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Speaker 2: Now I'm broke, so I want to get the money

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Speaker 2: back by any means necessary.

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Speaker 1: Might be able. I was in Nassas, Bahamas, I'm guessing

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Speaker 2: And suffered a stroke unexpectedly.

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Speaker 1: I'm young, low thirties and an overall pretty active and healthy,

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Speaker 2: Yeah that sucks. Yeah, that's awful.

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Speaker 1: So when the stroke hit the left side of my body,

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Speaker 1: It is similar to being paralyzed and all around sucks.

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Speaker 1: I imagine it sucks a lot. Yeah, I would not

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Speaker 1: recommend a stroke to anyway. The hotel thankfully called an ambulance,

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Speaker 1: which brought me to a hospital. And here's where the

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Speaker 1: fun begins. Ladies and gentlemen, step right up, step right up.

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Speaker 1: Ont's listen to the story. My girlfriend, let's call her Tea,

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Speaker 1: went to give them my health insurance card when I

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Speaker 1: by insurance and said I don't have coverage and insisted

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Speaker 1: on a cash payment or they would not treat me. Wow,

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Speaker 1: when you're having a stroke, minutes count. So she gave

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Speaker 1: Tea gave them my credit card. Important notes, t is

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Speaker 1: not an authorized card holder on my credit card account.

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Speaker 1: She does not have her own card, nor is she

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Speaker 1: an authorized signer or user on my account. She simply

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Speaker 1: later to Tea crying by my bedside. She was explaining

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Speaker 1: was not able to process nor had the energy to respond.

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Speaker 1: She was explaining that they would chase her down the

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Speaker 1: hallway for five thousand, ten, twenty thousand at a time,

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Speaker 1: whatever they could, as if buying a used car. Wow.

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Speaker 1: It was surreal and makes me so mad, But she

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Speaker 1: did not have any other options at the time. She

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Speaker 1: father was raising hell about them not taking much insurance

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Speaker 1: and he made arrangements to get me back to the States.

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Speaker 1: So they're charging him up the wazoo.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, this is insane.

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Speaker 1: He is not an authorized user on my credit card account,

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Speaker 1: but she was doing what she thought was best for

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Speaker 1: anyone else would have done the same, which I mean, like,

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Speaker 1: what else do you do in this situation?

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Speaker 2: There really is nothing else except trying to perform the

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Speaker 1: Exactly, you know, just do the open heart surgery on

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Speaker 1: your own, pull up a YouTube video and freaking do it.

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Speaker 1: Come on, Long story short, I was transported via air

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Speaker 1: health insurance took over, and now the dust has settled,

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Speaker 1: I have fifty five thousand dollars in charges on my

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Speaker 2: Wow, oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I have spoken to my insurance company and they said

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Speaker 1: the hospital should have taken the insurance when I was admitted.

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Speaker 1: But the hospital prefers cash because insurance companies will pay

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Speaker 1: I already attempted to charge back the charges, but the

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Speaker 1: Or should I bother contact your lawyer in the Bahamas.

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Speaker 1: a great complete side notes on where I'm at today.

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Speaker 1: before the stroke. And John, there is an update. But

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Speaker 2: I mean, definitely like we are not like the premiere

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Speaker 2: Because I feel like there is a way.

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Speaker 1: There has to be. I mean, that's really sketchy, But

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Speaker 1: there is an update, John, let's get into it.

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Speaker 2: Update.

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Speaker 1: United through and paid ninety five percent of the charges,

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Speaker 1: but one hundred percent of the hospital bill. They shorted

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Speaker 1: Bank of America for the overage. Thank you for all

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Speaker 1: the advice life lessons have been added to the list,

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Speaker 1: so at least it ended up with a fifty five

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Speaker 2: I'm so glad to hear that. And you know, like

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Speaker 1: Going from fifty five k to four point six k

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Speaker 1: So if you have any terrible experiences like this, we'd

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Speaker 1: love to hear them. I mean, my small one is

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Speaker 1: I was trying to get these lumps on my leg remove.

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Speaker 1: then I came back to get the stitches out, and

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Speaker 2: Dude? That is so slight.

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Speaker 1: Guys like, oh, yeah, we could remove it no cost,

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Speaker 3: Like what do you think the person you're just saying

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Speaker 3: like oh awesome, thanks, Like yeah, yeah, those stitches were

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Speaker 2: If you tell me the procedures free, then it's free.

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Speaker 1: Leave with a gaping hole, like like, what do you

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Speaker 1: that is Did I just find one million dollars? I

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Speaker 1: just discovered my grandpa's hidden treasure. But now my gold

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Speaker 2: Mister beast bought an island for eight hundred thousand. I'm

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Speaker 1: I twenty six mail recently bought out my cousins and

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Speaker 1: Based off of this, we think it belonged to my

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Speaker 1: She was shocked. My great grandfather didn't trust banks and

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Speaker 1: thought they had found everything. She's now asking that we

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Speaker 1: hand it all over, sell it and split it between

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Speaker 1: I said, I would give them the cash and the

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Speaker 1: said that my siblings need the money because they are

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Speaker 1: I found family properly. Legally, I purchased everything in the house,

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Speaker 1: so I think I am covered. My mom and uncle

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Speaker 1: are saying we can not come to Christmas if we

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Speaker 1: don't hand it over. So am I the a hole

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Speaker 1: for not splitting the lost family treasure? John? What do

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Speaker 1: Also, how much do you think it's worth? Put your

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Speaker 1: answers to the comments? How much you think this whole

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Speaker 1: treasure is worth? Right here? I actually think if it

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Speaker 1: to inherit it. I think it should be split among

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Speaker 2: Here here we go. I think I got to appraise it,

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Speaker 2: divide the value by how many people there are, you know,

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Speaker 2: the parents, the grand children, et cetera, and then divvy

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Speaker 2: it up. And then yeah, if op does want to

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Speaker 2: pass down, like maybe like the sapphire earrings for example,

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Speaker 2: buy out the rest of the value for that and

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Speaker 2: then pass it down.

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Speaker 1: I think that that's the most fair thing. My husband's

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Speaker 1: new bimbo is stealing my daughter's money and clothes. I'm

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Speaker 1: going to sue for full custody. So am I the

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Speaker 1: a hole?

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Speaker 2: Why don't we take him for everything they got?

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Speaker 1: my ex husband John thirty nine. We got divorced by

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Speaker 1: five years ago and I have primary custody. Well, he

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Speaker 1: sees her two weekends a month. Last year he got

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Speaker 1: married to Amanda, who has sole custody of her kids,

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Speaker 1: ten and eight female from a previous marriage. Amanda is

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Speaker 1: a stay at home mom, not for any health reasons

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Speaker 1: or so on. She just doesn't want to work. While

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Speaker 1: John works at a nine to five. He makes good

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Speaker 1: money to support them, but not enough to live in luxury.

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Speaker 1: I have a much higher, big job all right over,

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Speaker 1: says it just me and Sadie. I make sure she

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Speaker 1: has the best possible life. She goes to private school,

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Speaker 1: set her up a college fund, and she has much

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Speaker 1: better things than most kids, phones, clothes, et cetera. I

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Speaker 1: still managed to raise her to be humble and not

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Speaker 1: take things for granted. And she's one of the hardest

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Speaker 1: working people I know, always making sure to get good

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Speaker 1: grades and keep her room tidy.

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Speaker 2: There you go.

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Speaker 1: Well, last few times she came back after a weekend

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Speaker 1: at John's, I noticed that the clothes she was bringing

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Speaker 1: back in her Duffel r not her size, and b

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Speaker 1: much cheaper and poorer quality than I usually buy her.

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Speaker 1: I asked her why that is, and she told me

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Speaker 1: that while she's at her dad's. Amanda takes away her

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Speaker 1: knife clothes and gives them to her kids, while Sadie

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Speaker 1: gets the clothes they buy from targets. Wow, this is

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Speaker 1: like the worst case of robinhood I've ever heard. What's

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Speaker 1: from the rich your kids, and give to the poor

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Speaker 1: my kids. I asked if she wanted them back, but

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Speaker 1: she said she didn't mind sharing since all her favorite

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Speaker 1: clothes were kept here, which is a phenomenal attitude. The

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Speaker 1: problem came when I went to pick her up last weekend.

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Speaker 1: I had a business meeting and couldn't drive her over,

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Speaker 1: so Amanda offered to just pick Sadie up from school,

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Speaker 1: which hadn't happened before. When I got there on Sunday,

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Speaker 1: John and Amanda asked me to sit down with them,

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Speaker 1: and when Sadie came to hug me, Amanda sent her

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Speaker 1: to her room quite harshly, saying her punishment wasn't over yet.

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Speaker 1: I was confused because Sadie very rarely misbehaves. They sat

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Speaker 1: me down in the kitchen and said it was unfair

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Speaker 1: for Sadie to be going to private school. Well, her

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Speaker 1: kids had to go to a public one, so they

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Speaker 1: had decided that Sadie would be pulled out of the

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Speaker 1: private school and put in this same school as the girls.

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Speaker 2: What you're fucking bunkers, What the fuck?

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Speaker 1: And this is like a private school that o P

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Speaker 1: is paying for. You do not get to decide this.

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Speaker 1: They said, I should keep up Sadie's punishment because when

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Speaker 1: they told her, she blew up at them, told them

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Speaker 1: it wasn't fair and yelled that Amanda and her kids

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Speaker 1: weren't even her real family, that all they did was steal.

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Speaker 2: Let just frecket true. How dare you tell the truth?

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Speaker 1: I told them, in no uncertain terms, to fuck off.

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Speaker 1: I would not be pulling my child out of a

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Speaker 1: school she likes, away from her friends because they can't

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Speaker 1: afford it. I told them they could easily make as

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Speaker 1: much money as me if Amanda started working in her field,

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Speaker 1: because she has the qualifications and the job market is

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Speaker 1: very good. I told them that their money problems are

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Speaker 1: not my issue, and if Sadie's items get stolen again

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Speaker 1: or they try to or out of school, I'll be

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Speaker 1: taking them to court. Yeah, blowing up my phone ever

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Speaker 1: since calling me selfish an a hole, and after telling

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Speaker 1: the story to a friend, he told me I was

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Speaker 1: rubbing my success in their face. But I still don't

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Speaker 1: feel like I did anything wrong. Oh am, I the

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Speaker 1: a hole And there is an edit in an update,

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Speaker 1: but I want your gut check right now.

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Speaker 2: AB salute Lee. Not not at all. This other couple

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Speaker 2: is crazy. They're absolutely the X couple is insane.

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Speaker 1: How do they think that's okay? I just don't know

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Speaker 1: how they think it's okay to pull a kid out

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Speaker 1: of the school they've been going to randomly.

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Speaker 2: A okay, already a big one, and then be like,

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Speaker 2: like you really think you're gonna like get away with this,

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Speaker 2: and like that you have the authority, like ah, okay.

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Speaker 1: So here's the edit. Okay, I got temporary guardianship while

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Speaker 1: waiting for a court hearing. We're going to try to

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Speaker 1: get full custody and have John get one day a

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Speaker 1: week of visitation supervised for at least the first few months,

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Speaker 1: and no contact with Amanda or kids. This way, he

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Speaker 1: still sees Sadie as much and they can try to

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Speaker 1: repair their relationship, but she doesn't have to go back there.

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Speaker 1: All contact between us is made through emails, which are

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Speaker 1: se seed by my lawyer, and I've asked for Sadie's

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Speaker 1: things back. I've talked to Sadie and we decided that

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Speaker 1: she's going to try therapy for a little while to

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Speaker 1: help deal with everything that's happened. And here's the update.

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Speaker 1: We've had the hearing and our custody arrangements been modified

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Speaker 1: Amy Any and all decisions relating to Sadie are made

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Speaker 1: by me and me alone, who John has supervised visitation

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Speaker 1: once a week, and Sadie will continue in therapy to

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Speaker 1: deal with all the issues Amanda and co have caused her.

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Speaker 1: They tried to push for fifty fifty custody split on

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Speaker 1: grounds of alienation, so me trying to put Sadie against

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Speaker 1: my father. But we made it clear from the start

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Speaker 1: that we wanted to keep Amanda and her children away

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Speaker 1: and wanted supervision only because we don't feel safe leaving

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Speaker 1: him alone as it gets, but that we were open

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Speaker 1: to modifications. Thanks to that, the proof of stealing and

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Speaker 1: Sadie's therapist testimony, their claim was thrown out pretty quickly. Yes,

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Speaker 1: Amanda's pissed and has tried to contact means, but I

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Speaker 1: made it clear that if she keeps harassing me or

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Speaker 1: my daughter, all have to make this known. To the authorities.

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Speaker 1: Sadie and I have blocked her everywhere and any communication

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Speaker 1: between John and us is made through text messages or

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Speaker 1: emails only. Like to thank you all for the support

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Speaker 1: throughout This really means a lot to us, sending you

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Speaker 1: loads of love and that's the end of the story.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: So I wanted to kick it to the comments. I mean,

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Speaker 1: what do you think of this situation? Do you think

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Speaker 1: OPI made the right decision by getting full custody of

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Speaker 1: the kids. Was that too much? Was it too little?

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Speaker 1: Let us know the comments below, John, what do you think?

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Speaker 2: Uh? Not at all. I think Ope was not only

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Speaker 2: way in the right, but it was also like very

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Speaker 2: smart about it and reasonable, Like like OPI was like,

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Speaker 2: I do want to have still some visitation. I am

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Speaker 2: open to, like you know, basically a very open and

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Speaker 2: I would say very empathetic approach considering how unempathetic and what.

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Speaker 1: Apples at shit crazy this dude was, Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: my mom is trying to steal my liver to save

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Speaker 1: her life.

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Speaker 2: The thing is, I don't really care if he dies.

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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? When I was a kid,

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Speaker 1: my mom was pretty awful to me and my sibling resentful,

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Speaker 1: a bit of a bully, never hugged any of us,

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Speaker 1: and mainly told us how we ruined her life. You

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Speaker 1: get the picture. I moved out at seventeen to keep

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Speaker 1: my handity. It sounds like a lovely home.

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Speaker 2: It's so nice.

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Speaker 1: I'm twenty eight now and have never had much of

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Speaker 1: a relationship with her after moving out, as she never

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Speaker 1: once admitted that she had done something really effed up

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Speaker 1: to us. My sister is married and has two kids.

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Speaker 1: My brother is divorced with three kids. I got a

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Speaker 1: call from the hospital that my mom managed to drink

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Speaker 1: her liver out of order and need to transplant. All

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Speaker 1: of us siblings were found out to be a match.

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Speaker 1: My sister and brother, once they realized that cutting out

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Speaker 1: part of your liver isn't risk free, backed out. I

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Speaker 1: was told I have something called sidis and versus, meaning

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Speaker 1: my organs are abnormally placed, and that it would make

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Speaker 1: the risk of surgery higher for me four percent risk

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Speaker 1: of death within two weeks of surgery and higher risk

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Speaker 1: of other awful happened, and of course a hundred two

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Speaker 1: percent guarantee that my mother will drink away that liver too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the other thing is you're almost like enabling.

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Speaker 1: Now everyone, the doctor, my mom, siblings, everyone is telling

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Speaker 1: me I should do it because I don't have kids,

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Speaker 1: so who cares if the risk is high.

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Speaker 2: I have kids, So you're useless. You're a waste of

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Speaker 2: human life. You're not popping out babies like a gatlin gun.

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Speaker 1: This pitched me off. My family never valued my lifestyle

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Speaker 1: as a decided not to do life by the script

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Speaker 1: about a cabin in the wilderness in the north and

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Speaker 1: work from home, so I rarely have to leave my

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Speaker 1: lovely little hideaway. I make enough money to live the

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Speaker 1: life I'm always dreamed of. But apparently that does not

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Speaker 1: count since I don't want kids. And my mom, who

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Speaker 1: never cared if I lived or died, suddenly thinks she

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Speaker 1: deserves my liver because she gave birth to me.

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Speaker 2: She's a vending machine of organs. You know, it's like

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Speaker 2: b three liver. Please.

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Speaker 1: The fact that she then spent seventeen years bullying me

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Speaker 1: is irrelevant, because family and kids are a gift from God. Well,

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Speaker 1: the doctor said to me, Well, it is an increased risk,

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Speaker 1: but your mother needs a new liver. At least you

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Speaker 1: don't risk leaving children behind.

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Speaker 2: That.

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Speaker 1: I was so stunned I forgot the entire Swedish language

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Speaker 1: and just sat there. I'm guessing, oh piece from Sweden?

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Speaker 1: What did I just hear? And who will care for

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Speaker 1: my pets if I die? Ohpi, he's a dog ball,

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Speaker 1: you know. And my mom, I gave you my life.

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Speaker 1: You should do the same for me. After all, I

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Speaker 1: gave you my best years and raising you wish, don't y'all.

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Speaker 1: She also gave me two fractured ribs and one time

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Speaker 1: locked me out of the house in the middle of

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Speaker 1: winter and I had to smash a window with my

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Speaker 1: hand to get in. I can't believe I even tried that.

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Speaker 1: I agreed to be tested as a donor, as if

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Speaker 1: she would have magically changed. I'm leaving the city tonight,

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Speaker 1: taking the train north, and will hopefully be back in

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Speaker 1: my cozy home tomorrow. When the doctor calls to hear

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Speaker 1: my decision, I might not even pick up cold. Guess what,

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Speaker 1: John what? There's a freaking up date?

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Speaker 2: Oh goodness.

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Speaker 1: Op sent an image of where they live, and it's beautiful.

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Speaker 1: I've spoken to the people involved, my mom, my, siblings,

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Speaker 1: and the medical staff, and I told everyone that I

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Speaker 1: won't donate a part of my liver to my alcoholic mother.

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Speaker 1: The doctor at the hospital where my mother was treated

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Speaker 1: initially when her liver crash simply said, I understand, but

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Speaker 1: that also means that I must inform you you need

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Speaker 1: to prepare to say goodbye to her in a not

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Speaker 1: so distant future. I might not particularly like my mother,

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Speaker 1: but I don't wish death on anyone, so that sucks.

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Speaker 1: But again, she drank her own liver away. It took

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Speaker 1: years of hard work to reach the place where she

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Speaker 1: is now. She's been to several clinics on all sorts

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Speaker 1: of help. She would stay until they stopped treating her

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Speaker 1: with oxes can and then check out and start it

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Speaker 1: all over again. So much of the taxpayer's money has

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Speaker 1: been spent and thrown away on her, and she refuses

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Speaker 1: to take any responsibility at all. It's always the nurses

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Speaker 1: or the doctor's fault that she drinks it don't give

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Speaker 1: me the right.

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Speaker 2: I thinks she would do the.

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Speaker 1: Same to any donated liver, and I told the doctor this.

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Speaker 1: My sister said that she understood, and now that things

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Speaker 1: have had time to calm down a bit, even said

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Speaker 1: that she thinks it's the right thing to do.

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Speaker 2: My brother does not agree with.

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Speaker 1: My decision, so maybe donate your own liver bro on,

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Speaker 1: which actually op he said. And I told him that

438
00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:19,560
Speaker 1: he can donate a nice size of his own liver then,

439
00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:21,680
Speaker 1: But then, of course he tells me he can't because

440
00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:23,920
Speaker 1: he's got kid and it's too much of a risk

441
00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:27,680
Speaker 1: for it. I, on the other hand, and am obviously

442
00:20:27,760 --> 00:20:32,560
Speaker 1: disposable and my mother, so I honestly can't be bothered

443
00:20:32,560 --> 00:20:34,600
Speaker 1: to type it out. I phoned her to tell her

444
00:20:34,680 --> 00:20:37,600
Speaker 1: that she will not be getting my liver, and as expected,

445
00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:40,440
Speaker 1: she went from jovial to resentful by the drop of

446
00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:45,000
Speaker 1: a hat. Everything from I'm your mother, you only get

447
00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:49,720
Speaker 1: one mother, two you must be there for family was

448
00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:52,119
Speaker 1: thrown at me. She even referred to the fact that

449
00:20:52,160 --> 00:20:54,919
Speaker 1: I once risked my life for my dog when she

450
00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:57,639
Speaker 1: went through the ice on a frozen lake. But you

451
00:20:57,760 --> 00:21:01,520
Speaker 1: won't do this for your mom, No, no, I will not. Actually,

452
00:21:01,640 --> 00:21:04,560
Speaker 1: she said many awful things. I guess I can understand

453
00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:07,760
Speaker 1: that she's upset and scared, but even I have a

454
00:21:07,800 --> 00:21:10,560
Speaker 1: limit how much of that I'm willing to stand. So

455
00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:13,399
Speaker 1: eventually I just said I'm done, and I hung up,

456
00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:16,000
Speaker 1: not sure what to expect now don't really care either.

457
00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:18,680
Speaker 1: I'm glad that my sister came around. Perhaps my brother

458
00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:22,439
Speaker 1: will if given time. Maybe not. Either way, I'm happy

459
00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:25,120
Speaker 1: to have made my decision clear. Now that it's done,

460
00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:27,600
Speaker 1: I can get back to enjoying my life far from

461
00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:29,679
Speaker 1: the mall, in the comfort of my home and the

462
00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:31,800
Speaker 1: company of my awesome dogs.

463
00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:35,480
Speaker 2: Oh, he's colder than an ice liver fresh off the surgery,

464
00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:38,040
Speaker 2: colder than her dog when it fell through the ice.

465
00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:41,280
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, So my question is, if your parents

466
00:21:42,080 --> 00:21:45,200
Speaker 1: was dying of liver cancer, would you give your liver

467
00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:47,359
Speaker 1: to them? Let's say they don't have a drinking problem,

468
00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:50,240
Speaker 1: they just had liver cancer. Would you give your liver

469
00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:52,040
Speaker 1: to your mom or dad? I want to hear what

470
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,560
Speaker 1: everyone else in the comment says, and why John, you

471
00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:54,919
Speaker 1: would know?

