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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio,

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning.

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Speaker 2: Podcasts Hello Everybody was scrubbing In Gangs All here again?

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Speaker 3: Hello, Hello everybody. Sorry for making you wait today.

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Speaker 1: What happened?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, I have a little bit of an issue

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Speaker 3: that beca I don't know if Becca wants me to

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Speaker 3: talk about it. Do you want me to talk about it?

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Speaker 2: No, I don't. We can talk about it.

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Speaker 4: I was just I wasn't going to go into how

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Speaker 4: I have the same issue, but I just so you know,

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Speaker 4: people relate solidarity.

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Speaker 3: So I normally what I do before the podcast, since

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Speaker 3: like since we've been in quarantine, I need and I

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Speaker 3: don't have human interaction. I get like a little tired

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Speaker 3: in the afternoon, so I go for my runs before

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Speaker 3: we do the podcast. But I give myself an hour

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Speaker 3: and a half so that I can run for an

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Speaker 3: ready in time. Right, So I'm on my run today

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Speaker 3: and I get this like gnarly pain in my stomach

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Speaker 3: to the point where I was like I might have

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Speaker 3: to sit on the sidewalk, and like I was kind

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Speaker 3: of scared for a moment because it was just like

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Speaker 3: excruciating pain, and I'm on my period, and so I

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Speaker 3: thought maybe it was cramps, but I'm like on my

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Speaker 3: third day, so I didn't feel like cramps. So I

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Speaker 3: walk back home. I couldn't even finish running, and I'm

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Speaker 3: like a little bit panicked, and I like sit down

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Speaker 3: on the toilet, and it's just like Mayhem, like.

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Speaker 1: Mayhem mayhem description.

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Speaker 3: So because listen, So the last two nights, I you know,

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Speaker 3: you guys all know I have like constipation issues, but

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Speaker 3: when Red Star is around, it's even worse. And the

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Speaker 3: last two nights, he brought me like a burger on

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Speaker 3: the first day of my period, because I like, I

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Speaker 3: always need, like I crave red meat when I'm on

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Speaker 3: my period, so he brought me a burger, which is

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Speaker 3: very out of my usual like diet. And then last

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Speaker 3: night we made sushi and drink sake and like all

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Speaker 3: this stuff, and so I think my body and then

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Speaker 3: so he left this morning, and so I think my

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Speaker 2: Like it's time.

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Speaker 3: But I have never experienced anything like that. I was

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. I feel like I made you guys

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Speaker 3: wait an extra ten minutes. But I was just like

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Speaker 3: I could not pull it together, like I was not.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that sounds like a lactose reaction. It's not a

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Speaker 1: lactose reaction.

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Speaker 3: I'm trying to think if I had some. I don't

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Speaker 3: think I had lactose last.

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Speaker 1: Night or this morning.

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Speaker 3: No, uh I.

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Speaker 4: The only reason I immediately asked, like, are you on

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Speaker 4: little bit just like the stomach does not feel great.

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Speaker 4: But after you talked about that, y'all drank a lot

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Speaker 4: and you ate sushi, and also that you hadn't gone

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Speaker 4: because of you know, stage fright, that makes more sense

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Speaker 2: I think that more so what it is.

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Speaker 3: I don't know where it came from, but I have

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Speaker 3: hondo p right now. I'm probably like probably nine to five.

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Speaker 1: You going to say that I don't like equating.

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's true, that's true. If I'm being honest, I'm

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Speaker 3: probably like seventy five percent right now. But but I'm here,

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Speaker 3: and I apologize for being late. I was just like

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: It's okay.

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Speaker 4: One time I won't say which friend this is, because

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Speaker 4: you know, she's not here to defend herself or give

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Speaker 4: me permission to share this story.

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Speaker 2: But we were on a walk and all of a sudden,

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Speaker 2: she was like, I gotta go home, and she's like,

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Speaker 2: is that you have three bathrooms in your place.

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Speaker 3: I know, but it's just it's not like there're three

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Speaker 2: What's downstairs?

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Speaker 3: You can hear everything because my bedroom's on top of it.

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Speaker 3: Put some No, I'm telling you. You can hear everything

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Speaker 4: So when I first started nine, started dating ninety five

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Speaker 2: Just had to. And then it was just like I

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Speaker 3: I know. It's really a double edged sword, you know,

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Speaker 2: And then guys just don't care. They're like, I gotta

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Speaker 3: He always just just like gotta go to the bathroom.

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Speaker 3: And I'm just like lucky, you you.

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Speaker 1: Know, like, can't we get over that. It's twenty twenty

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Speaker 1: modern women like, yeah, we don't care, and you know

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Speaker 3: It's not even that, it's like I physically can't. It's

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Speaker 3: like it's not right. Yeah, it's like I physically can't

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Speaker 3: do it. It's not like and he knows, like I

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Speaker 1: That's also weird.

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Speaker 3: And it's not even around him. It's like I can't

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Speaker 2: So right, yeah, I mean, yeah, my chambers are locked

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Speaker 2: So we can move on from that talk. The talk

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Speaker 2: is recovering from uh mayhem, just a night eating fresh

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Speaker 3: I gotta tell you, though, that was such a cute

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Speaker 3: date night. And I was always so nervous because I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to do it. It looked really fun.

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Speaker 4: I've always wanted to do it too, but I think

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Speaker 4: I've been intimidated by it as well.

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Speaker 3: Don't be intimidated because it's so easy, to the point

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Speaker 5: Okay, oh wow, she's coughing now.

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Speaker 4: I was a little It's funny because you are so

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Speaker 2: Does is like the greatest, hottest thing ever. And so

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Speaker 2: I was laughing when you were like, is it weird

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Speaker 2: cutting tuna, and I was like, yeah.

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Speaker 3: You guys, I'm telling you the way that he honored

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Speaker 3: that sashimi by cutting it so nice and thin and like.

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Speaker 2: Honored, honored.

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Speaker 3: I was watching him cut it, and I just in

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Speaker 3: my head was like, I'm weirdly turned on by this, Yeah, well,

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Speaker 4: Hate to say that might fade away that that hole.

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Speaker 6: I know you've gotten a lot of comments on how

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Speaker 6: But something else I noticed about his cutting. I just

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Speaker 6: learned this. When you're cutting like that closely, you have

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Speaker 6: Jeff Tubbs, and he was telling me about it cut. Uh,

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Speaker 6: you gotta use your knuckle to push it for it

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Speaker 6: watching Red Stars Technique and I was so impressed, and

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Speaker 6: that made me feel some type of way. Thank you

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Speaker 6: to see I understand it.

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Speaker 3: I appreciate that because I got so many comments from

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Speaker 3: it's more so?

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Speaker 4: It wasn't so much that the fish. It's more like

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like the manliness and just like the like

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Speaker 2: Guess they're manly, but they're like very well cut.

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Speaker 4: They're not manly in the sense where there's like, you know,

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Speaker 3: Let me tell you something, if his hands were dirty

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Speaker 2: same way. Hands are. Hands are. I never realized how

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Speaker 2: they're like how they're cut. Yes, which I shouldn't be

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Speaker 3: Embarrassing, embarrassing but clean.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they're very clean, dry from being so clean, truly. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So the other day, on that Ryan Seacrest radio program,

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Speaker 1: Sicany gave Tanya a bunch of date ideas, a couple

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Speaker 1: of which I thought were really cute ideas. One was

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Speaker 1: that you go drive around your old neighborhoods together. Those

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Speaker 1: salamados and show him the high school and show him

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Speaker 1: he used to hang out. I thought that was a

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Speaker 1: neat idea. Have you tried any of Sicany's ideas?

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Speaker 3: I did one she did like a movie night where

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Speaker 3: you each show each other like something that's impactful to you.

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Speaker 3: And so the other night when we had burgers, I

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Speaker 3: showed him the first episode of Grey's Anatomy. He actually

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, it's a great pilot.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. He was like, I see why

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Speaker 3: you're like, why you're into this show. He's like, it's good,

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Speaker 3: it is good. And then he showed me back to

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Speaker 3: the future. I've never seen himack to the future before.

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Speaker 1: That's so funny. We watched that with my daughter's last

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Speaker 1: weekend on our Friday night movie night we do every week.

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Speaker 3: Oh random, did they like it?

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Speaker 1: They loved it? Did you like it?

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Speaker 3: I actually did? I mean, for like an old movie.

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Speaker 3: It's top notch's.

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Speaker 6: Favorite old time. I have a poster of it all

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Speaker 6: my wall in my office right here. It's and there's

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Speaker 6: parts of it that are problematic, but man, it's a

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Speaker 6: good movie. Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: Tanya doesn't seem like she loved it. She seems like

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Speaker 3: I mean seven out of ten?

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Speaker 6: What's your problem with it?

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Speaker 3: It's just it's fine, Like there's no problem. It was

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Speaker 3: just like it was good.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and boy are they strong.

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Speaker 3: You, because I think that there's just a lot in

444
00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:31,080
Speaker 3: like he's going through a lot in I don't know,

445
00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:33,000
Speaker 3: in his head, and so I just have to just

446
00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:35,080
Speaker 3: like respect the pace that he's at, you know what

447
00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:37,200
Speaker 3: I mean, So like.

448
00:21:37,160 --> 00:21:40,080
Speaker 2: The respect the pace at which he puts objects in

449
00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:41,800
Speaker 2: the drawer right.

450
00:21:44,040 --> 00:21:47,880
Speaker 3: Right, I was like picking up with your thrown down.

451
00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:49,600
Speaker 1: You know.

452
00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:51,840
Speaker 6: I was thinking about your drawer the other day and

453
00:21:51,920 --> 00:21:55,560
Speaker 6: I wanted to I just wanted to say, like, I

454
00:21:55,560 --> 00:21:58,280
Speaker 6: don't know what's going on. I mean, it sounds like

455
00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:00,960
Speaker 6: he told you what what's going on. But like when

456
00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:03,440
Speaker 6: Alison and I before we were living together, she gave

457
00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:06,000
Speaker 6: me a drawer at her place, and I didn't put

458
00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:09,119
Speaker 6: a single lot amn thing in there. Every single I

459
00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:11,119
Speaker 6: would stay at her house almost every night, and every

460
00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:13,360
Speaker 6: single night I would go to like I would get

461
00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:15,560
Speaker 6: off work, I'd go to my apartment and I would

462
00:22:15,560 --> 00:22:17,480
Speaker 6: get a change of clothes for the next day, and

463
00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:19,479
Speaker 6: then I would go to her house and say, and

464
00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:22,520
Speaker 6: like I never like brought stuff over there just because

465
00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 6: I didn't want to. I'm like, then I'd have to

466
00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:27,280
Speaker 6: like think about what I'm gonna wear, you know, when

467
00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:29,240
Speaker 6: I'm over there, and I like to take it a

468
00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:32,959
Speaker 6: day at a time, too fresh and stuff like that.

