WEBVTT - SUNDAY SAMPLER - The Nashville Podcast Network (9-29-24) 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:11.840 Hey guys, Sunday Sampler Time. Some clips from some of 0:00:11.880 --> 0:00:14.960 the podcasts this week on the Nashville Podcast Network. Coming Up, 0:00:15.000 --> 0:00:17.239 I talked with Don Felder, who was in the Eagles, 0:00:17.520 --> 0:00:20.480 and he talks about the story behind Hotel California, which 0:00:20.480 --> 0:00:22.680 he wrote. But we're gonna start with a clip from 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:26.160 Take This Personally, where Morgan talked with therapist doctor Amy 0:00:26.160 --> 0:00:29.320 Tran about childhood trauma and how it impacts us as adults. 0:00:29.480 --> 0:00:31.800 They also discuss things we should unlearn in our lives. 0:00:31.800 --> 0:00:34.680 So here is a clip from Take This Personally with 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:36.160 Morgan Heughlsman. 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:58.480 Personallysman, I'm excited to welcome Amy Tran, who is a 0:00:58.520 --> 0:01:01.760 therapist and currently completely her training to be a psychologist 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:02.440 in Canada. 0:01:02.640 --> 0:01:03.520 How are you doing today? 0:01:03.600 --> 0:01:05.960 Thank you, I'm doing great. Thanks for having me on 0:01:06.000 --> 0:01:06.319 the show. 0:01:06.440 --> 0:01:08.240 Do you find it difficult for people to kind of 0:01:08.240 --> 0:01:11.080 address that because they are still as an adult. I'm 0:01:11.120 --> 0:01:13.840 super close with my parents. I'm not looking back and 0:01:13.880 --> 0:01:16.800 finding anything, but I'm sure there is something there. Do 0:01:16.840 --> 0:01:19.000 you find it's harder to do that when there is 0:01:19.040 --> 0:01:21.520 a close relationship because you almost don't want to jeopardize it, 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:23.199 or you don't want to lose it. Do you find 0:01:23.240 --> 0:01:25.399 that people find it hard to kind of attack that 0:01:25.480 --> 0:01:28.120 place because it's such a personal moment of their life. 0:01:28.160 --> 0:01:30.759 Oh yeah, one hundred percent. People say all the time, oh, 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:33.120 but I love my parents, or but I know they 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:36.000 did a good job. So it's really holding that space 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:39.560 for the person to be like, Okay, I love my parents, 0:01:39.680 --> 0:01:41.440 and I know they did the best that they could, 0:01:41.520 --> 0:01:44.280 but there's some things in which maybe it was outside 0:01:44.280 --> 0:01:47.800 of their awareness and they reacted to situations a certain 0:01:47.840 --> 0:01:51.560 way that had long lasting impacts on us. So, I mean, 0:01:51.640 --> 0:01:54.720 my perspective of it, and what I invite everyone to 0:01:54.920 --> 0:01:57.760 really see is that most humans are just trying the 0:01:57.800 --> 0:01:59.960 best that they can with what they know at the time, 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:02.960 the resources they have, and I believe parents are doing 0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:05.320 that too. That is the kind of perspective that I 0:02:05.520 --> 0:02:08.080 want people to take when we're talking about our parents, 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:11.040 is that no, they're not maliciously trying to traumatize you 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:14.040 or create anxiety and depression in your life. They were 0:02:14.080 --> 0:02:16.520 just doing their best that they could and then this 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:18.639 is how it turned out. So it is tough though 0:02:18.639 --> 0:02:19.959 for some people to talk about it. 0:02:20.160 --> 0:02:22.400 How can you give them tips to be like, you're 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:24.240 not going to be perfect, but this is what you 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:26.000 can do. Is there things that parents can do to 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:28.440 ensure their kids at least grow up in a sense 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:30.840 that have an idea of what's happening around them and 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:33.080 how to address those situations as they get older. 