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He was doing a radio show in Houston, Texas, 27 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 1: and I went on the show, and I never thought 28 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 1: about doing the show. Yeah. I produced a show for 29 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:32,800 Speaker 1: fifteen years with Steve Harvey, always behind the scenes guy. 30 00:01:32,840 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 1: But uh, this this young man right here, who is 31 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:39,559 Speaker 1: one of the America's leading relationship expert. His in depth 32 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:42,839 Speaker 1: emotional intelligence theories helped launch his career as a world 33 00:01:42,920 --> 00:01:46,000 Speaker 1: renowed public speaker and life coach, and he has been 34 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 1: recognized by two White House administrations for his positive influence 35 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:53,800 Speaker 1: on American culture. He is held as the reality check Doctor. 36 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 1: He is known for his provocative teaching styles on complex 37 00:01:57,000 --> 00:02:00,080 Speaker 1: relationship subjects and has been featured as an expert on 38 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 1: Oxygen's Snap Killer Couples, which I like all the time 39 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:06,720 Speaker 1: I watched that. I should watch Snap and then they 40 00:02:06,720 --> 00:02:08,760 Speaker 1: had to Snap kill a couple. That's two different shows. 41 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:11,920 Speaker 1: Now Snap had me for two years, and TV wants 42 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 1: Fatal Attraction. I gotta watch Fatal Attraction. I'm just a 43 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: sucker for those type of shows. But guess what, he's 44 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:18,920 Speaker 1: one of the experts to come on there, because guess 45 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:21,399 Speaker 1: what these shows about relationships? Please work with the money 46 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:27,520 Speaker 1: making conversation. Dr Ivan Young, Hey man, thank you. That 47 00:02:27,680 --> 00:02:29,520 Speaker 1: was I was wondering, who in the hell is he 48 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 1: talking about? Well, you know what I'm talking about. You 49 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:34,760 Speaker 1: come on now, come on now, mr Mr Viral, Mr 50 00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 1: Viral video. Yeah, now, man, thank you for having me. 51 00:02:38,919 --> 00:02:42,960 Speaker 1: It's um. You know, I was listening to that introduction. 52 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: But the truth be told the the other person that 53 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:51,000 Speaker 1: inspires me. Um. You know, I remember you probably don't 54 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:54,680 Speaker 1: remember for that at University of Houston years ago. I 55 00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:57,120 Speaker 1: remember I think you were working an off short job 56 00:02:57,200 --> 00:03:00,640 Speaker 1: of doing something like that. But you know, I I 57 00:03:00,760 --> 00:03:03,680 Speaker 1: remember you know, and and Robbie and Mac and you 58 00:03:03,760 --> 00:03:07,280 Speaker 1: if you are already acute, and you know, and I 59 00:03:07,360 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 1: was just thinking back. You know, if you make up 60 00:03:10,919 --> 00:03:14,760 Speaker 1: your mind to make it, you've got two charges. You 61 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 1: can not want nothing and be mad at the world 62 00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 1: for not opening the door, or you can make up 63 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:23,440 Speaker 1: your mind. And when I watch people don't realize what 64 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 1: it took to be you. But I know what it took, 65 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 1: and I watched what you did. And one of the biggest, 66 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:33,080 Speaker 1: couple of the biggest things you taught me, uh up 67 00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: close and from afar is okay. All that talk sounds good, 68 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:39,160 Speaker 1: That big talk sounds good. Now what can I appen? 69 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: You're gonna put it with it, you know, and you 70 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: gotta get your behind up in the morning and walk something, 71 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 1: you know, because ain't nobody don't give you nothing. And 72 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:49,640 Speaker 1: that's true. And you know, the thing about it is 73 00:03:49,680 --> 00:03:51,600 Speaker 1: that first of all, you're talented, and first of all 74 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 1: you've been consistent, and first of all, you know you 75 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 1: under you understand the value of a relationship because you 76 00:03:57,680 --> 00:04:00,360 Speaker 1: know that's what makes you successful long term, and a 77 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:03,440 Speaker 1: lot