1 00:00:01,240 --> 00:00:04,440 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:04,480 --> 00:00:08,680 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please 3 00:00:08,720 --> 00:00:12,400 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:12,480 --> 00:00:15,840 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. All right, we could be reading 5 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:18,279 Speaker 1: your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna 6 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:21,919 Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now. Buckle up and 7 00:00:21,960 --> 00:00:23,760 Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it 8 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:27,320 Speaker 1: is straw Berry Letter. Thank you enough you subject. Does 9 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:30,320 Speaker 1: he have a problem or am I the problem? Dear 10 00:00:30,360 --> 00:00:33,360 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I'm married to a wonderful man that is 11 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:38,920 Speaker 1: thirteen years older than I am. He is my everything, everything, 12 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:41,440 Speaker 1: and in the beginning of our marriage, we were very 13 00:00:41,479 --> 00:00:44,879 Speaker 1: active and traveled a lot. Now it's like he's settled 14 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 1: into being old and boring, and I can barely get 15 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:50,199 Speaker 1: him to take a walk with me. I asked him 16 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:53,360 Speaker 1: if he was depressed and advised him to see a doctor. 17 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 1: He went to the doctor and got a clean bill 18 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 1: of health. We used to enjoy a martini in the evening, 19 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 1: too unwind and ricon neckt but lately he's turned to 20 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:06,479 Speaker 1: drinking brown liquor, and I'm noticed to change in him. 21 00:01:06,520 --> 00:01:09,680 Speaker 1: He is grumpier now, and he snores like a wild 22 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:12,160 Speaker 1: man in the bed. I have to admit that his 23 00:01:12,240 --> 00:01:15,720 Speaker 1: sex game is better if he's had the brown liquor, 24 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 1: but right afterwards he passes out. My biggest problem with 25 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 1: him is kind of embarrassing, and I don't know how 26 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:27,040 Speaker 1: to handle it. He's been urinating in his sleep and 27 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:32,200 Speaker 1: the smell of the brown liquor has saturated our mattress 28 00:01:32,360 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 1: and reeks throughout our bedroom. At first, it would be 29 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:38,200 Speaker 1: just a few drops, and the more he drank in 30 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:43,560 Speaker 1: the evening, the more he'd urinate in his sleep. He 31 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:46,400 Speaker 1: would get up like nothing was wrong and the next 32 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 1: morning and I wouldn't say a word in case he 33 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:52,040 Speaker 1: was already ashamed. By the fifth time he did it, 34 00:01:52,480 --> 00:01:55,240 Speaker 1: I brought it to his attention and he downplated by 35 00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: saying he was too comfortable to get up to use 36 00:01:57,720 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 1: the toilet. I suggested he go back to the doctor, 37 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:04,280 Speaker 1: and he refused. He told me I could sleep in 38 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:06,559 Speaker 1: the other bedroom since it was such a big deal 39 00:02:06,600 --> 00:02:11,000 Speaker 1: to me. Why would he ask me to leave our bedroom. 40 00:02:11,040 --> 00:02:13,920 Speaker 1: It makes me wonder if he's doing this on purpose 41 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: because he's lost interest in me. Please advise well, he 42 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:22,760 Speaker 1: definitely has lost interest in the bathroom for some reason, 43 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 1: and we don't know why yet. This is a great 44 00:02:26,720 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 1: testimonial for depend though. I think I don't understand anything 45 00:02:31,440 --> 00:02:34,080 Speaker 1: about this letter. I really don't. I think you should 46 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:37,400 Speaker 1: definitely invest in some depends. I didn't know brown liquor 47 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 1: made your urinate on yourself. I've never heard this before, 48 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:44,240 Speaker 1: and in your sleep. I just I have never ever 49 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 1: heard anybody talking about this. I think we're all, you know, 50 00:02:47,960 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 1: we're all people that have had that dream, you know, 51 