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Speaker 2: Jacob is on the phone today for our first date
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Ava. So in
Speaker 2: a few minutes we're gonna call her and see if
Speaker 2: she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get
Speaker 2: him another date. But first, Jacob, how long has it
Speaker 2: been since you heard from Ava?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 3: Man, it's been at least a couple of weeks.
Speaker 4: Okay, have you tried to reach out to her during
Speaker 4: that time, because it's kind of.
Speaker 5: A while, right, Yeah.
Speaker 3: I tried to play it cool.
Speaker 5: I think I think last pax I sent her, I
Speaker 5: was like, well, we met at a coffee shop.
Speaker 3: As the last thing I said, Hey, I'll see you,
Speaker 3: I'll see it. I'll see you back in you know,
Speaker 3: in our spot. And then she didn't re spawn, So
Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure she's a ghost.
Speaker 1: Andy.
Speaker 5: I haven't called because I felt like that was a
Speaker 5: step too far, but I'm running out of options.
Speaker 4: So did y'all actually have a first first date?
Speaker 6: Like, was it at the coffee shop or did y'all
Speaker 6: just like randomly meet at the coffee shop?
Speaker 5: Yes, So there's actually like this coffee shop kind of
Speaker 5: just in the neighborhood. It's not too far and I
Speaker 5: go there all the time. And that's actually the first
Speaker 5: place where I met her, because I ended up seeing
Speaker 5: her like three times in one week.
Speaker 3: So this one day we kind.
Speaker 5: Of started doing a little small talk and then we
Speaker 5: actually were like, well, hey, let's meet here on purpose one,
Speaker 5: you know, next time. So that was like maybe our
Speaker 5: first date, but it wasn't really like a full date.
Speaker 3: It was more like a little casual.
Speaker 4: Thing, okay, And then did you guys do something after that?
Speaker 3: Yeah, we actually did. We really were enjoying the conversation
Speaker 3: with each other.
Speaker 5: So I invited her to like come to my house
Speaker 5: because we both like reality TV shows.
Speaker 3: So I was like, oh, well, I've never seen Love
Speaker 3: is Blind.
Speaker 5: She hadn't seen it either, so let's like, oh, let's
Speaker 5: go to my house, have some popcorn and some snacks.
Speaker 3: And we can just binge the whole show together. She
Speaker 3: was a little, you know, a little hesit.
Speaker 5: On the going to my house thing, so I'm hoping
Speaker 5: that's not what pushed her away, but it did take
Speaker 5: a little convincing, but she did actually come over.
Speaker 6: I was gonna say a bold move for her first
Speaker 6: date to invite some of to your house.
Speaker 4: Okay, I like the confidence how.
Speaker 3: That goes normally.
Speaker 5: So it actually ended up going really well because when
Speaker 5: she came over, I had all her favorite snacks. I
Speaker 5: was ready to go, you know, like, I know she
Speaker 5: loves popcorn, so I had popcorn.
Speaker 3: She likes hershey, so I had Hershey. We just had
Speaker 3: a bunch of snacks we could sit and watch this.
Speaker 5: Show, and we ended up having a lot of fun,
Speaker 5: you know, clowning on people route for the people that
Speaker 5: we really thought were gonna you know, really fine love.
Speaker 5: And we even drank a little wine too and got
Speaker 5: to know each other.
Speaker 4: So was there like a connection with the two of you.
Speaker 3: I felt like there was a connection.
Speaker 5: I mean it was the best date I've ever had,
Speaker 5: hands down, and like, I'm really hoping that we can
Speaker 5: have more.
Speaker 4: Okay, So what do you think could have gone wrong? Like,
Speaker 4: why would you be getting ghosted?
Speaker 7: Oh man?
Speaker 5: Okay, So I think we would take a break in
Speaker 5: between the different episodes, and it was between I think
Speaker 5: maybe episode two and three. You know, we just kind
Speaker 5: of took a little time to get to know each other, right,
Speaker 5: we just kind of talking and whatever, and halfway through that,
Speaker 5: I just I told her, I was like, this is
Speaker 5: the best date I've ever been on, and I'm really
Speaker 5: glad that I didn't have to spend a lot of.
Speaker 3: Money, Like, yeah, see, that was the thing. I was
Speaker 3: really glad that I didn't have.
Speaker 5: To break the bank for us to have a good time.