472
00:21:55,040 --> 00:21:58,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, like my mom is not like this mom.

473
00:21:59,520 --> 00:22:02,320
Speaker 2: This mom crazy. Yeah. No, I would definitely do it.

474
00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:05,240
Speaker 2: But I think it's also an interesting scenario of like

475
00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:08,080
Speaker 2: putting yourself in OPI shues of like, if this person

476
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 2: is your mom, would you do the same.

477
00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:13,680
Speaker 1: Thing If this person is my mom, I wouldn't. If

478
00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:16,520
Speaker 1: it was my actual mom, I would give her my liver. Yeah,

479
00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:18,640
Speaker 1: but where do you give your liver to your mom?

480
00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:21,879
Speaker 1: Put your answers in the comments and tell us why.

481
00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:25,159
Speaker 2: My friend is jealous of my special needs privileges and

482
00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:27,600
Speaker 2: demands that I don't need them. It's not my fault.

483
00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:29,960
Speaker 2: I have a disability? Am I a hole? About a

484
00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:34,200
Speaker 2: year ago, my university added psychological problems to these special

485
00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:39,359
Speaker 2: needs students' requests. I have been diagnosed with severe anxiety

486
00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:42,720
Speaker 2: and clinical depression, so I decided to apply to the program.

487
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:46,720
Speaker 2: The program is strictly enforced, and they requested my diagnosis,

488
00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:50,240
Speaker 2: the date, and the doctor. Then they contacted my doctor

489
00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:52,320
Speaker 2: about it. Well, I got in and I now have

490
00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:56,200
Speaker 2: about fifty percent more time in my exams, and I'm

491
00:22:56,240 --> 00:22:58,800
Speaker 2: able to record the lectures. I can get them from

492
00:22:58,840 --> 00:23:02,520
Speaker 2: the program when I need. There's some absences allowed, et cetera,

493
00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:05,400
Speaker 2: et cetera. One of my friends learned about my special

494
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:09,439
Speaker 2: need status and then confronted me the first thing you

495
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,480
Speaker 2: do whenever your friends get a dyke? Yeah this episode,

496
00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 2: he is, you just got cancer? How dare you? They

497
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:19,240
Speaker 2: told me, since I was stable and functioning, I shouldn't

498
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:22,160
Speaker 2: be using the program, and I was probably taking away

499
00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:24,480
Speaker 2: from someone who needed it more It's true that I

500
00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 2: have been in therapy for a while, and I've been

501
00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:29,960
Speaker 2: taking my medication. My panic attacks are less frequent and

502
00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:32,639
Speaker 2: less damaging. She called me an a hole for taking

503
00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:35,680
Speaker 2: part in a program that is quote unquote not meant

504
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:37,600
Speaker 2: for me. Some of my friends told me that they

505
00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:40,560
Speaker 2: agree with her and that they have also been thinking

506
00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:42,800
Speaker 2: this for a while. Wait, so they're all mad that

507
00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:46,480
Speaker 2: Op's getting better. So now I am truly conflicted. On

508
00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:49,560
Speaker 2: one hand, I truly benefited from the program, But on

509
00:23:49,600 --> 00:23:52,919
Speaker 2: the other hand, maybe they're right and I'm using this selfishly.

510
00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:55,719
Speaker 2: So Redda, am I the a hole? Now there is

511
00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:59,359
Speaker 2: an update, But Sam, as of right now, do you

512
00:23:59,359 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 2: think OP the a hole? No?

513
00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:03,439
Speaker 1: I mean the school is deciding who gets into the

514
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:06,720
Speaker 1: programs and who doesn't, and they are deciding the criteria.

515
00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,160
Speaker 1: If OPI fits the criteria, then they get in.

516
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:11,040
Speaker 2: OPI got in fair and square.

517
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,840
Speaker 1: Ooh, are Op's friends to say that you're not disabled

518
00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:15,560
Speaker 1: enough for the first of.

519
00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:17,960
Speaker 2: All, thank you to everyone for the encouragement to use

520
00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:20,520
Speaker 2: my special needs status and to confront my friend about

521
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:23,160
Speaker 2: her reaction. I admit I used some of your words

522
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 2: when talking to her to better explain myself. So we talked,

523
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:28,919
Speaker 2: and at first it seemed like she was sympathetic to

524
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:31,960
Speaker 2: my situation, but after a while she told me that

525
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:35,960
Speaker 2: I was exaggerating, and she specifically told me, quote, I

526
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:39,840
Speaker 2: deal with depression and anxiety, and I don't need a program.

527
00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:45,000
Speaker 2: Well for you, then I guess you don't need the program. Congratulations,

528
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:47,920
Speaker 2: Oh my God wants the program? You don't. She expressed

529
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 2: that she feels as though this was encouraging me to

530
00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:54,240
Speaker 2: be lazy, and while she understood there wasn't a limit

531
00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:56,879
Speaker 2: to students in the program, she told me that I

532
00:24:57,000 --> 00:25:00,280
Speaker 2: was being unfair to those with learning disabilities by getting

533
00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 2: the same accommodations. I tried to explain my accommodations my

534
00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:06,879
Speaker 2: need to get more time because of a panic attack

535
00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,720
Speaker 2: I had during a Procter Zoom exam, but she kind

536
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 2: of flared up and shouted that it wasn't fair to

537
00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:14,720
Speaker 2: her that she was not getting the same treatment. She

538
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 2: felt like the university was playing favorites. Has she applied?

539
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 2: Have you applied? I decided to remove myself from a

540
00:25:21,359 --> 00:25:24,560
Speaker 2: situation and told her that I was rethinking our friendship

541
00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:27,080
Speaker 2: and not to contact me for now. So there it

542
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:29,120
Speaker 2: is not a happy update, but I at least got

543
00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:32,000
Speaker 2: to explain myself. I'm also contemplating whether I should send

544
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:34,960
Speaker 2: this post to her for her to see other people's reactions,

545
00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 2: but I'm not sure.

546
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:38,800
Speaker 1: Honestly, I think it could help, Like, maybe that would help.

547
00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:40,800
Speaker 2: I think that probably would help to show.

548
00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:42,560
Speaker 1: Her how much of it that dumb dumb she's being.

549
00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:44,840
Speaker 2: Thank you guys again, you all really helped me with

550
00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 2: my confidence in this situation.

551
00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:49,679
Speaker 1: I love when Reddit actually comes out to bad for people.

552
00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 1: That is a beautiful moment when it happens. Quick question,

553
00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 1: So I think we've discovered OP is not the a hole.

554
00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:59,359
Speaker 1: Is the friend the a hole for saying this with

555
00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:01,200
Speaker 1: a friend? Yeah, I think the friend is the ale.

556
00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:03,600
Speaker 1: I think OP should send the Reddit post.

557
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:07,440
Speaker 2: My selfish husband stole my bonus and spend it on himself.

558
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 2: No one takes my money and lives. Am I the

559
00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 2: ahole and lives? Hey? You gotta know which? I gotta though,

560
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 2: I am not sure how to do this or if

561
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 2: this is the right community. I would like some objective

562
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:21,360
Speaker 2: third party advice I put for my current situation, as

563
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 2: I am at a loss to history. My husband twenty

564
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:26,479
Speaker 2: eight male, and I twenty seven female have been married

565
00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 2: for about four years now. We dated in college and

566
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:33,080
Speaker 2: got married afterwards. He finished college with a finance degree

567
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:36,080
Speaker 2: and thought he would go into accounting, big money bags

568
00:26:36,119 --> 00:26:40,679
Speaker 2: over yeah, yeah, I know. Oh. My man quickly found

569
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:44,360
Speaker 2: out that accounting was not his passion. He started bouncing

570
00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 2: around jobs and ideas, business ideas, being a teacher, being

571
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:51,439
Speaker 2: a lawyer, but nothing really kept him saying, this is

572
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:54,800
Speaker 2: what I want to do my passion. This was pre COVID.

573
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 2: Since COVID he has not attempted anything, and he said

574
00:26:59,119 --> 00:27:02,520
Speaker 2: he says, after the pandemic there will be a boom

575
00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 2: and jobs and he can find something easily then that

576
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 2: he's passionate about. Man is the king of procrastination. I'm

577
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:13,880
Speaker 2: telling you me, when this pandemic blows over that for something.

578
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:17,119
Speaker 2: I've been working full time and thankfully my job became

579
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:20,719
Speaker 2: remote and pays the bills while putting food on the table.

580
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:25,000
Speaker 2: What is he doing all that playing video games like masturbating.

581
00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:27,640
Speaker 2: After the fiscal year closed out, my work was done

582
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:31,359
Speaker 2: really well. We sell medical testing equipment, so it was

583
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:35,120
Speaker 2: a big product of twenty twenty. I was given a promotion.

584
00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:38,400
Speaker 2: I got a little pay raise and a small bonus.

585
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:42,159
Speaker 2: I was really excited because I could finally repair my

586
00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:46,239
Speaker 2: purse and replace my shoes. My friend's puppy destroyed it,

587
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 2: but I acknowledge I should not have left my purse

588
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:51,560
Speaker 2: on such a low stool in front of the puppy's bed,

589
00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:54,879
Speaker 2: So my fault side note totally not your fal topee.

590
00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 1: The friend should pay for that.

591
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 2: I was so excited to tell my husband, but he

592
00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 2: seemed more exc than me over this promotion. He started

593
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:05,719
Speaker 2: going off on hell he could redo his game area

594
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:08,639
Speaker 2: and get the nice new system since he was tired

595
00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:09,440
Speaker 2: of his others.

596
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:13,160
Speaker 1: Bro, why would she get you something that's just gonna

597
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:14,560
Speaker 1: make you more of a piece.

598
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:17,639
Speaker 2: Of sh eye was dumbfounded. I got really quiet because

599
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,199
Speaker 2: I almost could not believe what he was saying. He

600
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:24,280
Speaker 2: eventually goes out and gets himself a new system, chair

601
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:25,359
Speaker 2: and a mouse.

602
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 1: Is he trying to become a streamer?

603
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:31,240
Speaker 2: He had basically spent my bonus. I was so upset

604
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:34,280
Speaker 2: and ultimately hurt a numb We ended up getting into

605
00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 2: an argument and he called me selfish for not being

606
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 2: happy that he got to achieve his dream, and I'm

607
00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:43,320
Speaker 2: being spoiled for being upset that I couldn't spend this

608
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:47,760
Speaker 2: money on me first, it's her money. I basically called

609
00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 2: him an ungrateful ahole and asked why does he deserve

610
00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:54,640
Speaker 2: new stuff when I have been providing. He got really

611
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:57,320
Speaker 2: quiet on that one and just stormed out, saying that

612
00:28:57,400 --> 00:28:59,960
Speaker 2: he would be staying with his family only about an hour.

613
00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:02,960
Speaker 2: And I've been getting angry calls and texts due to

614
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:07,040
Speaker 2: the fact that he doesn't feel supported in his own home,

615
00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:11,160
Speaker 2: supported doing what And if I'm making the money, then

616
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 2: I can get whatever I want when I want. And

617
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 2: I shouldn't throw it in his face that he doesn't

618
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:18,920
Speaker 2: have any gum, which is not true. I'm not saying

619
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 2: that I'm trying to keep a roof over his head

620
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:23,400
Speaker 2: and food on the table. All of his friends and

621
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:27,360
Speaker 2: family think I'm way overreacting to something that makes my

622
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:30,440
Speaker 2: husband happy. How about you get a job or just

623
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 2: just contribute or work in some way manner or fashion.

624
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:37,400
Speaker 2: Do anything but play video games and steal money, and

625
00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:39,320
Speaker 2: the next time we get a large sum of money.

626
00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 2: My husband said that he would let me repair my purse.

627
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:46,160
Speaker 2: I haven't responded, and don't think I will for a

628
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:49,400
Speaker 2: few days. But I've gotten so many you're such a

629
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 2: bee and you're the a hole. I'm starting to wonder

630
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:55,959
Speaker 2: if I really am. There is a wow, a pretty

631
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 2: meaty update actually updates. W Is OPI the a hole?

632
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 2: What should Opie do? Let us know in the comments

633
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:01,920
Speaker 2: when you say.

634
00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:04,600
Speaker 1: Comments right now? But Sam, I feel like no matter

635
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:08,640
Speaker 1: the gender of your partner, just like, bring something to

636
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:10,720
Speaker 1: the table is important. But that could look like a

637
00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 1: different bunch of ways. It could look like, you know,

638
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:15,000
Speaker 1: helping out with the house, taking care of kids. All right, well,

639
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:15,920
Speaker 1: let's see that at this update.

640
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:18,280
Speaker 2: Let's see, let's see. I was not expecting this kind

641
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 2: of support. I appreciate all the kind messages and compassion.

642
00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 2: This is more than I've ever felt in my life,

643
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 2: So thank you, redd it. I took the weekend to

644
00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 2: reflect on what I want and read through the comments

645
00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:29,960
Speaker 2: and messages. I see your point and that I can't

646
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,479
Speaker 2: keep treating this like a marriage if he doesn't. So

647
00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:36,520
Speaker 2: here's to today and my first steps towards freedom. I

648
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:40,640
Speaker 2: am separating the finances immediately and contacting a local lawyer

649
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:43,720
Speaker 2: to see my options and rights, as well as therapy

650
00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 2: options for him. I will present this to him and

651
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:48,640
Speaker 2: he gets to choose but I refuse to baby an

652
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 2: almost thirty year old. If he wants that, well, he

653
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:56,120
Speaker 2: has his mother and we have one final update. I

654
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:58,320
Speaker 2: want to thank everyone who reached out and snapped me

655
00:30:58,360 --> 00:31:01,560
Speaker 2: out of this daze with my soon to be X.

656
00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 2: He was extremely toxic and just made me feel not

657
00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:07,719
Speaker 2: worth anything, thus probably why it was so hard to

658
00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:10,720
Speaker 2: see he wasn't it. So I want to thank everyone

659
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 2: who offered words of encouragement and even the tough love

660
00:31:13,560 --> 00:31:15,320
Speaker 2: I needed to hear it. After we went back to

661
00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:17,960
Speaker 2: his parents, he was waiting for my apology, which I

662
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:21,040
Speaker 2: never did, and when he noticed I drained our joint

663
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:24,720
Speaker 2: bank account, he escalated, saying I was his and how

664
00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:27,720
Speaker 2: I could never actually leaved him, and that he owned me.

665
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 2: Oh my god, all of my success was his and

666
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 2: without him I would be a loser drop out. His

667
00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 2: family was even worse. I had already blocked them, so

668
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 2: they started making fake accounts and using apps to hide

669
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:41,360
Speaker 2: their number to harass me, saying I ruined their son's

670
00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:44,040
Speaker 2: life and how he sacrificed everything to get me where

671
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 2: I am to throw him to what city's sacrifice? He

672
00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 2: wouldn't even sacrifice his gaming console for your purse and

673
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 2: that this was disgusting and that I deserved to rot.

674
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:55,400
Speaker 2: I provided all of this to my lawyer, who recommended

675
00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 2: that I take a restraining order in case he wanted

676
00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 2: to escalate further, and not to engage ever, but just

677
00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 2: to keep the record. This has caused my anxiety to

678
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:06,400
Speaker 2: go through the roof, and I'm working on this with

679
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 2: my therapist. I've separated the finances completely and changed my banks,

680
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 2: even told them I soon to be x is never

681
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:15,360
Speaker 2: allowed to access these accounts because he would take it

682
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 2: all and run. I have changed my number and gone

683
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 2: completely dark on social media. Besides, this part of me

684
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 2: is broken that our marriage came to an end over

685
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 2: a computer. I keep thinking I am stupid and how

686
00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:28,120
Speaker 2: I couldn't see the warning signs. I must look like

687
00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 2: a fool to everyone. All in all, I'm slowly picking

688
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 2: up the pieces of my life and figuring out how

689
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 2: to move forward. Thank you to anyone still reading this,

690
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:38,920
Speaker 2: and thank you everyone who helped get me here. Opie,

691
00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 2: You've been through the ringer.

692
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 1: But I feel like this is probably the best conclusion

693
00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:48,120
Speaker 1: that you could have hoped yes for. It sounds like

694
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 1: the guy completely just showed his colors, and better that

695
00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:54,520
Speaker 1: he show you and you get out of it than

696
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:57,320
Speaker 1: like you know, him stringing you along.

697
00:32:57,480 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 2: Imagine spending your whole life with this guy. I mean

698
00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:00,840
Speaker 2: that would be awful.

699
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:04,640
Speaker 1: So please share your stories of your significant other being

700
00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:06,760
Speaker 1: a piece of and not working at all if you

701
00:33:06,840 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 1: have those.

702
00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:10,920
Speaker 2: My boyfriend is boning a stranger. So I broke into

703
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:13,760
Speaker 2: his house and caught him inside her. He yelled at

704
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:16,160
Speaker 2: me for spying on him. Am I the a hole?

705
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:20,560
Speaker 2: Give the man some privacy? No, my boyfriend is cheating

706
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 2: on me with an eighteen year old who still lives

707
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:23,960
Speaker 2: with her parents.

708
00:33:24,240 --> 00:33:27,760
Speaker 1: He is thirty six man robbing the cradle over here.

709
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:30,960
Speaker 2: He my boyfriend passed me his phone and a message

710
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:35,200
Speaker 2: came through saying, I miss you, babe. How many emojis

711
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 2: were there? No emojis that we know that we know, okay,

712
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:40,600
Speaker 2: that we know of. He travels a lot for work

713
00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:45,520
Speaker 2: and he had just gotten back that weekend. I said nothing,

714
00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 2: I was taken aback. I spent that night at his

715
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 2: place and checked his phone while he slept, and I

716
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 2: confirmed it.

717
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 1: Oh no.

718
00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:56,400
Speaker 2: All the time while I was texting him and he

719
00:33:56,480 --> 00:33:59,840
Speaker 2: never responded to me, he was talking to her and

720
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:03,320
Speaker 2: effing eighteen year old who he had mentioned in the

721
00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:06,880
Speaker 2: past was the daughter of a family friend.

722
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 1: Oh that cannot be a good luck for that family

723
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 1: friend relationship.

724
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 2: He mentioned how he missed her, how much he wanted her,

725
00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 2: and how much loving he needed when he got back.

726
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:21,319
Speaker 2: All the while he is telling me how much he

727
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 2: loves me and wants a future with me. Bro, he

728
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:25,239
Speaker 2: just wants a future with both of them. Come on,

729
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 2: he said so much to ask. I haven't confronted him

730
00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 2: about it. I don't even know how to. I've never

731
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:33,720
Speaker 2: been cheated on before, and I feel dirty and disgusting.

732
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 2: How can people be so fine?

733
00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:36,839
Speaker 1: Pretty rough?

734
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:37,120
Speaker 2: Dude.

735
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:39,400
Speaker 1: It's like bad enough to cheat on someone, and then

736
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:41,600
Speaker 1: it's bad enough to cheat on someone who is like

737
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:44,760
Speaker 1: half your age, but that it's way worse to cheat

738
00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 1: on someone who is half your age and is your

739
00:34:48,440 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 1: family friend.

740
00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:51,719
Speaker 2: God, dude, Sam, we have a series of updates. Are

741
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 2: you ready? I'm about to smack you.

742
00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, I don't know.

743
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:57,560
Speaker 2: Yes, thank you all for the support and responses. I

744
00:34:57,600 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 2: am crying my eyes out. Some things to quick clarify,

745
00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:03,520
Speaker 2: we don't live together. However, I did leave something in

746
00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:05,359
Speaker 2: his place that I need to get back. I did

747
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:08,840
Speaker 2: take some screenshots. The messages are creepy and disgusting. I

748
00:35:08,880 --> 00:35:11,280
Speaker 2: do have the girl's phone number, and with a little digging,

749
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:13,960
Speaker 2: I found her parents' social media.

750
00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 1: Oooh, there's gonna be some sweet revenge in the future.

751
00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:22,879
Speaker 2: I agree that maybe I should not confront him, though

752
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 2: part of me wants her parents to know the pity

753
00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 2: revenge all right. On to update number two. Overwhelmed by

754
00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:31,880
Speaker 2: this response is some more context. He had mentioned this

755
00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 2: girl before and how he sort of defended her because

756
00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:38,080
Speaker 2: someone was bullying her. She's very overweight. I never imagined

757
00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 2: he would be screwing her based on the conversation. She's

758
00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:43,919
Speaker 2: got some self esteem issues and he comes across as

759
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:46,960
Speaker 2: a creep example, he tells her that she is too

760
00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:49,920
Speaker 2: young and he doesn't think she's ready for the ride,

761
00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:52,960
Speaker 2: even though he's all about her. Her response is that

762
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:55,839
Speaker 2: she likes that he has his life put together and

763
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:58,839
Speaker 2: that she will do anything for him. His response, I

764
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:01,480
Speaker 2: want you and hope you know your mind.

765
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:05,480
Speaker 1: Now weird, bro, this is some manipulation.

766
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 2: I feel gross even writing this. I don't know how

767
00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:10,960
Speaker 2: long this has been going. For the conversation. In the

768
00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:13,840
Speaker 2: screenshots started over a week ago and it seems like

769
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:17,239
Speaker 2: he has been deleting them. Yikes. Also, I don't know

770
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:20,480
Speaker 2: for how long he's known this family. He lived out

771
00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:22,399
Speaker 2: of state for a while and he's only been here

772
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:24,839
Speaker 2: for three years or so. We've been together for one year.