469
00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:35,120
Speaker 6: I kept all that stuff in there, no problem.

470
00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:37,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that stuffs here.

471
00:22:37,040 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 6: You know, the clothing drawer. Yeah, and it just sat

472
00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:42,480
Speaker 6: empty until then one day we were married, and then it.

473
00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:47,720
Speaker 4: Was so there you go, I had I had to

474
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:49,840
Speaker 4: speak at just this kind of takes it back to

475
00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:51,919
Speaker 4: the I love you thing. But I had a friend

476
00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 4: who when she started dating her now husband, they had

477
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:57,240
Speaker 4: talked about saying I love you, I guess at a

478
00:22:57,280 --> 00:22:59,080
Speaker 4: certain point, and he said that he didn't want to

479
00:22:59,119 --> 00:22:59,920
Speaker 4: say that again.

480
00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:01,119
Speaker 2: To some until he proposed.

481
00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:05,959
Speaker 4: So I think she waited I think a year, maybe longer,

482
00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:09,880
Speaker 4: and I think that's how he told her he loved

483
00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:12,080
Speaker 4: hers when he proposed, but like she knew that he

484
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:14,159
Speaker 4: felt that way, but it was just like the words

485
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:16,920
Speaker 4: when he wanted to say them came when he said,

486
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 4: like I want to spend my.

487
00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:18,320
Speaker 2: Life with you.

488
00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:20,720
Speaker 6: That would be wild if you proposed and you hadn't

489
00:23:20,760 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 6: said it yet.

490
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:23,840
Speaker 3: Like that's actually kind of beautiful.

491
00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:27,520
Speaker 4: I mean it is, but like being a girl if

492
00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:29,280
Speaker 4: you are just I mean, I guess being anybody.

493
00:23:29,280 --> 00:23:31,840
Speaker 2: But if someone told you that it would be at

494
00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:37,040
Speaker 2: least you would know, Okay, he really really means it, says.

495
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:43,720
Speaker 4: There's no question, but I would be just like taping

496
00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 4: the table.

497
00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:46,960
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah.

498
00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:49,359
Speaker 6: I wonder if there's a couple that has married and

499
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:51,240
Speaker 6: has been for years and have never said I love you.

500
00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:53,160
Speaker 1: I wonder if they're out there must be right.

501
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:56,879
Speaker 3: I just think, like I think also, I have to

502
00:23:56,960 --> 00:24:01,399
Speaker 3: kind of uh, I kind of tend to get a

503
00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:03,880
Speaker 3: little like I'm a hopeless romantic, so I get all

504
00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:05,399
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, and I think it's actually

505
00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:08,480
Speaker 3: kind of nice that he is, you know, there's no

506
00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:14,439
Speaker 3: rush for anything, like it's everything's good, We're good. It

507
00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:16,760
Speaker 3: feels really good. So I'm just trying to.

508
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:23,480
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, and not overthink it, right, because that can

509
00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 1: be conflicting, like, oh, it's nice that it's taking its

510
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:28,120
Speaker 1: own pace, but then in the back of your mind

511
00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:31,840
Speaker 1: you're like, why isn't he in the same rush that

512
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:34,560
Speaker 1: I am and as excited as I am? Right? Do

513
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:35,920
Speaker 1: you go through that really? Yeah?

514
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:38,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, I kind of get like, of course I get

515
00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:42,159
Speaker 3: in my head about it, but it's like he's a

516
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:44,480
Speaker 3: totally different person than I am, you know what I mean.

517
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:47,920
Speaker 3: He processes emotions differently than I do. He's gone through

518
00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:52,479
Speaker 3: a lot more in life than I have, and so

519
00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:55,400
Speaker 3: I kind of just have to like know that he's

520
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:59,040
Speaker 3: just a totally different person than I am. So yeah,

521
00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,359
Speaker 3: I definitely get in my head about it sometimes. But

522
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,879
Speaker 3: then I also I'm just like, that's such a silly

523
00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:05,119
Speaker 3: thing to get in my head about, you know what

524
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:07,639
Speaker 3: I mean when it feels so good and it feels

525
00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:10,440
Speaker 3: so right, like I just need to just but also think.

526
00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:12,640
Speaker 1: About all the solitude and everything in the free time.

527
00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:14,639
Speaker 1: I'm guessing it also creeps in more often than it

528
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:15,240
Speaker 1: normally would.

529
00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:17,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I also I guess sometimes I think back

530
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 3: on it, I'm like, we've only been like boyfriend girlfriends

531
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:21,960
Speaker 3: since the end of January.

532
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:24,640
Speaker 1: Okay, that's still a long time.

533
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:25,920
Speaker 3: Is it a long time?

534
00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 2: In March April May? Four months?

535
00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:33,080
Speaker 3: Four months? Is it a long time?

536
00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 1: Well, it depends on what you're saying.

537
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:41,840
Speaker 2: I mean, we said it in like two weeks.

538
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:48,000
Speaker 1: No, Well, think about this February. I think February first

539
00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 1: was our live show in LA wasn't it.

540
00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:53,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, February thirteenth.

541
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:55,880
Speaker 1: So then February first must have been the San Francisco one. Yeah,

542
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 1: that seems like a long time ago to me.

543
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:01,560
Speaker 4: It does have what we've been in our houses for

544
00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:05,960
Speaker 4: three months, however, long listen. I don't think there's like

545
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:09,640
Speaker 4: I I personally am. I've always said, I don't think

546
00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 4: there's like a time frame of what's right and what's

547
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:17,560
Speaker 4: wrong for everyone's going to be different. And your situation

548
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:22,840
Speaker 4: is it is different because there's other elements that maybe

549
00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 4: things would be different, you know without those situations.

550
00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, what would you so?

551
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 2: I don't know. I would not get in your head

552
00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:34,919
Speaker 2: about it. Don't let Mark stir you up.

553
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:40,160
Speaker 4: He's like, so tell me when you're alone in your

554
00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 4: apartment and it's.

555
00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:45,160
Speaker 3: Dark, what's going through your head?

556
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:48,320
Speaker 2: Do you feel nervous on that? Hey?

557
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:50,320
Speaker 1: I ask a lot of questions, just like somebody else.

558
00:26:50,400 --> 00:26:50,639
Speaker 1: I know.

559
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:52,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, true?

560
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:55,080
Speaker 6: What would you guess is the average days it takes

561
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:57,040
Speaker 6: a man to tell his partner I love you.

562
00:26:57,320 --> 00:26:58,000
Speaker 1: Oh this is good?

563
00:26:58,720 --> 00:26:59,439
Speaker 3: There's an average?

564
00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 1: An average how many days? How many days for a

565
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:04,879
Speaker 1: guy to say it? Yes?

566
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:07,080
Speaker 6: And I have a woman's number two.

567
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 3: I'm going sixty, I'm going one hundred.

568
00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:14,600
Speaker 6: Tany you were the closest. It takes a man an

569
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:17,439
Speaker 6: average of eighty eight days to tell his partner I

570
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:17,840
Speaker 6: love you.

571
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 3: So what is that? What's eighty eight?

572
00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:23,879
Speaker 6: It's just under three months.

573
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:25,840
Speaker 3: Okay, So I'm not that it's not that far off.

574
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,920
Speaker 6: It takes a woman one hundred and thirty four days.

575
00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:35,520
Speaker 6: That's that's I mean, you know, I don't want to

576
00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 6: be like to go in gender over here, but I

577
00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 6: feel like women are more inclined to say it sooner.

578
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:41,119
Speaker 6: Is that is that wrong?

579
00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:44,399
Speaker 4: I think women are more inclined to feel it sooner.

580
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 4: Oh but I say women are always waiting for the man.

581
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:48,840
Speaker 2: You know.

582
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:50,800
Speaker 4: It's a whole thing of like wanting the guy to

583
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:54,680
Speaker 4: say it first because we need to feel safe.

584
00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:57,360
Speaker 6: About forty percent of men say I love you within

585
00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 6: the first month of dating someone.

586
00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:02,479
Speaker 3: That's a big person.

587
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 6: It's almost half.

588
00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 4: Love is like a drug, you know, like if you

589
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:11,720
Speaker 4: are just if you just let yourself go and say

590
00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 4: and think however you want, things come out that normally

591
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 4: want it when you're not on that high, you know.

592
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:25,920
Speaker 3: So maybe it's good that I haven't said it yet.

593
00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:27,159
Speaker 1: Yeah.

594
00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:30,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, you've been so cool, calm and collected.

595
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:35,920
Speaker 3: That's my middle name, just Tanya, Cool, calm and collected.

596
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:38,400
Speaker 2: Rad Yeah, that's you.

597
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:42,680
Speaker 3: That's me, Wait, I'm stressed.

598
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 2: No, I like I said, I don't think there's anything

599
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 2: to be stressed about.

600
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:51,320
Speaker 4: I think if things are different, that maybe the timing and.

601
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 2: Stuff might be different. But like you said, he's got

602
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:58,600
Speaker 2: a lot on his mind and on his plate, and

603
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:03,760
Speaker 2: so I think it's like kind of your situation's not totally.

604
00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 3: It's also like we're in the middle of a pandemic.

605
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 3: Like it's like everything's so weird right now, you know

606
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:13,360
Speaker 3: what I mean. Like I'm not totally myself, like I'm

607
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,960
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm myself, but I'm like myself and quarantine,

608
00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:17,680
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. Like it's just like weird.

609
00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 3: We're not in our normal groove. Like we're also very

610
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:23,560
Speaker 3: you know, we just started. I mean that our social

611
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 3: distance double day with you was like the first double

612
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:29,520
Speaker 3: date we've been on since the beginning of our relationship,

613
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:31,400
Speaker 3: you know what I like. Yeah, we haven't really done

614
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 3: things at like a normal pace because we can't because

615
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:35,480
Speaker 3: I stay away.

616
00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:38,040
Speaker 4: Things are not normal right now. So I would not

617
00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:41,400
Speaker 4: be head about it. I would not even think twice

618
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 4: about it and just keep doing what you're doing. What

619
00:29:58,520 --> 00:29:59,800
Speaker 4: happened with the lingerie that.

620
00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 2: You sure with your parents.

621
00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 3: So I ordered this like really cute piece of lingerie,

622
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 3: and my billing address is my parent's address because I've like,

623
00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 3: I just kept it on all my like bank statements

624
00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:17,360
Speaker 3: and my license and everything because I like moved to

625
00:30:17,360 --> 00:30:19,280
Speaker 3: Arizona and then Santa Mona, and I've just kind of

626
00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 3: been like moving around, so I just kept it because

627
00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:23,840
Speaker 3: my parents had lived there for like right thirty years

628
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:27,200
Speaker 3: or whatever. But that's always I always have a billing

629
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 3: address and it's always different from my shipping and I

630
00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 3: always do that when I order stuff online for however

631
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:36,560
Speaker 3: many years, like no problem. For some reason, I send

632
00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:41,640
Speaker 3: this Victoria's Secret lingerie to my parents' address and it

633
00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 3: has my name on it, and so normally I don't

634
00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:46,120
Speaker 3: think anybody would open it because they would think But

635
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:49,200
Speaker 3: it just so happened to arrive on my mom's birthday,

636
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 3: and so she thought it was a care gift.