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:54,120 Speaker 1: the one where we almost go on ourselves in the bed, 52 00:02:54,160 --> 00:02:57,720 Speaker 1: but we wake up just in time. Before we went 53 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:03,680 Speaker 1: the beds. Some don't naked, but most do. We weren't 54 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 1: even drinking brown liquor. It was just dreaming that you 55 00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 1: were going to the bathroom. And I think your husband 56 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:10,919 Speaker 1: is just lazy. I'm gonna say it. I think he's 57 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 1: lazy and he just doesn't want to get up. He 58 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 1: said it's comfortable in the bedroom. He told you that. 59 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:19,000 Speaker 1: But I do agree with you that he wants you 60 00:03:19,040 --> 00:03:21,400 Speaker 1: out of there. I agree with that. He wants the 61 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:24,960 Speaker 1: freedom to pee in peace. Yes, so if you're in 62 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:29,519 Speaker 1: the other bedroom, he could do it by himself. I mean, 63 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:32,120 Speaker 1: I don't know how you could stand this for five 64 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:36,200 Speaker 1: times before you said something. But you know, I'll give 65 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 1: you credit. What a woman, what a wife? I mean, 66 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 1: not saying anything the next morning, you say because you 67 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 1: don't want him to feel what he already might be. 68 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 1: And that's ashamed. But he didn't sound like he was. 69 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:51,960 Speaker 1: He wasn't ashamed. This is not normal, though, it really isn't. 70 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:54,760 Speaker 1: I think he needs to leave the brown liquor alone. 71 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:58,240 Speaker 1: And I think he definitely should get back to the doctor. 72 00:03:58,360 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 1: Take your advice on that. Get back to that doctor immediately, 73 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:06,400 Speaker 1: because it sounds like something is wrong medically. Um. And 74 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 1: that's all I have for you, Steve. Now, now that 75 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: ain't it all. It's all this is wrong. All this 76 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:21,719 Speaker 1: is wrong. It's a two part series. Before we go 77 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:25,280 Speaker 1: to break, I'm gonna give you the first part. This 78 00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:29,599 Speaker 1: is what my initial reaction to this letter was. He 79 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:34,359 Speaker 1: tired of her. M he tired of her. He thirteen 80 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:38,320 Speaker 1: years old in you, he's everything in the beginning, very 81 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 1: active travel. Now it's like he's suddenly into being old. 82 00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 1: He's thirteen years older than you. He is probably settling 83 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 1: into being old. But this born and badly taking a 84 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:54,599 Speaker 1: walk with you and stuff. That's something else. Then you 85 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:57,000 Speaker 1: thought he was depressed. He went to the hospital, got 86 00:04:57,000 --> 00:05:00,839 Speaker 1: a clean billy him. He's not depressed. He wasn't depressed 87 00:05:00,880 --> 00:05:07,679 Speaker 1: at the doctor's office. He depressed what he at the house? Remember, 88 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:11,160 Speaker 1: y'all used to drink a martini. They're unwinding and reconnect 89 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:14,920 Speaker 1: in the evening. See that that that that clear look 90 00:05:14,960 --> 00:05:19,560 Speaker 1: ain't getting it no more. He didn't had to resort 91 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 1: to brown licor something harder than a martini. What does 92 00:05:25,200 --> 00:05:29,680 Speaker 1: this mean? He didn't he tired of her? Oh wow, No, 93 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:35,280 Speaker 1: I'm telling you this woman is not discussing a problem 94 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: that they have. That's a major information missing out of this. 95 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:46,279 Speaker 1: I can tell by another he didn't just stop drinking 96 00:05:46,400 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 1: Martinez and all of a sudden just started drinking Ian Jay. 97 00:05:54,279 --> 00:06:00,559 Speaker 1: Y'all with heitnessy and crime. He'd been there trying trying 98 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:07,000 Speaker 1: to wash it down with some markers. You're all up 99 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 1: in the bourbon and everything. He's trying to forget something. 