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Thanks for listening to 34 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 3: our podcast and thanks for supporting the ministry. If you 35 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:39,840 Speaker 3: enjoy today's message, why don't you be a blessing and 36 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:42,560 Speaker 3: share it with a friend. We appreciate you and pray 37 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:44,440 Speaker 3: put God's very best in your life. 38 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 5: God bless you were welcome here, always a joy to 39 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 5: come in ther homes each week, and thank you for 40 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:04,360 Speaker 5: letting us spend this next half hour or so with you, 41 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:07,120 Speaker 5: and we believe that you'll be blessed and encouraged. 42 00:02:07,280 --> 00:02:08,920 Speaker 3: I can tell you that God is on your side. 43 00:02:08,960 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 3: He's got a good plan for your life, and when 44 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 3: you serve him, He'll take you places that you've never 45 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 3: even dreamed of. And if you're ever in our area, 46 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:17,800 Speaker 3: come out and see us. We give you a personal invitation. 47 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:19,680 Speaker 3: We'd love to have you be a part of one 48 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 3: of our services. Thanks for tuning in today. And I 49 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:24,400 Speaker 3: like to get started each week with something kind of funny. 50 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 3: And I heard about this elderly lady. She came in 51 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:30,160 Speaker 3: to the back of a country church one Sunday morning, 52 00:02:30,240 --> 00:02:32,959 Speaker 3: and this friendly usher greeted her and said, good morning, ma'am. 53 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 3: Where would you like to sit? She said, I want 54 00:02:35,639 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 3: to sit on the very front row. He said, oh, no, ma'am, 55 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 3: you don't want to do that, and he kind of whispered. 56 00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:43,480 Speaker 3: He said, this pastor is very boring. He'll put you asleep. 57 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 3: Let me seek you somewhere else. She looked appalled. She said, sir, 58 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 3: do you know who I am? He said no. She said, 59 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:55,160 Speaker 3: I am the pastor's mother. He put his head down 60 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:57,000 Speaker 3: and kind of grimaced, and finally he looked up and 61 00:02:57,040 --> 00:02:59,359 Speaker 3: he said, ma'am, do you know who I am? She 62 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:05,480 Speaker 3: said no. He said, thank God, all right, hold up 63 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 3: your bibles and say it with me. Ready, this is 64 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 3: my Bible. I am what it says I am. I 65 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:13,799 Speaker 3: have what it says I have. I can do what 66 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:16,760 Speaker 3: it says I can do. Today I will be taught 67 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:21,240 Speaker 3: the word of God. I boldly confess my mind is alert, 68 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:24,919 Speaker 3: my heart is receptive. I will never be the same. 69 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:29,760 Speaker 3: In Jesus' name, God bless you. I want to talk 70 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:33,480 Speaker 3: to you about being kind and courteous and treating people 71 00:03:33,560 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 3: with respect. I believe how we treat people is one 72 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 3: of the most important things to God. In fact, you 73 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 3: can measure a person's spiritual maturity not by how many 74 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 3: scriptures they can quote, not by how many times they 75 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:52,040 Speaker 3: come to church. And although that's good, religious activity doesn't 76 00:03:52,120 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 3: necessarily impress God. It's how we treat other people. In 77 00:03:56,160 --> 00:04:00,160 Speaker 3: other words, am I being respectful to my wife, my 78 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 3: kind to my children, and my courteous to the man 79 00:04:03,400 --> 00:04:06,080 Speaker 3: on the freeway, and my friendly to the lady at 80 00:04:06,120 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 3: the grocery store. Really it boils down to this, do 81 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:14,360 Speaker 3: I have a gentle, caring spirit? And unfortunately much of 82 00:04:14,440 --> 00:04:17,840 Speaker 3: our society is not like this Today. Too many people 83 00:04:17,960 --> 00:04:22,240 Speaker 3: are rude, They're harsh and insensitive. They'll blow right by 84 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 3: you and not give you the time of day. They'll 85 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:28,080 Speaker 3: demand things from your bark orders at you instead of 86 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:32,720 Speaker 3: politely asking, I mean, where has common courtesy gone? Where 87 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 3: has been understanding? And going out of our way to 88 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:38,960 Speaker 3: show our love gone? And the scripture says here in 89 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 3: one Corinthians thirteen, verse five that love is not rude. 90 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:47,680 Speaker 3: One translation says love has good manners. Now I want 91 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 3: to challenge you today to develop a greater gentleness, a 92 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:56,479 Speaker 3: greater kindness, a greater understanding. You may not agree with everybody. 93 00:04:56,960 --> 00:04:59,120 Speaker 3: They may do some things that you don't like, but 94 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:01,760 Speaker 3: that doesn't give you the right to be rude. Doesn't 95 00:05:01,760 --> 00:05:03,920 Speaker 3: give us the right to look down on people and 96 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:07,039 Speaker 3: treat them as if they were second class. Now, Jesus 97 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 3: said by this, well, all men know that you're my disciples. 