773
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:27,080
Speaker 2: And no, I'm not blaming this girl. As far as

774
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:30,000
Speaker 2: I know, she's unaware of my existence too. I found

775
00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 2: out over the weekend. I was in shock, but I

776
00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:34,839
Speaker 2: didn't confront him about it. So it's still very raw

777
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:37,759
Speaker 2: regarding exposing him. He's going to get angry as his

778
00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:40,359
Speaker 2: image is important to him and this coming out would

779
00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 2: damage it. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, No.

780
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:46,279
Speaker 1: Bro, he knows where I work, where I live, and

781
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 1: then I'm alone.

782
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:49,720
Speaker 2: I'm getting out and have to do it carefully because

783
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:52,879
Speaker 2: once he finds out that I outed him, he will retaliate.

784
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:56,720
Speaker 2: The final update, I decided to go to his place.

785
00:36:57,080 --> 00:36:59,040
Speaker 2: I called to him and texted him letting him know

786
00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:01,959
Speaker 2: I was on my way. He didn't respond. I still

787
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,560
Speaker 2: went stupid. I know his car was there, so I

788
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:08,399
Speaker 2: called again. No response. Long story short, I saw them

789
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:12,480
Speaker 2: together by going and peeking through the back window. I

790
00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:15,920
Speaker 2: knocked on the front door and well, no, surprise. She

791
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:20,280
Speaker 2: was in shock. He got angry and closed the door

792
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 2: in my face. I walked away. He proceeded to text

793
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 2: that showing up unannounced was crappy, and I just replied

794
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 2: that it would be the last time. You know what

795
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 2: else is crappy? You teating on me with this eighteen

796
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 2: year old family bread. I couldn't get my things, which

797
00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:38,799
Speaker 2: wasn't a lot, so I will just take that as

798
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:39,280
Speaker 2: a loss.

799
00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:40,360
Speaker 1: It's over.

800
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:42,799
Speaker 2: While I don't have family around, I do have a

801
00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 2: solid friend group. He's blocked everywhere, and I just want

802
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:48,200
Speaker 2: to hide under a rock for a while. How can

803
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:51,040
Speaker 2: I be so effing blind and stupid. Whether I'll send

804
00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:54,080
Speaker 2: the messages to the parents, I haven't decided yet, Plus

805
00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:56,920
Speaker 2: the possibility of him coming after me, as selfish as

806
00:37:56,960 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 2: it sounds, I got to take care of myself first

807
00:37:59,200 --> 00:38:01,520
Speaker 2: or I'm going to lose use it completely. If she

808
00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 2: didn't know about me, now she knows, and if she did,

809
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:08,400
Speaker 2: I just feel sorry for her. I truly appreciate the

810
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:11,879
Speaker 2: supporting and caring comments. And yes, as of last night,

811
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:16,400
Speaker 2: that piece of doo doo man is out of my life,

812
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:18,160
Speaker 2: thank god. Wow.

813
00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 1: I mean, I would love to hear everyone's like cheating stories, Yeah,

814
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:25,840
Speaker 1: if they've ever caught a partner cheating. I think she

815
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:28,839
Speaker 1: made the right decision in leaving this guy. I think

816
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:32,160
Speaker 1: also do what makes her feel best, you know, like,

817
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:35,480
Speaker 1: you know, don't bend over backwards to do like like

818
00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:39,120
Speaker 1: what you think is best for like the other girl

819
00:38:39,239 --> 00:38:41,360
Speaker 1: or for him, like just you know, you need to

820
00:38:41,400 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 1: take care of your mental health first. Yeah, and then

821
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 1: maybe once you're feeling in a better place, you can

822
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 1: talk about talking to the parents. But yeah, protect yourself first.

823
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:52,000
Speaker 1: The car salesman was sexist, so I bought the car

824
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:55,280
Speaker 1: from someone else. He lost his commission and made nothing.

825
00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? I need a new car,

826
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:01,040
Speaker 1: as my old one is a thirty five years old

827
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:06,960
Speaker 1: and on its last legs ohpe, your dummy cars have wheels.

828
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:10,560
Speaker 1: I also decided to get an upper end luxury car,

829
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 1: which was a huge upgrade from my old but reliablevoll Though,

830
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 1: since I figured I'd earned it and I could pay

831
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:18,960
Speaker 1: for it outright, I took my boyfriend with me to

832
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:21,760
Speaker 1: the dealership, as you do as a couple. A salesman

833
00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 1: approached us and the entire time from start to finish

834
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 1: kept talking to my boyfriend, even though I clearly introduced

835
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:32,400
Speaker 1: myself and told him the car was for me and

836
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 1: that I would be paying for it outright. He was like,

837
00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:37,720
Speaker 1: all right, honey, that's that's super sweet of you, but uh,

838
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:38,200
Speaker 1: what does.

839
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 2: The man think about this car?

840
00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:43,640
Speaker 1: My boyfriend was off put by the whole thing, kept

841
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 1: preferring the salesman to me when he asked my boyfriend

842
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:49,360
Speaker 1: a question and even pointedly said at some point, I

843
00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:53,880
Speaker 1: don't know it's delicious cancels car. Asked her. The salesman

844
00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:56,000
Speaker 1: would look at me, I'd answered the next question, and

845
00:39:56,040 --> 00:39:59,080
Speaker 1: then back to the boyfriend. The only question I was

846
00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:03,920
Speaker 1: asked was a around color preference and leather versus fabric interior.

847
00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 1: I was kind of fuming at this point. The final

848
00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:09,880
Speaker 1: straw was after the test drive, again this is a

849
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:13,480
Speaker 1: car four op. The salesman gave the keys to the boyfriend.

850
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:16,040
Speaker 1: I said that I really liked the guy, and he

851
00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:18,719
Speaker 1: turned to my boyfriend and said if he should get

852
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:22,160
Speaker 1: the paperwork ready. I interjected and said I wanted to

853
00:40:22,200 --> 00:40:24,760
Speaker 1: think about it. I had already decided on the car,

854
00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:26,879
Speaker 1: but I didn't want the commission to go to him.

855
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:29,280
Speaker 1: My boyfriend could tell I was a bit upset about

856
00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 1: this interaction and offered to go to another dealership with

857
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 1: me tomorrow or leave a review or something. So the

858
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 1: boyfriend's like, let's just furse him out over Google reviews.

859
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:41,160
Speaker 1: So we left and came back the next morning. So

860
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:44,759
Speaker 1: the same car dealership, a different salesperson greeted us, and

861
00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:48,640
Speaker 1: this one was much better, ridiculously charming, flattered me by

862
00:40:48,680 --> 00:40:51,560
Speaker 1: saying a hard working woman like me deserved a good

863
00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:55,280
Speaker 1: car and all the flattery I was expecting when being

864
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 1: sold to, and then he asked for my number.

865
00:40:57,719 --> 00:40:59,839
Speaker 2: About to say this is going to be I left

866
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:01,479
Speaker 2: my boyfriend for the car sales.

867
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 1: I told him we'd driven the car yesterday and decided

868
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:07,759
Speaker 1: to buy it, and we did so no hassles. I

869
00:41:07,880 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 1: even managed to negotiate some extra since I told him

870
00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:13,200
Speaker 1: I was giving him a sale for very little effort

871
00:41:13,239 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 1: on his part. I was recounting this story to a

872
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 1: friend of mine yesterday who was in sales, but in

873
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 1: I t told me I was a bit of an

874
00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 1: a hole because a previous salesman had done all the

875
00:41:23,080 --> 00:41:25,719
Speaker 1: work and I gave the sale to someone else when

876
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 1: I was wanting to buy the car anyway, The guy

877
00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 1: with duxist, though, he said I should have asserted myself

878
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 1: a bit more on the spot and given the previous

879
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 1: salesman more of a chance rather than try to screw

880
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:41,480
Speaker 1: him over behind his back, because now he'd never know

881
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:44,680
Speaker 1: why he'd lost the sales. It's not her job to say, like, Yo,

882
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:47,799
Speaker 1: you're being sexist and here's why, and let me let

883
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:49,880
Speaker 1: me tell you about the BEG doll test really quick.

884
00:41:52,120 --> 00:41:52,840
Speaker 2: Six a sack.

885
00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:56,000
Speaker 1: He also said that the sales job was tough and

886
00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:59,160
Speaker 1: maybe old habits die hard, or if I didn't want

887
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:01,399
Speaker 1: to buy from him, all I should have given him

888
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 1: a concrete reason so he could learn. I think my

889
00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:07,880
Speaker 1: thing is it's twenty twenty and it's basic sales one

890
00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:09,719
Speaker 1: oh one to speak to the person who holds the

891
00:42:09,719 --> 00:42:11,799
Speaker 1: purse strings and is not my job to teach a

892
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 1: salesperson anything. I just want to have a smooth experience

893
00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:16,840
Speaker 1: buy a car. So am I the a hole for

894
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:18,960
Speaker 1: going out of my way to not give a sale

895
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 1: to what I believed was a sexist salesman. I want

896
00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 1: to know what everyone thinks of the comments to be

897
00:42:23,080 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 1: tapping the comments below, But John, what do you think?

898
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:28,279
Speaker 2: Again? Not only is this guy being sexist. It's he's

899
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:31,040
Speaker 2: also being bad at his job. At the same time.

900
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 1: He's like, he's not being a good salesman. If someone

901
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:35,440
Speaker 1: doesn't want to buy from you, you're not a good salesman.

902
00:42:35,560 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 1: What does a great salesperson do?

903
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:39,759
Speaker 2: Knows who the person is and you know, works with

904
00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:42,880
Speaker 2: them to give them exactly what they need. Like that

905
00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:45,800
Speaker 2: is like the definition of a great salesperson. This person's

906
00:42:45,840 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 2: the who can identify a man and only talk to

907
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 2: them exactly. That is not a great salesman.

908
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:53,480
Speaker 1: A grocery store, Karen called the cops because I took

909
00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:56,760
Speaker 1: my service dog into the store, but then my dog

910
00:42:57,080 --> 00:42:59,439
Speaker 1: scared her kid. Am I the a hole? The odd

911
00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:03,319
Speaker 1: dat there? You traumatize my child more than me. I

912
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:06,280
Speaker 1: have an invisible disability and a service dog.

913
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:13,680
Speaker 2: Wasn't it like something that you can't see? I turned invisible.

914
00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 2: No one can see me.

915
00:43:16,160 --> 00:43:19,640
Speaker 1: She's a cardiac alert dog. I bring her everywhere and

916
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:22,280
Speaker 1: it has been such a big quality of life difference

917
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 1: for me. Yesterday I was in bulk Foods buying some

918
00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:28,360
Speaker 1: supplies and brought my dog with me. While I was

919
00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:33,400
Speaker 1: buying candy, a girl nearby started to cry. Wee the

920
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:36,360
Speaker 1: mother walked over and started demanding that I leave the

921
00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:39,959
Speaker 1: store immediately. I tried to tell her that my dog

922
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 1: was working and was not a pet. She wasn't having

923
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 1: any of it and didn't believe me because I was

924
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:47,040
Speaker 1: too young to have a medical condition.

925
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:50,680
Speaker 2: Too young for a medical condition.

926
00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:53,520
Speaker 1: She said that regardless of whether or not my dog

927
00:43:53,640 --> 00:43:57,560
Speaker 1: was an authentic working dog, her child had autism and

928
00:43:57,840 --> 00:44:00,319
Speaker 1: was terrified. So I had to leave immediately and wait

929
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 1: until they were done shopping until I could come back inside.

930
00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:06,480
Speaker 1: Because you know, I refused and continued shopping. I simply

931
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:08,400
Speaker 1: went to another area of the store to get the

932
00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:10,880
Speaker 1: rest of the stuff on my shopping list. The woman

933
00:44:11,120 --> 00:44:13,960
Speaker 1: had to bring her child and leave the store because

934
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:17,200
Speaker 1: she was too scared. The entire time, she kept saying,

935
00:44:17,360 --> 00:44:20,480
Speaker 1: I should be ashamed of myself for scaring a child

936
00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:23,640
Speaker 1: and refusing to leave. And yes, my dog wears a

937
00:44:23,680 --> 00:44:26,839
Speaker 1: harness with patches on it to clearly identify it as

938
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:29,719
Speaker 1: a service dog and to have people not distract while

939
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:30,360
Speaker 1: she's working.

940
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:31,840
Speaker 2: And there is an update.

941
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:34,319
Speaker 1: But John, gut check, what do you think is op

942
00:44:34,440 --> 00:44:37,040
Speaker 1: and a hole for scaring an autistic kid with her dog?

943
00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:44,239
Speaker 2: No, you're crazy, She set me up for failire there, buddy. No, no, no.

944
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 2: Jake believes that all dogs should be used to scare

945
00:44:46,840 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 2: artistic children. Yeah, no, I mean, like kil at the

946
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 2: end of the day, it's like two people have two needs,

947
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 2: and it's like, unfortunately they are competing with each other. Unfortunately.

948
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:04,200
Speaker 2: It just is what it is. Maybe the mom could

949
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 2: have gone up and been like, hey, I know that

950
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:08,759
Speaker 2: this is a service dog, but my daughter is autistic.

951
00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:11,040
Speaker 2: If there's any way, like you know, we can kind

952
00:45:11,080 --> 00:45:11,399
Speaker 2: of just.

953
00:45:11,360 --> 00:45:11,880
Speaker 1: Like kill it.

954
00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:17,719
Speaker 2: There's anyways your dog, you know, that's a lot more reasonable.

955
00:45:17,760 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 2: Maybe even that's too much to the other side of

956
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 2: the store. Yeah, just go to just avoid it.

957
00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:24,839
Speaker 1: But there is an update, John, Okay, okay, like chlamydia,

958
00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 1: you're getting it again.

959
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 2: Yes, jokes. So I saw the Karen with her child again,

960
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:35,720
Speaker 2: by this time into Walmart while it was grocery shopping.

961
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:37,719
Speaker 2: So Karen has appeared once more.

962
00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: Oh god, I made the mistake of ignoring my dog

963
00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:44,440
Speaker 1: when she was alerting to my heart rate. I genuinely

964
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 1: thought she wanted the sandwich I was eating. Boy was

965
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:49,840
Speaker 1: I wrong. I ended up really dizzy and out of

966
00:45:49,880 --> 00:45:51,640
Speaker 1: breath and had to sit down in the corner of

967
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:54,840
Speaker 1: the store while she was doing deep pressure therapy. I

968
00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:56,920
Speaker 1: must have been on the floor for about ten minutes.

969
00:45:57,080 --> 00:46:00,160
Speaker 1: During this time, a staff member at Walmart came over

970
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:01,879
Speaker 1: to check on me and ask if I was all right.

971
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 1: They gave me a free bottle of water as well,

972
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 1: and I'm very appreciative of that. Anyways, while I was down,

973
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:09,960
Speaker 1: the same child saw me again from a distance and

974
00:46:10,080 --> 00:46:13,759
Speaker 1: had another meltdown. The child's mom already explained to me

975
00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:16,640
Speaker 1: last time that her daughter had autism. She was screaming

976
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:20,640
Speaker 1: and crying about my dog because she was terrified. I

977
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:22,960
Speaker 1: can't understand why she would be scared because my dog

978
00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 1: is by no means small. She is a one hundred

979
00:46:25,520 --> 00:46:28,960
Speaker 1: and fifteen pound female cane corso. Yeah, those dogs are

980
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:31,120
Speaker 1: huge pounds as massive too.

981
00:46:31,920 --> 00:46:33,239
Speaker 2: It's a big boy.

982
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:36,920
Speaker 1: That's our big dog. That's a big dog, dang. Aside

983
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:40,640
Speaker 1: from alert and response, she's also trained for mobility assistance.

984
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:43,480
Speaker 1: Her breed isn't typically used as a service dog, but

985
00:46:43,600 --> 00:46:45,759
Speaker 1: she was a natural. I got her as a pet

986
00:46:45,800 --> 00:46:48,399
Speaker 1: dog and she became the service dog I needed. She's

987
00:46:48,480 --> 00:46:51,279
Speaker 1: one hundred percent good girl. This woman did not leave

988
00:46:51,320 --> 00:46:54,360
Speaker 1: the store with her child that was having a meltdown. Instead,

989
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:57,520
Speaker 1: she had the audacity to call nine to one one

990
00:46:57,760 --> 00:47:00,719
Speaker 1: on me. Eventually, the cops show up, and she kept

991
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:03,799
Speaker 1: shouting that I was faking having a disability because I

992
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:06,799
Speaker 1: was too young to actually be disabled, that it was

993
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:10,360
Speaker 1: illegal for me to have my service dog anywhere near food,

994
00:47:11,080 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 1: and that people like me are the reasons she has

995
00:47:14,080 --> 00:47:18,840
Speaker 1: to suffer lockdowns. I'm Asian, yi oh, she said. The

996
00:47:18,920 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 1: least I could do is be considerate and stay home,

997
00:47:21,680 --> 00:47:24,560
Speaker 1: away from everyone, and keep my dog at home where

998
00:47:24,560 --> 00:47:27,960
Speaker 1: it belongs. My dog was very clearly vested with tags

999
00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:30,240
Speaker 1: and says service dog. I showed the cops my medical

1000
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:33,120
Speaker 1: note that I carry, stating I require a service dog.

1001
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 1: In the end, the manager and the woman from coming

1002
00:47:36,040 --> 00:47:37,879
Speaker 1: to the local Walmart for a year.

1003
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 2: Woo.

1004
00:47:38,719 --> 00:47:41,280
Speaker 1: Cops only gave her a warning for wasting their time

1005
00:47:41,400 --> 00:47:45,520
Speaker 1: and escorted her off the property. Bro, So do you

1006
00:47:45,560 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 1: think op is the a hole for letting her dog

1007
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:49,360
Speaker 1: loose on autistic children?

1008
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:54,000
Speaker 2: Again with the seff, Opie is not the a hole

1009
00:47:54,239 --> 00:47:58,920
Speaker 2: at all. The shocking audacity of this Karen, this lady

1010
00:47:59,000 --> 00:48:02,440
Speaker 2: is like so beyond crazy. She's just I feel like this,

1011
00:48:02,640 --> 00:48:06,880
Speaker 2: Like Karen's like these are just looking for reasons, Like again,

1012
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:10,960
Speaker 2: she kept her daughter close to the dog. After the

1013
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:12,120
Speaker 2: daughter's freaking.

1014
00:48:11,760 --> 00:48:15,200
Speaker 1: Out, Remove the daughter from the situation, the situation.

1015
00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:18,560
Speaker 2: Take her outside, Like I get it's like inconvenient, but

1016
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:21,880
Speaker 2: leave her there. I get it's inconvenient, but it's like,

1017
00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:25,680
Speaker 2: what can you do? Like Walmart's big, Walmart is huge,

1018
00:48:25,960 --> 00:48:27,920
Speaker 2: Go to another area, go to.

1019
00:48:27,960 --> 00:48:30,320
Speaker 1: The blind give your kid an iPad.

1020
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:33,080
Speaker 2: Honestly, iPad is not a bad idea at all, Like

1021
00:48:33,400 --> 00:48:34,399
Speaker 2: that could that could work?

1022
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:35,680
Speaker 1: Why not a blindfold?

1023
00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:39,239
Speaker 2: Something about removing vision from my child doesn't seem like

1024
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:40,080
Speaker 2: the most optimal.

1025
00:48:40,640 --> 00:48:43,839
Speaker 1: Rather, have them have a meltdown. He probably barely has

1026
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:44,840
Speaker 1: object permanence.

1027
00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:50,080
Speaker 2: Just delete it from the Walmart is literally a warehouse

1028
00:48:50,400 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 2: you can so easily find go blindfold. There have so

1029
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:58,799
Speaker 2: many options. My coworker kidnapped a kid, but now she's

1030
00:48:58,880 --> 00:49:01,719
Speaker 2: changing her mind. She wants to kick him to the streets.

1031
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:05,040
Speaker 2: I'm calling the cops. Am I the ahole. My coworker

1032
00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:07,400
Speaker 2: is kind of a weirdo. I will call her Mary

1033
00:49:07,440 --> 00:49:09,440
Speaker 2: for the sake of this post. Her and her husband

1034
00:49:09,520 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 2: are one of those people that have a ton of

1035
00:49:11,600 --> 00:49:13,560
Speaker 2: adopted kids, eight so far.

1036
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:16,719
Speaker 1: That's crazy. Is that like one of those like hack

1037
00:49:16,800 --> 00:49:19,560
Speaker 1: schemes where you get money because you adopt more kids,

1038
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:21,520
Speaker 1: and like, are they trying to gain the system.

1039
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:24,520
Speaker 2: And they're super religious to each his own. Mary enjoys

1040
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:27,280
Speaker 2: telling everyone at work her business, so when she decided

1041
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:30,719
Speaker 2: to adopt a kid from Ukraine, everybody heard about it.

1042
00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:33,360
Speaker 2: She went with an older kid because it was easier

1043
00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:36,440
Speaker 2: for her and her husband. She says, this was two

1044
00:49:36,680 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 2: years ago. Mary has always asked me to babysit the

1045
00:49:39,440 --> 00:49:41,840
Speaker 2: boy a couple of times. I'll call him Tony, and

1046
00:49:41,880 --> 00:49:44,719
Speaker 2: it's never been a problem because I like kids. I

1047
00:49:44,760 --> 00:49:48,680
Speaker 2: didn't see any glaring problems despite Mary's constant dramatics about

1048
00:49:48,719 --> 00:49:51,279
Speaker 2: how awful the kid was, and he seems to like

1049
00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:53,640
Speaker 2: being over. It's just me and my boyfriend here, and

1050
00:49:53,680 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 2: our place is small, but clean and really well kept.

1051
00:49:56,120 --> 00:49:59,839
Speaker 2: Mary's house is disgusting for lack of a better word.