0:02:33.160 --> 0:02:35.760 I think that first of all is to be compassionate 0:02:35.800 --> 0:02:40.320 towards yourself. Right to parent is not only just ensuring 0:02:40.440 --> 0:02:43.320 survival and that there's food on the table and that 0:02:43.360 --> 0:02:45.840 the kid is living in an enriched life, but it's 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:49.760 a lot to help a child label their emotions, work 0:02:49.760 --> 0:02:53.560 through their emotions. There is so much work involved in 0:02:53.600 --> 0:02:56.079 that because if you, as a parent are not comfortable 0:02:56.120 --> 0:02:58.360 with emotions, if you, as a parent don't know how 0:02:58.400 --> 0:03:01.400 to handle your own emotions or soothe yourself, it's going 0:03:01.440 --> 0:03:03.200 to be really hard for you to do that for 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:06.639 your child and model that for your child. So that's 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:08.680 why it comes back to parents are just doing the 0:03:08.680 --> 0:03:11.680 best that they can. Be compassionate with yourself. Remember that 0:03:11.760 --> 0:03:14.200 it's a learning process. And if I can invite the 0:03:14.280 --> 0:03:16.960 parents out there who are listening to think about two 0:03:17.040 --> 0:03:20.040 things safety. How can you make your child feel safe 0:03:20.080 --> 0:03:22.280 if you think about your child as not just a 0:03:22.440 --> 0:03:25.560 human being but a nervous system as well, that will 0:03:25.600 --> 0:03:27.960 react to a loud voice, that will react to an 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:31.040 angry face, and will react to conflict around the home. 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:33.280 How can we make them feel a little bit safe? 0:03:33.320 --> 0:03:36.920 And also is that all children want to feel validated? 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:39.560 Seen in her If they're crying and you think what 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:42.880 they're crying about is the silliest thing before jumping to 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:46.720 well is it really worth crying about? Knowledge that you 0:03:46.880 --> 0:03:51.120 understand where that sadness is coming from. Validate, validate, validate, validate, 0:03:51.200 --> 0:03:52.680 is what I have to say. So how can we 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:55.560 create safety for children? And how can we make sure 0:03:55.600 --> 0:03:58.800 that they feel validated? Even if you disagree. First, just 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:01.840 let your child know that you understand where they're coming from. 0:04:01.880 --> 0:04:05.360 And I think as humans everybody can feel that sense 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:07.640 of validation that we all want. That's something that we 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:09.360 just keep having throughout our lives. 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:10.320 It never goes away. 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:20.560 So Christ Appleton's a decent friend of mine, and his 0:04:20.720 --> 0:04:22.719 song gets covered all the time. A lot of a 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:24.640 songs do like Tennessee Whiskey, which is not his song, 0:04:24.680 --> 0:04:27.640 but one that he covered and repopular and gets covered 0:04:27.720 --> 0:04:30.280 all the time. Are people constantly wanting you to hear 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:34.560 covers of your songs, like don't listen to this? Does 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:35.880 that happen a lot where it's like listen to this 0:04:35.920 --> 0:04:37.360 player or not so much anymore. 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:38.599 It happens a lot. 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:42.000 Just if I'm going through Instagram or Facebook or something. 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:43.200 There's all that you're TikTok. 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:46.440 There's people that want to show me that they can 0:04:46.440 --> 0:04:49.159 play my solo, which is really flattering. You know, it's 0:04:49.200 --> 0:04:52.080 not an easy solo by any stretch of the imagination, 0:04:52.760 --> 0:04:55.880 but it is flattering for that many people to try 0:04:55.920 --> 0:04:59.520 to attempt. There's actually I saw a trombone player doing 0:04:59.560 --> 0:05:02.800 the solo for Hotel California, and trombonas like this guy 0:05:02.880 --> 0:05:05.920 is a great player, but I can't imagine a sewer 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:07.640 pipe players who playing. 0:05:09.320 --> 0:05:11.120 An hotel. So I watched it. 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:14.000 Did you write about like when you wrote that We're 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:14.480 on the beach? 0:05:14.720 --> 0:05:16.240 Like, where did that come to you? 0:05:16.560 --> 0:05:17.200 Like that? 0:05:17.400 --> 0:05:19.440 Because it wasn't written as part of the whole song, right, 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:21.800 didn't you write the intro to that song just kind 0:05:21.800 --> 0:05:22.320 of by itself. 0:05:22.839 --> 0:05:25.280 What happened was I had rented a house on a 0:05:25.360 --> 0:05:27.760 beach in Malibu. I had two little kids. One was 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:29.480 about a year old and one was like two and 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:30.039 a half. 0:05:30.680 --> 0:05:32.960 And I was hitting on the couch. 