WEBVTT - Beyond Wildest Imagination | Ashley's Story

0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.680
<v Speaker 1>Topics featured in this episode may be disturbing to some listeners.

0:00:04.440 --> 0:00:06.240
<v Speaker 1>Please take care while listening.

0:00:09.760 --> 0:00:15.120
<v Speaker 2>It's a deep, dark secret, and fortunately oftentimes we're able

0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:18.919
<v Speaker 2>to find content and actually talk with the suspect and

0:00:19.200 --> 0:00:20.079
<v Speaker 2>get an admission.

0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:35.120
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it was mere.

0:00:36.040 --> 0:00:41.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm Andrea Gunning. This is Betrayal, Episode five, Beyond Wildest Imagination.

0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:47.920
<v Speaker 1>We ended up staying in Utah for more than a week.

0:00:48.560 --> 0:00:50.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm not complaining. It's a beautiful place to wake up

0:00:50.960 --> 0:00:54.080
<v Speaker 1>and start work every day. Another woman from the Salt

0:00:54.160 --> 0:00:56.120
<v Speaker 1>Lake City area had reached out to us and we

0:00:56.160 --> 0:00:59.720
<v Speaker 1>wanted to meet her. Mandy had listened to Jennifer Faceon's

0:00:59.720 --> 0:01:00.720
<v Speaker 1>story in season one.

0:01:01.560 --> 0:01:05.280
<v Speaker 4>She wrote, the same time Jennifer was going through her trauma,

0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:08.280
<v Speaker 4>I was going through mine. He was my.

0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:12.520
<v Speaker 1>Fairy tale, the love of my life, and I was blindsided.

0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:17.400
<v Speaker 1>To say the least, I lost everything. Hearing Jen's story

0:01:17.480 --> 0:01:20.480
<v Speaker 1>helped me not feel so alone and gave me more strength.

0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:25.279
<v Speaker 1>I can't say enough thank you. So we invited Mandy

0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:28.040
<v Speaker 1>to our airbnb to meet Ashley. When you're in a

0:01:28.080 --> 0:01:30.880
<v Speaker 1>small club that no one wants to belong to, it's

0:01:30.920 --> 0:01:33.080
<v Speaker 1>comforting to meet someone else who's been through it.

0:01:33.760 --> 0:01:35.959
<v Speaker 4>Here's Mandy speaking with Ashley.

0:01:36.400 --> 0:01:39.200
<v Speaker 5>What was it about listening to her story that, Like,

0:01:39.640 --> 0:01:42.480
<v Speaker 5>was it just the whole betrayal, Like just the fact

0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:45.280
<v Speaker 5>that you just knew nothing about the person that you

0:01:45.280 --> 0:01:48.120
<v Speaker 5>were supposed to know everything about.

0:01:48.920 --> 0:01:51.280
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I think that's what drew me to it was

0:01:51.320 --> 0:01:54.240
<v Speaker 6>that it was like that betrayal. But what really got

0:01:54.280 --> 0:02:00.920
<v Speaker 6>me and what made me even write in was Spencer

0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:03.840
<v Speaker 6>sounded like my husband.

0:02:03.920 --> 0:02:05.160
<v Speaker 4>Oh my gosh.

0:02:05.200 --> 0:02:08.440
<v Speaker 1>In season one of Betrayal, Jennifer Fason told the story

0:02:08.440 --> 0:02:12.000
<v Speaker 1>of a fairy tale marriage to her college sweetheart, Spencer Heron.

0:02:12.520 --> 0:02:15.200
<v Speaker 1>He appeared to be a picture perfect husband and caring

0:02:15.240 --> 0:02:18.519
<v Speaker 1>high school teacher. When he was arrested, Jennifer was shocked

0:02:18.520 --> 0:02:21.359
<v Speaker 1>to learn the reality was her husband had been sexually

0:02:21.360 --> 0:02:24.760
<v Speaker 1>assaulting one of his students and conducting dozens of affairs

0:02:24.800 --> 0:02:28.360
<v Speaker 1>during their marriage. His excuses and lack of accountability made

0:02:28.440 --> 0:02:32.000
<v Speaker 1>Jennifer realize her husband was a complete stranger.

0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:34.600
<v Speaker 6>And so then I felt like I connected even more

0:02:34.639 --> 0:02:36.400
<v Speaker 6>with Jen What about you?

0:02:37.000 --> 0:02:39.800
<v Speaker 4>The same, the exact same, the exact same.

0:02:40.200 --> 0:02:43.800
<v Speaker 5>Really, Yeah, listening to Spencer talk, it's just it's infuriating,

0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:45.800
<v Speaker 5>And I felt the exact same way.

0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:49.320
<v Speaker 6>I feel like, too, there's going to be some shit

0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:53.040
<v Speaker 6>ads that believe him because he is so believable. And

0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:56.600
<v Speaker 6>then I felt like that was my husband for the

0:02:56.680 --> 0:02:58.120
<v Speaker 6>last fourteen years.

0:02:58.160 --> 0:03:00.760
<v Speaker 5>The things that he would say really since that things

0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:04.680
<v Speaker 5>were happening, because there was things happening before that I

0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:09.000
<v Speaker 5>didn't understand, and explanations that he would give me.

0:03:09.040 --> 0:03:11.640
<v Speaker 4>I would be like, Okay, yeah, that makes sense.

0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:14.320
<v Speaker 5>Totally makes sense that we're losing the house and you

0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:16.239
<v Speaker 5>did this and you didn't talk to me about it.

0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:19.200
<v Speaker 1>Since Ashley and Mandy were both emboldened to share their

0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:22.640
<v Speaker 1>own stories after Jen shared hers, we gave Jenna.

0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:26.440
<v Speaker 7>Call I have you on speaker because you're with Ashley

0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:30.120
<v Speaker 7>and Andy, and Mandy has a very similar story to Ashley,

0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:32.720
<v Speaker 7>but they both as you know, Ashley wrote into the

0:03:32.800 --> 0:03:34.040
<v Speaker 7>show and so did Mandy.

0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:34.960
<v Speaker 4>It's how we found her.

0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:38.240
<v Speaker 8>Oh wow, thanks you guys.

0:03:38.760 --> 0:03:42.120
<v Speaker 5>Hi, it is so nice to talk to you.

0:03:42.120 --> 0:03:46.400
<v Speaker 9>You guys too, And I'm really really sorry about what

0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:47.720
<v Speaker 9>you have gone through.

0:03:47.960 --> 0:03:48.520
<v Speaker 4>You're sweet.

0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:48.760
<v Speaker 7>Jen.

0:03:48.880 --> 0:03:50.680
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, we're sorry too, girl.

0:03:51.120 --> 0:03:53.240
<v Speaker 6>I'm sorry that you went through it, but I'm grateful

0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:55.360
<v Speaker 6>that you shared your story with us.

0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:55.840
<v Speaker 10>Well.

0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:58.640
<v Speaker 9>I was just you know, looking for anybody who had

0:03:58.680 --> 0:04:02.080
<v Speaker 9>been in some sort of sitution situation that could relate.

0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:06.600
<v Speaker 9>I mean, they're not all the same, but you do

0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:10.760
<v Speaker 9>really feel alone out there and wonder, you know, does

0:04:10.800 --> 0:04:12.200
<v Speaker 9>anyone else go through this.

0:04:12.760 --> 0:04:15.480
<v Speaker 4>I'm so grateful for you sharing your hardship.

0:04:15.760 --> 0:04:17.760
<v Speaker 8>Thank you. I wish I was there with you.

0:04:17.800 --> 0:04:20.960
<v Speaker 4>Guys, I wish though too. We love you John.

0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:24.240
<v Speaker 1>As bad as it was, Ashley had a little time,

0:04:24.680 --> 0:04:27.320
<v Speaker 1>a few hours to process what her husband had done.

0:04:28.080 --> 0:04:31.400
<v Speaker 4>Mandy had none at all.

0:04:31.640 --> 0:04:36.160
<v Speaker 5>I met Michael through a mutual friend I worked with.

0:04:36.320 --> 0:04:40.599
<v Speaker 5>We started talking on Facebook one day and that's how

0:04:40.920 --> 0:04:44.479
<v Speaker 5>we started dating. And he was the absolute love of

0:04:44.480 --> 0:04:47.200
<v Speaker 5>my life. He was the sweetest guy ever. We started

0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:51.520
<v Speaker 5>dating exclusively at the end of twenty twelve, and then

0:04:51.520 --> 0:04:53.160
<v Speaker 5>we got married in twenty fourteen.

0:04:53.920 --> 0:04:56.040
<v Speaker 4>It's great. Our marriage was great. I loved it.

