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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with our radio Hello, Hello, Hi, we have a special

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Speaker 1: guest Todaycca till Is back up, bring it up. We're

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Speaker 1: so excited to have Becky here. Becky and I have

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Speaker 1: dated at one so it's super fun for me to

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Speaker 1: be in a room where I know I'm gonna get

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Speaker 1: questioned about that. M Becca. Welcome to the Almost Famous Podcast.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. I'm so honored to be here. This is

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Speaker 1: really aside from Ashley's other podcast, this is the only

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Speaker 1: other podcast I listened to on a regular basis. I

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Speaker 1: know you're a fan. I'm a huge fan. That's awesome.

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Speaker 1: What is the What is your favorite thing about the

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Speaker 1: Almost FAMAS podcast? Well, I like y'all say NAMEMT because

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Speaker 1: I love you have zero filter. That's one of my

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Speaker 1: favorite things about you. And then Ben is like the

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Speaker 1: most politically correct person of all time. So it's such

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Speaker 1: a nice But I don't know, y'all are just very

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Speaker 1: balanced and thank you. You know, just quality people. You're

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Speaker 1: too nice. Um. So I'm gonna give you a tips

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Speaker 1: for being in the studio with us today. Okay. One

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Speaker 1: is you have to forget that you're on a podcast

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Speaker 1: and that people listen to it because we say things

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say actually might say things Ben you

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Speaker 1: never say. Sometimes I get tweets with quotes from the

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Speaker 1: podcast and I'd be like, oh my god, I said

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Speaker 1: that on record. Yeah. Well, luckily I just get to

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Speaker 1: sit here and listen, which I think makes it work, right,

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Speaker 1: I think, so that is so easy to open up to.

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Speaker 1: I like, look at his eyes. I'm just like, I'll

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Speaker 1: just tell you everything. I feel like you're with that

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Speaker 1: with everyone. If I was on Ben season, Wait, this

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Speaker 1: is something I try to think about a lot. So

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Speaker 1: we know that Becca got the second place on Chris

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Speaker 1: Soul season, which is where we became friends. So I

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Speaker 1: was what seventh seventh on Christ this season? On one? Ever,

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Speaker 1: so where would I have landed on Ben season? You

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Speaker 1: think because you kind of downgraded, you went from second

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Speaker 1: to five, it was a runner up waiting down the line.

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Speaker 1: And this is where things get awkward for you today,

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Speaker 1: a second by bed, where would I have placed? Oh?

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Speaker 1: I thought you're asking her. Now it's back to me. No,

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Speaker 1: I wasn't asking Ashley. It's so hard to I would

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Speaker 1: have been top ten, right, Oh my gosh, top ten?

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Speaker 1: I mean you know, maybe top five. I barely made

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Speaker 1: the cut. No, Um, I think I think you would

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Speaker 1: have fit in really well. I bet that. I think

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Speaker 1: the girls that participated in the season, the Batchel that

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Speaker 1: I was a part of, um, we're all really cool.

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Speaker 1: Like I feel like more friends from your season currently

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Speaker 1: than I have friends from you got along well. I

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Speaker 1: think we would have got along well. I think you

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Speaker 1: would have been, UM, somebody just like you are here

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Speaker 1: that makes me laugh and makes me embarrassed and pushes

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Speaker 1: me out of my comfort zone with the things that

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Speaker 1: you say, and I'm always very attracted to that. Um.

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Speaker 1: But it also when you're speaking to anybody wants to listen,

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Speaker 1: like our podcast, also makes me very nervous because something's

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Speaker 1: going to get said that I could come back to

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Speaker 1: bite us. But well, if if I was on your season,

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Speaker 1: I'd probably be so nervous I wouldn't be being myself,

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Speaker 1: So then it would have been a whole different scenario.

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Speaker 1: I imagine there would have been lots of breakdowns from you,

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Speaker 1: oh so many more so then, Yeah, back to the

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Speaker 1: real story. Let me let's set the stage here. It

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Speaker 1: was a cold night in Indiana. We had all come

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Speaker 1: back from the Bahamas with the stomach blue. You picked

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Speaker 1: Kayla over Becca. Well, let's not. Let's not just call

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Speaker 1: out Kayla here. Um. Yeah, she's the only one really

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Speaker 1: and this is gonna this is really my thought process. Okay,

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Speaker 1: was Becca knows that I think she is wonderful. Beccan

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Speaker 1: knows how much fun we had together. I didn't on

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Speaker 1: the show, but I know, um, Beca, we had so

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Speaker 1: much fun together. We were great. Um. I knew that

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Speaker 1: uh Lauren um was somebody that was extremely special to me.

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Speaker 1: I knew that Lauren was somebody that was was possibly

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Speaker 1: going to be somebody I proposed to. Now there were

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Speaker 1: was leaning, that to bring Becca back to her hometown

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Speaker 1: So you know, if if if I could have taken

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Speaker 1: But it actually was. I remember being um after the show,

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Speaker 1: wanted Becca to know that. Like that was a pretty

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Speaker 1: be very straightforward with her. Well, what you don't realize

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Speaker 1: is in the Bachelor, you have to lead everybody show.

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Speaker 1: Nobody knows how anybody feels about each other till the

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Speaker 1: very end. Right. Um. So I will say this, I

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Speaker 1: I didn't cry the whole. I cried when I talked

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Speaker 1: to my breaking point. No, that would have definitely been me.

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Speaker 1: break this down back, because here's the deal, we're not friends,

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Speaker 1: I just was like, not a spiller, even though it

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Speaker 1: you have to start mentally preparing yourself for that. Like,

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Speaker 1: sexy time. Yeah, well thanks, Actually, so Becca, when the

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Speaker 1: to somebody for that long, Like I'm so sick. And

427
00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:24,880
Speaker 1: so I actually had to cancel the rose ceremony only

428
00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:28,240
Speaker 1: because of how sick I walked to part the ROAs ceremony. Sorry,

429
00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:32,720
Speaker 1: the cocktail party. I actually hated the cocktail party. So

430
00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:35,119
Speaker 1: and so I wasn't mad about. But for all the

431
00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:37,399
Speaker 1: fans out there that the Bachelor and Bachelor isn't as

432
00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:39,760
Speaker 1: glamorous as you might seem, like, you know, things like

433
00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:42,160
Speaker 1: this happen a lot, or maybe not a lot. Maybe

434
00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:46,280
Speaker 1: they just happened with me. Ye Jay didn't poop for

435
00:21:46,320 --> 00:21:49,320
Speaker 1: ten days in Paradise. Well, she's gonna love you saying that.

436
00:21:49,560 --> 00:21:51,840
Speaker 1: She came on my podcast and she talked about it.

437
00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:53,560
Speaker 1: She's very open with it, and she had to be

438
00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:55,960
Speaker 1: really open with Tanner about it because she was like, Hey,

439
00:21:56,119 --> 00:21:58,679
Speaker 1: I look like I'm six months pregnant. That's because I

440
00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:01,000
Speaker 1: haven't pooped in ten days. Speaking of that, I mean,

441
00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:03,160
Speaker 1: how cool is it that Jade is actually now pregnant?