of people don't understand that a relationship. You know, 78 00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 1: the old people tell you that don't don't mess up. 79 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 1: Don't mess up there. You might have to come back 80 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:10,320 Speaker 1: and say hello, you might have to say hi, I 81 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 1: might have to drive down that street again. Martha walked 82 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 1: through that front door again. Don't get kicked out the 83 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: back because they won't let you in the front no more. 84 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:21,400 Speaker 1: That's what That's what having a winning careers and you 85 00:04:21,400 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: have a winning career. That when I when I talk 86 00:04:23,560 --> 00:04:29,160 Speaker 1: about motivation, that what did the Reality Check Doctor come from? Doctor? Uh? 87 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:33,800 Speaker 1: Being honest that I was having dinner with the producer 88 00:04:33,839 --> 00:04:37,360 Speaker 1: from CNN in Atlanta and they were, you know, we 89 00:04:37,440 --> 00:04:40,279 Speaker 1: were We've been talking to several networks over the last 90 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:43,920 Speaker 1: several months about where I put what where can I go? 91 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:47,039 Speaker 1: That's a good fit in the lady said to me, 92 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:50,040 Speaker 1: she said, well, uh, you know, we love what you do, 93 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:52,920 Speaker 1: but we don't know what to call it. I mean, 94 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:55,240 Speaker 1: what do we call it? And we set there for 95 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:58,520 Speaker 1: a minute and she said, you know, I've looked at videos, 96 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:00,960 Speaker 1: I read your content. She said, especially that's like you 97 00:05:01,040 --> 00:05:03,920 Speaker 1: just give people a reality checking. Right when she said it, 98 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: the alarm went off. And I mean, this is I'm 99 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:09,600 Speaker 1: gonna tell you all. Don't do what I did. But 100 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:13,800 Speaker 1: my country behind Rashawn was tempting Jaylene mack Up under 101 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:17,880 Speaker 1: the table. I need you to file a trademark registration 102 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: on de Reality Check Doctor. And it's been uh something 103 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:25,640 Speaker 1: that now we do have a trademark on it and uh, 104 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:28,280 Speaker 1: you know like that lady said people need to get 105 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:32,000 Speaker 1: you in one sentence and I think that's not a sentence, 106 00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:34,640 Speaker 1: but it's a phrase and it works. I love it. 107 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:37,599 Speaker 1: But guess what, that's the reality of how this business work. 108 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:40,400 Speaker 1: Because you put it out in the usually it's just 109 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:42,600 Speaker 1: a space. Now to put it on the internet, now, 110 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 1: to put it on social media, and it's not trademark 111 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:48,160 Speaker 1: or copyrighted. Somebody gonna do it now. You know, you 112 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:50,039 Speaker 1: put out a little phrase, it sounds good, you better 113 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:52,560 Speaker 1: go online and turn that into a domain and on it. 114 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:56,119 Speaker 1: I remember that it was so funny. Uh when Steve 115 00:05:56,200 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 1: Harvey I was producing I was producing this show. He 116 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 1: he shouted, I got my fan club named Steve Harvey Nation. 117 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:06,600 Speaker 1: He just said Steve Harvey Nation. And I said, Steve 118 00:06:06,640 --> 00:06:11,760 Speaker 1: Stock Steve Harvey Nation, that's name my fan club before 119 00:06:11,920 --> 00:06:15,120 Speaker 1: I was eight. Within fifteen minutes of him saying that, 120 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:19,680 Speaker 1: somebody bought the domain. And then I said, we want 121 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:22,320 Speaker 1: to We want a hundred thousand dollars if we wanted 122 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 1: to buy. Yeah, so we had the name s H Nation. 