98 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:14,599 Speaker 3: When you love one another, there should be something different 99 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:18,479 Speaker 3: about us. We should be the kindest, most friendly, most 100 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 3: considerate people around. That's one of the best witnesses we 101 00:05:21,600 --> 00:05:24,359 Speaker 3: could ever have. And if this is going to happen, 102 00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:27,360 Speaker 3: then we need to watch the way we say things. 103 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 3: Be aware of your body language. I read where communication 104 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 3: is sixty percent nonverbal. In other words, your body language, 105 00:05:37,680 --> 00:05:41,240 Speaker 3: your facial expressions, the tone of your voice. All of 106 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 3: these things are communicating even more than what we're saying, 107 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:47,640 Speaker 3: and that means we need to learn to keep a 108 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:50,960 Speaker 3: pleasant demeanor. We need to learn to smile more often, 109 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 3: and when you're under pressure. When you're under stress, you 110 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:58,280 Speaker 3: need to especially be on guard, be sensitive, and do 111 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 3: your best not to hurt of the people's feelings. Too often, 112 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 3: we just blow in and we say something very matter 113 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:07,440 Speaker 3: of a fact, and we don't realize it, but it's 114 00:06:07,520 --> 00:06:09,760 Speaker 3: not coming out like we want it to. It's coming 115 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:12,680 Speaker 3: out much more harsh, and that could all be avoided 116 00:06:12,880 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 3: if we just be a little more sensitive and a 117 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:18,600 Speaker 3: little more tactful in how we say things. I know 118 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:21,400 Speaker 3: the other day I came home and I was very tired. 119 00:06:21,560 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 3: I'd had a long day. Victoria asked me a question 120 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:27,320 Speaker 3: and I did just what I'm talking about. I just 121 00:06:27,400 --> 00:06:30,360 Speaker 3: blurted out the answer, very matter of fact. I didn't 122 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:33,080 Speaker 3: say anything wrong. I wasn't trying to be rude, but 123 00:06:33,240 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 3: my whole demeanor, my body language, the tone of my 124 00:06:36,800 --> 00:06:40,000 Speaker 3: voice was basically saying, Hey, don't bother me. Can't you 125 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 3: see I'm tired. I want to be by myself now. 126 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:45,040 Speaker 3: Quit looking at me like I'm a sinner. I made 127 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:49,360 Speaker 3: one mistake, how about I give you the microphone. We're 128 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:52,800 Speaker 3: gona see what you did wrong this way. But after 129 00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 3: about two hours, when I noticed that Victoria wasn't speaking 130 00:06:56,279 --> 00:07:00,719 Speaker 3: to me, I realized maybe I'd been a little sensitive. 131 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:02,799 Speaker 3: And now, of course I've pled my case. I said, Victoria, 132 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:05,160 Speaker 3: I didn't say anything wrong. She said, yeah, but you 133 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:07,560 Speaker 3: should have heard how you said it. See, it was 134 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:10,560 Speaker 3: my voice, tones, it was my demeanor, And that's what happens. 135 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 3: Many times. We may be saying the right thing, but 136 00:07:14,320 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 3: how we say it is equally important. Be sensitive and 137 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:21,480 Speaker 3: learn to say things in a pleasant tone of voice. Well, 138 00:07:21,520 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 3: you say, Joe, my personality is just a little bit stronger. 139 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:27,120 Speaker 3: I'm just real straightforward. I believe in telling it like 140 00:07:27,200 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 3: it is. No, do not let your personality be an 141 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:34,320 Speaker 3: excuse to be rude. You can be truthful, but you 142 00:07:34,440 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 3: can You can be truthful, but you can be tactful 143 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 3: as well. You need to watch the way you say things. 144 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:44,760 Speaker 3: You need to make sure you even need to say it. 145 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:46,800 Speaker 3: A lot of times we say things just to make 146 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 3: us feel good. You may know you're right and you 147 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:52,280 Speaker 3: know the other person's wrong, but that doesn't mean that 148 00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 3: you have to correct them. You need to ask yourself, 149 00:07:55,320 --> 00:07:58,200 Speaker 3: is this going to benefit anybody? Is this really necessary? 150 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:00,680 Speaker 3: Are you just doing it to prove your point to 151 00:08:00,760 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 3: make yourself feel good. Now, when you go around putting 152 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:07,720 Speaker 3: people down, being harsh, being rude, you will always walk 153 00:08:07,760 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 3: away from there feeling worse about yourself. Right down in here, 154 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 3: you'll have that nagging feeling just gnawing away at you. 155 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:16,160 Speaker 3: You'd been much better off to just leave it alone. 