637
00:30:57,720 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 2: That so funny.

638
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:04,480
Speaker 3: My dad was like, did you order your mom lingerie

639
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:09,440
Speaker 3: for her birthday?

640
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 2: I was wondering where that went.

641
00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:13,640
Speaker 3: I was like, it never got here.

642
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:17,240
Speaker 2: Was it like cutesy or it was like sexy?

643
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 3: It was not cutesy but not sexy.

644
00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 2: Okay, So it wasn't like.

645
00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 3: Holding and no, no, it wasn't like.

646
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 1: The picture you said in me looked pretty see through

647
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 1: now that you were wearing it. Just to be clear,

648
00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:35,320
Speaker 1: you weren't wearing it in the picture A picture wow

649
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:36,120
Speaker 1: of it.

650
00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 2: Disclaimer.

651
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 3: Yes, I mean it's very like sexy lingerie. It's not

652
00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:46,840
Speaker 3: like I no, but it's not raunchy. Wasn't like nipple

653
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:51,080
Speaker 3: like spiky neck know, neck ring.

654
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 2: There's a huge like classy sexy lingerie. And then there's

655
00:31:57,440 --> 00:32:02,520
Speaker 2: like I'm gonna like trashy. Yeh. It's like you know,

656
00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:06,760
Speaker 2: boy shorts in a tank if you're just cash.

657
00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:09,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it was. I was just like, of all

658
00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:12,640
Speaker 3: the days for it to come was like on her birthday.

659
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 3: So she opens it and I'm just like, And I

660
00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 3: made the mistake of telling Red Star what color it

661
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:19,680
Speaker 3: was because I was just gonna wear it. He would

662
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:22,600
Speaker 3: have no idea. But now it was white. And so

663
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:24,720
Speaker 3: now if I wear anything white, he's gonna know that,

664
00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 3: like my mom put that over her head or like.

665
00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 2: You know, white lacherie is so bridal.

666
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:33,920
Speaker 3: I know, but I'm so pale that it like weirdly

667
00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:38,040
Speaker 3: looks good nice on me. Oh, so okay, it just

668
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:39,520
Speaker 3: goes with the aesthetic. You know what I mean.

669
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:46,240
Speaker 2: That's interesting. I wouldn't think white would make you. Is

670
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:49,040
Speaker 2: it make you a tan? No?

671
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 3: It makes me look angelic.

672
00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:53,840
Speaker 2: Oh, I feel like he must have told you that

673
00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 2: red Star said I look like an angel, So so.

674
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 3: I'm gonna have to. Like, it's just such such a

675
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:12,720
Speaker 3: cute piece. So I don't want to return it, but

676
00:33:12,760 --> 00:33:14,240
Speaker 3: I think I'm just gonna like give it a beat.

677
00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 3: I just won't try. I just won't wear it for

678
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 3: a while and he'll forget.

679
00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 1: No, it's fine, he doesn't.

680
00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 6: You want to here? Can you see it?

681
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 2: Oh?

682
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:33,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, least it is now screen sharing on zoom, so

683
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 1: back you can see the item.

684
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:38,840
Speaker 3: Is it?

685
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 6: I mean it's white.

686
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, it looks really good. You should actually get it.

687
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:46,480
Speaker 3: I'll send you the link. I have it in red

688
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 3: to it just like cuts so nice. Like it literally

689
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:50,080
Speaker 3: makes you look snatched.

690
00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 2: We love a snatched snatched bondice.

691
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:57,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, we love a snatch situation.

692
00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:58,440
Speaker 1: Okay, we have a title.

693
00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:02,960
Speaker 2: Thank you Easton for that screen share for the visual.

694
00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:05,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's really funny.

695
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:10,839
Speaker 2: I mean that is the most like modest thing they

696
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:11,560
Speaker 2: know about you.

697
00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's true. I feel bad for them sometimes because

698
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't think i'd want to know half

699
00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 3: the things they know about me if I had children, Right.

700
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like not what you hope for to know

701
00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:28,000
Speaker 4: those things like bag plant and stuff, et cetera.

702
00:34:30,040 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 1: Because I'm sure they don't know those things about their

703
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:32,800
Speaker 1: other two children.

704
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:34,880
Speaker 3: Oh for sure not.

705
00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:39,600
Speaker 2: Yeah that is hilarious.

706
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:43,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, so just just another day in the life, you know,

707
00:34:43,560 --> 00:34:44,040
Speaker 3: here we are.

708
00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 4: I've never sent my parents anything that would make me.

709
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 4: I'm pretty careful. I mean, knock on wood, please don't

710
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 4: let this be like a learning experience.

711
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:56,080
Speaker 2: But I'm pretty careful.

712
00:34:57,800 --> 00:34:59,680
Speaker 3: But about those things.

713
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:01,280
Speaker 2: Just like, yeah, if.

714
00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:05,759
Speaker 4: I'm sending anything related to my private life, whether it's

715
00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:10,560
Speaker 4: a text or lingerie, normally go straight.

716
00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:15,040
Speaker 3: To speaking of Guess what I lost again?

717
00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:19,879
Speaker 1: Oh? Your your strapless bra.

718
00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:25,799
Speaker 2: That was a good answer, because she has lost that.

719
00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 1: Yeah you said that in the commercial over and over. Yeah,

720
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 1: thank you.

721
00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 3: No, No, I did not lose that. I lost my

722
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:38,120
Speaker 3: charger for that vibrator again. I had to and now

723
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:40,960
Speaker 3: I have zero. I'm like, how do I keep losing

724
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:43,439
Speaker 3: this flip and charger? About to buy a third one?

725
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 2: You need to look and see if you packed it

726
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:47,080
Speaker 2: in a bag or something.

727
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:48,840
Speaker 3: Where have I gone nowhere?

728
00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:51,200
Speaker 1: That's weird.

729
00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:52,960
Speaker 3: It's weird, right.

730
00:35:54,400 --> 00:36:06,400
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, exact same time, Tonya.

731
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:07,880
Speaker 3: It's so funny.

732
00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:12,560
Speaker 2: I literally I have gotten so many dns about why

733
00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:15,080
Speaker 2: hasn't Tanya shared? Will you please share.

734
00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:17,840
Speaker 3: The I know, but I feel weird posting a link

735
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:20,319
Speaker 3: to a vibrator in the Facebook group, like, I just

736
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 3: can't do it.

737
00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:25,319
Speaker 4: I sent the link to a DM because a girl asked,

738
00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:27,080
Speaker 4: and she kept asking, and I'm like, here you.

739
00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:30,000
Speaker 3: Go, girl, cade welcome.

740
00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 2: Yeah. I've seen people do, like, uh, sponsor things for

741
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 2: sex toys, what do you know, to each their own.

742
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:41,759
Speaker 2: I probably won't do that, but yeah, I mean, you know,

743
00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:44,960
Speaker 2: you gotta spread the wealth. But I agree, it's you

744
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 2: just said that you were going to share it and

745
00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:49,239
Speaker 2: then you did it, so now it's like people are

746
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:51,719
Speaker 2: really wanting it.

747
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:53,799
Speaker 3: Just I went to go put it in there and

748
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:56,400
Speaker 3: I was just like, I literally can't hit post on this.

749
00:36:56,840 --> 00:36:59,839
Speaker 3: It just felt like so weird, you know what I mean,

750
00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:02,719
Speaker 3: especially because it's called what it's called. I was just

751
00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:05,720
Speaker 3: like I can't, I can't, No, I know what it's called.

752
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:09,640
Speaker 3: Can we say it on here?

753
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 1: We'll find out.

754
00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:12,240
Speaker 2: I mean I'm.

755
00:37:12,120 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 3: Sure Satisfire plus a fire Pro.

756
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:23,880
Speaker 2: Pro Satisfire Pro.

757
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:28,719
Speaker 1: I'm so glad you graduated from the Satisfier amateur Satisfire Light.

758
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 6: Yeah light, it's the same way I just had ads on.

759
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:37,479
Speaker 3: God so uh.

760
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:42,279
Speaker 4: Yeah, man, So you're just like Sons both chargers.

761
00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:46,320
Speaker 3: So now I have too Satisfire pros and no charger.

762
00:37:46,960 --> 00:37:48,880
Speaker 6: Wait, when you lose the charger, are you buying a

763
00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:49,840
Speaker 6: whole new device?

764
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, because you can't buy.

765
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:55,800
Speaker 6: A separate Tanya, I will find you a replacement charger.

766
00:37:55,840 --> 00:38:01,440
Speaker 1: Okay, it can't be that unique chargers.

767
00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:02,279
Speaker 6: I'll get your one.

768
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:07,480
Speaker 3: I appreciate it. II that through because I'm like, I

769
00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:10,680
Speaker 3: don't need a third one of these bad boys, and

770
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 3: then one charger for all three, Like I just.

771
00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 4: You've got get You're so organized, you have to be

772
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 4: able to find this.

773
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:18,799
Speaker 3: That's the problem. That's what I've been doing, is I've

774
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:21,200
Speaker 3: been organizing. So I've just been tossing stuff and I think,

775
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:24,279
Speaker 3: I just like, it's such a weird looking charger that

776
00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 3: I think I just probably toss it without thinking, and

777
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:29,240
Speaker 3: it's like throw it away.

778
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:30,839
Speaker 1: Oh it's is it?

779
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:32,120
Speaker 6: Is it a magnetic charger?

780
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 2: Huh?

781
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:35,960
Speaker 6: Oh my goodness, is. I will still find your replacement,

782
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:37,240
Speaker 6: but this will make it more difficult.

783
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:43,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, your card.

784
00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:47,080
Speaker 6: Even listening at home, I found the device in question

785
00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 6: and holding up to the camera.

786
00:38:52,360 --> 00:39:09,759
Speaker 2: Man, should we talk about ninety Dayance?

787
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:11,720
Speaker 3: Sure?

788
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:13,399
Speaker 2: I've never seen watch it?

789
00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 1: Sorry, no, you're not alone because everybody watches that. Everyone's

790
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: talking about it, but I have never I've never seen it.

791
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:19,520
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.

792
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:20,919
Speaker 3: How many seasons is there?

793
00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:23,279
Speaker 2: There's a bunch. I've never watched it before in my life.

794
00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 4: I'm just watching this one because I saw so many

795
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:29,520
Speaker 4: clips on it that I had it piqued my interest.

796
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:34,719
Speaker 6: Wow, is this the one that big end this?

797
00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 2: Yes?