123 00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 1: We had to call it s H Nation because somebody 124 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:34,160 Speaker 1: bought Steve Harvy Nation. So so don't say country when 125 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 1: you're talk about us under the table typing texting. Jay 126 00:06:36,839 --> 00:06:40,080 Speaker 1: Lene mac was a renowned trademark lawyer, and uh, that 127 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 1: only does all my trademarks. She's outstanding. She wrote a 128 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 1: book on trademarks, and so she's a person that you 129 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:48,360 Speaker 1: should go to if you're doing it. You know, you 130 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 1: just gotta tell people these relationships because every trademark I 131 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:52,480 Speaker 1: ever did with Steve Harvey, I did it through jay 132 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:54,560 Speaker 1: Lenny Mack. And so when he was talking about under 133 00:06:54,560 --> 00:06:57,400 Speaker 1: the table texting and now he says, hey, our own 134 00:06:57,560 --> 00:06:59,600 Speaker 1: reality check doctor, that's how you have to do it. 135 00:06:59,640 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 1: I'm just like, you know, don't let it. Don't don't 136 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:03,760 Speaker 1: don't act like that's a joke of the don't don't 137 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:06,400 Speaker 1: say it's a country or it's a business. And people 138 00:07:06,400 --> 00:07:09,280 Speaker 1: will take away your dreams if you don't control them 139 00:07:09,279 --> 00:07:10,800 Speaker 1: and put them in place on the right, on the 140 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:14,680 Speaker 1: right style. Now, when you say provocative teaching style, what 141 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:19,560 Speaker 1: does that mean, Dr Young? Well, being honest man, I 142 00:07:19,720 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 1: think that there's a lot of there's a lot of 143 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 1: bs out there. And when I say bs, I mean 144 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 1: with the bull left in the barnyards and these people 145 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:36,520 Speaker 1: come out with all of these um catchphrases, name it 146 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:39,880 Speaker 1: didn't claim it, the law of attraction, if you just 147 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:43,600 Speaker 1: visualize it, well, you visualize all you don't day longs, 148 00:07:43,600 --> 00:07:46,320 Speaker 1: you don't get off your button, you know. And and 149 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:50,440 Speaker 1: then many of us we are so good at lying 150 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 1: to not other people, even sometimes we allow ourselves to 151 00:07:54,320 --> 00:08:00,280 Speaker 1: them much so if you continue not being said, the 152 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:05,040 Speaker 1: reality of of what it takes to make it, you know, 153 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 1: like this show money making conversations, That's just what this is. 154 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:11,720 Speaker 1: It's money making conversation. And when I talk to people, 155 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:14,920 Speaker 1: if well I don't care a Ted talker, if my 156 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:17,640 Speaker 1: best Ted talks for me, just sitting up talking to 157 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 1: her brother or sister one on one at an airport, 158 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 1: in a gym or whatever. But the one thing that 159 00:08:23,680 --> 00:08:27,160 Speaker 1: if wise people need is the truth. And when somebody 160 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:31,600 Speaker 1: tells you I remember you said this is Steve said 161 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:34,200 Speaker 1: this in an interview one day, both of you that 162 00:08:34,360 --> 00:08:36,600 Speaker 1: you know, if you tell somebody you're an actor and 163 00:08:36,640 --> 00:08:40,880 Speaker 1: they said, well, where are you performing and you say nowhere, 164 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:49,240 Speaker 1: You're got no dog the actor, you're lying? You know 165 00:08:49,280 --> 00:08:51,800 Speaker 1: what I mean? Okay with Steve said it, But I 166 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:55,520 Speaker 1: know for a fact, man, that is if you don't 167 00:08:55,640 --> 00:09:00,640 Speaker 1: have someone telling you, you know what man kame thing, 168 00:09:00,880 --> 00:09:03,120 Speaker 1: you might be able to write some lyrics. Damn saying 169 00:09:03,120 --> 00:09:07,000 Speaker 1: no singer, right, you ain't be great at writing a script, 170 00:09:07,040 --> 00:09:09,520 Speaker 1: but you're not no actor. And that's what I try 171 00:09:09,559 --> 00:09:11,760 Speaker 1: to do in my practice and in my speaking, is 172 00:09:11,800 --> 00:09:14,599 Speaker 1: to get people to pull their heads out there but 173 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:17,560 Speaker 1: and realize that if you're gonna make it out here, 174 00:09:17,600 --> 00:09:21,600 Speaker 1: and especially in America or in the UK, or you know, 175 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:24,719 Speaker 1: anywhere on the North American comment, you're gotter bring it. 176 00:09:25,120 --> 00:09:30,000 Speaker 1: And by being honest, transparent and authentic. But more than 177 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:32,920 Speaker 1: anything else, I practice what I preach. That's what I 178 00:09:32,960 --> 00:09:37,880 Speaker 1: mean by giving someone an unfettered conversation. I'm Jasu. You're 179 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:41,720 Speaker 1: listening to the Reality check doctor. That's doctor d Ivan 180 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:45,920 Speaker 1: Young are the Houston Texas um one of the true Uh. 181 00:09:46,600 --> 00:09:47,920 Speaker 1: When I listen to a time I listen to, it 182 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:50,160 Speaker 1: always feel like I'm listening to Dr Field. Here's that 183 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:53,480 Speaker 1: doctor Field type tone. And I know that a talk 184 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:55,720 Speaker 1: show has to be in work. Come on, now, I 185 00:09:55,760 --> 00:09:58,520 Speaker 1: saw you standing next to UH buying Allen in the 186 00:09:58,559 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 1: photo on social media? It can you can you reveal 187 00:10:02,559 --> 00:10:06,079 Speaker 1: anything to a doctor? Well? I can just say this, 188 00:10:06,280 --> 00:10:09,000 Speaker 1: I'm very fortunate to have a guy named David Parozzi 189 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 1: who is taking an interest in me. Uh And and 190 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:14,760 Speaker 1: I think it was Byron Pitts. I want to meet 191 00:10:14,760 --> 00:10:17,800 Speaker 1: Byron Allen. So you're being prophetic because Jayleen and I 192 00:10:17,840 --> 00:10:21,079 Speaker 1: were talking about Byron Allen yesterday, but you know it 193 00:10:21,280 --> 00:10:25,719 Speaker 1: was Byron pits I think from ABC's Eastern Nightline pl 194 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:28,520 Speaker 1: anchor Um. But at the end of the day, we're 195 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:32,960 Speaker 1: talking to those guys. Uh. My publicist is talking to 196 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:36,800 Speaker 1: some people out in Hollywood. At the end of the day. 197 00:10:36,800 --> 00:10:39,760 Speaker 1: Our number one goal is I need I would not 198 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 1: need to be somewhere where they're not gonna totally tell 199 00:10:42,320 --> 00:10:44,839 Speaker 1: me what to do, and they're they're not gonna do 200 00:10:44,920 --> 00:10:49,480 Speaker 1: a bamboozled thing with my content where one thing I've 201 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:53,199 Speaker 1: learned from you is remained true to your brand. So 202 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:56,680 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do I'm not gonna mention this person's name, 203 00:10:56,760 --> 00:10:59,480 Speaker 1: but I'm not gonna do some ah what's wrong and 204 00:10:59,559 --> 00:11:02,839 Speaker 1: your line and I made you flying Now you're gonna 205 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:05,800 Speaker 1: be better type show. Anything that we're gonna do, it's 206 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:09,240 Speaker 1: gonna be transformational, it's gonna be real, and it's gonna 207 00:11:09,240 --> 00:11:12,880 Speaker 1: be relatable to the American public. If we can't do 208 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:16,080 Speaker 1: it that way and maintain the integrity, I'll just wait 209 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:18,320 Speaker 1: because God's gonna open the right door. I don't want 210 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:20,640 Speaker 1: to go through the wrong one. Well, you haven't went 211 00:11:20,679 --> 00:11:24,240 Speaker 1: through one yet. On the phone. Uh. A fantastic interview 212 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 1: with Dr d Ivan Young motivating UH. God saying out 213 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:31,720 Speaker 1: of Houston, Texas. Uh. He has a reality tech doctor. 214 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:35,840 Speaker 1: Reality reality check doctor is what I the industry calls 215 00:11:35,880 --> 00:11:38,160 Speaker 1: and what I like. He's known for provocative teaching style 216 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:41,480 Speaker 1: of complex relationship subjects. When we come back, I want 217 00:11:41,520 --> 00:11:45,960 Speaker 1: to talk to him about the gift, the job, the 218 00:11:45,960 --> 00:11:51,720 Speaker 1: placebo effect, reprogramming your mind understand, do not go anywhere. 219 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:55,440 Speaker 1: Dr d Ivan Young will be back with Rashan McDonald 220 00:11:55,520 --> 00:12:01,360 Speaker 1: on money Making Conversations. This with Sean McDonald. You're listening 221 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:04,679 Speaker 1: to money Making Conversation on the phone. Is Doctor d 222 00:12:04,880 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 1: Ivan Young. He's the reality check Doctor. He's known for 223 00:12:07,840 --> 00:12:11,520 Speaker 1: his provocative teaching style and complex relationship subjects and has 224 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:15,120 Speaker 1: been featured as an expert on Oxygen, Snap Killer Couples, 225 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:18,440 Speaker 1: and TV one's Fatal Attraction. Please welcome back to the show, 226 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:22,319 Speaker 1: Dr d Ivan Young. How you doing, sir, I'm so 227 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:26,000 Speaker 1: blessed to be here man, and thankful good. Um. There's 228 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:28,000 Speaker 1: a couple of times topics I want to talk about. 229 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:31,400 Speaker 1: It's a reprogram in your mind. I always tell people about. 