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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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Speaker 1: tip is to leave the party while you are still

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Speaker 1: having fun. This is good advice for literal parties and

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Speaker 1: for other circumstances when it is wise not to stick

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Speaker 1: around until something that has been great becomes wearying. So

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Speaker 1: there is an interesting phenomenon called recency bias. Whatever has

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Speaker 1: happened most recently sticks out in the brain more. This

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Speaker 1: means that if you were bored at the end of

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Speaker 1: what was mostly a good party, you will remember the

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Speaker 1: mostly good party as boring. This isn't really fair on

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Speaker 1: the part of your brain, but it is true Personally.

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Speaker 1: I prefer to have better memories of things, so best

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Speaker 1: to leave the party while you are still having fun.

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Speaker 1: That way, you will remember the party as fun, and

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Speaker 1: as a plus, you might be able to go to

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Speaker 1: bed within an hour of your usual bedtime. The idea

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Speaker 1: to leave the party while you are still having fun

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Speaker 1: works for literal parties and other experiences as well. So

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Speaker 1: for instance, don't continue in a job or volunteer role

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Speaker 1: until you hate it while you are still enjoying the role,

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Speaker 1: but are just beginning to feel a little bored or irritated,

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Speaker 1: start considering new opportunities. You can do the same with

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Speaker 1: regular social engagements. If your Saturday morning manicure with your

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Speaker 1: aunt has been great for the last two years, celebrate

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Speaker 1: that and feel free to invite her over for family

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Speaker 1: dinner on Sundays and sunset the manicure ritual while you

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Speaker 1: are still at least somewhat enjoying it. If seeing bowling

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Speaker 1: a league on your calendar doesn't make you quite as

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Speaker 1: excited as it used to, consider whether there are other

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Speaker 1: ways that you could stay connected with your friends while

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Speaker 1: you still have happy memories of time at the bowling alley.

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Speaker 1: Consider letting your kids leave while they are still having

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Speaker 1: fun too, Instead of requiring them to try one more

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Speaker 1: semester of gymnastics. Before you let them quit, you might

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Speaker 1: reflect on whether they could quit now and remember enjoying gymnastics.

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Speaker 1: If they quit a semester from now, they might remember

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Speaker 1: hating it and being forced to do it, and you

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Speaker 1: might have four months of frequent battles about going to gymnastics.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime. Most good things do come to an

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Speaker 1: end eventually. Sometimes that end happens because of circumstance. But

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Speaker 1: sometimes things stop being good because we've done enough of them,

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Speaker 1: or we become different people, and that is okay. You

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Speaker 1: don't have to fight it. If you leave the party

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Speaker 1: while you are still having fun, you will often have

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Speaker 1: good memories rather than bad feelings about something that went

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Speaker 1: on a little too long. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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Speaker 1: our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've

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Speaker 1: got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

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