442
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:07,800
Speaker 1: So cute that child is going to be so beautiful? Yeah,

443
00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:13,560
Speaker 1: definitely naturally so naturally beautiful, like in the best way. Um.

444
00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:19,840
Speaker 1: All right, so you and I've dated, you both dated Chris? Um,

445
00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:21,760
Speaker 1: what is your life lookout from here? Look like from

446
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:23,920
Speaker 1: here on out? Like? Are you done with Bachelor World?

447
00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:25,760
Speaker 1: Are you going to Bachelor in Paradise? You sit on

448
00:22:25,800 --> 00:22:28,399
Speaker 1: the Ellen thing. You would do the Winter Games, So

449
00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:31,560
Speaker 1: I'll see you there. This is just something we've just

450
00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:35,640
Speaker 1: made up. Okay. I have always said I wanted a

451
00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:39,639
Speaker 1: Bachelor and road Rules type show. I said Survivor and

452
00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:42,480
Speaker 1: Bachelor Survivors a little much for me. I don't think

453
00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:47,439
Speaker 1: it Survives Survivor, but amazing Race I would be down for.

454
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:51,280
Speaker 1: So when the Olympic game came up, I'm not necessarily

455
00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:55,119
Speaker 1: great at snow sports, but I feel like I'm athletic

456
00:22:55,200 --> 00:23:00,320
Speaker 1: enough that I could. Maybe I'm not athletic enough, which

457
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:02,119
Speaker 1: I may not do well, but I will give you

458
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 1: some good That's what I was gonna say. I will

459
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 1: not give good TV, as we all know, but I

460
00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:10,160
Speaker 1: could perform. I just want to commentate. I just want

461
00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:13,920
Speaker 1: to sit back, bob Ca, Yeah, that's all I want

462
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 1: to do. I want to sit back. And there's Beckettilly

463
00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 1: running down the slope and I was gonna say, like

464
00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:24,760
Speaker 1: tumbling down the floor. So here's the before we go. Uh,

465
00:23:24,800 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 1: And I want to I want to mention this to

466
00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:29,600
Speaker 1: both of you. Um, so I've I've shared this story

467
00:23:29,600 --> 00:23:31,240
Speaker 1: with Ashley, and I want to get your perspective on

468
00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:32,639
Speaker 1: it and see if this was an appropriate or not.

469
00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:35,240
Speaker 1: So I'm in New York City this last week, right,

470
00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:37,399
Speaker 1: and it's late at night, and my buddy and I

471
00:23:37,480 --> 00:23:41,120
Speaker 1: are walking on the street and these two conning it right,

472
00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:43,760
Speaker 1: and and I'm granted, at two o'clock in the morning,

473
00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:47,000
Speaker 1: we're walking back to the hotel. So they run up

474
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Speaker 1: to me, Hey, bid, how are you doing? And I'm

475
00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:52,720
Speaker 1: I'm a little awkward, you know, a lot awkward. I

476
00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 1: usually don't know what to say at the right time. Ever, um,

477
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:58,760
Speaker 1: I know, right, I don't know what you obviously have

478
00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:02,200
Speaker 1: a weird sense of yourself. Maybe maybe intervention next time.

479
00:24:02,920 --> 00:24:04,720
Speaker 1: So these two girls come up to me and and

480
00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:06,560
Speaker 1: I thought this was funny, and I think I could

481
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:08,560
Speaker 1: say it to Ashley and Becca, and I think they

482
00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:10,120
Speaker 1: would laugh or like at least give me a look

483
00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 1: and move on. But they come there like, hey, how's

484
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:13,879
Speaker 1: it going. I like, it's going great, just having some

485
00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:16,600
Speaker 1: New York pizza, Like, oh, we just got an Indian food.

486
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:18,920
Speaker 1: We're going back. It's a girl's night. We're gonna snuggle

487
00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 1: in the sheets and watch a movie. And I'm like,

488
00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:23,159
Speaker 1: that's awesome. I was like, Indian food always makes me

489
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:26,760
Speaker 1: blow out the sheets. And they were so appalled, Like

490
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:29,119
Speaker 1: I literally got a look on there like like not

491
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 1: even like a giggle, like you've ruined every thought of you.

492
00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:36,280
Speaker 1: Like I had this idea of who you were been,

493
00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 1: and you've ruined that, which, in a sense is a

494
00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:40,680
Speaker 1: victory for me. That's kind of my goal for life

495
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:43,640
Speaker 1: is to ruin any like fantasy of me. But at

496
00:24:43,680 --> 00:24:46,240
Speaker 1: the same time, I felt so awkward that I woke up.

497
00:24:46,280 --> 00:24:47,600
Speaker 1: You know, when you wake up the next morning and

498
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:49,560
Speaker 1: you've done something the night before that isn't that bad,

499
00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:52,320
Speaker 1: but bad enough where you're like hitting your forehead like

500
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:54,000
Speaker 1: why in the heck am I so stupid? Have you

501
00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:59,440
Speaker 1: ever had those moments? Yeah? Yeah, but most mornings for me, Yeah,

502
00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:01,680
Speaker 1: it's every morning when I wake up? Is that a

503
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:05,639
Speaker 1: terrible comment? Like, honestly with somebody that would have liked

504
00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:08,199
Speaker 1: him more. You know, I would have liked him more

505
00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:10,239
Speaker 1: from that statement. And I think that those girls are

506
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 1: boring for not thinking that was hilarious. I don't like

507
00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:16,320
Speaker 1: people who don't think those stories are funny. It's funny.

508
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:18,920
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't because now in my back of

509
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:20,080
Speaker 1: my head, this is what it does to me. It

510
00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:21,960
Speaker 1: makes me go, do I need to try harder to

511
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 1: be cooler? Because I wasn't trying to date these girls.

512
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 1: I was just like trying to make God comes, trying

513
00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:29,520
Speaker 1: to be funny. And now I'm like, am I that

514
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,000
Speaker 1: like in my in my that lane where like I

515
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:33,919
Speaker 1: can't even make a joke that I like, who knows

516
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:36,200
Speaker 1: see if it lands or not? See for me? When

517
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 1: I heard this story, if he had said like, oh,

518
00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:41,720
Speaker 1: Indian food makes me far, I would have been like,

519
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:45,800
Speaker 1: oh my god, me too. That I did not know

520
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:48,480
Speaker 1: that chicken ticking a salid I had to eat by myself,

521
00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 1: no Indian no. So then I was thinking that maybe

522
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:59,399
Speaker 1: the way he said below the sheets, like that's maybe

523
00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:01,359
Speaker 1: my idea of what I said and what they thought

524
00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:04,679
Speaker 1: I said is now missing. You know what, now that

525
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 1: we're really going into this, blow the sheets sounds weird, right,

526
00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:12,720
Speaker 1: I've never heard that to the two young ladies that

527
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:16,640
Speaker 1: were beautiful and friendly up until that point. If you're

528
00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:18,919
Speaker 1: listening to this podcast, when I said blow the sheets,

529
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,240
Speaker 1: it wasn't an inappropriate in the window for something more.