230 00:12:31,600 --> 00:12:33,520 Speaker 1: Always tell peoplehen they wake up in the morning, they 231 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:36,400 Speaker 1: tend to have a stop sign in front of their face, 232 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:39,359 Speaker 1: so they really don't see the opportunities because they're blocking themselves. 233 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: What exactly is reprogramming your mind? To reprogramming your mind 234 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:51,600 Speaker 1: is one of the things that is the number one 235 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:56,000 Speaker 1: source of why we don't get what we wanted in life. 236 00:12:56,040 --> 00:12:58,760 Speaker 1: You know that there's this thing, um, and I'm going 237 00:12:58,800 --> 00:13:01,760 Speaker 1: to use the Bible, but it'll aplies to everybody and 238 00:13:01,880 --> 00:13:05,840 Speaker 1: second Corinthians. It says, cast down imaginations and every high 239 00:13:05,880 --> 00:13:09,240 Speaker 1: thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and 240 00:13:09,440 --> 00:13:14,720 Speaker 1: bring into captivity every thought to the obedience right of 241 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:17,959 Speaker 1: your head. Meaning and and it says Christ. But that's 242 00:13:17,960 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 1: the representation of what what is guiding you? What is 243 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:26,319 Speaker 1: in your head where we blow so many opportunities in 244 00:13:26,360 --> 00:13:30,800 Speaker 1: life is we just don't we don't think straight, many 245 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:33,640 Speaker 1: of us. If we live in the hood and we 246 00:13:33,679 --> 00:13:36,240 Speaker 1: see the dope man, flourished. We think, Okay, well, man, 247 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:37,959 Speaker 1: if that's what it takes, I'm gonna get out of you, 248 00:13:38,120 --> 00:13:41,079 Speaker 1: put it there and get this work, and I'm gonna 249 00:13:41,080 --> 00:13:43,400 Speaker 1: get what do God? But what you don't understand? Do? Sleep? 250 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:46,440 Speaker 1: And scared as hell? Okay, sleep to long as Mattress 251 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:48,600 Speaker 1: and his home boy getting ready to rip them off. 252 00:13:48,679 --> 00:13:51,439 Speaker 1: Or we look at somebody else and that person is well, 253 00:13:51,520 --> 00:13:54,479 Speaker 1: you know, if I just sleep and and I seduced 254 00:13:54,640 --> 00:13:58,040 Speaker 1: this football play at his basketball play, at his comedian 255 00:13:58,200 --> 00:14:01,600 Speaker 1: is after you know this woman, you know she's a doctor. 256 00:14:01,640 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 1: I don't care how she look if I just can 257 00:14:04,000 --> 00:14:06,360 Speaker 1: sleep with her world. The truth be told is this, 258 00:14:07,280 --> 00:14:11,760 Speaker 1: all of us have a gift. If you were born, 259 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:15,800 Speaker 1: God gave you one the key to your success. And 260 00:14:15,840 --> 00:14:17,559 Speaker 1: I and I and I just got called by a 261 00:14:17,640 --> 00:14:20,360 Speaker 1: T n T to speak at something to doing next week. 262 00:14:20,760 --> 00:14:22,880 Speaker 1: You know a lot of these people are getting laid 263 00:14:22,920 --> 00:14:26,080 Speaker 1: off from these jobs. And they they call up and 264 00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:27,360 Speaker 1: I and I turn and I said, let me tell 265 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:30,440 Speaker 1: you something. The only reason you were there that law 266 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:35,760 Speaker 1: is your gift was needed. Now you're the reason they're 267 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:40,280 Speaker 1: letting you go is you're silly, but didn't upgrade you 268 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:43,600 Speaker 1: didn't perfect your gift. You didn't go get it authenticated 269 00:14:43,720 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 1: with a piece of paper, a license or a registration 270 00:14:46,480 --> 00:14:51,000 Speaker 1: or some certificate. You didn't elevate your game. So in 271 00:14:51,200 --> 00:14:55,680 Speaker 1: order to get what your creative promised you, you guys 272 00:14:55,720 --> 00:14:58,920 Speaker 1: are humble yourself and admit you know what I need 273 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:01,600 Speaker 1: to take. If you can, then go go learn how 274 00:15:01,640 --> 00:15:05,440 Speaker 1: to do it right. Don't just keep howling. Go. Sour 275 00:15:05,640 --> 00:15:08,560 Speaker 1: notes that your pastor like going go and learn how 276 00:15:08,600 --> 00:15:11,640 Speaker 1: to protective gift. And it's in the perfecting of the 277 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:15,440 Speaker 1: gift and and getting your mind under control that's gonna 278 00:15:15,480 --> 00:15:17,840 Speaker 1: bring you before great men, like it says you're talents 279 00:15:17,840 --> 00:15:20,520 Speaker 1: to bring you before great men. Your gift is gonna 280 00:15:20,560 --> 00:15:22,760 Speaker 1: make room for you, but you ain't gonna stay there 281 00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:25,960 Speaker 1: unless you perfected it. Wow. I always tell people I 282 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:28,480 Speaker 1: go back to my life um where I was a 283 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:32,000 Speaker 1: successful stand up comic and nanny two. I moved back 284 00:15:32,040 --> 00:15:34,480 Speaker 1: from Los Angeles to Houston, Texas and opened a comedy 285 00:15:34,480 --> 00:15:37,200 Speaker 1: club with the talent of the comedian called David Raybond, 286 00:15:37,200 --> 00:15:40,520 Speaker 1: who became my business partner. In the process of doing that, 287 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:43,920 Speaker 1: I realized that if I wanted to be famous, if 288 00:15:43,960 --> 00:15:45,600 Speaker 1: I wanted to find out if I were really talented. 