1 00:00:01,120 --> 00:00:06,440 Speaker 1: Conversations on life, style, beauty, and relationships. It's The Velvet's 2 00:00:06,480 --> 00:00:08,240 Speaker 1: Edge podcast with Kelly Henderson. 3 00:00:08,720 --> 00:00:13,400 Speaker 2: So it turns out that maybe solo episodes are not 4 00:00:13,560 --> 00:00:15,320 Speaker 2: as bad as I have made them out to be. 5 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 2: I do feed off of other people's energy, so speaking 6 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:22,000 Speaker 2: just off the top of my head feels easier when 7 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:25,720 Speaker 2: I'm bouncing ideas off someone else. But it kind of 8 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 2: dawned on me last month when I did that podcast 9 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:32,080 Speaker 2: that a solo episode is where I get to talk 10 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:34,760 Speaker 2: to you guys and just go through the things that 11 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:37,840 Speaker 2: have been going through my head. Or if you guys 12 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:41,320 Speaker 2: have questions or topics you want me to discuss or 13 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 2: want some input on, this would be the way to 14 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:48,480 Speaker 2: do it. So here I am sitting in a closet, 15 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:51,160 Speaker 2: just to paint the picture for you guys. I'm sitting 16 00:00:51,159 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 2: in a closet upstairs in my house because for some reason, 17 00:00:55,080 --> 00:00:58,520 Speaker 2: this feels like the coziest space. Not really sure how 18 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 2: to like justify that or rationalize it. Don't really think 19 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:05,920 Speaker 2: there's much real, like anything rational happening here, but it 20 00:01:05,959 --> 00:01:08,440 Speaker 2: feels cozy, and I'm all about cozy. I'm a cancer, 21 00:01:08,600 --> 00:01:11,679 Speaker 2: you guys know that, But I wanted to hop on 22 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:14,959 Speaker 2: because I had a thought and I wanted to just 23 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:17,680 Speaker 2: kind of process through that. Maybe some of you guys 24 00:01:17,680 --> 00:01:21,039 Speaker 2: are feeling this too, maybe you felt it before and 25 00:01:21,080 --> 00:01:24,199 Speaker 2: you feel isolated, or you're kind of on this journey 26 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 2: right now and need some encouragement. So this is what 27 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 2: happened to me, and I'll just tell you guys about it. 28 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 2: I had an experience recently and I was on a 29 00:01:34,240 --> 00:01:37,200 Speaker 2: plane to Palm Springs to do some energy work, and 30 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 2: I'm texting with a friend while I'm on the plane, 31 00:01:40,040 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 2: just telling her what I was doing, and she said 32 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:46,000 Speaker 2: to me, you are so brave. And I just remember 33 00:01:46,080 --> 00:01:47,920 Speaker 2: sitting there and I was looking at my phone for 34 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 2: a second, kind of like waiting to see if there 35 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 2: was like a follow up text or something that was 36 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:55,920 Speaker 2: going to like click for me, because all I was 37 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:58,720 Speaker 2: thinking in my brain was huh, Like it just didn't 38 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:02,120 Speaker 2: make sense to me. Brave to me felt like this 39 00:02:02,280 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 2: really weird word to say about that experience. Like I said, 40 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:09,200 Speaker 2: it just didn't make sense. It wasn't really anything that 41 00:02:09,200 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 2: had crossed my mind actually, Like, in fact, not much 42 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 2: had crossed my mind about that trip other than just 43 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 2: being excited to get out of Nashville for a few 44 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:20,680 Speaker 2: days and go do something that made me feel good. 45 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:24,239 Speaker 2: So I want to go back. And in my friend's defense, 46 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:27,000 Speaker 2: the kind of energy work that I was doing, it 47 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:30,480 Speaker 2: was actually really intense and it was to target one 48 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:35,639 Speaker 2: of my deepest rooted, painful experiences. And as I sat 49 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:39,679 Speaker 2: here on that plane flying across the country, I was realizing, 50 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 2: I have not asked this facilitator many questions at all 51 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:46,919 Speaker 2: about how this session will be. Literally, all that was 52 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 2: going through my brain was like, get your ass on 53 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:51,959 Speaker 2: the plane. I knew I just needed to show up, 54 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:56,680 Speaker 2: be open, and let whatever came up come up. The 55 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:58,840 Speaker 2: universe was going to handle the rest. That's where I 56 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:01,880 Speaker 2: had gotten first of all, Before I go any further, 57 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:04,560 Speaker 2: I want to say, I'm not advertising that you guys 58 00:03:04,600 --> 00:03:07,960 Speaker 2: walk into a situation where you have no clue if 59 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:11,239 Speaker 2: the facilitator is legit or not. I had personally known 60 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 2: someone else who had seen the synergy worker already, so 61 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:17,919 Speaker 2: I knew they were legit. I really do encourage due 62 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 2: diligence with anything spiritual, emotional therapy, anything like that. Due 63 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:27,520 Speaker 2: diligence is very important. Second, I am not trying to 64 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 2: toot my own horn here and be like, oh, I'm 65 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:32,920 Speaker 2: so brave. I think my point is It dawned on 66 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:36,000 Speaker 2: me like, if you do anything enough in this life, 67 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 2: it simply just gets easier. The truth is, I have 68 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:45,080 Speaker 2: gotten so used to healing work, therapy, energy work, you 69 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:47,560 Speaker 2: name it, that I think I've just learned to stop 70 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:50,240 Speaker 2: trying to control it. I can sit there, I don't 71 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:52,880 Speaker 2: have to overthink it. I just lean in and I 72 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 2: trust the process. I mean literally, when I tell you guys, 73 00:03:56,840 --> 00:03:59,840 Speaker 2: I have done so much weird shit at this point. 74 00:04:00,440 --> 00:04:02,760 Speaker 2: I'm not even sure that there's anything in this world 75 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:06,560 Speaker 2: of like healing practices that could produce fear in me anymore. 76 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 2: I've done the weirdest, most I don't know, just bizarre stuff. 77 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:14,440 Speaker 2: I just know that when I'm feeling low, I have 78 00:04:14,520 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 2: to do it. I just need to do it, and 79 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:18,599 Speaker 2: then I'm going to find peace on the other side. 80 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:20,640 Speaker 2: So it's just like taking the next red step and 81 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:23,479 Speaker 2: doing it. So I actually responded to my friend and 82 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:27,680 Speaker 2: I said, brave, brave about what because, as I said, 83 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 2: you know, I'm not grasping what she meant at that point. 84 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:33,039 Speaker 2: But then another train of thought started to dawn on me, 85 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:37,479 Speaker 2: and I started thinking, isn't this so interesting that my 86 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:40,560 Speaker 2: friend is saying to me how brave I am? And 87 00:04:40,600 --> 00:04:43,039 Speaker 2: in the meantime, it's like, we go to the gym 88 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 2: because we want to be fit right, we want to 89 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:48,160 Speaker 2: look our best. I can't even tell you guys either, 90 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 2: Like I will sit with my friends and we talk 91 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 2: about all the money we spend on our hair, our nails, 92 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:58,799 Speaker 2: our makeup, our clothes. Also, we work so hard because 93 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:01,919 Speaker 2: we want to be successful. Yet when it comes to 94 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 2: our insights, like the work, the process, is the money, 95 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:10,200 Speaker 2: it's not even thought of or discussed, or it's those 96 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 2: exact reasons we tell ourselves we aren't digging deep and 97 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:16,839 Speaker 2: doing the work, like we can't afford it or you know, 98 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:20,239 Speaker 2: that's just not for me kind of mentality. It seems 99 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:24,840 Speaker 2: like maybe we're starting to say the right things, like Okay, 100 00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:26,600 Speaker 2: it's really important that you guys go take care of 101 00:05:26,640 --> 00:05:29,520 Speaker 2: your mental health, but like what does that look like? 102 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:32,640 Speaker 2: We never really take it that step further and talk 103 00:05:32,680 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 2: about what that looks like. And to be clear, the 104 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 2: only reason that I do any of this mental, spiritual 105 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 2: or emotional work is because I just want to feel better, 106 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:45,839 Speaker 2: Like I want to get out of pain, and I've 107 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 2: had the life experience that I've done it enough now 108 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 2: that I just know that that is how I do it, 109 00:05:52,360 --> 00:05:54,960 Speaker 2: Even though it's taken me a really long time to accept, 110 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 2: I know that the only way out is actually through, 111 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 2: which brings me back to the word brave. When I 112 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:05,040 Speaker 2: first thought about this, my instinct was say, well, like, 113 00:06:05,080 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 2: what's