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:36.040 It was just a beautiful sunny California day and the 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:38.560 sun was glistening on the surf as it's coming in, 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:41.640 and my kids were in the sand on this swing set. 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:44.920 And so I have this guitar, acoustic guitar, and I'm 0:05:44.960 --> 0:05:47.360 just sitting there and I start playing this chord progression, 0:05:47.960 --> 0:05:50.520 and about three or four times through the progression, I said, 0:05:50.800 --> 0:05:52.920 I have to go in the back bedroom and record 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:54.680 a little bit of it, because if I don't record 0:05:54.720 --> 0:05:57.720 it tomorrow, allgo What was that thing that was? So 0:05:58.040 --> 0:06:00.880 So I run in a back bedroom, cord about I 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:03.839 don't know, two or three times through the verse progression, 0:06:04.839 --> 0:06:08.240 and just put it away. It was actually my one 0:06:08.320 --> 0:06:12.040 year old daughter's bedroom was my recording studio when she 0:06:12.200 --> 0:06:14.600 was away playing, I could go in and Mike write 0:06:14.680 --> 0:06:18.640 demos and stuff. Anyway, So I recorded that, and then 0:06:18.720 --> 0:06:22.400 we started writing song ideas for the album that was 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:25.640 untitled at the time that was going to be Hotel California. 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:30.200 So I wound up writing sixteen or seventeen complete basic 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:32.480 tracks where I would go in and take an idea 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:35.200 like that little progression, and i'd fill it out and 0:06:35.279 --> 0:06:37.480 write a chorus part to it, and I'd play bass 0:06:37.560 --> 0:06:40.320 on it. And I had a little rhythm rhythm drum 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:42.960 machine called a rhythm ace that you used to see 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:45.400 on piano players and bars that they could set it 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:47.600 to a cha chaar, set it to a rock beat. 0:06:48.240 --> 0:06:50.600 So I used that, and then I just overdubbed a 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:53.080 bunch of stuff on this little four track tape recorder 0:06:53.240 --> 0:06:55.760 three to one, then fill up two more tracks and 0:06:55.760 --> 0:06:58.559 about those three to one, and so it was mono 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:01.280 at the time. I just I should have brought my 0:07:01.400 --> 0:07:04.160 laptop because I have a digital copy of it. I 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:06.040 could play you a little bit of it, and it 0:07:06.240 --> 0:07:09.040 sounds I played the beginning with a twelve string and 0:07:09.120 --> 0:07:11.440 then these electrics come in. The solo at the very 0:07:11.600 --> 0:07:14.160 end is pretty much like it is on the record, 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:18.200 with the exception of some walshisms. When Joe and I 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:21.360 played together, we came up with just great unique stuff. 0:07:22.120 --> 0:07:25.640 So I put that idea on a cassette with like 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:29.840 fifteen or sixteen other song ideas. One became Victim of Love, 0:07:30.440 --> 0:07:33.120 and Henley liked that one that sounded like a Mexican 0:07:33.240 --> 0:07:36.960 reggae and so he was off and running writing lyrics 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:39.480 to that song and came up with the lyric Idea 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:42.280 and lyrics for Hotel California, which was on top of 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:45.360 that music bed. So that's kind of how that all 0:07:45.440 --> 0:07:45.880 came together. 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:47.120 And I didn't want to get you out. I read 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:48.280 your book as soon as it came out, like the 0:07:48.320 --> 0:07:50.400 week it came out. I devoured it, Like I'm a 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:52.440 literal fan. I knew the story about the beach. I 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:53.920 was like, I don't know, I think it's a beach, 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:56.560 but I knew because I as soon as that book 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:58.880 came out, I crushed. And it's really one of my 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:02.360 favorite like music bio books ever, and I think it 