1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:03,600 Speaker 1: This is from Charmaine and Caliumet. Charmain writes, I was 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:06,320 Speaker 1: a side chick a few years ago. I left that 3 00:00:06,400 --> 00:00:10,240 Speaker 1: situation and got married. The married man from my past 4 00:00:10,360 --> 00:00:14,400 Speaker 1: got saved and confessed to having an affair. His wife 5 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:17,640 Speaker 1: called me to talk about it. Why would he do that? 6 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:19,759 Speaker 1: Do I owe his wife an explanation? 7 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:24,240 Speaker 2: No, you don't, No, you don't, and I don't know why. 8 00:00:24,360 --> 00:00:27,840 Speaker 2: Y'all don't do like me and did. If his wife 9 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:33,159 Speaker 2: call you, justin, what are you talking about? I noticed, 10 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I'm sorry. 11 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:43,920 Speaker 3: Excuse me. I'm married and don't call me anymore. You should. 12 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:47,800 Speaker 2: You don't have to give people closure. That's him and her, 13 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 2: that's him and her. Stay out of that. You found 14 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 2: out you shouldn't have been in it. You made your mistake. 15 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:57,760 Speaker 4: Move on right, and we're going to move on too. 16 00:00:57,840 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 1: To Justine and port Arthur, Justine writes, my husband sent 17 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 1: a DM to his ex wife and it said happy birthday, beautiful. 18 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:09,200 Speaker 1: He said, there's nothing wrong with what he did. We're 19 00:01:09,240 --> 00:01:12,520 Speaker 1: friendly with our exes, but he crossed the line. If 20 00:01:12,520 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 1: it's cool, why did he choose to DM it to 21 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 1: her and not text it? 22 00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 2: Well, he know it wasn't cool. We friendly with our exes? 23 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 2: What that mean anyway? I'm that poor. I don't really know. 24 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:26,959 Speaker 2: I don't really know. 25 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:31,680 Speaker 3: You have kids. If you have kids, you share kids 26 00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:33,240 Speaker 3: all them. I got CIDs all night. 27 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:36,839 Speaker 1: But you would still just say, if you said anything, 28 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:37,679 Speaker 1: happy birthday. 29 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:43,720 Speaker 2: He put that beautiful elbow elbow said happy birthday to it. 30 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 3: I'm friendly with the kids. I'm not being real with you. 31 00:01:48,240 --> 00:01:52,600 Speaker 3: I'm not from friendly with the kids. There ain't nothing 32 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 3: wrong with them, you know. 33 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 2: I don't blame nobody for nothing, but I'm once I'm out. 34 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, oh. 35 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 3: Here, I ain't got nothing for you. 36 00:02:08,040 --> 00:02:10,959 Speaker 2: Ain't got to worry about me DM and your texting, 37 00:02:11,040 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 2: your face, face booking you. 38 00:02:14,600 --> 00:02:17,560 Speaker 1: But if you're friendly, you wouldn't just say happy birthday. 39 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 3: I mean, why is we friendly? 40 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 4: Though? I'm just saying if you were from. 41 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:28,120 Speaker 3: See, that's an impossibility. Why are we friendly? 42 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:31,880 Speaker 1: All he's saying is he said happy birthday. 43 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 3: She doesn't understand. It's the beautiful, beautiful. What's happy about beautiful? Well, 44 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:41,360 Speaker 3: here's here's the other part. 45 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:46,520 Speaker 2: Here's what women should all use this technique and just 46 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 2: ask your husband whenever you're talking to him, when you're 47 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 2: trying to get the right answer from him about what 48 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 2: he did, and he's trying to justify. Just ask him, 49 00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 2: say this, what if it were reversed? Yeah, suppose I 50 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 2: did this, how would you feel? That shuts the argument 51 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:10,520 Speaker 2: down completely because he's not say he'll be cool with it. Hey, Hey, 52 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:15,840 Speaker 2: what's so with your sexyself? You text your ex? No, 53 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 2: see you need to get in the car, head on 54 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:23,400 Speaker 2: over that here. Wow, because that's where you stay now. 55 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 4: Condition you can't take it right? And you so you 56 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:30,679 Speaker 4: agree with Justine in this way? 57 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:33,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, it was well, you know, because he was. He 58 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 2: was wrong for that. What's the DM for? We friendly 59 00:03:36,880 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 2: with our exes? Well, get unfriendly with him? 60 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 1: Send another birthday shout out. 61 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:47,240 Speaker 2: Look, if you didn't need him in your life in 62 00:03:47,280 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 2: the relationship part, what you need him in your life 63 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 2: as a friend for I'm gonna tell you right now. See, 64 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:56,960 Speaker 2: we can't be in a full blown relationship, become divorced 65 00:03:56,960 --> 00:04:00,480 Speaker 2: for whatever the reason, because something went wrong and in 66 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 2: that divorce it wasn't nobody laughing in court. 