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Speaker 1: And while it's kind of unavoidable if you're talking with

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Speaker 1: That's exactly what one of our listeners is being forced

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Speaker 2: It's Tuesday.

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Speaker 1: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. It shouldn't happen, but sometimes

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like so easily that can happen.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like when I bought Brooke a seventy dollars fine

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Speaker 1: the last decade. But somehow she doesn't see it. That

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Speaker 3: I actually got married thirteen years ago, so It's been

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Speaker 1: That's three years. You see the hostilities that I'm still

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Speaker 1: that's why he needs our help. Today, Nick, Welcome to

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Speaker 1: the Friendome. How you do it?

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Speaker 4: Hey, guys, thanks for having me show with your friend

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Speaker 4: Nick show now not yet?

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Speaker 1: Well, tell us about the situation going on that's created

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so I got this co worker. She works in

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Speaker 2: Oh so this is just a work right, and that

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so I've had like a small crush on her

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Speaker 1: Okay, what's her name?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Dana?

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Speaker 2: Okay, does Dana know you have a crush on her?

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Speaker 4: She does because I actually asked her out at a

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Speaker 1: Okay, how long ago?

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Speaker 4: About a year ago?

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Speaker 1: A year ago?

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Speaker 4: Now she actually had a boyfriend at the time, so

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Speaker 4: So fast forward a year later, I'm kind of out

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Speaker 4: I'm like, I've always liked this girl. You know, I'm

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Speaker 5: A wedding dates A legit invite, Like.

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Speaker 2: That is your opening, right?

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Speaker 4: Then at the time, I wasn't sure, and I really

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Speaker 2: Like if I don't ask and I don't have to know.

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Speaker 4: Yes, I wasn't sure, and I just kind of wanted

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Speaker 4: Under the table, I pretended to feel sad about it.

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Speaker 2: Good time, what you're supposed to do?

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Speaker 5: Oh good, Yeah, this is random, but like, how were

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Speaker 4: Oh I'm getting there, don't worry.

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Speaker 4: Then two days later it happened.

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Speaker 4: I got a Venmo request asking for one hundred and

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Speaker 4: I texted her and I said, are you sure this

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Speaker 3: It sounds like there that she's making him pay for

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Speaker 4: I know what, Yeah, wedding cost guest cost wedding guests?

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Speaker 4: I'm not sure to be honest?

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Speaker 4: Kind of just want to know what the costs are

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Speaker 3: Well, and that there's no explanation she's treated that like

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Speaker 1: out some ways to flirtily sexily ask her about Hey,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll come back with some advice for you for

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Speaker 1: your awkward Tuesday phone call right after this. It's awkward

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Speaker 1: it's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. If you're just

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Speaker 1: joining us for the awkward Tuesday phone call, not only

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Speaker 1: The weird part is afterwards, Dana sent him a one

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Speaker 2: We still don't know what that means.

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Speaker 1: Nobody knows what that means, least of all Nick, and

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Speaker 3: I was gonna say no, you guys, this sets the

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Speaker 1: Honestly, he takes care of his lady. Yeah, she'll like

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Brook, you have better advice for him. What's do?

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Speaker 3: I think you should get out of pen and write

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Speaker 3: Just write on your phone.

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Speaker 2: I to ask her Nick, why pay her half? Oh?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, seriously, why pay her half? Because she said that

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Speaker 7: it's for me as well. Right, so she invited you,

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Speaker 7: it's her friend. Sure she should be paying for you,

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Speaker 1: Are you saying that on a date? Brook, you wouldn't

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Speaker 3: This isn't a date, This is a wedding and this

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Speaker 3: is her friends like bridy grooms do weird things.

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Speaker 2: All the time.

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Speaker 1: When you and Michael are at a wedding, all bets

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Speaker 1: are off. You guys aren't together, You have separate entities,

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Speaker 1: and whatever happens, it just happens. I see what you're saying, broken, Jose,

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Speaker 1: what's your advice?

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Speaker 2: I don't understand.

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Speaker 1: I get it, Jose, you.

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Speaker 5: Gonna do something really unconventional here. Okay, you're gonna thank

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Speaker 6: Really?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah?

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Speaker 4: Why why would I think her?

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Speaker 5: Well this, it's a positive tone. Immediately you're like, hey,

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Speaker 5: thank you so much for that. I didn't even think

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Speaker 1: Rather than accusing her of what it's for, you're like

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Speaker 1: it must have been a wedding gift.

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Speaker 3: I mean, it could get you the answers you want

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Speaker 2: Out of pain for it.

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Speaker 5: But one step at a time, her happy, keep the

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Speaker 1: But we've given you the tools to be able to

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Speaker 4: I'm so curious.

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Speaker 2: Feel after you hear answers.

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Speaker 3: And I wonder what the seven five each is a

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Speaker 1: You're lucky that she didn't invoice you to pay for

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Speaker 4: Hello, Hey Dana, it's Nick. How you doing.

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Speaker 3: Hi?

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Speaker 6: Nick, I'm great. It's great to hear from you. You too.

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Speaker 4: How's everything going.

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Speaker 6: It's going pretty well, Just working like usual, as you know.