289 00:15:45,600 --> 00:15:48,960 Speaker 1: I started a Thursday night show just about me, and 290 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 1: so I go okays about me with Sean. You said, 291 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:54,920 Speaker 1: you're funny. See if they come, Well, they came. And 292 00:15:55,000 --> 00:15:58,280 Speaker 1: every Thursday the show, I'll put the tickets, I'll put 293 00:15:58,320 --> 00:16:00,360 Speaker 1: the ticket sale on sale Monday. It was old out 294 00:16:00,360 --> 00:16:03,760 Speaker 1: on Monday, and then on Thursday the show was started 295 00:16:03,840 --> 00:16:06,680 Speaker 1: nine a thirty, started thirty. And so after a while, 296 00:16:07,240 --> 00:16:09,120 Speaker 1: the same comics will do the same jokes over and 297 00:16:09,160 --> 00:16:11,880 Speaker 1: over again. People will stop coming in for the first 298 00:16:11,920 --> 00:16:14,760 Speaker 1: thirty minutes of the show. So the room was completely 299 00:16:14,800 --> 00:16:17,960 Speaker 1: empty until in fact it would be a line out 300 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:20,600 Speaker 1: the door and people say, we're not coming in, We're 301 00:16:20,600 --> 00:16:23,000 Speaker 1: not coming in to night, We're not coming in tonight. 302 00:16:23,240 --> 00:16:24,680 Speaker 1: And so I don't care what whether it was they 303 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:26,920 Speaker 1: weren't coming in, we're not coming in. It was cool. 304 00:16:26,920 --> 00:16:29,400 Speaker 1: We're gon. We were could because of the fact it's 305 00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:31,680 Speaker 1: called perfecting the craft that you say you want to 306 00:16:31,720 --> 00:16:34,200 Speaker 1: be in and so that I was repeating the reality 307 00:16:34,240 --> 00:16:36,320 Speaker 1: of what can happen if you do it right. And 308 00:16:36,360 --> 00:16:39,080 Speaker 1: here was what Sean McDonald ala host the shows. It 309 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:41,760 Speaker 1: was a talent shows, the four hour show. I started 310 00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:44,640 Speaker 1: nine used to in like about one o'clock. And every 311 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 1: week I realized, because people repeat, customers will come and 312 00:16:47,640 --> 00:16:49,520 Speaker 1: I would said every week. I realized that I had 313 00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:52,040 Speaker 1: to be special every week. I had to be unique 314 00:16:52,120 --> 00:16:55,320 Speaker 1: every week. I had to be a reason why people 315 00:16:55,320 --> 00:16:57,880 Speaker 1: will bring their friends and when they when they when 316 00:16:57,880 --> 00:16:59,800 Speaker 1: they when their friends showed up with them, and they go, 317 00:16:59,840 --> 00:17:01,360 Speaker 1: I told you, I can see him in the arts. 318 00:17:01,440 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 1: I told you, I told you, I told you. They go, yeah, 319 00:17:03,880 --> 00:17:06,080 Speaker 1: you were, You're right by Rochan. But when I but 320 00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:08,520 Speaker 1: the testament of what I was doing right and the 321 00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:10,600 Speaker 1: hard work that I put in and the commitment to 322 00:17:10,680 --> 00:17:13,080 Speaker 1: saying I wanted to do this was that look. I 323 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:15,800 Speaker 1: ran a comedy club simultaneously as I was hosting my 324 00:17:15,920 --> 00:17:20,360 Speaker 1: Thursday nights. I was committed to giving every week one 325 00:17:21,720 --> 00:17:25,720 Speaker 1: and it showed because my comedy club opened at eight thirty. 326 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:28,880 Speaker 1: It was completely sold out, three hundred and fifty seats. 327 00:17:29,680 --> 00:17:33,480 Speaker 1: From eight thirty to eight fifty five. There was nobody 328 00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:37,000 Speaker 1: sitting in that room. Nobody but wait yours standing around 329 00:17:37,840 --> 00:17:42,399 Speaker 1: a fifty five. It was packed. They started to move music. 330 00:17:42,440 --> 00:17:44,800 Speaker 1: I come on stage and you swear those have been 331 00:17:44,800 --> 00:17:47,639 Speaker 1: sitting there for thirty minutes because they knew there was 332 00:17:47,680 --> 00:17:49,720 Speaker 1: something special, because they knew I was gonna give them one. 333 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:53,639 Speaker 1: That's a moment. I can tell you. It's absolutely the 334 00:17:53,680 --> 00:17:56,480 Speaker 1: truth has been documented. And I would walk outside and 335 00:17:56,480 --> 00:17:58,159 Speaker 1: go want you to come in and go? Or you 336 00:17:58,200 --> 00:18:00,919 Speaker 1: on stage? Yet Roshane, I go, no, we come in 337 00:18:00,960 --> 00:18:03,560 Speaker 1: when you're on stage bad. Whether they didn't care, they 338 00:18:03,560 --> 00:18:05,520 Speaker 1: were not coming in that commony club because I walked 339 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:08,159 Speaker 1: on that stage. So what you're telling the absolutely to 340 00:18:08,160 --> 