And if you're watching this in the future, we might

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Speaker 4: This is a long distance relationship.

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Speaker 1: Like, bad husband for not being like I understand that

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Speaker 3: This is what she's saying. She's not being prioritized. It's like, hey,

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Speaker 4: I don't know what to do.

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Speaker 1: It feels so disconnected and resentful towards him. I mean,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because he already hates the job that he has.

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Speaker 3: And it's like and that he starts enjoying the journey

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Speaker 4: There expectations that we build in our own heads are

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Speaker 3: It's not even guaranteed he's working this hard.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a risk. That's a risk.

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Speaker 1: Right, what happens after year three and it's like, hey,

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Speaker 4: Then what you wasted three LUs?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 4: That's but yes, that is the end of that story.

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Speaker 4: And I will hand the phone to Riley. Riley, ke

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Speaker 4: you doing all right?

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Speaker 2: I'm all right, I could probably knock out at least

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Speaker 4: Okay, borrowing right, we gotta ask you. Oh ke on,

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Speaker 4: I can hear it. You're done. Damn good guys. Oh no,

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Speaker 4: you're not, bro, I see it.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, it's getting worse in the eyes. I can

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Speaker 2: Not allergies. Brother, I'll tell you that.

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Speaker 4: Oh man, dang dang. All right, are you sure you

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Speaker 4: can tap out? We can have someone come out, right.

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Speaker 1: I can.

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Speaker 4: I can get behind the ask and you can go

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Speaker 4: then you.

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Speaker 2: Need knock out this episode. Out this episode. I can

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Speaker 2: do it for you, guys.

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Speaker 4: I just know how it felt, and the stream I

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Speaker 2: Yes, my brain That's why I'm not calling as much.

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Speaker 2: My brain is.

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Speaker 4: That's okay, Just keep pressing buttons.

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Speaker 2: I can do that, like Catain America says, I can

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Speaker 3: Oh gosh, okay, So what's the actual title? Because this

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Speaker 2: But just found out my husband fabricated.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because you put that on there. They got the

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Speaker 2: Go, got it.

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Speaker 3: Yep, everyone's saying we'll release him. We can release Keon,

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Speaker 3: but we can't release me. Whenever I was in producing

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Speaker 2: I will be fine Tomorrow I will not.

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Speaker 4: Okay, here we go.

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Speaker 3: I just found out my husband fabricated his entire life,

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Speaker 3: So I'm getting an annulment.

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Speaker 1: Ah, what a quitter move. You didn't even find out

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Speaker 4: Sorry, I'm just don't be sorry for that commentary. Shut up.

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Speaker 4: That was awesome. Yeah, there we go. Female.

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Speaker 3: Have been married to my husband twenty seven male for

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Speaker 4: Him last year.

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Speaker 3: He has always been perfect for me and I simply

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Speaker 3: cannot understand why he is acting like this at all,

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Speaker 3: me and my brother in law. Another Alabama story.

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Speaker 4: Hey, everybody shout out. My grandma's in the chat. What's up, granny?

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Speaker 2: Which whis grandma?

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Speaker 4: Nelda? Oh, your mama?

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Speaker 2: Your grandma told me to get a stereoid.

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Speaker 4: Shut that's true.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from No Heart thirty eight

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Speaker 3: I didn't even know that my husband was insecure about

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Speaker 3: It's kind of funny that I get along with him

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Speaker 3: Husband definitely said something. My husband's jealous and he said something.

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Speaker 4: I believe, so I believe. So it's definitely what it is.

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Speaker 4: I'll agree with him, but on hard mode anymore.

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Speaker 3: Oh thanks man Ugh. But he started avoiding me more

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Speaker 4: Well, that's one way to put it.

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Speaker 3: I hugged him and said, I will talk to my

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Speaker 3: The only difference is I love my husband romantically and

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Speaker 4: I just love that.

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Speaker 1: It was like you could have left it at romantically,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, romantically. Yeah, yeah, it's fine. It's totally fine.

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Speaker 4: It's fine. You don't put thoughts in my head. Stop

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Speaker 4: it anyway.

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Speaker 3: I confronted my husband and he kept telling me and

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Speaker 3: my brother in law is icky and people will judge us,

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Speaker 3: et cetera, et cetera. I said, f those who think

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Speaker 3: I am disappointed that you have so little trust in me.

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Speaker 4: That and your own brother.

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Speaker 3: He said, he's sorry. I told him to get out

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Speaker 3: and do not return until I tell you to.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you could say that again.

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Speaker 1: For all the listeners. Riley did a little visual humor

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Speaker 1: to listen to the big bold sign that he printed

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Speaker 4: Not to do that.

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Speaker 1: Well much I can understand, because I also didn't like

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Speaker 4: To join the live stream. See what I did. It was,

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Speaker 3: My husband left, but he can constantly cause me and

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Speaker 3: I don't like that I kicked my husband, but I

443
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:27,160
Speaker 3: am angry and hate the way he's thinking.

444
00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 4: Pole a hole or not the a hole? What do

445
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:35,080
Speaker 4: you think to kardon, I'm gonna say a hole? Ale, Yeah,

446
00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:39,879
Speaker 4: it's just not It's just I don't know, it's just

447
00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:40,600
Speaker 4: common sense.

448
00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:40,880
Speaker 5: Man.

449
00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:44,960
Speaker 3: I think i'd feel uncomfortable if they were super close

450
00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:46,920
Speaker 3: like that. I mean, I would still trust both partners,

451
00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:49,160
Speaker 3: but if I was a husband, i'd probably go about

452
00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:49,680
Speaker 3: it differently.

453
00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:54,359
Speaker 4: Well, I mean, but it's like they're who is she's close.

454
00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:56,960
Speaker 3: It's a relative brother in law. It's not even her

455
00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:58,120
Speaker 3: own brother, it's her brother in law.

456
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:01,879
Speaker 4: Dude, how my brain just like didn't hear that the

457
00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:02,720
Speaker 4: whole time? Oh my god.

458
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:06,879
Speaker 1: But okay, okay, so a little less a hole for

459
00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:09,840
Speaker 1: my part, but at the same time, still still a

460
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:11,320
Speaker 1: hole because you didn't have to go about it that

461
00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:13,560
Speaker 1: way exactly like you said. It's like, it's guys, it's

462
00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:18,600
Speaker 1: all about the execution. Yeah, if you execute differently, sometimes

463
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:22,040
Speaker 1: you're not the A hole. Sometimes you execute wrong, you're

464
00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 1: definitely the a hole. Even if you could have been

465
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,359
Speaker 1: in the right, you become wrong.

466
00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know.

467
00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:34,200
Speaker 1: It's like, uh, it's like you can knock on somebody's door, right,

468
00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:35,960
Speaker 1: and you can go knock, knock, knock.

469
00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:36,920
Speaker 4: That's good execution.

470
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:39,119
Speaker 1: If you take a hammer and you bang on the

471
00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 1: door until there's a hole in it, you did the

472
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:44,040
Speaker 1: same thing, but that's bad execution.

473
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:48,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, agreed, agreed, And we're getting a lot of not

474
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 3: the A hole, Okay, where's the fake life? Yeah, that's

475
00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:55,879
Speaker 3: what I want to know. Where's a fake life at

476
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:57,000
Speaker 3: I think we're getting into it.

477
00:23:57,080 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 4: I think we're getting into it right now. I sho

478
00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:03,560
Speaker 4: get a little bit. Oh what a husband up?

479
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:10,199
Speaker 1: I see you husband is projecting because he's actually infatuated.

480
00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:11,360
Speaker 4: With his Yeah, why is he going on so many

481
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:12,000
Speaker 4: business trips?

482
00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:16,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, little little person, he agrees, Thank you, kehonk.

483
00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:18,639
Speaker 4: We're almost close. We're so close.

484
00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 3: We're so close, buddy, We're only an hour. We're halfway out.

485
00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:26,800
Speaker 3: I posted two days ago and realized that I truly

486
00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:30,520
Speaker 3: eft up. Okay, I'm right by kicking him out and

487
00:24:30,640 --> 00:24:33,240
Speaker 3: dismissing his concern with my brother in law. And for

488
00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:35,640
Speaker 3: those who are asking me if I am in brother

489
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:38,239
Speaker 3: in law sheets or if I got the hots for him,

490
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:41,800
Speaker 3: I don't, and it's disgusting. I truly think of him

491
00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:44,800
Speaker 3: as my younger brother and always thought of him as one,

492
00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 3: and I would never ever cheat on my husband. And

493
00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:50,639
Speaker 3: I kicked him out of his house because I was

494
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 3: pissed at him for accusing me of an affair with

495
00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:55,119
Speaker 3: his own brother. Why are we not using comments and

496
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 3: why are we not using periods?

497
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:58,879
Speaker 4: What the frick? Because they knew you were reading. But

498
00:24:59,000 --> 00:24:59,919
Speaker 4: they do this every time.

499
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:02,119
Speaker 3: They do this to you, every time they know I

500
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:07,200
Speaker 3: have issues, and they're like, let's give more challenge to him. Okay, okay,

501
00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:11,359
Speaker 3: my husband indirectly accused me of having an affair, and

502
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 3: there's no way he can justify it. If my brother

503
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:16,200
Speaker 3: in law and if my brother in law my brother

504
00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 3: ever hinted or asked me if he wants to be

505
00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:21,919
Speaker 3: with me, I would literally slap him and tell him

506
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:25,199
Speaker 3: everyone in our family, especially my husband, and avoid him.

507
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:28,120
Speaker 3: But after all these years, I know that my brother

508
00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:31,159
Speaker 3: in law thinks of me as a sister. I adore him.

509
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:34,360
Speaker 3: He stayed with me and visits me because he's concerned

510
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:38,800
Speaker 3: about me, So stop with the discussing dms and replies.

511
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:39,920
Speaker 4: Anyways.

512
00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:42,119
Speaker 3: I asked my husband to come back, and he told

513
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,360
Speaker 3: him it's better for us to talk it out than

514
00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:48,200
Speaker 3: just stay apart and become paranoid. My husband came back

515
00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:50,359
Speaker 3: and he told me that he didn't like how close

516
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 3: I am with my brother in law. He said that

517
00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 3: it fills He said that his friends keep telling him

518
00:25:57,800 --> 00:26:00,240
Speaker 3: that he and his brother are sharing a woman and

519
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 3: tease him. I asked him what he I asked him,

520
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:08,480
Speaker 3: what does he want? I ask I asked, does he

521
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 3: want me to stay away from his brother? He said

522
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:14,720
Speaker 3: he does. I said, then I will do it. I

523
00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:17,320
Speaker 3: will not talk to his brother as much and forget

524
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:20,320
Speaker 3: about treating him as my brother. I called my brother

525
00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:22,440
Speaker 3: in law and told him that we should stay away

526
00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:26,200
Speaker 3: from each other and should only interact when our family

527
00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 3: members are present and keep it minimal. Okay, that's respectful.

528
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:32,400
Speaker 4: That's a respectful boundary. Yeah.

529
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:34,440
Speaker 3: Yeah. If he feels uncomfortable when you guys talk about it,

530
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:41,200
Speaker 3: that's cool. But brother in law confesses his love. Oh,

531
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:42,199
Speaker 3: I was speaking just.

532
00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:43,560
Speaker 4: For that I loved Okay. Yeah.

533
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:47,080
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, sorry, I'm reacting as if I'm

534
00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 3: a TV writer. That's what you should say as a

535
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 3: TV writer. He said he is okay with it, and

536
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:54,880
Speaker 3: he has been thinking about it and he thinks it's

537
00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:57,240
Speaker 3: not worth much drama and will keep his distance from me.

538
00:26:57,720 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 3: My brother in law asked me to pass the phone

539
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 3: to my husband, and my brother in law apologized to

540
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:04,800
Speaker 3: my husband and said he would stay away from me

541
00:27:05,280 --> 00:27:08,240
Speaker 3: and won't be as close to me as he was before. Okay,

542
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:12,600
Speaker 3: that's nice. They talked and agreed and now brother in

543
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 3: law is going to avoid me, which is better than

544
00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:18,480
Speaker 3: my husband being mad at me and avoiding me. I

545
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 3: told my husband that he better not think about that,

546
00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 3: and I would secretly meet his brother.

547
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:25,160
Speaker 4: We would both.

548
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:28,720
Speaker 3: We both were transparent and never hid anything from you.

549
00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:31,879
Speaker 3: If I'm losing my friend and my brother just because

550
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:34,720
Speaker 3: he's your brother and known him for years, then I

551
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:38,120
Speaker 3: will stay away from all men. But don't you dare

552
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:42,880
Speaker 3: suspect me of cheating ever again, I said that he's

553
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:45,280
Speaker 3: not allowed to stay close with other women, either his

554
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:48,240
Speaker 3: friends or cousins or my cousins. Because there it goes

555
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 3: both ways. I say stay away from his brother and cousins,

556
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 3: and he does the same. He agreed, and he's back.

557
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,400
Speaker 3: Oh okay, and you can be back with us every

558
00:27:57,440 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 3: weekend at three PMPSD when you can join us live

559
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:03,359
Speaker 3: on YouTube, twitch, TikTok, and Facebook. And we might be

560
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:06,920
Speaker 3: live right now. But before you go check on that,

561
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 3: we got a little bit left. We're gonna collect their

562
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:09,719
Speaker 3: thoughts here.

563
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:12,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's I think I like that they were like

564
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 1: there's no double standard there because it's like at the end,

565
00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:15,840
Speaker 1: it's like, well, if you're gonna tell me that that's

566
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:16,480
Speaker 1: a requirement.

567
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:19,359
Speaker 4: Then you have to stick to the same level. And

568
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:22,160
Speaker 4: I'm honestly kind of surprised that he was like okay, yeah,

569
00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:24,800
Speaker 4: so easily. Yeah, I don't.

570
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 1: I'm thinking that there's like, like some this is Craig,

571
00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:30,160
Speaker 1: there's gotta be something else.

572
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:34,639
Speaker 4: So where is her support system?

573
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: Then?

574
00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:37,000
Speaker 3: Oh wow, we got a lot of concerns in the chat.

575
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:39,840
Speaker 3: He shouldn't have to stay away from his brother. That's crazy.

576
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 3: Wait are they five?

577
00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 4: Five? There's no trust? Where's the trust? There's no trust?

578
00:28:46,200 --> 00:28:48,480
Speaker 1: Does he maybe know his brother gets up to no good?

579
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 1: And NOP doesn't like dude who knows brother in law

580
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 1: is a friend? Why isolate the wife over the husbands

581
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:55,680
Speaker 1: and securities?

582
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:56,080
Speaker 3: Yeah?

583
00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 4: I don't know.

584
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 1: It's it's a weird situation. And I think that I

585
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:01,680
Speaker 1: don't think this is gonna last man because there's.

586
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:04,280
Speaker 4: No trust, there's none. What happens to the next guy?

587
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 1: They're just like okay, so I guess we can't hang

588
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:08,720
Speaker 1: out with anybody who you know?

589
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:10,720
Speaker 4: You can't hang out with any It really is like

590
00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 4: they're five, You can't hang out talk to any other boys?

591
00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:16,720
Speaker 4: Pretty you meet and I won't talk to any Get

592
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:20,120
Speaker 4: out of here. We're gonna finish this up because I'm

593
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 4: sick of it.

594
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 2: I'm just sick.

595
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:29,200
Speaker 4: You have a doctor's order to get rest.

596
00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 3: By the way, oh soon worm was on, but it

597
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 3: doesn't feel the same way to me. I feel like

598
00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 3: he accused me of sleeping with someone and that and

599
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:49,880
Speaker 3: to that with its own drama, get it out, can't

600
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:51,080
Speaker 3: is it stuck?

601
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 1: Give it?

602
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:55,680
Speaker 3: Give it a bang bang on the drums, and to

603
00:29:55,920 --> 00:29:59,600
Speaker 3: that with his own dang brother. I know my brother

604
00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 3: or brother in law I guess, wouldn't betray his brother.

605
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 3: And even I am to stay away from him, my

606
00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:09,320
Speaker 3: husband would think I am cheating when he is not around,

607
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:11,920
Speaker 3: and I do not feel comfortable about this. I love

608
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:16,320
Speaker 3: my husband because he's mine, spicy sexually, physically, but I

609
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 3: also love my brother in law emotionally because I think

610
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 3: in treat of him as my brother, there might have

611
00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 3: been an emotional cheating. I didn't even think about that.

612
00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 3: I have no idea if I could have handled my

613
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 3: situation any better because I am so currently angry about

614
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:31,920
Speaker 3: all of this and that is the end.

615
00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 4: Wow, Wow, that was Yeah. I feel like that was

616
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 4: toxic and honestly kind of unresolved because you have more

617
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 4: problems in the future. It's like we did it. It's like, no,

618
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 4: you didn't know, you've done You've done it. Basically nothing.

619
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 4: We did the best thing that we could have made,

620
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:49,160
Speaker 4: like a somehow a.

621
00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 1: Really toxic like the I can't even bout that, just

622
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 1: a toxic boundary. We're like, we're just gonna pretend no

623
00:30:57,200 --> 00:30:59,360
Speaker 1: one else exists on earth besides us, because I guess

624
00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: we can't be try us to look at or talk

625
00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:03,200
Speaker 1: to other people.

626
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, it's that's crazy. Yeah, but yeah, that's the

627
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:11,320
Speaker 4: end of that story.

628
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 3: That's in that story.

629
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:16,920
Speaker 4: That is the end of that story. It's not just

630
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:19,600
Speaker 4: the end of that story and the end of that Man,

631
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 4: I've read all three of them, did we really? Yeah?

632
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 1: Well, the first one was feeling Lost, wasn't wasn't the

633
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:27,960
Speaker 1: first one the uh just found out?

634
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:34,600
Speaker 4: My husband and the whole were asking, right, wasn't the

635
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:41,440
Speaker 4: first one the hard mode? Right? Wrong? Okay, Yeah, you're

636
00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 4: going home.

637
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 3: Accuse me of having an affair with his brother. There's

638
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:46,840
Speaker 3: no way he can just wait. I think we might

639
00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:47,360
Speaker 3: have gotten that.

640
00:31:47,640 --> 00:31:50,040
Speaker 4: Did we get the wrong title? I think so. I

641
00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 4: think we've got the run read link. But we just

642
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 4: read that.

643
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 1: Oh you know what, we probably had the right title,

644
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:59,840
Speaker 1: but it was the wrong story. Oh ship, yeah, yeah, yeah,

645
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:02,800
Speaker 1: right title wrongs. Yeah, yeah, we got there. We got

646
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:06,240
Speaker 1: the same read link in two of them. Yeah, sorry, guys,

647
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 1: we had a little technical Snapoo, what's the real what

648
00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 1: is the real title of that story?

649
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:14,200
Speaker 3: So we have another one we haven't read, and this

650
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 3: one just found out my husband fabricreat it is entirely

651
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:17,320
Speaker 3: Wait did you.

652
00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:18,520
Speaker 4: In that in that one?

653
00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 2: I ended that? Do you want me to end it?

654
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:23,320
Speaker 3: Yea, yeah, it started again? Uh, editor, this is the

655
00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 3: can you do the other one that my my brother

656
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 3: wants me to stop?

657
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 4: Yeah? Could you pull that title up? And then we're

658
00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:34,840
Speaker 4: gonna record this and do that for that Riley owes

659
00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 4: us a minute. What do you mean? You know, they're

660
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 4: just gonna try to get it out of us, which

661
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:41,560
Speaker 4: I'm here.

662
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 2: Do the is it the affair? My husband accused me

663
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Speaker 2: of having affair with his brother?