798
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:37,600
Speaker 6: I mean I've seen pictures of him and he's been

799
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:45,720
Speaker 6: on help by Second Dating before. No, yes, I'm not kidding.

800
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 6: It was recently too, if anyone's to go back and listen.

801
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 1: But yeah, like two weeks ago.

802
00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, what dating advice did he get?

803
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:55,200
Speaker 8: He?

804
00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:56,320
Speaker 3: Is this man married?

805
00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:58,200
Speaker 1: I don't understand what is the premise of the show.

806
00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 2: So basically, these people have met there's people in America,

807
00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:08,560
Speaker 2: and then they've met people and talk to them, whether

808
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:12,040
Speaker 2: it be through Instagram or dating like foreign dating sites,

809
00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:14,800
Speaker 2: and so all of the people that they're dating are

810
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:17,799
Speaker 2: in a different country. So one lady is.

811
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:23,239
Speaker 4: Like an older woman and she her name's Baby Girl Lisa,

812
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:27,480
Speaker 4: that's what I call her BGL and she is dating

813
00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:31,880
Speaker 4: a younger man from Nigeria who's like a pop star

814
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:37,120
Speaker 4: in Nigeria named Sojia Boy, not Soljiaboy, Sojia Boy.

815
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:39,200
Speaker 2: So that's one story.

816
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:42,600
Speaker 4: And then we have Big Ed who is from San

817
00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 4: Diego and he's dating a woman named Rose Marie from

818
00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:52,359
Speaker 4: the Philippines, and she doesn't seem to have a whole

819
00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:55,400
Speaker 4: lot of interests in him from what I've been able.

820
00:40:55,160 --> 00:41:00,719
Speaker 2: To see on the show. But it's like, just know.

821
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:04,720
Speaker 3: My whole thing is that there are a premise.

822
00:41:05,400 --> 00:41:08,400
Speaker 4: So then they they the people from America fly to

823
00:41:08,520 --> 00:41:11,879
Speaker 4: the country of the person that they're dating to see

824
00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:14,680
Speaker 4: because a lot of these people have never met They've talked.

825
00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:19,920
Speaker 2: For like years through like on the internet, text whatever,

826
00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:23,319
Speaker 2: they've never met in person, and they fly over there

827
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:25,880
Speaker 2: to meet them and to see if they want to

828
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:29,400
Speaker 2: continue and eventually get married or stay.

829
00:41:29,200 --> 00:41:31,760
Speaker 3: Engaged with a camera crew with a crew.

830
00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, and the ninety days is how long they're allowed

831
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:35,839
Speaker 1: to be in that country before they have to come back.

832
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:38,879
Speaker 2: You know, I don't really understand what the ninety days.

833
00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:40,040
Speaker 2: I've never watched it before.

834
00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:41,840
Speaker 4: I'm just watching it and I haven't gotten to the

835
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:44,799
Speaker 4: end yet, so I guess the nine Yeah, I don't know,

836
00:41:44,880 --> 00:41:46,920
Speaker 4: because a lot of them are only staying for a

837
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:48,440
Speaker 4: few weeks, so I don't know if that's just the

838
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:51,479
Speaker 4: time limit they gave themselves or what, or how long

839
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:55,640
Speaker 4: the show will follow them for before they make a decision.

840
00:41:57,080 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 4: But it's shocking and like, I don't get how there

841
00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:05,200
Speaker 4: are so many people in America that.

842
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:09,040
Speaker 2: People just give up and like intentionally look for someone

843
00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:09,840
Speaker 2: out of the country.

844
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:12,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have it here. The couples must marry before

845
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:15,600
Speaker 1: the visas expire in ninety days, or else the visitors

846
00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:17,719
Speaker 1: have to immediately return to their countries. So the clock

847
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:19,600
Speaker 1: is ticking. You got to decide we're gonna get married

848
00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:19,799
Speaker 1: or not.

849
00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:23,680
Speaker 2: But they've they've gotten to note. Oh, and then there's

850
00:42:23,719 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 2: this one lady named Yolanda, and she's just so sweet.

851
00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 2: I feel horrible for her, but she is dating a

852
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:33,880
Speaker 2: man who just judging by the photos, you can tell

853
00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 2: it's a catfish situation. And then he starts he like

854
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 2: changes all his information on his Instagram and then he

855
00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:44,440
Speaker 2: starts emailing her and basically threatening her that if she

856
00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:49,000
Speaker 2: doesn't give money that I can't remember what they're gonna do.

857
00:42:49,080 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 4: But anyways, they start like scamming her, and she still

858
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:54,560
Speaker 4: doesn't believe. She thinks it's still she's like, that's not him.

859
00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 4: He would never do that to me. Every time she

860
00:42:57,239 --> 00:42:59,120
Speaker 4: tries it, he says he doesn't have a camera that

861
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:00,400
Speaker 4: works to face time.

862
00:43:02,080 --> 00:43:04,880
Speaker 3: So I don't understand how people can date for years

863
00:43:04,880 --> 00:43:07,239
Speaker 3: and not see each other. Like that's so, you know,

864
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:09,560
Speaker 3: I'm finding that that's like that's what's happening now on

865
00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:11,920
Speaker 3: these dating apps, Like people just want pen pals, Like

866
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:14,120
Speaker 3: nobody wants to go on And all these dating apps

867
00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:16,279
Speaker 3: now have like the feature where you can like check

868
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:17,680
Speaker 3: it to say, like I'm ready to go on a

869
00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:21,399
Speaker 3: virtual date with you, So they're like setting up these

870
00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:26,399
Speaker 3: like virtual dates, but nobody's like asking anybody out. They

871
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:29,080
Speaker 3: just want to like chit chat people do.

872
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:32,760
Speaker 4: Some people feel the satisfactory Like if people are lonely,

873
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:36,840
Speaker 4: they feel the satisfaction of having someone to talk to,

874
00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 4: you know, and to like communicate with. And I don't

875
00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:45,440
Speaker 4: personally get it, but I see I get why people

876
00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:48,960
Speaker 4: find comfort in knowing that there's someone on the other

877
00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 4: line or a text away that can provide them with

878
00:43:54,120 --> 00:43:57,879
Speaker 4: you know, like comfort and communication.

879
00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 2: But it is a wild show. I wish that someone

880
00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:04,160
Speaker 2: watched them. You can't get into it with me. Oh.

881
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:06,719
Speaker 4: Also a lot of people in the Facebook group were

882
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:09,719
Speaker 4: asking why we never talk about Private Practice and if

883
00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:11,160
Speaker 4: any of us ever watched it.

884
00:44:12,840 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 1: I didn't, and I will say I find it this

885
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 1: is a weird thing about me, but I find it

886
00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:21,520
Speaker 1: offensive sometimes when shows try to force me to watch

887
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:25,080
Speaker 1: another show, like when I'm with you, I'm so with you.

888
00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 3: It's like, just because I like your show doesn't mean

889
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:30,360
Speaker 3: I'm gonna jump over and like your other Like continuation

890
00:44:30,760 --> 00:44:32,480
Speaker 3: one on Grace screw.

891
00:44:32,200 --> 00:44:35,760
Speaker 1: With Part two on Private Practice. No, sorry, I refuse.

892
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:38,440
Speaker 1: I will not be too played like it makes me

893
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:41,960
Speaker 1: so many too So No, I never watched Private Practice,

894
00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 1: and I did it on purpose. I purposefully avoided it.

895
00:44:46,760 --> 00:44:50,719
Speaker 2: Wow, Well, I do not feel the same as you do.

896
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:55,840
Speaker 2: I've watched it almost I at one point was almost

897
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 2: as obsessive as I was with Grace and at me,

898
00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:01,040
Speaker 2: like I was so invested in the character and I

899
00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:03,479
Speaker 2: really can't remember what happened. It may have been.

900
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:06,880
Speaker 4: During when I was like moving or my sister and

901
00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:09,120
Speaker 4: brother in law moved back home and I was in

902
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:14,239
Speaker 4: a transition area where I just stopped watching. But I

903
00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:16,480
Speaker 4: just stopped and I've never gotten back into it, Like

904
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:18,960
Speaker 4: I can't even remember what season I stopped on. But

905
00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:22,440
Speaker 4: it's a great show. And I'm sad to say that y'all.

906
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:27,400
Speaker 2: Feel so bitter towards it. But that's why to answer,

907
00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:28,360
Speaker 2: I just don't.

908
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:30,400
Speaker 3: Like being I just don't like being toyed with as

909
00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 3: a consumer. Manipulated, Yes, that is the right word. Do

910
00:45:36,280 --> 00:45:38,160
Speaker 3: not manipulate me as a consumer.

911
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:41,479
Speaker 4: So we if we had a guess. Oh, by the way,

912
00:45:41,640 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 4: Jesse McCartney lied straight to my f Do you remember

913
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:46,400
Speaker 4: when I asked him if he was the turtle and

914
00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:50,960
Speaker 4: the mass singer? Do you remember this that I straight

915
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:53,239
Speaker 4: up was like, listen, we have a lot of questions

916
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:55,239
Speaker 4: about you being the turtle and the mass singer. And

917
00:45:55,280 --> 00:45:59,719
Speaker 4: he was so casual and he was like, no, I've

918
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:01,279
Speaker 4: been I'm getting this question all the time.

919
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:03,360
Speaker 2: Everyone thinks I'm the turtle. I'm not the turtle. Like

920
00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:07,719
Speaker 2: so casual about it that I didn't even question it.

921
00:46:07,840 --> 00:46:10,480
Speaker 1: He was a good actor there. He really was because he.

922
00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:11,239
Speaker 2: Was really good.

923
00:46:11,440 --> 00:46:14,359
Speaker 1: He's kind of like, oh yeah, somebody else asked me that. Yeah, No,

924
00:46:14,520 --> 00:46:16,359
Speaker 1: that's that's that's crazy. I don't know what I don't

925
00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:18,399
Speaker 1: even know what that is. Like he really played it well.

926
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:21,560
Speaker 2: I felt so played when I found out.

927
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:23,360
Speaker 3: Was the turtle.

928
00:46:23,480 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 2: He was the turtle.

929
00:46:25,280 --> 00:46:27,840
Speaker 3: Just that is a show that also I'm not I can't.

930
00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:31,040
Speaker 3: I don't understand, and like, I know it's so wildly popular,

931
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:34,280
Speaker 3: but I'm like, I just don't understand it. I don't

932
00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:34,719
Speaker 3: get it.

933
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 2: Did you watch it?

934
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:36,759
Speaker 4: No?

935
00:46:37,200 --> 00:46:40,719
Speaker 2: Oh, well you can't. You can't really say that not

936
00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:42,320
Speaker 2: getting it until you give it.

937
00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:45,920
Speaker 3: I watched I watched that one episode with you. Remember

938
00:46:45,960 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 3: I came over to your house and you watched That's

939
00:46:48,640 --> 00:46:50,479
Speaker 3: so I have seen one episode and I.