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:05.560 represents Again we're just talking about back in your childhood, 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:09.000 like Gainesville, Florida. What was your environment, What were you 0:08:09.120 --> 0:08:13.760 surrounded by musically in Gainesville that even created an interest 0:08:14.480 --> 0:08:17.080 to want to hear music that wasn't the typical white 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:19.320 music that you got there, Like where was that coming from? 0:08:19.400 --> 0:08:21.760 Like that desire to learn and be around different kinds 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:23.840 of music. There was nothing else to do. There was 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:24.560 no internet. 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:29.840 Television had three channels, you know, it's ABC, NBCCBS, and 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:32.679 then they went off the air shortly after sunset. 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:34.960 Played the Starspangle by International Anthem. I was telling one 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:36.720 of our people here like I caught the tail end 0:08:36.760 --> 0:08:38.040 of that in my life, and they were like, what 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:40.400 the channel would go off? I was like, yeah, and 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:42.120 then I would show the screen of his hold. 0:08:42.280 --> 0:08:42.480 Yeah. 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:46.599 And there was no really individual entertainment you could do. 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:50.120 So I wound up getting a guitar and just trying 0:08:50.160 --> 0:08:51.520 to figure out how it worked and. 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:52.520 How'd you get the guitar? 0:08:52.600 --> 0:08:52.920 What did that? 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:55.679 There was a kid that lived across the street from me, 0:08:56.320 --> 0:08:58.719 and up in the top of one of his closets 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:02.000 I saw in a guitar and it had some broken 0:09:02.080 --> 0:09:04.800 strings on it. And my brother and I had just 0:09:04.880 --> 0:09:08.240 come back down from South Carolina and my favorite uncle 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:10.640 had given us a box of cherry bombs and we 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:13.319 hit him in the trunk from my dad. My dad 0:09:13.360 --> 0:09:15.640 wouldn't let us play with those things. So when it 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:18.199 would rain, we lived on a dirt road that was 0:09:18.320 --> 0:09:20.559 crowned and there was a ditch on both sides of 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:23.040 the road for all the Florida run off, and to 0:09:23.120 --> 0:09:25.400 get from the road to your house, there was a 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:29.200 big metal culvert that the water would run through underneath 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:31.880 your driveway. So when it was raining, and we would 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:34.240 run out with these cherry bombs, light them and throw 0:09:34.320 --> 0:09:36.679 them up stream and tie them so they would float 0:09:36.760 --> 0:09:40.559 down into that culvert and then boom, blow up and 0:09:40.679 --> 0:09:42.240 everybody would come running. 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:43.800 Out to see what was going on, and we would 0:09:43.840 --> 0:09:45.120 be back in the house hiding. 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:47.839 So this kid comes out, he sees us doing it, 0:09:47.840 --> 0:09:49.720 and he says, oh, it's some of those cherry bombs. 0:09:49.840 --> 0:09:52.160 I said, well, I'll give you a handful of these 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:54.079 cherry bombs if you can get me that guitar that 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:56.280 you have. We'll make a trade. So he runs back 0:09:56.320 --> 0:09:59.760 to his house, gets his guitar, brings it over, give 0:09:59.840 --> 0:10:03.400 him cherry bombs. Fifteen minutes later, cherry bombs are gone. 0:10:03.559 --> 0:10:06.320 But I got a guitar. We didn't have any money. 0:10:06.400 --> 0:10:08.000 That was the only way we could get started. 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:33.359 Good cast up little. 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:33.599 Food for you. 0:10:33.720 --> 0:10:35.920 So life ain't. 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:40.199 Oh it's pretty bad. It's pretty beautiful that for a 0:10:40.280 --> 0:10:47.760 little more, said he can't. You're kicking it with four 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:49.880 with Amy Brown. 