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Speaker 3: Yep, do that one and I'll and I'll read that

665
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Speaker 3: title and then yeah, so editor uses this title for

666
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Speaker 3: the last story.

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Speaker 4: Can you put it on me? Thank you?

668
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Speaker 3: M My husband accused me you have an affair with

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Speaker 3: his brother, But there's no way he can trust the fire,

670
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Speaker 3: and then you can in that there and then we'll

671
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Speaker 3: read this.

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Speaker 2: Next way, we'll do one again more.

673
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Speaker 3: Time I was recording it, my husband accused me of

674
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Speaker 3: having an affair with his brother. But there's no way

675
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Speaker 3: he can justify it.

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Speaker 4: Oh boy, all right, cool, So sorry for the snaffoo.

677
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:21,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, wonder. I was like, I was so confused.

678
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 4: I was like, where's the second life? You sure there's

679
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 4: also there's a lysol somewhere.

680
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:33,120
Speaker 5: Hey, everyone, thanks, thanks for being so concerning and loving,

681
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:36,400
Speaker 5: and I appreciate you all. I try to stick through it,

682
00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 5: but it's getting it's going. Sorry, guys, it just it

683
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:41,400
Speaker 5: is what it is.

684
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's we We can only do what we can do,

685
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Speaker 1: and we would rather have you at home rest instead

686
00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 1: of getting sicker while trying.

687
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Speaker 2: I'm gonna go.

688
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Speaker 5: I'm gonna go get some soup and rest. I should

689
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Speaker 5: be okay to drive, guys, I'm gonna be fine the drive,

690
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Speaker 5: but I'm sure to go home and just rest and

691
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Speaker 5: just get rest.

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Speaker 2: No, it's okay, I'm I'm no, I have SUP at home.

693
00:34:11,200 --> 00:34:13,200
Speaker 2: Oh no, I have SUP at home. I'm like, I'm told,

694
00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:15,759
Speaker 2: I told you know what your soup is probably better

695
00:34:15,760 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 2: than that. I have Sup at home.

696
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:17,640
Speaker 4: Yeah.

697
00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 5: But again, first and foremost, dude, this makes me so happy. Okay,

698
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Speaker 5: there's one. I'm getting out of here, Belton, thank you

699
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Speaker 5: so much.

700
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Speaker 2: I'm going home.

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Speaker 4: You're champion, Belton. Get out of here. You whoa whoa

702
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:50,520
Speaker 4: tactical tactical. You just carpet bomb. You don't have to

703
00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:53,520
Speaker 4: do that. That's why I'm saying, you don't have you

704
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:57,120
Speaker 4: don't have to. You don't have to do that much. Guys.

705
00:34:57,160 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 1: I moved the mic away from my face because I

706
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:00,839
Speaker 1: didn't want to do free sponsors. I was telling him

707
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:02,600
Speaker 1: to go get soup at an unnamed place that would

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00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 1: remain nameless until they pay us a bunch of money.

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Speaker 5: Uh.

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00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:11,840
Speaker 4: Bye, Kean, I love you. I'll see you. Talk to

711
00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:14,839
Speaker 4: your sister. She needs to freaking do the thing. Oh

712
00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:23,239
Speaker 4: she did, Kay shut out a shout at her. Very good.

713
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:29,279
Speaker 4: See you and I see.

714
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:31,520
Speaker 1: Oh you know what, guys, hold on, I think I'm

715
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Speaker 1: gonna try to coordinate something here because I have a

716
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:41,440
Speaker 1: friend who has a birthday today.

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Speaker 4: Oh god, oh that is so bad. Yeah, man, you

718
00:35:49,520 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 4: that's why I was like, dude, no, no, too much you.

719
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Speaker 4: It's like, yeah, I know, I know, but it's clean though.

720
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:03,000
Speaker 3: There's no germs on this. There are no germs on this.

721
00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:06,080
Speaker 3: I've not been this producer seat in a minute. Remember

722
00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:08,800
Speaker 3: when I used to live here? Guys, Hey, hey you

723
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:09,960
Speaker 3: could you close that door?

724
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:14,799
Speaker 4: Please? Hey you? Hey? Ay you way? All right? Here

725
00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 4: we go? You ready, buddy? I was literally born ready,

726
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:21,480
Speaker 4: I'm low key.

727
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:23,399
Speaker 1: I'm trying to see if I can get my friend

728
00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:24,719
Speaker 1: in the stream and then everyone can wish it my

729
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:25,280
Speaker 1: happy birthday.

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Speaker 4: Okay, cool, but I'm ready. I'm ready. I'm ready.

731
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Speaker 3: I'm ready.

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Speaker 4: So and they were.

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Speaker 1: Now we're doing the real one, right yep? So oh,

734
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Speaker 1: happy birthday to Ellie's happy birthday. It's Ellie's son's first birthday.

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Speaker 4: Hell if GE's in the chat? But did you read

736
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:50,320
Speaker 4: this this one? Oh yeah? Donation from Mama Ellie for

737
00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:52,040
Speaker 4: ten dollars. Thank you. Keon.

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Speaker 1: You must go have tea and soup and rest. We

739
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Speaker 1: want you and your cakes at one hundred percent so

740
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Speaker 1: you can fully enjoy the chaos. The cakes are no

741
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:01,840
Speaker 1: good if they're only half baked.

742
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Speaker 4: Go through the rest thing. Yes, and now he's gone,

743
00:37:05,480 --> 00:37:11,880
Speaker 4: he's gone. Rest. Oh god, I hope I'm not feeling

744
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 4: a tickle in my nose.

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Speaker 1: Man.

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00:37:13,120 --> 00:37:17,840
Speaker 4: Stop, we can't have more people down. I know, mat Stop.

747
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:21,480
Speaker 1: At this point, we're just gonna all have to get

748
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Speaker 1: sick and then be sick together on stream, miserable.

749
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Speaker 3: All right, you have to look at me. I'll do

750
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:29,279
Speaker 3: my best to look at you. Do anymore stare at

751
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:30,040
Speaker 3: me into my eyes?

752
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 4: No, I can know I was What do you mean

753
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:39,160
Speaker 4: I was? I was looking right at you. Okay, okay,

754
00:37:41,719 --> 00:37:46,359
Speaker 4: now I can't see you. Yeah, thanks for I'm moving here.

755
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 4: It's perfect. Now okay, let's see what they're don't as

756
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:49,200
Speaker 4: we have here. That's it.

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Speaker 1: Meetings, greetings, chat and okay, story time crew missed the hatter.

758
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Speaker 4: Welcome mad Hatter. Gal back in the chat. We missed

759
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Speaker 4: you had a gap?

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00:38:01,200 --> 00:38:06,360
Speaker 3: All right, let's read this freaking story. All right, wait, boom,

761
00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:06,840
Speaker 3: let's do it.

762
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Speaker 4: I just found out my husband fabricated an entire life.

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Speaker 4: Can I get in a moment? And how do I

764
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Speaker 4: get him out? I met my husband four years ago,

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Speaker 4: just before moving to Pennsylvania to Georgia. Did I say two?

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00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:25,760
Speaker 4: Pennsylvania to Georgia.

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00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's right, I've I met my husband four years ago,

768
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:33,960
Speaker 1: just before moving from Pennsylvania to Georgia. Shortly after my move,

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Speaker 1: he followed me and we fell in love. We lived

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Speaker 1: together from twenty fifteen onward, and in mid November twenty

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00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:43,719
Speaker 1: eighteen we married. Okay, by the way, this comes from

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Speaker 1: user popped Rocks two four one on the r slash

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Speaker 1: Okay storytime subread it. So today I discovered that virtually

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Speaker 1: everything he has ever told me or demonstrated about his

775
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:57,440
Speaker 1: life was a complete fabrication.

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00:38:57,760 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 3: Oh no, please, don't be a star Bocker story.

777
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 1: Well, well, let's find out from specific medical issues to

778
00:39:06,160 --> 00:39:10,239
Speaker 1: jobs past and present, to education, to family relationships, to

779
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:12,719
Speaker 1: the claim that his first language was not English, to

780
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 1: phone conversations that never happened to people he knows to

781
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 1: If you can think it, he has lied about it.

782
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:22,640
Speaker 1: We live together, but my name is on the lease

783
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:25,040
Speaker 1: and I hold the title on both of our cars.

784
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:27,640
Speaker 1: He has some belongings in our home, but most of

785
00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:29,760
Speaker 1: it has been purchased with money that I have earned

786
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 1: over our four years together, plus money from my personal

787
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:36,560
Speaker 1: savings account. I am totally open to letting him walk

788
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:39,960
Speaker 1: off with all of his stuff and even signing the

789
00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 1: older car to him. After a quick Internet search, it

790
00:39:43,239 --> 00:39:45,320
Speaker 1: looks like I might have grounds for a moment of

791
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 1: my marriage on the basis of being seriously misled? Do

792
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:53,959
Speaker 1: I what will I need to be able to prove

793
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:56,440
Speaker 1: in order to make it work? And is there anything

794
00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:58,200
Speaker 1: else I need to keep in mind to aim for

795
00:39:58,280 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 1: an annulment instead of a divorce?

796
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:04,000
Speaker 3: Okay, lawyers in the chat, get to work.

797
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, lawyers, time for some pro bono work. Let's go

798
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:13,160
Speaker 1: take this as a challenge. He is mentally ill, though

799
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 1: quite differently than I was led to believe, and receives

800
00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:19,239
Speaker 1: SSDI each month, but that is nowhere near enough for

801
00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:22,080
Speaker 1: him to live on. What is the legal way to

802
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:24,640
Speaker 1: get him out of my house and life with minimal

803
00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 1: risk damage and cost to me?

804
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 4: Also?

805
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Speaker 1: Do I look for a divorced lawyer in this situation?

806
00:40:30,280 --> 00:40:33,680
Speaker 1: Sorry if that's a dumb question. Also, also, how does

807
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:36,480
Speaker 1: custody of pets work? We have two kittens we got

808
00:40:36,520 --> 00:40:39,520
Speaker 1: in July and I can't imagine separating them. I also

809
00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 1: can't imagine him being able to take care of them

810
00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:44,200
Speaker 1: once we're separated, but I don't know if that matters.

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Speaker 1: I've had a bunch of questions about what specifically the

812
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:51,239
Speaker 1: man in question light about. Here is a partial list

813
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Speaker 1: that he went to school in Britain, met his ex

814
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Speaker 1: wife there and lived there for about twenty years before

815
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Speaker 1: we turning to the US. That he went to the

816
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:04,120
Speaker 1: bank and tried to close out our joint account, but

817
00:41:04,160 --> 00:41:06,480
Speaker 1: couldn't do it because he wasn't an authorized designer on

818
00:41:06,560 --> 00:41:10,480
Speaker 1: the account. Oh, full list of emergency medical information including

819
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:13,200
Speaker 1: doctors names and phone numbers, and a list of medications

820
00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:17,200
Speaker 1: that he wasn't on. That his grown kids stole about

821
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Speaker 1: two thousand dollars from him and kicked him out.

822
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Speaker 4: Of his own house.

823
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Speaker 1: That he'd managed to scrape together enough money to buy

824
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Speaker 1: a house, but then his property tax increased and he

825
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:29,080
Speaker 1: ended up losing the house in a totally unfair turn

826
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Speaker 1: of events. Yeah, he'd messed up so egregiously with his

827
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Speaker 1: family's finances that his ex wife ended up losing the

828
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Speaker 1: home that she grew up in.

829
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Speaker 3: Oh my god, it doesn't sound like things are having

830
00:41:40,920 --> 00:41:42,239
Speaker 3: in him. It just sounds like he doesn't have his

831
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Speaker 3: stuff together.

832
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, nothing's happening to him. He is the thing that happens.

833
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:49,759
Speaker 1: He is about how he is a hurricane, He's an earthquake,

834
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:56,919
Speaker 1: He's a Category five natural disaster. That his father had

835
00:41:57,360 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 1: abused him horribly as a kid, and that his mom

836
00:41:59,560 --> 00:42:02,279
Speaker 1: had stood buy and let it happened lie, that his

837
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:04,919
Speaker 1: aunt and uncle were the only relatives who'd really cared

838
00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 1: for him, and that his uncle had passed away suddenly

839
00:42:07,120 --> 00:42:09,240
Speaker 1: of a heart attack right before we really got serious.

840
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:12,400
Speaker 1: His uncle is still alive and well, by the way. Uh,

841
00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:14,919
Speaker 1: That he'd been in Berlin when the wall came down.

842
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 4: What do you do? That's a weird flex.

843
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:22,719
Speaker 3: Guess where I was when the Perlin wall came I can't.

844
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 3: I don't even know what day that was.

845
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Speaker 4: You were just a twinkle in someone's eye. No, I

846
00:42:28,920 --> 00:42:31,760
Speaker 4: was never min I know you're.

847
00:42:33,239 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 1: Technically you were technically were okay, okay, That he was

848
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:41,920
Speaker 1: harassed at the grocery store by some random lady that

849
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:44,279
Speaker 1: didn't like the way he looked. That he grew up

850
00:42:44,280 --> 00:42:48,120
Speaker 1: speaking Polish as a first language, That he walked and

851
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:51,279
Speaker 1: talked in his sleep in his first language, Polish as

852
00:42:51,320 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 1: a side effect of the medication, that he wasn't on.

853
00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 1: That his dad was a woodworker and was making furniture

854
00:42:57,120 --> 00:42:59,400
Speaker 1: for us, That his brother worked for DARPA. That his

855
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:02,360
Speaker 1: aunt was a nun, That a nurse at the hospital

856
00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:04,680
Speaker 1: had told him some things about my dad's case that

857
00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:07,160
Speaker 1: we needed to attend to, and that he had a

858
00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:09,520
Speaker 1: specific job with a host of people he worked with

859
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:12,759
Speaker 1: on a regular basis, and all the stories he told

860
00:43:12,800 --> 00:43:15,359
Speaker 1: me on a nearly daily basis about those people were

861
00:43:15,400 --> 00:43:18,000
Speaker 1: all lies. That his boss had bought him a fancy

862
00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 1: new watch he had on his wrist, that mister Park,

863
00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:23,400
Speaker 1: the camera repair guide, did work on his cameras for

864
00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:26,399
Speaker 1: free or at a discount. Countless lies about money spent

865
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:30,520
Speaker 1: or refunds unavailable for all kinds of reasons. That his

866
00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:33,600
Speaker 1: counselor had actually said exactly what I said when they

867
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 1: talked about it too. This happened over and over again.

868
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:42,160
Speaker 1: That he was bipolar and borderline schizophrenic, but were well

869
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Speaker 1: controlled and committed to taking his meds. That he was

870
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:47,719
Speaker 1: feeling down at a given time. That he'd posted a

871
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 1: sign at work to collect donations for a cause I

872
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 1: cared about, and now the only problem was finding a

873
00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:54,360
Speaker 1: truck big enough to transport it.

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Speaker 5: All.

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Speaker 4: This was the lie that led to the end. How

876
00:44:00,719 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 4: many more lies do we have? There's just so many. God,

877
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:06,480
Speaker 4: oh my god, Oh Oh, it's all lies. It's just

878
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:10,080
Speaker 4: bullet points of lies. I love the little points. Wow, Okay,

879
00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 4: we're just gonna should we like skip them because we

880
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:12,719
Speaker 4: already kind of get it.

881
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:15,040
Speaker 3: I mean, you want to keep going up to you,

882
00:44:15,160 --> 00:44:15,680
Speaker 3: up to you, up to you.

883
00:44:16,840 --> 00:44:18,640
Speaker 4: I'll skim through him and try to find a good one.

884
00:44:19,640 --> 00:44:20,080
Speaker 1: Um hmm.

885
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 4: These are just like this seems like missile.

886
00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:26,279
Speaker 1: That he'd met the Queen, that he'd been commissioned to

887
00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 1: make artwork for Harry and Meghan, that he uh, that

888
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:31,960
Speaker 1: he was a.

889
00:44:32,040 --> 00:44:36,719
Speaker 4: Candidate for local election, that uh that some.

890
00:44:39,640 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 1: Uh that somebody had bought his art at a gallery

891
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:44,800
Speaker 1: but the payment got screwed up. That his wife, his

892
00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:49,600
Speaker 1: ex wife, had cheated on him continually, That he had

893
00:44:49,640 --> 00:44:51,640
Speaker 1: an interview for a job that didn't really exist.

894
00:44:51,719 --> 00:44:52,920
Speaker 4: Another fifteen minutes.

895
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:57,200
Speaker 1: Thank you aid in a age for the ten gifted memberships,

896
00:44:57,239 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 1: and thank you all you lovely babies for sticking around

897
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:03,799
Speaker 1: for this amazing stream hones.

898
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 4: My gosh, we've been at it for four and a

899
00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:10,799
Speaker 4: half hours. Yeah, and we got fifty minutes to go. Boy,

900
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:12,480
Speaker 4: am I where my arm's tired?

901
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:16,319
Speaker 3: We can switch if you want to like start switching to.

902
00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:20,400
Speaker 4: Oh it's okay, I'd like to, I mean sure, if

903
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:23,040
Speaker 4: you want to switch with you and then I can

904
00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:27,640
Speaker 4: be in that chair. Yeah, yeah, I'm going to be

905
00:45:27,719 --> 00:45:30,440
Speaker 4: the man in the chair. Okay, That he had medical insurance,

906
00:45:30,520 --> 00:45:32,239
Speaker 4: that he broke down on the highway, that he looks

907
00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:33,839
Speaker 4: bl blah blah blah bla blah blah blahlah bah blah

908
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 4: blah blah. He's a liar, he's a serial eye, he's

909
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:39,239
Speaker 4: a complete That is so easy. How did you not know?

910
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:41,719
Speaker 3: How did you have to get married him for him

911
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:43,719
Speaker 3: to figure out this stuff that I don't? I can

912
00:45:43,840 --> 00:45:44,799
Speaker 3: I cannot believe that.

913
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 4: That he the last one is the last one is

914
00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 4: a real banger though, so that he loved me banger banger.

915
00:45:56,640 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 4: All right, here's the update.

916
00:45:59,239 --> 00:45:59,640
Speaker 2: Can it be like?

917
00:45:59,680 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 1: It's been a bit of over a years since I posted,

918
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:03,800
Speaker 1: so I figured i'd give you eighteen more bullet points.

919
00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:09,000
Speaker 1: It's been a little bit over a year since I

920
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:12,080
Speaker 1: turned to this community as my life fell rather dramatically

921
00:46:12,160 --> 00:46:15,400
Speaker 1: into pieces around me. My original post didn't get a

922
00:46:15,440 --> 00:46:18,319
Speaker 1: ton of attention, but the replies I received helped me tremendously,

923
00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 1: and seeing where I am a year later may also

924
00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:23,720
Speaker 1: provide some hope for those going through their own crisis.

925
00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 1: In particular, you helped me construct my initial list of

926
00:46:27,320 --> 00:46:29,520
Speaker 1: immediate to do items and put me on the right

927
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:33,040
Speaker 1: track to figure out how to extricate myself from the relationship.