940
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:54,040
Speaker 1: Was just like, well, the best part of that show

941
00:46:54,280 --> 00:46:56,799
Speaker 1: is when the creature comes out and is singing and

942
00:46:56,840 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 1: they're all like, wait a second is that? They say,

943
00:47:01,840 --> 00:47:05,759
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure that's Ed Sheeran. I think George Clooney's

944
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:09,600
Speaker 1: in that costume, and then they get eliminated and they

945
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:12,720
Speaker 1: take a oh look at that. It was Teresa, Judah

946
00:47:12,760 --> 00:47:18,239
Speaker 1: Chay or you know some random person, Okay.

947
00:47:18,000 --> 00:47:21,880
Speaker 2: Mark, They're building up their contestant level.

948
00:47:21,920 --> 00:47:26,960
Speaker 1: Okay, but it's always going to be a Dancing with

949
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:28,800
Speaker 1: the Stars level celebrity or worse.

950
00:47:28,840 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 7: But they always act like it's is that Michelle Obama.

951
00:47:38,680 --> 00:47:45,440
Speaker 2: We're being haters and I don't appreciate it. Did anyone

952
00:47:45,480 --> 00:47:46,319
Speaker 2: want to listen to.

953
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:47,040
Speaker 1: Your heart.

954
00:47:51,400 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 2: Quality television?

955
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna I did. We actually did try to

956
00:47:55,120 --> 00:47:56,839
Speaker 3: get into it. I think we watched the first three

957
00:47:56,880 --> 00:47:59,280
Speaker 3: weeks and then we just we just weren't really attached

958
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:01,400
Speaker 3: to anybody.

959
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:03,719
Speaker 4: Not really attached to anybody, but I, you know, I

960
00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:07,120
Speaker 4: was loyal and watch to the end. I to be honest,

961
00:48:07,640 --> 00:48:10,839
Speaker 4: I trust the Bachelor enough to know that they're gonna

962
00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:13,360
Speaker 4: put out something that will keep me entertained enough.

963
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 3: I agree. I agree, I trust the Bachelor, but this

964
00:48:16,520 --> 00:48:19,840
Speaker 3: show didn't do it for me, surprisingly.

965
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 2: So you don't trust the Bachelor.

966
00:48:21,560 --> 00:48:22,720
Speaker 3: I do. I gave it a shot.

967
00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:24,839
Speaker 1: It didn't do well, which was kind of surprising because

968
00:48:24,840 --> 00:48:26,000
Speaker 1: they're so little on right now.

969
00:48:27,560 --> 00:48:30,560
Speaker 4: It didn't do well because The Bachelor thrives on people

970
00:48:30,600 --> 00:48:34,319
Speaker 4: being connected to a story from the previous season, and

971
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:37,080
Speaker 4: there these were all new faces that no one knew

972
00:48:37,120 --> 00:48:41,880
Speaker 4: their backstory where they came from It was just you know,

973
00:48:42,280 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 4: it was an uncharted, unknown territory, so it didn't feel

974
00:48:47,080 --> 00:48:49,520
Speaker 4: like the normal bachelor in that sense.

975
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:52,080
Speaker 1: I have a theory on TV too. I think that

976
00:48:52,200 --> 00:48:54,839
Speaker 1: people love you know, they're watching so much Netflix right

977
00:48:54,880 --> 00:48:58,360
Speaker 1: now because of the on demand element of it. I

978
00:48:58,360 --> 00:49:00,960
Speaker 1: feel like time is weird right now. Time is so

979
00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:04,680
Speaker 1: weird in our current quarantine situation. Like I'll hear about

980
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:07,520
Speaker 1: some oh, some musicians doing a live stream, like, oh,

981
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 1: when is that Friday at six? Okay, I'm definitely tuning

982
00:49:10,040 --> 00:49:12,040
Speaker 1: into that Friday at six the next time I think about,

983
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:14,480
Speaker 1: it's Sunday at noon. Because every day just flies by

984
00:49:14,800 --> 00:49:16,239
Speaker 1: and you have no idea what day it is or

985
00:49:16,280 --> 00:49:18,160
Speaker 1: what time it is, and it's just crazy. And so

986
00:49:18,320 --> 00:49:20,919
Speaker 1: I like, Monday at eight is not like a thing

987
00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 1: in my life right now that I'm going to sit

988
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:23,279
Speaker 1: down and watch this.

989
00:49:23,239 --> 00:49:25,279
Speaker 3: In your heart, it's like, because we're not you, We're

990
00:49:25,320 --> 00:49:27,799
Speaker 3: not on like our usual schedule. So it's like our

991
00:49:28,080 --> 00:49:29,120
Speaker 3: TV schedules are.

992
00:49:29,080 --> 00:49:32,520
Speaker 1: Also network TV thanks on us having a routine. We

993
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:34,919
Speaker 1: come home from work, we eat dinner, we watch TV.

994
00:49:35,880 --> 00:49:40,200
Speaker 8: That's interesting because every Monday night the past few weeks,

995
00:49:40,719 --> 00:49:44,680
Speaker 8: I have ordered my fresh Brother's calflower pizza and sat

996
00:49:44,800 --> 00:49:46,359
Speaker 8: down and want to listen to your heart.

997
00:49:46,719 --> 00:49:48,359
Speaker 3: I know, but you're still in your this is your

998
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:52,200
Speaker 3: normal routine. Quarantine is your normal routine. Oh it's like

999
00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:54,600
Speaker 3: this is just normal for you or like for me,

1000
00:49:54,920 --> 00:49:56,680
Speaker 3: I haven't watched I can't tell you the last thing

1001
00:49:56,719 --> 00:49:58,360
Speaker 3: I watched on TV. I think a week ago I

1002
00:49:58,360 --> 00:50:00,360
Speaker 3: started Dead to Me, I watched two episodes of to Me.

1003
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:02,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've been like, when was the last time you

1004
00:50:02,680 --> 00:50:06,760
Speaker 1: watched something on regular television? At a time and a day.

1005
00:50:07,280 --> 00:50:10,200
Speaker 3: Two thousand, I cut my cable.

1006
00:50:10,640 --> 00:50:14,120
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I have to admit something.

1007
00:50:14,400 --> 00:50:17,959
Speaker 4: I am feeling very anxious for when this is all over,

1008
00:50:18,280 --> 00:50:23,640
Speaker 4: and I'm expected to be social all the time because

1009
00:50:23,680 --> 00:50:26,400
Speaker 4: I haven't been able to as if that was my

1010
00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:29,440
Speaker 4: not what I would choose anyway. So I'm going to

1011
00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 4: go to these events and I'm going to be expected

1012
00:50:31,640 --> 00:50:35,120
Speaker 4: to stay out and rage hard when really I still

1013
00:50:35,200 --> 00:50:38,160
Speaker 4: just would like to be back on my couch, and

1014
00:50:38,200 --> 00:50:39,480
Speaker 4: I'm going to feel a lot of pressure.

1015
00:50:40,400 --> 00:50:42,759
Speaker 3: It's interesting because I was wondering if you were going

1016
00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:44,680
Speaker 3: to be the opposite of that, Like I was wondering

1017
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 3: if you were going to just go like balls the

1018
00:50:47,040 --> 00:50:51,000
Speaker 3: walls when this was all over, because I feel like

1019
00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:53,919
Speaker 3: I'm going to do that. I feel like I'm gonna

1020
00:50:53,920 --> 00:50:55,279
Speaker 3: go balls the walls, like I'm just gonna be like

1021
00:50:55,280 --> 00:50:58,520
Speaker 3: out about, like you won't see me at home. But

1022
00:50:58,560 --> 00:51:03,000
Speaker 3: then I'm thinking, I've kind of enjoyed being like creative

1023
00:51:03,040 --> 00:51:05,320
Speaker 3: at home and doing things here and like you know

1024
00:51:05,360 --> 00:51:05,880
Speaker 3: what I mean.

1025
00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:13,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, no balls will be on the walls household. I mean,

1026
00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:17,879
Speaker 4: I mostly am just missing friends, so like once I'm

1027
00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:20,839
Speaker 4: able to see my friends in any sort of context,

1028
00:51:21,040 --> 00:51:23,640
Speaker 4: in a normal situation, not having to be distanced, just

1029
00:51:23,680 --> 00:51:25,080
Speaker 4: hanging on the couch whatever.

1030
00:51:25,680 --> 00:51:27,240
Speaker 2: That's all I need. I want to go to dinner,

1031
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:29,600
Speaker 2: but I don't want to be expected to go to

1032
00:51:29,760 --> 00:51:31,239
Speaker 2: everything just because I can.

1033
00:51:31,360 --> 00:51:34,200
Speaker 3: All of a sudden, I know, so you know, we

1034
00:51:34,239 --> 00:51:36,680
Speaker 3: need to do again. Actually that reminds me we need

1035
00:51:36,719 --> 00:51:40,120
Speaker 3: to have another diet swap day.

1036
00:51:40,239 --> 00:51:42,160
Speaker 2: I would love that. I think I could much.

1037
00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:44,279
Speaker 4: I think I'm way more equipped to handle it now

1038
00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:47,399
Speaker 4: since I've been trying to be better. You know, when

1039
00:51:47,400 --> 00:51:51,000
Speaker 4: we did it, that was during the height of just living.

1040
00:51:51,960 --> 00:51:55,800
Speaker 2: I still cund of eat whatever I want, but I

1041
00:51:55,840 --> 00:51:58,359
Speaker 2: that was my head hurt that day and I think

1042
00:51:58,360 --> 00:51:59,600
Speaker 2: I could do it without a headache.

1043
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 1: And I am surprised to hear you say that after

1044
00:52:01,480 --> 00:52:02,760
Speaker 1: the last two hours of your life.

1045
00:52:04,160 --> 00:52:06,799
Speaker 2: You know she's been living though. I'm proud of her

1046
00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:10,239
Speaker 2: because they, I mean, Red Star eats healthy, like like

1047
00:52:10,360 --> 00:52:15,480
Speaker 2: probably almost more healthy than you. Yeah, but y'all still

1048
00:52:15,520 --> 00:52:18,600
Speaker 2: like splurge on, like you'll have burgers and you'll you know,

1049
00:52:18,840 --> 00:52:19,239
Speaker 2: you're not.

1050
00:52:19,320 --> 00:52:23,200
Speaker 3: Like yeah, yeah, no, it's it's weird. Yeah, he eats

1051
00:52:23,239 --> 00:52:28,439
Speaker 3: pretty clean. We eat very similar styles, like ninety percent

1052
00:52:28,520 --> 00:52:30,400
Speaker 3: of the time. But yeah, we'd like we enjoy our

1053
00:52:30,480 --> 00:52:34,800
Speaker 3: vegan ice cream. And I know it sounds so gross,

1054
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:35,719
Speaker 3: but it's like so young.