1052
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:03,120
Speaker 1: I mean, I can't imagine eight kids just run in

1053
00:50:03,160 --> 00:50:03,520
Speaker 1: a while.

1054
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:07,120
Speaker 2: Lately, Mary has been at work talking to anyone that'll

1055
00:50:07,160 --> 00:50:10,239
Speaker 2: listen about how awful Tony is, how horrible he is

1056
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:13,120
Speaker 2: to the other kids, and how she going to get

1057
00:50:13,239 --> 00:50:15,240
Speaker 2: rid of him, Like that's gotta be traumatic.

1058
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:15,719
Speaker 1: For the kids.

1059
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:19,360
Speaker 2: Oh for sure? Like oh. She sent out a freaking

1060
00:50:19,680 --> 00:50:23,840
Speaker 2: mass email to everyone in our department asking if someone

1061
00:50:23,960 --> 00:50:27,120
Speaker 2: wanted to take her kid from her bro She calls

1062
00:50:27,120 --> 00:50:31,200
Speaker 2: it rehoming and that it's okay. I logged onto Facebook

1063
00:50:31,239 --> 00:50:34,840
Speaker 2: today and same story. She has pics of Tony posted

1064
00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:38,840
Speaker 2: on her timeline advertising him for readoption and to contact

1065
00:50:38,840 --> 00:50:42,080
Speaker 2: her if interested. You know this sounds like a dog

1066
00:50:42,280 --> 00:50:45,160
Speaker 2: your pictures of this kid? Do you want to adopt?

1067
00:50:45,239 --> 00:50:47,280
Speaker 2: I haven't replied to her email yet, and I haven't

1068
00:50:47,280 --> 00:50:50,240
Speaker 2: commented on her post, but I'm this close to ripping

1069
00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:52,720
Speaker 2: into her for what she's doing. She's crossed the line

1070
00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 2: from weird into full blown cycle? Should I call CPS?

1071
00:50:57,239 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 2: I called the police just now, but they sounded complete

1072
00:51:00,040 --> 00:51:02,560
Speaker 2: letely confused on what to do. They agreed to do

1073
00:51:02,600 --> 00:51:05,359
Speaker 2: a welfare check. This post is still up. Is this

1074
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:08,560
Speaker 2: really legal? I don't know much about adoption and a

1075
00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:12,799
Speaker 2: quick search for rehoming gets leep, mostly your results about animals.

1076
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:15,880
Speaker 2: Any advice? Is there an update? There is an update.

1077
00:51:15,920 --> 00:51:18,680
Speaker 2: I got personal messages from people that worked for local

1078
00:51:18,719 --> 00:51:21,880
Speaker 2: and state governments and private agencies that were outside of

1079
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:25,120
Speaker 2: my state, but offered their contact Rdnick coming and clutch, guys,

1080
00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:27,160
Speaker 2: here we go, let's go. I had people that spoke

1081
00:51:27,239 --> 00:51:31,080
Speaker 2: Russian and Ukrainian offering to help me contact through Ukrainian

1082
00:51:31,120 --> 00:51:35,120
Speaker 2: embassy and offered me contact information for embassy departments. People

1083
00:51:35,200 --> 00:51:38,560
Speaker 2: even contacted us offering money for Tony's immediate needs in

1084
00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:40,760
Speaker 2: the event we decided to take him in no way.

1085
00:51:41,080 --> 00:51:44,239
Speaker 2: I am sincerely touched by the genuine concern all of

1086
00:51:44,280 --> 00:51:46,440
Speaker 2: you had for Tony and his siblings. I hope one

1087
00:51:46,520 --> 00:51:49,520
Speaker 2: day I can tell Tony that despite everything that's happened,

1088
00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:52,399
Speaker 2: there's people out there like you guys, that care about him.

1089
00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:55,240
Speaker 2: The information you guys gave us helped us act fast

1090
00:51:55,320 --> 00:51:58,080
Speaker 2: and got the ball rolling on the situation faster than

1091
00:51:58,120 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 2: me and my boyfriend would have figured out alone. I

1092
00:52:00,760 --> 00:52:03,600
Speaker 2: talked with the cops about the situation, and honestly, they

1093
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:06,120
Speaker 2: were just as confused as I was. The person I

1094
00:52:06,120 --> 00:52:08,279
Speaker 2: talked to on the phone was just as stumped, but

1095
00:52:08,360 --> 00:52:10,640
Speaker 2: he agreed that at a minimum, they did need to

1096
00:52:10,680 --> 00:52:14,040
Speaker 2: do a welfare check. I've had experiences with welfare checks before,

1097
00:52:14,160 --> 00:52:17,600
Speaker 2: and I had the nagging feeling that something just wouldn't

1098
00:52:17,640 --> 00:52:21,200
Speaker 2: go right. Oh no, and someone personal messaged me the

1099
00:52:21,320 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 2: priority line for my state's Child Perspective Services hotline. I

1100
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:27,719
Speaker 2: got someone on the phone right away, and as soon

1101
00:52:27,719 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 2: as I mentioned that trafficking could be going on and

1102
00:52:31,120 --> 00:52:33,960
Speaker 2: that she advertised the kid on Facebook, it was a

1103
00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:38,000
Speaker 2: public post here too, people they acted with a quickness.

1104
00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:40,280
Speaker 2: I gave him all the information I had on Mary

1105
00:52:40,360 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 2: and Tony and all the information I had from Mary

1106
00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 2: about Tony's adoption. The person I spoke to right away

1107
00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:49,960
Speaker 2: said that she suspected that the adoption might not even

1108
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 2: be legal. I was floored. I emailed all the screenshots

1109
00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:56,880
Speaker 2: I had to the person I spoke with and asked

1110
00:52:56,880 --> 00:52:59,080
Speaker 2: for a follow up if that was at all possible.

1111
00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:01,640
Speaker 2: I said that myself my boyfriend were willing to take

1112
00:53:01,680 --> 00:53:04,960
Speaker 2: Tony on a temporary basis if necessary, but the CPS

1113
00:53:05,000 --> 00:53:10,000
Speaker 2: representative said that likely wasn't possible. Then the waiting game began.

1114
00:53:10,160 --> 00:53:13,240
Speaker 2: Last night was probably the most stressful night I've ever had.

1115
00:53:13,440 --> 00:53:15,440
Speaker 2: At one point I was ready to drive out to

1116
00:53:15,480 --> 00:53:18,680
Speaker 2: Mary's house myself, but was stopped by my boyfriend. It

1117
00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:21,960
Speaker 2: was tough. The cops followed up with us at approximately

1118
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:24,799
Speaker 2: two am. Note that I hadn't heard from CPS. The

1119
00:53:24,880 --> 00:53:28,080
Speaker 2: officer I spoke with was very cautious and limited in

1120
00:53:28,120 --> 00:53:30,920
Speaker 2: what he said, but he told me that CPS arrived

1121
00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:33,360
Speaker 2: at the home shortly after he did. In not so

1122
00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:36,400
Speaker 2: many words, he implied that Mary had been talking with

1123
00:53:36,520 --> 00:53:41,080
Speaker 2: someone about meeting Tony the very next day, and CPS's

1124
00:53:41,120 --> 00:53:46,920
Speaker 2: suspicions were confirmed. Tony's adoption was not legal. Tony was

1125
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:50,640
Speaker 2: rehomed to Mary and her husband from another state where

1126
00:53:50,800 --> 00:53:53,640
Speaker 2: placement needs to be approved by a judge.

1127
00:53:53,800 --> 00:53:55,319
Speaker 1: That are like kicking the can down the road.

1128
00:53:55,400 --> 00:53:58,800
Speaker 2: He didn't elaborate further except to say that other issues

1129
00:53:58,800 --> 00:54:01,200
Speaker 2: came to light and all all of the children were

1130
00:54:01,239 --> 00:54:05,480
Speaker 2: removed from the home for their own safety by CPS. Wow.

1131
00:54:05,640 --> 00:54:08,480
Speaker 2: He didn't say how long they were there, but said

1132
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:11,319
Speaker 2: it wasn't a long time quote unquote. I was asked

1133
00:54:11,360 --> 00:54:13,480
Speaker 2: to drop off all emails and print outs to the

1134
00:54:13,480 --> 00:54:15,960
Speaker 2: station in the morning, and I agreed. My boyfriend and

1135
00:54:15,960 --> 00:54:18,880
Speaker 2: I wanted to make doubly sure that all of the

1136
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:21,960
Speaker 2: cases were checked, so I called our local FBI office,

1137
00:54:22,080 --> 00:54:25,160
Speaker 2: who said they lacked jurisdiction in that matter, but would

1138
00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:27,640
Speaker 2: be writing up a complaint and referencing the issue to

1139
00:54:27,719 --> 00:54:30,759
Speaker 2: the state department. We called the Ukrainian embassy and made

1140
00:54:30,800 --> 00:54:34,000
Speaker 2: a detailed complaint, and I included the contact information I

1141
00:54:34,080 --> 00:54:37,440
Speaker 2: had for the office from the apartment. Really hit the

1142
00:54:37,480 --> 00:54:41,160
Speaker 2: fan when I went into work to print out the email.

1143
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:43,879
Speaker 2: Our company is pretty small and the company owner, I'll

1144
00:54:43,880 --> 00:54:46,680
Speaker 2: call her Big Ang because of her resemblance to the

1145
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:50,360
Speaker 2: mob wives lady, had gotten wind of Mary's email. Big

1146
00:54:50,360 --> 00:54:54,879
Speaker 2: Ang was furious and waiting at Mary's desk to see

1147
00:54:54,880 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 2: if she would show up for work. My friend reported

1148
00:54:57,120 --> 00:55:00,520
Speaker 2: that big Ang waited from seven to fifteen to nine

1149
00:55:00,800 --> 00:55:03,960
Speaker 2: thirty and that Mary came to work with a sob

1150
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:08,240
Speaker 2: story about how her kids were being unfairly taken away.

1151
00:55:08,520 --> 00:55:11,640
Speaker 2: Oh Man, Mary wanted time off from work to quote

1152
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:14,840
Speaker 2: unquote clear her name and quote unquote devote herself to

1153
00:55:14,920 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 2: reclaiming her family from this misunderstanding. I wasn't there to

1154
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:21,759
Speaker 2: witness this, but Big Ange, who has six kids herself,

1155
00:55:21,880 --> 00:55:26,160
Speaker 2: apparently ripped Mary a new toll. Mary has been dismissed,

1156
00:55:26,160 --> 00:55:28,759
Speaker 2: and rumor has it that Big Ange may or may

1157
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:31,120
Speaker 2: not allow her to claim unemployment.

1158
00:55:31,320 --> 00:55:34,000
Speaker 1: Wow, Big Anne, just bring it down the hammer.

1159
00:55:34,120 --> 00:55:37,040
Speaker 2: My head is honestly still spinning from everything that has

1160
00:55:37,080 --> 00:55:40,200
Speaker 2: happened the past twenty four hours. Have been insanity. I'm

1161
00:55:40,239 --> 00:55:43,200
Speaker 2: so grateful that the system worked as quickly as it did.

1162
00:55:43,320 --> 00:55:46,080
Speaker 2: I only hope it works out a long term solution

1163
00:55:46,200 --> 00:55:49,320
Speaker 2: to this problem and that Mary doesn't get to reclaim

1164
00:55:49,360 --> 00:55:51,799
Speaker 2: her kids. My heart is breaking for Tony and the

1165
00:55:51,840 --> 00:55:54,600
Speaker 2: other kids right now. I don't know what the f

1166
00:55:54,840 --> 00:55:57,719
Speaker 2: was happening in Mary's house that made CPS remove them

1167
00:55:57,719 --> 00:56:00,360
Speaker 2: that night, but I'm going to sleep better no that

1168
00:56:00,400 --> 00:56:03,399
Speaker 2: they aren't with Psycho Mary and her.

1169
00:56:03,360 --> 00:56:05,080
Speaker 1: Husband, at least for a while.

1170
00:56:05,200 --> 00:56:07,560
Speaker 2: What the future holds for Tony and the other kids,

1171
00:56:07,960 --> 00:56:12,000
Speaker 2: especially because Tony's adoption was apparently illegal, makes me sick,

1172
00:56:12,080 --> 00:56:14,520
Speaker 2: but I'm going to wish for the best. I need

1173
00:56:14,719 --> 00:56:15,880
Speaker 2: a damn droll.

1174
00:56:16,239 --> 00:56:19,040
Speaker 1: That is crazy, dude, It's crazy.

1175
00:56:19,160 --> 00:56:20,879
Speaker 2: I feel like it was the right move because it's

1176
00:56:20,920 --> 00:56:23,480
Speaker 2: like the consequences of not doing that, I feel like

1177
00:56:23,520 --> 00:56:24,880
Speaker 2: are too higher, Like the risk.

1178
00:56:24,760 --> 00:56:27,160
Speaker 1: Is too mean. These are children, These are Innocentatically.

1179
00:56:27,360 --> 00:56:29,640
Speaker 2: I told my coworker what an idiot she is for

1180
00:56:29,719 --> 00:56:33,399
Speaker 2: her horrible baby names. I'm just a brutally honest guy,

1181
00:56:33,640 --> 00:56:34,359
Speaker 2: am I There?

1182
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:38,680
Speaker 1: You know what they say what honesty without empathy is cruelty.

1183
00:56:38,840 --> 00:56:41,160
Speaker 2: I heard that honesty is the best policy that's what

1184
00:56:41,239 --> 00:56:41,680
Speaker 2: I've heard.

1185
00:56:41,800 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, but if you're gonna be honest, you're probably also

1186
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:45,520
Speaker 1: gonna be an apple.

1187
00:56:45,719 --> 00:56:48,560
Speaker 2: I cannot believe that there's a split opinion for this

1188
00:56:48,680 --> 00:56:51,760
Speaker 2: at my office, but here we go. A coworker of mine,

1189
00:56:51,880 --> 00:56:55,240
Speaker 2: thirty nine female, recently had twin boys after a long

1190
00:56:55,360 --> 00:56:58,399
Speaker 2: battle with infertility. She has made her first appearance into

1191
00:56:58,480 --> 00:57:01,000
Speaker 2: the office with her new babies to introduce them to

1192
00:57:01,080 --> 00:57:01,479
Speaker 2: our team.

1193
00:57:01,600 --> 00:57:03,839
Speaker 1: That's the infertility jackpot right there.

1194
00:57:04,120 --> 00:57:06,960
Speaker 2: When people asked what she named the boys as up

1195
00:57:07,040 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 2: until this appearance, she was undecided.

1196
00:57:09,160 --> 00:57:13,440
Speaker 1: She told me that she was naming them Sean. Okay,

1197
00:57:13,560 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 1: that sounds normal, terrible.

1198
00:57:15,280 --> 00:57:17,640
Speaker 2: Name, How dare you? So? When I asked about the

1199
00:57:17,800 --> 00:57:23,360
Speaker 2: other baby, she said, no, they're both Sean, one with

1200
00:57:23,480 --> 00:57:27,080
Speaker 2: an A and one with an E. So there's s

1201
00:57:27,120 --> 00:57:30,760
Speaker 2: E A N and s e e N s e

1202
00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:36,520
Speaker 2: e N that is Scene. It's Sean. That is Sean.

1203
00:57:37,200 --> 00:57:40,560
Speaker 2: You were just named your kid Sean and Scene. The

1204
00:57:40,680 --> 00:57:46,080
Speaker 2: coworker's last name is also Sean. So when I pointed

1205
00:57:46,120 --> 00:57:50,800
Speaker 2: this out, she said, yes, it's like Tom, Tom or JJ.

1206
00:57:51,280 --> 00:57:54,479
Speaker 2: I immediately and without thinking, said, that is the most

1207
00:57:54,600 --> 00:58:01,080
Speaker 2: idiotic thing I've heard. Is going to be confusing. Oh god.

1208
00:58:02,560 --> 00:58:05,040
Speaker 2: A bunch of people laughed and a bunch of people

1209
00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:07,880
Speaker 2: looked away. After she left, I got a few text

1210
00:58:07,920 --> 00:58:11,040
Speaker 2: messages saying it's not my place to comment on people's

1211
00:58:11,120 --> 00:58:13,360
Speaker 2: choice of name. Am I the a hole for saying

1212
00:58:13,520 --> 00:58:17,480
Speaker 2: that is a terrible naming idea? And some additional information. No,

1213
00:58:17,840 --> 00:58:21,240
Speaker 2: they don't have middle names. She wanted their names to

1214
00:58:21,360 --> 00:58:25,280
Speaker 2: be like Tom, Tom or JJ. This apparently is not

1215
00:58:25,360 --> 00:58:29,600
Speaker 2: the first round of negative feedback she has had. Oh yeah,

1216
00:58:29,680 --> 00:58:32,840
Speaker 2: we're on good terms. We have worked together across three

1217
00:58:32,920 --> 00:58:37,040
Speaker 2: companies over twelve years, and she said it'll grow on you.

1218
00:58:37,120 --> 00:58:41,760
Speaker 2: The names are both pronounced sean, like Sean saha w n.

1219
00:58:41,880 --> 00:58:45,720
Speaker 2: There's a decent actually a man of meat left on it,

1220
00:58:45,800 --> 00:58:49,640
Speaker 2: some meat on the bones. Everyone watching Sam right here

1221
00:58:50,120 --> 00:58:54,520
Speaker 2: is or is not? I mean, it's definitely a dumb name.

1222
00:58:54,560 --> 00:58:58,200
Speaker 2: I mean, that's a dumbest question that someone tells you

1223
00:58:58,200 --> 00:59:00,840
Speaker 2: your baby name and you think it's them as a brick?

1224
00:59:01,200 --> 00:59:04,880
Speaker 2: Do you them to their face? My coworker's husband, who

1225
00:59:04,960 --> 00:59:08,400
Speaker 2: was also a coworker, saw the post last night. Uh uh.

1226
00:59:10,000 --> 00:59:12,400
Speaker 2: They had a good chuckle and ended up agreeing with

1227
00:59:12,480 --> 00:59:15,720
Speaker 2: the replies that the naming process wasn't ideal, and maybe

1228
00:59:15,760 --> 00:59:19,120
Speaker 2: the overwhelming process of having two newborns left them too

1229
00:59:19,280 --> 00:59:21,840
Speaker 2: tired to think straight. Despite the fact that they had

1230
00:59:21,960 --> 00:59:25,960
Speaker 2: already sent off the paperwork to Births, Deaths and Marriages

1231
00:59:26,000 --> 00:59:29,040
Speaker 2: Office the place you lodge birthts for in Australia they

1232
00:59:29,040 --> 00:59:31,760
Speaker 2: called it the Brisbane Office, and the paperwork had only

1233
00:59:31,800 --> 00:59:35,040
Speaker 2: been provisionally processed due to Christmas time, and they have

1234
00:59:35,280 --> 00:59:39,040
Speaker 2: used this time to reassess. They have withdrawn the paperwork

1235
00:59:39,080 --> 00:59:46,320
Speaker 2: for seen only the see en so still and they'll

1236
00:59:46,360 --> 00:59:48,800
Speaker 2: think of a new name, but they are keeping Sean

1237
00:59:48,880 --> 00:59:51,640
Speaker 2: Sean as they like it. Have also been reported to

1238
00:59:51,840 --> 00:59:54,680
Speaker 2: HR for making this Reddit post, not by the parents.

1239
00:59:54,800 --> 00:59:57,680
Speaker 2: They think it's hilarious, so well, well if it isn't

1240
00:59:57,680 --> 01:00:00,960
Speaker 2: the consequences of my actions. They also everyone to note

1241
01:00:01,000 --> 01:00:03,880
Speaker 2: that calling her an idiot wasn't the worst thing I've

1242
01:00:03,920 --> 01:00:06,160
Speaker 2: said to her this year, and while I'm definitely an

1243
01:00:06,200 --> 01:00:08,680
Speaker 2: a hole, that it's more of a general thing than

1244
01:00:08,720 --> 01:00:12,040
Speaker 2: being tied to this situation. Happy holidays everyone, and there

1245
01:00:12,200 --> 01:00:14,240
Speaker 2: is a final update.

1246
01:00:14,320 --> 01:00:15,680
Speaker 1: All right, let's blaze through it.

1247
01:00:15,720 --> 01:00:17,520
Speaker 2: A lot of people want an update post on my

1248
01:00:17,640 --> 01:00:20,240
Speaker 2: meeting with HR for whatever reason, so here it is,

1249
01:00:20,280 --> 01:00:23,560
Speaker 2: but as expected, it was underwhelming. I met with HR yesterday.

1250
01:00:23,640 --> 01:00:26,200
Speaker 2: The meeting was pretty brief and definitely a waste of

1251
01:00:26,320 --> 01:00:28,280
Speaker 2: everyone's time. They asked if I was aware of the

1252
01:00:28,280 --> 01:00:31,000
Speaker 2: company's social media policy. I said I was. I'm fairly

1253
01:00:31,080 --> 01:00:33,920
Speaker 2: confident that I hadn't breached it. They agreed I hadn't

1254
01:00:33,920 --> 01:00:36,200
Speaker 2: and asked me to be more considerate of my coworkers

1255
01:00:36,280 --> 01:00:39,280
Speaker 2: feelings and to not push this meeting all over the internet.

1256
01:00:39,320 --> 01:00:40,360
Speaker 2: What are we doing here?

1257
01:00:40,640 --> 01:00:41,960
Speaker 1: OK, they have your post.