928
00:46:33,600 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 1: The day I first posted here was the day I

929
00:46:35,760 --> 00:46:39,480
Speaker 1: found out that my then husband had lied and fabricated

930
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:41,920
Speaker 1: most of what I knew about him. Other things I

931
00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:44,880
Speaker 1: did that day included teaching a class of two hundred

932
00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:47,960
Speaker 1: undergrads about fifteen minutes after I found out for sure,

933
00:46:48,520 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 1: and kicking off a day and a half long job

934
00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:53,200
Speaker 1: interview for the next stage in my career, a job

935
00:46:53,239 --> 00:47:02,920
Speaker 1: which I somehow landed. Wow, congratulations, how did you manage

936
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 1: to do that? What unfolded over the following three months

937
00:47:07,600 --> 00:47:10,319
Speaker 1: can really only be described as living my way through

938
00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:13,439
Speaker 1: my own version of a lifetime moving. At some point

939
00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 1: I moved to an extended stay hotel, and as time passed,

940
00:47:16,520 --> 00:47:19,720
Speaker 1: I learned about the depths and breadths of the lies

941
00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:22,839
Speaker 1: and deceit he'd used to both control me and get

942
00:47:22,920 --> 00:47:25,200
Speaker 1: what he wanted, and the links that he'd go to

943
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:27,440
Speaker 1: to try and get his grip back on what he'd

944
00:47:27,480 --> 00:47:30,640
Speaker 1: successfully manipulated his way through.

945
00:47:30,880 --> 00:47:31,920
Speaker 4: For about four years.

946
00:47:34,000 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 1: This guy's this guy's committed to being a complete scumbag.

947
00:47:39,440 --> 00:47:41,720
Speaker 1: What I know now, and what I'm kind of glad

948
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:44,640
Speaker 1: I didn't know then was that I wasn't actually as

949
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:46,719
Speaker 1: safe with him as I thought I was, So I'm

950
00:47:46,760 --> 00:47:49,840
Speaker 1: thankful I managed to get out with only psychological, emotional,

951
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:53,800
Speaker 1: and financial burdens and nothing physical. About two and a

952
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:57,239
Speaker 1: half months later, I successfully had my marriage annulled on

953
00:47:57,280 --> 00:48:00,719
Speaker 1: the basis of fraudulent coercion to marry. I ended up

954
00:48:00,760 --> 00:48:04,080
Speaker 1: doing the necessary research and filing the paperwork myself, which

955
00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:06,600
Speaker 1: was not an easy task but was both cheaper and

956
00:48:06,719 --> 00:48:08,000
Speaker 1: faster than it was going.

957
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:09,240
Speaker 4: To be if I hired a lawyer.

958
00:48:09,440 --> 00:48:12,160
Speaker 1: Okay, A few weeks after the moment, I moved my

959
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:14,839
Speaker 1: belongings out of our apartment and moved to a new

960
00:48:14,920 --> 00:48:16,560
Speaker 1: city and my new job.

961
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 4: Okay, without him, but with the kittens. Can you stop

962
00:48:23,280 --> 00:48:25,880
Speaker 4: right now? Can we just stop with this? It's the

963
00:48:25,960 --> 00:48:28,480
Speaker 4: best We're just in the story. He heard the story.

964
00:48:28,760 --> 00:48:31,520
Speaker 4: How could the story uh get any better than that?

965
00:48:33,120 --> 00:48:34,000
Speaker 4: It's gonna go worse.

966
00:48:35,120 --> 00:48:37,840
Speaker 1: As of late June, I finally had him convinced that

967
00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:42,160
Speaker 1: contacting me was pointless because he wasn't getting me back. Okay, dude,

968
00:48:42,160 --> 00:48:44,960
Speaker 1: it just got better. W was upon double use and

969
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:48,040
Speaker 1: so I've largely been free to recover from the trauma

970
00:48:48,120 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 1: and crisis mode I lived in for about three months.

971
00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:56,200
Speaker 3: Dude, how did she pull this off? Hey, dude, this

972
00:48:56,360 --> 00:48:59,400
Speaker 3: has been the best annulment I've ever seen in the

973
00:48:59,480 --> 00:48:59,960
Speaker 3: history of Right.

974
00:49:00,239 --> 00:49:01,960
Speaker 1: She got out of there, and she took the kittens

975
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:06,040
Speaker 1: with her. But you know where I want you to

976
00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:11,800
Speaker 1: be not getting out of our stream. When we go

977
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:18,040
Speaker 1: live every weekday at three pm PST on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok,

978
00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 1: and Twitch, all you gotta do is tap our profile

979
00:49:21,200 --> 00:49:21,960
Speaker 1: and you are in.

980
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:26,359
Speaker 4: And if you're watching this in the future, you could

981
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:28,279
Speaker 4: go check right now, but don't because we're almost done

982
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:30,120
Speaker 4: with this story. And then after that you can go

983
00:49:30,200 --> 00:49:39,319
Speaker 4: see if we're live. So uh oh m hm cool. Yeah,

984
00:49:39,400 --> 00:49:39,759
Speaker 4: I mean.

985
00:49:42,360 --> 00:49:47,040
Speaker 1: You never know, right, Like, I feel like we didn't

986
00:49:47,040 --> 00:49:48,960
Speaker 1: really get a ton of information on how she found

987
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:49,319
Speaker 1: this out.

988
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:51,000
Speaker 4: Am I wrong?

989
00:49:51,680 --> 00:49:55,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, we never really learned how she came to

990
00:49:55,920 --> 00:50:01,279
Speaker 1: know that all of these lies were being lied two her.

991
00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:05,480
Speaker 1: I'm confused too, So, I mean, but you know, she's

992
00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 1: probably doing it in the interest of like anonymity or

993
00:50:08,320 --> 00:50:10,399
Speaker 1: you know, eric or trying to keep other people out

994
00:50:10,400 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 1: of it, because, like she said, it's like it sounds

995
00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:17,480
Speaker 1: like he was also lying about not being a dangerous individual.

996
00:50:18,080 --> 00:50:18,319
Speaker 3: Yeah.

997
00:50:19,360 --> 00:50:22,000
Speaker 1: So, and it thinks when you get someone who can

998
00:50:22,120 --> 00:50:25,399
Speaker 1: lie like this, like you really don't know what they're

999
00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:25,880
Speaker 1: capable of.

1000
00:50:26,080 --> 00:50:26,799
Speaker 4: You really don't.

1001
00:50:26,880 --> 00:50:29,560
Speaker 1: And I'm so so surprised she got out of this

1002
00:50:29,680 --> 00:50:32,759
Speaker 1: like this and no other repercussions. She did it all right,

1003
00:50:32,840 --> 00:50:35,520
Speaker 1: She got the annulment, she got the kittens, she has

1004
00:50:35,600 --> 00:50:39,960
Speaker 1: her safety. She's honestly, he's like over and he's like, well,

1005
00:50:40,239 --> 00:50:46,560
Speaker 1: I can't do anything about it. Yeah, honestly, W huge

1006
00:50:46,719 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 1: w for op, Sorry that you had to be with

1007
00:50:50,160 --> 00:50:54,799
Speaker 1: this guy for four years. It's that's a well, it's

1008
00:50:54,840 --> 00:50:57,920
Speaker 1: probably a big weight lifted off your shoulders now. Anyway,

1009
00:50:58,920 --> 00:51:03,600
Speaker 1: let's finish this right. One of the things I've learned

1010
00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:06,440
Speaker 1: from all of this is how incredibly difficult it is

1011
00:51:06,560 --> 00:51:09,200
Speaker 1: to get out of a relationship in a situation like this.

1012
00:51:10,080 --> 00:51:13,759
Speaker 1: Besides the obvious difficulty of navigating the legal system and

1013
00:51:13,920 --> 00:51:17,360
Speaker 1: the cost associated with it, there's the cognitive dissonance of

1014
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:20,920
Speaker 1: constantly trying to remember to relate to the other person

1015
00:51:21,080 --> 00:51:23,680
Speaker 1: in light of the new information you found out about them.

1016
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:27,920
Speaker 1: It really and truly took every life skill and tremendous

1017
00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:32,160
Speaker 1: support of my family and friends network to get out

1018
00:51:32,360 --> 00:51:35,880
Speaker 1: in more or less one piece. And even still, the

1019
00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 1: road to recovery and to return to thriving is a

1020
00:51:38,840 --> 00:51:41,919
Speaker 1: long one. So thanks to those who helped me back

1021
00:51:42,040 --> 00:51:46,759
Speaker 1: on this terrible day in January twenty nineteen. And if

1022
00:51:46,840 --> 00:51:49,080
Speaker 1: you know someone who is going through something like this,

1023
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:53,360
Speaker 1: please offer whatever you can in support because they definitely

1024
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:53,840
Speaker 1: need it.

1025
00:51:54,320 --> 00:52:01,279
Speaker 4: And that is the end of that story. Ah, good job, Wow,

1026
00:52:02,040 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 4: great job, Op, great job.

1027
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:05,680
Speaker 3: This guy get a prain tumor. I don't know, I

1028
00:52:05,680 --> 00:52:06,799
Speaker 3: don't even know man who knows.

1029
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:09,520
Speaker 1: I mean, like, it's crazy how weird stuff like that

1030
00:52:09,640 --> 00:52:12,239
Speaker 1: can happen to you, right, It's like, so he can

1031
00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:14,680
Speaker 1: get like a tumor and all of a sudden, like

1032
00:52:14,719 --> 00:52:16,360
Speaker 1: your entire personality is different.

1033
00:52:16,640 --> 00:52:18,560
Speaker 4: Or like there's the story of the guy who uh

1034
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:20,320
Speaker 4: got the railroad spike.

1035
00:52:20,960 --> 00:52:23,400
Speaker 1: He like got a railroad spike through his head and

1036
00:52:23,560 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 1: like imber it and then he survived and it completely

1037
00:52:27,200 --> 00:52:28,960
Speaker 1: changed his personal He like he went from just like

1038
00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:32,840
Speaker 1: a sweet, normal, caring guy, like a family man, to

1039
00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:36,960
Speaker 1: like just like a brutal, like just harsh, blunt, like

1040
00:52:37,920 --> 00:52:39,120
Speaker 1: just a hole.

1041
00:52:39,040 --> 00:52:39,439
Speaker 4: Of a guy.

1042
00:52:40,080 --> 00:52:44,919
Speaker 1: Golly, and uh, yeah, you know, and Mela. Mela just said,

1043
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:47,359
Speaker 1: the story is frustrating because we didn't get the entire information. Yeah,

1044
00:52:47,400 --> 00:52:50,520
Speaker 1: I really wanted to know what it was that like

1045
00:52:50,800 --> 00:52:54,000
Speaker 1: tipped her off to all of this stuff. I don't know,

1046
00:52:54,160 --> 00:52:56,120
Speaker 1: but glad you found out and got the catch. Oh yeah,

1047
00:52:56,160 --> 00:52:57,800
Speaker 1: and Pinky just Layer says to the orc Cloud, I

1048
00:52:57,840 --> 00:53:01,560
Speaker 1: haven't even dropped the single moon, sun, or cloud or

1049
00:53:01,680 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 1: black hole all day.

1050
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:03,840
Speaker 4: Who are you?

1051
00:53:04,040 --> 00:53:06,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a ort cloud right there, for sure, that's

1052
00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:09,000
Speaker 1: maybe even black hole. But we didn't have all the

1053
00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:11,759
Speaker 1: context about him, so it's hard to say. But my

1054
00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:14,960
Speaker 1: suspicion tells me it's at least ort Cloud and the

1055
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:16,080
Speaker 1: cosmic blender.

1056
00:53:16,160 --> 00:53:19,400
Speaker 4: He goes, what's in that story is the end of

1057
00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:21,400
Speaker 4: that story? And I have no idea where we're going now,

1058
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:23,480
Speaker 4: I got you. Let me look at it real quick.

1059
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:28,279
Speaker 4: We don't. We're starting to kill me. Let me read.

1060
00:53:28,400 --> 00:53:29,399
Speaker 3: Let me read this next one.

1061
00:53:29,640 --> 00:53:36,799
Speaker 4: I just need. I can't have another lemon, honey. Let

1062
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:42,880
Speaker 4: me read. Ask you I read this one.

1063
00:53:42,920 --> 00:53:46,799
Speaker 3: I might have done something backwards, but let me read

1064
00:53:46,840 --> 00:53:51,120
Speaker 3: this one, this next one. Feeling a lot because we

1065
00:53:51,239 --> 00:53:52,719
Speaker 3: read my husband chose.

1066
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:53,600
Speaker 4: To live all honey.

1067
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:59,239
Speaker 1: I just drank straight honey and who delicious, it's so

1068
00:53:59,360 --> 00:54:01,239
Speaker 1: good for you, shout out, Oh my god, No, I'm

1069
00:54:01,239 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 1: blanking on.

1070
00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:02,479
Speaker 4: Who sent us the honey?

1071
00:54:02,880 --> 00:54:02,920
Speaker 3: No?

1072
00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:05,239
Speaker 4: Well, who sent us the honey?

1073
00:54:05,320 --> 00:54:05,440
Speaker 3: Was that?

1074
00:54:06,320 --> 00:54:08,520
Speaker 4: Why can't I remember your name? Oh?

1075
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:20,320
Speaker 1: No, Keon loves his jaw. I mean, Chris, thank you

1076
00:54:20,400 --> 00:54:32,640
Speaker 1: for sending us the honey. It's literally saving us. Thank you, Chris, Chris.

1077
00:54:32,719 --> 00:54:35,319
Speaker 1: We literally we made so many I don't know if

1078
00:54:35,400 --> 00:54:36,680
Speaker 1: Chris is in here right now, but we made so

1079
00:54:36,880 --> 00:54:42,920
Speaker 1: many honey and lemon water hot toddies today that we

1080
00:54:43,120 --> 00:54:43,960
Speaker 1: ran out of lemons.

1081
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:47,400
Speaker 4: And I also used an entire bottle of honey, like

1082
00:54:47,640 --> 00:54:51,960
Speaker 4: we have been non stop pounding these is like just

1083
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:57,719
Speaker 4: hoping go to twelve sixty four. It better not hit me, dude,

1084
00:54:57,800 --> 00:55:01,480
Speaker 4: it better Need you read this one twelve sixty four, Yeah,

1085
00:55:01,480 --> 00:55:02,200
Speaker 4: twelve sixty four.

1086
00:55:02,239 --> 00:55:05,200
Speaker 3: And then we got aid and a ah, thanks for

1087
00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:08,399
Speaker 3: the gifted ten memberships you are at ah for getting

1088
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:10,120
Speaker 3: sober the freaking.

1089
00:55:10,200 --> 00:55:14,400
Speaker 1: And Lord mcphart, thank you for the ten dollars. And

1090
00:55:14,560 --> 00:55:19,560
Speaker 1: Lord mcfought, I welcome thee to the Knights. Lord mcfought,

1091
00:55:20,239 --> 00:55:22,480
Speaker 1: you were ready with that name to join the join

1092
00:55:22,520 --> 00:55:26,640
Speaker 1: the nights. Thank you, Matt Hadergal. Thanks for the five dollars.

1093
00:55:26,719 --> 00:55:30,360
Speaker 1: This story reminds me of the real life Rockefeller facts.

1094
00:55:30,920 --> 00:55:31,960
Speaker 1: And I think we had another one.

1095
00:55:32,000 --> 00:55:34,719
Speaker 4: Did we above that? I think? No, we already read

1096
00:55:34,760 --> 00:55:36,759
Speaker 4: that one. We did? We already read that one? Oh?

1097
00:55:36,800 --> 00:55:39,239
Speaker 1: Okay, yep, all right, let me read this some buddy.

1098
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Speaker 1: Did we read Cindy Luz, Yeah, read it, Cindy lu

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Speaker 1: Thanks for the five dollars. Always watch you guys after

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00:55:48,160 --> 00:55:50,000
Speaker 1: my teaching job or when meal prepping.

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00:55:50,360 --> 00:55:54,160
Speaker 4: Lots of love. Thanks for the entertainment, Thanks for pulling through.

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00:55:55,360 --> 00:55:56,080
Speaker 4: Cindy Lou.

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00:55:56,680 --> 00:56:00,839
Speaker 3: All right, Cindy Lou Who, Ciney lou Who? All right,

1104
00:56:00,880 --> 00:56:03,200
Speaker 3: come over here, let me read. We can't we can't

1105
00:56:03,239 --> 00:56:04,160
Speaker 3: have you dry throated.

1106
00:56:04,520 --> 00:56:06,719
Speaker 1: Why not make tea with lemon and honey per che.

1107
00:56:06,880 --> 00:56:08,799
Speaker 1: I know we've been making it all day. We literally

1108
00:56:08,880 --> 00:56:09,839
Speaker 1: ran out of lemons and honey.

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00:56:09,880 --> 00:56:11,120
Speaker 4: That's what I want. We didn't run out of honey,

1110
00:56:11,120 --> 00:56:11,920
Speaker 4: but we ran out of lemons.

1111
00:56:13,840 --> 00:56:35,400
Speaker 6: Oh man, mm hmm, long lasting half yeah, yeah, showing

1112
00:56:35,400 --> 00:56:35,799
Speaker 6: your phone.

1113
00:56:41,480 --> 00:56:49,960
Speaker 3: All right, Thank you, ladies, sir, Come to lady, sir, ladies.

1114
00:56:49,600 --> 00:56:53,120
Speaker 2: Sir, Third parties over.

1115
00:56:54,880 --> 00:56:55,560
Speaker 4: But I'm gonna read.

1116
00:56:56,480 --> 00:56:59,920
Speaker 3: I'm gonna start using my vocal voices. And also I

1117
00:57:00,200 --> 00:57:02,080
Speaker 3: may have my friend that has been staying with me

1118
00:57:02,160 --> 00:57:06,440
Speaker 3: this week come out and give her crazy story.

1119
00:57:07,040 --> 00:57:10,640
Speaker 1: Wow, that would be pretty cool. Let me familiarize myself

1120
00:57:10,719 --> 00:57:12,640
Speaker 1: with the buttons here, please do this up.

1121
00:57:13,080 --> 00:57:18,960
Speaker 4: That's the split plus three push me and you, and

1122
00:57:19,280 --> 00:57:23,080
Speaker 4: so it's really just these two right here. Huhne hi,

1123
00:57:23,840 --> 00:57:24,200
Speaker 4: all right?

1124
00:57:24,520 --> 00:57:28,960
Speaker 3: And the notion one. Oh, which is quick question, Danny,

1125
00:57:29,520 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 3: how much is a subscription?

1126
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:31,080
Speaker 4: Where do I go?

1127
00:57:31,320 --> 00:57:35,120
Speaker 3: Come to YouTube press join and it's five buckarunos a month?

1128
00:57:35,360 --> 00:57:38,880
Speaker 3: You get basically fifteen extra hours of content every week.

1129
00:57:39,920 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 3: That's the simplest I can tell you.

1130
00:57:41,600 --> 00:57:47,600
Speaker 4: That's a deal, right there, dude, I'm I'm not gonna lie.

1131
00:57:47,600 --> 00:57:52,479
Speaker 4: I'm gonna lose it. Yeah. Oh good.

1132
00:57:55,600 --> 00:57:58,160
Speaker 3: When we come to Korean Barbecue.

1133
00:57:57,760 --> 00:58:03,720
Speaker 1: After this me yeah, oh uh well, I'm trying to

1134
00:58:03,760 --> 00:58:05,880
Speaker 1: make it up to Oh that's right, that's right, that's

1135
00:58:05,920 --> 00:58:08,160
Speaker 1: but yeah, I don't know, I need something to eat too.

1136
00:58:08,280 --> 00:58:12,160
Speaker 3: This thing, Well, koream Barbecue will take a while, will it.

1137
00:58:13,400 --> 00:58:16,640
Speaker 4: Oh, I'll go to Koreatown. Oh you're trying to go

1138
00:58:16,680 --> 00:58:19,040
Speaker 4: all the way up there? Yeah? Oh then yeah, I definitely,

1139
00:58:19,440 --> 00:58:20,600
Speaker 4: we'd have to do something closer.