0:04:56.880 --> 0:04:58.919
<v Speaker 1>Mandy had shared with me that Michael and his father

0:04:59.040 --> 0:05:01.080
<v Speaker 1>were in business together but had a falling out in

0:05:01.120 --> 0:05:04.880
<v Speaker 1>twenty fifteen. It was an acrimonious split that left Michael

0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:07.040
<v Speaker 1>feeling angry and underappreciated.

0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:10.400
<v Speaker 5>His dad took away the whole business, like went behind

0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:14.640
<v Speaker 5>his back. It was a really low blow and that

0:05:14.680 --> 0:05:18.440
<v Speaker 5>really affected Mike. That when I got pregnant with Sophie.

0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:21.039
<v Speaker 5>He was like, we'll be fine, I'll find another job.

0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:25.080
<v Speaker 5>He was always into like programming and stuff like that,

0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:29.719
<v Speaker 5>so he decided that he wanted to do three D

0:05:30.680 --> 0:05:31.520
<v Speaker 5>design stuff.

0:05:32.520 --> 0:05:35.160
<v Speaker 4>He was down in that basement all the freaking time.

0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:38.200
<v Speaker 1>Mike spent so much time alone in the basement that

0:05:38.320 --> 0:05:40.640
<v Speaker 1>Mandy thought something nefarious was going on.

0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:44.919
<v Speaker 4>Maybe he was having an online affair. When he would leave.

0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:46.880
<v Speaker 5>I would go and look at the computer and at

0:05:46.920 --> 0:05:50.200
<v Speaker 5>the history, and there would be like a regular porn site,

0:05:50.200 --> 0:05:51.960
<v Speaker 5>and I was like, whatever, I don't care about that.

0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:54.159
<v Speaker 5>But it wasn't like excessive, you know.

0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:57.680
<v Speaker 1>When their daughter, Sophie was born, Michael re engaged with

0:05:57.720 --> 0:06:01.400
<v Speaker 1>the family for a while, then checked out again.

0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:04.320
<v Speaker 4>He just wasn't there. He was just never there.

0:06:04.960 --> 0:06:07.599
<v Speaker 5>Even my mom was like, something's going on with him.

0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:09.680
<v Speaker 5>He's being so weird, and I'm like, I know, I

0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:12.400
<v Speaker 5>don't know what it is. Every time I bring it

0:06:12.520 --> 0:06:15.240
<v Speaker 5>up or try to talk to me, gaslights me. I

0:06:15.279 --> 0:06:18.599
<v Speaker 5>don't know what to do. Then all this other stuff

0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:21.760
<v Speaker 5>was happening, like one one of the cars got repossessed,

0:06:21.920 --> 0:06:24.599
<v Speaker 5>and then he short sold the house, and then he

0:06:24.600 --> 0:06:27.560
<v Speaker 5>couldn't afford to pay the payments of the short cell,

0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:29.200
<v Speaker 5>so we had to go move in with his mom.

0:06:29.839 --> 0:06:31.920
<v Speaker 4>It was just like all boom boom, boom boom.

0:06:32.200 --> 0:06:37.839
<v Speaker 1>They lost everything in rapid succession. Mandy didn't have close

0:06:37.880 --> 0:06:40.120
<v Speaker 1>family support. It was scary.

0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:41.920
<v Speaker 4>She wrote it out.

0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:43.920
<v Speaker 1>For a while, and eventually Michael found a job at

0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:47.520
<v Speaker 1>a serial factory. Mandy made extra money working at a

0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:51.000
<v Speaker 1>local paper company. Michael's mother watched Sophie while they were

0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:51.560
<v Speaker 1>at work.

0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:53.760
<v Speaker 5>It was seeming like life was kind of getting a

0:06:53.800 --> 0:06:58.039
<v Speaker 5>little bit more normal again. He seemed to be pulling

0:06:58.120 --> 0:07:01.799
<v Speaker 5>himself out even more. He was actually going and doing

0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:04.320
<v Speaker 5>things with us, and so I was really hopeful.

0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:08.640
<v Speaker 1>During that period of optimism, Mandy was confronted with a

0:07:08.680 --> 0:07:10.000
<v Speaker 1>shocking dose of reality.

0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:12.920
<v Speaker 5>I worked four to midnight. I had just gotten to

0:07:13.000 --> 0:07:17.400
<v Speaker 5>work and my phone rang. I was like, well, I'm

0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:17.680
<v Speaker 5>not work.

0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:19.840
<v Speaker 4>I can't answer the phone, you know. So I ignored it,

0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:20.800
<v Speaker 4>and then they called.

0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:22.520
<v Speaker 5>Right back, and then they called right back again, and

0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:24.320
<v Speaker 5>then they called right back again, and I was like, okay,

0:07:24.440 --> 0:07:29.160
<v Speaker 5>obviously this is an emergency, you know. So I go

0:07:29.160 --> 0:07:31.920
<v Speaker 5>announswer my phone and it's this guy and he says

0:07:31.920 --> 0:07:36.480
<v Speaker 5>that he's a detective and that they're at my mother

0:07:36.520 --> 0:07:37.600
<v Speaker 5>in law's house.

0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:43.440
<v Speaker 1>Who incidentally, one week before the detective repeatedly called Mandy

0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:47.520
<v Speaker 1>at work. Two police officers were canvassing her neighborhood.

0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:51.480
<v Speaker 5>One day, we were about ready to take Sophie to

0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:55.200
<v Speaker 5>the park and this random older Toyota Corolla car pulls

0:07:55.240 --> 0:07:57.559
<v Speaker 5>up with these two people in it.

0:08:00.880 --> 0:08:02.960
<v Speaker 4>They get out and I mean they parked like right

0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:06.840
<v Speaker 4>in front of his mom's house and they see us

0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:07.480
<v Speaker 4>and they're like hi.

0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:09.440
<v Speaker 5>They're super friendly and they're like how are you guys,

0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:11.360
<v Speaker 5>and really good and they're like.

0:08:11.280 --> 0:08:13.280
<v Speaker 8>Do you live here? And we're like, oh, yeah, we

0:08:13.320 --> 0:08:13.880
<v Speaker 8>live here.

0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:17.120
<v Speaker 5>And they're like, oh well, we're just with the police

0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:19.800
<v Speaker 5>department and we're looking for this guy and they show

0:08:19.800 --> 0:08:22.680
<v Speaker 5>a picture of this like hispanic guy. I'm all, no,

0:08:22.760 --> 0:08:24.960
<v Speaker 5>I haven't seen anybody. And he's like, so, who all

0:08:25.000 --> 0:08:28.520
<v Speaker 5>lives here? And we all introduce ourselves and then he's

0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:30.120
<v Speaker 5>like your husband's here and I'm like yeah.

0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:31.440
<v Speaker 4>He's like look, can you go get them?

0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:34.040
<v Speaker 5>And I was like sure, And so they introduced themselves

0:08:34.080 --> 0:08:36.240
<v Speaker 5>and ask him the same question, show him the picture

0:08:36.280 --> 0:08:38.199
<v Speaker 5>and he's like, no, I haven't seen anything, and.

0:08:38.160 --> 0:08:39.160
<v Speaker 4>They're like, okay, thanks.

0:08:39.600 --> 0:08:42.240
<v Speaker 1>Now a detective said he needed to come and pick

0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:43.280
<v Speaker 1>her up at work.

0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:45.280
<v Speaker 4>I was like, oh my god. And so I'm like

0:08:45.880 --> 0:08:48.360
<v Speaker 4>did I do something? Like I'm all like freaking out,

0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:50.280
<v Speaker 4>like what did I have like this unpaid ticket? And

0:08:50.320 --> 0:08:51.120
<v Speaker 4>they need to come to my.

0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:53.720
<v Speaker 5>House like I was all these thoughts were and they like,

0:08:53.840 --> 0:08:55.760
<v Speaker 5>just give us where you're at and we're gonna come

0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:59.560
<v Speaker 5>right now. I saw FBI on their vests and stuff,

0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:02.200
<v Speaker 5>and I was, Okay, this isn't anything that I could

0:09:02.240 --> 0:09:04.240
<v Speaker 5>have done, Like I know, I haven't you know what

0:09:04.320 --> 0:09:08.280
<v Speaker 5>I mean, Like that's crazy. He's like, Mandy, I'm not

0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:11.520
<v Speaker 5>gonna sugarcoat anything. I'm just gonna tell you we're serving

0:09:11.520 --> 0:09:14.480
<v Speaker 5>the search warm because your husband's been looking at downloading

0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:17.840
<v Speaker 5>childhorn on the dark web for the past two years.

