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Speaker 2: Avery is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Toby.
Speaker 2: So we're gonna see if we can figure it out
Speaker 2: for and call him in just a few minutes and
Speaker 2: ask him why he's ghosting. But first, Avery, tell us
Speaker 2: about Toby. How long has it mean since you talk
Speaker 2: to him?
Speaker 3: Hi?
Speaker 4: Sure, So we talked online for a while before our
Speaker 4: date and we ended up going hiking, and it's been
Speaker 4: a couple of weeks and I just haven't heard from
Speaker 4: him much. I don't know. I kind of feel like
Speaker 4: it's weird.
Speaker 2: Okay, so a couple of weeks that is a long time. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I would feel weird.
Speaker 3: About that too.
Speaker 4: Yeah. I was kind of giving it time. You know,
Speaker 4: we're both really busy. He had mentioned like work a
Speaker 4: couple of times. Didn't know if he was busy, but
Speaker 4: I thought it went well, So I was just kind of,
Speaker 4: you know, want to see what's up.
Speaker 5: Did you try reaching out to him at all in
Speaker 5: between that time?
Speaker 1: I did.
Speaker 4: I did text him like a phone. I went on
Speaker 4: the same hike like later so I text him a
Speaker 4: photo of the hike, like, oh my god, this is
Speaker 4: we were and he just never responded to that photo.
Speaker 4: But so it was kind of denign, like I didn't
Speaker 4: want to be too forward, but yeah, I didn't even respond.
Speaker 4: It's like completely ghosted.
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's a big one too, Like if you
Speaker 2: went to the same place you were at and sent
Speaker 2: a picture, you would think you would get a response.
Speaker 3: I love how we do that to ourselves though.
Speaker 5: We send text messages and tell ourselves it's okay, this
Speaker 5: one doesn't require a response, so I'm just gonna send
Speaker 5: it in whatever happens happened, right, And then really you're like, dang,
Speaker 5: it should have responded. Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was like opening. I was like opening the door,
Speaker 4: and it didn't.
Speaker 3: Well, let's see what happened. Tell us more about the
Speaker 3: date and the hike then. Uh yeah.
Speaker 4: So well, we both had on our like online profiles
Speaker 4: that we liked the hike, so I thought it would
Speaker 4: kind of be a good date, you know, not awkward
Speaker 4: at all and fun.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I brought my dog because the dog needs to get outside,
Speaker 4: didn't get exercise, and I just thought it would be fun,
Speaker 4: and we hiked for a few miles and then afterward
Speaker 4: we were still having good times, so we went to
Speaker 4: get a BikeE to eat and he was really nice
Speaker 4: and he was really sweet to my dog too, Like
Speaker 4: he looked around trying to make sure we could find
Speaker 4: a patio where the dog could sit with us outside
Speaker 4: what we ate and yeah, I don't know, we have
Speaker 4: like a great afternoon.
Speaker 3: Did you tell him ahead of time that you were
Speaker 3: bringing the dog on the date?
Speaker 2: Uh?
Speaker 6: I don't think so.
Speaker 7: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I didn't really think because it was a hike, we
Speaker 4: were outside, I didn't really think about it. But I
Speaker 4: don't think I don't. I don't think I did. But
Speaker 4: he didn't seem to mind. I mean, who doesn't love dogs?
Speaker 6: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, must love dogs. I mean there are
Speaker 3: some people that don't. He didn't seem like you minded it.
Speaker 4: Not that I noticed, no, I mean he doesn't have
Speaker 4: a dog himself, but like it didn't seem he didn't
Speaker 4: seem offended or scared at the dog or anything.
Speaker 5: Okay, could was there anything that happened during the hike
Speaker 5: or maybe afterwards that could it be the reason why
Speaker 5: he's not hitting you back?
Speaker 4: I don't know. I mean, something did kind of seem
Speaker 4: off after lunch, but you know, like at the end
Speaker 4: of the day he kind of left, not abruptly, but like,
Speaker 4: you know, I thought we might continue hanging out, but
Speaker 4: I didn't know if he shouldn't like his food. He
Speaker 4: ended up giving the rest of his meal to my dog.