1140
00:58:20,880 --> 00:58:24,240
Speaker 3: Okay, well that's the only place I know of anyways,

1141
00:58:24,360 --> 00:58:26,560
Speaker 3: way more places than just Korea Town, that's for sure.

1142
00:58:26,680 --> 00:58:28,440
Speaker 3: I'm gonna get into the story and we'll forget this

1143
00:58:28,520 --> 00:58:34,600
Speaker 3: out later, all right. My family won't stop inviting my

1144
00:58:34,680 --> 00:58:35,840
Speaker 3: ex over to holidays.

1145
00:58:36,440 --> 00:58:37,520
Speaker 4: My girlfriend's over it.

1146
00:58:39,720 --> 00:58:44,040
Speaker 3: Uh are you sure about that? We've read a similar story,

1147
00:58:44,120 --> 00:58:46,080
Speaker 3: we have not read this one. My ex and I

1148
00:58:46,240 --> 00:58:52,400
Speaker 3: dated for five years. My family adored her. Sorry, sorry,

1149
00:58:53,880 --> 00:58:54,360
Speaker 3: do it again.

1150
00:58:56,400 --> 00:58:58,920
Speaker 4: You're expecting me to freestyle. I've never done this.

1151
00:58:59,200 --> 00:59:01,680
Speaker 3: Yes, I am, because you're the best, and I want

1152
00:59:01,720 --> 00:59:02,360
Speaker 3: you to be the best.

1153
00:59:02,640 --> 00:59:04,520
Speaker 4: And I really don't like my side profile, so I'm

1154
00:59:04,520 --> 00:59:05,920
Speaker 4: always trying to look at camera.

1155
00:59:08,760 --> 00:59:09,440
Speaker 1: Just as me.

1156
00:59:09,920 --> 00:59:10,200
Speaker 4: Okay.

1157
00:59:11,160 --> 00:59:15,080
Speaker 3: My family adored her and it was assumed that we

1158
00:59:15,160 --> 00:59:17,680
Speaker 3: would be getting married soon. About a year ago, she

1159
00:59:17,800 --> 00:59:20,000
Speaker 3: broke up with me out of nowhere, saying that I

1160
00:59:20,160 --> 00:59:23,400
Speaker 3: was not enough of a man for her. Brutal I know.

1161
00:59:23,880 --> 00:59:27,240
Speaker 3: After months of therapy, Oh, doll, Doll became Danny Dall

1162
00:59:27,320 --> 00:59:32,400
Speaker 3: became a member. Let's go, Yeah, let's go, let's go. Okay, Yeah,

1163
00:59:33,200 --> 00:59:37,720
Speaker 3: after months of therapy, I started dating someone new. By

1164
00:59:37,760 --> 00:59:41,120
Speaker 3: the way, this girl's from Awkward Sweet Ta throwaway on

1165
00:59:41,200 --> 00:59:44,960
Speaker 3: the r slash okay story tom sub and Breddit. So now,

1166
00:59:45,640 --> 00:59:49,240
Speaker 3: during my therapy months, my family had already invited her

1167
00:59:49,680 --> 00:59:54,280
Speaker 3: to certain events. My family asked me if she could

1168
00:59:54,360 --> 00:59:57,840
Speaker 3: still come, and because I still wanted her back, I

1169
00:59:57,920 --> 01:00:00,800
Speaker 3: said yes, wait time out. My family a if she

1170
01:00:00,880 --> 01:00:03,240
Speaker 3: could still come because I still wonder back, I said yes,

1171
01:00:03,640 --> 01:00:06,800
Speaker 3: you have another person. As soon as I started dating

1172
01:00:06,880 --> 01:00:11,440
Speaker 3: someone new and my ex had tended her last invited event,

1173
01:00:11,600 --> 01:00:14,000
Speaker 3: I thought that was the end of it. Today I

1174
01:00:14,160 --> 01:00:19,240
Speaker 3: found out my family invited my ex to Thanksgiving and Christmas.

1175
01:00:20,000 --> 01:00:23,600
Speaker 3: I thought it was a joke, but no, they love

1176
01:00:23,760 --> 01:00:27,360
Speaker 3: having her around. You know how you date someone and

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Speaker 3: uh me you h s, thanks for coming. Remember you know,

1178
01:00:30,280 --> 01:00:32,560
Speaker 3: you date someone and their families like, oh we could

1179
01:00:32,640 --> 01:00:34,280
Speaker 3: just like get rid of this brother and keep you

1180
01:00:34,920 --> 01:00:37,040
Speaker 3: and like you like really vibe with the family because

1181
01:00:37,040 --> 01:00:40,480
Speaker 3: you're just a better human than any of their offspring.

1182
01:00:40,880 --> 01:00:42,480
Speaker 4: You know what I'm talking about. I mean, like I'm

1183
01:00:42,520 --> 01:00:45,920
Speaker 4: an only child, so I don't I don't particularly relate to.

1184
01:00:48,480 --> 01:00:50,040
Speaker 3: You've probably been around a family where they're like, we

1185
01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:51,840
Speaker 3: love you to go to your basically your son to us.

1186
01:00:52,800 --> 01:00:54,960
Speaker 4: I mean, like, come on, I mean like like a

1187
01:00:55,040 --> 01:00:57,960
Speaker 4: little yeah. Wait, do you mean like in a dating

1188
01:00:58,040 --> 01:00:58,479
Speaker 4: kind next?

1189
01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:00,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, like you're dating a girl, you go over

1190
01:01:00,800 --> 01:01:02,120
Speaker 3: and visit her family and they're like, we love you

1191
01:01:02,160 --> 01:01:03,160
Speaker 3: to go to your basically your son.

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01:01:03,240 --> 01:01:04,880
Speaker 1: I've only had Wow, I mean, I don't know about

1193
01:01:04,920 --> 01:01:07,280
Speaker 1: basically a son, but I've only had one relationship where

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01:01:07,280 --> 01:01:11,400
Speaker 1: I really got that close to the family like that,

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01:01:11,800 --> 01:01:12,360
Speaker 1: to that level.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Chad, do you do you agree with me?

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01:01:14,040 --> 01:01:16,320
Speaker 3: You know what I'm talking about, Dakoda, You're not helping

1198
01:01:17,160 --> 01:01:19,320
Speaker 3: get more life experience to code.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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01:01:24,920 --> 01:01:27,840
Speaker 3: Today I found out my family invited. I put a

1201
01:01:28,040 --> 01:01:30,800
Speaker 3: stern warning that if she was invited, I would not

1202
01:01:30,920 --> 01:01:34,959
Speaker 3: be attending. I restated what my therapist told me, saying

1203
01:01:35,040 --> 01:01:38,920
Speaker 3: this was unhealthy for me and was violating my boundaries.

1204
01:01:39,440 --> 01:01:42,680
Speaker 3: My family doesn't care. They love her, she doesn't have

1205
01:01:42,880 --> 01:01:47,080
Speaker 3: much family, and they want her included. My current girlfriend

1206
01:01:47,200 --> 01:01:51,960
Speaker 3: is obviously too furious to My current girlfriend is obviously

1207
01:01:52,160 --> 01:01:52,760
Speaker 3: furious to.

1208
01:01:53,920 --> 01:01:55,720
Speaker 4: Every family member, including.

1209
01:01:55,360 --> 01:01:58,400
Speaker 3: My mom and grandmother, are saying I need to treat

1210
01:01:58,440 --> 01:02:02,320
Speaker 3: it as if we're or saying I need to treat

1211
01:02:02,360 --> 01:02:05,400
Speaker 3: it as if she were a friend, and grow up.

1212
01:02:05,920 --> 01:02:06,920
Speaker 4: I don't know what to do.

1213
01:02:07,200 --> 01:02:10,960
Speaker 3: Any advice, low Ca. I mean, do you not go

1214
01:02:11,080 --> 01:02:13,080
Speaker 3: to the Christmas because their ex is gonna be there?

1215
01:02:14,120 --> 01:02:17,400
Speaker 4: I wouldn't because then I feel like that's like you're

1216
01:02:17,480 --> 01:02:18,000
Speaker 4: they're winning.

1217
01:02:18,440 --> 01:02:22,000
Speaker 3: Yeah. If you don't go, yeah, it's like you just

1218
01:02:22,040 --> 01:02:24,160
Speaker 3: gotta you just gotta go to your girlfriend. Hey, wear

1219
01:02:24,240 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 3: something hot and then get in there and just like

1220
01:02:26,480 --> 01:02:27,959
Speaker 3: show them up, be like I'm happy, now.

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01:02:27,960 --> 01:02:31,600
Speaker 1: Get out by Well, I feel like that's almost putting

1222
01:02:31,680 --> 01:02:37,439
Speaker 1: too much energy into It's like, oh, but no, calm

1223
01:02:37,520 --> 01:02:38,040
Speaker 1: collect but.

1224
01:02:38,080 --> 01:02:41,680
Speaker 3: Like they're like, she's already. She's already, she's already looking good.

1225
01:02:42,560 --> 01:02:44,720
Speaker 3: It's not like she's putting more into it. She's just like, yeah,

1226
01:02:44,720 --> 01:02:45,640
Speaker 3: I got my best outfit on.

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01:02:45,880 --> 01:02:49,160
Speaker 1: So what Yeah, I mean if you're just damn I

1228
01:02:49,280 --> 01:02:56,960
Speaker 1: keep missing that dude. Yeah, I mean just look hot. No,

1229
01:02:57,160 --> 01:02:57,920
Speaker 1: that's you could do that.

1230
01:02:58,080 --> 01:02:59,440
Speaker 4: I think that's the move. That's a move.

1231
01:02:59,480 --> 01:03:01,680
Speaker 3: Don't let your family win and just show her up,

1232
01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:05,000
Speaker 3: show up looking hot ed it. Thanks to all of

1233
01:03:05,040 --> 01:03:08,080
Speaker 3: you for the advice. I'm gonna man up and tell

1234
01:03:08,160 --> 01:03:11,520
Speaker 3: them me and my girlfriend won't be attending. No, now

1235
01:03:11,680 --> 01:03:13,160
Speaker 3: look hot with your girlfriend.

1236
01:03:13,800 --> 01:03:15,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's that's the move.

1237
01:03:15,160 --> 01:03:18,240
Speaker 3: My family and her have already said it would be

1238
01:03:18,480 --> 01:03:20,680
Speaker 3: a cowardly thing to do to hide.

1239
01:03:20,520 --> 01:03:23,919
Speaker 4: From my ex. But I don't give a darn f fourk.

1240
01:03:24,400 --> 01:03:27,800
Speaker 3: These comments reassured me that this is not okay. I'm

1241
01:03:27,840 --> 01:03:31,840
Speaker 3: gonna take my girlfriend somewhere nice spen, spend Thanksgiving with her.

1242
01:03:32,440 --> 01:03:35,080
Speaker 3: I might even try to organize buying plane tickets and

1243
01:03:35,120 --> 01:03:37,920
Speaker 3: seeing her family for Christmas. I'll keep you guys updated

1244
01:03:37,960 --> 01:03:41,280
Speaker 3: if anything else comes with this. Oh relevant comments? Ope

1245
01:03:41,440 --> 01:03:43,560
Speaker 3: on if his family knew the X was the one

1246
01:03:43,560 --> 01:03:47,160
Speaker 3: who ended the relationship. Ope, they are very aware. They

1247
01:03:47,200 --> 01:03:50,560
Speaker 3: still think it's my fault. She had been going through

1248
01:03:50,600 --> 01:03:53,000
Speaker 3: a hard time and I didn't take initiative and helping

1249
01:03:53,080 --> 01:03:56,560
Speaker 3: her with certain things. She needed help with some stuff

1250
01:03:56,600 --> 01:03:59,680
Speaker 3: around her apartment. I'm not really a handyman, so I

1251
01:03:59,760 --> 01:04:03,640
Speaker 3: did offer, she never asked, and she built up presentment

1252
01:04:03,760 --> 01:04:07,320
Speaker 3: towards me for months. So okay, so this is your fault.

1253
01:04:07,480 --> 01:04:10,760
Speaker 3: You didn't fix her sink, so your relationship sunk.

1254
01:04:12,440 --> 01:04:13,520
Speaker 4: That was beautifully put.

1255
01:04:14,880 --> 01:04:16,960
Speaker 3: I'm high. I know it's late, I'm still high. I

1256
01:04:17,040 --> 01:04:17,760
Speaker 3: still know how to do this.

1257
01:04:18,000 --> 01:04:23,360
Speaker 4: He's a late night cooker. He's cooking late he's on overnight.

1258
01:04:27,400 --> 01:04:33,680
Speaker 4: I try to do zoom dance, monkey dance, dance, mounky dance.

1259
01:04:36,320 --> 01:04:40,280
Speaker 3: I keep not doing the zoom, I keep putting get better, God,

1260
01:04:41,200 --> 01:04:48,800
Speaker 3: Rookie over man among Yeah wait, yeah what if I

1261
01:04:48,880 --> 01:04:51,280
Speaker 3: just did this? Yeah, you have the bad do that

1262
01:04:52,400 --> 01:04:56,240
Speaker 3: sink sank shunk That, among other things like gifts, not

1263
01:04:56,400 --> 01:05:00,400
Speaker 3: being thoughtful enough, and feeling like I didn't prioritize her enough,

1264
01:05:00,560 --> 01:05:03,520
Speaker 3: led to the breakup. My family supports her and felt

1265
01:05:03,680 --> 01:05:06,960
Speaker 3: I needed to step up as a man. I've already

1266
01:05:07,000 --> 01:05:09,680
Speaker 3: asked her to stop, and she doesn't seem interested in

1267
01:05:09,800 --> 01:05:13,200
Speaker 3: turning down the Inforta invitations. She doesn't have a good

1268
01:05:13,240 --> 01:05:15,360
Speaker 3: relationship with her family, so it's nice for her to

1269
01:05:15,440 --> 01:05:19,720
Speaker 3: be included. Okay, that's kind of sweet. She thinks I'm

1270
01:05:19,800 --> 01:05:25,360
Speaker 3: being selfish comments don't go have a Thanksgiving and Christmas

1271
01:05:25,440 --> 01:05:29,360
Speaker 3: with your only current have a Thanksgiving and Christmas with

1272
01:05:29,520 --> 01:05:32,800
Speaker 3: only your current girlfriend. If they can't respect your boundaries,

1273
01:05:32,920 --> 01:05:36,840
Speaker 3: then you have to enforce them, Opie, this seems to

1274
01:05:36,920 --> 01:05:40,560
Speaker 3: be sentiment. It seems to be the sentiment. It just

1275
01:05:40,760 --> 01:05:44,040
Speaker 3: sucks being alone for Thanksgiving. It'll just be me and

1276
01:05:44,120 --> 01:05:47,320
Speaker 3: my girlfriend since her family is long distance. You probably

1277
01:05:47,360 --> 01:05:50,320
Speaker 3: have friends that would love to have you there. Come on, Dakota,

1278
01:05:50,400 --> 01:05:53,440
Speaker 3: can I come with you for Thanksgiving? No?

1279
01:05:56,240 --> 01:05:58,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know you got it. You could. My family

1280
01:05:58,760 --> 01:06:01,080
Speaker 4: is literally like we didn't do anything thanks even this year.

1281
01:06:01,160 --> 01:06:08,040
Speaker 4: I made it falling off at my household. Oh sorry,

1282
01:06:08,040 --> 01:06:09,520
Speaker 4: I didn't mean to bring up anything, but.

1283
01:06:09,600 --> 01:06:11,640
Speaker 1: I mean, no, it's not like a it's not like

1284
01:06:11,720 --> 01:06:14,520
Speaker 1: a weird thing. It's just like nobody lives in the

1285
01:06:14,560 --> 01:06:16,760
Speaker 1: same place. It's just way too hard to expect everybody

1286
01:06:16,840 --> 01:06:17,960
Speaker 1: to like really be in one place.

1287
01:06:20,440 --> 01:06:22,680
Speaker 3: I mean, it's Opie gives examples.

1288
01:06:23,560 --> 01:06:25,280
Speaker 4: I just make a sad thing. Did I just do

1289
01:06:25,400 --> 01:06:25,880
Speaker 4: a sad thing?

1290
01:06:26,000 --> 01:06:27,440
Speaker 3: It's fun, it's fun. I took it as a sad

1291
01:06:27,480 --> 01:06:29,520
Speaker 3: thing because that's inevitably gonna happen to me one day.

1292
01:06:29,880 --> 01:06:32,120
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm just looking to the future and I get scared.

1293
01:06:32,480 --> 01:06:35,000
Speaker 3: Opi gives examples of why his family thinks he needs

1294
01:06:35,040 --> 01:06:37,840
Speaker 3: to step up and be man. Opie her and my

1295
01:06:37,960 --> 01:06:40,880
Speaker 3: family feel I am not being enough of a handyman.

1296
01:06:41,440 --> 01:06:46,360
Speaker 3: My family is mostly union and construct construction, and I

1297
01:06:46,440 --> 01:06:51,480
Speaker 3: work in tech. My ex expecting me to take initiative

1298
01:06:51,640 --> 01:06:54,400
Speaker 3: on her apartment issues, and I am not just that guy.

1299
01:06:54,680 --> 01:06:56,680
Speaker 3: It's an apartment. Is it her apartment?

1300
01:06:56,960 --> 01:06:59,560
Speaker 4: Or do you rent?

1301
01:06:59,640 --> 01:07:02,000
Speaker 3: Because can't? Don't the landlords have to do that?

1302
01:07:02,040 --> 01:07:02,400
Speaker 4: What the heck.

1303
01:07:02,680 --> 01:07:05,920
Speaker 3: I'm also not very confrontational, so she felt I couldn't

1304
01:07:05,960 --> 01:07:09,080
Speaker 3: keep her safe. Those are just two examples.

1305
01:07:09,240 --> 01:07:09,840
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh.

1306
01:07:09,880 --> 01:07:12,800
Speaker 3: I'll give you a specific example that she stated during

1307
01:07:12,840 --> 01:07:13,280
Speaker 3: the breakup.

1308
01:07:15,000 --> 01:07:20,320
Speaker 4: Her secret broken. It was leaky pretty badly. No, no,

1309
01:07:21,000 --> 01:07:25,080
Speaker 4: he did tell me I don't do Reddit. Tell me

1310
01:07:25,160 --> 01:07:33,000
Speaker 4: I don't do Reddit. He doesn't. Fall my gosh, he doesn't. Dude.

1311
01:07:33,040 --> 01:07:39,160
Speaker 4: I'm just too good. Oh my god, I healed that. Whoa,

1312
01:07:39,680 --> 01:07:40,480
Speaker 4: I don't read these.

1313
01:07:40,560 --> 01:07:42,760
Speaker 3: I used to read these and do this sometimes, like,

1314
01:07:42,800 --> 01:07:44,840
Speaker 3: oh my gosh, I know that I don't even do this.

1315
01:07:44,960 --> 01:07:47,040
Speaker 4: I just knew this was gonna happen. Guys, he doesn't

1316
01:07:47,040 --> 01:07:49,400
Speaker 4: even go here and look at how he look at

1317
01:07:49,440 --> 01:07:55,880
Speaker 4: how well he's doing. Whoa, Oh my god. That one

1318
01:07:55,920 --> 01:08:01,720
Speaker 4: more time. Ah okay, man, Oh my gosh, okay, sound

1319
01:08:01,760 --> 01:08:02,600
Speaker 4: like a little look.