156 00:08:16,760 --> 00:08:18,400 Speaker 3: And you may have a good reason to jump in 157 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 3: there and set the record straight. But understand this, if 158 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 3: you're right and you're rude, then you're wrong. It's all 159 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:30,000 Speaker 3: in how you present it. Proverbs eleven seventeen says you 160 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:34,320 Speaker 3: do yourself a favor when you're kind. Notice you don't 161 00:08:34,400 --> 00:08:36,679 Speaker 3: just do somebody else a favor when you're good to them. 162 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 3: But when you show a little mercy, when you overlook 163 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:43,200 Speaker 3: a fault, when you have that gentle spirit, you're doing 164 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:46,640 Speaker 3: yourself a favor. I know one time years ago, I 165 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:49,439 Speaker 3: was at this restaurant and when it came time to pay, 166 00:08:49,559 --> 00:08:52,200 Speaker 3: all I had was a one hundred dollars bill. There 167 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:55,439 Speaker 3: was a sign up front that said no bills over twenty. Well, 168 00:08:55,520 --> 00:08:57,000 Speaker 3: I didn't see it at the time. And so when 169 00:08:57,040 --> 00:08:58,920 Speaker 3: I went up there to pay, you would have thought 170 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:02,040 Speaker 3: I just put the company out of business. The lady 171 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:04,559 Speaker 3: behind the cash register was so rude. She said, sir, 172 00:09:04,760 --> 00:09:07,640 Speaker 3: can't you see no bill's over twenty. I said, I'm sorry, ma'am, 173 00:09:07,679 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 3: I didn't see it. She called the manager over, and 174 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 3: I'll never forget. He looked at that one hundred dollar 175 00:09:12,200 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 3: bill and he went, give it here, I'll take it. No, 176 00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:20,439 Speaker 3: we need to be more understanding than that. When somebody 177 00:09:20,559 --> 00:09:23,800 Speaker 3: puts you out, when somebody inconveniences you, you need to 178 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:26,599 Speaker 3: ask yourself, hey, have I ever put anybody out? Have 179 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:29,440 Speaker 3: I ever made a mistake? If you'll learn to show 180 00:09:29,480 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 3: a little mercy, then you'll receive mercy. Even out here 181 00:09:32,880 --> 00:09:36,199 Speaker 3: on the freeways. It's amazing how impolite people can be. 182 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:39,319 Speaker 3: A couple of weeks ago, I saw two guys almost 183 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:42,079 Speaker 3: get into a fight because one man turned from the 184 00:09:42,160 --> 00:09:44,559 Speaker 3: wrong lane and this other man got right up on 185 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:47,200 Speaker 3: his bumper and he was telling him, honking his horn, 186 00:09:47,280 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 3: shaking his fists. So upset I wanted to ask him, hey, 187 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:53,000 Speaker 3: have you ever made a wrong turn? Have you ever 188 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:56,280 Speaker 3: cut anybody off? He looked bigger than me, so I didn't, 189 00:09:58,200 --> 00:10:01,079 Speaker 3: but we got learned to give people a little so 190 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:05,199 Speaker 3: a little mercy. It's funny. Sometimes somebody will jump in 191 00:10:05,280 --> 00:10:07,160 Speaker 3: front of us in traffic and we'll want to honk 192 00:10:07,280 --> 00:10:09,960 Speaker 3: and get upset, and then just a few minutes later, 193 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:14,679 Speaker 3: we'll cross four lanes of traffic to exit half of Houston, 194 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:17,439 Speaker 3: will be honking and we'll be thinking, come on, people, 195 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 3: give me a break. I'm on a human. 196 00:10:20,480 --> 00:10:20,560 Speaker 6: Now. 197 00:10:20,720 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 3: Learn to sew a little mercy, be a little kind, 198 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:26,040 Speaker 3: or have that gentle spirit. And we should never do 199 00:10:26,320 --> 00:10:29,880 Speaker 3: things or say things to be little a person. Never 200 00:10:30,040 --> 00:10:33,680 Speaker 3: make a person feel unimportant. For instance, maybe you're trying 201 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:36,440 Speaker 3: to explain something to somebody and they just can't seem 202 00:10:36,520 --> 00:10:39,480 Speaker 3: to catch on. Well, don't get all huffy and puffy 203 00:10:39,559 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 3: and try to make them feel like a loser. Be understanding. 204 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:46,160 Speaker 3: God has given us all different gifts, and there are 205 00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:48,719 Speaker 3: areas that you can pick up on very quickly. It's 206 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:50,520 Speaker 3: gonna take me a lot longer, and just the other 207 00:10:50,600 --> 00:10:54,359 Speaker 3: way around. We need to be understanding, keep the right attitude. 208 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:57,080 Speaker 3: I know people that are always trying to be little 209 00:10:57,080 --> 00:11:00,200 Speaker 3: to somebody. Really the problem is they're so insecure. Sure 210 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:02,840 Speaker 3: they do anything they can to put somebody else down. 211 00:11:03,600 --> 00:11:07,000 Speaker 3: Don't fall into that trap. The Bible says love covers 212 00:11:07,080 --> 00:11:12,080 Speaker 3: a fault, love covers a weakness, and love never embarrasses anybody. 213 00:11:12,760 --> 00:11:15,640 Speaker 3: If somebody ask a dumb question in a business meeting, 214 00:11:15,679 --> 00:11:18,360 Speaker 3: a dumb question at school, you should do your best 215 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:21,200 Speaker 3: to smooth it over, cover for him, don't embarrass him. 216 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:24,160 Speaker 3: Or maybe you're up at that checkout counter and the 217 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:26,679 Speaker 3: clerk that's running that cash register can't seem to get 218 00:11:26,720 --> 00:11:29,720 Speaker 3: anything right. Maybe he's new. Well, I don't just stand 219 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:31,760 Speaker 3: right there and breathe down his throat and tap on 220 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:34,480 Speaker 3: the counter. Come on, buddy, no, give him a little 221 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:37,120 Speaker 3: bit of slack. Say hey, you know what, take your time, 222 00:11:37,320 --> 00:11:40,240 Speaker 3: it's okay. See what I'm saying is, learn to sew 223 00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:43,199 Speaker 3: a little mercy. After all, we've all been in those 224 00:11:43,240 --> 00:11:46,160 Speaker 3: situations before. I'm sure I'm not the only one that's 225 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:49,000 Speaker 3: ever asked a dumb question before. We've all had times 226 00:11:49,080 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 3: where we need a little mercy, we need a little understanding. 