WEBVTT - Second Cup: You chose this

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is for when you are feeling stressed or annoyed

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<v Speaker 1>about work you have to do, remind yourself that you

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<v Speaker 1>chose this connect with what drew you to the work

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<v Speaker 1>in the first place, to provide renewed motivation or at

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<v Speaker 1>least tolerance for the task at hand. So I love

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<v Speaker 1>writing books, and in particular I love figuring out new

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<v Speaker 1>truths about how people spend their time and how we

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<v Speaker 1>can spend our time to make life more meaningful and enjoyable.

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<v Speaker 1>When I opened the giant box that came in the

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<v Speaker 1>mail a few weeks ago to see the first hardcover

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<v Speaker 1>copies of my latest book, Tranquility by Tuesday, I was

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<v Speaker 1>just flooded with realization that, Wow, this is what I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to be when I was growing up. But it

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<v Speaker 1>turns out that books don't sell themselves. So I have

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<v Speaker 1>spent a reasonable amount of time over the past few

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<v Speaker 1>months figuring out how I can share the book with

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<v Speaker 1>as large an audience as possible. That means managing the

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<v Speaker 1>logistics of various video conference platforms for interviews keeping track

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<v Speaker 1>of marketing email schedules, and generally getting tired of hearing

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<v Speaker 1>myself talk. So I keep reminding myself, I chose this.

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<v Speaker 1>I get to write books for a living. My whole life.

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<v Speaker 1>I've wanted to be a writer, and here I am.

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<v Speaker 1>People sometimes even pay me to speak about the topics

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<v Speaker 1>in my book. I am very grateful for that. It

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't make getting stuck in O'Hare on the way home

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<v Speaker 1>from a speech any more enjoyable, but it does keep

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<v Speaker 1>it in perspective. I am guessing if you are human,

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<v Speaker 1>there are parts of your job that you don't like,

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<v Speaker 1>or parts that stress you out. Maybe you are a

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<v Speaker 1>chef at an amazing bakery, which is your dream job,

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<v Speaker 1>and this requires you to be at work before dawn

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<v Speaker 1>every day that you are working. This is not your

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<v Speaker 1>favorite hour of the day. Or maybe you are a

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<v Speaker 1>physician who loves taking care of patience, but you find

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<v Speaker 1>the unpredictability of weekends when you are on call incredibly stressful.

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<v Speaker 1>Or maybe you are a parent who is thrilled to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to care for your kids full time, but

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<v Speaker 1>would it please be possible for your two year old

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<v Speaker 1>not to scream in the car every afternoon when you

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<v Speaker 1>have to wake him up from nap to go get

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<v Speaker 1>your six year old at school. Even in a job

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<v Speaker 1>you love, it is likely that there are parts of

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<v Speaker 1>your job that you don't love. These parts are stressful, tedious, inconvenient.

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<v Speaker 1>When you are feeling annoyed by these parts of your job,

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<v Speaker 1>it can be helpful to repeat these words, you chose this,

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<v Speaker 1>I chose this. People get sick on weekends just like

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<v Speaker 1>they get sick during the week People want their pastries

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<v Speaker 1>at seven am, not seven pm, and so early hours

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<v Speaker 1>are just the nature of the baking life. Toddlers are toddlers,

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<v Speaker 1>and if you are a toddler's full time caregiver, you

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<v Speaker 1>get the tantrums along with the snuggles. So best to

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<v Speaker 1>just keep your eye on those snuggles. When you reconnect

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<v Speaker 1>to what you love about your work, it is easier

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<v Speaker 1>to get through the parts of your job that you

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<v Speaker 1>don't love. Remember what drew you to the work in

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<v Speaker 1>the first place. Consider what you are learning from this

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<v Speaker 1>work and acknowledge the impact you are having. Reflect on

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<v Speaker 1>the future opportunities that today's work is opening up for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Remind yourself of what appealed to you in the first place,

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<v Speaker 1>so you can find motivation to bring the work to completion.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, if you realize that your reasons for choosing

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<v Speaker 1>your work are outweighed by its downsides, maybe it's time

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<v Speaker 1>to consider looking for a new job or changing the

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<v Speaker 1>situation in some other way. There's really no shame in

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<v Speaker 1>this at all, but the main idea is to remember

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<v Speaker 1>that you have choices. If you live somewhere that you

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<v Speaker 1>are free to listen to this podcast, then most likely

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<v Speaker 1>you have a lot of control over your life. The

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<v Speaker 1>universe didn't assign you this work. You chose it, so

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<v Speaker 1>stay connected to your motivations for choosing it, or realize

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<v Speaker 1>that you can choose something different. I realize I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to do anything more than writing, and so it's

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<v Speaker 1>all good one way or another. In the meantime, this

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<v Speaker 1>is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the

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<v Speaker 1>most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear

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<v Speaker 1>from you. You can send me your tips, your questions,

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<v Speaker 1>number four then Breakfast Pod. You can also shoot me

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<v Speaker 1>an email at Before Breakfast Podcasts at iHeartMedia dot com

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<v Speaker 1>that before Breakfast is spelled out with all the letters,

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<v Speaker 1>thanks so much, should I look forward to staying in touch.

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