1320
01:08:02,480 --> 01:08:05,000
Speaker 3: Okay, here we go, here we go, like enough to

1321
01:08:05,080 --> 01:08:06,920
Speaker 3: fill up a bucket every ten minutes.

1322
01:08:06,920 --> 01:08:07,360
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh.

1323
01:08:07,400 --> 01:08:09,960
Speaker 3: Her landlord wasn't going to be available for a few days,

1324
01:08:10,000 --> 01:08:12,120
Speaker 3: so she called me and asked me to come fix it.

1325
01:08:12,240 --> 01:08:20,200
Speaker 3: So even though it doesn't even work, I am very

1326
01:08:20,520 --> 01:08:24,599
Speaker 3: I'm very bad at handyman stuff. Okay, YouTube, you can

1327
01:08:24,640 --> 01:08:26,960
Speaker 3: at least figure it out on YouTube and get that rolling.

1328
01:08:27,400 --> 01:08:29,360
Speaker 4: I'm not making it, but like YouTube, there's.

1329
01:08:29,240 --> 01:08:32,280
Speaker 1: Literally a channel that I will shout out because it's

1330
01:08:32,320 --> 01:08:34,919
Speaker 1: so great. It's on YouTube and it's called.

1331
01:08:35,000 --> 01:08:37,400
Speaker 4: Dad How do I Yeah?

1332
01:08:37,600 --> 01:08:39,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's literally just a guy who is like

1333
01:08:40,240 --> 01:08:44,960
Speaker 1: a dad and he provides information for everyone on the

1334
01:08:45,000 --> 01:08:47,479
Speaker 1: internet whose dad did not teach them how to do

1335
01:08:47,600 --> 01:08:48,519
Speaker 1: something like fix the sink.

1336
01:08:48,680 --> 01:08:48,840
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1337
01:08:49,160 --> 01:08:52,720
Speaker 4: Plus Jagept, you we literally have.

1338
01:08:55,280 --> 01:08:55,320
Speaker 3: That.

1339
01:08:55,439 --> 01:08:58,080
Speaker 4: You have no excuse to do this. Go to go

1340
01:08:58,240 --> 01:09:00,759
Speaker 4: to the real person first, and then go to chet Gpt.

1341
01:09:04,760 --> 01:09:07,600
Speaker 3: I'm very bad at handyman stuff. My first instinct was

1342
01:09:07,640 --> 01:09:09,479
Speaker 3: to offer to pay someone to look at it. Okay,

1343
01:09:09,600 --> 01:09:12,280
Speaker 3: she said a real man would at least tried instead

1344
01:09:12,280 --> 01:09:13,040
Speaker 3: of paying someone.

1345
01:09:14,800 --> 01:09:18,400
Speaker 4: Famun. I am bro.

1346
01:09:20,080 --> 01:09:22,439
Speaker 3: I will say, I know, I know this is the

1347
01:09:22,640 --> 01:09:25,280
Speaker 3: very popular opinion, but I am about like what would

1348
01:09:25,280 --> 01:09:27,240
Speaker 3: a real man do? More like, what would a gentleman

1349
01:09:27,320 --> 01:09:30,080
Speaker 3: do in this situation? Yeah, I would flex it. I mean,

1350
01:09:30,080 --> 01:09:32,519
Speaker 3: if you got enough money paid for it, just make

1351
01:09:33,120 --> 01:09:35,920
Speaker 3: no matter what I like to say, don't ask me

1352
01:09:36,400 --> 01:09:37,160
Speaker 3: about my methods.

1353
01:09:37,240 --> 01:09:39,599
Speaker 4: Just be proud of my results. That's what I would

1354
01:09:39,680 --> 01:09:43,360
Speaker 4: use for this dude, the amount, whatever you do, don't

1355
01:09:43,439 --> 01:09:44,840
Speaker 4: ask any questions.

1356
01:09:44,920 --> 01:09:46,559
Speaker 3: Do you want to know how we got an Ethernet

1357
01:09:46,600 --> 01:09:50,760
Speaker 3: cable from this part to downstairs in the studio two. No,

1358
01:09:50,960 --> 01:09:52,720
Speaker 3: you're just proud that it happened. Don't ask me how

1359
01:09:52,760 --> 01:09:55,800
Speaker 3: I did it. Just be proud that it happened. Some

1360
01:09:55,960 --> 01:09:58,200
Speaker 3: of the things I've done to make things happen are

1361
01:09:58,200 --> 01:10:00,600
Speaker 3: pretty sketchy. Like if you go Studio two and you

1362
01:10:00,720 --> 01:10:03,280
Speaker 3: hit on the walls, the walls will be crumbling down.

1363
01:10:03,600 --> 01:10:05,519
Speaker 3: I thank God every day that we have had an

1364
01:10:05,520 --> 01:10:08,880
Speaker 3: earthquake above a six point zero because those walls bro

1365
01:10:09,560 --> 01:10:11,320
Speaker 3: they're attached by duct tape.

1366
01:10:12,280 --> 01:10:14,920
Speaker 4: Not even duct tape, gaffer tape. Couldn't have maybe told

1367
01:10:14,960 --> 01:10:19,560
Speaker 4: me that a little bit of a little work hazard.

1368
01:10:19,439 --> 01:10:21,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, work hazard, But you didn't have to sign that.

1369
01:10:21,720 --> 01:10:25,160
Speaker 3: You're contractor, you don't work as an employee, So don't

1370
01:10:25,240 --> 01:10:25,760
Speaker 3: worry about that.

1371
01:10:26,520 --> 01:10:30,000
Speaker 1: Great, I'll just chill under the rubble when it falls down.

1372
01:10:30,280 --> 01:10:35,479
Speaker 1: Don't worry try Sorry, that's where I gotta live. That's

1373
01:10:35,520 --> 01:10:36,200
Speaker 1: what they told me.

1374
01:10:37,920 --> 01:10:39,519
Speaker 3: It wasn't just handyman stuff.

1375
01:10:39,560 --> 01:10:39,720
Speaker 1: Though.

1376
01:10:40,120 --> 01:10:43,080
Speaker 3: We had an incident at a bar when an old

1377
01:10:43,120 --> 01:10:44,559
Speaker 3: waisted guy was flirting with her.

1378
01:10:44,840 --> 01:10:45,679
Speaker 4: I'm very non.

1379
01:10:45,560 --> 01:10:47,880
Speaker 3: Confrontational, so I offered to go to a different bar

1380
01:10:48,400 --> 01:10:51,160
Speaker 3: or tell the bouncers. She wanted me to confront him

1381
01:10:51,280 --> 01:10:53,680
Speaker 3: and felt I couldn't protect her. Little things like this

1382
01:10:53,840 --> 01:10:56,920
Speaker 3: added up in her head. Okay, I would have been like, bro,

1383
01:10:57,160 --> 01:10:58,439
Speaker 3: get the f off my girlfriend.

1384
01:11:00,439 --> 01:11:04,920
Speaker 4: There you go, there you go. That's you mess with

1385
01:11:05,000 --> 01:11:06,120
Speaker 4: the bull, you get the horn.

1386
01:11:11,560 --> 01:11:13,840
Speaker 3: Does Opie still have feelings for his ex?

1387
01:11:14,040 --> 01:11:14,360
Speaker 4: Opie?

1388
01:11:14,439 --> 01:11:18,479
Speaker 3: I no longer have feelings for her. Through my therapy sessions,

1389
01:11:18,479 --> 01:11:21,960
Speaker 3: I've learned we are just not compatible. She wanted me

1390
01:11:22,240 --> 01:11:24,240
Speaker 3: to be someone that I am not. She gas led

1391
01:11:24,320 --> 01:11:27,360
Speaker 3: me into thinking how am I as a person? Was

1392
01:11:27,479 --> 01:11:29,960
Speaker 3: wrong and I needed to fit her ideal version of

1393
01:11:30,040 --> 01:11:32,960
Speaker 3: a man. It just wasn't a healthy relationship and I

1394
01:11:33,000 --> 01:11:35,400
Speaker 3: should have ended it earlier. Okay, good job for you.

1395
01:11:36,160 --> 01:11:39,040
Speaker 3: The reason I don't want her there is because it

1396
01:11:39,160 --> 01:11:41,960
Speaker 3: is disrespectful to my new girlfriend. I know my family

1397
01:11:42,000 --> 01:11:44,080
Speaker 3: would prefer me to get back with my ex, but

1398
01:11:44,280 --> 01:11:47,320
Speaker 3: that is not what I want. They should respect that

1399
01:11:47,479 --> 01:11:52,040
Speaker 3: we are no longer together. And stop inviting her up dates.

1400
01:11:52,320 --> 01:12:00,559
Speaker 3: Oh boy, here we go, Here we go. What's to happen?

1401
01:12:00,720 --> 01:12:02,559
Speaker 3: I think he's going no contact with family.

1402
01:12:04,400 --> 01:12:06,040
Speaker 4: I think that's a very likely possibility.

1403
01:12:06,200 --> 01:12:07,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what's gonna happen.

1404
01:12:08,560 --> 01:12:08,840
Speaker 4: Update.

1405
01:12:08,920 --> 01:12:12,080
Speaker 3: Hey everyone, I appreciate all the advice and kind words,

1406
01:12:12,160 --> 01:12:17,519
Speaker 3: and I got my Poe and I got my Hey everyone,

1407
01:12:18,080 --> 01:12:20,760
Speaker 3: I appreciate all the advice and kind words and I

1408
01:12:20,880 --> 01:12:25,719
Speaker 3: got in my post. However I do. However, I don't

1409
01:12:25,840 --> 01:12:29,080
Speaker 3: have a good update. To be honest, I knew it. Basically,

1410
01:12:29,439 --> 01:12:31,800
Speaker 3: I sent a mass tech message to all of my

1411
01:12:31,920 --> 01:12:34,800
Speaker 3: family exactly how I felt that my ex should not

1412
01:12:34,880 --> 01:12:38,560
Speaker 3: be at Thanksgiving or Christmas, and that it was incredibly disrespectful.

1413
01:12:39,040 --> 01:12:43,200
Speaker 3: I told them they needed to choose between me and her,

1414
01:12:43,840 --> 01:12:48,240
Speaker 3: and how under no circumstances I would compromise this simple request,

1415
01:12:48,840 --> 01:12:52,080
Speaker 3: that they were choosing my ex girlfriend over their own son.

1416
01:12:52,280 --> 01:12:53,519
Speaker 4: And that it was not okay.

1417
01:12:53,800 --> 01:12:57,000
Speaker 3: Pop off, pop off, that's right. I also told my

1418
01:12:57,120 --> 01:12:59,840
Speaker 3: ex in a separate text that she is not well

1419
01:13:00,560 --> 01:13:02,800
Speaker 3: and that I did not care if my family invited her.

1420
01:13:03,400 --> 01:13:05,920
Speaker 3: My cousin messaged me on the side, agreeing with me,

1421
01:13:06,280 --> 01:13:10,040
Speaker 3: which is nice. However, the rest of the family did

1422
01:13:10,120 --> 01:13:13,519
Speaker 3: not see it that way. Family members responded how selfish

1423
01:13:13,640 --> 01:13:16,600
Speaker 3: I was, how I knew she had nowhere to go

1424
01:13:16,760 --> 01:13:19,840
Speaker 3: for Thanksgiving and that she has become a part of

1425
01:13:19,920 --> 01:13:22,920
Speaker 3: the family. Okay, this is a tough one.

1426
01:13:23,400 --> 01:13:24,240
Speaker 4: This is a tough one.

1427
01:13:24,280 --> 01:13:25,400
Speaker 3: I know she doesn't have anywhere to go.

1428
01:13:26,320 --> 01:13:27,200
Speaker 4: I don't know. I don't know.

1429
01:13:27,360 --> 01:13:29,800
Speaker 1: Hey, so, are you gonna help all the other people

1430
01:13:29,840 --> 01:13:31,720
Speaker 1: who also don't have anywhere to go for Thanksgiving? Or

1431
01:13:31,720 --> 01:13:36,840
Speaker 1: are you just gonna help your own, like family's ex girlfriend. Yeah, Like,

1432
01:13:37,800 --> 01:13:40,479
Speaker 1: there's other people out there who can't, okay, do anything

1433
01:13:40,520 --> 01:13:41,040
Speaker 1: for Thanksgiving?

1434
01:13:41,160 --> 01:13:44,320
Speaker 4: Yeah? Where are they? Why don't you bring them into

1435
01:13:44,320 --> 01:13:44,840
Speaker 4: the fold? Yeah?

1436
01:13:44,840 --> 01:13:47,000
Speaker 3: But they feel like they can help out. But dude,

1437
01:13:47,000 --> 01:13:49,920
Speaker 3: there's other people shooting ass. Come on, yeah, I mean, dude, no,

1438
01:13:50,040 --> 01:13:51,120
Speaker 3: it's it's it's crazy.

1439
01:13:51,600 --> 01:13:52,120
Speaker 4: That's crazy.

1440
01:13:52,280 --> 01:13:53,840
Speaker 3: I could probably be more mature, but I'm just like,

1441
01:13:53,880 --> 01:13:55,240
Speaker 3: on the fact, she just imagine like that.

1442
01:13:55,439 --> 01:13:59,599
Speaker 4: His ex girlfriend is just so cool. It's the coolest.

1443
01:14:00,840 --> 01:14:05,400
Speaker 4: She's like Sophia, but like cooler. That's what I'm saying. Like,

1444
01:14:05,640 --> 01:14:06,080
Speaker 4: do you hear that?

1445
01:14:06,200 --> 01:14:09,760
Speaker 3: You said, Sofia's not cool enough? I said, like, Sofia, Yeah,

1446
01:14:09,880 --> 01:14:11,080
Speaker 3: because she's the coolest chick I know.

1447
01:14:11,479 --> 01:14:14,439
Speaker 4: But and you're like saying, even right, I'm saying, imagine

1448
01:14:14,560 --> 01:14:17,400
Speaker 4: even cooler than that. I can't. But that's why my.

1449
01:14:17,400 --> 01:14:20,519
Speaker 3: Wild y're going to saying there's a cooler person. There

1450
01:14:20,560 --> 01:14:22,519
Speaker 3: was a cooler possibility than Sofia.

1451
01:14:23,280 --> 01:14:27,559
Speaker 4: I don't know. Can Sofia do a triple backflip? Maybe

1452
01:14:27,640 --> 01:14:28,640
Speaker 4: his ex can? I don't know.

1453
01:14:29,200 --> 01:14:31,559
Speaker 3: You don't know either, I don't, but I'm just saying.

1454
01:14:33,080 --> 01:14:35,200
Speaker 1: Sofia, this is my official challenge to you to learn

1455
01:14:35,240 --> 01:14:37,640
Speaker 1: how to do a triple backflip, and she will, all right.

1456
01:14:38,520 --> 01:14:39,280
Speaker 4: I tried to.

1457
01:14:39,439 --> 01:14:43,280
Speaker 3: Hold my ground by stating how not normal this want

1458
01:14:43,320 --> 01:14:46,080
Speaker 3: was to invite someone's X to Thanksgiving, but they just

1459
01:14:46,200 --> 01:14:49,000
Speaker 3: doubled down that she had become too close to exclude her.

1460
01:14:49,400 --> 01:14:52,280
Speaker 3: My dad specifically said I needed to stop being so immature,

1461
01:14:52,840 --> 01:14:57,000
Speaker 3: making ultimatums like a child that message. That message got

1462
01:14:57,040 --> 01:14:59,559
Speaker 3: a lot of eye messages likes in the group chat.

1463
01:15:00,560 --> 01:15:03,000
Speaker 4: Damn, you know, sorry, I didn't have the chat up

1464
01:15:03,000 --> 01:15:05,519
Speaker 4: that whole time. It's okay, you'll just be fired to.

1465
01:15:05,680 --> 01:15:07,240
Speaker 4: I made a mistake. I was just watching the chat

1466
01:15:08,160 --> 01:15:11,600
Speaker 4: saying that that was undoable, which is now what I

1467
01:15:11,640 --> 01:15:13,040
Speaker 4: said I did not say Sophia is not cool.

1468
01:15:13,120 --> 01:15:16,880
Speaker 3: Well, everyone get over sat picking EXCEP for something. My

1469
01:15:17,040 --> 01:15:19,360
Speaker 3: ex told me that I was being an effing baby

1470
01:15:19,560 --> 01:15:20,320
Speaker 3: about the whole thing.

1471
01:15:20,600 --> 01:15:21,599
Speaker 4: That's why we go home.

1472
01:15:22,439 --> 01:15:24,640
Speaker 3: What about Angie. I'm not gonna think of Angie as

1473
01:15:24,640 --> 01:15:26,479
Speaker 3: a possible x so that's why I didn't mention her.

1474
01:15:26,520 --> 01:15:28,120
Speaker 3: But she would be the coolest ever and she was

1475
01:15:28,160 --> 01:15:31,599
Speaker 3: invited to all the thanksgivings ever and forever will be boom.

1476
01:15:32,960 --> 01:15:37,000
Speaker 4: You can almost she's working on doing this. Guy, is

1477
01:15:37,720 --> 01:15:39,080
Speaker 4: are we seeing this she's doing?

1478
01:15:39,240 --> 01:15:42,280
Speaker 3: She's working on being doing a backflip because she wants

1479
01:15:42,320 --> 01:15:43,400
Speaker 3: to do that to be a party trick.

1480
01:15:45,040 --> 01:15:45,120
Speaker 5: Uh.

1481
01:15:45,560 --> 01:15:47,920
Speaker 3: This is exactly the reason she broke up with me. Okay,

1482
01:15:48,000 --> 01:15:54,640
Speaker 3: I just said that too good, oh man, that I

1483
01:15:54,720 --> 01:15:58,240
Speaker 3: could not handle even the possibility of confrontation and I

1484
01:15:58,360 --> 01:16:00,920
Speaker 3: was gonna run away with a new girlfriend. I explain

1485
01:16:01,120 --> 01:16:03,280
Speaker 3: how not normal this dynamic was, and I told her

1486
01:16:03,320 --> 01:16:05,000
Speaker 3: to go back to her family. I stop trying to

1487
01:16:05,000 --> 01:16:08,719
Speaker 3: still mine. She just sent back, it's not her fault

1488
01:16:08,720 --> 01:16:11,400
Speaker 3: and my family loves her, and stop answering. I kept

1489
01:16:11,439 --> 01:16:14,200
Speaker 3: battling with my family over the weekend, but no one

1490
01:16:14,439 --> 01:16:17,680
Speaker 3: was budging my mom had called me, explaining how my

1491
01:16:17,760 --> 01:16:20,400
Speaker 3: ex was like a daughter to her and my actions

1492
01:16:20,479 --> 01:16:24,120
Speaker 3: were breaking her heart. I asked her if she had

1493
01:16:24,160 --> 01:16:27,280
Speaker 3: any sympathy for me, considering my ex broke up with me,

1494
01:16:28,040 --> 01:16:31,680
Speaker 3: saying I was a man, I wasn't man enough for her.

1495
01:16:32,240 --> 01:16:35,160
Speaker 3: My mom just said how my actions were proving her right,

1496
01:16:35,360 --> 01:16:38,120
Speaker 3: and that kind of broke me. These fights were clearly

1497
01:16:38,920 --> 01:16:41,240
Speaker 3: going nowhere, so I put my money where my mouth is.

1498
01:16:41,280 --> 01:16:44,000
Speaker 3: I decided to book a short trip with my girlfriend

1499
01:16:44,080 --> 01:16:45,840
Speaker 3: and take her to a really nice restaurant.

1500
01:16:46,360 --> 01:16:48,000
Speaker 4: Okay, okay.