1258
01:00:42,160 --> 01:00:44,840
Speaker 2: I said, I'll definitely be doing an update and that

1259
01:00:44,960 --> 01:00:47,720
Speaker 2: I'll be sure not to call the person naming their

1260
01:00:47,840 --> 01:00:51,520
Speaker 2: child seene Sean an idiot. Again, I work in banking,

1261
01:00:51,560 --> 01:00:53,040
Speaker 2: and while there is a long way to go to

1262
01:00:53,120 --> 01:00:56,120
Speaker 2: fixing the culture across the entire banking organization, I think

1263
01:00:56,280 --> 01:00:58,880
Speaker 2: HR was just doing their thing and making sure I'm

1264
01:00:59,040 --> 01:01:01,440
Speaker 2: on notice in case I don't know. I take a

1265
01:01:01,440 --> 01:01:04,080
Speaker 2: photo of me stealing candy from a baby while wearing

1266
01:01:04,080 --> 01:01:06,560
Speaker 2: the company logo or something like that.

1267
01:01:06,920 --> 01:01:11,600
Speaker 1: Well, that was quite the adventure. It was quite the adventure.

1268
01:01:11,640 --> 01:01:13,840
Speaker 1: But I think someone I want to know from everyone

1269
01:01:13,840 --> 01:01:15,640
Speaker 1: else is one is op the a hole. I think

1270
01:01:15,680 --> 01:01:17,640
Speaker 1: maybe a little bit, maybe a little bit but two,

1271
01:01:18,080 --> 01:01:21,640
Speaker 1: what are the worst baby names that you've heard? Put

1272
01:01:21,680 --> 01:01:25,880
Speaker 1: your answers in the comments below. They gave their baby.

1273
01:01:25,480 --> 01:01:28,560
Speaker 2: A dumb name, so I just pointed out how stupid

1274
01:01:28,600 --> 01:01:31,360
Speaker 2: and dumb dum baby name is am I the a hole.

1275
01:01:31,640 --> 01:01:34,800
Speaker 1: I have a tradition of making tooth fairy pillows for

1276
01:01:34,920 --> 01:01:38,480
Speaker 1: my friends and family. When someone is pregnant, I embroider

1277
01:01:38,600 --> 01:01:41,760
Speaker 1: a fancy crest on it with the child's initials in

1278
01:01:41,800 --> 01:01:44,360
Speaker 1: the center. One of my cousins announced she and her

1279
01:01:44,440 --> 01:01:47,600
Speaker 1: husband were pregnant and that's it online, and of course

1280
01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:50,560
Speaker 1: I was excited for her. I messaged her and asked

1281
01:01:50,600 --> 01:01:53,160
Speaker 1: if she wanted me to make a pillow for her baby,

1282
01:01:53,280 --> 01:01:56,200
Speaker 1: and she said yes, okay. I told her I could

1283
01:01:56,200 --> 01:01:59,280
Speaker 1: make it now or wait until the baby is born

1284
01:01:59,400 --> 01:02:00,920
Speaker 1: and make it that and I always give people the

1285
01:02:00,960 --> 01:02:03,880
Speaker 1: option to keep the name a surprise. She wanted me

1286
01:02:03,920 --> 01:02:05,680
Speaker 1: to make it now so that she could show her

1287
01:02:05,720 --> 01:02:07,840
Speaker 1: in laws, as the baby name was going to have

1288
01:02:08,080 --> 01:02:14,280
Speaker 1: significance to her husband's family. Ooh, building, well, this is

1289
01:02:14,320 --> 01:02:16,840
Speaker 1: where it gets awkward. She told me the name, and

1290
01:02:16,960 --> 01:02:21,000
Speaker 1: it's a lovely name. However, the first name starts with

1291
01:02:21,040 --> 01:02:24,760
Speaker 1: an A. Okay, the middle name starts with an s. Ooh,

1292
01:02:24,800 --> 01:02:28,040
Speaker 1: and their last name starts with an S. I asked

1293
01:02:28,040 --> 01:02:31,360
Speaker 1: her if she really wanted me to embroider that on

1294
01:02:31,400 --> 01:02:35,280
Speaker 1: a pillow. She video called me at that moment, laughing hysterically,

1295
01:02:35,680 --> 01:02:38,480
Speaker 1: saying she didn't even realize, and that she was going

1296
01:02:38,480 --> 01:02:40,680
Speaker 1: to have a talk to her husband about it and

1297
01:02:40,720 --> 01:02:41,320
Speaker 1: hold off.

1298
01:02:41,440 --> 01:02:44,520
Speaker 2: I go about my business thinking, whew, bullet dodge for

1299
01:02:44,560 --> 01:02:45,040
Speaker 2: that kid.

1300
01:02:45,200 --> 01:02:47,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then she and her husband would get a

1301
01:02:47,840 --> 01:02:51,520
Speaker 1: good laugh about their almost mistake. Nope. A couple hours later,

1302
01:02:51,720 --> 01:02:54,919
Speaker 1: her husband called me and laid into me about how

1303
01:02:54,960 --> 01:02:57,800
Speaker 1: the name chosen was special and I was trying to

1304
01:02:57,880 --> 01:03:01,000
Speaker 1: turn it crass and make two and now jokes out

1305
01:03:01,000 --> 01:03:03,280
Speaker 1: of something that was so meaningful to his family.

1306
01:03:03,400 --> 01:03:05,720
Speaker 2: You joked on yourself, buddy.

1307
01:03:05,400 --> 01:03:08,320
Speaker 1: You literally name your kids, he said a lot. That

1308
01:03:08,520 --> 01:03:10,480
Speaker 1: was the gest of it. He told me I was,

1309
01:03:10,760 --> 01:03:14,360
Speaker 1: and that he didn't want my stupid pillow and told

1310
01:03:14,400 --> 01:03:17,040
Speaker 1: me to stay away from his family, as clearly I

1311
01:03:17,080 --> 01:03:19,360
Speaker 1: had no respect for them. I honestly didn't realize it

1312
01:03:19,360 --> 01:03:21,000
Speaker 1: would be that big of a problem. I just didn't

1313
01:03:21,000 --> 01:03:24,040
Speaker 1: want to embroider profanity on a pillow, not for a

1314
01:03:24,080 --> 01:03:27,040
Speaker 1: baby anyway. His reaction has me wondering if maybe my

1315
01:03:27,120 --> 01:03:29,280
Speaker 1: mind is in the gutter and I'm the only one

1316
01:03:29,320 --> 01:03:31,880
Speaker 1: who has a problem with it. So am I the

1317
01:03:31,920 --> 01:03:34,880
Speaker 1: a hole? There is an update, But John, what do

1318
01:03:34,920 --> 01:03:35,240
Speaker 1: you think?

1319
01:03:35,400 --> 01:03:37,480
Speaker 2: I love how we're asking if he's the asshole for

1320
01:03:37,520 --> 01:03:41,080
Speaker 2: writing apps? That's so great meta. He was basically like, Hey,

1321
01:03:41,200 --> 01:03:42,840
Speaker 2: are you just want to know what you want me

1322
01:03:42,880 --> 01:03:44,400
Speaker 2: to put out? Do you want me to put this

1323
01:03:44,480 --> 01:03:45,960
Speaker 2: on the pillow? I think that's fine.

1324
01:03:46,040 --> 01:03:48,320
Speaker 1: Before I can decide what to do, my cousin and

1325
01:03:48,440 --> 01:03:51,600
Speaker 1: her husband called for all of you calling him and act. Well,

1326
01:03:51,680 --> 01:03:54,600
Speaker 1: you were right. He is an act too. The third

1327
01:03:54,680 --> 01:03:59,919
Speaker 1: to bed, Hey, they're all asked. He always went by middle,

1328
01:04:00,520 --> 01:04:02,360
Speaker 1: so I didn't know. He's getting in a lot of

1329
01:04:02,400 --> 01:04:05,120
Speaker 1: pressure from his parents to carry on the family tradition

1330
01:04:05,280 --> 01:04:08,720
Speaker 1: for his unborn son. He apparently was also bullied a

1331
01:04:08,760 --> 01:04:11,960
Speaker 1: lot in school for his initials. He was actually really

1332
01:04:12,000 --> 01:04:14,080
Speaker 1: sorry for going off of me. I guess my cousin

1333
01:04:14,120 --> 01:04:16,160
Speaker 1: called him laughing about it, and he didn't want to

1334
01:04:16,200 --> 01:04:18,800
Speaker 1: get mad at her, so he redirected to me. The

1335
01:04:18,880 --> 01:04:22,200
Speaker 1: messenger drab broke the Campbell's back kind of situation. He

1336
01:04:22,240 --> 01:04:24,280
Speaker 1: admitted he's got some issues to work through, but he

1337
01:04:24,360 --> 01:04:27,880
Speaker 1: gave me a proper and I feel sincere apology, and

1338
01:04:27,960 --> 01:04:30,640
Speaker 1: my cousin has promised me some of my favorite chocolate

1339
01:04:30,880 --> 01:04:32,600
Speaker 1: is on the way to my house as we speak.

1340
01:04:32,680 --> 01:04:36,160
Speaker 1: I'm relieved because I didn't want family functions to become awkward,

1341
01:04:36,280 --> 01:04:38,200
Speaker 1: nor did either of us want the wrath of our

1342
01:04:38,240 --> 01:04:41,560
Speaker 1: grandma to befall cousin's husband. They've been discussing it, and

1343
01:04:41,600 --> 01:04:44,040
Speaker 1: they're going to go with the name they actually like

1344
01:04:44,280 --> 01:04:48,200
Speaker 1: rather than making their son in. They did as nicely

1345
01:04:48,440 --> 01:04:51,080
Speaker 1: if I would still make a pillow, but after the

1346
01:04:51,160 --> 01:04:54,600
Speaker 1: kiddo was born, so his dad won't have pre warning.

1347
01:04:54,680 --> 01:04:58,040
Speaker 1: The kiddo won't be an act also, and they have

1348
01:04:58,200 --> 01:05:00,240
Speaker 1: the whole name to figure out again too. I will

1349
01:05:00,280 --> 01:05:03,040
Speaker 1: make them the pillow after the chocolate arrives.

1350
01:05:06,200 --> 01:05:08,960
Speaker 2: It really did. I mean the fact you know it was.

1351
01:05:09,120 --> 01:05:11,360
Speaker 2: It was a trauma of being a being a man.

1352
01:05:12,680 --> 01:05:15,480
Speaker 2: He just you know you couldn't help but unleash upono Peah.

1353
01:05:15,640 --> 01:05:19,400
Speaker 2: You know he's still figuring out his identity. That's exactly

1354
01:05:19,720 --> 01:05:23,400
Speaker 2: My ex has a restraining order against me, and watch

1355
01:05:23,440 --> 01:05:25,520
Speaker 2: to a vict me from my home. I don't care

1356
01:05:25,560 --> 01:05:26,320
Speaker 2: about the law.

1357
01:05:26,640 --> 01:05:28,280
Speaker 1: I'm not leaving. Am I the a hole?

1358
01:05:28,360 --> 01:05:33,040
Speaker 2: Dang? When you've got a whole restraining order against somebody.

1359
01:05:32,720 --> 01:05:36,240
Speaker 1: Don't restrain yourself, don't stop keep going. My ex wife

1360
01:05:36,280 --> 01:05:40,560
Speaker 1: and I had a rocky marriage, and my alcoholism didn't help.

1361
01:05:40,760 --> 01:05:42,320
Speaker 1: There We go all right, oh pee, Well, at least

1362
01:05:42,320 --> 01:05:45,320
Speaker 1: you could admit to stuff. She pushed for a divorce.

1363
01:05:45,400 --> 01:05:47,960
Speaker 1: We lived together during the divorce, and one day I

1364
01:05:48,000 --> 01:05:51,440
Speaker 1: found out she was dating another man. I snapped and

1365
01:05:51,640 --> 01:05:54,520
Speaker 1: hit her pretty hard. I was charged with assault, spent

1366
01:05:54,680 --> 01:05:57,640
Speaker 1: three months in jail, went to anger management, and I

1367
01:05:57,720 --> 01:06:02,560
Speaker 1: was also issued a three year which probably honestly good. Yeah,

1368
01:06:02,600 --> 01:06:05,360
Speaker 1: this was two years ago. I've since sobered up, met

1369
01:06:05,400 --> 01:06:08,440
Speaker 1: a wonderful woman, and moved to a completely different apartment

1370
01:06:08,480 --> 01:06:11,440
Speaker 1: complex in a completely different part of the city, and

1371
01:06:11,600 --> 01:06:15,000
Speaker 1: have never had any further contact with my ex wife.

1372
01:06:15,040 --> 01:06:17,760
Speaker 1: I admit what I did was wrong. I paid the price.

1373
01:06:17,880 --> 01:06:20,760
Speaker 1: I've since re established myself. My current woman, who have

1374
01:06:20,800 --> 01:06:23,520
Speaker 1: been in relationship for two years, is aware of this

1375
01:06:23,600 --> 01:06:27,400
Speaker 1: background story, which makes things slightly easier. Well. Unknown to me,

1376
01:06:27,600 --> 01:06:31,040
Speaker 1: my ex moved into my apartment complex about five months

1377
01:06:31,080 --> 01:06:34,760
Speaker 1: ago with her now new husband, who had always lived here.

1378
01:06:34,920 --> 01:06:35,720
Speaker 1: I just didn't know this.

1379
01:06:35,920 --> 01:06:36,320
Speaker 2: Wow.

1380
01:06:36,400 --> 01:06:39,040
Speaker 1: I saw her in the lobby just before New Year's

1381
01:06:39,120 --> 01:06:42,200
Speaker 1: she greeted me. I turned shocked and said hello. She

1382
01:06:42,280 --> 01:06:44,600
Speaker 1: asked me what I was doing in the lobby. I

1383
01:06:44,640 --> 01:06:47,120
Speaker 1: said I was just coming in from work, and she

1384
01:06:47,280 --> 01:06:50,200
Speaker 1: told me the restraining order is still in effect and

1385
01:06:50,200 --> 01:06:51,320
Speaker 1: that I need to move out.

1386
01:06:51,600 --> 01:06:54,640
Speaker 2: Wow. I can't imagine that is legal.

1387
01:06:54,680 --> 01:06:55,000
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1388
01:06:55,040 --> 01:06:55,760
Speaker 2: We'll see, We'll see.

1389
01:06:55,920 --> 01:06:58,439
Speaker 1: I tried to reason with her and told her I'd

1390
01:06:58,440 --> 01:07:00,560
Speaker 1: be happy to steer clear of her. I know we

1391
01:07:00,600 --> 01:07:02,400
Speaker 1: don't live on the same floor. I don't even know

1392
01:07:02,440 --> 01:07:04,200
Speaker 1: what floor she lives on. I don't care to know.

1393
01:07:04,360 --> 01:07:06,400
Speaker 1: I told her, if I saw her in an elevator,

1394
01:07:06,440 --> 01:07:08,240
Speaker 1: I wouldn't get in and just wait for the next one.

1395
01:07:08,280 --> 01:07:11,160
Speaker 1: She told me she was going to enforce the restraining

1396
01:07:11,240 --> 01:07:14,240
Speaker 1: order against me. My partner and I literally signed a

1397
01:07:14,280 --> 01:07:17,600
Speaker 1: brand new two year lease six months ago. We love

1398
01:07:17,760 --> 01:07:20,000
Speaker 1: the place we live in and wouldn't want to move,

1399
01:07:20,040 --> 01:07:23,240
Speaker 1: and it feels unjust having to move slashing curve financial

1400
01:07:23,240 --> 01:07:26,320
Speaker 1: hardship because the person I had a restraining order against

1401
01:07:26,440 --> 01:07:29,600
Speaker 1: moved into my apartment complex. The reason why I'm bringing

1402
01:07:29,600 --> 01:07:32,160
Speaker 1: this up is because last night the building manager was

1403
01:07:32,200 --> 01:07:34,640
Speaker 1: informed of the restraining order and told us if we

1404
01:07:34,680 --> 01:07:36,959
Speaker 1: need to figure this out. So the question is, would

1405
01:07:37,040 --> 01:07:38,800
Speaker 1: she really be able to force me out of my

1406
01:07:38,840 --> 01:07:41,160
Speaker 1: home even though I lived here before her? As long

1407
01:07:41,200 --> 01:07:43,480
Speaker 1: as I do my best to avoid any contact with her,

1408
01:07:43,520 --> 01:07:46,600
Speaker 1: which I'm perfectly fine doing, shouldn't that be sufficient. I

1409
01:07:46,760 --> 01:07:49,520
Speaker 1: work a really early schedule, and I learned of the

1410
01:07:49,560 --> 01:07:52,520
Speaker 1: fact that she has been dating this guy and coming

1411
01:07:52,520 --> 01:07:55,760
Speaker 1: over to this apartment complex for the entire time I've

1412
01:07:55,800 --> 01:07:58,520
Speaker 1: been here. We just recently have crossed paths. She's been

1413
01:07:58,520 --> 01:08:01,760
Speaker 1: living here full time for the past five months. I'm

1414
01:08:01,800 --> 01:08:05,040
Speaker 1: not sure what to do. FYI, this is New York City.

1415
01:08:05,080 --> 01:08:06,360
Speaker 1: I mean, John, what do you think.

1416
01:08:06,200 --> 01:08:09,240
Speaker 2: It could get? Very very dicey if that's all true?

1417
01:08:09,560 --> 01:08:13,400
Speaker 2: That it seems like probably a reasonable situation, and that

1418
01:08:13,760 --> 01:08:16,680
Speaker 2: I would guess you would go to a court and

1419
01:08:16,760 --> 01:08:19,800
Speaker 2: like basically like state your case of like, hey, like

1420
01:08:19,840 --> 01:08:20,960
Speaker 2: basically everything you just said.

1421
01:08:21,000 --> 01:08:23,120
Speaker 1: I feel like she has every right to enforce the

1422
01:08:23,160 --> 01:08:26,760
Speaker 1: restraining order, especially with that additional context. But John, there

1423
01:08:26,800 --> 01:08:29,439
Speaker 1: is an update. Okay, Well, let's see, the public defender

1424
01:08:29,439 --> 01:08:31,800
Speaker 1: that represented me was no longer practicing in the New

1425
01:08:31,880 --> 01:08:34,120
Speaker 1: York City area, but I retained a lawyer who was

1426
01:08:34,160 --> 01:08:36,719
Speaker 1: a friend of a friend who has experience in this area.

1427
01:08:36,840 --> 01:08:40,320
Speaker 1: My lawyer got references from my parole officer, employer, and

1428
01:08:40,479 --> 01:08:43,519
Speaker 1: AA sponsor. Our goal was to get the restraining order

1429
01:08:43,720 --> 01:08:47,519
Speaker 1: modified to a simple no contact order with no distance

1430
01:08:47,560 --> 01:08:50,160
Speaker 1: requirements so I could continue living with my partner. I

1431
01:08:50,200 --> 01:08:52,479
Speaker 1: spoke to the judge, told in my story and what

1432
01:08:52,600 --> 01:08:55,719
Speaker 1: I had done to correct my past transgressions. He reviewed

1433
01:08:55,760 --> 01:08:59,559
Speaker 1: my record and we submitted our references. During this time period,

1434
01:08:59,600 --> 01:09:01,800
Speaker 1: I was ashing on a friend's couch as to not

1435
01:09:01,920 --> 01:09:03,400
Speaker 1: violate my protective order.

1436
01:09:03,479 --> 01:09:04,960
Speaker 2: The parole officer said.

1437
01:09:04,760 --> 01:09:07,160
Speaker 1: I had to pay my fines, followed all the rules

1438
01:09:07,200 --> 01:09:09,560
Speaker 1: and never once had to remind me of my restrictions

1439
01:09:09,600 --> 01:09:12,360
Speaker 1: and so forth, and said he was impressed with my turnaround.

1440
01:09:12,360 --> 01:09:14,479
Speaker 1: So the parole officers saying like basically everything that op

1441
01:09:14,479 --> 01:09:17,040
Speaker 1: he did was good on his side, essentially, my employer

1442
01:09:17,080 --> 01:09:19,320
Speaker 1: said that I was always early, never seemed to be

1443
01:09:19,400 --> 01:09:23,080
Speaker 1: under the influence or a hangover from anything, and even

1444
01:09:23,120 --> 01:09:26,120
Speaker 1: at our company functions, was very open and honest about

1445
01:09:26,120 --> 01:09:29,720
Speaker 1: my sobriety and didn't partake in drinking. My AA sponsor

1446
01:09:29,840 --> 01:09:31,920
Speaker 1: said good things about me too, how he was impressed

1447
01:09:31,960 --> 01:09:35,200
Speaker 1: with my maturity and openness on my alcoholism and addiction.

1448
01:09:35,400 --> 01:09:38,719
Speaker 1: The judge asked my ex wife to speak. My ex

1449
01:09:38,760 --> 01:09:41,320
Speaker 1: wife said she was shocked by my turnaround. She said

1450
01:09:41,320 --> 01:09:43,880
Speaker 1: that it seemed unfair to her to require me to

1451
01:09:43,920 --> 01:09:46,840
Speaker 1: move because she moved into my building unknowingly, and that

1452
01:09:46,920 --> 01:09:49,120
Speaker 1: she no longer felt threatened by me. This was a

1453
01:09:49,200 --> 01:09:51,720
Speaker 1: shock to both my lawyer and I, as I expected

1454
01:09:51,720 --> 01:09:54,160
Speaker 1: my ex to want to keep the protective order in place.

1455
01:09:54,360 --> 01:09:57,800
Speaker 1: The judge said that he wouldn't modify the productive order,

1456
01:09:57,840 --> 01:10:01,120
Speaker 1: but in fact lifted entirely as he felt it had

1457
01:10:01,160 --> 01:10:04,720
Speaker 1: served its purpose and that based on my references, my testimony,

1458
01:10:04,760 --> 01:10:07,479
Speaker 1: and most importantly the testimony of my ex, that he

1459
01:10:07,520 --> 01:10:11,240
Speaker 1: didn't see how keeping it in place was benefiting anyone anymore.