530
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 1: That's the fact that my stomach gets a little bit

531
00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:26,720
Speaker 1: upset when I have Indian food. With that, let's get

532
00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 1: some callers on the line. We have Becca in studio

533
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 1: to answer some of these questions. She is so much

534
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 1: wiser than Ashley, and I mean, she is gonna lay

535
00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:38,080
Speaker 1: some wisdom down on these peeps. Brooke and Chicago has

536
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:42,200
Speaker 1: a question. Brooke, what's your question? Hi? First of all,

537
00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 1: I can't believe this real life right now I'm talking

538
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:48,000
Speaker 1: to you guys. I've been listening every week to your podcast,

539
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:50,879
Speaker 1: so so yeah, I thought Colin asked for some dating advice,

540
00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:53,240
Speaker 1: since I feel all your answers have been absolutely on

541
00:26:53,320 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 1: points from pretty come on keep talking? But really but um, yeah,

542
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:03,360
Speaker 1: So I live in Chicago and I'm having a kind

543
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 1: of a hard time meeting guys. But seems crazy since

544
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 1: you know this city is pretty big. Um, you know,

545
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:10,920
Speaker 1: I have some dating apps that you the whole slipe left, White,

546
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 1: slipe right, ordeal. But I don't really feel comfortable meeting

547
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 1: someone from an app, you know, even though this day

548
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:19,959
Speaker 1: and age, it's no super popular and successful so for

549
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:24,120
Speaker 1: some people. So I was wondering any any insightful or advice,

550
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,639
Speaker 1: you know, on how to meet people outside of the

551
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,080
Speaker 1: dating app For some of us, you know, not wanting

552
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:32,720
Speaker 1: to go that route, you could apply for The Bachelor.

553
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:38,199
Speaker 1: The only my only pool of dating outside dating apps

554
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:42,120
Speaker 1: is um my Bachelor? Is that really? I mean, I'm

555
00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:44,960
Speaker 1: not Actually, I'm not kidding that much. I was gonna say, Actually,

556
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 1: after talking to you for a couple of weeks here,

557
00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 1: it does seem like it kind of pulls from dating

558
00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 1: apps and The Bachelor. Soone Resbecca, I mean, what's your like.

559
00:27:53,320 --> 00:27:54,920
Speaker 1: You've been in a relationship for a while, so I

560
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 1: don't know if you're at backout dating or not. You

561
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:58,399
Speaker 1: don't have to answer that, but if you were to

562
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:00,159
Speaker 1: get back in the dating world, how would you go

563
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 1: about it today? Well that's what I'm trying to figure out. Brooke.

564
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:04,960
Speaker 1: I relate to this, and I almost think being in

565
00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:08,359
Speaker 1: a bigger city sometimes makes it harder because there's so

566
00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 1: many people and so many options that a lot of

567
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 1: people don't take it. You know, it's not so much

568
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 1: about getting into relationship, it's about just random dates. So

569
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 1: luckily I went on two seasons of The Bachelor and

570
00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 1: had got to avoid that part of my life, and

571
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 1: now I'm back into it. So I would say, and

572
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:28,200
Speaker 1: don't be scared to go on the date. Just make

573
00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:29,920
Speaker 1: sure you meet up with people if you're going to

574
00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 1: do it. Don't let him come to your house right off. Yeah,

575
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 1: that's probably not safe. Yeah, you know, I think this

576
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:37,520
Speaker 1: is such a good question, Brooke, And it's a question

577
00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:41,040
Speaker 1: that not only affects actually now the three of us

578
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:44,240
Speaker 1: in this room, um, but affects you and a lot

579
00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 1: of people in our generation. Is it's it is confusing.

580
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:48,840
Speaker 1: We've made dating, i think, meeting people easier with the

581
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:52,000
Speaker 1: apps and with the websites, but in a sense it

582
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 1: feels like and this could get we could actually harder.

583
00:28:56,920 --> 00:28:58,959
Speaker 1: We've made a commitment. We've made commitment harder because it's

584
00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:01,160
Speaker 1: so easy. That's such a good point. Actually, we've made

585
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 1: commitment harder by making meeting people easier. Because there are

586
00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 1: so many options that why settle for the one that

587
00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 1: you're on a date with right there? Yeah? But actually

588
00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:11,800
Speaker 1: and I have talked about this a lot because I

589
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:14,840
Speaker 1: think we're both very old school mentality and how we

590
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 1: and I think you are too bad how we date

591
00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 1: in assess relationships, and I think it's rare now to

592
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 1: find people who are genuinely especially on those apps, looking

593
00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 1: for a relationship. But you have to put yourself out

594
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:33,480
Speaker 1: there or you have to just go out. I don't

595
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:35,520
Speaker 1: even know my I don't want to meet a guy

596
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:37,320
Speaker 1: in a club. So when people like you have to

597
00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:39,320
Speaker 1: put yourself out there, my god, we don't go out.

598
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:41,280
Speaker 1: I mean we go out like as part of our

599
00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 1: social being. Um. But Becca and I would never choose like, hey,

600
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:48,880
Speaker 1: you want to go to a bar and meet guys today?

601
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:52,360
Speaker 1: That would never happen, you know, Brooke, We we haven't

602
00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:54,720
Speaker 1: given you any advice because I think we're all confused

603
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:56,960
Speaker 1: on the topic, but we have no We're just saying

604
00:29:56,960 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 1: we're here for you with you. You're not it alone.

605
00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 1: The worst feeling in the world is being alone. And

606
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:05,520
Speaker 1: I will tell you're not alone. Um. My only advice,

607
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:10,200
Speaker 1: um is is to stay open to the to dating.

608
00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 1: You know, like Becca said, I know for me, the

609
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 1: idea of going on a date makes makes me so nervous.

610
00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:17,240
Speaker 1: And so if you are desiring to meet somebody, you

611
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 1: have to get through the awkwardness. We've all we've all

612
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:22,840
Speaker 1: been there, done that, We've had those first dates that

613
00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:25,440
Speaker 1: you're so nervous for. So just do it. You know,

614
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:27,480
Speaker 1: if anything, it will end up being a good story

615
00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 1: to tell um and and it's maybe. Yeah, it means

616
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:34,840
Speaker 1: to be a free meal. Not always that, as we

617
00:30:34,880 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 1: know from the Almost podcast, sometimes you split the check

618
00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 1: at the end of the don't let that happen, broke.

619
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:45,880
Speaker 1: But yeah, Brooke, great question. I don't know if we

620
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:47,400
Speaker 1: have great advice. I don't know if we have a

621
00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:49,680
Speaker 1: great answer for you. But stay open, go on those

622
00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:52,640
Speaker 1: first dates, and if you find somebody through whatever means,

623
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 1: make sure you get back to us to let us know,

624
00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 1: because then we'll try that as well. Thank you, Brooke. Um,

625
00:30:57,920 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 1: I don't think we helped her at all. I'm not

626
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 1: I think you guys definitely I'm not alone and that's fantastic.

627
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 1: Appreciate put yourself out there and pay attention to your

628
00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 1: your girlfriends who have boyfriends or husbands or whatever, pay

629
00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:14,080
Speaker 1: attention to their friends and just see if there's anyone

630
00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 1: that interests you in that circle. No, I think that's

631
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 1: probably the route I should go. There you go. We

632
00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:22,720
Speaker 1: helped you, guys. We did we did it. We did it.

