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Speaker 1: Nephew, Thank you. Subject. I don't want her in the family.
Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I was a coach at my son's
Speaker 1: high school before I retired. My son went to college
Speaker 1: and had a girlfriend that my wife and I loved.
Speaker 1: They dated for three years and he wanted to propose
Speaker 1: right after college, but my wife encouraged him to sow
Speaker 1: his oats a bit before settling down.
Speaker 2: I'm a romantic, so.
Speaker 1: I thought, if he was truly in love, why wait,
Speaker 1: and why risk losing her? Well, he lost her because
Speaker 1: she wanted to get married young. My son was hurt
Speaker 1: and I hated to see him like that. He immediately
Speaker 1: started hanging out with women that were the direct opposite
Speaker 1: of his ex girlfriend. I could barely hold a conversation
Speaker 1: with some of the young women, and I couldn't believe
Speaker 1: the outfits they wore on dates with our son. So
Speaker 1: fast forward to last month when he announced that he's
Speaker 1: been dating someone for about six months and he thinks
Speaker 1: she's the one. He said, she's someone from his past
Speaker 1: and they reconnected online and have fallen in love. He
Speaker 1: showed my wife and I a picture of her, and
Speaker 1: my jaw dropped. My wife thought she was very attractive
Speaker 1: with a great figure. In my mind, all I remember
Speaker 1: is her terrible reputation and all the fights she got in.
Speaker 1: I recall her getting arrested when she brought a gun
Speaker 1: to school. I know people can change, but their body
Speaker 1: counts don't. I could never tell my wife about her
Speaker 1: because it would be a bigger issue. I can't tell
Speaker 1: my son what to do with his future. But this
Speaker 1: isn't who I want to bear my grandkids. She already
Speaker 1: has two sons that her mom is raising. Do I
Speaker 1: stay out of it or talk to my son? Ooh,
Speaker 1: what a dilemma, because you want to help, but you've
Speaker 1: got to talk to your son. You have to, you know,
Speaker 1: he's going to want when he wants, regardless, but at
Speaker 1: least if things go badly, you can say to yourself,
Speaker 1: don't say this to him, but you can say to
Speaker 1: yourself that you tried to stop him from making this
Speaker 1: big mistake. And just because the first girl got away
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that's true in every situation. You can talk
Speaker 1: to your wife about what you're thinking too. I mean,
Speaker 1: your wife has her own mind and her own thoughts
Speaker 1: about these situations. Then you guys can talk to your
Speaker 1: son together. Marriage is too hard, marriage is too big
Speaker 1: of a step in life just to sit by and
Speaker 1: say nothing. The one thing I will say is don't
Speaker 1: talk badly about this girl to your son. That will
Speaker 1: only put him in protective mode and want to be
Speaker 1: with her more. And yes, you are right, people can change,
Speaker 1: and maybe she did change.
Speaker 2: But one way to find out is I tell you what.
Speaker 2: Invite her over to.
Speaker 1: Dinner, to some family gatherings, some reunions and such. Maybe
Speaker 1: invite her to church so you guys can see how
Speaker 1: she moves. And she should definitely bring her two sons
Speaker 1: so you can see what's up with them. And you
Speaker 1: want your son to see everything. You want your son
Speaker 1: to see everything on full display so he can make
Speaker 1: an informed decision as much as he can. And after
Speaker 1: you do all of this, if your son still wants
Speaker 1: to marry her, then Dad, you got to step away
Speaker 1: from this. You got to back off. He'll have to
Speaker 1: learn through life experiences. Tommy, it's a tough thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is.
Speaker 3: I'm a parent. I got three kids. You know you
Speaker 3: always want them to make the right decisions. He had
Speaker 3: a good girlfriend, and your wife talked him out of
Speaker 3: that one basically right and told him he should go
Speaker 3: throw his oats and think about it. Has she not
Speaker 3: pushed him away from that? He might have been with
Speaker 3: this girl that was really good for him, But you,
Speaker 3: y'all help make that decision. Now. Y'all ready to make
Speaker 3: some old decisions. So y'all all in it. Whether you
Speaker 3: think you're not, let you think you from the distance
Speaker 3: doing it. Now you are in it. You are in
Speaker 3: his business and you're trying to help him make his decision. Now.