1055
00:52:36,120 --> 00:52:39,480
Speaker 2: I've just been like mcflurries all day every day. It's

1056
00:52:39,480 --> 00:52:42,399
Speaker 2: all I want. I'm serious. I've never had to make

1057
00:52:42,400 --> 00:52:44,840
Speaker 2: flurry in my life until this year, and now I

1058
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:46,160
Speaker 2: want them every night.

1059
00:52:47,160 --> 00:52:48,760
Speaker 3: But that's how I am when I'm on my period.

1060
00:52:48,840 --> 00:52:50,440
Speaker 3: So when we do our diets up, I would like

1061
00:52:50,480 --> 00:52:52,319
Speaker 3: to be on day two of my period and then

1062
00:52:52,320 --> 00:52:54,120
Speaker 3: I will think I'll really enjoy it.

1063
00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:55,680
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm down.

1064
00:52:57,120 --> 00:53:01,640
Speaker 1: So next week is Friends debut on HBO Max. And

1065
00:53:01,680 --> 00:53:04,120
Speaker 1: the reason I bring that up is because I feel manipulated.

1066
00:53:05,000 --> 00:53:08,160
Speaker 1: I feel, Hey, you like Friends. You've been watching it

1067
00:53:08,200 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 1: on Netflix for all these years. We can keep watching

1068
00:53:10,520 --> 00:53:13,040
Speaker 1: it just fifteen bucks a month on HBO Max. And

1069
00:53:13,040 --> 00:53:15,080
Speaker 1: that makes me feel manipulated. I don't like it.

1070
00:53:15,200 --> 00:53:18,200
Speaker 2: Well, you should feel manipulated, because that's what every single

1071
00:53:18,800 --> 00:53:22,440
Speaker 2: uh what is it called app or whatever has done

1072
00:53:22,480 --> 00:53:26,880
Speaker 2: to us. Yes, Hulu, I have Hulu Live, I have Netflix,

1073
00:53:27,120 --> 00:53:30,399
Speaker 2: I have Disney Plus, I have Apple TV, and now

1074
00:53:30,400 --> 00:53:31,920
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have HBO Max.

1075
00:53:32,080 --> 00:53:33,840
Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm gonna do HBO Max. And

1076
00:53:33,880 --> 00:53:36,240
Speaker 3: I think I'm just gonna because I've bought a few

1077
00:53:36,440 --> 00:53:40,360
Speaker 3: seasons of Friends, which are like nineteen ninety nine on iTunes.

1078
00:53:40,440 --> 00:53:42,360
Speaker 2: You know what. I think I'm gonna do what you

1079
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:47,120
Speaker 2: did too. I'm gonna buy Amazon Amazon on Amazon Prime

1080
00:53:47,200 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 2: or whatever, and I'm just gonna buy all the seasons

1081
00:53:49,480 --> 00:53:50,040
Speaker 2: and just have.

1082
00:53:50,080 --> 00:53:53,480
Speaker 3: Them, yeah, because then I just have them. And to

1083
00:53:53,520 --> 00:53:56,759
Speaker 3: be honest, I don't love season one, and season ten

1084
00:53:56,920 --> 00:53:59,279
Speaker 3: makes me sad to watch the finale anyway, so you

1085
00:53:59,360 --> 00:54:01,239
Speaker 3: just really need since too to night.

1086
00:54:01,480 --> 00:54:04,280
Speaker 2: That's not true. Season ten is so good.

1087
00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:07,880
Speaker 3: It makes me too sad when I start seeing episodes

1088
00:54:07,880 --> 00:54:10,200
Speaker 3: from season ten. I have like, I just get really

1089
00:54:10,200 --> 00:54:13,120
Speaker 3: like dark well because then it's like the end is

1090
00:54:13,120 --> 00:54:15,000
Speaker 3: coming and I can't the last scene when they put

1091
00:54:15,000 --> 00:54:17,680
Speaker 3: the key on the counter and walk out the apartment. Literally,

1092
00:54:17,760 --> 00:54:19,360
Speaker 3: I physically can't control myself.

1093
00:54:19,719 --> 00:54:21,000
Speaker 2: It made my stomach hurt.

1094
00:54:22,080 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like, what other movies should Tanya show?

1095
00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:30,640
Speaker 1: Red Star? Because I'm intrigued by this? Hey, here are

1096
00:54:30,640 --> 00:54:33,239
Speaker 1: the movies and I guess TV shows in your case

1097
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:35,920
Speaker 1: that are super important to me. He's shown you back

1098
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:38,600
Speaker 1: to the Future and Jesse McGuire is coming up. What

1099
00:54:38,640 --> 00:54:44,359
Speaker 1: else should be on Tanya's list? So what did I say?

1100
00:54:44,640 --> 00:54:46,600
Speaker 1: Jesse McCartney, Jerry maguire.

1101
00:54:46,520 --> 00:54:50,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, has he seen Titanic?

1102
00:54:53,440 --> 00:54:55,799
Speaker 3: I don't know. We haven't had that conversation. Let me ask,

1103
00:54:55,840 --> 00:54:57,640
Speaker 3: but I am sure he has. Hasn't everybody seen?

1104
00:54:58,000 --> 00:54:59,440
Speaker 2: Has he seen a Walk to Remember?

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00:55:00,239 --> 00:55:02,759
Speaker 1: I bet he hasn't. And that's a good one.

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00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:03,560
Speaker 3: I think it's a good one.

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00:55:03,600 --> 00:55:05,840
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I would like to see if he cries.

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00:55:06,160 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 1: It's up to you, it's your life. What do you think, Tanya?

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00:55:11,440 --> 00:55:13,319
Speaker 3: I don't know. That one might make me a little like,

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00:55:13,719 --> 00:55:16,960
Speaker 3: I don't know about that one because I don't like

1111
00:55:17,239 --> 00:55:20,280
Speaker 3: I love that movie so much, but it doesn't like speak.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, what are the five movies off the top

1113
00:55:22,760 --> 00:55:25,440
Speaker 1: of your head, the greatest of your five favorite movies

1114
00:55:25,440 --> 00:55:26,000
Speaker 1: of all time?

1115
00:55:26,480 --> 00:55:28,520
Speaker 2: Oh? This is rough?

1116
00:55:30,600 --> 00:55:36,800
Speaker 3: Shut it, okay, it's uh, he's just not that in

1117
00:55:36,920 --> 00:55:47,880
Speaker 3: you monster in law, My Big Factory Wedding, the Wedding Planner,

1118
00:55:48,000 --> 00:55:51,440
Speaker 3: perhaps how to lose a guy in ten days?

1119
00:55:52,760 --> 00:55:54,839
Speaker 1: So, Tanya, will you take him down that lift where

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00:55:54,840 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 1: you say this is me? Here are these movies?

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00:55:57,760 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 2: Uh?

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00:55:58,160 --> 00:56:01,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess I could, but I feel like I'm

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00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:06,279
Speaker 3: missing like a really good girthy movie. You know what

1124
00:56:06,320 --> 00:56:06,600
Speaker 3: I mean?

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00:56:06,719 --> 00:56:07,719
Speaker 2: What is like?

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00:56:07,760 --> 00:56:09,920
Speaker 1: They're all kind of the same genre. You want to

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00:56:09,960 --> 00:56:12,600
Speaker 1: vary it up a little bit, something a little more serious, perhaps.

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00:56:13,040 --> 00:56:15,160
Speaker 3: Well, my big fac Greek Wedding, for sure. I think

1129
00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:17,560
Speaker 3: he needs to see a lot.

1130
00:56:17,440 --> 00:56:21,040
Speaker 1: Of wedding themed movies that might scare him.

1131
00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:30,279
Speaker 3: Yeah. Well guess what, dude, buckle up. Yeah yeah, he

1132
00:56:30,360 --> 00:56:33,040
Speaker 3: just got that into you and my big fac Greek Wedding,

1133
00:56:33,040 --> 00:56:34,799
Speaker 3: I think are two for sure that Here.

1134
00:56:34,719 --> 00:56:37,160
Speaker 1: Are the movies that's that sum up me by Big

1135
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:40,279
Speaker 1: Fair Greek Wedding, the Wedding Flatter, the Wedding Singer, the

1136
00:56:40,320 --> 00:56:44,080
Speaker 1: Wedding Crashers, Monster, It's like, oh my god, Ed for

1137
00:56:44,280 --> 00:56:45,000
Speaker 1: the Hills.

1138
00:56:46,160 --> 00:56:50,280
Speaker 4: Has he seen bridesmaid I'm sure, yeah, that's a great one.

1139
00:56:50,600 --> 00:56:51,799
Speaker 3: I know, I feel like I'm missing a clus.

1140
00:56:52,120 --> 00:56:54,520
Speaker 1: What are yours? What is the top five for you?

1141
00:56:54,600 --> 00:56:56,880
Speaker 1: If you if you were showing someone, maybe it's nine

1142
00:56:56,920 --> 00:56:58,239
Speaker 1: to five p Maybe not, but if you were to

1143
00:56:58,280 --> 00:57:00,760
Speaker 1: tell the this is me. These are my top five movies.

1144
00:57:01,600 --> 00:57:04,919
Speaker 2: My top five movies are Bridesmaids, How to Lose Again

1145
00:57:04,960 --> 00:57:19,560
Speaker 2: in Ten Days, Titanic, Simon Burch, the saddest movie. And

1146
00:57:21,280 --> 00:57:23,200
Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of recent movies. You know what,

1147
00:57:23,480 --> 00:57:27,439
Speaker 2: I love Milana. That's a really good I love it.

1148
00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 3: I did to. Actually, you know what's one that we

1149
00:57:30,520 --> 00:57:32,480
Speaker 3: watched together that we both really like? And this is

1150
00:57:32,480 --> 00:57:34,760
Speaker 3: like one of my favorite movies as like a like

1151
00:57:34,840 --> 00:57:39,800
Speaker 3: a tween Tanya was can't hardly wait? Did you guys

1152
00:57:39,800 --> 00:57:47,040
Speaker 3: ever see that movie? Oh my gosh, do yourself a favor.

1153
00:57:47,120 --> 00:57:49,840
Speaker 3: It's on Netflix or Hulu. I'm not sure which one.

1154
00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:53,880
Speaker 3: It is so good that movie like defines my high

1155
00:57:53,920 --> 00:57:54,720
Speaker 3: school experience.

1156
00:57:54,880 --> 00:57:57,440
Speaker 4: But you love Monster in Law, which I think is

1157
00:57:57,440 --> 00:58:00,000
Speaker 4: one of the worst rom coms out there, so has

1158
00:58:00,320 --> 00:58:01,240
Speaker 4: to take your advice.

1159
00:58:01,880 --> 00:58:03,840
Speaker 3: It's not a rom com. This is almost like a

1160
00:58:03,880 --> 00:58:08,280
Speaker 3: coming of age movie and it's so freaking funny. Have

1161
00:58:08,360 --> 00:58:08,720
Speaker 3: you seen it?

