WEBVTT - Let’s Normalize Food Cravings (Outweigh)

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<v Speaker 1>I won't let my body out outweigh everything that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>made do, won't spend my life trying to change. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>learning to love who I am. I get I'm strong,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel free, I know who every part of me

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<v Speaker 1>It's beautiful. And then will always out with if you

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<v Speaker 1>feel it with your hands in the air, She'll some

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<v Speaker 1>love to the boom. There. Let's say good day and

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<v Speaker 1>time did you and die out? Happy Saturday? Outweigh Amy

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<v Speaker 1>here and my guest today is Lorley Bryant, who is

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<v Speaker 1>a holistic health and heartache consultant coach. How do you like?

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<v Speaker 1>What did you say that? Contay consultant? And you were

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<v Speaker 1>on four Things this week my four Things podcast on Thursday,

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<v Speaker 1>and we were talking about helping people heal from heart

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<v Speaker 1>ache and grief, whether it's through a breakup or a divorce,

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<v Speaker 1>or the loss of a loved one or job, even

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<v Speaker 1>something that you held tightly that suddenly is no longer

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<v Speaker 1>with you is very difficult. And I think sometimes when

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<v Speaker 1>we're in a process of grieving or heartache, we have

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<v Speaker 1>different cravings and we can end up trying to get

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<v Speaker 1>frustrated at those or pick those apart, or feeling defeated

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<v Speaker 1>if we quote unquote given to a craving and outweighs

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<v Speaker 1>is about just bringing comfort to people that might be

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<v Speaker 1>experiencing any thoughts like that. I don't assume everybody listening

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<v Speaker 1>right now is grieving, but you might be one day,

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<v Speaker 1>And this is information you could keep in your back pocket,

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<v Speaker 1>so that way, if something comes up and you do

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<v Speaker 1>have these thoughts, with these cravings, you can have this

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<v Speaker 1>as a tool or a resource to refer to. Yeah. Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>and thank you for having me. Yeah. It's interesting because

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<v Speaker 1>even if it's not grief, you know, stress or overwhelmed

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<v Speaker 1>can have a similar physiological response on our taste buds

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<v Speaker 1>and our appetite and digestion and all of that. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think we have this connotation that all cravings are bad.

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<v Speaker 1>But first, I think it's important to really normalize cravings

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<v Speaker 1>any time. Cravings are totally normal, and they're also especially

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<v Speaker 1>normal when you are in a difficult season of life.

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<v Speaker 1>So don't beat yourself up for having them, don't beat

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<v Speaker 1>yourself up for any decisions that you have been making.

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<v Speaker 1>You're doing your best. I am sure you're doing your best.

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<v Speaker 1>And with that said, we can take what feels like

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<v Speaker 1>a very out of control craving experience and really kind

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<v Speaker 1>of get control of it by understanding what is happening

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<v Speaker 1>with our cravings and the different kinds of cravings, and

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<v Speaker 1>then just consciously choosing what we want to do about it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I guess I should say sometimes you just

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<v Speaker 1>have to go for the craving itself, and that's okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but you want it ideally to be something you are

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<v Speaker 1>choosing for yourself, because that's empowering versus feeling like the

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<v Speaker 1>craving quote got the best of you. So well, that's

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<v Speaker 1>what leads to the spiral of then it's and it's

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<v Speaker 1>just this merry go round, right, you go in and

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<v Speaker 1>then you're you feel lost in it. But I I agree,

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<v Speaker 1>it's so empowering when you get to choose and you

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<v Speaker 1>get to almost feel proud, Yes I ate that, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>and I feel great value or you can recognize, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>yes I ate that, and like I'm not feeling so great.

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<v Speaker 1>So then who you learned some information? It's true and

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<v Speaker 1>also it is also true that well to some extent,

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<v Speaker 1>especially if you have you know, let's say you are

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<v Speaker 1>insulin sensitive or you have an allergy or something. There

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<v Speaker 1>are certain foods that are probably not going to make

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<v Speaker 1>you feel great. You might have a blood sugar crash

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<v Speaker 1>and spike and crash um or might hurt your stomach.