everyone scared of anyway? But then it, you know, 114 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:13,440 Speaker 2: I remembered. It's that crippling fear. It's that taking that 115 00:06:13,520 --> 00:06:16,560 Speaker 2: next step and to walk into the therapist's office when 116 00:06:16,560 --> 00:06:19,600 Speaker 2: you're laying on the reiki master's table or having your 117 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:22,840 Speaker 2: chart read and someone's actually seeing who you really are. 118 00:06:23,920 --> 00:06:27,600 Speaker 2: It's being scared that if you start crying, you may 119 00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:31,480 Speaker 2: never stop being afraid that you're the only person. You're 120 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 2: the one person on this planet that's too defective to 121 00:06:34,279 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 2: be helped. Your issues are so deep and they feel 122 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:41,320 Speaker 2: so much bigger than anyone else's. And if you go 123 00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:43,839 Speaker 2: and do these things and they tell you you can't 124 00:06:43,839 --> 00:06:47,280 Speaker 2: be fixed, then what then? What's going to fill that 125 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:51,840 Speaker 2: deep pit inside you? See? I've walked these roads long 126 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 2: enough now that I know that none of that is true, 127 00:06:54,839 --> 00:06:57,200 Speaker 2: and your deepest spheres, the ones that keep you from 128 00:06:57,240 --> 00:07:00,760 Speaker 2: looking behind the curtain. They're actually just narratives, and your 129 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:04,120 Speaker 2: sweet brain, it's just using those narratives to try to 130 00:07:04,200 --> 00:07:06,200 Speaker 2: keep you safe. If it keeps you the same, It's 131 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 2: like our brains convince us that we'll be safe. But 132 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 2: the thing is, if you're still listening to this episode 133 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:14,840 Speaker 2: at this point, and you've heard all those fears that 134 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:17,560 Speaker 2: I just said, and that little pit in your stummit 135 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:21,200 Speaker 2: cried out, I just don't believe that's bad mistake. I 136 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 2: think your soul's ready. I've come to accept that no 137 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:27,080 Speaker 2: matter what we go through, this life is good if 138 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:30,160 Speaker 2: we allow it to be. And actually the pain is 139 00:07:30,200 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 2: the part that loves us the most. Sounds crazy to say, 140 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 2: but I believe that to be true. It's the universe's 141 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:38,960 Speaker 2: way of getting us back on the right track. It's 142 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 2: the universe's way of like encouraging us to be the 143 00:07:41,560 --> 00:07:45,360 Speaker 2: highest version of ourself, the most evolved, the most loving 144 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:49,360 Speaker 2: versions of ourselves. So if you're hurting, you feel lost, 145 00:07:49,680 --> 00:07:52,640 Speaker 2: you feel empty or depressed, I promise you there's ways 146 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:55,680 Speaker 2: out of all of it. No problem is too big. 147 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:59,640 Speaker 2: I've seen a lot of problems in this experience, even 148 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:03,520 Speaker 2: when the feels too great and feels all encompassing, there 149 00:08:03,520 --> 00:08:07,520 Speaker 2: are answers, and it's okay not to be okay. In fact, 150 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 2: I'm actually starting to believe we're all exactly right on time. 151 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 2: I keep thinking it's kind of insane that we just 152 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 2: continue to not discuss the massive impact of the last 153 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:19,880 Speaker 2: few years of a pandemic in isolation and complete chaos 154 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:22,160 Speaker 2: have had on all of us. It's like we continue 155 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 2: to try and forget about it, act like it never 156 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 2: happened and things are just going to go back to 157 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:29,760 Speaker 2: the way they used to be. But I also think 158 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 2: during that time, it probably brought up all the other stuff, 159 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 2: you know, the stuff that we could usually put a 160 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:39,160 Speaker 2: band aid on. It brought it all right to the surface. 161 00:08:39,280 --> 00:08:42,120 Speaker 2: And no matter what old method or new band aid 162 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:46,600 Speaker 2: you try, the anxiety, the exhaustion, the depression, the anger, 163 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:50,280 Speaker 2: it just doesn't seem to go away. But trust me 164 00:08:50,360 --> 00:08:54,200 Speaker 2: when I say that is a good thing. I know 165 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:55,920 Speaker 2: you probably want to punch me in the face right now, 166 00:08:55,960 --> 00:08:58,480 Speaker 2: but I promise you it's a good thing. It's your 167 00:08:58,520 --> 00:09:02,040 Speaker 2: body talking to you. Those feelings aren't bad. We've just 168 00:09:02,200 --> 00:09:05,960 Speaker 2: labeled them as that, but they're not actually bad they're 169 00:09:05,960 --> 00:09:09,679 Speaker 2: trying to talk to us, so say hello. I actually 170 00:09:09,679 --> 00:09:12,760 Speaker 2: will sit sometimes, as crazy as it sounds, and like, 171 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 2: if I'm feeling super anxious and it's to the point 172 00:09:15,559 --> 00:09:18,080 Speaker 2: where it's like overwhelming and I can't figure out why, 173 00:09:18,520 --> 00:09:21,840 Speaker 2: I'm just like, all right, hey, anxiety, you're there, and 174 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:24,840 Speaker 2: I can't do anything about you, clearly, So what are 175 00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:27,560 Speaker 2: you trying to show me? Ask it what it needs. 