227 00:11:52,880 --> 00:11:55,280 Speaker 3: The other day, when we opened up this building, they 228 00:11:55,320 --> 00:11:57,360 Speaker 3: gave me a key to get in back here where 229 00:11:57,400 --> 00:11:59,880 Speaker 3: we park and it was this real odd looking key. 230 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:02,360 Speaker 3: It was kind of oblong, and I'd never seen anything 231 00:12:02,480 --> 00:12:04,880 Speaker 3: like this before, and so I came down one day 232 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:07,679 Speaker 3: during the week and I tried and tried to figure 233 00:12:07,679 --> 00:12:09,800 Speaker 3: out how this key is supposed to work, and I 234 00:12:09,920 --> 00:12:12,319 Speaker 3: had it jiggling around the doorknob, and I don't know. 235 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 3: I thought maybe something was gonna pop out, but I 236 00:12:14,520 --> 00:12:16,559 Speaker 3: just couldn't get it to work. And so finally I 237 00:12:16,640 --> 00:12:18,720 Speaker 3: had to go get the security guard and I told 238 00:12:18,800 --> 00:12:20,439 Speaker 3: him what I'd been doing. He said, well, let me 239 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 3: just go show you. So we came back over to 240 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:24,959 Speaker 3: the back door and he took my key and he 241 00:12:25,080 --> 00:12:27,000 Speaker 3: put it over to the right of the door on 242 00:12:27,080 --> 00:12:30,400 Speaker 3: this electronic keypad, and when he touched that, then the 243 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:34,599 Speaker 3: door just electronically opened. And when he realized what I 244 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:37,600 Speaker 3: had been doing, trying to put that key in the doorknob, 245 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:42,520 Speaker 3: he began to laugh and laugh, and then I started laughing, 246 00:12:42,800 --> 00:12:47,320 Speaker 3: but man, he could not quit laughing. And after a while, 247 00:12:47,480 --> 00:12:49,719 Speaker 3: I thought, I'm glad you're enjoying this, because we're sure 248 00:12:49,760 --> 00:12:58,280 Speaker 3: gonna miss you. But you should do your best and 249 00:12:58,400 --> 00:13:02,680 Speaker 3: never make anybody if kiel small. I felt about that big. 250 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:07,000 Speaker 3: And when somebody does something foolish, when somebody makes a mistake, 251 00:13:07,920 --> 00:13:10,640 Speaker 3: just remember with the same amount of mercy you show, 252 00:13:10,960 --> 00:13:13,160 Speaker 3: that's the same amount of mercy you're going to receive. 253 00:13:13,720 --> 00:13:17,160 Speaker 3: And we need to learn to be understanding. If something 254 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:19,839 Speaker 3: is not right, there's a way to correct it without 255 00:13:19,920 --> 00:13:22,760 Speaker 3: being rude and getting all upset. I was at a 256 00:13:22,840 --> 00:13:25,040 Speaker 3: fast food restaurant one time and this guy was up 257 00:13:25,080 --> 00:13:27,200 Speaker 3: at the counter and he was just having a fit. 258 00:13:27,320 --> 00:13:29,679 Speaker 3: He was so upset. He said, listen here, I've been 259 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:32,400 Speaker 3: here for ten minutes and I've watched three people leave 260 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:34,439 Speaker 3: that were behind me in line, and I demand to 261 00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:37,199 Speaker 3: know what's wrong. On and on he went, giving them 262 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:40,600 Speaker 3: an ear form, just making a big sine. No. Remember, 263 00:13:41,040 --> 00:13:43,920 Speaker 3: you may be right, but if you're rude, then you're wrong. 264 00:13:44,559 --> 00:13:47,400 Speaker 3: You need to learn to lower your voice tones, ask 265 00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:51,000 Speaker 3: in a respectful way. I found people will do more 266 00:13:51,040 --> 00:13:53,600 Speaker 3: for you if you're kind and courteous than if you're 267 00:13:53,640 --> 00:13:58,600 Speaker 3: rude and obnoxious. Politeness wins people over, not rudeness. Need 268 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:02,199 Speaker 3: to learn to be understand, not demanding. It's like that 269 00:14:02,320 --> 00:14:05,120 Speaker 3: guy heard about. He was up at the airline ticket counter, 270 00:14:05,559 --> 00:14:09,079 Speaker 3: ranning and raving to the ticket agent, complaining about why 271 00:14:09,160 --> 00:14:11,559 Speaker 3: it's taken so long, complaining about why she couldn't go 272 00:14:11,640 --> 00:14:14,679 Speaker 3: any faster, and as he continued to just holler and 273 00:14:14,760 --> 00:14:17,839 Speaker 3: scream and throw a big fit, this ticket agent was 274 00:14:17,960 --> 00:14:20,840 Speaker 3: just as calm and courteous and polite as she possibly 275 00:14:20,880 --> 00:14:23,640 Speaker 3: could be. Didn't even look like it bothered her. Well, 276 00:14:23,640 --> 00:14:25,280 Speaker 3: he went on his way, and the next guy in 277 00:14:25,360 --> 00:14:27,640 Speaker 3: line came up and he said, ma'am, I gotta tell you, 278 00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:29,960 Speaker 3: I am so impressed. You must be a good Christian. 279 00:14:30,200 --> 00:14:33,160 Speaker 3: That guy was so obnoxious, yet you were so polite 280 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:35,120 Speaker 3: to him. I don't know how you did it. She 281 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:37,440 Speaker 3: smiled and said, well, it wasn't that hard. See he's 282 00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:44,520 Speaker 3: going to Detroit, but his bags are going to Bangkok. Friends. 283 00:14:44,640 --> 00:14:50,760 Speaker 3: People respond to politeness, not rudeness. Proverbs sixteen twenty one 284 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:56,040 Speaker 3: says a mature person is known for his understanding. The 285 00:14:56,160 --> 00:15:00,840 Speaker 3: more pleasant his words, the more persuasive he is. Notice, 286 00:15:00,920 --> 00:15:03,760 Speaker 3: if you want to be more persuasive in your business meetings, 287 00:15:03,880 --> 00:15:07,560 Speaker 3: more persuasive with your clients, don't get loud, don't be 288 00:15:07,680 --> 00:15:12,800 Speaker 3: critical towards your competitors, Be pleasant, be courteous, be respectful. 289 00:15:13,360 --> 00:15:16,240 Speaker 3: You want to be more persuasive with your husband, more 290 00:15:16,320 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 3: persuasive with your children, more persuasive with the waiter at 291 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:22,400 Speaker 3: the restaurant. The whole key is in the tone of 292 00:15:22,440 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 3: your voice, it's in our demeanor, it's in our attitude. 293 00:15:25,240 --> 00:15:29,640 Speaker 3: We've got to learn to be friendly, respectful, considerate. Please understand, 294 00:15:30,000 --> 00:15:33,800 Speaker 3: you are never persuasive when you're route. We're never persuasive 295 00:15:33,840 --> 00:15:36,560 Speaker 3: when we're loud and obnoxious. You've got to make sure 296 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:40,760 Speaker 3: that your words are pleasant. It's politeness that changes people. 297 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:46,120 Speaker 3: It's being respectful, it's being understanding. I heard somebody say 298 00:15:46,480 --> 00:15:49,640 Speaker 3: you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. 