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<v Speaker 1>But it is also worth noticing if you have let's

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<v Speaker 1>say one day you have the doughnut and then you

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<v Speaker 1>beat yourself up about it, how do physically feel versus

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<v Speaker 1>having the doughnut and being like that donut was awesome.

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<v Speaker 1>I enjoyed it and I'm going to go about my day.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you physically feel? And I tend to find

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<v Speaker 1>and there's research for this that you actually can physiologically

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<v Speaker 1>have a have a different response when you are just

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<v Speaker 1>enjoying it and allow your allowing yourself to be freaking

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<v Speaker 1>human like, it's part of the human experience, right, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>cravings are largely how we are wired, wired for survival

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<v Speaker 1>to get things like sugar and fat really quickly into

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<v Speaker 1>our bodies. So so craving does not make you bad. No,

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<v Speaker 1>you said normalized cravings. Yeah, there's no moral assignment with food, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>Like ever, it's not a thing like there and there's

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<v Speaker 1>no wagon, there's no on the wagon, off the wagon,

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<v Speaker 1>Like we give food way too much power when we

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<v Speaker 1>when we kind of anthropomorphosized food and turn it into

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<v Speaker 1>this person that can do things to us and has qualities.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just food, and sometimes the most nourishing thing, like

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<v Speaker 1>I said, is to just have the donut. So going

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<v Speaker 1>back to initially, when we are under stress, overwhelmed, grief,

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<v Speaker 1>there are lots of different ways that we can have craving.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people tend to have more salt cravings, but I

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<v Speaker 1>would say the most common that people find is going

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<v Speaker 1>to be a combination of sugar and fat. It's probably

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<v Speaker 1>going to be the primary craving, you know, for things

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<v Speaker 1>like ice cream or just fast acting carbs essentially you know,

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<v Speaker 1>easily broken down simple carbohydrates and sugars. And that is

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<v Speaker 1>for a lot of different reasons. That can be because

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<v Speaker 1>you are going through major, major stress and so your

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<v Speaker 1>body is looking for sources of energy. Maybe you're not

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<v Speaker 1>sleeping as well, you're in fight or flights. You actually

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<v Speaker 1>need more energy, don't. Your body thinks it needs more

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<v Speaker 1>energy going to your blood and to your muscles to

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<v Speaker 1>prime you for this this difficult experience which is actually

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<v Speaker 1>happening internally, but our body is kind of respond to

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<v Speaker 1>it like we are about to go into a ring

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<v Speaker 1>and fight. So it's totally normal that you have these

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<v Speaker 1>cravings for sugar because your your body is looking for

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<v Speaker 1>that energy. Plus all of these stress hormones that are

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<v Speaker 1>coursing through your body, like adrenaline and cortisol. So first

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<v Speaker 1>of all, it's worth taking notes. Sometimes we don't know

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<v Speaker 1>that we're stressed until we notice what we're doing, the

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<v Speaker 1>decisions that we're making. So you may not even know

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<v Speaker 1>that you're stressed and overwhelmed, but all of a sudden,

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<v Speaker 1>you're sugar craving through through the roof, and then maybe

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<v Speaker 1>it's time to look and see is there a sort

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<v Speaker 1>of stress that I'm not even aware of. But again,

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<v Speaker 1>there's no judgment, there's no good, bad, or right or wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just what serves you. So first, just understanding that

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<v Speaker 1>it's normal. It's natural for your cravings to ebb and flow.

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<v Speaker 1>It's normal to have them, it's normal to be obsessing

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<v Speaker 1>over them and thinking about them. I mean, one of

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<v Speaker 1>the other reasons when we're grieving that we have these

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<v Speaker 1>cravings for these hyper palatable foods, so you know, foods

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<v Speaker 1>that contain sodium, msg sugar, fat, all of that, these

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<v Speaker 1>hyper palatable foods is because it's a coping and numbing device. Again,

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<v Speaker 1>totally normal. You're not doing anything wrong. This is part

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<v Speaker 1>of the human experience of grieving, is that we we

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<v Speaker 1>look for ways to cope and numb and food that

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<v Speaker 1>has a quick reaction in our bodies, that that gives

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<v Speaker 1>us that hit of dope, but mean really quickly. Of

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<v Speaker 1>course you want that. Of course you do. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>like we all do. It's okay you you haven't. You

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<v Speaker 1>haven't made a mistake because you are biologically wired to

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<v Speaker 1>want to self soothe, and that's a really easy way

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<v Speaker 1>and a quick way to self soothe. Now, ultimately, if

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<v Speaker 1>we do that more than we put some nourishing foods

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<v Speaker 1>in our bodies, it's not going to help our healing

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<v Speaker 1>process long term. But I think the most important thing

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<v Speaker 1>is to understand that there are different types of cravings.