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Speaker 4: Yep, yep, just another day on the grind.

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Speaker 6: What we do? So what's up? Are we still getting

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Speaker 4: Or yeah? Yeah? I mean I had a great time

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, well you know the bride she sent me

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I just kind of came out of nowhere. When

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Speaker 4: I also just I should have asked if I, you know,

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Speaker 4: If it was a date, I think it would be different.

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Speaker 4: I just kind of you kind of invited me, and

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Speaker 4: I didn't know if it was you were considering it

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Speaker 6: That's interesting. It kind of feels like you're criticizing how

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 6: Well, ever since I broke up with my boyfriend, I've

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Speaker 4: Well. I appreciate that.

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Speaker 6: So if you wanted to spend more than one hundred

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Speaker 6: and fifty, you know, I did have to uber home

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Speaker 6: Oh man, Nick, you're not saying a lot. Is there

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Speaker 4: So just it's a little that's a little outlandish, that's

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Speaker 6: It's outlandish. It's atlantis to want to take care of me,

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Speaker 6: to make sure that I get home safe, like you

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Speaker 6: wouldn't just want to spend a little extra money. Maybe

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Speaker 6: you're not the person that I thought you weren't. Like, Oh, oh.

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Speaker 3: God, god, Nick, that is terrible warless?

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Speaker 6: No, not, Hey, what's going on?

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Speaker 3: Who is that?

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Speaker 6: Well?

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Speaker 3: That was so manipulative, Dana, Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: We're all very impressed with you, Dana, because impresses. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're on a radio show right now called Brook and

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Speaker 6: The Morning, a radio show.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Nix there too.

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Speaker 6: Nick. Why would you do this? This is between you

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Speaker 4: It just kind of was taken off guard. I was

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Speaker 4: I called them to help me because I really like

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Speaker 6: So you don't like me enough to pay for my

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Speaker 3: Okay, or even go to the wedding and uber holme

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Speaker 2: How does that have any indication whether or not he

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Speaker 6: First of all, I don't know who the hell you are.

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Speaker 6: And certain women have standards. It sounds like you have none.

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Speaker 3: Certain women have independence and you need some excuse me, No,

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Speaker 3: do you know what year it is, grandma?

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Speaker 6: Women are still be taking care of.

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Speaker 3: Taking care of Okay, we're back into the nineteen ten.

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Speaker 1: Is enough to pull yourself up by your own bootsteps.

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Speaker 2: It's not that pay for You invited him to the wedding.

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Speaker 1: Let us put your bootstraps. We want to lift you

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Speaker 4: Okay, Hey, so yeah, these people were trying to give

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's really nice.

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Speaker 4: I could have been better.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Now what.

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Speaker 2: Are you taking Why are you taking blame for this?

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Speaker 4: I mean, Brook, you're getting up on her, You're getting

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Speaker 2: Nick, get up for you.

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Speaker 1: He wants to stand up for Dana because he was

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Speaker 2: And so at the beginning, this is what you want.

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Speaker 6: That is how women should be treated.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Nick. Okay, I'll come into an agreement here.

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Speaker 1: So at the start of this I suggested you eat

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Speaker 1: are you willing to cost towards her and Venmo to

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Speaker 4: Whatever she needs to feel comfortable here?

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Speaker 7: Wow?

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Speaker 1: You just what a good guy?

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Speaker 3: You're just buying her affection at this point that is

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Speaker 2: It won't last In the end.

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Speaker 1: Brook, you're not dating anymore. I don't think you have

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Speaker 1: any you. You checked out thirteen years ago from this

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Speaker 1: chorld with my seventy dollars wine decant. That's pay for that.

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Speaker 3: So you know after this, I'm venmoing you a charge

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Speaker 1: And that's just Nick. You're going to cover that cost

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Speaker 1: from me, right, It's about love.

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Speaker 4: I don't have you, but I do have Dana. Dana,

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Speaker 4: you and I are good.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, what a gentleman, Dan, You landed a good

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dead, what romance?

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Speaker 6: Nick, don't listen to him. I'll see you at lunch.

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Speaker 3: You're paying Okay, Now, you actually do sound like Jeffrey.

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Speaker 1: You should be so lucky, Brooki Jeffrey in the morning,

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Speaker 1: But it sounds like Dana was used to more of

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Speaker 2: It just sounds like she's cheap to me.

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Speaker 3: She won't even pay her own bill at or friend's wedding.

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Speaker 3: I think that she knew that her friends were going

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I think.

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Speaker 1: That's possible. Sure, or it could just be like she

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Speaker 2: Consider a date too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Date, He wasn't sure, but he heard Dana's explanation

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Speaker 1: Ye coward to her, Like every woman wants a good

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, so, as.

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Speaker 1: Long as expectations are laid out ahead of time, it's

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Speaker 2: Well, he does finally know, and we did help him with.

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Speaker 1: That, Yeah, for sure, because it's his life and he

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Speaker 1: chose to pay for it. Yeah, and for her life too,

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Speaker 1: and that's true happiness. So hopefully we helped him achieve

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Speaker 2: I'm glad you're taking such a noble stance on this.

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Speaker 1: Well, you know, I'm just trying to play the middle. Yeah,

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