633
00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Problem awesome? I like, she's nice.

634
00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 1: Be Do you know about fit fum? I do fun?

635
00:31:35,600 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: That comes up my lips a little weird. How well

636
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Speaker 1: do you know about it? I know about it pretty well, Ben, Actually,

637
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641
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648
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Speaker 1: is insane. And yesterday we had Ben try out the

649
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Speaker 1: I cream that came in the summer box, and he's

650
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:36,520
Speaker 1: no crow's feet, no under eyed circles. And then for me,

651
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Speaker 1: I'm obsessed with the new sunscreen that I discovered through

652
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Speaker 1: the fab fit phone box. It doesn't make my makeup

653
00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 1: book caking, and it doesn't make me look purple. Becca,

654
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 1: do you understand, like you know how sometimes sunscreen will

655
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:48,680
Speaker 1: make you look purple? I literally have no idea what

656
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 1: Yesterday I chose not to say anything, so I just

657
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:52,920
Speaker 1: felt like it was kicking on it. But now that

658
00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:56,680
Speaker 1: you're here, actually, when I will bring in my other

659
00:32:56,720 --> 00:33:00,320
Speaker 1: suns it sounds dangerous. It will make me look like

660
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:04,479
Speaker 1: blue purple pink, like what happens when you shipped from

661
00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:08,040
Speaker 1: you from know this was from Whole Foods. Even that's

662
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 1: that's sometimes risk You're right, that is probably risky. But anyway,

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665
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669
00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:37,680
Speaker 1: just as bright as bends. Um. Speaking of bright eyes,

670
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:40,320
Speaker 1: I know somebody has some bright eyes and it's Brittany

671
00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 1: from Illinois. Brittany, what can we do for you? Hi?

672
00:33:44,680 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 1: Hey Brittany, Hey Brittany. By the way, we have Becca

673
00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:50,800
Speaker 1: Tillian studio. I mean, are you kidding me right now?

674
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:57,760
Speaker 1: She is? Hi, Brittany. Oh, my dreams are coming from

675
00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:01,200
Speaker 1: My dreams are coming from of you guys so much.

676
00:34:01,920 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 1: Thank you. We just became friends. So are we still

677
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:11,600
Speaker 1: talking about if you can be friends at any question? No? No,

678
00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 1: let's get beyond that. What else do you have to

679
00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 1: ask for us? Yeah? Just come up with the topic either. Okay,

680
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:24,800
Speaker 1: what any of you guys ever consider going on Badelroom Paradise, Ashley,

681
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 1: I know asked you did, but go round three my

682
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:32,400
Speaker 1: third round? Not this year, not next year. But if

683
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:35,200
Speaker 1: Dean and Peter were there. No, you know what, I

684
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:36,919
Speaker 1: can meet all these guys in real life. I really

685
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:39,520
Speaker 1: don't need the show to meet these confidence coming out

686
00:34:39,719 --> 00:34:44,880
Speaker 1: dang girls actually probably be better off. I'd probably be

687
00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:47,800
Speaker 1: like a lot cooler. I'm hesitant to watch this season

688
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 1: without you being on there. Oh, I know, like, is

689
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 1: it going to be what it was? Yeah? I mean

690
00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:55,920
Speaker 1: I was gonna ask that, Berty, do you think it's

691
00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:58,440
Speaker 1: gonna be like it was actually a great question about

692
00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:04,000
Speaker 1: me and Jared. Jared's key. It's just I watched I

693
00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:05,760
Speaker 1: feel like I watched it for you. I started watching

694
00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:08,000
Speaker 1: it as for the Bend season, and then I like

695
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,160
Speaker 1: fell him up with the Astley. So now I'm just like,

696
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 1: I don't know, I want to watch it, just the

697
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:16,319
Speaker 1: poorest Bachelor Nation. But you guys aren't on it anymore. Yeah,

698
00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 1: we're now We're we're old school. I mean, it's weird

699
00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 1: to even look around this room right now and think

700
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 1: of all of us are kind of washed up, and

701
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:25,320
Speaker 1: now we're sitting in a studio talking about the Bachelor

702
00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 1: and bachelot as fans, and we're just trying to stay

703
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 1: alive at almost famous. We almost made it. Well. I

704
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 1: have a question for Becca because, oh, because of what

705
00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:39,880
Speaker 1: you just said. Though, So if Becca were to go

706
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:43,839
Speaker 1: on Paradise, Becca saying, wells or Jared were there, would

707
00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:46,320
Speaker 1: you ever consider dating them? Since we were so tight

708
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 1: Ashley there, I wouldn't even look in their direction. I

709
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 1: appreciate you just kidding. I would be friends and I'd

710
00:35:54,640 --> 00:36:00,680
Speaker 1: be nice, but Britney even different relation ship, I think

711
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:06,240
Speaker 1: then Ashley and Caleb, but I feel like, um, there's

712
00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 1: just boundaries. And I know a lot just from what

713
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:11,880
Speaker 1: Ashley has told me and shared with me that that

714
00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:14,839
Speaker 1: would be that would I would never. But do you

715
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:17,840
Speaker 1: think that it's weird to like called DIBs or to

716
00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:20,480
Speaker 1: date or not date people that are part of the

717
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 1: Bachelor family because your friends have touched them, well literally

718
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 1: and figuratively in a weird way. We're all friends our

719
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:34,480
Speaker 1: acquaintances as least. I think some people are closer, Like

720
00:36:34,520 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 1: there's some people that there's a few people that I

721
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:40,479
Speaker 1: would not go anywhere near their acts or who they've

722
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:43,360
Speaker 1: dated in the past. Um, and then there's some that

723
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 1: are like I don't feel a sense of loyalty do

724
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:48,120
Speaker 1: because we all dated the same guy in the same season.

725
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:51,319
Speaker 1: So I don't know. It's hard to say yeah good

726
00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 1: a definitely not wells or brings up a good point

727
00:36:54,719 --> 00:36:57,600
Speaker 1: and in the topic maybe uh we should explore here

728
00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 1: is you know Becca I no desires to be a

729
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 1: good friend to her friends, and she desires to look

730
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:06,839
Speaker 1: out for their their needs and their emotions, and so

731
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:11,440
Speaker 1: she's saying here's the deal, like Ashley doesn't. Ashley has

732
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 1: already verbally told me it would hurt me if you

733
00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:15,840
Speaker 1: dated one of these guys, or I wouldn't be a

734
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 1: fan of watching one of my friends date one of

735
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:20,400
Speaker 1: these guys. Not that Ashley is calling DIBs. She's not

736
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:23,879
Speaker 1: saying hey, they're mine, only she's saying, hey, to see

737
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 1: you do this would just be hard for me. And

738
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:30,959
Speaker 1: Becca's response is okay, I'll listen. I'll follow that. And

739
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:33,400
Speaker 1: and my relationship with you, Ashley, is more important than

740
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:36,160
Speaker 1: maybe my self is the desires to explore this relationship.