0:09:20.360 --> 0:09:22.959
<v Speaker 5>I just started screaming. I remember, just dropped him my

0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:24.280
<v Speaker 5>knees and started screaming.

0:09:25.120 --> 0:09:29.400
<v Speaker 1>Nothing made sense, and yet it suddenly all made sense.

0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:33.199
<v Speaker 1>The long hours in the basement, his complete withdrawal from

0:09:33.200 --> 0:09:34.040
<v Speaker 1>the family.

0:09:34.480 --> 0:09:40.000
<v Speaker 11>Was hard to hear that. It was so embarrassed. I

0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:45.119
<v Speaker 11>was so ashamed. I was so frustrated. I felt so stupid.

0:09:45.920 --> 0:09:49.800
<v Speaker 5>I mean, life was already not like it was before,

0:09:49.960 --> 0:09:52.640
<v Speaker 5>but everything changed from there.

0:09:54.160 --> 0:09:55.360
<v Speaker 4>I still struggle with it.

0:09:56.120 --> 0:09:59.400
<v Speaker 12>I gave him all of me. I gave him everything.

0:10:00.480 --> 0:10:04.560
<v Speaker 12>I never trusted another man like that, and then to

0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:09.280
<v Speaker 12>do that, to do that like that is to me.

0:10:09.280 --> 0:10:14.200
<v Speaker 4>The worst thing you could do. Those are children. I

0:10:14.200 --> 0:10:16.120
<v Speaker 4>can't even trust you with our child.

0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:18.600
<v Speaker 1>Her house resembled a scene out of Law and Order,

0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:22.800
<v Speaker 1>except it was her real life and Olivia Benson wasn't

0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:23.839
<v Speaker 1>making an appearance.

0:10:24.559 --> 0:10:26.719
<v Speaker 4>As soon as we pulled down his street.

0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:31.840
<v Speaker 5>The big huge Rvy, it's like bigger than an Arvy,

0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:33.560
<v Speaker 5>just blocking the whole driveway.

0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:35.599
<v Speaker 4>They're pulling out computers.

0:10:36.280 --> 0:10:39.040
<v Speaker 1>The two police officers who were there the week prior,

0:10:39.240 --> 0:10:41.360
<v Speaker 1>supposedly looking for a drug dealer.

0:10:42.080 --> 0:10:44.640
<v Speaker 5>That guy was just a big guy. They just were

0:10:44.640 --> 0:10:46.760
<v Speaker 5>coming there to make sure Michael was there so they

0:10:46.760 --> 0:10:50.360
<v Speaker 5>didn't have to send in all these people and him

0:10:50.360 --> 0:10:51.840
<v Speaker 5>not be there.

0:11:00.920 --> 0:11:04.319
<v Speaker 4>Former Utah US attorney John Hubert mister.

0:11:04.080 --> 0:11:07.280
<v Speaker 13>Gibbs, who was part of an international ring is stretch

0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:11.480
<v Speaker 13>from Korea through the United States and beyond using bitcoin

0:11:11.600 --> 0:11:15.640
<v Speaker 13>and anonymizing efforts to hide what they were doing on

0:11:15.720 --> 0:11:20.480
<v Speaker 13>the dark web and through hard work, detective work, cyber

0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:23.880
<v Speaker 13>sleuthing they were able to find mister Gibbs and an

0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:26.720
<v Speaker 13>effect a search worn on his home in Utah and

0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:29.800
<v Speaker 13>confirmed that he was part of this conspiracy.

0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:33.480
<v Speaker 1>This website was one of the largest and most vile

0:11:33.640 --> 0:11:37.760
<v Speaker 1>child sexual assault websites in the world. Among those arrested

0:11:38.320 --> 0:11:41.960
<v Speaker 1>was a US Border Patrol agent, former Homeland Security agent,

0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:43.960
<v Speaker 1>and assistant high school principal.

0:11:44.520 --> 0:11:49.200
<v Speaker 5>They looked to everything, every nook and connie of that house,

0:11:49.520 --> 0:11:51.559
<v Speaker 5>and I had to just stand there and watch him

0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:56.040
<v Speaker 5>do it. The detective was asking me all sorts of

0:11:56.120 --> 0:11:57.800
<v Speaker 5>questions too, while I'm standing there.

0:11:59.360 --> 0:12:00.680
<v Speaker 4>Was he downstairs? There a lot?

0:12:00.720 --> 0:12:02.520
<v Speaker 5>Did he hide out a lot from you? Is there

0:12:02.559 --> 0:12:06.520
<v Speaker 5>any other computers? Any other devices? They took every device

0:12:06.640 --> 0:12:09.360
<v Speaker 5>except my phone. They didn't even ask to see my

0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:11.839
<v Speaker 5>phone or anything. They took everything else.

0:12:12.880 --> 0:12:17.079
<v Speaker 1>Michael's arrest shattered Mandy. She simply could not bear it.

0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:20.440
<v Speaker 1>Their small family that she loved so much went up

0:12:20.480 --> 0:12:24.320
<v Speaker 1>in flames. Mandy and her daughter continue to live with

0:12:24.360 --> 0:12:27.520
<v Speaker 1>Michael's mother, but Mandy struggled.

0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:30.800
<v Speaker 4>The first month. I couldn't even eat because I was

0:12:30.920 --> 0:12:31.439
<v Speaker 4>just sick.

0:12:31.920 --> 0:12:36.560
<v Speaker 5>I was sick that that man could have done those things.

0:12:37.600 --> 0:12:41.040
<v Speaker 12>I just completely lost myself. I don't even want to

0:12:41.040 --> 0:12:44.400
<v Speaker 12>make excuses. I'm so ashamed of the way that I

0:12:44.520 --> 0:12:47.679
<v Speaker 12>handled it. I could have been stronger.

0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:50.720
<v Speaker 4>She turned to an old dependency to ease the pain.

0:12:52.440 --> 0:12:53.720
<v Speaker 4>I was just so angry.

0:12:53.920 --> 0:12:56.040
<v Speaker 5>I wanted to be angry for a really long time,

0:12:57.000 --> 0:12:59.280
<v Speaker 5>and alcohol just fueled that anger.

0:13:00.480 --> 0:13:02.400
<v Speaker 4>I feel like it was good to go through that

0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:04.000
<v Speaker 4>because I.

0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:07.160
<v Speaker 5>Don't want to carry that anger around anymore. That's exhausting.

0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:11.120
<v Speaker 5>I went to treatment. I was in treatment for a whole.

0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:15.040
<v Speaker 1>Year while Mandy's got help for substance abuse. Michael's case

0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:19.320
<v Speaker 1>moved forward. Eventually he was granted release on unsecured bond,

0:13:19.559 --> 0:13:22.400
<v Speaker 1>no bail. His release meant he would move back to

0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:26.000
<v Speaker 1>his mother's house, and that Mandy and her daughter needed

0:13:26.000 --> 0:13:29.280
<v Speaker 1>to find somewhere else to live. A close friend, the

0:13:29.280 --> 0:13:32.160
<v Speaker 1>father of Mandy's other daughter, offered them a place to stay,

0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:35.679
<v Speaker 1>and they've become much closer through this awful experience.

0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:37.600
<v Speaker 4>I was on Sophie's birthday.

0:13:37.600 --> 0:13:41.280
<v Speaker 5>Actually it's like one in the morning, and he was

0:13:41.679 --> 0:13:43.840
<v Speaker 5>trying to get me to like let him see Sophie,

0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:47.440
<v Speaker 5>and I was like absolutely not, like no, and all

0:13:47.440 --> 0:13:49.400
<v Speaker 5>of a sudden, Michael just walks in the back door

0:13:49.760 --> 0:13:51.480
<v Speaker 5>he's totally pasted, and he's like.

0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:54.280
<v Speaker 8>You need to talk to me right now, blah blah blah.

0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:57.480
<v Speaker 5>So his roommate picks up the phone calls the police.

0:13:58.080 --> 0:14:01.440
<v Speaker 5>He had shoved me too because I talk to him,

0:14:01.720 --> 0:14:04.040
<v Speaker 5>and so at that point at least come and they

0:14:04.040 --> 0:14:07.320
<v Speaker 5>took him back to Joe. He still got released again

0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:10.720
<v Speaker 5>after that, but that was on house arrest.

0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:14.640
<v Speaker 4>Michael tried to convince Mandy that the content he downloaded

0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:19.280
<v Speaker 4>wasn't that bad. He never tells me the truth.

0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:23.000
<v Speaker 5>It's always it wasn't even that much, or it was

0:14:23.200 --> 0:14:24.120
<v Speaker 5>I didn't even look at it.