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<v Speaker 1>Ask yourself what type of craving this is, and then

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<v Speaker 1>again just consciously choose. That helps with such self awareness,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think awareness is so key, and it can

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<v Speaker 1>be the first step to unlocking so many things and

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<v Speaker 1>giving yourself that permission that it is okay that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>feeling this, it is okay that I am craving this,

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<v Speaker 1>and on Thursday's episode over on four things we we

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<v Speaker 1>talked about, You know, if you have lots of appetite,

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<v Speaker 1>So y'all can go back and listen to that episode

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<v Speaker 1>UM with Loreleie if you want to hear what's going

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<v Speaker 1>on with that and how I thought it was fascinating

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<v Speaker 1>in that episode when you shared that your body has

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<v Speaker 1>so many other things going on that it's worried about

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<v Speaker 1>that like it, you might not be hungry because it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't really have time to digest anything. It's busy. You

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<v Speaker 1>have other heartache and other things that it's tending to.

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<v Speaker 1>So everybody's body responds in such a different way. So

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<v Speaker 1>I think another thing too, when you're going through something

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<v Speaker 1>difficult and you're also navigating a potential eating disorder or

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<v Speaker 1>body image issues, is you may look at how other

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<v Speaker 1>people handled it. Oh, well, when that person was grieving,

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<v Speaker 1>they lost weight or when that person so therefore, why

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<v Speaker 1>am I maybe not doing that? Or you start to

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<v Speaker 1>look how other people's bodies handled grief, and I just

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<v Speaker 1>want to remind you that everybody's body is totally different

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<v Speaker 1>and you cannot look at how someone else responded to

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<v Speaker 1>grieving and food and exercise and all the things and

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<v Speaker 1>think that that is going to be exactly what your

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<v Speaker 1>body needs. One of the difficulties if you, especially as

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<v Speaker 1>a woman, if you've ever had a history of eating

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<v Speaker 1>disordered disordered eating, is that when you lose your appetite

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<v Speaker 1>for a while and then you lose weight, a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people women in particular, have resistance to gaining that

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<v Speaker 1>weight back because then you go into sort of revenge

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<v Speaker 1>body culture. Um. But remembering that that's not sustainable and

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<v Speaker 1>that's that was a that was a stress and a

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<v Speaker 1>grief response for them, and then you know they have

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<v Speaker 1>to mentally navigate getting back to a healthy weight and

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<v Speaker 1>that's not a fun process to go through either, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So asking yourself like one, seeing that everyone's journey is

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<v Speaker 1>different and realizing that as much as you can try

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<v Speaker 1>to nourish yourself from the beginning so that you're not

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<v Speaker 1>ping ponging is actually can be a blessing. Huge like

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<v Speaker 1>this is a tool to have that you can know

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<v Speaker 1>if you if you can understand it. That's why I

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<v Speaker 1>said the aware this is so key. If you can

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<v Speaker 1>understand at least this piece, that helps navigating all the

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<v Speaker 1>other pieces. If you're numbing, then you're not feeling what's

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<v Speaker 1>really happening, and then it's just gonna take the whole process.

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<v Speaker 1>It's going to take you longer. And I've been there.

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<v Speaker 1>I speak from experience. There is no judgment when I

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<v Speaker 1>say this, Like it's taken me years and years and

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<v Speaker 1>years to heal from certain things because of all the

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<v Speaker 1>numbing that I did with food and purging and exercise,

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<v Speaker 1>like all the different things to distract myself. And so

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<v Speaker 1>if that is you, this is your journey and you

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<v Speaker 1>will figure it out in the right time. And maybe

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<v Speaker 1>this is a conversation that you needed to hear to

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<v Speaker 1>just like kind of have that lightbulb go off. But

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<v Speaker 1>ultimately it's going to take you putting in the work.

