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Speaker 1: you here. It is the strong Verry you did nailed it.

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Speaker 1: The whole town's laughing at me, and it has nothing

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Speaker 1: I am a thirty seven year old man and I've

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Speaker 1: The message said that my woman was very friendly in

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Speaker 1: told me more about her sex life before she met me.

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Speaker 1: She said she had threesomes over the years with men

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Speaker 1: her high school reunion and she said that at least

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Speaker 1: five of the guys were there. Now I can't help

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Speaker 1: but think that whenever we go to cookouts, concerts, football games,

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Speaker 1: and hope the best? Well, I'm sure that's a true statement.

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Speaker 1: mean everyone everyone has a past, including you. As you mentioned, Uh,

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Speaker 1: this all happened in the past before you. It happened

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Speaker 1: seven years old. Now the question is has she changed?

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Speaker 1: The question is is she still doing what she used

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Speaker 1: and now you know about her past. I understand you're angry.

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Speaker 1: I understand your shocked. I understand when you go, you know,

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Speaker 1: and it's just up to you now whether you can

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Speaker 1: past now that you know, Steve, see see right here,

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Speaker 1: see see what I'm telling you right here. See see

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Speaker 1: see listen. Honesty ain't always the best policy. Say that again.

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Speaker 1: Honesty ain't always the best policy. Sometimes it's down right

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Speaker 1: stoop hit. This man thirty seven dating this woman thirty one,

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Speaker 1: Why is this girl talking about before she met me?

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Speaker 1: Shut your damn mouth. I have told women on my

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Speaker 1: your maximum number. Five? Sound christ dog? Double standard? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: You can't go no more that, y'all church gotta be

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Speaker 1: what's up girl? And what the hell you mean? What's up? Girl?

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, bro, Lord, I'll just be wenting school together

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