Speaker 4: So I thought it was cute.
Speaker 3: But what did you guys eat? I hope.
Speaker 4: No, it's like taco It's like tacos. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: I don't know. I guess I just thought he got
Speaker 4: caught up with work or something, or maybe the hike
Speaker 4: was like maybe he liked not strenuous hikes and it
Speaker 4: was too much. I don't know, Okay, I'm honestly just
Speaker 4: I'm baffled.
Speaker 3: When you say it was different after you ate, like
Speaker 3: or yeah, how was he different?
Speaker 4: Like he he just kind of said he had to go,
Speaker 4: and you know, I kept making suggestions of like oh,
Speaker 4: we could walk back to our cars together, or like
Speaker 4: I could drop the dog back at my house and
Speaker 4: we could go do something else, and he just kind
Speaker 4: of shut everything down and was like, no, I have
Speaker 4: to go. Whereas earlier we had been talking about like
Speaker 4: making plans for the future, you know what I mean,
Speaker 4: like kind of talking about idea of other things that
Speaker 4: we could.
Speaker 2: Do, you know, Yeah, Okay, we'll see if we can
Speaker 2: figure it out for you. We'll play a song come
Speaker 2: Back and then call him and see if he'll tell
Speaker 2: us why he's ghosting you, and then see if you
Speaker 2: also want another date after you find out why, and
Speaker 2: maybe you another date. Okay, okay, all right, play a
Speaker 2: song come back and can get your first day follow up.
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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of the first date follow up
Speaker 2: and if you're just joining us, Avery is on the
Speaker 2: phone and she's getting ghosted by Toby. So we're about
Speaker 2: to call him and see if he'll tell us why
Speaker 2: he's Ghostinger. But before we do that, Avery, why don't
Speaker 2: you refresh everybody's memory on your date with Toby.
Speaker 4: Sure, So we went hiking a couple of weeks ago
Speaker 4: with my dog and went really well. Conversation was flowing fine,
Speaker 4: we got food afterwards, seem to have a good time.
Speaker 4: But since then he's kind of ghosted me, and I'm
Speaker 4: not sure why he doesn't want to get together again.
Speaker 3: You ready to call him? Uh yeah, all right, here
Speaker 3: we go. Hello, Hi, Ma, I speak Toby please.
Speaker 8: Hey, Yeah, this is Toby's Toby.
Speaker 2: How are you.
Speaker 3: My name is Jewbel. I host a radio show and
Speaker 3: it's called The Jubil Show. Hi, Toby, the show's here too.
Speaker 3: I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria. How's it going?
Speaker 5: How's it going?
Speaker 7: I'm doing good? Thanks for asking.
Speaker 3: Do you listen to the show.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I've heard you guys show.
Speaker 8: I love it.
Speaker 3: Oh, okay, we love that. Probably heard a first day
Speaker 3: follow up before then? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, sweet, Well guess
Speaker 3: what tubes?
Speaker 8: Oh hey, is this for?
Speaker 7: Uh the last date I have? Larry?
Speaker 5: Well?
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're a smart guy.
Speaker 4: Toe.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you seem pretty casual about this. Did you expect
Speaker 3: us to call?
Speaker 5: I know?
Speaker 7: I just uh yeah, I mean that was the last
Speaker 7: one I went on.
Speaker 8: That's what we're talking about.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is what we're talking about. So Ay told us,
Speaker 2: you know, about your date and stuff. She said you
Speaker 2: really liked you been a few weeks and you haven't
Speaker 2: gotten back to her. She doesn't know why you're ghosting her,
Speaker 2: so she wanted us to ask you, would you tell us?
Speaker 3: Please tell u?
Speaker 7: Yeah? So bad, But like I just couldn't stand her
Speaker 7: dog itchy broad.
Speaker 3: Along the date, So it was the dog.
Speaker 7: I mean she didn't mention it, you know, and I
Speaker 7: don't know, it's it's not that big of a.
Speaker 8: Problem, but I mean like just kind of like a
Speaker 8: heads up would have been nice, you know, like, hey,
Speaker 8: when I bring my dog on the hike, you know.