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<v Speaker 1>But awareness is first. And I know the initial conversation

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<v Speaker 1>was about normalizing cravings, but also you know, normalized feeling

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<v Speaker 1>just super confused, right, Yeah, it's okay. I just the

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<v Speaker 1>you know, some days maybe needing to to go just

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<v Speaker 1>let out a good scream, because if you are experiencing

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<v Speaker 1>grief on top of any type of eating disorder or

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<v Speaker 1>body image issue, it's just so exhausting because your brain

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<v Speaker 1>is already so occupied with so many other things and

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have the space for it. But the quicker

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<v Speaker 1>you can try to find the resources and help and

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<v Speaker 1>the right team. If you have access to that, then

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<v Speaker 1>you know the better off that you're going to be,

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<v Speaker 1>and that taking care of your body and nourishing it

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<v Speaker 1>will get you to the healing point faster. But again,

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<v Speaker 1>faster is relative. Just because someone else healed in this

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<v Speaker 1>amount of time doesn't mean that you have to. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And because grief is so nonlinear again, it's like we

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<v Speaker 1>can't compare to other people's journeys because things may resurface

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<v Speaker 1>for them in years, you know. And so just because

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<v Speaker 1>it looks like someone is doing well, I mean, we

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<v Speaker 1>hope that they are, but we can't compare because that's

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<v Speaker 1>not fair to you because you don't know what their

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<v Speaker 1>long term trajectory is. And I think your point about

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<v Speaker 1>crying is really important. One of the things I absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>insist is that as much as you can, let the

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<v Speaker 1>tears come when they want to, I know, something realistic.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, sometimes it's not realistic, but but when you can. Mean.

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<v Speaker 1>One of the reasons I organized my my research according

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<v Speaker 1>to the stages of grief is because sometimes what we

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<v Speaker 1>really need when we're in the anger phase anger stage

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<v Speaker 1>is to scream and cry and punch pillows. They're a

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<v Speaker 1>rage room type of things. There's like one in opery

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<v Speaker 1>Land where you can go and break stuff, and I didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I've heard of them across the country, but

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know operate. I actually haven't been, but I've

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<v Speaker 1>kind of wanted to. I don't think it ice cubes

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<v Speaker 1>and thrown them on the concrete outside. That's perfect. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a thing to do. My therapist told me, or maybe

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<v Speaker 1>one of my kids. Therapist said to do it, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, you know, for them, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to do it. I've had a therapist recommend

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<v Speaker 1>safely burning things, you know, I mean memorabilia obviously safe safely, safely,

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<v Speaker 1>safely recommended by therapist outside safely. But all of these

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<v Speaker 1>things do say if you But yeah, sometimes we really

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<v Speaker 1>need to get that out. And so the food, we

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<v Speaker 1>we can just without judgment, non judgmentally, notice how we

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<v Speaker 1>are being with food and ask ourselves, is there something

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm not getting out of my system and it's

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<v Speaker 1>showing up in these craving So other ways, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>finding other ways to express that emotion is really really powerful.

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<v Speaker 1>Art is a great way to do that. If you're

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<v Speaker 1>someone who likes art, that can be amazing. Time and nature,

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<v Speaker 1>which we've talked about, gentle forms of exercise and movement,

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<v Speaker 1>something that's very healing for my sister, which might not

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<v Speaker 1>be ideal for people if you've got a lot going

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<v Speaker 1>on around food, but if you're listening in your and

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<v Speaker 1>more of recovery, or you're trying to play around with

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<v Speaker 1>different foods and feel safe with certain foods, is cooking

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<v Speaker 1>and how therapeutic that can be. My sister always talks

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<v Speaker 1>about cooking is just a therapeutic for me, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>just not been my thing. That's really not my route,

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<v Speaker 1>and maybe it's because of my relationship with food. But

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<v Speaker 1>I have to say I made a soup the other

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<v Speaker 1>day from scratch, and it was very healing and therapeutic,

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<v Speaker 1>and so I thought the whole time is making it

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<v Speaker 1>was like my sister's right. I mean, I was shredding