1162
00:58:08,760 --> 00:58:09,480
Speaker 1: Mark? I don't think so.

1163
00:58:10,320 --> 00:58:13,120
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I need you guys to watch it.

1164
00:58:13,200 --> 00:58:14,480
Speaker 3: I everybody to watch it.

1165
00:58:14,720 --> 00:58:16,640
Speaker 2: To watch it. I love watching movies that I've never

1166
00:58:16,680 --> 00:58:18,000
Speaker 2: seen before that are older.

1167
00:58:18,240 --> 00:58:22,480
Speaker 3: But it stars Jennifer Love Hewitt, Seth Green's in there.

1168
00:58:22,520 --> 00:58:24,840
Speaker 3: Like I don't remember the main guy's name, but you'll

1169
00:58:24,880 --> 00:58:27,480
Speaker 3: know his face. He's like the cutest thing ever. It's

1170
00:58:27,520 --> 00:58:29,400
Speaker 3: just like about it's about high school, like you're they're

1171
00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:31,840
Speaker 3: just graduating from high school and it's like this last party.

1172
00:58:31,920 --> 00:58:33,960
Speaker 3: It's so freaking good.

1173
00:58:35,040 --> 00:58:38,280
Speaker 2: Thank you. I'll put that on my list.

1174
00:58:38,760 --> 00:58:39,439
Speaker 3: Thank me later.

1175
00:58:41,320 --> 00:58:42,960
Speaker 2: Wait, do we have any emails today?

1176
00:58:43,120 --> 00:58:44,440
Speaker 1: We do, as a matter of fact.

1177
00:58:44,680 --> 00:58:45,440
Speaker 2: Oh great.

1178
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Speaker 1: They're tough ones. They're tough ones today.

1179
00:58:48,200 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 2: I feel like the past few have been kind of

1180
00:58:51,480 --> 00:58:54,720
Speaker 2: I feel like they've been tough. People are going through

1181
00:58:54,760 --> 00:58:55,240
Speaker 2: some things.

1182
00:58:55,440 --> 00:58:58,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, this isn't another anonymous one. My best friend just

1183
00:58:58,080 --> 00:59:00,320
Speaker 1: revealed to me that she's divorcing her husband and she's

1184
00:59:00,360 --> 00:59:02,520
Speaker 1: not with a woman. My husband and I have been

1185
00:59:02,520 --> 00:59:05,640
Speaker 1: friends with this couple for over ten years. Weddings, holidays,

1186
00:59:05,680 --> 00:59:09,600
Speaker 1: starting parenthood together. I respect her decision for following her happiness,

1187
00:59:09,640 --> 00:59:12,760
Speaker 1: but I'm devastated for her husband who is completely blindsided.

1188
00:59:13,360 --> 00:59:15,560
Speaker 1: Any tips on how I can better understand what each

1189
00:59:15,600 --> 00:59:17,960
Speaker 1: of them is going through so I can be supportive

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00:59:18,000 --> 00:59:18,640
Speaker 1: to both of.

1191
00:59:18,560 --> 00:59:24,800
Speaker 4: Them, Wow, I would highly recom I've been talking about

1192
00:59:24,800 --> 00:59:28,240
Speaker 4: this because I'm currently reading it, but Glennon Doyle's book Untamed,

1193
00:59:28,320 --> 00:59:30,840
Speaker 4: this is literally she was married to a man, she

1194
00:59:30,920 --> 00:59:34,960
Speaker 4: has children, and she ended up getting divorced, and she

1195
00:59:35,040 --> 00:59:38,600
Speaker 4: because she fell in love with a woman, and she

1196
00:59:38,760 --> 00:59:41,000
Speaker 4: talks so much about it in her book and how

1197
00:59:41,040 --> 00:59:48,800
Speaker 4: people reacted, and it's like, not your responsibility to carry

1198
00:59:49,280 --> 00:59:55,000
Speaker 4: their situation, Like it's not you know, You're able to

1199
00:59:55,080 --> 00:59:58,080
Speaker 4: process it how you want, but beyond that, that's all

1200
00:59:58,120 --> 01:00:00,760
Speaker 4: you have control of. And I think you can be

1201
01:00:00,800 --> 01:00:06,360
Speaker 4: supportive of both of them in your own way, doing

1202
01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:08,200
Speaker 4: whatever they may need individually.

1203
01:00:09,920 --> 01:00:12,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, sometimes I think like when people are going through stuff,

1204
01:00:13,680 --> 01:00:15,320
Speaker 3: I mean, you just have to let them know that

1205
01:00:15,440 --> 01:00:17,480
Speaker 3: like you're gonna be there, You're there no matter what,

1206
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:20,880
Speaker 3: and kind of let them dictate to you what they need,

1207
01:00:20,960 --> 01:00:24,200
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, because I don't know. Sometimes

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01:00:24,200 --> 01:00:26,400
Speaker 3: I think people try to help, Like let's say you

1209
01:00:26,440 --> 01:00:28,439
Speaker 3: try and help by like setting him up with other

1210
01:00:28,480 --> 01:00:30,440
Speaker 3: people or like, you know what I mean, who knows,

1211
01:00:30,520 --> 01:00:32,040
Speaker 3: But it's like maybe that's not what he wants. Maybe

1212
01:00:32,080 --> 01:00:33,720
Speaker 3: he just wants to chill and he just wants to

1213
01:00:33,760 --> 01:00:35,240
Speaker 3: hang out with you guys and be a third wheel

1214
01:00:35,280 --> 01:00:36,920
Speaker 3: for a minute, or you know what I mean. I

1215
01:00:36,920 --> 01:00:39,960
Speaker 3: think asking people what they need in that moment is

1216
01:00:40,000 --> 01:00:41,120
Speaker 3: like the best thing to do.

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01:00:41,600 --> 01:00:44,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's I think a lot of people we take

1218
01:00:44,320 --> 01:00:47,360
Speaker 4: on this responsibility of being the hero to come to

1219
01:00:47,400 --> 01:00:51,200
Speaker 4: the rescue and help, but sometimes that's not really our place.

1220
01:00:50,960 --> 01:00:52,920
Speaker 2: Or our job to step in.

1221
01:00:53,040 --> 01:00:54,840
Speaker 4: We feel like we need to step in and help

1222
01:00:54,880 --> 01:00:57,960
Speaker 4: and be supportive, But sometimes being supportive and being a

1223
01:00:57,960 --> 01:01:00,800
Speaker 4: good friend is just letting them process it in their

1224
01:01:00,840 --> 01:01:03,560
Speaker 4: own time and you being available when they reach out.

1225
01:01:04,120 --> 01:01:06,440
Speaker 1: And also, I think this is really good advice. Actually,

1226
01:01:06,720 --> 01:01:09,560
Speaker 1: do you have to choose? Not choose sides. But I

1227
01:01:09,560 --> 01:01:12,360
Speaker 1: feel like when we've had a couple friends who've gotten divorced,

1228
01:01:12,400 --> 01:01:14,400
Speaker 1: we kind of get custody of one of the or

1229
01:01:14,400 --> 01:01:16,640
Speaker 1: the other. Like I feel like we don't stay friends

1230
01:01:16,640 --> 01:01:19,760
Speaker 1: with both. It depends on how it kind of came

1231
01:01:19,800 --> 01:01:22,640
Speaker 1: into our lives or how what the dynamic was when

1232
01:01:22,640 --> 01:01:24,600
Speaker 1: we were together. If the husbands were closer or the

1233
01:01:24,600 --> 01:01:27,040
Speaker 1: wives were closer, you kind of end up with one

1234
01:01:27,040 --> 01:01:28,439
Speaker 1: of them and the other one just kind of goes

1235
01:01:28,440 --> 01:01:30,800
Speaker 1: off on their own sad I mean kind of, but

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01:01:30,880 --> 01:01:33,080
Speaker 1: it's just I think it'll probably work yourself out that way.

1237
01:01:33,400 --> 01:01:36,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, and breakups, whether you're married or not married, breakups

1238
01:01:36,880 --> 01:01:38,960
Speaker 2: are all that way in the sense of, like your

1239
01:01:38,960 --> 01:01:42,840
Speaker 2: friend group ends up, there's one person that stays consistently

1240
01:01:42,920 --> 01:01:45,680
Speaker 2: around and the other is not. You don't wish ill

1241
01:01:45,760 --> 01:01:49,280
Speaker 2: upon them, but it's just you can't have both people.

1242
01:01:49,760 --> 01:01:53,000
Speaker 1: And also you can't because it's going to be awkward, like, oh,

1243
01:01:53,040 --> 01:01:54,800
Speaker 1: if you talk to her, what does she say? What's

1244
01:01:54,840 --> 01:01:56,680
Speaker 1: going on? What's you doing right?

1245
01:01:56,800 --> 01:01:56,920
Speaker 3: Right?

1246
01:01:57,120 --> 01:01:59,919
Speaker 1: Or the other way around, it gets awkward. All right,

1247
01:02:00,080 --> 01:02:04,600
Speaker 1: here's your next email. This is from Cynthia. I got

1248
01:02:04,600 --> 01:02:08,000
Speaker 1: married in twenty sixteen, and as our marriage ceremony approached,

1249
01:02:08,040 --> 01:02:10,840
Speaker 1: I realized I wanted to keep my last name. It's long,

1250
01:02:11,000 --> 01:02:14,040
Speaker 1: it's Italian, and it means a lot to me. We

1251
01:02:14,080 --> 01:02:16,760
Speaker 1: are marrying, our partner are equal, right. Couples in the

1252
01:02:16,880 --> 01:02:21,400
Speaker 1: LGBTQ plus community have the opportunity to discuss the namesake situation.

1253
01:02:21,800 --> 01:02:24,160
Speaker 1: Why aren't more straight couples just going for it too?

1254
01:02:25,040 --> 01:02:27,360
Speaker 1: Further to the story, I expressed this to my husband,

1255
01:02:27,400 --> 01:02:32,200
Speaker 1: and he took my last name, right.

1256
01:02:32,760 --> 01:02:34,680
Speaker 4: I don't, I feel like I mean, I think we

1257
01:02:34,840 --> 01:02:37,720
Speaker 4: specifically on this podcast, we've talked a lot about people

1258
01:02:37,760 --> 01:02:41,080
Speaker 4: who are you know, are hesitant or maybe like want

1259
01:02:41,120 --> 01:02:43,959
Speaker 4: to keep their maiden name and don't want to take

1260
01:02:44,000 --> 01:02:48,640
Speaker 4: it just because that's what society, you know, expects or suggests.

1261
01:02:48,680 --> 01:02:51,720
Speaker 4: But I think we're pretty open to people keeping their

1262
01:02:51,800 --> 01:02:53,440
Speaker 4: name and they I mean, I've said I love my

1263
01:02:53,560 --> 01:02:54,080
Speaker 4: last name.