1501
01:16:48,640 --> 01:16:51,719
Speaker 3: I let her know, and initially she said she would

1502
01:16:51,840 --> 01:16:54,640
Speaker 3: like a nice getaway. However, yesterday she asked me to

1503
01:16:54,720 --> 01:16:58,920
Speaker 3: come over and talk. Mmm, how we feeling, how we feel,

1504
01:16:58,960 --> 01:16:59,639
Speaker 3: and how we feel.

1505
01:16:59,479 --> 01:17:03,559
Speaker 4: In let's talk. I'm just I just want to talk.

1506
01:17:04,400 --> 01:17:06,719
Speaker 4: I just want to talk about There's nothing.

1507
01:17:08,000 --> 01:17:10,320
Speaker 3: Ooh, I can't even say your name. E said, if

1508
01:17:10,360 --> 01:17:11,880
Speaker 3: she was family, why didn't they just go over and

1509
01:17:11,960 --> 01:17:12,519
Speaker 3: fix her sink?

1510
01:17:13,120 --> 01:17:13,519
Speaker 4: Hot? Take?

1511
01:17:14,120 --> 01:17:17,439
Speaker 1: Yes, exactly hot, but take low key. I tried to

1512
01:17:17,520 --> 01:17:20,560
Speaker 1: highlight that, but I you couldn't figure ot how to

1513
01:17:20,640 --> 01:17:20,840
Speaker 1: do it.

1514
01:17:21,479 --> 01:17:23,120
Speaker 4: You did it? You click? Did you clicked it? You

1515
01:17:23,280 --> 01:17:26,000
Speaker 4: just click it? That's what I just click one of them,

1516
01:17:26,840 --> 01:17:33,120
Speaker 4: click another one click boom. Oh, it was just covered

1517
01:17:33,200 --> 01:17:35,479
Speaker 4: up by the read me all right, here we go.

1518
01:17:36,720 --> 01:17:38,840
Speaker 3: She said that this whole situation with my family was

1519
01:17:38,880 --> 01:17:42,280
Speaker 3: making her extremely uncomfortable and that she felt like she

1520
01:17:42,439 --> 01:17:44,759
Speaker 3: was in the middle of this battle between me, my family,

1521
01:17:44,920 --> 01:17:47,200
Speaker 3: and my ex. She said, I was really sweet, but

1522
01:17:47,280 --> 01:17:49,560
Speaker 3: she couldn't be in a relationship with someone with this

1523
01:17:49,760 --> 01:17:50,719
Speaker 3: much family drama.

1524
01:17:52,400 --> 01:17:57,720
Speaker 4: Dude, duh, you guys are ruining everything for this guy.

1525
01:17:57,920 --> 01:18:01,320
Speaker 3: You should have just took our thing and just dressed

1526
01:18:01,400 --> 01:18:04,000
Speaker 3: up and went with Yeah, that's all you had to do.

1527
01:18:04,520 --> 01:18:06,640
Speaker 3: I begged and pleaded with her, but she said she

1528
01:18:06,760 --> 01:18:08,479
Speaker 3: put a lot of thought into this and asked me

1529
01:18:08,600 --> 01:18:11,360
Speaker 3: to respect her decision. By the way, you can please

1530
01:18:11,400 --> 01:18:13,639
Speaker 3: respect us and Jordi's live every weekday at three pm PST.

1531
01:18:13,920 --> 01:18:17,160
Speaker 3: Just tap our profile we go live on YouTube, Twitch, TikTok,

1532
01:18:17,280 --> 01:18:19,760
Speaker 3: and Facebook and check her for we already live because

1533
01:18:19,760 --> 01:18:20,360
Speaker 3: we might already but.

1534
01:18:20,680 --> 01:18:24,120
Speaker 4: Have a little bit more. Oh for two man.

1535
01:18:27,880 --> 01:18:33,639
Speaker 3: Releas non confrontation is catching up to him, I will

1536
01:18:33,720 --> 01:18:35,680
Speaker 3: say that he is not confronting anyone and it is

1537
01:18:35,760 --> 01:18:36,400
Speaker 3: coming up to him.

1538
01:18:36,560 --> 01:18:38,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, that's you.

1539
01:18:38,720 --> 01:18:45,479
Speaker 1: Can't just not have the hard talks ever, and then,

1540
01:18:45,680 --> 01:18:48,680
Speaker 1: like you know, if you don't have the talk, you

1541
01:18:48,760 --> 01:18:51,560
Speaker 1: become passive. And when you're passive, life just happens to

1542
01:18:51,800 --> 01:18:57,600
Speaker 1: you instead of you like being the attack life. You

1543
01:18:57,680 --> 01:18:59,800
Speaker 1: want to be the captain on the wheel. You don't

1544
01:18:59,800 --> 01:19:02,960
Speaker 1: want to just be like the wind in the in

1545
01:19:03,040 --> 01:19:06,240
Speaker 1: the sail. Yeah does that make sense?

1546
01:19:06,320 --> 01:19:06,519
Speaker 4: Did I?

1547
01:19:07,880 --> 01:19:10,599
Speaker 3: How can you get into the boat if you don't

1548
01:19:10,640 --> 01:19:11,679
Speaker 3: know which wind to sail?

1549
01:19:12,720 --> 01:19:15,439
Speaker 4: Yeah? Well I felt like it was more like the wind.

1550
01:19:16,720 --> 01:19:19,280
Speaker 4: I don't know, I don't know. Maybe that wasn't good.

1551
01:19:19,600 --> 01:19:22,080
Speaker 1: But you want to be the captain of your life

1552
01:19:22,160 --> 01:19:23,760
Speaker 1: and you can't do it by just like I don't know,

1553
01:19:24,000 --> 01:19:29,479
Speaker 1: never talking to the crew members. It's like Johnny, you know, Johnny,

1554
01:19:30,560 --> 01:19:35,960
Speaker 1: Damn Johnny, Johnny no teeth, Right, he's sucking on all

1555
01:19:36,000 --> 01:19:38,480
Speaker 1: the lemons, and you gotta you gotta confront.

1556
01:19:38,200 --> 01:19:39,759
Speaker 4: Him or else everyone's gonna get scurvy.

1557
01:19:39,840 --> 01:19:42,360
Speaker 3: Okay, this is all says he confronted his entire family.

1558
01:19:42,479 --> 01:19:42,920
Speaker 4: Hot take.

1559
01:19:43,160 --> 01:19:45,439
Speaker 3: Yes, I know I said a hot take, but he didn't.

1560
01:19:45,840 --> 01:19:46,200
Speaker 4: I don't know.

1561
01:19:46,600 --> 01:19:52,000
Speaker 3: He did confront his whole family, but he lost his girlfriend. Yeah,

1562
01:19:52,920 --> 01:19:55,640
Speaker 3: I'm effing pathetic. I can't even set boundaries with my

1563
01:19:55,680 --> 01:19:58,040
Speaker 3: own family. I'm going to take the trip by myself

1564
01:19:58,080 --> 01:20:00,160
Speaker 3: and think some things over. I'm not looking for for

1565
01:20:00,920 --> 01:20:06,040
Speaker 3: additional advice, somewhere, somewhere to spend Thanksgiving, or even words

1566
01:20:06,040 --> 01:20:06,639
Speaker 3: of encouragement.

1567
01:20:06,840 --> 01:20:07,960
Speaker 4: I just want to be left alone.

1568
01:20:08,000 --> 01:20:09,920
Speaker 3: Thanks for all the advice, but clearly I need to

1569
01:20:09,960 --> 01:20:12,280
Speaker 3: work on myself. I think two things are clear. One,

1570
01:20:12,320 --> 01:20:14,479
Speaker 3: my family doesn't like me very much, and too, I

1571
01:20:14,560 --> 01:20:21,080
Speaker 3: can be easily pushed around by people relevant comments. Don't

1572
01:20:21,120 --> 01:20:23,160
Speaker 3: be so hard on yourself. It sounds like you did

1573
01:20:23,280 --> 01:20:25,680
Speaker 3: sound boundaries and you're sticking to it. Maybe take some

1574
01:20:25,760 --> 01:20:27,720
Speaker 3: time to find yourself. Do you think your family is

1575
01:20:27,760 --> 01:20:30,160
Speaker 3: trying to force you to change and get back together

1576
01:20:30,200 --> 01:20:34,320
Speaker 3: with her? It sounds like they are going to lampoon

1577
01:20:34,479 --> 01:20:37,800
Speaker 3: any future relationship you have, Opie. I thought about this

1578
01:20:38,040 --> 01:20:40,960
Speaker 3: a lot since my last post. Some people commented on

1579
01:20:41,040 --> 01:20:43,720
Speaker 3: my last post saying, my family and my ex may

1580
01:20:43,800 --> 01:20:46,639
Speaker 3: be conspiring to get me too tough enough. Once I've

1581
01:20:46,640 --> 01:20:48,719
Speaker 3: grown a pair, we would get back together. I personally

1582
01:20:48,760 --> 01:20:51,759
Speaker 3: think it's far fetched, but concerning my ex still around,

1583
01:20:51,800 --> 01:20:54,719
Speaker 3: who knows. Op On getting more therapy because things aren't

1584
01:20:54,720 --> 01:20:57,960
Speaker 3: get to aren't getting better for him. OPI I have

1585
01:20:58,080 --> 01:20:59,720
Speaker 3: doubled up on my therapy appointments.

1586
01:21:00,120 --> 01:21:00,599
Speaker 4: I'll be okay.

1587
01:21:01,080 --> 01:21:03,800
Speaker 3: It seems like I'll be saving money on Christmas gifts

1588
01:21:03,800 --> 01:21:06,160
Speaker 3: so I can afford the extra therapy. Yep, can you

1589
01:21:06,200 --> 01:21:06,920
Speaker 3: throw me on my phone?

1590
01:21:10,120 --> 01:21:10,880
Speaker 4: I'm on the way.

1591
01:21:11,560 --> 01:21:17,960
Speaker 3: Oh and that's that story. Yeah, I think you definitely

1592
01:21:18,040 --> 01:21:21,960
Speaker 3: need more therapy and it is gonna be tough.

1593
01:21:23,040 --> 01:21:24,080
Speaker 4: But hey, you know, it's like.

1594
01:21:27,400 --> 01:21:32,600
Speaker 1: That person just wasn't ready to see themselves, like in

1595
01:21:32,720 --> 01:21:34,519
Speaker 1: a long term relationship with your family.

1596
01:21:34,800 --> 01:21:39,519
Speaker 4: Yeah, which can sometimes it's it's a it's a factor

1597
01:21:39,760 --> 01:21:40,120
Speaker 4: for sure.

1598
01:21:40,200 --> 01:21:42,240
Speaker 1: It's like when you're in a serious relationship with somebody,

1599
01:21:43,680 --> 01:21:46,280
Speaker 1: do you want to factor in like the family that

1600
01:21:46,360 --> 01:21:49,560
Speaker 1: you're marrying into. It's not like it's like always, it's not,

1601
01:21:49,760 --> 01:21:51,760
Speaker 1: you know, that always the most important thing, but it's

1602
01:21:51,760 --> 01:21:53,240
Speaker 1: like something you definitely have to think about.

1603
01:21:53,600 --> 01:21:58,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, agreed, agreed. And now we're going to have someone

1604
01:21:58,800 --> 01:22:01,920
Speaker 3: come in and tell us there crazy story.

1605
01:22:02,240 --> 01:22:05,879
Speaker 4: No way, it's happening. It's happening.

1606
01:22:07,280 --> 01:22:10,280
Speaker 3: You see on the Facebook thing, Hey, come on in

1607
01:22:12,439 --> 01:22:15,360
Speaker 3: on the right, the vertical thing there, a little red thing,

1608
01:22:16,800 --> 01:22:17,920
Speaker 3: the red Facebook thing.

1609
01:22:18,080 --> 01:22:21,800
Speaker 4: The red Facebook thing. Yeah, could you tap on that? No?

1610
01:22:21,920 --> 01:22:24,080
Speaker 4: But this is his This his YouTube.

1611
01:22:26,439 --> 01:22:29,160
Speaker 3: On the on the sorry on the right, on obs

1612
01:22:29,280 --> 01:22:33,360
Speaker 3: the Facebook donation. Oh could you click that button? Uh?

1613
01:22:34,800 --> 01:22:39,040
Speaker 1: What you realize I'm looking at like a Greek language

1614
01:22:39,080 --> 01:22:40,400
Speaker 1: over here, right, I don't. I don't want to press

1615
01:22:40,439 --> 01:22:42,880
Speaker 1: the wrong button. I'm only I've only ever learned how

1616
01:22:42,880 --> 01:22:43,599
Speaker 1: to press button.

1617
01:22:45,040 --> 01:22:47,840
Speaker 4: Oh, click the record button. I thought you said the

1618
01:22:47,920 --> 01:22:55,479
Speaker 4: Facebook button. I'm like, whish was the Facebook button? Okay?

1619
01:22:55,760 --> 01:22:59,360
Speaker 4: All right, my god he said press the Facebook button? Guys,

1620
01:22:59,400 --> 01:23:00,320
Speaker 4: there's no face but.

1621
01:23:00,760 --> 01:23:04,720
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, guys. We have a special guest here.

1622
01:23:04,880 --> 01:23:08,200
Speaker 3: This is my friend Kyla and she is staying with

1623
01:23:08,280 --> 01:23:12,040
Speaker 3: me this week. I met her in Tennessee. We've been friends,

1624
01:23:12,720 --> 01:23:15,200
Speaker 3: CrossFit friends. And keep keep it, keep it like on

1625
01:23:15,320 --> 01:23:17,320
Speaker 3: your chin, and then you can move it down if.

1626
01:23:17,240 --> 01:23:17,519
Speaker 2: You need to.

1627
01:23:18,120 --> 01:23:18,439
Speaker 4: There we go.

1628
01:23:18,960 --> 01:23:22,920
Speaker 3: And she has a crazy X story that has happened

1629
01:23:22,960 --> 01:23:26,639
Speaker 3: to her this year. Yeah, and I want to hear

1630
01:23:26,720 --> 01:23:30,160
Speaker 3: it from you because it is so insane.

1631
01:23:30,560 --> 01:23:31,720
Speaker 4: Where's the button to split you?

1632
01:23:31,840 --> 01:23:32,080
Speaker 5: Guys?

1633
01:23:32,200 --> 01:23:34,479
Speaker 4: One one? There we go.

1634
01:23:35,080 --> 01:23:37,120
Speaker 3: It is so insane that I need her to say it.

1635
01:23:37,200 --> 01:23:41,280
Speaker 3: So start off, thanks for having me, yep, go for it.

1636
01:23:42,080 --> 01:23:44,000
Speaker 7: So I'm gonna have some code names. I had to

1637
01:23:44,000 --> 01:23:47,880
Speaker 7: write it down because there's a lot. Okay, so sorry,

1638
01:23:47,960 --> 01:23:52,960
Speaker 7: thank you. So I met this guy on Instagram. He started,

1639
01:23:54,000 --> 01:23:56,200
Speaker 7: he requested to follow me. Didn't really know who he was,

1640
01:23:56,240 --> 01:23:57,240
Speaker 7: but he had some mutual.

1641
01:23:57,000 --> 01:23:59,920
Speaker 3: Friends, so okay, okay, mutual friends, so it wasn't just

1642
01:24:00,080 --> 01:24:01,400
Speaker 3: like a complete stranger.

1643
01:24:01,439 --> 01:24:03,840
Speaker 7: No, okay, And it was some of like friends that

1644
01:24:03,960 --> 01:24:06,280
Speaker 7: I that me and you're like have mutual friends with.

1645
01:24:06,560 --> 01:24:07,960
Speaker 7: So I was like, okay, like I think I can

1646
01:24:08,000 --> 01:24:10,400
Speaker 7: trust this person like to follow me. Then he starts

1647
01:24:10,479 --> 01:24:12,720
Speaker 7: like liking a lot of my Instagram posts and like

1648
01:24:12,800 --> 01:24:14,680
Speaker 7: my Instagram stories, and I was like, I think this

1649
01:24:14,760 --> 01:24:16,320
Speaker 7: guy might be into me, and like he kind of

1650
01:24:16,360 --> 01:24:18,160
Speaker 7: like it was like, oh, he's kind of cute. So

1651
01:24:18,280 --> 01:24:19,920
Speaker 7: I ended up messaging him and I was like, hey,

1652
01:24:20,240 --> 01:24:21,600
Speaker 7: I've noticed that you've kind of liked a lot of

1653
01:24:21,640 --> 01:24:24,160
Speaker 7: my you know, my stories and things like. I was

1654
01:24:24,200 --> 01:24:26,080
Speaker 7: wondering if you wanted to like just you know, chat,

1655
01:24:26,240 --> 01:24:26,760
Speaker 7: going to date.

1656
01:24:27,000 --> 01:24:33,480
Speaker 4: His DMS Yeah, not that crazy, I mean side.

1657
01:24:33,400 --> 01:24:36,040
Speaker 3: I mean, my girl definitely said my DMS the day

1658
01:24:36,120 --> 01:24:37,160
Speaker 3: after I met.

1659
01:24:37,240 --> 01:24:40,599
Speaker 4: Oh you dirty dog, you dirty dog.

1660
01:24:41,120 --> 01:24:43,280
Speaker 3: Anyways, he said in his DMS.

1661
01:24:43,840 --> 01:24:47,040
Speaker 7: Yeah, so we had like our first we had a

1662
01:24:47,160 --> 01:24:48,880
Speaker 7: phone call and then we had a date like the

1663
01:24:48,920 --> 01:24:53,080
Speaker 7: following day. The date goes fabulous. I was like, man,

1664
01:24:53,200 --> 01:24:55,280
Speaker 7: like this guy is like so incredible. I've never been

1665
01:24:55,320 --> 01:24:59,360
Speaker 7: on a date, better date than any like any of Yeah,

1666
01:24:59,400 --> 01:25:04,280
Speaker 7: best first date. So first eight goes well. We go

1667
01:25:04,439 --> 01:25:06,080
Speaker 7: on a drive and he's like, hey, I got to

1668
01:25:06,080 --> 01:25:09,920
Speaker 7: tell you something and he was like, hey, I might

1669
01:25:09,960 --> 01:25:17,280
Speaker 7: have a kid with my ex girlfriend. And I was like, okay, yeah,

1670
01:25:17,439 --> 01:25:20,639
Speaker 7: I don't know why this. Yeah, I don't know why.

1671
01:25:20,720 --> 01:25:21,599
Speaker 7: It was the hills.

1672
01:25:22,360 --> 01:25:24,000
Speaker 3: You didn't see it, Okay, I was like.

1673
01:25:24,920 --> 01:25:26,519
Speaker 7: He was like, but he was like, I'm getting like

1674
01:25:26,560 --> 01:25:28,120
Speaker 7: a paternity test like in the next month.

1675
01:25:28,760 --> 01:25:30,920
Speaker 4: But so it sounded like it was more her fault.

1676
01:25:31,439 --> 01:25:32,880
Speaker 7: Yeah, and that's what he made it out to be,

1677
01:25:33,160 --> 01:25:35,960
Speaker 7: was like she is keeping this kid away from me.

1678
01:25:36,040 --> 01:25:38,599
Speaker 7: I've been trying to get paternity and nothing is getting done.

1679
01:25:38,640 --> 01:25:39,960
Speaker 7: And he was like, I had to get a lawyer

1680
01:25:40,720 --> 01:25:45,439
Speaker 7: all this stuff. Yeah, So I believed him. I was like, yeah,

1681
01:25:45,520 --> 01:25:47,200
Speaker 7: like you're trying to get paternity and he was like yeah,

1682
01:25:47,200 --> 01:25:49,280
Speaker 7: it's really just it's harder for men to get paternity testing.