1460
01:10:11,400 --> 01:10:13,280
Speaker 1: He did tell my ex that if she ever felt

1461
01:10:13,360 --> 01:10:16,320
Speaker 1: threatened or in danger because of something I said or did,

1462
01:10:16,400 --> 01:10:18,960
Speaker 1: she could contact the police. The judge then told me

1463
01:10:19,040 --> 01:10:21,360
Speaker 1: his main reason for lifting the order was to allow

1464
01:10:21,400 --> 01:10:24,000
Speaker 1: me to live in my current apartment, but advised that

1465
01:10:24,040 --> 01:10:26,240
Speaker 1: it was a good idea to avoid contact with my

1466
01:10:26,320 --> 01:10:29,600
Speaker 1: ex to avoid potential complications down the road. He reminded me,

1467
01:10:29,800 --> 01:10:32,240
Speaker 1: because of my past, it wouldn't take much to get

1468
01:10:32,240 --> 01:10:34,880
Speaker 1: another protective order in place. I told the judge I

1469
01:10:34,880 --> 01:10:37,840
Speaker 1: had no intention of talking slash contacting my ex, and

1470
01:10:37,960 --> 01:10:40,120
Speaker 1: I was thrilled that I don't have to move and

1471
01:10:40,200 --> 01:10:42,880
Speaker 1: get to stay with my current girlfriend. So over the

1472
01:10:42,920 --> 01:10:45,240
Speaker 1: course of this weekend, I moved back into my apartment

1473
01:10:45,360 --> 01:10:48,280
Speaker 1: with my girlfriend and I'm glad that this was resolved.

1474
01:10:48,360 --> 01:10:50,720
Speaker 2: Every once in a blue moon, Sam, we have a

1475
01:10:50,840 --> 01:10:53,559
Speaker 2: story that has a happy ending.

1476
01:10:53,720 --> 01:10:55,800
Speaker 1: But you know what we would like to hear. We

1477
01:10:55,840 --> 01:10:58,640
Speaker 1: would like to hear from our public subscribers about you

1478
01:10:58,680 --> 01:11:00,880
Speaker 1: know who are some people that you as actually saw

1479
01:11:01,080 --> 01:11:03,639
Speaker 1: do a turnaround? Lease share in the comments below.

1480
01:11:03,720 --> 01:11:06,160
Speaker 2: My brother was bullying a kid for taking the bus,

1481
01:11:06,200 --> 01:11:08,519
Speaker 2: so I'm never driving him to school again. Now he

1482
01:11:08,560 --> 01:11:11,040
Speaker 2: has to take the bus with all the other losers.

1483
01:11:11,200 --> 01:11:12,120
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole?

1484
01:11:12,240 --> 01:11:14,080
Speaker 1: Give him a taste of his own medicine? Ooh, it

1485
01:11:14,120 --> 01:11:17,799
Speaker 1: tastes nasty, tastes like the bus floor. My brother, fifteen,

1486
01:11:17,880 --> 01:11:20,320
Speaker 1: goes to the same private school that I attended.

1487
01:11:20,400 --> 01:11:22,719
Speaker 2: It's full of a bunch of spoiled, rich kids whose

1488
01:11:22,880 --> 01:11:26,519
Speaker 2: entire identity is surrounded by how much money their parents make.

1489
01:11:26,680 --> 01:11:28,840
Speaker 2: If you don't get a car by sixteen, You'll be

1490
01:11:28,920 --> 01:11:32,400
Speaker 2: bullied without a doubt God, as you should be. So

1491
01:11:32,439 --> 01:11:35,599
Speaker 2: a friend shared a TikTok her sister posted, and it

1492
01:11:35,640 --> 01:11:39,000
Speaker 2: was a group of boys bullying a kid waiting for

1493
01:11:39,080 --> 01:11:41,880
Speaker 2: the bus. They were mocking him, laughing at him, and

1494
01:11:41,960 --> 01:11:45,160
Speaker 2: at one point someone off camera threw food at the kid.

1495
01:11:45,320 --> 01:11:49,559
Speaker 2: I recognize two kids, one of them being my brother.

1496
01:11:49,800 --> 01:11:51,320
Speaker 1: Oh my god, geez.

1497
01:11:51,600 --> 01:11:54,439
Speaker 2: I told my parents, and they brushed it off, saying

1498
01:11:55,120 --> 01:11:57,880
Speaker 2: he's a teat and boy, you know how they got

1499
01:11:58,160 --> 01:12:01,000
Speaker 2: a who Just take away the for a couple of

1500
01:12:01,120 --> 01:12:03,760
Speaker 2: days and he'll learn his lesson. When my brother got home,

1501
01:12:03,840 --> 01:12:06,240
Speaker 2: I told him what he did wasn't right, and he

1502
01:12:06,360 --> 01:12:09,160
Speaker 2: walked away laughing. I told my mom, as long as

1503
01:12:09,160 --> 01:12:11,800
Speaker 2: he continues to bully people and they do nothing about it,

1504
01:12:11,880 --> 01:12:14,360
Speaker 2: I won't take him to school anymore. Right. That is

1505
01:12:14,439 --> 01:12:17,040
Speaker 2: actually genius. This will mean that he'll have to take

1506
01:12:17,160 --> 01:12:20,559
Speaker 2: public transportation because my parents leave too early for work

1507
01:12:20,640 --> 01:12:23,240
Speaker 2: to take him to school. My parents are livid, saying

1508
01:12:23,320 --> 01:12:26,400
Speaker 2: I'm an a hole for being so unreasonable and sensitive

1509
01:12:26,520 --> 01:12:27,559
Speaker 2: over a joke.

1510
01:12:27,880 --> 01:12:29,400
Speaker 1: Let him take the bus?

1511
01:12:29,640 --> 01:12:30,720
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Speaker 1: We'll do it together live in front of a camera

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Speaker 1: with assholes anonymous. You'll get a chance to talk to

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Speaker 1: us directly and maybe be featured on the YouTube channel.

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Speaker 2: Wait Saven, not like that. Like the fans get to

1522
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Speaker 2: share their stories with us and other fans and we

1523
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Speaker 2: get to talk about it right, and then we'll moot

1524
01:13:08,560 --> 01:13:11,320
Speaker 2: each other at the end. Oh god, So if you

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Speaker 2: okop Show. So real quick, Sam is Op being the

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Speaker 2: a whole heart.

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Speaker 1: No Op is actually being a parental figure, unlike these

1530
01:13:26,640 --> 01:13:27,360
Speaker 1: actual parents.

1531
01:13:27,400 --> 01:13:29,800
Speaker 2: Onto the first update, Hey y'alls, tomorrow is his first

1532
01:13:29,840 --> 01:13:32,720
Speaker 2: day taking the bus since my parents couldn't find anyone.

1533
01:13:32,479 --> 01:13:36,240
Speaker 1: Else to take it nice given that medicine back to them.

1534
01:13:36,479 --> 01:13:38,600
Speaker 2: I'll update all this weekend and tell you how the

1535
01:13:38,600 --> 01:13:40,960
Speaker 2: week went. Now it's pretty late and I don't think

1536
01:13:41,000 --> 01:13:43,120
Speaker 2: i'll be doing any replies, but I do want to

1537
01:13:43,120 --> 01:13:46,679
Speaker 2: clarify two things. One, I bought my car with my money.

1538
01:13:46,800 --> 01:13:49,840
Speaker 2: My parents didn't. It's not their car, it's mine. Two,

1539
01:13:50,200 --> 01:13:52,960
Speaker 2: I'm not parenting my brother. I don't know how anyone

1540
01:13:53,040 --> 01:13:55,479
Speaker 2: jumped to that conclusion. If I no longer wish to

1541
01:13:55,520 --> 01:13:57,519
Speaker 2: go out of my way and pay for gas to

1542
01:13:57,560 --> 01:13:59,639
Speaker 2: take him to and from school every day, I don't

1543
01:13:59,640 --> 01:14:01,840
Speaker 2: have to. Like I said, he has to take the bus,

1544
01:14:01,840 --> 01:14:04,519
Speaker 2: and all it costs for kids under eighteen is a dollar.

1545
01:14:04,680 --> 01:14:06,600
Speaker 2: Two dollars a day is not going to hurt my

1546
01:14:06,680 --> 01:14:09,720
Speaker 2: parents in the slightest lowl. Also, I would take the

1547
01:14:09,760 --> 01:14:11,920
Speaker 2: bullied kid to school if I knew who he was.

1548
01:14:12,000 --> 01:14:14,400
Speaker 2: The principal and vice principal had the video send to

1549
01:14:14,439 --> 01:14:16,599
Speaker 2: them already, so if I find who the kid is,

1550
01:14:16,760 --> 01:14:19,200
Speaker 2: I'll see if his parents are okay with me taking

1551
01:14:19,280 --> 01:14:20,519
Speaker 2: him to school. That's awesome.

1552
01:14:20,600 --> 01:14:24,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, shout out to not only punished the bully, but

1553
01:14:24,560 --> 01:14:25,599
Speaker 1: uplift the bullied.

1554
01:14:25,800 --> 01:14:29,080
Speaker 2: Yes, I can't make any promises on anything happening, since

1555
01:14:29,160 --> 01:14:31,479
Speaker 2: I know how this school is and how they deal

1556
01:14:31,520 --> 01:14:34,519
Speaker 2: with bullying, and I'm not sharing this TikTok on here.

1557
01:14:34,640 --> 01:14:36,680
Speaker 2: There seems to be some confusion, I said, he goes

1558
01:14:36,720 --> 01:14:41,080
Speaker 2: to the same school I attended, not attend. I graduated,

1559
01:14:41,120 --> 01:14:43,519
Speaker 2: and I'm not a minor. Loll okay, so this is

1560
01:14:43,560 --> 01:14:45,680
Speaker 2: the last I'm adding on to this. I don't know

1561
01:14:45,720 --> 01:14:48,240
Speaker 2: how me questioning if my actions were right or wrong

1562
01:14:48,439 --> 01:14:51,719
Speaker 2: led to people discussing me living with my parents. Then again,

1563
01:14:51,760 --> 01:14:54,240
Speaker 2: it's the internet, so I'm not surprised. So I was

1564
01:14:54,280 --> 01:14:57,040
Speaker 2: giving my brother rise even when I was moved out,

1565
01:14:57,200 --> 01:14:59,360
Speaker 2: but I lived with a crappy room may and then

1566
01:14:59,360 --> 01:15:01,320
Speaker 2: I moved back home. I am to move back out

1567
01:15:01,400 --> 01:15:03,479
Speaker 2: in less than a month if it all works out,

1568
01:15:03,600 --> 01:15:06,519
Speaker 2: and if it doesn't, then I'm at home longer than

1569
01:15:06,520 --> 01:15:09,759
Speaker 2: I anticipated. Why are strangers so bothered? My parents aren't

1570
01:15:09,800 --> 01:15:12,240
Speaker 2: forcing me to move out laughing emoji. On to the

1571
01:15:12,280 --> 01:15:15,040
Speaker 2: final update. So, as I said, I'm no longer taking

1572
01:15:15,080 --> 01:15:17,439
Speaker 2: my brother to school, and my parents couldn't find anyone

1573
01:15:17,439 --> 01:15:20,000
Speaker 2: else to take him, so he did have to take

1574
01:15:20,040 --> 01:15:23,160
Speaker 2: the bus. Someone mentioned why not uber or lyft, And

1575
01:15:23,200 --> 01:15:26,080
Speaker 2: that's because my parents don't trust either of them. I mean,

1576
01:15:26,120 --> 01:15:29,599
Speaker 2: that's honestly good, because then that's that means he has

1577
01:15:29,680 --> 01:15:32,320
Speaker 2: to take the bus. The thing is, he was off

1578
01:15:32,360 --> 01:15:35,200
Speaker 2: the hook the first three days October twenty seventh to

1579
01:15:35,280 --> 01:15:37,439
Speaker 2: the twenty ninth, which is why y'all didn't get an

1580
01:15:37,520 --> 01:15:40,200
Speaker 2: update on the weekend because my mom let him stay

1581
01:15:40,240 --> 01:15:43,880
Speaker 2: home the first day. Oh my God. Then one of

1582
01:15:43,920 --> 01:15:47,559
Speaker 2: his friends was taking him, which stopped because he was

1583
01:15:47,600 --> 01:15:50,599
Speaker 2: grounded as he was one of the bullies. God. Then

1584
01:15:50,880 --> 01:15:54,880
Speaker 2: the next Monday through Thursday, November first fourth, he had

1585
01:15:55,000 --> 01:15:55,639
Speaker 2: to get on the buck.

1586
01:15:55,680 --> 01:15:57,920
Speaker 1: I love how it took him four days to actually

1587
01:15:58,000 --> 01:15:59,200
Speaker 1: take the bus and get his.

1588
01:15:59,200 --> 01:16:03,439
Speaker 2: Punishments, Just like slipping slipping out of every possible crass.

1589
01:16:03,439 --> 01:16:06,240
Speaker 2: Too many friends, gotta take away his friends. On Monday,

1590
01:16:06,360 --> 01:16:08,920
Speaker 2: he still took me as a joke, woke me up

1591
01:16:09,000 --> 01:16:11,200
Speaker 2: and told me to take him to school. I said no,

1592
01:16:11,400 --> 01:16:14,400
Speaker 2: and that's when it hit that I was dead serious.

1593
01:16:14,600 --> 01:16:16,719
Speaker 2: I gave him a dollar and told him to take

1594
01:16:16,760 --> 01:16:21,160
Speaker 2: the bus. Yeah, as some of you guess, he hated it,

1595
01:16:21,200 --> 01:16:24,479
Speaker 2: and according to my mom, I quote unquote made him

1596
01:16:24,479 --> 01:16:28,799
Speaker 2: have a panic attack because he had to take public transportation. Honestly, good,

1597
01:16:29,000 --> 01:16:29,880
Speaker 2: I'm I'm.

1598
01:16:29,760 --> 01:16:30,800
Speaker 1: Not sad about that.

1599
01:16:30,920 --> 01:16:34,400
Speaker 2: I'm not mad. I'm not mad. Anyways, YadA, YadA, YadA.

1600
01:16:34,439 --> 01:16:37,200
Speaker 2: He missed the bus and was late to school. Oh

1601
01:16:37,240 --> 01:16:39,720
Speaker 2: my God, the other days he took the bus and

1602
01:16:39,760 --> 01:16:42,360
Speaker 2: I didn't hear anything about him being bullied for it,

1603
01:16:42,439 --> 01:16:45,520
Speaker 2: because he's the bullied who's the stars of the issues.

1604
01:16:45,680 --> 01:16:47,920
Speaker 2: To those of you who claims I was making him

1605
01:16:48,000 --> 01:16:50,559
Speaker 2: take the bus to get bullied Friday, my mom let

1606
01:16:50,600 --> 01:16:54,000
Speaker 2: him stay home again because you guessed it. He didn't

1607
01:16:54,000 --> 01:16:55,000
Speaker 2: want to take the bus.

1608
01:16:55,240 --> 01:16:57,280
Speaker 1: What a pampered puss.

1609
01:16:57,080 --> 01:16:58,960
Speaker 2: Is he just gonna not get it educated.

1610
01:16:59,080 --> 01:17:00,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's just gonna drop out of school.

1611
01:17:01,120 --> 01:17:04,120
Speaker 2: So he only took it those four days. And for

1612
01:17:04,160 --> 01:17:06,519
Speaker 2: those of you who think I stopped him from taking

1613
01:17:06,560 --> 01:17:10,000
Speaker 2: an easy way out, literally piss off, because that is

1614
01:17:10,080 --> 01:17:12,400
Speaker 2: not the case. It's not hard to see why I

1615
01:17:12,439 --> 01:17:15,719
Speaker 2: stopped taking him. You guys are reaching.

1616
01:17:16,120 --> 01:17:18,880
Speaker 1: If you see your kid making fun of another kid,

1617
01:17:19,240 --> 01:17:23,080
Speaker 1: let them experience what it's like to be the thing

1618
01:17:23,080 --> 01:17:24,760
Speaker 1: that they're making fun of. You know, it's like, oh,

1619
01:17:24,800 --> 01:17:27,200
Speaker 1: you're making fun of the band nerds. You're signing up

1620
01:17:27,240 --> 01:17:30,040
Speaker 1: for tuber lessons right now. When people bully other people,

1621
01:17:30,080 --> 01:17:32,679
Speaker 1: it's because they don't have empathy for the position of

1622
01:17:33,000 --> 01:17:35,840
Speaker 1: the bullied kid exactly. So your job as a parent

1623
01:17:36,120 --> 01:17:39,720
Speaker 1: is to instill empathy in that kid. For those people.

1624
01:17:39,600 --> 01:17:41,439
Speaker 2: Most of the time, like putting him on the bus.

1625
01:17:41,520 --> 01:17:43,360
Speaker 2: He says he doesn't harm them. He doesn't harm him

1626
01:17:43,360 --> 01:17:46,200
Speaker 2: at all, you know what I mean. My friend exploded

1627
01:17:46,280 --> 01:17:48,720
Speaker 2: on me for asking if she was pregnant, but her

1628
01:17:48,800 --> 01:17:51,519
Speaker 2: top does look way bigger. Am I the a hole?

1629
01:17:51,760 --> 01:17:55,280
Speaker 1: My male twenty five friend female twenty three, usually goes

1630
01:17:55,320 --> 01:17:58,800
Speaker 1: to the gym regularly and parties a lot. Lately, I've

1631
01:17:58,840 --> 01:18:02,080
Speaker 1: noticed that she stopped drinking entirely, same as smoking, and

1632
01:18:02,160 --> 01:18:04,639
Speaker 1: has stopped heavy lifting and going to the gym as

1633
01:18:04,680 --> 01:18:07,759
Speaker 1: regularly as she used to. On top of that, lately,

1634
01:18:07,840 --> 01:18:11,120
Speaker 1: she'll often excuse herself to go to the toilet, presumably

1635
01:18:11,240 --> 01:18:13,280
Speaker 1: to throw up, and I've noticed she got a bit

1636
01:18:13,720 --> 01:18:17,200
Speaker 1: thicker and watery. Don't get me wrong, I'm not jabbing

1637
01:18:17,200 --> 01:18:17,679
Speaker 1: her looks.

1638
01:18:17,880 --> 01:18:23,920
Speaker 2: I'm just noticed also her chest has noticeably grown opie

1639
01:18:24,080 --> 01:18:27,680
Speaker 2: is I'm sorry entirely to observe it. Like going to

1640
01:18:27,760 --> 01:18:29,680
Speaker 2: the bathroom presumably to throw up.

1641
01:18:29,720 --> 01:18:32,280
Speaker 1: She's gone from a thirty six seed to a thirty

1642
01:18:32,320 --> 01:18:35,240
Speaker 1: six double D. When we were out the other week

1643
01:18:35,320 --> 01:18:38,200
Speaker 1: and I noticed she didn't have even a touch of

1644
01:18:38,240 --> 01:18:40,320
Speaker 1: her red bull I pulled her aside to have a

1645
01:18:40,479 --> 01:18:44,120
Speaker 1: private conversation and he asked, don he asked something that

1646
01:18:44,160 --> 01:18:48,200
Speaker 1: you never ask woman ever, hmm, are you pregnant? She

1647
01:18:48,360 --> 01:18:52,040
Speaker 1: immediately flipped out and denied it right after she went home,

1648
01:18:52,080 --> 01:18:54,120
Speaker 1: and I covered for her when the group asked me

1649
01:18:54,160 --> 01:18:56,240
Speaker 1: why she went home. I text her late the same

1650
01:18:56,320 --> 01:18:59,799
Speaker 1: night if I overstepped, and she simply replied, you literally,

1651
01:19:00,520 --> 01:19:02,720
Speaker 1: fat douchebag. I never did such a thing, but I

1652
01:19:02,760 --> 01:19:06,040
Speaker 1: simply let her be instead of arguing. Today, another friend

1653
01:19:06,040 --> 01:19:09,120
Speaker 1: told me she indeed is pregnant, and I don't know

1654
01:19:09,120 --> 01:19:11,360
Speaker 1: what to make of her reaction towards me when I

1655
01:19:11,439 --> 01:19:15,920
Speaker 1: asked her in a four I conversation am id AOL

1656
01:19:16,200 --> 01:19:18,160
Speaker 1: there is an edit, But John, what do you think? Yeah?

1657
01:19:18,200 --> 01:19:20,240
Speaker 2: I think OP is the a hole because it's like

1658
01:19:20,400 --> 01:19:23,360
Speaker 2: if you ask someone are you pregnant and they say no,

1659
01:19:24,000 --> 01:19:26,920
Speaker 2: it's kind of insinuating that they look kind of fat,

1660
01:19:26,960 --> 01:19:28,840
Speaker 2: and it's like it's just a weird.

1661
01:19:28,840 --> 01:19:31,800
Speaker 1: Quite a weird question to ask. Yeah. I also just

1662
01:19:31,840 --> 01:19:34,519
Speaker 1: I can't imagine asking any of my friends if they're pregnant.

1663
01:19:34,560 --> 01:19:36,360
Speaker 1: If there is an update A question to the audience,

1664
01:19:36,520 --> 01:19:40,040
Speaker 1: is there ever an appropriate time to ask a woman,

1665
01:19:40,280 --> 01:19:41,160
Speaker 1: are you pregnant?

1666
01:19:41,600 --> 01:19:44,960
Speaker 2: If you think it's your baby, that is true, maybe

1667
01:19:45,080 --> 01:19:46,240
Speaker 2: the only time.