0:14:24.200 --> 0:14:26.400
<v Speaker 4>It wasn't even stuff that I looked at. What else.

0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:30.400
<v Speaker 5>They weren't like little kid little kids. It's like, you know,

0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:34.640
<v Speaker 5>like younger girls. It was only a couple things in there.

0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:36.800
<v Speaker 5>A lot of the other stuff was like adult stuff.

0:14:37.440 --> 0:14:37.600
<v Speaker 10>You know.

0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:40.040
<v Speaker 5>It was because I was taking so much adderall and

0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:42.560
<v Speaker 5>that made me just like really compulsive and want to

0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:43.680
<v Speaker 5>download all this stuff.

0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:48.640
<v Speaker 13>Mister Gibbs had one hundred videos of some of the

0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:51.840
<v Speaker 13>most deviant conduct that you could imagine and hopefully never

0:14:52.080 --> 0:15:00.480
<v Speaker 13>have to imagine. Egregious, disgusting, violent videos of young earls

0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:04.560
<v Speaker 13>who were bound and raped, in front of the camera,

0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:08.600
<v Speaker 13>and you have one hundred videos and thirty images of

0:15:08.640 --> 0:15:10.040
<v Speaker 13>that type of conduct.

0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:15.080
<v Speaker 4>I tried so long to understand and to reason. I

0:15:15.200 --> 0:15:16.040
<v Speaker 4>have to tell you.

0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:18.880
<v Speaker 1>When I sat at John Huber's office, I saw the

0:15:18.920 --> 0:15:21.880
<v Speaker 1>description of the images that Mandy's husband was looking at.

0:15:22.560 --> 0:15:26.120
<v Speaker 1>They were in the sentencing memorandum. I got through too.

0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:31.720
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Up until this point, I was existing

0:15:31.760 --> 0:15:35.360
<v Speaker 1>in ignorance that I just couldn't conceive this awful reality.

0:15:36.840 --> 0:15:39.960
<v Speaker 1>We've been focusing so much on the families and their trauma,

0:15:40.400 --> 0:15:42.720
<v Speaker 1>but now the violence was right in front of me.

0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:46.280
<v Speaker 4>I couldn't help a cry.

0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:52.080
<v Speaker 1>It really is as bad as John said. Other revelations

0:15:52.080 --> 0:15:56.040
<v Speaker 1>in the document offered insight into Michael's defense of his behavior.

0:15:58.680 --> 0:16:01.720
<v Speaker 1>During his evaluation, he claimed that his abuse of Adderall

0:16:02.000 --> 0:16:06.000
<v Speaker 1>had caused weird sexual behaviors and a weird impulse to

0:16:06.120 --> 0:16:09.360
<v Speaker 1>forward and collect. And this is a direct quote from

0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:14.480
<v Speaker 1>the sentencing memorandum. Whatever drove the defendant's highly devian acts,

0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:18.720
<v Speaker 1>one thing is clear. The Adderall didn't make him do it.

0:16:19.520 --> 0:16:22.880
<v Speaker 1>After all, the defendants stopped taking Adderall eight months before

0:16:22.960 --> 0:16:26.480
<v Speaker 1>law enforcement appeared at his doorstep seized his personal cell

0:16:26.480 --> 0:16:30.080
<v Speaker 1>phone and found many sickening videos and images plainly kept

0:16:30.080 --> 0:16:36.480
<v Speaker 1>by him. There were a few other details worth noting

0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:40.400
<v Speaker 1>in the report. The evaluator requested treatment for meth addiction.

0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:44.080
<v Speaker 1>The finding was that there was a paraphilic disorder, but

0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:48.520
<v Speaker 1>it was not pedophilia but fetishistic disorder. And the last

0:16:48.560 --> 0:16:51.920
<v Speaker 1>and most disturbing, some of the victims in his video

0:16:51.960 --> 0:16:55.800
<v Speaker 1>collection were the same age as his toddler daughter.

0:16:56.840 --> 0:17:00.360
<v Speaker 5>I didn't want to know the details of it. A

0:17:00.840 --> 0:17:03.160
<v Speaker 5>totally other nightmare that I don't want to live.

0:17:03.280 --> 0:17:07.399
<v Speaker 1>You know, Michael's sentence was meaningful, forty eight months in

0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:08.199
<v Speaker 1>federal prison.

0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:10.520
<v Speaker 4>Still you could say he caught a break.

0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:13.920
<v Speaker 1>The government wanted sixty months, and it could have gone

0:17:13.920 --> 0:17:17.160
<v Speaker 1>as high as eighty four. When Mandy last heard from him,

0:17:17.400 --> 0:17:20.160
<v Speaker 1>he was in a halfway house, preparing to re enter society.

0:17:21.320 --> 0:17:24.159
<v Speaker 1>We've been talking a lot about justice and how perpetrators

0:17:24.160 --> 0:17:26.320
<v Speaker 1>of c SAM were prosecuted and sentenced.

0:17:26.880 --> 0:17:28.440
<v Speaker 4>I wanted to take a step back.

0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:30.480
<v Speaker 1>And meet some of the people on the ground who

0:17:30.560 --> 0:17:33.399
<v Speaker 1>chase down the leads generated by the National Center for

0:17:33.440 --> 0:17:36.879
<v Speaker 1>Missing and Exploited Children. The people who go on those raids,

0:17:36.960 --> 0:17:38.800
<v Speaker 1>a lot of them are part of the Internet Crimes

0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:42.400
<v Speaker 1>Against Children Task Force or i CAAQ. For sure, there's

0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:46.359
<v Speaker 1>at least one in every state. IICAC members include federal, state,

0:17:46.480 --> 0:17:50.600
<v Speaker 1>and local law enforcement. Detective Rue from the Riverton Police Department,

0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:54.040
<v Speaker 1>he's a part of IKAK. The task force investigates and

0:17:54.080 --> 0:17:58.760
<v Speaker 1>develops responses to Internet crimes against children. These individuals are

0:17:58.880 --> 0:18:03.520
<v Speaker 1>unsung heroes. Their purpose for existing is to keep kids safe,

0:18:03.600 --> 0:18:06.440
<v Speaker 1>and as we learn, it's often at great personal cost.

0:18:07.600 --> 0:18:10.000
<v Speaker 1>While in Utah, I wanted to visit with them.

0:18:10.720 --> 0:18:13.760
<v Speaker 2>I'm Alan White, I'm the Utah Internet Crims Against Children

0:18:13.760 --> 0:18:17.199
<v Speaker 2>task Force Commander for the State of Utah. It's out

0:18:17.280 --> 0:18:20.720
<v Speaker 2>of control. Just back at the commander's meeting. All task

0:18:20.760 --> 0:18:25.080
<v Speaker 2>forces are receiving so many cyber tip referrals from the

0:18:25.200 --> 0:18:30.160
<v Speaker 2>National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, processing twenty six

0:18:30.240 --> 0:18:34.199
<v Speaker 2>million cyber tips annually. In Utah, we're on track to

0:18:34.200 --> 0:18:36.320
<v Speaker 2>see four thousand of those tips.

0:18:37.560 --> 0:18:40.240
<v Speaker 1>The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children is a

0:18:40.240 --> 0:18:43.240
<v Speaker 1>private nonprofit that receives most of the tips about child

0:18:43.320 --> 0:18:47.840
<v Speaker 1>sexual abuse material. Some tips come from individuals, but most

0:18:47.920 --> 0:18:51.400
<v Speaker 1>come from social media companies. The Center then contacts local

0:18:51.480 --> 0:18:54.600
<v Speaker 1>law enforcement or the state's ICAC team who follow up

0:18:54.600 --> 0:18:55.240
<v Speaker 1>on those tips.

0:18:55.640 --> 0:18:58.320
<v Speaker 2>The case agents determine is that going to be a

0:18:58.400 --> 0:19:00.919
<v Speaker 2>knock and talk or do we do a full search

0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:03.000
<v Speaker 2>warrant and take a tactical team up to the door

0:19:03.040 --> 0:19:06.959
<v Speaker 2>and serve a search warrant. In some cases it's more educational.

0:19:07.200 --> 0:19:10.280
<v Speaker 2>It may indicate that it's more of a teenager, and

0:19:10.359 --> 0:19:15.560
<v Speaker 2>we'll try to focus that interaction more on education. We

0:19:15.560 --> 0:19:17.639
<v Speaker 2>were out doing a knock and talk a couple of

0:19:17.680 --> 0:19:20.840
<v Speaker 2>weeks ago and it ended up being.

0:19:20.680 --> 0:19:23.720
<v Speaker 14>A six year old little girl with a YouTube account and.