299 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:52,840 Speaker 3: If you go around cyur all the time, spout in 300 00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:55,840 Speaker 3: your opinion, trying to straighten everybody else out, not only 301 00:15:56,000 --> 00:15:57,960 Speaker 3: are you not going to be a very good witness, 302 00:15:58,080 --> 00:16:00,360 Speaker 3: but people are not going to respond to that. I 303 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:04,400 Speaker 3: found if you give respect, you'll get respect. If you're 304 00:16:04,440 --> 00:16:07,080 Speaker 3: courteous to people, they'll be courteous to you. And if 305 00:16:07,120 --> 00:16:09,760 Speaker 3: you will have this gentle spirit and go ahead and 306 00:16:09,880 --> 00:16:11,720 Speaker 3: let the guy in front of you in traffic and 307 00:16:12,040 --> 00:16:14,520 Speaker 3: stay at that door ten or fifteen seconds and hold 308 00:16:14,560 --> 00:16:17,080 Speaker 3: it open for the people behind you. When you do that, 309 00:16:17,280 --> 00:16:19,360 Speaker 3: God will make sure that people are always good to you. 310 00:16:20,280 --> 00:16:22,240 Speaker 3: And we need to get in a habit of being 311 00:16:22,360 --> 00:16:26,240 Speaker 3: kind and considerate to everyone, not just the people we're 312 00:16:26,280 --> 00:16:29,440 Speaker 3: trying to impress, but even the people that can't do 313 00:16:29,600 --> 00:16:32,200 Speaker 3: anything for us, even the people that are just passing 314 00:16:32,320 --> 00:16:35,520 Speaker 3: through our lives. I believe this is really the test 315 00:16:35,640 --> 00:16:38,000 Speaker 3: of our faith, because in a sense, we can all 316 00:16:38,080 --> 00:16:40,560 Speaker 3: be nice and kind to our friends and to our 317 00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:43,920 Speaker 3: coworkers because we want to keep a good reputation. But 318 00:16:44,040 --> 00:16:46,160 Speaker 3: how about that man on the freeway that wants to 319 00:16:46,200 --> 00:16:48,520 Speaker 3: get in front of you, or how about that lady 320 00:16:48,600 --> 00:16:51,160 Speaker 3: that calls during dinner time trying to sell you something 321 00:16:51,320 --> 00:16:54,720 Speaker 3: that you're not interested in. In other words, the people 322 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:58,000 Speaker 3: that can't do anything for us will probably never meet them. 323 00:16:58,480 --> 00:17:01,520 Speaker 3: Nobody's watching, nobody's to give us any credit, And the 324 00:17:01,600 --> 00:17:03,680 Speaker 3: easy thing is to just blow them off and say, hey, 325 00:17:03,720 --> 00:17:06,320 Speaker 3: you know what kind of stay away from me. No, 326 00:17:06,440 --> 00:17:10,000 Speaker 3: I'm challenging you today to develop a habit of being friendly. 327 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:13,480 Speaker 3: Make an effort to smile at people, take time to 328 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:16,600 Speaker 3: compliment them, take time to hold the door open for them. 329 00:17:17,160 --> 00:17:19,200 Speaker 3: Don't be in such a rush in life, in such 330 00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:22,600 Speaker 3: a hurry, that you miss these opportunities to sow seeds 331 00:17:22,640 --> 00:17:26,399 Speaker 3: of kindness. We should be considerate everywhere we go, and 332 00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 3: we need to make sure that we never feel like 333 00:17:28,880 --> 00:17:32,800 Speaker 3: we're too important or too busy to say please and 334 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:37,840 Speaker 3: thank you. Learn to express your appreciation. Even if you're 335 00:17:37,920 --> 00:17:40,640 Speaker 3: paying somebody to do something for you, even if they're 336 00:17:40,680 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 3: one of your employees, that doesn't mean you don't have 337 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 3: to thank them. That doesn't mean you can just take 338 00:17:45,840 --> 00:17:48,920 Speaker 3: them for granted. I've had people say, Joe, I pay 339 00:17:49,000 --> 00:17:51,560 Speaker 3: them good, they better work hard. The no have you 340 00:17:51,640 --> 00:17:55,040 Speaker 3: ever thought about that person is made in the image 341 00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:58,719 Speaker 3: of Almighty God. He's got feelings, she's got feelings. They 342 00:17:58,800 --> 00:18:03,000 Speaker 3: need encouragement, they needed your approval. Take time to thank them, 343 00:18:03,080 --> 00:18:05,520 Speaker 3: be grateful, Say hey, I appreciate all you do for us. 344 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:05,920 Speaker 2: Thank you. 345 00:18:06,800 --> 00:18:10,200 Speaker 3: See, just because we may be over somebody, just because 346 00:18:10,240 --> 00:18:12,720 Speaker 3: you may be in management, that doesn't give us the 347 00:18:12,840 --> 00:18:15,600 Speaker 3: right to treat people under us like their second class. 348 00:18:16,240 --> 00:18:18,320 Speaker 3: In fact, God is going to hold us to a 349 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:22,000 Speaker 3: higher standard. To whom much is given, much is required. 350 00:18:22,640 --> 00:18:25,680 Speaker 3: And the truth is the more authority we have, the 351 00:18:25,800 --> 00:18:28,840 Speaker 3: more humility we should walk in. And the fact is 352 00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:31,040 Speaker 3: the same God that brought us up can be the 353 00:18:31,119 --> 00:18:33,720 Speaker 3: same God that'll bring us down. And one thing that 354 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 3: God will never tolerate is that someone that abuses their 355 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:41,440 Speaker 3: position of authority. If you're in leadership today and you 356 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:43,640 Speaker 3: want to stay in leadership, you need to make sure 357 00:18:43,720 --> 00:18:46,960 Speaker 3: you treat people right. It's funny. I've seen people they're 358 00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:49,880 Speaker 3: so nice and kind, but you give them a little 359 00:18:49,920 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 3: bit of power, they get a little authority, and all 360 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:54,359 Speaker 3: of a sudden, it goes to their head. They start 361 00:18:54,400 --> 00:18:57,919 Speaker 3: bossing people around, being rude, being harsh. That's never going 362 00:18:57,960 --> 00:19:01,919 Speaker 3: to last. Now, treat your employees good, parents, treat your 363 00:19:02,080 --> 00:19:05,880 Speaker 3: children good. If you're a coach or a teacher, treat 364 00:19:05,960 --> 00:19:10,560 Speaker 3: those students respectfully. God's going to hold us responsible. And really, 365 00:19:10,760 --> 00:19:13,879 Speaker 3: this all needs to start at home. The atmosphere of 366 00:19:13,960 --> 00:19:17,560 Speaker 3: our homes should be peaceful, should be one of respect 367 00:19:17,680 --> 00:19:22,440 Speaker 3: and honor husbands and wives. If we're saying disrespectful things 368 00:19:22,480 --> 00:19:25,720 Speaker 3: to each other, all we're doing is teaching our children 369 00:19:26,040 --> 00:19:29,399 Speaker 3: that it's okay to be disrespectful. If we're making cutting, 370 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:33,000 Speaker 3: sarcastic remarks, we can guarantee our children are going to 371 00:19:33,040 --> 00:19:36,320 Speaker 3: grow up doing the exact same thing. See more is 372 00:19:36,480 --> 00:19:40,480 Speaker 3: caught than taught. Your children are not going to necessarily 373 00:19:40,560 --> 00:19:42,720 Speaker 3: do what you tell them to do. They're going to 374 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:45,240 Speaker 3: do what they see and what they hear you doing. 