741
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 1: And so as a result, I'm gonna be a good

742
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 1: friend here because I care about you. I think there

743
00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 1: are exceptions, you know. I think that if there was

744
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 1: a guy and your your friend day to him, but

745
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:47,520
Speaker 1: you're like, this could be my actual husband, then maybe

746
00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 1: you have to go for him. Um, it's if it's

747
00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:52,880
Speaker 1: going to be like just like a hook up flaying,

748
00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:56,319
Speaker 1: then worth well, it's it is a good topic when

749
00:37:56,360 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 1: we all deal with. Brittany, thank you for asking that today. Um,

750
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 1: you know, you know, sorry about throwing your question off,

751
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:04,040
Speaker 1: but you came up with a great one. I mean,

752
00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:08,960
Speaker 1: look where we led, jeez, we got interesting. So well,

753
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 1: thanks Brittany. Thanks Brittany. Yeah, thanks guys. All right, Well

754
00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:15,279
Speaker 1: that was a great conversation we had with Brittany there. Um,

755
00:38:15,400 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 1: I know, before we leave, we want to talk a

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Speaker 1: we go, let's talk about this episode of the Bachelorette.

784
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:38,239
Speaker 1: We finally say goodbye to Lee, who you know, I

785
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 1: think is the most evil of men. You know, Yeah,

786
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 1: that's yeah, I I would actually actually I don't know.

787
00:39:45,120 --> 00:39:46,920
Speaker 1: It's hard for me to say that, but I might

788
00:39:46,960 --> 00:39:49,920
Speaker 1: agree that there's this level inside of him that you know,

789
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:55,920
Speaker 1: he's getting jolly's from making other people upset. Yeah, you know,

790
00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:57,600
Speaker 1: he's like getting off to that. I don't like it.

791
00:39:57,640 --> 00:40:00,080
Speaker 1: I don't want to watch it. He's not just you know,

792
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:03,520
Speaker 1: damaging himself in this, but he's attacking I think people

793
00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:06,680
Speaker 1: on the show, and he does this weird condescending thing

794
00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:10,800
Speaker 1: that is like, buddy, I love you, but and I

795
00:40:11,920 --> 00:40:14,319
Speaker 1: don't get that, Like, how can you tell somebody, hey,

796
00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:17,879
Speaker 1: we're friends, I love you, but you're but I want

797
00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 1: to make sure you feel really small before I leave

798
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 1: this room. That may be my least favorite part of him.

799
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 1: I'm just ready for him to go. He makes me

800
00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:28,360
Speaker 1: feel weird, he makes me feel small. He's doing a

801
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:30,560
Speaker 1: great job that give it to him. I mean, he's

802
00:40:30,600 --> 00:40:33,160
Speaker 1: making me feel small from my TV screen. Remember how

803
00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:36,279
Speaker 1: we are talking earlier on this season about how he

804
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:40,279
Speaker 1: just seemed fundamentally evil. I've changed my tune a little

805
00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:42,560
Speaker 1: bit more because I feel like he's just trying to

806
00:40:42,600 --> 00:40:44,839
Speaker 1: play a role. Now now I see him as you know,

807
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:46,719
Speaker 1: he was like, Oh, I'm going to go into this

808
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:48,799
Speaker 1: as a villain. I'm gonna do everything that villains do.

809
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:53,960
Speaker 1: That might be more disturbing to um. Yeah, if he's

810
00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 1: acting that way, if he's using this opportunity UM to

811
00:40:57,680 --> 00:41:00,520
Speaker 1: be himself and make other people hurt, that's more confusing me, Like,

812
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:03,400
Speaker 1: why would you choose to be the villain? Why would

813
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:06,239
Speaker 1: you choose to hurt other people? If you have the

814
00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 1: opportunity to be caring, to be loving, to make some friends,

815
00:41:11,280 --> 00:41:13,880
Speaker 1: possibly fall in love, why would you use this opportunity

816
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,360
Speaker 1: just to destroy yourself and others in the process. That that,

817
00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:18,719
Speaker 1: to me is just a deep seated issue that we

818
00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:20,960
Speaker 1: can't deal with from the show. He'll have to deal

819
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:23,840
Speaker 1: with on his own. Let's talk about his partner on

820
00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 1: the two on one, which was Kenny and how I

821
00:41:26,160 --> 00:41:28,120
Speaker 1: really do love Kenny. I think he's a good guy,

822
00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:30,920
Speaker 1: and I think he seems like a great dad based

823
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:34,800
Speaker 1: on the interaction that we see with his daughter on FaceTime. Um,

824
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:38,200
Speaker 1: but Kenny just seems to get caught up in a lot.

825
00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:41,839
Speaker 1: What I found disturbing about this was that Rachel was like,

826
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:43,879
Speaker 1: I need more time with you. I'd like to get

827
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 1: to know you better. So let's go to this dinner

828
00:41:46,080 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 1: portion of the date. And then before they left, as

829
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 1: they got all the helicopter, Kenny was like, wait, wait, wait,

830
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 1: I need a second. I need to go and talk

831
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 1: to Lee one more time. And he just couldn't drop it.

832
00:42:00,400 --> 00:42:03,640
Speaker 1: You know how last season with Nick, Taylor went back

833
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:07,359
Speaker 1: during the two on one with Karin and then they

834
00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:10,120
Speaker 1: Karin and Nick were having their dinner time and then

835
00:42:10,320 --> 00:42:12,759
Speaker 1: Taylor walked in. Maybe this is like a new thing

836
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:16,440
Speaker 1: that's being encouraged. I mean, I think everybody wants closure,

837
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:19,640
Speaker 1: and so you know, when you're angry with somebody, you

838
00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:21,319
Speaker 1: don't want to just leave. I don't know if that's enough.

839
00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:24,120
Speaker 1: I will say. With all this in mind, um, I

840
00:42:24,120 --> 00:42:26,440
Speaker 1: actually want to ask you if you were in Kinney's

841
00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:28,880
Speaker 1: position and you had somebody like Lee kind of poking

842
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 1: and prodding at you for this. I mean, really since

843
00:42:31,040 --> 00:42:33,359
Speaker 1: week two kind of trying to get under your skin,

844
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:36,359
Speaker 1: would you have handled it as well as Kinny has

845
00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:39,400
Speaker 1: or do you even feel like Kenny has handled it well? Okay,

846
00:42:39,440 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 1: so I thought Kenny was handling it well, at least

847
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 1: good for TV. I was pretty much entertained at every

848
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:47,880
Speaker 1: little diss he threw Lee's way. But that's also because

849
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 1: the bad guy in this situation is obviously Lee. And

850
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:52,320
Speaker 1: I would love to say that I would handle the

851
00:42:52,400 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 1: situation with grace, but we all know that I wouldn't.

852
00:42:55,520 --> 00:42:58,959
Speaker 1: I don't know if because I've done it on TV

853
00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 1: so many times. I guess with Kelsey, I kind of did. Kelsey.

854
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:05,520
Speaker 1: Kelsey was a part of Crystal season with you. Kelsey

855
00:43:05,880 --> 00:43:07,920
Speaker 1: was the girl my two on one with me and

856
00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:10,839
Speaker 1: we're both eliminated, And yeah, I gave her a piece

857
00:43:10,840 --> 00:43:14,320
Speaker 1: of my mind in a pretty concise, articulate way, and

858
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:18,080
Speaker 1: like three sentences on a bed in the middle of

859
00:43:18,120 --> 00:43:21,080
Speaker 1: the bad lands, and then I walked away from her.