67 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:06,840 Speaker 3: Now we're back to being friends again. What for? 68 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:13,040 Speaker 4: So the children? That's all it's just for the sake of. 69 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:23,200 Speaker 3: All my kids. And got over get yourself some therapy, 70 00:04:23,279 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 3: do do whatever you got to do. 71 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:26,840 Speaker 4: We're gonna move on. 72 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 1: This is Maurice and Compton who writes, my wife's male 73 00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:35,279 Speaker 1: best friend was over overweight and missing a few teeth 74 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:38,320 Speaker 1: when I met my wife. He's lost weight and works 75 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:41,880 Speaker 1: out daily, and he's got new teeth. I can honestly 76 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:44,559 Speaker 1: admit that I'm jealous when he's with my wife? Now 77 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:46,600 Speaker 1: is it cool to break them up? 78 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:48,680 Speaker 4: Wow? 79 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:52,039 Speaker 3: Boy, when got that stuff done? 80 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:56,559 Speaker 4: You got this wag on that? 81 00:04:56,920 --> 00:05:00,279 Speaker 2: See? I forewarned you all all this time about these 82 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:03,560 Speaker 2: male friends and female friends. I just don't you know 83 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:05,720 Speaker 2: he was overweight with no TV. He got some teeth 84 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:07,640 Speaker 2: and got that weight off you. You don't think he 85 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:09,920 Speaker 2: looking at your girl a little bit different? He been 86 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 2: looking at it different. He just ain't have a chance. 87 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you something that if a fat man 88 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:23,919 Speaker 2: who got a raggedy mouth, yeah, fix his mouth and 89 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:25,200 Speaker 2: get in shape. 90 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:30,280 Speaker 3: The only way to flex that is to use it. 91 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 2: And he fit to use it, all of it for 92 00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 2: evil purposes. Evil, Yes, it's evil purposes. 93 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:48,480 Speaker 3: He find to be up to no good? Yeah, who 94 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:49,040 Speaker 3: won't this. 95 00:05:52,120 --> 00:05:53,719 Speaker 4: Splashing his grill? 96 00:05:57,160 --> 00:05:58,400 Speaker 3: He what's so beautiful? 97 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:01,560 Speaker 4: Every birthday. Beautiful. 98 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 1: Wow, So should the husband break them up, then that's 99 00:06:06,720 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 1: what he's doing. 100 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:09,360 Speaker 3: I ain't gotta break them up. And see I would 101 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 3: have never I don't allow it, So I'm not having 102 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 3: that man, all right? 103 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 1: You know? Last one? 104 00:06:15,160 --> 00:06:15,600 Speaker 3: Yeah? 105 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:20,400 Speaker 4: Like, go ahead, all right, last one, fans and Philly, Right. 106 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:21,120 Speaker 4: I borrowed. 107 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:23,600 Speaker 1: I borrowed a suit from a friend to impress a 108 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: lady on a first date. My friend knows a lady too, 109 00:06:26,839 --> 00:06:29,400 Speaker 1: and after our date, he told her that I wore 110 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 1: his suit. I was embarrassed, but luckily she didn't care. 111 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:35,760 Speaker 1: My friend said it was a joke. Was he joking 112 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:37,000 Speaker 1: or was he hating? 113 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:41,920 Speaker 2: So uncool to do that? So uncool to do that. Man, 114 00:06:41,960 --> 00:06:45,960 Speaker 2: you don't shade your boy like that. He borrowed his suit, 115 00:06:46,040 --> 00:06:48,800 Speaker 2: then you told him, yeah, he wore my suit. Okay, man, 116 00:06:49,000 --> 00:06:51,320 Speaker 2: So what you in her face for telling her that? 117 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:54,400 Speaker 2: Why are you trying to get her to know that 118 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:58,440 Speaker 2: that was your suit? If I was you, my man, 119 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 2: I checked the friendship meet on this boy right here. Yep, 120 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 2: I would check the friendship because man, hey man, you 121 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:10,080 Speaker 2: don't do that to your dudes. I'm gonna give you 122 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 2: an example, like when I'm clearing my clawst out. You know, 123 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 2: I give away clothes, right, and I start with the 124 00:07:17,600 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 2: people who work around me, closes, and some of the 125 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 2: guys on my size can wear my clothes. So I 126 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:26,760 Speaker 2: have a giveaway and I let them have it. I 127 00:07:26,800 --> 00:07:30,160 Speaker 2: will see them in it with a wife or their girlfriend. 128 00:07:30,800 --> 00:07:31,640 Speaker 3: I'll see a minute. 129 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:37,400 Speaker 2: I never mentioned it, right, I I. 130 00:07:38,640 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 3: You have class crazy all right? It's crazy, all right. 131 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:44,640 Speaker 4: Thank you, sir. 132 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:51,080 Speaker 1: Coming up next Pasta Khan and Shannie Henderson. Right after this, 133 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:54,440 Speaker 1: you're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show.