Speaker 5: And then she started to get off digit and kind
Speaker 5: of wanted to leave. After that next episode, I'm like,
Speaker 5: I was joking pretty much, but I'm hoping she doesn't
Speaker 5: think I'm cheap.
Speaker 7: Okay, yeah, well we'll see. We can figure it out
Speaker 7: for you.
Speaker 2: We'll play a song, come back, and then call her
Speaker 2: in Stift's house why she's ghosting you, and maybe get
Speaker 2: you another date. Okay, thanks, Yeah, all right, Plus I'll
Speaker 2: come back to get your first DAE follow up next
Speaker 2: right in the middle of your first day follow up
Speaker 2: if you're just joining us. Jacob is on the phone
Speaker 2: and he's getting ghosted by Ava. It's been a couple
Speaker 2: of weeks since he heard from her, and we're about
Speaker 2: to call her and ask her why she's ghosting him
Speaker 2: and see if we can get him another date. But
Speaker 2: before we do that, Jacob, why don't you catch us
Speaker 2: up on your situation?
Speaker 7: Okay?
Speaker 5: So I met Ava at the coffee shop up the street.
Speaker 3: We both like reality.
Speaker 5: TV, so she came over to my house so we
Speaker 5: could binge watch Love Is Blind. But I told her
Speaker 5: I was real happy we had a date that wasn't expensive.
Speaker 3: And now I think she might think I'm cheat.
Speaker 6: I'm just trying to think about how that would go.
Speaker 6: Oh man, this is the best day ever. I'm so
Speaker 6: glad I didn't spend any money.
Speaker 4: Yeah, ye special. Do you feel as the person that's
Speaker 4: on that date?
Speaker 7: No offense.
Speaker 4: I'm just trying to like you might be onto something.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it might be the reason you're getting ghosts. So
Speaker 2: are you ready for us to call her? I?
Speaker 3: Sure, I am all right.
Speaker 7: Here we go. Hello, Hi, I speak to Ava. Please.
Speaker 1: This is her?
Speaker 7: Hi Ava, how are you?
Speaker 2: My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a radio show.
Speaker 2: It's called the Jebil Show.
Speaker 4: Hi, Ava, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, and
Speaker 4: I'm Victoria.
Speaker 7: How are you. Hi?
Speaker 1: I'm doing good.
Speaker 7: You ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 8: Yeah?
Speaker 7: Okay? Cool.
Speaker 2: We do a segment on the show called the First
Speaker 2: Day follow Up, where if you go out on a
Speaker 2: date with somebody and you end up ghosting them, they
Speaker 2: can email us to get you on the phone and
Speaker 2: ask why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 7: Do you know who would email us?
Speaker 1: The only person that I've been on a day leasently
Speaker 1: was this one guy.
Speaker 7: But and what was his name?
Speaker 3: Jacob?
Speaker 7: Okay, Well guess what?
Speaker 2: Guess what was emailed us and told us about your
Speaker 2: date says that you're ghosting.
Speaker 7: Him, and he has no idea. Why would you mind
Speaker 7: telling us?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 5: Goodness, Like, I have really.
Speaker 1: Bad luck when it comes to men. You know, our
Speaker 1: date was kind of cool, it was cute and stuff.
Speaker 3: Uh, I just have really bad luck when it comes
Speaker 3: to guys.
Speaker 1: So so you know, I started liking him a little bit,
Speaker 1: and uh we were watching some of the shows and
Speaker 1: you know, caught feelings a little bit, and you know,
Speaker 1: I just felt like it's probably easier for me to
Speaker 1: just stop talking to him.
Speaker 4: What happened?
Speaker 1: Everything was good.
Speaker 3: We were watching uh I think it was.
Speaker 1: Called Love is Blind and yeah, so you know it
Speaker 1: was nice and cute at first, but you know they
Speaker 1: go to start talking about what they do and don't
Speaker 1: liking certain people. Now now I'm looking at Jacob, Like, Okay,
Speaker 1: what qualities I don't like about him now? But then
Speaker 1: I like him, but I don't really know where it's going.
Speaker 6: Okay, was there something specific that you didn't like about him?
Speaker 1: There was like a situation to where where he did
Speaker 1: invite me over to his house. It was the first
Speaker 1: date which I went out on a limb to do.