0:10:50.320 --> 0:10:53.079 I saw this thing on Instagram the other day about 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:56.000 floor drobes. I had never heard of this before. But 0:10:56.120 --> 0:10:59.720 if you ever delay putting away clean laundry, or maybe 0:11:00.240 --> 0:11:02.079 you've tried on that you didn't wear, and then you 0:11:02.200 --> 0:11:04.400 just start to pile them up like on a chair 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:08.080 on the floor for days on end. Well, these piles 0:11:08.080 --> 0:11:11.400 they have a name, and it's floordrobe. A floor drobe 0:11:11.480 --> 0:11:14.680 is a place typically on the floor that we leave 0:11:14.960 --> 0:11:19.640 clean or not quite dirty clothes. And I get all 0:11:19.800 --> 0:11:24.280 kinds of ADHD content in my algorithm now. And when 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:27.719 floordrobe showed up, I was like, oh my gosh, that 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:30.600 is me. And I looked round my room and all 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:34.280 my different little floordrobe piles. And I am someone that 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:37.920 loves laundry, I really do, But then it turns into 0:11:37.920 --> 0:11:40.640 floor drobe because I don't think I necessarily love putting 0:11:40.679 --> 0:11:45.000 the clothes away. Always get distracted, And now I know why. 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:48.559 I looked up something real quick just now about floor drobes. 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:52.760 And this is from Billy Roberts, a therapist at Focused 0:11:52.840 --> 0:11:57.200 Mind ADHD Counseling in Columbus, Ohio. He said, when faced 0:11:57.240 --> 0:12:00.480 with a task that is boring, the ADHD brand gets 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:05.079 overwhelmed and starts craving more interesting tasks. Tedious chores like 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:08.800 laundry tend to be particularly frustrating because they can pile up, 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:13.360 leading many with ADHD to feel incredibly overwhelmed and to 0:12:13.720 --> 0:12:18.360 further avoid the task. Now, I'm sure people without ADHD 0:12:18.480 --> 0:12:20.440 have floor drobes, but I think it's just more common 0:12:21.000 --> 0:12:24.360 if you have ADHD. And again, I just like knowing 0:12:25.120 --> 0:12:30.480 why something is happening. I like knowing also how I 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:34.160 can fix it, which leads me to the strategies that 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:36.880 I have for you. And these strategies are pretty good. 0:12:37.120 --> 0:12:39.040 Some maybe you know, some you don't, maybe you just 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:43.840 need a refresher. But if you suffer from ADHD paralysis, 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:48.160 you definitely will benefit from one of these strategies or 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:50.600 maybe all of them. I feel like I might need 0:12:50.720 --> 0:12:52.720 to implement like a new one each day to get 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:56.160 all my stuff done. And what's fun is there are 0:12:56.400 --> 0:12:59.680 four strategies, which is very fitting because it's the four things. 0:13:01.360 --> 0:13:05.559 First thing, break tasks down. You just break them down 0:13:05.600 --> 0:13:09.240 into smaller, manageable steps. Now this sounds so simple, but 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:12.160 trust me, this is something that works. Instead of saying 0:13:12.760 --> 0:13:16.240 clean the house, we'll break it down to clean the 0:13:16.320 --> 0:13:20.960 kitchen counter, put away laundry, and just you don't end 0:13:21.040 --> 0:13:24.600 up with a floor drobe. Maybe put away this pile, 0:13:25.240 --> 0:13:28.760 put away genes, and then later you can put away 0:13:29.160 --> 0:13:33.000 shirts vacuum one room. The idea is to make the 0:13:33.160 --> 0:13:37.040 task feel less overwhelming. This will really help your brain. 0:13:37.440 --> 0:13:40.320 I know it's simple, but it helps. It seems very 0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:42.599 elementary and like you're having to talk to yourself like 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:46.600 a child, but when your executive function is out on vacation, 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:50.559 it needs a talking to like a child. Second thing, 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:53.280 the Pomodoro technique. Have you heard of this one? I 0:13:53.320 --> 0:13:55.120 feel like I've talked about it on the podcast before, 0:13:55.160 --> 0:13:59.240 but it's basically working in short bursts, usually twenty five 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:02.599 minutes of folks work, and then that's followed by a 0:14:02.760 --> 0:14:06.040 five minute break. And what this does is it tricks 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:10.160 your brain into thinking like, oh, I only have twenty 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:12.679 five minutes of work to do, no big deal. And 0:14:12.880 --> 0:14:17.400 once you get started, it's easier to keep going. Third thing, 0:14:18.280 --> 0:14:23.760 using timer's and external accountability. Sometimes just knowing that someone 0:14:23.880 --> 0:14:27.480 else is counting on you is enough to get you moving, 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:31.479 whether you know it's a friend, a family member, coworker. 