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Speaker 1: I mean how hard was he pulling? Was it like

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Speaker 1: like what if it's like like you know, you flick

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Speaker 1: someone's hair and then their wig falls off, like you

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Speaker 1: need you need more context of ripping someone's off. It's

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Speaker 1: like the amount of force. There's a function where it's

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Speaker 1: like the amount of force it takes for you to

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Speaker 1: rip off a wig is directly proportional to how much

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Speaker 1: of an a hole you are. If it was an accident,

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Speaker 1: I could say, like if you're like a I don't know,

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Speaker 1: I don't know why you'd be petting somebody, But if

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Speaker 1: you're petting that accident, No, I have no way of

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Speaker 1: justifying this one. I have no If it's on fire, yeah,

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Speaker 1: if it's on fire, yes, let's think of all the

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Speaker 1: ways this person isn't an a hole and then and

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Speaker 1: then and then go from that, Let's go let's go

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Speaker 1: into the story people were competent. Yes, don't go here

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Speaker 1: right now. So my daughter, sixteen, Megan, just finished her

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Speaker 1: cancer treatment. She's lost her hair in the process, and

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Speaker 1: she's been incredibly insecure because of it all. She no

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Speaker 1: longer meets friends, nor welcomes them at her house, nor

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Speaker 1: even any family members, nor any family members in person. Hey,

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Speaker 1: don't don't let no hair mean you have no friends.

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Speaker 1: You know, you know there's plenty of bald people the

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Speaker 1: friends out there. That's true, the baldy Iraq. You're saying

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Speaker 1: the rock doesn't deserve friendship. You're wrong. Look at Kevin

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Speaker 1: Kevin Hart. Kevin Hart could even reach his wake yep,

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Speaker 1: that's wow, that's beautiful. It has been bad, to say

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Speaker 1: the least, but her stepbrother, eighteen Ben has been making

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Speaker 1: it worse with his nagging comments and jokes about her looks.

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Speaker 1: Just who does that? Who dick? Younger older brothers? Bro?

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Speaker 1: If someone has kid that's like off limits? Is it?

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Speaker 1: If someone? If someone if if okay, if someone has

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Speaker 1: cancer in your family and you're like age like nagging

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Speaker 1: your your step sibling that has cancer, I actually think

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Speaker 1: it's fine. I think I think I think you should

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Speaker 1: double down, double down. I actually think if you're not

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Speaker 1: making fun of your sibling for being bald, for having cancer,

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Speaker 1: you don't love them enough, it could shows that you care.

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Speaker 1: It could be if if if that's like the the

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Speaker 1: family dynamic, if they're like joke crackers and the person's like, oh,

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Speaker 1: they're always busting my balls about whatever. Yeah, sure, but

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Speaker 1: if this, but if this person is like literally been

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Speaker 1: hasn't hasn't burnt down this person, we can't rational needs

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Speaker 1: to turn against I like how this podcast has devolved

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Speaker 1: we will double down on this, all right, let's keep

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Speaker 1: it rolling. So so he tried taking and posting pics

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Speaker 1: of her secretly to share. Wow, all right, that's over

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Speaker 1: the line. Are you sure are justification? What if he

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Speaker 1: was posting it, if he was sending it to like

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Speaker 1: those like positive mean pages that that or like what

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Speaker 1: if it's like a Facebook group for other cancer patients

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Speaker 1: and it's like, hey, my sister has no friends here

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Speaker 1: be friends? You know, we we never know, we never

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Speaker 1: know mantext right. But I shut down that photo sharing

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Speaker 1: even though my husband thought it was just harmless teasing.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's all harmless until freaking okay, I mean

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Speaker 1: until someone gets hurt. But then it's just just kidding guys. Satire, Yeah, satire, satire,

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Speaker 1: My husband's sister's wedding was last week. The family wanted

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Speaker 1: Megan to go, but she did not want to go.

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Speaker 1: wear a wig, which I agreed to. That's totally fine.

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Speaker 1: That's a totally fair, like stipulated wear a wig. Bro.

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Speaker 1: Imagine if she didn't like, no, you must be bald,

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Speaker 1: We were all sitting and we started talking about Megans.

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Speaker 1: shave his head actually, actually this is this is the crime.

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Speaker 1: Ben needs to be taught a lesson. He he really does.

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Speaker 1: They're not bonding, Dude. If I if Opie's daughter is

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Speaker 1: this is not bonding. This is torture. Uh. He said,

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Speaker 1: I feel like the dad should be like the Guantanamo

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Speaker 1: Bay press release guys, like it's not torture, that's just

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Speaker 1: You bobbed for apples. This is just forcibly bobbing for apples, bonding.

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Speaker 1: I guess makes sense. That dynamic makes sense. Ben is

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Speaker 1: think it's safe to say, ahole. Yeah, shave Ben's head,

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Speaker 1: and I want to hear everyone in the common shave

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Speaker 1: Ben's head. And that was all