0:19:25.359 --> 0:19:26.679
<v Speaker 2>There was a legal content on it.

0:19:26.960 --> 0:19:28.959
<v Speaker 4>Google had flagged the account and shut it down.

0:19:29.280 --> 0:19:31.920
<v Speaker 1>This six year old girl was taking images of herself

0:19:31.960 --> 0:19:35.080
<v Speaker 1>and posting them online, and they were concerning enough to

0:19:35.119 --> 0:19:38.520
<v Speaker 1>trip whatever algorithm is in place a flag seesam. Her

0:19:38.560 --> 0:19:41.240
<v Speaker 1>parents had no idea what their daughter was doing.

0:19:41.880 --> 0:19:43.800
<v Speaker 2>They have a phone, they have a camera, they have

0:19:43.880 --> 0:19:47.800
<v Speaker 2>a video recorder, they have email. It's a small computer,

0:19:48.720 --> 0:19:53.000
<v Speaker 2>and we're giving these smart devices to our children with

0:19:53.200 --> 0:19:57.960
<v Speaker 2>unfettered access, and they can manipulate those devices a lot

0:19:58.000 --> 0:19:58.600
<v Speaker 2>better than.

0:19:58.840 --> 0:19:59.720
<v Speaker 15>Some of the adults.

0:20:00.480 --> 0:20:03.719
<v Speaker 1>That case was an exception, but an opportunity to educate

0:20:03.720 --> 0:20:07.520
<v Speaker 1>her parents. Most of the tips Ikak receives are of

0:20:07.600 --> 0:20:12.520
<v Speaker 1>people deliberately creating or downloading child sexual abuse imagery. Alan

0:20:12.560 --> 0:20:15.040
<v Speaker 1>has seventeen years in the field and he's seeing the

0:20:15.119 --> 0:20:17.000
<v Speaker 1>damage CCM offenders cause.

0:20:19.040 --> 0:20:21.560
<v Speaker 2>I started this work back in two thousand and six,

0:20:21.880 --> 0:20:26.360
<v Speaker 2>and I've had different thoughts throughout the years, but as.

0:20:26.240 --> 0:20:32.360
<v Speaker 14>Prevalent as it is, and the amount of manipulation these

0:20:32.400 --> 0:20:37.639
<v Speaker 14>suspects due to their families, I've had suspects say in

0:20:37.680 --> 0:20:39.880
<v Speaker 14>an interview, I wondered when you were going to show

0:20:39.960 --> 0:20:44.600
<v Speaker 14>up their families and the ones they love the most.

0:20:45.240 --> 0:20:49.879
<v Speaker 14>They're collateral victims and it destroys these families and we

0:20:49.960 --> 0:20:52.320
<v Speaker 14>get to witness the beginning.

0:20:52.320 --> 0:20:56.159
<v Speaker 15>Of that destruction when we make contact with these people.

0:20:56.920 --> 0:20:58.960
<v Speaker 4>This type of work takes a toll.

0:21:01.640 --> 0:21:05.560
<v Speaker 2>Watching the video to write a description, and that's the

0:21:05.640 --> 0:21:06.720
<v Speaker 2>absolute worst.

0:21:06.440 --> 0:21:07.120
<v Speaker 15>Part of the job.

0:21:08.840 --> 0:21:11.639
<v Speaker 3>It's emotional, it's not easy.

0:21:12.760 --> 0:21:18.080
<v Speaker 2>The day to day is so I'm thinking of images

0:21:18.119 --> 0:21:21.720
<v Speaker 2>and videos in my mind that I've experienced, and it's

0:21:21.760 --> 0:21:29.800
<v Speaker 2>beyond your wildest imagination. What motivates me saving kids, the

0:21:29.920 --> 0:21:34.959
<v Speaker 2>children we rescue is enough motivation that I'm still in

0:21:34.960 --> 0:21:36.639
<v Speaker 2>the game. I want to be on the team that

0:21:36.760 --> 0:21:38.200
<v Speaker 2>continues to protect children.

0:21:39.160 --> 0:21:42.200
<v Speaker 1>There have been days when Alan literally left, walked out

0:21:42.200 --> 0:21:44.879
<v Speaker 1>and said, I'll be back tomorrow, but I can't do

0:21:44.960 --> 0:21:53.199
<v Speaker 1>any more today. You tell State Attorney General Sean Reyes

0:21:53.240 --> 0:21:56.000
<v Speaker 1>acknowledged how tough it gets for his officers.

0:21:56.680 --> 0:22:02.160
<v Speaker 16>When I came in, we instituted mandatory therapy and support

0:22:02.440 --> 0:22:06.720
<v Speaker 16>so they could access, you know, mental behavioral health specialists

0:22:07.480 --> 0:22:11.440
<v Speaker 16>who specialize also in kind of battlefield trauma. When you're

0:22:11.480 --> 0:22:14.920
<v Speaker 16>dealing with the kind of stuff that my agents have

0:22:14.960 --> 0:22:18.320
<v Speaker 16>to see, especially in the dark Web, that's like the

0:22:18.359 --> 0:22:22.000
<v Speaker 16>seventh ring of Dante's Hell, like it's the worst of

0:22:22.040 --> 0:22:24.480
<v Speaker 16>the worst, the worst. You actually have to prove how

0:22:24.520 --> 0:22:29.399
<v Speaker 16>evil you are by posting or showing and demonstrating certain

0:22:29.520 --> 0:22:32.200
<v Speaker 16>acts that are so heinous and despicable that I don't

0:22:32.240 --> 0:22:34.399
<v Speaker 16>even try to think about them when I go home.

0:22:34.720 --> 0:22:38.240
<v Speaker 2>The women and men that do this work, they're every

0:22:38.320 --> 0:22:40.080
<v Speaker 2>day superheroes.

0:22:40.280 --> 0:22:40.960
<v Speaker 15>They really are.

0:22:41.600 --> 0:22:44.160
<v Speaker 4>Alan introduced us to some of them around the office.

0:22:44.800 --> 0:22:50.520
<v Speaker 2>This is the ICAC team back here, but we're doing it.

0:22:50.640 --> 0:22:53.360
<v Speaker 2>We're starting with a tour and then I'll disappoint them.

0:22:53.480 --> 0:22:54.960
<v Speaker 2>So we're starting with the high point.

0:22:55.040 --> 0:22:55.800
<v Speaker 4>We'll report back.

0:22:58.560 --> 0:23:03.199
<v Speaker 2>We have five full time agents. One agent that's a

0:23:03.359 --> 0:23:06.920
<v Speaker 2>forensic examiner. This is our Hawaiian museum. If you want

0:23:06.960 --> 0:23:10.120
<v Speaker 2>to take a peek in here. This is a kolu hi.

0:23:13.040 --> 0:23:16.200
<v Speaker 1>I met Akolu de la Santos. His office was a

0:23:16.240 --> 0:23:19.760
<v Speaker 1>little slice of Hawaiian heaven. Instead of a door, I walked.

0:23:19.480 --> 0:23:22.720
<v Speaker 4>Through hanging beads into groovy music. Wow, a lot of

0:23:23.880 --> 0:23:24.320
<v Speaker 4>come on in.

0:23:24.720 --> 0:23:27.440
<v Speaker 15>Just take gander. Warm fire right.

0:23:27.440 --> 0:23:28.920
<v Speaker 4>There, a fire burned on the wall.

0:23:29.440 --> 0:23:31.800
<v Speaker 1>It was on a TV monitor, but still it gave

0:23:31.800 --> 0:23:33.520
<v Speaker 1>the space great atmosphere.

0:23:34.560 --> 0:23:39.199
<v Speaker 15>Just the representing my culture and my family and stuff.

0:23:40.480 --> 0:23:44.600
<v Speaker 15>I'm from your fiftieth state. That's pretty much it.

0:23:44.920 --> 0:23:47.600
<v Speaker 4>That's not all of it. He is creating Functuay for

0:23:47.680 --> 0:23:48.160
<v Speaker 4>his mind.

0:23:48.600 --> 0:23:50.159
<v Speaker 15>I like it like this just because, you know, the

0:23:50.160 --> 0:23:52.760
<v Speaker 15>stuff that we deal with just every day. We have

0:23:52.800 --> 0:23:55.280
<v Speaker 15>to escape every once in a while, and I like

0:23:55.320 --> 0:23:58.240
<v Speaker 15>to put up stuff that makes me feel comfortable.