00:18:11,119 Speaker 1: shoot the trick is perfecting your gift. Now, let me 341 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:13,600 Speaker 1: ask you this, how do you get out of your way? Though? Doc? 342 00:18:13,800 --> 00:18:16,639 Speaker 1: How do you get out of your way? Well, the 343 00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:20,360 Speaker 1: first thing you have to do is stop blaming everybody 344 00:18:20,359 --> 00:18:24,000 Speaker 1: else for where you're not. Well. You know, when when 345 00:18:24,119 --> 00:18:26,359 Speaker 1: you were saying that, what was going through my mind 346 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:30,800 Speaker 1: is that these people didn't see you sitting wherever you were, 347 00:18:30,800 --> 00:18:33,439 Speaker 1: sitting with a pen or pencil in your computer in 348 00:18:33,440 --> 00:18:37,120 Speaker 1: front of you, writing jokes and then reading it out 349 00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:40,080 Speaker 1: loud and probably playing it back and say, did that 350 00:18:40,119 --> 00:18:43,000 Speaker 1: makes me mad? It's just funny, you know what I'm saying, 351 00:18:43,560 --> 00:18:46,119 Speaker 1: And and and the truth of it is, man, is 352 00:18:46,160 --> 00:18:51,600 Speaker 1: that you have to be humble enough and and you 353 00:18:51,640 --> 00:18:54,560 Speaker 1: have to want it bad enough to scout letting. People 354 00:18:54,560 --> 00:18:57,440 Speaker 1: are keeping enabling your stupidity to be your your chill 355 00:18:57,480 --> 00:19:01,159 Speaker 1: eating section. You gotta get somebody around you that tells 356 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:03,160 Speaker 1: you what you know, what what you just said man, 357 00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:06,800 Speaker 1: that didn't resonate with me? Or okay, uh the way 358 00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:09,760 Speaker 1: you sung that last line you didn't better? Or you know, 359 00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:13,359 Speaker 1: uh baby girls, yeah you could have stylus, but ain't 360 00:19:13,359 --> 00:19:15,920 Speaker 1: nobody wearing finger waves no more? What's with the Jerry er? 361 00:19:16,080 --> 00:19:19,520 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, you need people around you that 362 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:24,399 Speaker 1: will tell you who you're not. And you have to 363 00:19:24,560 --> 00:19:30,040 Speaker 1: have enough humility about yourself to realize that, you know what, 364 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:33,160 Speaker 1: there's so many people out of here is better than me. 365 00:19:33,760 --> 00:19:35,760 Speaker 1: You know, there's a saying where some people are better 366 00:19:35,800 --> 00:19:40,000 Speaker 1: by nature than others are by practice. And it's true. 367 00:19:40,840 --> 00:19:44,800 Speaker 1: There's somebody right now frying chicken with a black skillet 368 00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:48,840 Speaker 1: in some little raggedy house in Mississippi that makes popeye'es 369 00:19:49,080 --> 00:19:51,000 Speaker 1: look like they all too. Just blew them the stove. 370 00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:53,919 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying there is you know that 371 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:57,240 Speaker 1: there are people out there. Man, you have to stop 372 00:19:57,280 --> 00:20:00,600 Speaker 1: and and ask somebody to say MANTHI on this with me. 373 00:20:01,520 --> 00:20:03,280 Speaker 1: What is it I can do better? How can I 374 00:20:03,320 --> 00:20:06,639 Speaker 1: do better? And that's why even as a life coach, 375 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:09,359 Speaker 1: I have more credentials. I was named the top black 376 00:20:09,359 --> 00:20:12,320 Speaker 1: life coach in the world last year. Right now I'm 377 00:20:12,400 --> 00:20:16,600 Speaker 1: the number I'm rated the number one relationship and family 378 00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:20,719 Speaker 1: coach and professional coach in Houston. Well, I've let this 379 00:20:20,760 --> 00:20:22,919 Speaker 1: event in, Rashan. You already know you can find me 380 00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:25,000 Speaker 1: on a picture if you get my trip. You know 381 00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:27,119 Speaker 1: when I a little Harvard and l A that you 382 00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:29,480 Speaker 1: could look at the picture. It didn't take long to 383 00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:32,359 Speaker 1: find me. Y'all A catch that in the minute. And 384 00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:34,880 Speaker 1: people said, well, why are you here? And I say, 385 00:20:34,920 --> 00:20:39,080 Speaker 1: real simple, I'm hungry. I want to be the best. 386 00:20:39,600 --> 00:20:42,280 Speaker 1: And being the best means that you keep expanding your 387 00:20:42,359 --> 00:20:45,520 Speaker 1: knowledge base, not condensing it. And the better you are 388 00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 1: when people can walk in your office, your club, into 389 00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:51,840 Speaker 1: your restaurant in where you're cutting hair and they can say, 390 00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:54,040 Speaker 1: you know what, he got some new equipment. You know 391 00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:56,960 Speaker 1: he does something everybody else don't do. That's what's gonna 392 00:20:57,000 --> 00:21:00,600 Speaker 1: make him come back. Rashan, Well, I guess what all 393 00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:04,080 Speaker 1: you know, we've known each other a long time and 394 00:21:04,280 --> 00:21:07,640 Speaker 1: uh and you've been committed. And when you say consistency, 395 00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:11,119 Speaker 1: he's been consistent. And that's that's why I want to 396 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:13,280 Speaker 1: just bring up these different little steps that of advice 397 00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:16,880 Speaker 1: that only he can give. How you process life can either. 