Speaker 3: Now he got somebody two babies gunpacking back in the day,
Speaker 3: and now we got to make sure this don't What
Speaker 3: are we making sure? We want to make sure this
Speaker 3: doesn't work out? Or do we want to make sure,
Speaker 3: she's a change person. But me as a father, what
Speaker 3: I would do is pull my son to the side
Speaker 3: and say, Okay, I know this girl all right, I've
Speaker 3: seen him before, I know her. Let me tell you
Speaker 3: what kind of person she was back then. I don't
Speaker 3: know if she's the same person now, So don't put
Speaker 3: any judgment on it, but at least put it in
Speaker 3: this space so he'll at least know. All right, you
Speaker 3: got to make your own decision, and you got to
Speaker 3: be happy. But I think you need to Uh. Six
Speaker 3: months is not a long time to be turning around
Speaker 3: saying Okay, we should be getting married now. I think
Speaker 3: y'all need to go. You need to encourage your son
Speaker 3: to go. Well, how about dating her another year and
Speaker 3: a half. How about making it two years before you
Speaker 3: decide that you want to marry this girl. To me,
Speaker 3: if this is my boy, I want you to be
Speaker 3: with him, I would like to see you do this
Speaker 3: for two years and then you will decide if that's
Speaker 3: the right one for you or not. Then you're gonna
Speaker 3: decide if them two boys is somebody that you want
Speaker 3: to raise, because you're gonna be in they life, So
Speaker 3: you got to you gotta have to step up already,
Speaker 3: your father, and let's make sure she ain't. She still
Speaker 3: ain't packing this gun, you know, let's make let's get
Speaker 3: a look, let's figure out that this gun is still around.
Speaker 3: She's still that kind of girl. You know, she ain't
Speaker 3: in school no more. If she take it as a
Speaker 3: gun in the car to take it to work out
Speaker 3: what we did with it, you don't know what she's anywhere.
Speaker 3: So that's my take on it. I think you should
Speaker 3: really pull your son to the side, have a man
Speaker 3: the man conversation with him and try to point him
Speaker 3: in the right direction. But the most important thing is
Speaker 3: you're letting your son know I am not telling you
Speaker 3: what to do. This is you a grown man. This
Speaker 3: is going to be at the end of the day.
Speaker 3: This is going to be your decision. But I'm your
Speaker 3: daddy and I'm not your I'm not your daddy if
Speaker 3: I don't stand here and at least give you some advice,
Speaker 3: you know, throughout the sun and say hey, let's let's
Speaker 3: let's do this a little bit longer. Six months, so
Speaker 3: how about this. Let's be engaged with another year and
Speaker 3: a half and then maybe you'll be able to decide
Speaker 3: if this is the woman for you.
Speaker 2: Yep, I agree. You got to talk to your son.
Speaker 2: All right.
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Speaker 1: letter subject is I don't want her in our family.
Speaker 1: We will hear from Junior right after this.
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Speaker 2: All right, we're going to recap Today's Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1: The subject is I don't want to In the family,
Speaker 1: A father wrote in he was a coach at his
Speaker 1: son's high school and his son went to college. He
Speaker 1: had a girlfriend in college. He and his wife loved
Speaker 1: this girl. They thought she was the right girl for
Speaker 1: their son, and the girl wanted to get married right away,
Speaker 1: but the wife was a little hesitant. The boy's mother
Speaker 1: was a bit hesitant because she wanted her son, you know,
Speaker 1: to get all his wildness out, you know, and so's
Speaker 1: oats and all that before he married this young lady. Well,
Speaker 1: the young lady didn't want to wait. She wanted to
Speaker 1: get married young, so she went ahead and broke off
Speaker 1: that relationship. The son was heartbroken about it, really really heartbroken.
Speaker 1: The dad hated to see his son like that, So
Speaker 1: the son immediately started hanging out with women that were
Speaker 1: the direct opposite of his ex girl. And then recently
Speaker 1: he came in and told his dad that he met
Speaker 1: someone and he thinks she is the one after only
Speaker 1: dating her for six months. Now, the dad happened to
Speaker 1: know this girl. He knew that the girl got arrested
Speaker 1: for bringing gun to school. He knew about body count
Speaker 1: I don't know how he knew all of this, maybe
Speaker 1: just by being the coach, but he knew a lot
Speaker 1: about this young lady that his son is thinking about
Speaker 1: getting engaged to and marrying, thinking she's the one.
Speaker 5: Uh.
Speaker 1: The wife said, simply said, she's attractive with a great figure.
Speaker 1: So the dad thinks she has a terrible reputation. And
Speaker 1: what he's asking is should he stay out of it?
Speaker 1: Oh and by the way, the girl has two sons
Speaker 1: of her own as well coming into the marriage. So
Speaker 1: the dad wants to know should he stay out of
Speaker 1: it or should he talk to his son junior.
Speaker 2: Let's just go ahead and just put this out here.
Speaker 5: Let's go ahead and just see we have lost him.
Speaker 2: He's not coming back. The sun is gone. Me and
Speaker 2: Timey don't have the power to change this man's mind.