0:23:58.560 --> 0:24:01.639
<v Speaker 1>Culu is a big guy, six foot five, and he

0:24:01.680 --> 0:24:05.240
<v Speaker 1>looks like a professional bodybuilder, but he only cares about

0:24:05.400 --> 0:24:05.920
<v Speaker 1>one thing.

0:24:06.640 --> 0:24:11.639
<v Speaker 15>I have four kids, three grandkids, and my motivation just

0:24:11.680 --> 0:24:16.800
<v Speaker 15>for being here is them. I want to step in

0:24:16.880 --> 0:24:20.399
<v Speaker 15>and be that guy to you know, when the predator

0:24:20.440 --> 0:24:23.600
<v Speaker 15>opens the door and they're expecting a thirteen year old girl.

0:24:24.320 --> 0:24:27.280
<v Speaker 15>It's a three hundred pounds Polynesian guy that they're looking at.

0:24:27.560 --> 0:24:30.280
<v Speaker 1>Even the biggest and the strongest among them concern Alan.

0:24:30.760 --> 0:24:33.600
<v Speaker 1>He keeps tabs on everyone, making sure that they are

0:24:33.640 --> 0:24:35.440
<v Speaker 1>coping mental wellness.

0:24:35.640 --> 0:24:37.000
<v Speaker 15>That's my biggest fear.

0:24:37.200 --> 0:24:38.520
<v Speaker 3>That's what keeps me up at night.

0:24:39.880 --> 0:24:43.320
<v Speaker 2>I get emotional talking about it. But yeah, throughout the day,

0:24:43.359 --> 0:24:45.560
<v Speaker 2>throughout their work, we try to keep one foot in

0:24:45.600 --> 0:24:56.160
<v Speaker 2>reality regardless of what we're doing. Yea, this is Sade.

0:24:56.960 --> 0:25:00.560
<v Speaker 2>He's one of the supervisors. I command it.

0:25:00.320 --> 0:25:01.680
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, to meet you guys, it's me.

0:25:01.840 --> 0:25:06.399
<v Speaker 10>Yah, sorry, I'm she works out.

0:25:06.600 --> 0:25:10.879
<v Speaker 15>That's that's my form of therapy. It works for me.

0:25:11.080 --> 0:25:14.320
<v Speaker 10>I do it every morning before I come in morning.

0:25:14.359 --> 0:25:17.640
<v Speaker 1>Sete did the forensic work on Jason Litton's electronics.

0:25:18.040 --> 0:25:21.000
<v Speaker 10>Yeah, we assisted with forensics, running the phone in the

0:25:21.040 --> 0:25:24.680
<v Speaker 10>computers and yeah, that's that's what I did in that case.

0:25:24.920 --> 0:25:25.640
<v Speaker 15>I remember that.

0:25:26.400 --> 0:25:27.280
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that was a bad guy.

0:25:28.200 --> 0:25:29.919
<v Speaker 4>But he also goes out into the field.

0:25:30.600 --> 0:25:33.159
<v Speaker 1>He talked about what can happen when they gather a

0:25:33.160 --> 0:25:36.000
<v Speaker 1>family together and inform them that someone in the house

0:25:36.119 --> 0:25:38.359
<v Speaker 1>has been downloading illegal content.

0:25:38.520 --> 0:25:42.160
<v Speaker 10>Which is just about almost always figure out just by

0:25:42.280 --> 0:25:45.119
<v Speaker 10>standing there. It's the person who doesn't want to make

0:25:45.160 --> 0:25:46.040
<v Speaker 10>eye contact with you.

0:25:46.200 --> 0:25:49.040
<v Speaker 2>Or sinking in the sofa slowly.

0:25:50.320 --> 0:25:53.920
<v Speaker 8>Is it a mixture of mom, dad.

0:25:53.760 --> 0:25:57.919
<v Speaker 2>Or alls often males. There's been three emails that I

0:25:57.920 --> 0:25:59.200
<v Speaker 2>can think of off the top of my head.

0:25:59.359 --> 0:26:00.640
<v Speaker 15>It's rares.

0:26:00.920 --> 0:26:02.200
<v Speaker 3>It's a female.

0:26:02.760 --> 0:26:04.119
<v Speaker 4>Can you tell us your name for the record?

0:26:04.200 --> 0:26:06.440
<v Speaker 15>Yeah, that's an outlie comments building.

0:26:08.680 --> 0:26:13.400
<v Speaker 1>I was like, this topic has a lot of darkness.

0:26:13.720 --> 0:26:17.240
<v Speaker 1>It's shrouded in pain. But meeting the people at IKAC

0:26:17.560 --> 0:26:20.399
<v Speaker 1>was like letting the light in. There are people who

0:26:20.440 --> 0:26:23.680
<v Speaker 1>really care about their community and are making it safer

0:26:23.760 --> 0:26:27.240
<v Speaker 1>in whatever way they can. I've been keeping up with

0:26:27.280 --> 0:26:30.680
<v Speaker 1>the status of Michael Gibbs prison sentence. I was floored

0:26:30.680 --> 0:26:33.199
<v Speaker 1>to find out that he was out early. So I

0:26:33.240 --> 0:26:35.840
<v Speaker 1>was wondering how Mandy was navigating his re entry and

0:26:35.920 --> 0:26:37.000
<v Speaker 1>boundaries with their daughter.

0:26:37.560 --> 0:26:38.080
<v Speaker 10>How are you?

0:26:38.880 --> 0:26:40.920
<v Speaker 17>I am so good good?

0:26:41.480 --> 0:26:43.720
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, from like when I last saw you, I'm doing

0:26:43.720 --> 0:26:44.320
<v Speaker 5>a lot better.

0:26:45.119 --> 0:26:46.440
<v Speaker 18>What's going on with your acts?

0:26:47.400 --> 0:26:50.600
<v Speaker 5>He is out and he is staying with his mom.

0:26:51.800 --> 0:26:57.760
<v Speaker 5>He also has a new girlfriend who has three children. Wow,

0:26:58.400 --> 0:27:04.200
<v Speaker 5>that's a that's a lot, right, that's a lot. Yeah,

0:27:04.560 --> 0:27:09.080
<v Speaker 5>So the interactions we have are usually between like his

0:27:09.200 --> 0:27:16.160
<v Speaker 5>mom post grandma, and it's weird and super uncomfortable.

0:27:16.520 --> 0:27:19.160
<v Speaker 18>What's happening with custody.

0:27:19.280 --> 0:27:22.800
<v Speaker 5>I have full custody of her. He has no desire

0:27:23.080 --> 0:27:26.040
<v Speaker 5>to have full custody of her. He doesn't want to

0:27:26.080 --> 0:27:28.760
<v Speaker 5>be a full time dad, nor does he think that

0:27:28.800 --> 0:27:32.080
<v Speaker 5>I'm a bad mom. So he got to see Sophie

0:27:32.359 --> 0:27:34.960
<v Speaker 5>and now basically he's off my back.

0:27:35.600 --> 0:27:38.320
<v Speaker 4>Michael asked Mandy for visitation as soon as she had.

0:27:38.240 --> 0:27:40.600
<v Speaker 5>Gotten out of prison and was in the halfway house.

0:27:40.600 --> 0:27:42.159
<v Speaker 5>He was making it sound like as soon as he

0:27:42.240 --> 0:27:45.439
<v Speaker 5>was out of the halfway house, he's done, Like I

0:27:45.480 --> 0:27:45.879
<v Speaker 5>served my.

0:27:46.040 --> 0:27:49.920
<v Speaker 4>Time for a mother. It's an agonizing situation.

0:27:51.680 --> 0:27:53.879
<v Speaker 5>It's something that I battle with all of the time.

0:27:54.560 --> 0:27:57.199
<v Speaker 5>Do I keep her from seeing him because of what

0:27:57.280 --> 0:28:00.720
<v Speaker 5>he did? All these questions like what is right? And

0:28:00.760 --> 0:28:04.320
<v Speaker 5>I wish that somebody could just tell me, Mandy, like

0:28:04.480 --> 0:28:06.760
<v Speaker 5>this is what you need to do, and this is

0:28:06.800 --> 0:28:09.040
<v Speaker 5>what's right, and this is what's safe, and this is

0:28:09.080 --> 0:28:12.879
<v Speaker 5>what's good. But nobody tells me that, Like there's nobody

0:28:12.920 --> 0:28:14.919
<v Speaker 5>that's going to sit down and tell me that I feel.

0:28:15.640 --> 0:28:19.200
<v Speaker 5>So I just do what I think is right and

0:28:19.240 --> 0:28:21.760
<v Speaker 5>what I feel like is safe for so and what's

0:28:21.760 --> 0:28:22.280
<v Speaker 5>safe for me?