398 00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:19,879 Speaker 1: So I did a length in your life. What exactly 399 00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:26,560 Speaker 1: do you mean about that? Dr? Y'all? Well, Uh, Without 400 00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:30,159 Speaker 1: going into this neurological conversation, I'm gonna say this in 401 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:32,720 Speaker 1: a simple way. What you think about you get more 402 00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:37,320 Speaker 1: of it. So if you only think about doing wasteful 403 00:21:37,359 --> 00:21:41,440 Speaker 1: stuff like like not forgiving people, Uh, you know you 404 00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:44,359 Speaker 1: still smoking weed? Who the hell still smoke weed? You 405 00:21:45,119 --> 00:21:49,040 Speaker 1: you won't exercise and you notice now when you get 406 00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:51,119 Speaker 1: up the out of breath and you notice that you 407 00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:54,760 Speaker 1: win is short. You're a man, You're you're taking blue 408 00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:58,359 Speaker 1: pills for brother being honest. That ain't that ain't your 409 00:21:58,359 --> 00:22:00,399 Speaker 1: little man? That's the problem. That's a line that you're 410 00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:02,640 Speaker 1: probably don't have a heart attack. You know you're having 411 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:05,920 Speaker 1: a cardio vastually issues. That's why you're taking that blue pill. 412 00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:08,840 Speaker 1: So at the end of the day, what you think 413 00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:14,399 Speaker 1: about your get You have to change your expectation, not 414 00:22:14,520 --> 00:22:17,399 Speaker 1: of other people, but of yourself. You gotta do if 415 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:21,040 Speaker 1: when you know better, you need to do better. My 416 00:22:21,200 --> 00:22:23,680 Speaker 1: Angelo had a same when she said, you know when 417 00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:27,600 Speaker 1: people show you who they are believable, Well apply it 418 00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:30,639 Speaker 1: to yourself. When you show yourself who you are and 419 00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:32,480 Speaker 1: you go, well, Doc, how do I show myself when 420 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:35,040 Speaker 1: I am self? Well, look around you. If you're driving 421 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:37,880 Speaker 1: the same car you're driving seven years ago and you're 422 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:42,199 Speaker 1: not eighty, if you have not achieved more, you got 423 00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:45,600 Speaker 1: the same dusty certificates on your wall you had seven 424 00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:49,560 Speaker 1: years ago, you have you still wearing the same clothes. 425 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:51,679 Speaker 1: I mean, come on, man, that there's a time in 426 00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:55,240 Speaker 1: your life where you have to change the way that 427 00:22:55,320 --> 00:22:59,760 Speaker 1: you think, change what you expect from yourself, and so 428 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:03,920 Speaker 1: around yourself with some new folks. And if you do that, 429 00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:08,040 Speaker 1: you are going to lemthen your life. And I'm not 430 00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,960 Speaker 1: saying get start. I ain't knowing people. What I am 431 00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:14,280 Speaker 1: saying is if they're not evolveing with you, they're keeping 432 00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:17,080 Speaker 1: you from evolved. So you need to expect more from 433 00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:20,600 Speaker 1: other people. But that starts what you expecting more from yourself. 434 00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:23,320 Speaker 1: Thank you, Dr. I appreciate you. Definitely go have you 435 00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:27,000 Speaker 1: back on the show The Reality Check Doctor. Dr D Avignan, 436 00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:30,120 Speaker 1: you need to check out the wireless earbuds from Recon. 437 00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:32,520 Speaker 1: Recon earbuds start off about half the price of any 438 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:35,119 Speaker 1: other premium wireless earbuds on the market, and they sound 439 00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:37,720 Speaker 1: just as amazing. 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