375 00:19:45,880 --> 00:19:47,920 Speaker 3: You can tell them all day long be kind, treat 376 00:19:47,960 --> 00:19:52,440 Speaker 3: people with respect. But if they see you being disrespectful 377 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:55,480 Speaker 3: to their mother, to their father, to another family member, 378 00:19:55,760 --> 00:19:57,720 Speaker 3: you're giving them a green light to do it as well. 379 00:19:58,359 --> 00:20:00,159 Speaker 3: Now there should be a sense of honor in our 380 00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:03,440 Speaker 3: homes and parents. We should not go around barking orders 381 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:07,320 Speaker 3: at our kids hard and harsh. Clean your room, take 382 00:20:07,400 --> 00:20:10,040 Speaker 3: the trash out. I told you, do your homework. No, 383 00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:13,119 Speaker 3: be an example. Learn to say it in a loving 384 00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:16,040 Speaker 3: and a kind way. And I believe that we should 385 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:19,080 Speaker 3: even get in a habit of saying please and thank 386 00:20:19,200 --> 00:20:22,600 Speaker 3: you to our children. We're training them, and sure we 387 00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:24,919 Speaker 3: can bossom around and bark orders at them and make 388 00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:27,520 Speaker 3: it do it, but I believe it's much better to say, hey, Jonathan, 389 00:20:27,920 --> 00:20:30,639 Speaker 3: please take the trash out for daddy. Alexandra, thank you 390 00:20:30,720 --> 00:20:33,480 Speaker 3: for keeping the room so clean. See, there ought to 391 00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:37,760 Speaker 3: be a gentleness about us. Be kind, be grateful. I 392 00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:41,240 Speaker 3: know every time Victoria cooks dinner, I make a special 393 00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:43,680 Speaker 3: point to thank her for it, and I know she 394 00:20:43,880 --> 00:20:45,920 Speaker 3: knows it, but I want her to hear it again, 395 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:49,920 Speaker 3: and I especially want my children to hear me expressing 396 00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:55,600 Speaker 3: my thanks and sometimes sometimes it's sad to see what 397 00:20:55,880 --> 00:20:59,280 Speaker 3: really goes on behind closed doors. And as I said, 398 00:20:59,359 --> 00:21:01,480 Speaker 3: we can all be nice and kind out in public. 399 00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:05,119 Speaker 3: That's easy. But the real test of our character is 400 00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:07,439 Speaker 3: how do we treat those that are closest to us. 401 00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:11,240 Speaker 3: How do we treat our own family members. Sometimes we 402 00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:14,600 Speaker 3: can end up treating somebody at the office better than 403 00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:17,840 Speaker 3: we treat our own wife, our own husband, our own children. 404 00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:20,719 Speaker 3: You know, we don't think twice about going to get 405 00:21:20,760 --> 00:21:22,440 Speaker 3: a cup of coffee and bringing it back for a 406 00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:25,359 Speaker 3: coworker doing them a favor. But if our own wife, 407 00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:27,600 Speaker 3: our own husband ask us to do that, it seems 408 00:21:27,680 --> 00:21:30,840 Speaker 3: like we get all put out. I've seen men they'll 409 00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:32,919 Speaker 3: go out of their way to open up a car 410 00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:35,760 Speaker 3: door for a business associate, but when it comes to 411 00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:38,800 Speaker 3: his own wife, she's got a fend for herself. That's 412 00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:42,040 Speaker 3: not right. We should treat our own family better than 413 00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:44,680 Speaker 3: we treat anybody else. I mean, they're the ones we're 414 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:48,000 Speaker 3: going to grow old with. They're the ones that mean 415 00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:50,520 Speaker 3: the most to us. And some of you need to 416 00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:54,200 Speaker 3: examine your heart today and make some adjustments. Make sure 417 00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:57,159 Speaker 3: that you're treating the ones very closest to you with 418 00:21:57,359 --> 00:22:01,280 Speaker 3: respect and with honor. There's a scre that says a 419 00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:06,679 Speaker 3: man's wife is a reflection of his glory. In other words, 420 00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:10,560 Speaker 3: Victoria is a reflection of me, and how I treat 421 00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:14,760 Speaker 3: her can be seen in her smile, in how she dresses, 422 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:17,960 Speaker 3: in her attitude, in the way she carries herself. She 423 00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:21,399 Speaker 3: is a reflection of my glory. Now she's all beaten 424 00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:24,440 Speaker 3: down and depressed, and she goes around discouraged all the time. 425 00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:27,240 Speaker 3: Then me being her husband, I need to examine my 426 00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:30,159 Speaker 3: own life and make sure that I'm not missing it somewhere. 427 00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:32,800 Speaker 3: And I know some women that are just like this, 428 00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:36,440 Speaker 3: so beaten down, and it's all because their husband is 429 00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:41,240 Speaker 3: so domineering. He's not kind, he's not affectionate, there's no 430 00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:44,199 Speaker 3: love in respecting the home. He's not putting into her 431 00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:47,240 Speaker 3: what she needs. And year after year, that husband just 432 00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:50,480 Speaker 3: drains the life and energy out of that wife. That 433 00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:53,120 Speaker 3: should not be men. You need to look at your 434 00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:56,919 Speaker 3: wife and see if she's reflecting the joy, the peace, 435 00:22:57,080 --> 00:23:00,239 Speaker 3: the victory that God wants her to have. I used 436 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:03,040 Speaker 3: to play basketball with these guys, and after we got through, 437 00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:04,840 Speaker 3: there was this one guy. He had always come up 438 00:23:04,880 --> 00:23:06,680 Speaker 3: to me and he said, well, Joel, I got to 439 00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:10,320 Speaker 3: go home and see my old lady. And I often thought, 440 00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:13,320 Speaker 3: if you speak about your wife like that, you must 441 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:15,840 Speaker 3: not think too much of yourself, because she's a direct 442 00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:18,320 Speaker 3: reflection of you. I don't know about you, men, but 443 00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:21,040 Speaker 3: I want my wife to shine. I want Victoria to 444 00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:23,600 Speaker 3: be happy, to feel good, to look good. She's a 445 00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:27,199 Speaker 3: reflection of my character, of my goodness, of my glory. 