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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. Alright. Subject. Me and my

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Speaker 1: man have a little situation. Dear Stephen Shirley. I met

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Speaker 1: a gentleman seven months ago. I'm forty five and he's

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Speaker 1: thirty seven. When we met, he lived three hours away,

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Speaker 1: so he decided to move to my area. It's been

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Speaker 1: and I'm starting to see issues with him. He didn't

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Speaker 1: have a plan in place when he moved to my city,

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Speaker 1: and now he's living in a shelter because I told

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Speaker 1: him he cannot live with me. He doesn't have a car,

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Speaker 1: and I refuse to drive him around. He does have

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Speaker 1: a job. In fact, he's had three different jobs since

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Speaker 1: he's been here. He has been fired from each job

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Speaker 1: because he has an issue with the way people talk

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Speaker 1: to him. See, he has issues with being short. He

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Speaker 1: is only five three. I'm out, I'm a break I'm

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Speaker 1: not going to do this. Let me just say thank you.

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Speaker 1: I told you were gonna love it, and I asked

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Speaker 1: you enough for you to stick around. I'm going to

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Speaker 1: the break room. We're a team, all right. He has

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Speaker 1: issues with being short. He's only five three. I am

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Speaker 1: five too, so his height doesn't bother me, but it

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Speaker 1: bothers him. He has short patience with people. I believe

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Speaker 1: he's been abused by a woman before because he always

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Speaker 1: thinks I'm talking down to him and belittling him. I

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Speaker 1: jokingly push these issues to the side, but it's getting old.

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Speaker 1: I'm getting to the point where I want to end

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Speaker 1: this relationship. Can I help him overcome this or should

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Speaker 1: I just let him work through his own problems alone?

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Speaker 1: Please help? Is it my turn? Let me get That's

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Speaker 1: what I tell You're gonna love this and and you're welcome,

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Speaker 1: by the way, You're welcome. Listen. You may not have

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Speaker 1: a problem with his height, but he certainly does. And

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Speaker 1: and you got to let him work it out on

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Speaker 1: his own. There are things that you can help help

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Speaker 1: him do. I don't know, Maybe take him to therapy

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Speaker 1: so he can deal with it that way. Uh, But

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Speaker 1: there's nothing you can do about his problem with his height.

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Speaker 1: You cannot change people. You cannot change him. Uh. You've

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Speaker 1: only known him for seven months. Um. It made me think,

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Speaker 1: did you see him before? You guys you know, got together?

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Speaker 1: But I guess you did because you would have said

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Speaker 1: that if you didn't. But now he's moved. You guys

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Speaker 1: didn't talk about what was going to happen, where he

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Speaker 1: was going to live, whether or not he had a car.

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Speaker 1: You guys didn't discuss any of that before he moved

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Speaker 1: to the same city. How can he's had three jobs

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Speaker 1: since he's been there. He's only been there what four months?

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Speaker 1: He has an issue with the way people talk to him.

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Speaker 1: This is crazy. These are things that he has to

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Speaker 1: with for the majority of his adult life. Uh, you

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Speaker 1: don't care because he's still taller than you at five too.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know, Um, if you're gonna be able

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Speaker 1: to help him overcome this, because he's got to do

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Speaker 1: be there to support him. Yeah, he's gonna have to

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Speaker 1: work through these problems alone. UM, I don't know if

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Speaker 1: a job. He lives in a shelter. I mean, you know,

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Speaker 1: and you want him to do better, I'm sure, but

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Speaker 1: You know, he needs counseling. I think, Steve, boy, good advice.

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Speaker 1: This is not the time to be funny and be

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Speaker 1: as dear Tommy, don't I'm the one to geel stupid

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Speaker 1: about now this lady met this man seven. Let me go.

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Speaker 1: I promise you I'm farted five years old. He started

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Speaker 1: five thirty seven. When we met, he lived three hours away,

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Speaker 1: starting to see issues with him, really, So here we go.