Speaker 5: Daddy, you don't either, because what she doing to your
Speaker 5: son is what we've always seen ric opposite.
Speaker 2: I know the girl he was.
Speaker 5: With with such an angel? What did he dating the devil?
Speaker 3: Now?
Speaker 2: Oh, this six is something different.
Speaker 5: Now it's oh it's crazy.
Speaker 2: Uh huh.
Speaker 5: Oh that rum he experienced.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she got a nice figure too.
Speaker 5: Well, she got way more experienced because she got two sons. Well,
Speaker 5: meet your new grandchildren and put your valuables up because
Speaker 5: they're coming. Mama, carry gun. I know these kids robbing.
Speaker 5: There may be six or seven, but Man Man and
Speaker 5: jos John coming. You better put your stuff up. They're
Speaker 5: talking about the mama raising the kids. Y'all fingna raise
Speaker 5: these kids too. You better you better not go to
Speaker 5: sleep before they do.
Speaker 2: What did you say their names were? You Man, Man
Speaker 2: and Jojahn. They coming. You better get your whole package.
Speaker 3: You can.
Speaker 2: You can forget that knock wanning her in the family.
Speaker 2: She in uh huh oh.
Speaker 5: Y'all got to stay with family home too, and then
Speaker 5: she find a daddy for these kids. All she gotta do.
Speaker 2: Is just keep doing what she doing. This boyfriend, marry Hunt.
Speaker 2: You talk about six months. What did you see that ring?
Speaker 2: Next week?
Speaker 5: That's coming gonna be nice next week?
Speaker 2: You don't think that's just soon?
Speaker 5: No, no, no, no, no, I think it's too so
Speaker 5: we just can't do nothing about it.
Speaker 2: Okay, Man, he's under a spell right now.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that girl fined to Imma said, you know what's
Speaker 5: you know? She finally when Mama says she got a
Speaker 5: nice figure and she's beautiful.
Speaker 2: And what we love crazy.
Speaker 5: We took that gun and hit him across the head,
Speaker 5: but he said, ooh, that's love.
Speaker 2: He abused me. O got a knot on his forehead.
Speaker 5: Every time you see his something on his lip, bust.
Speaker 5: He got a bad across his nose.
Speaker 2: He always getting me and he loved it. Y'all talking
Speaker 2: about what we're gonna do.
Speaker 5: You're gonna let it in the family. You're not fixing this.
Speaker 2: This boy is gone.
Speaker 5: He had the good thing, but y'all told him he
Speaker 5: gonna sew his old Now he's sawing the oaths.
Speaker 2: Now, y'all mad, he is gone. Making up your mind.
Speaker 2: He's not coming back now. He been, he been handcuffed,
Speaker 2: he's been emptying.
Speaker 5: He's been. He been. He been arrested by her so
Speaker 5: many times he kneed handcuff. He just he just in
Speaker 5: the room, just handcuffed, Shut up, lay out.
Speaker 2: He just out there just. I mean, he just been abuse.
Speaker 5: He had everything happened to him.
Speaker 2: He been hell in the closet. He liked that.
Speaker 5: Have y'all seen Darren.
Speaker 2: We ain't seen there in three weeks. He been in
Speaker 2: the clock. I hold him captive.
Speaker 5: What you mean she ain't come in the family.
Speaker 2: What you can do. It's going there, you know you
Speaker 2: know what.
Speaker 5: She go to work and guess who's watching them?
Speaker 2: Man, Man and Judge Ellen.
Speaker 5: Something to eat and we eat.
Speaker 2: It's over what we can do for him.
Speaker 5: This girl is fine too.
Speaker 2: She know a sucking when she got one. Chief, How
Speaker 2: do I know that, Charlie? I was one.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, this is personal for you.
Speaker 2: The closet, my good girl. I found one I couldn't hand.
Speaker 5: I said, Oh, I knew when I was standing there,
Speaker 5: she was kissing me and she pulled her.
Speaker 2: Lifts back and she slapped me, and I liked it.
Speaker 2: I know her.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 2: Har why you guys love crazy?
Speaker 5: And I'm gonna tell you. And I gave him my
Speaker 5: checks and everything. Every time I did, I brought it
Speaker 5: all the way back to everything.
Speaker 2: Wait, you gave her your checks, Junior. I didn't know.
Speaker 2: I was young.
Speaker 4: Sure, you know.
Speaker 2: I want to tell you.
Speaker 5: I thought money would keep it. She didn't in Spinish.
Speaker 2: Hey y'all, I remember this. Yeah he knows.
Speaker 5: I remember.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you fine?
Speaker 5: Crazy to You.
Speaker 2: Couldn't tell Junior nothing time to tell me?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: Why open?
Speaker 3: Wow? I'm doing everything.
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