860
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:23,239
Speaker 1: And when I walked away, I was like, you did it.

861
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:25,319
Speaker 1: You said everything you needed to say, and now you

862
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 1: can move on and focus on Chris. And it was

863
00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 1: kind of too late for that then, And not only that,

864
00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:33,120
Speaker 1: was it too late, just like I don't think Chris

865
00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 1: and I were supposed to get married. Well, you know,

866
00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 1: I wonder if Kenny is sitting in this situation going

867
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:40,920
Speaker 1: I wonder. I mean, I don't want to speak for him,

868
00:43:40,960 --> 00:43:43,759
Speaker 1: but I bet he's, you know, coming back, and he says, Okay,

869
00:43:43,800 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 1: you've taken a big piece of this experience away from me,

870
00:43:46,640 --> 00:43:49,439
Speaker 1: from experience that I really was going into excited about.

871
00:43:49,440 --> 00:43:52,480
Speaker 1: I left my daughter for who I who I love, UM,

872
00:43:52,560 --> 00:43:54,759
Speaker 1: and you tried to get in my skin and you did.

873
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:56,759
Speaker 1: You did that successfully. And I'm not going to let

874
00:43:56,800 --> 00:43:59,080
Speaker 1: you just walk away from this without me at least

875
00:43:59,120 --> 00:44:03,399
Speaker 1: expressing to you. I'm hurt. You've affected me. This has

876
00:44:03,400 --> 00:44:06,719
Speaker 1: been ruined totally. So okay, moving on. Then, we have

877
00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:10,480
Speaker 1: a bunch of crazy dates this week. Um, one day

878
00:44:10,520 --> 00:44:14,200
Speaker 1: is somebody with that honestly, I haven't known really through

879
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:15,960
Speaker 1: the whole season. That's a date with a guy named

880
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:17,879
Speaker 1: Will Well. I think we get to no Will a

881
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:22,400
Speaker 1: little bit, but he's just not someone we are like

882
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:24,440
Speaker 1: invested in. Why is that? But you know who else

883
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:28,319
Speaker 1: we're not invested in? Matt and Adam. Why are Matt

884
00:44:28,360 --> 00:44:30,480
Speaker 1: and Adam still there? And why are they giving us

885
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:33,400
Speaker 1: any reason to root for them? Yeah? I don't even

886
00:44:33,440 --> 00:44:36,920
Speaker 1: know who Matt and Adam are. Then there are six

887
00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 1: guys left. The three of them we are pretty attached to.

888
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:44,200
Speaker 1: That'd be Dean, Peter, and Bryan. And now we're kind

889
00:44:44,239 --> 00:44:47,400
Speaker 1: of attached to Eric because Eric's date with Rachel was

890
00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:49,759
Speaker 1: so fun. They just had a blast. Like I don't

891
00:44:49,760 --> 00:44:51,799
Speaker 1: know that Rachel's looking at him like, oh, I'm going

892
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 1: to marry this man, but she's like, I would love

893
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:55,120
Speaker 1: to date this guy in real life because we just

894
00:44:55,160 --> 00:44:57,000
Speaker 1: have a blast. What about their date? What about their

895
00:44:57,040 --> 00:45:00,200
Speaker 1: date stood out to me? Ashley Um, the way they

896
00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:03,840
Speaker 1: wanted her to laugh and smile and he liked he

897
00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:07,440
Speaker 1: kept it lighthearted, and they were drinking. They were in

898
00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:09,759
Speaker 1: the hot tub with like another barrel of men right

899
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:12,760
Speaker 1: next to them, and then they went to the second

900
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:16,440
Speaker 1: biggest theme park on Earth. It was all just really

901
00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:21,759
Speaker 1: fun and you know, he was he has such a happy, positive,

902
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:26,439
Speaker 1: uplifting vibe. She just really like being around him. Like Eric,

903
00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:28,800
Speaker 1: there's a level too, I think when you find somebody

904
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 1: like Eric, that is a part of your season. I

905
00:45:30,560 --> 00:45:33,319
Speaker 1: don't know how she ends up who she ends up with,

906
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:35,959
Speaker 1: but either way, you keep somebody like Eric around because

907
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:38,440
Speaker 1: he's he's fun. Or you know, there's some girls from

908
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:40,799
Speaker 1: my season that I kept around because they're they're they're fun,

909
00:45:40,800 --> 00:45:43,720
Speaker 1: they're uplifting. They make this experience a little bit better,

910
00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:46,399
Speaker 1: a lot better at times. Uh. And I think that

911
00:45:47,040 --> 00:45:48,920
Speaker 1: it's something he said for that after the show is

912
00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:50,799
Speaker 1: you became friends with those people and you appreciate them

913
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:52,880
Speaker 1: a lot. There's some some women from my season that

914
00:45:52,880 --> 00:45:57,440
Speaker 1: I appreciate a lot post well, the Twins definitely. The

915
00:45:57,440 --> 00:45:59,360
Speaker 1: Twins were always fun. Emily, you know, it was around

916
00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 1: a little longer, and anytime you you hang out with

917
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:04,160
Speaker 1: somebody like Emily, you can look back and go, that

918
00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 1: was a good experience. So yeah, I mean, I think

919
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 1: that's I think that's what I saw and Eric maybe

920
00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:10,120
Speaker 1: was that there's not a lot of deep connection, but

921
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:13,680
Speaker 1: there there is a level of just excitement and fun

922
00:46:13,760 --> 00:46:16,919
Speaker 1: and and they look like two teenagers on their date. Yeah,

923
00:46:16,920 --> 00:46:19,319
Speaker 1: he's like smooth and sexy and she's like, this is

924
00:46:19,360 --> 00:46:22,640
Speaker 1: It's fun to be flirted with in this sort of manner. Definitely.

925
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 1: So we have a one on one, uh with Eric,

926
00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:29,640
Speaker 1: we have a one on one with Will. Um. Outside

927
00:46:29,680 --> 00:46:31,120
Speaker 1: of that, what else did we can we can go?

928
00:46:31,200 --> 00:46:34,319
Speaker 1: We can go revisit that Will date. The Will date

929
00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:38,720
Speaker 1: was Bizarro because he has kissed her in the past,

930
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:41,880
Speaker 1: but on this date he just didn't want to touch

931
00:46:41,920 --> 00:46:44,919
Speaker 1: her and she was very insecure about it. It made

932
00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:48,480
Speaker 1: me feel really bad because she kept saying all season,

933
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:50,879
Speaker 1: She's like, I'm a touch person, I'm a quality time person.

934
00:46:50,920 --> 00:46:53,920
Speaker 1: Those are there? Two? Um touch a two love languages

935
00:46:53,960 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 1: and on The Bachelor I love about you Ben. Did

936
00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:58,040
Speaker 1: you guys talk about love languages a lot, a lot? Yeah,

937
00:46:58,080 --> 00:47:01,560
Speaker 1: we did, um, because there's some girls from my season

938
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 1: that honestly had just read the book The Five Love Languages,

939
00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:06,680
Speaker 1: and also a book they read which it meant a

940
00:47:06,719 --> 00:47:08,640
Speaker 1: lot to me. I had read a book by Donald

941
00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:11,319
Speaker 1: Miller called Scary Close right before I went on the show,

942
00:47:11,640 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 1: and I had posted a picture of one of the

943
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:16,080
Speaker 1: excerpts from the from the book, and some of the

944
00:47:16,120 --> 00:47:17,799
Speaker 1: girls actually went other way to go buy the book

945
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:19,759
Speaker 1: and read it too, so we could relate on this level.