1264
01:02:54,160 --> 01:02:57,400
Speaker 2: But you know, if I think it really.

1265
01:02:57,200 --> 01:03:02,480
Speaker 4: Is just your you and your partners, what you how

1266
01:03:02,520 --> 01:03:05,080
Speaker 4: you communicate it and talk about it, and it's your decision.

1267
01:03:05,120 --> 01:03:08,960
Speaker 2: No one else's opinion really should matter totally.

1268
01:03:09,200 --> 01:03:11,320
Speaker 3: Like I'm just confused. That's that's the email.

1269
01:03:11,800 --> 01:03:13,760
Speaker 1: I think she was commenting on a conversation we had

1270
01:03:14,040 --> 01:03:15,920
Speaker 1: on a recent show about last names.

1271
01:03:15,960 --> 01:03:20,960
Speaker 3: Oh oh oh yeah. I mean I think I think

1272
01:03:21,000 --> 01:03:23,040
Speaker 3: that that's kind of that stigma's gone now. I don't

1273
01:03:23,040 --> 01:03:25,720
Speaker 3: think anybody has to take anybody's name if if they

1274
01:03:25,760 --> 01:03:28,160
Speaker 3: don't want to. I mean, I've already said that I

1275
01:03:28,200 --> 01:03:30,560
Speaker 3: want to make my last name my middle name because

1276
01:03:30,560 --> 01:03:33,520
Speaker 3: I don't have a middle name, so my wife did,

1277
01:03:33,640 --> 01:03:37,439
Speaker 3: and I'll always yeah, like I'll professionally always be the same,

1278
01:03:37,480 --> 01:03:40,160
Speaker 3: my same name. And then I think, I do think

1279
01:03:40,240 --> 01:03:42,000
Speaker 3: that for me when I get married, I'm gonna want

1280
01:03:42,000 --> 01:03:44,200
Speaker 3: to have the same name as my partner because I

1281
01:03:44,240 --> 01:03:47,120
Speaker 3: want our family to be like a unit. But what

1282
01:03:47,240 --> 01:03:48,680
Speaker 3: that name is, I don't know.

1283
01:03:48,840 --> 01:03:50,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's where it gets weird, is if if you know,

1284
01:03:50,880 --> 01:03:52,560
Speaker 1: the woman wants to keep her name and the guy

1285
01:03:52,600 --> 01:03:54,760
Speaker 1: wants to keep his name. Great, but then it gets

1286
01:03:54,840 --> 01:03:56,200
Speaker 1: kind of interesting when you have kids.

1287
01:03:57,240 --> 01:03:59,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, but like I said, that's more of like

1288
01:03:59,800 --> 01:04:02,560
Speaker 2: your decision and your partner's decision and what you think

1289
01:04:02,640 --> 01:04:08,400
Speaker 2: is best for your family. But yeah, I think it's

1290
01:04:08,400 --> 01:04:11,400
Speaker 2: funny because I do feel like sometimes we're out here

1291
01:04:11,400 --> 01:04:14,480
Speaker 2: in a bubble in California, because in the South and

1292
01:04:14,600 --> 01:04:17,280
Speaker 2: like Midwest, I feel like that tradition is very much

1293
01:04:17,360 --> 01:04:20,040
Speaker 2: still stands strong.

1294
01:04:20,240 --> 01:04:22,760
Speaker 4: And so I think when she says I don't know

1295
01:04:22,760 --> 01:04:26,600
Speaker 4: where she's from or anything, but saying it's not really

1296
01:04:26,600 --> 01:04:30,240
Speaker 4: a stigma anymore, it definitely is just not We're you know,

1297
01:04:30,400 --> 01:04:34,920
Speaker 4: a lot more open minded here than other places.

1298
01:04:35,920 --> 01:04:36,760
Speaker 3: I do forget that.

1299
01:04:36,960 --> 01:04:38,360
Speaker 2: No, same, I mean I do too.

1300
01:04:38,400 --> 01:04:41,280
Speaker 4: I'm always like, wow, things are you know, everyone's so

1301
01:04:41,400 --> 01:04:44,439
Speaker 4: open to each other and help people do life.

1302
01:04:44,520 --> 01:04:47,160
Speaker 2: And then I remember that it's not like that everywhere else.

1303
01:04:48,240 --> 01:04:51,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I totally forget that because I was like born

1304
01:04:51,040 --> 01:04:52,120
Speaker 3: and raised here, you know what I mean?

1305
01:04:52,200 --> 01:04:58,320
Speaker 2: Yeah? Oh yeah, I'm like yeah, but since you do

1306
01:04:58,400 --> 01:05:00,600
Speaker 2: you and your husband took your name, so.

1307
01:05:01,280 --> 01:05:05,720
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Speaker 1: myfanthreads dot com slash scrubbing in.

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Speaker 6: I have a quick before we go, I just have

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01:05:14,800 --> 01:05:16,680
Speaker 6: a very quick birthday shout out. I want to do

1312
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Speaker 6: her Steph Cleman. She's so cool. She she messages me

1313
01:05:21,800 --> 01:05:25,760
Speaker 6: on Instagram sometimes be her friends Christine, Kayla and Courtney

1314
01:05:26,120 --> 01:05:28,280
Speaker 6: want to wish her happy birthday. She's a fifth grade teacher.

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Speaker 6: She's been working from home and just killing it. And

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Speaker 6: they're all big time scrubbers and having a birthday right

1317
01:05:33,520 --> 01:05:35,520
Speaker 6: now is hard. So I just want to say happy

1318
01:05:35,520 --> 01:05:36,360
Speaker 6: birthday here on the show.

1319
01:05:37,320 --> 01:05:38,600
Speaker 2: Happy, happy birthday.

1320
01:05:39,640 --> 01:05:46,320
Speaker 6: My dad's birthday, Yes, my dad, Papa Tilly, Happy birthday.

1321
01:05:45,320 --> 01:05:48,720
Speaker 4: I was so tempted to go and surprise him, but

1322
01:05:49,000 --> 01:05:51,520
Speaker 4: I just am not ready to get on a plane yet.

1323
01:05:51,560 --> 01:05:55,160
Speaker 2: So in due time. But happy birthday. I love you dad.

1324
01:05:55,160 --> 01:05:57,840
Speaker 3: If you have to listen, I know, when are we

1325
01:05:57,840 --> 01:05:59,320
Speaker 3: going to feel comfortable getting on a plane.

1326
01:05:59,680 --> 01:06:01,280
Speaker 1: We go back and forth because we want to go

1327
01:06:01,320 --> 01:06:03,360
Speaker 1: to Wisconsin in August because we do every year, and

1328
01:06:03,400 --> 01:06:05,200
Speaker 1: every week it's like we're not going. In the next

1329
01:06:05,280 --> 01:06:06,920
Speaker 1: we're like, well, maybe we'll go, and then as we're

1330
01:06:06,960 --> 01:06:08,880
Speaker 1: not going, so right now, as we're not going, but

1331
01:06:08,960 --> 01:06:09,360
Speaker 1: we'll see.

1332
01:06:10,200 --> 01:06:10,480
Speaker 3: I know.

1333
01:06:11,680 --> 01:06:12,000
Speaker 1: I know.

1334
01:06:12,160 --> 01:06:13,840
Speaker 4: It's like eventually we're gonna have to get back to

1335
01:06:13,880 --> 01:06:15,760
Speaker 4: a living life and just be very cautious.

1336
01:06:15,800 --> 01:06:17,040
Speaker 1: But it is like, yes, the.

1337
01:06:17,000 --> 01:06:19,960
Speaker 2: First time is gonna be a little like weird.

1338
01:06:20,960 --> 01:06:23,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I have to go. I have my annual

1339
01:06:23,120 --> 01:06:25,280
Speaker 3: like doctor's appointment. It's like my time of the year

1340
01:06:25,360 --> 01:06:27,360
Speaker 3: or whatever. And so I called to make my appointment

1341
01:06:27,480 --> 01:06:30,360
Speaker 3: and I was just like, I'm going to call back

1342
01:06:30,400 --> 01:06:32,520
Speaker 3: in a few weeks. I'm sorry, I'm not ready.

1343
01:06:34,760 --> 01:06:39,640
Speaker 2: So you called and make the appointment and you're like, okay.

1344
01:06:39,480 --> 01:06:43,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, I'm ridiculous. I am a ridiculous human being.

1345
01:06:43,280 --> 01:06:44,680
Speaker 3: And I apologize I was like, I'm so sorry for

1346
01:06:44,720 --> 01:06:46,520
Speaker 3: wasting your time. She's like, no, no, no, we understand, We

1347
01:06:46,600 --> 01:06:48,479
Speaker 3: totally understand, like whenever you're ready.

1348
01:06:48,480 --> 01:06:50,800
Speaker 4: And I'm like, okay, I saw a really funny TikTok.

1349
01:06:50,840 --> 01:06:52,720
Speaker 4: I think one of the Bachelor girls did it, but

1350
01:06:52,760 --> 01:06:55,400
Speaker 4: she FaceTime and she was filming it and she FaceTime

1351
01:06:55,440 --> 01:06:57,080
Speaker 4: her friends and they'd answer and they'd be like, hey,

1352
01:06:57,160 --> 01:06:58,720
Speaker 4: sheould go, oh wait, can I call.

1353
01:06:58,600 --> 01:07:02,960
Speaker 2: You back in one second? And they were all so confused, like, wait,

1354
01:07:03,000 --> 01:07:03,920
Speaker 2: what you called me?

1355
01:07:06,240 --> 01:07:07,960
Speaker 3: That's you, that's me.

1356
01:07:10,360 --> 01:07:12,400
Speaker 2: All right. We love you, guys. We will see you

1357
01:07:12,440 --> 01:07:16,479
Speaker 2: next week. Make sure you stay safe, be careful, and

1358
01:07:17,240 --> 01:07:17,760
Speaker 2: we love you.

1359
01:07:20,480 --> 01:07:21,000
Speaker 3: So much.

1360
01:07:22,200 --> 01:07:25,000
Speaker 2: I love when there's a weirdly long delay pause.

1361
01:07:25,520 --> 01:07:28,240
Speaker 3: I do gotta say. I'm feeling quite nice.

1362
01:07:28,000 --> 01:07:29,840
Speaker 2: Now, okod everything's settled.

1363
01:07:30,720 --> 01:07:31,720
Speaker 3: Everything settled.

1364
01:07:31,880 --> 01:07:35,120
Speaker 4: Great, So you can everyone, y'all can go into your

1365
01:07:35,160 --> 01:07:38,600
Speaker 4: week knowing that things are settled with Tanya stomach.

1366
01:07:39,240 --> 01:07:40,160
Speaker 3: Mayhem, no more.

1367
01:07:41,960 --> 01:07:43,480
Speaker 2: All right, we'll see you next week.

1368
01:07:43,680 --> 01:07:45,400
Speaker 1: Bye bye,