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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Because it's Christmas time, we're counting down the twelve first

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Speaker 2: day follow ups of Christmas has voted on by you. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: we count down all the way to the number one

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Speaker 2: first date follow up that you voted on. Hannah is

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Speaker 2: on the phone today for a first day follow ups.

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Speaker 2: She's getting ghosted by a dude named Luke. So in

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Speaker 2: a few minutes we're gonna call him and see if

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Speaker 2: you'll tell us why is ghosting her. But first, Hannah,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been sis you heard from Luke?

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Speaker 1: It's been about a week. I texted him a couple times,

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Speaker 1: but not saying just radio silence.

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Speaker 3: Really, so, did you feel like you were going to

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Speaker 3: hear from him?

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Speaker 4: Was the date good?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 1: No, it's so weird because he was texting me right

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Speaker 1: after the date like that was fun.

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Speaker 5: We should do it again? And now poof absolutely nothing.

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Speaker 3: Why don't you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Okay, So here's the deal. We went on for Sushie,

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Speaker 1: which I love. I thought it was a super solid start.

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Speaker 1: You even let me pick out the restaurant.

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Speaker 5: Which was cool.

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Speaker 1: I didn't think that a guy who doesn't like rawfish.

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Speaker 5: Would suggest sushi. But cool. We ended up ordering way

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Speaker 5: too much food, it was. It was kind of a

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Speaker 1: Both just like cracking jokes about it, especially when he

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Speaker 1: nearly flung a piece of sashimi across the table trying

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Speaker 1: to use the classics. Yeah, it was cute.

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Speaker 5: So afterwards we went for a walk, which was really sweet.

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Speaker 5: It was kill low key, and it just felt like

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Speaker 5: we were on the same wavelengths, you.

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Speaker 3: Know, yeah, slinging sushi and you know, sweet conversation.

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Speaker 4: So why do you think.

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Speaker 1: Oh man, Honestly, I like, I don't know, because I thought.

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Speaker 5: It went really really great. There was just like something

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Speaker 5: about him. He was so funny.

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Speaker 1: But maybe I messed up when I paid for dinner

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Speaker 1: behind us back. But Bill was just like way more

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Speaker 1: than we expected. And I had ordered a really fancy stock.

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Speaker 5: And wag you advertiser.

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Speaker 1: Without even thinking about it, and I felt bad. So

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Speaker 1: when he got up to use the bathroom, I just

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Speaker 1: went ahead and paid for the whole thing. So when

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Speaker 1: he came back, I told him it wasn't a big deal.

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Speaker 2: I'd marry you, like a reason to go through it all.

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Speaker 5: Right, I mean I can a florid it, and but

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Speaker 5: he seemed like kind of irritated.

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Speaker 1: He kept saying, you know, I could have paid for that,

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Speaker 1: and I tried to explain that it didn't mean anything.

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Speaker 1: I just felt guilty for ordering the expensive stuff like unconsciously.

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Speaker 1: But maybe he thought that I was implying that he

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Speaker 1: couldn't afford.

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Speaker 5: It or something.

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Speaker 1: I really mean it like that.

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Speaker 5: I was just trying to do something nice. But now

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Speaker 5: I'm wondering if it like came off totally wrong.

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Speaker 3: Well did he say thank you? Did like aside from

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Speaker 3: the fact that he's like I could pay for it too,

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Speaker 3: Was he appreciative of it?

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Speaker 1: No, he did it just like it just like shit

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Speaker 1: to divide like a little bit, but like not enough

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Speaker 1: to But we still were planning on and out.

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Speaker 5: Again, we both had talked about how it was fun.

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Speaker 2: So I don't know, maybe it's some one of those

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Speaker 2: weird old school type of things, you know, where it

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Speaker 3: Something, or maybe he didn't even have the option because

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Speaker 3: you did it behind his back too. For whatever reason. Again,

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Speaker 3: like ju Will said I would marry you.

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Speaker 5: Right, I mean a girl who can take care of herself.

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Speaker 5: What's what's there not to light?

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Speaker 4: Right? You needed to date a new school dude to

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Speaker 4: use you for everything? You're word.

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Speaker 2: Phrase differently if you're just joining us for today's first

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Speaker 2: date follow up. Hannah is on the phone and she's

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Speaker 2: getting ghosted by Luke. So we're about to call him

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Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her

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Speaker 2: and maybe get her another date. But first, Hannah, why

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Speaker 2: don't you refresh our memory on your date?

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Speaker 5: Okay, we went.

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Speaker 1: Out for this super fun sushi date, but I ended

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Speaker 1: up paying at the end because I thought i'd order

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Speaker 1: to sense his thing.

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Speaker 5: So I'm I'm worried it that's why he disappeared.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I could see some guy being like I don't want

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Speaker 4: I could actually see.

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Speaker 3: That well, because he's probably like if he's thinking like okay,

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Speaker 3: well what do I have to bring to the table,

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Speaker 3: or like somehow feeling bad about it.

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Speaker 4: I don't know. We'll see you ready for us to

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Speaker 4: call him?

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Speaker 5: Oh, here we go, Okay.

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Speaker 2: Here we go? Hello, Hi, man, I speak to Luke.

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Speaker 2: Please m hey Luke, how are you? This is the

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Speaker 2: Jubil Show. It's a radio show.

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Speaker 6: Hi.

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Speaker 3: I'm Nina.

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Speaker 4: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name's Jubile. How are you?

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Speaker 7: Uh, I'm sorry, it's like like a brank or something.

