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Speaker 1: Right now, it's time to ask the CLO our chief

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Speaker 1: Love Officer, Steve Harvey. This is from Tangi and Lake. Charles.

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Speaker 1: Tangi writes, I was dating a guy that said he

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Speaker 1: used to be in a polyamorous relationship. When he told

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Speaker 1: me that, I broke it off because I feel like

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Speaker 1: he'll get bored in a monogamous situation. I may have

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Speaker 1: jumped the gun. Should I give him a chance or not? What?

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Speaker 2: Well, first of all, I don't understand the admission of

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Speaker 2: flaws and stuff. You ain't have to bring that up.

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Speaker 2: But when a guy goes into that to tell you

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Speaker 2: that he's testing your ah boots the word palette to

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Speaker 2: billy tolerance for that level. And if you have a tolerance,

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Speaker 2: then yeah, he might could do it again. So I

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Speaker 2: think you did the right thing. I don't think you

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Speaker 2: jumped the gun, you know. Plus you didn't need to

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Speaker 2: find out if he's changed.

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Speaker 3: You know, So don't give him a chance. You're saying,

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Speaker 3: you go.

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Speaker 4: Give him a chance to do what. You broke it

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Speaker 4: off for a reason. You ran for a reason.

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Speaker 2: In the words of Judge Lee and Tola, stop collecting

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Speaker 2: red flags, ladies.

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Speaker 4: Leave him in the ground.

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Speaker 2: Mmm.

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Speaker 3: I love that. Yes, all right, thank you, Cela.

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Latasha and Jersey City, Latasha writes, I

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Speaker 1: had sex with my boss before he was my boss.

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Speaker 1: Now that he's over my team, it's awkward. I had

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Speaker 1: dinner with him and asked if he could be reassigned.

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Speaker 1: He talked to me like we were never intimate, and

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Speaker 1: I'm hurt. How do I handle him at work?

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Speaker 4: He your boss? Now? You know he ain't bringing it up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he keeps trying to keep it corporate. Now, So

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Speaker 2: if y'all slept together before you with the boss and

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Speaker 2: you just put that on tape, then he cooled. Now

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Speaker 2: that he's boss, he probably noticed can't happen. He going

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Speaker 2: by the books now and then it wasn't a good

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Speaker 2: no way. So y'all didn't hear it that?

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Speaker 4: Wow?

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Speaker 3: Like they were never intimate?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, another job? Yeah exactly, he could be reassigned.

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Speaker 5: You need to reassign yourself. Yeah, all right.

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Speaker 3: Moving on to.

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Speaker 1: Jerichas Jerrekas and Augusta, Jerikas writes, my wife buys me

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Speaker 1: new clothes, and uh, I don't like them, and I've

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Speaker 1: asked her to stop trying to change me. I don't

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Speaker 1: like everything I see on her, but I'd never tell

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Speaker 1: her that. She said she's elevating my game. Would I

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Speaker 1: be wrong to return everything she has bought me?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what you got to take that back and stop

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Speaker 2: send your husband was like their babies, laying.

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Speaker 4: Their clothes out on the bed and you find to

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Speaker 4: wear this day.

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Speaker 2: Ain't nobody finna do that? Your husband just said he

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Speaker 2: don't even like everything you wear. Now, you'd have bought

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Speaker 2: him some clothes while she quit picking our clothes.

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Speaker 4: She is not the fashionisce? Does she thinks she is? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: She says she's elevating his game. That's what she told him.

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Speaker 4: But she's not.

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Speaker 3: He doesn't like it.

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Speaker 4: That's cold.

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Speaker 3: Anybody clothes out like their baby.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, put this on today, But what if he would?

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Speaker 1: If so, if he was a bad dresser and she

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Speaker 1: was elevating his game, would that be okay?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? But if he don't know it, so, you know,

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Speaker 2: if he don't know it that it's being elevated and

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Speaker 2: he don't feel that way. Still, a person still has

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Speaker 2: to wear what they feel good. That's part of what

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Speaker 2: dressing is. Whatever you wear, you want to feel good

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Speaker 2: in it. It might be the latest, latest style and

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Speaker 2: it might. You might think it looks good on me,

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Speaker 2: but if I don't feel good in it?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? What's she buying though?

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Speaker 5: Though?

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Speaker 2: She that's a bad outfit from the mitt Gayla what

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Speaker 2: he got on?

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Speaker 5: All right?

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Speaker 3: Last one? Yeah, last one? Colo.

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Speaker 1: This is from Moe and Henderson Mo Rights. I've been

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Speaker 1: married twice and I've been with my current girlfriend for

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Speaker 1: almost four years. I'm comfortable with how it's going, but

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Speaker 1: she's younger and wants to get married to impress her friends.

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Speaker 1: Do I get married against my will to keep my

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Speaker 1: lady happy?

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Speaker 2: What if you get it married against your will? It

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Speaker 2: ain't gonna work. No, it's not going to work. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: this is not an against your will type propert position.

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Speaker 3: I'm right for life till death.

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Speaker 2: And I'm gonna tell you something. As soon as it

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Speaker 2: got against my will, I ended it.

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Speaker 3: You were out.

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Speaker 4: She's young will having problem?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, right exactly. I mean you know she's younger than

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Speaker 3: he is. Steve.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know.

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Speaker 4: She wants to get married.

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Speaker 2: You've done it twice, You've had a bad experience, but

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Speaker 2: you know you can get it right.

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Speaker 3: How does he know that it's to impress her friends?

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Speaker 4: Well, well, you know what I mean. She done said

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Speaker 4: that all my other friends is married. I want to.

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Speaker 3: And she's been with him for four years, four years.

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Speaker 1: She expected some time. Yeah, she's expecting something. This is

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Speaker 1: an investment for her.

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Speaker 4: It ain't go with that investment. Well, you know, I

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Speaker 4: mean to make a bad investment.

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Speaker 2: Well you can stop looking like that, because you can

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Speaker 2: make a bad investment.

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Speaker 3: Uh huh.

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Speaker 4: Time served does not mean you know you you.

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Speaker 5: Served relationship for years?

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Speaker 3: Four years? She wants something out of it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, so he doesn't. It doesn't sound like he's

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Speaker 1: he wants to get married period, does he don't?

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Speaker 4: He doesn't. Yeah, like he's you don't want to get

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Speaker 4: married against his will?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, why don't you tell her that so she can

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Speaker 2: move on and find somebody her age that wants to

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Speaker 2: get married.

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Speaker 4: Well, he wants to take and Edith too. He wants

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Speaker 4: to keep her.

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Speaker 5: She's like, I put in these four years what's happening here?

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Speaker 2: Understood and deserve at least show So she deserves to know.

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Speaker 2: So she should pin him up against the wall. Uh huh.

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Speaker 2: You know, I mean, you know, with an ultimatum and

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Speaker 2: just say hey, look that's.

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Speaker 4: Just a figure speech. No exactly.

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Speaker 3: It's like, wait, a minute.

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Speaker 1: Okay, but but he's asking it sounds like he might

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Speaker 1: be considering it a little bit clo because he said,

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Speaker 1: but he's okay to keep my lady happy.

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Speaker 3: Though what did he mean by that?

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Speaker 4: Well, try to give her what she wants. But if

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Speaker 4: it ain't what you.

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Speaker 3: Want, it's misery. You're listening, Harvey Morning Show,