446 00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:29,240 Speaker 3: And know I'm not perfect, but I can tell you this. 447 00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:33,760 Speaker 3: I respect my wife. I treat my children kindly. I 448 00:23:33,920 --> 00:23:36,560 Speaker 3: do my best to treat my own family better than 449 00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:38,639 Speaker 3: I treat anybody else. And that's the way that it 450 00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:43,680 Speaker 3: should be. I heard somebody put it like this. At 451 00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:46,560 Speaker 3: your house, you have these different dishes that you eat 452 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:48,640 Speaker 3: off of, and if you're in a hurry and you're 453 00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:50,920 Speaker 3: out playing ball, out mowing the lawn, a lot of 454 00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:54,159 Speaker 3: time you'll just grab some paper plates. They're quick and easy. 455 00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:56,640 Speaker 3: When you're done, you just throw them away. You don't 456 00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:59,160 Speaker 3: have to worry about them getting damaged. But then most 457 00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:02,040 Speaker 3: of the time you're going to use your everyday plates 458 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:04,600 Speaker 3: and dishes, and you've got to be careful with them. 459 00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:07,520 Speaker 3: But they're a lot more durable. They withstand a lot 460 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:10,280 Speaker 3: of wear and tear. But then every once in a while, 461 00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:13,359 Speaker 3: on a special occasion, you'll go into your dining room 462 00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:17,120 Speaker 3: and you'll take out your fine china. Now, these dishes 463 00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:20,720 Speaker 3: are expensive. You've got to handle them with care. You 464 00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:23,240 Speaker 3: don't just toss them around and treat them anyway you want. 465 00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:27,080 Speaker 3: They're valuable. You'll go to great links to make sure 466 00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:29,840 Speaker 3: that they're taken care of. And in a sense, that's 467 00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:32,639 Speaker 3: the way it is in life. Some people we just 468 00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:35,879 Speaker 3: see in passing. We need to be respectful and kind, 469 00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:38,719 Speaker 3: but they're not in our lives very long. And then, 470 00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:40,520 Speaker 3: of course we have our group of friends, we have 471 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:43,520 Speaker 3: our coworkers. We see them more on a regular basis, 472 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:46,359 Speaker 3: and again we need to treat them right. But when 473 00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:49,439 Speaker 3: it comes to our own wife, our own husband, our 474 00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:53,399 Speaker 3: own children, they're not the paper plates, they're not the 475 00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:57,119 Speaker 3: everyday were These people are our fine china. They need 476 00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:00,840 Speaker 3: special attention. We don't treat them like we treat everybody else. 477 00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:03,400 Speaker 3: We go the extra mile. We got to make sure 478 00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:07,280 Speaker 3: they feel loved, they feel respected, they feel secure. They 479 00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:11,000 Speaker 3: need to know we care about them more than anybody else. 480 00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:13,560 Speaker 3: And oh yes, we need to be kind and courteous 481 00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:16,640 Speaker 3: to everyone. But these people are the ones that God 482 00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:19,840 Speaker 3: has entrusted us with. And I would challenge you again 483 00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:22,840 Speaker 3: today to make sure you're not showing your boss, or 484 00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:26,800 Speaker 3: your neighbor, or your friends more respect then you're showing 485 00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:30,520 Speaker 3: your own family. You've got fine China. They need that 486 00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:33,200 Speaker 3: special care. They need to know more than anybody else, 487 00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:36,280 Speaker 3: you're concerned about them. And I want us to have 488 00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:41,960 Speaker 3: strong families, strong marriages, strong relationships here, and I know 489 00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:45,000 Speaker 3: how much the enemy would love to tear us apart. 490 00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:48,520 Speaker 3: And it starts so slyly. It starts with just a 491 00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:53,000 Speaker 3: little disrespect, a little comment here and there, and then 492 00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:55,399 Speaker 3: as time goes on, you don't think anything about it, 493 00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:58,560 Speaker 3: you let your guard down, and then more and more 494 00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:01,520 Speaker 3: disrespect comes, and before you know it, you're living in 495 00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:05,600 Speaker 3: two separate worlds. No, take care of your family. Make 496 00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:09,360 Speaker 3: sure that you're treating those the closest to you with respect, 497 00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:13,040 Speaker 3: with love, better than you're treating anybody else. There's a 498 00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:16,040 Speaker 3: scripture in one Peter three, verse seven. It says, men, 499 00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:19,400 Speaker 3: if we are not considerate and kind to our wives, 500 00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:22,480 Speaker 3: if we don't treat them with respect, then it's going 501 00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:26,240 Speaker 3: to hinder our prayers from being answered. A good friend 502 00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:28,800 Speaker 3: of mine told me something that happened to him. He 503 00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:31,720 Speaker 3: and his wife tried for years to have a child. 