1668
01:19:46,439 --> 01:19:48,360
Speaker 1: Well, this post has been a waste of time, except

1669
01:19:48,439 --> 01:19:50,679
Speaker 1: you don't do that, which is most of the replies.

1670
01:19:50,760 --> 01:19:54,080
Speaker 1: There's been little actual useful feedback. Why don't you do that?

1671
01:19:54,240 --> 01:19:56,599
Speaker 1: Why is it not socially acceptable to ask a close

1672
01:19:56,640 --> 01:19:59,240
Speaker 1: friend a normal question in a private setting. It's none

1673
01:19:59,240 --> 01:20:01,679
Speaker 1: of your business, Like, if that's the energy, you could

1674
01:20:01,680 --> 01:20:04,960
Speaker 1: apply that to any question. Ever, it's simply a yes

1675
01:20:05,120 --> 01:20:08,040
Speaker 1: slash no common thing. Are we still in the nineteen fifties?

1676
01:20:09,320 --> 01:20:11,760
Speaker 1: I love how everyone's like, Bro, you don't ask that?

1677
01:20:11,800 --> 01:20:14,200
Speaker 1: And he was like, what, I can't if a girl's prayer?

1678
01:20:14,240 --> 01:20:16,759
Speaker 1: Are we still the nineteen fifties or something? She messaged

1679
01:20:16,800 --> 01:20:19,640
Speaker 1: me and we met up during lunch break. She apologized

1680
01:20:19,640 --> 01:20:24,080
Speaker 1: for overreacting, and I apologize for if my question was intrusive.

1681
01:20:24,120 --> 01:20:27,360
Speaker 1: We game to the conclusion that my question wasn't intrusive,

1682
01:20:27,520 --> 01:20:30,599
Speaker 1: and she also didn't overreact. She told me she's two

1683
01:20:30,680 --> 01:20:34,439
Speaker 1: months pregnant and didn't think anyone had noticed. Little does

1684
01:20:34,479 --> 01:20:37,679
Speaker 1: she know, eagle eyed man on the tatas notice you're

1685
01:20:37,880 --> 01:20:41,839
Speaker 1: you're a full cut bigger. She was keeping it a secret,

1686
01:20:41,880 --> 01:20:43,880
Speaker 1: at least to the guy circle of our group. Because

1687
01:20:43,880 --> 01:20:46,880
Speaker 1: she was afraid of being called a hole. That's why

1688
01:20:46,960 --> 01:20:49,760
Speaker 1: she freaked out when I asked, and it's also why

1689
01:20:49,800 --> 01:20:51,920
Speaker 1: she tried to decleect it by saying I called her fat.

1690
01:20:51,920 --> 01:20:54,200
Speaker 1: I reassured her that no one would think she's a home,

1691
01:20:54,520 --> 01:20:58,080
Speaker 1: especially not in our group. We're all very supportive and

1692
01:20:58,160 --> 01:21:00,640
Speaker 1: are looking forward to doing our best to help her

1693
01:21:00,640 --> 01:21:03,160
Speaker 1: out the following months. I also shorted the post, and

1694
01:21:03,200 --> 01:21:04,880
Speaker 1: she had a good laugh at some of the way

1695
01:21:04,960 --> 01:21:07,559
Speaker 1: over the board. If you're the comments, especially the ones

1696
01:21:07,640 --> 01:21:10,400
Speaker 1: calling me a pervert. To be fair, she said, many

1697
01:21:10,439 --> 01:21:13,400
Speaker 1: of them also had valid points, but that they in

1698
01:21:13,479 --> 01:21:17,120
Speaker 1: most cases rather concerned strangers and not close friends you've

1699
01:21:17,120 --> 01:21:20,559
Speaker 1: shared big things with before. So after all, I retract

1700
01:21:20,640 --> 01:21:22,680
Speaker 1: my second edit, and I'm actually happy with how this

1701
01:21:22,720 --> 01:21:25,559
Speaker 1: turned out, especially after receiving more useful feedback from the

1702
01:21:25,560 --> 01:21:27,679
Speaker 1: point I made in the second ediot. Some of y'all

1703
01:21:27,920 --> 01:21:31,080
Speaker 1: got to butt hurt over edit to though, l M

1704
01:21:31,280 --> 01:21:35,559
Speaker 1: a oh so question again, is OP the a hole?

1705
01:21:35,720 --> 01:21:39,400
Speaker 1: And number two, is there any appropriate time to ask

1706
01:21:39,560 --> 01:21:40,400
Speaker 1: are you pregnant?

1707
01:21:40,640 --> 01:21:44,040
Speaker 2: I still feel like hope he just weirds me out.

1708
01:21:44,080 --> 01:21:47,240
Speaker 2: I don't know, I just get such a strange vibe.

1709
01:21:46,920 --> 01:21:49,519
Speaker 1: But what if your friend is like obviously like six

1710
01:21:49,560 --> 01:21:52,280
Speaker 1: months pregnant. I mean, are you gonna ask are you pregnant?

1711
01:21:52,320 --> 01:21:54,320
Speaker 1: Or you're just gonna be like going on as normal.

1712
01:21:54,560 --> 01:21:56,439
Speaker 2: I feel like if you're like freaking six seventy eight

1713
01:21:56,479 --> 01:21:59,800
Speaker 2: months pregnant, like you're telling people, Wow, I feel like

1714
01:22:00,320 --> 01:22:03,640
Speaker 2: jo not a reasonably medical area.

1715
01:22:03,920 --> 01:22:07,439
Speaker 1: Wow, Jod, So what you're saying, she doesn't really have

1716
01:22:07,560 --> 01:22:10,320
Speaker 1: the choice of whether to tell you or not.

1717
01:22:10,680 --> 01:22:13,880
Speaker 2: No people would. I So, I mean there's definitely people

1718
01:22:13,880 --> 01:22:15,320
Speaker 2: who people who.

1719
01:22:15,120 --> 01:22:17,280
Speaker 1: Have been like eight months pregnant and said like nothing

1720
01:22:17,280 --> 01:22:17,759
Speaker 1: to anyone.

1721
01:22:17,880 --> 01:22:21,160
Speaker 2: That's true, that's true. But generally speaking, like ninety nine

1722
01:22:21,200 --> 01:22:23,240
Speaker 2: percent of the time, like you're going to tell people

1723
01:22:23,320 --> 01:22:26,639
Speaker 2: that you're pregnant, Like it's obvious. Why we're talking about

1724
01:22:26,680 --> 01:22:29,360
Speaker 2: the EDU cases? O, God, I don't know. I guess

1725
01:22:29,600 --> 01:22:32,360
Speaker 2: I guess I would eventually, ha, John would ask if

1726
01:22:32,400 --> 01:22:40,519
Speaker 2: you're pregnant. My parents are trying to force me into

1727
01:22:40,560 --> 01:22:43,679
Speaker 2: an arranged marriage, but they just caught me with another man.

1728
01:22:44,040 --> 01:22:49,280
Speaker 2: I refuse to follow their traditions. Twenty two females moved

1729
01:22:49,320 --> 01:22:51,960
Speaker 2: out of my parents house last year to a condo

1730
01:22:52,040 --> 01:22:54,760
Speaker 2: that is thirty minutes away. I did this because.

1731
01:22:54,560 --> 01:22:57,320
Speaker 1: I live in with them, because they're very controlling and

1732
01:22:57,439 --> 01:23:01,200
Speaker 1: like to force my siblings and me to follow their beliefs.

1733
01:23:01,360 --> 01:23:03,719
Speaker 2: That's not fun. Stop trying to control me, mom, Yeah,

1734
01:23:03,720 --> 01:23:06,120
Speaker 2: stop trying to control me, dad. Yeah, and stop trying

1735
01:23:06,160 --> 01:23:06,840
Speaker 2: to control me mom.

1736
01:23:07,120 --> 01:23:10,479
Speaker 1: My oldest sister, twenty four female, is like my parents,

1737
01:23:10,600 --> 01:23:13,559
Speaker 1: very traditional and controlling. My parents never approved of us

1738
01:23:13,600 --> 01:23:16,920
Speaker 1: getting a boyfriend. They believed in an arranged marriage and

1739
01:23:17,000 --> 01:23:20,120
Speaker 1: prohibit us from engaging in pre marital sex. I mean,

1740
01:23:20,200 --> 01:23:23,040
Speaker 1: my parents never said, like, don't engage in premarital sex,

1741
01:23:23,080 --> 01:23:25,960
Speaker 1: but they're like they weren't, like, you know, we have monkey.

1742
01:23:25,680 --> 01:23:29,280
Speaker 2: Sex in the house, my dad, They let it be known.

1743
01:23:31,240 --> 01:23:35,040
Speaker 1: But I don't care about this bullsh Yeah, that's what

1744
01:23:35,080 --> 01:23:37,200
Speaker 1: I'm assuming opus saying. That's not what they actually said.

1745
01:23:37,800 --> 01:23:41,320
Speaker 1: I've had boyfriends behind their backs, and only my youngest

1746
01:23:41,360 --> 01:23:44,240
Speaker 1: sister sixteen female, knows about it as we are very close.

1747
01:23:44,400 --> 01:23:46,400
Speaker 1: I have a boyfriend, twenty three male, whom I have

1748
01:23:46,479 --> 01:23:49,719
Speaker 1: been going out for eight months now. Yesterday I invited

1749
01:23:49,760 --> 01:23:52,200
Speaker 1: him over to hang out at my home and guess

1750
01:23:52,200 --> 01:23:52,960
Speaker 1: what they did.

1751
01:23:52,840 --> 01:23:56,040
Speaker 2: John what.

1752
01:24:00,760 --> 01:24:03,720
Speaker 1: My oldest sister decided to visit me out of nowhere

1753
01:24:03,880 --> 01:24:05,120
Speaker 1: and caught us in the air.

1754
01:24:05,479 --> 01:24:06,200
Speaker 2: Oh God.

1755
01:24:09,080 --> 01:24:12,160
Speaker 1: It pissed me off so much that she visited without

1756
01:24:12,160 --> 01:24:15,960
Speaker 1: notifying me. She then started screaming at Day and called

1757
01:24:16,000 --> 01:24:18,479
Speaker 1: me aha for sleeping around. I try to make her

1758
01:24:18,560 --> 01:24:20,840
Speaker 1: understand that it was my boyfriend and even if I

1759
01:24:21,080 --> 01:24:23,240
Speaker 1: was sleeping around, it was none of her freaking business.

1760
01:24:23,439 --> 01:24:23,679
Speaker 2: Ooh.

1761
01:24:23,720 --> 01:24:25,680
Speaker 1: She didn't like my answer and proceeded to call my

1762
01:24:25,920 --> 01:24:29,320
Speaker 1: parents to stitch on me. Well, they weren't pissed, and

1763
01:24:29,400 --> 01:24:31,760
Speaker 1: my mom and started going on about how I committed

1764
01:24:31,800 --> 01:24:34,040
Speaker 1: a sin. I'm an atheist, but she doesn't respect it

1765
01:24:34,080 --> 01:24:36,559
Speaker 1: and forced me to break up with my boyfriend. My

1766
01:24:36,680 --> 01:24:39,640
Speaker 1: dad started saying how it was time they find a

1767
01:24:39,800 --> 01:24:41,080
Speaker 1: groom for me and that.

1768
01:24:41,160 --> 01:24:41,960
Speaker 2: I would behave.

1769
01:24:42,280 --> 01:24:44,240
Speaker 1: I kicked him out of my house and told them

1770
01:24:44,280 --> 01:24:46,200
Speaker 1: to only talk to me if they're willing to apologize

1771
01:24:46,240 --> 01:24:49,400
Speaker 1: to my boyfriend and me for disrespecting us. My mom

1772
01:24:49,600 --> 01:24:51,720
Speaker 1: is now trying to guilt trip me by stating that

1773
01:24:51,760 --> 01:24:54,920
Speaker 1: she's my mom and has sacrificed a lot to raise me.

1774
01:24:55,040 --> 01:24:56,680
Speaker 1: I know that she sacrificed a lot, but I'm not

1775
01:24:56,680 --> 01:24:58,880
Speaker 1: too fond of the way she's treating me. I'm twenty two,

1776
01:24:59,160 --> 01:25:04,439
Speaker 1: not the wow, my drop, Op, you oldest. They're still

1777
01:25:04,520 --> 01:25:07,679
Speaker 1: pissed and a spam my phone. My cousin's heard about

1778
01:25:07,680 --> 01:25:10,160
Speaker 1: it and forced me to apologize my parents and sisters

1779
01:25:10,160 --> 01:25:13,200
Speaker 1: for kicking them out and yelling at them. I refuse

1780
01:25:13,360 --> 01:25:16,320
Speaker 1: to do so and blocked them. My youngest sister and

1781
01:25:16,360 --> 01:25:17,880
Speaker 1: boyfriend are on my side.

1782
01:25:17,960 --> 01:25:20,679
Speaker 2: She even called my oldest sister for being a no bitch,

1783
01:25:20,840 --> 01:25:22,599
Speaker 2: but nobody is listening to her.

1784
01:25:22,640 --> 01:25:25,559
Speaker 1: And she's not an adult. She's just sixteen after all.

1785
01:25:25,960 --> 01:25:30,120
Speaker 2: Sure, so am I the ax whole for standing up

1786
01:25:30,360 --> 01:25:35,840
Speaker 2: for myself and my boyfriend. Give it up for Sam's

1787
01:25:35,840 --> 01:25:40,960
Speaker 2: performance comedy as a gentleman. My goodness, Jim Carrey over here, thank.

1788
01:25:40,800 --> 01:25:41,400
Speaker 1: You, thank you.

1789
01:25:41,720 --> 01:25:44,679
Speaker 2: There's a little edit. But what do you think off rip?

1790
01:25:44,880 --> 01:25:49,160
Speaker 2: Absolutely not. I applaud Op for standing up for what

1791
01:25:49,200 --> 01:25:51,040
Speaker 2: she wants. Look, at the end of the day, you

1792
01:25:51,280 --> 01:25:56,000
Speaker 2: just can't laying down for what she wants off my phone?

1793
01:25:56,280 --> 01:25:56,800
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

1794
01:25:57,080 --> 01:25:59,040
Speaker 1: Well, you know something else is standing up both of

1795
01:25:59,040 --> 01:25:59,720
Speaker 1: our wieners.

1796
01:26:00,600 --> 01:26:01,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're rock hard.

1797
01:26:01,880 --> 01:26:05,200
Speaker 1: That's while recording these yep, this is why you know

1798
01:26:05,200 --> 01:26:06,200
Speaker 1: you can't see blow the waist.

1799
01:26:06,240 --> 01:26:08,280
Speaker 2: What do you think is holding up this microphone? Right? Here,

1800
01:26:08,400 --> 01:26:11,599
Speaker 2: no man, but now OPI is not the wrong and

1801
01:26:12,320 --> 01:26:16,080
Speaker 2: you just can't control people, especially your kids at the

1802
01:26:16,120 --> 01:26:16,400
Speaker 2: end of it.

1803
01:26:16,520 --> 01:26:19,320
Speaker 1: But here's a little edit for some clarity. Everyone asks

1804
01:26:19,439 --> 01:26:22,160
Speaker 1: if I was Indian, and the answer is yes, I'm Indian,

1805
01:26:22,200 --> 01:26:24,280
Speaker 1: but not from India. My sister got into my house

1806
01:26:24,280 --> 01:26:26,639
Speaker 1: with a spare key I gave her and I trusted

1807
01:26:26,680 --> 01:26:28,720
Speaker 1: her to use it with my knowledge. But since she

1808
01:26:29,040 --> 01:26:31,840
Speaker 1: breached my trust, I have taken it away from her

1809
01:26:31,880 --> 01:26:33,680
Speaker 1: and my parents. I don't think I can go no

1810
01:26:33,800 --> 01:26:36,040
Speaker 1: contact with my parents, but thank you everyone for your

1811
01:26:36,080 --> 01:26:38,720
Speaker 1: opinion and take on this issue. I definitely will get

1812
01:26:38,720 --> 01:26:41,320
Speaker 1: some distance between us and try to make them understand,

1813
01:26:41,400 --> 01:26:43,559
Speaker 1: but if they still try to be difficult, I'll have

1814
01:26:43,600 --> 01:26:45,840
Speaker 1: to go no contact for a few weeks at least

1815
01:26:45,880 --> 01:26:48,439
Speaker 1: to make them realize I'm legit about this. Thank you again.

1816
01:26:48,640 --> 01:26:51,559
Speaker 1: As for my youngest sister, she can't live with me now,

1817
01:26:51,680 --> 01:26:53,519
Speaker 1: even though I would love to take her in, but

1818
01:26:53,560 --> 01:26:56,000
Speaker 1: she's also planning to move in with me once she

1819
01:26:56,080 --> 01:26:59,280
Speaker 1: turns eighteen. My parents are unaware with this. Thanks for

1820
01:26:59,320 --> 01:27:02,559
Speaker 1: the context, but yeah, I'm curious, like for anyone in

1821
01:27:02,600 --> 01:27:06,360
Speaker 1: the comments that has a religious upbringing, religious family, how

1822
01:27:06,439 --> 01:27:09,160
Speaker 1: did you either stick with it or exit it? Because

1823
01:27:09,200 --> 01:27:11,839
Speaker 1: I mean there's also this whole community of like ex Mormons,

1824
01:27:12,000 --> 01:27:14,479
Speaker 1: even on like there's a sub ex Mormons, and they

1825
01:27:14,479 --> 01:27:18,240
Speaker 1: talk about like how they leave the community gracefully or

1826
01:27:18,280 --> 01:27:21,000
Speaker 1: not so gracefully, right, so they can just live their

1827
01:27:21,040 --> 01:27:23,920
Speaker 1: own lives as they see fit, because not all of

1828
01:27:23,960 --> 01:27:27,519
Speaker 1: them have the same ideals and morals and as their

1829
01:27:27,560 --> 01:27:28,160
Speaker 1: family did.

1830
01:27:28,040 --> 01:27:30,479
Speaker 2: One hundred percent. Yeah, I mean I think there are

1831
01:27:30,640 --> 01:27:34,280
Speaker 2: some parents in these situations who have these beliefs because

1832
01:27:34,280 --> 01:27:36,360
Speaker 2: of their religion where they want to you know, kind

1833
01:27:36,400 --> 01:27:39,759
Speaker 2: of control orchestrate arrange the marriage and things of that nature.

1834
01:27:39,960 --> 01:27:43,040
Speaker 2: And again, like I said before, I understand if that's

1835
01:27:43,040 --> 01:27:45,880
Speaker 2: what they've been kind of essentially indoctrinated to believe like

1836
01:27:45,880 --> 01:27:49,280
Speaker 2: their whole life, I understand how they get there, But ultimately.

1837
01:27:49,000 --> 01:27:52,320
Speaker 1: It's your kid's choice once, once your kid has flown

1838
01:27:52,360 --> 01:27:55,600
Speaker 1: the coop, I mean, you can only suggest things you

1839
01:27:55,600 --> 01:27:56,840
Speaker 1: can't control exactly.

1840
01:27:56,880 --> 01:27:57,799
Speaker 2: Well, what we'd love.

1841
01:27:57,760 --> 01:28:01,440
Speaker 1: To hear two sides of the coin, either your religious

1842
01:28:01,439 --> 01:28:05,240
Speaker 1: exit stories or you know, your parents being controlling stories

1843
01:28:05,439 --> 01:28:08,479
Speaker 1: or your best someone walked in while you were doing

1844
01:28:08,520 --> 01:28:14,760
Speaker 1: it stories? Oh dude, those one's got to be good, thy, juicy, slimy,

1845
01:28:14,960 --> 01:28:17,599
Speaker 1: oh drenched in sweat. Oh God, I want to hear

1846
01:28:17,640 --> 01:28:19,240
Speaker 1: those put them in the comments.

1847
01:28:19,320 --> 01:28:22,439
Speaker 2: My dad stole my mom's most prized possession during the divorce,

1848
01:28:22,680 --> 01:28:26,280
Speaker 2: but I'm gonna steal it back, am I the ale.

1849
01:28:26,000 --> 01:28:29,760
Speaker 1: It was the pegging paraphernalia prize possession, superprised.

1850
01:28:29,760 --> 01:28:32,400
Speaker 2: So my dad and I twenty five mail, aren't close

1851
01:28:32,439 --> 01:28:35,400
Speaker 2: and I was never interested in having a relationship with him.

1852
01:28:35,479 --> 01:28:37,920
Speaker 2: He was a type of guy that was out all

1853
01:28:38,000 --> 01:28:40,760
Speaker 2: the time with his friends and never home. My mom

1854
01:28:40,800 --> 01:28:43,040
Speaker 2: divorced him when I was twelve, and it got ugly.

1855
01:28:43,360 --> 01:28:47,080
Speaker 2: Sometime during the divorce, we came home and stuff was missing.

1856
01:28:47,120 --> 01:28:49,519
Speaker 2: Not his stuff, by the way, because that was cleaned

1857
01:28:49,560 --> 01:28:52,439
Speaker 2: out when he left, So yeah, he's he's taking from

1858
01:28:52,479 --> 01:28:55,400
Speaker 2: the fanly geez. One of the things missing was my

1859
01:28:55,479 --> 01:28:58,559
Speaker 2: mom's bracelet that she kept in a small box under

1860
01:28:58,560 --> 01:29:01,879
Speaker 2: some stuff in the closet. This bracelet was super special

1861
01:29:01,920 --> 01:29:05,320
Speaker 2: to her. Her parents were toxic af but my mom

1862
01:29:05,479 --> 01:29:08,519
Speaker 2: was really close to her English teacher slash mentor in

1863
01:29:08,600 --> 01:29:10,519
Speaker 2: high school, who was like a mom to her. Her

1864
01:29:10,560 --> 01:29:13,160
Speaker 2: teacher gave her that bracelet at her high school graduation,

1865
01:29:13,439 --> 01:29:16,800
Speaker 2: and my mom kept it all these years. Wow, my

1866
01:29:16,920 --> 01:29:20,160
Speaker 2: dad knew she treasured it, and who else would look

1867
01:29:20,200 --> 01:29:23,639
Speaker 2: in that specific place and take only a bracelet when

1868
01:29:23,680 --> 01:29:26,160
Speaker 2: there was other stuff in the house. She knew it

1869
01:29:26,200 --> 01:29:29,040
Speaker 2: was him too, but he always played dumb. The divorce

1870
01:29:29,160 --> 01:29:31,840
Speaker 2: was finalized and we didn't see my dad after that.