176 00:09:28,040 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 2: Your body will always tell you. We do a whole 177 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:34,440 Speaker 2: lot of things in this society to try and not 178 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 2: be uncomfortable, but it seems like what we miss is 179 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:42,000 Speaker 2: that discomfort is actually our greatest communication with ourselves in 180 00:09:42,040 --> 00:09:45,560 Speaker 2: the universe. If you aren't comfortable, the answer isn't a 181 00:09:45,600 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 2: pill or a drink or sex with a stranger, like 182 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 2: we've all been taught. Whoever actually came up with that 183 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:54,520 Speaker 2: narrative is probably the one that needs to be canceled. 184 00:09:55,160 --> 00:09:58,720 Speaker 2: This is a new era. I'm claiming it now. I 185 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:01,480 Speaker 2: just have this inkling like something in our society feels 186 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:04,840 Speaker 2: like it's shifting to me. I feel the fear all 187 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:07,800 Speaker 2: around the world. I know it's still really really big, 188 00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:11,120 Speaker 2: But that's why I want to do this podcast. That's 189 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:13,080 Speaker 2: why I talk to the people that I talk to, 190 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:16,520 Speaker 2: even sometimes if it seems like, you know, I'm gone 191 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:18,880 Speaker 2: off the deep end, or it's like so woo woo, 192 00:10:19,559 --> 00:10:22,440 Speaker 2: I'm just a curious person and I'm honestly willing to 193 00:10:22,480 --> 00:10:25,000 Speaker 2: try anything. So I want to give you guys the 194 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:27,560 Speaker 2: access to all the places that you can go heal. 195 00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 2: There's so many options, there's so many answers out there, 196 00:10:31,760 --> 00:10:34,360 Speaker 2: and we just don't give it any energy, and we 197 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 2: just don't give it a place in the narrative. And 198 00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:40,240 Speaker 2: I think that that's wrong. It's like that quote says, 199 00:10:40,760 --> 00:10:43,680 Speaker 2: courage isn't the absence of fear, it's doing it anyway. 200 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:47,760 Speaker 2: So that's the road that I think that we're beginning 201 00:10:47,800 --> 00:10:50,959 Speaker 2: to walk down in twenty twenty four, and I would 202 00:10:51,040 --> 00:10:53,439 Speaker 2: love to be a part of your process. That's what's 203 00:10:53,480 --> 00:10:55,960 Speaker 2: been going on in my brain this week is just 204 00:10:56,000 --> 00:10:58,280 Speaker 2: that I think that a lot of people are actually 205 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:02,640 Speaker 2: getting really, really, really fucking ready, Like we're just ready, 206 00:11:02,679 --> 00:11:05,440 Speaker 2: We're ready to level up, we're ready to heal. And 207 00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:08,440 Speaker 2: I think that maybe we're ready to step into the 208 00:11:08,480 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 2: new scary thing that we've been putting off and get 209 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:16,000 Speaker 2: to the other side. So, as I always say, take 210 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:18,800 Speaker 2: what you like and leave the rest. If there's anything 211 00:11:18,800 --> 00:11:20,960 Speaker 2: that you guys need from me on your journey, you 212 00:11:20,960 --> 00:11:22,880 Speaker 2: can always shoot me an email like I said at 213 00:11:22,960 --> 00:11:26,480 Speaker 2: Kelly at velvetsedge dot com. That's my direct email where 214 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:29,719 Speaker 2: you can slide into my DMS at Velvet's Edge on Instagram. 215 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:32,960 Speaker 2: If you have any questions about like specific practices that 216 00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:36,520 Speaker 2: you're interested in you maybe heard about I've probably tried it, 217 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:39,240 Speaker 2: or I have a friend who has, or I've even 218 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:42,559 Speaker 2: maybe done an episode about it. So literally, do not 219 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:45,679 Speaker 2: be afraid to ask anything. There is no dumb question 220 00:11:45,760 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 2: with this stuff. With that, I guess I'll just send 221 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:51,240 Speaker 2: and say happy home day, y'all. Hope to see you 222 00:11:51,280 --> 00:11:51,880 Speaker 2: next week. 223 00:11:52,400 --> 00:11:55,400 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening to the Velvet's Edge podcast with Kelly Henderson, 224 00:11:55,559 --> 00:11:58,080 Speaker 1: where we believe everyone has a little velvet in a 225 00:11:58,080 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 1: little edge. Subscribe for more common versations on life, style, 226 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:06,000 Speaker 1: beauty and relationships. Search Velvet's Edge wherever you get your podcasts.