Speaker 2: We asked her if she asked you or told you
Speaker 2: that the dog was gonna come.
Speaker 5: Yeah, she said she didn't because she just figured it
Speaker 5: was an outside hike. But she also mentioned that you
Speaker 5: were really great to her dog. You fed her dog,
Speaker 5: you're giving the dog love.
Speaker 8: So I mean somebody kind of had too. I mean
Speaker 8: the dog is not like well behaved at all.
Speaker 3: I mean the whole time it was like pulling her along.
Speaker 7: And I was like, all right, I'm gonna have to
Speaker 7: take over this least because you're getting like yanked, so
Speaker 7: it's kind of annoying, you know. And then I mean
Speaker 7: we got lunch and the dog just was like sitting
Speaker 7: there like begging for food constantly, and I mean.
Speaker 8: She didn't do anything.
Speaker 7: To like stop it.
Speaker 3: She just kind of was like, oh.
Speaker 8: That's just so cute, Like is this cute and I
Speaker 8: was like, no, I mean, it's staring at my food
Speaker 8: like I'm trying to eat, and I just I eventually
Speaker 8: just like gave the dog the food, the rest of
Speaker 8: my food, because I was like, it's just salivating, like
Speaker 8: looking at my food.
Speaker 3: So the dog the food.
Speaker 2: She thought, maybe you that you wanted to, but you
Speaker 2: just gave it because it wouldn't stop suck.
Speaker 8: I was like, it looked like it was like judging me,
Speaker 8: you know, like judging my order of taco. And I
Speaker 8: was like, here, I have it.
Speaker 5: You like dogs, but you just didn't like this one
Speaker 5: the way it acted, So it was he felt like,
Speaker 5: you want to do with the dog?
Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean I know I love dogs, I love animals,
Speaker 8: but I mean not that dog. I mean, if that
Speaker 8: dog behaves the way it does is a lot about
Speaker 8: its owner.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, what are you crazy?
Speaker 4: My dog is really well behaved. I honestly can't believe
Speaker 4: you have a problem with her. I'm super offended right now.
Speaker 6: Actually, Toby, Hi, hi Hi, I would disagree if you
Speaker 6: had a problem with dogs.
Speaker 4: I didn't like dogs. I didn't have to bring the
Speaker 4: dog on the hike, but he had talked about them
Speaker 4: before and she's really really well behaved. She's completely trained.
Speaker 4: We did training classes and everything, and yeah we were outside.
Speaker 4: She was having fun and running around while we were hiking,
Speaker 4: but that's literally what dogs do. So I didn't realize
Speaker 4: you had a problem with dogs.
Speaker 8: I don't have a problem with dogs. Your dog is
Speaker 8: not trained. I think you should get a refund because
Speaker 8: whatever train you had, that dog is like wild. So
Speaker 8: I'm I'm sorry, but that's not the case.
Speaker 4: I've never had anyone tell me that before. And I've
Speaker 4: brought my dog on their dates before. She comes and
Speaker 4: hangs out with my friends and we go to restaurants,
Speaker 4: and no one's ever had a problem with her. She's
Speaker 4: super cute and I don't know, maybe she's got a
Speaker 4: weird vibe from you.
Speaker 3: Oh that does happen.
Speaker 8: I think other friends might not be telling you the truth,
Speaker 8: That's all I'm saying. But because you got to wrangle
Speaker 8: with the dog.
Speaker 4: In well, I don't think we'll be hanging out again.
Speaker 4: And then because I trust my dog. She has a
Speaker 4: really good sense of character and she clearly didn't take you,
Speaker 4: so I don't have any interests in her.
Speaker 2: Are you sure Tooby? Would you like to go again
Speaker 2: with Avery on a second date. We'll pay for it.
Speaker 8: No I have to ask. No, that's okay, I'll pass.
Speaker 7: She can have a date with her dog.
Speaker 4: I wouldn't much rather hang out with my dog any day. Really,
Speaker 4: we'll take my dog on the date.
Speaker 3: It's the dog. Yeah.
Speaker 4: And maybe I'll see you on the hike again sometime
Speaker 4: and she'll pee on your foot or something, okay.
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