0:14:31.720 --> 0:14:36.000 Having someone check in that can help you break the paralysis. 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:39.320 And also with the timer thing, I mean that's back 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:41.600 to the Pomodoro effect. Like you could set a timer 0:14:41.680 --> 0:14:43.960 for twenty five minutes, but you know, we talk about 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:46.280 the ten minute pus on the podcast A Lot. I 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:48.800 learned that from my sister. You set a timer for 0:14:48.960 --> 0:14:51.680 ten minutes and you just clean as much as you 0:14:51.760 --> 0:14:54.440 can and that ten minutes, try to get as much 0:14:54.560 --> 0:14:56.720 done as possible. And a lot of times when the 0:14:56.760 --> 0:14:59.760 timer goes off, you're motivated. You keep going. 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:00.920 You see progress. 0:15:01.040 --> 0:15:03.040 Your brain's like, oh this looks good, I might as 0:15:03.080 --> 0:15:05.720 well keep going, and who knows. You even clean for 0:15:06.160 --> 0:15:09.520 fifteen minutes, which is better than zero, And when you're 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:14.840 an ADHD paralysis, you're getting zero done. Fourth thing, change 0:15:14.880 --> 0:15:18.360 your environment. If your workspace or home is cluttered or 0:15:18.920 --> 0:15:22.760 full of distractions, clear it out. Even moving to a 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:26.840 different room or a new spot can help reframe your 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:30.240 mind and make it easier to start something. So there 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:34.720 you go, break down tasks, Pomodoro technique, use timers, an 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:40.440 external accountability, and change your environment. But remember changing environment 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:43.680 doesn't have to be anything drastic. It can just be 0:15:44.280 --> 0:15:47.120 simply getting up and going to another room. It doesn't 0:15:47.160 --> 0:15:49.080 mean you have to leave your house and go to 0:15:49.160 --> 0:15:51.920 another location. And something that just popped into my head, 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:54.920 that is a strategy that works for me, and I 0:15:54.960 --> 0:15:56.840 don't know why. I didn't think of it until now, 0:15:57.360 --> 0:16:00.120 but it's the body doubling. It actually came up with 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:03.520 Kat and I on a Fifth Thing episode recently, so 0:16:03.600 --> 0:16:06.120 I guess I'll throw it in the fifth Strategy. We'll 0:16:06.160 --> 0:16:09.120 at it here the Bonus strategy, just like the Bonus episode, 0:16:09.480 --> 0:16:13.680 but body doubling. That's when you have another person just 0:16:13.880 --> 0:16:16.320 in the room with you while you're trying to accomplish 0:16:16.360 --> 0:16:20.920 a task, and the idea behind it working is just 0:16:21.080 --> 0:16:25.720 having someone there increases your motivation. It's that simple, and personally, 0:16:25.840 --> 0:16:30.080 for me, body doubling works really really well. I was 0:16:30.120 --> 0:16:32.280 researching for this episode and that never came up, but 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:34.520 it just popped into my head right now, and I'm 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:37.880 glad that it did, because it's just such a good 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:39.840 one for me, and maybe it's good for you. And 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:42.920 it sounds tricky because you think that body doubling means 0:16:42.960 --> 0:16:44.680 that the other person has to be doing the same 0:16:44.760 --> 0:16:46.800 task as you in order for you to be doing it. 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:49.680 But all that you need from your body double is 0:16:49.720 --> 0:16:52.360 for them to be in the room. If they're helping 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:55.240 with the task or doing the same thing, sure that's amazing, 0:16:55.920 --> 0:16:58.160 but they just have to be in the room. 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:03.720 We're going to do it alive. Oh the one, two, three, 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:05.200 Sore Losers? 