504 00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:34,639 Speaker 3: They were a young couple, but for some reason, she 505 00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:37,639 Speaker 3: just couldn't conceive. And they prayed and prayed, did everything 506 00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:41,679 Speaker 3: they can, but no child, and so they got so frustrated. 507 00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,639 Speaker 3: Year after year went by, and one day he was 508 00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:48,160 Speaker 3: on an airplane returning home from India and he began 509 00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:50,760 Speaker 3: to ask God about it. He said, God, I don't 510 00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,560 Speaker 3: understand it. Why can't we have a child. Why can't 511 00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:56,320 Speaker 3: we have a baby. It's not fair. And he said 512 00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:59,240 Speaker 3: that God spoke something back to him, not out loud, 513 00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:02,240 Speaker 3: but write down in here. God said, son, you're not 514 00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:05,440 Speaker 3: gonna have a child until you start treating your wife better. 515 00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:08,720 Speaker 3: And you got to understand. This young man was a minister, 516 00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:12,040 Speaker 3: He was a good person, he loved God. But he 517 00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:15,119 Speaker 3: was not treating his wife the way he knew he should. 518 00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:19,879 Speaker 3: He was making sarcastic comments, being disrespectful, being hard to 519 00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,639 Speaker 3: get along with. He said, when he heard those words, 520 00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:26,040 Speaker 3: it just pierced his heart. The good news is he 521 00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:30,439 Speaker 3: was obedient. He didn't make excuses, he didn't blame other people. 522 00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:34,119 Speaker 3: He began to make adjustments, and he started treating his 523 00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:37,280 Speaker 3: wife better than he'd ever treated her before. He'd go 524 00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:39,919 Speaker 3: out of his way to do special things for her, 525 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:43,480 Speaker 3: treating her loving and kind, being considerate. And do you 526 00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:47,360 Speaker 3: know it wasn't six months time until his wife finally conceived. 527 00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:49,800 Speaker 3: Just a little while after that, she gave birth to 528 00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:52,680 Speaker 3: a beautiful baby girl. Today they're as happy as can be. 529 00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:54,920 Speaker 3: And I'm not saying if you don't have a child, 530 00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,439 Speaker 3: that's the only reason. But I am saying we need 531 00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:02,760 Speaker 3: to treat people right. Being disrespectful, being rude, being sarcastic, 532 00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:05,359 Speaker 3: that's always going to keep us from God's best. And 533 00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:08,160 Speaker 3: so I want to challenge again today, make a decision 534 00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:10,840 Speaker 3: with me that you're going to be kind and courteous 535 00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:15,040 Speaker 3: everywhere you go. Ask God to develop a greater gentleness 536 00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:19,560 Speaker 3: on the inside. Learn to be understanding, not demanding. If 537 00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:21,600 Speaker 3: you want to be more persuasive, you've got to make 538 00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:25,440 Speaker 3: sure your words are pleasant. Remember, people respond to politeness, 539 00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:28,280 Speaker 3: not to rudeness. And if you'll do your part and 540 00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:31,480 Speaker 3: have a gentle spirit, taking time for people, treating them 541 00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:34,240 Speaker 3: with respect and honor, I know God will do his part. 542 00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:36,680 Speaker 3: He'll pour out his blessings in your life, and you'll 543 00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 3: not only be happier, but you'll see your relationships go 544 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:42,239 Speaker 3: higher and hire and get better and better. Amen, how 545 00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:45,680 Speaker 3: many of you receive it today? We never like the 546 00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:49,080 Speaker 3: courge on broadcast without giving you an opportunity to make 547 00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,920 Speaker 3: Jesus the lord of your life. Would you pray with me? 548 00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:58,000 Speaker 3: Just say, Lord Jesus, I'll repent of my sins. Come 549 00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:03,280 Speaker 3: into my heart. I make you my Lord and savior. Friends, 550 00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:05,680 Speaker 3: if you prayed that simple prayer, we believe you got 551 00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:08,680 Speaker 3: born again. Get in a good Bible based church, keep 552 00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:11,680 Speaker 3: God first place. He's gonna take you places that you've 553 00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:12,440 Speaker 3: never dreamed of. 554 00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:16,680 Speaker 7: Thank you for listening to the Joel Loustine podcast. Help 555 00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:19,480 Speaker 7: us continue to share the message of hope with those 556 00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:23,480 Speaker 7: all over the world. Visit Joeloustein dot com slash give 557 00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:25,240 Speaker 7: Hope to give a gift today. 558 00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:29,480 Speaker 3: Thanks so much for listening to today's message. 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