100 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:22,120 Speaker 1: And he's grumpier now, and he snores like a wild man. 101 00:06:22,800 --> 00:06:29,360 Speaker 1: He is drowning you out. He don't want to hear 102 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 1: nothing you got to say at night or in the daytime. 103 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:37,040 Speaker 1: Hang on, Steve, come back. I'm gonna tell you the 104 00:06:37,200 --> 00:06:40,920 Speaker 1: other thing that's happening in Okay. That was part one, 105 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 1: coming up, you heard it Part two of Steve's respond 106 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 1: to twenty three minutes after the hour, today's subject Does 107 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:50,719 Speaker 1: he have a problem or am I the problem? We'll 108 00:06:50,760 --> 00:06:56,679 Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve, 109 00:06:56,720 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 1: Come on, Let's recap today's strawberry letter. U he have 110 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:03,560 Speaker 1: a problem? Or am I either problem? Does he have 111 00:07:03,680 --> 00:07:07,279 Speaker 1: a problem? Or am either problem? Whenever there's a problem, 112 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: there's two reasons it's a problem. It's your side of 113 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:13,560 Speaker 1: the story and he's his side of the story. Now 114 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:15,840 Speaker 1: you're saying he was finding at the beginning he's thirteen 115 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:17,800 Speaker 1: years older. Now he just acting old. He don't even 116 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 1: want to take a walk with you no more. And 117 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 1: y'all switched drinking from Martinis, and he switched over to 118 00:07:24,040 --> 00:07:26,760 Speaker 1: brown Knocker, And you told him he ought to go 119 00:07:26,800 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 1: to the doctor because he seemed depressed. Doctor Saint, nothing 120 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:31,680 Speaker 1: wrong with him, He's I know, it's just when I'm home. 121 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:35,800 Speaker 1: He only depressed when he's at the house with Hush Sherley. 122 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:40,400 Speaker 1: But he's pay I'm gonna tell you about that. Listen 123 00:07:40,480 --> 00:07:46,320 Speaker 1: to me now. The second part it is, she say, 124 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:48,880 Speaker 1: it's the most embarrassing. I don't know how to handle it. 125 00:07:49,520 --> 00:07:53,280 Speaker 1: He's been yarinating in his sleep and the smell of 126 00:07:53,400 --> 00:08:00,240 Speaker 1: brown liquor has saturated our match. Brown looking strong put 127 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 1: brown penicilla, holly greened you what ox oxtail, graving and cabbage, 128 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:16,760 Speaker 1: and you got a funking mass on your hands. So 129 00:08:17,000 --> 00:08:20,600 Speaker 1: when he yeared natan, that's another sign that he's sick 130 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:23,000 Speaker 1: of you. Any time you roll over and touch it, 131 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:27,560 Speaker 1: he peel a little and just a touch of your 132 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 1: hand on his back. Now, you even said the brown 133 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:33,840 Speaker 1: looker made him better in bed, but as soon as 134 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:38,800 Speaker 1: he gets through, he falled right asleep. Fellas sound familiar, 135 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:51,240 Speaker 1: sound familiar, fellas. As soon as it's over, it's over. Boom. Now. 136 00:08:52,120 --> 00:08:55,679 Speaker 1: Then you said he would get up like nothing, nothing 137 00:08:55,800 --> 00:08:59,960 Speaker 1: was wrong, But then it got worse and he started 138 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:03,280 Speaker 1: it peeing a lot. And then then when you approached 139 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:05,199 Speaker 1: him about it, you brought it to his attention. His 140 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:07,800 Speaker 1: is the key to the whole letter, let's hear it. 141 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:13,080 Speaker 1: He downplayed by saying he was too comfortable to get 142 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:19,880 Speaker 1: up to use the tardy girl. Let me explain something 143 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:27,679 Speaker 1: to you. You ain't ever too comfortable to pee on yourself. 144 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:33,440 Speaker 1: Excuse me, you ain't ever too comfortable to lay up 145 00:09:33,520 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 1: there and just peer on yourself. What are you talking about? 