946
00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:23,319
Speaker 1: That so there that was actually a big topic during

947
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:24,840
Speaker 1: my whole season was Hey, these are the things that

948
00:47:24,840 --> 00:47:27,400
Speaker 1: were said in these books. You know, what does what

949
00:47:27,440 --> 00:47:28,799
Speaker 1: does that look like? To us? What is what does

950
00:47:28,800 --> 00:47:31,000
Speaker 1: that feel like to us? Which meant a lot because

951
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:33,000
Speaker 1: it makes conversations on dates a lot easier. You have

952
00:47:33,080 --> 00:47:36,120
Speaker 1: actually something to talk about that isn't just you're you know,

953
00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:40,120
Speaker 1: the darkest, deepest parts of your yourself. What's really weird

954
00:47:40,440 --> 00:47:43,120
Speaker 1: to you? Guys um will let you in a little bit.

955
00:47:43,560 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 1: When you're in the bachelor bubble, there are actually a

956
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:49,080
Speaker 1: few things to talk about because there's either the stuff

957
00:47:49,120 --> 00:47:51,279
Speaker 1: that's going on in the house or there's the deep

958
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:54,440
Speaker 1: dark stuff about your soul that we are encouraged to

959
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:57,800
Speaker 1: talk about. But there's not much going on your daily

960
00:47:57,880 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 1: life that you could be like, oh, hey, guess what

961
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:01,759
Speaker 1: I did to or like I had this weird experience

962
00:48:01,760 --> 00:48:04,600
Speaker 1: out at the grocery store. So you're just kind of

963
00:48:04,840 --> 00:48:07,680
Speaker 1: sometimes it's a struggle for conversation. I agree with that. No,

964
00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:10,400
Speaker 1: I would say I'd say it's always difficult to talk.

965
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:12,360
Speaker 1: But one conversation that really did stand out from this

966
00:48:12,400 --> 00:48:14,840
Speaker 1: episode was, and I think it was one of the

967
00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:16,880
Speaker 1: most touching moments of the season so far, is a

968
00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:20,080
Speaker 1: conversation between Kenny and his daughter they face time on

969
00:48:20,120 --> 00:48:22,359
Speaker 1: this episode was so cute. It was the second time

970
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:24,560
Speaker 1: we got to see Kenny face time with his daughter,

971
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:28,239
Speaker 1: and it just say so much about his soul and

972
00:48:28,320 --> 00:48:31,279
Speaker 1: him as a father. He is so attached to his daughter,

973
00:48:31,880 --> 00:48:36,080
Speaker 1: so attached that he and Rachel had the conversation where

974
00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:38,799
Speaker 1: they're like, yeah, we like each other, and we're two

975
00:48:38,840 --> 00:48:41,919
Speaker 1: mature adults that know that this probably isn't going to

976
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:45,000
Speaker 1: result in a marriage, So let's break this off now

977
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:46,759
Speaker 1: so you can go home to your daughter. Do you

978
00:48:46,800 --> 00:48:49,520
Speaker 1: appreciate that? I love the way this went down. This

979
00:48:49,600 --> 00:48:52,840
Speaker 1: was one of the most heartfelt breakups I've seen on

980
00:48:52,880 --> 00:48:56,239
Speaker 1: The Bachelor because it was so mutual and there was

981
00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:59,360
Speaker 1: so much love and respect between the two of them,

982
00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 1: And when he left, he was like, that is a

983
00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:04,760
Speaker 1: wonderful woman that I want my daughter to hopefully emulate

984
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:06,560
Speaker 1: one day. Wow, that's I mean, yeah, you got to

985
00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:08,600
Speaker 1: think about that. Is He's leaving an experience where it

986
00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:10,759
Speaker 1: wasn't exactly great for him, not by his own choice.

987
00:49:10,760 --> 00:49:13,760
Speaker 1: I think there's a lot of um things that affected

988
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 1: his experience, including Lee. But then you know, as he's

989
00:49:18,040 --> 00:49:20,160
Speaker 1: lack of a better term, one this one on one.

990
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:22,560
Speaker 1: He then comes back, he says, Okay, now let's reevaluate.

991
00:49:23,040 --> 00:49:26,120
Speaker 1: You know, you've chosen me to stay. But is this

992
00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:28,759
Speaker 1: a long term relationship? And if it isn't, I want

993
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:32,040
Speaker 1: to get home, which means a lot. And I respect

994
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:35,080
Speaker 1: that as a man because he's obviously searching for love.

995
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:37,840
Speaker 1: It is so mature to say I don't want to

996
00:49:37,840 --> 00:49:40,440
Speaker 1: stick around just for the sake of getting further in

997
00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:44,400
Speaker 1: this competition, But like I actually want to know, is

998
00:49:44,440 --> 00:49:46,920
Speaker 1: this something that's gonna end up meaning anything in my life?

999
00:49:47,280 --> 00:49:49,719
Speaker 1: You know, there's a lot of um comments after the

1000
00:49:49,760 --> 00:49:52,480
Speaker 1: show of their tears that were shed during this conversation

1001
00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:55,320
Speaker 1: between Kenny and his daughter. Actually, for you, why was

1002
00:49:55,400 --> 00:49:59,280
Speaker 1: that conversation so emotional? I think we got a sense

1003
00:49:59,360 --> 00:50:02,919
Speaker 1: of who he is at home off camera and who

1004
00:50:02,920 --> 00:50:06,400
Speaker 1: he is as a dad of course, and something that

1005
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:10,799
Speaker 1: we don't get to see is their interpersonal relationships outside

1006
00:50:10,800 --> 00:50:13,480
Speaker 1: of this bachelor bubble. Do you do you enjoy as

1007
00:50:13,640 --> 00:50:16,360
Speaker 1: as a fan? Now, do you enjoy watching the episodes

1008
00:50:16,400 --> 00:50:18,880
Speaker 1: and getting to see kind of those two worlds collide.

1009
00:50:18,960 --> 00:50:20,960
Speaker 1: Is that fun? Is that? I mean? I guess not fun?

1010
00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:23,520
Speaker 1: Is it exciting? Is it intimate? Like? How do you

1011
00:50:23,520 --> 00:50:28,200
Speaker 1: feel when you see those those moments? I feel warm

1012
00:50:28,239 --> 00:50:32,359
Speaker 1: and gooey? I don't. I don't know. It's that kind

1013
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 1: of warm and gooey. Well, when you get hometowns, like

1014
00:50:36,200 --> 00:50:39,040
Speaker 1: you tell me about worried about the gooey? Like, what's

1015
00:50:39,040 --> 00:50:42,359
Speaker 1: feeling gooey? I don't know, like melty, you know, like

1016
00:50:42,480 --> 00:50:46,279
Speaker 1: watching Kenny with his daughter was very melty. Okay, we'll

1017
00:50:46,320 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 1: deal with this all right, So I sorry, we'll move

1018
00:50:48,040 --> 00:50:51,240
Speaker 1: on here. So you felt warm and gooey. I've never

1019
00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:53,799
Speaker 1: used that expression like that. Are you just use it

1020
00:50:53,840 --> 00:50:59,080
Speaker 1: on a podcast? I don't know. How do I feel? Michael?