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Speaker 1: He didn't have a plan in place when he moved

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Speaker 1: Where you sit at the shelter. Little man ain't got

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Speaker 1: no home. Oh you can get in my house. Listen

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Speaker 1: to me. Tiny houses they got this boy could have

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Speaker 1: Now I left y'all with this woman dating this shout lad. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: me and my man have a little situation now. She fied,

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Speaker 1: It's an eight year difference in him because she farty five,

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Speaker 1: But he ain't got no playing. She won't let him

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Speaker 1: was just wanting how it is for her when she

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Speaker 1: stopped by. How are you gonna see your man at

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Speaker 1: a shelter where you sit? Put you into the bed,

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Speaker 1: he's yours because one thing I know from being a

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Speaker 1: You don't touch my grocery cart, you don't put your

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Speaker 1: this blanket. He doesn't have a job, he doesn't have

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Speaker 1: now he just trying and walk around him little legs. Well,

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Speaker 1: he does have a job. Still he well, excuse me.

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Speaker 1: He got a job and he ain't got no car.

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Speaker 1: You if you now, he got to try everywhere. In fact,

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Speaker 1: Tina had three different jobs since he's been here. He's

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Speaker 1: how many times have we run into this? How many

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Speaker 1: wrote the right show because we are dealing with this ourselves,

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Speaker 1: and I want to thank you for the opportunity to

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Speaker 1: He stayed touchy, he energy all the damn time. Some

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Speaker 1: So his height doesn't bother me, but it bothers him.

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Speaker 1: He has short patience with people. What you want him

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Speaker 1: cause he edgy. He always assumed it's about his height.

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Speaker 1: Every time we mentioned height on this show, we got

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Speaker 1: even when we're not, Like right now, I can bet

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Speaker 1: she says, I believe that he's been abused by a

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Speaker 1: woman before because he always think I'm talking down to him.

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Speaker 1: That's because the women he dated with taller, they was

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Speaker 1: talking down to him. It happens to Tom, excuse me,

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Speaker 1: the time. I'm trying outside that kind of slipped out. Now.

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Speaker 1: always think I'm talking down to him. I joking. He

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Speaker 1: this relationship. Can I help him overcome this? I want

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Speaker 1: should I just let him work through his own problems alone?

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Speaker 1: Can I help him overcome this? No? You cannot, No,

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Speaker 1: been able to help him yet? Or should you let

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Speaker 1: him work through his own problems alone? He can't. He

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Speaker 1: damn time, it's always about him. Little people got big issues,

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Speaker 1: little man, short patients, they got shot legs, they got

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Speaker 1: short arms. They setting up everything about him a shot.

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Speaker 1: But one thing about short people, they get a job.

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Speaker 1: Though I don't care what nobody's say. They always working.

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Speaker 1: I'm surprised why he had a shot shorter at five three.

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Speaker 1: He could easily sign up for foster kill. He could

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Speaker 1: be in somebody's house. Yeah, he can get in the

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Speaker 1: See that's how you do it. You take a little

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Speaker 1: was a cupboard for clothes and stuff. It's a bath tub,

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Speaker 1: you understand. You climb on stairs for storage and a

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Speaker 1: little loft. You move that stuff out the way. It's

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Speaker 1: a bunk bath man. The stove and the toilet is

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Speaker 1: the same thing that you fixed the food on the toilet.

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Speaker 1: with you on that one. No, this is for tiny house.

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Speaker 1: And surely you ain't got too cause you have a home.

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Speaker 1: But deep people right here shop people like they can

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Speaker 1: do stuff like this. I've seen it done. Excuse me,

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Speaker 1: tell me you are right. I'm fine. I'm a man.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna be all right. Are you all right? You

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Speaker 1: ain't fine? Yeah, you're a man, But it's two things

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Speaker 1: you ain't. You ain't fine, and you're not tall. And

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Speaker 1: you damn knew this letter. We have seen see some

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Speaker 1: of the things that we're dealing with, all right, Steve

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Speaker 1: we gotta get out of here. You can email us

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