0:28:23.359 --> 0:28:26.159
<v Speaker 18>That's me angry that you guys don't have something to measure,

0:28:26.720 --> 0:28:27.400
<v Speaker 18>do you know what I mean?

0:28:27.880 --> 0:28:30.240
<v Speaker 5>I know, I wish there was a manual. I wish

0:28:30.320 --> 0:28:33.560
<v Speaker 5>I could read and like make sense of like how

0:28:33.600 --> 0:28:36.440
<v Speaker 5>I don't know. I don't know. And the only way

0:28:36.440 --> 0:28:38.920
<v Speaker 5>that I can treat it is like a child when

0:28:38.960 --> 0:28:41.520
<v Speaker 5>he's around my child, he needs to be supervised like

0:28:41.560 --> 0:28:45.000
<v Speaker 5>a child. That's just that, and I feel safe when

0:28:45.040 --> 0:28:48.680
<v Speaker 5>that's happening. I mean, I trust his family entirely, you know,

0:28:48.840 --> 0:28:51.560
<v Speaker 5>I just don't trust him, and then that also makes

0:28:51.600 --> 0:28:53.840
<v Speaker 5>me like start questioning other things, and if I think

0:28:53.880 --> 0:28:56.080
<v Speaker 5>too much about it, then I'm like in full blown

0:28:56.120 --> 0:28:59.920
<v Speaker 5>panic attack. So I try to just be like, Okay,

0:29:00.120 --> 0:29:03.960
<v Speaker 5>there's so many adults there. We're fine. It's fine. She's

0:29:04.200 --> 0:29:07.480
<v Speaker 5>she's safe, she's happy. I know she's safe. That he

0:29:07.520 --> 0:29:09.920
<v Speaker 5>doesn't get to have sleepovers with her, and he won't

0:29:10.000 --> 0:29:13.080
<v Speaker 5>and he doesn't try.

0:29:13.120 --> 0:29:15.640
<v Speaker 18>Have you seen any change in his behavior.

0:29:16.080 --> 0:29:20.080
<v Speaker 5>He's doing great, obviously. He has a new girlfriend in

0:29:20.200 --> 0:29:24.040
<v Speaker 5>New life, and I get to meet her, which is awesome.

0:29:24.160 --> 0:29:27.280
<v Speaker 5>I'm super excited to meet her, and conversations with her.

0:29:28.320 --> 0:29:30.600
<v Speaker 18>Sounds like their kas on how did that actually make

0:29:30.600 --> 0:29:31.000
<v Speaker 18>you feel?

0:29:31.880 --> 0:29:35.640
<v Speaker 5>I'm horrified for her. I've asked him point blank many times,

0:29:35.680 --> 0:29:38.800
<v Speaker 5>like does she know, like she has three girls? Does

0:29:38.880 --> 0:29:41.520
<v Speaker 5>she know? And he says that she does.

0:29:41.920 --> 0:29:43.760
<v Speaker 18>Isn't he on the secondfender list?

0:29:43.800 --> 0:29:44.000
<v Speaker 17>Now?

0:29:44.600 --> 0:29:44.880
<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

0:29:45.840 --> 0:29:47.520
<v Speaker 17>Yeah?

0:29:47.640 --> 0:29:49.440
<v Speaker 5>So I don't know. I don't know if she knows.

0:29:50.320 --> 0:29:53.760
<v Speaker 5>It's not coming from a source of jealousy or anger

0:29:54.080 --> 0:29:57.480
<v Speaker 5>or like upset. I'm not trying to harm or hinder

0:29:57.760 --> 0:30:00.400
<v Speaker 5>him from having his life, but that the same time,

0:30:00.440 --> 0:30:04.120
<v Speaker 5>I'm feeling this obligation of some sort and like, how

0:30:04.240 --> 0:30:05.560
<v Speaker 5>much of it is my place?

0:30:05.680 --> 0:30:05.840
<v Speaker 1>Right?

0:30:06.280 --> 0:30:07.840
<v Speaker 5>Because she's charming as fuck?

0:30:08.960 --> 0:30:10.880
<v Speaker 18>Are you just taking it day by day?

0:30:11.280 --> 0:30:14.000
<v Speaker 5>Or oh girl, that's like literally all I can ever do.

0:30:14.480 --> 0:30:18.640
<v Speaker 18>If you could say one thing to the Mandy that

0:30:18.960 --> 0:30:20.960
<v Speaker 18>just found out this news at were what would you

0:30:21.000 --> 0:30:21.480
<v Speaker 18>say to her?

0:30:23.840 --> 0:30:27.240
<v Speaker 17>I would just hug her for a really long time.

0:30:27.800 --> 0:30:29.120
<v Speaker 17>I would just tell her that I was going to

0:30:29.160 --> 0:30:32.480
<v Speaker 17>be okay, that no matter what, it was going to

0:30:32.560 --> 0:30:35.640
<v Speaker 17>be okay, because that's all she just needed to hug.

0:30:36.360 --> 0:30:41.400
<v Speaker 17>Just yeah, Because there's nothing you can do about any

0:30:41.560 --> 0:30:44.000
<v Speaker 17>you can't change any of it, and there's going to

0:30:44.040 --> 0:30:47.880
<v Speaker 17>be so many hard days, so many, so many. I

0:30:47.920 --> 0:30:49.280
<v Speaker 17>didn't think that I was going to be able to

0:30:49.280 --> 0:30:51.360
<v Speaker 17>get through, but.

0:30:52.960 --> 0:30:53.640
<v Speaker 18>I hear you are.

0:30:54.400 --> 0:30:56.760
<v Speaker 17>Yeah.

0:30:57.440 --> 0:31:00.479
<v Speaker 1>Just about when we've wrapped up this episode, heard from Mandy.

0:31:00.920 --> 0:31:03.240
<v Speaker 1>She had an update about visitation with her daughter.

0:31:04.200 --> 0:31:07.200
<v Speaker 5>Last time we had talked, you had asked me if

0:31:07.240 --> 0:31:10.080
<v Speaker 5>I had heard from the probation officers, and up to

0:31:10.120 --> 0:31:13.640
<v Speaker 5>that point I had not heard anything. So it was

0:31:13.840 --> 0:31:18.600
<v Speaker 5>maybe a week after we had talked last I got

0:31:18.600 --> 0:31:21.840
<v Speaker 5>a message from Mike and he was like, hey, when

0:31:21.880 --> 0:31:25.000
<v Speaker 5>Sophie was here last time she had hung out with

0:31:25.320 --> 0:31:27.960
<v Speaker 5>Mike's mom. They had went back to the house and

0:31:28.080 --> 0:31:31.320
<v Speaker 5>Mike was there with her and Fran was there, which

0:31:31.400 --> 0:31:33.720
<v Speaker 5>was you know, like, as long as there's another adult,

0:31:34.000 --> 0:31:35.280
<v Speaker 5>I felt fine with that.

0:31:35.840 --> 0:31:40.000
<v Speaker 1>Fran is her daughter's grandmother and Mike's mother. Mandy wants

0:31:40.000 --> 0:31:42.440
<v Speaker 1>her daughter to spend time with Fran and trust her

0:31:42.480 --> 0:31:44.240
<v Speaker 1>to supervise visits with Michael.

0:31:44.960 --> 0:31:48.600
<v Speaker 5>But I guess his probation officer had showed up during

0:31:48.640 --> 0:31:50.880
<v Speaker 5>that point to like do a check it or job.

0:31:50.960 --> 0:31:53.120
<v Speaker 5>So she called me and she's like, he can't even

0:31:53.120 --> 0:31:59.080
<v Speaker 5>be around Sophia until his therapist approves it. So I

0:31:59.160 --> 0:32:01.360
<v Speaker 5>was just super fresh because I'm like, I'm trying to

0:32:01.400 --> 0:32:04.640
<v Speaker 5>do everything right and like safe, and I don't know

0:32:04.680 --> 0:32:08.480
<v Speaker 5>if he knew and isn't telling me. I feel like

0:32:08.760 --> 0:32:13.040
<v Speaker 5>he's not being honest. After I got off the phone

0:32:13.040 --> 0:32:14.960
<v Speaker 5>with her, I called him right back and I was like,

0:32:15.480 --> 0:32:17.840
<v Speaker 5>you have to know. This is part of your probation

0:32:17.920 --> 0:32:19.480
<v Speaker 5>and stuff. You have to know these things.

0:32:19.840 --> 0:32:23.320
<v Speaker 18>It's insane to me that he doesn't know that he

0:32:23.360 --> 0:32:24.520
<v Speaker 18>can't be around children.

