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Speaker 1: It's breaking jewel in the morning, I'm moving eighty two

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Speaker 1: point five. Melanie is on the phone with us right now.

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Speaker 1: She wants to call a guy named for a second date. Update.

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Speaker 1: Apparently they hung out and she ended up losing her

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Speaker 1: cool at some point on the date. Melanie, how are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm well, how are you good? Don't don't yell at me.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna ask you a few questions about your date. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I promise I'm not gonna yell at you. Right. I'm

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Speaker 1: just making sure because from the sounds of your email,

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Speaker 1: But I mean, I was really pissed off, and if

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, why don't we talk about your date

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Speaker 1: a little bit before we get into how you sort

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Speaker 1: of lost your cool? So you met this guy at

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Speaker 1: a friend's party. Yeah, my friend decided to have a

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Speaker 1: I ended up talking to this guide for quite a while.

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Speaker 1: Did he ask you out or did you make the move? Well,

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Speaker 1: I mean he started talking to me, which was cool,

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Speaker 1: but I was the one that was like, you know,

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Speaker 1: we see you a drink. That's when you yelled at

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Speaker 1: him put him in his So you guys ended up

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Speaker 1: going out. What did you do for your date? We

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Speaker 1: a lot and they have like live music, so we

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Speaker 1: A lot of Any weird things happened on your date

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Speaker 1: while you were out? No, well, everything was really fun.

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Speaker 1: It was really fun. Yeah. Now your email says that

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Speaker 1: well we were just kind of having fun, showing these

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Speaker 1: curdling off anyway. Uh yeah, I was really it sounds

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Speaker 1: It was wonderful. So you went to the bathroom, removed

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Speaker 1: and then what was his reaction when you came out

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Speaker 1: what's that? What's going on? And he was like, hey, listen,

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Speaker 1: And that's when I kind of freaked out, I guess

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Speaker 1: How long? What are your bathroom for? Was it a

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Speaker 1: long time? No? I mean all I did was take

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Speaker 1: so less than three minutes. What did you do? When

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Speaker 1: All right, Melanie, you're about ready to make the call

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Speaker 1: exactly why he's not calling you back, by the way,

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Speaker 1: Oh you do. Yeah. Nothing is more annoying to me

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Speaker 1: If you're just tuning into the second day update, Melanie

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Speaker 1: met at a friend's party. They ended up going out

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Speaker 1: about yourself. Whatever. We will get you taken care off her. Melanie,

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Speaker 1: all right, you're about ready to call. Appreciate that. All right,

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Speaker 1: This is Jewel from brook and Jewel in the morning.

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Speaker 1: You recently went out on a date with one of

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Speaker 1: said she enjoyed your time together. Obviously you know that

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Speaker 1: I don't want to talk about this, okay? Is it

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Speaker 1: something embarrassing? Really? I could get in some trouble, get

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Speaker 1: in trouble. Look, I don't need you to say much.

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Speaker 1: Melanie just wants to know why you would leave. If

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Speaker 1: what's the reason that you don't want to call Melanie back? Then? Man?

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Speaker 1: The thing is I'm married? Why? Yeah, you're married? What

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Speaker 1: an awful lot of judgment. But you don't really know

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Speaker 1: have any choice. This is what we do at the

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Speaker 1: end of second date updates. Would you like to go

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Speaker 1: out with Melanie again? We'll pay for it. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: can answer for both of us there, no no, Are

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Speaker 1: you sure, Melanie? I think I'm pretty I think I'm

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Speaker 1: pretty sure. All right. Hey, thank you for at least

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Speaker 1: being honest with Melanie so she knows why you left. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Melanie again, I have to say that I'm really sorry

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Speaker 1: about this and if things don't work out for me

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Speaker 1: in the future is do you think I could give

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Speaker 1: you a call like a little bit. Yeah, I got

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Speaker 1: I think our numbers though it's one eight hundred to

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Speaker 1: go yourself