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Speaker 4: No, it's not.

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Speaker 2: Actually, we're calling you for a different reason. Have you

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Speaker 2: ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I just I didn't expect you to call me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well we're calling you today because you're ghosting somebody.

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Speaker 2: And we do a second on the show called the

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Speaker 2: first a follow up, you know where if you go

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Speaker 2: on a date with someone and then you end up

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Speaker 2: ghosting them, that person can email us to ask you

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So do you know who would

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Speaker 2: have emailed us about you?

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Speaker 7: I am guessing this is about Hannah?

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Speaker 5: Right?

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Speaker 4: Yes? Oh you got to correct. Congratulations you've won nothing

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Speaker 4: so far.

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Speaker 3: Are you ghosting her?

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Speaker 6: I'm not like ghosting her intentionally. I don't know.

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Speaker 5: The date was super fun, She's super cool, but it

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Speaker 7: Was honestly, it was just something that happened after.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so you are ghosting her intentionally? She said she

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Speaker 4: texted you didn't call her back, so.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so.

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Speaker 4: Okay, okay, but why yeah.

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Speaker 5: Uh so the deal.

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Speaker 7: Is so, you know, after our day, it was it

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Speaker 7: was really good, and uh, my buddy Andrew, so I

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Speaker 7: was telling him about it, and uh, you know, I

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Speaker 7: was staying so she paid for the meal and I,

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Speaker 7: you know, behind my back, and.

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Speaker 5: I don't know, I just thought it was kind of weird.

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Speaker 7: So I'm telling him about it, and uh he actually

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Speaker 7: picture and he just started cracking up. And uh it

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Speaker 7: turns out that he went out with Hannah to.

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Speaker 5: Okay that no, no, no, no, no.

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Speaker 4: No, no, it's not It's not only that.

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Speaker 7: It was that she did like the same exact thing

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Speaker 7: with him. They went to like a steakhouse and got

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Speaker 6: Behind his back, she paid without telling him.

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Speaker 7: And and then he was saying that like happened a

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Speaker 7: bunch of times, and he did, and he said his

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Speaker 7: words that by the end he felt like she was

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Speaker 7: treating him like some sort of boy toy that she

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, and you don't want to be a boy toy.

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Speaker 3: Is that what she's doing though? Or is that just

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Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know why. It's like nice that

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Speaker 3: but do you think that she was making you feel

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Speaker 7: I mean, I'm not going to like jump to that conclusion,

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Speaker 7: but it's like it felt weird, you know, it felt

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Speaker 6: Ah.

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Speaker 1: Wow, So because I'm too generous, I'm getting ghosted.

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Speaker 4: The listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 7: Ah. Oh, Hannah, Hey, how how are you doing?

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Speaker 5: Oh? Hi, Luke. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: I didn't realize I was making you feel like my

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Speaker 1: personal sugar baby.

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Speaker 5: Seriously, look, and.

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Speaker 1: I obviously had no idea that Andrew was your friend. Also,

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Speaker 1: Andrew seems like super okay with the fact that I was.

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Speaker 5: Paying for a lot of things. I have a nice job.

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Speaker 5: He seems grateful. This is this is new to me. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: that's Andrew. Of course you're buying something.

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Speaker 4: But it's just like sounded light cup pattern. And I

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Speaker 7: I didn't want to get wrapped up in this whole

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Speaker 5: For the ride thing. I mean, that's not it at all.

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Speaker 5: I'm just you know, trying to not seem like a

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Speaker 1: Wanted to get what I wanted to get without feeling guilty.

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Speaker 5: So what isn't that a nice thing that I could

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but I mean, like, you know, I could pay

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Speaker 5: I don't I don't know it, just like you can't

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Speaker 1: Gay, Well that's fine. I'll find somebody who's hot and

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Speaker 1: proud to be with the woman who can also take

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Speaker 3: Well wait, Hannah, what is it about paying for your

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Speaker 3: so important to you? Like, what is it about paying

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Speaker 5: Doing it every time?

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Speaker 1: I just don't want to feel like I'm beholden to

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Speaker 1: a man because I want really nice things and I'm

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Speaker 1: not expecting anybody to pay for that when they don't

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Speaker 1: really know me yet, you know, but you know beholden

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Speaker 1: I don't.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, honestly, you're just missing out.

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Speaker 1: You didn't even get to the part where I buy

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Speaker 1: you close yet?

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Speaker 5: You know, I want like a man.

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Speaker 1: I want a man who adores me and it's secure

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Speaker 1: enough to you know, be okay with that.

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Speaker 5: I mean I could buy my own clothes. I would

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Speaker 5: buy my own clothes.

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Speaker 1: You sound like I can't do this, Well, I mean

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Speaker 1: you could really really use the stylist and some new clothes,

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Speaker 1: because man, that outfit was not really impressed to me.

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Speaker 5: But I'm done trying to impress someone who gets.

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Speaker 1: Scared off by a little generosity.

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Speaker 2: Well, Luke, would you like another date with Hannah? Will

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Speaker 2: pay for it? That's true, we shouldn't pay for it.

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Speaker 5: I don't think I did.

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Speaker 7: You know, I guess to buy the whole wardrobe overhaul,

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Speaker 7: you know, for the pretty woman mate, So I don't

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Speaker 7: think so.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, no hard feelings though. Good luck finding

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Speaker 1: someone who won't spoil you too much. Okay, baby boys,

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Speaker 1: First they to follow up