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:09.280 What up, everybody? I am lunchbox. I know the most 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:11.760 about sports, so I'll give you the sports facts, my 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:16.120 sports opinions, because I'm pretty much a sports genius, y'all. 0:17:16.200 --> 0:17:18.480 It's Sison. I'm from the North. I'm an alpha male. 0:17:18.520 --> 0:17:20.760 I live on the North side of Nashville with Bayser, 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:22.760 my wife. We do have a farm. It's beautiful. A 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:26.600 lot of acreage, no animals, a lot of crops. Hopefully 0:17:26.680 --> 0:17:31.560 soon corn pumpkins, rye. I believe maybe a little fescue 0:17:33.000 --> 0:17:33.920 to be determined. 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:37.920 Over to you, coach, And here's a clip from this 0:17:38.040 --> 0:17:39.840 week's episode of The Sore Losers. 0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:44.000 Yeah, how much more does this roller coaster got? 0:17:45.040 --> 0:17:47.040 I mean, I'm feeling great. I cashed out for you know, 0:17:47.240 --> 0:17:49.919 I made a thousand on that last roulette. Hitting those numbers. 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:52.960 It felt so good. Get on the plane, I'm C 0:17:53.200 --> 0:17:58.399 twenty seven boarding lucky enough. Got a window and I 0:17:58.520 --> 0:18:01.359 get my bag and I'm I walk out and I 0:18:01.440 --> 0:18:03.639 got to get the shuttle to the car. And I 0:18:03.720 --> 0:18:06.000 see the shuttle pulling away and I'm like, oh no, no, no, no, 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:07.680 don't leave. Me, don't leave me and I wave my hand. 0:18:07.720 --> 0:18:11.080 He stops, not even at the bus stop, lets me on, 0:18:11.720 --> 0:18:14.120 so I always do VIP and I'm like, hell, yeah, 0:18:14.280 --> 0:18:18.560 let's go. We're driving and we passed the turn to 0:18:18.640 --> 0:18:23.520 my parking lot where I parked, and he pulls into 0:18:23.600 --> 0:18:26.440 Lot See and I'm like, son, up a bitch, I'm 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:27.280 on the wrong bus. 0:18:31.520 --> 0:18:34.640 How dude, All you have to do is remember one letter. Ray. 0:18:34.680 --> 0:18:36.560 I wasn't paying attention. I saw the bus just pulling 0:18:36.560 --> 0:18:38.159 away from the stop and I was like, hey, I 0:18:38.280 --> 0:18:39.440 just don't want to miss it. I don't want to 0:18:39.440 --> 0:18:41.399 miss it, and I just waved my hand. I got on. 0:18:42.880 --> 0:18:47.040 So then I'm in. I got two decisions to make. 0:18:47.080 --> 0:18:49.080 Do I just sit on the bus like an idiot 0:18:49.200 --> 0:18:50.640 and ride it all the way back to the airport, 0:18:51.880 --> 0:18:53.520 or do I say, oh, man, there's my stop and 0:18:53.600 --> 0:18:55.240 get off and just walked a Lot B. 0:18:56.280 --> 0:18:57.840 Wonder how close they are? They walkable? 0:18:58.880 --> 0:18:59.960 In my head they were walkable. 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:00.720 Ray got it. 0:19:01.080 --> 0:19:05.400 So I got off the bus. Ray, it's about a mile. 0:19:09.600 --> 0:19:12.159 What is happening from Lot Sea to Lot B with 0:19:12.359 --> 0:19:17.080 a suitcase? With a suitcase eight o'clock at night and 0:19:17.160 --> 0:19:22.560 there's no damn sidewalks, I'm trudging through bushes, I'm going 0:19:22.640 --> 0:19:26.359 through the grass. Finally, I put my suitcase in the 0:19:26.400 --> 0:19:28.399 street and I'm rolling it as I walk on the 0:19:28.480 --> 0:19:30.600 side in the grass so it can roll. And then 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:33.720 I got cars honking at me because I'm blocking traffic 0:19:33.800 --> 0:19:34.760 with my suitcases. 0:19:34.800 --> 0:19:35.240 I walk. 0:19:37.640 --> 0:19:39.040 Then I get to a spot where I got to 0:19:39.119 --> 0:19:41.359 run across four lanes of traffic to get over to 0:19:41.440 --> 0:19:44.280 the go underneath the bridge exactly where you are, and 0:19:44.359 --> 0:19:47.080 then you got to go left down underneath the tunnel. 0:19:47.440 --> 0:19:48.040 And not only that. 0:19:48.200 --> 0:19:49.720 Once I get to Lot B, it's not like I 0:19:49.840 --> 0:19:51.480 parked in the front of Lot B. I parked in 0:19:51.520 --> 0:19:55.359 the very back left ass corner. I mean, sweat is 0:19:55.480 --> 0:20:00.080 just pouring down me as I am making my way, man, And. 0:20:00.320 --> 0:20:02.679 That is a moment you'll never forget for the rest, never. 0:20:02.720 --> 0:20:04.800 Forget for the rest of my life. And I walk 0:20:05.200 --> 0:20:07.720 and I finally get to the back and I get 0:20:07.760 --> 0:20:09.359 in the car and I turn on that ac and 0:20:09.480 --> 0:20:14.080 I'm like, the trip from Hell is over. The trip 0:20:14.480 --> 0:20:18.600 from Hell is absolutely over. See. 0:20:18.720 --> 0:20:20.800 Some people go to Vegas never make their way out. Man, 0:20:20.920 --> 0:20:22.160 You're one of the lucky ones. 0:20:22.680 --> 0:20:25.400