1683
01:25:49,680 --> 01:25:51,679
Speaker 7: But you know, with like I guess with women, whenever

1684
01:25:51,760 --> 01:25:54,000
Speaker 7: they their baby, daddy's kind of go away, they can

1685
01:25:54,160 --> 01:25:56,599
Speaker 7: you know, subpoenat them and the police go to their house.

1686
01:25:56,680 --> 01:25:59,880
Speaker 7: But since it's a kid that you're paternity testing, it's different,

1687
01:26:00,360 --> 01:26:02,799
Speaker 7: Like the rise, you have to have like parental consent

1688
01:26:03,560 --> 01:26:06,360
Speaker 7: for I don't know, there's a lot of things with

1689
01:26:06,520 --> 01:26:08,040
Speaker 7: like children.

1690
01:26:07,800 --> 01:26:10,400
Speaker 3: And god consent, So as a father, it's harder to

1691
01:26:11,160 --> 01:26:11,479
Speaker 3: get that.

1692
01:26:12,000 --> 01:26:13,040
Speaker 7: Yes or so he says.

1693
01:26:14,040 --> 01:26:18,599
Speaker 4: So I said this could be a fabrication. Oh yeah,

1694
01:26:20,840 --> 01:26:21,880
Speaker 4: it's like it's real hard.

1695
01:26:21,920 --> 01:26:23,400
Speaker 1: I don't know. I had to call somebody on the

1696
01:26:23,479 --> 01:26:26,200
Speaker 1: phone and like I just kind of I was over

1697
01:26:26,280 --> 01:26:28,800
Speaker 1: it by the time, you know, he was fine whatever,

1698
01:26:28,840 --> 01:26:29,559
Speaker 1: he could grow up.

1699
01:26:29,560 --> 01:26:30,679
Speaker 4: I don't care what was next.

1700
01:26:32,439 --> 01:26:35,240
Speaker 7: So dating, we start dating, everything goes well. My family

1701
01:26:35,280 --> 01:26:36,719
Speaker 7: really likes them, my friends.

1702
01:26:36,520 --> 01:26:37,120
Speaker 3: Really like him.

1703
01:26:37,320 --> 01:26:38,439
Speaker 4: He's raising everyone up.

1704
01:26:38,800 --> 01:26:42,640
Speaker 7: Yeah, exactly. Every time that he's he's like, okay, kind

1705
01:26:42,680 --> 01:26:44,519
Speaker 7: of like I'm gonna get this paternity testing done on

1706
01:26:44,720 --> 01:26:47,080
Speaker 7: X date, and so like X date will come. We

1707
01:26:47,240 --> 01:26:49,560
Speaker 7: I kind of just wait for text messages all that stuff.

1708
01:26:49,560 --> 01:26:51,680
Speaker 4: And then did you tell your parents about this? Yeah?

1709
01:26:51,760 --> 01:26:54,240
Speaker 7: He ended up telling my mom. Oh wow, So like

1710
01:26:54,360 --> 01:26:56,000
Speaker 7: he like fessed up and was like, hey, like, I

1711
01:26:56,080 --> 01:26:57,840
Speaker 7: gotta tell you this because this is really important to me,

1712
01:26:58,040 --> 01:27:00,320
Speaker 7: and I didn't want this to be hidden. He was like,

1713
01:27:00,320 --> 01:27:01,720
Speaker 7: I don't want to just like date your daughter and

1714
01:27:01,800 --> 01:27:03,920
Speaker 7: then not tell you on and then be like the

1715
01:27:04,000 --> 01:27:05,880
Speaker 7: kid if it's his, be like, hey, guys, I have this,

1716
01:27:06,080 --> 01:27:08,760
Speaker 7: like I have this kid, and you know, because he's like,

1717
01:27:08,800 --> 01:27:10,240
Speaker 7: I think out of respect, he's like I wanted to

1718
01:27:10,320 --> 01:27:11,640
Speaker 7: tell the parents and things like that.

1719
01:27:11,920 --> 01:27:14,160
Speaker 4: So he was being upfront about it. Yes, got it.

1720
01:27:14,680 --> 01:27:16,240
Speaker 7: Yeah, So he ends up telling my mom. My mom

1721
01:27:16,320 --> 01:27:17,960
Speaker 7: takes it really well, like my siblings take it well.

1722
01:27:18,000 --> 01:27:19,400
Speaker 7: And then a couple of months go in and like

1723
01:27:19,840 --> 01:27:21,920
Speaker 7: one of my siblings two of my siblings were like, hey, Kyle, like,

1724
01:27:22,000 --> 01:27:24,639
Speaker 7: it's really weird that, like he still doesn't have paternity testing.

1725
01:27:24,840 --> 01:27:27,519
Speaker 3: Yeah, because someone just said some flowers said paternity tests

1726
01:27:27,520 --> 01:27:28,640
Speaker 3: are so easy. I know.

1727
01:27:29,000 --> 01:27:30,840
Speaker 7: Yeah, Like my siblings were like, hey, like I have

1728
01:27:30,880 --> 01:27:33,880
Speaker 7: a friend who had a similar situation and she got

1729
01:27:33,920 --> 01:27:37,120
Speaker 7: like paternity for her baby daddy and like the same

1730
01:27:37,200 --> 01:27:39,560
Speaker 7: day that the child was born, I think. So I

1731
01:27:39,680 --> 01:27:43,720
Speaker 7: was like, huh, that's really interesting. So like I'm just like, okay,

1732
01:27:43,720 --> 01:27:45,320
Speaker 7: I'm a little bit skeptical, and I like brought it

1733
01:27:45,400 --> 01:27:46,840
Speaker 7: up to him and he's like, but Kyla, it's so

1734
01:27:46,920 --> 01:27:49,960
Speaker 7: much harder to get like paternity testing for for men.

1735
01:27:50,240 --> 01:27:51,280
Speaker 7: And I I don't know.

1736
01:27:51,360 --> 01:27:53,400
Speaker 4: I just believed him mm fishy.

1737
01:27:53,560 --> 01:27:55,920
Speaker 7: So yeah, and so like after a couple of times,

1738
01:27:55,920 --> 01:27:58,800
Speaker 7: I was like, this is just not like going great. Yeah,

1739
01:27:58,800 --> 01:28:01,080
Speaker 7: and I it just at that time when that was

1740
01:28:01,080 --> 01:28:02,760
Speaker 7: also the time whenever he kind of was like very

1741
01:28:02,840 --> 01:28:05,640
Speaker 7: distant oka, very like didn't really want to see me

1742
01:28:05,720 --> 01:28:06,040
Speaker 7: that much.

1743
01:28:06,120 --> 01:28:08,280
Speaker 3: He also had like a behavioral change too.

1744
01:28:08,840 --> 01:28:10,960
Speaker 7: Yeah, he was saying that he was really exhausted with

1745
01:28:11,040 --> 01:28:13,400
Speaker 7: work and he's just like, I just don't have time

1746
01:28:13,640 --> 01:28:14,160
Speaker 7: to be able.

1747
01:28:14,640 --> 01:28:15,080
Speaker 4: What does he do?

1748
01:28:15,800 --> 01:28:17,880
Speaker 7: He so he was part time fire department. He was

1749
01:28:17,920 --> 01:28:19,960
Speaker 7: trying to get full time. Okay, so he's applying to

1750
01:28:20,000 --> 01:28:22,080
Speaker 7: a lot of different fire department jobs. And then he

1751
01:28:23,280 --> 01:28:25,800
Speaker 7: was doing he worked at a factory god Erson City.

1752
01:28:26,600 --> 01:28:28,920
Speaker 7: So his factory job ended up. He was supposed to

1753
01:28:28,920 --> 01:28:31,000
Speaker 7: work forty hours a week. He would work like eighty plus.

1754
01:28:31,800 --> 01:28:33,720
Speaker 7: And so he was like, I'm exhausted, I don't really

1755
01:28:33,760 --> 01:28:35,599
Speaker 7: have a lot of time, don't do all these things.

1756
01:28:35,640 --> 01:28:37,120
Speaker 7: But he would like do like little things that kind

1757
01:28:37,120 --> 01:28:38,800
Speaker 7: of gave me like hope. Okay, Like I'm like, oh,

1758
01:28:38,840 --> 01:28:40,519
Speaker 7: he'd come over after work and he'd spend time with

1759
01:28:40,560 --> 01:28:41,479
Speaker 7: me and he's like, oh, I have to wake up

1760
01:28:41,479 --> 01:28:43,400
Speaker 7: at four I am, but like stay at my house

1761
01:28:43,439 --> 01:28:44,000
Speaker 7: till like twelve.

1762
01:28:44,160 --> 01:28:48,479
Speaker 1: The classic move of just barely doing enough is there

1763
01:28:48,760 --> 01:28:51,519
Speaker 1: just a semblance of hope here I.

1764
01:28:51,600 --> 01:28:52,880
Speaker 7: Know, and it's like okay, like and that I would

1765
01:28:52,920 --> 01:28:54,160
Speaker 7: hold on to it, and I'm like okay, Like he

1766
01:28:54,240 --> 01:28:57,040
Speaker 7: really is changing, he is, you know, he's trying to

1767
01:28:57,120 --> 01:28:59,360
Speaker 7: get him like have a better life. He's like, oh,

1768
01:28:59,439 --> 01:29:01,600
Speaker 7: like I've did all these other crazy people before and

1769
01:29:01,760 --> 01:29:03,080
Speaker 7: like I really don't want to have to.

1770
01:29:03,680 --> 01:29:04,120
Speaker 4: Yeah I don't.

1771
01:29:04,160 --> 01:29:05,560
Speaker 7: He's like I really just don't want to. He's like,

1772
01:29:05,600 --> 01:29:07,639
Speaker 7: I'm not having that lifestyble style anymore.

1773
01:29:07,800 --> 01:29:08,639
Speaker 4: So Yeah.

1774
01:29:09,560 --> 01:29:10,680
Speaker 2: So in.

1775
01:29:12,160 --> 01:29:14,280
Speaker 7: June after I went so, I went to a Kadia

1776
01:29:14,400 --> 01:29:16,800
Speaker 7: National Park with family. Come back and I like just

1777
01:29:16,800 --> 01:29:18,519
Speaker 7: don't see him and I was like, hey, I haven't

1778
01:29:18,520 --> 01:29:20,519
Speaker 7: seen you, like for a whole week, like week and

1779
01:29:20,560 --> 01:29:22,840
Speaker 7: a half. And then I tried to, you know, see him,

1780
01:29:23,240 --> 01:29:25,840
Speaker 7: be like hey, like I've missed you, like I don't

1781
01:29:25,840 --> 01:29:28,800
Speaker 7: know where you've been. And he just was like kind

1782
01:29:28,800 --> 01:29:30,640
Speaker 7: of just didn't want to hang out with me. And

1783
01:29:30,760 --> 01:29:32,880
Speaker 7: he was like we had like Fourth of July plans

1784
01:29:33,320 --> 01:29:34,920
Speaker 7: like just like drop the ball and was like, sorry,

1785
01:29:34,920 --> 01:29:36,960
Speaker 7: I had to work or like my family canceled these

1786
01:29:37,000 --> 01:29:39,960
Speaker 7: plans and essentially he was like, you didn't tell me,

1787
01:29:40,000 --> 01:29:41,560
Speaker 7: And I was like, I've been waiting for you. You

1788
01:29:41,600 --> 01:29:42,640
Speaker 7: told me you'd hang out with me, and then you

1789
01:29:42,680 --> 01:29:44,599
Speaker 7: just didn't show up. So that happened a couple of times.

1790
01:29:44,760 --> 01:29:46,720
Speaker 4: Okay, you still gave another chance.

1791
01:29:47,120 --> 01:29:48,599
Speaker 7: Yeah, I still give Hi another chance because he kept

1792
01:29:48,600 --> 01:29:49,760
Speaker 7: giving me some hope okay, like.

1793
01:29:49,760 --> 01:29:55,360
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, says just just barely enough hoping to keep

1794
01:29:55,400 --> 01:29:57,400
Speaker 4: you going to keep Yeah, oh my gosh.

1795
01:29:58,120 --> 01:30:01,120
Speaker 7: So that happens. And then I go to Delaware with

1796
01:30:01,560 --> 01:30:05,160
Speaker 7: my family in June, the end of July early August,

1797
01:30:06,920 --> 01:30:08,960
Speaker 7: and then he we call and like the phone call

1798
01:30:09,040 --> 01:30:10,439
Speaker 7: was just really off, Like he called me in the

1799
01:30:10,479 --> 01:30:12,200
Speaker 7: morning and it was like only like a minute and

1800
01:30:12,280 --> 01:30:14,360
Speaker 7: then he used to like silent, and I was like,

1801
01:30:14,560 --> 01:30:17,320
Speaker 7: so I'm gonna go. I hope you have a great day.

1802
01:30:17,439 --> 01:30:19,320
Speaker 7: And I was like that was really weird. Like he

1803
01:30:19,439 --> 01:30:21,040
Speaker 7: was like, hey, good morning, I'm super tired, but like

1804
01:30:21,080 --> 01:30:22,880
Speaker 7: when I say hey and I was like, oh, like,

1805
01:30:22,920 --> 01:30:26,559
Speaker 7: how's it going? And then like nothing. I was like, okay,

1806
01:30:26,960 --> 01:30:28,479
Speaker 7: I'm gonna head out. And then I didn't hear from

1807
01:30:28,520 --> 01:30:30,600
Speaker 7: him for a whole week, just ghosted me.

1808
01:30:31,040 --> 01:30:37,559
Speaker 3: WHOA, Okay, yeah he's married, but we'll get we'll get

1809
01:30:37,560 --> 01:30:37,720
Speaker 3: to that.

1810
01:30:38,160 --> 01:30:41,040
Speaker 7: Maybe he's married. I don't we'll get to that.

1811
01:30:42,720 --> 01:30:45,599
Speaker 4: Wait wait did you just casually just drop said we'll get.

1812
01:30:47,760 --> 01:30:50,360
Speaker 7: There's a lot Like what do you mean.

1813
01:30:53,160 --> 01:30:53,559
Speaker 4: So much?

1814
01:30:56,600 --> 01:30:56,640
Speaker 5: So?

1815
01:30:57,120 --> 01:30:59,759
Speaker 4: Where was I? He went to Delaware?

1816
01:30:59,800 --> 01:31:04,519
Speaker 7: He yeah, So then his brother Alex texts me on Friday,

1817
01:31:04,560 --> 01:31:06,120
Speaker 7: the day that I'm leaving to go back to Maryland.

1818
01:31:06,360 --> 01:31:08,880
Speaker 7: He said like, what wtf is going on with you

1819
01:31:09,040 --> 01:31:11,280
Speaker 7: and my brother? So I was like, hey, yeah, like

1820
01:31:11,400 --> 01:31:13,400
Speaker 7: I don't really know. I haven't heard from him all week.

1821
01:31:13,800 --> 01:31:15,519
Speaker 7: He's just ghosted me all these things. So me and

1822
01:31:15,640 --> 01:31:17,240
Speaker 7: him were talking and he's like, yeah, he's been acting

1823
01:31:17,320 --> 01:31:20,639
Speaker 7: really weird. So Alex and Jerry are roommates, the brothers,

1824
01:31:20,720 --> 01:31:24,799
Speaker 7: but their roommates, and he was like, yeah, like Jerry's

1825
01:31:24,840 --> 01:31:27,240
Speaker 7: has just been really weird. Okay, Like I've noticed them

1826
01:31:27,240 --> 01:31:29,519
Speaker 7: things that are just kind of off, like he's just

1827
01:31:29,600 --> 01:31:31,120
Speaker 7: not really being himself. And he's like, I fear that

1828
01:31:31,160 --> 01:31:32,920
Speaker 7: he's going back to his old self. And I was like, hmm,

1829
01:31:33,439 --> 01:31:35,680
Speaker 7: interesting insight because he lives with them, and I was like,

1830
01:31:35,720 --> 01:31:36,840
Speaker 7: I don't live with them, so I don't have that

1831
01:31:37,000 --> 01:31:37,519
Speaker 7: ute sibling.

1832
01:31:37,720 --> 01:31:37,920
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1833
01:31:38,680 --> 01:31:40,120
Speaker 7: Yeah, And I was like and he was always very

1834
01:31:40,160 --> 01:31:41,760
Speaker 7: honest with me. He was like, oh, like me and

1835
01:31:41,840 --> 01:31:44,360
Speaker 7: you were, you know, becoming friends all these things. Okay,

1836
01:31:44,680 --> 01:31:46,960
Speaker 7: So we're talking and then I get home or I

1837
01:31:47,040 --> 01:31:49,320
Speaker 7: get to Maryland. That night he calls me at like

1838
01:31:49,400 --> 01:31:51,960
Speaker 7: eleven PM and he were talking about stuff and he

1839
01:31:52,080 --> 01:31:53,479
Speaker 7: was like, yeah, like you know, like he's getting his

1840
01:31:53,960 --> 01:31:55,920
Speaker 7: like he got his MR license all that stuff.

1841
01:31:55,920 --> 01:31:56,439
Speaker 4: And then he.

1842
01:31:58,040 --> 01:31:59,479
Speaker 7: Was like, oh, you know what happened with his other job?

1843
01:31:59,520 --> 01:32:00,720
Speaker 7: And I was like, yeah, he got fired because he

1844
01:32:00,760 --> 01:32:03,840
Speaker 7: didn't like renew his EMT license because every two years

1845
01:32:03,920 --> 01:32:05,960
Speaker 7: or so you have to renew your EMT license okay.

1846
01:32:06,360 --> 01:32:08,000
Speaker 7: And he was like that's not it. And I was like,

1847
01:32:08,360 --> 01:32:10,040
Speaker 7: what do you mean that's not it? Like he told

1848
01:32:10,080 --> 01:32:11,479
Speaker 7: me that he got fired because he didn't renew it.

1849
01:32:12,200 --> 01:32:14,680
Speaker 7: He never had an EMT license to begin with.

1850
01:32:14,880 --> 01:32:16,960
Speaker 4: What but they still let him work there.

1851
01:32:17,240 --> 01:32:18,840
Speaker 7: Yeah, someone dropped the ball.

1852
01:32:18,840 --> 01:32:21,519
Speaker 4: Doesn't sound right? That sounds don't you have to have

1853
01:32:21,640 --> 01:32:23,120
Speaker 4: like a license in order to work there.

1854
01:32:23,360 --> 01:32:25,680
Speaker 7: Yes, and you're supposed to have like a Tennessee like

1855
01:32:25,800 --> 01:32:29,280
Speaker 7: license number. Like that's like, this is this specific code

1856
01:32:29,360 --> 01:32:32,479
Speaker 7: that signals that you are this firefighter that passes exam,

1857
01:32:33,040 --> 01:32:35,519
Speaker 7: took the class all the things. So he faked it.

1858
01:32:36,000 --> 01:32:38,840
Speaker 7: But not only did he fake it, he misspelled emergency

1859
01:32:39,360 --> 01:32:40,479
Speaker 7: in his fake medical life.

1860
01:32:42,640 --> 01:32:47,000
Speaker 3: Wait yeah so he so he So he's like faking

1861
01:32:47,960 --> 01:32:50,679
Speaker 3: like government documents to get a job.

1862
01:32:50,600 --> 01:32:53,879
Speaker 7: Which is a class C felony for those of you online.