0:32:25.280 --> 0:32:27.640
<v Speaker 5>Well, that's the thing, isn't asking her? I was like,

0:32:27.720 --> 0:32:30.280
<v Speaker 5>did he know this or is this something that you

0:32:30.320 --> 0:32:33.320
<v Speaker 5>guys just decided And she was like, well, you know,

0:32:33.440 --> 0:32:36.600
<v Speaker 5>there's just requirements like she would not give me. I'm like, yeah,

0:32:36.600 --> 0:32:40.080
<v Speaker 5>I under that, and she was like, yeah, that works

0:32:40.160 --> 0:32:41.160
<v Speaker 5>up with this therapist.

0:32:41.280 --> 0:32:46.960
<v Speaker 18>So for a point of clarity, the probation officer told

0:32:47.280 --> 0:32:52.600
<v Speaker 18>you that Mike can't even be around your daughter, not

0:32:52.680 --> 0:32:54.320
<v Speaker 18>even supervised visits.

0:32:54.640 --> 0:32:58.360
<v Speaker 5>No, no, not yet, not until you've reached this point

0:32:58.400 --> 0:33:01.480
<v Speaker 5>with his therapist and not sure how often they meet.

0:33:01.520 --> 0:33:03.600
<v Speaker 5>I know that that's part of his probation as well.

0:33:03.640 --> 0:33:07.880
<v Speaker 5>But whenever she gets to the point where she feels

0:33:07.920 --> 0:33:10.520
<v Speaker 5>that's copathetic, so I have to talk to her therap

0:33:10.640 --> 0:33:12.880
<v Speaker 5>like that, I'd have to talk to them. I was

0:33:12.920 --> 0:33:14.760
<v Speaker 5>just talking to the probation officer and she said she

0:33:14.800 --> 0:33:16.360
<v Speaker 5>would keep me informed.

0:33:16.960 --> 0:33:21.040
<v Speaker 1>You can understand Mandy's frustration. She's trying to protect her

0:33:21.120 --> 0:33:25.680
<v Speaker 1>daughter and she can't trust her ex husband. It feels

0:33:26.040 --> 0:33:30.680
<v Speaker 1>like another betrayal. And let's face it, spouses aren't viewed

0:33:30.680 --> 0:33:33.160
<v Speaker 1>as victims by the law, but the weight of the

0:33:33.200 --> 0:33:38.320
<v Speaker 1>world is on them to continue to protect their kids.

0:33:40.080 --> 0:33:42.959
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to look into this for Mandy. What's the

0:33:43.000 --> 0:33:45.920
<v Speaker 1>process to find out what your ex husband, a convicted

0:33:45.920 --> 0:33:49.400
<v Speaker 1>FELA can and can't do. So our team did some

0:33:49.440 --> 0:33:52.120
<v Speaker 1>research and talked with the people who work on probation

0:33:52.240 --> 0:33:56.240
<v Speaker 1>supervision in Utah, and it took some time. If you're

0:33:56.280 --> 0:33:58.920
<v Speaker 1>not a lawyer or aren't familiar with the court system,

0:33:59.440 --> 0:34:02.080
<v Speaker 1>it's overwhelm and it's hard to know where you can

0:34:02.120 --> 0:34:03.400
<v Speaker 1>access all this information.

0:34:05.440 --> 0:34:06.360
<v Speaker 4>Here's what we learned.

0:34:07.200 --> 0:34:10.680
<v Speaker 1>Anyone could obtain the parameters of an offender's release by

0:34:10.719 --> 0:34:13.759
<v Speaker 1>requesting the sentencing document from the clerk of the court.

0:34:14.160 --> 0:34:16.600
<v Speaker 1>The forums are online, but there is a charge for

0:34:16.640 --> 0:34:20.560
<v Speaker 1>the copy. According to the US Court's Probation and pre

0:34:20.640 --> 0:34:25.080
<v Speaker 1>Trial Services District of Utah, the defendant, Michael Gibbs is

0:34:25.200 --> 0:34:28.839
<v Speaker 1>restricted from contact with individuals who are under eighteen years

0:34:28.880 --> 0:34:34.600
<v Speaker 1>of age without adult supervision, and the probation office approves

0:34:34.640 --> 0:34:39.160
<v Speaker 1>a supervisor. The treatment provider, that is, whoever is providing

0:34:39.160 --> 0:34:43.160
<v Speaker 1>mental health treatment the therapy that Mandy referred to must

0:34:43.200 --> 0:34:44.879
<v Speaker 1>also approve the choice.

0:34:44.560 --> 0:34:45.399
<v Speaker 4>Of a supervisor.

0:34:46.440 --> 0:34:49.680
<v Speaker 1>At the time of me taping this podcast, no one

0:34:49.719 --> 0:34:52.520
<v Speaker 1>had been approved as a supervisor for Michael to have

0:34:52.640 --> 0:34:58.239
<v Speaker 1>visitation with a minor child. On the next episode of

0:34:58.239 --> 0:35:01.920
<v Speaker 1>a trial, I just bald and broke down and told her.

0:35:02.120 --> 0:35:06.160
<v Speaker 1>She said, if you don't report this, I'm gonna report this,

0:35:06.960 --> 0:35:09.759
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, oh fuck, it's go time.

0:35:17.160 --> 0:35:17.839
<v Speaker 4>If you would like.

0:35:17.800 --> 0:35:19.839
<v Speaker 1>To reach out to the Betrayal Team, email us at

0:35:19.840 --> 0:35:23.680
<v Speaker 1>Betrayal Pod at gmail dot com. That's Betrayal Pod at

0:35:23.719 --> 0:35:24.920
<v Speaker 1>gmail dot com.

0:35:25.280 --> 0:35:26.000
<v Speaker 4>To report a.

0:35:26.000 --> 0:35:29.279
<v Speaker 1>Case of child sexual exploitation, called the National Center for

0:35:29.360 --> 0:35:33.000
<v Speaker 1>Missing and Exploited Children's cyber Tipline at one eight hundred

0:35:33.440 --> 0:35:34.000
<v Speaker 1>the Lost.

0:35:34.640 --> 0:35:37.000
<v Speaker 4>If you or someone you know is worried about.

0:35:36.760 --> 0:35:40.000
<v Speaker 1>Their sexual thoughts and feelings towards children, reach out to

0:35:40.040 --> 0:35:41.239
<v Speaker 1>Stop It Now dot org.

0:35:41.719 --> 0:35:43.799
<v Speaker 4>In the United Kingdom, go to Stop it Now dot

0:35:43.920 --> 0:35:47.040
<v Speaker 4>org dot UK. These organizations can help.

0:35:47.880 --> 0:35:50.279
<v Speaker 1>Are grateful for your support, and one way to show

0:35:50.320 --> 0:35:53.120
<v Speaker 1>support is by subscribing to our show on Apple Podcasts

0:35:53.400 --> 0:35:56.279
<v Speaker 1>and don't forget to rate and review Betrayal. Five star

0:35:56.360 --> 0:35:59.120
<v Speaker 1>reviews go a long way. A big thank you to

0:35:59.280 --> 0:36:01.920
<v Speaker 1>all of our listeners. The Trail is a production of

0:36:01.960 --> 0:36:05.320
<v Speaker 1>Glass Podcasts, a division of Glass Entertainment Group and partnership

0:36:05.360 --> 0:36:08.760
<v Speaker 1>with iHeart Podcasts. The show was executive produced by Nancy

0:36:08.760 --> 0:36:12.560
<v Speaker 1>Glass and Jennifer Fason, hosted and produced by me Andrea Gunning,

0:36:12.920 --> 0:36:16.640
<v Speaker 1>written and produced by Kerry Hartman, also produced by Ben Fetterman,

0:36:17.120 --> 0:36:21.799
<v Speaker 1>Associate producer Kristin Melcurie. Our iHeart teams, Ali Perry and

0:36:21.880 --> 0:36:25.960
<v Speaker 1>Jessica Kriintech. Special thanks to our talent Ashley Linton, Alan

0:36:26.040 --> 0:36:29.200
<v Speaker 1>White and the Utah KAC task Force, and special thanks

0:36:29.200 --> 0:36:33.240
<v Speaker 1>to Mandy Hale and production assistant Tessa Shields. Audio editing

0:36:33.280 --> 0:36:37.280
<v Speaker 1>and mixing by Matt Alvecchio. Trail's theme composed by Oliver Bains.

0:36:37.760 --> 0:36:41.240
<v Speaker 1>Music library provided by my Music and For more podcasts

0:36:41.280 --> 0:36:44.640
<v Speaker 1>from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever

0:36:44.680 --> 0:36:45.799
<v Speaker 1>you get your podcasts.