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<v Speaker 1>the chicken and blending bablano peppers and a jalapeno and

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<v Speaker 1>suted onion. And my kids don't I think the recipe

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<v Speaker 1>called for everything to be chunky, but my kids, I

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<v Speaker 1>knew that they would freak out at the chunks of

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<v Speaker 1>the peppers and stuff. So I just blended it all

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<v Speaker 1>so that way, I for sure had the same flavor.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't blend the chicken that was chunky, and don't worry. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I've followed some accounts before they recommended that, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, oh, and yes, I've I have blended meat

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<v Speaker 1>in my very disordered days, mainly for digestion, but also

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't my body didn't have an issue digesting meat.

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<v Speaker 1>But I saw someone else doing that, so I thought

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<v Speaker 1>I needed to do it, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why it's not good to do whatever, like compare

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<v Speaker 1>yourself to what other people are doing, because you may

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<v Speaker 1>have different needs. So and then you're eating blended meat

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<v Speaker 1>and you're like why So anyway, the soup I found

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<v Speaker 1>it to be very healing, which I know something you're

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<v Speaker 1>doing too is part of You're consulting and you've done

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<v Speaker 1>cooking classes a ton in the past being a holistic chef.

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<v Speaker 1>But do you have some new cooking classes or something

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<v Speaker 1>coming up? Yes? Totally. Actually had someone today on like

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<v Speaker 1>a Q and A say, how do I fall in

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<v Speaker 1>love with cooking again? And I think it's important to

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<v Speaker 1>just know that, like not everyone has to like cooking

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<v Speaker 1>and you know has to cook. I mean it's a

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<v Speaker 1>great way to save money. But I normalize normally is

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<v Speaker 1>not being like, yeah, you can be in the kitchen,

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<v Speaker 1>especially if you're a woman. Totally it's totally fine. But

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<v Speaker 1>with that said, it can be really therapeutic and it

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<v Speaker 1>can be really knowledgeable. It can offer a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>knowledge about your body, about what works best for your

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<v Speaker 1>lifestyle and your family. So I have launched a series

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<v Speaker 1>of cooking classes called Cooking for Heartache here in Nashville,

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<v Speaker 1>and the first portion of the class will be talking

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<v Speaker 1>about how you can take care of yourself inside and

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<v Speaker 1>out no matter what season you're going through. And then

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<v Speaker 1>I am going to make six recipes from my upcoming

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<v Speaker 1>cookbook which is called Recipes for an Aching Heart, and

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<v Speaker 1>just gonna nourish people and feed them in a really

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<v Speaker 1>safe environment and they can connect with each other and

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<v Speaker 1>ask questions. And when you register for the class, you

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<v Speaker 1>get those recipes. So yeah, if anyone's looking for just

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<v Speaker 1>a healthy way, really safe way to spend time, if

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<v Speaker 1>you're going through something difficult, um, you can definitely you know,

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<v Speaker 1>learn about the classes. Would love to spend time with

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<v Speaker 1>you well, and people can find all the details. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>link everything in the show notes, but lll balanced dot

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<v Speaker 1>com is Lordly's website, and then your Instagram handle is

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<v Speaker 1>Lordly Balanced, which the lee is l E. A ye,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you. I feel like sometimes people might search l E.

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<v Speaker 1>But again I'll link it in the show notes. So Lordly,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for coming on Four Things on Thursday and

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<v Speaker 1>then also recording Outweigh with me because I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>food grief, how we handle grief and heartache, it's also

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<v Speaker 1>tied together, especially and I know you. You were a

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<v Speaker 1>part of Outweigh when it first launched. It wasn't even

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<v Speaker 1>its own podcast, it was just a four part series

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<v Speaker 1>that I was doing on Four Things, and you were

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<v Speaker 1>kind enough to share your personal journey with food and

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<v Speaker 1>body image stuff. So you're one of the people that

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<v Speaker 1>was a part of Outweigh when it was just a

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<v Speaker 1>little baby and we didn't know what was going to

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<v Speaker 1>happen with it. So thank you for coming back on.

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<v Speaker 1>You're welcome, Thanks for having me. All right. I hope

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<v Speaker 1>you all have in the day you need to have

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<v Speaker 1>By