1871
01:29:31,920 --> 01:29:34,960
Speaker 2: My mom never got it back. Last June she got

1872
01:29:35,000 --> 01:29:38,479
Speaker 2: the VID and unfortunately didn't make it. Oh No, I

1873
01:29:38,720 --> 01:29:42,080
Speaker 2: was broken over that. Still am I guess glad at

1874
01:29:42,160 --> 01:29:45,160
Speaker 2: least me, my sister, and my stepdad have each other

1875
01:29:45,200 --> 01:29:48,160
Speaker 2: for support. Around October, my sister told me that my

1876
01:29:48,280 --> 01:29:50,320
Speaker 2: dad wants to talk to me, so she gave him

1877
01:29:50,320 --> 01:29:53,120
Speaker 2: my number. He apologized for being a piece of shit

1878
01:29:53,240 --> 01:29:55,960
Speaker 2: Dad and asked if we could meet to talk at

1879
01:29:55,960 --> 01:29:58,240
Speaker 2: his place. I was ready to straight up say no,

1880
01:29:58,560 --> 01:30:01,599
Speaker 2: but then I remembered he stole her bracelet and maybe

1881
01:30:01,640 --> 01:30:03,599
Speaker 2: there was a chance to get it back. I've asked

1882
01:30:03,600 --> 01:30:06,280
Speaker 2: my sister before to push him about it since they talk,

1883
01:30:06,439 --> 01:30:08,920
Speaker 2: but she only asked him once and left it at that.

1884
01:30:09,080 --> 01:30:11,719
Speaker 2: I decided I could handle one visit just to see

1885
01:30:11,880 --> 01:30:14,680
Speaker 2: if he has it, so I told him I'd hear

1886
01:30:14,760 --> 01:30:17,040
Speaker 2: him out. So yeah, I met at this place. We

1887
01:30:17,160 --> 01:30:20,280
Speaker 2: caught up on stuff. He told me his sorry story

1888
01:30:20,320 --> 01:30:23,080
Speaker 2: about being immature and too focused on stuff that wasn't

1889
01:30:23,120 --> 01:30:25,760
Speaker 2: more important than being a dad or whatever. I ended

1890
01:30:25,880 --> 01:30:29,320
Speaker 2: up bringing the bracelet up and how important that was

1891
01:30:29,439 --> 01:30:32,240
Speaker 2: to me since my mom's not here anymore. He kept

1892
01:30:32,240 --> 01:30:34,719
Speaker 2: trying to act like it wasn't him, until I said,

1893
01:30:34,760 --> 01:30:38,200
Speaker 2: the only way I'd consider having a father son relationship

1894
01:30:38,320 --> 01:30:40,479
Speaker 2: is if he just stopped with that and gave me

1895
01:30:40,560 --> 01:30:43,000
Speaker 2: my mom's bracelet, which also, like, if you're trying to

1896
01:30:43,080 --> 01:30:45,680
Speaker 2: like reconnect, why would you lie about that.

1897
01:30:45,800 --> 01:30:49,080
Speaker 1: Maybe it's like he's so embarrassed about it that he's

1898
01:30:49,160 --> 01:30:51,400
Speaker 1: like possible. He doesn't even want to admit it to himself.

1899
01:30:51,439 --> 01:30:52,800
Speaker 2: I don't know if it was valuable or if he

1900
01:30:52,880 --> 01:30:54,560
Speaker 2: sold it and he was like, oh, I like it.

1901
01:30:54,720 --> 01:30:57,479
Speaker 2: I sold him a long time ago. Yikes. But he

1902
01:30:57,600 --> 01:31:00,960
Speaker 2: finally gave in, and thank god he actually kept it

1903
01:31:01,000 --> 01:31:02,640
Speaker 2: instead of throwing it out. I wonder if it was

1904
01:31:02,680 --> 01:31:04,160
Speaker 2: maybe more of a spikee thing.

1905
01:31:04,400 --> 01:31:06,120
Speaker 1: Oh it was one hundred percent of spite, then, yeah,

1906
01:31:06,160 --> 01:31:08,599
Speaker 1: he was stealing it just to make his ex wife

1907
01:31:08,640 --> 01:31:09,280
Speaker 1: feel terrible.

1908
01:31:09,280 --> 01:31:11,559
Speaker 2: He apologized for taking it and knew that it was

1909
01:31:11,560 --> 01:31:14,000
Speaker 2: super childish. I was just happy to have it back,

1910
01:31:14,080 --> 01:31:16,920
Speaker 2: but mad my mom didn't get it before she passed away.

1911
01:31:17,040 --> 01:31:19,840
Speaker 2: I never guaranteed my dad a relationship. I just said

1912
01:31:19,840 --> 01:31:22,479
Speaker 2: I'd consider it, but I already made up my mind

1913
01:31:22,600 --> 01:31:25,080
Speaker 2: that I don't want anything to do with him. It's

1914
01:31:25,080 --> 01:31:27,519
Speaker 2: been months since our meeting, and my sister is pissed

1915
01:31:27,560 --> 01:31:30,080
Speaker 2: because my dad is disappointed I haven't talked to him.

1916
01:31:30,120 --> 01:31:32,439
Speaker 2: She says, I was a huge piece of crap for

1917
01:31:32,520 --> 01:31:35,840
Speaker 2: making him think we'd reconcile. My only goal was getting

1918
01:31:35,880 --> 01:31:38,200
Speaker 2: the bracelet back, and I wouldn't have talked to him

1919
01:31:38,240 --> 01:31:40,439
Speaker 2: in the first place if it wasn't for that. So

1920
01:31:40,800 --> 01:31:43,280
Speaker 2: that's why I wonder if I'm the a hole. My

1921
01:31:43,360 --> 01:31:45,840
Speaker 2: sister is biased here since she was little when they

1922
01:31:45,840 --> 01:31:49,320
Speaker 2: split up and has a different version of him. So

1923
01:31:49,880 --> 01:31:52,799
Speaker 2: I mean, I think the big question for everyone watching

1924
01:31:53,000 --> 01:31:55,920
Speaker 2: is is OP the A hole for you know, basically

1925
01:31:56,280 --> 01:31:58,840
Speaker 2: just getting the bracelet back and not building the relationship.

1926
01:31:58,880 --> 01:32:01,000
Speaker 1: I mean, I think the it's definitely the A hole,

1927
01:32:01,040 --> 01:32:04,280
Speaker 1: but it seems like he's trying to change. It does

1928
01:32:04,560 --> 01:32:08,040
Speaker 1: seems like he's trying to change, although he did continue

1929
01:32:08,080 --> 01:32:10,599
Speaker 1: lying about it when he initially asked. That's a red

1930
01:32:10,600 --> 01:32:12,960
Speaker 1: flag for me, maybe not. Maybe a red flag for

1931
01:32:13,240 --> 01:32:16,400
Speaker 1: that's pretty red flag. So if he lied about it

1932
01:32:16,439 --> 01:32:19,080
Speaker 1: a bunch of times before, we'll look conflict because he

1933
01:32:19,120 --> 01:32:22,519
Speaker 1: did eventually give it. But you know, it seems like

1934
01:32:22,560 --> 01:32:24,640
Speaker 1: he did so much terrible stuff in the past that

1935
01:32:24,800 --> 01:32:27,960
Speaker 1: I don't think OP needs to have a relationship with him. Yeah,

1936
01:32:27,960 --> 01:32:30,519
Speaker 1: and she didn't necessarily lie. She said she'd consider it,

1937
01:32:30,720 --> 01:32:32,960
Speaker 1: and she's done her consideration, decided not.

1938
01:32:33,240 --> 01:32:35,640
Speaker 2: And I think too that like we don't know the

1939
01:32:35,680 --> 01:32:38,479
Speaker 2: exact timeframe that this all happened in. I think I

1940
01:32:38,520 --> 01:32:40,000
Speaker 2: think they said a couple of weeks, so like this

1941
01:32:40,080 --> 01:32:42,800
Speaker 2: is a very fresh thing. Like op I mentioned when

1942
01:32:42,800 --> 01:32:45,360
Speaker 2: he was twelve that he basically accepted that his dad

1943
01:32:45,400 --> 01:32:47,600
Speaker 2: was not going to be engaged with him anymore. So

1944
01:32:47,760 --> 01:32:51,559
Speaker 2: like that's a lot many years in a few weeks.

1945
01:32:51,600 --> 01:32:54,000
Speaker 2: So I don't think he's a hole just because of

1946
01:32:54,040 --> 01:32:56,360
Speaker 2: the time it'll take. And like the dad, it is like, hey,

1947
01:32:56,400 --> 01:32:59,240
Speaker 2: you did years of damage. You have to put in

1948
01:32:59,400 --> 01:33:01,400
Speaker 2: a lot of time. I'm an effort to building that

1949
01:33:01,479 --> 01:33:03,680
Speaker 2: trust back if you want to, truly.

1950
01:33:03,400 --> 01:33:05,920
Speaker 1: And it's going to take time. I don't think opca hole.

1951
01:33:06,000 --> 01:33:08,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't either, But you know who's never the ahole.

1952
01:33:09,160 --> 01:33:13,120
Speaker 2: Our beautiful commenters comment your stories and tell us the freak.

1953
01:33:12,920 --> 01:33:15,320
Speaker 1: Up things your parents did do. My uber driver just

1954
01:33:15,360 --> 01:33:17,920
Speaker 1: got into a wreck, so I left. I probably should

1955
01:33:17,920 --> 01:33:19,960
Speaker 1: have stayed, but I don't want to am I the

1956
01:33:20,000 --> 01:33:21,920
Speaker 1: a whole. I don't care if you're bleeding out. Oh

1957
01:33:21,920 --> 01:33:23,599
Speaker 1: I'm about to die. Well, I'm about to be late

1958
01:33:23,640 --> 01:33:26,000
Speaker 1: for my meeting. Yeah, I have brunch with Carla. You

1959
01:33:26,040 --> 01:33:28,839
Speaker 1: can deal with your afterlife. I gotta deal with this life.

1960
01:33:28,920 --> 01:33:31,840
Speaker 1: I spent sixty dollars on a ride out of town

1961
01:33:31,920 --> 01:33:34,320
Speaker 1: towards a casino tonight. We needed to take a turn,

1962
01:33:34,400 --> 01:33:37,800
Speaker 1: but emergency vehicles were blocking the highway exit. Oddly enough,

1963
01:33:38,040 --> 01:33:41,040
Speaker 1: there were dudes racing their cars to the exit before mine,

1964
01:33:41,080 --> 01:33:43,400
Speaker 1: so we looped around and found ourselves on a long

1965
01:33:43,479 --> 01:33:45,840
Speaker 1: stretch of side road peril. It's in the main route.

1966
01:33:45,840 --> 01:33:47,880
Speaker 1: This part of the area is a weird mix of

1967
01:33:47,920 --> 01:33:51,160
Speaker 1: warehouses with suburbs out of the city. This long road

1968
01:33:51,200 --> 01:33:54,200
Speaker 1: is apparently perfect for street racing, and we end up

1969
01:33:54,200 --> 01:33:57,679
Speaker 1: going one way while cars are burning down the other lanes.

1970
01:33:57,760 --> 01:33:59,880
Speaker 1: Kind of cool looking. Actually, it seems like a big

1971
01:34:00,080 --> 01:34:00,960
Speaker 1: Friday night party.

1972
01:34:01,200 --> 01:34:03,799
Speaker 2: It is kind of cool. Okey but super annoying.

1973
01:34:03,840 --> 01:34:06,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, super annoying if you're an Uber driver trying to

1974
01:34:06,080 --> 01:34:08,439
Speaker 1: not kill your passengers. So we passed the end of

1975
01:34:08,479 --> 01:34:11,160
Speaker 1: the line where kids are lined up before taking off,

1976
01:34:11,200 --> 01:34:13,960
Speaker 1: and one of them crosses in front of us after

1977
01:34:14,040 --> 01:34:17,719
Speaker 1: his run to get in, and we smash. Oh god,

1978
01:34:18,160 --> 01:34:22,000
Speaker 1: and it felt so good. Smash. Now. The Uber driver

1979
01:34:22,160 --> 01:34:24,760
Speaker 1: might have been going ten miles per hour faster than

1980
01:34:24,760 --> 01:34:26,720
Speaker 1: he should have been, but with all the chaos, it

1981
01:34:26,720 --> 01:34:29,479
Speaker 1: seems safe enough. As he hit the brakes the ralphee

1982
01:34:29,520 --> 01:34:32,719
Speaker 1: on the bus, I'm in danger, meme a cross my mind.

1983
01:34:32,800 --> 01:34:34,879
Speaker 1: I'm sure everyone else who has been in an accident

1984
01:34:35,000 --> 01:34:37,320
Speaker 1: knows that slow motion feeling. I get out of the

1985
01:34:37,360 --> 01:34:39,680
Speaker 1: back and ask everyone if they are okay. And it

1986
01:34:39,720 --> 01:34:42,639
Speaker 1: was obvious that there was some bad cosmetic damage, maybe

1987
01:34:42,680 --> 01:34:45,800
Speaker 1: some structural, but nobody was hurt at this point. My

1988
01:34:45,920 --> 01:34:49,800
Speaker 1: destination is a mile away and last call is less

1989
01:34:49,840 --> 01:34:50,400
Speaker 1: than an hour.

1990
01:34:50,600 --> 01:34:55,240
Speaker 2: Man's got his priorities. I gotta get drunk. Come on.

1991
01:34:55,640 --> 01:34:57,760
Speaker 1: I look at the driver and tell him I am

1992
01:34:57,760 --> 01:35:00,160
Speaker 1: not mad at him at all, and he can have

1993
01:35:00,200 --> 01:35:03,360
Speaker 1: my number, but I'm not sticking around. The racers seem cool,

1994
01:35:03,439 --> 01:35:05,760
Speaker 1: But did I leave him in a dangerous position. I

1995
01:35:05,800 --> 01:35:08,880
Speaker 1: don't think so. Nobody wants the police crashing the party,

1996
01:35:08,920 --> 01:35:10,840
Speaker 1: and I simply did not want to be involved to

1997
01:35:10,920 --> 01:35:13,439
Speaker 1: that point. So would I be the asshole if I reported?

1998
01:35:13,640 --> 01:35:18,280
Speaker 2: Though? In the app to get find money back, not.

1999
01:35:18,120 --> 01:35:22,360
Speaker 1: Only does he leave the driver to get a drink,

2000
01:35:22,400 --> 01:35:24,240
Speaker 1: but he wants to report the driver too.

2001
01:35:24,560 --> 01:35:25,839
Speaker 2: That's funny.

2002
01:35:25,920 --> 01:35:29,000
Speaker 1: He took me nineteen of the twenty miles, but then again,

2003
01:35:29,160 --> 01:35:31,879
Speaker 1: I did have to walk, and sixty bucks is sixty

2004
01:35:31,880 --> 01:35:34,719
Speaker 1: bucks for me. Then again, he may need it more. Three,

2005
01:35:34,880 --> 01:35:36,840
Speaker 1: I'm not going to lie and pretend I was hurt

2006
01:35:36,920 --> 01:35:40,000
Speaker 1: or anything, so that is off the table. Okay, Edit, hey'all,

2007
01:35:40,120 --> 01:35:43,200
Speaker 1: it's sober and not rattled me. It is legal for

2008
01:35:43,240 --> 01:35:46,200
Speaker 1: a passenger to leave the scene per my state's law. Okay,

2009
01:35:46,200 --> 01:35:46,880
Speaker 1: so what do you think?

2010
01:35:47,040 --> 01:35:51,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean like ultimately kind of ope, he was uninvolved.

2011
01:35:52,000 --> 01:35:53,920
Speaker 2: I feel like low Key is kind of out of

2012
01:35:53,960 --> 01:35:57,120
Speaker 2: their hands, and the driver wasn't hurt. If someone was hurt, definitely,

2013
01:35:57,160 --> 01:35:59,519
Speaker 2: it's like, okay, wait for an ambulance like something. But yeah,

2014
01:35:59,520 --> 01:36:01,519
Speaker 2: it's like, no one hurt. This is now just an

2015
01:36:01,560 --> 01:36:03,599
Speaker 2: issue between the two of them because it's the cars,

2016
01:36:03,760 --> 01:36:05,880
Speaker 2: right so to me, I'm like, yeah, like go ahead

2017
01:36:05,880 --> 01:36:08,280
Speaker 2: and leave, like there's nothing you can really do on

2018
01:36:08,320 --> 01:36:11,800
Speaker 2: the on the refund, the reporting, I mean, you didn't

2019
01:36:11,800 --> 01:36:13,760
Speaker 2: get into a crash. Yeah, it's a tough one. I

2020
01:36:13,800 --> 01:36:16,560
Speaker 2: mean like if the Uber driver, because of their negligence,

2021
01:36:16,600 --> 01:36:18,439
Speaker 2: caused a crash, for sure, like give me a give

2022
01:36:18,479 --> 01:36:20,120
Speaker 2: me a refund at a bare minimum.

2023
01:36:20,160 --> 01:36:24,519
Speaker 1: Right, If it happened to me, I probably wouldn't try

2024
01:36:24,560 --> 01:36:26,840
Speaker 1: to get my money back from Nuber. Me four years

2025
01:36:26,880 --> 01:36:29,800
Speaker 1: ago might have college me sixty bucks and sixty bucks

2026
01:36:29,800 --> 01:36:31,680
Speaker 1: depending on how it hurt my neck is I might

2027
01:36:31,720 --> 01:36:34,880
Speaker 1: be like, called Jacob dot com, let me get some

2028
01:36:34,960 --> 01:36:37,640
Speaker 1: lawsuit money out of this, but probably not now, and

2029
01:36:37,680 --> 01:36:39,400
Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't have done it that honestly.

2030
01:36:39,600 --> 01:36:43,519
Speaker 2: Yeah, is the money coming out of the Uber driver

2031
01:36:43,840 --> 01:36:44,679
Speaker 2: or from Uber?

2032
01:36:44,880 --> 01:36:48,160
Speaker 1: I think coming out of Uber because usually the drivers

2033
01:36:48,200 --> 01:36:51,040
Speaker 1: are insured, That's what I'm saying. But they probably might

2034
01:36:51,120 --> 01:36:52,639
Speaker 1: lose their driving thing.

2035
01:36:52,920 --> 01:36:55,679
Speaker 2: Actually yeah, wow, that's like so much worse. I probably

2036
01:36:55,680 --> 01:36:58,200
Speaker 2: wouldn't report. Yeah, I don't think that's the move, which

2037
01:36:58,280 --> 01:36:59,439
Speaker 2: doesn't that op was just.

2038
01:36:59,400 --> 01:37:01,800
Speaker 1: Asking, as I contemplate it more, I am going to

2039
01:37:01,840 --> 01:37:03,919
Speaker 1: seek my money back if that makes me an asshole,

2040
01:37:03,920 --> 01:37:06,639
Speaker 1: so be it. I consider it justice. I'm the one

2041
01:37:06,640 --> 01:37:08,800
Speaker 1: who paid for the service that was not fulfilled. I'm

2042
01:37:08,800 --> 01:37:10,720
Speaker 1: the one sitting next to a crumpled door, and it

2043
01:37:10,800 --> 01:37:14,120
Speaker 1: was at risk of both drivers being stupid. Screw both

2044
01:37:14,120 --> 01:37:14,719
Speaker 1: of those guys.

2045
01:37:14,880 --> 01:37:18,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I totally herop in that perspective, like

2046
01:37:18,200 --> 01:37:20,639
Speaker 2: you were involved in an accident and the driver's going

2047
01:37:20,680 --> 01:37:22,840
Speaker 2: faster than he should have. That is true. I guess

2048
01:37:22,840 --> 01:37:24,840
Speaker 2: I can't really blame there for me. It's like if

2049
01:37:24,840 --> 01:37:27,200
Speaker 2: there was no ultimate, like true harm done, I just

2050
01:37:27,240 --> 01:37:29,720
Speaker 2: had to walk a mile. It's a story, you know.

2051
01:37:29,840 --> 01:37:31,639
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not one to like go and leave

2052
01:37:31,720 --> 01:37:34,000
Speaker 1: bad reviews even when things are bad. I was just like,

2053
01:37:34,160 --> 01:37:36,280
Speaker 1: I feel like it takes more mental energy than it's worth.

2054
01:37:36,320 --> 01:37:37,000
Speaker 2: But what would you do?

2055
01:37:37,040 --> 01:37:39,160
Speaker 1: Would you leave a bad review or would you try

2056
01:37:39,200 --> 01:37:41,639
Speaker 1: to get your money back from this crashed uber? Put

2057
01:37:41,680 --> 01:37:43,200
Speaker 1: your answers in the comments below.

2058
01:37:43,280 --> 01:37:45,320
Speaker 2: We just love hearing from you in general. We'd love

2059
01:37:45,360 --> 01:37:47,400
Speaker 2: to see your comments. See you on the next ste