1021
00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:01,680
Speaker 1: The question is how do I feel in moments where

1022
00:51:01,760 --> 00:51:05,240
Speaker 1: we see the contestants leave their bachelor bubble? Yeah? Definitely.

1023
00:51:05,760 --> 00:51:08,719
Speaker 1: That would normally be seen in hometowns, in hometowns only, Yeah,

1024
00:51:08,760 --> 00:51:10,120
Speaker 1: and now and now we're going to a glimpse of

1025
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:12,959
Speaker 1: that before hometowns. I like that. Okay, So if that's

1026
00:51:13,040 --> 00:51:14,879
Speaker 1: the answer to your question, I like that a lot,

1027
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:16,799
Speaker 1: and I think that would be something that would be

1028
00:51:16,920 --> 00:51:20,280
Speaker 1: nice for the Bachelor of the Bachelorette to see before

1029
00:51:20,400 --> 00:51:21,920
Speaker 1: at the top four because I think it says a

1030
00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 1: lot about somebody's character to see them interact with their family.

1031
00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:28,680
Speaker 1: So on. On your season of The Bachelor, then, were

1032
00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:32,759
Speaker 1: the contestants allowed to talk to their if they had kids? Right,

1033
00:51:32,800 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 1: you had a couple. I think there's a couple of

1034
00:51:34,560 --> 00:51:36,880
Speaker 1: women from your season had kids. Two girls from my

1035
00:51:36,920 --> 00:51:38,600
Speaker 1: season had kids. Were they allowed to talk to their

1036
00:51:38,640 --> 00:51:40,799
Speaker 1: kids back home? Yes, so they are allowed to face

1037
00:51:40,880 --> 00:51:44,560
Speaker 1: time them. It's like every other every third day. I

1038
00:51:44,600 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 1: think in the Bachelor House it was more like every

1039
00:51:46,719 --> 00:51:49,319
Speaker 1: third day. But then in Paradise they let them face

1040
00:51:49,360 --> 00:51:51,880
Speaker 1: time more. I think there's just like maybe more downtime

1041
00:51:52,760 --> 00:51:55,200
Speaker 1: nice And I mean when when they did that, there

1042
00:51:55,280 --> 00:52:01,160
Speaker 1: was always filmed, I do think it was usually owned. Yeah, well,

1043
00:52:01,200 --> 00:52:03,759
Speaker 1: you know, I think it's important for any parents that

1044
00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:04,960
Speaker 1: go on this show to be able to talk to

1045
00:52:05,000 --> 00:52:07,719
Speaker 1: their kids. You know, obviously, when you're there, there's a

1046
00:52:07,719 --> 00:52:10,319
Speaker 1: lot of people you want to talk to, but it's

1047
00:52:10,360 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 1: a different relationship when you have kids at home. Yeah,

1048
00:52:12,640 --> 00:52:15,680
Speaker 1: I mean, it's very intimate. It's it's very important for

1049
00:52:15,719 --> 00:52:17,400
Speaker 1: them to continue to be the parents they want to be,

1050
00:52:18,160 --> 00:52:20,840
Speaker 1: and and honestly, I just think it means it probably

1051
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:24,000
Speaker 1: means a lot to Rachel. I know it meant a

1052
00:52:24,000 --> 00:52:28,080
Speaker 1: lot to me when the parents on the show can

1053
00:52:28,160 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 1: keep a healthy relationship with their kids back home, right.

1054
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 1: And I just want to speak for Amanda for a second.

1055
00:52:34,160 --> 00:52:36,319
Speaker 1: She's been getting a lot of hate lately because it

1056
00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:38,959
Speaker 1: was announced that obviously she's doing Paradise for the third time,

1057
00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:42,480
Speaker 1: but she went on this rant that I truly think

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Speaker 1: is so important for people to realize out there that

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Speaker 1: because she does this and leaves her kids for maybe

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Speaker 1: like three weeks out of the year, she gets to

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Speaker 1: provide them with an amazing life and she gets to

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Speaker 1: spend all the time with them. She's home with them

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Speaker 1: all the time because she's allowed to, you know, work

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Speaker 1: from home or do events that are able to keep

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Speaker 1: them financially supported. I agree, No, I think it's I

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Speaker 1: think it's you know, it's her decision ultimately. But if

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Speaker 1: who are we when we said up many time, many times,

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Speaker 1: actually like who are we or anybody out there and

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Speaker 1: in the social media world to judge these people that

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Speaker 1: we don't know personally? You and I know them personally, right,

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Speaker 1: and some people do. But who are we to make

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Speaker 1: comments like you're a bad parent for going away for

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Speaker 1: a month. Um. Honestly, I think with Amanda especially, she

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Speaker 1: is able to go back home. Especially I said, I did,

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Speaker 1: I said, all right this time right, no thing, it

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Speaker 1: mess up every time. I'm getting better, I'm trying. But

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Speaker 1: with Amanda, there is a level there where she's able

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Speaker 1: to go home and be a better parent because of

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Speaker 1: this show. And if there is nobody out there, unless

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Speaker 1: they know Amanda personally and they're a good friend, who

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Speaker 1: can give her advice, that should be breaking her down

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Speaker 1: or her kids down, or criticizing her to level because

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Speaker 1: that hurts, It stings, it's deep you and I felt

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Speaker 1: that kind of stuff before. It's not fun. Um. What

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Speaker 1: we should be saying is, Amanda, I hope you can

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Speaker 1: find a man that can support your kids as well.

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Speaker 1: And I was going to say that too. So not

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Speaker 1: only can she spend the quality of time that she

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Speaker 1: does with the kids and support them financially like she does,

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Speaker 1: but also last time she brought home a man who

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Speaker 1: the kids loved, and he was he was such a

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Speaker 1: presence in their life and a positive one at that.

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Speaker 1: You know, Josh and Amanda no longer together, but she

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Speaker 1: will never say anything bad about him, about the way

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Speaker 1: he treated the girls. He loved the girls. You know,

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Speaker 1: aman Amanda is uh somebody I know personally. I think

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Speaker 1: Amanda is great. I appreciate her. She has been an

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Speaker 1: active part in my life since you know that the show.

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Speaker 1: I wish Amanda the best as we watch Paradise that

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Speaker 1: will be coming up here very soon. I know we're

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Speaker 1: both excited for it. But that uh, in itself is

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Speaker 1: the essence of the Bachelora. It is about love, is

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Speaker 1: about relationships. It is about finding a very unique way

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Speaker 1: to go about find your relationships. And some of that

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Speaker 1: include sacrifice, ice, sacrificing being away from your kids for

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Speaker 1: a while. So with that, that is the Almost Famous

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Speaker 1: I have a great Fourth of July I will be celebrating.

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Speaker 1: We will talk to you July. With that, Thank you

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