WEBVTT - Do You Think Too Much?

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<v Speaker 1>You found your way here to waking up with Ryan.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so glad that you pushed play. This is the

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<v Speaker 1>place you and I come to wake up together. So

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<v Speaker 1>let's take a deep breath and begin. Have you ever

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<v Speaker 1>seen Ellen DeGeneres' stand-up special called Here and Now?

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<v Speaker 2>It's incredible if you haven't seen it.

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<v Speaker 1>She talks about that friend that we all have, who

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<v Speaker 1>is sitting next to you in the movie theater. And

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<v Speaker 1>every time there's a tense moment, they turn to you

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<v Speaker 1>and they ask, what's happening?

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think is going to happen next?

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<v Speaker 1>And how she then turns to the friend and says,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Let's watch and find out together, shall we?

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<v Speaker 1>That moment is such a perfect depiction of the busyness

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<v Speaker 1>of Of your mind.

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<v Speaker 2>You're watching your life. Like it's a movie. And your mind.

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<v Speaker 2>Is constantly. Trying to interpret. Predict.

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<v Speaker 1>Make meaning of literally everything that happens. It's like there's

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<v Speaker 1>your life. Which is just what's happening. But what you're

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<v Speaker 1>really paying attention to. Is all your thinking. About your life.

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<v Speaker 2>And that. means that you're not present.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I love Ellen's question to her friend in

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<v Speaker 1>the movie theater, which is, I don't know what's happening

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<v Speaker 1>in this movie. Why don't we sit and watch and

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<v Speaker 1>find out together? What a different way to experience your life.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually don't know what's happening, but I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>be present and I'm going to watch and I'll find out.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be present to what's actually happening. as

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<v Speaker 1>opposed to being more present to my interpretation of what's happening.

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<v Speaker 1>So reflect on your life, or even reflect on this

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<v Speaker 1>moment right now. What is it like to just be

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<v Speaker 1>super present? Another way of asking this is, you may

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<v Speaker 1>notice that all of the thoughts in your mind, they're

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<v Speaker 1>happening now. within silence. They're happening within presence, within awareness.

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<v Speaker 1>So right now, can you become aware of that awareness?

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<v Speaker 1>Can you become aware of that which is aware of

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<v Speaker 1>all the thinking in that quiet? What is it like

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<v Speaker 1>to approach a conversation with somebody, for example, from this

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<v Speaker 1>space of grounded awareness where you're actually listening to them

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<v Speaker 1>engaged fully. And now reflect on what is it like

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<v Speaker 1>when you're actually paying attention to all the thoughts in

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<v Speaker 1>your mind about what's happening. And then entering into a

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<v Speaker 1>conversation with them. Whatever they're saying is pulling up a

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<v Speaker 1>thought in your mind and I wonder why they're saying

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<v Speaker 1>that and what does that mean and what are they

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<v Speaker 1>going to say next and what does that mean about

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<v Speaker 1>my life? And so you may notice in those conversations

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<v Speaker 1>with people that you're not so much paying attention to them,

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<v Speaker 1>you're more paying attention to your thoughts about what's happening.

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<v Speaker 1>How do those two scenarios feel different to you? Which

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<v Speaker 1>do you choose? To approach your life today from the

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<v Speaker 1>open space of presence? Or from the space where you

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<v Speaker 1>are completely influenced by at the effect of all your

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts that are interpreting whatever is happening?

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<v Speaker 2>In the first scenario, you're free. You're open. You're non-reactive.

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<v Speaker 1>You're available to collect more information before you act.

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<v Speaker 2>And in the latter, you're reactive.

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<v Speaker 1>You're seduced by your interpretation, which a lot of the

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<v Speaker 1>time isn't true.

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<v Speaker 2>Which do you choose? If you choose the former, if

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<v Speaker 2>you choose.

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<v Speaker 1>the availability to approach life more present today, then let's

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<v Speaker 1>have a short practice. So I invite you to gently

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<v Speaker 1>close your eyes, deepening and broadening your breath, utilizing your

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<v Speaker 1>breath as always as a tool to just give yourself

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<v Speaker 1>something to focus on. They can bring you more here.

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<v Speaker 1>Acknowledging for a moment that the mind, its.

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<v Speaker 2>Job is to try to keep you safe. And it

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<v Speaker 2>utilizes fear.

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<v Speaker 1>It utilizes the consistent possibility that something can go wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>As a means to try to keep you safe.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's doing so believing that if it can interpret

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<v Speaker 1>accurately whatever is happening in this moment, then it can

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<v Speaker 1>give you certainty, which provides you safety.

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<v Speaker 2>And in this practice... We surrender.

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<v Speaker 1>That need for certainty. To stay available to what is

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<v Speaker 1>and open yourself to see things as they actually are.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's take a few deep breaths.

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<v Speaker 2>And let it go. Remembering that all thought.

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<v Speaker 1>Exists within some larger space. In the same way words

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<v Speaker 1>on a chalkboard.

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<v Speaker 2>Exist.

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<v Speaker 1>Within the space of the chalkboard that holds the words.

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<v Speaker 2>You are awareness.

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<v Speaker 1>Awareness. which is aware of the thoughts. Your tendency is

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<v Speaker 1>to get lost in the thoughts so that the thinking

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<v Speaker 1>happens and influences you without you even realizing it, which

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<v Speaker 1>is what drives your life in the directions that you

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<v Speaker 1>don't want. And so we utilize our practice every day

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<v Speaker 1>to rather than getting lost in thought, remember that you

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<v Speaker 1>are the space inside of which all the thoughts exist

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<v Speaker 1>and relax back into that open space, that quiet space.

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<v Speaker 1>That formlessness that is everything and nothing at all. Let's

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<v Speaker 1>take a deep breath. And let it go. As you

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<v Speaker 1>say to yourself, I am awareness.

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<v Speaker 2>I am awareness.

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<v Speaker 1>Keeping your breath moving gently as you say to yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>I am awareness. I am open. I am free.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's take a deep breath in and let it go.

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<v Speaker 2>As you're ready, blinking your eyes open, Coming back into

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<v Speaker 2>your space.

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<v Speaker 1>Today, I want you to replace prediction with curiosity and

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<v Speaker 1>openness so that you can let reality reveal itself to you.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't need to know what's next. You just need

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<v Speaker 1>to be here when it arrives. Loving you from here.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi.

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