146 00:09:36,880 --> 00:09:43,400 Speaker 1: Lone assman told you he just comfortable? What you ain't 147 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:48,280 Speaker 1: that comfortable? You think brown? Look a smell? It burned too, 148 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:52,040 Speaker 1: And he ain't set up there comfortable laying in that 149 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:55,400 Speaker 1: squish your ass mattress talking about it. He was just 150 00:09:55,640 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 1: too comfortable to get off. He is trying to accomplish something, 151 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:03,240 Speaker 1: y'all That y'all ain't listening to me. He's trying to 152 00:10:03,360 --> 00:10:06,640 Speaker 1: accomplish something, ain't no grown man laid up in that bed, 153 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:09,679 Speaker 1: peed on itself, stayed in it all night, and got 154 00:10:09,840 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 1: up in the morning, act like ain't nothing wrong to 155 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:18,199 Speaker 1: guess what, to guess what, to guess what? She'll five 156 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:21,400 Speaker 1: times to she saying something to it, and he said 157 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:24,320 Speaker 1: it ain't no big deal. And then he said, if 158 00:10:24,360 --> 00:10:26,319 Speaker 1: you don't like it, go sleep in the other room. 159 00:10:26,679 --> 00:10:30,640 Speaker 1: That was the objective the whole damn time. He sick 160 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:34,080 Speaker 1: of hug he'd started peeing in the bed. No, it's 161 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:36,839 Speaker 1: making her mad. He'd have told her. You don't like it, 162 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:39,800 Speaker 1: go sleep in the other bed. Do that sound like 163 00:10:39,920 --> 00:10:43,200 Speaker 1: somebody that loves somebody? Or do that sound like somebody 164 00:10:43,240 --> 00:10:47,400 Speaker 1: that's sick of somebody? It sounds like somebody's here. He 165 00:10:48,320 --> 00:10:52,760 Speaker 1: sure ain't nothing wrong with this, dude. But I mean 166 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:55,079 Speaker 1: there are many other ways to get her out of 167 00:10:55,160 --> 00:11:05,480 Speaker 1: the bedroom. Yeah, I mean, come on, five, Yeah, this 168 00:11:05,679 --> 00:11:09,840 Speaker 1: is disgusting. It is all of that. All you gotta 169 00:11:09,880 --> 00:11:14,679 Speaker 1: do is just give me another reason. I think he 170 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:19,080 Speaker 1: has a medical condition. He got damn medical condition depends 171 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 1: is for people who can't make it to the bath room. 172 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:24,920 Speaker 1: Not lay up there and just your nate on your 173 00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:30,240 Speaker 1: damn self. He's lazy and that lazy. Ain't nobody that 174 00:11:30,440 --> 00:11:34,319 Speaker 1: damn lazy to put brown liquor pe on your fat? 175 00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:42,160 Speaker 1: He wanted divorce, bro, Bro, why don't you just ask 176 00:11:42,240 --> 00:11:44,679 Speaker 1: for a divorce? Do you have to pee on me to? 177 00:11:45,240 --> 00:11:48,680 Speaker 1: I don't understand this? What is going on here? Yeah? 178 00:11:49,720 --> 00:11:52,880 Speaker 1: I don't. I'm sorry. I don't follow your logic. You 179 00:11:52,960 --> 00:11:55,880 Speaker 1: don't have to follow my logic. It's no logic to follow. 180 00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:59,920 Speaker 1: How did this sound logical to you? No? This is crazy? Now, 181 00:12:00,480 --> 00:12:07,080 Speaker 1: why y'all pick this letter? Grown ass? Man sitting up 182 00:12:07,120 --> 00:12:09,959 Speaker 1: and here peing on himself. We can't help him, we know, 183 00:12:10,120 --> 00:12:14,120 Speaker 1: damn doctor. I think he needs to get back to 184 00:12:14,280 --> 00:12:18,040 Speaker 1: the doctor. Sure, Lee, if your wife asks you to 185 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:20,839 Speaker 1: go see about yourself, he said, he ain't going back 186 00:12:20,880 --> 00:12:23,640 Speaker 1: down to no doctor. And if you don't like it, 187 00:12:23,960 --> 00:12:26,760 Speaker 1: go sleep in the other bed room. That's not a 188 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:30,600 Speaker 1: medical condition. He's sick of her. I keep telling y'all, 189 00:12:31,880 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 1: I don't know why she's you in the other room 190 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 1: and he coming pee in that bed. He really, don't 191 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 1: he walking there and pe on the other bab He really? 192 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 1: That is ridiculous. All right, Look, post your comments on 193 00:12:54,000 --> 00:13:00,599 Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letter. I'm yeah Steve Harvey FM, and on 194 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:03,400 Speaker 1: Instagram and on Facebook, and don't forget to check out 195 00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:07,400 Speaker 1: the Start podcast on demand coming up in forty six 196 00:13:07,559 --> 00:13:13,079 Speaker 1: minutes after our pon here. It's Natural Poetry Day. So 197 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:16,360 Speaker 1: carsh you were here, Junior has a phone for use. 198 00:13:16,480 --> 00:13:20,400 Speaker 1: Right after this, you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.