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Speaker 1: Hi everyone, and welcome to Dear cheek Ease. This is

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Speaker 1: a brandow addition to my Chickens and Chill podcasts, and

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Speaker 1: if you haven't heard it, go check it out. Those

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Speaker 1: episodes are longer and more debt. But here on Dear Cheekies,

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Speaker 1: I'm connecting with you on a deeper level. It's just

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Speaker 1: me and you. Each week I'll be answering your questions

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Speaker 1: on love, relationships, and so much more. Submit your questions

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Speaker 1: at speak pipe dot com slash Chickens and Chill podcast.

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Speaker 1: These are my thoughts and opinions and I'm happy to

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Speaker 1: share them with you. So without further ado, let's listen

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Speaker 1: to the first question. Hi, chinkies, my name is I

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Speaker 1: am from a Sam Marcus. My question for you is

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Speaker 1: what advice would you give to the younger you that

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Speaker 1: was chasing enough? What advice would you give her? Hi,

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Speaker 1: doul say thank you so much for taking the time

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Speaker 1: to send me a question. What would I tell my

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Speaker 1: younger self about love? Well, you got me there. I

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Speaker 1: think I would tell her little cheek ease and love

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Speaker 1: not to give it all all at once, to save

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Speaker 1: some for yourself. I think that when we're younger, we

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Speaker 1: And I've learned as I've gotten older, to save some

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Speaker 1: for myself that if I don't love myself first and foremost,

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Speaker 1: I can't There's no way in the world that I'm

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Speaker 1: going to be able to love anyone the way they

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Speaker 1: deserve to be loved if I don't love myself the

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Speaker 1: the best advice I would give Little Chickies. And I

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Speaker 1: hope in some way you're asking because maybe you want

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Speaker 1: to know what to tell Little'll say. So that's a

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Speaker 1: good question. I liked it. Thank you so much, and again,

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Speaker 1: thank you for your question. Now let's go into the

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Speaker 1: next question. This one is from Santana. My question to

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Speaker 1: you is how do you get past depression. I've been

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Speaker 1: hitting my low point and it's becoming really hard for me,

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Speaker 1: but I feel like it's something within myself, nothing to

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Speaker 1: my physical and mental health, stuff around my house, stuff

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Speaker 1: with my relationship, even with my family, like I want

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Speaker 1: to I don't want to do anything. I don't want

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm not the only one out there,

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Speaker 1: you know, especially after COVID depression rate went up. What

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Speaker 1: I totally understand there's no shame in it. First and foremost,

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Speaker 1: I think that that's something that we need to normalize,

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Speaker 1: can help. I think first of all, we have to

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Speaker 1: like where is it stemming from? And if you can't

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Speaker 1: important to seek therapy or some type of counseling or

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Speaker 1: life coaching. I know I can get expensive. Believe me,

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Speaker 1: I actually have an episode on Chickens and Chill about therapy.

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Speaker 1: of the therapist that I was speaking to that helps,

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Speaker 1: and there are ways to get free therapy or go

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Speaker 1: through insurance. But I do really believe in therapy. I

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Speaker 1: I would say that prayer is something that has helped

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Speaker 1: that you believe in, if it's if it's more importantly

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Speaker 1: it's having faith and believing that you can get through

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Speaker 1: help me get through this, help me have a good day.

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Speaker 1: Take it day by day. There's no need to rush,

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Speaker 1: it's going to get better. But I do highly recommend therapy, Mama.

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Speaker 1: I think he helps us all. I still do therapy.

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Speaker 1: I do mentorship as much as I can. Pray a lot,

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Speaker 1: to help a lot. I hope that I helped you,

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Speaker 1: and I'm sending you a big, big, big hug filled

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Speaker 1: know that I understand you. I know what you're going through.

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Speaker 1: But where there is a will, there is a way.

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Speaker 1: I promise you I could get. Okay, So let's get

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Speaker 1: into the next question from Isabella. I'm a big fan

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Speaker 1: from Grand California, and I wanted to ask your advice

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Speaker 1: on living relationships. So just to trick your warning. In

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Speaker 1: my first relationship, um, I really eyes. I was in

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Speaker 1: a sexually abbusive relationship. After I had ended it and

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Speaker 1: course you know I'm doing my healing. I've been doing

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Speaker 1: So I'm wondering what kind of advice you might have

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Speaker 1: for me. And I really love and appreciate you. Thank

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Speaker 1: you right, Oh it's a fella, you're so cute. First

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Speaker 1: of all, thank you, thank you for those beautiful words

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Speaker 1: that you're sending me. And look, look mama's First of all,

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Speaker 1: I admire you for doing your life coaching, your therapy.

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Speaker 1: That is great. That is a gift that you're giving yourself. Look,

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Speaker 1: I've been cheated on before. I have also been in

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Speaker 1: one that cheated on one of my partners. If you

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Speaker 1: I'll explain it there. But with that being said, we

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Speaker 1: I don't want a relationship. And this person that cheated

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Speaker 1: say once a cheater, always a cheater. I don't believe that,

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Speaker 1: and I don't think that all guys are the same.

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Speaker 1: I think that all of us have to go through

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Speaker 1: to take this is I'm open to love. I am deserving.

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Speaker 1: It is safe for me to love and to be loved.

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Speaker 1: That's one thing I tell myself all the time. And

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Speaker 1: love is a beautiful thing and you should not be

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Speaker 1: afraid to get into another loving relationship because of the

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Speaker 1: mistakes of someone else. It's gonna take time, it's a

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Speaker 1: that my advice can help you. Again, It's not easy

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Speaker 1: so embrace it. So thank you all for your submissions.

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Speaker 1: A friendly reminder to speak to a therapist if you're

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Speaker 1: struggling with an shoe or hardship. Guys, I know that

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Speaker 1: we're all dealing with a lot, so I just want

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Speaker 1: so much for listening, and I'll see you next Wednesday

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Speaker 1: with another episode of Dear Cheekies once again. You can

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Speaker 1: submit your questions at speak pipe dot com, slash Checks

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Speaker 1: and Chill podcast, and just a friendly reminder to speak

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Speaker 1: to a therapist if you're struggling with an issue or hardship.

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Speaker 1: I've said this many times, but I'm going to say

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Speaker 1: it again. I really think I was put on this

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Speaker 1: earth to help others, and I'll continue to do so

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Speaker 1: in any way that I possibly can, especially using my platforms.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening, and I will see

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Speaker 1: you next Wednesday with another episode of Dear cheek Ease.

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