Speaker 1: Everything was cute, everything was you know, fun and stuff
Speaker 1: like that. It just started playing around a little bit
Speaker 1: too much, and I think that he just tried too hard.
Speaker 7: So it was a turn off.
Speaker 9: How so, I'm not you know, I like touchy philly
Speaker 9: and stuff like that, but I don't really like someone
Speaker 9: to you know, just jump your bone.
Speaker 1: I'm a fifty fifty kiss type of person.
Speaker 4: Did he tried to jump your bone?
Speaker 5: Well?
Speaker 1: I think that, uh, when we were eating popcorn, think
Speaker 1: he was trying to hide something from me with the bowl.
Speaker 8: Who Well, yeah, it's good for you, like not in
Speaker 8: that way, but I mean that he.
Speaker 7: Was very happy.
Speaker 4: It's kind of power.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I had that power over men.
Speaker 1: But you know, it was my first time over there
Speaker 1: and we were just supposed to be watching TV, yeah,
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. So then it's like, oh, you're
Speaker 1: like that right now, and you're hiding it with the
Speaker 1: bowl of popcorn that I'm taking my hand in.
Speaker 7: That is weird.
Speaker 4: That's very weird. Okay, Like did he like it?
Speaker 1: I mean I was assumed, so it is now I
Speaker 1: stood up.
Speaker 6: I don't know, you're trying to get into plotcorn and
Speaker 6: it's just like, okay.
Speaker 1: I don't know what to say with that, with that situation,
Speaker 1: so it's yeah, that's I don't.
Speaker 4: Know either, like do you want like would you have
Speaker 4: wanted him to tell you?
Speaker 7: Or is it?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that as a guy, I don't know
Speaker 2: what I would do either. Just try to hide it.
Speaker 7: Like he did.
Speaker 4: You can't always control it, right, Jubil No.
Speaker 7: Sometimes that's a mind of its own, you know.
Speaker 4: Uh huh.
Speaker 7: I don't think he hit it really well though.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 3: It was a pretty big situation that could be that good.
Speaker 7: So that's why you're not calling him back.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, Well.
Speaker 2: Thank you for being honest. And Jacob is on the
Speaker 2: phone listening and wants to talk to you. Jacob Jacob, oh.
Speaker 3: Man, I'm so sorry about that.
Speaker 10: Yeah, I mean, I'm sorry I didn't I was trying
Speaker 10: so hard.
Speaker 5: I can too.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I.
Speaker 5: Didn't want to make things weird or awkward. That's why
Speaker 5: I was trying to like maybe make it not as obvious.
Speaker 3: I probably made it way worse. I just I really
Speaker 3: really like you and I love having a conversation.
Speaker 1: Tell I was asking you why the popcorn kept falling
Speaker 1: on the floor, and you were like, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I didn't know what was going on down there.
Speaker 7: You know.
Speaker 3: Then you didn't.
Speaker 1: You didn't tell me what was going on, so it
Speaker 1: kind of freaked out a little bit. So it was
Speaker 1: just like, Okay, is he getting like that because we're
Speaker 1: watching these ladies on TV?
Speaker 5: Or no, really, it's definitely the beautiful lady I had
Speaker 5: in my house.
Speaker 6: You know.
Speaker 3: Look, I'm really sorry, and I hope that's not I
Speaker 3: hope that won't keep us from being able to go
Speaker 3: back out. I just really like you.
Speaker 5: Maybe I'll I'll do something where we're not sitting down
Speaker 5: next time.
Speaker 6: Can you give him some advice toable because I understand
Speaker 6: that this is awkward, but I don't know how Jacob
Speaker 6: comes back from this clearly, Like it's like it's kind
Speaker 6: of a compliment to you, Ava, but it's also like
Speaker 6: what happened I don't know.
Speaker 7: Yeah, tape what?
Speaker 2: I'm not sure. Abel, would you like to go on
Speaker 2: another date with Jacob? We'll pay for it and give
Speaker 2: him another shot. He doesn't sound like he's creepy, and
Speaker 2: it sounds like he really likes you. Yeah, if he
Speaker 2: if he's able to double tape it down, I.
Speaker 3: Might be willing to go on a tape with him again. Gosh, well,
Speaker 3: I'm heading a.
Speaker 7: Staple, all right.
Speaker 9: Cool.
Speaker 7: Congratulations Jake, if you got another date.
Speaker 10: Thank you, fun guys, thank you, thank you
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