1863
01:32:54,439 --> 01:32:57,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, so that's like, yeah, it isn't classy felony, is it. Yeah,

1864
01:32:58,000 --> 01:32:58,919
Speaker 4: it's very classy.

1865
01:32:59,000 --> 01:33:04,439
Speaker 7: Oh gosh, okay, classy felony.

1866
01:33:04,600 --> 01:33:05,880
Speaker 4: So this guy's a felon.

1867
01:33:06,160 --> 01:33:09,400
Speaker 7: Yeah, yes, because he told me on his first date,

1868
01:33:09,560 --> 01:33:11,400
Speaker 7: on our first date that he was like, yeah, like

1869
01:33:11,720 --> 01:33:13,559
Speaker 7: I really messed up. I got fired for my fire department.

1870
01:33:13,560 --> 01:33:15,760
Speaker 7: I didn't renew my license, but like now I'm going

1871
01:33:15,800 --> 01:33:17,280
Speaker 7: back to get my EMR so that he can get

1872
01:33:17,280 --> 01:33:19,560
Speaker 7: his EMT and then maybe become a paramedic after. So

1873
01:33:19,600 --> 01:33:21,839
Speaker 7: I was like okay, I was like okay, like very truthful,

1874
01:33:21,920 --> 01:33:24,000
Speaker 7: Like a lot of people probably wouldn't be super truthful

1875
01:33:24,040 --> 01:33:27,000
Speaker 7: with that. Yeah, so I was just like, okay, but

1876
01:33:27,320 --> 01:33:29,280
Speaker 7: he never had it to begin with, but he took

1877
01:33:29,320 --> 01:33:31,880
Speaker 7: the class because his brother Alex pete for the class.

1878
01:33:32,080 --> 01:33:33,840
Speaker 7: He just never took the took the exam. He just

1879
01:33:33,920 --> 01:33:35,599
Speaker 7: was like, I'm just gonna fake my this medical license.

1880
01:33:35,800 --> 01:33:36,919
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh.

1881
01:33:37,320 --> 01:33:39,360
Speaker 7: And also just like the fact, like the entitlement that

1882
01:33:39,439 --> 01:33:41,360
Speaker 7: he felt entitled, yeah to do that, and it's like

1883
01:33:41,439 --> 01:33:43,600
Speaker 7: you're risking so many lives and you don't even have

1884
01:33:43,640 --> 01:33:48,000
Speaker 7: any remorse for that because yeah, okay, so he faked

1885
01:33:48,000 --> 01:33:49,920
Speaker 7: his medical license. I was like, dang, like this is

1886
01:33:50,439 --> 01:33:52,280
Speaker 7: major red flag. And then I'm like thinking, I'm like, Okay,

1887
01:33:52,360 --> 01:33:54,559
Speaker 7: maybe I've missed a lot of Maybe maybe perhaps I've

1888
01:33:54,600 --> 01:33:57,360
Speaker 7: missed a lot of others start to see yeah, and

1889
01:33:57,439 --> 01:33:59,040
Speaker 7: then I was like, Okay, a lot of this is

1890
01:33:59,040 --> 01:34:01,200
Speaker 7: adding up, and like I just was I mean, I

1891
01:34:01,320 --> 01:34:03,200
Speaker 7: just believed him. I thought he was great.

1892
01:34:03,240 --> 01:34:04,880
Speaker 4: Guys, thought he was changing. But no.

1893
01:34:06,479 --> 01:34:09,960
Speaker 7: So the next day I'm going back from Maryland to Tennessee,

1894
01:34:10,720 --> 01:34:13,479
Speaker 7: Alex calls me and says that he's like, hey, I

1895
01:34:13,600 --> 01:34:15,840
Speaker 7: just found out that he's been cheating on you with

1896
01:34:15,960 --> 01:34:18,800
Speaker 7: this girl from work. It is a factory job that

1897
01:34:18,920 --> 01:34:20,559
Speaker 7: it works eighty hours a week, so he sees his girl.

1898
01:34:20,560 --> 01:34:22,280
Speaker 3: He's cheating on me, So he's not working eighty it

1899
01:34:22,320 --> 01:34:24,800
Speaker 3: was a week. He's working probably forty and seeing her

1900
01:34:24,880 --> 01:34:25,639
Speaker 3: the other forty.

1901
01:34:26,160 --> 01:34:29,120
Speaker 7: Possibly. It's also possible that they just were looking up

1902
01:34:29,160 --> 01:34:29,400
Speaker 7: at the.

1903
01:34:31,000 --> 01:34:36,160
Speaker 4: Oh my god, that's I don't want anything. They make over.

1904
01:34:36,280 --> 01:34:43,160
Speaker 4: There probably a lot of baby oil. Oh my gosh. Wow,

1905
01:34:43,640 --> 01:34:46,320
Speaker 4: is that what they're calling it now on these days?

1906
01:34:46,840 --> 01:34:51,360
Speaker 7: Okay, yeah, So he's hey, like, you know, cheating on

1907
01:34:51,439 --> 01:34:53,479
Speaker 7: me with this girl who's a sophomore in college and

1908
01:34:53,600 --> 01:34:57,400
Speaker 7: I'm in graduate school, so that gap. And he's also

1909
01:34:57,560 --> 01:34:59,400
Speaker 7: he was he just turned twenty so he's twenty six

1910
01:34:59,560 --> 01:35:02,240
Speaker 7: at this time, just turned twenty seven. So he's dating

1911
01:35:02,320 --> 01:35:04,400
Speaker 7: like a sophomore in college. It's like the age of grade.

1912
01:35:04,439 --> 01:35:07,479
Speaker 7: It's like not awful, but like very different.

1913
01:35:07,520 --> 01:35:07,920
Speaker 4: Lifestyle.

1914
01:35:08,080 --> 01:35:10,400
Speaker 7: Was of like, hey, this person's like freshly in college,

1915
01:35:10,560 --> 01:35:11,960
Speaker 7: like come on.

1916
01:35:12,880 --> 01:35:13,599
Speaker 4: Oh yeah.

1917
01:35:13,680 --> 01:35:17,559
Speaker 7: So I learned about that, and then his siblings all

1918
01:35:17,640 --> 01:35:21,640
Speaker 7: figured out that I was still dating him, and he

1919
01:35:21,760 --> 01:35:25,920
Speaker 7: was like, oh my gosh. So apparently Jerry told his

1920
01:35:26,000 --> 01:35:28,040
Speaker 7: whole family in June that I had broken up with him,

1921
01:35:28,760 --> 01:35:30,519
Speaker 7: and so all of his family knew about this girl,

1922
01:35:30,640 --> 01:35:33,160
Speaker 7: but they thought it was because I up because I

1923
01:35:33,160 --> 01:35:34,560
Speaker 7: already broke up and so no one told me, and

1924
01:35:34,640 --> 01:35:37,479
Speaker 7: so they were like, okay, like I don't know something

1925
01:35:37,520 --> 01:35:39,400
Speaker 7: happened with Kyla. Kyla broke up with them and.

1926
01:35:39,840 --> 01:35:40,400
Speaker 1: That that was it.

1927
01:35:41,800 --> 01:35:43,360
Speaker 7: But yeah, so he lied to me and like he

1928
01:35:43,439 --> 01:35:44,920
Speaker 7: was at my house like the day before I left

1929
01:35:44,960 --> 01:35:47,080
Speaker 7: for vacation. Yeah, And I was like I told his

1930
01:35:47,160 --> 01:35:49,040
Speaker 7: brother was like hey, like he was. I was like,

1931
01:35:49,080 --> 01:35:50,640
Speaker 7: he's like, he told me he hasn't seen you, like

1932
01:35:50,680 --> 01:35:52,000
Speaker 7: in a month, and I was like, that's not true

1933
01:35:52,000 --> 01:35:53,880
Speaker 7: because I have a picture and text messages to prove

1934
01:35:53,960 --> 01:35:55,800
Speaker 7: that he was at my house. And he was like,

1935
01:35:55,960 --> 01:35:58,040
Speaker 7: you're joking. And I was like, I'm literally not joking.

1936
01:35:58,080 --> 01:35:59,880
Speaker 7: So I sent him proof and he's like, I am

1937
01:36:00,120 --> 01:36:02,000
Speaker 7: so sorry. I would have told you this sooner if.

1938
01:36:01,920 --> 01:36:05,360
Speaker 4: I would have known that you actually were Oh my gosh. Yeah.

1939
01:36:05,680 --> 01:36:07,120
Speaker 7: So he told his whole family that I had broken

1940
01:36:07,200 --> 01:36:08,200
Speaker 7: up with him in June.

1941
01:36:08,439 --> 01:36:10,400
Speaker 3: Dang, wait, so when did you break up with them?

1942
01:36:11,280 --> 01:36:12,759
Speaker 7: I was going to break up with them in person,

1943
01:36:12,800 --> 01:36:14,960
Speaker 7: because I'm not a weak person.

1944
01:36:15,479 --> 01:36:20,519
Speaker 4: Yeah right, I'm not a coward. Not a coward.

1945
01:36:20,560 --> 01:36:21,880
Speaker 7: Yeah, I was gonna break up with him in person

1946
01:36:21,960 --> 01:36:25,040
Speaker 7: because I was like, this is awful. Yeah, you know so,

1947
01:36:25,479 --> 01:36:27,360
Speaker 7: but then he is m i A from his whole

1948
01:36:27,360 --> 01:36:28,920
Speaker 7: family and from me. No one can get a hold

1949
01:36:28,920 --> 01:36:32,479
Speaker 7: of him. Yeah, I don't see him. It's yeah. So

1950
01:36:32,520 --> 01:36:34,000
Speaker 7: he end up like breaking up with me over text,

1951
01:36:34,000 --> 01:36:36,519
Speaker 7: and I was like, okay, whatever, like a coward's move.

1952
01:36:36,880 --> 01:36:40,360
Speaker 4: You know, wow, that's crazy.

1953
01:36:40,520 --> 01:36:44,080
Speaker 3: So you dated a felon and a cheater and a

1954
01:36:44,160 --> 01:36:45,400
Speaker 3: potential baby daddy.

1955
01:36:45,840 --> 01:36:48,080
Speaker 7: Yeah, and the thing is the kid. Oh and there's

1956
01:36:48,120 --> 01:36:51,880
Speaker 7: more of the kid too, okay, real quick, real quick.

1957
01:36:52,120 --> 01:36:54,280
Speaker 7: So I ended up I was thinking. I was like, okay,

1958
01:36:54,400 --> 01:36:56,519
Speaker 7: like I'm grieving the loss of like my ex, and

1959
01:36:56,600 --> 01:36:57,760
Speaker 7: I was like, you know what if he's lied about

1960
01:36:57,800 --> 01:36:59,479
Speaker 7: all these other things, I bet he's lying about his lawyer.

1961
01:37:00,320 --> 01:37:03,040
Speaker 7: So and you can look up like Tennessee like bar Association,

1962
01:37:03,400 --> 01:37:05,760
Speaker 7: look up like the lawyer's name to see if they

1963
01:37:05,760 --> 01:37:08,479
Speaker 7: actually exist. I looked up on two different websites, me

1964
01:37:08,640 --> 01:37:10,400
Speaker 7: and my twin sister, all we both looked it up.

1965
01:37:10,439 --> 01:37:11,960
Speaker 7: I was like, Christen, I might be crazy, but like,

1966
01:37:12,040 --> 01:37:13,519
Speaker 7: can you look this up for me? And she's like, hello,

1967
01:37:13,560 --> 01:37:14,400
Speaker 7: his lawyer doesn't exist.

1968
01:37:16,080 --> 01:37:16,400
Speaker 4: Lawyer?

1969
01:37:16,800 --> 01:37:19,040
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, he lied about it.

1970
01:37:19,400 --> 01:37:22,080
Speaker 4: I was like, you've got to be joking. A the

1971
01:37:22,280 --> 01:37:26,760
Speaker 4: liar lied another lie would have known that him.

1972
01:37:26,680 --> 01:37:29,280
Speaker 7: Didn't, so he lied about his lawyer. So he just

1973
01:37:29,360 --> 01:37:31,200
Speaker 7: was fabricating it all. He was like, spending all this

1974
01:37:31,280 --> 01:37:32,880
Speaker 7: money on this lawyer to try to get pusty of

1975
01:37:32,960 --> 01:37:35,840
Speaker 7: my kid. That thing is definitely mine. And I was like,

1976
01:37:37,000 --> 01:37:38,120
Speaker 7: you've lied about this whole time.

1977
01:37:38,400 --> 01:37:41,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, he's he's in the warehouse trying to make

1978
01:37:41,080 --> 01:37:43,960
Speaker 4: more cares. Straight to the sun, Straight to the sun.

1979
01:37:44,240 --> 01:37:46,599
Speaker 3: Give us a real quick for the editors, say title,

1980
01:37:48,439 --> 01:37:51,320
Speaker 3: I thought I dated the man of my dreams, but

1981
01:37:51,400 --> 01:37:53,479
Speaker 3: turns out he was a fellow, a cheater, and baby

1982
01:37:53,520 --> 01:38:00,760
Speaker 3: daddy right into the camera. Uh, dated, I thought I

1983
01:38:00,840 --> 01:38:02,120
Speaker 3: dated the man of my dreams.

1984
01:38:02,640 --> 01:38:05,400
Speaker 7: Thought I dated the man of my dreams. Turns out

1985
01:38:05,800 --> 01:38:10,840
Speaker 7: he was a felon, a cheater, and a potential baby daddy.

1986
01:38:11,560 --> 01:38:12,000
Speaker 4: There we go.

1987
01:38:13,040 --> 01:38:15,519
Speaker 3: But guys, guess what. We have one last thing before

1988
01:38:15,520 --> 01:38:17,240
Speaker 3: we do. Can you hand me that will. We're gonna

1989
01:38:17,240 --> 01:38:19,880
Speaker 3: spin the will. We have a chance of getting ten

1990
01:38:19,920 --> 01:38:22,800
Speaker 3: more minutes on this will. But guys, and of course,

1991
01:38:22,840 --> 01:38:24,800
Speaker 3: well you has what one more thing? But we also

1992
01:38:24,840 --> 01:38:26,880
Speaker 3: have donos, So we have donu does two.

1993
01:38:27,080 --> 01:38:29,439
Speaker 4: Okay, should we do the donuts first or this? Um

1994
01:38:30,320 --> 01:38:32,880
Speaker 4: you know how hosts only it.

1995
01:38:33,280 --> 01:38:35,840
Speaker 1: Okay, fine, we'll do don I was gonna say, we're

1996
01:38:35,880 --> 01:38:38,040
Speaker 1: all real hyped about a wheel spin every time, but yeah,

1997
01:38:38,120 --> 01:38:39,040
Speaker 1: we'll do the donuts first.

1998
01:38:39,080 --> 01:38:41,479
Speaker 3: It's the donos first. Thank you Kyler for that. That

1999
01:38:41,640 --> 01:38:42,599
Speaker 3: is a crazy story.

2000
01:38:43,040 --> 01:38:45,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's my life.

2001
01:38:45,400 --> 01:38:47,920
Speaker 3: That is your life, and you got away from our

2002
01:38:47,960 --> 01:38:50,400
Speaker 3: crazy person. All right, we'll look at.

2003
01:38:50,360 --> 01:38:54,160
Speaker 4: The YouTube, donors. Can you click on the YouTube? Wait?

2004
01:38:54,400 --> 01:38:58,320
Speaker 3: YouTube, yep, yep, there we go. Uh, Scary Sherry, thanks

2005
01:38:58,360 --> 01:39:01,040
Speaker 3: for two bucks. Like the stream, a more likes, Scary

2006
01:39:01,080 --> 01:39:06,519
Speaker 3: Sherry through more likes until the stream and scroll up. Uh, Christy,

2007
01:39:06,600 --> 01:39:09,240
Speaker 3: thanks for the seven Australia dollars. I live and breathe

2008
01:39:09,280 --> 01:39:13,000
Speaker 3: and sleep and drive, clean and eat y'all voices go

2009
01:39:13,120 --> 01:39:14,000
Speaker 3: through my ears.

2010
01:39:14,680 --> 01:39:15,240
Speaker 4: Love y'all.

2011
01:39:15,320 --> 01:39:18,720
Speaker 1: Wait, hold on, I'm taking that over. I'm taking that over.

2012
01:39:19,320 --> 01:39:22,120
Speaker 1: I live and breathe and sleep and I think this

2013
01:39:22,280 --> 01:39:24,320
Speaker 1: might have been voice to text. I think she meant dry,

2014
01:39:24,479 --> 01:39:27,040
Speaker 1: clean and eat y'all's voices.

2015
01:39:26,800 --> 01:39:31,880
Speaker 4: Through my ears. Wow, I love y'all so much. OK,

2016
01:39:31,960 --> 01:39:32,960
Speaker 4: thank you Christy Pasco.

2017
01:39:34,240 --> 01:39:36,519
Speaker 3: And then I already think the members that came in earlier.

2018
01:39:36,600 --> 01:39:38,800
Speaker 3: Thank you new members that came in here, we freaking go.

2019
01:39:38,920 --> 01:39:43,479
Speaker 3: We got a will spin. Let's do it, bump bump.

2020
01:39:43,560 --> 01:39:46,200
Speaker 3: But this is hard mode, but we already did hard mode.

2021
01:39:50,160 --> 01:39:54,800
Speaker 4: Five five gifted membership, five gifted members.

2022
01:39:55,200 --> 01:39:56,880
Speaker 3: I'm gonna do it to cardilot switch spots.

2023
01:39:57,000 --> 01:39:59,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm under I'm underqualified for that.

2024
01:40:07,080 --> 01:40:10,040
Speaker 7: Yeah, let me say right now, hind the curtain.

2025
01:40:11,200 --> 01:40:15,120
Speaker 3: Guys, we got we got five new freaking members right now.

2026
01:40:15,960 --> 01:40:17,600
Speaker 1: Five new baby.

2027
01:40:17,439 --> 01:40:20,799
Speaker 7: Oh to Louise, the baby does exist, the lawyer doesn't.

2028
01:40:21,200 --> 01:40:28,360
Speaker 4: The baby exists, the lawyer does not. Boom, thank you.

2029
01:40:28,680 --> 01:40:31,960
Speaker 3: Okay, story time for the five gifted memberships. Wow, thanks guys.

2030
01:40:32,040 --> 01:40:34,000
Speaker 4: O good job. But the guys, that is it. We

2031
01:40:34,160 --> 01:40:36,040
Speaker 4: did it. We are done. We are going home.

2032
01:40:36,160 --> 01:40:39,200
Speaker 3: I'm getting Korean barbecue and I love you. Guys.

2033
01:40:39,720 --> 01:40:43,080
Speaker 4: Say I did a good job job. No, say I

2034
01:40:43,240 --> 01:40:43,479
Speaker 4: did a.

2035
01:40:43,479 --> 01:40:50,280
Speaker 3: Good did a good job. Teresa, You did a good job, Teresa.

2036
01:40:50,800 --> 01:40:55,680
Speaker 3: Uh eats a Pizzaia pizza. Thank you for the ten buckerunos.

2037
01:40:55,920 --> 01:40:58,599
Speaker 4: Thank you for just letting me say that so well,

2038
01:40:58,680 --> 01:41:02,920
Speaker 4: so much. I'll talk to Teresa all right. Don't speak

2039
01:41:02,920 --> 01:41:07,160
Speaker 4: for Teresa. Okay. Anyways, if you love us, make sure

2040
01:41:07,200 --> 01:41:07,840
Speaker 4: to subscribe.

2041
01:41:08,120 --> 01:41:11,800
Speaker 7: We love you, We'll see you tomorrow and se